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Speaker 3: Welcome and we talk back where we encourage you to hustle, hard, laugh,

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Speaker 3: letter and always keep it cute. So grab your coffee,

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Speaker 3: cocktail and crown because it's about go damn talk.

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Speaker 1: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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Speaker 1: to talks back.

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Speaker 3: What's up, y'all, it's your co hosts a j holiday.

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Speaker 3: What's up?

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Speaker 1: Big Tam Bam, y'all is me Tam Vam. I love

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Speaker 1: y'all so fucking much, man.

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Speaker 3: While y'all yelling at them, it's love y'ell, god, Jam,

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Speaker 3: it's got a lot of hell.

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Speaker 1: I feel so fucking good right now, man, I feel good.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Tired, sleepy? It's Monday. I'm trying not to hate Mondays

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Speaker 3: all over again in life. I think I'm doing a

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Speaker 3: pretty good job. But I'm really really trying hate Monday,

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Speaker 3: trying not to hate Mondays. Man. But other than that,

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Speaker 3: I had a pretty good weekend. What you do nothing,

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Speaker 3: breathe that. I went over to my one of my

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Speaker 3: friend's house, the one who's having a baby, la Quandra.

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Speaker 3: She's doing any day now child. So we went over

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Speaker 3: there and helped her unpack all her baby stuff and

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Speaker 3: put stuff up, and I sanitize out her baby bottles. Bitch,

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm having a whole baby, Okay, I

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Speaker 3: cannot wait for this dude to touch down Little Cameron.

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Speaker 3: So we helped her do all her stuff this weekend,

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Speaker 3: and shit, I was exhausted from that girl. She got

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Speaker 3: about eight hours of work out of me.

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Speaker 1: Well she Saturday around her.

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Speaker 3: Yes, So the Aunties is four of us. Apparently someone

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Speaker 3: sent out in the group chat last week, like, let

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Speaker 3: me read it to y'all. It's so sweet. Okay, I'm like,

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Speaker 3: how fuck do you like? She is so lucky right

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Speaker 3: when people be feeling like shit is not like you.

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Speaker 3: You always have like some good ass people, right. So

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Speaker 3: one of our friends, Shiuanna sha Wanna, put out the

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Speaker 3: auntie's chat and it's like a whole and I turned

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Speaker 3: it into like an apple note so we can all

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Speaker 3: revisit it. But like task for each one of us

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Speaker 3: to do, and what dates? So meal drop offs, you

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Speaker 3: know when she first had the baby, meal drops off

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Speaker 3: drop offs, lighthouse cleaning, grocery run, baby holding, snuggle time

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Speaker 3: mom mom, not break, laundry, help, sibling playtime if any

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Speaker 3: that would not apply to me, And I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 3: she don't want dash over there, and then anything else

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Speaker 3: we could think of. Isn't that so nice?

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Speaker 1: That is so thoughtful there is, and I think more

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we're gonna fill out this this calendar of

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Speaker 3: events and make sure we help our friend out. Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 3: at least the first month child, so she can get

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Speaker 3: acclimated because we old mama's out here. Man, forty mamas.

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Speaker 3: But you had going on this weekend, you know what.

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Speaker 1: I'm so locked in with this seventy five heart. Mm hm.

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Speaker 1: All I did was work out. I mean on Easter Sunday,

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Speaker 3: I know a post that said I don't know who's

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Speaker 3: gonna be higher this Sunday, Me or Jesus. It was

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Speaker 1: So y'all lift me up in prayer because trying to travel.

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Speaker 1: I haven't been traveling, you know this because class has

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Speaker 1: been over for two weeks now, and and I'm about

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Speaker 1: to travel again starting tomorrow. I gotta go to Philly,

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Speaker 1: and do to workouts today. So y'all keep me perried

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Speaker 3: That's just getting you to the other side faster. It's

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Speaker 3: not like a real workout.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm talking about walking the opposite the opposite

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Speaker 3: That is a treadmill. Yeah, that is a treadmill. You'll

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Speaker 3: look stupid, but try it, Like what fuck?

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Speaker 1: I gotta get my forty five minuteses some kind of way.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, that's it. I ain't do shit but work

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Speaker 3: Always the thing that's on the forefront of your mind

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Speaker 1: I'm being bad.

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Speaker 3: I gotta lose weight, I gotta stop beating, I gotta,

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Speaker 3: I gotta. It's just it just clouds my judgment about

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Speaker 1: Everything else all in line behind that exactly.

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Speaker 3: But like then, when you do the workout, you feel

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Speaker 3: like accomplished for the whole day, like I gotta do

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Speaker 1: I've done all that God needed me to do today.

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Speaker 3: No, but for real, Once you like conquer the diet man,

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Speaker 3: everything else in life gets easier.

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Speaker 1: I do feel like after this fifteen days, I do

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Speaker 3: Nicely, that's what matters the most. Shit fuck that the

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Speaker 3: that's that's really what matters a man. How y'all feeling

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Speaker 3: mentally y'all good, y'all, nigga's good outdea. Let us know right,

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Speaker 3: we care absolutely, So let's get in a let's get

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Speaker 3: in a stupid internet news y'all.

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Speaker 1: Let's go.

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Speaker 3: So Shannon Sharp, Uh, he's facing a fifty million dollar

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Speaker 3: lawsuit over an alleged sexual assault accusation. Basically, but it

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Speaker 3: says the Hall of Fame tight end. Shannon Sharp made

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Speaker 3: headlines last week in connection with this pursuit of a

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Speaker 3: nine figure podcast deal. This week, he's facing an eight

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Speaker 3: figure lawsuit Sharp pursuit on Sunday by a woman proceeding

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Speaker 3: under the Jane Doe suit and him. The thirteen page

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Speaker 3: civil complaint filed in Nevada State Court alleged that Sharp

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Speaker 3: he engaged in the intentional inflection of emotional distress. The

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Speaker 3: that lasted nearly two years. The complaint alleges that Sharp

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Speaker 3: recorded their sexual activities. Well, we know he court, this

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Speaker 3: forget that ship. And I'm not saying like he sexually

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Speaker 3: The complaint contends that it was another woman, not the

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Speaker 3: accidentally livestreamed the encounter on Instagram. Okay, so she's saying

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Speaker 1: See, I don't be one like when someone says they've

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Speaker 1: lately it does seem like a you know, a money

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Speaker 1: But you never know, you know, you never know, what

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Speaker 3: But it isn't consent on this show, and you know,

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Speaker 3: this person is saying that she was in a two

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Speaker 3: relationship could look kind of weird, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: you know. But yeah, it's the same attorneys that's always

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Speaker 3: I know y'all probably can't stand CANi Owns, Okay, but

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Speaker 3: I do watch Candice Owns. But she's been doing a

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Speaker 3: which because I think Harvey Weinstein, like his case kind

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Speaker 1: You know, there was a time where I would have

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Speaker 1: That was my energy.

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Speaker 3: But this is the funniest thing about the Harvey Weinstein

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Speaker 3: because they asked them to describe his penis and they couldn't.

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Speaker 3: So back in the nineties, the nigga had his balls

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Speaker 3: a lot of women.

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Speaker 1: I was about to do it, but I'm sorry do it.

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Speaker 3: It was short and it was shaped like a funnel.

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Speaker 1: The balls were very long.

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Speaker 1: we're too next period, Queen, We're too next queen. Gotta

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Speaker 3: Kevin Gaz need to be checking on? Drika fine ass

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Speaker 1: She over there eating fresh fruit and don't give her weed.

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Speaker 3: And lingerie and looking fine. You're run here trotting around

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Speaker 1: What's going on? What is that about?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. And I've been seeing like I hadn't

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Speaker 1: I can't. Yeah, I can't pay it like energy. Kevin Gates.

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Speaker 3: I literally just googled last week to see what because

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Speaker 3: just gives Aquarius vibes for sure. Larious, I'm I'm wrong.

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Speaker 3: The nigga isn't Aquarius. I literally, what the fuck did

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Speaker 3: I look up? His birthday is February fifth, This nigga

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Speaker 1: What does that mean? You say that, like, I don't

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Speaker 3: When I tell you I can see an Aquarius, all

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Speaker 3: Kevin Gates.

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Speaker 3: I talk about the women, y'all. I love Aquarius women,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love me a scorpio.

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Speaker 3: No scorpios gonna fuckh at you forever. That's why I

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Speaker 1: We get a fucking I. This ain't on the docket,

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Speaker 1: I listen. I ain't never wanted to fuck brothers. It

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Speaker 3: He was a twin, but we played twins in the movie.

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Speaker 1: He played twins in the movie.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to see that smoke and stack oh okay,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't wait to watch that movie. You're gonna

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Speaker 3: I like watching shit. I'm gonna learn something from all

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Speaker 3: and yeah, we want to talk about I don't know

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Speaker 3: Because that's stop on that, folks. Oh my god, we

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Speaker 4: But but but one of the reasons though that because

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Speaker 3: what that has to do with a man that she's

435
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 3: in a relationship with them.

436
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I don't know why I don't typically date

437
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: men older than me, And I always attributed it to

438
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 1: me being childish, you know, but perhaps there's more to

439
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,800
Speaker 1: it than that, you know, like I enjoy.

440
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 3: What it is, she just don't. She just didn't say

441
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 3: that though.

442
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: That she childish too, Yes, but our kids anymore, we're

443
00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,679
Speaker 1: not childish, like I'm not child like. I'm not a child,

444
00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:35,000
Speaker 1: so I don't think it's me being childish. Maybe a

445
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 1: long time ago that would have made sense, but at

446
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:42,639
Speaker 1: this age it's just I don't know a lot, all right,

447
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: so I don't have I think sometimes I don't have children.

448
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 1: So younger men typically aren't parents, you know, So that's easier.

449
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: If I want to get up and go to Africa Friday,

450
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:55,439
Speaker 1: I need somebody who can get up and go to

451
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:59,120
Speaker 1: you know. So I'm attracted to someone who can move

452
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 1: like I can. And then also I think it's nice

453
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:08,199
Speaker 1: to have someone that ain't done done at all. Damn,

454
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: I can't do nothing new with you, because.

455
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 3: Now you sound like a man. That's why men like

456
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 3: younger women, you know what I'm saying, Like they're easily malleable, right, manipulate,

457
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,600
Speaker 3: Like when I see an older person saying like they

458
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,120
Speaker 3: date younger, not you, right, and not even her, just

459
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 3: just some like we may look at men like this,

460
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 3: the men, and a man says he wants a younger woman,

461
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 3: we automatically think manipulation, man or woman. I'm thinking that

462
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 3: we know that the younger person isn't already set in

463
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 3: their ways, right, so you think that you could probably

464
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:45,479
Speaker 3: help mold a little bit. And that might be another

465
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 3: thing that she didn't say, and another thing you're not

466
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:52,000
Speaker 3: saying right now. I just don't want to pack bag

467
00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 3: lunch and have to pick up dick and drop it off.

468
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 3: That's why I don't like younger niggas.

469
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: I don't mind what you like. You like turkey on

470
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 1: your sandwich, I hate I like.

471
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 3: I like men my age, that's all. You know what

472
00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:02,600
Speaker 3: I'm saying.

473
00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: I know my age or younger, but I typically don't

474
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:10,520
Speaker 1: like older men. You know what, I won't say. I

475
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: don't even know. I haven't even given them a try

476
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 1: to know. The last time I fuckus with someone older

477
00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 1: than me, I was in my early twenties, you know,

478
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: so I don't know. I might enjoy an older man

479
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,000
Speaker 1: and just don't even know it because I haven't even

480
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: tried it. But then I typically no. I'm about to lie,

481
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: but I say I typically don't attract older men, But

482
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 1: that's not true. I just don't be entertaining them. Then,

483
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,640
Speaker 1: you know what, Then I also have an issue with

484
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 1: my moral my mortality that I have to unpack with

485
00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:48,160
Speaker 1: a therapist. But since y'all hear and y'all listening. I'm

486
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: gonna pack with y'all older men. Makes me more aware

487
00:26:54,160 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 1: of my mortality. There, I said it.

488
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:04,919
Speaker 3: Really m h. I mean I understand that, right, But

489
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:11,160
Speaker 3: it's like I don't know. I already look at death

490
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 3: totally different anyway. I don't worry about that part of life.

491
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 3: It has to happen. That's nothing that scares me. Like,

492
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 3: once you conquer death, everything else is the fucking breeze.

493
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 1: You don't aker death until you do it.

494
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 3: No, you can conquer death mentally, whether it happens today

495
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:33,199
Speaker 3: or tomorrow. I'm okay with that, Like I'm okay with

496
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 3: getting the fuck up out of here, however it may. No,

497
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:36,639
Speaker 3: I just don't want to. I don't want to be

498
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 3: alive and suffering. So you mean mortality meaning like just

499
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 3: the process of getting older is what you're being reminded of, right.

500
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 3: I don't have a problem with that either. My only

501
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,159
Speaker 3: problem with getting older is that I don't have a

502
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,000
Speaker 3: million dollars yet, which is work in progress. That's my

503
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 3: problem right now, the problem I'm working on it right now, right,

504
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 3: that's my only problem about getting older. And then also

505
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 3: I do want a child, right, those are my only

506
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 3: two hang ups about getting older, honestly, but I wonder

507
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,880
Speaker 3: at Tracy Ellis Ross even you know, she's fifty two,

508
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 3: so she's you know, a whole ten years plus at

509
00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 3: this point than us. But maybe those maybe maybe she

510
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 3: has those same same hang ups.

511
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 1: So looking at her, it's just like watching her talk

512
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 1: about because her you know, having you know, paying with

513
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: the fact that she never got married and she never

514
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: became a mother. And I mean, she's okay with her

515
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 1: life and she's happy because she says to her life

516
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: it's full and robust, but she does feel some angst

517
00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: about not having those things ever accomplished. That was scarier

518
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: than sinners watching her and saying like what if that

519
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: becomes me? You know? M hm, So I that is

520
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: fearful that what if I never have a family, what

521
00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 1: if I never get married, and not saying that I

522
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: won't be this joyous, happy person And still I think

523
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 1: I still will, but there will be some pain associated

524
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: with never having that.

525
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 3: Experience, right, Yeah, So this is her, This is a

526
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 3: little so. Ross discussed her inclination toward dating younger men,

527
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 3: attributing attributing this preference to the openness and emotional availability.

528
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 3: She often finds in them. She contrasted this with her

529
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 3: experiences with men her age, whom she described as often

530
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 3: entrenched in traditional gender roles. She did say gender roles okay,

531
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: and toxic masculinity. Ross emphasized that she is no longer

532
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 3: interested in relationships where she feels controlled or treated as

533
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 3: a possession, stating, I have long been past the age

534
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 3: where I feel like it's my job to teach somebody

535
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 3: or grow them up. But when you're dealing with a

536
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 3: younger person, you're going to have to grow them up, right,

537
00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So is she willing to

538
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 3: deal with that from a younger person? More so because

539
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 3: she just say, Man, these older niggas is on diabetes medicines,

540
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 3: and I don't want no hospital's husband. Maybe that could

541
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 3: be a point she ain't about to say in front

542
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 3: of Michelle Obama, Right, But you.

543
00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:15,200
Speaker 1: Know what I don't I when it comes to health,

544
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: I don't look at that because a young person can

545
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: be sick. I've seen it, you know.

546
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:25,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, these young dudes be on those all those from

547
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 3: the gas station.

548
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and listen, you motherfucker's drinking red bull. Y'all better

549
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 1: stop drinking that ship that ship is. I always associate

550
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:38,280
Speaker 1: chemicals to the same ship that the Ninja Turtles drink

551
00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: in the sewer.

552
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 3: And people mix it with liquid. That's even more crazy.

553
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 1: Now, yeah, stop putting that shit in your body. I like,

554
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm in this mental space where everything I'm looking at

555
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 1: everything different every.

556
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 3: Aj You're acting like me.

557
00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: Now you're wearing off home, You're rubbing off of me,

558
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: bitch handles. I'd be like, oh, that feels toxic, Like

559
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 1: the little.

560
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 3: Lot of the candles we burn is you're literally sitting

561
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 3: and haling in bullshit and it's all that black smoke.

562
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 3: You go to blow your nose and all the black

563
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 3: smoke is coming out, like.

564
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,320
Speaker 1: Rubbing some smelly, smelly lotion on my arm, and I

565
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 1: was like, what's in this? You know? Just everything you know?

566
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 1: I was like, what's in it? I don't want it exactly, Yeah,

567
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: but and that's how I'm Yeah, men too, though, like

568
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:30,959
Speaker 1: what's in them? I don't hear?

569
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 3: I swear to golla, y'all listen to me. I had

570
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 3: I did my my physical earlier this year. Y'all know.

571
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 3: I'm in a whole relationship, right, but I just feel

572
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 3: like I've ripped me out the package, bitch amack and

573
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 3: brand new, like I just got the plastic, like once

574
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 3: you got super duper clean bell of health. You don't

575
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 3: want nobody fucking your ship up even now you're with

576
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 3: That is how I feel like I need Like it's

577
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 3: just I don't know, and I'm okay the fuck I'm

578
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 3: in the plastic me too, right.

579
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: Now, my wholeness that deleted, ready to go.

580
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 3: I think I go to a different doctor for to

581
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 3: delete that. Now I need to go to God, change

582
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 3: everybody mind, and I remember you.

583
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 1: It ain't what you be. A call is what your

584
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 1: answer to you?

585
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 3: Okay, moved to a new zip code, girl, fuck you

586
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 3: shut up? All right? So now these are her reflections

587
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 3: on marriage and motherhood. So addressing her personal life choices,

588
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 3: Ross express occasional grief over not having married or had children,

589
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 3: acknowledging these as milestone she once envisioned, her envisioned for herself. However,

590
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 3: she affirmed her commitment with her life, highlighting her refusal

591
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 3: to settle for a relationship that doesn't enhance her well being.

592
00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 3: She stated, as much grief, as much as grief does

593
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 3: surface for me around not having children, children and not

594
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 3: having a partner I still wouldn't want the wrong partner.

595
00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 3: Now that's a big that's a big did a big

596
00:33:13,640 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 3: one right there. Yeah, like people, a lot of people

597
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 3: are in relationships just because because of commitments, the key

598
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 3: things like kids just not being able to stand on

599
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 3: you m so. And then we also know about men

600
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 3: that they get married when they're ready to. So whoever's

601
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 3: in front of them, they're gonna marry, but they probably

602
00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 3: missed out on the one they actually really want. So

603
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 3: now nine times out attend. If you probably married a

604
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 3: man in the forties, you might be his second option,

605
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,640
Speaker 3: the one he actually wanted got the fuck away from

606
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 3: his ass. So now you got to deal with that.

607
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 3: But you'll never know, you would never know.

608
00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: It's ugly. I hear, y'all.

609
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 3: It is.

610
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:02,280
Speaker 1: No, no, you know it's beautiful out here, y'all. I

611
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 1: changed my.

612
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 3: Mind mindset, right. You know, this is an important discussion

613
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,720
Speaker 3: because this could be us. Right, we could be fifty

614
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 3: two with no children and not married. It could happen.

615
00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 1: I rebuked that in the name of Jesus.

616
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 3: I'm just saying it could happen. I mean, if you

617
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 3: don't want it. I feel like another part of this

618
00:34:24,840 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 3: conversation I'm gonna get to in a minute. But is

619
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 3: there really somebody for everybody? That might not be true?

620
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: No, because the number of people don't match unless we

621
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:35,479
Speaker 1: are meant to be gay.

622
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 3: So let's go ahead and let's go ahead and get.

623
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 1: To that right quick. Now that's another conversation. Well, guess yeah,

624
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: let's stay away from that.

625
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 3: That still somebody, right, may it be if we want

626
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 3: to do the non binary route, right, it's still a somebody.

627
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,040
Speaker 1: I did enjoy them titties on the back of my

628
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: shoulder when I was getting my eyebrows, so.

629
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 3: I actually looked into this. So statistically speaking, with billions

630
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,959
Speaker 3: of people in the world, odds are there are many

631
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 3: people who could be compatible with you. So in a

632
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:10,359
Speaker 3: purely numerical sense, yes, it's likely there's at least one

633
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 3: someone right. Spiritually speaking, some believe in soulmates or divine timing,

634
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 3: that the universe or God has aligned you with a

635
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 3: specific person. If you believe in destiny or purpose driven connection,

636
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 3: then yes, there's someone designed just for you when you're

637
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 3: going to meet them. Mmmm, could be fifty three, who knows.

638
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: Uh.

639
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 3: Realistically speaking, not everyone finds or ends up with that

640
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 3: someone life circumstances, timing, geography, personal choices. I think geography

641
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,000
Speaker 3: we kind of got to narrow down a little bit

642
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 3: because you got social media right, so you should be

643
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 3: able to whoever to fuck. You know, you see your

644
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:52,880
Speaker 3: person like damn, I like that. I like how he looked.

645
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 3: Just if that's supposed to be the person for me,

646
00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 3: the initial attraction and then you hop in the DM

647
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,280
Speaker 3: and then see what happens from there. But personal choices

648
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 3: and trauma can effect whether you cross paths with them

649
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:08,880
Speaker 3: or recognize them when you do so, Like speaking to

650
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 3: the men in their forties getting married, forties and fifties

651
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 3: getting married for the first time, did you not recognize

652
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 3: that woman you had before? I saw? I don't know

653
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,960
Speaker 3: what show this was, and I gotta find it because

654
00:36:19,960 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 3: I want you all to see. It was just a

655
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,880
Speaker 3: quick clip. I didn't watch the full episode. But the guy,

656
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 3: one of these dudes, was actually at the the Saint

657
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 3: Jude event last year in Memphis. But their guest said,

658
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:36,760
Speaker 3: you guys are two just three men. So the guest

659
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 3: was also guy, and he said, you guys are too

660
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 3: eligible bachelors. And he said, there are women watching this

661
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 3: episode and they're gonna see y'all like, damned too? Why

662
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 3: they not marry type things? So he was like, how

663
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 3: does a woman or what kind of woman? How would

664
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:54,399
Speaker 3: that woman have to be to get you to marry them.

665
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,919
Speaker 3: So the one guy was like, well, you know, there's

666
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:58,920
Speaker 3: a vetting process. He was like, okay, sure, So how

667
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 3: long is the vetting process? And he said like two years?

668
00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 3: Like two years? And the guy the guest was like,

669
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:06,480
Speaker 3: so you mean to tell me you want to meet

670
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: a woman and know she's the one, but still make

671
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:13,959
Speaker 3: her wait two years? You're not really eligible bachelors, y'all

672
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 3: are just y'all are just bachelors. Y'all not really eligible,

673
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 3: y'all not really looking to be married. I know one

674
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 3: of the guys is a divorceee who's on the podcast,

675
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 3: but y'all, y'all all had playing with women two years?

676
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:29,319
Speaker 1: Yeah that's too long.

677
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, so y'all not really wanting to be married. Y'all

678
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 3: are just wanting to play the field. Y'all want access

679
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 3: to the one you want, and you want her to

680
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 3: wait while you run through everybody else.

681
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: Child. But here's the thing, I feel like men are

682
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:46,440
Speaker 1: starting to feel like and y'all, guys, correct me if

683
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:52,480
Speaker 1: I'm wrong that marriage does not benefit them.

684
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 3: And that's bullshit because married men will tell you all

685
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:58,759
Speaker 3: day long how they benefit, probably their real wives from

686
00:37:58,800 --> 00:37:59,719
Speaker 3: being married.

687
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 1: I believe, because they say men live longer when the

688
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: women keep men alive.

689
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 3: So your single ass out here talking about what's your

690
00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 3: benefit from marriage, You're gonna die early or earlier. So

691
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:21,160
Speaker 3: this thing about is there somebody for everybody? So philosophically speaking,

692
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 3: maybe it's less about there being one perfect someone or

693
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: more about becoming the kind of person who attracts and

694
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 3: builds deep, healthy connections that shifts the focus inward, which

695
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 3: can be empowering. So is there someone for everyone? Probably,

696
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:40,480
Speaker 3: but rather you find them. Right whether you find them

697
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 3: might depend on timing, openness, and maybe a little faith.

698
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:49,799
Speaker 3: So I my take from that is that no, they may.

699
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 3: There may just not be somebody for everybody, especially if

700
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 3: you can't find that person. If you if you're if

701
00:38:55,120 --> 00:38:58,360
Speaker 3: you're gonna die at seventy five, you know what I'm saying, Like,

702
00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 3: it's a possibility that if these are the things you're

703
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:08,960
Speaker 3: searching for, somebody like a a soulmate and all like,

704
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 3: it might take a very long time. You may not.

705
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 3: And one thing Tracy Elis Ross did say that, I

706
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 3: was like, oh, that's a good that was a low line.

707
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: She said, chemistry is not is not a relationship, and

708
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 3: love does not always include chemistry. So just because you

709
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 3: have chemistry with somebody, just because you have chemistry with

710
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 3: someone that does not equate to a relationship. That does

711
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,000
Speaker 3: not necessarily mean that's the person you're supposed to be

712
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:40,320
Speaker 3: in a relationship with. And just because you love somebody,

713
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:45,719
Speaker 3: that doesn't mean you should automatically have all this chemistry, right,

714
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 3: I agree. So that goes to like learning to love

715
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 3: who you with.

716
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: So is it possible that makes you more chemistry with

717
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 1: my than my main I'm joking, y'all, I'm joking. When

718
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: it happens, it's because that's.

719
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 3: Where you're putting the energy at your mental energy over there,

720
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:06,799
Speaker 3: can't wait for the next time to get over there,

721
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 3: like to where you're neglecting the thing that's right in

722
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 3: front of you. So that's why being in love is

723
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 3: always like a state of mind, like you got to

724
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 3: constantly do things to keep falling in love with the

725
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 3: person you're with. Like Michelle Obama said, her and Barrock,

726
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 3: you know they've been together thirty years, and she would say,

727
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 3: like ten years, ten years out of those thirty we

728
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 3: might not even like each other for a whole ten years,

729
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 3: I don't fuck with you, and then somehow we find

730
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 3: a way to find fall back in love with each other.

731
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,720
Speaker 3: So if you are a single person with no kids,

732
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,040
Speaker 3: never been married, it's maybe you'd be dipping out of

733
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 3: situations too quick because it's not looking exactly how you

734
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 3: want it to look in that fucking moment, you know

735
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.

736
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 1: So that's why you know a lot of people are

737
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 1: doing that. They people and I'm not gonna say people

738
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 1: without including me can be very.

739
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:57,200
Speaker 3: Still without including me. Yeah m hm, Because I think

740
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,359
Speaker 3: when you are by yourself for a good length of time,

741
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:04,840
Speaker 3: you you like things a certain way, and you know,

742
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 3: instead of you're trying to find somebody that's gonna meet

743
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 3: everything you want, right, and then that person is then

744
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 3: also trying to find somebody that's going to meet everything

745
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:16,399
Speaker 3: they want. You forget that there's compromise and some things

746
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 3: you got to tweak about yourself to make this thing work.

747
00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 3: The person has to be worth it. So you mean

748
00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 3: to tell me that by fifty two years old, you

749
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:26,720
Speaker 3: haven't been able to find anybody that's worth the headache.

750
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 3: You might just need to be by yourself because it's

751
00:41:29,760 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 3: not gonna be easy with anybody. Like as much as

752
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 3: we think love is supposed to be like this just

753
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:42,720
Speaker 3: every day Flowers and Lebron James twinkle with Savannah James

754
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 3: and the Eyes every single day, it is just not

755
00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 3: like that. It is so hard cohabitating. It is so

756
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:54,400
Speaker 3: hard just being with somebody else for the rest of

757
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 3: your life, Like.

758
00:41:55,200 --> 00:42:00,239
Speaker 1: Dealer with not live with me since two thousand and six, team,

759
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: and I don't know who I would be in a

760
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 1: house with another man, you know with Yeah, I don't

761
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: know who I would be.

762
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:15,359
Speaker 3: Girl, it's tough, Like you probably haven't met him yet.

763
00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 3: It ain't nobody you've been with.

764
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 1: Like, we do have a problem with me walking, so

765
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: I sometimes I would go to the refrigerator, ask naked.

766
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: I will walk in my own kitchen, ask naked, get something.

767
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,719
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure there's no man that's gonna have a

768
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 3: problem with you walk around naked, right.

769
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 4: But.

770
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:35,320
Speaker 1: I also might not want to be touched.

771
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:41,640
Speaker 3: Are you who the fuck you? What are you talking

772
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 3: about me?

773
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:42,759
Speaker 4: No?

774
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:43,560
Speaker 1: You do that?

775
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 3: Yes, I do not like to be fondled all the time.

776
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:48,879
Speaker 3: So when you're living with a man and you walk

777
00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 3: around with ass and titties out, like men are always

778
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 3: like these predators, right, So imagine like not having space

779
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 3: to just want because I come from a naked family,

780
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 3: Like everybody just be naked, bitch. If we can go

781
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 3: outside like that, we wouldn't, you know, as soon as

782
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:04,680
Speaker 3: you hit the doors.

783
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 1: Just definitely very comfortable being.

784
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,439
Speaker 3: So I like to be like that, especially in the home.

785
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 3: And imagine like somebody who just thinks that's fun time

786
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 3: to grab your titties when you're just trying to go

787
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,240
Speaker 3: get some fucking water.

788
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 1: I don't always what I just found, Like, can I

789
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:28,280
Speaker 1: go get my water ethnic and not have sex? So yeah,

790
00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:30,200
Speaker 1: but we'll see. I mean that's not I mean, it

791
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: ain't no problem. I gotta get the mand first, I guess.

792
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 3: So just to wrap this up, So in the episode

793
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 3: on In My Opinion, Tracy Ellis, Ross also talked about

794
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 3: like embracing independence, what we're talking which we're talking about

795
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:53,719
Speaker 3: right now, and personal growth. Ross spoke about embracing her

796
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 3: independence and personal growth that has come from navigating life

797
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 3: on her own terms. So single people doing their own thing.

798
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 3: She shared that she has learned to live fully and

799
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:07,799
Speaker 3: enjoy life without waiting for a partner. Reflecting on the

800
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 3: courage and resilience she has developed, she remarked, sometimes I

801
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 3: think of all the things I've done, the courage that

802
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 3: I have had to have, and what I've learned, you know,

803
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 3: what I've learned to do as a single person. So

804
00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 3: this is how she deals with now not having found

805
00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 3: that person, not having had kids, She fell in love

806
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:32,800
Speaker 3: with herself. So once you completely fall in love with yourself,

807
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 3: and now you're fifty two out here dating and you're

808
00:44:35,680 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 3: dating younger men, what are and you be thirst trapping

809
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 3: sometimes on the internet like a younger woman, What are

810
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 3: you really looking for?

811
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 1: I don't feel like thirst trap have no age limits

812
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,800
Speaker 1: as long as you can keep them quenching, keep them quenching,

813
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:51,399
Speaker 1: baby girl.

814
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, there's a difference between getting niggas

815
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,399
Speaker 3: and getting niggas. You can getting niggas all day long,

816
00:44:57,440 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 3: but our nigga's keeping you.

817
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 1: Are you kids?

818
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 3: It goes both ways. Some people. I don't think women

819
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 3: look and we don't look at ourselves. Sometimes we just

820
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 3: always think it's an external problem. You see what I'm saying,

821
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 3: we got to do some self evaluation, is what I'm saying.

822
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 3: Sometimes you gotta do you gotta self evaluate, is it?

823
00:45:22,480 --> 00:45:25,719
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe you are an impossible person. Why she hasn't

824
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 3: found somebody she like? I'm pretty sure she has had

825
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 3: some extensive therapy, so I'm not gonna not gonna say, like,

826
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 3: but maybe there is just not somebody for everybody, and

827
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 3: maybe she's just to date and teach other people things

828
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 3: until she get the fuck up off this planet.

829
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 1: Who knows?

830
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 3: Who knows? Because she's a beautiful woman, banging body at

831
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 3: fifty two exact. Yeah, who wouldn't want to have her?

832
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 3: We'll never know? Like, look at halle Berry. Halle Berry

833
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 3: has had so many husbands. She in love again right now.

834
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:01,839
Speaker 3: And maybe maybe that's the thing, Like you don't have

835
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 3: to settle even when you're in a relationship. Who's next?

836
00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:07,360
Speaker 3: Who's next?

837
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: Throughout life?

838
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, throughout life? Maybe we aren't supposed to just be

839
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 3: staying with this one person ever, All.

840
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 1: Right, listen, I have enjoyed variety, like what's that got? Like? Not,

841
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 1: y'all hold on, because.

842
00:46:23,080 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 3: That's not even just fucking just conversation with different people.

843
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have enjoyed experiencing different people in different perspectives

844
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:34,760
Speaker 1: and different conversations and different senses of humor and things

845
00:46:34,800 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: like that. So I you know, it might be difficult

846
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:41,720
Speaker 1: to just have this one nigga forever.

847
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 3: I don't know. Man, we talk about nonminogamy a lot

848
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 3: at nauseum when we talked back, and is that more reasonable?

849
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:03,239
Speaker 3: Is it more reasonable? Doesn't make more sense? I think

850
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 3: just people like knowing you can get burned and shit

851
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 3: like that. That's really what keep people with one person, bitch.

852
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 3: If people couldn't catch a STD, they'll be having three

853
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 3: sims around here or baby, right, I tell my body

854
00:47:16,920 --> 00:47:18,759
Speaker 3: when they get pregnant, if we could do some shit

855
00:47:18,880 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 3: like that, then it'd be on and popping. I think.

856
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know what y'all think. Y'all

857
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 3: check out that episode. And I got a whole nother

858
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 3: whole bunch of other thoughts on the first lady having

859
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 3: the podcasts. Also, I don't know about that shit anyway.

860
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,880
Speaker 3: Why that shit is fucking weird to me? Like we

861
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:42,439
Speaker 3: have enough podcasts we have we talked back, right, our

862
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 3: regular assets, having conversations about relationships and everything else. Like

863
00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 3: I need y'all to have the podcast from the First Lady,

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Speaker 3: you got to have a little bit more depth as far.

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Speaker 1: As how many episodes have you seen?

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Speaker 3: I don't know. That was the only one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you haven't even seen. That's why I can't.

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Speaker 1: I don care form an opinion about it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have just relationships being one topic with a

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Speaker 3: fifty two year old bitch on there. Like, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: I'm side eyeing all the old ass.

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Speaker 1: It's probably people saying the same shit about us, and.

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Speaker 3: They can have that opinion. The difference between me and

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Speaker 3: other people is I don't like I have your opinion.

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Speaker 3: It's fine, don't infringe your mind.

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Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like, hey, mirror, look in the mirror.

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Speaker 1: The advice should talk about them apply to you.

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Speaker 3: I'm doing all the things too, But I ain't never

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Speaker 3: been the first lady. I don't claim to be the

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Speaker 3: first lady. Yeah, I just feel like that that's a

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Speaker 3: different echelne of conversation needs to be being had. I

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Speaker 3: don't know. Maybe it's just me, you know, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: Maybe it's just me.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Well, we all got to have relationships, right, first

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Speaker 1: Lady and everybody in between.

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Speaker 3: Where her brother set up on there, y'all. That's what

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Speaker 3: y'all like anyway, that's more competition. They need to get

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Speaker 3: out the way. Why are y'all in this lane? Why

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Speaker 3: are y'all in this lane?

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Speaker 1: Listen? We'll we all want to be love. We all

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Speaker 1: want people talking, y'all. Now we talk bad? You sick

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Speaker 1: of people Talking's crazy?

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Speaker 3: Why the fuck is the first lady in our lane?

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Speaker 3: It's what I'm saying. Do you understand what I'm saying? Like,

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Speaker 3: why are you in this lane? Go talk about something

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Speaker 3: else and go do something different? And y'all doing movies?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 3: Why are y'all in this lane?

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Speaker 1: She said she could do whatever.

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