WEBVTT - Finding Emo 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:05.400 Talk's talk talk to We're just two unapologetically black women 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:07.560 with an opinion to talk. 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:12.680 What's up, y'all, Welcome to a new episode that we 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:15.440 talked Back and show dedicated to you niggas in these holes. 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:19.520 It's your co host AJ Holiday. What's up, Tam, Hey. 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:22.040 Girl, Hey y'all, it's me Tam Vam. I love y'all. 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:23.640 Once again, thank y'all for tuning in. 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:24.720 What's up? Girl? 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:28.560 Oh, it was a great weekend with the night so 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:30.040 I feel like a celebrity. 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:31.880 Hello, tiny bit girl. 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:33.800 Okay, I know this is we talk back, but when 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:37.200 I tell you, I'm tired of fucking talking, relean it. Yes, 0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.920 I don't wanna talk to everybody this weekend, y'all everybody, 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:41.760 but I enjoyed it. 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:44.200 I did feel like a super celebrity, let's be clear. 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:48.440 So we had the Black Effect Podcast Festival, the very 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:50.360 first one, and it was lit and it was our 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.599 first live show, so I was nervous. I was all nervous, Like, 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:56.160 what about did you feel like a whole bunch of adrenaline? 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:59.320 Yes, I felt like my panties were showing. I have 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:00.920 not known, but I felt like they were showing. 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:03.400 I felt like I had boggers. 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:05.240 I felt like I had the fart. All type of 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:06.800 shit was happening. 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:08.360 You know what, Like I didn't eat just so I 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:11.440 wouldn't have to use the bathroom. I didn't eat, eat anything. 0:01:11.880 --> 0:01:14.679 And when we did stupid internet news, my head, like 0:01:14.760 --> 0:01:16.040 my thoughts went blank. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:17.399 Mine too, because I didn't know what to say about 0:01:17.440 --> 0:01:19.800 Diddy and Karsha asked either way. 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:21.280 It was a good time and I had fun and 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:22.880 I enjoyed myself and I can't wait to do it. 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:25.520 We're gonna set up our tour, yes, so y'all stay 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:26.240 tuned for that. 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:27.880 That's what I'm looking forward to the most, so we 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:31.679 can have all the creative patrol over all shit and 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:33.440 it's gonna be lit. I definitely want to bring the 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:35.000 drummer out so you can have a. 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:39.759 Bigger opportunity, yeah, to showcase his talent, because they really 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:42.119 didn't get the feel full feel of that drummer man, 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:43.840 because it's like go go, you know what I'm saying. 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:47.240 It Lit puts the baby show the niggas, which you 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:48.120 ain't scared of him. 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:53.160 Let's get into stupid internet news. Okay, So what I 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:59.080 found Lotto has a song and she speaks on Coyler 0:01:59.160 --> 0:02:02.320 Ray and she says smoking gas and a big blunt 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:05.000 like Coiler Ray. And I don't think she meant it 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:09.000 as a disc but uh. On the shade room, Coiler 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:14.040 Ray responded to Lotto and was like, Lotto, by here 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.720 you go talking about my body. Please do not come 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:20.200 on here and talk about nobody's body. Lol. Like seriously, 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:22.760 out of all things, left my ass off. Your blunts, 0:02:23.160 --> 0:02:26.119 you'll blunt my size, left my ass off. This ship 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:29.239 is never ending. And that's what Coiler Ray said. 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.920 I think her response was she was like, uh, I 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:34.280 feel I feel like maybe it was a little bit 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:36.160 of insecurity on her part because I don't think it 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:38.680 was that serious what Lotto said. So I feel like, 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:42.240 you know, she is slim thick, and which is coming 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:44.120 to not slim? Well, is she slim thick? 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:44.720 She's slim. 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:47.880 I think she got a little booty though, don't she 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:49.799 she slim? She got a little booty. 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:53.320 I thought that's what Lotto meant by the lyric. 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:58.520 I thought she meant like she rolling a blunt. You 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:01.639 know that's so fat. It's the sas a human slim person. 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:05.519 That's what I thought she meant, like it's dad big. 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:08.240 You know, she putting all the gas in there. 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:10.080 You know, I just don't think it was shade and 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.000 she might have overreach. And then she came back shit 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:13.000 to the Twitter. 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:16.040 So she came back and said, maybe I overreacted. End 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:18.520 of the day. Don't say my name for clicks and likes, 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:21.880 especially if we don't speak or communicate. I'm not a 0:03:21.919 --> 0:03:24.359 big blunt, small blunt. Don't compare me to not I'm 0:03:24.360 --> 0:03:27.359 minching bitches. You actually beef with put it on the floor, 0:03:27.360 --> 0:03:28.680 but leave me out of the bullshit. 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:29.840 That's not a beef though. 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:31.840 That was not a beef, Larry, that was not She 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.280 didn't take a shot at her anything. 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:38.119 Yeah. So during Coachella, Lotto came back and said, oh, 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:40.600 coil Away, by the way, I love your body, baby, 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:42.920 Like she was just like ended it, like I don't 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:47.200 want to smoke. But in Coiler rays defence, she gets, 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:50.200 you know, scrutinized for her body type and celebrating her 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:52.480 body the way that she does. So she probably was 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:54.520 just triggered just the mintion of her body was like, 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:56.920 don't say nothing by my body. God damn it, I'm 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:58.360 tired of y'all talking about my body. 0:03:58.560 --> 0:04:01.000 I definitely don't think that one offul Pairs would come 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:02.240 in her like that out of nowhere. 0:04:02.440 --> 0:04:05.280 Yeah, but you know how rap beef is, and it's 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:08.880 like entertaining them to create create beef where there is none. 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:10.600 So if that's the case, then they should just leave 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.200 it at that. Then it's just some rap shit like 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:16.560 she created the beef. As far as I'm concerned, Yeah, yeah, 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:17.520 I don't think a lot of creator. 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:19.680 But I feel like Lot don't be having beef with everybody. 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:21.960 Seemed like every week we look at lotn't having to 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:23.320 argue about something with somebody. 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:24.400 I don't know. 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:26.680 I can understand the argument with her Nicki Minaj, because 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:28.960 Nicki Minaj dou you know, act like somebody supposed to 0:04:29.240 --> 0:04:32.839 kiss her eyes. And that's another thing Lotto said at Coachella, 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:36.680 Like what She's basically like, I'm not kissing nobody fucking eyes. 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:41.479 I'm not mad at that. Stay in your ground. I 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:44.159 love you some Nick Minaj too, though, So I love 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:47.360 I pretty much love all these ladies. They're all like strong, 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.719 powerful rappers and they got good music. 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:51.240 So I'm here from none of them rap better than 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:52.800 nick Minaj, So let's be clear. 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.520 Yeah, no, no, I will go that far. But they 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:56.599 all make good music. 0:04:57.880 --> 0:05:02.320 Uh so apparently now and a shanty are a thing again. 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:05.040 I don't know how true it is, but they did perform. 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:11.200 They had are performance recently together, and I was laying 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:14.360 in my homegirl bed and I was like, shant she 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:16.359 didn't leave Nelly alone cause she looked like she's getting 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:17.080 a way already. 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:21.240 Get that relationship on your She does. 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:23.440 But she had like some little hot pass you know, 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:26.600 she got them granny ankles like, she got them nice thick, 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.880 pretty legs, right, but she only had the biggest booty 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:31.800 and she had these little pants on. 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:35.800 I'm like, oh shit, you look at your body. 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.320 Sham bitch, I got the same shit going on. That's 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:42.360 not a body shaming. They look I like them. 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:44.760 I can tell she in a relationship that based on 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:46.560 her body right now, I can tell she's in a relation. 0:05:46.680 --> 0:05:49.479 I like them together. They look cute together. They always did. 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:52.000 I like them back in two thousand early two thousands 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.080 when they were together. I didn't want them to split. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:58.359 So seeing them performing together is like nostalgic and it's cool. 0:05:58.440 --> 0:05:59.280 I'm here for it. 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:01.400 So do you do you think she stayed single all 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:02.760 that time. Well, we don't know if she was single 0:06:02.839 --> 0:06:05.359 or not. She wasn't publicly with anybody else since Nelly 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:08.280 didn't she date floor Rider At some. 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.039 Point they were saying she was dating floor Rider. 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:13.880 But anyway, I don't know if I want her with Nelly. 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:15.359 I want her to get somebody else. 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:18.640 Why do it? No? 0:06:19.160 --> 0:06:21.680 Didn't did he not just have some situation going on 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:26.520 like maybe last year year before, a little court case 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:30.520 where he might have assaulted a woman on the tour bus. 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:32.000 I don't know nothing about that. 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.800 I do, y'all remember that. I remember it. 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:39.920 So he's not worthy of love because of that. 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:45.080 Not as a grown man. No, she happens, No sit 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:47.239 does not happen. You have to have self control. 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:49.800 I agree you need self control. And I think Nelly, 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.440 I just I just think Nelly is a good guy overall. 0:06:52.680 --> 0:06:54.680 How do you feel about niggaspinning the block though? 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:55.160 Like? 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:57.080 Why did he? Why did you not? 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:02.719 Like maybe they had some growing to do everybody involved. 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:04.440 So bow Wall said he needs to come with a 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:06.400 ring this time, which I agree with, Like if you're 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:08.120 going to spend the block and we had this big 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:11.040 ass age, like at what point, I don't need a 0:07:11.080 --> 0:07:14.440 boyfriend at my forties in my forties, but why is 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:15.000 bow wow? 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:17.040 The messengers though. 0:07:17.240 --> 0:07:19.040 Wasn't he just on ball and alert? Talk about he 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:19.880 ain't getting married? 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.720 Right, he's been engaged twice, and it was like, whatever, 0:07:22.760 --> 0:07:24.040 he ain't trying to get married. 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:25.920 And now give him marriage advice. That's funny. 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.480 My business boy, boy, grown boy. 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:33.640 That's a grown man. But okay, well, I'm here for it. 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:38.800 I hope they do like a Vegas residency like Usher 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:41.840 with Nellie and a shanty all they hit, I would 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:42.120 go see. 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:44.400 I'll be there me too. All right. 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:46.000 So last thing I needed to talk about and I 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:52.160 gotta talk about it Snowfall finale. Oh my god. All right, 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:54.680 so listen, if y'all haven't seen it, y'all need to 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:56.640 go ahead and just fast forward right now because we 0:07:56.760 --> 0:08:01.080 about to get into that real quick, frank like. All right. 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:03.960 So at the last season, I hated that Nigga I 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:05.720 ain't gonna lie. It was not root for him. He 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:08.840 turned dark right to me. He just wasn't the character 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:11.640 that we started with. So I felt like in the 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:14.640 end he got the karma that he had coming, right, 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:18.880 But it just seemed like a little far fetched to me, like, 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:21.640 I know, like, because I know some niggas who are 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:24.800 alcoholics now that they be like man, when he was young, 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:27.680 he was the man, right, but not a seventy three 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:28.840 million dollar nigga. 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:31.280 You know, had seventy three million dollars. 0:08:32.040 --> 0:08:34.280 He got it stolen from him. He got to take 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:37.360 it from him, and I guess he lost his mind. 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:40.840 Yeah, I couldn't understand the mental language because you have 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:43.280 to build wealth. Now he builds some wealth up the same, 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:45.120 but just million. If somebody could just take that shit 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:45.560 in the day. 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.320 But I just feel like if he was able to 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:50.080 build it once, he should have been able to even 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:51.120 build maybe half an hour. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.640 I have to be mentally stable to do that. Like 0:08:53.760 --> 0:08:56.520 imagine boy, him looking so bad. 0:08:56.640 --> 0:09:01.240 I'm talking about real bad, dirty as fuck, red ring 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:04.040 around his eye, and this nigga had all this money 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:07.720 and he leon gave him a dub to get some 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:08.880 drink and he was like. 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:10.560 Yeah, Andrew Jackson A. 0:09:11.640 --> 0:09:16.360 I was like, that's why he looked like like he 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:19.880 straight looked very cracky. He was living in his mom's 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.320 old house and it was just dilapidated and just all 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:24.920 messed up, and it was just so sad. 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:26.560 I see him go out like that, So I don't 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:29.400 know I watched the first I don't know. I might've 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:31.920 watched the first season, and that was just recently, like 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:33.840 maybe last August. 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:37.280 I started trying to watch it. When did we have 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:41.240 What's the Auntie on there? Oh? 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.200 We had Louis on? Yeah, when we had Louis on. 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:47.320 I started trying to watch Snowfall and fell off again. 0:09:47.400 --> 0:09:49.360 I didn't like how Louis went out either, but I 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.640 guess that was her karma too, for becoming like so 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:54.680 what happened to her? Louis was in a barn hiding 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:57.760 from like a federal agents who were hunting her. And 0:09:57.800 --> 0:10:01.040 she was like working at this like stable somewhere, working 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.440 for people, and she was hiding cause they were trying 0:10:03.440 --> 0:10:04.840 to find her. And I guess the people who owned 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:07.120 the stable protected her and said they hadn't seen her, 0:10:07.200 --> 0:10:09.480 like she had ran off and she was just in there, like, 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:11.920 thank thanking God that they helped her. 0:10:12.080 --> 0:10:13.480 So she never went to prison or anything. 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:16.319 No, she's still running. Oh damn in a barn, bitch, 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.800 just hiding in the barn. So yeah, she's running. She 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:23.920 on the run. Uh, everybody like the Leon he was 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:26.560 the one who was surprised everybody. You know, I think 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.640 when he killed that kid, it just and what's the 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:33.440 guy I can't remember the dude's name, Scully, Scully, you know, 0:10:33.559 --> 0:10:36.640 forgave him, It vindicated him, and he just changed his 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:40.160 whole soul and spirit and he ended up being the 0:10:40.200 --> 0:10:41.839 one who was successful in the end. 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:44.160 So what was he doing. Was he selling dope or 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:44.839 you get no? 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:47.840 He yeah, he was a businessman and he had started 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.480 some type of foundation to like help people in the community. 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:53.360 I can't remember exactly to what tune, but he wanted 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.120 He tried to come get Franklin to come get involved, 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:58.600 and Franklin was like, nigga, give me twenty so I 0:10:58.600 --> 0:11:01.400 can get a drink and get on. And he was like, 0:11:01.440 --> 0:11:03.520 you're the best friend I ever had. Man. Franklin told 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:05.560 him that, and then what I saw all right, So 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.000 if you can remember on the first episode when he's 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.160 talking to Mail, he said he just wanted to be free, right, 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:13.240 That's all he wanted. He wanted to be free, And 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:15.319 then you see his drunk as daddy walk by. Right 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:17.840 in the end, he's as drunk, he turns into the 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:21.600 same niggas his daddy is, and he said, I'm finally free. 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:25.240 He says he finally free, but this was his freedom, 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:26.439 which was so sad. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:26.720 You know. 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:29.560 I kind of think that sometimes when I see like 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:32.160 bums on the street, like they really be bucking the system. 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.080 Like we may see it like, oh they homeless, they 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.040 don't have shit, But when like I go to the 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:39.840 Caribbean and stuff like that, I see people living like 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:43.600 like minimalist, less stress, Like it's fucking stress. Was fuck 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:47.839 in America to maintain all these things, right, you know 0:11:47.880 --> 0:11:51.920 what I'm saying, and push it. Yeah, and that is freedom. 0:11:52.600 --> 0:11:53.880 It is a form of freedom. 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:56.040 But bitch, I need to be freedom. 0:11:57.480 --> 0:12:01.720 That's the kind of yacht that niggad a ring around 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:03.400 his eye. He looks stanky as fuck. 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:07.880 I was like, okay, so I don't watch No I 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:09.840 haven't watched No Fall. So when I saw all the 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:12.199 different memes online he had that red I'm like, did 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:13.240 he turn it to zombie? 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:16.679 Like? What the is happening? It's like Resident Evil. 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.040 Right, they had him looking real fucked up, and it 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:23.840 just was I just don't feel like John Singleton would 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:25.080 have ended it that way. 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:28.800 They had a good run. They had a really good run. 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.480 So it was that sixth seasons, so about six years. 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:33.120 That's a long ass time. 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.560 So yeah, well RP. 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:40.160 John Singleton, all right, it's our stupid Internet news. I'm 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:41.920 gonna have a commercial break and we'll be right back. 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:48.640 All right, y'all way back for our commercial break, and 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:50.720 you know what I want to talk about to day town. 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:52.280 I would like. 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:56.319 To talk about emotional intelligence. 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:57.400 What is it? 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:01.800 How can you practice emotional intelligence? I feel like it's 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.160 almost a term a lot of people use, almost like 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:07.760 calling somebody a narcissists. It's like just another thing to 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:10.480 try to shame somebody, like, oh, they don't have emotional intelligence, 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.400 can't talk to them more. Maybe even I think women 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:15.720 may use it a lot when talking about men, like 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.520 they're just like emotionally unavailable kind of. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:19.280 So listen. 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:23.800 The definition of emotional intelligence is it's most often defined 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:28.280 as the ability to perceive, use, understand, manage, and handle emotions. 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.920 People with high emotional intelligence can recognize their own emotions 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:35.880 and those of others, use more information to guide thinking 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:40.280 and behavior, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately, 0:13:41.520 --> 0:13:44.400 and adjust emotions to adapt to environments. So that's the 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:47.040 definition of having emotions. 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.360 You just said a whole bunch of shit, and yeah, 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:51.320 don't like. So when I thought about it, I was like, 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:55.719 I'm emotional and I'm intelligent, so I must have emotional intelligence. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:59.920 That's how it feels about it, Like I'm usually emotional 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:03.440 and I'm extremely intelligent, so I just assume that I 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:06.160 have emotional intelligence. But it's not that. 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:07.000 No. 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:12.000 So basically from what I read, it said like all 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:15.800 people experience emotions, obviously, right, but it's only it's a 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:19.560 black few of people who accurately identify them as they occur. 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:24.400 So research shows that only thirty six percent of people 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:28.200 actually have and practice emotional intelligence. 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.560 You know what I feel like in the black community, 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:34.360 what we do are I don't want to say what 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:38.000 we do, Okay, I'm saying it. We just we use 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:44.200 anger to express every emotion. We only use anger. I 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:48.320 feel like there's especially black men. I don't feel like 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:51.760 I think women are more emotionally intelligent than men. 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.320 Are we though, because we're usually the ones that's gonna 0:14:54.320 --> 0:15:00.680 start yelling and that's not practicing emotional intelligence. Okay, So 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.240 you should be able to articulate like how you feeling 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:06.720 and convey it in a way to where to where 0:15:06.720 --> 0:15:10.640 the person can understand without you getting angry. So I 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:12.800 can say, and we actually took a test, right, so 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.840 where was your score on the test? Okay, so I 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:18.760 scored a fifty six tammy ask but sometimes down the 0:15:18.760 --> 0:15:19.360 middle of the show. 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:25.440 Sometimes sometimes I fuck with them sometimes I don't, you know, 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:29.600 like I feel like everybody literally could go sometimes down 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:32.480 the middle of all those questions. 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:38.200 Right, I think men may. 0:15:38.800 --> 0:15:41.960 Okay, so I said, men practice emotional intelligence, right, but 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:44.480 I think also it could be. 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:47.880 Let me give an example. 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:50.640 So I was in a relationship with a fucking narcissist, right, 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:55.240 and he practiced emotional intelligence, but it was in a 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:58.480 form of manipulation though, Like could you imagine somebody doing 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.480 or saying something to get you to hunt? So now 0:16:01.520 --> 0:16:06.080 you up here cutting up, cussing, acting a fucking food 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:09.200 and they like real calm, So now you feel stupid. 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:13.640 That's so when they say practicing emotional intelligence is like 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:16.880 you can articulate how you feel without getting angry. But 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:19.760 just because I'm displaying my anger, you know. 0:16:19.800 --> 0:16:22.640 But isn't anger or emotion. 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:23.720 It is an emotion. 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:26.800 But what comes along with being angry cussing at somebody 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:28.320 being very disrespectful. 0:16:29.120 --> 0:16:29.760 You know what I'm saying. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:33.640 That's not healthy to have a healthy relationship with anybody 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:37.080 in a workplace. You know, I've worked in a corporate 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:39.240 setting where people cussed in corporate meetings. 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:43.720 Well, let's keep it. Let's get real real. You and 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:47.280 I when we disagree, we don't practice good emotional intellig 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:49.680 hanging up on each other. 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:50.720 I don't hang up. 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:54.400 You do once because I hung out one time because 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:56.600 I felt like I was tied of fucking talking and 0:16:56.640 --> 0:16:59.120 if I keep talking, it's like nothing's getting done. 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:01.760 Okay, Well, so you hang up. I hang up. 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:04.119 I do say bye first, So is that really hanging up? 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:08.639 Yes, because the conversation, No, this has to be like 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:11.880 bitch bye, that's not the same thing. 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:14.640 Second, i'd be like, I'm hanging up now. 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:18.119 I definitely say the last time we got into you 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.640 was like, well you get out the phone, Then get 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:22.640 out the phone. I said, I ain't going nowhere the. 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:25.080 Phone for thirty more minutes before I finally hung up 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:26.920 on y'all, ass because now we don't talk too fun. 0:17:27.000 --> 0:17:29.520 Listen to me and Tammy literally literally was in therapy. Now, 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:31.719 I did hang up on the therapy session. 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:35.159 So that's two. So that's why I hung up on 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.879 a therapy session because it's like I didn't like the 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:38.760 fucking therapist. 0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:42.359 It's like, this ship is not fucking working. We probably 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:44.840 should have picked like a different therapist. We should not 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:47.920 have picked somebody that you're using as your personal therapist 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:51.000 because I'm asking like some basic shit to both Tam 0:17:51.080 --> 0:17:54.560 and the fucking therapist, and she's like giving these god 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:56.600 damn white. 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:59.639 People, uh technology textbook answers. 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:02.000 Yes, I'm like, you know what, this ain't fucking working. 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:04.800 You know, I'm tired of talking. Y'all have a good event. 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:06.920 And you know what that brings up to a new conversation. 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:09.240 When it comes to therapist, you have to find the 0:18:09.320 --> 0:18:11.320 right person for you, because I just felt like she 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:14.359 was a nice woman as a therapist, but she just 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:16.440 unpacked my shit and then left it sitting on this 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:19.000 table next to me. You know, like it wasn't like 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:22.439 any real healing that I was getting out of the therapy. 0:18:22.560 --> 0:18:23.320 You're not gonna get. 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.800 I don't feel like you're gonna get As a black person, 0:18:25.840 --> 0:18:28.160 I don't feel like you wanna get actual healing from 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:33.080 therapy with anybody doing some textbook textbook therapy type shit 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:36.520 like black people need spiritual healing, right, we need a 0:18:36.520 --> 0:18:40.000 different type of therapy. So now these people get paid 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:42.400 to be This is a doctor, right, So imagine if 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:45.120