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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. This is from Brenda and Gainesville Colo. Brenda writes,

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Speaker 1: I'm fifty one and dating, but I don't like what

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Speaker 1: I'm seeing with the men. With the men that are available,

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Speaker 1: The men my age prefer to text instead of calling,

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Speaker 1: and they'd rather come to my house instead of going out.

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Speaker 1: Am I supposed to lower my standards to get a man?

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Speaker 2: No, that's not lowering your standards. You just have to

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Speaker 2: set them.

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Speaker 3: I don't do a lot of texting, and I prefer

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Speaker 3: to be courted. I want to go out on dates.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'd like to do. Now you don't have to, sir,

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Speaker 3: but that's what I like to do. And so when

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Speaker 3: they continue to text, texting requires a response, and somebody

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Speaker 3: coming over your house require you to open the dot.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's see.

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Speaker 3: So well, once you stop doing those two things, then

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Speaker 3: that part ends. And I understand what you're saying. Ladies

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Speaker 3: out there, men have changed. I will give you that

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Speaker 3: they have changed. Yeah, but you don't have to because

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Speaker 3: there are good men out there, and good men can

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Speaker 3: be trained because all you have to do is not

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Speaker 3: accept bad behavior. And they have to change it if

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Speaker 3: they want to see you. But if you accept bad behavior,

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Speaker 3: that's what you're gonna get.

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Speaker 4: Okay, all right, all right.

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Raymond in Virginia Beach, Raymond writes, I

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Speaker 1: don't hang out much anymore because my wife is insecure

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Speaker 1: and thinks I'm trying to meet women when I go out.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to a cookout this weekend and it's just

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Speaker 1: the guys. Is it best to risk telling my wife

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Speaker 1: where I'm going? Or should I lie to her?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, come on, smell it like barbecue?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, or hopefully you come back smelling like barbecue.

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Speaker 2: Listen, listen, she's insecure.

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Speaker 3: This one right here. You can tell the truth if

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Speaker 3: it is well, listen to me. If it is all

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Speaker 3: the fellas and y'all having an all male cookout.

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Speaker 2: Just say that. Just say that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Period.

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Speaker 3: Now, if it's not an all male cookout, you have

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Speaker 3: got to lie.

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Speaker 4: Those as.

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Speaker 2: This is an easy one.

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Speaker 4: What's the lie? What's the line?

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Speaker 2: Baby? It's an all male cookout?

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Speaker 3: And then one of them food's gonna post something on

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Speaker 3: Facebook and one of I'm gonna tag a friend that

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Speaker 3: know you, and next thing you know, she gonna see

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Speaker 3: everybody else with that, and then you have to have

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Speaker 3: the recovery lie.

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Speaker 4: What is that? What is that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Ernie, Ernie told me it was gonna be all

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Speaker 3: the fellas mm hmm. Then three of them bout girls

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Speaker 3: with them. I could have took you. I ain't going

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Speaker 3: over Ernie house. No, that's it, that's it.

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Speaker 4: You threw where Ernie. It's not your friend.

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Speaker 1: All right, Okay if you think that'll work, right, all.

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Speaker 3: Right, I tell you what, I tell you what I

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Speaker 3: tell you. What going in there with the truth. Let

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Speaker 3: me know how that goes for you. Go ahead.

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Speaker 2: Truth don't never work.

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Speaker 4: So not that is just a lie. The truth never works.

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Speaker 2: The truth word.

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Speaker 4: You haven't tried it. How would you know.

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying the truth exactly exactly, truth exactly.

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Speaker 4: So you don't know. You don't know.

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Speaker 1: Lord Kenzy and Starkville Huh. Kenzy and Starkville writes, I'm

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Speaker 1: having a fling with a man that is the best

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Speaker 1: lover I've ever had. But get this, he's not attractive.

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Speaker 1: He also just lost a tooth on the side, so

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Speaker 1: I'm ashamed of how he looks. He's really sweet, but

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Speaker 1: really unattractive. Am I being shallow? For being ashamed of him.

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Speaker 3: You know, listen, ugly man, I'm gonna just tell you

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Speaker 3: this right now, have got to be great lovers.

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Speaker 2: They ain't got no choice.

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Speaker 3: See what you're not finna do is be ugly and

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Speaker 3: ain't in here doing nothing.

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Speaker 4: But he can fix that tooth.

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Speaker 3: Come on, and you ain't a hard worker. Now you

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Speaker 3: got that tooth out there missing his siety? Or now

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Speaker 3: we talk. You drive and I'm over here on the

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Speaker 3: passenger side, and it's that K nine on the right

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Speaker 3: side right now.

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Speaker 2: You're over here talking. Yeah, yeah, it ain't.

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Speaker 4: I got just on the side, yeah yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 3: No, when you're on the side, it's right there that

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Speaker 3: that K nine too. And look and look and look

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Speaker 3: you're talking about he not flossing. You could have got

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Speaker 3: it knocked out at a bar fight. Anything that could

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Speaker 3: have happened. You your tooth frame fell out because you

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Speaker 3: wasn't FLOSSI that ain't if you weigh you way up

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Speaker 3: the road if that happened. So you know, and then

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Speaker 3: he's unattracted. But he in there bringing it. Two things

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Speaker 3: you could do.

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Speaker 4: What Number one, you.

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Speaker 3: Can fix the tooth at that and go and enjoy yourself.

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Speaker 3: Now there's some things you could do the ugly men.

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Speaker 3: There are some things you could do.

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Speaker 4: What what what do you mean?

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Speaker 3: Grooming really really tight grooming and tighten up his appearance?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you know, start with the two.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've been unattracted, but I dressed so nice. I

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Speaker 3: cover it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And your.

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Speaker 4: I mean.

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Speaker 2: You just the ugly dude.

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Speaker 4: You know, nobody broken ugly dude. I mean the bank.

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Speaker 3: I beg to differult what I beg. Don't nobody who

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Speaker 3: want to know? Broke ugly dude? Women sign up for

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Speaker 3: that all the time? What you what?

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Speaker 4: They settle because they settled, that's that. Yeah. Yeah, if

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Speaker 4: that's the case, if you had an option, if you had.

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Speaker 3: Down through the n b A and tell me, but

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Speaker 3: they're not broke NFL no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: I know they not broke.

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Speaker 4: Okay, but what but what? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Oh oh, I thought you said, don't nobody want no

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Speaker 3: rich ugly man, no rich bro oh yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh, don't nobody want that. Don't nobody want that?

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Speaker 2: They got it?

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Speaker 3: I thought you said, don't nobody want no rich rich

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Speaker 3: ugly man. I'm finna say good, I'm going down this.

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Speaker 3: I'll go down this right now.

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Speaker 4: And I wish we could continue this conversation. Okay, but

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Speaker 4: we gotta go.

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Speaker 2: That was ugly.

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Speaker 4: You're listening, Steve Hardy Morning Show