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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Buckle up,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it

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Speaker 1: is letter, Thank you nephew. Subject he made a lifetime

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Speaker 1: commitment to another woman. Just Stephen Shirley. I'm twenty nine

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Speaker 1: years old and my boyfriend is thirty and he's an idiot.

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Speaker 1: We've been together for four years and his ex girlfriend

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Speaker 1: and I were close friends before her man chose to

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Speaker 1: be with me instead of her. I might have been

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Speaker 1: wrong for dating him, but it felt like the right

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Speaker 1: thing to do at the time. In the beginning, she

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Speaker 1: tried to fight me three times, and she showed up

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Speaker 1: at my job once and I had her arrested. About

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Speaker 1: a year ago, she started dating a new guy and

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Speaker 1: she left us alone. Then she got pregnant and the

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Speaker 1: might be my boyfriend's baby. My boyfriend swore he had

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Speaker 1: trust him and wait to see who the baby looked like.

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Speaker 1: She gave birth to a boy two weeks ago, and

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Speaker 1: acting all excited. What an idiot, because now I'm wondering

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Speaker 1: if it's his baby after all. I started asking around

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Speaker 1: the baby, and all of them said the little boy

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Speaker 1: looks just like his dead beat daddy that he's never met.

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Speaker 1: The ex girlfriend found out I was asking about her baby,

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Speaker 1: so she texted me a picture of the baby with

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Speaker 1: baby's birth certificate and I saw that my boyfriend had

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Speaker 1: him out for lying to me. He said he only

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Speaker 1: signed the birth certificates so another black boy won't grow

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Speaker 1: up without a father figure he did not realize was

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Speaker 1: a good one. He did not realize that he'd be

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Speaker 1: He and his ex girlfriend deserve each other, so I

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Speaker 1: left him, of course, he says, I'm overreacting. What do

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Speaker 1: you guys think? Well, in the first part of the

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Speaker 1: letter you said you're twenty nine and your boyfriend's thirty

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Speaker 1: and he's an idiot. But reading this letter, it really

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Speaker 1: made me wonder who really is the idiot here? Who

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Speaker 1: is it? Yes, girl, you know you were wrong for

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Speaker 1: dating your close friends. Man. You know that violates every

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Speaker 1: kind of girlfriend code there is. We don't do that,

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Speaker 1: especially with the lame excuse of it seemed like the

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Speaker 1: Come on? Really, you're just wrong on so many levels

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Speaker 1: for all of this, And yes, I think you are

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Speaker 1: know deep down that you caused all of this. This

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Speaker 1: is a chain reaction to what you've done, and your

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Speaker 1: boyfriend is still dipping back over to her, so it

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Speaker 1: probably is his baby. Of course a DNA test would

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Speaker 1: take care of all that information. But his name is

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Speaker 1: on the birth certificate. He signed the birth certificate. You're

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Speaker 1: supposed man sign, and the birth certificate. He said that

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Speaker 1: he didn't want another black boy to grow up without

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Speaker 1: investment into a child, especially this baby boy. And you

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Speaker 1: said he was excited about the baby too. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you need to connect these dots here. That is his baby.

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Speaker 1: They are still seeing each other. You're right, they do

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Speaker 1: So I think you need to move on and get

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Speaker 1: and just move on and let them be. Steve Dyslett,

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Speaker 1: it stupid, very beginning. Yeah, I'm just was just trying

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Speaker 1: It never did. Twenty nine year old lady born free

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Speaker 1: and thirty. She say right off to Chop, he's an idiot.

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Speaker 1: Shirley's absolutely correct. Who's the idiot in this letter, So

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Speaker 1: close friends. Shirley knows that you broke off the girl cold,

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Speaker 1: helped him decide, see, you said before we were close friends.

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Speaker 1: Before her man chose to be with me instead of her.

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Speaker 1: I don't want you to forget that. You helped him decide.

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Speaker 1: Now then she says, I might have been wrong for

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Speaker 1: don't want be right now? He is how you know

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Speaker 1: you was wrong in the beginning? She tried to fight

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Speaker 1: me three times. Came down to your job to whoop

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Speaker 1: your aim? Steve, you had hair? Oh she man with joy?

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letters subject he

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Speaker 1: made a lifetime commitment to another woman. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening Steve Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: He made a lifetime commitment to another woman. This crazy

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Speaker 1: woman dating this thirty year old man. They've been together

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Speaker 1: four years and his ex girlfriend and I was close

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Speaker 1: forget that you helped him. That's decide. I might have

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Speaker 1: you're wrong and then you're trying to justify Yeah, she said,

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Speaker 1: her arrested. That's because you was her girlfriend. She knows

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Speaker 1: She didn't cased it, pre meditated this in the first degree. Well,

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Speaker 1: about a year ago she started dating the new guys.

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Speaker 1: but you wanted to wait to see who the baby

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Speaker 1: listen to this. He was acting all excited. What an idiot?

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute or won would call a man tell

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Speaker 1: and he's an idiot. How does this work? She said,

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Speaker 1: What the hair? Was he excited? Fault? Call a man

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Speaker 1: No excitement there, right, So let me show you how

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Speaker 1: this work, Shirley. We're gonna do a reenactment. Okay, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna do it several different ways. Hello, mu Hi, Fred, Hey,

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Speaker 1: We're pregnant? Fred Hello, fred fred did you? Did you

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Speaker 1: hear me? Fred? Freddy? You're still there? Fred? I said,

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Speaker 1: Hey hey Jerry, Hey girl, how are you doing? Baby? Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: All right, Wait a minute, Jerry, it's your baby, you know.

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Speaker 1: care of yourself. This is our baby. We're pregnant. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: Hello John? Hey, what's up? Hey? How you doing good?

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Speaker 1: What's going on? I'm great, I'm great. Listen, I got

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Speaker 1: What's that? We're pregnant? Girl? You crazy? So what else

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Speaker 1: Are you crazy? So what you're doing tonight? Though? I'm

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Speaker 1: How did you do that? Excuse me? It wasn't artificially

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Speaker 1: I can't have kids. No, it's yours. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I mean? I can't possibly had you? So you take

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Speaker 1: tell you, Mama said, Hi, I ain't been over there

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Speaker 1: Because he don't want another black boy to go up

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Speaker 1: because you his damn dad. Right. That's all this is.

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