WEBVTT - Love Lockdown 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:05.240 Wind Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Kaufman and iHeart 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:06.359 Radio Podcast. 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:11.880 We have two more days until we're free. 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:13.680 But as you're saying earlier. 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:16.799 Well, no, they don't know what I was saying earlier. 0:00:17.160 --> 0:00:19.240 Well, off air, it's going quick. 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:24.040 Off air, it was like doom and gloom, and I'm like, 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:26.880 what do you mean we're doing this? Once we said 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:31.040 the first three days were really hard, and then it 0:00:31.120 --> 0:00:33.600 was like we need to, Like because I was talking 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:37.720 to my friend pamelin back home and I said, once 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:40.159 we set a schedule for each day, like, it just 0:00:40.200 --> 0:00:42.640 helps everything. I think it helps my anxiety too. I'm like, okay, 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:44.680 I know from ten to eleven we're outside, eleven to 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:47.159 twelve is lunch, twelve thirty, j just goes down, you know. 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:50.199 And I feel like it's made the days go by 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:50.880 a lot faster. 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:56.080 It has what I'm realizing, my tape job on my 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:59.160 headphones is coming off with what is going on. What 0:00:59.640 --> 0:01:02.160 I'm is, I'm like, why does this feel so different? 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.480 Because we spent so much the last year like not leaving, 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:07.320 not doing anything. But I'm like, well, last year we 0:01:07.360 --> 0:01:10.520 could still technically leave the house, Like I still went 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:11.520 to the grocery. 0:01:11.160 --> 0:01:14.319 Store and you went to home depot. I'm like, honey, 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:18.000 is that essential going down? She's like building this thing 0:01:18.040 --> 0:01:19.360 for the kids. Absolutely? 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:23.560 Absolutely, And but I'm like, now these two weeks we 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:24.920 weren't allowed to go anywhere. 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:29.160 I mean, it's not it's not a recommended, it's a 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:33.200 you're staying or you'll go to jail for right six months. 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:35.760 It's like, if we want to run the risk. 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:38.240 I'm dying, doant drink some mon? 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:41.800 Oh my god? 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:42.160 Your so. 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:47.960 Okay? Yeah, we run the risk of someone actually coming 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:49.640 to the house and doing like a house call and 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:50.560 checking it we're here. 0:01:51.520 --> 0:01:54.160 Yeah, oh which, sorry, that just scared me. I'm like, 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:55.240 I think they just showed up. 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:56.680 Is your wardrobe guy? 0:01:56.840 --> 0:02:02.000 Yeah? So yeah, it's it's been and that part, that 0:02:02.080 --> 0:02:03.800 part was what was giving me anxiety. But at the 0:02:03.800 --> 0:02:06.720 same time, there's people online that were like, stop complaining, 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:08.640 like we're all in a pandemic right now, We're all 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:12.239 can't we all can't leave. And I'm like, that's technically not. 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.239 I mean in California you can't really, but it's like 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:16.680 you're still go somewhere right, No. 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:19.080 One, here's the thing again, here's the difference. No one's 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:21.120 gonna possibly show up at your door to make sure 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:24.239 you're at home. You have the freedom to leave. Yeah, 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:26.400 in theory we could, but we run the risk of 0:02:26.440 --> 0:02:29.240 getting like a seven hundred and fifty thousand dollars fine 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:32.440 or possible imprisonment. I really don't want to do that. 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:35.160 No, and we've already done it like we're used to. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.639 I think what I said to someone, I was like, honestly, 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:42.760 it's just about the comfort of your own home. Yeah, 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.799 I know we talked about that last week, but I uh, yeah, 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:48.320 I feel like wherever I am with y'all is home. 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.560 We do a good job at making that happen for 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:52.760 ourselves and for the kids. 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:57.120 And I'm sorry to Peter, but Wednesday we're going to 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.520 the zoo. I got us lined up to go to 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:05.240 the van Uber Zoo on Wednesday, nice little tour. I'm like, well, 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:08.920 you know what's so ironically sad about that? What I 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:13.040 just thought of it, This is terrible. We're free that day, 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:19.480 but the animals are not free, you know. We're like, 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:22.119 we're basically the caged animals right now. 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:24.600 So what you're saying when we go to the zoo 0:03:24.600 --> 0:03:27.880 and we're cast suck at line. We're free. 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:31.760 No, but I feel bad. No, but I genuinely feel bad. 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.400 Now now I get it, like I'm a we're zoo goers. 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:37.480 We are we are zoo goers, and. 0:03:37.440 --> 0:03:40.680 Now I'm oh my god. They live that life every day. 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:44.200 They can't roam free, they can't. I feel terrible. 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:46.640 You can all of a sudden become a non zoo goer. 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:50.360 Peta, Yeah, I feel terrible now after we go to 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.440 Vancouverso yeah, after because I need to get out. 0:03:52.560 --> 0:03:59.520 Yeah. So we celebrated Valentine's Day in lockdown quarantine and 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:00.480 we made them most of it. 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:05.920 Last Valentine's Day we were also well, it was pretty 0:04:05.960 --> 0:04:07.760 much like well, we weren't locked down yet because that 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:10.840 was March, but we spent it at home. Remember, we 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:14.400 made homemade pasta and we ended up having to so 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:20.159 last Valentine's Day, Mike was really wanting wanting it to 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:22.080 be special because we just kind of went through a 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:25.880 little thing last January, and he was just he was 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:32.080 putting so much pressure to make homemade pasta and basically 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.600 it ended up looking like yogurt. 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:38.680 Well, no, I just I second guessed myself because I 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.719 was going by this recipe, and the recipe was like, oh, basically, 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.760 you don't have to boil the pasta before you put 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:46.359 it in the pot with the sauce. I was like, 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.960 what that doesn't make freaking sense. But all right, like 0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:52.480 who am I to say otherwise? And then it's just 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:54.560 like doughey, limp noodles. 0:04:55.400 --> 0:04:57.040 No, it wasn't. It was one big bowl. 0:04:57.279 --> 0:05:00.280 Yeah. Yeah, it was like we were noodles back to 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:02.000 their home, which became one big ball of dough. 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:05.440 Oh were those things that my grandma used to make dumplings? Dumplings? 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:06.679 They looks like one big dumpling. 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:10.200 Yeah. So we ended up ordering food. 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:13.159 No, we ended up making well, yeah, so yeah, we 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:15.560 ended up making or No, we ended up ordering from 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:17.520 a place in Nashville. But this so this Valentine's Day, 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:19.960 I was like, babe, let's just get pre made noodles, 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:22.360 let's get some fasta sauce. 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:25.119 You're lucky we're not home. I'll totally try to redo 0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:26.599 it and do it right this time. 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:31.600 But it was great. A little bath, a little airwork. 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:33.440 It was a good day. 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.320 I wonder though, because a lot of people don't like 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.960 to celebrate Valentine's Day because they call it like a 0:05:39.960 --> 0:05:40.839 hallmark holiday. 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:41.600 It is. 0:05:42.080 --> 0:05:46.719 I mean, well, then what's Mother's Day? 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:47.719 Appreciate mothers? 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:50.680 Well, then what's Valentine's Day? A day to appreciate your. 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:54.360 Day for making money for all these companies Christmas? 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.880 Remember we learned about Christmas what Christmas was when we 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:01.000 were watching the Scrooge and we looked at when did 0:06:01.080 --> 0:06:06.080 Christmas actually start? And was to make money for the companies? 0:06:07.800 --> 0:06:09.560 Remember when we looked that up. So it's like the 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:11.720 same thing. I mean, it's all essentially the same. 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:16.400 Well, no, our question was when did Christmas become commercialized? Right? 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:20.680 But it became commercialized because of the money and right. 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:23.920 But there's still you know, the wise men brought gifts. 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:28.400 Why are men so against Valentine's Day? Like you're fighting Valide? 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:32.000 Because here's the deal. Here's the deal. It's not really 0:06:32.040 --> 0:06:32.919 a if you. 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:35.240 Say here's the deal twice or like more serious, No, 0:06:35.279 --> 0:06:35.560 if I. 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:37.039 Say it three times and I'm really serious. So here's 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:43.120 the deal. It's they don't put a name on it, 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:45.280 and it's in terms of Mother's Day or Father's Day 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:49.200 where it's one specific person. Right, But the way society 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.840 has been it puts the pressure on the mail to 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.919 have a you know, give a great gesture of love 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:02.120 and the women just naturally are the receivers of that, 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:05.400 and it's like false. Wait a second. You get your birthday, 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:09.040 you get Mother's Day for your mother, we get Christmas anniversaries. 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:11.520 You're telling me that we have to take another day 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:14.400 out of a month and say, hey, honey, here's all 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:15.480 the stuff to show that I love you. 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:17.240 Because you don't have to be money. You could just 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:20.480 write a nice handwritten card and say I really value 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:22.240 and love you and you're my Valentine. 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:24.280 Mark. Done good. 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:28.000 Yeah, I've never asked for any gift on Valentine's The 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:29.840 only reason you got me last year was because you 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:32.600 ruined Christmas and got me a biday for Christmas. 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.120 Okay, some cultures, that's a win. 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:37.800 Mark. 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.200 Can you back me up on this? Do you feel 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:43.720 more pressure that's next for you? Do you feel more 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:46.520 pressure as a male for Valentine's Day? I do. 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:48.680 First of all, I'm very much enjoying the show. I 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:50.280 was muted, but I was laughing out loud. So I 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:53.160 just wanted you guys to know that I think that 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:56.160 they're all Hallmark holidays. All holidays are made up, so 0:07:56.280 --> 0:07:58.160 I don't see why one is more than the other. 0:07:58.280 --> 0:07:59.600 So I don't know that I can go with you 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:03.520 on that, Michael. No one really knows when Jesus was born. 0:08:03.640 --> 0:08:04.440 They just picked a day. 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:09.120 But yes, there's a lot of pressure. And I have 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:10.920 an issue because my wife's birthday is two weeks before 0:08:10.960 --> 0:08:13.000 Valentine's Day and it's all right after Christmas, so it's 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:14.640 like three under row bam bam bama. So I gotta 0:08:14.680 --> 0:08:16.600 plot it out. I gotta start planning, and I got to, like, 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:18.280 you know, I have a list in my notes section 0:08:18.360 --> 0:08:20.640 in my phone where I can like organize what goes 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:22.520 to what birthday and what goes to Valentine's Day and 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:23.280 what goes to Christmas. 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:24.560 Otherwise I'm going to be out of luck. 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:27.400 Welcome to being a woman. We have that, I have that, 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:31.320 like the whole year planned out, like Father's Day, that 0:08:31.480 --> 0:08:33.240 his birthday. I mean, that's just what a woman does. 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:35.040 And I'm proud of you that you even have that, 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:37.480 because I have to be like Mike, write it down. 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:38.280 I would like it. 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:40.440 The last time I did that, I got her bed 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:42.320 day and she hated it because. 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:44.440 I didn't ask for it, did you kid? Oh my God. 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:47.440 I literally said, we're going to go back to you, Mark, 0:08:47.480 --> 0:08:49.640 but I know joke. We were at a friend's house 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:52.360 and I was like, ooh, this warm seat feels really nice. 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:55.120 You said I didn't want nice as my main gift 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:56.160 for Christmas. 0:08:57.920 --> 0:08:59.920 Your driver to pick and chooese. I'm the gonna give it. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:01.520 It was just the warmth of the seat. 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.040 It wasn't that I don't like. I don't even use 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:06.280 the spritzer. I don't use the spritzer. I just like 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.160 a heated seat. I like it. I like I like 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:11.560 a good old heated seat. But I didn't want it 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:12.079 for Christmas. 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:13.960 And so the only said a lot of money on 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:16.960 that one, Mike, I don't know, because then I ended 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.319 up paying having to pay for it to double down 0:09:19.360 --> 0:09:20.240 this last Christmas too. 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:22.600 Oh it needed to be spectacular. 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:23.600 And I killed it. 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:25.920 So it's okay, no, but that's the thing. And this 0:09:25.960 --> 0:09:27.400 is what I told him, because we actually got into 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:30.160 a huge fight about it because he's like, I was like, you, 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.319 what you don't get and what you're missing is that 0:09:32.400 --> 0:09:35.720 it doesn't matter how much you spend. I mean, sure, 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.440 diamonds are great. Every woman loves diamonds. I was like, 0:09:38.480 --> 0:09:42.240 it's the intention, the intent and the intention behind the gift. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:47.000 He got me this thing from probably uncommon goods. It 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:50.320 probably was like maybe a hundred bucks, and it was 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:54.320 the most thoughtful gift I've ever gotten from him. It 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:56.560 was like it was a Chicago map where we met. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:09:58.560 It was like a little heart pin and I it 0:09:58.679 --> 0:10:01.840 was just like, Wow, that's so sweet, and I'm like, 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:05.280 I love that more than the diamond this you gave 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.280 to me that I wear once, you know. So it's 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:10.480 truly for women. It's about the intention, and I think 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:13.720 going back to Valentine's Day, it's just about appreciation and 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:15.880 telling that person you appreciate them and that you love them. 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.559 That you don't have to do grand gestures. But sure, 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:21.599 I'm so sorry that we get four things out of 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.319 the year to show that it should be every day 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:24.480 and that. 0:10:24.520 --> 0:10:28.800 You should Valentine's Day and that of course defense rest. 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:31.800 No, no, no, you're no no. What I'm saying is 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:34.719 like we should have we should have every day. You 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:36.440 should show us that you appreciate and love us and 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:38.760 write little sweet notes. But can you at least do 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:40.679 four out of three hundred and sixty five or however 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:41.960 many days there are in a year. 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:43.560 Well, we don't get actually better when we do do 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:44.000 more than. 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:47.640 That, Sure you do. We're a lot softer and nicer. 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:52.600 What are you laughing at, Mark. 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:55.360 I'm just enjoying this. This is I mean, because you 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:57.720 make really good points. You both make a really good point. 0:10:57.720 --> 0:10:57.920 All right. 0:10:57.960 --> 0:10:59.160 You know what, Mark, I'm going to put that to 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:02.360 the test in the year twenty twenty one where Valentine's 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:04.679 or we already did Valentine's and I had no choice 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:07.800 but to be just sentimental and cheap. But move forward 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:11.200 Mother's Day, birthday, anniversary. 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.440 And I'm not saying you have to be I'm just saying, 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:14.720 like there's. 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:19.360 I'm gonna go super inexpensive and just sentimental. And guess 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:21.040 what one of those days is going to be a 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.440 lottery pick where she's gonna get the grand slam of 0:11:24.160 --> 0:11:27.400 no material gift. All she's gonna get is eye contact 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:31.920 intentional words. I'm saying, Honey, I love, I appreciate you 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:33.839 so much, and that'll be your gift. It's got to 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:34.640 be written down. 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:36.720 Already down to you like you sound kind of like 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:38.800 you sound kind of arrogant right now, like you got 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:40.880 it at least like like I said, frame it, you know, 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:42.880 and I did that and it was amazing. It was 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:44.200 my favorite gift. And I still haven't. 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.360 You just said, you said, how do I sound arrogant? 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:48.839 Well, you just sound kind of like like we don't 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.680 deserve I'm gonna write something down and make a card. 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.960 I'm not saying that that's part of it. I'm saying, 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:59.920 if you really think there's no material isn't behind it? 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:03.079 For Valentine's Day? No, I don't think so. For a birthday? 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:05.520 And for Christmas, yeah, I think you know something nice, 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:07.960 you know, if that's what we agree on. If not 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:09.800 for like kay, let's just do the deck next year, 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:12.679 then we agree on it. But I'm not that girl 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:15.000 to say I want a deck for Christmas, you know, 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:18.360 like most couples say, like it's our couch. I don't 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:20.160 want a couch for Christmas, you know what I mean. 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.880 I would like a nice pair of shoes. I don't 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:25.920 want to be like, well we had we spent a 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:29.240 lot of money on the couch this year. When you 0:12:29.240 --> 0:12:35.480 buy yourself ten guns, you know. Anyways, I rest my case, 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:38.920 and now we're gonna get comments of how materialistic and 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:41.079 whatever we are. 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:44.080 No I think you make a good point. I think 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:46.960 it's a combination. It's got to be sentimental. But gifts 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:51.000 are nice. Everyone loves getting gifts. Valentine's Day, Birthday, Mother's Day, 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:53.240 the four days a year, guys have to step up. 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:54.440 I think that's the message. 0:12:54.760 --> 0:12:57.000 Yeah, And that's the thing. I have no issue with it. 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.880 It's hmm, or don't. 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:01.440 Sound like you have an issue, like you get. 0:13:01.240 --> 0:13:02.480 Four days out of the year. 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:07.240 Where I have the issue is when at times women 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:10.560 will say, oh, it's not about this, it's not about that. 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:13.040 I just want to know I'm appreciated. I don't know 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:16.120 it yet, No, no matter what it is, and or 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:19.280 even we even said who is it? Your brother? Your 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:22.240 brother and his fiancee. They even said, hey, don't get it. 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:24.080 Don't She even said, don't get me a gift, and 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.439 he said okay. And the day come, he didn't get 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:28.240 her a gift, she said, and she got him with 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:30.400 she said, what the where's my gift? He said, you 0:13:30.440 --> 0:13:31.600 told me not to get you a gift. 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:33.559 Well, that's different. I've never told you not to get 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:34.040 me something. 0:13:34.679 --> 0:13:37.280 I agree. I'm not saying you have I'm just saying 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.960 women in general, this Yeah, that is a thing out 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.040 there where if men, if you and I agreed, hey, 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:45.160 let's not get an any you know, get each other 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:47.800 anything for Christmas. As a guy, I'll be like, Okay, 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:50.600 we're not getting each other anything for Christmas. You knowing you, 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:51.880 you'd probably still get me something. 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:56.120 Of course I would, because I appreciate you. That's the thing. 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:58.920 It's about appreciation and being like I appreciate you. Whether 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:03.079 it's five hundred dollars or five bucks, it's showing appreciation. 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:05.600 But what if we agreed not to get each. 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:10.840 I still think you still get something small? God, we 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:14.000 do so much like we do, We do so much, 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:19.400 and we all we get are four days. Some only 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.200 get three if they're not a mom. 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:25.360 You know, well anyway, two each their own. 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:28.440 I would like to start throwing myself half birthdays now, 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:31.480 just to prove, just to prove my point of appreciation. 0:14:34.000 --> 0:14:35.800 We're going to celebrate my half birthday. 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:37.880 Bring it. I'm ready, all. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.440 Right, Mike intro, our amazing guests for today. 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:42.280 All right. Speaking that doing too much, this is a 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.440 lady that knows how to do too much successfully. Miss 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:50.240 Nicole Walters. She was a former employee for a Fortune 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:54.080 five hundred company, decided to leave that company and start 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:57.080 her own business and became the CEO and founder of 0:14:57.080 --> 0:15:00.240 her business, which is called Inherit Learning Company, you know, 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:04.320 in that she specializes in UH business development training, strategic 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:08.480 coaching for emerging entrepreneurs and established business owners. So we're 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:10.280 going to have her on and let her teach us 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:11.760 all about that and pick her brain. 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:14.600 Yeah, they also have a show her and her family. 0:15:14.840 --> 0:15:19.240 She's called She's the boss on USA, right, and the 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:22.200 girls that she has they're actually adopted. So I'm excited 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:23.760 to hear about that story. And then I also want 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.760 to ask her to she quit her job like on 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:29.800 like online basically, I mean in front of people. 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:33.960 Yeah, just kind of like I'm curious. 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.720 To ask her that. So we'll take one more break 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:37.480 and then we'll get her on. 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:50.200 Hello. 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:54.680 Hi, I'm so sorry we made you wait? That are okay? 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:58.840 I apologize, I apologize, I apologize. 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:01.240 Don't be don't even I'm the person who's like, please 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.000 don't send me gifts because I'll never send you thank 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:07.400 you Notes's let's just own who we are. It's a pandemic, 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:09.320 you know. 0:16:09.400 --> 0:16:12.240 It's so funny about the and like we can just 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:14.320 let's just go right into it. But thank you cards. 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:19.520 I'm terrible with thank you cards. Yes, I like, can 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.480 I just text you? 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:21.720 No? 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:23.800 That's the thing like if kids' birthday parties, I'm like, 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:25.960 I don't have the time. I feel bad, but thanks 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.880 for the unicorn for my daughter, right right exactly. 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:31.080 I'm always like, why are you even putting me in 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:34.080 this position? I need thank you cardless friendships. I need 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.720 you to understand I don't want that pressure, you know, 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.120 because it's it's the layers to a thank you card. 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:41.600 It's I need stamps, I have to get to a 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:45.160 post office. Well why stamps? Like what is that? 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:47.320 I well, And here's the thing too with that is 0:16:47.320 --> 0:16:49.480 I'm like, when I get a thank you card, it 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:51.880 doesn't do anything for me, you know. So I'm like, 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:55.480 I just I personally am like, well, of course you 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:57.480 you're thankful that I you know, like you don't need 0:16:57.520 --> 0:16:59.080 I'm like, I'm always and I say to my friends, like, 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:00.760 you don't need to write a think you card? Like 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:01.560 do not write a. 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.680 Thank you card? Yes, it's pressure because. 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:05.440 I'm like and I'm like, it's just wasteless, and like 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:06.959 I got time to I got to open it. Up. 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:10.000 I compare it to ringing the doorbell, right. I always 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:11.679 make the joke like if you ring our doorbell, that 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:16.000 means you don't belong here. You walk in. You either 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:18.080 know the door code or you just walk in. So 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.760 if you send me a thank you card, we're not friends. 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:22.760 You don't know us exactly right. 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:25.280 It's like, honestly, whenever I get a card, I kind 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:27.359 of recondo it. I'm like, I hold it to my 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:29.959 heart and I'm like, Okay, sentiment received, and then I 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.280 throw it in the trash, Like what am I supposed 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:34.639 to do with this thing? You know? I know, I 0:17:34.680 --> 0:17:35.040 get it. 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:37.760 I know we're getting super off topic, but it's kind 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:40.399 of the same thing. Even like I love doing the 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.760 Christmas cards, but we don't have anywhere to put them, 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:45.040 so I just feel bad like putting people in a drawer, 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:46.000 do you. 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:48.879 Know what I mean? Like their whole family in the drawer, 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:50.240 every single piece of it. 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:52.960 Yeah, that's the one that even this past year, I 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:54.520 was like, Jane, we need like one of those little 0:17:55.119 --> 0:17:57.680 decorative like trees to put it on, because that's the one. 0:17:57.680 --> 0:17:59.480 I do feel bad because I know we go and 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:02.200 actually these pictures and people put effort and pay money 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:04.800 to have them professionally done, right, And so I'm like, yeah, 0:18:04.800 --> 0:18:07.200 I don't want to be throwing in a drawer money 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:07.720 and think. 0:18:07.640 --> 0:18:10.560 About it like I have to buy furniture to display 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:12.880 your photo at this point, Like I mean, if you 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:14.920 don't put me in that position, you know what I mean? 0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:16.960 This is supposed to be a relationship of depth, Like 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:19.520