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Speaker 1: This episode ten, y'all, I'm loving this ship. Help me celebrate.
Speaker 1: Look story time. Alright, So my cousin Fie, she was
Speaker 1: dating the guy Dawn. Now we all loved Dawn. She
Speaker 1: was dating him a couple of years ago. Everything was
Speaker 1: good with them. She had a good job, he had
Speaker 1: a good job. They moved together, they were living together.
Speaker 1: No kids. Uh, she never got pregnant or whatever. But
Speaker 1: my cousin has always wanted to get married. I'm talking
Speaker 1: about always. She's never cared to who or whatever. She
Speaker 1: is just all about getting married. She wants that fairy
Speaker 1: tale ending whatever whatever. Right two years went by, Don
Speaker 1: hasn't proposed, but they are still together. He seems happy.
Speaker 1: She's happy too. So me and my family like to
Speaker 1: get together and we like to do ship. So we
Speaker 1: had bowling one night, just the girls, she tells me
Speaker 1: and our other cousins. But she got until December to
Speaker 1: put a ring on my finger. So I'm like, fee what.
Speaker 1: She's like, Yeah, I've been with this nigga too long
Speaker 1: for him to have not proposed yet. I'm like two years.
Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, I feel like I've been with him
Speaker 1: too long not to be married, or him to even
Speaker 1: have popped the question or even to have thought about
Speaker 1: it yet. I say, if you ever talked to him
Speaker 1: about it? She's like, all the time, that's all I
Speaker 1: talk about. So I was like, okay, you don't think
Speaker 1: you maybe pushing him away? She like, bitch, I've been
Speaker 1: waiting for two years. Everything is good. I got good pussy,
Speaker 1: I can cook, I claim, I do everything. I'm already
Speaker 1: like a wife. Only thing he gotta do is make
Speaker 1: me one. I said, well, ship, now listen. She had
Speaker 1: a mindset on that ship. Like I told you all,
Speaker 1: she's always wanted to be married, didn't matter what he
Speaker 1: on it. So December comes, he does not propose. She
Speaker 1: leaves him. She left this nigga sad as fuck y'all
Speaker 1: has he loved her, she loved him, He was in
Speaker 1: love with her. He loved fee man. I still keep
Speaker 1: in touch with Dawn. He cool at ship. In my opinion,
Speaker 1: he was the best guy for my cousin. So she
Speaker 1: leaves him, she gets with somebody else. He eventually gets
Speaker 1: with somebody else. He married the girl that he started
Speaker 1: dating after my cousin only after a year of dating.
Speaker 1: He put a ring on somebody else's finger after only
Speaker 1: dating her for a year, and my cousin meanwhile, still
Speaker 1: to this day, to this day, it's stuck dating niggas,
Speaker 1: pressuring niggas to marry her. Now, look, that's the end
Speaker 1: of that story, which brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. Now,
Speaker 1: the fact that Dawn married somebody else only a year
Speaker 1: after dating her. To me, I didn't feel it was wrong.
Speaker 1: When my cousin found out, she damn they killed her stuff.
Speaker 1: She was fucked up, stressed out, and she was with
Speaker 1: somebody else. Mind you a clown, asked nigga, if you will,
Speaker 1: But that's the whole point about it. She pressured him.
Speaker 1: When I asked, I said, if you talked to him
Speaker 1: about it, Yeah, I thought I talked about Now. If
Speaker 1: y'all know my cousin and a lot of y'all who
Speaker 1: are listening, if y'all know me personally, y'all know Fee.
Speaker 1: Fee is very impulsive. Fee will keep talking about some
Speaker 1: ship for days and days and days like Yo, she'll
Speaker 1: never leave it alone. That nigga got tired of hand
Speaker 1: that ship. Let him do that. Also, Fie is very controlling,
Speaker 1: not even only with the proposal ship, with everything. She
Speaker 1: wanted everything her way I'm talking about. She wanted the
Speaker 1: nigga to eat a certain way, sleep a certain way,
Speaker 1: walk a certain way, dress a certain way. She was
Speaker 1: very controlling, but she knew she wanted to get married.
Speaker 1: Now I've talked to Don. I asked, on damn, Yo,
Speaker 1: you're married shortly after one year? He said, Yo, it
Speaker 1: just happened organically, like I fell in love with I
Speaker 1: knew I wanted to marry her six months and I
Speaker 1: got my money together for the wedding and everything because
Speaker 1: I wanted a quick turnaround time. I didn't want to
Speaker 1: propose to her and we'd be engaged for years and
Speaker 1: years and years. Now, black people they got a motherfucking had,
Speaker 1: but are doing that. My brother proposed to his baby
Speaker 1: mother like five six years ago and they still ain't married,
Speaker 1: and he ain't gonna marya. He just did that to
Speaker 1: show her to funk up because she wanted to be
Speaker 1: a wife. And she's still not a wife. She's just
Speaker 1: an engage. But he fell in love with this girl.
Speaker 1: Now her name is Stephanie. I like her, and my
Speaker 1: cousin doesn't like me anymore because I went to the
Speaker 1: wedding fuked up. But that's on youth. He let the
Speaker 1: girl love him, the girl let him love her, and
Speaker 1: it just happened. She made him want to marry her.
Speaker 1: He didn't make him want to marry her. And he
Speaker 1: stayed with her for two years. But he did love her,
Speaker 1: and now he did. But he told me she was
Speaker 1: very controlling. He said, the straw that broke the camel's
Speaker 1: back for me was when she came into the room
Speaker 1: one night and was like, you got until Christmas to
Speaker 1: put a ring on my finger, nigga. He said, that's
Speaker 1: when he knew he definitely wasn't marrying her. Then he
Speaker 1: just didn't tell her no. Look, in my opinion, people
Speaker 1: get married for all the wrong reasons. My cousin wanted
Speaker 1: to get married for all the wrong reasons. She just
Speaker 1: wanted to be able to say she was somebody's wife.
Speaker 1: She wanted the fairytale wedding. A lot of people do that,
Speaker 1: but it's a lot that goes into marriage, man, and
Speaker 1: and that's fine. If you want to be a wife,
Speaker 1: that's cool. It's tradition. It's sort of fairytaler is, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. That's the way of life, that's
Speaker 1: the way it's supposed to be. But you don't want
Speaker 1: to get married just to get the voice. It's a
Speaker 1: lot of money and a lot of time and effort
Speaker 1: that goes into that ship. I think you should get
Speaker 1: to know the person that you want to marry. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about knowing them inside and out. I think the
Speaker 1: only way that you should be able to get married
Speaker 1: is if you are able to say that's my best friend.
Speaker 1: You gotta build that foundation, you gotta know that person
Speaker 1: inside and out. I'm talking about little ship, from little
Speaker 1: ship to big ship, because the little ship is what
Speaker 1: mad is the most. If I'm walking around with an
Speaker 1: attitude but I don't say it, you already post to
Speaker 1: know why I gotta attitude and what the funk are
Speaker 1: mad about? Why? Because you know me inside and out. Now,
Speaker 1: the most complicated thing in this world to figure out
Speaker 1: is a woman's mind. But the second most complicated thing
Speaker 1: to figure out in this world is a man's mind.
Speaker 1: But it's only two of us, a woman and a man,
Speaker 1: and shift. If you're gonna jump that boom, you gotta
Speaker 1: be willing to do all the ship that helps you
Speaker 1: get there. Get to know your partner before you make
Speaker 1: them your spouse, because the last thing you want to
Speaker 1: do is get married and then find out some ship
Speaker 1: that you didn't know about the motherfucker after you marry them.
Speaker 1: You don't want to do that. Honestly, I don't think
Speaker 1: two years is long enough to be given a nigga
Speaker 1: an ultimatum. I don't think so. I think maybe three
Speaker 1: or four years tops. A lot of women know what
Speaker 1: they want before men, Okay, And and that's true. Women
Speaker 1: mature faster and a lot of different areas on a
Speaker 1: lot of different levels before men. But you can't rush
Speaker 1: a guy into growing up. You can't rush a guy
Speaker 1: into marrying you. You can't. Marriage is a very serious
Speaker 1: covenant and our reality it's a goddamn contract, and it's
Speaker 1: a contract you don't want to jump quick to sign,
Speaker 1: just like signing any motherfucking contract without reading the fine print.
Speaker 1: Be careful, make sure there's something you want to do.
Speaker 1: In my opinion, don't rush, but don't be my boyfriend forever.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Now. Look, some people are
Speaker 1: okay with not being able to get married. Some people
Speaker 1: are okay with being boyfriend and girlfriend for years and
Speaker 1: years and years for decades. That runs in the black
Speaker 1: community as well. A lot of people don't get married,
Speaker 1: but they'll stay together forever. Those other people who feel
Speaker 1: like they don't need rings and vowels and a big
Speaker 1: wedding and a reception to validate their love for one another.
Speaker 1: I get it. I know a lot of people like that.
Speaker 1: To me personally, Yes, I want to get married. Yes
Speaker 1: I want to have more children. No, I don't want
Speaker 1: to have more children until I get married. But I
Speaker 1: do want to get married. I would never pressure someone
Speaker 1: into marrying me though it's up to you. But I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna wait around forever. No, I'm not. Honestly, I
Speaker 1: can't say what I'll do in that situation. Now, If
Speaker 1: I'm with you for more in four years. You know, alright, nigga,
Speaker 1: what we're doing, but it's not You better put a
Speaker 1: ring on my finger by this date or I'm gone,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's just not how that
Speaker 1: ship should be. And then some women take it upon
Speaker 1: theirselves to propose. If a nigga wait too long, they're
Speaker 1: gonna do the proposing, Like let me take your back
Speaker 1: to Love and Hip Hop. Christie and Jim, Remember Christie
Speaker 1: wanted to get married very bad. They were together for
Speaker 1: a long time, you know what I mean. I don't
Speaker 1: know why the funk this niggad and pop the question
Speaker 1: neither I really wanted him to marry her. But nowadays
Speaker 1: she seems just over it. She seems like she don't
Speaker 1: give a funk anymore. But back then she really wanted
Speaker 1: to be married. All she wanted from this nigga was
Speaker 1: a commitment, a ring, a wedding, marriage, children. I remember
Speaker 1: her saying she wanted children on Love of Hip Hop,
Speaker 1: and I felt as though that was one of the
Speaker 1: cutest couples ever. Unfortunately it hasn't happened me. I could
Speaker 1: never propose to a guy I'm not supposed to be
Speaker 1: the one dawn on the knee. It ain't got nothing
Speaker 1: to do with tradition. Oh the guy is supposed to propose. No,
Speaker 1: I'm just not ever gonna get down on the knee,
Speaker 1: open up no box and say will you marry me? How? No,
Speaker 1: what the funk? Unless I'm marrying a bit or something,
Speaker 1: I can't do that, nigga. What First of all, I
Speaker 1: got bad knees and I would never do that ship anyway.
Speaker 1: Then I'm not creasing no McQueen to ask and ne
Speaker 1: gonna marry me. It's not gonna happen. Hold up, Hold up,
Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good. But listen to just
Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me,
Speaker 1: you'll listen, and that brings me to just fix my mess.
Speaker 1: And now listen. I asked you all online ladies, in
Speaker 1: your opinion, when is the right time to get married?
Speaker 1: And is it a dealbreaker if he never proposes, I'm
Speaker 1: like always you always give me some good feedback, and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read off of you. Zalika McCrae says, funck
Speaker 1: getting married, dying, big single period? Um, bitch, what listen
Speaker 1: you You've been big hurt. Obviously she's like nah, nigga,
Speaker 1: I just see a lot of marriages failing. But you
Speaker 1: can't let that depict your future. You can't let that
Speaker 1: control and dictate your situation. You don't know you might
Speaker 1: meet the many fucking dreams, Zalika, Damn, just be easy.
Speaker 1: It'll come to you and if it don't, die big
Speaker 1: single like you said, I am her underscore a Dare says.
Speaker 1: I mean, they say a man should know if he
Speaker 1: wants to marry a woman within three months, not saying
Speaker 1: that you should get married within that time, but I
Speaker 1: think three years of a good relationship gives you time
Speaker 1: to get to know a person. I agree with you somewhat,
Speaker 1: three years of a good relationship and that gives you
Speaker 1: time to get to know a person. I would say that,
Speaker 1: I say about three to five years, well three or
Speaker 1: four and a half. I don't know. I'm just I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't like to put time and stipulations
Speaker 1: on that marriage ship And because you know, listen, a
Speaker 1: nigga could propose to you and never marry you like
Speaker 1: my brother. Remember I said that ship. He could propose
Speaker 1: to you just to shut you the funk up, but
Speaker 1: never marry you. Now, A dare. I don't agree with this.
Speaker 1: I never heard this ship, she said. I mean they
Speaker 1: say a man should know if he wants to marry
Speaker 1: a woman within three months, who the fund is they
Speaker 1: and where they at? Because I ain't never hear nobody
Speaker 1: say that they better get the funk out of here,
Speaker 1: not three months. First of all, I get tired of
Speaker 1: niggas in three weeks, so I'm not sure you don't
Speaker 1: even know you cannot get the norm motherfucking three months.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna happen. Whoever they is been watching too
Speaker 1: many movies, too much TV rereads zero zero zero to six.
Speaker 1: Sy is damn that sounds like a jail number. I
Speaker 1: need to hear answers on this one. I've been with
Speaker 1: my man for fourteen years. Actually we turned in fifteen
Speaker 1: next week and still waiting. Oh bit, you crazy fuck
Speaker 1: that when you got me fucked up now? It may
Speaker 1: not be that serious to her, Like I said, some
Speaker 1: people actually really feel that is okay. It's okay not
Speaker 1: to get married as long as we together and we're happy,
Speaker 1: we're good to each his own. But it sounds like
Speaker 1: she she's a little mad about that ship. Like at
Speaker 1: the end of Little bit, She's like, I'm still waiting.
Speaker 1: If you're still waiting, then bitch, maybe you need to
Speaker 1: propose them. Then go ahead and do it, chrissie and
Speaker 1: see what happened. You never know because y'all been together
Speaker 1: already for a decade and a half. If he ain't leave,
Speaker 1: ye ain't gonna leave now. So should just see pop
Speaker 1: the question to see what you say? Yo. Jim was like,
Speaker 1: I'm with you. What the fund does that mean? Yo?
Speaker 1: When Christy was like will you marry me? Jim said
Speaker 1: I'm with you. I would have smacked the brains off
Speaker 1: your head. I ain't even gonna lie. Hey, yo, he
Speaker 1: was as a bit too anyway. My bit Jade twenty says,
Speaker 1: oh my god, if he never proposed, do not give
Speaker 1: him an ultimatum, and please do not marry someone who
Speaker 1: was quick to propose. True love is what it's about,
Speaker 1: and you only know if it's real if you're on
Speaker 1: the same page, wave level and compatibility, same love language.
Speaker 1: Love is love, no excuses. I love this, I love it.
Speaker 1: Do not give him an ultimatum, and don't marry somebody
Speaker 1: too quick. You don't want to do it, because as
Speaker 1: quick as you can get married is as quick as
Speaker 1: you can get the voiced. Nobody wants to do that ship.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of court fees and a lot of
Speaker 1: dumb man ship to go through. Nobody wants to do
Speaker 1: that last one. I'm gonna read re underscore, Costa says,
Speaker 1: laughing my ass off. That ship really don't mean anything
Speaker 1: to me. But bitch, I'm giving you two years to know,
Speaker 1: three years to propose, and if we're not, we're still
Speaker 1: gonna be all good because I don't give a funk
Speaker 1: for real, Bitch, you definitely care not Bitch, I'm giving
Speaker 1: you two years to know, three years to propose, but
Speaker 1: I don't really give a funk for real. You definitely
Speaker 1: give a fun So tell that nigga what it is,
Speaker 1: because you're really really stunting this ship and you don't
Speaker 1: got to read. You don't got to. If you want
Speaker 1: to get married, that's fine. Don't let your pride be
Speaker 1: in a way, but don't chase away even with the pride. Now,
Speaker 1: let's kick it over to a brief break, so to
Speaker 1: slide over the current news. I know y'all seen this ship.
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about it ever since. Now this is
Speaker 1: off the fucking topic. But Danny Lay looks a little pregnant.
Speaker 1: She was in the shoe store and she was walking
Speaker 1: around and she was poking our stomach out, but it
Speaker 1: did look like a little baby. But now she wanted
Speaker 1: us to think she was pregnant. Batter ship. Even if
Speaker 1: she's not, she wanted us to think that that that's
Speaker 1: like the most clown and ship ever. But it is
Speaker 1: what it is. If she is, congratulations the baby, you
Speaker 1: got a third baby on the way, and um, I
Speaker 1: guess we've got another song coming from me, Me and
Speaker 1: Danny Laid. Congratulations if you do have a button in
Speaker 1: the oven. But if you're not, you clown the funk
Speaker 1: out for sticking out your stomach because you already knew
Speaker 1: what the funk we was gonna say. And if it
Speaker 1: is the baby's baby, I hope they make it tied
Speaker 1: us in people having kids and not staying together. Honestly,
Speaker 1: that ship is clowned out as well. The Grammys and
Speaker 1: people finally get offensive this year. Was it appropriate? Was
Speaker 1: it inappropriate? It's the Grammys. I think the Grammys needed
Speaker 1: us And when I say us, I mean black people
Speaker 1: for their fucking ratings this year. I think the Grammys
Speaker 1: is usually very fucking boring, not gonna lie a little inappropriate. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean if it was on b et VH one
Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying, it would have been fine.
Speaker 1: It would have been suitable. But not on like ABC,
Speaker 1: CBS and all that ship and Nah, I don't think
Speaker 1: all that explicitness should have been on there. But I mean, whatever,
Speaker 1: this is the new way of the motherfucker world and
Speaker 1: the him this since were great. I think Doja Cat
Speaker 1: killed that ship always. That's one talented bitch. I swear
Speaker 1: I love her. I love her. I tried not to
Speaker 1: love her, but I love it. I can't. You can't
Speaker 1: like you can't do not talent. The baby did great.
Speaker 1: Lord baby always kills it. Cardi and Meghan they did good.
Speaker 1: They did good. They did good. Cardi did good, Megan
Speaker 1: did good. Now, my thing is people found their Whop
Speaker 1: performance to be inappropriate. What the funk did you think
Speaker 1: they were gonna do the name of the song is
Speaker 1: an acronym for wet ass pussy? What the funk did
Speaker 1: you think they was gonna do? Dance around and do
Speaker 1: a bunch of TikTok dances and ship in full and
Speaker 1: full outfits CARDI was a fucking stripper. Megan is stripper inspiration.
Speaker 1: What the funk did you think was gonna come out
Speaker 1: of wet ass pussy? What the fuck? Calm the funk down.
Speaker 1: I've seen worse. We've all seen worse. Trust me, now, listen.
Speaker 1: One thing I would never understand is the fact that
Speaker 1: Lord Wayne has no Grammys. Chris Brown has no Grammys.
Speaker 1: Nicki Minaje has no fucking Grammys. I didn't even know that.
Speaker 1: I had no idea. I just found that ship out
Speaker 1: this year. Now y'all know, I'm a Nicki fan. I am.
Speaker 1: I am pissed off about that ship, though. That bothers me,
Speaker 1: because what the funk. Listen, this woman has worked so
Speaker 1: fucking hard for years. She's been in a game for
Speaker 1: more than ten years. She's worked hard as a bit.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, y'all know this ship and has
Speaker 1: not earned one fucking Grammy. That ship pisses me off.
Speaker 1: Lord Wayne tweeted fuck the Grammys exactly he should have been.
Speaker 1: If there's any man that deserves Grammys, it is Lord Wayne.
Speaker 1: But I'm telling you all, this ship is ran by
Speaker 1: social media. It's all about views, it's all about popularity.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. Everything feeds off of the internet,
Speaker 1: so yeah, it is different. It's fucked up, but it's different.
Speaker 1: I do congratulate all the nominees for being nominated. That's
Speaker 1: a big, big, big deal. And I do congratulate all
Speaker 1: of the winners. And that brings me to the end
Speaker 1: of this episode, episode number ten of Carefully Reckless. Y'all,
Speaker 1: make sure y'all don't rush into these mother can marrige this,
Speaker 1: and you don't give a nigga an ultimatum because one
Speaker 1: day a nigga is gonna slap shit out. You don't
Speaker 1: ever walk in the room like my cousin Fie, who
Speaker 1: was listening right now, because I know she she regrets
Speaker 1: that ship bad as because that nigga was Stephanie Now baby,
Speaker 1: he was stiffening. He yo a ship. But don't ever
Speaker 1: walk in the room and be like, you got until
Speaker 1: December to marry me, nigga, because if I'm that nigga,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say pacal right across your motherfucking face. They're
Speaker 1: gonna make me my fucking sandwich. And that's on that.
Speaker 1: I love y'all, and I know y'all love me back.
Speaker 1: I hope I fixed y'all mess because I'm just I
Speaker 1: see you next week. Little ass back there, nice little
Speaker 1: asked back there, Nice little asked back there, nice little like,
Speaker 1: just you got your ass, nigga, shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1: I've been out hit on my cash coach. I'm a hustle.
Speaker 1: I've been stop. I don't do know nothing getting money
Speaker 1: like the snapping like if you cut, I might just
Speaker 1: pop it. Got your bitch asking for pictures if she ugly,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna crop it. I just no houstide the office
Speaker 1: and I lay you made him. I like niggas with
Speaker 1: tattoos who careree gunsn't can and he liket and I'm lying.
Speaker 1: Still hold me nice still ask back there? Now, I
Speaker 1: still hold me. Hent be like that. I'm lying. I'll
Speaker 1: be on the grammar or I do what's make them laugh?
Speaker 1: Now they hear my songs and all they do. What
Speaker 1: ship they ask? Don't the ship with crystal? If you
Speaker 1: woke this, please don't ask. I don't want your nigga
Speaker 1: because I heard this dick with trash sia, don't get tired.
Speaker 1: Seven days I did eight shows. Real niggas on my side,
Speaker 1: and they don't move. Say so in their roles and
Speaker 1: them bank rolling your roads to them. Pay So I
Speaker 1: pop down and I fea ship like I'm like I
Speaker 1: still hold me, steel ass back there, hold me can't
Speaker 1: be like I'm like hold me. I feel aspect the
Speaker 1: nice Stele aspect, I still aspected, nice still as still
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