1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,400 Speaker 1: and The Black Effect. Hey, y'all, what's up. It's your girl, 3 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:09,720 Speaker 1: just hilarious and carefully Reckless. Ain't going nowhere. I just 4 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: took a low break, but y'all know I can't leave 5 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: y'all high and dry. So we're gonna running back and 6 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: listen to one of the most ranked fan favorite episodes. 7 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: Tune in and hole type and I'll be back before 8 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: you know it. Welcome back to another episode of Carefully Recklessness. 9 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:33,520 Speaker 1: This episode ten, y'all, I'm loving this ship. Help me celebrate. 10 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: Look story time. Alright, So my cousin Fie, she was 11 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: dating the guy Dawn. Now we all loved Dawn. She 12 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: was dating him a couple of years ago. Everything was 13 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: good with them. She had a good job, he had 14 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: a good job. They moved together, they were living together. 15 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: No kids. Uh, she never got pregnant or whatever. But 16 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: my cousin has always wanted to get married. I'm talking 17 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: about always. She's never cared to who or whatever. She 18 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: is just all about getting married. She wants that fairy 19 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:06,960 Speaker 1: tale ending whatever whatever. Right two years went by, Don 20 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,639 Speaker 1: hasn't proposed, but they are still together. He seems happy. 21 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:11,960 Speaker 1: She's happy too. So me and my family like to 22 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: get together and we like to do ship. So we 23 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 1: had bowling one night, just the girls, she tells me 24 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,040 Speaker 1: and our other cousins. But she got until December to 25 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: put a ring on my finger. So I'm like, fee what. 26 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: She's like, Yeah, I've been with this nigga too long 27 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:28,040 Speaker 1: for him to have not proposed yet. I'm like two years. 28 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, I feel like I've been with him 29 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: too long not to be married, or him to even 30 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 1: have popped the question or even to have thought about 31 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: it yet. I say, if you ever talked to him 32 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: about it? She's like, all the time, that's all I 33 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: talk about. So I was like, okay, you don't think 34 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: you maybe pushing him away? She like, bitch, I've been 35 00:01:44,120 --> 00:01:46,639 Speaker 1: waiting for two years. Everything is good. I got good pussy, 36 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 1: I can cook, I claim, I do everything. I'm already 37 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: like a wife. Only thing he gotta do is make 38 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:54,480 Speaker 1: me one. I said, well, ship, now listen. She had 39 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: a mindset on that ship. Like I told you all, 40 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: she's always wanted to be married, didn't matter what he 41 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: on it. So December comes, he does not propose. She 42 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: leaves him. She left this nigga sad as fuck y'all 43 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:14,960 Speaker 1: has he loved her, she loved him, He was in 44 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,639 Speaker 1: love with her. He loved fee man. I still keep 45 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: in touch with Dawn. He cool at ship. In my opinion, 46 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: he was the best guy for my cousin. So she 47 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 1: leaves him, she gets with somebody else. He eventually gets 48 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 1: with somebody else. He married the girl that he started 49 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 1: dating after my cousin only after a year of dating. 50 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:41,679 Speaker 1: He put a ring on somebody else's finger after only 51 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 1: dating her for a year, and my cousin meanwhile, still 52 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: to this day, to this day, it's stuck dating niggas, 53 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: pressuring niggas to marry her. Now, look, that's the end 54 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: of that story, which brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. Now, 55 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:00,239 Speaker 1: the fact that Dawn married somebody else only a year 56 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: after dating her. To me, I didn't feel it was wrong. 57 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:05,600 Speaker 1: When my cousin found out, she damn they killed her stuff. 58 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: She was fucked up, stressed out, and she was with 59 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,640 Speaker 1: somebody else. Mind you a clown, asked nigga, if you will, 60 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: But that's the whole point about it. She pressured him. 61 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: When I asked, I said, if you talked to him 62 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: about it, Yeah, I thought I talked about Now. If 63 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: y'all know my cousin and a lot of y'all who 64 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 1: are listening, if y'all know me personally, y'all know Fee. 65 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: Fee is very impulsive. Fee will keep talking about some 66 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 1: ship for days and days and days like Yo, she'll 67 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: never leave it alone. That nigga got tired of hand 68 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: that ship. Let him do that. Also, Fie is very controlling, 69 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: not even only with the proposal ship, with everything. She 70 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: wanted everything her way I'm talking about. She wanted the 71 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 1: nigga to eat a certain way, sleep a certain way, 72 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: walk a certain way, dress a certain way. She was 73 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: very controlling, but she knew she wanted to get married. 74 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: Now I've talked to Don. I asked, on damn, Yo, 75 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: you're married shortly after one year? He said, Yo, it 76 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: just happened organically, like I fell in love with I 77 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: knew I wanted to marry her six months and I 78 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: got my money together for the wedding and everything because 79 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 1: I wanted a quick turnaround time. I didn't want to 80 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: propose to her and we'd be engaged for years and 81 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: years and years. Now, black people they got a motherfucking had, 82 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: but are doing that. My brother proposed to his baby 83 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 1: mother like five six years ago and they still ain't married, 84 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,800 Speaker 1: and he ain't gonna marya. He just did that to 85 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: show her to funk up because she wanted to be 86 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: a wife. And she's still not a wife. She's just 87 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: an engage. But he fell in love with this girl. 88 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,159 Speaker 1: Now her name is Stephanie. I like her, and my 89 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: cousin doesn't like me anymore because I went to the 90 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: wedding fuked up. But that's on youth. He let the 91 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: girl love him, the girl let him love her, and 92 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 1: it just happened. She made him want to marry her. 93 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: He didn't make him want to marry her. And he 94 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: stayed with her for two years. But he did love her, 95 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: and now he did. But he told me she was 96 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 1: very controlling. He said, the straw that broke the camel's 97 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:55,360 Speaker 1: back for me was when she came into the room 98 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:57,920 Speaker 1: one night and was like, you got until Christmas to 99 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 1: put a ring on my finger, nigga. He said, that's 100 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:03,279 Speaker 1: when he knew he definitely wasn't marrying her. Then he 101 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 1: just didn't tell her no. Look, in my opinion, people 102 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:08,799 Speaker 1: get married for all the wrong reasons. My cousin wanted 103 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: to get married for all the wrong reasons. She just 104 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: wanted to be able to say she was somebody's wife. 105 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:16,560 Speaker 1: She wanted the fairytale wedding. A lot of people do that, 106 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: but it's a lot that goes into marriage, man, and 107 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: and that's fine. If you want to be a wife, 108 00:05:21,200 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: that's cool. It's tradition. It's sort of fairytaler is, you 109 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: know what I mean. That's the way of life, that's 110 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: the way it's supposed to be. But you don't want 111 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: to get married just to get the voice. It's a 112 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: lot of money and a lot of time and effort 113 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: that goes into that ship. I think you should get 114 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 1: to know the person that you want to marry. I'm 115 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: talking about knowing them inside and out. I think the 116 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: only way that you should be able to get married 117 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: is if you are able to say that's my best friend. 118 00:05:45,880 --> 00:05:49,520 Speaker 1: You gotta build that foundation, you gotta know that person 119 00:05:50,040 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: inside and out. I'm talking about little ship, from little 120 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: ship to big ship, because the little ship is what 121 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: mad is the most. If I'm walking around with an 122 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:00,840 Speaker 1: attitude but I don't say it, you already post to 123 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: know why I gotta attitude and what the funk are 124 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 1: mad about? Why? Because you know me inside and out. Now, 125 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 1: the most complicated thing in this world to figure out 126 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:12,440 Speaker 1: is a woman's mind. But the second most complicated thing 127 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:14,799 Speaker 1: to figure out in this world is a man's mind. 128 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:18,040 Speaker 1: But it's only two of us, a woman and a man, 129 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: and shift. If you're gonna jump that boom, you gotta 130 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 1: be willing to do all the ship that helps you 131 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: get there. Get to know your partner before you make 132 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:27,600 Speaker 1: them your spouse, because the last thing you want to 133 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:29,880 Speaker 1: do is get married and then find out some ship 134 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:32,360 Speaker 1: that you didn't know about the motherfucker after you marry them. 135 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,039 Speaker 1: You don't want to do that. Honestly, I don't think 136 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: two years is long enough to be given a nigga 137 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: an ultimatum. I don't think so. I think maybe three 138 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: or four years tops. A lot of women know what 139 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:47,839 Speaker 1: they want before men, Okay, And and that's true. Women 140 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 1: mature faster and a lot of different areas on a 141 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 1: lot of different levels before men. But you can't rush 142 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: a guy into growing up. You can't rush a guy 143 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: into marrying you. You can't. Marriage is a very serious 144 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 1: covenant and our reality it's a goddamn contract, and it's 145 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 1: a contract you don't want to jump quick to sign, 146 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:09,159 Speaker 1: just like signing any motherfucking contract without reading the fine print. 147 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: Be careful, make sure there's something you want to do. 148 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: In my opinion, don't rush, but don't be my boyfriend forever. 149 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Now. Look, some people are 150 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 1: okay with not being able to get married. Some people 151 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 1: are okay with being boyfriend and girlfriend for years and 152 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: years and years for decades. That runs in the black 153 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 1: community as well. A lot of people don't get married, 154 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 1: but they'll stay together forever. Those other people who feel 155 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 1: like they don't need rings and vowels and a big 156 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: wedding and a reception to validate their love for one another. 157 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,800 Speaker 1: I get it. I know a lot of people like that. 158 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: To me personally, Yes, I want to get married. Yes 159 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: I want to have more children. No, I don't want 160 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: to have more children until I get married. But I 161 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 1: do want to get married. I would never pressure someone 162 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 1: into marrying me though it's up to you. But I'm 163 00:07:53,920 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 1: not gonna wait around forever. No, I'm not. Honestly, I 164 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 1: can't say what I'll do in that situation. Now, If 165 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: I'm with you for more in four years. You know, alright, nigga, 166 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: what we're doing, but it's not You better put a 167 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: ring on my finger by this date or I'm gone, 168 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's just not how that 169 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 1: ship should be. And then some women take it upon 170 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 1: theirselves to propose. If a nigga wait too long, they're 171 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:17,640 Speaker 1: gonna do the proposing, Like let me take your back 172 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 1: to Love and Hip Hop. Christie and Jim, Remember Christie 173 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 1: wanted to get married very bad. They were together for 174 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: a long time, you know what I mean. I don't 175 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: know why the funk this niggad and pop the question 176 00:08:26,640 --> 00:08:29,480 Speaker 1: neither I really wanted him to marry her. But nowadays 177 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: she seems just over it. She seems like she don't 178 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: give a funk anymore. But back then she really wanted 179 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: to be married. All she wanted from this nigga was 180 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: a commitment, a ring, a wedding, marriage, children. I remember 181 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:42,880 Speaker 1: her saying she wanted children on Love of Hip Hop, 182 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 1: and I felt as though that was one of the 183 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 1: cutest couples ever. Unfortunately it hasn't happened me. I could 184 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 1: never propose to a guy I'm not supposed to be 185 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: the one dawn on the knee. It ain't got nothing 186 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,840 Speaker 1: to do with tradition. Oh the guy is supposed to propose. No, 187 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,160 Speaker 1: I'm just not ever gonna get down on the knee, 188 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,439 Speaker 1: open up no box and say will you marry me? How? No, 189 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: what the funk? Unless I'm marrying a bit or something, 190 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: I can't do that, nigga. What First of all, I 191 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 1: got bad knees and I would never do that ship anyway. 192 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 1: Then I'm not creasing no McQueen to ask and ne 193 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:19,360 Speaker 1: gonna marry me. It's not gonna happen. Hold up, Hold up, 194 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good. But listen to just 195 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 196 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: you'll listen, and that brings me to just fix my mess. 197 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:29,480 Speaker 1: And now listen. I asked you all online ladies, in 198 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: your opinion, when is the right time to get married? 199 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: And is it a dealbreaker if he never proposes, I'm 200 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 1: like always you always give me some good feedback, and 201 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 1: I'm gonna read off of you. Zalika McCrae says, funck 202 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:48,439 Speaker 1: getting married, dying, big single period? Um, bitch, what listen 203 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 1: you You've been big hurt. Obviously she's like nah, nigga, 204 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:53,960 Speaker 1: I just see a lot of marriages failing. But you 205 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: can't let that depict your future. You can't let that 206 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: control and dictate your situation. You don't know you might 207 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: meet the many fucking dreams, Zalika, Damn, just be easy. 208 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 1: It'll come to you and if it don't, die big 209 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 1: single like you said, I am her underscore a Dare says. 210 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:13,040 Speaker 1: I mean, they say a man should know if he 211 00:10:13,080 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 1: wants to marry a woman within three months, not saying 212 00:10:15,760 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 1: that you should get married within that time, but I 213 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:20,680 Speaker 1: think three years of a good relationship gives you time 214 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 1: to get to know a person. I agree with you somewhat, 215 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:25,680 Speaker 1: three years of a good relationship and that gives you 216 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: time to get to know a person. I would say that, 217 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:29,920 Speaker 1: I say about three to five years, well three or 218 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:31,959 Speaker 1: four and a half. I don't know. I'm just I 219 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:34,880 Speaker 1: don't know. I don't like to put time and stipulations 220 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:37,679 Speaker 1: on that marriage ship And because you know, listen, a 221 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: nigga could propose to you and never marry you like 222 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:42,920 Speaker 1: my brother. Remember I said that ship. He could propose 223 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 1: to you just to shut you the funk up, but 224 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: never marry you. Now, A dare. I don't agree with this. 225 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 1: I never heard this ship, she said. I mean they 226 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:51,439 Speaker 1: say a man should know if he wants to marry 227 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 1: a woman within three months, who the fund is they 228 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: and where they at? Because I ain't never hear nobody 229 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:58,160 Speaker 1: say that they better get the funk out of here, 230 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 1: not three months. First of all, I get tired of 231 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 1: niggas in three weeks, so I'm not sure you don't 232 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 1: even know you cannot get the norm motherfucking three months. 233 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: It's not gonna happen. Whoever they is been watching too 234 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: many movies, too much TV rereads zero zero zero to six. 235 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: Sy is damn that sounds like a jail number. I 236 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:24,719 Speaker 1: need to hear answers on this one. I've been with 237 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 1: my man for fourteen years. Actually we turned in fifteen 238 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: next week and still waiting. Oh bit, you crazy fuck 239 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: that when you got me fucked up now? It may 240 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 1: not be that serious to her, Like I said, some 241 00:11:37,280 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: people actually really feel that is okay. It's okay not 242 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:43,559 Speaker 1: to get married as long as we together and we're happy, 243 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: we're good to each his own. But it sounds like 244 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 1: she she's a little mad about that ship. Like at 245 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 1: the end of Little bit, She's like, I'm still waiting. 246 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: If you're still waiting, then bitch, maybe you need to 247 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 1: propose them. Then go ahead and do it, chrissie and 248 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: see what happened. You never know because y'all been together 249 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:59,200 Speaker 1: already for a decade and a half. If he ain't leave, 250 00:11:59,240 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: ye ain't gonna leave now. So should just see pop 251 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 1: the question to see what you say? Yo. Jim was like, 252 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: I'm with you. What the fund does that mean? Yo? 253 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:10,800 Speaker 1: When Christy was like will you marry me? Jim said 254 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 1: I'm with you. I would have smacked the brains off 255 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 1: your head. I ain't even gonna lie. Hey, yo, he 256 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: was as a bit too anyway. My bit Jade twenty says, 257 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: oh my god, if he never proposed, do not give 258 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: him an ultimatum, and please do not marry someone who 259 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: was quick to propose. True love is what it's about, 260 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 1: and you only know if it's real if you're on 261 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 1: the same page, wave level and compatibility, same love language. 262 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:38,679 Speaker 1: Love is love, no excuses. I love this, I love it. 263 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:42,319 Speaker 1: Do not give him an ultimatum, and don't marry somebody 264 00:12:42,400 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: too quick. You don't want to do it, because as 265 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:46,360 Speaker 1: quick as you can get married is as quick as 266 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:48,680 Speaker 1: you can get the voiced. Nobody wants to do that ship. 267 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:50,440 Speaker 1: It's a lot of court fees and a lot of 268 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:53,640 Speaker 1: dumb man ship to go through. Nobody wants to do 269 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 1: that last one. I'm gonna read re underscore, Costa says, 270 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: laughing my ass off. That ship really don't mean anything 271 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:03,720 Speaker 1: to me. But bitch, I'm giving you two years to know, 272 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,120 Speaker 1: three years to propose, and if we're not, we're still 273 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: gonna be all good because I don't give a funk 274 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: for real, Bitch, you definitely care not Bitch, I'm giving 275 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 1: you two years to know, three years to propose, but 276 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:16,960 Speaker 1: I don't really give a funk for real. You definitely 277 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,080 Speaker 1: give a fun So tell that nigga what it is, 278 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: because you're really really stunting this ship and you don't 279 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: got to read. You don't got to. If you want 280 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 1: to get married, that's fine. Don't let your pride be 281 00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: in a way, but don't chase away even with the pride. Now, 282 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:33,559 Speaker 1: let's kick it over to a brief break, so to 283 00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:36,360 Speaker 1: slide over the current news. I know y'all seen this ship. 284 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:38,360 Speaker 1: I've been thinking about it ever since. Now this is 285 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:42,600 Speaker 1: off the fucking topic. But Danny Lay looks a little pregnant. 286 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 1: She was in the shoe store and she was walking 287 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 1: around and she was poking our stomach out, but it 288 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 1: did look like a little baby. But now she wanted 289 00:13:48,640 --> 00:13:50,679 Speaker 1: us to think she was pregnant. Batter ship. Even if 290 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 1: she's not, she wanted us to think that that that's 291 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 1: like the most clown and ship ever. But it is 292 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:58,880 Speaker 1: what it is. If she is, congratulations the baby, you 293 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 1: got a third baby on the way, and um, I 294 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:04,160 Speaker 1: guess we've got another song coming from me, Me and 295 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:07,199 Speaker 1: Danny Laid. Congratulations if you do have a button in 296 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 1: the oven. But if you're not, you clown the funk 297 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 1: out for sticking out your stomach because you already knew 298 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 1: what the funk we was gonna say. And if it 299 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 1: is the baby's baby, I hope they make it tied 300 00:14:16,800 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: us in people having kids and not staying together. Honestly, 301 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:23,280 Speaker 1: that ship is clowned out as well. The Grammys and 302 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: people finally get offensive this year. Was it appropriate? Was 303 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 1: it inappropriate? It's the Grammys. I think the Grammys needed 304 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 1: us And when I say us, I mean black people 305 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: for their fucking ratings this year. I think the Grammys 306 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: is usually very fucking boring, not gonna lie a little inappropriate. Yeah, 307 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:45,600 Speaker 1: I mean if it was on b et VH one 308 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 1: or you know what I'm saying, it would have been fine. 309 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 1: It would have been suitable. But not on like ABC, 310 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:53,480 Speaker 1: CBS and all that ship and Nah, I don't think 311 00:14:53,520 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 1: all that explicitness should have been on there. But I mean, whatever, 312 00:14:57,080 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: this is the new way of the motherfucker world and 313 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 1: the him this since were great. I think Doja Cat 314 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,640 Speaker 1: killed that ship always. That's one talented bitch. I swear 315 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 1: I love her. I love her. I tried not to 316 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 1: love her, but I love it. I can't. You can't 317 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: like you can't do not talent. The baby did great. 318 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 1: Lord baby always kills it. Cardi and Meghan they did good. 319 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 1: They did good. They did good. Cardi did good, Megan 320 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 1: did good. Now, my thing is people found their Whop 321 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: performance to be inappropriate. What the funk did you think 322 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 1: they were gonna do the name of the song is 323 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 1: an acronym for wet ass pussy? What the funk did 324 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 1: you think they was gonna do? Dance around and do 325 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 1: a bunch of TikTok dances and ship in full and 326 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 1: full outfits CARDI was a fucking stripper. Megan is stripper inspiration. 327 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: What the funk did you think was gonna come out 328 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 1: of wet ass pussy? What the fuck? Calm the funk down. 329 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 1: I've seen worse. We've all seen worse. Trust me, now, listen. 330 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 1: One thing I would never understand is the fact that 331 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 1: Lord Wayne has no Grammys. Chris Brown has no Grammys. 332 00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 1: Nicki Minaje has no fucking Grammys. I didn't even know that. 333 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: I had no idea. I just found that ship out 334 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:06,760 Speaker 1: this year. Now y'all know, I'm a Nicki fan. I am. 335 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 1: I am pissed off about that ship, though. That bothers me, 336 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 1: because what the funk. Listen, this woman has worked so 337 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 1: fucking hard for years. She's been in a game for 338 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: more than ten years. She's worked hard as a bit. 339 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 1: Let me tell you, y'all know this ship and has 340 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: not earned one fucking Grammy. That ship pisses me off. 341 00:16:26,120 --> 00:16:30,440 Speaker 1: Lord Wayne tweeted fuck the Grammys exactly he should have been. 342 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 1: If there's any man that deserves Grammys, it is Lord Wayne. 343 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: But I'm telling you all, this ship is ran by 344 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:39,359 Speaker 1: social media. It's all about views, it's all about popularity. 345 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:41,800 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. Everything feeds off of the internet, 346 00:16:41,960 --> 00:16:45,240 Speaker 1: so yeah, it is different. It's fucked up, but it's different. 347 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 1: I do congratulate all the nominees for being nominated. That's 348 00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:52,120 Speaker 1: a big, big, big deal. And I do congratulate all 349 00:16:52,200 --> 00:16:54,360 Speaker 1: of the winners. And that brings me to the end 350 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:58,000 Speaker 1: of this episode, episode number ten of Carefully Reckless. Y'all, 351 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 1: make sure y'all don't rush into these mother can marrige this, 352 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 1: and you don't give a nigga an ultimatum because one 353 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: day a nigga is gonna slap shit out. You don't 354 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: ever walk in the room like my cousin Fie, who 355 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:10,440 Speaker 1: was listening right now, because I know she she regrets 356 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:13,679 Speaker 1: that ship bad as because that nigga was Stephanie Now baby, 357 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:18,880 Speaker 1: he was stiffening. He yo a ship. But don't ever 358 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 1: walk in the room and be like, you got until 359 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: December to marry me, nigga, because if I'm that nigga, 360 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:29,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say pacal right across your motherfucking face. They're 361 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:32,879 Speaker 1: gonna make me my fucking sandwich. And that's on that. 362 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:34,800 Speaker 1: I love y'all, and I know y'all love me back. 363 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:37,359 Speaker 1: I hope I fixed y'all mess because I'm just I 364 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 1: see you next week. Little ass back there, nice little 365 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 1: asked back there, Nice little asked back there, nice little like, 366 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 1: just you got your ass, nigga, shut the fuck up. 367 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:00,919 Speaker 1: I've been out hit on my cash coach. I'm a hustle. 368 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:06,439 Speaker 1: I've been stop. I don't do know nothing getting money 369 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: like the snapping like if you cut, I might just 370 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: pop it. Got your bitch asking for pictures if she ugly, 371 00:18:14,840 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna crop it. I just no houstide the office 372 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:20,440 Speaker 1: and I lay you made him. I like niggas with 373 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 1: tattoos who careree gunsn't can and he liket and I'm lying. 374 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:29,359 Speaker 1: Still hold me nice still ask back there? Now, I 375 00:18:29,560 --> 00:18:38,600 Speaker 1: still hold me. Hent be like that. I'm lying. I'll 376 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 1: be on the grammar or I do what's make them laugh? 377 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:44,159 Speaker 1: Now they hear my songs and all they do. What 378 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,440 Speaker 1: ship they ask? Don't the ship with crystal? If you 379 00:18:47,560 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 1: woke this, please don't ask. I don't want your nigga 380 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: because I heard this dick with trash sia, don't get tired. 381 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 1: Seven days I did eight shows. Real niggas on my side, 382 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:01,680 Speaker 1: and they don't move. Say so in their roles and 383 00:19:01,760 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 1: them bank rolling your roads to them. Pay So I 384 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: pop down and I fea ship like I'm like I 385 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:16,680 Speaker 1: still hold me, steel ass back there, hold me can't 386 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:24,119 Speaker 1: be like I'm like hold me. I feel aspect the 387 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:30,760 Speaker 1: nice Stele aspect, I still aspected, nice still as still 388 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:42,440 Speaker 1: still carefully Reckless is a production of I Heart Radio 389 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 1: and The Black Effect. For more podcasts from my heart Radio, 390 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:49,400 Speaker 1: visit the I heart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever 391 00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: you listen to your favorite shows.