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Speaker 1: F You's subject to be careful who you cheat with.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I was messing with my homegirl for

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Speaker 1: years and finally her husband caught us naked from the

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Speaker 1: waist down in the coke closet. He came home early

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Speaker 1: and we got busted hiding in the closet. So here

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Speaker 1: we are a year later and her divorce is final

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Speaker 1: and my long term girlfriend dumped me. My homegirl thinks

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Speaker 1: that since I was messing with her while she was married,

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Speaker 1: that it's fate and we are meant to be together. No,

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Speaker 1: we're not, and I told her that, but she has

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Speaker 1: trouble understand. We've been cool since high school, but it's

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Speaker 1: never been more than sex. Back when I was married,

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Speaker 1: I did not mess around with her. I honestly don't

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Speaker 1: know why I went back to her since her divorce.

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Speaker 1: She thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend, and she's been saying

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Speaker 1: we're soulmates. She calls and texts me to say she's

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Speaker 1: thinking about me. She also expects me to keep her

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Speaker 1: in the lifestyle that her husband gave her. He owns

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Speaker 1: several stores. I work full time, but I'm barely making

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Speaker 1: ends me with my son being in college. Finally, I

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Speaker 1: sat down and tried to reason with her, and she

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Speaker 1: shocked me.

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Speaker 2: She says she.

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Speaker 1: Wants to move in with me because we are in

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Speaker 1: this thing together and we've both been publicly disgraced together sidebar.

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Speaker 2: I wasn't disgraced, she was.

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Speaker 1: I was single, she was married, so I bluntly told

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Speaker 1: her I don't want a relationship with her. She told me,

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Speaker 1: I need to be careful who I cheat with, because

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Speaker 1: she's not a hit and hit it and quit it

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Speaker 1: type of woman. And I owe her whatever she had

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Speaker 1: before I ruined her marriage. How can she be serious?

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Speaker 1: I would never make her my main girl.

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Speaker 2: It was just sex and she knew it.

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Speaker 1: How do I peacefully in this fantasy she created in

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Speaker 1: her head.

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Speaker 2: Well, you had a lot to do.

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Speaker 1: With that, you know, this fantasy she created, and you

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Speaker 1: heard the song, and I'm telling you, I'm not going well,

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Speaker 1: this applies to you, I mean, and it's not going

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Speaker 1: to be peaceful. You can forget that. She's gearing up

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Speaker 1: for a fight to keep you. I know you saw

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Speaker 1: the movie Fatal Attraction. I know you saw that your

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Speaker 1: homegirl as you call her, can't be dismissed so easily.

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Speaker 1: And she definitely will not be ignored. Okay, she says

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Speaker 1: she's not a hit it and quitted type of woman.

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Speaker 1: She's planning on you, guys, being together, moving in together.

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Speaker 1: She's not hearing you at all when you say you

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Speaker 1: don't want to be with her, and you said you

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Speaker 1: bluntly told her that. She blames you for ruining her

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Speaker 1: marriage and she feels you owe her. The payoff for

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Speaker 1: her is to be with you and to continue your relationship,

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Speaker 1: which you don't want. You're going to have to disappear

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Speaker 1: or something and stop talking to her. Ghosting her might

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Speaker 1: finally give her the reality check she needs. It will

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Speaker 1: show her that you are serious about moving on with

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Speaker 1: no intention of being with her.

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Speaker 2: You got to cut the ties.

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Speaker 1: Steve.

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Speaker 3: Wow, this letter's crazy. It's so many fortunate people in

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Speaker 3: this letter. This is crazy. It's just a lot of

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Speaker 3: fortunate people in this letter. Did Stephen Shirley. I was

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Speaker 3: messing with my homegirl for years and finally her husband

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Speaker 3: called us right there, right there? How you still typing

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Speaker 3: at this point, I don't know. But obviously you're out

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Speaker 3: at a hospital and everything, and you're able to get

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Speaker 3: this letter to us because this how I note that

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Speaker 3: you be from the hospital. Her husband caught us naked

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Speaker 3: from the waist down in the coat closet. Wow, he

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Speaker 3: came home early and we got busted hiding in the closet. Okay,

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Speaker 3: So when he caught y'all in the closet, where that

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Speaker 3: story at? Because you you you left, because I'm telling

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Speaker 3: you it's more to this. When he found y'all in

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Speaker 3: the closet, your next statement is, so here we are

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Speaker 3: a year later. No no, no, no, no, no, no, Pardner,

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Speaker 3: it's some more to this story right here. It's got

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Speaker 3: to be you come home naked and find your wife

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Speaker 3: in your house, naked from the waist down with another

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Speaker 3: man in a closet. It's so much missing out of

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Speaker 3: this story, so let me fill it in for you,

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Speaker 3: because he didn't just let you put your clothes and lead.

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Speaker 3: So how was it riding home in your car naked?

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Speaker 3: Cause see, I it's gonna be some penalties from right here,

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Speaker 3: and and I'm and me personally, I'm gonna bust you

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Speaker 3: up pretty bad because you're in my house now. The

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Speaker 3: the ultimate disrespect is the wife. But since you stupid

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Speaker 3: enough to come into another man's house, in his house

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Speaker 3: and disrespect me, then I'm gonna touch you up for

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Speaker 3: that right there. How I deal with her, lady, we'll

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Speaker 3: get we'll get the divorce, but your ass though for

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Speaker 3: coming in my house. That's why he had to jump

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Speaker 3: to a year later and her divorce is finally and

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Speaker 3: my longtime girlfriend dumped me. Okay, so your longtime girlfriend

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Speaker 3: dumped you. My homegirl thinks that since I was messed

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Speaker 3: with her while she was married, that is fate and

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Speaker 3: we are meant to be together. Next statement, No, we

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Speaker 3: are not, and I told her that, but she has

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Speaker 3: trouble understanding me. We've been cool since high school, but

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Speaker 3: it's never been more than sex. Back when I was

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Speaker 3: married I didn't mess around with her. I honestly don't

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Speaker 3: know why I went back to her. See, the problem

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Speaker 3: with her is she doesn't understand she is a side dish.

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Speaker 3: She's at Popeye's Chicken, but she's not the chicken. She

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Speaker 3: the dirty rice, the biscuit, a jila peno, French fries,

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Speaker 3: cold slow. See that's how all you get to be.

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Speaker 3: You're not a mane.

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Speaker 2: Hang on, Steve, we'll have partons okay of your.

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Speaker 1: Response coming up at twenty three minutes after today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: subject be careful who you cheat with. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this.

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Speaker 2: You're listening morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is be careful who you cheat with.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, be careful who you cheat with, because when you're cheating,

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Speaker 3: you have to remember who you are in the cheat.

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Speaker 3: You gotta remember that, and it's okay, but you got

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Speaker 3: to accept that role and know what it is. Now.

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Speaker 3: So you got caught with your longtime friend naked in

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Speaker 3: a closet. Your husband came home early, open the closet door,

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Speaker 3: y'all in the nicked from the waist down. Then the

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Speaker 3: letter says, so here we are a year later and

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Speaker 3: her divorce is final. Though I already know you jumped

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Speaker 3: for a year because it took you that long to

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Speaker 3: get out of the hospital. Out of yeah yeah, yeah, yea,

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Speaker 3: because I'll put something on you. Anyway, my longtime girlfriend

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Speaker 3: dumped me. She got a divorce, and the girl he

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Speaker 3: was messing with thinks that they should be soul mates

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Speaker 3: and they meant to be together. He said, we're not,

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Speaker 3: and I told her she has trouble understanding me. We've

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Speaker 3: been cool since high school, but it's never been more

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Speaker 3: than sex back when I was married out of messing

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Speaker 3: around with her. Honestly, don't know why I went back

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Speaker 3: to her. Since her divorce. She thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend,

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Speaker 3: and she's been saying we're soulmates. No, you aside. She's

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Speaker 3: a side. She's a side item. Like if she was

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Speaker 3: at the waffle house. She the hash browns. Now you

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Speaker 3: can get them some other covered chunk dice and lice,

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Speaker 3: but you still that you ain't the waffle. See, the

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Speaker 3: waffle is the main thing at the waffle house. Them

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Speaker 3: hash browns is a side now they ain't necessary now,

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Speaker 3: but they aside a lot of cabs, a lot of cobs,

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Speaker 3: a lot of cobs. Okay, Then she calls and texts

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Speaker 3: me and says she's thinking about me. She also expects

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Speaker 3: me to keep her in the lifestyle that her husband

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Speaker 3: gave her. He owned several stores. Well, she should have

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Speaker 3: thought about that when she was messing around with your

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Speaker 3: broke ass. See, Nah, she expects you to keep her.

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Speaker 3: And I ain't dogging you, bro I'm just saying she

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Speaker 3: expects you to keep her in the lifestyle that her

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Speaker 3: husband he owned several stores. You don't. She should have

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Speaker 3: thought about that when she was dating you. Man, I

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Speaker 3: don't see how you see a lot of y'all be See,

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Speaker 3: you gotta find somebody's got the same thing to lose

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Speaker 3: as you, and that's hard to do because most people

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Speaker 3: that's got a lot to lose. I ain't gonna mess

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Speaker 3: around with you. He owned several stores. I work full time,

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Speaker 3: but I'm barely making his meet with my son being

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Speaker 3: in college. Finally I sat down and tried to reason

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Speaker 3: with her, and she shocked me. She said she wants

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Speaker 3: to move in with me because we are in this

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Speaker 3: thing together and we've both been publicly disgraced together. That's

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Speaker 3: her trying to save face, trying to get something out

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Speaker 3: of a bad situation. Sidebar, I wasn't disgraced, she was.

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Speaker 3: I was single, she was married, so I bluntly told

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Speaker 3: her I don't want a relationship with her. She told me,

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Speaker 3: I need to be careful who I cheat with, because

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Speaker 3: she's not a hitting and quitted type woman. And I

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Speaker 3: owe her whatever she had before or I ruined her marriage. No,

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Speaker 3: she ruined her marriage by cheating on her husband, who

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Speaker 3: was taking really good care of her. She ruined the marriage.

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Speaker 3: She steps out outside the marriage with you. Your dumb

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Speaker 3: ass was over this man's house, naked in a closet dog.

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Speaker 3: And you old enough to know better because your son

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Speaker 3: is in college. Now you asked, naked with a boy

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Speaker 3: in college over another man's house, hiding in a closet dog.

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Speaker 3: How you get yourself in that situation? Man? Why are

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Speaker 3: you at this man's house? That's crazy to me? Man,

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Speaker 3: you at this man's house? That's unthinkabout anyway. She said

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Speaker 3: that she owes you the whatever she had before I

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Speaker 3: ruined her marriage. How could she be serious? I never

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Speaker 3: make come my main girl. No, because she's been decided.

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Speaker 3: It was just sex, and she knew it. How do

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Speaker 3: I peacefully in this fantasy she created in her head? Well,

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Speaker 3: let me explain something to you. Here's the problem that

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Speaker 3: you have. She said. She you owe her whatever she

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Speaker 3: finn to ruin you, doog. She's finna mess your life up.

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Speaker 3: She fin to make your life a living hell because

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Speaker 3: people like that. Man, people are like that. You know

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Speaker 3: you've heard the saying hell have no fury like a

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Speaker 3: woman scorn. When you scorn her, she gonna go out

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Speaker 3: of her way to ruin your life because she already

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Speaker 3: says you ruined hers. I was watching Bishop Bonner on

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Speaker 3: Instagram the other day. He said, be careful when you

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Speaker 3: around people who act like victims a circumstance that they created.

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Speaker 3: Be careful, have fun to hang around people who are

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Speaker 3: a victim of a circumstance that they created. The whole

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Speaker 3: word and man, that brother said that, and I win,

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Speaker 3: Lord have mercy. How many people do I know like that? Well,

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Speaker 3: this lady in this letter is just like that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: she's sitting up in here, cheated on her husband. Now

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