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Speaker 1: Every breakfast club. Y'all done warning everybody's d j n V.

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Speaker 2: Just hilarious. Charlamagne, the gud we are the breakfast club

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Speaker 2: Law and the ruses here as well. Special guest in

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Speaker 2: the building. Now, January is National Mentorship Month.

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Speaker 1: They got a month for everything that is right.

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Speaker 2: We have Latasha Brown and Shawn C. Lundy. Did I

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Speaker 2: say your name right? They was telling me it's a

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Speaker 2: chance at first because it's spelled chance, but it's Shawn.

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Speaker 3: You had an accent mark, and then I had to

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Speaker 3: make sure that you wasn't LaTosha. I just want to

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Speaker 3: make sure.

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Speaker 1: Feeling good, good, real good.

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Speaker 4: What's the importance of national mentorship?

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Speaker 3: You want? Sorry? Started off?

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Speaker 5: Okay, So mentorship just is important in general because we

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Speaker 5: all need guidance and somebody to look up to. Like

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Speaker 5: you said, we have a month for everything, but mentorship

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Speaker 5: is important to me because sitting here is Latasha, who

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Speaker 5: I've known since I was fourteen years old, so before

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Speaker 5: there was an organization, there was anything, and before we

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Speaker 5: y'all even had the term mentor. She is someone that

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Speaker 5: I found as a safe space, like when I was

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Speaker 5: in high school and I grew up in the nineties

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Speaker 5: and you know, that's when a lot of people were

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Speaker 5: getting in trouble. Drugs were out, Like a lot of

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Speaker 5: things are happening within my household. She was running a

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Speaker 5: girls group and we met with her every week and

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Speaker 5: she talking to us about leadership, about empowerment, and it

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Speaker 5: became my place to go so that I didn't get

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Speaker 5: it's always I've always seen it. It's something important to

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Speaker 5: pay it for it. So when there's no terminology, I

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Speaker 5: never called her my mentor until maybe ten years ago,

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Speaker 5: I was like, oh, I guess that's what it was.

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Speaker 5: But it was like somebody who was looking out for me,

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Speaker 5: looking out for other girls, using her own resources to

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Speaker 5: organizations is just making sure that we had something to do,

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Speaker 5: Like it's that guidance that you're not getting necessarily at

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Speaker 5: home and having somebody else to talk to, somebody that

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Speaker 5: helped guide you along the way and to bounce ideas

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Speaker 5: off of, because you know, we can get inside our heads,

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Speaker 5: especially when you're a teenager about what you think is

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Speaker 5: right and you have somebody like, no, that's not right,

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Speaker 5: and you know you don't listen to your mama all

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Speaker 5: the time, so that somebody's like that kind of reinforces

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Speaker 5: those things that you know, maybe you should take make

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Speaker 5: different decisions.

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Speaker 2: What did y'all mean?

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Speaker 4: We were?

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Speaker 6: This was in the early nineties. I was twenty four

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Speaker 6: years old and't know what I was doing. What I

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Speaker 6: knew from Selma, Alabama, Alabama. In Selma, Alabama, and it

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Speaker 6: was the first I met her as really interesting. When

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Speaker 6: I met her, I immediately knew it was something special

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Speaker 6: And while I didn't really know all the things to do,

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Speaker 6: when I'm thinking about mentorship, like all of us, I'm

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Speaker 6: hoping that not only we mentoring somebody, but somebody's mentoring

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Speaker 6: based on you being a young person. I think that

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Speaker 6: that's one phase of it, right, But every single generation

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Speaker 6: is depositing wisdom and information or should be in each other.

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Speaker 6: When we get to the point that we don't listen

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Speaker 6: because you can't even find a you can't find a

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Speaker 6: great person. I think about Oprah. She always talks about

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Speaker 6: how Maya Andrew was her mentor. Right, So each of

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Speaker 6: us we need somebody pouring And if there's any time

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Speaker 6: that we need to build community, it's in this moment.

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Speaker 1: We yeah, I'll go ask you with who is your mentor?

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Speaker 6: So you know, there's a couple of sisters that have

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Speaker 6: This is a sister named Barbara Perkins, Doctor Barbara Perkins.

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Speaker 6: Who is She's really like a spiritual I just I

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Speaker 6: see yourself. You need other people to help you see

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Speaker 6: because oftentimes we don't think love.

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Speaker 1: We think love is somebody just making you feel good.

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Speaker 6: Love is actually somebody correcting you, right, even if you're

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Speaker 6: thinking about your parents. But it was some sisters that

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Speaker 6: And so she's one. There's a sister down in Selling, Alabama,

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Speaker 1: And then my family. I got some bad sisters from

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Speaker 6: When I think of my ninety two year old aunt

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Speaker 6: Sometimes it's not just the ones that are just pouring

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Speaker 1: She kept saying, y'all got to work hard, smarter, now harder.

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Speaker 6: It hurt my feeling so bad. I was like, with

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Speaker 6: You're responsible for your child, but we're responsible our community.

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Speaker 6: If our community is gonna flourish, like we've got to

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Speaker 1: So if God gave you a measure of wisdom.

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Speaker 6: Whatever extra you got, that extra you got is because

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Speaker 6: And then sometimes we didn't have those, We didn't have

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Speaker 1: I need to expound on something.

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Speaker 2: I say thank you first, because the first thing you

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Speaker 2: said when you walked in here was, you know, I

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Speaker 2: prayed for your daughter. When I I did, I just

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Speaker 2: want to say thank you. So many people have been

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Speaker 2: and I just want to say thank you. A lot

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Speaker 6: You are absolutely welcome, and we saw when she got

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Speaker 4: I want to go back to something you said because

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Speaker 4: I thought it was so powerful.

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Speaker 7: Man.

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Speaker 1: You said that love is correction. Love is correction.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we think of we've allowed these folks to feed

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Speaker 6: if you really think about love, love is the love

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Speaker 6: is correction, it says in the scriptures. I'm a personal

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Speaker 6: faith that God corrects those that he loved. And really

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Speaker 6: the people who my best friends write, my friends, including

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Speaker 6: this sister who she said that I'm her mentor. She

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Speaker 6: I'm just wrong right, she actually brings She allows me

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Speaker 1: And so we got to see that as the people

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Speaker 6: The people that love you will pull you to the

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Speaker 6: The folks that really love you ain't gonna be down

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Speaker 6: you really are the ones that are gonna help get

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Speaker 2: I was going to ask you, no, I have two questions. Actually, one,

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Speaker 2: how did your parents feel when you receive mentorship outside

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Speaker 2: think that they would be like, well, why do you

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Speaker 2: need her to help you? You know, I mean, why

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Speaker 2: is what's the difference between a mentor and a friend? Right?

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Speaker 2: The reason I asked that is, let's say somebody like

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Speaker 2: Is that considered a mentor? Is that considered a front?

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Speaker 1: That's a great question.

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Speaker 3: So I can talk about both of those.

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Speaker 5: So, first of all, I grew up with my grandmother

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Speaker 5: and it was at one point it was like thirteen

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Speaker 6: For me.

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Speaker 5: I grew up with a lot of boys. I was

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Speaker 5: just looking outside and I was a person who went

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Speaker 6: All that.

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Speaker 5: I needed something else that was not that, and I

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Speaker 3: I was starting to do that stuff. And my grandma

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Speaker 5: But she you know, I'm gonna talk to Latasha and

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Speaker 3: And that's not just me.

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Speaker 5: But she's now a friend, Like she's somebody I can

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Speaker 8: Right? And I take it as like something you should

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Speaker 1: You know what's really interesting? Those the girls that I want,

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Speaker 6: The girl in the class that was cutting up, I like,

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Speaker 1: Right, So I'm gonna feed you what you eat.

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Speaker 6: If you gonna come to me, And if there's a

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Speaker 6: There are times that I cut up because I didn't

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Speaker 6: You should be thinking about who you are mentoring, and

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Speaker 7: I was told that by a lot of mentors in

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Speaker 1: Things like that.

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Speaker 6: You know what I mean. And I know some of

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Speaker 6: in one of the places we were in we were

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Speaker 6: in New Orleans, and there was his sister about forty

442
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Speaker 6: years old. That we were doing focus groups with the kids,

443
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Speaker 6: with girls between the ages of like twelve and sixteen

444
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Speaker 6: or something, and we were asking questions and one of

445
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Speaker 6: the questions was what is a black girl's dream?

446
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Speaker 1: What's your dream? Right?

447
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Speaker 6: And so we're in this this space, were down in

448
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Speaker 6: New Orleans and there's his sister in afforded. She keep

449
00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:03,399
Speaker 6: jumping in, she keep jumping in, So there's uh, she

450
00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:05,120
Speaker 6: just rupted the thing because it's for the kids.

451
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Speaker 1: So I pulled her to the side. I pulled outside

452
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Speaker 1: and said.

453
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Speaker 6: Listen, sister, you know, we we're trying to get with

454
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Speaker 6: the kids and we're trying to get their dreams.

455
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Speaker 1: And when you jump in she said, I know, I know,

456
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Speaker 1: I know.

457
00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:16,399
Speaker 6: She said, I'm just so excited because I'm forty some

458
00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,480
Speaker 6: years old and ain't nobody ever asked.

459
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Speaker 1: Me my dream? And so I'm like, just think of that, right,

460
00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:23,920
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody ever asked me that?

461
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Speaker 6: And so I'm saying that because some of even the

462
00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:29,879
Speaker 6: way I work, our work ain't just about the girls.

463
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Speaker 6: Y'all will be surprised, I said, tell, you'll be surprised

464
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Speaker 6: that when we're having our work, you will have sixty

465
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Speaker 6: year olds, seventy year olds.

466
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Speaker 1: We're telling black women reclaim your girlhood.

467
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Speaker 6: Oftentimes many of us were our girlhood was taken, whether

468
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Speaker 6: it's through sexual assault, whether it was you had to

469
00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:48,840
Speaker 6: grow up too soon because from your mommy and dad,

470
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Speaker 6: folks had to go to work, whether you had to

471
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Speaker 6: defend or fight for your family, take care of the

472
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:55,920
Speaker 6: other kids. Your girlhood was taken from you, but it's

473
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Speaker 6: still a part of you. So we're saying reclaim that.

474
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Speaker 6: So while we're working with the girl girls, we're oftentimes

475
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Speaker 6: working with we have of other activities for adults and parents,

476
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Speaker 6: and sometimes it is it is that parent that may

477
00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:11,280
Speaker 6: not want their kids. But I'm telling you, baby, they

478
00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:12,800
Speaker 6: come up in the space we got them. You come

479
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:15,400
Speaker 6: up in the space we got you, right, not because

480
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:19,560
Speaker 6: because the other thing is not because we're trying to trick.

481
00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:22,240
Speaker 6: It is because we see you too, and we see

482
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Speaker 6: your little girl, and we affirm your little girl that's

483
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Speaker 6: in you. Because all of us got a some brokenness.

484
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Speaker 6: All of us got that that's the point in which

485
00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:31,040
Speaker 6: we get broken as children.

486
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Speaker 1: So that's all adult, that's all adult adult, and so

487
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Speaker 1: our work is based on the inner child.

488
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Speaker 5: I tell people all the time, you can talk to

489
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Speaker 5: somebody that's eighty five years old and they'll start talking

490
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,080
Speaker 5: about what happen when he was fifteen. They're like fifteen

491
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Speaker 5: I'm like, dang, but you don't live the whole like

492
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Speaker 5: sixty years past that, you know, But that's it. And

493
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Speaker 5: I think that one of the questions when you were

494
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Speaker 5: asking about the parents. I think what it is sometimes

495
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Speaker 5: is fear. It's fear in what they haven't been exposed

496
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Speaker 5: to themselves. Like I I work with young people sometimes,

497
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:03,320
Speaker 5: like taking them on triops. I started something because I

498
00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:05,280
Speaker 5: shook me on trip. I take girls on troops, and

499
00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 5: so the most resistance I get sometimes is from parents.

500
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Speaker 5: I'm like, you don't want your child to do this,

501
00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:13,239
Speaker 5: but it's because they haven't been they haven't seen, they

502
00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 5: haven't been exposed, and they're afraid.

503
00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,000
Speaker 3: And I get that. But once they see, and.

504
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 5: Like she said, once you experience something, then you know

505
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 5: you want your child to be a part of it.

506
00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:23,160
Speaker 5: But I think that a lot of times it's also

507
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 5: just the fear and what are you gonna tell my

508
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:26,680
Speaker 5: child that I haven't yoah.

509
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Speaker 7: And that's usually what it is because I always use

510
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Speaker 7: the example from the movie Lean On Me. You know,

511
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,400
Speaker 7: remember there was a girl I think I evenish aniqu

512
00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 7: or whatever. It was a girl she had got pregnant

513
00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 7: or whatever. Remember when they went to the house. The

514
00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 7: mom wasn't receptive as them trying to help her and everything,

515
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 7: and she was explaining to her mom, but this is

516
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 7: going to help me, and then you know, but when

517
00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:48,119
Speaker 7: you look at the mom at the end, everything calmed

518
00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,400
Speaker 7: down and everything and she was able to receive the help.

519
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:55,160
Speaker 7: But the mom had never ever experienced somebody really trying

520
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:57,879
Speaker 7: to help them, always ever exposed to somebody trying to

521
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 7: change their life, you know.

522
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Speaker 3: And so a lot of times the parents can be.

523
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Speaker 7: The downfall of the kid, like you know what I mean,

524
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,200
Speaker 7: Like I guess because they haven't lived out.

525
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Speaker 3: Their childhood right and.

526
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:13,880
Speaker 5: Right its friends have been given to them like transaction.

527
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:15,919
Speaker 5: If somebody does this for me, then what are they

528
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 5: gonna want? So I'm afraid to receive your help because

529
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:21,360
Speaker 5: you're gonna want something from me and I can't pay

530
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Speaker 5: it back.

531
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Speaker 1: Here or scared of the judgment or judgment or the judgment.

532
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, let me ask you, ladies a question. Right, this

533
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 2: is a full time job, right, I got about twelve,

534
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:31,800
Speaker 2: But I was going to ask, how do you make

535
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 2: sure your needs are being met? You here because you

536
00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 2: got bills, you got a place to live, you got

537
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 2: to drive somewhere so how do you make sure what

538
00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 2: you're doing all this work to help everybody else? How

539
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 2: are people helping you?

540
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Speaker 6: Well, I want to start, but I want to turn

541
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Speaker 6: this over to chance Say, because I do want to

542
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Speaker 6: lift her up.

543
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Speaker 1: This young woman, Chancey is the bomb. Let me say something.

544
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:52,840
Speaker 1: I am so proud of it, and I'll do no

545
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,040
Speaker 1: other work in my life.

546
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Speaker 3: Like I am so.

547
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Speaker 6: Grateful to God for this sister, you know. And I'm

548
00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 6: saying this because she gave. When she gave, even I

549
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,400
Speaker 6: had this vision, created this organization. She had a business,

550
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 6: she went to school, became an engineer, did all the

551
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 6: things like just be all the barriers right, and created

552
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:17,479
Speaker 6: her business. And then I knew I couldn't really afford

553
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:18,960
Speaker 6: her at the time, but I'm like, can you just

554
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 6: come over here and work with me a little bit? Right?

555
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 1: And she came and fed.

556
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,879
Speaker 6: Into the organization. And now she leaves the organization. Literally

557
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 6: i'd like to do what she did me to do

558
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 6: and leaves the organization. But it's so much love, Like

559
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:35,840
Speaker 6: this is our life, like this work is an extension

560
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 6: of our life, and so it's so much love. I

561
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,399
Speaker 6: think part of what keeps us moving is that we

562
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:44,440
Speaker 6: fundamentally believe that God, we really do. We believe that

563
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 6: this is part of our mission, our calling. But I

564
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 6: just let me just turn over you. I just want

565
00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 6: to to say how much that part of this is.

566
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 6: You got to do work when you're working with people.

567
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 6: To work with people, you need to love people. You

568
00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 6: don't need to be working with people you don't love people.

569
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:04,600
Speaker 5: So I'll say for me one, thank you, Latasha. But

570
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 5: I always felt like it was my life's calling, like

571
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 5: I was gonna end up back in this circle in

572
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 5: some kind of way. I've always worked with girls, I've

573
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 5: always done this, done this work in some form of fashion,

574
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:16,360
Speaker 5: but now to do it as a full time job.

575
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,359
Speaker 5: It was just time, right, it was time and for

576
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 5: me to do this. And I get full by just

577
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 5: being in community. Like see if you look at the

578
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 5: organizations around our thirteen states who are doing work, when

579
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 5: I see how they are transforming the lives of young

580
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Speaker 5: people in those communities. This past weekend we had a

581
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Speaker 5: youth Leadership Academy. We have young people that represent all

582
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 5: of our thirteen states and they came together. They were

583
00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 5: putting on workshops themselves, like they had come up with

584
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 5: stuff like when you see stuff like that, like you

585
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:48,440
Speaker 5: just like in awe, it doesn't feel like work. I

586
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 5: mean do sometimes, but it doesn't feel like work.

587
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 3: It's like the goodness, like when you see black.

588
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 5: Women coming together, and like literally throughout the country there

589
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,920
Speaker 5: are women doing his work, particularly in the South, where

590
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:06,400
Speaker 5: folks are working with very little resources to do this work,

591
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 5: often pulling out of their own pockets to do this work.

592
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 3: But they know that it's necessary. Like it's like, how

593
00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 3: can you not go on?

594
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 5: And I have a son, so you know, I don't

595
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:18,159
Speaker 5: get the girly all the stuff and the wearing, so

596
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 5: like he you know, so this is my outlet, right,

597
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 5: this is my outlet for that. But I also am

598
00:25:24,320 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 5: making it better for him, because when you help some people,

599
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,719
Speaker 5: you help you. When you help black women, you helping everybody.

600
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,960
Speaker 5: We have black girls, You're helping the community. And so

601
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:34,040
Speaker 5: that's how I see it. It's just a continuation of

602
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,960
Speaker 5: just what was given to me. I don't even like

603
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:38,399
Speaker 5: to say that I'm paying it for it. I'm just

604
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 5: doing what God called me to do.

605
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Speaker 2: And what I really want to do is how can

606
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 2: people donating help? Like I can't be on it and

607
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 2: be a mentor.

608
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 1: But let me, but they can't listen.

609
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Speaker 6: There's a couple of ways people can be involved. Right,

610
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 6: So we have the way that we do our money,

611
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 6: like we started. I want folks to understand we had

612
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 6: no money, Like I gave me a vision. I was

613
00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 6: in the shower, God gave me a vision.

614
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: I moved on. We had no money. The vision is

615
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 1: what we decided.

616
00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 6: In the last five years we've given away. How much

617
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 6: eleven million dollars we've put on the ground. We just

618
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 6: gave a million dollars. Let me show you how good

619
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:19,360
Speaker 6: God is. So I know this, ain't know what I'm

620
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 6: gonna show y'all how good God is. So this year

621
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 6: we thought last year because we didn't have we didn't

622
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 6: Last year was a really hard time to raise money,

623
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Speaker 6: especially because we got black. All my organisations got black

624
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Speaker 6: in the name because I'm black.

625
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: Black.

626
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:35,919
Speaker 6: But anyway, we had a hard time. At the end

627
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 6: of the year, we thought we were gonna have to

628
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 6: suspend our program y'all.

629
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Speaker 1: All of that, and even the groups, the youth groups.

630
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:48,200
Speaker 6: I don't know why, but oftentimes when money get cut

631
00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,439
Speaker 6: in state budgets and city budgets, the first programs they

632
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 6: cut are young people are youth right. And so here

633
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 6: we are in the states that are already many that

634
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:59,120
Speaker 6: we work in the hardest states right when you think

635
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 6: of states like missus Zippi that ninety nine, I need

636
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 6: folks to understand that nine percent of the kids in

637
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 6: public schools, white and black in Mississippi are on free

638
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 6: or reduced lunch like. So that's what our playground we

639
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 6: gona wears hard right. And so the resources were not

640
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 6: coming and we thought we were gonna have to suspend

641
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 6: our program. Lads at that just in the nick of time,

642
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,119
Speaker 6: we had a donor, two donors to come in and

643
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,960
Speaker 6: be able to support and a year that was our toughest,

644
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 6: we were able to have our largest grant cycle.

645
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: So on in January.

646
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:30,320
Speaker 6: What did we do?

647
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, and we gave about one point four million dollars

648
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:34,640
Speaker 3: one point two million dollars.

649
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 5: Away to not just nonprofits, but to also also we

650
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 5: supported twenty five businesses too. We had an entrepreneurship program,

651
00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 5: our Dream Investment Program last year where we had like

652
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 5: training for early stage entrepreneurs those people who in three

653
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 5: to five years, but also young people who had businesses

654
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:53,440
Speaker 5: as well. So we supported businesses, We supported our defense fund,

655
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 5: we supported black women who were working for the protection

656
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 5: of Black girls. And our Dream Fund, which is those

657
00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 5: critical intervention type of organizations where it's leadership, empowerment, stem.

658
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 3: Arts and culture.

659
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 5: We were able to support those organizations across the South

660
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Speaker 5: who are doing that work. One of the things I

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Speaker 5: want to lift up something that Latasha said, One of

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Speaker 5: the things that we saw last year is that somebody

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Speaker 5: in community who's doing this work, they may not have

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Speaker 5: gotten federal money directly, but it may have trickled down

665
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Speaker 5: through three four levels before it got to them. So

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Speaker 5: it was a state of emergency last year, literally a

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Speaker 5: state of emergency for our organizations.

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Speaker 3: Organizations are collapsing.

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Speaker 5: And I just want to lift up. Without those two donors,

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Speaker 5: we would not have been able to. We gave money

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Speaker 5: out to sixty two organizations last year, and that was

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Speaker 5: just unheard of. That's not what people were doing. And

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Speaker 5: the average, the average budget of our organizations is under

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Speaker 5: two hundred thousand dollars. And so even that that thirty

675
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 5: thousand dollars grant, forty thousand dollars grant, fifteen thousand dollars grant,

676
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Speaker 5: people call us crime because of that money, because that's

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Speaker 5: sustaining them now you can give to us by going

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Speaker 5: to Southern Blackgirls dot org.

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Speaker 4: I saw black girls. I want to ask them, how

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Speaker 4: do you I love this Conversationause is so important for

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Speaker 4: men and women.

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Speaker 3: But how do you.

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Speaker 4: Mentor without projecting your own path onto somebody?

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Speaker 1: That's an excellent point. That's an excellent point. That's why

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Speaker 1: you paid the big book. That's that's a great point.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 6: I think that there is on some level we be

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Speaker 6: real We all do that. So let's just say that

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Speaker 6: let all of us do that on some level. But

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Speaker 6: I think part of what I love the way that

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Speaker 6: chan Say and her team have been setting things up,

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Speaker 6: you know, is that we create space for there to

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Speaker 6: be peer to peer mentorship as well, so it can't

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Speaker 6: just be top down.

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Speaker 1: It's also you got to create these other spaces. And

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Speaker 1: you talk about the ambassadors.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, even with our youth ambassadors, like they're leading and

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Speaker 5: we give them space. So one, we give them space

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Speaker 5: to make decisions. We have what we call a participatory

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Speaker 5: grant making model. We do trust based Philanthroy. These are

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Speaker 5: all the terms, but what it means is we build

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Speaker 5: with community. So community is giving input into the decisions

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Speaker 5: that we're making. And even with our young people, they

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Speaker 5: actually tell us what they want. They tell us the path.

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Speaker 5: Like we don't helicopter in and say we think that

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Speaker 5: you young people need to see X, y Z. They

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Speaker 5: tell us this is what's most important. Like for example,

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Speaker 5: this past weekend, they told that, I don't think we

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Speaker 5: talked about mental health like this like this in the

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Speaker 5: late nineties.

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Speaker 3: We weren't talking about mental health in this way.

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Speaker 5: But the girls, all we were hearing was that we

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Speaker 5: need more support from mental health. We need more support.

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Speaker 5: So they guide that decision making. So even as a mentor,

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Speaker 5: it means listening to what people are saying the needs are.

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Speaker 3: Because I can't tell you to go down this path.

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Speaker 5: I can might give you some these are some of

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Speaker 5: the infrastructure you might need, but I'm listening to what

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Speaker 5: you need and how I can support it. There are

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Speaker 5: some young girls who are some of our youth ambassadors.

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Speaker 5: They were talking about in Mississippi that girls really need

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Speaker 5: mental health. They have set up now they were empowered

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Speaker 5: to set up their own. We've supplied them with resources

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Speaker 5: a group therapy, Like now that they're going to be

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Speaker 5: having group therapy, they have been alive with therapist so

726
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Speaker 5: that now they've set up their own Magnolia Circle, so

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Speaker 5: they're not going to have mental health and wellness. They

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Speaker 5: saw such a need for mental health, healing and in

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Speaker 5: like different practices in Mississippi, MO speaking.

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Speaker 1: Of mental health.

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Speaker 6: And one of the things is what we're excited when

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Speaker 6: I want to a highlight from us since we partnered

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Speaker 6: with Megan thee Stallion.

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Speaker 1: So we did. We partner with her. We've been working

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Speaker 1: with her foundation for the last how.

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Speaker 6: Many years, since since twenty twenty two, and we did

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Speaker 6: a we have a what is called Black Girl Joy Challenge.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, our Black Girl Joy Challenge is where we put

739
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Speaker 5: money directly in the hands of girls. We give them

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Speaker 5: five hundred and fifty dollars and say, how can you

741
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Speaker 5: spread joy to ten of your family members, of friends

742
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Speaker 5: in community. And these girls are doing some amazing work.

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Speaker 5: And that's because we don't want them to see themselves

744
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Speaker 5: as victims. Who want to see them as generators of solutions.

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Speaker 5: So you come up with your own program what you

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Speaker 5: want to do. We've seen girls who are working in

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Speaker 5: period poverty. We've seen girls who like one girl put

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Speaker 5: out to meet a teacher appreciation dinner, whoever just took

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Speaker 5: their teachers out of them. You know, we've seen particularly

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Speaker 5: a young lady who won award through Megan the Stallion's

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Speaker 5: Pete and Thomas Foundation was Mila Henry. She came up

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Speaker 5: with mental health boxes in major boxes that she passes

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Speaker 5: out to other girls. Like we've seen girls come with

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Speaker 5: affirmation boxes. They're doing some really amazing work. But it's yeah,

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Speaker 5: we're actually doing another round. And the highlight of our

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Speaker 5: Black Girl Joy Challenge is last year we reached a milestone.

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Speaker 3: We gave out one thousand.

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Speaker 5: It made us give it out over the past the

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Speaker 5: past five years, we've given out a given a thousand girls.

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Speaker 3: This Black Girl Joy Challenge.

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Speaker 1: Y'all didn go down.

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Speaker 5: You got it going on as that's a thousand girls

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Speaker 5: in community who are transforming community. And some of these

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Speaker 5: are full fledged organizations, like there are some young there

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Speaker 5: are some twins from Montgomery, Alabama that started with us.

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Speaker 3: They got our first Black Girl Joy Challenge in twenty twenty.

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Speaker 5: They were actually nominated I think last year to be

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Speaker 5: seeing the heroes because now Alabama's even pass legislation around

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Speaker 5: in the period poverty and there's so much stigma around minsteration.

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Speaker 3: I probably say that word right.

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Speaker 5: But there's so much stigma around it. But they found

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Speaker 5: out that one in five girls missed school because they

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Speaker 5: don't have sanitary supplies, and so they started passing things

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Speaker 5: out and then we actually gave them a bigger grant

775
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Speaker 5: so they could do more in schools. And then the

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Speaker 5: state set up a fun so that this is in Alabama,

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Speaker 5: they set up a fund so that schools could apply

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Speaker 5: to now have those supplies in school. So they're making

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Speaker 5: a difference like mighty rivers a field drip by drip.

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Speaker 7: John can give somebody five hundred and fifty dollars and

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Speaker 7: they'd be like, I ain't got no family.

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Speaker 1: No, you know, the girls are coming like it.

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Speaker 6: It's been game changes because part of what happens is

784
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Speaker 6: y'all really really how things happen. It's not based on money.

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Speaker 6: It's based on belief. If you're really honest, it's really

786
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Speaker 6: based on belief. And so when you start feeding and seeding,

787
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Speaker 6: just think about it. Think about it might be something

788
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Speaker 6: real small, but think about the first person that's seeded

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Speaker 6: into your vision, Like there's something about that that gave

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Speaker 6: you an affirmation of what you could do. And so

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Speaker 6: part for our work, our work is we really are

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Speaker 6: we trying we building, We try to build nations.

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Speaker 1: We building, We got nation buildings. Were thinking about this

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Speaker 1: thing differently.

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Speaker 6: If black women are gonna be on the forefront, then

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Speaker 6: how are we seeding and feeding and investing in them?

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Speaker 6: You know, I got a phone call one day out

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Speaker 6: of sky Blue from Oprah Winfrey had found out about

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Speaker 6: the work, and she called and said she just wanted

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Speaker 6: to know. She's like, tell me about your vision, and

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Speaker 6: she said it reminded her of what she did with

802
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Speaker 6: the sisters in South Africa. We've had the Vice president

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Speaker 6: to call us about the work. It was not them,

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Speaker 6: It's not it wasn't them, It wasn't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I also think and I think that there's a

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Speaker 6: I'm glad you raise that because it does open up

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Speaker 6: another space black folks.

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Speaker 1: We got to take care of black institutions. Now we

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Speaker 1: just gonna have to. We're gonna have to step up

811
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Speaker 1: in this moment. Are we not seeing it? We shouldn't

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Speaker 1: be depending on no federal funding. People don't like we

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Speaker 1: know what's going on, like we should.

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Speaker 6: Our kids should not be subject to the benevolence of

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Speaker 6: white folks that ultimately even a duck got enough sense

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Speaker 6: to take care of his ducklings. So ultimately, we're giving

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Speaker 6: money to Lou and all those other folks. And I

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Speaker 6: get it because I like the stuff. I like stuff

819
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,279
Speaker 6: like everybody else likes stuff, right, But we're supporting them

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Speaker 6: to support their children, right, and we're not supporting our

821
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Speaker 6: own stuff.

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Speaker 1: Our institutions got to be supported by us.

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Speaker 6: So we love when we get them twenty five dollars kids,

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Speaker 6: those one hundred dollars hids those Yes, you can go

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Speaker 6: and drop a million shark's man, but.

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Speaker 1: Right, the big bucks. That's why you're making big bucks.

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Speaker 5: I know he does.

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Speaker 2: He does.

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Speaker 1: That's my brother, that's my bride, that's my brother. And

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Speaker 1: I love his love for community.

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Speaker 6: And we appreciate you because this platform is important, and

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Speaker 6: so I think it's really important for us to lift

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Speaker 6: up y'all.

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Speaker 1: We got to get it together. We can't be the same.

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Speaker 1: If other folks are shifting, then that means we got

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Speaker 1: to do a paradigm shift.

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Speaker 6: And so if they're trying to build a nation that

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00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 6: is rooted in racism, that ain't gonna be rooted in

839
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 6: white supremacy, we can't be down with that. You got

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Speaker 6: a nation, Bill we're a nation within a nation, and

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Speaker 6: part of even what black folks did just nine years

842
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:03,320
Speaker 6: after slavery. We founded hundreds of cities, we had built schools.

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Speaker 6: All these are people who have formerly been enslaved. So

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Speaker 6: why are we not doing that at this level? Because

845
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,399
Speaker 6: we are actually now directing our resources in a way

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Speaker 6: that's just consumerism.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not saying this as a judgment.

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Speaker 6: I'm saying this as a wake up call if you

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Speaker 6: see folk like, because I want somebody to come and

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Speaker 6: say that I know the work we're doing. It's life

851
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 6: changing in thirteen states. I know the work that we're doing.

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00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 6: It's changing lives, it's changing my life, it's changing her life.

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Speaker 6: So at the end of the day, put your money

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00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 6: in some good ground and you're gonna yield a good harvest.

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Speaker 1: And we're a good harvest.

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Speaker 8: How do you mentor intergenerationally right?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 8: Because you talked about peer period, you talked about how

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Speaker 8: the older women. Right One of the conversations I have

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Speaker 8: a lot with other Black women right now is about

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Speaker 8: how when we have these older women in our lives,

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00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 8: sometimes the nurturing through love isn't the best experience. And

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Speaker 8: then it kind of turns you off from accepting certain

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Speaker 8: things or you know, it's just it's not like almost

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Speaker 8: like a hazing something. So how are you guys correcting that?

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Speaker 8: Because I think that goes back to investing in your

867
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 8: people when you feel like from generation up the people

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Speaker 8: got you.

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Speaker 1: Listen, I was forty years old, they were still put

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Speaker 1: me in the US group. So I understand. So it

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Speaker 1: is that we have all of that in our community.

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Speaker 6: It's nuanced, and it's complicated, and it's beautiful and it's

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00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 6: terrible in all the things right, and so part of

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00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,440
Speaker 6: it is the more that we bring people in community

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00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:26,360
Speaker 6: and give folks opportunities. There's some things that even in

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00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 6: our work, while it's black girls, that we have created

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00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 6: spaces for other sisters, sisters sixty seventy fifty to actually

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Speaker 6: reclaim that girlhood by serving in ways.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

880
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,520
Speaker 5: So we have a Wisdom Council, and our wisdom council

881
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:42,880
Speaker 5: those are you can be twelve to one hundred and

882
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 5: twelve on a wisdom council, And those are people who

883
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,320
Speaker 5: are making decisions about our grantees.

884
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:49,320
Speaker 3: Those are people who are putting workshops together.

885
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 5: But not only that, we have women organizations too, So

886
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 5: all of our organizations are not girl focused.

887
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 3: Some of them are also focusing on women.

888
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 5: But from your intergenerational conversation, I think that sometimes we

889
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 5: just have to know that everybody is not our person.

890
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 5: Like even from a girls standpoint, we're talking about mentorship,

891
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 5: everybody is.

892
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 1: Not our person.

893
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 5: I'm not sending you anywhere to behave And I will

894
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 5: say that even when we come into community. Sometimes people

895
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 5: people come into community with their preconceived it gotta we

896
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 5: gotta walk, we gotta hut to a certain kind of way.

897
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 5: But when you get in community with us and you

898
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 5: see that we have to pull you to the side. No,

899
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 5: we're not telling them that we come in here with love,

900
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 5: Like so you're gonna have to get on the love

901
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 5: train or you can watch and observe.

902
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 4: You know, now you said that about mentees because you

903
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 4: do have those older women that Lauren is talking about,

904
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 4: but then you have some of these young folks that

905
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 4: don't like correction.

906
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 1: So is it okay to ever outgrow a mentor absolutely?

907
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 3: Absolutely?

908
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 5: I think that there are times our relationships, there are

909
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 5: relationships can be outgrown and sometimes and I always go

910
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 5: with this, like, what's the phrase like you to meet

911
00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 5: and throw away the bones.

912
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 3: Like you know, there are some things.

913
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 5: There's knowledge you can get from a lot of different spaces,

914
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 5: and then there are sometimes you can tell that people

915
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:00,919
Speaker 5: are giving you information that's kind of basing, that they're

916
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 5: projecting their own what happened to them, their own hurt

917
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:06,839
Speaker 5: that whatever is. You Like, sometimes I can be listening

918
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 5: to somebody and I'm like, Okay, I'm gonna take that

919
00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 5: that not that, take that that that not that, and

920
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 5: then I know, like that's not you know, and then

921
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:15,960
Speaker 5: sometimes I know when a season has ended, right, so

922
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 5: it may be time for that season to end, and you.

923
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 3: Don't get that good feeling.

924
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 5: So you know, if you keep forcing yourself into a

925
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 5: relationship just because somebody says you got to be in

926
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 5: this relationship, like why are you there?

927
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:27,200
Speaker 3: You can find somebody else.

928
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:28,879
Speaker 5: And I think that sometimes that you usually comes from

929
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 5: that formal structure or even organization. Sometimes, like I'm not

930
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 5: sending you anywhere to be hurt, right, you know, you

931
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 5: shouldn't go talk to anybody that you know is hurting you,

932
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 5: Like if someone is not giving you the best advice,

933
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,040
Speaker 5: if they're not looking out for you, and like you said,

934
00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:44,360
Speaker 5: even in our conversations, although I saw Natasha as this mentor,

935
00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 5: it's like really as a big sister, because I said,

936
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 5: we didn't have that language like it's a big sister.

937
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,879
Speaker 5: There were times like Natasha's telling me stuff and I'm

938
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 5: telling her, you know, like you need to do this, this,

939
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 5: this and this.

940
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:54,960
Speaker 3: You know, this is what I think.

941
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:56,759
Speaker 5: How you gonna what you're gonna do about it, you know,

942
00:39:56,960 --> 00:39:58,920
Speaker 5: or just turning that mirror, you know sometimes and so

943
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 5: it's a two ways street even with older people, Like

944
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,320
Speaker 5: I've always been able to have that conversation, you know,

945
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 5: even when my grandma used to do stuff. Now you know,

946
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:09,320
Speaker 5: you can't really tell your grandma too much, but I try,

947
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying. Then there's some things I

948
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 5: used to be like, you know, I'm just let hoocky

949
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:12,880
Speaker 5: right now.

950
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 3: Check to them. People Like I told.

951
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 5: My grandma passed, we found all kinds of charity she

952
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 5: was given to. I was like, I told her to

953
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,320
Speaker 5: stop doing that, Like they're not gonna listen. But you know,

954
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 5: there's that intergenerational aspect that you have, like people there

955
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:27,440
Speaker 5: are people in family. So I think that we have

956
00:40:27,560 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 5: people in family that we're mentors to and we may

957
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 5: not be going anywhere from that. And then there are

958
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 5: people who just in community like that we can like, hey,

959
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 5: we're gonna part ways, I'm gonna talk to somebody, And.

960
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 1: There are people like at the end of the day.

961
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 6: What I'm real concerned about in this moment is the

962
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 6: new flavor of today is being mean, like like everything is.

963
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: About a clickbait, everything is about let me be mean

964
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 1: in some way.

965
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 6: That that's that that means that I'm stronger, I'm dominant

966
00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 6: that at the end of at the end of the day,

967
00:40:54,160 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 6: people are people.

968
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: You either love people or you don't. And so there

969
00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 1: are sisters, sisters as brothers.

970
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 6: They're just some mean ass people, right And at the

971
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 6: end of the day, when you see that, you have

972
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 6: to separate. Even in our space. Listen, if we're in

973
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 6: the space and she's saying it, you know, if there

974
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 6: is an adult talking to the kids a certain kind

975
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,280
Speaker 6: of way, what did I say earlier?

976
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 1: Love corrected, We gonna correct you. You can't come in our.

977
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 6: Space and be abusive to those girls, not in front

978
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:22,800
Speaker 6: of us, not what we see. And we actually create

979
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 6: safe spaces for the kids so that they can actually

980
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,200
Speaker 6: they got their own rhythm, they got their own language.

981
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 6: They got their own thing that they do, and we're

982
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 6: also pouring into adults that work with them as well,

983
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 6: because they got their own space and we want to

984
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 6: want them to really be able to grab home and

985
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 6: reclaim their own girlhood. But at the end of the day,

986
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 6: all of us in this moment, I'm hoping that we understand,

987
00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 6: you know, and I ain't come on here to be political,

988
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,840
Speaker 6: but let me say this, I hope we understand that

989
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 6: this moment ain't about Trump. Now all that we can

990
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,080
Speaker 6: sit there and think that this moment is about Trump

991
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 6: and Republicans load aint this moment really is. In my opinion,

992
00:41:57,280 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 6: this moment is really a hard reset for us to

993
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 6: lot look at ourselves.

994
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:04,760
Speaker 1: What are we doing? Like we created Trump.

995
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 6: Every time you actually thought that you were better than

996
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 6: somebody else, that fed into that kind of energy. Every

997
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 6: time you stepped over that homeless person, that fed into

998
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 6: that energy. Every time you believe that some people deserve

999
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,760
Speaker 6: food and other folks didn't, you fed.

1000
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:19,320
Speaker 1: Into that injury.

1001
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:23,280
Speaker 6: We created and fed this monster, this monster of meanness

1002
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,240
Speaker 6: and madness in this country right that would do anything

1003
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:29,080
Speaker 6: for attention, that would do anything to get money, that

1004
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:32,240
Speaker 6: would do anything to make himself be dominant. That lives

1005
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,839
Speaker 6: in us too, and so part of if we want

1006
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 6: to see something different, then we gonna have to be different.

1007
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 6: So in this space as we deal with our kids,

1008
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 6: like I'll here folks and they'll say something, Yeah, but

1009
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 6: these boys, now that these boys do the same thing

1010
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:50,479
Speaker 6: that boys did fitty years old. These girls and girls

1011
00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:51,960
Speaker 6: were the same amn thing that you did.

1012
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 1: The bottom line, youre talking met the girl getting pregnant.

1013
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 6: Half y'all you just didn't get caught like at the

1014
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:57,840
Speaker 6: end of the day, don't add like y'all want to

1015
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 6: having sex, right, So I'm saying that because there's a

1016
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 6: particular kind of way that we judge others to make

1017
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 6: ourselves feel bigger, and that a ain't that's.

1018
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:10,319
Speaker 1: What's happening right now, that kind of consciousness.

1019
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 6: So I'm just hoping that with us we actually bring

1020
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 6: love and power to the space and we create. We

1021
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 6: ain't got it perfect, we ain't got it all figured

1022
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 6: out right. But what I do know is I do

1023
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 6: know that if we're coming to a process, if we're

1024
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 6: trying to create even mentorship, we'll call them membership. But

1025
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 6: we hear this phrase that that it takes a village

1026
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 6: to raise a child. That's just pure truth, right.

1027
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: We just a village.

1028
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 6: We are another village. We provide resources, is money, message

1029
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:39,760
Speaker 6: and movement building.

1030
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:43,120
Speaker 2: That's what we do. We appreciate you for joining us.

1031
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 2: Tell us how they can donate one more time if they.

1032
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:48,840
Speaker 5: Listen, you can go to Southern Black Girls dot o

1033
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 5: RG Southern Blackgirls dot org.

1034
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,879
Speaker 2: That's right. Well, January is National Mentorship Mother and thank

1035
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:54,799
Speaker 2: you women for joining us.

1036
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:56,400
Speaker 1: Appreciate this.

1037
00:43:58,760 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 6: Y'all know.

1038
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 2: Latasha's on the ground, Shawn Say, Linday Shay.

1039
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:10,680
Speaker 1: And LaTosha. You know it was the breakfast Club.

1040
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 2: Good morning.

1041
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 1: Every day. A weak clicks up the Breakfast Club.

1042
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 3: Y'all done,