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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up.

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Speaker 2: Jordan is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Drew.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date. But first, Jordan, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Drew.

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Speaker 1: It's been about two weeks now, Okay?

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Speaker 3: How many times have you tried.

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Speaker 2: To hit him up in that time?

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Speaker 1: Just twice, once like really soon after our date, and

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Speaker 1: then once again, I want to say, like three days ago, okay,

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Speaker 1: and nothing.

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Speaker 4: He just left you on red Yeah, just nothing. Okay,

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Speaker 4: let's talk about the date. Let's go back and try

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Speaker 4: to figure it out. I know, I'm sorry, this is

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Speaker 4: the worst.

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Speaker 1: No, thank you for doing this. So we met on

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Speaker 1: Hinge right, and he messaged me first, which is already

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Speaker 1: a win in my book. He suggested the sports bar

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Speaker 1: because there was a vibe there, which honestly wasn't my favorite,

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Speaker 1: but I went with it because he's really cute, you know, fun,

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Speaker 1: and so yeah, we were just we had a great

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Speaker 1: talk and he's really ambitious. He told me about how

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Speaker 1: he wants to launch his own streetwear brand, and he

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Speaker 1: and a couple of friends. Yeah, and then someone sent

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Speaker 1: shots over, which honestly I don't I don't usually do shots,

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Speaker 1: but like, again, he's really cute.

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Speaker 3: I'm having her.

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Speaker 4: Back got really quick. He introduced you to some of

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Speaker 4: his friends.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess this is a bar that they kind

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Speaker 1: of frequent, so a couple of them just happened. I

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Speaker 1: thought that was you know, like it's not like he

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Speaker 1: was like, oh, my friends, we have to go, you know.

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Speaker 1: He introduced me, so that was nice, okay, and then

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Speaker 1: after a while they were like, okay, we're gonna go

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Speaker 1: do our thing over the bar and then just left

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Speaker 1: us on our own.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 4: I was like, these friends do crash our party, try

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Speaker 4: to get you guys wasted, and then sit back and

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Speaker 4: watch what happened.

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Speaker 2: That's actually kind of funny.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, they were like apropos.

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Speaker 2: They were good, okay, good, all right. Well how did

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Speaker 2: the date end with him?

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Speaker 1: I think it was okay, Like, okay, it got a

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Speaker 1: little weird, so like he's laughing, having fun, We're all cool,

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Speaker 1: and then like out of nowhere, he had to leave

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Speaker 1: and he made up some excuse. He paid the tab

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Speaker 1: and then he did.

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Speaker 2: What was the excuse that he gave you.

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Speaker 1: Just that he had to. I think he said something

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Speaker 1: about like having to get up early the next day

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Speaker 1: and do something for building his business. It was just

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Speaker 1: the way that it happened like that.

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Speaker 3: It was so.

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Speaker 2: Sudden, abruptly weird. It seems like something they said might

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Speaker 2: be the reason that he left exactly.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know what it was, and I just like,

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Speaker 1: I would really like to know what happened.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Jordan is on the phone and she's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by a guy named Drews. So we're about to call

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Speaker 2: him and see if he'll tell us why is ghostinger

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Speaker 2: and get her a second date if she still wants one.

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Speaker 2: But before we do that, Jordan, breakdown your date for

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Speaker 2: us again real quick one time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So we met on Hinge and we ended up going

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Speaker 1: to the sports bar and a couple of its friends

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Speaker 1: were there and so I got to meet them, and

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Speaker 1: then we were having a great time, and then all

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Speaker 1: of a sudden, he decided like he needed to leave

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Speaker 1: very quickly, and he made up this excuse and I

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Speaker 1: haven't heard from him since, and I'd like to know

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Speaker 1: what happened.

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Speaker 2: Okay, how weird. Well, are you ready for us to

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Speaker 2: give Drew a call? Yes, here we go. Whoo, Hi man,

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Speaker 2: I speak to Drew please.

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Speaker 3: This is him? Who's this Drew?

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Speaker 2: How are you? This is a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 2: the Jubile Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Drew, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubeill. How are you.

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Speaker 3: I'm good, I'm familiar with you.

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Speaker 2: Guys, want nice, just to see how you're doing. Just

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Speaker 2: checking in. You know, we know you listen. We listen

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Speaker 2: to you too, and you don't know it.

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Speaker 3: Checking in on all the ms.

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Speaker 2: No, Drew were calling you because this is the first

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Speaker 2: date follow up. You know, if you go on a

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Speaker 2: date with someone and then you end up ghosting them,

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Speaker 2: they can email us to call you and find out why.

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Speaker 2: So we got an email about.

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Speaker 3: You, Jordan, isn't it Yes, it is.

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Speaker 2: You don't even have to think about that. She told

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Speaker 2: us about your date and she's really confused. Says that you, uh,

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Speaker 2: you guys were hanging out at the bar. Your friends

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Speaker 2: ended up being there too, and at one point you

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Speaker 2: went over to your friends and then it looked like

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Speaker 2: they were pointing towards her. And then after that you

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Speaker 2: said you had to get up for work or something

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Speaker 2: and bounced mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: Well okay, so first off, thrilled to be talking to

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Speaker 3: you guys, been listening for a while. But with Jordan,

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Speaker 3: she was nice, fun even, but I ghosted her because

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Speaker 3: I cannot be out here dating someone who just confidently

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Speaker 3: uses words absolutely and completely wrong.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean?

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 3: I tried to let it go, I really did, but

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Speaker 3: she kept using like juxtaposition as a that meant like compromise.

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Speaker 3: You like wine, I like sports bars, but I think

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Speaker 3: we can find a juxtaposition, you know.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay.

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Speaker 3: I mean if it's one word, sure, I get it,

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Speaker 3: like you know, it's like a little quirky, cute moment,

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Speaker 3: and then you can correct it. But it kept happening

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Speaker 3: over and over again with different words, and then uh,

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Speaker 3: like my friends ended up being at the bar and

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Speaker 3: she was like talking, They're joking about something, and she

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Speaker 3: just wanted this is such an ambiguous situation and it wasn't.

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Speaker 3: It was like super clear. I think she meant to

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Speaker 3: say like ridiculous or wild, but she was like so sure,

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Speaker 3: She's like this is so ambiguous.

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Speaker 2: Okay. She seemed well spoken when we talked to her,

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Speaker 2: like it didn't seem like that was going on when

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Speaker 2: we talked to her.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know, that wasn't my experience,

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Speaker 3: you know, like like I thought she was nice, she

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Speaker 3: was even fun. Uh, I'm big on words, man, Like

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Speaker 3: you got no basic English language, you know?

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Speaker 2: All right, thank you for telling us, Drew, And also

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Speaker 2: if you listen to the show, yeah you know what happens.

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Speaker 1: Hi Hi Jordan, Hi uh wow. I'm so sorry that

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Speaker 1: I didn't live up to her English speaking expectations. You

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Speaker 1: knew what I meant though, right, Like that's all that matters.

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Speaker 1: Communication is about intent, right, like reading people.

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Speaker 3: Totally uh for the most part, but like just basic

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Speaker 3: first grade understanding of the language is important, like words

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Speaker 3: mean things, Jordan's. Then the worst part is, like my

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Speaker 3: friends caught it too. One of them even repeated it

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Speaker 3: back to you, like yeah, you're all super ambiguous and

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Speaker 3: they're all laughing, and you just nodded like they weren't

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Speaker 3: roasting you. I was like, you got to have a

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Speaker 3: little bit of like self awareness about this roasting me.

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Speaker 5: Wow, Okay, I don't even know what to say to that, Like,

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Speaker 5: I'm pretty sure I have better than a first grade

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Speaker 5: understanding of the English language.

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Speaker 4: Well, you did say you don't drink shots a lot,

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Speaker 4: so maybe that just kind of threw off your basic

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, maybe because you do sound well spoken now.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to think that I am, at least most

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Speaker 1: of the time. I don't know what you expected as me,

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Speaker 1: but your friends were all of a sudden there, and

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Speaker 1: I guess I was trying to impress and just be,

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Speaker 1: you know, conversational with everybody. And you know, I was

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Speaker 1: drunk and like amused. I don't know, like you're you're

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Speaker 1: acting like I did something wrong to you.

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Speaker 3: You were right, you got that one right. You were amused.

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Speaker 2: What is amused means confused? I don't know. I'm amused

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Speaker 2: right now.

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Speaker 3: See I know how to use words totally. I mean,

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Speaker 3: we're all a little amused right now, you know. I'm like,

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Speaker 3: I was just saying, look, you didn't do anything to me.

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Speaker 3: You were nice, you were fun. It's just not for me,

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Speaker 3: like words mean things, and I can't for me, I

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Speaker 3: can't be explaining basic vocabulary every time we hang out.

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm sure we can find some sort of

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Speaker 1: like explanation, juxtaposition.

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Speaker 3: About this, Jordan's you're doing it again. There, you just

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Speaker 3: did it. That's not what that word means, like a compromise. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: go on, It's just that's what that is.

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Speaker 1: That's what that means.

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Speaker 3: It's that's what juxtaposes means. No, that's not what it means.

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Speaker 3: Jordan's goodness.

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Speaker 1: No, when two people disagree they come to a juxtaposition,

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Speaker 1: that that is what that means.

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, do you guys see what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 3: It's like and you're just getting a little sneak peek.

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Speaker 3: We were out there for like two hours.

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Speaker 2: I think she's right. I think she's right. I wish

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Speaker 2: you guys could come to a juxtaposition.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I understand, don't encourage her. This can be said.

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Speaker 3: She needs to know.

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Speaker 2: Would you like to go on another date with Jordan?

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Speaker 2: Will pay for it? And then you guys can see

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Speaker 2: if you can juxtapose in person.

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Speaker 3: Damn, No, words mean things, man, I can't. I can't

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Speaker 3: be doing a Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I also don't want another date because you clearly don't

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Speaker 1: know words like you think you do?

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Speaker 3: What why don't you go.

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Speaker 1: Look up juxtapose juxtaposition in a dictionary and you can

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Speaker 1: figure it out from there.

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Speaker 3: Girl, I speak four languages, which is crazy. Exist so

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Speaker 3: much right now.

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Speaker 2: Juble's first date follow up