WEBVTT - Cesar Millan: From Illegal Immigrant to American Dream

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, fam, I'm Jada Pinkett Smith and this is the

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<v Speaker 1>On his rise to becoming the dog Whisperer, Caesar Milan

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<v Speaker 1>entered this country as an illegal immigrant, overcoming incredible hardships

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<v Speaker 1>to show us what it truly means to live the

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<v Speaker 1>American dream season. We've known each other for what like,

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<v Speaker 1>I was nine twenty years old when I met Caesar.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what happened, and I came to America. I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to be the best in the world. I came

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<v Speaker 1>to Jada and I said I need to have a

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<v Speaker 1>TV show or a radio and she said, well, for that,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to speak English. The next day, a friend

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<v Speaker 1>of her came to to my place in South Central

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<v Speaker 1>and said, I'm your new English teacher. So because of Jada,

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<v Speaker 1>I speak English. Wow, mm hmmm, that's very special. That's yeah. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>a dog friendly house, yes it is. Then you got cats.

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<v Speaker 1>I know what, three cats, eight dogs. We've got three cats. Snakes,

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<v Speaker 1>got three snakes got two. Well you remember saying the

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<v Speaker 1>husky because you had his sister. Yeah, he's the happy,

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<v Speaker 1>go lucky one. And then you gave me home my birthday. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>The new one that you have, Steak Clover is part

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<v Speaker 1>of our pack. And this is the Chinese guy. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>show you my rescue from China when we were shooting

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<v Speaker 1>the Karate Kid with Jaden and he wasn't this friendly

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<v Speaker 1>when he arrived. No, no, he was a little India

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<v Speaker 1>not trusting. Yes, he's coming, he's done. This is really good.

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<v Speaker 1>This is very very about it, very proud of your package.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a super duper special guest today, not only

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<v Speaker 1>because he is the internationally renowned dog whisperer Caesar Milan,

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<v Speaker 1>but because he happens to be one of my oldest,

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<v Speaker 1>closest friends. Thank you. My English is better. How did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys meet? I used to date a guy who's

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<v Speaker 1>dog he used to work with Kenji. Kenji was the

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<v Speaker 1>first first road wilder. Yeah. They introduced me to the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of the road willer owners. Yeah. And those roadwilers

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<v Speaker 1>owners was Jada Pink Smith. Okay, so the roddy is

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<v Speaker 1>you know, is the roddis introduced me to Jada. Then

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<v Speaker 1>the right is introduced me to Will, who is not

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<v Speaker 1>such a such an animal lover, which is interesting because

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<v Speaker 1>you have all these animals in the house. But well

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<v Speaker 1>typically it's not. Yeah, he's too much an animal. Never

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<v Speaker 1>took the glass. Yeah you still haven't take a lesson. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he likes He's like, look if it makes

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<v Speaker 1>you happy to have all these animals, cool, But he

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<v Speaker 1>likes he likes Fang. He looks at Fang from the

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<v Speaker 1>window and goes, oh, he's so pretty. That's about it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I had four male rot wallers, and he

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<v Speaker 1>taught me how to manage those dogs. At that particular

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<v Speaker 1>point of time and where I was in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted those dogs for protection. And I was a

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<v Speaker 1>young woman by herself a lot and I need I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted that that made me feel safe. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to get a gun. And you know, so I had rocks.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah about that went with me. Yeah, like the phitting

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<v Speaker 1>me of the American dream to me because you came here, jumped,

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<v Speaker 1>jumped the border, couldn't speak and could speak English. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know anybody. What made you want to come to Americans? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>when I was thirteen years old, I told my mom, mom,

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<v Speaker 1>you think it could be the best doctor in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>After watching Last n Rintin Tea, people watch a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of animal shows. Those were my animal shows. I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be a vet but because I come from my

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<v Speaker 1>low income family, it wasn't possible for them to send

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<v Speaker 1>me to a vet school. Right a thirteen years old,

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<v Speaker 1>I told my mom, Mom, you think it could be

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<v Speaker 1>the best uctory in the world. And she said, you

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<v Speaker 1>can do whatever you want. Because when I was ten,

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<v Speaker 1>I told her that I wanted to be a drug

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<v Speaker 1>dealer because because when I'm from that's also those are

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<v Speaker 1>role models. There you go, okay, that's my role models. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I saw how respected they were, and that

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<v Speaker 1>day my mom slapped me in the face that if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to kill me, that's what you become. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to kill you. I just want to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>make money so you know you can live. I believe

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<v Speaker 1>it after mom, So I didn't know. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>that those guys were about you know, I was ten,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know, three years later, I'm looking at the

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<v Speaker 1>dogs that I grew up with. They didn't have commands.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted that. I wanted to have those Hollywood dogs.

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<v Speaker 1>Those dogs were trained, so I really wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>a dog trainer. You're born with the desire. You want

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<v Speaker 1>to sing, you want to you want to do this,

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<v Speaker 1>You're born with it. Nobody tells you to do it right.

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<v Speaker 1>So where is last thing? Rinting thing lives? United States?

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<v Speaker 1>You know this mainland or Hollywood. So when I was

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<v Speaker 1>twenty one years old and December, I went to my

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<v Speaker 1>mom again, Mom, I'm leaving, So where are you going

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<v Speaker 1>to Morris Christmas? I'm going to America? But tomorrow's Christmas,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, but I have to go right now. So

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<v Speaker 1>something that you feel that you have to listen to

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<v Speaker 1>it and you have to act on that day. So

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<v Speaker 1>my dad save a hundred dollars, he gave it to me,

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<v Speaker 1>put my my sock, and that's all I had. That's

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<v Speaker 1>all I had. You know. I took a bus, took

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<v Speaker 1>like two days to get there. And once you get

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<v Speaker 1>to the border, what you see is people wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>take advantage of you. So that's when you learn about

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<v Speaker 1>the streets. But that's another level of streets. No, that's

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<v Speaker 1>another They can sell you, they can kill you for organs,

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<v Speaker 1>they can I mean, yeah, that is more likely than

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<v Speaker 1>jumping it. So it's not a piece of cake. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm respectful about it. I know I broke a boundary

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<v Speaker 1>and a rule, but it was for a dream. So

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<v Speaker 1>to a point that many times I let the border

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<v Speaker 1>patrol catch me because Americans feed you, so when they

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<v Speaker 1>catch you, they feed you. Mexican police don't feed you

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<v Speaker 1>because many times I didn't eat because I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>save my hundred bucks. When I finally across the border,

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<v Speaker 1>a guy came to me. Skinny guy, dirty as hell

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<v Speaker 1>and smoking a joint. Can I say that, yes you can.

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<v Speaker 1>So this guy came, so all the three things my

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<v Speaker 1>mom's saying not to listen to. Okay, if a guy

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<v Speaker 1>is dirty, but that is skinny, because in Mexico, if

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<v Speaker 1>you're too skinny, there's something wrong with you, right as

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<v Speaker 1>a culture that you want to see you fat. And

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<v Speaker 1>of course if you smoke, we at that time, and

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<v Speaker 1>then the guys it's crazy, you know, So all the

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<v Speaker 1>three things, but inside of me I felt trust mm

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<v Speaker 1>hm wow. Interesting. And the guy said to me, I

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<v Speaker 1>charge you a hundred dollars. So he said, he you

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<v Speaker 1>charge you a hundred dollars, that's right, you want to

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<v Speaker 1>cross the border, I charge you a hundred dollars. That's

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<v Speaker 1>all I had. That's a that's a sign technique, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a sign. Oh he knew the road. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>know that. You don't have to know the path. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they have to know the path. Yeah, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>know when the border patrol changes, all of that stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>So he knew. So finally we crossed. We got to

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<v Speaker 1>the gas station. The guy said, I'm gonna get you

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<v Speaker 1>a taxi and the taxi is gonna take it to

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<v Speaker 1>San Diego. So I don't have any more money. This

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<v Speaker 1>is I'm giving you everything. The guy paid the taxi driver. Wow. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the guy paid the taxi driver at twenty dollars, so

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<v Speaker 1>he only he only made eighty dollars. That to me

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<v Speaker 1>was like, okay, I'm supposed to be here. Well, how

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<v Speaker 1>did you even get there? To kill myself? Yeah? What

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<v Speaker 1>was going on that took you to that? So I

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<v Speaker 1>arrived in l A and took a Greyhound and I

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<v Speaker 1>arrive at nighttime and then I walked in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of the night through skid Road and downtown l A.

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<v Speaker 1>The next day. By that time, I knew the Yellow

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<v Speaker 1>Pages existed, so That's when I started calling kennels. I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to you know, I wanted to work in a kennel. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I already knew. Okay, so what do I gotta do?

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<v Speaker 1>Card watched No, you know, washing dishes? No, I get it,

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<v Speaker 1>But that's not the profession I came to America for.

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<v Speaker 1>So I knew I have to start for the bottom,

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<v Speaker 1>and cleaning kennels is not a problem. Those are the

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<v Speaker 1>jobs the immigrants we get. We don't get the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of the pack jobs. We don't get the top of

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<v Speaker 1>the pack jack, we get the back of the pack.

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<v Speaker 1>See the thing about you, You've always had this certainty.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I just remember, even back in the day, you

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<v Speaker 1>were just so certain to be like I want to

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<v Speaker 1>teach people how to be with their animals. I need

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<v Speaker 1>a TV show. And I was like, wow, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>are so certain about what you saw in your vision. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I come from a low income family. That you have faith,

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<v Speaker 1>you have passion, you have instincts. That's why you survive.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean. Proberty makes you strong. You

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<v Speaker 1>could say that again. You know what I mean? So

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<v Speaker 1>you master poverty. The only thing you have to know

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<v Speaker 1>is how to make money. America is the line of opportunities,

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<v Speaker 1>you know for sure, but it's also the line of

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<v Speaker 1>quality of opportunities, and that's what you gotta look for.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you get from the kennel to your spot

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<v Speaker 1>and self? So the first I became a dog walker

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<v Speaker 1>in Englewood and so the only thing I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>it was illegal to walk dogs of flesh in America.

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<v Speaker 1>I had no idea. I knew I was illegal, but

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know it was illegal to walk dogs of

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<v Speaker 1>flesh in America. So I was walking forty toy dogs

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<v Speaker 1>off leash, yes, in neighborhoods. So it would take me

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<v Speaker 1>two hours to go from Englandwood to South Central, and

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<v Speaker 1>you will always catch me at the same time. Wow. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So I started going to people's homes and said, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of walk your dog. I do it for free.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to make sure your dogs stop barking, and

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<v Speaker 1>I know how can I do it. I'm gonna exercise him.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna take you for the longest walk off his life,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna bring it back, and I'm gonna tell

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<v Speaker 1>you what I did for free. And I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>the other place that we connect. We kind of that

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<v Speaker 1>inner drive and that hard like we have. We have

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<v Speaker 1>the same code. Now, how did you get to the

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<v Speaker 1>TV show? The l A Times heard about me right right,

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<v Speaker 1>and they followed me to a consultation and then at

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<v Speaker 1>the end she said, so you seem to have a

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<v Speaker 1>great thing going on, you know, and what would you

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<v Speaker 1>like to do? What is your next goal? And I say,

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<v Speaker 1>no hesitation, I would like to have my own TV show.

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<v Speaker 1>So the newspaper came on a Sunday Monday was a

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<v Speaker 1>line of producers trying to find out what the show

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<v Speaker 1>was all about. Wow. Wow, Yeah, I started my whole

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<v Speaker 1>thing in Englandwood, in the hood. Yeah, you know, it

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<v Speaker 1>was just a dream. You got to meet people like yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I speak English because of you. How would you describe

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<v Speaker 1>your friendship? The first work comes out of my mouth

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<v Speaker 1>if you ask me, Jada gratitude. That's just we don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to see each other all the time, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. It's like if I call him, he

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<v Speaker 1>shows up. If he calls me, I show up. And

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<v Speaker 1>when we need each other, we're there, you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. And so but we always connected, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel connected. He's my own g because we've known

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<v Speaker 1>each other forever. Yeah, and I think that's the other

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<v Speaker 1>place that we connect. I'm offering you honestly and give

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<v Speaker 1>me honestly. I'm offering you integrity. I'm offering you loyalty

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<v Speaker 1>and give me like like we understand that exchange. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like no question, that's yeah, because I find that with dogs. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so I can have millions of dogs and I will

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<v Speaker 1>find the same thing honestly in loyalty. But it's also

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<v Speaker 1>good to find it in your own kind. Yeah, when

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<v Speaker 1>you can't. Animals are here to remind us about simplicity,

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<v Speaker 1>about honesty, about integity, about loyalty. They're not just for

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<v Speaker 1>affection only. Dogs have to have a purpose in life.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to. It doesn't mind, I know. But he's

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<v Speaker 1>like bits doesn't have a purpose. What purpose does play? Explore?

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<v Speaker 1>But you mean something different when you say foul, because

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<v Speaker 1>this follows me everywhere I go. But I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>that's an I feel like that's anxiety, Like he just

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't want me out of his sight or something. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>there is there is one thing called separation anxiety. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>Many dogs become obsessive, but yeah, I think he's obsessive.

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<v Speaker 1>So when the dog feels that the human doesn't relax

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<v Speaker 1>or anything like that. The dog feels the need to

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<v Speaker 1>overprotect the human. Your philosophy really is then to change me.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean that's that's your work is to change me

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<v Speaker 1>in order to help the dog, right am? I right

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<v Speaker 1>on that, because the dog becomes the energy do you

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<v Speaker 1>project and the activities you do. Yeah, so you're you're

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<v Speaker 1>the I'm the key. You're the key. So if the

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<v Speaker 1>human doesn't practice healthy energy and healthy habits, how can

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<v Speaker 1>the dog practice it? Right? I think I'm so healthy?

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<v Speaker 1>How did that happen? Even in that particular difficult state, Caesar,

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<v Speaker 1>when you felt like you wanted to take your life?

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<v Speaker 1>What was that one thing that you were just like, okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>tell us a little bit about your family that you

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<v Speaker 1>built once you got here. The ex wife, she was

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<v Speaker 1>not an animal person, you know, so, Whisper, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>an animal person. But I didn't know we got pregnant.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. We were not compatible right away. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't take it as a lesson. You take it as

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<v Speaker 1>a as a curse, you know what I mean? You're

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<v Speaker 1>taking as a you know what I mean? Like, why

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<v Speaker 1>why this happened to me? Often you take it upon

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<v Speaker 1>yourself as you did something wrong, you know, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>when you know that I wanted to commit suicide, even

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<v Speaker 1>in that particular difficult state, Caesar, when you really did,

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<v Speaker 1>when you felt like you wanted to take your life,

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<v Speaker 1>what pulled you through that? Like? What was the thing?

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<v Speaker 1>What was that one thing that you were just like, okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>how did you even get there to kill myself? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>What what was going on that that took you to

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<v Speaker 1>that deil? The feeling of failure, I'm not good enough.

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<v Speaker 1>You're talking to yourself, you know, You're nobody's putting you

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<v Speaker 1>in that hole. You're pretty much digging that hole and

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<v Speaker 1>and doing that to yourself. So was it failure in

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<v Speaker 1>your personal life? Nobody loves you, Your pack doesn't love you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's my pack just left. Yeah, okay, so it's not

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<v Speaker 1>it's it feels like your houses on fire and nothing

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<v Speaker 1>you can do and I have to do a live

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<v Speaker 1>tour that will not bring me back into two months later.

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<v Speaker 1>You understand that the way it was deliver that was

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<v Speaker 1>a tough time for me too, because I felt I

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<v Speaker 1>felt really helpless, you know at that time, just not

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<v Speaker 1>known exactly how to help you know, but you did. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess you know. Yes, It's like I never went

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<v Speaker 1>away because I always had that anchor with Jada, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, Like I always make a call. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's just something inside of me that make

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<v Speaker 1>a call as soon as I make a call, and

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<v Speaker 1>then she anchored me back, you know. But it's something

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<v Speaker 1>needed to happen to me in order for me to

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<v Speaker 1>to practice what I teach. Yeah, and that that's a

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<v Speaker 1>good point because I do believe that all the trials

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<v Speaker 1>that have occurred, I just see how after that and

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<v Speaker 1>when you come through that, how everything just expands and

0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:39.000
<v Speaker 1>explodes and mind in regards to your relationship with the

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<v Speaker 1>dogs and how connecting humans to dogs deepens and the

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing. What did you find for yourself in that

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<v Speaker 1>position of that depression that could get you out into

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<v Speaker 1>a place of like, no, I am going to live,

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<v Speaker 1>I am going to be Okay. I didn't love myself,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, even though all that accomplishment and all the

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<v Speaker 1>things that I have done, as you get to a

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<v Speaker 1>point where I was already in my way and I

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<v Speaker 1>love it myself. God, you see what I'm saying. So

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<v Speaker 1>that needed to be like the slap in the face

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<v Speaker 1>to awaken me to start loving myself again because I

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<v Speaker 1>went into a place where I wasn't doing things for

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<v Speaker 1>you for me. Yeah, you know what I mean. Like

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<v Speaker 1>when I came to America to gain back how I

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<v Speaker 1>came to America, I did because I love myself and

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<v Speaker 1>I believe in myself. Can we bring in our fish balls?

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<v Speaker 1>This is ourish bowl right here where we pick questions.

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<v Speaker 1>So do I pick it or you pick it? That's

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<v Speaker 1>up to you. You want me to pick it for you,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to pick it, Okay, you pick it? Caesar,

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<v Speaker 1>Are female dogs easier to train the male dogs? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's a gender, you know, uh, definitely, party

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<v Speaker 1>training will be the only thing will be easier with

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<v Speaker 1>a girl dog. The girl dog. Yeah, there's that way

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<v Speaker 1>with humans too, by the way, easier. It's like in

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<v Speaker 1>the human world and a woman become an engineer. Of course,

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<v Speaker 1>of course has nothing to do with the gender. What

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<v Speaker 1>is your motivation? Right? So what motivate dogs to do

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<v Speaker 1>things is food, toys and you. So you just have

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<v Speaker 1>to find what motivates the dog's okay there. It is

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times we would says are females better

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<v Speaker 1>than males. It's preference because in the end the dog world,

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<v Speaker 1>the females are going to be smaller, the males are

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<v Speaker 1>going to be bigger. So in the animal world the

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<v Speaker 1>males are the best looking ones. So if your preference

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<v Speaker 1>is bigger, more, more, fur, better, code and things like that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you gonna mail for that. Yeah, prettier huh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the peacock for example, and the ducks and the dogs

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<v Speaker 1>for example. You know that only happens in the animal

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<v Speaker 1>world and the human world. We're the ugly ones who

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<v Speaker 1>we get it. We get it. This one is what

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<v Speaker 1>is the most common mistake a pet owner can make.

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<v Speaker 1>The most common mistake a pet owner can make is

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<v Speaker 1>not understanding what the needs of a dog's are. So

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<v Speaker 1>first is the needs, and then is the training. So

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<v Speaker 1>with humans, though, the need for us typically is to

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<v Speaker 1>love the animals, so we tend to love the animal first,

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe too much so a lot of times. For example,

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<v Speaker 1>like the most typicult it is right now as people

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<v Speaker 1>are postponding to have children, right, so the dog becomes

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<v Speaker 1>the empty space fil field, right, So that's more for

0:19:44.480 --> 0:19:46.399
<v Speaker 1>the human than it is for the dog. That's so

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<v Speaker 1>what happens when a human does that, the human is

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<v Speaker 1>going to treat the dog as a human child when

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<v Speaker 1>a dog is a puppy. So a lot of times people, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>he's a puppy, and the dog is three years old,

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<v Speaker 1>so they still treating him a puppy. So mentally the

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<v Speaker 1>dog is confused. Right, It's like a mama's boy, you

0:20:06.119 --> 0:20:13.080
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Nobody wants to marry a mama's boy. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that is real. But Caesar, I love you, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you know, my gratitude for you is is

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<v Speaker 1>for the next millions of life. Thank you for letting

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<v Speaker 1>me come into your family. You know, from the first

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<v Speaker 1>day I feel part of the family. You know, absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>trust it. And that's a big deal. Yes, that's a

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<v Speaker 1>big deal. So I just know that I'm very grateful

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<v Speaker 1>for everything you have done and you have done for

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<v Speaker 1>my family. Never actually told you that you have blessed

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<v Speaker 1>my family, that you would not believe if you did it,

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<v Speaker 1>just because that's who you are. Thank you, Caesar. Give

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<v Speaker 1>me some it's amazing. You guys are making me tier

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<v Speaker 1>up on our next red table talk at those two

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<v Speaker 1>bottles of wine and was going for the third bottle

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<v Speaker 1>and it was like, now, hold up, I might have

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<v Speaker 1>a problem here. And I was raining pills like skittles

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<v Speaker 1>and I was in a coma for three days. My

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<v Speaker 1>mother struggled with addiction to heroin. It took me six

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<v Speaker 1>years to get one year clean. And I just said,

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