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Speaker 1: The Nicky Glazer Podcast. Here's Nikki. Hello, it's Nikky. You

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Speaker 1: welcome to the podcast. Here I am. I'm in Satlas,

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Speaker 1: Missouri with Andrew. He has a basketball he is um

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Speaker 1: playing with and hitting the mic with Hey, Andrew, how's

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Speaker 1: it going. How's it hanging? No, you're not throwing that ball.

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Speaker 1: It's that is you would hit the mic, it would

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Speaker 1: hit my tooth, knock it out, and the show would

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Speaker 1: be over. Come back. Oh my god. Yeah, the tooth

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Speaker 1: just lodges into my perfectly smooth skinny jeans local cord um.

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Speaker 1: Noah is here in Arizona. Um, thanks so much to

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Speaker 1: everyone could back. Oh yeah, you want him to do

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Speaker 1: a layup? Yeah, that's like the one word go from basketball.

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Speaker 1: It's the only word. Well, that's so cute. I was like, really,

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Speaker 1: do you want to learn something? A college layup is

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Speaker 1: and you jump high enough where you slapped it back

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Speaker 1: and take you four to six years to do it. Well,

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Speaker 1: it can take its junior year in high school. I

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Speaker 1: could finally do it. It It was a big moment. It's

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Speaker 1: a big moment for boys. What does it wait, So

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Speaker 1: it's a different sort So they got like along like

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Speaker 1: the backboards. Some backboards are higher, but most normal size

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Speaker 1: backwards backboards. When you do a layup, you slap the

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Speaker 1: backboard after you let the ball, you like kind of

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Speaker 1: give it a little white guy dunk. That's what it's

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Speaker 1: like when you when people. Sometimes when I'm running, I

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Speaker 1: just want to, like, I like grab for a branch

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Speaker 1: or something. You know, you got to hit things up

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Speaker 1: high when they're there to be hit. I love hitting

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Speaker 1: a thing up high. I really do. It's so fun. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there's a few signs in our hallway where you get

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Speaker 1: to hit them a little bit. Really, at least on

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Speaker 1: the third floor, are you That's why we've had a

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Speaker 1: bunch of fire alarms go off just trying to take

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Speaker 1: that five nine to about six one vertical. It was

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Speaker 1: huge for guys back in the day. They had shoes

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Speaker 1: where you would pump them. Well, that was one thing

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Speaker 1: we did have. Are so cool cock true story. But no,

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Speaker 1: they do stuff for your calves where it was called

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Speaker 1: strength shoes or something, and they were like higher here.

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Speaker 1: Those they were called shape shape ups. Do you remember

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Speaker 1: shape ups? We are all the women who wore shape

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Speaker 1: ups in the two thousand and eight I want to

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Speaker 1: say seven eight. They were so popular. Brooke Burke, I

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Speaker 1: think was like the spokesman form they were in every

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Speaker 1: magazine was like shape Ups and they were bigger in

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Speaker 1: the back than the front, so that when you walked,

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Speaker 1: it like made you you're almost like walking uphill down hill.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It was just but they promised that

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Speaker 1: you would like get extra like muscle tone from them.

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Speaker 1: People are like, I want to just walk normally. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. People are always looking for shortcuts to burn

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Speaker 1: calories or straight tone or star thin. If you can

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Speaker 1: just like strap on a belt that like vibrates, people

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Speaker 1: are still falling for that ship, Like do you still say?

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Speaker 1: Like breaking news, Sketchers had to pay forty million dollars

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Speaker 1: to settle Federal Trade Commission charges that had deceived customers

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Speaker 1: with ads for the toning shoes. Yes, bullshit, there's no

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Speaker 1: one that has better legs because they wore shape Ups.

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Speaker 1: But at what point can if I was the plaintiff,

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Speaker 1: at what point do I have a case? You know

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Speaker 1: what I mean? Like how many times you have to

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Speaker 1: wear them to go? You know what? You bet? Someone

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Speaker 1: was like, let's take this, let's go to an expert

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Speaker 1: and run tests on it and get like an actual

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Speaker 1: data back about what this is doing. And then when

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Speaker 1: it proved nothing, it was like, okay, we have a

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Speaker 1: case if you bought shape ups between the years, A man,

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Speaker 1: I just missed out on a class actions something that

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Speaker 1: Now there was some thing that I just missed the window.

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Speaker 1: It was like some kind of beauty product. It would

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Speaker 1: have just been fun to get a part of that.

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Speaker 1: You know, they paid like fourteen billion dollars or something

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Speaker 1: to you know, pay off all these people. I forget

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Speaker 1: what it was. This is a pointless story, but um, well,

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Speaker 1: how do you get on the list like that? Like

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Speaker 1: how do you got to find a lawyer? Or does

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Speaker 1: one lawyer get everyone together? And it was something that

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Speaker 1: I bought it like Target, though they wouldn't have my

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Speaker 1: name associated with it. It wasn't like a huge purchase either,

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Speaker 1: but it would have just been fun to go like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: fuck you, that didn't work. Forget what it was. Um,

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Speaker 1: I and baby powder. You guys know about it, Like

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Speaker 1: Johnson Johnson's baby powder? Um? I mean they don't use

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Speaker 1: it anymore. But for years it had talc in it.

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Speaker 1: which talc is. Talc Is has asbestos in it, and

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Speaker 1: people have read about Johnson Johnson's baby powder and every

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Speaker 1: little baby, every baby, and every women. They used to

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Speaker 1: if you don't put baby powder on your pussy so

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Speaker 1: that everyone doesn't have to smell it. So women, we're

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Speaker 1: dousing themselves in it for years, and all these women

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Speaker 1: got um uh uterine cancer, ovarian cancer and wonder big

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Speaker 1: pharma and big baby powder. They know each other and

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Speaker 1: they're like, and I'll scratch your back, you scratch your mind,

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like like give people cancer.

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Speaker 1: And then I mean it's very Aaron BROCKOVICI, I love

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Speaker 1: that movie, a movie that I almost didn't see, and

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Speaker 1: it after it was big, because it was big when

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Speaker 1: I was like not into like things about lawn to

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Speaker 1: watch right after Pretty Woman, Yeah, I just just see

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Speaker 1: how where she went with her life. She became like

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Speaker 1: a brilliant pretty woman. Julia Roberts was always capable of

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Speaker 1: being a litigators. She She's a moxie, that girl. But

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Speaker 1: that is like a movie. There's so many old movies

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Speaker 1: that I just was too young to appreciate how like

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Speaker 1: fucking good they are. Like if I would have been too.

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Speaker 1: If someone out there hasn't seen Jerry McGuire, get fucking

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Speaker 1: on it, Aaron Brockovich, Um, what are some other movies

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Speaker 1: that like First and Last Name, Thomas Crown Affair. I've

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Speaker 1: I never saw the Green Mile. I never saw that's

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Speaker 1: my new my next nephew, that Miles Green. That's a

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Speaker 1: good name. Miles has been big. Right now, we're just

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Speaker 1: stumble upon a child's name and you're like, I want

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Speaker 1: you like, if you're like, I find a name, I

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Speaker 1: got a name speaking of a name. So you know

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Speaker 1: how we call things that are like hard to hear

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Speaker 1: you like ear rape but said French so it doesn't

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Speaker 1: offend anyone. Um, and you can say it in front

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Speaker 1: of people and no one goes your rape. Um. Sara

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Speaker 1: Lena saw some Sarah therapist my friend's earl A therapist

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Speaker 1: that is like challenging her to put herself in more

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Speaker 1: with me saying this if she's not well, this is

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Speaker 1: just a test, but you have uncomable listen to this podcast,

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Speaker 1: listen to me paraphrase the therapy you went to privately

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Speaker 1: and shared with me one on one. No, I really

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Speaker 1: don't think she'd have a problem with this, um but

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Speaker 1: she went to a guy that was like because and

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Speaker 1: I think so many people can relate to this. She's

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Speaker 1: a people pleaser. She just wants everyone to be okay

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Speaker 1: all the time. She will sacrifice anything of herself to

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Speaker 1: make others feel comfortable all the time. She she's better

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Speaker 1: you please not stop doing that? Because I really like

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Speaker 1: and having you buy me a Dave Matthew sweatshirt. She's like,

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Speaker 1: by the way of stay in the hand, it will

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Speaker 1: be a week now, Like, yeah, I think he's I

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Speaker 1: think he's bad. I think he's bad. He told me

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Speaker 1: you'd say this, Certil, And I want to challenge you

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Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable by paying for my stay. Is that

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Speaker 1: even though I know that's like huge standing up rerself,

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Speaker 1: want to get out of this. So she's supposed to

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Speaker 1: do a breathing technique, she said, where it's like holding

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Speaker 1: of breathing technique that causes anxiety, and she's supposed to

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Speaker 1: meditate through it to like trigger her anxiety in a

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Speaker 1: safe place and then learn breathing like other techniques to

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Speaker 1: When I when I started taking lessons, when they you know,

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Speaker 1: scales and stuff like that, I'm like, can I just

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Speaker 1: play crash into me nine times? You know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Like I don't anything. It's like it's the same. It

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Speaker 1: goes back to the reading the book and learning about

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Speaker 1: the clouds. Like it's like an extra layer of like

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Speaker 1: we don't like theory. I don't like theory, like the

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Speaker 1: idea of what is it about? It's like, no, just

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Speaker 1: I think that there and for what I want to

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Speaker 1: do on guitar, I really don't think that I need scales,

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Speaker 1: but I do believe that they help with like moving

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Speaker 1: that's how my brain works, better than being like, oh

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Speaker 1: well then if I take this, this is an e

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Speaker 1: and then learning how like it jumps whatever that will

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Speaker 1: shut up about it. But it's it's just perfect weather

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00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 1: because you guys had probably it's such a hot summer

427
00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:56,639
Speaker 1: tucks in. Yeah, but it's fine. It's only today, Like

428
00:21:56,720 --> 00:22:00,800
Speaker 1: only three dogs died in the sun today. It's so perfect.

429
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,400
Speaker 1: I cooked my breakfast inside today, not on the sidewalk.

430
00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 1: I saw a cactus shivering. It was so cold. That's

431
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:13,640
Speaker 1: so cute. Cactuses shivering, like just it taking its big

432
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:17,879
Speaker 1: arms and then crossing them and going like but I know,

433
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:20,280
Speaker 1: and they have like all those spikes, like I feel

434
00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:23,880
Speaker 1: bad for like that, or like like really muscular men,

435
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 1: like they can never hug themselves. Yeah, it's never comfortable.

436
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 1: Each spike is like their dad telling them they're not

437
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:33,840
Speaker 1: worth it. Poor Catt. You know, porcupine and cactus should

438
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 1: hang out more often. Oh my god. The other night,

439
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 1: can I just say, Chris and I were I don't

440
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 1: forget what we're doing, and he thanked me for something

441
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:46,000
Speaker 1: and I go anytime porcupine, and he was He laughed,

442
00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:49,040
Speaker 1: so it was like a sustained laugh for like a minute,

443
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 1: and he was like, don't ever say that again. So

444
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:53,959
Speaker 1: now I just send him. I send him means all

445
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 1: the time that just say any time, and then a

446
00:22:56,359 --> 00:23:01,880
Speaker 1: picture of a porcupine after it. Anytime porcupine, so cute,

447
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: any talent porcupine at Tampa. I know it would be

448
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 1: my catchphrase if I was a wholesome figure. See you later, alligator. Yeah,

449
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 1: it totally is. Any time porcupine. Hey, you guys, take

450
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 1: it and run with it. You don't even have to

451
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 1: give me credit. I'm sure about. The first person was

452
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:22,359
Speaker 1: all right, what's the news? Noah? Okay, So a study

453
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 1: finds that people prefer that an opposite sex friend be

454
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 1: more ambitious, intelligent, attractive, and of higher social status than

455
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 1: a same sex friend. Yeah you know why I thought

456
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: about this, Okay. I think it's because because why would

457
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:44,200
Speaker 1: I want a man that I'm friends with to be

458
00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:48,120
Speaker 1: more attractive, smarter, more successful than a woman I hang

459
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:52,120
Speaker 1: out with? And it's because I think possibly, and I don't.

460
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 1: I think I read the study and they did not

461
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 1: say why they think this is or did they know?

462
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 1: Because usually they give like a reason like why this

463
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:04,399
Speaker 1: could be And here's my you know, no degree theory,

464
00:24:04,640 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: my English degree, but I got it through spark notes theory.

465
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: When I go out with a male friend, people society

466
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:16,560
Speaker 1: will assume that that is my lover, and so under

467
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 1: the assumption that other people have of my opposite sex friend,

468
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 1: it's going to reflect on me if they think I'm

469
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,680
Speaker 1: copulating with this person. I need them, even if they're

470
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 1: not to appear successful, handsome, and smart. Whereas with girlfriends,

471
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: people don't assume you guys are banging. It's weird like

472
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,880
Speaker 1: even with same sex. At least back in the day,

473
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 1: I used to only want hot friends, probably because I

474
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 1: just wanted to feel associated with other hot people. Um,

475
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 1: I don't know why. It's yeah, In in college, I

476
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,639
Speaker 1: was just like, if you were like not attractive, I wasn't.

477
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 1: I was. I'd be your friend, but we wouldn't like

478
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,480
Speaker 1: my close guy friends are of you're the least attractive person.

479
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:05,360
Speaker 1: That was that back. Did you ever feel that way

480
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 1: like when you're with your friends to do or feel

481
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 1: like I couldn't be around April Macy. We went to

482
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:13,479
Speaker 1: Um Korea ones to perform for the troops. Which one

483
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 1: I'm not going to tell you South or North, but

484
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: I think you can guess. We went on the line

485
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 1: TMZ line Um. Harvey Levin was there, so um. But

486
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 1: I felt invisible, like I didn't even want attention for

487
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,280
Speaker 1: men back then, really, but it was like I didn't exist.

488
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 1: I was with Ginger Gonzaga who plays who She's on

489
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 1: she Hulk now she plays the character Nicki and She's

490
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: she Hulk, and April Macy and it was like I

491
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 1: did not exist, and it was it was awful. And

492
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 1: there are also times where I'm like with Sara Lena,

493
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 1: and you know, I have a complex about this from

494
00:25:50,840 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 1: my sister growing up of being like so pretty and

495
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:55,439
Speaker 1: everyone having to talk about it. But man, there were

496
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: times that I would have like crushes on guys. I

497
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 1: think I've even told you this, Like at the Seller

498
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: and I Sara Lena would drop by and I'd be like, guys,

499
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:04,439
Speaker 1: I think I like this guy, and he'd be like

500
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 1: hanging out and then Sara Lena would drop by and

501
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 1: we'd all be having fun, and then Sara Lena would

502
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 1: go to the bathroom and the guy would go, oh

503
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 1: my god, she is so beau. I can't even be

504
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 1: around her, Nikki. I can't even look at her. It's insane,

505
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: and I just go, well, this is over whether or

506
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 1: not you It's a good test, right, get you out

507
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: of the thing is they should be allowed to say

508
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 1: a woman is extremely attractive and not have it mean

509
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:28,680
Speaker 1: that they don't want to be with me, Like I

510
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: definitely think that Chris could and probably anyone I date.

511
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: I might love the way I look, but can admit

512
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: that there are women that are more sexually like appetizing,

513
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 1: and there's where they don't think they can They're either

514
00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:46,440
Speaker 1: too close to you or they don't think they can

515
00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 1: get you to bet when when I hear she's but

516
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,919
Speaker 1: she's a different it's a different league, Nikki, She's like

517
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: an age that I'm just saying that they think you're boys,

518
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: Like that's what it used to be with these guys.

519
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: I would like be like, wait, are we gonna take

520
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 1: this friendship to the next level? Like it wasn't even

521
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: you know, it would be like a casual thing. And

522
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: then I'd be like it was so triggering for when

523
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: guys used to always be obsessed with my sister but

524
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 1: I was just like, well, then you're not even looking

525
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,359
Speaker 1: at me that way. Like I would love to be

526
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: a girl who gets up from a table and guys

527
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,920
Speaker 1: are like, oh my god, if anything, They're like, she

528
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: had like so much salad in her teeth and it's

529
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 1: so hard to go. Sara is beautiful, but um, I

530
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: want to suck you. So what do you think about?

531
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:31,879
Speaker 1: Like knew that they would be horrified that they passed up,

532
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 1: because they would, you know, like they had no idea

533
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 1: they had a chance with me, that they had no idea.

534
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: They fucking blew it at that moment. Like if you like,

535
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:42,120
Speaker 1: if you're around, don't don't let me just say, don't

536
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:46,120
Speaker 1: ever say a girl is so attractive around another girl. Don't.

537
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 1: We don't want to hear it. It's rude because we

538
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 1: all say we all value our looks, whether or not

539
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:56,959
Speaker 1: you've accepted whether or not someone's a model, and like

540
00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 1: you think, well, clearly, my friend isn't going to get

541
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 1: else with me comploning a model. She's a model. We

542
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: all know she's prettier than all of us. It's still rude.

543
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 1: It's not been plenty of times the other way around,

544
00:28:07,720 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: where if I brought around a hot man, you would

545
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,880
Speaker 1: tell me if the guy to handle it, No, no,

546
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 1: I it is, but it is kind of that because

547
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: just what for men. It's like I'm a little bit

548
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: more sensitive to it now because I realize you guys

549
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:22,639
Speaker 1: are a lot more sensitive than I thought, because you

550
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: don't really talk about how sensitive you are, so we

551
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 1: don't really know. That's the thing, Like you guys get

552
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 1: so upset about what guys do. Like So I had

553
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,560
Speaker 1: two friends, Aaron and Glenn, and they'd go out. They'd

554
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 1: wear like theory button down shirts and they'd have like

555
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: one have highlights. They're both six one six, And I'd

556
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: go out and I'm not an ugly guy, but compared

557
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: to them, it was just like automatically the eyeline of

558
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 1: the like hotter, taller girl, it would go towards them.

559
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 1: Then I would just instead of like dealing with it

560
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 1: or whatever, I just get as drunk as possible. Didn't

561
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: want anyone in a weird way. You were sexual, Andrew,

562
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 1: I was a sexual, But I think part of that

563
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: of feeling defeated before like led to that, Like I

564
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 1: didn't even want to compete. I didn't even want to

565
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: get the idea of rejection, So I just get as

566
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: fucked up as possible and then you know, have sex

567
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: with a lamp post, and even the lamp post like

568
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 1: I was Glen, he's taller. Yeah, I'm like, fucking lampost.

569
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: You have to stand on like a newspaper dispenser to

570
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 1: even get in the hole. And they're like, Glenn wouldn't

571
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: have to do that. It was all in black and

572
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: white in the rain. For some reason. It's so sad, No,

573
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 1: but yeah, I think like guys, that's how guys deal

574
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 1: with these things. They just get fucked up. And that's

575
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: what I used to do too, is just get sucked

576
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 1: up in like also just you know, I go to

577
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,960
Speaker 1: like I'll just kill myself. Like what's the point of

578
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,400
Speaker 1: being alive if no one's gonna want to fun? If

579
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:50,959
Speaker 1: everyone wants to be with beautiful women like and I

580
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 1: can't be that? What why do I want to exist?

581
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 1: It's the only thing and I still have a little

582
00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: bit of that in me. It's so weird, but it's um.

583
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 1: I was thinking about this whole, like, I I feel like,

584
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 1: you know, Chris has Chris went to lunch with a

585
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 1: girl recently that was in town, and like, hit him

586
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: up and I'm like, who's that that you're texting? I

587
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:14,360
Speaker 1: saw a girl's name and he's like, oh, it's my

588
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 1: friend from whenever ago. And I'm like, I feel like

589
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: there's just a sense of like is there either she

590
00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 1: likes it, there's but there was no sense. He was

591
00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 1: just like, oh, she was an old friend and um

592
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,000
Speaker 1: and maybe they had a history together. I don't want

593
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: to disclose that, yes or no, but there was a reason.

594
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 1: Most women, I have to say, would get very jealous.

595
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying I'm like, maybe I'm wrong. I

596
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,880
Speaker 1: think that most of the women I know would not

597
00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 1: be totally fine with their boyfriend going to lunch with

598
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: a girl that they've never heard about in the nine

599
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 1: years we've been dating. Yeah, I have a question. Yeah,

600
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 1: does it it being an old because I feel like

601
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: an old friend is like somehow more palatable than a

602
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,920
Speaker 1: new girlfriend, Like, oh, I met this girl three days ago,

603
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 1: We're going to lunch. Like if there's history there, you're

604
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 1: more okay with it. Yeah. Well that's the other thing

605
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: is like it sucks that friends of opposite sex. It

606
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 1: would be like, well, then bring me to and it's like, well,

607
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 1: I don't want to bring you to everything that I

608
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: do in my life. And let's say I meet a

609
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 1: new friend that's a girl and she's like, I want

610
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: to bring my boyfriend. If I were to say, can

611
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: you not bring your husband or your boyfriend, it wouldn't

612
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: mean I want to fuck her. Yet when a girl

613
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:22,959
Speaker 1: wants to hang out with a guy and says can

614
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 1: you not bring your girlfriend? Somehow that means I want

615
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: to fuck you. And so the girl, like a girlfriend,

616
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: will take that as oh, you want to be alone

617
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 1: with him. It's like, yeah, because I like to be

618
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 1: alone with my friends. When other people get added on

619
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:37,040
Speaker 1: later on, I like to still be with that. Like

620
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: I'd like to hanging out with Krison her husband, but

621
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: I prefer Krisen without her husband more. Sorry, Corey. It's

622
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 1: just and because it adds, it doesn't. It just creates

623
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 1: a dynamic is different. But if you think about it,

624
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: if you're if you have friends that are of the

625
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 1: opposite sex, if you want to hang out with them

626
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:56,479
Speaker 1: alone and you go, hey, can we just hang out

627
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:59,840
Speaker 1: alone and not with then it's like, oh, you clearly

628
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: to fuck him, and it's like no, I just don't

629
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: want the partner. Because things change when there's a partner there,

630
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: but it changes everything. But I was going to say

631
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 1: is that I was like a little bit like, Okay,

632
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,120
Speaker 1: you're gonna go hang out with this girl that I've

633
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 1: never even heard of, and you've known her longer, like

634
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: you know, she's an old she's a sister friend of

635
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 1: a old she's a sister of a friend that you know,

636
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: they went through stuff together, and so it was just like, Okay,

637
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: if she's hotter, are you more upset? Told me that

638
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 1: there was no vibe with them, and I trust him

639
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: and even if they're I mean, that made me want

640
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 1: to see her less. Brennan had a dream that I

641
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: cheated on her and but the girl wasn't as attractive

642
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: as her, so she wasn't as upset. And I was like,

643
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: that's an interesting way to look at it, because part

644
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 1: of me would be like I would want if to

645
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 1: be more attractive, because then it's like, well, I understand

646
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: your value, yeah, like I give I put her on

647
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 1: a pedestal. Now is someone that I don't think that's

648
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: attractive get to you, then I feel like, well I

649
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 1: would go what's wrong with my personality? Like you went

650
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: for someone less attractive than that means that they probably

651
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 1: have some kind of winning spark about them. That is,

652
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,479
Speaker 1: maybe I'm thinking I'm more attractive than I would want

653
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 1: Chris to be with someone more attractive than me, so

654
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 1: that it's like that's a reason to go, because like

655
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: I can't offer you that interesting, you know, like I

656
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 1: can't offer you that waste? Do you want to whatever

657
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 1: it is? Whereas if it was like I just want

658
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,959
Speaker 1: to be with this girl that's like doesn't have the

659
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 1: things that I know he likes in a body, and

660
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, why are you with her? Then it means

661
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 1: that there's something else there, which is so much more

662
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:38,560
Speaker 1: devastating because we lose everything else and we also lose

663
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 1: that eventually because your mind goes. But um so I

664
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: let him. I didn't let him go, but he went

665
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: to this lunch and it was so awesome because after

666
00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: the lunch, he like I knew he was going to

667
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: lunch this day. I was kind of thinking about it

668
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 1: a lot, and even though I just I just was

669
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: like worried that this girl, I just have a fear

670
00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: that like, even though I trust him and I and

671
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 1: I even if she did do this, which she didn't do,

672
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: but even if she did try to go after him

673
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: and like sabotage our relationship and like just plant seeds

674
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 1: of like well, I heard Nikki say this on a podcaster,

675
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:14,399
Speaker 1: like just shitty things that I know she could say

676
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: to get him to maybe be in a fight or

677
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 1: like be upset with me. I was just like I

678
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: was just thinking about it, like I just don't want

679
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: her to try to come after my guy, and she

680
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 1: definitely did not. That was not their vibe. But afterwards

681
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 1: he was able to hang out with someone, a friend

682
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:34,919
Speaker 1: who was able to talk to him about emotions, because

683
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: that's what a women do. Women ask what's going on

684
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 1: in your life. They don't just talk about what new

685
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 1: bike gear you got. They don't just talk about what

686
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:46,320
Speaker 1: sports thing is going on. Men need women friends. Encourage

687
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,640
Speaker 1: your man if you trust him to have female friends,

688
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 1: because he is going to share things emotionally with that

689
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 1: woman because women naturally are more emotional that he will

690
00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: not share with you because you're his girlfriend. And it's

691
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 1: just you don't even want those emotions. You don't want

692
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 1: that mixed up in your romance because it's gonn it's

693
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 1: not you don't want your guy to cry to you

694
00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:05,920
Speaker 1: and too so he you know you want that, but

695
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: like a lot of that is a boner killer in

696
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 1: a relationship. The man feels really like soft afterwards if

697
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: he cries to his girlfriend and the girlfriend kind of

698
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 1: feels like, oh now, I he's not as like there's

699
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 1: a lot of weird stuff going on. Encourage your guy

700
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 1: friends to have girlfriends. Because my guy came back to

701
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:25,279
Speaker 1: me and was, like, we just talked about a friend

702
00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:27,480
Speaker 1: that we lost, like a mutual friend that you know,

703
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: we both like had a fall like you know, died

704
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: and not falling out and died, and like we both

705
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: got to like talk about our feelings about that, and

706
00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: I just got to share some feelings around this other

707
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: thing that I haven't been able to talk to anyone

708
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 1: about because she kind of related to it because we

709
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: know the same people. And he was like a totally

710
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 1: like chills to stare. Pearl talks about and mating in captivity. Really,

711
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,399
Speaker 1: your partner can't be everything for you, so you have

712
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 1: to have other social circles and friends and stuff and

713
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 1: men because going to Hooters to watch you know, uh

714
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 1: m m a is not going to get your man

715
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,440
Speaker 1: to talk about his feelings. So men, men need female friends.

716
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: So I'm encouraging Chris. I'm like, go, I mean I

717
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: would not. I don't care if he has female friends.

718
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 1: I want him to have more because he comes back

719
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: to me a more relaxed, chilled out, emotionally vulnerable person

720
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: that he because he got things. I didn't say it

721
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:25,480
Speaker 1: to him at the time, but I'm listening to this

722
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: being like, that's because you hung out with a woman.

723
00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 1: Like He's like, it was so good because I talked

724
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 1: about like my feelings about this thing, like I suffered

725
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 1: this like loss that I don't think I really ever

726
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,720
Speaker 1: talked to anyone about. And I was like, oh, because

727
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 1: it's a woman. You talked to a fucking woman, and

728
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:44,000
Speaker 1: like orgasm Emotionally, it's like now I could just relax

729
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 1: with the person I didn't talk to those about that

730
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 1: stuff with me. You. I feel like there are women

731
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,160
Speaker 1: out there or men that are like, oh, you went

732
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: to this person about this, but you woantn't come to me,

733
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 1: and they don't want them to go to you with

734
00:36:56,760 --> 00:37:00,440
Speaker 1: this is what I'm saying. But I get what you're saying.

735
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,479
Speaker 1: For the man and the woman, like he whenever there

736
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: is like an emotional like um release between us which

737
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,319
Speaker 1: I'm always like super horny for if he you know,

738
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:17,399
Speaker 1: there he does not feel frisky right after that, if

739
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: he's like just like cried about you know, like about

740
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 1: it in a in a way that seems like a

741
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,880
Speaker 1: little bit more feminine energy. He is not wanting to

742
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: like throw me up against the wall and ravage me.

743
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: It's like it takes a little bit. So I think

744
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 1: it's a plea home frisk gear. He just um, it

745
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 1: did what it what it did was it did It

746
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,839
Speaker 1: made us closer. It made me feel so much more

747
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 1: relaxed around him because I could feel that there was

748
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: like he needed to talk to someone about about this

749
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 1: thing that might have been permeating his personality for months.

750
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: So many times I've talked to you over the years

751
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: where it's like I thought I had a perspective of

752
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 1: like what the girl was thinking or what you know

753
00:37:56,600 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 1: how and it's just completely changed or I thought of

754
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,360
Speaker 1: it in a different way. To help me tremendously, because

755
00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 1: you already opposite sex, because you can put yourself in

756
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: their heels well not even about not even like women stuff,

757
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 1: just like any life stuff like But I do I

758
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 1: do get what you're saying. We're the woman will be like, well,

759
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:16,759
Speaker 1: why can you talk to her about those things? But

760
00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 1: you really you want your man. You I want my

761
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 1: partner to be able to have to keep his own counsel,

762
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: to be able to share things with someone that he

763
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 1: doesn't share with me. Like yesterday went over Chris's house

764
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 1: and he had an alarm clock that is one of

765
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 1: those ones that lights up slowly tweet you up and

766
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: I go, when did you get that? And he's like,

767
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, and I go, and we always my

768
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 1: new thing is to go how much research did you

769
00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:44,279
Speaker 1: do on that? Because he's like the other day had

770
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: a yoga mat and he's like, I've done I did

771
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 1: ten hours of research before I found this. Like he

772
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 1: finds the best of everything, and he's he's he was

773
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:53,120
Speaker 1: so much times researching stuff that he uses less time

774
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:56,800
Speaker 1: than he doesn't. Go who is this guy that hasn't

775
00:38:57,000 --> 00:39:00,080
Speaker 1: light up alarm clock? Like that is a specific for that.

776
00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, it just like lights up

777
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 1: so that you wake up almost like with the world.

778
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,160
Speaker 1: Like it's almost like I had it this morning because

779
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: my my sleep ass fell out off during the night

780
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: and then he woke up for radio at five in

781
00:39:12,680 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: the morning and I woke up to this like light

782
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 1: coming on, just like and it was like calming. I

783
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 1: like woke up and I was like, hey, where were

784
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 1: you going to ready for? Like I was just like

785
00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:23,120
Speaker 1: kind of like waking up in like a campsite. Like

786
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: I was just kind of like I'm going to go

787
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: to the stream and wash my face. Like it was

788
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: just a gentler wake up. So he's onto something. But

789
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 1: I felt like, who are you? I was like, I

790
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 1: don't know this guy. This is something you would have

791
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: been talking to me about, like I'm gonna buy an

792
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 1: alarm clock. It's going to be this light up one.

793
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 1: It just felt like, oh, there's facets to this man

794
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:47,000
Speaker 1: that are not my business that he has kept to himself.

795
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 1: There was something else the other night where I was

796
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 1: like when did you start doing that? Like you picked

797
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: up that light fixture? Like when did you do that?

798
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: You're a guy who picks out light fixtures? And why

799
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:57,839
Speaker 1: did you like get flushed? What are you talking about?

800
00:39:57,840 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 1: Flush with the wall? I don't even know what these

801
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,360
Speaker 1: words are. It was like, I love when I uncovered

802
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 1: things about my boyfriend, and there's a part of me

803
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 1: that goes, why did you tell me about this. Why

804
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: didn't you tell me that you have been training? But

805
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: it's like, not, I have so much ship that I

806
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,879
Speaker 1: keep secret, not secret, but that it's just like it's

807
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 1: not it's it's mine or it's something that I share

808
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: with one of my friends, and he doesn't give a funk.

809
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: It doesn't really he doesn't need to know. It's not

810
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,879
Speaker 1: gonna make a relationship better. So I think that like

811
00:40:27,400 --> 00:40:33,080
Speaker 1: this idea, like you're saying about your partner needs to

812
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 1: be everything, Like they don't need to be everything. We

813
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: should want our partners to be multi vested, to have

814
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 1: their own lives and be able to I would totally

815
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: be fine with Chris going to dinner with another woman

816
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 1: he met who's just like I don't know, and yeah,

817
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: you can come along sometime. But to be like, I

818
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 1: don't even need to go go hang out with your friend.

819
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 1: My dad the other night, I'm talking to my parents

820
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 1: about this, and my dad was like, yeah, like, your

821
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: mom won't let me be friends with this girl I

822
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 1: just went down the street. You're not You're not being

823
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 1: friends with who. He's like, she's into archaeology, she's in

824
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 1: an anthropology, she's into like the same things my dad

825
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 1: is into she's like an older woman. My dad would

826
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,960
Speaker 1: never cheat. He has never cheated and they've been together

827
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:12,359
Speaker 1: forty years now, Like, but she's still jealous. My mom

828
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 1: gets jealous when she hears about when my dad will

829
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:19,280
Speaker 1: talk about his um middle school girlfriend bringing him flowers

830
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 1: when he fell off a building, and she's like, oh

831
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:26,959
Speaker 1: God to hear this, oh talking about Sally. I think

832
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: like with guys, I think in a relationship, especially if

833
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 1: you're living together and you do get a lot of

834
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 1: time together, to then go at least for a man,

835
00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, I wanted to go play golf with another guy.

836
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,799
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about emotion and that's why

837
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 1: I think guys lean into going to Hooters. And like,

838
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 1: I don't even want to fucking think about my dad

839
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:50,040
Speaker 1: uncle at all. I just want to talk about Maximum

840
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: magazine or whatever to feel like men create. There are

841
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 1: things that you can talk to women that you're not

842
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,200
Speaker 1: banging about more so than women you are banging. And

843
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,319
Speaker 1: it's I agree with that. I'm just saying, like to

844
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 1: find the time to also than at like, but like

845
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,400
Speaker 1: what I was saying is like a new friendship with

846
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 1: a girl is when you're in a relationship like your

847
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:13,240
Speaker 1: mom with this archaeology shouldn't be is what I'm saying.

848
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:16,359
Speaker 1: It's women needs to snap out of this and like

849
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 1: either you trust your men or not. But like women,

850
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,240
Speaker 1: men are, we need men to have women friends because

851
00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 1: men are suffering emotionally. They don't talk to each other

852
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: about their feelings. They can't talk to their partner about

853
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 1: their feelings because their partner is either a jealous bitch

854
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:33,440
Speaker 1: clearly or or like or it's gonna it's gonna be

855
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 1: a boner killer and they're just not comfortable with it.

856
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: A woman they're not fucking and have no intention of

857
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: sucking is a perfect outlet for them to have emotional

858
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: um their emotional needs met in that way that is

859
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:46,919
Speaker 1: going to actually make your relationship better. I'm just trying

860
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:50,440
Speaker 1: to think, how does a guy organically meet a new woman?

861
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:53,840
Speaker 1: Like maybe at work it's never going to happen because

862
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:55,879
Speaker 1: this is like it just doesn't happen, But I think

863
00:42:56,080 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 1: things need to change, just like however would like it

864
00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: just well, how do you meet a guy friend on

865
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:04,799
Speaker 1: the golf course? I don't know, no, no, I know,

866
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking, like, how can it happen? An organic,

867
00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:09,640
Speaker 1: like nobody. I don't know, like how do you how

868
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 1: do you girlfriends before? Where it's just like, but how

869
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: did you meet girlfriends before you had a girlfriend? So comedy, No,

870
00:43:18,320 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: I get it, That's how I would meet it. I

871
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 1: guess how it's possible. I'm just saying, like, but for comedy,

872
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: I feel like it's also easier, Like we're in a

873
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: social kind of if you met someone at work and

874
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:32,120
Speaker 1: you're going to lunch with her and not telling your wife,

875
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 1: tell her that's the thing, Tell her what a guy friend.

876
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,760
Speaker 1: I just saw a video on TikTok of a woman

877
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,960
Speaker 1: showing up and the guy was cheating, and it is

878
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: the most awkward thing, that old cheater show. I mean,

879
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: it goes both ways. I don't. I will not be

880
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: with a man who will not let me have my

881
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 1: male friendships independently where I can go to dinner with

882
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:58,759
Speaker 1: a male friend and it not be like even if

883
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:01,360
Speaker 1: that male friend he suspects wants to suck me, he

884
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 1: knows that, Like, in order for that male friend to

885
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 1: suck me, I have to allow him to fuck me

886
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: unless he's a rapist, which I don't hang out with rapists.

887
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 1: He needs to trust me yeah, if if you if

888
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 1: he wasn't a comedy guy, if it was like, No,

889
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: I met this guy, Dave. He works in finance. He's

890
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 1: fucking gorgeous. He has like it's a little stubble on

891
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:24,319
Speaker 1: his beard. And we're just like talking about emotions, something

892
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 1: in organic to like. No, I'm just saying, like for it.

893
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: Think everyone just needs to relax. Yeah. I think it's

894
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 1: just we're all so jealous jealous, we're all worried. All Right,

895
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 1: we're gonna go to break and we'll come back with

896
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:42,399
Speaker 1: a couple. I want to do some more news stories

897
00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:43,920
Speaker 1: because we had some good ones. We'll do a that

898
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 1: or back, um, one more news story now, huh okay.

899
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 1: A woman has confessed to stabbing her younger sister in

900
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: the heart multiple times after learning that the sister was

901
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:02,920
Speaker 1: flirting with the other woman's long long distance boyfriend through

902
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: a video game. And the reason I picked this article

903
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 1: was like a very long way of asking if you

904
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 1: and Laura ever or Andrew, you and your brother's ever

905
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: like the same woman, or you and Lauren like the

906
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: same I gotta just wonder, like, if you were to

907
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: stab me in the heart right now, where would you stab? I?

908
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,319
Speaker 1: Know where because of I've been stabbed and I thought

909
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: it was my heart. Oh that's true. So I know

910
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 1: from experience from well, I used to think because of

911
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 1: the pledge of allegiance, it was over my left tip.

912
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: That's right in the middle. It is left. It's kind

913
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:40,479
Speaker 1: of a little Yeah, it's more center than pledge of allegiance. Yes, yeah,

914
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 1: I pledge the leading should be right down the midd

915
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 1: But if you're stabbing five times, you're going to hit it.

916
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: You're you're in that region. Yeah, I mean I would hope.

917
00:45:48,120 --> 00:45:50,399
Speaker 1: So so this girl in the middle of the night

918
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: stabs her sister and then she was going to kill Yeah,

919
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:55,880
Speaker 1: the sister died and she didn't turn herself in until

920
00:45:55,960 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 1: the next night, and she was going to take her

921
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: own life, but then her sibling talked her out of

922
00:46:00,320 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 1: it because that sibling was like, I'm not losing two

923
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 1: sisters in a night, even though, I mean, what goes

924
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:09,359
Speaker 1: through someone's mind. She ordered these knives on Amazon. By

925
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 1: the way, she ordered daggers on Amazon. They found out

926
00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 1: She found out that they were not even cheating, flirting

927
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 1: on a conversation through this video game chat where the

928
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 1: boyfriend said I love you to the sister, and the

929
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 1: boyfriend was probably cat fishing. He's probably like a six

930
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: year old woman in like, ye, Savannah, you know what

931
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: I mean, Like that's all about like no, yeah, yeah, no,

932
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:40,720
Speaker 1: it could all be nothing. It's but this woman because

933
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,359
Speaker 1: there was pre planning, there was an Amazon purchase, there

934
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 1: was like, oh she got prime, she picked him, you know,

935
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:49,240
Speaker 1: a time to Yeah. I don't understand this whole premeditated

936
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:55,040
Speaker 1: verse whatever, because people you can be crazy for, so

937
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,879
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if someone had premeditated you. That doesn't

938
00:46:59,880 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 1: make sense either, because it goes back to the Sam hearstoning.

939
00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:04,839
Speaker 1: No matter what you do, it's something happening in your

940
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:06,600
Speaker 1: brain that you're not in control of. So we're all

941
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 1: idea of like we are. Anything you do is not

942
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 1: really your fault. It's your brain. And like the situation

943
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 1: you were born and no one chooses anything, and if

944
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 1: you temporary, temporary, insane or whatever. I've never been a

945
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 1: fan Like any time I hear that, I go, how

946
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 1: is that insane? And they're gonna say this girl is

947
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 1: not insane because she ordered like went and read you know,

948
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 1: review she was like pierced three. Yes, she did ten

949
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: hours of research. She her sister should have set that

950
00:47:40,640 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 1: alarm clock for a little bit up earlier room. So

951
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:47,439
Speaker 1: she stabs her five times in the heart. Her sister

952
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 1: bleeds out and dies, and then she just lives. She

953
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 1: just keeps going, like did she hide the body? I

954
00:47:52,080 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 1: think she was freaking out the ust. I mean, she

955
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: was going to kill She just left it there. She

956
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:57,320
Speaker 1: was going to kill herself and then her brother or sister.

957
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,759
Speaker 1: I forget who talked her out of killing herself with

958
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:04,320
Speaker 1: if you I don't I feel like with the proliferation

959
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: of murder podcasts and you know, Dahmer and all these

960
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 1: shows on, like murder shows, don't teams. No, I mean

961
00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:15,240
Speaker 1: she's twenty, don't people know you're gonna go to jail forever.

962
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 1: I think that's the insanity part you don't think about exactly.

963
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:22,279
Speaker 1: So that means this person is insane. Anyone who kills

964
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:26,480
Speaker 1: my rage? Yeah? Yeah, But she ordered it on Amazon,

965
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:31,600
Speaker 1: so the blind rage. But this is a this is

966
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:34,879
Speaker 1: a great commercial for Amazon. They go, do you want

967
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:37,239
Speaker 1: to still plead temporary insanity? We're going to get you

968
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: those knives within an hour, So you could still order

969
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:43,919
Speaker 1: something on Amazon and had it shown up within an hour.

970
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:46,400
Speaker 1: That has happened, been there before I even ordered it,

971
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 1: just anticipated killed my boyfriend. You can, Yeah, these knives

972
00:48:56,200 --> 00:49:00,080
Speaker 1: come with your boyfriend's hearts. So it was so a

973
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:04,240
Speaker 1: while that she researched daggers. Daggers. You're no one's ordering

974
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: a dagger, by the way, unless they plan on killing

975
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 1: their brother or sister. Dagger that comes with that. I

976
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 1: wonder if the dagger company is going to find out

977
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:18,520
Speaker 1: about that she, like this person used, I would love

978
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:20,760
Speaker 1: to know, like if that if she left a review.

979
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, it's what did she do with

980
00:49:24,560 --> 00:49:26,520
Speaker 1: the body after? Did she just let to sit there?

981
00:49:26,680 --> 00:49:30,479
Speaker 1: And then she turned the night and then she didn't.

982
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 1: She didn't call the cops until seven thirty pm the

983
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 1: next night, so she probably was just all day like

984
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: I gotta kill myself and but just couldn't. This guy

985
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 1: couldn't find her own heart. New to sister right like

986
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:45,360
Speaker 1: they had prior conversations like and she's still like jealous, rage,

987
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:50,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to fucking murder You answer your question, yeah, Lauren,

988
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 1: And I definitely, I mean that was my biggest thing

989
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: in life, was like every guy I liked would be

990
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 1: like your sister is so hot and like it was

991
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:01,799
Speaker 1: just but um, yeah, I mean I don't really like

992
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:05,359
Speaker 1: the guy. Yeah, I mean there was you know, there

993
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:07,839
Speaker 1: was a guy in college. She was a freshman, I

994
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:10,400
Speaker 1: was a junior, and he was in my grade. We

995
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:12,960
Speaker 1: had gone to high school together and she had a

996
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 1: you know, she um dated him, and he was a

997
00:50:17,080 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: guy that I liked all my freshman year, all my

998
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:23,239
Speaker 1: sophomore year and then junior year. My sister before and

999
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,560
Speaker 1: I don't really know that she knew. I don't. I

1000
00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 1: don't know that she knew. But I remember when I

1001
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 1: found out that they got together. I called my dad

1002
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 1: and I was on my carpet in my dorm room.

1003
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:34,399
Speaker 1: Maybe she was visiting because I was in my dorm

1004
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 1: room my sophomore year, so maybe she was still a senior. Yeah,

1005
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 1: you had to go to sword buying yourself. Yeah, I

1006
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 1: was deeper. You're like, maybe I shouldn't just waiting for

1007
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:56,720
Speaker 1: a cut Co salesman to show up at my door. Um.

1008
00:50:57,360 --> 00:51:00,920
Speaker 1: I called my dad, and I remember like knowing it

1009
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:03,480
Speaker 1: was inappropriate to call my dad about this, but just

1010
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:06,360
Speaker 1: I was drunk and just so upset, and I was

1011
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 1: just like, she's so it's prettier at this guy that

1012
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:11,279
Speaker 1: I like, they just talked up and it was just

1013
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:13,359
Speaker 1: like my dad just like what like, I didn't know

1014
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:15,120
Speaker 1: what to do with it. And I remember at the time,

1015
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 1: you know, when you're in the middle of a tantrum

1016
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:18,799
Speaker 1: and you're like, this is not a good look and

1017
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 1: we're never gonna talk about this again. After I hang

1018
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: up the phone, it was one of those why do

1019
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:25,479
Speaker 1: you call your mom? I'm just wondering, why do you think?

1020
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 1: I'm guessing she was incapacitated at the time. It was

1021
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 1: I remember it was like if I was drunk, she

1022
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 1: was probably It was like a Friday night. It would

1023
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 1: have been two girls just being like no, yeah, I

1024
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: don't think I would have my mom would have gone, oh,

1025
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,719
Speaker 1: give me a break. This is ridiculous. You, Nikki, you

1026
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: don't want someone who doesn't want you, You know all

1027
00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 1: that bullshit that you're just like, Yeah, that doesn't really

1028
00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 1: help Nikki safe your sex. You don't want to be

1029
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:56,439
Speaker 1: easy for these guys. You need to hold out, do not.

1030
00:51:56,880 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 1: You're giving this guy too much. What happened? Did you

1031
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 1: have a converence age with Lauren or did you have

1032
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 1: a conversation let it go and then eventually, you know,

1033
00:52:04,960 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 1: they fizzled out, but it was it was hard. Um yeah,

1034
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,080
Speaker 1: I never said you're how close are you with your

1035
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 1: an age gap? Two years? See that's so close, like

1036
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 1: you're bound to cross the Yea swords or whatever you

1037
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 1: call them anyways, but yeah, yeah, my older brother, he's

1038
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 1: on the three years, so we didn't really there was

1039
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:30,480
Speaker 1: a little bit of like you know, when he was

1040
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 1: a senior as a freshman in college, so there were

1041
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: girls that would like him that I would maybe, but

1042
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:39,760
Speaker 1: nothing that I like, never competitive, never competitive with that stuff.

1043
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:42,920
Speaker 1: And then my little brother six years younger, so that

1044
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,880
Speaker 1: would have been illegal for a while. Uh yeah. Luckily,

1045
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:48,000
Speaker 1: my sister and I never really went for the same

1046
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:49,920
Speaker 1: type of guy, and I feel like most of my

1047
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 1: friends it's that way as well, like we all like

1048
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:56,280
Speaker 1: a different type. Even though my two best friends, Hala

1049
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:58,799
Speaker 1: and Taylor, who you heard on the podcast this week,

1050
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 1: Halla ended marrying Taylor's high school boyfriend. So interesting, but

1051
00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 1: that happened years later. So it's so funny because Taylor

1052
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: and I were going through our old New yearbooks and

1053
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:10,240
Speaker 1: Taylor saw this, like when she Taylor was a senior

1054
00:53:10,239 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 1: when we were juniors, and she left like a message

1055
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: to all of us being like Nikki, you know, like

1056
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:19,280
Speaker 1: going to Walgreen stressed up, like all the fun memories

1057
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:21,799
Speaker 1: and like Kirsten, remember remember when we slept in that

1058
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:23,959
Speaker 1: car that one time. And then she wrote Johnny Cakes,

1059
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:26,320
Speaker 1: which is Halla's now husband. She's like, Johnny Cakes, I

1060
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:28,360
Speaker 1: will love you forever, and it's just like so funny.

1061
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 1: We're reading this was like emotional thing, and she put

1062
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:33,880
Speaker 1: it on the girl's chat and like Halla, who was

1063
00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 1: married to this guy, is reading about her, you know,

1064
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: one of her best friends talking about like I love

1065
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:43,799
Speaker 1: you forever. Do you think do you think women are

1066
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:47,400
Speaker 1: a guy? I don't. I just think about if a

1067
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 1: good guy friend dated, how long you would have to

1068
00:53:50,880 --> 00:53:53,719
Speaker 1: be in between for me? You know, like it would

1069
00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 1: it would be it would be hard for me to

1070
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:58,319
Speaker 1: still be I had a guy, a fraternity brother, date

1071
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 1: the girl that I dated in college for three years.

1072
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 1: But for Trinity, brother means nothing. This means blood. It was,

1073
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 1: but it's an elephant walk. It's not gay if it's

1074
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:19,040
Speaker 1: the friend, Oh my god, yeah that sucks. But it's like,

1075
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like if you're gonna like

1076
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 1: pursue someone to like fall in love with nothing should

1077
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:30,359
Speaker 1: stop you and the person should be okay with it.

1078
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:32,200
Speaker 1: Like I have a friend right now who's dating someone

1079
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:35,799
Speaker 1: and their ex boyfriend is so upset that they are

1080
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:39,839
Speaker 1: dating someone that they that they because it's a boy

1081
00:54:39,960 --> 00:54:42,160
Speaker 1: a friend of this ex boyfriend, and he won't even

1082
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 1: talk to her anymore. Isn't friends with like they were

1083
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: friends for a while. Now he's so mad. It's like,

1084
00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 1: is this how you want to get the girl? Is

1085
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 1: by being a little bit and being like, I'm not

1086
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:51,399
Speaker 1: gonna be friends with you because you are good with

1087
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:55,640
Speaker 1: my friend. Do you think that's gonna work for I mean,

1088
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:58,359
Speaker 1: who knows, But he's like so upset about it, Like

1089
00:54:58,719 --> 00:55:00,879
Speaker 1: I think that's weird. Like once you're done, you should

1090
00:55:00,880 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 1: be able to date whoever you want, but dating Chris, yeah,

1091
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:10,239
Speaker 1: maybybe the the guy just still has some feelings and

1092
00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 1: he's entitled clearly. But it's so interesting because I would

1093
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:17,319
Speaker 1: never occur to me to respond that way, like that's

1094
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 1: that's not going to get her any sooner, Like it's

1095
00:55:22,280 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 1: almost like stabbing his sister. It's like, where do you

1096
00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:25,480
Speaker 1: think this is gonna get you? You're just gonna go

1097
00:55:25,520 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 1: to jail. Yeah, wow, look at that. I'll wait for you.

1098
00:55:31,200 --> 00:55:32,759
Speaker 1: What were you going to say about Chris? No, No,

1099
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,239
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking about like like if we broke up

1100
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: and then one of my friends dated him, you know,

1101
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:41,480
Speaker 1: because I'm not with him anymore, he still be friends

1102
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 1: with that person. Yeah, because I would hope to still

1103
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:46,839
Speaker 1: be friends with Chris like I would. I would hope

1104
00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:48,759
Speaker 1: I would incur if Chris and I didn't work out

1105
00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 1: seven years he had that Andrew, Yeah, because NICKI stayed

1106
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 1: friends with him. Yeah, I mean I have seven years

1107
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 1: of proof that we would still be friends and that

1108
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: I would date any of your friends. No. He actually

1109
00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 1: I think one time his friend wanted to set him

1110
00:56:04,680 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 1: up with a comic who we all know, and he

1111
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:10,239
Speaker 1: knows that I wasn't friends with her, but he knew

1112
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:11,480
Speaker 1: that she was a comic, and he was like, no,

1113
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:18,400
Speaker 1: because that would hurt Chris. Chris is very good about

1114
00:56:18,440 --> 00:56:20,320
Speaker 1: like even when we got together, he didn't want to

1115
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 1: post stuff because he was just like mindful of his

1116
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:25,000
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend's being sad. YEA for me, I wouldn't want

1117
00:56:25,040 --> 00:56:28,440
Speaker 1: to date a friend best friend because that's like drama

1118
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: that I don't drama. Women are like I am so

1119
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: desperate for a husband, I will take it wherever I

1120
00:56:34,440 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 1: can get it. I don't care if my sister plays

1121
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 1: video games with this guy and that she's going to

1122
00:56:38,040 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 1: stab me in my sleep. Let's just do it, all right,

1123
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:50,759
Speaker 1: Let's get to fan trax. Yikes, are you okay? Do

1124
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 1: you need to see doctor Titels after doing that to

1125
00:56:53,239 --> 00:56:59,320
Speaker 1: your throat? Oh? Boy, out, that hurts my throat, speaking

1126
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:04,799
Speaker 1: of your throat. Of our first message is about just that.

1127
00:57:04,960 --> 00:57:11,760
Speaker 1: Here's our first voicemail fan Throx from Joanna. Hey, Nikki Andrew, Noah, Nikki,

1128
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:13,799
Speaker 1: this is for you. I just had to let you

1129
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:16,400
Speaker 1: know that the other night, UM was just about to

1130
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 1: go to sleep. My fiance and I were in bed,

1131
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:22,439
Speaker 1: lights out, eyes closed, and usually we don't have much

1132
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:26,040
Speaker 1: conversation because he falls asleep within seconds. I'm so jealous,

1133
00:57:26,640 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 1: but he just randomly said to me, He's like, I

1134
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 1: wonder if Nikki Glazer's voice is going to be different

1135
00:57:33,280 --> 00:57:36,680
Speaker 1: once she heals from surgery. And I just had to

1136
00:57:36,760 --> 00:57:39,120
Speaker 1: laugh because I think that was so adorable. But that's

1137
00:57:39,160 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 1: what he was thinking about right before he fell asleep.

1138
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 1: He's also a physician, so could be part of that.

1139
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 1: Like he's genuinely curious UM. Because he's not a bestie,

1140
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:51,800
Speaker 1: I do occasionally make him listen to parts of the

1141
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 1: show that are like extra funny, and he is a

1142
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 1: fan of your comedy. UM. But I just thought that

1143
00:57:57,560 --> 00:58:02,080
Speaker 1: was so cute and adorable and we wish you'd best. Also, Nikki,

1144
00:58:02,160 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 1: you've been hilarious with the robot dictating UM one liners.

1145
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 1: I just think it proves how genius you are with

1146
00:58:11,360 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 1: coming up with amazing responses even with mega delays. So

1147
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:20,360
Speaker 1: good job. You've made me Belly laugh more than once

1148
00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:23,920
Speaker 1: on the pod without your voice. So looking forward to

1149
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:32,560
Speaker 1: your return. I love you guys back. What was her name? Joanna? Um? Okay,

1150
00:58:32,560 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you so much, Joanna. UM.

1151
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:38,840
Speaker 1: That is so nice, Joanna. And that's so cute that

1152
00:58:38,880 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 1: your boyfriend Chris is the same way he falls asleep instantly,

1153
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:46,400
Speaker 1: and it is there's something so adorable about the like

1154
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 1: the things that they say right before they go to sleep,

1155
00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:51,280
Speaker 1: or like something they mutter when you wake them up accidentally.

1156
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 1: And I am so tickled to be a part of

1157
00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 1: that UM kind of conversation. And I got so many messages,

1158
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 1: I mean so many for people saying that UM my

1159
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 1: voice sounds like it went from like ten eight to

1160
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:14,000
Speaker 1: four k. Or my boyfriend used to hate your voice

1161
00:59:14,480 --> 00:59:16,640
Speaker 1: because it was so squeaky. Or my girlfriend didn't like

1162
00:59:16,640 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 1: your voice because it was so squeaky. But now she

1163
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:22,960
Speaker 1: really can listen to you, and then I'll take it.

1164
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 1: You know what if if if I went back to squeaky,

1165
00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:27,120
Speaker 1: then I might be But I'm not going back, baby,

1166
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 1: So yeah, let's leave that bit in the dust. Um yeah,

1167
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 1: everyone kind of has people who are sending me like, um,

1168
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: my one friend Amy sent me she listens to the pot.

1169
00:59:36,960 --> 00:59:38,800
Speaker 1: She was like the first time she heard my voices

1170
00:59:38,840 --> 00:59:39,960
Speaker 1: in the pot. And she sent me a thing that

1171
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 1: was like, I guess kind of a meme. But it

1172
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:49,000
Speaker 1: was one of those couch d um what are the

1173
00:59:49,080 --> 00:59:51,800
Speaker 1: like like things called on couch that makes it all

1174
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:54,080
Speaker 1: like rough and like have little balls of it, you know,

1175
00:59:54,120 --> 00:59:56,920
Speaker 1: like we're and couches and then you rub a thing

1176
00:59:56,960 --> 00:59:58,720
Speaker 1: over and it takes those balls away, so it makes

1177
00:59:58,720 --> 01:00:02,600
Speaker 1: you couch like freshing in. So that's what she say. Yeah,

1178
01:00:02,600 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 1: where it was like this couch what was it microfiber?

1179
01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 1: Like let me just pull it up, hold on it

1180
01:00:09,200 --> 01:00:12,040
Speaker 1: was It was a perfect I was like really impressed

1181
01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 1: with the example. She um, yeah, oh it says refresh

1182
01:00:16,200 --> 01:00:19,240
Speaker 1: your fabrics, removed lint, fuzz and pills from old fabrics

1183
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 1: to make your items look new again. And it's like

1184
01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:22,800
Speaker 1: this thing that you rub over your couch or whatever.

1185
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:25,400
Speaker 1: And um, she was like your voice went from like

1186
01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:26,600
Speaker 1: and it looked like a couch that had like I

1187
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:28,280
Speaker 1: went to scratched like a smooth and I was like

1188
01:00:29,760 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 1: top of it. Yeah, that your grandma doesn't let you

1189
01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 1: sit on it. Um, the stale room. I think about

1190
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 1: friends that had that. Those rooms were so god and

1191
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:43,360
Speaker 1: they had like a precious moments figuring like a little

1192
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:48,120
Speaker 1: gazebo in the corner. That is just women are dealing

1193
01:00:48,200 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 1: with so many struggles. It is a miracle any of

1194
01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:53,120
Speaker 1: us ended up okay because of the you know, our

1195
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:56,200
Speaker 1: parents generation was kind of fucked. But the one before that,

1196
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 1: no one got any emotional support. They were like, you know,

1197
01:00:59,520 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 1: spare the rod, spoiled the child, Like our parents were fucked.

1198
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:05,960
Speaker 1: You guys, their parents did were once in a while.

1199
01:01:06,080 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 1: Maybe there was a breakthrough case of like some compassion

1200
01:01:08,560 --> 01:01:12,200
Speaker 1: and like actually caring about kids. But like, just cut

1201
01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 1: your parents some slack because they were raised by literally

1202
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:18,919
Speaker 1: like their whole parents, their teachers were hitting them. Yeah,

1203
01:01:19,040 --> 01:01:21,680
Speaker 1: everyone's hitting you. Yeah, and that's how you got hard.

1204
01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:25,040
Speaker 1: That's how you got tough. No one no compassion, no

1205
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:29,000
Speaker 1: like are you okay? And this whole thing of like,

1206
01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 1: oh these kids are pussies now because all that, it's like,

1207
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:36,160
Speaker 1: good man. I overheard these two teenage girls yesterday that

1208
01:01:36,200 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 1: we're talking about Taylor Swift, so I really wanted in

1209
01:01:38,040 --> 01:01:40,760
Speaker 1: on the conversation. So I was already like eavesdropping in

1210
01:01:40,800 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 1: Starbucks and they were talking about the new Midnight's album

1211
01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 1: and I was like, I had my laptopic when it

1212
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:47,440
Speaker 1: has all these Taylors just sicker. So I was like, girls,

1213
01:01:47,560 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 1: I'm with you. I'm so excited, and they were like,

1214
01:01:50,040 --> 01:01:54,040
Speaker 1: we don't care, old lady. Um, you're weird. Like they

1215
01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 1: looked at me like I was like a plastic bag lady,

1216
01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 1: like just so weird. And then um, but I heard

1217
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 1: them talking in was like oh my god, like there

1218
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:04,360
Speaker 1: was they were talking about another girl that they go

1219
01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 1: to school with and they're like, yeah, she's a lot

1220
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:10,400
Speaker 1: and yeah she can be really tough sometimes, but I

1221
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:12,360
Speaker 1: think she's just been through has a lot of trauma

1222
01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:15,200
Speaker 1: in her life, and it was just like she probably

1223
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:17,040
Speaker 1: grew up in a really traumatic household, and I don't

1224
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:18,680
Speaker 1: know what's going on at home, so I just like,

1225
01:02:19,040 --> 01:02:20,480
Speaker 1: I don't like to judge. And I was just like,

1226
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 1: who are these teenagers talking about trauma? And like they're like,

1227
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 1: I just really need to lean into self care recently

1228
01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: because I just felt like I've been really stressed there.

1229
01:02:30,760 --> 01:02:33,120
Speaker 1: So as soft as these teenagers are and woke and

1230
01:02:33,120 --> 01:02:36,200
Speaker 1: we roll our eyes, there's something very cool about teens

1231
01:02:36,240 --> 01:02:39,400
Speaker 1: that like are taking care of themselves, have compassion for others,

1232
01:02:39,480 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 1: have empathy for others, And I felt it from these girls.

1233
01:02:41,800 --> 01:02:44,439
Speaker 1: I was like so proud of these girls that, I mean,

1234
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,360
Speaker 1: Kirsten and Taylor and I would be like cyber bully,

1235
01:02:47,480 --> 01:02:49,840
Speaker 1: not cyber bullying, but like bullying them in like notes

1236
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:52,360
Speaker 1: where we would draw pictures of them and compare them

1237
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:54,360
Speaker 1: to animals. They looked like, not knowing we were really

1238
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 1: bullying them, we were just being funny, Like she looks

1239
01:02:56,520 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 1: like we called one girl alone in Missouri just because

1240
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:03,480
Speaker 1: she she just looked. That's and it's not even called

1241
01:03:03,480 --> 01:03:05,160
Speaker 1: her that to her face, just in notes, but like

1242
01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: that's how we processed people that were different than us,

1243
01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:11,440
Speaker 1: and these girls are like, oh, she's probably been through

1244
01:03:11,440 --> 01:03:13,600
Speaker 1: a lot and has a lot of trauma, and I'm like, oh,

1245
01:03:13,640 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 1: man to get to that place. Yeah, I think there's

1246
01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:19,640
Speaker 1: obviously somewhere in the middle there of like you want

1247
01:03:19,720 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 1: jokes to still happen. You don't want everyone to be

1248
01:03:21,960 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 1: like like, yeah, that trauma. I was just like, I

1249
01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:33,880
Speaker 1: think I only heard that word on like or anxiety.

1250
01:03:33,920 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 1: I never heard it. I still can't say, right, but uh,

1251
01:03:38,120 --> 01:03:41,040
Speaker 1: people get mad there, Like everyone says they have anxiety.

1252
01:03:41,120 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 1: Now everyone has insie because you do get like and

1253
01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 1: it's okay to say it now, thank god, because it

1254
01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:51,160
Speaker 1: because before that you just have panic attacks eventually and

1255
01:03:51,240 --> 01:03:53,440
Speaker 1: want to fucking think you're going to blow up. I'm

1256
01:03:53,600 --> 01:03:57,520
Speaker 1: still unaware of what anxiety looks like for me because

1257
01:03:57,600 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 1: I just don't I just know that it manifests into

1258
01:04:00,000 --> 01:04:01,880
Speaker 1: front people in different ways, and I just don't have

1259
01:04:01,920 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 1: that where it's like I can be anxious about something specifically,

1260
01:04:04,880 --> 01:04:10,240
Speaker 1: but I just never am anxious for you're overthinking stuff

1261
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:12,760
Speaker 1: like whenever you're like I don't know, or if you're

1262
01:04:12,760 --> 01:04:15,360
Speaker 1: picking your nails like you pick, but it's usually about

1263
01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:17,520
Speaker 1: something like I know people that can get panic attacks

1264
01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:18,840
Speaker 1: where they're like it just came on. I don't know

1265
01:04:18,840 --> 01:04:21,840
Speaker 1: what it's about, and it's usually subconscious. But that doesn't

1266
01:04:21,840 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 1: happen to me. I don't feel got you like, so

1267
01:04:24,440 --> 01:04:27,600
Speaker 1: you can't put a pin on it. Yeah, but if

1268
01:04:27,640 --> 01:04:30,080
Speaker 1: I I've been anxious before where I'm like I have

1269
01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:32,400
Speaker 1: so much to do, I have to pack, I'm not ready,

1270
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:36,600
Speaker 1: Like that makes sense. Okay, this anxiety, that's anxiety, that's why.

1271
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 1: But I know a lot of people that get generalized

1272
01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:42,480
Speaker 1: anxiety where they just start like there, you know, you've

1273
01:04:42,480 --> 01:04:43,960
Speaker 1: had it before, where you're like you feel like you're

1274
01:04:44,040 --> 01:04:46,240
Speaker 1: dying and there's nothing that caused because if there was

1275
01:04:46,240 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 1: something that caused it, like someone went up to you

1276
01:04:47,680 --> 01:04:50,800
Speaker 1: and was like, hey, uh people caused it. Isn't a

1277
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 1: thing that caused. What caused it was the million things

1278
01:04:53,320 --> 01:04:56,080
Speaker 1: before it. Yes, and then a little thing sets it off. Yeah.

1279
01:04:56,120 --> 01:04:59,480
Speaker 1: I thought I was choking like lint, so if you

1280
01:04:59,520 --> 01:05:02,560
Speaker 1: go it was that it was choking. No, it was

1281
01:05:02,680 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 1: me pinch in my neck today and it's something there's

1282
01:05:06,600 --> 01:05:09,600
Speaker 1: something right here. It's telling me something like it's just

1283
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:15,360
Speaker 1: like it's just there's something I'm not expressing I slept

1284
01:05:15,400 --> 01:05:17,800
Speaker 1: on my boyfriend's pillow and I'm not used to it. Yeah,

1285
01:05:18,080 --> 01:05:21,320
Speaker 1: it means of my boyfriend researches yoga mats for ten hours,

1286
01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 1: and I gotta accept that about him if I'm going

1287
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:27,640
Speaker 1: to spend the rest of my life with you, how

1288
01:05:27,720 --> 01:05:30,600
Speaker 1: quick I've bought a yoga mat off of Amazon. It's

1289
01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: literally it really was something that I go, oh, my god,

1290
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:38,520
Speaker 1: baby used ten hours. Like, but you know what, that's

1291
01:05:38,560 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 1: what he likes to do, whereas I like to spend

1292
01:05:41,000 --> 01:05:43,640
Speaker 1: ten hours you know, comb Reddit, which he likes to

1293
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:46,840
Speaker 1: do as well. But like we I just can't judge.

1294
01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:49,720
Speaker 1: I just have to go, Okay, you know what you

1295
01:05:49,880 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 1: like purchasing things that you know you've put in the

1296
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:54,800
Speaker 1: work to get. And although I think that is a

1297
01:05:54,840 --> 01:05:57,080
Speaker 1: heinous waste of time, especially on something that you don't

1298
01:05:57,120 --> 01:06:01,160
Speaker 1: even use for ten hours, that is something you enjoy. No,

1299
01:06:01,240 --> 01:06:05,520
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of anything I've researched, even expensive

1300
01:06:05,560 --> 01:06:11,080
Speaker 1: things I've bought, have been jerk on all my purchases.

1301
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 1: That's why I have a tailor guitar worth a hundred

1302
01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:18,479
Speaker 1: dollars that has a of her signature. That is why.

1303
01:06:18,640 --> 01:06:20,479
Speaker 1: So you know, when I had a lot of money.

1304
01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:23,240
Speaker 1: When I have no money, everything's knee jerk, whether it's

1305
01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:28,040
Speaker 1: buying a thirty dollar sushi roll or car. No, none

1306
01:06:28,040 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 1: of it was thought. I'm my whole life, my whole life.

1307
01:06:31,520 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm a little bit more about food. I

1308
01:06:34,440 --> 01:06:36,360
Speaker 1: like to look at a menu and spend some time

1309
01:06:36,400 --> 01:06:39,200
Speaker 1: with it. But and you're you're definitely on the knee jerk.

1310
01:06:39,880 --> 01:06:43,320
Speaker 1: I'm you're mostly jerk side of things. Um, let's go

1311
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:45,520
Speaker 1: to final thought. One more or two more fan thrax.

1312
01:06:47,480 --> 01:06:53,280
Speaker 1: Here's one from MICHAELA. Hi, Nikki, Andrew, Noah, and Chris.

1313
01:06:53,520 --> 01:06:58,200
Speaker 1: This is MICHAELA calling from Atlanta. I'm calling to talk

1314
01:06:58,240 --> 01:07:01,880
Speaker 1: about the leaving the saloon with wet hair. My mom

1315
01:07:01,960 --> 01:07:06,520
Speaker 1: is a hairdresser, and since my teenagers throughout my adulthood,

1316
01:07:06,760 --> 01:07:10,320
Speaker 1: I've been getting my hair done by her, and she

1317
01:07:10,560 --> 01:07:14,919
Speaker 1: absolutely refuses to dry and style my hair. I mean,

1318
01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 1: she just says it's a complete waste of race of

1319
01:07:18,080 --> 01:07:21,720
Speaker 1: time and won't do it for me. And she wishes

1320
01:07:21,800 --> 01:07:24,640
Speaker 1: that she had more clients that would opt out. So

1321
01:07:25,400 --> 01:07:30,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if we are hurting their feelings if

1322
01:07:30,200 --> 01:07:33,320
Speaker 1: we're leaving the salon with wet hair. I think they

1323
01:07:33,360 --> 01:07:36,040
Speaker 1: may actually be relieved because it saves them time as well.

1324
01:07:36,160 --> 01:07:40,640
Speaker 1: So I thought, Nikki, I hope your vocal cords are

1325
01:07:40,680 --> 01:07:46,120
Speaker 1: getting the rest they need and jack me off, jack

1326
01:07:46,200 --> 01:07:49,959
Speaker 1: me off. Okay, how much more is it? I don't

1327
01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 1: Sometimes they don't put a financial like amount on it.

1328
01:07:53,200 --> 01:07:56,240
Speaker 1: They should, and they used to always. I would guess

1329
01:07:56,240 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 1: it's about fifty extra bucks if you're going to a

1330
01:07:58,560 --> 01:08:00,480
Speaker 1: nice salon to get a blowout, right, it's like what

1331
01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:04,520
Speaker 1: you would pay for a blowout. Going usually takes. Honestly,

1332
01:08:04,520 --> 01:08:06,080
Speaker 1: when I blow drying my hair, and I don't know

1333
01:08:06,120 --> 01:08:09,680
Speaker 1: what they're doing differently, they're definitely doing it takes me

1334
01:08:09,720 --> 01:08:13,920
Speaker 1: about eleven to fifteen minutes to blow dry my hair,

1335
01:08:14,400 --> 01:08:16,439
Speaker 1: but for some reason, when I get my hair done,

1336
01:08:17,120 --> 01:08:19,920
Speaker 1: it takes thirty five minutes to blow dry it because

1337
01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 1: they take each strand individually, and I mean, it looks

1338
01:08:22,360 --> 01:08:23,920
Speaker 1: a lot better than when I do it, but it

1339
01:08:24,040 --> 01:08:26,000
Speaker 1: just it takes along. And when I know I have

1340
01:08:26,040 --> 01:08:28,000
Speaker 1: to go for a run later that day, I just go, no,

1341
01:08:28,200 --> 01:08:31,519
Speaker 1: let's not do this. But I have to say, um, McKenna,

1342
01:08:31,680 --> 01:08:37,400
Speaker 1: I think that was her name, Michaela. Michaela. I get um,

1343
01:08:37,439 --> 01:08:40,120
Speaker 1: I get the sense that they're disappointed. Every single time

1344
01:08:40,520 --> 01:08:42,439
Speaker 1: that I say that, there's a little bit like are

1345
01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:45,120
Speaker 1: you sure you don't want it? Like if I was

1346
01:08:45,240 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 1: doing something business and then the person was like, let's,

1347
01:08:48,960 --> 01:08:51,120
Speaker 1: for instance, like say for me, it's a meet and greet,

1348
01:08:51,120 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 1: whether they're like, you don't have to do a meet

1349
01:08:52,320 --> 01:08:54,800
Speaker 1: and great? And I'm like, oh my god, really, like

1350
01:08:55,040 --> 01:08:56,680
Speaker 1: I wouldn't double up and go Are you sure you

1351
01:08:56,720 --> 01:08:58,400
Speaker 1: don't want to do the meeting? Great? Are you sure

1352
01:08:58,400 --> 01:09:00,960
Speaker 1: you don't think? The better analogy it would be if

1353
01:09:00,960 --> 01:09:02,519
Speaker 1: you were doing stand up and they're like, don't do

1354
01:09:02,560 --> 01:09:05,000
Speaker 1: your closer, like it's their closer, Like this is their

1355
01:09:05,000 --> 01:09:07,960
Speaker 1: finishing touch, right, Like if you're an artist or like

1356
01:09:08,160 --> 01:09:11,439
Speaker 1: your job perfect example, because it's like look what I did,

1357
01:09:11,560 --> 01:09:14,120
Speaker 1: whereas I because usually it's a die job and so

1358
01:09:14,280 --> 01:09:16,719
Speaker 1: and I'm not getting a hair cut. If it's a haircut,

1359
01:09:16,760 --> 01:09:18,400
Speaker 1: you definitely need to dry it to see what you're

1360
01:09:18,400 --> 01:09:20,360
Speaker 1: working with. But if you're just getting your hair dyed,

1361
01:09:20,400 --> 01:09:22,400
Speaker 1: and I get the same blonde every time time, I've

1362
01:09:22,439 --> 01:09:24,680
Speaker 1: literally never once had my hair dyed and not liked it.

1363
01:09:24,760 --> 01:09:27,080
Speaker 1: I am very easy to please. I do not research

1364
01:09:27,120 --> 01:09:28,680
Speaker 1: it at all. I will go to anyone, I will

1365
01:09:28,880 --> 01:09:30,920
Speaker 1: I just go blond. I don't know, and I look

1366
01:09:30,960 --> 01:09:32,719
Speaker 1: back at my photos. I've been every kind of shade

1367
01:09:32,720 --> 01:09:34,479
Speaker 1: of I've been Noah's blonde, which is like a very

1368
01:09:34,600 --> 01:09:39,160
Speaker 1: very light almost like you know, uh more, what do

1369
01:09:39,240 --> 01:09:42,599
Speaker 1: they call it? I see blonde? And then I've been

1370
01:09:42,640 --> 01:09:45,519
Speaker 1: like a golden blonde, and I just yeah, I've been

1371
01:09:45,520 --> 01:09:49,240
Speaker 1: a golden doodle. They have better air than me. Actually,

1372
01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:52,400
Speaker 1: they probably get more. So I feel so bad for poodles,

1373
01:09:52,520 --> 01:09:55,559
Speaker 1: by the way, why because that makes you with everything

1374
01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:58,719
Speaker 1: and no one likes them alone. I love poodles alone alone.

1375
01:09:58,720 --> 01:10:03,800
Speaker 1: In the Missouri everyone goes, yeah, poodle society because the

1376
01:10:03,840 --> 01:10:05,640
Speaker 1: one want to because you're not mixed with anybody. Just

1377
01:10:05,680 --> 01:10:10,160
Speaker 1: went there again, sad, what are you going to get? Oh,

1378
01:10:10,240 --> 01:10:12,640
Speaker 1: we got six pit bulls down there? Why did you

1379
01:10:12,680 --> 01:10:15,479
Speaker 1: go just to look at cats? Brenna wanting to look

1380
01:10:15,520 --> 01:10:18,519
Speaker 1: at cats, she wants man to have. Everyone writes us,

1381
01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:20,880
Speaker 1: so you got to get a second cat. Everyone's yelling

1382
01:10:20,920 --> 01:10:24,120
Speaker 1: at us to get a second cat. And between two

1383
01:10:24,160 --> 01:10:28,679
Speaker 1: cats and one cat two there's nothing. Cats are so low, mate,

1384
01:10:30,479 --> 01:10:32,720
Speaker 1: aren't they. I mean you don't even have to say

1385
01:10:32,720 --> 01:10:35,680
Speaker 1: maintenance because they're so low. They are little maintenance, but

1386
01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:37,840
Speaker 1: they're not like, do you still have to feed them?

1387
01:10:37,880 --> 01:10:40,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess yeah, I guess them. You

1388
01:10:40,360 --> 01:10:43,880
Speaker 1: gotta feed them, you clean litter their letter box, you

1389
01:10:43,960 --> 01:10:47,040
Speaker 1: have to. But it says all in the same place. Yes.

1390
01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:50,280
Speaker 1: I feel like the jump from zero dogs to one

1391
01:10:50,320 --> 01:10:52,760
Speaker 1: dog is major. The jump from one dog to two

1392
01:10:52,800 --> 01:10:56,240
Speaker 1: dogs not so much. Third dog crazy. But cats you

1393
01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:59,960
Speaker 1: don't have to walk them. Maybe I get a second cat? Yeah,

1394
01:11:00,280 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 1: easy peasy. So I went there and it's God. The

1395
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:07,240
Speaker 1: cats is fine. But then you go into dogs apartments

1396
01:11:07,280 --> 01:11:10,160
Speaker 1: wanting to if you have one cat, I think apartments

1397
01:11:10,160 --> 01:11:14,400
Speaker 1: go okay? Two cats? They're like, have you looked at apartments?

1398
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:17,880
Speaker 1: Like that's the other thing I'd be worried about that

1399
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:21,800
Speaker 1: places are cat friendly. But anyhow, what were we talking

1400
01:11:21,840 --> 01:11:26,600
Speaker 1: when we're talking about Okay, I have to play this

1401
01:11:26,720 --> 01:11:32,320
Speaker 1: voicemail from Ali before we wrap up. Okay, Hi, Nikki, Noah, Andrew,

1402
01:11:32,400 --> 01:11:35,400
Speaker 1: and Chris. I have a story about someone at a

1403
01:11:35,439 --> 01:11:39,760
Speaker 1: concert becoming my worst enemy very quickly. So it was

1404
01:11:39,880 --> 01:11:42,200
Speaker 1: a bumble date and it was actually our first date.

1405
01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:45,639
Speaker 1: We went to drinks before and everything was like sexy

1406
01:11:45,760 --> 01:11:49,559
Speaker 1: and funny and great. We get to the concert and

1407
01:11:49,720 --> 01:11:53,559
Speaker 1: he starts acting like out of this mind, like not

1408
01:11:53,640 --> 01:11:56,479
Speaker 1: on drugs that I know of. He's so hyped up,

1409
01:11:57,000 --> 01:12:00,720
Speaker 1: so like social with everyone around, but to the point

1410
01:12:00,800 --> 01:12:03,600
Speaker 1: where it was annoying people. And I'm just like a

1411
01:12:03,720 --> 01:12:08,479
Speaker 1: chill person, like, let's chill, enjoy whatever. Um. And we

1412
01:12:08,640 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 1: also kept bumping the clock clip that I was wearing

1413
01:12:12,560 --> 01:12:15,280
Speaker 1: on the back of my hair, so I had to

1414
01:12:15,360 --> 01:12:18,559
Speaker 1: keep adjusting my hairstyle every time, and he was like,

1415
01:12:18,600 --> 01:12:21,040
Speaker 1: what is that in the back of your head because

1416
01:12:21,040 --> 01:12:24,800
Speaker 1: the clock clip stopped touching it. So I got a

1417
01:12:24,800 --> 01:12:30,160
Speaker 1: little angsty, and he was singing the words loud and wrong.

1418
01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:34,360
Speaker 1: I didn't even know Um this artist very well, and

1419
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:36,719
Speaker 1: I knew that what was coming out of his mouth

1420
01:12:37,120 --> 01:12:41,840
Speaker 1: were not the correct words. Major. I would recommend going

1421
01:12:41,880 --> 01:12:44,400
Speaker 1: on a first date at a concert because you see

1422
01:12:44,439 --> 01:12:48,080
Speaker 1: so many different aspects of a person UM and j

1423
01:12:48,280 --> 01:12:54,960
Speaker 1: J Juja Jack Johnson. Jack Johnson, UM seriously like better

1424
01:12:54,960 --> 01:12:56,879
Speaker 1: than a movie because the movie you gotta sit in silence.

1425
01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:59,719
Speaker 1: You hear about these first dates where people just act insane.

1426
01:12:59,840 --> 01:13:03,040
Speaker 1: You who could ever love this person? And who raised

1427
01:13:03,040 --> 01:13:06,920
Speaker 1: this person? I mean, and come messing with her clip?

1428
01:13:06,960 --> 01:13:09,080
Speaker 1: In her hair, like did you think it was flirting?

1429
01:13:10,760 --> 01:13:15,160
Speaker 1: Feel like yeah, because it's a concert and the idea.

1430
01:13:15,439 --> 01:13:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm so tired of people. Just talk to your date.

1431
01:13:18,200 --> 01:13:21,000
Speaker 1: Stop trying to show off by talking to other people

1432
01:13:21,120 --> 01:13:23,040
Speaker 1: and making it seem like, look how much other people

1433
01:13:23,080 --> 01:13:25,240
Speaker 1: like me. If you're one of these people, you are

1434
01:13:25,680 --> 01:13:28,480
Speaker 1: you don't have good self esteem and you need validation

1435
01:13:28,520 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 1: from others. Focus on who you're with, love the one

1436
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:37,360
Speaker 1: you're with first date and obnoxious, like who comes into

1437
01:13:37,360 --> 01:13:40,080
Speaker 1: a first date so confident where they're like, I'm just

1438
01:13:40,080 --> 01:13:41,559
Speaker 1: going to be the guy. I want to go on

1439
01:13:41,680 --> 01:13:44,040
Speaker 1: dates again just so I can witness some of disagreedious

1440
01:13:44,040 --> 01:13:47,840
Speaker 1: behavior and just like what are you doing that? D Oh,

1441
01:13:47,920 --> 01:13:49,880
Speaker 1: they're so weird because you don't know the person at

1442
01:13:49,960 --> 01:13:52,439
Speaker 1: all and they can have so many personality disorders. Oh

1443
01:13:52,520 --> 01:13:54,080
Speaker 1: my god, and then you can't get out of it.

1444
01:13:54,120 --> 01:13:57,840
Speaker 1: I'm too nice. I've never had half a drink and

1445
01:13:57,880 --> 01:14:01,519
Speaker 1: been like this isn't It's all six hours later and

1446
01:14:01,560 --> 01:14:04,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, well, dude, it was really nice

1447
01:14:04,040 --> 01:14:05,880
Speaker 1: to me. You need to start introducing your baby is

1448
01:14:06,560 --> 01:14:09,599
Speaker 1: Leona Rampe. It sounds like your people pleasing Oh for sure,

1449
01:14:09,880 --> 01:14:12,679
Speaker 1: that's my mom. The other day we were talking about

1450
01:14:12,680 --> 01:14:15,120
Speaker 1: my dad talking to strangers and how men love to

1451
01:14:15,120 --> 01:14:18,120
Speaker 1: talk to strangers and neighbors. Like whenever I go visit

1452
01:14:18,120 --> 01:14:21,360
Speaker 1: my sister at her house, I cannot I hate they

1453
01:14:21,360 --> 01:14:23,360
Speaker 1: always meet me outside. There was playing in the front yard,

1454
01:14:23,800 --> 01:14:25,439
Speaker 1: and then I have to talk to their neighbor who

1455
01:14:25,560 --> 01:14:27,800
Speaker 1: was standing. There's all these men that just start walking

1456
01:14:27,880 --> 01:14:31,320
Speaker 1: up and down the street to avoid their lives and wives,

1457
01:14:31,800 --> 01:14:33,200
Speaker 1: and so they walk up and down the street and

1458
01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:37,679
Speaker 1: then they make small talk with my sister and her husband. Yes,

1459
01:14:37,880 --> 01:14:39,639
Speaker 1: what are you guys, What are you getting into this weekend?

1460
01:14:40,080 --> 01:14:42,640
Speaker 1: Oh would you do last night? I want to go,

1461
01:14:42,720 --> 01:14:48,639
Speaker 1: but the kids, yeah everything? You still got the old

1462
01:14:48,640 --> 01:14:50,760
Speaker 1: stroller as the wheels still broken. Like it's just the

1463
01:14:50,840 --> 01:14:58,120
Speaker 1: most benign banane, But now conversation reignant to me. And

1464
01:14:58,360 --> 01:15:00,960
Speaker 1: I told my sister. The other day, Matt went outside

1465
01:15:01,000 --> 01:15:02,160
Speaker 1: and he was talking to some neighbor and I go,

1466
01:15:02,200 --> 01:15:03,360
Speaker 1: I'm not going out there. I want to go play

1467
01:15:03,400 --> 01:15:04,880
Speaker 1: with the kids, but I'm not going out there because

1468
01:15:04,880 --> 01:15:06,720
Speaker 1: I know that person like kind of knows who I am.

1469
01:15:06,840 --> 01:15:08,840
Speaker 1: They get kind of nervous and they always have a

1470
01:15:08,880 --> 01:15:10,519
Speaker 1: baby that I have to act as cute and their

1471
01:15:10,560 --> 01:15:13,120
Speaker 1: little baby born thing, and I have to go, oh,

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Speaker 1: what's her name? Even though I don't give a funk.

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Speaker 1: And this is when I wasn't talking, so I was like,

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01:15:16,479 --> 01:15:18,720
Speaker 1: I don't want to like type out she's cute. It does.

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01:15:18,920 --> 01:15:20,559
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to your neighbors anymore. I'm

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01:15:20,560 --> 01:15:22,840
Speaker 1: tired of having conversations like And I was telling my

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01:15:22,880 --> 01:15:25,360
Speaker 1: parents this, and my mom goes, your dad is the

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01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:29,120
Speaker 1: same way. He loves talking to strangers. He loves it

1479
01:15:29,479 --> 01:15:31,160
Speaker 1: because I used to be like in high school, I

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01:15:31,200 --> 01:15:33,800
Speaker 1: remember my dad be like, let's go to Stook. Go

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01:15:33,840 --> 01:15:35,800
Speaker 1: it's the grocery stories. Like I'm gonna go to Stooks.

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01:15:35,840 --> 01:15:36,760
Speaker 1: You want to come with me? I'm like, no, I

1483
01:15:36,760 --> 01:15:38,240
Speaker 1: don't want to see anyone I know. And he'd be like,

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01:15:38,479 --> 01:15:40,040
Speaker 1: what is wrong with you? You never want to see

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01:15:40,080 --> 01:15:41,639
Speaker 1: anyone you know? You never want to talk to people.

1486
01:15:41,680 --> 01:15:43,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, what is wrong with you that you do?

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01:15:43,920 --> 01:15:47,559
Speaker 1: You want to constantly these small talk conversations? And what

1488
01:15:47,640 --> 01:15:49,360
Speaker 1: was I going to say about this? Oh? My mom

1489
01:15:49,479 --> 01:15:52,800
Speaker 1: was just saying, your dad does the same thing, and oh,

1490
01:15:52,920 --> 01:15:54,680
Speaker 1: I go and she goes. And I always had to

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01:15:54,720 --> 01:15:56,160
Speaker 1: stand there and talk to these people will be on

1492
01:15:56,200 --> 01:15:58,080
Speaker 1: a walk and your dad starts talking to someone, and

1493
01:15:58,120 --> 01:15:59,800
Speaker 1: then I have to keep I have to stand there

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01:16:00,040 --> 01:16:03,439
Speaker 1: and listen this whole goddamn conversation. I go just keep walking.

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01:16:04,160 --> 01:16:06,479
Speaker 1: I want to empower my mom to be more like

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01:16:07,040 --> 01:16:09,200
Speaker 1: just it's okay to go, you know what. I want

1497
01:16:09,240 --> 01:16:10,639
Speaker 1: to keep my hurt right up. I'm gonna keep walking

1498
01:16:10,640 --> 01:16:12,760
Speaker 1: when I walk ahead. Let you guys finish this conversation. Like.

1499
01:16:13,800 --> 01:16:16,320
Speaker 1: It's funny when guys talk to it's like they're just sorry.

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01:16:17,360 --> 01:16:20,439
Speaker 1: It's fine when they're like when they're like, they just

1501
01:16:20,479 --> 01:16:23,040
Speaker 1: always are like showing off of like things they know,

1502
01:16:23,160 --> 01:16:26,439
Speaker 1: like about the engine or the wood or the wet

1503
01:16:26,520 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 1: Like everybody dad talked to other people. He knows it is,

1504
01:16:30,160 --> 01:16:33,680
Speaker 1: but just they're each talking about their own lives and

1505
01:16:33,760 --> 01:16:36,280
Speaker 1: never commenting on each other's lives. So reget how an

1506
01:16:36,320 --> 01:16:38,040
Speaker 1: uber driver who only wants to talk about himself, but

1507
01:16:38,040 --> 01:16:40,800
Speaker 1: he acts curious about you. So anything, he'll ask to

1508
01:16:40,800 --> 01:16:42,160
Speaker 1: be like, so, what are you guys in town for?

1509
01:16:43,320 --> 01:16:47,360
Speaker 1: We're performing? Oh, I used to perform. I'm actually uh,

1510
01:16:47,400 --> 01:16:50,639
Speaker 1: I used to do gigs. That was you know, John Lennon, impersonating.

1511
01:16:50,840 --> 01:16:52,240
Speaker 1: It's like and then he starts pulling out his tapes

1512
01:16:52,240 --> 01:16:54,320
Speaker 1: and you gotta listen to him. I mean, this is

1513
01:16:54,320 --> 01:16:59,400
Speaker 1: how men talk used to work on is listening and

1514
01:16:59,439 --> 01:17:02,120
Speaker 1: asking a question that pertains to the person you just

1515
01:17:02,160 --> 01:17:04,679
Speaker 1: ask a question from, and stop asking questions of people

1516
01:17:04,920 --> 01:17:07,439
Speaker 1: if you aren't actually interested in that thing. That is

1517
01:17:07,479 --> 01:17:10,240
Speaker 1: why I do not talk to people that I'm not

1518
01:17:10,680 --> 01:17:12,200
Speaker 1: if I ask you how you're doing it because I

1519
01:17:12,280 --> 01:17:14,360
Speaker 1: literally care, or because you just ask me and I

1520
01:17:14,360 --> 01:17:16,479
Speaker 1: have to just give it back. But I'm not asking

1521
01:17:16,520 --> 01:17:20,000
Speaker 1: people just questions to just fill silence. I can be

1522
01:17:20,080 --> 01:17:23,080
Speaker 1: in an elevator from floor twelve to one and not

1523
01:17:23,160 --> 01:17:26,559
Speaker 1: say fucking anything to the person next to me. Can

1524
01:17:26,560 --> 01:17:30,320
Speaker 1: you do that? I'm okay at that. At times I'll

1525
01:17:30,400 --> 01:17:32,680
Speaker 1: just go like yesterday, this guy came in with a

1526
01:17:32,720 --> 01:17:35,599
Speaker 1: bike and I have the same bike, and I got

1527
01:17:35,640 --> 01:17:39,559
Speaker 1: that bike times. He was like, this is four years old,

1528
01:17:39,560 --> 01:17:41,880
Speaker 1: though this isore. Yeah, it's different because the suspension is

1529
01:17:41,880 --> 01:17:43,920
Speaker 1: different and I don't know anything about I don't mind

1530
01:17:43,920 --> 01:17:45,400
Speaker 1: when people talk to me. If you're someone who's a

1531
01:17:45,439 --> 01:17:47,240
Speaker 1: chatty person like this bitch doesn't like to talk to

1532
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:49,280
Speaker 1: me an elevator, talk to me. But I am okay

1533
01:17:49,360 --> 01:17:51,320
Speaker 1: if we do not talk, is what I'm saying. If

1534
01:17:51,320 --> 01:17:53,479
Speaker 1: I'm on a flight, I am okay not talking to

1535
01:17:53,520 --> 01:17:55,240
Speaker 1: the person next toime. You'll put the headphones in and

1536
01:17:55,280 --> 01:17:58,400
Speaker 1: listen to the Buzzy. Look at does Buzzy need a friend?

1537
01:17:58,800 --> 01:18:01,240
Speaker 1: Did you ever think about getting a secon cat? We

1538
01:18:01,479 --> 01:18:05,160
Speaker 1: thought about it, but uh, we're buzzies friends. He doesn't

1539
01:18:05,160 --> 01:18:08,240
Speaker 1: want any Buzzy is so freaking cute on the chair.

1540
01:18:09,240 --> 01:18:12,960
Speaker 1: He is so cute. Oh my god. All right, well

1541
01:18:13,000 --> 01:18:14,439
Speaker 1: we gotta go. Thank you guys for listening to the

1542
01:18:14,439 --> 01:18:16,320
Speaker 1: show this week. We will be back next week. Don't

1543
01:18:16,360 --> 01:18:19,080
Speaker 1: you worry about it. Have so much fun um this weekend.

1544
01:18:19,320 --> 01:18:24,040
Speaker 1: Go see Andrew tonight at UM. Well it's maybe too late.

1545
01:18:24,240 --> 01:18:28,439
Speaker 1: Well next month and Austin next month. I'm on the

1546
01:18:28,520 --> 01:18:30,519
Speaker 1: road a ton coming up Iowa at the end of

1547
01:18:30,520 --> 01:18:34,000
Speaker 1: the month, into um week after week after week of

1548
01:18:34,040 --> 01:18:35,640
Speaker 1: shows until the rest of my life. So go check

1549
01:18:35,640 --> 01:18:37,720
Speaker 1: out Niki glazer dot com slash tour and come to

1550
01:18:37,800 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 1: a show. If you buy a single ticket, I will

1551
01:18:39,880 --> 01:18:42,920
Speaker 1: give you a meet and greet comps if you um,

1552
01:18:42,920 --> 01:18:44,400
Speaker 1: but try to go with a friend you know, but

1553
01:18:44,439 --> 01:18:46,559
Speaker 1: if you can't, you can meet me for free. And

1554
01:18:46,560 --> 01:18:50,519
Speaker 1: if you can't meet me for free, listen, just damn

1555
01:18:50,600 --> 01:18:52,240
Speaker 1: me and say I can't afford it, and maybe I'll

1556
01:18:52,240 --> 01:18:53,960
Speaker 1: pump you up. But if you can't afford it, I

1557
01:18:54,000 --> 01:18:56,680
Speaker 1: would love to meet you and have you paid to

1558
01:18:56,720 --> 01:18:58,800
Speaker 1: do that, and I'll make it worth your while and

1559
01:18:58,800 --> 01:19:01,679
Speaker 1: I'll try your hair and have a you know, polite

1560
01:19:01,680 --> 01:19:04,240
Speaker 1: conversation about nothing with you in the front yard. Thank

1561
01:19:04,240 --> 01:19:06,200
Speaker 1: you so much for listening to the show. We'll be

1562
01:19:06,200 --> 01:19:11,320
Speaker 1: back next week. Don't be cook and Jack just check, Oh,

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01:19:11,479 --> 01:19:12,720
Speaker 1: just check? Can I like that?