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Speaker 1: A girl at my gym keeps recording me. I'm sick

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Speaker 1: if I was the a hole in this situation. I

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Speaker 1: forty one mail go to the gym early morning around

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Speaker 1: same time. We always say hello to each other and

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Speaker 1: have a small talk between our sets. She comes in

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Speaker 1: record herself working out as she wants to be a

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Speaker 1: fitness influencer or something. He seems dedicated and we've known

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Speaker 1: each other for at least a year. By the way,

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Speaker 1: on the r slash Okay storytime sub reddit. So today morning,

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Speaker 1: as I was working out, she came to me and

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Speaker 1: asked for help. It was very excited and told me

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Speaker 1: that she wanted to go for a pr on barbell

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Speaker 1: squat personal record. She asked me if I could spot her,

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Speaker 1: to do it. I said, okay, as this is not

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Speaker 1: the most uncommon thing for people who are un familiar.

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Speaker 1: This is an exercise where you carry a barbell with

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Speaker 1: has to stand behind the person and support the person

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Speaker 1: in case they fail to get up. As she was

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Speaker 1: getting ready, I saw her phone in the corner and

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Speaker 1: asked her if I can be off camera or if

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Speaker 1: she can stop recording. She said she really wanted to

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Speaker 1: record herself doing it, and I will look good on camera.

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Speaker 1: I think if anyone asks, dot's not a record, especially

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Speaker 1: at a gym. I think that I have a lot

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Speaker 1: of feelings about filming the Yeah people record in gym's Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's I feel like you want your privacy in that

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Speaker 1: space because it's a very personal. Yeah, it's like you're watrivity.

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Speaker 1: And also for some people it's kind of you know,

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Speaker 1: it's hard to motivate yourself to go to the gym

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Speaker 1: and trying not to be observed.

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Speaker 2: People feel weird about being on camera being posted on

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Speaker 1: And I think and also that opens up to dangerous

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Speaker 1: there's like a lot of like stuff, and I think

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Speaker 1: this is part of that. Yeah, but it just if

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Speaker 1: someone says, don't record me, just don't record them. Another

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Speaker 1: reason that I did not tell her was that she

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Speaker 1: was wearing a very revealing outfit, small sports brond, tight shorts.

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Speaker 1: Hey well, and I really did not feel comfortable being

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Speaker 1: recorded standing beside her. She promised me that she will

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Speaker 1: I just didn't want to be recorded. I told her

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Speaker 1: thirty minutes, one of the trainers may be able to

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Speaker 1: help her. She became really upset and asked why I'm

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Speaker 1: making this situation weird? Do you accuse me of sexualizing her?

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Speaker 1: She asked me if she was a man, would I

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Speaker 1: have done it. I thought she had a point, as

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Speaker 1: I have done it for other people. I told her

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Speaker 1: don't want to be recorded doing it. It's so simple,

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Speaker 1: I think that was the original argument. Anyway, It's so simple.

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Speaker 2: You're in the gym, this guy's willing to help you, which,

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Speaker 2: by the way, some people wouldn't offer a spot. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: some people would be like, I'm doing my workout.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to, I don't have done. Yeah. She

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Speaker 1: I just that's not the issue. I mean, that's like

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Speaker 1: not wanting to be recorded. Yeah, point blank. I felt

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Speaker 1: to work out. I've also asked people to spot me

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Speaker 1: in past, and people always helped. However, I just didn't

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Speaker 1: I do not know what I should do in this situation,

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Speaker 1: and am a bit worried, and there are some relevant

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Speaker 1: comments and an update. I'll read the relevant comments and

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Speaker 1: then we can take a pause because it's just two

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Speaker 1: Ashley down for nineteen says, not the a hole. People

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Speaker 1: it would look inappropriate if a co worker or wife

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Speaker 1: it would absolutely look bad on you because people don't

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Speaker 1: understand spotting and having to assist what squats looks like.

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Speaker 1: Opie says, that was exactly what went through my mind.

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Speaker 1: Plus who knows what commentary someone can put on top

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Speaker 2: I think this is one of the easiest of the

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Speaker 2: not be able, not.

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Speaker 1: The a hole. Yeah, OPI just doesn't want to be recorded.

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Speaker 1: And I think, regardless of his reasonings, if someone says

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Speaker 1: be recorded, leave it at that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And the gym, like, I do respect her for

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Speaker 2: going super early, like five thirty am before people are there.

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Speaker 1: Do your thing. That is respectful.

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Speaker 2: But the whole filming in the gym thing has just

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Speaker 2: filming anybody, I think in a place where they don't

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Speaker 1: Yes, but yeah, just let him be, I think, just

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Speaker 1: or like blur them out or anything. Just be like

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Speaker 1: also gonna say, I feel like I've seen a lot

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Speaker 1: it's not actually intimate. Most times. It's like they're just

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Speaker 2: I've seen the joke videos though, where you are like

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Speaker 1: And the comments that he's I think he's what he's

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Speaker 1: he's worried about his wife. Yeah. I think he's just

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Speaker 1: not think think it will blow up so much that

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Speaker 1: my wife got the story on her TikTok. What happened

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Speaker 1: after was pretty unexpected, and my life is a bit

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Speaker 1: absurd right now. I was worried that she would post

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Speaker 1: me as the bad guy. I told my wife about

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Speaker 1: the conversation, and she said that she has seen posts

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Speaker 1: where young girls do add nasty voiceovers and make men

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Speaker 1: just to get ahead of things. When I went to

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Speaker 1: asked me if we could talk. You wanted to apologize

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Speaker 1: was wrong of her to assume that I would be

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Speaker 1: okay with her recording me. That's nice, em way, an

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Speaker 1: apology is always nice. Yeah, it was a pleasant surprise,

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Speaker 1: as I was not expecting that. I told her that

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Speaker 1: She asked me how long I have been working out

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Speaker 1: told me that she's unemployed and cannot afford them. I

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Speaker 1: some pointers Paul's really quick. I think in a lot

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Speaker 1: It feels like, oh, he is trying to be like

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Speaker 2: I know. And it's so hard because I feel like

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Speaker 2: I could see a situation in the gym where maybe

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Speaker 2: show me some stuff? I can't afford the personal training,

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Speaker 2: but like I would absolutely, Yeah, But it seems like

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Speaker 1: Maybe the fact he's just uncomfortable, he's uncomfortable. Yeah, And

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's the end of it. Yeah, like yeah,

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Speaker 1: of course, yeah. Absolutely could be a world where she's

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Speaker 1: literally just asking for help. Yeah, not this world. Up

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Speaker 1: at this point, I felt I was just being rude

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Speaker 1: moved back to her mom's house, and is looking for

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Speaker 1: a job. It was very chubby last year and wants

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Speaker 1: to look like the TikTok fitness models and is trying

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Speaker 1: her questions. She already knew my name and asked me

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Speaker 1: if my wife would be okay if she follows me

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Speaker 1: on Instagram. Okay, I mean, you know, asks about the wife.

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Speaker 2: I guess, But also I feel like I would just

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Speaker 2: ask someone for Instagram and then let them decide.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's true because I asked everyone for their Instagram. Wait,

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Speaker 1: how does she know that he's married. I think he's

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Speaker 1: talked about it. Okay. I told her that the main

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Speaker 1: She asked me if I use Snapchat, and I had

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Speaker 1: to remind her that I am twice her age.

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Speaker 2: Also Snapchat Snapchat is out Snapchat Snapchat.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry you asked if it was okay if his like,

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Speaker 1: to ask about Snapchat.

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Speaker 2: I didn't realize you couldn't see his face in it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think regardless, it seems like he's still being recorded.

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Speaker 2: It's still a boundary that you should just because he's

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The wife's like, no, you got to keep this

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Speaker 1: Corny Brady says she hasn't done anything inappropriate. What his

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Speaker 1: And then what was all that about in the coffee discussions? Hope?

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Speaker 1: He says, what are the coffee discussions?

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Speaker 1: It seems weird for her to do that. If it's

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Speaker 2: But it's weird because now that he's chatted with his

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Speaker 2: But I'm not down with the Jim Crush narrative on

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Speaker 1: Please take me out of it. Yeah you someone else?

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Speaker 2: It's like, be careful what you wish for or not

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Shelby says, I think the wife is kind of

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Speaker 1: the biggest a hole here. She shouldn't be pushing her

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Speaker 1: husband to do something that makes him uncomfortable. For her

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Speaker 1: own entertainment. It's nice that she isn't blaming him, but

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Speaker 1: that's how I feel. At first again, I was like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: she's okay, that's good that she's not blaming him, And

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Speaker 1: then I'm.

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Speaker 2: Like, I feel like if I don't know, if I

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Speaker 2: were in the wife's shoes, I'd just be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: this girl probably just like wants your help in the gym,

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Speaker 2: and like you're really fit and strong, like you should

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Speaker 2: just help.

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Speaker 1: Her, you know.

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Speaker 2: But then I think if I heard they were getting

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Speaker 2: weekly coffees, I'd be like, stop helping her.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't need that much help. Panta Ammonium says, I

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Speaker 1: feel like the wife shouldn't be okay with it. Like

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Speaker 1: understanding Ope isn't involved is great, but basically encouraging when

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Speaker 1: he's uncomfortable is not okay. Agreed one hundred percent.