1 00:00:01,320 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 1: Welcome to season two of The Good Stuff. I'm Ashley Schick, 2 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: and I'm joined by my husband and co host, Jacob Schick, 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:11,479 Speaker 1: a third generation combat marine and CEO of One Tribe Foundation. 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 2: Actually also comes from a family rich in military history, 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:18,280 Speaker 2: and we've dedicated our lives to One Tribe's mission, serving veterans, 6 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 2: first responders as well as our families. We're coming to 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 2: you from Dallas, so welcome. 8 00:00:22,160 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 1: To Texas and joining us all season long from Los Angeles, 9 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: California is our West Coast long haired friend and producer 10 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: of The Good Stuff, Nick Cassolini. 11 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:32,880 Speaker 3: This episode is going to be a lot of fun. 12 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,559 Speaker 3: Today we bring you a highlight reel of some of 13 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 3: this season's deleted scenes. Just a quick heads up, this 14 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:43,239 Speaker 3: show can explore some heavy subject matter, including suicide, so 15 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:45,160 Speaker 3: listener discretion is advised. 16 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 1: We couldn't be happier. 17 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 4: You're here again. 18 00:00:48,080 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 3: Welcome to the Good Stuff. What's up everyone, Nick the 19 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 3: producer here. One of my very favorite parts of making 20 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 3: this show is sitting down with Jake and Ashley in 21 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:10,240 Speaker 3: front of the MIC's hitting record and just seeing what 22 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,680 Speaker 3: conversation flows out of us. One of the hardest parts 23 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:16,520 Speaker 3: of my job is editing these episodes and making the 24 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 3: choice to delete interesting elements if they don't really serve 25 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,199 Speaker 3: the greater good of the episode. Well, today we bring 26 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 3: you a special edition of The Good Stuff, a highlight 27 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:30,400 Speaker 3: reel of some of those deleted scenes. I'll briefly introduce 28 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,920 Speaker 3: each scene, add a little contextualization, and then let them 29 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 3: play out. This first segment was recorded during our episode 30 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 3: on trigger Therapy, when Jake and Ashley took me to 31 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 3: the gun range after the day's events had taken place 32 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 3: and we were letting it all sink in. It became 33 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 3: clear to me that trigger therapy or vets going to 34 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 3: the shooting range as a form of expression and bonding 35 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 3: actually played a major role in how this podcast came 36 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:58,280 Speaker 3: into existence in the first place. So here we go, 37 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 3: let's get started. So one of the reasons The Good 38 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 3: Stuff podcast even exists is because your relationship with Bradley Cooper, 39 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:10,839 Speaker 3: who you befriended on the set of American Sniper, where 40 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 3: you were playing a character essentially yourself, someone coming back 41 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:19,760 Speaker 3: from the Iraq War severely injured, who is using trigger 42 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 3: therapy for lack of a better term, as a way 43 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 3: to connect And I'm curious to know how real to 44 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 3: life that scene was for you or people. You know, 45 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 3: it's a great question. He definitely did more of the 46 00:02:36,880 --> 00:02:38,079 Speaker 3: befriending than I did. 47 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 4: I was a prick. 48 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 3: Well really, you're like Bradley Cooper, you suck. 49 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 2: No, I just was I don't know it. It's a 50 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 2: different time in my life mentally, emotionally, spiritually was I 51 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 2: was just in a different place. 52 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 4: You were going through it for a yeah, you know. 53 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:01,120 Speaker 2: And he was just so kind and great and like 54 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 2: he always is and really took me under his wing 55 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 2: when I get absolutely gave him reason not to and yeah, 56 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 2: it's like like I told him on set and I 57 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 2: was like, man, I don't know, I've never done this. 58 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 3: I know what I'm doing acting, you mean, right? And 59 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:29,919 Speaker 3: he made this joke back by truth, He's like, Jake. 60 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 4: You're playing is really winded marine? 61 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:37,480 Speaker 2: I mean, like, how much of a stretch is it? 62 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 2: And I was like and it made me laugh and 63 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 2: it chilled me out, And you know, I know that 64 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 2: he knew what he was doing and I really appreciated that. 65 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 2: I really really appreciated that. And then being behind the 66 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 2: weapon and all that stuff was not like that was 67 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 2: very normal for me, except for the firing blank stuff. 68 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 2: That was I forgot that when you fire blanks there's 69 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 2: no recoil. 70 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, so suddenly you did have to act. You're like, 71 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 3: this is the most difficult role I've ever played in 72 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 3: my life. It was very real. 73 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 4: It was very real weapon. 74 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 2: It just had blanks and so, and Bradley had just 75 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 2: talked to me about Hey. He asked me, said Jacob, 76 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 2: when was the last time you fired a weapon with blanks? 77 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 2: And I couldn't remember, right, honestly, And I thought about 78 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 2: it only man, I don't even remember. He said, Okay, well, 79 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 2: if you recall, which I didn't, when you fire weapons 80 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 2: with blanks, there's no recoil. 81 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 4: You got to act out the recoil. I was like, 82 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 4: oh yeah, I got I got it, got it. 83 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 2: And so then we did the the dress rehearsal and 84 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 2: I knelt my lines and everything, and then the ball 85 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 2: say Ay Clinas would walk up and he's like, Jake, 86 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:51,160 Speaker 2: you should know more than anyone else out here. When 87 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 2: you fire a weapon with blanks, you've got to act 88 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 2: out the recoil. 89 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 4: Bro. 90 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 2: He's like, I just told them all and I was like, 91 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:04,239 Speaker 2: shut up, man, shut up. And I totally forgot because 92 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 2: I was nervous as hell. Man, I was so nervous. 93 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 2: But the great thing about that scene and then you know, 94 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:15,360 Speaker 2: my spotter was, uh, it was great. That was really 95 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 2: cool is I didn't even know this was gonna be 96 00:05:16,760 --> 00:05:18,719 Speaker 2: a thing until I showed up first han set and 97 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 2: Brian Anderson was my spotter, and we were into live 98 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:26,680 Speaker 2: day memories together, and so I knew Brian already, which 99 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,039 Speaker 2: that was very very cool because that helped me really 100 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 2: come down some and chill some. Brian just his chills 101 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 2: the day as long. He's a great human being and 102 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:38,279 Speaker 2: triple emputy. 103 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:39,559 Speaker 3: So that was real cool. 104 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 2: But then, if you're gonna set up a scenario where 105 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:48,360 Speaker 2: you have to act for one of the most famous 106 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:53,599 Speaker 2: director actors on the freaking planet, I mean seriously, probably 107 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 2: top five of course, and with a current, you know, 108 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 2: a list celebrity being Brody Cooper, probably the most comfortable 109 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 2: environment you could put me in was be on a 110 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 2: rifle range behind. 111 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:10,200 Speaker 3: A rifle like. It was so kind of everybody. 112 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 2: It definitely I was able to ease in and and 113 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:15,599 Speaker 2: everybody was so cool, man. 114 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 4: All the everybody on. 115 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 3: Set was really cool, really helpful, and so it was. 116 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 4: A very. 117 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 2: It was the synergy was there already because I was 118 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 2: already comfortable. 119 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 4: I knew it was firing blanks. 120 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:30,359 Speaker 2: So like if I did ship the bed and un 121 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:32,880 Speaker 2: hit the bulls, I like nobody would know because then 122 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 2: I'd probably catch hell because the guy that was in 123 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 2: charge of the weapons is marine. 124 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 3: So I was like, oh, thank god these are. 125 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:40,840 Speaker 2: There was a part of me where I was like, 126 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 2: so glad these are blanks because I was so freaking nervous. 127 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 2: And I know when you when you're trying to do 128 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:52,280 Speaker 2: something precise behind a weapon and you have a lot 129 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 2: of nerves and drilling, it gets very very difficult, especially 130 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 2: when you're trying to you know, very very small targets. 131 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 3: And it's like, I was very. 132 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:06,400 Speaker 2: Grateful that everybody was so cool and so gracious and 133 00:07:06,440 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 2: that Braley was just cool. It was a cucumber and 134 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 2: really really put me at ease. And I mean Clint 135 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 2: Eastwood man, he was so just super chill, you know, 136 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 2: he was very He's hilarious, you know, and it was cool. 137 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 2: It was an experience I'll never forget, and I'm. 138 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 3: I'm still to this day. 139 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 4: You know. It's like twelve years ago, twelve or thirteen 140 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 4: years ago. 141 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 2: You know, I think about it and it's still super 142 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 2: homely to be able to go like, hey, yeah, I 143 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 2: actually did that. 144 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 3: All Right, we're gonna squeeze in a quick commercial break, 145 00:07:46,080 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 3: but when we come back, we have a deleted scene 146 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:52,679 Speaker 3: with Randy, the natural cauture and a quick story about 147 00:07:52,760 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 3: an adventure of mine in small town Texas. All right, 148 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 3: welcome back to the Good Stuff. The highlight reel continues 149 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 3: on impact. We here at the Good Stuff Podcast love 150 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 3: Randy Cature. He's a UFC Hall of Famer, beloved action 151 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 3: film Hollywood star, and US Army veteran. He's been friends 152 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 3: with Jake and Ashley long before The Good Stuff Podcast 153 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:23,720 Speaker 3: came into existence. He has continued to be a friend 154 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 3: of the show, not only sitting down to tell his 155 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 3: story in season one, but joining us yet again in 156 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 3: season two for our episode on win therapy and the 157 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:35,560 Speaker 3: healing power of motorcycle riding. As some of you may know, 158 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:39,520 Speaker 3: Randy was involved in a race car crash earlier this year. Thankfully, 159 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 3: he survived and is still kicking ass. Our season two 160 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 3: episode with Randy was recorded months before his accident, which 161 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 3: explains why none of that stuff comes up in this conversation. 162 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 3: We wanted to include this little nugget from our sit 163 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:56,800 Speaker 3: down with Randy out of pure appreciation and celebration of 164 00:08:56,880 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 3: our friend, Randy the Natural Cautuur. 165 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: I do want to check in because, like I said, 166 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:07,680 Speaker 1: one of our favorite episodes from season one was with you, 167 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: Randy the Natural Cotuur. We're so thrilled that you've joined 168 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: us on the good stuff, and now here we get 169 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:14,880 Speaker 1: a chance to sit down with you again. So I 170 00:09:14,960 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: just want give us an update. What's going on in 171 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:19,640 Speaker 1: Randy's life for the next year. 172 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:22,880 Speaker 5: What's going on for sure? Obviously the gym is doing 173 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 5: very very well for gim of the Year the last 174 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 5: four years running, and I signed it over to my 175 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:31,440 Speaker 5: son Ryan in twenty twenty. He retired from fighting most 176 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:34,000 Speaker 5: of his career in Bellatur. His wife was putting some 177 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 5: heat on him to start the family. He's not getting 178 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 5: any youngers, and it's you know, in his forties forty 179 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:41,319 Speaker 5: two now, and so I have one and a three 180 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:45,560 Speaker 5: year old grandson. My daughter has a little girls. That's 181 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:47,920 Speaker 5: for Ebby. I think Ebbie's going to be a slugger. 182 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:48,719 Speaker 5: We haven't decided if. 183 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 3: It's Roller Derby. 184 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 5: Pro Wrestling it's going to be one of the two. 185 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 5: I think she's got he's a little savage. She's amazing. 186 00:09:57,679 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 5: And I just scratched my head and laughed because my 187 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 5: daughter's going to get it all back. 188 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 3: And yeah, it's awesome. 189 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:07,320 Speaker 5: So the grandkids are doing great. I you know, to 190 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 5: be honest, I felt like I've been in some sort 191 00:10:09,559 --> 00:10:12,760 Speaker 5: of spiritual awakening since June. It's been really really crazy. 192 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 5: Started having all these emotions kind of pouring out of 193 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 5: me that I couldn't put my finger on. And instead 194 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:19,960 Speaker 5: of trying to stick my head in the sand and 195 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 5: run away from that, really kind of embracing it and 196 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,959 Speaker 5: trying to figure out where all that's coming from. And 197 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:28,040 Speaker 5: it's been and I'm running into lots of friends and 198 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:30,680 Speaker 5: lots of other people that are experiencing a very similar thing. 199 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:35,480 Speaker 5: So something's changing in our world right now. We just 200 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:39,360 Speaker 5: entered a new era. We just had all seven of planets, 201 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 5: a line that's that does not happen very often. We 202 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 5: just had an amazing full moon and eclipse that was 203 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 5: very powerful. I had some amazing insights. I just did 204 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,720 Speaker 5: a big ayahuasca journey with some other veteran friends. Wow, 205 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 5: that was very enlightening and really kind of helped me 206 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:56,080 Speaker 5: wrap my brain around everything that I've been feeling since 207 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 5: last June. 208 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 3: So it's awesome. 209 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:02,400 Speaker 5: It's been an interesting and enlightening and in some ways healing, 210 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,319 Speaker 5: uh some ways very very painful because there's no way 211 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 5: to do that without embracing some pain, digging into some 212 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:10,320 Speaker 5: of the old trauma and the old things that we 213 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 5: tend to stuff and deal develop coping mechanisms and ways 214 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:17,360 Speaker 5: to get through to survive, and so trying to shed 215 00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:19,040 Speaker 5: a bunch of that, shed a bunch of those old 216 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 5: patterns and those things. So it's been it's been hard, 217 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:25,200 Speaker 5: but it's been great at the same time, if that 218 00:11:25,240 --> 00:11:25,680 Speaker 5: makes sense. 219 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 2: No, and I tell you right now, bro, after knowing 220 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 2: you for years and the first time we met, I 221 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:37,040 Speaker 2: did a speaking engagement for your foundation, Streamed Jacket Tour Foundation, 222 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 2: and actually your son is the one that picked me 223 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 2: up at the airport, took me to the hotel and everything. 224 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 3: Never ever one time was like yeah, Randie's my dad. 225 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 4: Not one time, it's. 226 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 3: Like this Enturn's pretty cool, I guess. 227 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 2: So I was like asking him all he was just 228 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 2: cool as a cucumber though, like just really laid back 229 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 2: early chill. Like we pulled in the parking roads on 230 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 2: there and I was like, hey, man, I got it. 231 00:12:03,120 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 2: Like he just he's like, no, no, no, I got it. 232 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 4: I gonna help you. 233 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:11,000 Speaker 2: And I was like, no, it's fine, and he goes no, 234 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 2: and I was like, you win, bro, I'm not gonna 235 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 2: like that's you went. 236 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:18,280 Speaker 3: But it was he clearly did good. 237 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 4: He did good there. 238 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:20,880 Speaker 3: And he's a great kid. 239 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 5: He really is scary how much he sounds and and 240 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 5: looks like me at this stage of his life. Poor kid. 241 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 5: But yeah, he's he's an amazing young man. And you 242 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 5: talk about cycles and and things like that, and I 243 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 5: feel like he's he broke the cycle. You know, it 244 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 5: came from a long line of divorces and a bunch 245 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 5: of other crap and and uh, and I think I 246 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 5: feel like he's he's the one that stepped up and 247 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 5: finally broke that cycle. 248 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's huge, man. 249 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 2: Well, you know he had a he had a uh 250 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:55,200 Speaker 2: cycles or no cycles? Right, he had a good good 251 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:59,319 Speaker 2: example in you with work ethic and in your graciousness. 252 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 2: And because you've all since I've known you, it has 253 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 2: been for years now like you've you've all you're always 254 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 2: very gracious. And I told you this when I picked 255 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 2: you up the airport. I'm like, dude, last year, like 256 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 2: I really had to use some humble pie like you. 257 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:16,719 Speaker 4: It was like, Hey, what time you want to be there? More? 258 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 4: What time registeration start? Ten thirty? Okay, well then we 259 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 4: should be there at ten thirty. 260 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 3: Cool? 261 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:23,680 Speaker 4: What time do you want to leave? 262 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: Well? 263 00:13:23,920 --> 00:13:24,720 Speaker 4: What time is the event? 264 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:25,800 Speaker 3: Man? Four? 265 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:27,800 Speaker 4: All right, we'll leave after four. 266 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:31,199 Speaker 2: And I was like, solid freaking copy, I guess this 267 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:31,880 Speaker 2: is what we're doing. 268 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:33,720 Speaker 3: It was like I thought we were doing twenty minutes 269 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 3: and kissing babieskin. 270 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:37,880 Speaker 2: And then I was like, and I told Ashley, even 271 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 2: after the fact, I'm like. 272 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:42,360 Speaker 4: I've gotta suck less of that. 273 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:49,560 Speaker 3: This next scene was originally recorded during our episode about 274 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 3: one tribe's women's lunch. As you may remember, Ashley went 275 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 3: off and had lunch with their ladies while I was 276 00:13:55,760 --> 00:14:00,320 Speaker 3: left to my own devices in small town Texas. So 277 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:03,640 Speaker 3: it's good a few bad guys, Yeah, yeah, hell yeah. 278 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 3: I got to walk around Grapevine, Texas. You know what 279 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:08,079 Speaker 3: I'm saying. How was that? It was so fun just 280 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 3: walking up and down a little cute, little downtown area, 281 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 3: you know, people looking at me and then averting eyes. 282 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 3: You know it was good. I was strolling down, showed 283 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 3: up to the ladies lunch, got a couple of compliments 284 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 3: on my outfit, you know, just crushing the game. 285 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:23,760 Speaker 1: They were like obsessed with his shoes. He's got like 286 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:26,440 Speaker 1: his lime green tennis shoes on, sneakers on what. 287 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 4: Did you do? In great fun? While the ladies lunching. 288 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,480 Speaker 3: To Tollberts or toll Bears. I don't know how fancy 289 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 3: they are. You know, Tollberts or toll Bears could go 290 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 3: either way, and they're it's not Louisiana. 291 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 1: It's Tolberts. 292 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 3: Tolberts. You know, they're famous for their chili. They had 293 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:46,040 Speaker 3: a couple couple of varieties. I got two good old 294 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 3: bowl of Texas red or. 295 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:51,640 Speaker 1: What they called it Chilian beans because that's chili and tex. 296 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 3: Oh, this one didn't even have beans. You had to 297 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 3: add the beans. I got five alarms spice added to 298 00:14:56,280 --> 00:15:01,040 Speaker 3: it and the chili chili spic. It was medium. I 299 00:15:01,040 --> 00:15:04,760 Speaker 3: would yeah. Yeah. There's an old timer there who greeted 300 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 3: me at the door, and he was real gruppy at first. 301 00:15:07,560 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 3: He was like like how many, Like I'm gonna bring 302 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:13,280 Speaker 3: in like a gang of weird California people with me. 303 00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 3: You better not have friends, was basically the vibe, and 304 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:20,320 Speaker 3: I was like just one. He's like okay. I was like, 305 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 3: I'll sit at the bar, and he looked at me 306 00:15:21,600 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 3: and like that was a cool thing to say. He's 307 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 3: like all right, and then he like stumbled across the 308 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:27,680 Speaker 3: thing and like led me to the bar and then 309 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 3: pulled out the chair for me like a gentleman. And 310 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 3: then as I sat down, he like patted me on 311 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 3: the back. He's like, welcome, thanks, He was so nice. Hey, 312 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:36,400 Speaker 3: so quick question. 313 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, how often does that happen in Los Angeles with 314 00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 2: people total strangers that will pull the chair out for 315 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 2: you and pat you on the path you'll look back 316 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 2: and tell you welcome. 317 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 3: Uh, you know we have a different version of that. 318 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:55,600 Speaker 3: But those specific things felt very specific to this, to 319 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 3: this place, this region, and also that I kind of 320 00:15:58,200 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 3: had to earn it a little bit, you know, like 321 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 3: he wasn't gonna be nice at first, you know, he 322 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 3: needed he needed to know that I was a good one, 323 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 3: and then he was very happy. Was It actually reminded 324 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:09,800 Speaker 3: me of Sicilians. That's how they kind of are in sicily, 325 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 3: They're immediately like why are you here? You better be family, 326 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:14,840 Speaker 3: like what are you doing here? You know? And then 327 00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 3: as soon as you're cool, they're like, okay, now, well. 328 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 4: I don't sure. 329 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:19,680 Speaker 2: He was probably waiting for you to be like, hey, 330 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 2: is it cool if I smoke a blunt here? 331 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 3: Can you turn on some dray or snoop? 332 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 1: Like do you have any kale or Kean Wong? 333 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, no. Then I ordered I was double 334 00:16:30,920 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 3: fisting the chili. You know you're into that, got it? 335 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 4: So which one was better? 336 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 3: I probably would get the chili verde over the big 337 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:41,240 Speaker 3: bowl of red again, but I would like to try 338 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 3: the cause you can do north of the Borders where 339 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:47,280 Speaker 3: they add pinto beans to the to the red chili. Oh, 340 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 3: Ashley's got the bad face. You don't like the not 341 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 3: chili see controversy. This is this is what happens when 342 00:16:53,560 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 3: you bring me in. 343 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 1: This that's not chili. 344 00:16:55,680 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 3: Well it's option on the menu. 345 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: For Yankees, for damn Yankees that come in or Californians. 346 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 3: You should all just fistfight. Yeah, whoever wins has the 347 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:08,640 Speaker 3: better version of chili? Yeah? Was the back blast area? 348 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:09,400 Speaker 4: All clear neck? 349 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:11,560 Speaker 2: Because you had two bowls of chili while you're taking 350 00:17:11,560 --> 00:17:13,440 Speaker 2: the pictures or were you just spd. 351 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 3: In it the whole time? Hey, you know what, Tolberts, 352 00:17:18,600 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 3: God bless your janitor or whoever takes care of all that. 353 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 3: You have my sympathies. Thank you for your service. 354 00:17:25,760 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 2: Well how was your deep conversation with the old timer? 355 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:30,399 Speaker 2: What did you guys really have a deep dive in? 356 00:17:30,560 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 3: Oh? That was it. There was nothing more, nothing more 357 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 3: than back and welcome. Yeah, but you did run into 358 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:39,119 Speaker 3: him after. I did run into him after I was 359 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:43,960 Speaker 3: kind of loitering around like a little psycho waiting for Ashley, 360 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 3: and he walked out of the back and actually initiated 361 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 3: a little hand up head nod, you know, the little 362 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 3: wave of nod. 363 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 1: Wait, is that how you did it? 364 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:56,679 Speaker 3: I was like, yeah, he was like, he did it. 365 00:17:57,000 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 3: He did it right back. 366 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:02,600 Speaker 4: So you that's your new friend in great un that's 367 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:03,480 Speaker 4: what you're talking about. 368 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:06,679 Speaker 3: Yeah, thanks for having me Texas. Yeah, it's been a pleasure. 369 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 3: You're welcome. 370 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:10,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, don't bring a lot of your friends. 371 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:12,440 Speaker 1: Remember why you came. 372 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:21,119 Speaker 3: We have to take our final commercial break of the episode, 373 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 3: and when we come back, we bring you what just 374 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 3: might be the most important thing we recorded all season long. 375 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 3: Our final deleted scene today might actually be one of 376 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:46,280 Speaker 3: the most important things we recorded all season long, and 377 00:18:46,359 --> 00:18:49,400 Speaker 3: it also happens to come from the Win Therapy episode. 378 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:53,160 Speaker 3: As a quick reminder, that episode was about a motorcycle 379 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:57,119 Speaker 3: ride which raised funds for military veterans. If any of 380 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:59,879 Speaker 3: the work Jake and Ashley does with One Tribe helping 381 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,920 Speaker 3: veterans and their families still feel somewhat distant to you, 382 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:07,119 Speaker 3: or if the reason that something like a motorcycle ride 383 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:10,280 Speaker 3: needs to exist still feels a bit unclear, I think 384 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 3: this next story will really help snap. 385 00:19:12,520 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 4: That into focus. 386 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 3: So after a very long day at the ride for 387 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 3: our troops, I tagged along with Jake and Ashley to 388 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 3: a fully separate fundraiser and spent the evening there. After 389 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 3: all was said and done. 390 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:25,680 Speaker 4: Here's what we recorded. 391 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 3: I think it's also important that maybe the people start 392 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:38,000 Speaker 3: to understand, you know, just what this ride is also 393 00:19:38,600 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 3: doing for the community, and you know, and it's easy 394 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 3: sometimes to get lost in the mix of who actually 395 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:49,160 Speaker 3: benefits from the money raised and the awareness raised, and 396 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 3: you know, and the sense of community and camaraderie that 397 00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:56,160 Speaker 3: is felt in the moment, you know, people benefit directly. 398 00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:58,919 Speaker 3: I mean basically what happened was is we went from 399 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:01,119 Speaker 3: this event, we had to get changed, we had to 400 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 3: take bird baths in the bathroom at the Harley Dealership, 401 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:08,200 Speaker 3: a little touch and go upstairs, you know the Lord, 402 00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 3: and we had to get as pretty as we could 403 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 3: get because we were headed to another event where, Jake, 404 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:17,440 Speaker 3: you were accepting an award, the John Wayne Walding Award, 405 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:21,399 Speaker 3: which is for not just the service that you you know, 406 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:24,159 Speaker 3: gave to our country, not your past military service, but 407 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:28,959 Speaker 3: also your present community service that you do. And I 408 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 3: love what John would John when aka j Dubb said, 409 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:35,960 Speaker 3: he was like, this guy is punching veteran suicide in 410 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:40,040 Speaker 3: the face every day, which is just such a great 411 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:44,479 Speaker 3: way to sum up you know what you are up 412 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,679 Speaker 3: to these days. If you're comfortable, Jake, it might be 413 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:49,680 Speaker 3: powerful to hear a little bit about the phone call 414 00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 3: that happened in the car on our way from the 415 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:54,720 Speaker 3: ride to the awards ceremony. 416 00:20:56,840 --> 00:21:00,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was unfortunately a phone call that I've had 417 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:09,440 Speaker 2: god only knows how many times hundreds easily talked to 418 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:14,120 Speaker 2: miss Molly and she tried contacting the try because she. 419 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:15,480 Speaker 4: Had learned about us through. 420 00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:20,640 Speaker 2: Johnny Joey Jones or Triple J very close friend of mine, 421 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:24,920 Speaker 2: marine double amputee by latter above the knee double amputee, 422 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:30,199 Speaker 2: and she tried contacting us, she said, several times, and 423 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:31,360 Speaker 2: nobody got back to her. 424 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:34,040 Speaker 3: And so Ash read this email and I. 425 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 2: Was like, I'm calling her right now. I'm like, what 426 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,399 Speaker 2: was her last name? And she's looking and I'm like 427 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:40,879 Speaker 2: just listening to the voicemail. But I had this like 428 00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:45,920 Speaker 2: overwhelming like sensation that I had to call her right then. 429 00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:50,240 Speaker 2: I couldn't wait, couldn't wait two seconds, couldn't wait twenty seconds. 430 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 2: I don't care if I butcher the name, that's really 431 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:56,400 Speaker 2: not the point of the call. And I just hit 432 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:59,879 Speaker 2: call and I was like, here we go. And she 433 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 2: answered on like the second ring and said, you know, hey, 434 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:06,560 Speaker 2: I'm Jacob Chick. I'm the CEO of One Tribe Foundation, 435 00:22:06,680 --> 00:22:10,640 Speaker 2: and I just wanted to call on tell you two 436 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:13,440 Speaker 2: things first and foremost, I am so sorry if you're 437 00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 2: devastating lost. She'd lost her son on the third of 438 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:22,159 Speaker 2: this month by his own hand, and he was not 439 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:26,159 Speaker 2: only Navy but also Army veteran, and he's going to 440 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:31,679 Speaker 2: be forty four in September, and his name's Michael. And 441 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:34,200 Speaker 2: so I needed to apologize to her for that first 442 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:36,760 Speaker 2: and foremost and let her know, you know, you're not 443 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 2: on an island. I know it may feel like you are, 444 00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:44,960 Speaker 2: and I can I don't know what you're going through 445 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,199 Speaker 2: as far as pain is concerned right now, but I 446 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:50,400 Speaker 2: want you to know that I can definitely relate to 447 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,360 Speaker 2: it to a degree because of what I've been doing 448 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 2: in the past twelve thirteen years. And you know, I 449 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,440 Speaker 2: told her, I've lost a lot of my own close 450 00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 2: personal friends in the same way. And you know, I 451 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 2: told her, I just said listen, because she had made 452 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:13,400 Speaker 2: sure that one Trick foundation was listed in the obituary 453 00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,359 Speaker 2: in litule flowers and things like that they could do donations, 454 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:18,159 Speaker 2: and so she's just. 455 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:20,160 Speaker 4: Just trying to find out where to send all these checks. 456 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 2: And so I said, you know, actually, as soon as 457 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 2: we hang up, is going to send you our our 458 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,720 Speaker 2: office address, and please just text me and let me 459 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:31,600 Speaker 2: know what it costs to send them. We'll make sure 460 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:34,400 Speaker 2: you don't cover anything. And she's like, I'm not even 461 00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 2: worried about that. I just needed to know what to do. 462 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:38,480 Speaker 2: I just needed to know and do these checks. And 463 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,720 Speaker 2: so you know, I just told her, I just said, listen, 464 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:48,719 Speaker 2: it's our responsibility. Not only is me as a warrior, 465 00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 2: I think it's our responsibilities American citizens to be the 466 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:59,439 Speaker 2: gatekeepers of men like Michael, because it's societally we've gotten 467 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:03,960 Speaker 2: so shall and shortsighted on how people lived, and we 468 00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:07,919 Speaker 2: hyper focus on how they died. And I just believe 469 00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:11,640 Speaker 2: that that's not where the fruit is. 470 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 4: But I know why we do. 471 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:18,200 Speaker 2: It doesn't mean I agree with it. I wholeheartedly disagree 472 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:20,560 Speaker 2: with it. And so I let miss Molly. I reassured 473 00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:24,919 Speaker 2: her that, hey, listen, I'm gonna I promise you, you 474 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:29,719 Speaker 2: have my word that your son will be honored and 475 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:34,720 Speaker 2: remembered and celebrated. And I give you my word that 476 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 2: that will happen, and I want you to know and 477 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,200 Speaker 2: that she got really emotional when I said that. And 478 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 2: it's hard, it's really hard to do these calls every 479 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 2: time because they never they never get easier, they only 480 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:58,560 Speaker 2: get more difficult. And it takes a lot out of me, 481 00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 2: like it takes a because I I'm having like I'm 482 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:05,479 Speaker 2: trying to be the voice of reason and hope. On 483 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 2: the other end, right, they have their families around them, 484 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:18,199 Speaker 2: and they're all obviously extremely devastated and or have this unbelievable, 485 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 2: indescribable pain that they're going through, trying to sift through, 486 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,879 Speaker 2: trying to make sense of anything, you know, And I 487 00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:28,360 Speaker 2: think it's vitally important that they are able to connect 488 00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:31,720 Speaker 2: with people that can be some voice of reason in 489 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:32,720 Speaker 2: a dealer with hope. 490 00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 4: Right, they all need that. 491 00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:38,160 Speaker 2: And it's just like I told her, I highly doubtless 492 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,359 Speaker 2: pain gets better, but I would really like to help 493 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,560 Speaker 2: you and your family get some tools to be able 494 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 2: to process this in a way that is not going 495 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:51,880 Speaker 2: to further cause pain or more harm or those things. 496 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 2: Pain is inevitable, that's unavoidable, but there's things that we 497 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,359 Speaker 2: can do and we can plug you into, and things 498 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:01,760 Speaker 2: we can teach you. You and people that we can 499 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 2: connect to you that have dealt with the exact same 500 00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,440 Speaker 2: thing you're dealing with right now that can definitely help 501 00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 2: you navigate through this unbelievably horrific loss. And she said, 502 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:20,560 Speaker 2: she's very appreciative and very emotional still quite obviously and 503 00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,280 Speaker 2: for a very good reason. And you know, it just 504 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,879 Speaker 2: was very heavy for me. It was very heavy on 505 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 2: my heart, and I was just glad to be done 506 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:33,080 Speaker 2: with a ride and that it was successful and those 507 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 2: things were over. But then I felt this overwhelming sensation 508 00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:41,280 Speaker 2: and actually made me aware of this woman and like 509 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,400 Speaker 2: I wasn't gonna wait for actually to find the right 510 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 2: name or whatever I was calling like something. It was 511 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:51,720 Speaker 2: it was like an involuntary thing to call her right then. Yeah, 512 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,160 Speaker 2: And it mean that may not make sense to anybody, 513 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 2: but it was like. 514 00:26:58,480 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 3: It wasn't. 515 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:03,160 Speaker 2: I don't think it was for me, if that makes sense. 516 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,880 Speaker 2: Like I think it was like, she needs to hear 517 00:27:05,920 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 2: from you right this second. You need to call her 518 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 2: right the second. So I did, and I did end 519 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,639 Speaker 2: up butchering her name, but now I'm just calling her 520 00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:19,199 Speaker 2: miss Molly and we're all good. But you know, and 521 00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:22,160 Speaker 2: I couldn't stop thinking about it the whole the whole night, 522 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 2: Like I thought about it all through the awards gala, 523 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,439 Speaker 2: and all through I knew a lot of people that 524 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,040 Speaker 2: were there, and a lot I mean, I knew a 525 00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:33,879 Speaker 2: handful of people that were at the gala, and you know, 526 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:37,119 Speaker 2: I just couldn't stop thinking about it and didn't stop 527 00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 2: thinking about it, you know, because it's impossible for I 528 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:44,120 Speaker 2: think someone with my life experience, work experience, all those 529 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:48,440 Speaker 2: things to not internalize those situations in such a way 530 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:51,040 Speaker 2: that I need to be better from it and I 531 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,359 Speaker 2: need to learn from it because I know I'm gonna 532 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:53,840 Speaker 2: do it again. 533 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:57,160 Speaker 4: It's a guarantee. And so I'm I'm. 534 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:01,080 Speaker 2: Truly grateful for her, and I'm grateful from Michael and 535 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,399 Speaker 2: his life and his service to this nation. And you know, 536 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 2: it's important that we just reassure people that they're not alone, 537 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,199 Speaker 2: they're not on an island, and that there's a lot 538 00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:14,080 Speaker 2: of people battling some of the very same things you're battling, 539 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:17,880 Speaker 2: and there's resources out there, and there is help out there. 540 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:22,920 Speaker 2: And then you just have to have again, You've heard 541 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:26,119 Speaker 2: me say it a lot. You have to find victory 542 00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:28,720 Speaker 2: and your vulnerability while refusing to be a hostage to 543 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,440 Speaker 2: your pride to ask for help. 544 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 4: It sucks, man, but you know. 545 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,200 Speaker 2: Who else is going to do it? And it's like 546 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:39,560 Speaker 2: Isaiah six', eight here AM i send. 547 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,440 Speaker 4: Me i'm. Alive i've done it a. LOT i have 548 00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:43,520 Speaker 4: a lot of experience with. 549 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 2: IT a lot of people spend an entire lifetime avoiding 550 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 2: things like, that you, know AND i have those conversations. 551 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:52,280 Speaker 4: Weekly so it's, tough, man. 552 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:55,760 Speaker 2: And it was it's still, tough, Right, like it's still 553 00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:58,600 Speaker 2: hard and it still, hurts like my heart hurts From 554 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 2: Miss molly and the whole, family And i'll never. Stop 555 00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,240 Speaker 2: it's just part of. It so it's just one of 556 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,480 Speaker 2: those things where you're if you're going to be committed 557 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:12,560 Speaker 2: to something like, this there's no. Halfway and it's it's 558 00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 2: one of those deals where if you don't have a 559 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:18,520 Speaker 2: strong support system and you don't have solid people around, 560 00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:19,800 Speaker 2: you like you will. 561 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:20,640 Speaker 4: Not sustain. 562 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,960 Speaker 2: Because it just will drain way too much of the 563 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 2: goodness out of. You and you've got to be around 564 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 2: people that'll refill your. Cup and so you, Know i'm 565 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:38,280 Speaker 2: super grateful for my wife and the tribe and you, 566 00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:42,400 Speaker 2: know the boys and you and all the people that 567 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:46,640 Speaker 2: are you, know our circle that that are soul feeders 568 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,360 Speaker 2: because it's IF i didn't have, THAT i couldn't do this. 569 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 2: Work it would ultimately be way too. 570 00:29:54,320 --> 00:30:01,120 Speaker 3: Much, yeah it was very overwhelming to see something like 571 00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 3: that stap into focus between these two, events right that 572 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:07,760 Speaker 3: are like we're here to help our vets that are, 573 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 3: struggling and it's like that's what we're doing we're doing 574 00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:15,760 Speaker 3: events to help and smack dab in the middle of 575 00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:20,920 Speaker 3: that was like a sobbing mother who needed help literally 576 00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:25,920 Speaker 3: at that. Moment not an event to raise. Awareness we're 577 00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:29,880 Speaker 3: selling all these cool auction items like flamethrowers and great 578 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 3: trips in The bahamas or. Whatever the auction was to 579 00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:36,040 Speaker 3: raise money For Veterans, outposts which is like an amazing 580 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,960 Speaker 3: place that needs to, exist but it's. Not it wasn't 581 00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,720 Speaker 3: down the. Line it was on that call in that, 582 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 3: moment and it was really moving for me to basically 583 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:53,240 Speaker 3: have ringside seats to watch you punch suicide in the, 584 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:58,880 Speaker 3: face you, know and be there for a heartbroken. Mother you. 585 00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:02,200 Speaker 3: Know the wind therapy was a amazing and hearing the 586 00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 3: speeches at the awards ceremony was really, amazing but nothing 587 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:09,600 Speaker 3: could even come close to just being in the general 588 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:11,040 Speaker 3: vicinity of that. 589 00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:17,720 Speaker 2: Conversation it gets extremely difficult and extremely. CHALLENGING i mean 590 00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:21,800 Speaker 2: almost fucking cried like six times on that, stage mainly 591 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:22,760 Speaker 2: because of that phone. 592 00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:25,400 Speaker 3: CALL i did cry six times because that phone. 593 00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:28,160 Speaker 2: Call yeah, RIGHT i had to hold it together THOUGH 594 00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,000 Speaker 2: i didn't have the luxury of staying on the stage 595 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,200 Speaker 2: and then just letting my eyeball sweat. 596 00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,120 Speaker 4: EVERYWHERE i had to FREAKING. 597 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:40,280 Speaker 2: I had to somehow hold my shit together and deliver 598 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 2: a message for those five hundred, people four hundred people 599 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:48,600 Speaker 2: whatever it was at The Veteran's Outpost, gala to somehow 600 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,600 Speaker 2: some way feel the pain THAT i was feeling right. 601 00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:55,640 Speaker 2: Then AND i don't care what people's belief systems are 602 00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:58,200 Speaker 2: or are, not BUT i can't do that without the 603 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 2: power Of. God and IF i can help people like 604 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:06,040 Speaker 2: Miss molly not completely lose sight of hope and make 605 00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:10,280 Speaker 2: sure that just the love and the resources and the 606 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,680 Speaker 2: things we pour into her make a little little little 607 00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 2: little dimple of light at the end of that tunnel 608 00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:22,080 Speaker 2: start to appear, again it's all worth. It and she 609 00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,640 Speaker 2: said something on the phone to me in this moment 610 00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 2: of her unbelievable, emotion and. 611 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:29,200 Speaker 4: You, know just she. 612 00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,880 Speaker 3: Was there was no. 613 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:38,480 Speaker 2: Question the amount of pain that she's, in not was 614 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:44,800 Speaker 2: that she's in right. Now AND i told her WHATEVER 615 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 2: i told, HER i kind of. BLACKOUT i kind of 616 00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,680 Speaker 2: blackout in those, moments AND i just feel Like i'm 617 00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 2: it's just Like god speaking through. Me BUT i she 618 00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:56,280 Speaker 2: said something THAT i was, Like i've got to be. 619 00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:58,600 Speaker 4: Better i've got to do more because. 620 00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:01,560 Speaker 2: She said something to me in that moment that was 621 00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,720 Speaker 2: in regards to the work we, do and she, said 622 00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:07,600 Speaker 2: it's all worth. IT i, mean only if you just save. 623 00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:12,560 Speaker 2: One and that's after she lost her son days. Ago 624 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:16,600 Speaker 2: for her to have the audacity of, conviction the, grace 625 00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:21,320 Speaker 2: AND i just, thought for her to have the loving 626 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 2: heart to tell me that in that moment made me, realize, 627 00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:28,320 Speaker 2: LIKE i don't do. ENOUGH i need to do. More 628 00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:32,320 Speaker 2: we all. DO i can be. Better we all, can 629 00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:42,440 Speaker 2: because she'll never get the opportunity to hug her son 630 00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 2: again and tell him to his face how much she loves. 631 00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:50,880 Speaker 2: Him and SO i think it's the least we can 632 00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:55,680 Speaker 2: do is go out of our way to be, bigger, better, stronger, 633 00:33:55,760 --> 00:34:00,479 Speaker 2: faster work, harder be more, convicted be more with who 634 00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:05,160 Speaker 2: we truly, are more honors with, ourselves and lean in 635 00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:07,960 Speaker 2: and fight this. 636 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:12,520 Speaker 1: Together with that in, mind we'd like to dedicate this 637 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:16,400 Speaker 1: episode To Miss molly And michael and everyone who's been 638 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,719 Speaker 1: affected by the act of. Suicide you're not, alone and 639 00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:20,440 Speaker 1: we honor them. 640 00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,960 Speaker 3: All let's take a brief moment of silence before we 641 00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:24,200 Speaker 3: do our. 642 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:39,919 Speaker 4: Outro thank you. 643 00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:41,439 Speaker 3: So, much for listening to The Good. 644 00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:45,000 Speaker 1: Stuff if you appreciate this, show please, subscribe, like and 645 00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 1: Review The Good stuff, podcast and connect with us on social. 646 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:50,799 Speaker 2: Media we love hearing from, you so please reach out 647 00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:53,840 Speaker 2: through our. 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