WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Oversharing is Caring

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<v Speaker 1>Rooking jewels second day. You know, since I've been single

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<v Speaker 1>for a while now, I've had my friends girlfriends ask

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<v Speaker 1>if they can set me up with one of their friends,

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<v Speaker 1>and I tell them no. What are they thinking? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I know that that's going to just end poorly, like

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<v Speaker 1>we're not going to be friends anymore after that, So

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<v Speaker 1>I say no. And you guys have been set up

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<v Speaker 1>through friends before and you've done it, right, Yeah, everybody

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<v Speaker 1>has it. They always say it's the best way to

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<v Speaker 1>meet someone. That's how David met Rachel. Right, that's right.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds super pumped up about David. Your email said

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<v Speaker 1>that you met through friends. You went out for a

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<v Speaker 1>happy hour, and in your words, you had a few

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<v Speaker 1>drinks or maybe too many drinks. I definitely had a

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<v Speaker 1>couple before, a couple of during. Okay, is it one

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<v Speaker 1>of the same, David, where we should multiply a couple

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<v Speaker 1>by a few more and then we get to the

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<v Speaker 1>real number. Well, you can never really tell how the

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<v Speaker 1>bartender poors, especially when you're drinking before the date. David

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<v Speaker 1>did she was she also on your same path of drunkenness? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>she drank the same amount I drank when we were together.

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<v Speaker 1>Just I don't know what she was doing before. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so what happened on the date? How'd it go? I

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<v Speaker 1>thought it went good. It's fun, she's hot, nice, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>great style, red hair. I love how men describe dates.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it went well, she's hot, she's got red hair.

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<v Speaker 1>That tells me nothing about what happened, how it works.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's all you guys want to know, or like

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<v Speaker 1>the men in the room are like, oh, I got it.

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<v Speaker 1>Sounds like a good date to me. Did you have

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<v Speaker 1>good conversation? Did you connect? Do you have similar interests?

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<v Speaker 1>I probably talked about my X a little too much.

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<v Speaker 1>You talked about your X on a first date. It's

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's one of those things and like, don't

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<v Speaker 1>do it, don't do it, don't do it, and just

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<v Speaker 1>end up doing it. David, how does that subject come up? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you can find a lot of ways to if you're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to. Yes, you can. But I mean she didn't

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<v Speaker 1>ask you any questions about it specifically, right, No, But

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<v Speaker 1>I just had been to that bar before with my ex,

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<v Speaker 1>so that was not it was uncomfortable transition, but unfortunately

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<v Speaker 1>that's how we got there. Would you say, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>nice meeting you here? Me and my ex used to

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<v Speaker 1>come here all the time. Yeah, I mean I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>mean it to sound like that, but I bet that's

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<v Speaker 1>exactly how it sounds. So how did the date end?

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<v Speaker 1>When did she get like pissed at you for this? No?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she seemed cool. That's why, you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>called her a couple of times. But then you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I started getting in my head. You know, did I

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<v Speaker 1>really mess it up by just talking about Linda so much? Linda?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you when you were talking about your X, did

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<v Speaker 1>you call her my first name like that? Yeah? That

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<v Speaker 1>definitely my ex all the time. Yeah, that sounds bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you try to save yourself at all at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the date by saying, Hey, I'd really like

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<v Speaker 1>to see you again. I think you're amazing. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I kind of was buzzing pretty good, so

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<v Speaker 1>I was just was felt real good, and so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like later, like he tried to say that,

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<v Speaker 1>but all he said was whoa date? Usually when we

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<v Speaker 1>do the second date updates, there's like some mystery like

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<v Speaker 1>why didn't she call me back? There's so many options

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<v Speaker 1>to choose from here. I was drunk, I talked about

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<v Speaker 1>my X the whole time. All right, If we get

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<v Speaker 1>her on the phone in a couple of minutes, how

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<v Speaker 1>do you want me to approach it? What do you

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<v Speaker 1>want me to say to her on your behalf that

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<v Speaker 1>will hopefully get you a second date? Say there, I

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<v Speaker 1>thought we had a good time, and if I did

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<v Speaker 1>anything wrong, I'd love to know because I'm about shelf improvement. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and I like her. Okay, hold on, I'm gonna play

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<v Speaker 1>a song, come right back, and then call her and

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<v Speaker 1>get your second date update? All right, think about your

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<v Speaker 1>ex the whole time. Frocking Jubil in the Morning update.

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<v Speaker 1>It's moving on two point five Brook and Jubil in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning if you're just tuning in today. Second date update.

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<v Speaker 1>David went out with a girl named Rachel. He talked

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<v Speaker 1>about his ex girlfriend Linda the whole time. Apparently David

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<v Speaker 1>was also kind of drunk when he showed up to

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<v Speaker 1>the date. David, what do you hope to accomplish when

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<v Speaker 1>we get her on the phone? Best case scenario, I

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<v Speaker 1>just hope, you know, I can just tell her it

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<v Speaker 1>was just an innocent mistake, you know, being so buzzed

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<v Speaker 1>when she got there, and that I will make a

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<v Speaker 1>habit of talking about my ex. So you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't want her to hold that against me and just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of apologize for that. You know, if she was

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<v Speaker 1>my girlfriend and my girlfriend told me this story, I

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<v Speaker 1>would say, don't ever go out with this dude together. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna have to do some really serious sweet talking here.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ready for it. Okay, all right, here we go, David.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get her on the phone right now. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>sounds good? Right? Hello? Hi is Rachel there? Yeah, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Rachel, Rachel. How are you? This is jew Well

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<v Speaker 1>from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. I'm Moving ninety

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<v Speaker 1>two point five. Yeah, Hi, how are you? I'm good?

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<v Speaker 1>Who's this? Jebil from Brook and Jewel in the Morning

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<v Speaker 1>on the radio station Moving ninety two point five. We

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<v Speaker 1>do a morning show. Okay, and we're calling you because

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<v Speaker 1>you recently went out on a date with a guy

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<v Speaker 1>named David and he's been trying to get a hold

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<v Speaker 1>of you, but you haven't returned as calls or texts.

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<v Speaker 1>We're curious. Why why are you so curious about my date? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>we do a segment on our show called the Second

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<v Speaker 1>Date Update. It's where if you go out on a

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<v Speaker 1>date with somebody and don't call them back, they email

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<v Speaker 1>us to get the reason. Why did he tell you

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<v Speaker 1>about the date? He did? He emailed us and said

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<v Speaker 1>that he really liked you. He enjoyed the time that

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<v Speaker 1>you guys spent together. He said that he mistakenly maybe

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<v Speaker 1>had a little bit too much to drink. Yeah, so

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<v Speaker 1>he told you about Linda? Yes, is Linda the reason

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<v Speaker 1>that you won't call him back? Well? What else did

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<v Speaker 1>you tell you about Linda and our first date? That's

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<v Speaker 1>pretty much it. He said that he brought his ex

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<v Speaker 1>girlfriend Linda up a few times and he knows that

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<v Speaker 1>that was probably stupid. Did he mention that he took

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<v Speaker 1>me to a restaurant that he used to go with

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<v Speaker 1>her too? Yeah? He did say that. Okay. Did did

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<v Speaker 1>he mente what else he used to do with her? There? What? No? What? Rachel?

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<v Speaker 1>What did he say? I'd say for our first date?

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<v Speaker 1>He definitely overshared information. Apparently this restaurant was one of

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<v Speaker 1>the restaurants that they would have sex in the bathroom. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think you could get worse than bringing up

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<v Speaker 1>your axe on a first date. What? Yeah? I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it was just who who thought that? Who talks like

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<v Speaker 1>that on a first date? How did he? How did

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<v Speaker 1>he bring that up? Rachel? I think he started drinking

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<v Speaker 1>before the date, to be honest with Okay, yeah, a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit loose, and he just started talking about the

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<v Speaker 1>rest drawn and how they did meet there. And the

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<v Speaker 1>reason it was a favorite is because they've had sex

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<v Speaker 1>in the bathroom and I had the PA and I

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't going to go in there after I heard that.

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<v Speaker 1>I have told it, so the rest of the date,

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<v Speaker 1>it was miserable. Of course, you're scared to go in

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<v Speaker 1>the bathroom. Youre scared you might fall you in there exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>He proceeded to tell me that he had a goal

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<v Speaker 1>with Linda to do it all over the city in

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<v Speaker 1>all different places and all different positions, sort of giving

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<v Speaker 1>me the walking tour, Rachel, because they did it in

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<v Speaker 1>like I let the starbuck Rachel. Yes, David is actually

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<v Speaker 1>on the other line listening right David's on the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>He's listening to me right now. Yes, say Rachel, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a little bit in shocked right now. So he

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<v Speaker 1>heard everything. Yeah, David, you said you don't remember saying

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<v Speaker 1>that stuff. No, I mean I trewed up. Obviously, I

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<v Speaker 1>would not something like that. I'm just sorry. I just

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's you know, good behavior, especially for

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<v Speaker 1>first date. And I'm sorry. On the first day it

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<v Speaker 1>made me feel horrible, like you're talking about another woman

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<v Speaker 1>by name and all the places you did it with

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<v Speaker 1>her and what you did with her, and you see

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<v Speaker 1>to be enjoying it. I was not. I mean, you didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>You didn't read me at all. It was awful. You

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<v Speaker 1>were I mean, you've had drinks before our date, had

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<v Speaker 1>you not? I mean you smelled like up and you're

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<v Speaker 1>very much to drink too fast. You're very like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not me, like that's I mean normally like that's

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<v Speaker 1>just that's just a mistake that I apologize for that.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope, like you, you're supposed to be there, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of me and and entertaining and getting to

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<v Speaker 1>know one another, and you're drunk. You don't remember it

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<v Speaker 1>well now, Rachel, I think it was probably pretty entertaining. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's splaining. That's not laughable. It's just it's horrible. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's horrible, But you know, like a plus time horrible

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<v Speaker 1>could work out and be laughable. Trust me, Me Me and

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<v Speaker 1>my friends laughed about you, David Funny, what would make

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<v Speaker 1>you think and I know you're I know you were drunk,

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<v Speaker 1>but what would make you think it's okay to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about doing things with your ex girlfriend in the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>I imagine that something she must have said that got

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<v Speaker 1>me going in that direction. I didn't even know what

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<v Speaker 1>cowboy style was. I don't want to. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't blame it on different things. David, are you ready

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<v Speaker 1>to date? Are you not over your ex? No? I'm over.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm over. It's over on the side underneath, which is

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<v Speaker 1>like why I like trash Rachel Rachel. There's a long

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<v Speaker 1>list of reasons you shouldn't call David back. Was there

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<v Speaker 1>anything that you liked about him on the date? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>When it was over? I listened to him now, though

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<v Speaker 1>he's sober, he sounds really apologetic. It's not like he does,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, agree he does not sound really apologetic. David. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I am, I am I really apologetic. I just I'm

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<v Speaker 1>kind of you know, you're telling me things that are

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<v Speaker 1>awful that I did that I don't remember doing. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just no woman is going to stand for this

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<v Speaker 1>unless I've I've no woman that have stood for it girlfriends,

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<v Speaker 1>and just don't generalize women. I mean, we all have

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<v Speaker 1>our things, you know, David. Okay, try to state your

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<v Speaker 1>case here. Look, I made a mistake and I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>and most men won't apologize for their mistakes. And uh

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<v Speaker 1>I was. I think he was super hot and I

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<v Speaker 1>had a good time, and I would love to get

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<v Speaker 1>a chance to prove to you that I'm not any

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I'm pretty sure I already know the answer

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<v Speaker 1>to this, but I'm gonna ask it anyway. Rachel, would

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<v Speaker 1>you like to go out on a second date with David?

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<v Speaker 1>We'll pay for it. Um. It takes a certain kind

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<v Speaker 1>of man to say that sort of thing and to apologize,

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<v Speaker 1>So I I'm gonna give you an answer, David. Here's

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<v Speaker 1>your answer. Wow, all right, I thought I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>call her back. David. Did you did you learn something

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<v Speaker 1>at least maybe about yourself on dates and not drinking beforehand? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean everything I learned is in that sentence. Just

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<v Speaker 1>don't do that next time, David. Two words for you,

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<v Speaker 1>two words for you in your dating future? Right? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>But Keini Baristas after its broken jubil in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>From the start, you were safe. You stole my heart

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<v Speaker 1>and I