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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John the og Storytime

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Speaker 1: podcast host. Oh yeah, and we got some great stories

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Speaker 1: up like a little house.

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Speaker 2: Oh you, my wife left me for her best friend.

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Speaker 2: That hurts my wife. EM met her best friend Chuck

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Speaker 2: in high school. They became close friends, and Chuck came

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Speaker 2: out Em as attracted to the same gender and was supportive.

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Speaker 2: A year or so later, Chuck came out to his parents.

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Speaker 2: They disowned him and punted him out. Chuck ended up

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Speaker 2: living with Em and her parents for the rest of

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Speaker 2: high school. By the way, this comes from Few Boys

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime Separate it. So EM and I started dating

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Speaker 2: after college, and she told me all about Chuck and

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Speaker 2: how close they were, and now he was like a brother.

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Speaker 2: I met Chuck and we got along and became friends.

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Speaker 2: Chuck is a good guy. At the time, Chuck was

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Speaker 2: dating a guy and they ended up moving in together

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Speaker 2: about the same time that EM and I got engaged.

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Speaker 2: EMM and I have been married for five years. Now,

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Speaker 2: I'm a project manager and took on a year long

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Speaker 2: project in another city. I have to leave at five

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Speaker 2: thirty am every morning and get home around six thirty pm. Wow.

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Speaker 2: Long day. M and I had a long talk about

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Speaker 2: my job before I took on this project. We knew

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Speaker 2: it would be a sacrifice for me to be working

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Speaker 2: so much, but I'm getting more money than I ever

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Speaker 2: thought I would. After this project, we can pay off

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Speaker 2: our student debt and start trying to have a baby.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: We both agreed the money was worth it. Since it's

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Speaker 2: only a year. That year will be up in late November.

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Speaker 2: And when was this posted? Because I want to know

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Speaker 2: how close we are to November. In March, Chuck caught

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Speaker 2: his boyfriend cheating. He was devastated. M immediately told him

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Speaker 2: he could move in with us. I was fine with

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Speaker 2: him moving in, but not happy that EM didn't even

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Speaker 2: discuss it with me. First. Yeah not good two years

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Speaker 3: A month does not say yeah.

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Speaker 1: Blast.

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Speaker 2: Chuck was pretty broken up and EM was giving him

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Speaker 2: lots of love and attention. I was fine with it

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Speaker 2: because I know how much he loved Chuck, and he

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Speaker 2: him and make him feel loved. For a while, this

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Speaker 2: was fine, but as time went on, EM has continued

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Speaker 2: to pour all of her attention into Chuck. Sometimes I

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Speaker 2: to dinner or something. I don't think there's anything romantic

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Speaker 2: get left out of all the plans. The past few weeks,

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Speaker 2: several things have happened. The three of us went to

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Speaker 2: And she said, I've known Chuck longer than i've known you.

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Speaker 2: That's not what you want to hear.

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Speaker 1: Not, That's not how no.

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Speaker 2: Alsophia August August. Okay, so we're so close to November.

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Speaker 1: And remind me what is happening In November.

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Speaker 2: He finishes his job. So this has been a whole

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Speaker 1: And she's out here yucking it up with Chuck night

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Speaker 2: A week or so after that, EM and Chuck went

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Speaker 1: Yep, knew that was gonna happen. Oh, but I have

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Speaker 2: Wow. Wow, that's just so so rough to I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: Where's his going out shopping and getting dinner? Yeah, where's

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Speaker 2: Where are they? I was kind of stunned and asked

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Speaker 2: My dad was very controlling of my mom and had

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Speaker 2: She thought I was attacking Chuck. I guess I did

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Speaker 2: I don't think that there's anything romantic, like I don't

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Speaker 2: think they're cheating. Yeah, however, she is still very much

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's like it's so like if I'm in opee shoes,

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Speaker 1: I feel like, okay, Well, this the belief and kind

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Speaker 2: Well, she already said he's the third wheel. She already

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Speaker 1: Showing you your number three.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Rose says, if Chuck is her soulmate, why is

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Speaker 2: That's literally the only reason you loved I just shut down.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know how to process that. I love

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Speaker 2: I don't remember the rest of the talk. She huffed

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Speaker 2: So I haven't seen her since Sunday night. I don't

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Speaker 2: Seeing a bunch of comments from women who say they

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Speaker 2: have been texting back and forth some this week, and

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Speaker 1: But what do you think?

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Speaker 1: I think I hate this? Yeah, that's what I think.

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Speaker 1: Yeah again, Like anytime in any of these stories, when

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Speaker 1: it's like where's the relationship? Where is it? Because I

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Speaker 2: It's not here. I mean, like, regardless of whether or

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think that's because like, look, you can have

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Speaker 1: But I think to your point, it's like once it

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Speaker 2: And also when your partner literally says, hey, this isn't

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Speaker 1: Then yes not let me let me call them my soulmate.

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Speaker 1: You say you're the third wheel. That's that's right. Don't

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Speaker 2: But there is an update.

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Speaker 1: Let's go.

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Speaker 2: I made my first post on Thursday. When I took

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Speaker 2: all out, I realized how burned out I have been

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Speaker 2: Then I left on Monday and stayed out of town

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Speaker 1: You know, I will say, uh. I think seems Chuck

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Speaker 2: Know, well, he was dealing with his own thing exactly.

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Speaker 1: We love the growth. And you know what, also shout

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Speaker 2: Yeah, takes two to dango, folks.

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Speaker 2: I want to see. What I want to see in

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Speaker 1: Take that action, put it to words. Yep.

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Speaker 1: No? Okay, no, all right, but you know what I

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Speaker 2: After the reception, I see you, you see the U

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Speaker 1: That is insane.

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Speaker 1: That's what it's looking for. Yikes, hasn't seen the sun

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00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,159
Speaker 1: for a while, and why not It's not like you

444
00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:13,000
Speaker 1: cheated all yeah.

445
00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:15,960
Speaker 2: Like, why not tell your wife that you have a

446
00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:20,920
Speaker 2: child with that you have another child? Why just say it?

447
00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:24,560
Speaker 1: Like, ah, is it because you're kind to hide that

448
00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:25,840
Speaker 1: you that you suck?

449
00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:28,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it was like that you abandoned, like

450
00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,280
Speaker 2: you didn't take care of your child and you left it.

451
00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:34,040
Speaker 2: You left your kid to be taken care of by

452
00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:34,440
Speaker 2: their mom.

453
00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,560
Speaker 1: Come on, now, let's be better. And that his girlfriend

454
00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:41,040
Speaker 1: was on substances and dearly depressed, and that she wanted

455
00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,439
Speaker 1: marriage but refused to work on her depression, so they

456
00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,240
Speaker 1: broke up when his son was ten, but he stayed

457
00:19:46,240 --> 00:19:48,640
Speaker 1: in his son's life until he was sixteen and then

458
00:19:48,760 --> 00:19:51,960
Speaker 1: lost contact. Do you lose contact? I would like the

459
00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:55,520
Speaker 1: definition of lost contact please. When I asked why he

460
00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:57,840
Speaker 1: never told me about his kid or stayed in his life,

461
00:19:57,960 --> 00:20:00,040
Speaker 1: he told me that a lot of things happened and

462
00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:01,880
Speaker 1: he couldn't get past some of the things this son

463
00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:04,359
Speaker 1: did that really disappointed him. What things?

464
00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:08,439
Speaker 2: What things? What things did your sixteen year old son do?

465
00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:12,399
Speaker 1: Really? Quick question, canon, Sophia, you have a child? Yeah,

466
00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,160
Speaker 1: I just like, yes, there are heinous things A human

467
00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 1: can do, but the thought of abandoning my child is

468
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:21,400
Speaker 1: kind of inconceivment.

469
00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:24,560
Speaker 2: I also, I know I have completely agree, I completely agree.

470
00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:26,040
Speaker 2: I think there are times when you might need to

471
00:20:26,040 --> 00:20:28,160
Speaker 2: get your child help or send them to a facility,

472
00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 2: you know, because you are not professional and you can't

473
00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:33,320
Speaker 2: handle like that the needs that they need or the

474
00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:39,480
Speaker 2: needs that they have. But to completely lose contact.

475
00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:40,880
Speaker 3: Acting like they don't exist.

476
00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:44,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, like losing contact to the point where you literally

477
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 2: never mention them. And at sixteen, at sixteen, this kid

478
00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:49,880
Speaker 2: is howled twenty nine.

479
00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:53,480
Speaker 1: Wow. He wouldn't elaborate further, and I knew I would

480
00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:55,600
Speaker 1: get nowhere if I pushed it. I told him that

481
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 1: my son deserved to know that he had a half brother,

482
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:01,120
Speaker 1: and he was already confused. Ended up telling our son,

483
00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,359
Speaker 1: but that all backfired when my son asked why he

484
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:09,400
Speaker 1: never knew about him? Great question was almost so per Yeah,

485
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:10,359
Speaker 1: I'll work on my cadence.

486
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 2: Thanks.

487
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 1: My husband admitted that he had decided the school his

488
00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:17,600
Speaker 1: son was attending was no good. His son was interested

489
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 1: in foreign languages, so he enrolled him in a private

490
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 1: school where kids were fully immersed in Arabic, French, or Spanish.

491
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:26,520
Speaker 1: That offered boarding options for students. He said his son's

492
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:30,359
Speaker 1: mother complained endlessly about her son being four hours away,

493
00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:33,479
Speaker 1: and his son started doing badly and not appreciating his

494
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:37,280
Speaker 1: opportunity for a better life. He started distancing from peers

495
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:40,439
Speaker 1: and would constantly talk about homesickness and let it affect

496
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 1: his studies. Maybe because he has a father who doesn't

497
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 1: care about him. Yeah. He begged his son to stay

498
00:21:46,560 --> 00:21:48,679
Speaker 1: the course and use his education to get into a

499
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:52,000
Speaker 1: top college, but his son ended up getting near flunking grades,

500
00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 1: not listening to his father's please to work hard, and

501
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:57,159
Speaker 1: then dropping out in order to re enroll in a

502
00:21:57,160 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 1: public school at age sixteen. My husband said, I'm.

503
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 2: Sorry, So your son and his mother both said, hey,

504
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 2: I like can't be in this school anymore. I can't like,

505
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,159
Speaker 2: I can't do this. I can't be in the school anymore.

506
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 2: You didn't listen. He started flunking and then made the

507
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,320
Speaker 2: decision for himself that he needed to go to public school,

508
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:18,720
Speaker 2: And you're mad at him for that? How old was OPI?

509
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 2: How old is OP? Right now? Do we know?

510
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,679
Speaker 1: We're going to check? You know what? Op and their

511
00:22:23,720 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 1: partner are older than twenty nine? Do we know that

512
00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 1: because I'd be like forties. I doesn't say age for OP.

513
00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:34,400
Speaker 2: It doesn't say age for OP or the perner no

514
00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:35,879
Speaker 2: blast in the title.

515
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 1: Dang it literally bare minimum has to be in his

516
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 1: forty bare minimum right, well, it has to be older.

517
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean okay, yeah, yeah, I'm thin because

518
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:45,439
Speaker 2: it could be like he had the kid when he

519
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,920
Speaker 2: was sixteen. Yeah yeah, but I'm like, yeah, that's the

520
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,679
Speaker 2: I could see why he was making some bad parenting

521
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 2: choices if he was a young dad. But like, I

522
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 2: don't know if this is yeah, to leave your kid

523
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,600
Speaker 2: behind because your kid wasn't doing good in school and

524
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: then made the right decision to move to a different

525
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:08,080
Speaker 2: school that he knew that he could do better in. Boooo,

526
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,480
Speaker 2: come on, maybe there's something more. Maybe we haven't heard

527
00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 2: all of the story yet.

528
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 1: We'll see. We got more to go. So my husband

529
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:16,919
Speaker 1: said that broke his heart and they didn't talk for

530
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:17,600
Speaker 1: a while.

531
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 2: And no, that was it.

532
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 1: Wow yep. And in that while, his son ended up

533
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: dropping out of public school as well, and they haven't

534
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: talked since then. To my horror, my husband told my

535
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,919
Speaker 1: son that his half brother had the opportunity to be

536
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:33,359
Speaker 1: a good kid and make his dad proud get a

537
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 1: high paying job. But now he works as a long

538
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: haul trucker.

539
00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,919
Speaker 2: Oh you suck, dude.

540
00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:44,160
Speaker 1: I mean honestly, the wow horror happened even before that.

541
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, the judgment.

542
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 1: How are you gonna cut off your kid because of sixteen?

543
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 1: I'm grades a sixteen? Who the freak? And guess what?

544
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: You know why he was probably getting bad grades, maybe

545
00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,359
Speaker 1: because his dad isn't in his life and he feels

546
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: no support and is just trying to figure out life

547
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: without that Pasan's there and things of that nature.

548
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,919
Speaker 2: You know, your support is conditional. And also, like he

549
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 2: might have been able to do okay in public school

550
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 2: had he not literally lost his dad like you left

551
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,159
Speaker 2: him after he decided to drop out of the other school.

552
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 1: Maybe if his dad was actually encouraging him instead of

553
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: giving him crushing pressure. Maybe without that crushing pressure, he

554
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 1: would have been able to be more successful. Yeah, in school,

555
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 1: but instead the crushing pressure crushed him.

556
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, and being a trucker is fine? Well, like, why

557
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:39,360
Speaker 2: why are you judging him?

558
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 1: Maybe good money?

559
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:43,400
Speaker 2: Yeah? Oh the judgment is just disgusting.

560
00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:45,719
Speaker 1: So I try to interject and say that you can

561
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:48,520
Speaker 1: also have a good life and meet you doing those jobs,

562
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 1: but my husband glared at me. My son responded by

563
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,960
Speaker 1: saying that he gets all a's and he reads and

564
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: understands all the books that my husband.

565
00:24:57,960 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 2: That terrible life lesson and of Oh, if I do

566
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 2: well in school and if I do all the things

567
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 2: that my dad tells me, he'll love me. What a

568
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 2: terrible lesson to teach your child.

569
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 1: Ah, O back, and this kid's only ten, you know

570
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,879
Speaker 1: he's this is the conditioning that f F do you

571
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,640
Speaker 1: an adult? I asked my husband. I thought he was five.

572
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 2: Is he ten?

573
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,640
Speaker 1: I think he's their son.

574
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:23,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, their son?

575
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 1: Is he ten? Owash check? Maybe it was ten?

576
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, I wasn't sure. I might have missed him.

577
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,639
Speaker 3: Been married for ten years and our son is our

578
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 3: only child and for the past ten years. I mean

579
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 3: that would make sense. It's like around ten. Yeah, I'm

580
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:34,520
Speaker 3: still looking.

581
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,400
Speaker 1: Ah yeah, maybe it wasn't.

582
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 3: It wasn't explicitly said.

583
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, I thought they explicitly said, but at least

584
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:41,640
Speaker 1: he's younger than ten.

585
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's younger than death.

586
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: I asked my husband if he was going to talk

587
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:46,879
Speaker 1: to his son, and my husband said no, and that

588
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 1: his mother poisoned his mind and set him up for

589
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: failure by complaining about missing him and that he gave

590
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:54,919
Speaker 1: many chances to do well, and he blew it in

591
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 1: favor of becoming a cashier to support his mom and

592
00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 1: blamed him for sending him to the good school.

593
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 2: He ruined it by complaining about missing his father.

594
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 1: And then trying to support his mom to a man

595
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: who really was not supporting the mother of his child. Divorce.

596
00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 2: Divorce, Wow, I would be looking at my husband so differently.

597
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, me running away. I would be like

598
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 2: looking at that man like he was a stranger.

599
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 1: Truly, I'd be like, wow, like he is a stranger.

600
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 2: You've hid this child for me for ten years. You

601
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 2: abandoned him, you know, since he was after he was sixteen,

602
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 2: And then try and preach this same messed up philosophy

603
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 2: to our son.

604
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 1: Oh to my kid. Yeah, oh no, u uh uh.

605
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:45,640
Speaker 1: And then also thinking back to how the his first

606
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:50,040
Speaker 1: son approached him, he's still so craving his like attention

607
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,400
Speaker 1: and validation and everything. Oh yeah, Like.

608
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,439
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, Like you have nothing to apologize for,

609
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:56,399
Speaker 2: you did.

610
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 1: Nothing wrong, if anything. He's like, I want to be

611
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 1: there for my mom. I want to support my mom like.

612
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 2: This, craving that both of his kids now have to

613
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: make him proud.

614
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 1: Divorce. Worst. Now it's a month passed and his son

615
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,640
Speaker 1: reaches out to me on my Instagram page. We talk

616
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 1: and I feel bad because he seems like a kind,

617
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 1: respectful man who was just desperately sad. He told me

618
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: the same thing my husband told me, but also went

619
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: into detail about the many times he tried to talk

620
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:28,440
Speaker 1: to my husband, how he showed up to my husband's office,

621
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,719
Speaker 1: what was told my husband was out, and how he

622
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,879
Speaker 1: was told he screwed up and blew his chances but

623
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: just wanted his dad, and how his dad had changed

624
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 1: his number and pulled the give me your number card

625
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: before ah, but he kept hoping that time would stoften

626
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 1: his dat.

627
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:49,360
Speaker 2: Oh my god, sy sorry, Wait, his son has probably

628
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:52,120
Speaker 2: found him before and said hey, can like, can we talk?

629
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 2: Can we talk? And he said here, give me your

630
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,360
Speaker 2: number and then never called him.

631
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 1: Yep, yep, yep, that's so sad. He also said he

632
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: doesn't want money and his mother had taken her own

633
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:07,439
Speaker 1: life recently, and that he just wanted a parent he

634
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 1: made enough to support himself, and that he would also

635
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,679
Speaker 1: love to connect with his half brother. I told my

636
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:16,120
Speaker 1: husband that if this was only about him dropping out

637
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: of school when he was a sad teenager, he deserved

638
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 1: to have a chance to reconcile with his dad.

639
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 2: He deserves a better dad.

640
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's a lonely guy who deserves a family.

641
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:30,479
Speaker 1: My husband said I was overstepping my boundary and that

642
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 1: this wasn't my kid or history. So this wasn't my Ah,

643
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: the fact that I'm still married to sack of sinking

644
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: garbage like yourself.

645
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:41,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, my goodness.

646
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: He also said that he didn't want me disrupting family

647
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: dynamics by introducing somebody who has no relevance to our life.

648
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 2: No relevance. Your child has no relevance.

649
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 1: Oh.

650
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: I literally could never look at this man the same ever.

651
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: No, no, wow, How do you think I'm gonna think

652
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: about how you view our child? Are you stupid? Yeah?

653
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 2: Wow?

654
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:11,040
Speaker 1: No, honey. I love that one. Good that he reads

655
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: green eggs at him, So I love him. Then that's

656
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 1: a smart bully. He's like, he's like seventies reading it's

657
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 1: like above. Is he smart? He won't be a trucker

658
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 1: because he reads it out out? Yeah, this is divorce

659
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: our son told me that he wants to meet this

660
00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: man if he is his brother, but at the same

661
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: time he has become terrified of losing his father's Wow.

662
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 2: He yeah, divorce.

663
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 1: My husband told me that he didn't think he was

664
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Speaker 1: the paternal type when we were dating. You aren't, No,

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Speaker 1: you aren't. But after I got pregnant, he doted over

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Speaker 1: our son. Our son is a very sensitive boy, and

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Speaker 1: starting from a young age, he impressed his father with

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Speaker 1: his ability to memorize things he heard or read. He

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Speaker 1: loves me because I don't work and my husband travels

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Speaker 1: for business. He absolutely adores time with his dad. He

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Speaker 1: would always sit on the sofa in his dad's office

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Speaker 1: and whatever book his dad was reading, he'd read it to.

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Speaker 1: When he was younger, he'd grab onto my husband's leg

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Speaker 1: when my husband wanted to go somewhere else to own.

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Speaker 1: As our son grew up, my husband said he has

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Speaker 1: taught him how to be patient, But my son is

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Speaker 1: still always very eager to please. Even when he knows

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Speaker 1: that something planned for him was all planned by me,

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Speaker 1: he'd still gushingly thank my husband. And now my son

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Speaker 1: is swinging wildly between wanting to meet his half brother

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Speaker 1: and state his curiosity and fear over his father's projection.

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Speaker 1: He says that he just wants to be loved by

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Speaker 1: the people and his family, including any brothers or sisters,

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Speaker 1: but that he's afraid of losing his father's love like

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Speaker 1: his half brother, and that he also kind of hates

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Speaker 1: his half brother from making my husband upset. This is

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Speaker 1: so that, this is so so sad. A Kayley says, Oh, hell,

688
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Speaker 1: you can't have a sensitive kid with this man. But

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Speaker 1: this man is going to ruin him, ruin him. Yeah, Hey, y'all,

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Speaker 1: aspermre sponsor. What do I do? I am appalled by

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Speaker 1: my husband's treatment of his older son, and I want

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Speaker 1: my son to be able to say that he had

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Speaker 1: an opportunity to get to know somebody that he wanted

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Speaker 1: to get to know. But my husband is adamant against

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Speaker 1: giving his older son attention and is still angry about

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Speaker 1: how he felt his son betrayed him and his efforts

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Speaker 1: to give him a better life than the one he

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Speaker 1: had with his mom. So we're approaching the end of

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Speaker 1: the story, But do we have any thoughts of.

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Speaker 2: You just that you should divorce him and make it

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Speaker 2: very clear to your child that this is not okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and that you don't have to prove yourself to get

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Speaker 2: someone's love, especially not a parent's love, and that you know,

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Speaker 2: hopefully after that you can have a relationship with your

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Speaker 2: step son and your child can have a relationship with

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Speaker 2: his half brother. But yeah, if your husband can't even

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Speaker 2: understand and that or doesn't even think that what he

710
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Speaker 2: did is wrong, yep, then there's nothing stopping him from

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Speaker 2: doing it to your son, and that leads to burnout.

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Speaker 2: A child cannot handle that much pressure.

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Speaker 1: Oh they cannot. Yeah, not in the slightest and yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's so easy. Like I feel like oftentimes in these

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Speaker 1: stories it's like they focused on the things of like

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Speaker 1: uh oh, I feel like it's okay for the sun

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Speaker 1: to media, But it's like, okay, let's look at the

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Speaker 1: foundation of all of this. Like Sophia said, the husband

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Speaker 1: doesn't even realize how insanely wrong he is and how

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Speaker 1: terrible yeah, this is for his children, which means again,

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Speaker 1: like Sophia said, he will do it again and he's

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Speaker 1: all it's lyrics already happening to their child that they have,

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Speaker 1: and that is an unforgivable thing to do to a child.

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Speaker 1: That is unforgivable. Agreed in my opinion, I agree, So

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Speaker 1: run please. I hope that's what the conclusion of the

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Speaker 1: story is. But let's find it. But by the way,

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Speaker 1: if you want a palate cleanser, we've got some other

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Speaker 1: of Agill sixty something days worth, so many, so many episodes.

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Speaker 1: But speaking of episodes, let's get into the conclusion of

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Speaker 1: this story. Within this episode, Yehaw, our marriage, which has

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Speaker 1: been mostly smooth sailing, is now filled with unspoken tention,

736
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Speaker 1: and my husband doesn't seem to note. But I don't

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Speaker 1: want to alert my son to it because he'd react

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Speaker 1: very badly. I usually am argument avoidant and would never

739
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Speaker 1: do anything with our son without talking to my husband

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Speaker 1: about it first. But I feel like my son needs

741
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Speaker 1: counseling help. We have a few comments. Commentator by one says,

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Speaker 1: your son knows that his father's love is conditional. That's

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Speaker 1: just a fact. Frankly, I don't understand how you could

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Speaker 1: stand to be in a room with a man that

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Speaker 1: would abandon his child for such selfish reasons, let alone

746
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Speaker 1: stay married to him. It just proves so happily do

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Speaker 1: the same to your son and to you. If you

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Speaker 1: make the mistake disappointing him, you'll always be looking over

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Speaker 1: your shoulder, always wondering if this mistake will be the

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Speaker 1: one that causes him to leave. Mistake, especially since you

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Speaker 1: say you don't work, so you're entirely reliant on your husband. Point,

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Speaker 1: you'd be particularly effed if he did decide you were

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Speaker 1: a problem too, or if you began to love and

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Speaker 1: miss your son too much. Does he plan to send

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Speaker 1: your son to a boarding school? Are you okay with that?

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Speaker 1: Will he divorce you from missing your son like he

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Speaker 1: hates his ex for missing hers? What if your son

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Speaker 1: is attracted to the same gender? Will that not fit

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Speaker 1: his perfect idea of what a son should be? And

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Speaker 1: he'll toss this one aside as well. Your son will

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Speaker 1: have to walk on eggshells for the rest of his life.

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Speaker 1: That is not a suitable relationship for you or your son.

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Speaker 1: If your husband sees no wrongdoing with his past behavior,

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Speaker 1: most people would have been horribly ashamed to have done

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Speaker 1: what he has done. Yet he keeps making the same

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Speaker 1: decision every time his first son tried to be in

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Speaker 1: his life. You've reached a crossroads in your life and

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Speaker 1: your son's life. Make the right decision. Agreed. I completely

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Speaker 1: agree and completely agree. Hope, given that that was a

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Speaker 1: relevant comments, that was the advice hope, hope he took

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Speaker 1: and run with. But we don't know, don't know or not. Yes,

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Speaker 1: good luck because unfortunately you are going to need it

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Speaker 1: with that man. But we have some good luck, and

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Speaker 1: that is we still have some stories left in this episode.

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Speaker 1: That's absolutely true. We sure do, we sure we sure do.

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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen on it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah s Memphis says, this story broke my heart. Me too.

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Speaker 2: I really hope they don't stay.

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Speaker 1: Together with this guy because yikes.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if he can do that to his own child, yeah,

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Speaker 3: insanity and like willingly he was like, oh it was

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Speaker 3: not that's my will.

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Speaker 2: Comment made the point he keeps doing that. He has

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Speaker 2: made that decision over and over and over.

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Speaker 1: I want a way to where we can put people

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Speaker 1: in jail doing. Yeah, it would be awesome because he

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Speaker 1: needs to learn his lesson.

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Speaker 2: I agree. Can't just abandon your kids.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh, I was afraid. Uh oh. It was loading,

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Speaker 1: but not loading spaghettios.

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Speaker 2: My husband blame me for his affair. I'm a thirty

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Speaker 2: year old female married to thirty four year old male

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Speaker 2: for over six years. We have two beautiful children, a

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Speaker 2: three year old and an eight month old. We've been

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Speaker 2: together for over ten years and our relationship has been

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Speaker 2: amazing from the beginning. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: profess Overthinker and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 2: So about a year ago, I was approximately six months pregnant.

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Speaker 2: I noticed my husband paying more attention to his phone

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Speaker 2: whenever he came home from work. So one night during dinner,

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Speaker 2: when his phone kept dinging, I asked him about it, asked,

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Speaker 2: who was your attention lately? It was a female coworker

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Speaker 2: who had just transferred to his department, along with a

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Speaker 2: good colleague of his. In this group chat. I had

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Speaker 2: never heard of this female coworker, so I tried to

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Speaker 2: play it off as my husband being nice to a

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Speaker 2: new colleague. Days went by and that phone became the

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Speaker 2: bane of my existence. It constantly dinged, and I was

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Speaker 2: fighting for his attention whenever he got home from work.

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Speaker 2: I had enough, so one night, while he was showering,

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Speaker 2: I went through his phone not good, and there it

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Speaker 2: was the group chat, along with Instagram messages of just

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Speaker 2: my husband and his female co worker teasing each other

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Speaker 2: about work. I confronted my husband immediately and confessed that

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Speaker 2: I had indeed gone through his phone. I was certainly embarrassed,

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Speaker 2: as this was a first for me, but I explained

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Speaker 2: that I had a hunch something wasn't right and needed

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Speaker 2: to see it for myself. I pointed out that the

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Speaker 2: group chat was quite unusual, but the private chats on

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Speaker 2: Instagram were highly inappropriate for married man. I simply requested

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Speaker 2: that he refrain from having private chats with her, but

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Speaker 2: I was comfortable with a group chat. He agreed and

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Speaker 2: apologized for making me feel that way. Oh okay?

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Speaker 1: Or did he Oh? Did he just say words? Or

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Speaker 1: did he lie to you to distract? Because lie?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he was like, she only caught me for that.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I could just lie a little bit. Oh she

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Speaker 2: won't catch on.

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Speaker 1: Don't do that.

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Speaker 2: Don't do that. Don't do that. Watch out, watch out,

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Speaker 2: watch out.

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Speaker 1: John's gonna attack you be afraid.

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Speaker 2: A few months later, I am approximately eight months pregnant.

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Speaker 2: As we were returning home from a summer vacation, my

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Speaker 2: son's iPad began dinging repeatedly in the backseat of my car,

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Speaker 2: not the iPad. Unbeknownst to me, my husband had inadvertently

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Speaker 2: connected his eye clout to our son's iPad. That is bonkers.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, Suddenly there she was repeatedly appearing on the iPad,

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Speaker 2: sending text after text, and this time there were even pictures.

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Speaker 2: Concerned about those pictures, because that's your son's iPad child. Also, no, okay,

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Speaker 2: this is another sun right. I was at my wits end.

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Speaker 2: I confronted my husband with such rage, anger and distrust.

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Speaker 2: His reasoning was, you're just feeling hormonal right now. This

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Speaker 2: isn't you. You're not the jealous and secure type. Once

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Speaker 2: you're no longer pregnant. You should get to know her,

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Speaker 2: have a drink with her, and you'll like her. Sir,

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Speaker 2: you dare sorry you just called the pregnant woman hormonal.

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Speaker 1: You dare I'm sorry? Eh, the woman carrying carrying your time,

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Speaker 1: you're just hormonal, or maybe I'm exactly on the money, Maybe.

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Speaker 2: I know exactly what you're up to, and you're freaking

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Speaker 2: lying to me right now and gas lighting me, using

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Speaker 2: my own hormones and emotions against me. At eight months pregnant,

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Speaker 2: I unfortunately caved and believed him and left it at that.

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Speaker 2: Shortly after welcoming our newborn baby and adjusting to our

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Speaker 2: new family of four, we experienced pure bliss. However, our

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Speaker 2: blissful state was short lived as paternity leaved ended and

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Speaker 2: my husband returned to work along with my husband's female coworker.

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Speaker 2: One evening, after we had tucked the children into bed,

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Speaker 2: I found myself browsing through my husband's phone admiring pictures

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Speaker 2: of our children. Ding it's her. I instantly and without hesitation,

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Speaker 2: opened the conversation, and my mouth dropped. He didn't even

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Speaker 2: try to hide any of them, like, I'm not supporting Ope,

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Speaker 2: going through the phone not cool? Yeah, always up conversation. However,

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Speaker 2: he's not trying to hide it, like he knows that

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Speaker 2: his wife has seen it or has found it and

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Speaker 2: gone through his phone before.

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Speaker 1: He's like, well, just.

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Speaker 2: Gotta keep it, keep that ding on it's not even

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Speaker 2: going to turn my phone on silent.

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Speaker 1: Gotta keep going. As soon as I read the word iPad,

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Speaker 1: I mean, we already knew what he was, but when

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Speaker 1: I saw the word iPad, I knew it was over. Yep.

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Speaker 2: It was a conversation where my husband was begging her

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Speaker 2: to work a specialized assignment with just him, the two

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Speaker 2: of them alone in a car five days a week.

877
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 2: I felt an instant wave of regrets, regret for not

878
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 2: listening to my gut months ago and let him gaslight

879
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 2: me into thinking this situation was all in my head

880
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 2: because of hormones. Now I want a divorce, but my

881
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: husband is now begging me not to ruin our family.

882
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:11,320
Speaker 2: So I read it. Am I the aole for breaking

883
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 2: apart this family? And there is an update. Folks, you're

884
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:15,840
Speaker 2: not breaking it apart.

885
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 1: You're not breaking it apart. You're not breaking apart. Man,

886
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 1: explain to me how you either cheating or trying. It

887
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,839
Speaker 1: hasn't been well. Definitely an emotional fair for Yeah, one

888
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 1: of those we don't know if there's the pictures, I

889
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 1: don't know. It's like it feels like it hasn't been

890
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 1: one hundred and ten percent confirmation yes, I would agree

891
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 1: with that.

892
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 2: It's not like pictures proof, but or it might be.

893
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, he clearly wants to be with Yeah.

894
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 2: I mean he I mean. But also, regardless of whether

895
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 2: or not he is physically or emotionally cheating, he has

896
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:49,759
Speaker 2: already crossed a boundary that he promised he would like

897
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 2: he would listen.

898
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,439
Speaker 1: To in respect that part.

899
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 2: Ope, he said, hey, don't have a private chat with her,

900
00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 2: and he said okay. He could have said no, I don't,

901
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 2: that's controlling I want you to do that, but he said, okay,

902
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 2: I will do that. I listened to you, and then

903
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 2: he messaged her anyway.

904
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: You're right, I'm sorry. Uh oh, let me go message

905
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 1: over here and keep doing it? Which one is it? Buddy?

906
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: Are you sorry and you're not gonna do it? Or

907
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 1: are you gonna keep doing it? Yeah? You kept doing it.

908
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 2: Kept doing this update. After reading all these comments and

909
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: absorbing the advice, I've finally realized that I'm not a

910
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 2: remmoonal and not the sole reason behind this marriage is failure.

911
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 2: As for my husband, I've asked him to leave the

912
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,400
Speaker 2: house until I've made a decision. Initially, he didn't believe me,

913
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 2: but when I took the kids and told him he'd

914
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 2: better not be here when I return with them. He

915
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 2: was beside himself. He completely lost it. He's begged me

916
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 2: to reconsider offering to block her leaving his job and

917
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,480
Speaker 2: doing anything else to keep us together. But a few

918
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 2: months ago, I politely asked you to stop texting her privately.

919
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 2: Great point, o Pe.

920
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 1: Great point.

921
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,800
Speaker 2: His response was, I thought I was just being your friend.

922
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 2: I didn't see it the way you did. What upsets

923
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:57,879
Speaker 2: me is that he didn't take me seriously back then,

924
00:42:58,120 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 2: But now that I'm packing up our kids and Lee,

925
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 2: he suddenly takes me seriously. Update two, before we get

926
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 2: into that, do you have any thoughts.

927
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 1: I'm just glad that OPI has deemed through his roots. Yeah,

928
00:43:10,920 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 1: and just the ugh, the oh, I'm so sorry, I'll

929
00:43:16,080 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 1: all do all this stuff that it is.

930
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a liar. No, you're not sorry.

931
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 1: You did it. You've shown me what again? Opie was

932
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 1: very smart calling out smartest Sophia, who is so brilliant

933
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 1: to say, you told me months ago that you would

934
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:36,040
Speaker 1: stop doing this. Well, guess what, even if there's no cheating,

935
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:40,759
Speaker 1: the trust has been broken broken. It's a gone. There

936
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 1: you go absolutely agreed.

937
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 2: Update two. I return home from an evening out with

938
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 2: my kids, grateful that my husband respected my wishes and

939
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 2: wasn't home when we arrived. After putting the kids to bed,

940
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 2: I received a text from my husband asking if he

941
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 2: could come over and talk so we could resolve our

942
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:01,759
Speaker 2: issues without involving the kids. I agreed. As soon as

943
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:04,160
Speaker 2: I opened the door, he handed me his phone. On

944
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 2: the other line, I heard her, the female coworker. She

945
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 2: was saying hello, Hello. I immediately hung up his phone

946
00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,080
Speaker 2: and demanded to know why he wanted me to talk

947
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 2: to her. He claimed they had been discussing all night

948
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 2: about how they could convince me that they were nothing

949
00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 2: more than just good coworkers. I reminded him that this

950
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 2: marriage is between the two of us, not three, and

951
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 2: that the only person who needed to address this mess

952
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:34,160
Speaker 2: was himself. Also again, she said please do not talk

953
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 2: to her one on one, and then he went and

954
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:41,120
Speaker 2: talked to her one on one. And now they're literally

955
00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 2: blindsiding you.

956
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 1: Ending you the phone and she's like, huh, hello, hello, Hello,

957
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: who's there.

958
00:44:49,239 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 2: He insisted that I speak with her, and even had

959
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: the audacity to suggest getting that drink. I told you

960
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 2: to get with her a few months back, when you

961
00:44:56,200 --> 00:45:02,040
Speaker 2: were no longer pregnant and crazy. Oh stop stop, I'm

962
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 2: gonna get you. I'm gonna get you. I told him

963
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,280
Speaker 2: get out and have that drink for me, because we're done.

964
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:10,879
Speaker 2: It took considerable effort to get him to leave, as

965
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 2: he sobbed about leaving his children, but I didn't care.

966
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 2: He clearly still wants to gaslight me into believing that

967
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 2: this is my issue with her, not his issue with

968
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 2: disrespecting our marriage and is crazy hormonal life well put

969
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:27,919
Speaker 2: relevant comments. Has Op met her husband's coworker, Obie says,

970
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:30,320
Speaker 2: I actually met her before at a work gathering for

971
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 2: my husband. He introduced me to everyone at the party

972
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 2: except her. When I finally saw a picture of this

973
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,359
Speaker 2: female coworker, I knew I had seen her before and

974
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,839
Speaker 2: asked him where I had seen her before. He did

975
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:43,319
Speaker 2: say at the work party, and when I asked, how

976
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 2: come you didn't introduce me to her, he replied, you

977
00:45:45,800 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 2: were busy getting to know everyone else. Commenter one, It's

978
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 2: so disingenuous of your husband to beg you not to

979
00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:54,760
Speaker 2: divorce him when he was actively pursuing this other woman.

980
00:45:55,160 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 2: Until you confronted him about his behavior. Had you not

981
00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 2: gone through his phone, still be sniffing around that woman

982
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 2: and lying to your face every day about it? You

983
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 2: should most definitely divorce your husband. He's not worthy enough

984
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:07,720
Speaker 2: to be your partner.

985
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: Big facts. Hey it's Sam. We'll get back to the stories.

986
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

987
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 2: Opie says, I did ask him this too. I asked

988
00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 2: him what would happen if I never saw this conversation.

989
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,280
Speaker 2: He told me he'd most likely continue to lie.

990
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: To me about it.

991
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 2: Well, at least he's not lying you about that. He's like, yeah,

992
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 2: I probably never would have told you.

993
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: Sorry. Yeah.

994
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 2: Common or two says your husband is the ale, not you.

995
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 2: He has ghastly you for months, and it is possible

996
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 2: that the coworker is unaware that he's married with kids

997
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 2: as well. Try to get this across to her about

998
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: all of this and go from there all the best,

999
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 2: Opie And Opie says, I've actually reached out to her.

1000
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:45,040
Speaker 2: She told me she's like that's with all of her

1001
00:46:45,080 --> 00:46:47,880
Speaker 2: male coworkers, and then proceeded to try and add me

1002
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 2: on social media after she was made aware that she

1003
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:53,399
Speaker 2: was causing riffs in our marriage and was shocked and

1004
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 2: felt horrible. She definitely knew because she literally went on

1005
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:56,720
Speaker 2: the phone.

1006
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 1: She's like hello, Hello, And also I love how she

1007
00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 1: he's like the ambiguous language of like, oh, I'm like

1008
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 1: this with all of my male coworkers. I just sleep

1009
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 1: with all of them.

1010
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 2: I sleep with all of them, just well just a

1011
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:09,439
Speaker 2: married one. I just start with all of my male

1012
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 2: coworkers just so I can hurt you. However, continues to

1013
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 2: engage in these conversations with my husband. I am absolutely

1014
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:21,319
Speaker 2: not blaming her. My husband was engaging her. However, she

1015
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:25,640
Speaker 2: is aware what she's doing. COMMONA three. Leave him. There

1016
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:28,719
Speaker 2: is nothing to save here. He's a master manipulator, and

1017
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:31,839
Speaker 2: you're easily manipulated. Please go into the next one with

1018
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 2: your guard up and everyone who cares about you guards up.

1019
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 2: Opie says, I never thought I was easily manipulated until now.

1020
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 2: Our entire relationship has been absolutely wonderful, so it was

1021
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:45,000
Speaker 2: easy to make believe this was all in my head

1022
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 2: and heightened by my hormones while pregnant. It hasn't been

1023
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,680
Speaker 2: until recently where I see my babes and think you

1024
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 2: will not have a mother who was emotionally controlled by

1025
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 2: a man who wants to be a half butt husband

1026
00:47:56,760 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 2: and father while he steps out on us while at work.

1027
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:03,319
Speaker 2: For says he'll return to the pursuit after Opie calms down.

1028
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:06,720
Speaker 2: He'll just cover his tracks, delete messages, get another phone,

1029
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 2: or only communicate in person with the other woman. Opie says,

1030
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 2: this is what I'm afraid of.

1031
00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 1: We are young, in our prime.

1032
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 2: I can't imagine twenty years from now this happens again

1033
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 2: with someone else, because I'll be punting myself thinking I

1034
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 2: should have left twenty years ago. What I felt fabulous

1035
00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 2: about myself and knew I had tons to offer to

1036
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:29,880
Speaker 2: someone else who actually appreciated me. And uh, there are

1037
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 2: a lot more comments. But do you have any thoughts

1038
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:32,400
Speaker 2: about that?

1039
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: I mean, ope, he is now thinking the right thought. Absolutely.

1040
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 2: She's like, wait, I there's no reason to stay here.

1041
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 2: Nothing's tying me down. He sucks he's prioritizing another woman.

1042
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 1: Ah bye, And I get to like in the beginning

1043
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 1: of the story, when she first found about it, it's like,

1044
00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 1: you're kind of shelsh can be shell shocked. You know,

1045
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, I'm in relationship, I'm pregnant with his child,

1046
00:48:57,719 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 1: like all of all of these things, not in the

1047
00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:02,000
Speaker 1: form in a way, just like, oh, man, there's if

1048
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: I leave, you know, all these variables going through your head,

1049
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 1: and it's like it can be hard to see it initially,

1050
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: but yeah, and it's like the reality settles in and

1051
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:13,360
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, oh.

1052
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 2: Now I understand now this I'm worth so much more

1053
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 2: than this man.

1054
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 1: Yes, and this man is going to keep treating you

1055
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: like gerbajio And oh what's that? Oh, you don't deserve

1056
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 1: to be treated like garbage. You actually deserve to be

1057
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:32,280
Speaker 1: treated like the queen you are. Yeah, carrying the child,

1058
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 1: the baby, my goodness.

1059
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, literally carrying his baby.

1060
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 1: Are you kidding? Me?

1061
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,960
Speaker 2: Carrying his baby? And they spend another time without another woman, right,

1062
00:49:41,360 --> 00:49:42,560
Speaker 2: no surre.

1063
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 1: Also a Kayley dropped this comment earlier and chat way

1064
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:49,240
Speaker 1: up there, but she said maybe he's the more hormonal

1065
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: one with all his crying and begging.

1066
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:57,280
Speaker 2: Literally literally, op he should send screenshots of text messages

1067
00:49:57,320 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 2: to her husband's HR department. Opie says, I'm actually friends

1068
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:02,959
Speaker 2: with his boss's wife and may have already dropped hints

1069
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 2: about how I don't like this girl because she's a

1070
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,840
Speaker 2: pick me girl. I've planted the seed. What kind of

1071
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 2: pictures are involved from the messages, which is what you

1072
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 2: were asking, Opie says, they are pictures of her that

1073
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 2: he took all of them at work, so inappropriate attire,

1074
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 2: absolutely flirting, cute, playful banter, teasing each other, how they

1075
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 2: get on each other's nerves while at we're showing her

1076
00:50:23,480 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 2: pics of her home or her saying wow, are you rich?

1077
00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:29,880
Speaker 2: What he damn well knows I paid for the house.

1078
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:33,279
Speaker 1: Uh ick, he sucks and he's poor.

1079
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 2: Yop And he's taken it. You know, he's trying to

1080
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 2: take all of your credit, Opie. Not a response to

1081
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 2: a comment on if her husband is likely to be

1082
00:50:43,520 --> 00:50:46,279
Speaker 2: a cop, what Opie says, not trying to keep his

1083
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:49,280
Speaker 2: job Inden, I just think it's irrelevant. Honestly, I'm actually

1084
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: the one who works in a field with extremely high

1085
00:50:51,560 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 2: divorce rates, and maybe for that reason, I don't like

1086
00:50:54,160 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 2: to judge people's marriage success based on their profession. And

1087
00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 2: thankfully I am absolutely one million percent not concerned about

1088
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 2: physical abuse at this time. I am the cop of

1089
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:07,880
Speaker 2: the family. I come from a family of officers. He

1090
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Speaker 2: is not a police officer, so to me, my occupation

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00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 2: is irrelevant because I have never caused harm emotional or

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00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 2: physical to anyone. And there is a third update, folks.

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00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: That's just kind of funny that. Yeah, commentors like like

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00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:22,840
Speaker 1: guessing that he was a cop and she's like, no,

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00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 1: I came from a family of cops, Like why I

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00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:29,200
Speaker 1: never would have Yeah, those dots, No, Like my brain.

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Speaker 2: Nailed that commentary, almost nailed it. Yeah, truly, But there's

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00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 2: a little bit. There's there's a third update. Do you

1099
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:39,800
Speaker 2: have any thoughts before we get into this third update?

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00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,399
Speaker 1: I think we dive right in, all right, I want

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00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 1: to see what happened.

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00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 2: It's been almost five months since I've updated all of

1103
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 2: you on my original post. We are divorcing finally nice. Originally,

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00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 2: we took some time apart to cool off, dig deep,

1105
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 2: and think about what we really wanted while not letting

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00:51:56,040 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 2: any of this affect our children. To the best of

1107
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 2: our ability, we did couple's therapy, individual therapy, and even

1108
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 2: a vacation away just the two of us. Everything just

1109
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 2: felt like it was falling back into place, like before

1110
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:09,240
Speaker 2: any of this was even a thing, I was starting

1111
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 2: to come to terms with the emotional affair and the

1112
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 2: gas lighting until well, I'm sure you guessed it. The

1113
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:19,800
Speaker 2: female coworker came back, not that I think she ever left.

1114
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:23,319
Speaker 2: I was so close to trusting him again, but for

1115
00:52:23,440 --> 00:52:26,920
Speaker 2: crabs and giggles. I went through his phone one last time,

1116
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 2: and by God, wouldn't you believe I found a picture

1117
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 2: of my husband in his female coworker's car running errands

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00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 2: for her. I didn't need an explanation. I didn't even

1119
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,120
Speaker 2: read the context of how and why he was there.

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00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 2: I simply laughed. By the way, you can always laugh

1121
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,759
Speaker 2: if you listen to full episodes of stories just like this.

1122
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:49,240
Speaker 2: Just go Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Ihart Radio and search

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00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 2: up Okay, storytime.

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Speaker 1: Ah ha waw. But there's a little bit.

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00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 2: Left to the story, so let's just finish her off.

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00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,600
Speaker 2: We put the kids to bed, and I said, do

1127
00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 2: I need to make you an errand list in order

1128
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:02,400
Speaker 2: to get your full attention? He automatically knew exactly what

1129
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 2: I was referring to. I told him to get out

1130
00:53:04,680 --> 00:53:06,920
Speaker 2: and maybe call into work the next day because he

1131
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 2: should spend the day looking for a divorce lawyer. And

1132
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 2: really that was simply it. We are currently in the

1133
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 2: divorce process and it's going as smooth as you can imagine,

1134
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:18,880
Speaker 2: getting all his legal advice from co workers. Lol. Fominer

1135
00:53:18,920 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 2: Wan says, girl, I knew it. I'm so proud of

1136
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 2: you for not falling for his bs. You gave him

1137
00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 2: every chance and he spit in your face trying to

1138
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 2: convince you they were just friends. I'm curious, but did

1139
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 2: he run to her hope? He says, I can only

1140
00:53:31,160 --> 00:53:35,040
Speaker 2: imagine if they weren't having relations before they are now. However,

1141
00:53:35,120 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 2: it wouldn't look good in court to be in a

1142
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 2: relationship with a woman you were having an affair with

1143
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:43,560
Speaker 2: while claiming you weren't automatically untrustworthy. Liar and folks, that

1144
00:53:43,680 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 2: is the end of that story. Wowie, well Op in

1145
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:48,360
Speaker 2: the end made the right decision.

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00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:52,400
Speaker 1: That's correct. Yeah, you know, because that guy was if.

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00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 2: He hadn't already, he was emotionally cheating you on you

1148
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 2: at the very least.

1149
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 1: Like it's almost like he was so you know, he's

1150
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:02,360
Speaker 1: running her errands, he was like doing all these things

1151
00:54:02,360 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 1: for It's almost like just freaking like, if you're gonna

1152
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 1: do it, just do it.

1153
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 2: Literally. Yeah, it's like you're just like you're lying to me,

1154
00:54:11,520 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 2: You're beating around the bush. I'm going to divorce you

1155
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 2: and you can go do whatever you want.

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00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:17,120
Speaker 1: There's something that you know what it is. It's the

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00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:19,440
Speaker 1: i'm not touching you of cheating.

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00:54:19,480 --> 00:54:21,000
Speaker 2: I'm not cheating. I'm i'm chating.

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00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:23,560
Speaker 1: I'm just running her errands. I'm just like, I'm not

1160
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:25,640
Speaker 1: constantly flirting with her. I'm just like taking pictures of

1161
00:54:25,680 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 1: her all day along. I'm just like spinning my time

1162
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:28,839
Speaker 1: with her. I'm just trying to get a work of time.

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00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 1: It's so i can be in a car with her.

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Speaker 1: Twenty four seven.

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00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:34,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, bad news, bears, you're emotionally cheating on your wife.

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00:54:34,600 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 1: There it is.

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Speaker 2: But folks, that is the end of that story and

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Speaker 2: the end of this episode.

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Speaker 1: Oh I know.

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Speaker 2: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.