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Speaker 1: when she moved out of state?

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Speaker 2: Long distance relationship? Do it? Do they work? Do they not?

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Speaker 1: This comes from objective Jimmika three or three, who says,

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Speaker 1: my wife finally got accepted into dental school after three

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Speaker 1: cycles of applying.

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Speaker 2: Congrats, congrats.

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Speaker 1: She didn't get accepted to any in state schools the

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Speaker 1: last two cycles, so she decided to apply broadly last

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Speaker 1: Last month, she received an acceptance letter from a really

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Speaker 1: good program. And I'm extremely proud of her for all

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Speaker 1: her hard work.

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Speaker 2: Nothing could go wrong. There's only one problem. What's the problem?

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Speaker 1: It's an out of state program and I have two

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Speaker 1: children from a previous relationship that I see every other weekend.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, just get rid of.

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Speaker 3: Them becoming And also that sounds like two problems.

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Speaker 1: That is technically two problems. I could say, I'm kidding.

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Speaker 1: Uh is he though? Is he?

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Speaker 2: Guys? Is Sam kidding? Let me know what is a problem?

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Speaker 2: What we got?

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Speaker 3: One problem? And there is the fact that there is

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Speaker 3: no ice pack on one camera.

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Speaker 1: Wow, one camera is just ice packless heating up over here?

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Speaker 4: It's kidding? Hot in here, take your ice backs off.

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Speaker 2: I don't but that I saw me.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I would love to move with my wife

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Speaker 1: and support her, but I also can't imagine leaving my children.

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Speaker 2: Behind for four years.

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Speaker 1: I asked my wife to please apply another cycle to

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Speaker 1: but she really doesn't want to, and honestly, I can't blame.

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Speaker 2: Her at all.

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Speaker 1: My ex also heard about my wife's acceptance letter from

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Speaker 1: my mother, and they're already calling me a bad father

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Speaker 1: for even considering moving.

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Speaker 2: So far away.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I don't know if it should even

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Speaker 3: that's yeah, you're moving for your your second family.

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Speaker 2: That's true.

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Speaker 1: They don't have kids, I believe him, and they don't

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Speaker 1: have any life. But yeah, that's still for what are

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Speaker 1: you doing here? What are you doing? I felt very

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Speaker 1: in between my wife and my kids. Should I try

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Speaker 1: a long distance? Should I beg my wife to reapply?

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Speaker 1: Should I Your.

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Speaker 3: Kids should be your priority? Your wife can do dental

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Speaker 3: school on her own. That yeah, yeah, this is tricky.

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Speaker 3: We're about to discuss it. Should I try to get

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Speaker 3: a parenting plan in place? To become a summer Dad.

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Speaker 3: Has anyone here ever been in a remotely similar situation?

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Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. We have some comments

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Speaker 3: which I'm going to quickly read and then we'll.

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Speaker 2: Discuss before the update.

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Speaker 1: So Signal Wall eighty four to forty five says, you

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Speaker 1: can't ask your wife to reapply after she went through

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Speaker 1: her to reapply to. Agreed, you need to tell your

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Speaker 2: To your ex. Wait what wait?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, So basically what uh Signal Wall just said

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Speaker 1: is that you'll stop telling your mom like new information

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Speaker 1: like hey, my my wife just got into this out

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Speaker 3: Because OPI's mom heard the information about him considering going

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Speaker 2: His children's mother as well, and they both were saying

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Speaker 2: that to OPI, Yeah, I understand not wanting to tell

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like like I and I could be wrong here,

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Speaker 2: But certain information that tell she might gossip about.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's it's also like it's like he's

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Speaker 3: She's like, I can't believe you would choose your new

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Speaker 1: I think it's super fair to go and be like,

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Speaker 1: You can at least try long distance first, Opie says, Yes, realistically,

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Speaker 1: it's like stay long long distance with your kids.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what he said at first, but I was mistaken.

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Speaker 1: Kunka like says, my husband got into out of state

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Speaker 1: dental school two years.

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Speaker 2: Into my medical school training. WHOA, Okay, very similar situation,

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Speaker 1: The drive was four hours away. Granted we had no children,

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Speaker 1: Opie says, thank you for commenting. This gives me some

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Speaker 1: hope that long distance can work for us. We have

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Speaker 1: an update two months later. I suspect a lot of

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Speaker 1: everyone watching right now In the comments, Samuel Donner long.

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Speaker 2: Distance relationship with the kids or the wife or the wife?

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Speaker 2: Who do you choose kids? Other ways? Who's the kids? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I'm kidding, Okay, No, I think you do long distance

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because like with an adult, you can kind of

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Speaker 2: Well, you get the kids every other week yeah, right

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Speaker 2: now he sees them every other weekend.

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Speaker 3: So oh every other weekend weekend, So he's only seeing

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Speaker 2: Every for one weekend every two.

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Speaker 3: Weeks, one weekend every two weeks. So one could argue

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well that's every other weekend. Yeah, Okay.

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Speaker 1: One could argue, we don't know Ope's financial situation, flight costs,

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Speaker 2: But if OP just like travel weekends.

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Speaker 1: There and was there the whole weekend, it was virtually

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Speaker 3: What he could do is like he could just like

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Speaker 3: it's only a weekend.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting that he only got a weekend in the custody.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what did he do wrong? Good? Question? Is this

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Speaker 1: We had one a few weeks ago where it was like, Op,

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Speaker 1: he looked good, good, good, good good, and then in

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Speaker 2: Crap like that in the past, in the past.

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Speaker 3: I think there is a layer beneath, right, I think

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Speaker 2: The model father. Okay, and hopefully this update will have it.

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Speaker 1: I'm curious everyone in the comments right now, and Sam,

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Speaker 1: just for clarity, long distance wife for long distance.

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Speaker 3: It's you should go long distance with the wife. Long

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Speaker 1: Two months later, my wife is leaving the state for

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Speaker 2: Be in my kid's life. Good for years. Four years.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, one of my friends just stop being long distance

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Speaker 4: This the one we've been hanging out with a lot recently?

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Speaker 2: Oh, dude, what a guy. Four years he was in

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Speaker 2: Phil but here now here that he's here now right,

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Speaker 1: And then it happens like like the commenter said, it's

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Speaker 2: Then it's meant to be. Yeah, like they're they're they're chilling. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: After months of discussing the situation with my family, my

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Speaker 3: That came out of left field, right? Is that not expensive?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm kind of what like this seems if she

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's only one problem. It's an out of state program,

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Speaker 1: I see every other weekend.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so yeah it is so it is a weekend. Yes,

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Speaker 1: That's a big that's a drastic action to take for

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Speaker 2: I mean, yes, it is.

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Speaker 3: It is your kids. But I'm surprised that the parents

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Speaker 1: After also like attacking him for even considering to move.

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Speaker 1: Now you're helping fund the X and the children to

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Speaker 1: move to uproot and move.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm I'm so like maybe they feel indebted to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and like doing a good job like raising. Like this,

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Speaker 1: the mom is way more like the mom is the

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Speaker 1: primary caretaker one thousand percent.

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Speaker 2: I'm confused. I want to let's figure it out.

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Speaker 1: Yes, they even offered to pay for an apartment for

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Speaker 2: Wow, that is very job. Maybe they're like super loaded

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the mother of the girls has wanted to leave

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Speaker 3: She on purpose want to take a program out of state.

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Speaker 2: I see you, let me see those ic us.

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Speaker 1: My parents and her have not had the best relationship,

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm starting to think. This is obviously not true.

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Speaker 3: I am concerned about this wife of yours. Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: What do we know? What do we what do we

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, dude, breat conspiracy theory of that she

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm trying, I really am not. He said she

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Speaker 1: Definitely, like a thousand percent, like like you could have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly exactly. So I think there's something fishy here.

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Speaker 3: I think there's something fishy, and you need to talk

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Speaker 1: So yeah, sit down and basically like, ask some some

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Speaker 2: Find the hard questions that you're afraid of. Right, Oh, well,

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Speaker 1: That we might be afraid of, but we're gonna read

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Speaker 1: I have noticed in recent weeks that my wife is

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Speaker 2: This is a bit strange to me.

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Speaker 1: Granted, your wife doesn't get on with your folks all

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Speaker 2: Right, that's what I said.

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Speaker 1: The apartment offer was for your ex correct. On paper,

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Speaker 1: What theories have you about your wife's state of mind.

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Speaker 1: A four year long distance relationship is a huge challenge

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Speaker 1: to sustain. Why would your wife prefer that, let's get

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Speaker 2: Sam, what do you got for me that makes sense?

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Speaker 3: Basically, what's happening is now like the like, Opie's parents

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Speaker 3: giving an apartment to Opie's ex wife, which is like, yo, like,

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Speaker 3: it's like like clearing up babyism, clear favoritism. Obviously you

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Speaker 2: There is a reason behind it. It makes sense.

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Speaker 3: But I can imagine being very insecure as the wife

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Speaker 1: But is your so you feel these like few leagues

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Speaker 2: No, I feel we're that that is not.

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Speaker 3: A solution to this insecurity. The insecurity needs to be addressed.

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Speaker 3: But I understand now where this insecurity is coming from.

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling less that it's like, I know, something wild

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Speaker 1: And this next comment comes from row four Raight nine,

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Speaker 2: Your parents are basically trying to get you back with

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Speaker 2: and your parents need to get on board or be

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Speaker 2: put at a distance. Do you think that's what are

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Speaker 3: Oh, that seems exactly what's happening. Yeah, so they're trying

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Speaker 3: to isn't that what Op like like said earlier in

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Speaker 2: They prefer the X because she is the mother of.

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Speaker 3: I think the exact language is they would prefer me

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Speaker 1: Save bandit a bunch of numbers, says, I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: If their goal was to try to revive their son's

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Speaker 3: Oh, I see, so, like what this commentary is saying

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Speaker 3: is if Opie's parents didn't provide the house in this

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, then getting the house aids in the goal

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Speaker 2: it doesn't help.

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Speaker 1: Getting the house for the wife doesn't help the husband

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Speaker 2: No, explain, this is what that the comment is saying.

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Speaker 2: What I'm saying, But what are you saying?

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Speaker 3: So, what I'm saying is there's two options that would

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Speaker 3: Opie's ex wife doesn't get a house in the new

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Speaker 1: It is ultimately a better scenario that he's with his

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a better scenario for the marriage, for the Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Opie says, No, I want to clarify that my wife

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Speaker 1: and it's a step in the right direction to mend

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Speaker 1: Which is what we also thought initially, and that is

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Speaker 3: I think she's I think I'm kind of back to

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Speaker 2: To be addressed.

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Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, because did op ever have that conversation with

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Speaker 2: Doesn't sound like it, not from what we read. I

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Speaker 1: Sounds like they were just talking about the solutions the

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Speaker 3: Which is why don't you want me and my ex

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Speaker 1: Yes, what is the cause of that? That is the

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Speaker 2: It's insecurity.

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Speaker 3: I could also see her wanting to drive a wedge

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Speaker 3: between him and his well, she wanted him to stay

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00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,200
Speaker 3: with his old family. So yeah, I actually could. Yeah,

445
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,879
Speaker 3: then I could. I actually could see it. Yeah, that

446
00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:00,000
Speaker 3: she just wants to get away from me.

447
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:05,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then it's just like, okay, just leave the relationship, like.

448
00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:08,480
Speaker 2: And and what what an out you have?

449
00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:13,280
Speaker 1: Literally you need to move anyways, so you can like completely, like,

450
00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:14,639
Speaker 1: but just leave the relationship.

451
00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:17,479
Speaker 2: You fat not like a boyfriend girlfriend.

452
00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:20,000
Speaker 1: So you're married, Well, you're married, but like if if

453
00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:25,840
Speaker 1: she marries, I mean you're married. You're only married if

454
00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,119
Speaker 1: she really is like, hey, I need to get away

455
00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 1: from my husband by like moving out of state to

456
00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:35,640
Speaker 1: this program that's crazy, versus just like, actually.

457
00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,000
Speaker 2: You don't have to have a hard conversation.

458
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:40,480
Speaker 1: I mean this is technically true, and a lot of

459
00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: people want to avoid that. Then you can just live

460
00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,080
Speaker 1: and then you can you can get your That was

461
00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:48,960
Speaker 1: Opie's practice family, the no children practice family. Now she

462
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,160
Speaker 1: can go get the real family.

463
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 2: That's true, that's true. She had her own practice family.

464
00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,640
Speaker 2: She had her well technically I guess step kids. That's real.

465
00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:00,000
Speaker 2: That's that's really sat that's the real. That's the true.

466
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:02,240
Speaker 1: Any that is that is that is the training wheels.

467
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:04,919
Speaker 1: She's ready to the practice family, bringing down on that

468
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:07,639
Speaker 1: bike and go explore a new city.

469
00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,359
Speaker 4: Wow, Or like, how are you ready to press subscribe?

470
00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, that's right.

471
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 1: Guys, move to our subscribe button and then sit on

472
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 1: it so it's clicked and you join the family.

473
00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:25,400
Speaker 2: Please join us for this next story. That's kidding it.

474
00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,879
Speaker 3: I caught my wife sending picks to her brother in law.

475
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 3: Is our marriage salvageable at this point? Can't salvage it?

476
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 2: Take it to the junkyard.

477
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,120
Speaker 3: So this comes from throwaway, which we should throw away

478
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,360
Speaker 3: your marriage? Wife picks too my wife, Jessica thirty four

479
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,119
Speaker 3: and I thirty five male, have been married for three years,

480
00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 3: and we did it for two years before that, and

481
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:47,480
Speaker 3: we have a two year old daughter. Jessica has two sisters,

482
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 3: the eldest one thirty eight female and married to Jake

483
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 3: forty male. A week ago, I came home from work

484
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:58,320
Speaker 3: early and wanted to scare Jessica, try to be sneaky,

485
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 3: but somehow I slip and accidentally hurt my back and

486
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,480
Speaker 3: Jessica came to my rescue. Went to the bedroom and

487
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,440
Speaker 3: she went to the kitchen to get an ice pack.

488
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,440
Speaker 3: Her phone was by the bed, and a WhatsApp notification

489
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:16,760
Speaker 3: came from Jake saying, You've got the best pair I've

490
00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:17,359
Speaker 3: ever seen.

491
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,199
Speaker 1: It better be the best pair of ice packs, the

492
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 1: best pair fruit misspelled at a correct issue.

493
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 3: I immediately knew what was happening. I unlocked the phone

494
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,879
Speaker 3: and saw that she had just sent some picks and

495
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 3: a video of her zungas to Jake bazoongas and no

496
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,680
Speaker 3: previous chats before that.

497
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 2: What just cold, cold, the cold spicy text. They them,

498
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 2: They them, oh right, right, right, come on, you're right.

499
00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:58,520
Speaker 2: I can't say anything.

500
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 3: What Jessica came back to the room. I showed her

501
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 3: the job and asked how long. I have known this

502
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 3: woman for ten years and I have never seen her

503
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 3: so mortified. Her eyes got tierri and she said, Babe,

504
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:22,080
Speaker 3: I am sorry, but I can explain. Really, how how.

505
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 2: Can you can you explain? How can you possibly explain? Oh?

506
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 2: Here we go.

507
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,080
Speaker 3: So Jake really wants to do good for the community. Yep,

508
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 3: he recently got a pink ribbon. And he's like, I'm

509
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 3: just trying to donate my time to examine all the

510
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,439
Speaker 3: breasts in the family, and I want to make sure

511
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 3: that there are no lumps. So you send me a

512
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:44,880
Speaker 3: video and maybe I can inspect later. For the good

513
00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 3: of your health.

514
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: Or only fans for charity, right, they have this like

515
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: incredible charitable cause. They're like, look, we we need to

516
00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: raise funds and we need to raise it fast.

517
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 2: What are we gonna do? Opie's wife venta.

518
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 3: For the homeless, Benmo for the Homeless, give every homeless

519
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 3: person a Venmo account. So in this cashless world they

520
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 3: can still get uh dollars.

521
00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:12,159
Speaker 1: But how are they making the money an of account?

522
00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 1: And she's sending She's sending like, hey, is this one

523
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: good and then he's like, oh no, let's tweak. It's

524
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:18,919
Speaker 1: like it's like, okay, the YouTube videos, you know, we

525
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:23,560
Speaker 1: got to tweak it of for charity, and the charity

526
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:28,639
Speaker 1: is ven Most for homeless. Yes, oh okay, now sorry.

527
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 4: This just reminds me of in high school these I

528
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 4: heard some rumor that this girl was sending nudies the

529
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,919
Speaker 4: guys that voted for Biden. So these guys would literally

530
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:41,440
Speaker 4: go vote for Biden.

531
00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:45,360
Speaker 3: This girl I know did that. She had an OnlyFans

532
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 3: and if you showed that you voted for Biden, she

533
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 3: would send nudes.

534
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 4: Wow, dude, same same thing. I don't think that girl actually.

535
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 2: Did, but good for her. For I think the girl

536
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 2: I know did it.

537
00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 1: Wow, that would sway dude. Literally, this this is how

538
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: elections are going to be won in the future.

539
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 4: Way here in California she did that.

540
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 2: No where, I'm not giving you any more information.

541
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 4: Was it a red state?

542
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 2: I'm not giving you any more information?

543
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 4: Was it a red state?

544
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 2: Not gave me any more information.

545
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 4: I feel like I know this person already. I could

546
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 4: already know who it is. Oh my gosh, he has

547
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 4: of You don't know who it is? Do I know?

548
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 2: This person?

549
00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,040
Speaker 4: Just say, I feel like I know this person and

550
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 4: you're not saying anything else because I know.

551
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 3: I've known this woman for ten years anyway, so I

552
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 3: said go on. According to her, at the end of

553
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 3: twenty nineteen, she was struggling with money and Jake suggested

554
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 3: he would help her out. He hinted that he would

555
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 3: like to see her picks, so she did send him picks,

556
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,679
Speaker 3: and it continued over the years. No, Riley, it's not

557
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 3: the person who texted me. Riley just texted me a name. No, okay,

558
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 3: cool cool he lives here that person.

559
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 4: No, okay, Sorry, I didn't know you just said she

560
00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:02,120
Speaker 4: was moving on? Okay cool a guarder.

561
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 3: At the end of twenty nineteen, she was struggling with

562
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 3: money and Jake suggested he would help her out. He

563
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 3: hinted he would like to see her picks, which is

564
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 3: left up. Oh yes, So she did send him picks,

565
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 3: and it continued over the years. She swears there was

566
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:20,439
Speaker 3: nothing emotional or physical involved. It was purely transactional. I

567
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,679
Speaker 3: didn't believe any of it, but she showed me on

568
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:27,480
Speaker 3: Venmo that MF paid her three hundred dollars yesterday.

569
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 2: Okay, are they married? Though? Literally?

570
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 1: Why would you not go to your partner who traditionally

571
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 1: stereotypically or whatever you split the finances with, and be like, hey,

572
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: I am having a financial struggle. Can we bring our

573
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: minds together to tackle this problem?

574
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 4: Pride?

575
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:49,439
Speaker 2: Wow?

576
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:50,680
Speaker 4: I think it's pride.

577
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 2: Why? Like she wanted to get it done on her own.

578
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:54,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, so like she could fix something.

579
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, maybe I don't know if this is

580
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:01,640
Speaker 3: the cost of your pride about it. I then told

581
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 3: her it's been five years. Try to remember if anything

582
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 3: physical happened five years she's been sent because she's did

583
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 3: this since twenty nineteen.

584
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

585
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 3: Yeah for me, if even half of what she is

586
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 3: saying is true, how could something like that not become physical.

587
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 3: She started crying and told me she could prove it

588
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 3: tomorrow because Jake would get suspicious if she tried to

589
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 3: talk to him.

590
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:24,720
Speaker 2: Now.

591
00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,439
Speaker 3: I took her phone, went to a bar, got wasted

592
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 3: for the night, and when I came back, she was

593
00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 3: still there crying. I just slept on the couch. The

594
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 3: next morning, I gave her the phone. She called Jake

595
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 3: and the conversation goes something like this, this is crazy.

596
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 3: I can't believe this happened. This is wild, Jessica. Hey,

597
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 3: I was wondering if you want some more picks, Jake.

598
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 3: I'm short on money. Yesterday I spent all of it. Jessica.

599
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 3: We can do something more this time and meet in person.

600
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 3: I've changed my mind on that, Jake, No way. How

601
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 3: much are we talking about? Oh oh, this is weird, dude.

602
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 3: I felt like I was going to puke. I told

603
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 3: her that we are done and left for the office.

604
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 3: I am not a very wealthy dude, but I would

605
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 3: consider myself a stable guy who could take care of

606
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 3: his family. Now I just feel like I have failed

607
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 3: as a man whose wife had to sell her body

608
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 3: to meet her expected lifestyle too.

609
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 2: Is it's uh Op's.

610
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:31,600
Speaker 3: Brother brother in law, so her sister's husband, her sister's husband.

611
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

612
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 3: When I got home that night, she looked horrible. I

613
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 3: asked Jessica why she kept taking money from him after

614
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 3: we got married, and why she didn't ask me while

615
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 3: we were dating. She said she didn't know how to stop,

616
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 3: and it was easy money. I left my home that

617
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 3: night and told her she can keep the home and

618
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 3: the car, but I want fifty to fifty custody of

619
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,560
Speaker 3: my child. So now here I am I haven't told

620
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 3: anyone about this. It's been a week since. I'm staying

621
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 3: in a hotel. I go home in the evening to

622
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 3: play with my daughter. I'm speaking with divorce lawyers and

623
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 3: Jessica is constantly talking about marriage counseling, and there is

624
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 3: a juicy update and some relevant comments.

625
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 2: But what should Ope do?

626
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I think, like so, it's not a

627
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 1: plain simple cheating case.

628
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:29,479
Speaker 3: It's not cheating she is she essentially is doing only fans,

629
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: but for one person that is very close, very close

630
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 3: to the family.

631
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 2: I mean it's like her sister's husband.

632
00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 1: There's something about like like doing of for like random

633
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: strangers I feel like so detached, but doing it for

634
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 1: a specific person that has a like like a brother

635
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: in law like relationship scene.

636
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, because you know that Opie's sister or oh

637
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 3: you know that Opie's wife's sister would not be okay

638
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:56,239
Speaker 3: with that.

639
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, how could you do that to your sister too?

640
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,080
Speaker 1: You're literally like helping your.

641
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 2: You're screwing two people over. You're screwing over your husband

642
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 2: and your sister.

643
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: Screwing two people over without and screwing insane. I mean, yeah,

644
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: I think it's like I mean, I guess counseling, like

645
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 1: counseling and therapy for me.

646
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:18,160
Speaker 2: Dude, I don't know. This would be too far. Yeah,

647
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 2: this would be too far.

648
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 3: Five years, five years, five years, I think I I

649
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 3: think right there, I would end it. Yea even if

650
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 3: even like even with a kid, even like in the relationship. Also,

651
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,959
Speaker 3: they've only been married for two years in a relationship

652
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 3: for I think.

653
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 4: They got a kid.

654
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: Five years. Yeah, that's sure. They do have a kid.

655
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: And you're right, You're right, Yeah.

656
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: I this is Yeah, this is a really tough one question.

657
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 2: Yes, two questions.

658
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 4: One, how angry are you at the what is he

659
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 4: the brother in law? How how angry are you the

660
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 4: brother law? And then two, well.

661
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 3: He's f two but you're mad at him, to be honest, No,

662
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:57,800
Speaker 3: I'm the most mad at my wife.

663
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 4: Oh wow, yeah, because would you want to strangle that guy?

664
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 1: Though?

665
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 2: No, yeah, I would be. I would be pretty pissed

666
00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:05,840
Speaker 2: to him.

667
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 3: Well we guess, Well, I wouldn't.

668
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 2: Want to beat that guy to a poll?

669
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 3: What I mean, He's like, no, I don't think. I

670
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 3: don't think so I would want to. But he like,

671
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 3: it's it's not like he did something that she didn't

672
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 3: consent to. That would be different if like he did

673
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 3: something that she didn't consent to and like took advantage

674
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: of her in some way, then yes.

675
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: But he's like cut like was like I want you,

676
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 2: which is like yours.

677
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 3: I could have said no, I would be made. I'm

678
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: I wouldn't. I wouldn't like what Jake what whatever? Like

679
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 3: he yes, he did this, it's it's he's bad. But

680
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm like, I don't even like I'm not

681
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 3: even thinking about you. I'm thinking about the person that

682
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 3: actually is committed to me, and we have like a

683
00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 3: we have a like essentially a contract of like this

684
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 3: is how we're going to engage together.

685
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 2: And that was violated.

686
00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 3: Jake obviously terrible and you should probably tell the sister

687
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 3: for sure.

688
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: Oh yes, oh you have to tell the sister. You

689
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 1: have to tell the sister immediately.

690
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 3: But I don't think I would be like, I don't

691
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 3: you wouldn't want to find him. I would think it

692
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 3: was like a terrible person, wouldn't want him in my life.

693
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:23,080
Speaker 2: But I don't know. I guess, yeah, I guess I

694
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 2: would want to.

695
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: I think I would sit with the I would I

696
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 1: would give myself a beat, but I think definitely tell

697
00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 1: the sister to expose the brother in law and then

698
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 1: probably would would ultimately leave the relationship. I would just

699
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 1: like relations I guess if you'll do that. You know,

700
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:45,480
Speaker 1: it's almost like five years, dude, five years.

701
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 3: And like your whole relationship there has been this lie,

702
00:33:49,600 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 3: and you know what, like there's this weird feeling of

703
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 3: like the unnecessariness.

704
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 1: Of it because it's like like cheating. It's almost like, Okay,

705
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 1: you had this.

706
00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 3: I don't believe. I don't believe that the was financial issue.

707
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 3: I think she did it because she Yeah.

708
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 4: Twenty nineteen was a good year for America, Like we

709
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:07,400
Speaker 4: were on the up.

710
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 2: The economy was doing pretty good.

711
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 4: The economy was doing great. So I agree with you

712
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 4: on that.

713
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 1: Oh oh, the economy was doing so good that the

714
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:18,919
Speaker 1: wife didn't need extra money because yea, what is because

715
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: the economy is That doesn't mean that she is she's up,

716
00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: you know, but it's just it's just it's just so

717
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 1: the the stupidness and unnecessariness of the of the reason

718
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:32,320
Speaker 1: is like so infuriating.

719
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:34,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, I think I'm I think I'm not.

720
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:36,719
Speaker 2: I want to know what y'all think. Yeah.

721
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:40,720
Speaker 4: Second question for Sam, they were together for two years,

722
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 4: lie happened, they have a kid. How many Hall passes

723
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 4: does this person have? Because one one? Because it happened,

724
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 4: because even though they were together for seven years.

725
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 5: Also, it's not a hall pass it's a predictive tools.

726
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 5: It's a predictive tool. This happened over the span of

727
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 5: seven years. I'm just wondering how many Hall passes they have.

728
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 2: It's not a Hall passes the picture tool. Okay, well,

729
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 2: what do we call the the It's a predictive tool.

730
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 4: Okay, but how many do they have?

731
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:08,920
Speaker 2: You use the word hall.

732
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,799
Speaker 1: You were the one that introduced it hall pass into

733
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 1: the lexicon of the Okay.

734
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 5: Said it was a predictive tool. There is a predictive tool.

735
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 5: How many predictive halls? How many predictive they have?

736
00:35:22,760 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 4: They have one kid, they've been together for seven years,

737
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 4: A lie happened two years within the relationship. But this

738
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 4: is so all right, So if it's a mathic one.

739
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 2: No, no, no, all right.

740
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 3: For first off, first off, you forget a single instance

741
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 3: is account sexting. It's a single instance which we have

742
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 3: already established as cheating in the third degree. Right, we

743
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 3: were like.

744
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 2: Would you consider spicy texting cheating? Right? And it was.

745
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 3: And in that we read another story where a guy

746
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 3: sent one booty pick or something and like they had

747
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 3: been together for four years and they ended up. I

748
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 3: think it was unclear whether they stayed together, but that

749
00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:03,320
Speaker 3: like I could imagine the relationship continuing. This was five

750
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 3: years of booty picks. Five years, which means countless instances,

751
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 3: so they max have two instances.

752
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 2: And this was like, oh, yeah, yeah they have two Okay, cool?

753
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:18,080
Speaker 5: Cool?

754
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: What if what if it was two pictures that was

755
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 1: sent It was just the sending that was the oh,

756
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 1: the same pick, the yeah, the same pick, and it

757
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: was just like paying to send it over just to

758
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 1: have the rush again.

759
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 2: I'm really like pushing it to the liver.

760
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,399
Speaker 3: I think if if it was automated, but every time

761
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 3: that it sends it, if she physically is sending it

762
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 3: even though it's only.

763
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 2: One the same picture, yeah, but.

764
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 3: She's re sending it, so every time she sends it

765
00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 3: it's an instance. So so, but if she had a bot,

766
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:58,720
Speaker 3: if she set up a bot once yeah to send it.

767
00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 1: Where he he delivers in exactly like three hundred bucks

768
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: on Venmo. It triggers the bot to resend the picture.

769
00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 4: And what if if it was like AI generated to

770
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 4: make it look like it was a new angle.

771
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:09,919
Speaker 2: And she only set it up once and forgot about

772
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 2: it once and forgot.

773
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:14,399
Speaker 4: About it and a tip pick and the AI did

774
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:15,440
Speaker 4: different angles.

775
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 3: Okay, I think that's one instance, one instance. I think

776
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 3: that's one instance. Wow, because she set.

777
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 2: It up once.

778
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 3: Okay, Then if it's two pictures, maybe it's like one

779
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:28,359
Speaker 3: and a half to two, but it's one.

780
00:37:28,760 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 2: It's one instance of.

781
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:32,839
Speaker 3: Cheat like she had it, she had a she had

782
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,760
Speaker 3: a thought to cheat, and it was one instance.

783
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 2: It was one. It was one. Here we go.

784
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 3: It was one action, like if I if I go

785
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 3: and I send, like I sent ten picks all at once,

786
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:47,799
Speaker 3: and it's just like and and but but like that's

787
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 3: one action in this in this scenario, it was it

788
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:57,720
Speaker 3: was two picks, but it was one action that was taken.

789
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 2: And that action is cheating in the third degree.

790
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: I want to get into the next part of the story,

791
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 1: but I would love so much to create a chatbot

792
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 1: where we bake in Stam's Golden rule predictive tools into it,

793
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,359
Speaker 1: and then it spits out the answers and the reasoning.

794
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, that does that not make sense?

795
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 1: Und yes, I mean, in fairness, we drove you to

796
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:23,440
Speaker 1: this insane hypothetical.

797
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 2: The logic is definitely logic.

798
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:30,919
Speaker 5: I have another insane logic one more.

799
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 2: Yeah.

800
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 4: Okay, so you know that we now have like remote

801
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 4: access or whatever. We're like, you can there's like a

802
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:41,319
Speaker 4: pad that if you move your hands around. It's just

803
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,799
Speaker 4: saying technology has gotten to the point where you can

804
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:47,839
Speaker 4: remote feedback. Yeah, you can remotely the remote hand. Yeah,

805
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 4: you can remotely for someone. Okay, and we'll say that

806
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 4: you actually do the deed once, but then you get

807
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 4: the robot to mimic that whole thing, and then you

808
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:58,560
Speaker 4: do the same thing you just did with the nudies

809
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 4: and you set that up. We're like, oh, they do

810
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,360
Speaker 4: it to the robot, but it's that same movement whatever.

811
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 4: How many times is that cheating?

812
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 2: Once? In this?

813
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 3: Are they when they have it the first time? So like,

814
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 3: basically they're in a mo cap suit with haptic feedback.

815
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 3: Other person's in mo cap suit with haptic feedback, And

816
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 3: are are they like together in this scenario? Like they're

817
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 3: both like oh baby, yeah, baby, and they're like talking

818
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 3: to each other.

819
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 2: But it's a it's a.

820
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 1: It's basically a pre recorded so they well, yeah, but

821
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 1: the first time is live.

822
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 2: The first time is live. Everything else is so the first.

823
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 3: The live, the live part is cheating in the first degree.

824
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: Everything else that extends from that is just part of

825
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 3: that cheating in the first degree. Okay, cool, because it

826
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 3: was one act of cheating.

827
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 4: Now, what if they didn't do the live part. They

828
00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 4: did pre recording by themselves.

829
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 3: By themselves, and that's cheating in the second degree. Uh No,

830
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 3: it might be cheating in the third degree. It's kind

831
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 3: of like an advanced nude. I think it's cheating, you know,

832
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 3: because yeah, I know it's it's cheating. It's cheating in

833
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 3: the third degree for sure.

834
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know, I'm I am first degree interested

835
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: in the rest of the story.

836
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:16,399
Speaker 2: Let's hit it. Am reading this. It's there's still more. Yeah,

837
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:17,959
Speaker 2: I know, that's what I was saying.

838
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 3: That's so comments the social media detok says her sister

839
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 3: deserves to know.

840
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 2: Agreed.

841
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,760
Speaker 3: Elegant Channel three five to one says, gather the evidence,

842
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 3: contact an attorney, follow the attorney's advice, and tell your

843
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 3: sister in law and all the family, not.

844
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 2: The kids, your marriage is over. Agreed. Follow attorney's advice.

845
00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 2: Very smart forgot about.

846
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 3: That update two days later. Before we get into the update,

847
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:43,720
Speaker 3: some people were asking me to get a fraternity test.

848
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:44,680
Speaker 2: I don't need one.

849
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 3: I know she is my daughter because I am Indian

850
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 3: and Jessica, my wife is white, and my daughter looks

851
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:50,480
Speaker 3: like me.

852
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 2: Now for the update.

853
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 3: After I made that post, I shared my situation with

854
00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 3: my cousin's sister, thirty female. She is the only family

855
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 3: member I have living in the States I view. I

856
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 3: visited her place the next day and she knocks some

857
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 3: sense into me. I realized part of me still didn't

858
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 3: want a divorce because I basically married Jessica against my

859
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:15,320
Speaker 3: parents will. They wanted me to have an arranged marriage

860
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:18,400
Speaker 3: so my failed marriage would hurt my ego. She also

861
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:23,239
Speaker 3: arranged a meeting with a divorce layer and no, I

862
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 3: am not giving up my house. I was just emotional

863
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 3: at the time. From what I understand, in our state,

864
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 3: adultery has pretty much zero impact on assets, so it

865
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 3: will likely be a fifty to fifty split. However, there

866
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 3: is a high chance I can get better custody of

867
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 3: my daughter because I have a job and Jessica doesn't.

868
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 3: She is also involved in quote unquote sex work at

869
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 3: this point, which could work in my favor. My father

870
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 3: in law called me last evening and he was crying.

871
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 3: He told me he didn't know what to say to me,

872
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:53,399
Speaker 3: and that if he were in my place, he would

873
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:56,719
Speaker 3: have left her. Apparently Jessica got scared and told her

874
00:41:56,760 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 3: family everything after I didn't visit home for two tis

875
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 3: and had blocked her everywhere. I guess I should have

876
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 3: done that a while ago. And Jake is out of

877
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 3: his house also, so so I think I will go

878
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 3: for a divorce because there is no point of reconciliation

879
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 3: at this point when the whole relationship seems fake to me.

880
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:19,040
Speaker 3: And there are some relevant comments, but really quick every

881
00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,239
Speaker 3: one of the comments, John, do you think Opie is

882
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 3: making the right decision in divorcing his wife?

883
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think yeah five years, five years, and

884
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:31,200
Speaker 1: yeah that's too much, too much.

885
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 3: So some relevant comments. Hello Junebug says, I'm really sorry

886
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 3: you're going through this. Sounds like you have a good

887
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 3: path forward and I wish you the best with custody

888
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:40,520
Speaker 3: and all that. Can I ask what happened with Jake

889
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 3: and his wife? Sounds like she kicked him out Opie responds, Yeah,

890
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 3: she kicked him out yesterday. I didn't ask about them

891
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 3: that much, but it sounds like my sister in law

892
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 3: is sure he is getting a divorce. Good unusual. Potato says,

893
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 3: any update on your sister in law's relationship with Jessica,

894
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 3: Opie responds, It sounds like everyone is trying to cut

895
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 3: off contact with both Jessica and Jake. But I think

896
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:08,600
Speaker 3: only my mother in law is talking to Jessica. She

897
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:12,720
Speaker 3: was at my house last night. And then Leak's g says,

898
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 3: what happened with sister's marriage? I think so strong was

899
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 3: fixated on divorce at the moment. And then like she responds,

900
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 3: what was the excuse brother in law gave the fact

901
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,840
Speaker 3: he took money from their home and gave it to

902
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,839
Speaker 3: your ex is crazy. I hope he can heal from

903
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 3: that and does divorce him. Opie responds, I didn't really ask.

904
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 3: I was too overwhelmed by my father in law's response.

905
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 3: He was crying NonStop. Yeah, what a weird scenario that

906
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 3: would be in where your father in law calls the

907
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 3: father of your of your woman and says so sorry,

908
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 3: like I'm so sorry you should leave my daughter, Like

909
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:50,759
Speaker 3: that's just such a And it's like, imagine how fed up,

910
00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:52,799
Speaker 3: how much of an f up you have to do

911
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 3: to have your own father be like other?

912
00:43:56,280 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 2: So, who who is the siblings? Who's what? Ah got him?

913
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:06,240
Speaker 2: What did you say? He said he got the hall? Fast?

914
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 2: I said, who gets the hall? Who gets who? Who's

915
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:11,080
Speaker 2: like the parents?

916
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 4: Siblings? Here is it?

917
00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 3: Like, it's oh, he's wife's sister.

918
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: So the father in law is, oh, it's his it's

919
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 1: his wife's father.

920
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 4: So the father in law is both distraught about the

921
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 4: sister's divorce and then his daughter doing that doing this.

922
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like he's mostly distraught that his sister,

923
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 1: that his daughter, excuse me, would do this to his

924
00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 1: other daughter.

925
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 2: I was just saying he hit with Yeah, he got

926
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 2: hit with the double whamy. Yeah yeah, I mean dude, Yeah.

927
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,799
Speaker 1: Being in his father, I would probably be overcome with

928
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:45,759
Speaker 1: the motion too. If I was the father in law,

929
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: I'd be like.

930
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:47,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, are you kidding me?

931
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 1: Like I raised a better daughter, I raised a better

932
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,720
Speaker 1: daughter like you probably you have a relationship with your

933
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 1: with the people who marry your children, you know, and

934
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 1: you're like you would do this like yeah, crazy, absolutely

935
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:00,760
Speaker 1: nuts can't even imagine.

936
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Speaker 3: But you know what's absolutely nuts. What the fact that

937
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 3: you probably haven't subscribed. Who subscribe, subscribe? If you haven't subscribed,

938
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 3: that's ridiculous. Please subscribe to it and be not nuts.