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Speaker 2: This week we are joined by Jade and Kia from

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Speaker 2: the Getting Grown podcast. I am so happy we were

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Speaker 2: able to connect with these amazing, incredible women. Now, you

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Speaker 2: guys are going to love this episode, I promise you.

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Speaker 2: This week, we start off the episode with an icebreaker

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Speaker 2: game that reveals more about our guests than we anticipated.

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Speaker 2: How these ladies have been able to solidify their value

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Speaker 2: systems while simultaneously embracing their differences. And you'll hear stories

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Speaker 2: about the division that religion has caused in our life

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Speaker 2: and why we should embrace love and community above anything else.

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Speaker 2: You'll also be surprised to find out that Jesus hung

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Speaker 2: out with Heathens two. Okay, I hope you all enjoy

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Speaker 2: Too fucking see y'all, and we'll see you. Welcome back

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Speaker 2: to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 1: I'm Erica and I'm Meela. Happy Wednesday, Happy Humpday.

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Speaker 2: And I feel like I have to say because I

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Speaker 2: guess I'm gonna come on soon and maybe singing.

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Speaker 1: You won't get all that bravado, bitch, but you know

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Speaker 1: he had all these talents.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 1: You don't know about my secret singing career. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's somewhere on Facebook. I'm not Facebook. MySpace.

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Speaker 2: There's some tracks, y'all.

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Speaker 5: I think my Space is gone, some fucking heat, but

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Speaker 5: I can't wait to go fucking never find it.

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Speaker 6: I can't. It might have deleted.

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Speaker 2: I think my Space did like a mass exodus of

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Speaker 2: like that was my phone, or a mass exodus of

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Speaker 2: like deleting profiles that haven't done ship in like twenty years.

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Speaker 5: They did because I really want to try and look

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Speaker 5: at my profiles for like a walk down memory lane.

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Speaker 1: And the ship was gone, and I was pissed, but

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Speaker 1: so much.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 1: I want to know what, like, who my top five

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Speaker 1: friends were? I know, the same fucking my friends. You

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Speaker 1: haven't ship true? Huh have you done this before?

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Speaker 5: No? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna start with our top of the tarot? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: let's to be.

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Speaker 6: Top of the tarot pole.

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Speaker 1: Guys. Let's see what's what's in our cards today. Erica's

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Speaker 1: becoming a professional taro shuffler. Oh you like that? Oh Bee,

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Speaker 1: this sounds so great? All right, I have pulled the

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Speaker 1: Star card. Guys. This is the Star card.

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Speaker 5: It looks like a naked white woman bending down into

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Speaker 5: a body of water.

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Speaker 1: I think we need to get some black cards.

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Speaker 2: We do asap, black tarot. Okay, so the Star card.

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Speaker 2: The Star card shows a naked woman kneeling at the

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Speaker 2: edge of a small pool. She holds two containers of water,

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Speaker 2: one on her left hand, the subconscious, and one on

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Speaker 2: her right hand, the conscious. She pours the water out

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Speaker 2: to nourish the earth and to continue the cycle of fertility,

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Speaker 2: represented by the lush greenery around her. The other container

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Speaker 2: pours the water onto dry land and five rivulets representing

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Speaker 2: the five senses. So, okay, upright, star as the Star

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Speaker 2: follows the Power Card and Taro. It comes as a

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Speaker 2: welcome reprieve after a period of destruction and turmoil. You

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Speaker 2: have endured many challenges and stripped yourself bare of limiting

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Speaker 2: beliefs that have previously held you back. Hello, you are

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Speaker 2: realizing your core essence who you are beneath all the layers.

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Speaker 2: No matter what life throws your way, you know that

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Speaker 2: you are always connected to the divine and pure, loving

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Speaker 2: and energy. Honey, you hold a new sense of self,

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Speaker 2: a new appreciation for the core of your being. With

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Speaker 2: the Star Card, anything is possible and the magic is

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Speaker 2: flowing around you. Oh and speaking of magic, our full

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Speaker 1: Guys.

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Speaker 2: Your heart is full of hope and your soul is

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Speaker 2: being uplifted to the highest of highs as you realize

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Speaker 2: that your dreams can really come true.

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Speaker 1: You know, every week you keep pulling.

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Speaker 5: That heat many No, I'm like, oh, it's crazy that

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Speaker 5: you pulled that hard today, because literally today me and

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Speaker 5: Erica had like a pretty big meeting today, and you

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Speaker 5: know what I had to tell myself. I was like

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Speaker 5: feeling nervous and like jittery and all these feelings. And

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Speaker 5: then even before that, you know, like something big comes

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Speaker 5: up and you have these feelings of doubt, like the

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Speaker 5: sabotage shit comes up, and I had to tell myself, like, bitch,

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Speaker 5: you've been You've made it all this way, and every

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Speaker 5: time you think something's not gonna go, everything that's supposed

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Speaker 5: to happen happens just on time, just on purpose, and like, no.

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Speaker 1: Matter what happens, it's what's supposed to happen.

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Speaker 5: And I'm so connected with that energy right now that

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Speaker 5: like my life is so divinely aligned that I'm not

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Speaker 5: even stressed. Like you know, we said we're supposed to

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Speaker 5: get email back for some people, they email us back,

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Speaker 5: and I'm just like your lost nigga, because I'm connected

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Speaker 5: and like everything happens so divinely and intentionally and on time,

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Speaker 5: and I'm just not in the space of worrying about

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Speaker 5: it anymore. And I'm actually taking like the nose as congratulations,

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Speaker 5: something better is coming your way, amen. So I'm very

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Speaker 5: aligned with the star. And also, you know, I'm the

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Speaker 5: cusp of magic. I don't know if I tell y'all

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Speaker 5: every week, but my birthday is June twenty second, and

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Speaker 5: that is the cusp of magic, y'all. The Gemini cancer

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Speaker 5: connection is the cusp of magic. So I'm just feeling

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, this card feels very aligned with who you are.

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Speaker 2: So today's affirmation, speaking of dreams coming true, today's affirmation

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Speaker 2: is all my dreams are coming true.

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Speaker 1: All my dreams are coming true. All my dreams are

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Speaker 1: coming true.

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Speaker 5: Without doubt, without question. I know I deserve and all

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Speaker 5: my dreams are coming to me.

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Speaker 1: Amen. So on that note, I would love to Are

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Speaker 1: you gonna ask me how my week was?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry, bitch, my bad. How was your week?

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Speaker 1: Good? Okay?

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Speaker 5: I went to Las Vegas again. Oh that's right, it

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Speaker 5: was nice. I went out to dinner. It was whatever.

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Speaker 5: I'm getting old. I only went out one night and

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Speaker 5: we went to the Shrip club and it was interesting

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Speaker 5: they're wearing face coverings. Anyway, the next morning, I woke

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Speaker 5: up in my clothes from the night before, and.

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Speaker 1: As I'm removing my dress.

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Speaker 5: Dollar bills just keep coming, come flowing out, and I said,

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Speaker 5: oh my, Didn'tielle what happened?

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Speaker 1: She's like, oh, you don't remember.

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Speaker 5: That guy was selling all those ones on you, and

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Speaker 5: then you are very conflicted on whether or not you

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Speaker 1: She's like, I was like, should I leave him for

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Speaker 1: the strippers or should I keep them? He threw them

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Speaker 1: at me. She's like, just pick them up and give

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Speaker 1: them back to the strippers. So I was very moral.

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Speaker 1: Obviously you didn't give him back to shop. Apparently apparently

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Speaker 1: Anyway, How is your week? It was good.

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Speaker 2: I just I had we had very different weeks. I

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Speaker 2: had a tea party with my daughter, and uh, I

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Speaker 2: felt very motherly. I felt like I fulfilled my motherly

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Speaker 2: duties of the weekend. It's actually beautiful and like, I'm so,

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Speaker 2: it's just she's growing up so fast, and I know

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Speaker 2: that like one day she's not gonna want to have

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Speaker 2: a tea party with me.

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Speaker 1: So it was it was It was sweet and it

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Speaker 1: was cute, and I miss her. You know, she's with

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Speaker 5: How are we on different schedules? I thought we made

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Speaker 5: our lives alive, So our schedules.

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Speaker 1: Baby, Daddy's beat it on not keeping the schedules right true?

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, anyway, today we have very special guests. I'm

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Speaker 5: really excited to finally be collaborating with this very cool podcast.

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Speaker 1: We're with the Getting Grown podcast this.

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Speaker 2: Week Getting Getting Getting Okay, wow, getting the most Caucasian?

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Speaker 1: Were they Getting Grown podcast? Shut up? I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 1: am I saying it right? Don't try to don't try

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Speaker 6: Bit you saw a really valley girl right now.

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Speaker 4: Don't be trying to.

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Speaker 5: I'm from the valley and so we're you know, Okay,

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Speaker 5: let me do it again. Okay, So this week we's.

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Speaker 1: John I'm also gonna curse you out.

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Speaker 5: We're joined by the Getting Grown Podcast. We have Jade

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Speaker 5: and doctor Kia with us today. Hi, ladies, don't be

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Speaker 5: don't be mad. I major major title A fit like

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Speaker 5: more punctual.

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Speaker 2: I mean added the doctor. Yeah, she's been, she's been.

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Speaker 2: She couldn't wait, she couldn't wait to be like I'm

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Speaker 2: interviewing I'm interviewing a doctor.

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Speaker 1: I have smart friends and colleagues thank you ladies for

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Speaker 1: coming on the show. How are you guys doing tonight

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Speaker 1: for today?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, we're We're I can't complain. You know, I'm safe

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Speaker 8: and I have what I need. So I'm trying to

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Speaker 8: just remain present in that, in that space no matter

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Speaker 8: what's going on around me, I'm safe and I have

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Speaker 1: I like that, you know what.

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Speaker 2: I like that as an affirmation too, because I think

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Speaker 2: a lot of times we forget that, like you know,

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Speaker 2: like we because we're always wanting more and more and

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Speaker 2: we are safe, we have what we need. We have

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Speaker 8: There's still much to be grateful for, even despite all

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Speaker 8: trying to remain in that, in that space as we

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Speaker 8: navigate these times. But yes, it's what's going on, Jay,

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Speaker 8: what's cracking?

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Speaker 3: How are you?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 9: I'm well, I'm I'm a little high.

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Speaker 1: I see it in your eyes, girl, I'm jealous.

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Speaker 3: Why are you not?

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Speaker 2: I saw some smoke like lingering in the screen early

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Speaker 2: and I was like, is that incense.

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Speaker 6: Or she's incense?

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Speaker 9: But I definitely, I definitely was having one down with

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Speaker 9: your producer before you guys came sounds about.

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Speaker 2: Me and you resonated with me so much with this

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Speaker 2: tea party. I too had a tea party with my

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Speaker 6: At me, mother of the mother, right, didn't you feel like?

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Speaker 5: I felt like, you can't tell me shit for like,

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Speaker 5: I'm to have a tea party tonight.

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Speaker 1: That's amazing, That's beautiful.

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Speaker 3: So I'm just living my life.

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Speaker 8: So we don't have to talk about my body, thank you.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, like one point five percent, but like

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Speaker 6: And so and so.

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Speaker 2: We we actually wanted to play a little game to

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Speaker 1: Who's most likely.

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Speaker 4: To Oh, that's fun?

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Speaker 6: And we actually play a game.

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Speaker 2: On our show called Trigger, which is kind of similar.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So, who's most likely to live on a farm?

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Speaker 8: Ja looking like well, I mean I think like a

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Speaker 4: It's neither one of us. I'm just gonna name a

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Speaker 9: So it's like, that's Brenda.

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Speaker 4: That's what.

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Speaker 4: Kia, doctor Keia.

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Speaker 2: When the doctor comes in, I know your listener is

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Speaker 4: May I can? I can I real quick?

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Speaker 9: Kia is she has a pH d in higher education,

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Speaker 9: But she is like the humblest of people, and so

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Speaker 4: We gotta over hype. And she's doctor.

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Speaker 9: She's doctor Takia Robinson in my phone. You know, I've

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Speaker 4: So doctor Kia, she's the one.

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Speaker 3: That those listen.

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Speaker 1: I didn't.

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Speaker 3: I didn't get it.

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Speaker 8: I didn't get it paid so people could call me doctor.

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Speaker 8: I mean, I appreciate it. I acknowledge it. It was

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Speaker 8: you must call me doctor because I'm just I'm just Kia,

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Speaker 8: and I don't. And I also feel like it's important

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Speaker 3: Like I don't. I don't.

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Speaker 8: I like to beat myself in uncompromising ways, like I'm

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Speaker 8: if I want to wear Jordan's or pumps. I'm still

445
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Speaker 8: in this space, at this table making these decisions. And

446
00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:52,880
Speaker 8: it's important because I feel like there's lots of little

447
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 8: girls growing up, you know, in Harlem or in South Central,

448
00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 8: or in Chicago or in Houston, and they need to

449
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:02,840
Speaker 8: know that they can be doctor whoever they want to

450
00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:05,000
Speaker 8: be and still be to keep.

451
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Speaker 3: Them absolutely right. So that was a bit of a tangent.

452
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Speaker 3: I'm very sorry.

453
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:12,640
Speaker 4: No, I love that.

454
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:12,760
Speaker 7: I love that.

455
00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: Okay, so let me see.

456
00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:19,679
Speaker 2: Okay, so who is the most likely to go on

457
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 2: a solo vacation.

458
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 4: Probably yeah, Ja, yeah, yeah.

459
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Speaker 1: J have a weird phobia.

460
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Speaker 8: I have all the phobias, so that'll probably be what

461
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:32,880
Speaker 8: are your phobias?

462
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 3: Everything?

463
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 4: I'm scared of everything.

464
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:36,639
Speaker 1: Life.

465
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 3: I just like to stay.

466
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Speaker 8: Side where it's safe and I know where everything is,

467
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 8: you know, I don't.

468
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:45,879
Speaker 3: That's usually if it's.

469
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 4: A weird phobia, then it'll be me.

470
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,800
Speaker 9: I'm the one who's going to be scared of something

471
00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 9: that doesn't make anything like.

472
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Speaker 3: Jade is scared of saran rap or something.

473
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:57,400
Speaker 9: But yeah, something weird, it will be, doesn't make it.

474
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,040
Speaker 7: A weird sound.

475
00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 4: I don't feel right. I don't like it.

476
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,159
Speaker 1: Everybody knows black people use foil.

477
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 6: Right, thank you, She rolls.

478
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,440
Speaker 4: Whatever the fuck foil soil.

479
00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 7: You know.

480
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 6: It's not reliable.

481
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,560
Speaker 5: No, it's it's annoying. It doesn't work well, it doesn't

482
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 5: sometimes it works.

483
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 3: I don't see the utility. It really doesn't.

484
00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: Feel like floating. I'm like, get around.

485
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 5: At one time I was trying to use it and

486
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:27,040
Speaker 5: I was struggling and it was sticking to each other,

487
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 5: and I like my friends saw me struggling, and she said, bitch,

488
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:30,680
Speaker 5: why are you.

489
00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:35,360
Speaker 1: Even using that? You know, black people use foil, like.

490
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 3: For all of that.

491
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,200
Speaker 8: Just put it in a ziplock bag if you need

492
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 8: some plastic. But yeah, we tend to reach for foil

493
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,359
Speaker 8: boil baby. But yeah, I'm I'm scared of regular things

494
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 8: like dogs and cats.

495
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 1: Like dogs and cats and the cats both, not just one.

496
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Speaker 2: I don't know, like like you're one of people, like

497
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Speaker 2: if you come to my house, like you'll be.

498
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Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I'll just stay outside. No, I'll stay on

499
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Speaker 3: the porch.

500
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 8: I'll stay on the porch until until you know, we

501
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 8: decided to go some story.

502
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 4: Huh do you want to hear a story? I know

503
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 4: this is not part of the show.

504
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 9: Keia came to New York one time and our homegirl

505
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 9: got an Airbnb, so kid was gonna stay the night

506
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 9: at the airbnb.

507
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 4: So I get to the airbnb.

508
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:23,800
Speaker 9: The people have a cat, of course they included in

509
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 9: the post. So and our other homegirl is a cat

510
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:27,400
Speaker 9: person too, and.

511
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:32,760
Speaker 4: I love cats. So the cats there. Kia comes, she

512
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,119
Speaker 4: sits down, she puts her ship down. All of a sudden,

513
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:36,880
Speaker 4: my nigga jumps out from under something.

514
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 9: And she left New York and drove back to DC

515
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 9: at about three o'clock.

516
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Speaker 1: Yes, I did in the morning.

517
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Speaker 8: At that point, the adrenaline was running, and so it

518
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 8: was like, I have got to go home.

519
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 1: Short drive.

520
00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:57,400
Speaker 7: It's like three hours.

521
00:24:57,800 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 3: Three and a half four.

522
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 8: But I was at it was like fight or flight,

523
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 8: and I didn't like I didn't have a lot of

524
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 8: options because it was three in the morning, so it's

525
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 8: like where else am I gonna go?

526
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 3: In Brooklyn at three?

527
00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 8: And so I was like, Okay, well, I've got gas

528
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 8: and I've got my car. So I know where I

529
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 8: will be able to go, and that is home. And

530
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:18,680
Speaker 8: that's what I did.

531
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Speaker 4: And you know, I.

532
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Speaker 6: Think, I think, I think that.

533
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:25,719
Speaker 8: I mean, you have to also add that, like, you know,

534
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:29,280
Speaker 8: I actually got to the airbnb like they weren't there,

535
00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 8: and nobody told me about a cat, and so here,

536
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 8: well no, I said, well, well, my friend said that

537
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 8: she just forgot. She said, she said, you know, I

538
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 8: forgot to mention it, and I didn't, you know, blah

539
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 8: blah blah.

540
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 3: And I had never shared with.

541
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Speaker 8: Anyone that I don't really do animals, so you know,

542
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 8: it was it just didn't come up in conversation. I

543
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 8: didn't fault anybody, and I didn't even feel bad.

544
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,600
Speaker 3: I just went home. I just got into the apartment

545
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 3: and the cat just came out and was like, what's up?

546
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:59,199
Speaker 8: And I was like, oh, you got it, and I

547
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,680
Speaker 8: just left.

548
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 1: You didn't even try to go in a room and

549
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: close the door and shut the cat out.

550
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 3: This your house. Evidently I'm intruding. So I'm going to

551
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 3: get my things and I'm going to go because I

552
00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 3: don't want to.

553
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 6: I don't.

554
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 7: I don't fuck with cats at all either.

555
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,120
Speaker 4: I did not with them.

556
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 5: They're sneaky looking. They're not friendly. No, no, no, rather feminine.

557
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 4: I don't like that.

558
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 1: But I've been told I'm like a cat. I've been

559
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 1: told the same thing.

560
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, look, there's only one big cat in

561
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Speaker 2: the room, so it's only one of us. Like, well,

562
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 2: I'll be the resident cat, and I'm allergic to so same.

563
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 5: I would have been in the car kid like, all right,

564
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 5: let's bust it out. Let's I'm going.

565
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 3: To your house windows, We're going to get home.

566
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,160
Speaker 2: My next question was going to sa who's most likely

567
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 2: the sky died? But I think I already know the

568
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 2: answer to that.

569
00:26:56,359 --> 00:27:00,479
Speaker 4: Oh that's Brenda, Brenda.

570
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 8: Brenda probably would do. I feel like, no, I would.

571
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 8: I feel like I would bungee jump.

572
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 3: I would rather.

573
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 1: I would rather skydive than bungee jump.

574
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:11,359
Speaker 8: I don't I feel like, you know, it would have

575
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 8: to be like a tropical over some water because I

576
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 8: can swim or something, you know, like something like that.

577
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:18,400
Speaker 3: But I feel like.

578
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 1: They're more You're not scared of fish?

579
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 8: I mean, well no, because fish aren't afraid of people.

580
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,400
Speaker 8: Fish don't run up on you like dogs and cats.

581
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 8: They want to be in your business. Fish dispersed when

582
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 8: they see people usually, Okay, who's most likely to have

583
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 8: the best poker face?

584
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 3: Jake, I don't have a poker face.

585
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 6: A smoking face. It looks like a face.

586
00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 1: So I'm sorry. I everybody's always killed me.

587
00:27:58,320 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 4: What's wrong?

588
00:27:59,240 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 1: Nothing?

589
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 3: What does matter? Nothing?

590
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 2: Girl?

591
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:10,679
Speaker 3: Between the two of you, Jason bad cop, Well, I

592
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:12,160
Speaker 3: don't know. It depends on the situation.

593
00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 8: I would have to say, but I guess I'm thinking

594
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 8: like bad cop in terms of like, if we think

595
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 8: about s b U, who's more likely to bang somebody's

596
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 8: head on the table, that would be Ja. I would

597
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 8: be the one. I would be the one who would.

598
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 8: I will probably antagonize you mentally. She's interrogating, Yes, she's

599
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:34,000
Speaker 8: good at I would. I would, I would interrogate you know,

600
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 8: I would antagonize you mentally. I would break you mentally.

601
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 8: But you are going to elbow somebody and the eyeball especially, yeah, right,

602
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 8: I literally I see jadas Elliott Stabler.

603
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 1: I see the whole scene right now. I can see

604
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 1: it like circling, circling, like.

605
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 3: Detect this today.

606
00:28:57,760 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 8: That would happen, and I'm Oliver been said Olivia saying,

607
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 8: like Jade, you can't do that.

608
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 4: But in everyday life. I think I'm very nice.

609
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, we're not talking about like mean or nice.

610
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 8: I'm just talking about good cop, bad cop. Like you know,

611
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 8: that didn't mean that.

612
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: You were I'll take it.

613
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 4: I own it.

614
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: Who's most likely? Who's most likely.

615
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 7: To be petty?

616
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 8: What you're crazy?

617
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 1: First of all, her face looks guilty as.

618
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 8: Hell, like you know, I was like, I was, I

619
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 8: paused sauce. I was like, Jay, you want me to

620
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 8: say or you're going to say, you're my own name.

621
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 4: I'm a I'm a troll, but you're most likely to

622
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:37,160
Speaker 4: be petty?

623
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 3: Okay, I guess I give you that.

624
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 4: Okay, I give you that.

625
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:44,480
Speaker 3: Jade is the troll. That's true.

626
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 8: Trolling and being petty are not mutually exclusive. So I'll

627
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 8: give you that.

628
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you.

629
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: Okay.

630
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: So I have a few more questions, and some of

631
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 2: these questions are based on some of the things that

632
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 2: some of the dumbas. Okay, okay, you can find out

633
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 2: who's Jimmy len Who's most likely if you were single

634
00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 2: to slide into Michael B. Jordan's d MD.

635
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 3: Because I don't know my type Nigga, not Mike. I

636
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 3: know I don't slide.

637
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 5: Type I just wanted to be clear that that was Erica.

638
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 5: Eric has had a dream about Michael B. Jordan and

639
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 5: decided that slide m with like a love letter.

640
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 9: That's what that's my homegirl, and Twinette shout out to

641
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 9: around the way, curls, I got a shamelessly plug everywhere,

642
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 9: and Twinette slid right. She she she constantly posts Alan

643
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 9: iverson and her story and she and she speaks to

644
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 9: him as if they are together the other night. That's doable.

645
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 9: We can find out. I feel like, yeah, that's reach,

646
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 9: it's do But no, that would be Brenda. I think

647
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 9: Brenda would slide into Michael Jordan's You know what.

648
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 2: I'm saying is that look, Michael's with Lori Harvey. Now,

649
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 2: before he was only with white women, and so I

650
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 2: didn't think I had a chance. So I unset the message.

651
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 2: But now I wish I would have left the nigg

652
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 2: of the message. I'm like, I could have been on

653
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 2: the I could have been I could have been on

654
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 2: the yacht and sat barts right now posing in.

655
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 3: Both.

656
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 9: I think you're a happy medium between a white woman

657
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 9: and Laura's Harvey.

658
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 4: That's not.

659
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 1: You know, the episode is over.

660
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 3: I can take you have to.

661
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 8: You have to indulse Jade because it's not often she

662
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 8: gets to to shade somebody.

663
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 4: Look.

664
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 2: Meanwhile, me and Jada saying me, look, we look like

665
00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 2: we could be sisters. What you mean, like, I got

666
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 2: Orde is a little more peach.

667
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 3: Jade is a little bit more pea.

668
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 1: Don't look.

669
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 2: Don't let this this bad lighting confuse you. We are

670
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 2: the same.

671
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Speaker 4: Shut I'm not gonna She's usually.

672
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 3: The light in the room. To let her live.

673
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to light up baby.

674
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 4: Y'all want me to change your hold on? Makes you

675
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 4: feel better?

676
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,160
Speaker 3: Look a little green, you look grey, you look great.

677
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 3: Just put it back, Just.

678
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 4: Put it back there we go.

679
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 1: Okay, So, who's most likely?

680
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 2: Oh, Brenda Brenda, Brenda Brenda with murder.

681
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:37,000
Speaker 5: Ja Ja. Who's most likely to take off the top

682
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 5: and dance topless at the party?

683
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:46,479
Speaker 4: Brenda Brenda, Brenda.

684
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 9: These cities every I can have. These My cities are exclusive,

685
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 9: very They're super exclusive. Most people think I'm a stud, so.

686
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 4: Which is just fine. I'm like, these titties.

687
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 9: Are very exclusive and only a select few niggas have

688
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 9: seen so exclusive.

689
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: You might think I was a stud.

690
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 7: But I'm not.

691
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 9: So Yeah, and that and I love studs. Let's just

692
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 9: be clear. I don't want nobody coming after me now.

693
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 7: I love studs.

694
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 1: I have had a short, long lesbian lifestyle.

695
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 4: And wait, not short, it was like four years.

696
00:33:25,760 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 5: She's a former lesbian. I'm a former lesbian. So I

697
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 5: still I still associate with the community. I've still considered

698
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 5: myself family, but I just haven't been quite interested.

699
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 6: What are you adjacent le lg.

700
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 1: I am, I am, I'm a I'm.

701
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 5: A former LGBTQ plus, so I still identify with the family.

702
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: Like, hey, family girls. I always like if I see like.

703
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 5: Lesbian, I always try to like, you know, you see

704
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 5: black people out, you're like same.

705
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,040
Speaker 4: So it's like being at the family reunion.

706
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 9: You're not really with the cousins, but you're a cousin.

707
00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 4: So yeah, I'm not.

708
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 5: I would say more like a stem. Your maybe could

709
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:10,360
Speaker 5: pass as a stem. Jade, Wait, what does mean? A

710
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 5: stem is like a soft stud. So there's like studs,

711
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:16,879
Speaker 5: there's stems, there's soft studs, there's touch me not.

712
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 2: Well, Jay, like, let me put the blip. I'm a stem.

713
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 5: Okay, Well we get we're very nosy. So speaking of

714
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 5: lesbian things, have any have you guys, ever dated or

715
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Speaker 5: had sex with women and even interested in women.

716
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Speaker 5: No, it's not, I mean I was a formal lesbian.

734
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:48,759
Speaker 5: Erica is by fun, which means when she's had two

735
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Speaker 5: clubs of tequila, she wants to buy for fun.

736
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Speaker 1: This is she's recently tried to she's recently tried to

737
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Speaker 1: move more into full by.

738
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Speaker 7: But I don't think working for her.

739
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 2: No, what's wrong, Dick, I don't know, you know, she's

740
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 2: not as committed.

741
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 4: Okay, that's well.

742
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 9: You know, you gotta know yourself, queen, you gotta you know,

743
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 9: you have to figure out, you.

744
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 2: Know, means to be a lot both single and so

745
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,720
Speaker 2: I recently actually broke up with my boyfriend maybe two

746
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 2: or three months ago, and I was like, you know what,

747
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 2: let me just like, you know, I'm by fun, but

748
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 2: maybe I'm like more than by fun, maybe like I

749
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 2: just gave myself this label and like I really haven't

750
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 2: explored it. Let me like, maybe go see what's happening

751
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 2: over here. And so, you know, I went on a

752
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 2: few dates with I met a girl and I went

753
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 2: on a few dates with her, and I actually really

754
00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:42,399
Speaker 2: like her. And she's like, I feel like we could

755
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 2: be really great friends. But I don't know if.

756
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:46,319
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, I just don't know if like

757
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just.

758
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 5: She feels like she's just having an appetizer and she's

759
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:54,280
Speaker 5: waiting for the entree, like when.

760
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 6: We're like when we're intimate.

761
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 2: I'm always like, well this is this is great, but

762
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 2: like wouldn't be greater if like we're is the meat

763
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 2: There was like dick here or something like maybe you

764
00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 2: you know, maybe you incorporate a different life.

765
00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:11,839
Speaker 9: Maybe you you know, you explore the poly lifestyle.

766
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:17,320
Speaker 2: That would be me, she claims, which one of you?

767
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 2: Feeling like jealous as hell? She claims she pollie, No,

768
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 2: I'm really not. And she was like, let me see

769
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 2: who is your girlfriend?

770
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 6: Let me see her.

771
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 1: She's ugly.

772
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 6: To love the girlfriend.

773
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: I love everyone.

774
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 5: Usually usually I would love the other person if I

775
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 5: like him in real life.

776
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm open. I'm open. You don't have open lifestyle.

777
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 6: Now you know.

778
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,239
Speaker 5: I'm Polly and I have open lifestyle. Don't try to

779
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:49,120
Speaker 5: shame me. Everybody knows lifestyle.

780
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 3: She said it like it's kettle.

781
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:56,240
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to convince you to believe.

782
00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 6: You know, I'm like a lot of convincing you're happening.

783
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 3: She's She's like she's trying to Keto die or something

784
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 3: something like, you know, I'm trying. She's like, you know,

785
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 3: I'm very much, very much.

786
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: Very much. Everything goes.

787
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 7: I'm okay with it.

788
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 3: Enjoy yourself.

789
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 7: Okay, Polly, Yeah, that sounds like.

790
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: I may ask me in two months. I don't know.

791
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 9: I might have shifted, But right now I'm going to

792
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 9: slide into your d MS and ask.

793
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 4: I'm going to say, what's going on? What's the update?

794
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 3: Eight weeks?

795
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 5: I feel like this lifestyle is going strong for me

796
00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:42,640
Speaker 5: until I'm ready for marriage. Oh and then and then

797
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 5: maybe we'll rethinking you're gonna married?

798
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:47,280
Speaker 7: Not right now, you're into marriage.

799
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:48,720
Speaker 1: I've always been into marriage.

800
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 7: I want to wear that fucking dress.

801
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 1: What's that ring?

802
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 7: Bitch?

803
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 2: You know?

804
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 1: Have either of you guys been married before?

805
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 3: Jade is married?

806
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 4: Now I'm married, you're married? Oh?

807
00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 1: I don't know that to Have you been married.

808
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:01,720
Speaker 4: Six years?

809
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 7: Oh? Jade's Mary?

810
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 3: You're married to no ma'am?

811
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:05,280
Speaker 7: Okay, okay?

812
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:09,239
Speaker 1: Six and Jade? How did you have a son and

813
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,399
Speaker 1: how does your son have a daughter?

814
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 4: Daughter?

815
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:13,879
Speaker 9: I have a seven Yeah, I have a seven year old.

816
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 9: People get confused sometimes because her name is Noah. But

817
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 9: I have a seven year old daughter. She'll be eighth

818
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:21,879
Speaker 9: this year. She'll be eight this year.

819
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 1: Thank you?

820
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 4: How old are you are your kids?

821
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:25,720
Speaker 7: Six?

822
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 2: She might as well be six. Telling people she's sick

823
00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 2: she's five, but she on sixteen.

824
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 9: Oh yeah, that's the age, honey, when they're little teenagers.

825
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 1: Oh it's just going to continue.

826
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 4: I'm getting ready.

827
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 7: I'm super stressed out about it. I don't want to

828
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:41,799
Speaker 7: deal with it.

829
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:44,879
Speaker 1: The other day, mine put the paper in her bra

830
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: and I was.

831
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 5: Like, not her bra, like her I met her shirt undershirt.

832
00:39:53,320 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 6: I was like, I'm like, sounds like you're a neighborer.

833
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:58,840
Speaker 5: Like, okay, first of all, this is this is the

834
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:01,720
Speaker 5: whole show about non judgment and no shaming, and hear.

835
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 4: No, I was.

836
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 3: I was not judging. I was curious.

837
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:13,960
Speaker 4: I don't feel bad. That's what they do. They get

838
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 4: it from Disney.

839
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 1: And I did.

840
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 5: She has really been into crop tops, and so I

841
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,960
Speaker 5: did buy her some, like gymnastics crop tops.

842
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 1: Because growing up as a child, I felt.

843
00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 5: Like my parents were everything was grown, and you know,

844
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 5: like my white friends could work glitter makeup and like

845
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,399
Speaker 5: wear certain clothes and dye their hair, and my parents

846
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:34,760
Speaker 5: were like everything was fucking grown.

847
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: And because it was grown, guess what I would do.

848
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 7: I would leave and go sneaking.

849
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 5: Do that ship at my friend's house is where their

850
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,399
Speaker 5: parents allowed it. So I just feel like I'd rather

851
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 5: indulged her a little bit than like act manic over

852
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 5: the ship that little girls are going to do either

853
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:53,280
Speaker 5: way and make her feel bad, shame or grown about

854
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 5: it because.

855
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 1: You're just mimicking what you see. I mean, like the

856
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,760
Speaker 1: toilet paper was a bit much. I was like, all right, chick.

857
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 3: That makes sense.

858
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:04,839
Speaker 8: That means you can control it and provide parameters around it.

859
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 8: So like I also grew up like that, where everything

860
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:10,399
Speaker 8: was grown, and I wish that my mom would have

861
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 8: given with not giving grown such a negative stigma to

862
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 8: me as a young person because it was because I mean,

863
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 8: after I got grown, it took me a long time

864
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 8: to be comfortable, you know, moving in this grown adult

865
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,320
Speaker 8: body because it for so long I had been shamed

866
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:30,320
Speaker 8: for it. So I fully, fully, I think that's dope

867
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 8: that you provide. Like I think we should create space

868
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:38,480
Speaker 8: in our homes for kids to explore things where you

869
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 8: can give them contexts around is this too adult for you? Perhaps,

870
00:41:42,719 --> 00:41:45,320
Speaker 8: like you know whatever, but you know, just kind of

871
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 8: saying that's grown, like without really.

872
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 3: Explaining anything doesn't really get us anywhere. Fast, yeah, yeah, yeah.

873
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 4: And fast.

874
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:56,239
Speaker 1: In the black House the household of Oh my God,

875
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:56,800
Speaker 1: I could.

876
00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 5: I could pass out hearing that right now, I don't

877
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 5: pay anything every time. Yeah, and then I ended up

878
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:08,600
Speaker 5: being a little grown ass, a little teenager because.

879
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 1: You have colony grown you can waiting about the house

880
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: and be grown.

881
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 4: No, you're gonnat, You're gonna she's gonna have a safe

882
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 4: space with you.

883
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,359
Speaker 9: She's gonna have a good relationship with you because at

884
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 9: this point you've created a space where she could be

885
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 9: honest and she can be herself, and then she's not

886
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 9: gonna be pressed to do certain stuff when she gets

887
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 9: to a certain age, because it's.

888
00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 8: Like, you know, I've done that, you know, Yeah, like

889
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:31,839
Speaker 8: we've talked about that. I'm not pressed about that. That's

890
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 8: not something that's completely foreign to me, right, That's how

891
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 8: I feel.

892
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:37,840
Speaker 1: I mean, that's even how I feel with like our daughters.

893
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 2: You know, they both know that we smoke weed. We

894
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,440
Speaker 2: don't hide it from them, and you know I know

895
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:45,439
Speaker 2: that that's uh, you know, it's it's for us because

896
00:42:45,480 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 2: we you know, when we live in La So to us,

897
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 2: it's not a controversial topic.

898
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:50,759
Speaker 1: But for a lot of people listening, they live in

899
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:51,799
Speaker 1: states where we.

900
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 2: Is like the same as crack, you know, so like

901
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,320
Speaker 2: or you know it's it's a it's a drug drug.

902
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 4: And what is that?

903
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 5: Oh, it's just children's meaning to order that book that

904
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 5: it's just a plan.

905
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 9: Yes, right, and so so good.

906
00:43:05,239 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: And like my daughter really like I mean she's only five,

907
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 2: so I mean I say this now, we'll see you

908
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:11,800
Speaker 2: in the next you know, five to ten years.

909
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 1: But she really has no interest.

910
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 2: She is like, matter of fact, I'm pretty sure my

911
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 2: daughter will not be smoking weed.

912
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 7: She gets annoyed.

913
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:21,720
Speaker 1: You is your daughter's a real follower. She's just not rules.

914
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:26,759
Speaker 1: I know, thank you. I don't know where that came from.

915
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 4: I don't know.

916
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 6: I don't know because I was not a rule follower.

917
00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:35,359
Speaker 6: You told me. No, I'm like, yes, yes, she will.

918
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: She like when someone like when Luna is over there,

919
00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: like trying to convince her.

920
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 7: And she's like, let me ask my mom.

921
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:43,600
Speaker 5: Literal will ask me. I will ask me for Luna.

922
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 5: I'll ask your mom for you. Like She'll be like

923
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 5: I will be right there, and then Luna will be like,

924
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 5: I like, is that okay?

925
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 1: Is that okay? Jamila? Is that okay? I'm like it's fine.

926
00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 1: I can hear you.

927
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:54,800
Speaker 7: Guys.

928
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 6: I love the best friends.

929
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 5: Yes, they're they're they're sisters. They call each other's sisters

930
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:02,799
Speaker 5: right now. She told me if she asked me in

931
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:03,239
Speaker 5: front of.

932
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 1: Sh mom, I mean our sisters. I was like, well, see,

933
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: I told you were sisters.

934
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 2: Well speaking well, my daughter is a rule follower, and

935
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 2: so she wasn't convinced that she was a sister because

936
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 2: according to the rules that she's technically.

937
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 6: Not a sister.

938
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 2: So like it took me a while to convince my

939
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 2: daughter that Luna was her sister.

940
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 7: I was like, she's your Sister's fine, She's just like.

941
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 3: She's that's right.

942
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 8: Exceptually she thinks very conceptually about things.

943
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 4: What's her sign?

944
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 6: She's a Taurus?

945
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:37,160
Speaker 4: Oh, Earth sign?

946
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 6: Yeah? What are you guys?

947
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 4: What's yours?

948
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:41,280
Speaker 7: I'm a Scorpio, I'm a cancer.

949
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 4: I'm a virgo. Oh, I don't believe.

950
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:48,800
Speaker 1: When's your birthday? I'll tell you.

951
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 3: Jason, December the twentieth.

952
00:44:54,160 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 8: Me.

953
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:55,880
Speaker 1: Oh, nice, you're right on the cusps.

954
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 2: My daughter is a But speaking of like that, so

955
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 2: you I know you don't believe in astrology or follow astrology?

956
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 2: Is that based on religion or your religious beliefs, so

957
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 2: that you know it's.

958
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's just not something that I was raised around

959
00:45:11,920 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 8: and you know, it wasn't something I was I was

960
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 8: taught taught about. So I don't really follow it, you know,

961
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:24,800
Speaker 8: at all, But I don't. I don't judge anybody for

962
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:27,239
Speaker 8: doing it. I just know that it's not something that

963
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 8: you know, I connect with, resonate with.

964
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,399
Speaker 2: I think that, but we have fun with it. I'll

965
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 2: tell Key some about her chakras and she's like, I

966
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 2: don't have no doubt what.

967
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 3: I don't have any chakras.

968
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 5: I don't know any.

969
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 3: Be like I've been looking at my Bible. I don't

970
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 3: see a chakra.

971
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 5: In here, nothing about the chakra, any chakras in here.

972
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 3: I don't look in the index.

973
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: I research my Bible.

974
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 3: I don't find it. I have not found it.

975
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 8: But you know, soon as soon as I see it

976
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:00,399
Speaker 8: in there, we'll have a conversation. But on two then

977
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 8: I don't see. I'm just scrolling, just scrolling. But no,

978
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 8: it's fine.

979
00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 5: You know what, Ki, I am happy that you're here

980
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 5: today because you know, I would call us heathens.

981
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:19,120
Speaker 1: And I just speak for yourself, I would like, I

982
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: would like, yes, I would call it, actually yourself a heathen.

983
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 6: On our first phone call, I was.

984
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 5: Like, that's that's my people, but like, I'm sure we

985
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 5: have listeners. I mean we have all types of listeners.

986
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 5: Like everyone can't be as heathen and wild as us.

987
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 5: It doesn't, it doesn't exist. We are two one of

988
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 5: a kind friends. But I like, just on the topic

989
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:49,080
Speaker 5: of women being different and women coming together in community

990
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,920
Speaker 5: and like not judging each other, I'll admit, like I

991
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 5: have definitely said some inappropriate things about religion before, like

992
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 5: Bible thumpers, or like don't say that the Christians are

993
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 5: not going to like it, so I can admit I

994
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:06,240
Speaker 5: can first hand admit that, like because I know I'm

995
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 5: so heathenish and vocal that like sometimes if I meet

996
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:14,239
Speaker 5: someone and they're like okay. So for instance, one time

997
00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 5: I was getting my hair braided. My cousin was getting

998
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 5: her hair braided, and I came over to visit, and

999
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 5: she had another friend there that I had never met before.

1000
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: Anyway, I'm real hippy dippy.

1001
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 5: And I you know, in mid conversation, I spotted some sage.

1002
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: I started lighting the.

1003
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 5: Stage, and I took it upon myself to start smudging everybody,

1004
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 5: which is literally just taking the smoke around everybody's head

1005
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:34,280
Speaker 5: to feet.

1006
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 1: Mid conversation. Didn't ask permission.

1007
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:39,080
Speaker 5: Didn't think about it, just thought I'm doing everybody if

1008
00:47:39,160 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 5: grand favor, clearing the energy. Everybody wants their smudge stage today,

1009
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 5: So here I am.

1010
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 1: So this one girl was there and she was like,

1011
00:47:46,840 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 1: a ah, no, no. I was like, what have I done?

1012
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 1: She was like, I'm a Christian. I was like, what

1013
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 1: does that mean?

1014
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 6: What does that mean?

1015
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 3: So okay, I'm glad that you said that.

1016
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:08,359
Speaker 8: So the thing is, you know, I know who I am,

1017
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:13,759
Speaker 8: I know what I believe, and it's taken me. So

1018
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 8: I believe that I'm not offended by difference. Difference is

1019
00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 8: not a threat to me. I think that indifference and

1020
00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 8: in uh you know, dissonance and sometimes confusion and places

1021
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 8: where we don't line up, it's lots of opportunities.

1022
00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 3: For learning and understanding.

1023
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 8: And you know, I think me being around people who

1024
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 8: don't believe what I believe strengthens my belief even further.

1025
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 3: It's not a threat to it. It makes me dig.

1026
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:51,760
Speaker 8: Down and really understand and really seek to be clear

1027
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:54,560
Speaker 8: about why I believe and what I believe. So I

1028
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 8: think a lot of times and I think it's it's

1029
00:48:57,520 --> 00:49:01,800
Speaker 8: not unfounded, right. So I think religion has been used inappropriately.

1030
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 8: I think a lot of people have used it to

1031
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:09,960
Speaker 8: do some hateful, harmful, hurtful things, and as such it's

1032
00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:13,839
Speaker 8: gotten a bad rap, right, And so I have had

1033
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 8: to kind of interrogate that on my own in terms of,

1034
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 8: you know, what I believe in, where things line up

1035
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 8: and where they don't. And I think where I land is,

1036
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 8: you know, respect and love, And I mean, I am

1037
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 8: a Christian. I believe in Jesus Christ, and I believe

1038
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 8: that as a Christian is my my duty, my responsibility,

1039
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,719
Speaker 8: my aim, my aspiration to live life like he did.

1040
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 8: And Jesus did not hang around a bunch of church folks.

1041
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 8: It was church folks who actually killed you about to

1042
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:47,360
Speaker 8: say I was like Jesus, but Jesus didn't. Jesus was

1043
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 8: around people people hang around heavens. Jesus was hanging around

1044
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:56,720
Speaker 8: unseemingly people, people who did not, you know, fall neatly.

1045
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 8: And I say that with the air quotes. Now, I'm

1046
00:49:59,040 --> 00:50:02,360
Speaker 8: not judging anybody on here, because I don't. I feel

1047
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 8: like I am. So I'm so caught up in my

1048
00:50:05,280 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 8: own relationship with Jesus Christ. I don't have time to

1049
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 8: police anybody else's, so I don't say, I don't. I

1050
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 8: don't deem you know, I can't condemn anybody to hell

1051
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:17,120
Speaker 8: because I'm trying to keep myself out. So whatever decisions

1052
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:19,239
Speaker 8: she make is between you and the gods that you

1053
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 8: serve and who you believe in. I'm just literally trying

1054
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 8: to make sure that I'm I'm okay over here. And

1055
00:50:24,560 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 8: so when people I have different beliefs or different you know,

1056
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,440
Speaker 8: perceptions or understandings or perspectives or but you know, it

1057
00:50:32,480 --> 00:50:34,880
Speaker 8: doesn't shake me. And I think that that's something that

1058
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 8: a lot of church church folks, I'm not gonna call

1059
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:39,839
Speaker 8: them Christians, I'm a lot of church folks struggle with right.

1060
00:50:39,880 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 8: We're so threatened by difference because I think and I

1061
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 8: think that's a lot of that has to do with insecurity.

1062
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 3: But I'm secure in who I am and what I

1063
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 3: believe in why I believe it.

1064
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 8: So if somebody believes differently than me, it doesn't mean

1065
00:50:51,719 --> 00:50:53,520
Speaker 8: I can't have a conversation with them, doesn't mean I

1066
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:56,240
Speaker 8: can't be their friend. It just means what it means,

1067
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:59,640
Speaker 8: like you know, like Jay, you know, you know, I mean,

1068
00:50:59,800 --> 00:51:02,880
Speaker 8: I think this is something that I've come to really

1069
00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 8: love about my friendship with Jade because we are connected

1070
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:11,799
Speaker 8: as people and we respect one another as people so

1071
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 8: much that it's not even a tolerance. It's more like

1072
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 8: I embrace Jade for who she is, and Jade embraces.

1073
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 3: Me for who I am.

1074
00:51:21,040 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 8: And so even though Jade is not I don't want

1075
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 8: to say it like this, but like Jade is not

1076
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:28,920
Speaker 8: a praying person, like you don't see her and be

1077
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 8: like Jay gonna drop down.

1078
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:31,280
Speaker 3: And pray us all to heaven.

1079
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:34,799
Speaker 8: But if jaye like when i'm you know what I'm saying,

1080
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 8: and I say, like you, she connects with God differently

1081
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:41,279
Speaker 8: than how like conventional church folks. But when Jay knows

1082
00:51:41,360 --> 00:51:44,240
Speaker 8: that I'm upset, or when Jay knows that I'm bothered

1083
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:46,960
Speaker 8: about something, she knows that that's the way where I

1084
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 8: go to what gives me peace. Jay will say, let's pray,

1085
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:53,879
Speaker 8: or Jay will pray. And so the fact that she's

1086
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:57,160
Speaker 8: willing to she knows that about me, and she's willing,

1087
00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:59,320
Speaker 8: you know, that's why I will never you know, I

1088
00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:02,279
Speaker 8: think that that's beautiful. I think that that is I

1089
00:52:02,280 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 8: think that that's what Christ's intended, you know. I think

1090
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:07,560
Speaker 8: that that's when we really get in Christianity, right, is

1091
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 8: when we can sit around and have conversations with folks

1092
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 8: who are who believe fundamentally differently than we do.

1093
00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 3: But it doesn't have to be that, oh f you ah,

1094
00:52:16,960 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 3: you stupid. It don't have to be that. It's just like, okay,

1095
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 3: that's different for me.

1096
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 8: Okay, because even when y'all was reading the tarot card

1097
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 8: at the beginning, I was over here, like.

1098
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:28,279
Speaker 1: Okay, read it whatever.

1099
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 8: I was over here, and I mean I wasn't shaken.

1100
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:33,799
Speaker 8: It wasn't like, oh God, what I'm gonna do? Oh

1101
00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:36,919
Speaker 8: my god, blah. It don't bother me because everybody who

1102
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 8: knows me, because I live the life that I live,

1103
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:39,680
Speaker 8: they know who I am.

1104
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:40,520
Speaker 3: I'm not threatened.

1105
00:52:40,520 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 8: I'm not worried people gonna be like, oh girls, kid

1106
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:43,800
Speaker 8: was on a podcast.

1107
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:45,600
Speaker 3: They was reading a tarot car like you know it,

1108
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 3: don't it. Don't threaten me.

1109
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 5: Don't tell you on that podcast with those tarot cards.

1110
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 1: You don't have to go to church on Sunday.

1111
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 8: It's like, you know, the Lord was here with me

1112
00:52:54,600 --> 00:52:56,320
Speaker 8: as they were reading the tarot cards.

1113
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 6: It was fine.

1114
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 3: Nobody combusted. Nobody combusted.

1115
00:53:02,520 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 8: We did not you know, we did not become pillar

1116
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:08,239
Speaker 8: assault in that moment everyone survived.

1117
00:53:08,600 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 3: Okay, Like I'm not.

1118
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 2: Here, I'm not here to I'm not here to compare

1119
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 2: the taros to scriptures, but it's they But there are messages,

1120
00:53:17,440 --> 00:53:18,840
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like each one is a

1121
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 2: message and I feel like, ultimately, I think whether you

1122
00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 2: are religious, spiritual, we're all connected in a way that

1123
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 2: we know that there's something bigger than us here. We

1124
00:53:27,880 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: know that there's something bigger and that when when when

1125
00:53:32,280 --> 00:53:35,319
Speaker 2: unfortunately most people, when times are rough, then that's when

1126
00:53:35,440 --> 00:53:37,839
Speaker 2: like they're like I need something, I feel like there's

1127
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 2: something that I'm missing, you.

1128
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:40,720
Speaker 6: Know, and when you need help.

1129
00:53:41,239 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 2: But that feeling is that feeling of that that bigger power,

1130
00:53:45,120 --> 00:53:48,440
Speaker 2: that knowing that we are so small, you know, and

1131
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 2: that there is there is there is a bigger power,

1132
00:53:51,640 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 2: whether it's God, whether it's Buddha, whether.

1133
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 5: Well, I just feel like it's just everyone has different

1134
00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:59,279
Speaker 5: names for what that higher power is, and labeling is

1135
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 5: just like honestly, like words, we're so limited in communication

1136
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 5: with just words.

1137
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 1: This is the only way we know how to communicate,

1138
00:54:06,360 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: you know.

1139
00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:10,720
Speaker 5: So, but there's there are feelings and powers and things

1140
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:13,320
Speaker 5: that are much larger than us, and like even religion

1141
00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 5: is limited.

1142
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:14,840
Speaker 1: Even God or.

1143
00:54:14,880 --> 00:54:19,239
Speaker 5: Jesus or Buddha or Allah or you know spirit, I'd

1144
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 5: be calling God's spirit or she, her, he and them,

1145
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 5: you know, whatever you'd like to call it.

1146
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 1: I do, you know, I believe in God for sure.

1147
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 5: And I spent my I grew up in a household

1148
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:34,759
Speaker 5: that was not religious at all, Like my dad told me,

1149
00:54:34,840 --> 00:54:37,440
Speaker 5: like Jesus is some white man. The white people they

1150
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:40,799
Speaker 5: have to and like literally I was just like, but

1151
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 5: my grandmother was super religious. But then also like smoke

1152
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:49,520
Speaker 5: sweed and liken. But but you know, and but even

1153
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 5: in college I went to I went to school at Clark,

1154
00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:54,480
Speaker 5: whereas like you know, down South is very religious and

1155
00:54:54,560 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 5: very Christian. And my best friend I went to college

1156
00:54:57,040 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 5: with it who's still my best friend, who we were

1157
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:00,880
Speaker 5: roommates the majority of the time. Waker asses up on

1158
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:03,399
Speaker 5: Sunday and go to church every Sunday without anyone telling

1159
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:05,840
Speaker 5: us to. This is in college, you know, party all weekend,

1160
00:55:06,080 --> 00:55:07,200
Speaker 5: go to church on Sunday.

1161
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: And I do strongly.

1162
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 5: Feel that like whatever it is that you do, like

1163
00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:15,719
Speaker 5: right now, Eric and I manifest together, which is our

1164
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:16,360
Speaker 5: form of prayer.

1165
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:17,560
Speaker 1: We pray together all the time.

1166
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:21,359
Speaker 5: And I wouldn't even say, I wouldn't think five years

1167
00:55:21,360 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 5: ago like a praying woman. But we pray together all

1168
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:26,400
Speaker 5: the time, and we see the power in that, you know,

1169
00:55:26,520 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 5: asking God to protect our friendship, asking God to protect

1170
00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 5: our brand, our business, to protect our children, you know,

1171
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 5: like in our journey, and like even with the taro.

1172
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:37,760
Speaker 5: I'm just like the type of hippie that like any

1173
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:40,360
Speaker 5: sign from anything, I'd be like, oh my God, a

1174
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 5: side from God.

1175
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:42,600
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm like.

1176
00:55:42,640 --> 00:55:45,000
Speaker 5: Hey, I'll be asking, I'll be praying, like God, give

1177
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:47,040
Speaker 5: me sign this on the radio. I'll be like, yes, yes, yes,

1178
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 5: yes that's what I need it. Answer yes, I'd be like,

1179
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:52,600
Speaker 5: first part, I see that's the answer.

1180
00:55:52,600 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 1: I'd be like yep, no, okay, Like God speak to me.

1181
00:55:57,440 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 5: You can pick up any kind of card, like please

1182
00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:04,719
Speaker 5: God give me a sign right now. So I just

1183
00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:07,319
Speaker 5: I think it's beautiful to be able, just like you said,

1184
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:09,759
Speaker 5: like you can come into the setting with and I'm

1185
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 5: sure you guys podcasts. You podcast with all types of

1186
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:14,440
Speaker 5: people all the time, as do we. Sometimes you've never

1187
00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 5: even seen or speak to those people before, like you know,

1188
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:20,920
Speaker 5: like this, and I think as humans and especially as

1189
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,719
Speaker 5: women and as black women, it is so easy to

1190
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 5: and as like, as humans, let's just be real, like

1191
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 5: we judge, you know, we think, we see something.

1192
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 1: We evaluate it, we make a decision.

1193
00:56:31,840 --> 00:56:34,359
Speaker 5: That's how we that's a part of our system, how

1194
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 5: we label, and so like, as we grow and as

1195
00:56:36,600 --> 00:56:39,280
Speaker 5: we both have these shows and these like brands built

1196
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:43,879
Speaker 5: in growing unapologetically and correcting ourselves because I'm sure you've

1197
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:46,040
Speaker 5: said things recantidate you know, there are.

1198
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:48,720
Speaker 1: Just all these levels of growing.

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Speaker 5: I think as we if we can like be community

1200
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 5: and see each other's differences and say, you know, you

1201
00:56:56,000 --> 00:57:00,359
Speaker 5: could believe in this and have those hard conversations make

1202
00:57:00,440 --> 00:57:02,160
Speaker 5: it really makes it so much better. And that's where

1203
00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 5: you really grow, because you know, you know, I could

1204
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 5: think one way and then have a conversations about Kia

1205
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 5: and totally walk away with a completely different perspective of

1206
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 5: what I thought religious women were like Christian women were like,

1207
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:17,200
Speaker 5: and that like, oh, don't you know I don't want

1208
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 5: her to come because she's not gonna be happy. And

1209
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 5: I take my shirt off at the party because you know,

1210
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 5: I'm gonna take my shirt off at.

1211
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 1: The party, you know what I mean. I would be

1212
00:57:23,960 --> 00:57:27,120
Speaker 1: the strip club you enjoy yourt I'm going to.

1213
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 3: Enjoy your you know what.

1214
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 9: I'm saying, You'll just go to church on Sunday and yeah,

1215
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 9: in three different services.

1216
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:38,640
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1217
00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 9: That's that's what it's gonna be. But we do love

1218
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 9: each other for our differences. I pray in a different

1219
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 9: way than Kia. But if I need to pray with

1220
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:47,880
Speaker 9: Key in a way that I know it's gonna resonate

1221
00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 9: with her if she's dealing with something, That's what I'm

1222
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 9: gonna do for sure, you know, because that's what that's.

1223
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 4: What spirit that's what spiritual movie to do.

1224
00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 9: This is about humanity, right, So I think our foundation

1225
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 9: as Black women should come into play more than anything,

1226
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 9: and how we love one another.

1227
00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 8: I think our difference is where the beauty. Where the

1228
00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:09,320
Speaker 8: beauty is. The beauty is in the difference, absolutely.

1229
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:10,760
Speaker 3: And I think, and you know, I'm in.

1230
00:58:10,680 --> 00:58:12,960
Speaker 8: A place in my life and my scholarship, you know,

1231
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 8: in my studies where I feel like, you know, white

1232
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 8: supremacy is responsible for everything.

1233
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:20,760
Speaker 3: So I think that what what it was.

1234
00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 8: And I think we think critically about what that what

1235
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 8: it meant for us to be property in this country,

1236
00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:29,320
Speaker 8: and we think about the implications of that. What that

1237
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 8: has done, I think it is it is the cause

1238
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:35,080
Speaker 8: for all of the division that exists because we were

1239
00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 8: we were pit against one another. We were we were

1240
00:58:38,040 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 8: uh socialized to compete and compare and draw each other

1241
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 8: down because we were taught that there was only just

1242
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 8: a few spaces that we would be, that we were

1243
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 8: all fighting for, when the reality is it's enough space

1244
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 8: out here for all of us to win, because we're

1245
00:58:53,960 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 8: supposed to be winning being ourselves, not trying to be

1246
00:58:57,160 --> 00:59:01,280
Speaker 8: like the next person and so and and like you said,

1247
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 8: difference is where the learning is. I study organizational learning

1248
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:12,840
Speaker 8: and organizational change thinking about what institutional leaders need in

1249
00:59:12,960 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 8: order to to to catalyze and push change agendas on

1250
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 8: their and you know, within their organization. So everyone has

1251
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 8: these inclusion and diversity statements, right, and so we have

1252
00:59:23,800 --> 00:59:27,480
Speaker 8: these lofty aspirations for we want to be equitable and

1253
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 8: inclusive organization, but we look at our practice and how

1254
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 8: we behave it is the it is the opposite of inclusion.

1255
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:40,840
Speaker 8: And so in reading the literature around like how organizations learn,

1256
00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 8: it is not by similarity, it is by difference. It

1257
00:59:44,680 --> 00:59:46,680
Speaker 8: is not by success, it is by failure.

1258
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:47,320
Speaker 1: So it.

1259
00:59:47,440 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 8: It actually requires us to embrace the areas where we

1260
00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 8: disconnect the things, cause I mean only only when we

1261
00:59:55,120 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 8: do that is where we can kind of those are

1262
00:59:56,880 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 8: the opportunities for us to learn, you know, different perspectives

1263
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:02,240
Speaker 8: and what other people are going through and see where

1264
01:00:02,240 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 8: the similarities are because they exist.

1265
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:07,280
Speaker 3: So like we're all about community on getting grown.

1266
01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 8: I learned so much from sharing space and time with

1267
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:14,200
Speaker 8: women who didn't who are who are different than me,

1268
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:16,880
Speaker 8: because I don't learn anything from being around a bunch

1269
01:00:16,960 --> 01:00:20,560
Speaker 8: of people who are just like me, who think like

1270
01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 8: I think.

1271
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:24,480
Speaker 3: So yeah, I mean all of that.

1272
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 8: I think we have to if we're really going to

1273
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:29,200
Speaker 8: get to a place where we can hold white folks

1274
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:33,320
Speaker 8: accountable for all of the ways in which the world

1275
01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:35,680
Speaker 8: is divided. That means we have to stand up in

1276
01:00:35,720 --> 01:00:37,120
Speaker 8: the ways that we divide ourselves.

1277
01:00:37,800 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 6: Absolutely amen that.

1278
01:00:41,400 --> 01:00:43,480
Speaker 2: I couldn't. I couldn't agree. I couldn't agree more. And

1279
01:00:43,480 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 2: I didn't say amen to be in an asshole.

1280
01:00:45,360 --> 01:00:49,600
Speaker 1: Oh no, I mean that because I really mean that

1281
01:00:50,520 --> 01:00:50,800
Speaker 1: mean that.

1282
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:52,360
Speaker 6: I think that that's.

1283
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 2: I think that that really is also like, yeah, the

1284
01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 2: beauty and what we do and it's kind of like

1285
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 2: I didn't even know, oh that that was what I

1286
01:01:01,720 --> 01:01:02,760
Speaker 2: was doing, you know.

1287
01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 8: Right, because we was all socialized to do it. They

1288
01:01:05,720 --> 01:01:08,000
Speaker 8: taught us how to do it in grade school. It's

1289
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:10,720
Speaker 8: all about being the first, being the best, and if

1290
01:01:10,760 --> 01:01:13,080
Speaker 8: I got to step on my sister's neck to do it,

1291
01:01:13,120 --> 01:01:13,920
Speaker 8: then so be it.

1292
01:01:14,440 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 9: That's that's capitally not being the same, right, Like we're

1293
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 9: not the same.

1294
01:01:18,720 --> 01:01:19,840
Speaker 1: We can't be friendsactly.

1295
01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 9: I can tell Kia I'm working on my altar this weekend,

1296
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:24,400
Speaker 9: and she's like, that's beautiful.

1297
01:01:26,040 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 4: Put it.

1298
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:29,840
Speaker 8: What goes on something like that, girl, tell me about it.

1299
01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:31,479
Speaker 6: It means but I think that's great.

1300
01:01:31,480 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 3: I don't know about that, but I'm happy that that

1301
01:01:34,440 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 3: is bringing you joy. I'm happy that that is working

1302
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 3: for you.

1303
01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 6: I love that for you. Yes, you go ahead, Yeah, I'll.

1304
01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:47,560
Speaker 1: Send you a candle. I've been.

1305
01:01:49,160 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 5: I've been reading a book for forty five hundred days

1306
01:01:52,120 --> 01:01:56,320
Speaker 5: because that's how long it takes one month. That's okay, absolutely,

1307
01:01:56,800 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 5: But I've started a post traumatic slave syndrome, and it

1308
01:02:03,600 --> 01:02:08,400
Speaker 5: really touches on how much of slavery is.

1309
01:02:08,360 --> 01:02:10,439
Speaker 1: Still deeply shored.

1310
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:15,080
Speaker 5: And our behaviors like subconsciously, you know, just as human beings,

1311
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:19,680
Speaker 5: and like it's so deep and so crazy, and like

1312
01:02:20,040 --> 01:02:21,960
Speaker 5: even the way we talk about our kids, even though

1313
01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 5: we think about ourselves, the way we think about like money, scarcity.

1314
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:30,000
Speaker 5: It's just all these little things, subconscious, these small things

1315
01:02:30,000 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 5: that we have to like really first know and acknowledged.

1316
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:38,600
Speaker 1: And to start changing. And it's so crazy and it's

1317
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:38,960
Speaker 1: too Like.

1318
01:02:39,200 --> 01:02:42,760
Speaker 5: I remember, my parents are from Philly, so I spent

1319
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:45,600
Speaker 5: a lot of time in Philly growing up. And every

1320
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:47,920
Speaker 5: year we go, like my whole family, like the aunts,

1321
01:02:47,960 --> 01:02:49,880
Speaker 5: the uncles, the cousins, we go to Philly for like.

1322
01:02:49,840 --> 01:02:52,400
Speaker 1: Two weeks and we had we you know, we're taking

1323
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:52,640
Speaker 1: some of.

1324
01:02:52,640 --> 01:02:55,840
Speaker 5: The kids to the movie theater and you know, everybody

1325
01:02:55,920 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 5: got some ghetto cousins and shit, you know who got

1326
01:02:58,080 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 5: like we got. Peck had kids real young and she

1327
01:03:01,760 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 5: and got a bunch of them. Anyway, we're taking all

1328
01:03:03,720 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 5: the kids to the to the movie theater and one

1329
01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:08,400
Speaker 5: of the girls, one of my little girl cousins, she

1330
01:03:08,600 --> 01:03:11,280
Speaker 5: hadn't have been like nine. We was at the movies

1331
01:03:11,280 --> 01:03:13,840
Speaker 5: and a little another little girl walks by and she goes,

1332
01:03:14,200 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 5: she thinks she cute.

1333
01:03:16,200 --> 01:03:21,560
Speaker 1: I'm just like, what the funny? I was like, I

1334
01:03:21,600 --> 01:03:25,600
Speaker 1: was like, she is cute, heart.

1335
01:03:26,400 --> 01:03:29,920
Speaker 5: And I was just I was appalled by this comment

1336
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:32,880
Speaker 5: from this nine year old. But you know, looking back,

1337
01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,120
Speaker 5: it's all these things, you know, all these things that

1338
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:40,240
Speaker 5: there's a competition that someone else thinks they're cuts is.

1339
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:43,480
Speaker 1: Cute, and you're you're you feel that you're less and yeah,

1340
01:03:43,520 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 1: and you feel exacted by that.

1341
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:48,920
Speaker 5: And how young that that started, you know, this nine

1342
01:03:49,000 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 5: year old she had to be like eight or nine

1343
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:52,240
Speaker 5: at the time. And I was just so happy that

1344
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:54,919
Speaker 5: I caught it because I Luna maybe was like two,

1345
01:03:55,000 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 5: and I was just like, damn, is this is what.

1346
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 1: I have to look forward to?

1347
01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:57,080
Speaker 7: Like?

1348
01:03:57,840 --> 01:04:00,480
Speaker 1: But but there are so many times.

1349
01:04:00,000 --> 01:04:01,760
Speaker 4: It's about what you pour into your kids to.

1350
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 1: Write and how you pour and how I let.

1351
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:06,720
Speaker 5: You know, I'm very conscious of how my daughter sees

1352
01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:09,640
Speaker 5: me interact with other women and sees me complimenting other

1353
01:04:09,680 --> 01:04:12,040
Speaker 5: women and sees me fall down and sees me cry

1354
01:04:12,120 --> 01:04:13,720
Speaker 5: and said, you know, sees me try again.

1355
01:04:14,280 --> 01:04:16,520
Speaker 1: But it's just that comment.

1356
01:04:16,640 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 5: It really set the tone, and it made me think

1357
01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:21,640
Speaker 5: about my childhood and about times where I may have

1358
01:04:21,720 --> 01:04:24,000
Speaker 5: felt that way or not felt enough or felt like

1359
01:04:24,040 --> 01:04:26,000
Speaker 5: my like I won't we let we're from the valley.

1360
01:04:26,040 --> 01:04:27,760
Speaker 1: So I went to school, like we're like one of

1361
01:04:27,840 --> 01:04:28,640
Speaker 1: three black people.

1362
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 5: So like you know, like if I was going to

1363
01:04:31,080 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 5: get in the pool, how my hair is going to

1364
01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:33,360
Speaker 5: fringe up?

1365
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 1: And like all these things.

1366
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:38,800
Speaker 5: But I just I am happy to be an adult

1367
01:04:38,880 --> 01:04:41,720
Speaker 5: and be in this space and to connect with different

1368
01:04:41,760 --> 01:04:44,880
Speaker 5: types of women, black and white and other, and you know,

1369
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:49,440
Speaker 5: kind of break down these these these rules and these

1370
01:04:49,640 --> 01:04:53,280
Speaker 5: these things that I've you know, we've accepted as just

1371
01:04:54,400 --> 01:04:55,200
Speaker 5: life and they're not.

1372
01:04:55,560 --> 01:04:57,880
Speaker 2: And I think also just not even the kids though,

1373
01:04:57,920 --> 01:05:01,040
Speaker 2: like it's I feel like it's not not our duty,

1374
01:05:01,200 --> 01:05:04,280
Speaker 2: but even as an adult having to check adults.

1375
01:05:03,960 --> 01:05:07,520
Speaker 3: And it's our responsibility for sure and be like not.

1376
01:05:07,480 --> 01:05:10,280
Speaker 1: Just kids, like yoh, why are you?

1377
01:05:10,800 --> 01:05:11,680
Speaker 6: Why are you for what?

1378
01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:13,919
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, like you always are talking shit.

1379
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:18,240
Speaker 8: It's not about it's like calling up instead of calling out.

1380
01:05:18,320 --> 01:05:21,560
Speaker 8: It's like, you know, finding ways to just raise people's

1381
01:05:21,760 --> 01:05:26,800
Speaker 8: awareness around right, Like it's like you don't even realize,

1382
01:05:27,280 --> 01:05:30,200
Speaker 8: like you know, we've been steeped like tea bags.

1383
01:05:30,240 --> 01:05:33,960
Speaker 3: We've been steeped in all of this like hatred and division.

1384
01:05:34,360 --> 01:05:37,120
Speaker 8: It is the American way. It is as as American

1385
01:05:37,160 --> 01:05:40,600
Speaker 8: as apple pie and French fries. It is it is

1386
01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 8: the our calling card. It is cultural, our cultural value.

1387
01:05:44,320 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 8: It's to be you know, individualistic and divisive in these ways.

1388
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:51,560
Speaker 8: And if we don't call it out, if we don't

1389
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 8: hold each other accountable. And I think that, you know,

1390
01:05:55,400 --> 01:05:59,320
Speaker 8: I was thinking about this last night because you know,

1391
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:02,080
Speaker 8: that child what's that child's name, Danny Lay, Danny Lay,

1392
01:06:02,160 --> 01:06:02,680
Speaker 8: what's her name?

1393
01:06:02,920 --> 01:06:04,840
Speaker 1: Oh? I saw that?

1394
01:06:05,720 --> 01:06:06,520
Speaker 6: Why do that?

1395
01:06:07,520 --> 01:06:08,600
Speaker 3: I don't even want to go there?

1396
01:06:09,040 --> 01:06:13,000
Speaker 1: All the wrong song about basically, that's why.

1397
01:06:14,200 --> 01:06:16,280
Speaker 8: And so there was a couple of people yes, And

1398
01:06:16,320 --> 01:06:18,200
Speaker 8: so there was a couple of people on the shareroom

1399
01:06:18,280 --> 01:06:20,400
Speaker 8: comments that were saying, you know, y'all overreacting.

1400
01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 3: She got a right to do blah blah blah.

1401
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:24,120
Speaker 8: And then there are some there were other people who

1402
01:06:24,120 --> 01:06:27,760
Speaker 8: were saying, like, you know, uh, you know, we should,

1403
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:31,280
Speaker 8: you know, show her compassion. We should you know, she's young,

1404
01:06:31,440 --> 01:06:33,640
Speaker 8: and give her time and space to kind of process

1405
01:06:33,640 --> 01:06:34,600
Speaker 8: and think through these things.

1406
01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 3: And I echo that. I'm like, I agree, But.

1407
01:06:37,880 --> 01:06:41,320
Speaker 8: Compassion and accountability can coexist both. I was in a

1408
01:06:41,400 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 8: sad We can say we can be compassionate and acknowledging

1409
01:06:45,960 --> 01:06:49,000
Speaker 8: and extend grace because we understand I've been twenty six.

1410
01:06:48,880 --> 01:06:50,640
Speaker 3: Years old and said stupid things.

1411
01:06:51,120 --> 01:06:53,640
Speaker 8: But you also have to hold people accountable, especially people

1412
01:06:53,680 --> 01:06:57,000
Speaker 8: who have huge platforms. With three million followers, there's a

1413
01:06:57,040 --> 01:06:59,800
Speaker 8: responsibility that comes with that. You don't just get the perks,

1414
01:06:59,800 --> 01:07:02,440
Speaker 8: did you, the things that come with having a huge platform.

1415
01:07:02,680 --> 01:07:06,200
Speaker 8: You also have a responsibility to be conscious of what

1416
01:07:06,280 --> 01:07:07,760
Speaker 8: you say and how.

1417
01:07:07,600 --> 01:07:10,040
Speaker 3: It affects the rest of the world, the rest of

1418
01:07:10,080 --> 01:07:10,680
Speaker 3: the audience.

1419
01:07:10,920 --> 01:07:13,120
Speaker 8: And I think we got to Yeah, we've got to

1420
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:16,120
Speaker 8: get to a place where we can compassionately and me

1421
01:07:16,240 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 8: saying me calling you out, me raising your brains, bringing

1422
01:07:20,360 --> 01:07:23,480
Speaker 8: something to your attention about something, doesn't mean that I'm

1423
01:07:23,520 --> 01:07:26,000
Speaker 8: a hater. It doesn't mean that I hate you. Doesn't

1424
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:27,800
Speaker 8: mean that I want to see you fail. It doesn't

1425
01:07:27,840 --> 01:07:30,280
Speaker 8: mean that I'm trying to drag you. It means that

1426
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:32,400
Speaker 8: i want, like just in the ways I want my

1427
01:07:32,440 --> 01:07:34,000
Speaker 8: friends to call me out and let me know if

1428
01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:35,920
Speaker 8: I'm doing something that makes them feel.

1429
01:07:35,680 --> 01:07:39,760
Speaker 3: Bad or it's harmful in some way. It's like, you know, girl, you.

1430
01:07:39,760 --> 01:07:41,760
Speaker 8: Need to know that it's ignorant for you to say

1431
01:07:41,800 --> 01:07:45,600
Speaker 8: these things, and you cannot be who you are and

1432
01:07:45,760 --> 01:07:48,920
Speaker 8: have what you have and be this reckless period.

1433
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:51,439
Speaker 3: I don't care if you're twenty one or twenty six

1434
01:07:51,560 --> 01:07:52,560
Speaker 3: or thirty six.

1435
01:07:52,760 --> 01:07:55,800
Speaker 2: And also how many people heard this goddamn song before

1436
01:07:55,800 --> 01:07:58,400
Speaker 2: it came out, Like how many people.

1437
01:07:58,120 --> 01:07:58,720
Speaker 6: Heard the song?

1438
01:07:58,760 --> 01:08:01,320
Speaker 1: I didn't say any thing and didn't say.

1439
01:08:01,200 --> 01:08:03,960
Speaker 5: Like, yo, is this does the song say your nigga

1440
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:05,320
Speaker 5: wants me because I'm light skinned?

1441
01:08:05,600 --> 01:08:07,520
Speaker 6: Basically yes, essentially.

1442
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:11,920
Speaker 1: Because I heard the apology, I mean obviously, and then.

1443
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:15,080
Speaker 2: And then her dude, who's the baby? Then did like

1444
01:08:15,400 --> 01:08:17,479
Speaker 2: put like yellow emojis under like a.

1445
01:08:17,720 --> 01:08:20,639
Speaker 3: Yellow hearts and yellow hearts under like this is This.

1446
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 2: Is also the problem with with black men too, who

1447
01:08:23,680 --> 01:08:26,439
Speaker 2: like in me, I'm a light skinned black woman, and

1448
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 2: like I have the amount of times and I and

1449
01:08:30,240 --> 01:08:34,000
Speaker 2: I only day black men the only time the amount

1450
01:08:34,000 --> 01:08:36,040
Speaker 2: of times I've heard of black men tell me, oh,

1451
01:08:36,120 --> 01:08:38,679
Speaker 2: I just feel like my dream girl, you're light skin

1452
01:08:39,040 --> 01:08:41,360
Speaker 2: and me having to be like that's not a compliment,

1453
01:08:41,760 --> 01:08:47,799
Speaker 2: Like why that's like what are you talking about your mother?

1454
01:08:47,400 --> 01:08:52,280
Speaker 10: Your mother is your daughter and black daughter will likely

1455
01:08:52,360 --> 01:08:54,240
Speaker 10: look like you, And what does that say about you

1456
01:08:54,320 --> 01:08:56,960
Speaker 10: and how you and the way you talk about the people,

1457
01:08:57,000 --> 01:08:59,479
Speaker 10: the women that raised you into the women you came from.

1458
01:09:00,000 --> 01:09:02,320
Speaker 5: He when you make comments like that, I maybe live

1459
01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:04,120
Speaker 5: in LA so we hear all the stupid comments from

1460
01:09:04,120 --> 01:09:04,800
Speaker 5: all the black men.

1461
01:09:04,840 --> 01:09:07,280
Speaker 1: But what I.

1462
01:09:07,240 --> 01:09:09,439
Speaker 5: Did hear her say in her apology, because I was

1463
01:09:09,520 --> 01:09:11,000
Speaker 5: up at four in the morning looking at shade room,

1464
01:09:11,040 --> 01:09:15,920
Speaker 5: because that's what you do. She said something which, yeah, first,

1465
01:09:16,000 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 5: I guess she's twenty six. And I was just like

1466
01:09:18,200 --> 01:09:20,000
Speaker 5: trying not to get into it because I can get

1467
01:09:20,040 --> 01:09:23,160
Speaker 5: like deeply riled up about stupid Schiffer again, like she's

1468
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:25,719
Speaker 5: twenty six, and I can't make you sick, smeund smart.

1469
01:09:26,280 --> 01:09:29,360
Speaker 5: But she was like one of the things she said

1470
01:09:29,400 --> 01:09:31,559
Speaker 5: in this apology was like, I mean, I don't get it,

1471
01:09:31,640 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 5: like dark skinned women have songs talking about being dark skin.

1472
01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:37,800
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, you probably could have left

1473
01:09:37,800 --> 01:09:39,880
Speaker 1: that out. You probably could shut the fuck up about that.

1474
01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:43,840
Speaker 8: Same I'm the same, right, I think people we get

1475
01:09:43,880 --> 01:09:46,680
Speaker 8: so lost and caught up like this. This shit is

1476
01:09:46,720 --> 01:09:51,640
Speaker 8: so much bigger than personal prejudices and biases. It's so

1477
01:09:51,720 --> 01:09:57,479
Speaker 8: much bigger than it's not okay for you know, you know,

1478
01:09:57,640 --> 01:10:00,200
Speaker 8: whether it is whether or not it's okay for a

1479
01:10:00,200 --> 01:10:01,720
Speaker 8: man to prefer a light skinned woman.

1480
01:10:01,800 --> 01:10:03,920
Speaker 3: It's bigger than that. We're talking about systems.

1481
01:10:03,960 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 8: We're talking about power, structures, privileged systems, and this young

1482
01:10:09,080 --> 01:10:12,120
Speaker 8: lady who is a white Latina, right and who who

1483
01:10:12,200 --> 01:10:15,840
Speaker 8: has the privilege of associating herself like she can she

1484
01:10:15,920 --> 01:10:19,000
Speaker 8: can take her blackness on and off. If she says

1485
01:10:19,000 --> 01:10:23,639
Speaker 8: that she's a black person in the LATINX community, then that's,

1486
01:10:23,720 --> 01:10:25,760
Speaker 8: you know, we believe that, or she can say that

1487
01:10:25,840 --> 01:10:28,120
Speaker 8: she's not. So we have to acknowledge that that in

1488
01:10:28,160 --> 01:10:30,879
Speaker 8: and of itself is a privilege. Because I'm black everywhere

1489
01:10:30,920 --> 01:10:33,320
Speaker 8: I go, I can't say that I'm not black. So

1490
01:10:33,320 --> 01:10:35,640
Speaker 8: so the thing about that is like, you know, we

1491
01:10:35,720 --> 01:10:38,240
Speaker 8: have to really what it pained me to watch it

1492
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:42,360
Speaker 8: watch her apology, because it was like we I think

1493
01:10:42,400 --> 01:10:45,439
Speaker 8: we all get further faster if we really think about

1494
01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:49,040
Speaker 8: these things and call them what they are. These are

1495
01:10:49,240 --> 01:10:52,719
Speaker 8: systems and structures and ideologies that we have to combat.

1496
01:10:53,360 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 3: We have to recognize that it is. It is like,

1497
01:10:55,479 --> 01:10:56,920
Speaker 3: you know, light.

1498
01:10:57,360 --> 01:11:01,320
Speaker 8: Skinned women being preferred because of their proxyy to whiteness

1499
01:11:02,200 --> 01:11:04,320
Speaker 8: and then talking about anti blackness, and I don't know,

1500
01:11:04,360 --> 01:11:06,240
Speaker 8: people like to call me deep and all extra, but

1501
01:11:06,280 --> 01:11:08,080
Speaker 8: I just feel like this is this is who I

1502
01:11:08,120 --> 01:11:10,519
Speaker 8: have to be because I mean, there's no point in

1503
01:11:10,520 --> 01:11:12,200
Speaker 8: me reading and learning this stuff if I don't talk

1504
01:11:12,240 --> 01:11:14,320
Speaker 8: about it, but I think we would we just get

1505
01:11:14,360 --> 01:11:14,719
Speaker 8: a lot.

1506
01:11:15,560 --> 01:11:16,240
Speaker 3: We get a lot.

1507
01:11:16,400 --> 01:11:18,320
Speaker 8: We would get a lot further, a lot faster, if

1508
01:11:18,360 --> 01:11:22,160
Speaker 8: we would stop getting so mired down and going back

1509
01:11:22,160 --> 01:11:24,520
Speaker 8: and forth. It's not it's just bigger than your prejudices.

1510
01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:26,639
Speaker 8: It's bigger than all your uncles had lif skined wives.

1511
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:27,439
Speaker 8: It's bigger than that.

1512
01:11:27,600 --> 01:11:28,920
Speaker 3: And if we don't.

1513
01:11:28,800 --> 01:11:32,240
Speaker 8: Get to the actual meat of the matter, we're not

1514
01:11:32,280 --> 01:11:34,639
Speaker 8: gonna get anywhere because we down here arguing over whether

1515
01:11:34,720 --> 01:11:38,040
Speaker 8: or not the baby should you know, be with this lightninged.

1516
01:11:37,680 --> 01:11:40,240
Speaker 3: Woman over here, over this dark skinned baby mother, Like

1517
01:11:40,280 --> 01:11:41,040
Speaker 3: what is that that?

1518
01:11:41,280 --> 01:11:41,599
Speaker 6: This is?

1519
01:11:41,640 --> 01:11:42,839
Speaker 3: This is a waste of my time.

1520
01:11:43,600 --> 01:11:46,400
Speaker 8: And I feel like it's people who have platforms like

1521
01:11:46,439 --> 01:11:49,439
Speaker 8: her who should be having these kinds of conversations. But

1522
01:11:49,479 --> 01:11:51,840
Speaker 8: they want to get on here and say, well, you know,

1523
01:11:51,960 --> 01:11:54,760
Speaker 8: if I offended you, then that's my that's that's my bad.

1524
01:11:54,800 --> 01:11:56,960
Speaker 3: But I didn't mean to, so y'all should just run

1525
01:11:57,080 --> 01:11:57,599
Speaker 3: up myself.

1526
01:11:57,640 --> 01:12:00,639
Speaker 1: I was feeling myself that day. I can sing myself

1527
01:12:00,640 --> 01:12:02,120
Speaker 1: in yellow bone, so.

1528
01:12:02,080 --> 01:12:03,920
Speaker 3: I just want to celebrate my man.

1529
01:12:04,520 --> 01:12:06,880
Speaker 5: My man loves me. So I was like, if this

1530
01:12:06,960 --> 01:12:09,839
Speaker 5: picture is not shut the fuck up. You never listening

1531
01:12:09,880 --> 01:12:12,160
Speaker 5: to Danny Lance which one it is?

1532
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:13,080
Speaker 1: But I'm not listening.

1533
01:12:13,240 --> 01:12:15,000
Speaker 4: What does she? I was like, what does she say?

1534
01:12:15,080 --> 01:12:16,760
Speaker 3: I have to google her because I don't know, because

1535
01:12:16,800 --> 01:12:18,280
Speaker 3: I think this is just for the young people.

1536
01:12:18,600 --> 01:12:21,640
Speaker 1: You don't really say she like a talker. It's a

1537
01:12:21,640 --> 01:12:24,640
Speaker 1: song we might know, but not off top. All right,

1538
01:12:24,640 --> 01:12:26,720
Speaker 1: we've already given too much attention to this woman.

1539
01:12:26,880 --> 01:12:29,960
Speaker 4: Agree, you're right.

1540
01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:31,320
Speaker 6: We're moving on.

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Speaker 2: But I just, you know, I know, I don't want

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Speaker 2: to take you guys too much time, but I just

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Speaker 2: want to thank you guys so much for coming on.

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Speaker 2: And I'm so glad that we were able to have

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Speaker 2: this conversation. I'm so glad to have met both of you.

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Speaker 2: You know, that's the beauty of podcasting is like it's

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Speaker 2: just like you get to connect with people that, like

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Speaker 2: you said, like are different you might have never met

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Speaker 2: in any other situation, situation or circumstance. And you guys,

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Speaker 2: we guys, we guys, can I talk?

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Speaker 6: Have we got to have these conversations?

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Speaker 2: I've been drinking this un that's probably been in my

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Speaker 2: friend for two years.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, like you know, it don't expire. Girl,

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Speaker 3: just drink your an may edit.

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Speaker 6: It out and make me sound smart. Don't make me

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Speaker 6: sound like the.

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Speaker 1: Shut never that.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Well, ladies, can you tell our people

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Speaker 2: where they can find you?

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Speaker 1: Oh I had to bring the cat up into the

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Speaker 1: into the conversation.

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Speaker 4: She jump. Oh, everybody calmed down. Everybody in the calmed down.

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Speaker 8: Getting Grown you can find we are available everywhere. There

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Speaker 8: on social media under the handles Getting Grown Pod.

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Speaker 3: On Instagram and on Twitter. Uh.

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Speaker 8: My Instagram name is Tikei and Nicole and Aids is

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Speaker 8: Jade of all jades. And you know, I'm sure we'll

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Speaker 8: love if you will kick it with us around the

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Speaker 8: Kachen Table. Our show airs every Tuesday, and yeah, we

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Speaker 8: just be over there talking about, you know, the hood,

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Speaker 8: the ghettos of being a real live adult.

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Speaker 4: And we have some pretty dope guests this week. Yes,

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Speaker 4: I believe we do.

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Speaker 2: To you, ladies, wonder.

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Speaker 9: I don't know too self proclaimed, but if you all

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Speaker 9: check out Getting Grown this week, we do have the

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Speaker 9: beautiful ladies of good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 4: Are on the show.

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Speaker 9: So thank you for having us so much. We are

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Speaker 9: so grateful to be in your space with me.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for having thank you for having us on

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Speaker 2: your show. And you guys know where to find us.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, we took we took a class.

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Speaker 6: We got we took it.

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Speaker 2: We took a class on deep throating bi sexual essentials

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Speaker 1: Let me just tell you, cucumbers are not ideal.

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Speaker 6: Not ideal.

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Speaker 2: Don't try to join with the cucumber, but still join

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Speaker 2: the description of this episode, but make sure you go

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Speaker 2: we have a show. We have our LA show. Actually

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Speaker 2: It used to be an l a show because it

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Speaker 2: was pre COVID, but then COVID fucked everything up but

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Speaker 2: We have secret episodes, secret segments, and some very personal

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Speaker 12: If you can get yourself in the right position you know,

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Speaker 12: structurally for the height of your furniture, then you're good.

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Speaker 6: And basically you.

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Speaker 3: Would pull up a chair.

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Speaker 12: She's doing this on her knee, but use your fucking imagination.

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Speaker 12: And the point of the chair is because it's a

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Speaker 12: mind fuck that somebody is literally pulling up a seat

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Speaker 12: to the dinner table of them. Okay, it's it's it's

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Speaker 12: definitely a sapio sexual mind thing, like you just nasty,

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Speaker 12: You're really about to set up camp in my pussy.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely.

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Speaker 12: Ideally, what I want you all to get comfortable with, though,

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Speaker 12: is mutual masturbation. Don't forget that mutual masturbation is not

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Speaker 12: just having someone watch you, but also performing masturbation on you. Okay,

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Speaker 12: the up close, the more close that you get with

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Speaker 12: the pussy, the more that you will learn how to

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Speaker 12: eat it better, the more you will learn how to

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Speaker 12: perform things on it, and you can really