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Speaker 1: Here it is. It's the Strawberry letter thanking if you subject.

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Speaker 1: My husband is an embarrassing butt head. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: My husband likes acts like an absolute child at times,

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Speaker 1: and I can't deal with it. It's like having a

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Speaker 1: third child, and I am so tired of him embarrassing me.

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Speaker 1: The most recent incident went down over the weekend at

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Speaker 1: my pastor's house. We were invited to a barbecue and

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Speaker 1: the pastor was a little late because of a wedding

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Speaker 1: he had to do. There was plenty of food on

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Speaker 1: the grill and we always let the elders of the

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Speaker 1: church eat first. The first lady fixed the pastor a

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Speaker 1: plate and sat it to the side and covered it

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Speaker 1: with saran wrap. When it came time for my husband

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Speaker 1: and I to fix a plate, only chicken legs, wieners,

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Speaker 1: and burgers were left. My husband began to whine about

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Speaker 1: not getting the pieces of chicken that he wanted, so

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Speaker 1: he went on a hunt for more chicken. He asked

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Speaker 1: several people if they would eat a leg egg in

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Speaker 1: exchange for a thigh or breast that was on their plates.

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Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed. But what he did next was

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Speaker 1: a shocker. Was the shocker his ignorant behind went over

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Speaker 1: to the pastor's plate wrapped in saran wrap and got

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Speaker 1: the two barbecued thighs that were on there, and then

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Speaker 1: he wrapped the plate back up. One of the mothers

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Speaker 1: of the church told him that he could not do that,

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Speaker 1: and his reply was, pastor should have been here, and

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Speaker 1: it will be cold by the time he gets here. Anyway,

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Speaker 1: I almost passed out right then and there. I got

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Speaker 1: my belongings and told him we needed to leave. Needless

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Speaker 1: to say, I am going to be the center of

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Speaker 1: gossip at the church now. My husband does things like

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Speaker 1: this all of the time. Everything has to go his

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Speaker 1: way or he starts complaining and whining. How can I

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Speaker 1: get him to see that it's not all about him.

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Speaker 1: I am sick of him embarrassing me. Please help. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm embarrassed for you, I really am. This is crazy,

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Speaker 1: this is really stupid. I mean, your husband, it has

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Speaker 1: to be the rudest person ever. He's disrespectful to everyone,

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Speaker 1: including your pastor. How dare he go to the pastor's

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Speaker 1: plate that's set aside and go in there and get

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Speaker 1: the pastor's food, or anyone's food for that matter, but

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Speaker 1: most of all the pastor. Your husband's selfish. He's inconsiderate

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Speaker 1: of you, his wife, And I think you're absolutely right.

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Speaker 1: He is an embarrassing butt head. And you have every

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Speaker 1: right to be upset and to get your things and leave.

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Speaker 1: And yes, you will be the subject of gossip. The

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Speaker 1: problem is what are you going to do about this?

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Speaker 1: I mean, have you talked to your husband about it?

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Speaker 1: Does he know how you feel and what you want

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Speaker 1: and what you don't want him to do? I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing you have talked to him about it, but

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Speaker 1: he's not hearing you. He's not paying any attention to you,

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Speaker 1: and selfish people often don't because, like you said, it's

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Speaker 1: always about them. So you're gonna have to do something

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Speaker 1: else to get his attention to make him hear you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if that means leaving him or if

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Speaker 1: that means threatening to leave him. It depends on whether

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Speaker 1: he straightens up and stops doing stupid stuff after you

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Speaker 1: have some sort of serious conversation with him. Because he's

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Speaker 1: out of control. He's so out of order, so rude

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Speaker 1: and disrespectful. This is crazy, and what was chicken legs

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Speaker 1: are okay? And burgers and wieners. You're not at home,

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Speaker 1: you're at somebody else's house, Steve, were your manners? Steve?

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Speaker 1: I don't get this, I really really don't. I'm confused.

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Speaker 1: How old is this dude? But now if y'all at

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Speaker 1: a church function and y'all at elders in all this,

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Speaker 1: I'm assuming he's of age. He's not sixteen, but sixteen

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Speaker 1: year old people wouldn't do that. Your husband is a

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Speaker 1: child at times, and you can't do with it. He

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Speaker 1: didn't just start being a child. He'd been childished the

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Speaker 1: whole time. It's just you've overlooked it. Now you married him,

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Speaker 1: and he ain't got to act a certain way. No,

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Speaker 1: most so, now he'd do it all the time. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this weekend you went over to your pastors. You got

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Speaker 1: bit late because he had a wading to do. You

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Speaker 1: food all on the grill. Now, y'all's church. What y'all

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Speaker 1: do is y'all let the elders of the church eat first.

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Speaker 1: Just you know, sometimes it's respectful thing to do. Now.

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Speaker 1: The first lady fool. Now she know her husband late

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Speaker 1: because he working. He fixed a pastor a plate, set

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Speaker 1: let the back quiet and ate what's your board? And

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Speaker 1: eight everybody in line, the damn Male Quartet, the Singing

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Speaker 1: Sensationals Data and eight with their name the Singing Sensation

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Speaker 1: Day don eight They big ass, all them big. So

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Speaker 1: when you get up there, it's time for y'all to

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Speaker 1: fix the plate. Ain't nothing but chicken legs, wingers and burgers.

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Speaker 1: Left your hunderds all wine. Ain't cause he didn't get

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Speaker 1: come to church enough to get the damn piece. You won't.

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Speaker 1: So he went on a hunt from old chicken. But

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Speaker 1: he walked around asking people if they would either leg

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Speaker 1: their plate. Hook on the people play for the eight man,

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Speaker 1: you want the leg right here? So I had that

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Speaker 1: thigh or that or that or that breath. I got

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Speaker 1: a leg? Who wanted a leg? That damn you stupid.

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Speaker 1: But when I come back, let me tell you how

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Speaker 1: ignority he is. I want to hear it all right.

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Speaker 1: Part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: after the hour Today's Strawberry Letters subject my husband is

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Speaker 1: an embarrassing butt head. We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. Listen, man and went over to the past

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Speaker 1: is how he got invited to this damn food. Went

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Speaker 1: The pastor's wife made him a plate, put it on

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Speaker 1: the san rap because he late. He out there doing

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Speaker 1: church work. He's savings, savor hoods want to play the food. No,

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Speaker 1: listen that time, human, isn't no church going ass get up.

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Speaker 1: There ain't nothing on the ain't nothing level leg wieners

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Speaker 1: and burgers. He whining because he didn't get the chicken

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Speaker 1: he wanted. So he went on a hunt round more chicken.

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Speaker 1: Went around the backyard, asking people who to fix their play.

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Speaker 1: Black people don't take food, don't they play in hand

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Speaker 1: to teach? Now he got a leg on a trade

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Speaker 1: or thigh for breast for one of these little ragged legs.

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Speaker 1: This lady, I'm so embarrassed. But what he did next

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Speaker 1: was the shocka this food. Went over to the pastor's

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Speaker 1: plate that's wrapped in suran rapp got the two barbecue

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Speaker 1: back up. One of them mothers of church shold him

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Speaker 1: he couldn't do that. This ply was pastors should have

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Speaker 1: he get anyway. Hold on, man, let me talk to

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Speaker 1: you a little bit, pardoner. Come on. Pastor them invited

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Speaker 1: you over their house. This pastor house. He the man

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Speaker 1: of this house. See, I don't know where you You

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Speaker 1: obviously ain't had no daddy, because your daddy would have

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Speaker 1: knocked your ass out for doing that. But you ain't

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Speaker 1: and then your pastors should have been here pastor at work.

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Speaker 1: This passed the house. He ain't got to come here

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Speaker 1: to fit in this way. He lived right, it'll be

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Speaker 1: cold by the time he get here, anyway. Are you serious?

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Speaker 1: First of all, you walking around pquining about the You

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Speaker 1: didn't get that piece of chicken you want it. You

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Speaker 1: didn't pay for this. This wasn't a paid bobbie que potna.

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Speaker 1: This wasn't invite potna. Somebody invited your monks ass over here.

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Speaker 1: You eating free. You ain't bought no chicken. This ain't

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Speaker 1: the buffet as sizzless your ass is eating just this

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Speaker 1: ain't the buffet a sizzless partner. Well you go back

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Speaker 1: of baby backs Now, I don't pay this step ninety

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Speaker 1: five is all you can eat. Ain't no more damn

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Speaker 1: baby back. I came in here for the baby back

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Speaker 1: you've got in free. Yeah, this is crazy. Now you

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Speaker 1: sitting up in here, tell of the pass should have

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Speaker 1: been here now the ladies said, almost passed out right there,

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Speaker 1: got my belongers. I told you we need to leave.

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Speaker 1: Needless to say I'm gonna be the center of gossip

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Speaker 1: at the church tomorrow. Yes you will, because your husband's stupid.

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Speaker 1: Your husband's stupid. He ain't no real But that ain't

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Speaker 1: the time. Everything has to go his way, or he

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Speaker 1: started complaining and wine. See you know what your husband

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Speaker 1: really need? Your husband really need his ass with one

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Speaker 1: good time for taking somebody's chicken. That's want to assi,

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Speaker 1: that's wine. It ought to be another asshole. Yes, and

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Speaker 1: then you know how he don't know that you had

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Speaker 1: another man's house. You can't make rules at another man house, partner.

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Speaker 1: It's free. You didn't pay, and you can't have everything

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Speaker 1: you want in life. So what you got the legs?

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Speaker 1: Legs taste just like breast. It's just a different bite,

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Speaker 1: that's all it is. It's same dog for me, it's

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Speaker 1: just a different bite. Everything hasn't go his way. He

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Speaker 1: him to see that it's not always about him? He'd

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Speaker 1: been thinking it's about him. I am sick of him

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Speaker 1: who are here to say this all the time, but

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Speaker 1: by Felicia, leave, leave his ass for a while until

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Speaker 1: you learn how to act right. You're married to a fool.

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Speaker 1: This man is not embarrassing. He's foolish. Who goes around

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Speaker 1: the barbecue asking for food off people's plate because you

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Speaker 1: didn't get what on your plate you wanted to? Who that?

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Speaker 1: Who go in another man's house that he lives in,

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Speaker 1: that his wife had made a platefall, You unwrapid so

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Speaker 1: you can eat what's on his plate, and then you say,

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Speaker 1: pastor should have been here. It's gonna be cold by

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Speaker 1: the time. Again, Hold on, man, this this man's house. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this pastor should walk up in there. Whoop your ass?

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Speaker 1: What pastor or to do? Do you look at? That's why,

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Speaker 1: that's why everybody become on Steve, you missed your calling.

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Speaker 1: I ain't never been called to the minister. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: tell y'all. I grew up in the church. My mom

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Speaker 1: I don't think I'm called, Because as a pastor, I

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Speaker 1: don't see no reason why he can't get his ass

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Speaker 1: right now in my house. Now, my wife tell me

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Speaker 1: I come in the back, y'all march to say, baby,

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Speaker 1: I had you played, but this man ate it way?

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Speaker 1: Man holder? What man way? Man holder? Baby, you made

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Speaker 1: me a play and another man ain't who what man

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Speaker 1: ain't my past? Did he know it was my playt Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he said you you took too long getting and it

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Speaker 1: in the stomach, real heart, he threw up cold chickens.

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