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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the show. We answer your questions on

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Speaker 1: meals with them, and so you're not alone. Don't be

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Speaker 1: alone in this. Make sure you just keep talking about this.

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Speaker 1: And another thing to throw out is find a common

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Speaker 1: ground with the seventeen and nineteen year old. We said

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Speaker 1: this in the last podcast. Find something you probably won't

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Speaker 1: like it, but find something that they love and dig

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Speaker 1: into that. If it's NASCAR racing, or if it's video games,

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Speaker 1: doesn't matter. Find something they love and then that you're

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Speaker 1: in join them in that, and then start that community

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one thing I'll mention that Granger just said but

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Speaker 2: didn't go into was pray, like, just continue to pray

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Speaker 2: like I have seen in my life. I know Grangeer

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Speaker 2: has seen situations that can look like this. And if

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Speaker 2: you are just diligent in bringing it before God. Diligent

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Speaker 2: not just oh yeah, I'm gonna pray about that letter, No,

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Speaker 2: but like sit in the stillness with God and beg

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Speaker 2: him and plead with him. Petition. I think your heart

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Speaker 2: gets changed. I think you start to hear the voice

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Speaker 2: of God and how to practically act these things out

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Speaker 2: a little clearer. And I think that you can see

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Speaker 2: His spirit work in these two older kids, in the

462
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Speaker 2: younger kids, and maybe a change in your wife's mental state.

463
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Speaker 2: If we just pray to a God that hears us

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Speaker 2: and wants to draw near and show mercy. So just pray.

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Speaker 2: I know it doesn't sound like much, but I do

466
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Speaker 2: believe it's like one of the most powerful things that

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Speaker 2: we have and that we can do.

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Speaker 1: So let me take that thought prayer. Okay, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: and kind of just finishing a thought from the last question,

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Speaker 1: and we were talking about there was this situation where, uh,

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Speaker 1: there's a there's a stepdad and he's got a couple

525
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Speaker 1: of teenage kids that have checked out, two younger kids together.

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Speaker 1: The wife is she's struggling with mental health issues, and

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Speaker 1: we're talking about plugging into the local church we're talking about.

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Speaker 1: Bernie was talking about praying and how the power of

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Speaker 1: prayer and so there's one more thing out kind of

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Speaker 1: on an app to this, and that is Bernie's so right.

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Speaker 1: We typically use prayer as like the last thing, like

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Speaker 1: I've done everything I can and I've even prayed, instead

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Speaker 1: of using that as what the Bible would tell us

534
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Speaker 1: is that is our first.

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Speaker 3: Thing we do. I've been studying James in the.

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Speaker 1: Bible, the brother of our Lord, the step brother. By

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Speaker 1: the way, and he was known I read in a

538
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Speaker 1: commentary he was known as having They called him old

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Speaker 1: camel knees because his knees were so worn and leathery,

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Speaker 1: because he was always on his knees praying. Wow, isn't

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Speaker 1: that crazy?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 1: Oh, if I could one day be called old camel knees, Like, Oh, Granger,

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Speaker 1: that dude is always.

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Speaker 3: On his knees.

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Speaker 1: Man, Like if that if the brother of Jesus was

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Speaker 1: prayed so much that his knees were worn out and leathery,

548
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Speaker 1: what did he know? If anyone knew anything about prayer

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Speaker 1: on the mortal level, don't you think it would be

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Speaker 1: someone that lived and grew up with that man grew

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Speaker 1: up with Jesus? What does that say for us? Martin Luther,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna kind of just say this loosely. Martin Luther,

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Speaker 1: the Old Reformer said, quoted loosely something like, I am

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Speaker 1: so busy, it's gonna take me weeks to pray for

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Speaker 1: all this stuff. So what are we missing with this?

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Speaker 1: Here's my point. When Bernie brings up prayer and I

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Speaker 1: bring up local church, I would like to also combine

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Speaker 1: those two things and not forget that those things also

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Speaker 1: go together, and when you're talking to people and they

560
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Speaker 1: say how you doing and you say, I'm fine, man,

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Speaker 1: how are you And they're like, man, I'm good, cool, busy, cool,

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Speaker 1: me too, Okay bye.

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Speaker 3: That is a normal conversation between two dudes.

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Speaker 1: But what I need you to do, when I want

565
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Speaker 1: to encourage you to do, is to say, man, be

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Speaker 1: honest with you and struggling. It's been it's been a

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Speaker 1: little bit of a season for us. My wife is

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Speaker 1: she's been struggling, and I could appreciate your prayers if

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Speaker 1: you could pray for me and specifically for our two

570
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Speaker 1: kids or two step kids have kind of checked out.

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Speaker 1: They're seventeen and nineteen, and I'm worried about them, and

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Speaker 1: I could use your prayers. When I hear that, as

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Speaker 1: a Christian, when I hear that, my heart just kind

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Speaker 1: of flutters a little bit. It gets it kind of

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Speaker 1: enlarges a little bit because I feel like what I

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Speaker 1: hear is, hey, Granger, we're recruiting you to the army.

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Speaker 1: Would you come with us and fight this battle with us?

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Speaker 1: And I love that kind of language because I'm like, yes,

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Speaker 1: what are the name what are the names of the kids?

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Speaker 1: Give me seventeen nineteen. Sometimes, if I'm thinking about it,

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Speaker 1: I'll pull out my phone, give me their name seventeen nineteen,

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Speaker 1: and your wife, what's her name. I want to know

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Speaker 1: this stuff because then I want to be able to

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Speaker 1: go and I want in my prayer life because I

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm doing something as a Christian that I'm

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Speaker 1: called to do. Praying for others, praying for the well

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Speaker 1: being of others. It has nothing to do with me.

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Speaker 1: So don't be afraid to tell I'm speaking to all

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Speaker 1: Christians right now. Don't be afraid to tell your brothers

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Speaker 1: and sisters what's.

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Speaker 3: Going on in your life.

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Speaker 1: There's a difference between self deprecation and depression and just

593
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Speaker 1: bringing people down with negativity.

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Speaker 3: I'm not saying that.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying, brother, I appreciate it if you could

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Speaker 1: say a few prayers from my grandpa. He hadn't been

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Speaker 1: doing too good and we're worried about grandma. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'll pray for that tonight.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think the depth of community just grows and grows

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Speaker 2: when you do that, the depth of relationship. When I'm

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Speaker 2: vulnerable enough to say like I did, like maybe earlier,

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Speaker 2: you know, for the podcast like, hey, man, struggling with this,

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Speaker 2: It's like you're inviting that person into a deeper relationship

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Speaker 2: you're sharing with him, like, hey, I trust you. And

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Speaker 2: I would say the majority of the time, the response

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Speaker 2: that you're going to get is let me join you

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Speaker 2: in that. Let me let me join you in that.

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Speaker 2: There's not going to be any you know, making fun

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Speaker 2: of you or like, oh we get it together.

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Speaker 3: You don't.

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Speaker 2: It's not going to be I guarantee you it's not

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Speaker 2: going to be like that. So you're gonna then be

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Speaker 2: able to enjoy just that feeling of community and that

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Speaker 2: feeling of okay perspective, not in this alone and grange

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Speaker 2: your nose. And he is advocating, He is interceding for me.

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Speaker 2: It's not just me. God, God hears us. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think you're.

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Speaker 3: Right on man, dude.

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Speaker 1: It just opens up And I don't want to go

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Speaker 1: too far on this, because we could talk the whole

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Speaker 1: podcast just about this, but it goes so far because

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Speaker 1: then when I see you next week, I say, how's

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Speaker 1: your wife, how's the kids? Okay, you know, and we're

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Speaker 1: getting updates. And then it also opens my eyes in

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Speaker 1: the community of hey, did you know that that the

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Speaker 1: so and so company is hiring nineteen year olds.

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Speaker 3: Did you know that?

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Speaker 1: I just saw it, but I thought about your kids

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Speaker 1: because you mentioned they were kind of checked out, and

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Speaker 1: then I was praying for him. And then the other

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Speaker 1: day it's weird. I saw it we're hiring sign in

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Speaker 1: the window, and I thought about your kids. I thought maybe,

634
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: and maybe that's the thing, and then it triggers and

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Speaker 1: God works in that way, and then they call and

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Speaker 1: then they get a job, and then that's something they

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Speaker 1: become passionate.

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Speaker 3: About and it changes everything. Just from you opening up

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Speaker 3: your prayer life.

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Speaker 2: There's really nothing cooler in this life than feeling like

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Speaker 2: you are kind of caught up in something bigger than yourself.

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Speaker 2: I can't tell you how many times Granger, you know,

643
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Speaker 2: could probably attest to this. How many times I have

644
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Speaker 2: been praying for you and God just lays something on

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Speaker 2: me and I'm like, hey, Gris, I don't know what

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Speaker 2: this means, but man, I feel like you know this

647
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Speaker 2: is going on, or you tell me something. I was like, oh, man,

648
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Speaker 2: and you text me back or you call me or

649
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Speaker 2: we talk and you're like, bro, you have no idea.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I had no idea.

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Speaker 3: That's true.

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Speaker 2: That's that's the coolest thing to be a part of.

653
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Speaker 2: To just feel like, man, there's something bigger working in

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Speaker 2: us that if we're just sensitive to the spirit and

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Speaker 2: advocating intercede for people. Sometimes he just gives us these

656
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Speaker 2: little you know, you know, easter eggs of like, hey,

657
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 2: you need to you need to text Johnny and uh

658
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Speaker 2: and just ask him specifically about this. And you do

659
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:31,359
Speaker 2: that and he calls you immediately, I need to come

660
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,719
Speaker 2: to your office and you sit and you talk to

661
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Speaker 2: him for an hour. That stuff happens. It does happen,

662
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 2: and it's something I wish I was a part of

663
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 2: more often. But I love being a part of it because,

664
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Speaker 2: like Granger said, you feel like you're a part of

665
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 2: this fight. You're you're you're locked arms with the spirit,

666
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Speaker 2: and uh, it's just really really cool.

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Speaker 3: Love it, man, Let's go to the next question here.

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Speaker 1: Oh buddy, I think I just saw the time some

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Speaker 1: decline says judgment in heaven. Hey, Granger, my name is Tristan.

670
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Speaker 1: I'm twenty five from Kansas. Love the podcast, Love Your Music.

671
00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:12,280
Speaker 1: I learn more and more about God and the Bible

672
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:15,360
Speaker 1: every day. But I recently had a conversation with a

673
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 1: relative about heaven. They claim there is no judgment in heaven,

674
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Speaker 1: so when a family member or a friend passes away,

675
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 1: they won't remember you as there is no positive or

676
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 1: negative judgment. I know, once you go to heaven you

677
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: are forgiven of your sins. But does that mean people

678
00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 1: only remember the good things? Do they remember anything at all?

679
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 1: Just some thoughts of mine? Thank you well, Tristan. Let's

680
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Speaker 1: dive into this. Thank you for emailing. I appreciate you, brother, and.

681
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Speaker 3: I love that.

682
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Speaker 1: Right at the top of this email you say I'm

683
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Speaker 1: learning more and more about God in the Bible every day.

684
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Speaker 3: I love that.

685
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Speaker 2: Keep saying that, keep.

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Speaker 1: Saying that, Yeah, you are going to through this. Through

687
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Speaker 1: through your learning, you're going to run into a lot

688
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:16,800
Speaker 1: of people that say a lot of things, relatives, TikTok whatever,

689
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 1: and you're gonna hear a lot of things about God

690
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: in the Bible. It's very important to not take that

691
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Speaker 1: as how you learn from a relative, or from social

692
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,880
Speaker 1: media or from Google. But we learn things from the

693
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Speaker 1: Bible itself. It's very important to not rely not even

694
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Speaker 1: on devotionals. We could use them to supplement, but we

695
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:46,320
Speaker 1: don't even rely on anything but the Word of God itself.

696
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 1: And then when you're doing that and you're feasting on that,

697
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 1: and you're reading that daily, you're going to see things

698
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 1: in there that answer questions that you didn't even know

699
00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 1: that it was right there in front of you. For instance,

700
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,399
Speaker 1: we can go a couple of different couple of ways

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Speaker 1: with your email. I don't I don't think this is

702
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Speaker 1: like a theology question. I don't think that's what this

703
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 1: is about. So I'm not going to dive into, you know,

704
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Speaker 1: the theology of heaven. I'm not. I'll just kind of

705
00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 1: lightly brush over it. But you'll see things. For instance,

706
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Speaker 1: like you said, I know, once you go to heaven

707
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Speaker 1: you are forgiven of your sins. That's not true. You

708
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:35,279
Speaker 1: say you know that, but that's not true. Your sins

709
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:40,280
Speaker 1: are forgiven when you repent and believe in Jesus on earth.

710
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:46,279
Speaker 1: Your sins can be forgiven today, much less when you

711
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 1: get to heaven today. Right now, by the time you die,

712
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: it's too late, it is too late to make these

713
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: kind of life changes. Right so, by the time you

714
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Speaker 1: get to heaven, the only the only people that will

715
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Speaker 1: be in Heaven are the ones that were forgiven on earth,

716
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Speaker 1: right does that make sense? But that's just that's very

717
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Speaker 1: simple Bible stuff. What's also kind of concerning, And it's

718
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Speaker 1: not really concerning because I know that you're learning and

719
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 1: you're wanting to grow, but but I want to kind

720
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Speaker 1: of show you here that your questions are these These

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Speaker 1: are like very universal type ideas, like everyone dies. Like

722
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Speaker 1: what I'm getting from your email is everyone dies, everyone

723
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 1: goes to heaven, everyone has no judgment once they're there,

724
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Speaker 1: positive or negative. And then where do we go? What's

725
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Speaker 1: where do we go from that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? What do we remember?

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Speaker 3: That's not Bernie help me here? Where do you think

728
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 3: I'm trying not to get too deep? Yeah?

729
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that the does he say his.

730
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Speaker 3: Age twenty five?

731
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Speaker 2: Okay, so we have a fully formed close to fully

732
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Speaker 2: formed brain that we're talking to here. I think you're

733
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Speaker 2: probably getting in some conversations with some people maybe a

734
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Speaker 2: little bit older, that are throwing a bunch of stuff

735
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Speaker 2: at you, and you don't really know how to defend

736
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Speaker 2: your faith and you don't really know what the Bible says.

737
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Speaker 2: So I think, like Granger said, like always be just studying,

738
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Speaker 2: just like we are studying and learning, because there's a

739
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Speaker 2: lot there. I did he have a question at the Bible.

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Speaker 1: It's it's basically, once you get to heaven, your sins

741
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Speaker 1: are forgiven, he says, But does that mean you'll only

742
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Speaker 1: remember the good things or do you remember anything at all?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think what Granger and I could say

744
00:40:54,920 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 2: here is probably I don't want to say irrelevant. But

745
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 2: you have to go and wrestle with this yourself. If

746
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 2: you're really gonna know, and you're really gonna learn, and

747
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:16,480
Speaker 2: you're really gonna be convicted, I think you need to

748
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 2: go take the word, you need to study it. You

749
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 2: need to get connected with other believers, other non believers,

750
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 2: like be curious to have these conversations and wrestle wrestle

751
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 2: with the question. I think it's great that you're, you know,

752
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:39,000
Speaker 2: emailing into the podcast and kind of getting getting some

753
00:41:39,040 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 2: feedback and some understanding. But I don't think that this

754
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 2: is a they're wrong, You're right, Here's here's where we

755
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 2: need to change the theology.

756
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 3: That's right.

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Speaker 2: I think it's a lot broader of a question that

758
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: what best thing we can do is say, go find

759
00:41:56,520 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 2: out for yourself. Dig in and go find out for yourself. Yeah,

760
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 2: there's definitely some things here theologically that just are misunderstandings

761
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Speaker 2: or he's been told other things.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I want you to look up something, Tristan,

763
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 1: And it's not like you could look it up. And

764
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Speaker 1: there's one place I want you to read through in context,

765
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:24,560
Speaker 1: meaning don't google averse. Please don't do that. Don't ever

766
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 1: google a verse and look and see if it applies

767
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,279
Speaker 1: to your life. Instead, I want you to read in

768
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Speaker 1: context through the New Testament. Let's say you want to

769
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,440
Speaker 1: start him in Matthew, start start in Matthew. It's going

770
00:42:36,480 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: to start with the genealogy of Christ or John, it's

771
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: going to start with creation. And I want you to

772
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Speaker 1: read through in context. And my question to you is

773
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Speaker 1: are you going to Heaven? Are you going?

774
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 3: Do you have a ticket?

775
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,359
Speaker 1: Basically, that's what I'm asking And that's not for your

776
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: relative to answer. That's not for for a my podcast

777
00:42:57,520 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 1: to answer, that's not for Google to answer. That's for

778
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: John or Matthew or Mark or Luke or Romans or

779
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Speaker 1: anything in the New Testament really to answer. For you,

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Speaker 1: I want you to find that answer.

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Speaker 3: Are you going?

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00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:17,160
Speaker 1: Challenge you? I challenge you that, Tristan, and I challenge

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Speaker 1: you not to google it. This is why I say Google,

784
00:43:20,400 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 1: I was thinking about this this morning. The problem so

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00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: many times, especially today, is that it depends on this

786
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 1: is what I was thinking. Okay, tell me if I'm wrong.

787
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Speaker 1: I was thinking about this this morning my workout. It

788
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 1: depends on what lens we're looking through. So, say we

789
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:41,200
Speaker 1: have glasses. You could put glasses on, and through that

790
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 1: lens you see things, and so so many times what

791
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,880
Speaker 1: we want to do is we want to take the

792
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Speaker 1: lens of the world, our lives, our situations, our problems,

793
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:56,399
Speaker 1: our community, our culture, and we put that those glasses on,

794
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Speaker 1: and then we want to read the Bible through our culture,

795
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Speaker 1: through our own problems, through who we are. We read

796
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Speaker 1: the Bible and we see the Bible through that lens.

797
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,800
Speaker 1: But that's not what we're supposed to do. We're supposed

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Speaker 1: to put on the lens of the Bible. I was

799
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Speaker 1: thinking about this. The Bible are the lenses you put

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Speaker 1: those glasses on, and so when you see the world,

801
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: you're seeing it through the lens of the Bible. So

802
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 1: then you look at your problems you're suffering, your questions

803
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:27,840
Speaker 1: about Heaven and judgment, your questions about sins, your questions

804
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 1: about oh what happens after you die. The questions about

805
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 1: everything pop culture, but you're always looking at that through

806
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: the lens of the Bible, not the other way around.

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Speaker 2: That's good, That's really good.

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Speaker 3: So be very careful.

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Speaker 1: That's why I say put the lens of the Bible on,

810
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Speaker 1: put the glasses of the Bible.

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Speaker 3: On, and then find out this answer. Are you going

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00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 3: to heaven? Yeah?

813
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,879
Speaker 2: Take Grainger's challenge and then email us back. Yeah, if

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Speaker 2: you're willing to. I mean, the thing is is like

815
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 2: it's not easy, like getting up early and studying and

816
00:45:03,280 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 2: taking this seriously. It is a serious matter, so I

817
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 2: think it should be.

818
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 3: But it's not easy.

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Speaker 2: But I guarantee you if you take the challenge, I

820
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 2: would love to hear about your journey through it. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: what you discover about this question, but also just in

822
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 2: your own faith journey. But thanks for writing in.

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Speaker 3: Yes. Great.

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Speaker 1: Next question says brothers dead in combat. Hey grangeur My

825
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Speaker 1: brother is a US Air Force para rescue man PJ.

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Speaker 3: And.

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Speaker 1: On June ninth, twenty ten, helicopter Pedro sixty six was

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Speaker 1: shot down in Afghanistan on the way to rescue injured

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Speaker 1: soldiers on the battlefield. Two of his teammates died in

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Speaker 1: the crash. Their names were Benjamin White and Mike Flores.

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Speaker 1: He is still active duty and doesn't say much about combat.

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Speaker 1: He assures me everything is fine. A few times I

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Speaker 1: have seen him cry and vent about that day. We

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Speaker 1: my family try to console him with messages about the Lord,

835
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Speaker 1: et cetera. We were both raised Catholic, but I do

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Speaker 1: not think that he is a believer on the scale

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Speaker 1: like I am. He would reply with things like why

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Speaker 1: would God let my friends burn to death in a

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Speaker 1: helicopter crash? Is there anything you could offer him to

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Speaker 1: help understand why such events happen? I imagine you feel the

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00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:23,680
Speaker 1: same pain as he does with the loss of river.

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Speaker 1: Thank you God, bless And is there not a name?

843
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:34,400
Speaker 1: There's not a name? Call this call it, call it anonymous.

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Speaker 2: How much time we got on this one?

845
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Speaker 1: We got about six minutes, seven minutes, which is not

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Speaker 1: enough time for a question like that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think at the end he's asking like, do you

849
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:51,839
Speaker 2: have anything for him? But I think, really what we

850
00:46:51,880 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 2: need to have is something for this guy. Ye brother

851
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 2: is probably not listening. Yeah, I don't know if we

852
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 2: have anything for him anyway.

853
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:03,160
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, I think that's great. I see that

854
00:47:03,200 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: so many times on this podcast. The person emailing might

855
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: need to hear what we need to say more than

856
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:11,439
Speaker 1: the person they're asking about. And if at least it's

857
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 1: like the uh the idea on an airplane when you're

858
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 1: when the oxygen mask drop, put the mask on yourself first,

859
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 1: then your kids. So if because if you pass out,

860
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 1: you ain't helping anybody, right, So.

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Speaker 2: One message to your brother from us is thank you

862
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 2: for your service. Like I can't imagine what he's put

863
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Speaker 2: himself through and just losing his brothers that way in combat,

864
00:47:36,880 --> 00:47:39,320
Speaker 2: And yeah, thank you for your service.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, totally agree what I'm gonna say. I'm gonna say something.

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Speaker 1: I say a lot of things on this podcast, and

868
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:51,360
Speaker 1: not always they might not always come across as nice,

869
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:54,360
Speaker 1: but I don't I don't need to be nice, and

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Speaker 1: it's like I'm not in the business of being nice.

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Speaker 1: I genuinely love you, man, and I feel your heart

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Speaker 1: in this email. You took so much time to write

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Speaker 1: about your brother because he's hurting and you're listening to

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Speaker 1: my podcast and you're just taking a shot like maybe

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Speaker 1: there's a chance Grange will read it, and maybe there's

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Speaker 1: a chance my brother can get help. So I love

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Speaker 1: you for that, man, I love your heart. So what

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say that I don't want to come across

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Speaker 1: wrong is I don't think you are saved. I don't

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Speaker 1: think you're a Christian. And please don't take that the

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Speaker 1: wrong way, because I only mean it in a way

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Speaker 1: to help spur you and cultivate that ground that you're

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Speaker 1: standing on a little bit.

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Speaker 2: Because I think that's great and I think like you

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Speaker 2: can definitely, I think you got more to say. But

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Speaker 2: if you stop listening now, which is fine because you

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Speaker 2: heard what Granger said and you're like, ah ah, take

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Speaker 2: that question and go to your brother and you guys,

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Speaker 2: wrestle through that. He says that, I mean, be a Christian?

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Speaker 3: What do you think?

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Speaker 2: And you, guys, like, start down that journey together. One.

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Speaker 2: There's going to be a lot of probably healing from

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Speaker 2: trauma in that that you'll get to wrestle through together.

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Speaker 2: But hopefully there is salvation on the other side of

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Speaker 2: it that you feel confident in and you actually know.

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Speaker 1: So sorry, I just had no Yeah, that's great and

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Speaker 1: because and the part of the reason I get that

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Speaker 1: that feeling is you first of all being a Christian

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Speaker 1: is not how you were raised.

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Speaker 3: And you said I was raised Catholic. But here's the key.

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Speaker 1: But I do not think he is a believer on

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Speaker 1: the scale like I am. There is no scale of

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Speaker 1: being a believer. A we are all wretched sinners, rebels, undeserving,

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Speaker 1: saved by grace through faith. That's a Christian, undeserving. God

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Speaker 1: have mercy on me, a sinner. That's what the tax

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Speaker 1: collector said. And he was the one justified, not the

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Speaker 1: Pharisee that said, thank God, I'm not like him, thank

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Speaker 1: God he's not on my scale.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I wonder, I wonder what he I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: think of, like any other way that he could have

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Speaker 2: said that and meant that other than what you're saying

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Speaker 2: right now. I don't know how else other than a

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Speaker 2: you know, a scale that Catholicism will you know, kind

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Speaker 2: of lead you towards, which I think you just addressed.

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Speaker 2: I'm just thinking about if we do this live like

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Speaker 2: some of these follow up questions, what is that going to.

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Speaker 3: Be like people not like me?

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Speaker 1: Brother, I don't believe you're a Christian, and I don't

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Speaker 1: believe you're on any scale, and I don't believe you're

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Speaker 1: going to heaven.

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Speaker 3: And I would wrestle with that.

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Speaker 1: And I say that in a way that I hope

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Speaker 1: challenges you to go to the Word and go to

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Speaker 1: the cross, go to the foot of the cross, and

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Speaker 1: see your suffering savior on that cross, nailed to cross,

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Speaker 1: with blood coming down in a way that he was

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Speaker 1: so deformed he was unrecognizable as a human. And when

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Speaker 1: you look at why he did that, because me and you,

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Speaker 1: and Bernie and your brother here rebelled against him, and

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Speaker 1: all of humanity rebelled against Christ. And the only way

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Speaker 1: to reconcile us to him was to go to the

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Speaker 1: cross and sacrifice as the spotless lamb, the once and

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Speaker 1: for all final sacrifice for us to trade so that

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Speaker 1: he could pay, so that in full he could pay

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Speaker 1: the price of our wretchedness. And when you see that

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Speaker 1: for what it is, and when you see that the

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Speaker 1: wrath of God, the wrath of God that is upon

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Speaker 1: me and you, was satisfied through the Cross, through that sacrifice.

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Speaker 1: And when that wrath was satisfied, those that look upon

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Speaker 1: it and believe and turn away from their lives and

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Speaker 1: trust in it.

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Speaker 3: Are saved.

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Speaker 1: And I believe through your email that the wrath of

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Speaker 1: God is still upon you. As I say, seek him,

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Speaker 1: go to him, take on his mercy, see him on

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Speaker 1: the cross as that suffering savior. And when that happens

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Speaker 1: and you believe and you're saved, things will change also

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Speaker 1: for your brother, because when he sees that happen to you,

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Speaker 1: he will see things in a different light. He will

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Speaker 1: see death in a different way. Put the oxygen mask

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Speaker 1: on you first, and then your brother.

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Speaker 3: That's what we got.

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Speaker 2: Love you guys, Amen, See you next time.

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Speaker 3: See y.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate all of you.

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Speaker 3: Guys.

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