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Speaker 1: What's Up and slip service. I'm Angela Yee, I'm maguire

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Speaker 1: And we got two special guests with us today, Cassandra

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Speaker 1: Comings and Mashanda to Frere. All right, Well, first of all,

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Speaker 1: I was just in Vegas with Cassandra. We were doing

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Speaker 1: the Stocks and still Lettos event that you had out

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Speaker 1: there was just all about money and women and finances.

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Speaker 1: I enjoyed that so much. I had a good time.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you have fun because not only was it

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Speaker 1: in Vegas, I mean, you know, but I did. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna say this, I met a lot of amazing women

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Speaker 1: that weekend. There were some women that like I only

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Speaker 1: spoke to on social media, that I've never met in person,

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Speaker 1: Like Divine she owns the hotels young black women. She's

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Speaker 1: thirty five years old, right, and she owns all these hotels.

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Speaker 1: Stuff like that is so inspiring to me. And so,

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Speaker 1: you know, we were hanging out angel investors, all kinds

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Speaker 1: of different women. Now, Mashanda and I have been friends forever,

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Speaker 1: and I actually have been posting like a lot of

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Speaker 1: the artwork that I've been getting. It's Mashanda always puts

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Speaker 1: me up on everything, so she'll send me like text

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Speaker 1: messages and be like, tell me if you like anydies,

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Speaker 1: check this out. Or she'll be like, look, this woman

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Speaker 1: is an artist, she's from Brooklyn, she's young, but she

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Speaker 1: really wants another black woman from Brooklyn, and I think

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Speaker 1: this would be perfect for you. And so she always

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Speaker 1: kind of knows what I like. So definitely Angela is

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Speaker 1: like an up and coming serious collector. So I love

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Speaker 1: that for her. Yeah, because you know where to put

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Speaker 1: your money. You've always known where to put your money,

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Speaker 1: So I don't know if I've always known that. And

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Speaker 1: we're going to talk about that for a while. So

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you, Machana about how you

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Speaker 1: even got into that in the first place, because we

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Speaker 1: were first introduced to you as a recording artist, right,

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Speaker 1: and then obviously we know the whole story. You and

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Speaker 1: Swiz ended up getting married, having a kid, getting divorced.

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Speaker 1: It was a very public situation. But now I feel

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Speaker 1: like you're very at peace. Definitely peace piece was the goal. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and and then Cassandra, what's your situation because I met

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Speaker 1: your daughter while we were in Vegas. Single, honey, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm single, ready to mingle. Ain't you to say on

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Speaker 1: that one? Bit right. I'm almost fifty, so you know

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Speaker 1: I'm good. All right, So what was your situation. I've

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Speaker 1: never been married, um one baby daddy, and you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm just sort of always I've always sort of been

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Speaker 1: in finances. I got a degree in the county, so

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Speaker 1: I just kind of been moving in the whole finance

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Speaker 1: world for a long time. So my situation as far

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Speaker 1: as like my relationships, I think I have friends. I

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Speaker 1: ask you ladies this and congrats she just sold a

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Speaker 1: house that I think that we're all having this conversation

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Speaker 1: right now. Do you feel like, once your finances are

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Speaker 1: more together that you can make better decisions when it

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Speaker 1: comes to relationships or do you feel like you can

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Speaker 1: just be more liberated and date whoever you want. When

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Speaker 1: you have money and you have independence and financial stability,

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Speaker 1: it definitely creates a barrier for bullshit. You know, you

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Speaker 1: you date differently, um, you interact differently, and a lot

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Speaker 1: I think a lot of men sometimes find that intimidating

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Speaker 1: and most most of the time, but I think for

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Speaker 1: women that are doing their thing and they have careers

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Speaker 1: and they're making money, you just don't have time for

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Speaker 1: all the bullshit. Honestly, I don't know if they find

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Speaker 1: it intimidating. I think they just don't know what to

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Speaker 1: having been a program to really deal with funk with

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Speaker 1: women that have money like that. And Black women are

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Speaker 1: really like making strides. We're like the fastest drawing group

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Speaker 1: of entrepreneurs. So you know, it's a lot of black

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Speaker 1: women out here that's got like real money and dudes

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Speaker 1: don't know what to do with that. How do you then,

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Speaker 1: like protect your money when it comes to being in

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Speaker 1: a relationship, like would you did a guy that doesn't

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Speaker 1: have as much as you do? And then when it

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Speaker 1: comes to like paying bills or going out to eat

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Speaker 1: and things like that, buying gifts, Like how do you

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Speaker 1: financially thriving. It's difficult. It is difficult because I don't

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Speaker 1: of money. You know. So I do find myself once

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Speaker 1: in a while in situations where I'm with someone that

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Speaker 1: isn't as financially stable, but I love being with them,

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Speaker 1: so I don't mind, you know, taking care of the

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Speaker 1: bill once in a while, or it's all good, Like

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Speaker 1: what if you like, I'm want to go to Cabo?

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Speaker 1: I know he ain't got it. Are you gonna? Have

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Speaker 1: you ever taken somebody on a vacation? Yes, me too. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't say nothing wrong with that, okay, because some

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Speaker 1: women won't do that, Like some people have an issue with,

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Speaker 1: you know, paying for things. Some people don't even I

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Speaker 1: know women who won't even pay for themself, Like there

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Speaker 1: will be less problem, he got. Yeah, but I've had

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Speaker 1: guys tell me that you shouldn't be paying for yourself,

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Speaker 1: Like I've had guys tell me like I would not

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Speaker 1: allow a woman to buy her own flight, to pay

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Speaker 1: for the room, to do those things, to pay for dinner,

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Speaker 1: like I've had guys say that. I've had guys like

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Speaker 1: make it a point to send me money every week,

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Speaker 1: and it was, it was. And it's to the point

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Speaker 1: where like I'm feeling like is this transactional? Like why

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Speaker 1: does this person feel the need to do that? But

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Speaker 1: I feel like some men, especially older men, were raised

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Speaker 1: with that, you know, and it's it can it's equality,

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Speaker 1: but it can be a disadvantage. I don't want my

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Speaker 1: son to do that. I don't want to do it, man,

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Speaker 1: and I don't feel comfortable always taking, so I make

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Speaker 1: sure that I give as well. Okay, that's fair, And

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Speaker 1: you know what I said, you have access to I

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Speaker 1: can imagine like the type of gifts that you can

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Speaker 1: give someone because a gift from Mashana, she's like a

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Speaker 1: very thoughtful person. Like, give me an example of a

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Speaker 1: gift that you've given someone. Um, I think for some reason,

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Speaker 1: whenever I give someone art or coffee table books, like

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Speaker 1: I've given guys like really beautiful coffee table books on

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Speaker 1: topics that they love, may it be cars or wine

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Speaker 1: or watches, and they love that that and that's something

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Speaker 1: they can have forever and ever. All right, what about you, Cassandra?

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Speaker 1: Are you two? And gum no? Did you swallow it?

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Speaker 1: Just now? Okay? Ahead? What about you when it comes

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Speaker 1: to like giving gifts to a man? I mean I

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Speaker 1: have given thoughtful gifts. I like to do because I

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Speaker 1: the basket. Okay that's stuff. Yeah yeah. And money bags.

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Speaker 1: Oh man, I'm gonna happily say I'm the brokent person

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Speaker 1: on the couch right now. Okay, but I still got

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Speaker 1: the money that you got bag. That's act. Honestly. This

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Speaker 1: is why this is good though, because you know I

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Speaker 1: always encourage, like for you and Stephanie and Laura, like,

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Speaker 1: let's get these finances together. Sometimes we think that you

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Speaker 1: do not have to do that. You can actually get

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Speaker 1: there if you have a plan. Totally. Yeah. But as

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Speaker 1: far as gift giving, I am definitely a giver. I'm

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Speaker 1: also um the Gemini and me is. I'm also here

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Speaker 1: for the wild gifts. So if I really have that

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Speaker 1: kind of love and respect for you, I might go

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Speaker 1: a little further than you would think, you know, for

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Speaker 1: the wild factory, but it's always in a thoughtful way. Um.

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Speaker 1: I do think that I put a lot of thought

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Speaker 1: but my friends as well. So when I give girlfriends gifts, yeah,

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Speaker 1: which I love. I'm not that great at that. I

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Speaker 1: I just think it's nice when people do that for me, Like,

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Speaker 1: you know, sometimes that's a really nice thing. Now, when

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Speaker 1: it comes to dating guys, being in Cassandra that you're

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Speaker 1: almost fifteen and you're single, would you date a younger guy? Oh? Absolutely?

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Speaker 1: How young do you go? They have to be older

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Speaker 1: than my daughter I was, you know what tomorrow? Okay?

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Speaker 1: to me. And I'd be like, I'm probably old enough

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Speaker 1: I dream like my kids, Like that's just weird, be

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Speaker 1: But right now I'm in a space where, for one, again,

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Speaker 1: Like the sun You've got a couple different generations exactly.

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Speaker 1: It's wild and like I'm talking like twenty six. But

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Speaker 1: you know what, it's always awkward for me to like

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Speaker 1: engage because once again, my brother, my little brother's twenty

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Speaker 1: nine and I raised him. So it's like, what what

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Speaker 1: do you to? But I can't, but I will tell

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Speaker 1: you these new thirty year olds or supermature, the conversation

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Speaker 1: was different. I don't know it has to you about

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Speaker 1: his maturity level. I think you know, I'm not trying

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Speaker 1: for a good time, not a long time. You're here

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Speaker 1: for a Winston study. Let me answer this. How were

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Speaker 1: you raised as far as you're from Oakland? Right? All right?

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Speaker 1: So what about like your relationship with your dad? With

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Speaker 1: your mom? Like, how is that? So my dad's no

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Speaker 1: longer here? Um, but you know he had a lot

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Speaker 1: of women, So I got to see how a polyamorous

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Speaker 1: relationship I went down my mom. You know, she dated guys,

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Speaker 1: mom and dad. But you know, my dad definitely was

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Speaker 1: a polyamorous type of dude, How did that make you

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Speaker 1: the top of the whole little pyramid. So it's like,

427
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:46,680
Speaker 1: I feel like people be hitting you up for money

428
00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:50,360
Speaker 1: all the time. Well, that's a different conversation. Yeah, I mean,

429
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,880
Speaker 1: I'm sure that's how because you are, you know, a

430
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:57,880
Speaker 1: financial expert, and so the assumption is that you got

431
00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:03,040
Speaker 1: the money right, and she does have the money, and

432
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:06,480
Speaker 1: how do you handle that though, because you know a family,

433
00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 1: that's one of the hardest things where family is coming

434
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 1: to you. I mean, I pick and choose, you know,

435
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:18,320
Speaker 1: it's got to be a worthy situation. My thing is, like,

436
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 1: I want to give you money that I feel like

437
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:24,919
Speaker 1: you can use to better your situation, but it's not

438
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 1: to get you out of necessarily a bad situation, if

439
00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Like, I don't want to give you

440
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 1: money to just like put a band aid on it,

441
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 1: because more than likely gonna need a band another band aid. Right,

442
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,920
Speaker 1: But if I give you money to go and get

443
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 1: like a certificate or go and do like, you know, schooling,

444
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 1: that's gonna pay you back to teach you how to fish,

445
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: to teach you how to fish with this money. I'm

446
00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:50,479
Speaker 1: not gonna just you know, get you out of a

447
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 1: bad situation necessarily. All right, let me ask other ladies

448
00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:57,359
Speaker 1: in the room this question. What's more satisfying great sex

449
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:08,840
Speaker 1: or a great check? M hm, well, good check, good check.

450
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take the check over the set I've given

451
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:21,360
Speaker 1: myself some amazing orgasms. Hard, I'm gonna say that, Autumn Demons. Yeah,

452
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say I'm gonna take the great check over

453
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:27,119
Speaker 1: the great figure yourself. Okay, there there you go. You

454
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 1: know I got a drawer full of toys. Thinks the

455
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 1: lip service, So what about check? Damn um And I mean,

456
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 1: like all weekend great sex or a really great check

457
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: or a great check weekend have amazing sex, mind blowing.

458
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,920
Speaker 1: I think the check. Wow. I think you're sich a romantic.

459
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 1: I thought you was gonna say dam but I think

460
00:25:56,440 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 1: the check. We don't need yell like that because I

461
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:09,119
Speaker 1: do you know listen, sex is great, great sex is great,

462
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 1: but you could do a lot more with a great check,

463
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: you know. And I do feel like like you said,

464
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 1: like when it comes down to getting it done, I

465
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 1: you know, I'm pretty spot on every time. Okay, you

466
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 1: know you know I know I'm gonna come every time.

467
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,879
Speaker 1: I already know what I just picking. Yes, thank you

468
00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:39,359
Speaker 1: for my check. Good to give me with So I

469
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 1: can wait? I can you answer too? So I check

470
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:52,919
Speaker 1: exactly check a sip. I honestly did think that Shandon

471
00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: was going to say, you know, really, because I feel

472
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 1: like I think people just have me like, I think

473
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: people have created this romantic I think it's how you

474
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:13,479
Speaker 1: talked to probably like yeah, very breath, that's just natural

475
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: though that has nothing to do in that point. Everybody here,

476
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 1: you think every guy probably would choose a check to Yeah,

477
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: everybody said yeah, and he's married, so that's a shame.

478
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 1: Dudes are definitely taking the check. When do you think

479
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 1: like you hit your peak as far as how good

480
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,360
Speaker 1: you are in bad? You think you get better as

481
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 1: you get older, you get lazier, now you get better? Yes, absolutely,

482
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 1: but this makes perfect. I think I realized how powerful

483
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 1: it was when I was thirty six. That's a very

484
00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:57,439
Speaker 1: specific time. Everything happened. At thirty I was like whoa,

485
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: and then um, what had been though? At thirty six,

486
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 1: I don't know. I had somebody tell me. They said, um,

487
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 1: you're so connected to your pussy, and I was like,

488
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 1: I'm connected to my pussy like and they're like yeah.

489
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 1: And that kind of put things in perspective for me

490
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: because I feel like when you're younger and you're having sex,

491
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: you're just kind of having sex. You don't know if

492
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 1: you know, our experimentation trying to figure out what you like.

493
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: And as speaking for myself, I know that I wasn't

494
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 1: having sex with a real purpose of pleasure in the beginning.

495
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 1: In my younger years. It was kind of like, not

496
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: because I had to, because I definitely wanted to, but

497
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 1: I didn't really know what I was doing or what

498
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm writing out of it. Besides, you know, sometimes I'm

499
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: gonna come in sometimes or not. But as I got older,

500
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: I definitely learned how to control my body, and I

501
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 1: feel like, we're sure that's what it is, knowing how

502
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:59,280
Speaker 1: to control your body and manipulate the energy that's happening.

503
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: I've of that you was doing some type of kung

504
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: food grip or something like that. It really has a

505
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 1: lot to do with the energy, you know for sure. Yeah, crazy,

506
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: When did you have your first orgasm? Oh my god,

507
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: that's really private. I'm not saying that I'm not going

508
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 1: to do that. It wasn't. It definitely wasn't. Later in

509
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: my life what you was doing. Do you remember what

510
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: you remember? It? Happing completely? Remember I did it for myself.

511
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:43,680
Speaker 1: I was Yeah, it wasn't. It wasn't through intercourse, you know,

512
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: it was what about through intercourse? Was that easy to do?

513
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: Because because I had already know my body? So I

514
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 1: feel like once you know your body, it's easier to

515
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 1: to do it in any situation because oh my god,

516
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 1: what why you look? For some reason? It is a

517
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 1: very embarrassing question. It's very private to think about your

518
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 1: first orgasm, to share that. You know. It's funny because

519
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 1: we've had some artists on here some I think it

520
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 1: was Ruby Rose, or we've had women on here who

521
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 1: said that they never never organism. Feel bad, you said,

522
00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:22,000
Speaker 1: I feel bad, but I but I think that, you know,

523
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 1: part of it is for women who may not have

524
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 1: had that experience to understand how because you can, you know,

525
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 1: and sometimes it's not that easy. But it is like

526
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: a good conversation to have because there's women who are

527
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: listening that would be embarrassed, like you said, to like

528
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 1: admit that they've never had one. That they've been taking

529
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: you a question, all of you, have you ever had

530
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: one in your sleep? Yeah? Yeah, I had a dream

531
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 1: and then been like I think that's like yes by

532
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 1: that yes, like that because I'm like so good. It

533
00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 1: was like, whoa you gonna go right back right there's

534
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 1: nothing like having an orgasm and going back to sleep,

535
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,840
Speaker 1: but haven't went in her sleep? Becausandra, what your last

536
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 1: name is? Coming so to play with us? We know,

537
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:21,479
Speaker 1: look like your body hot, be sweating. Yeah, it's just

538
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 1: an it's an indescribable feeling, right, I mean, I think

539
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 1: that for women who have not ever had an orgasm

540
00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 1: like that should be a goal of yours. Right, you

541
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 1: shouldn't definitely treat yourself. You should definitely try to get

542
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: to that point when intention we also have a guy

543
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: that can do it for you there up there before

544
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 1: we actually have everybody in this very room. Yeah, such

545
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 1: an interesting day here. Make sure you check out some marvelous.

546
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 1: Marvelous I'm not marvelous in the unicorn because the word

547
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 1: you never had orgasm? You think it would be worth while?

548
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 1: I think so right to pay for somebody that can

549
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 1: show you how to do it and say, well, no, no, no,

550
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: they didn't have sex. He just used his hands and

551
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: some toys and and we watched some bring this woman

552
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: to she squirted and yeah, you know how I would

553
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: feel after that though, like I would be so like

554
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: because you know how like you you masturbated, sometimes you

555
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: feel like oh my god, Like we're watching porn and

556
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,960
Speaker 1: you're like that was so gross. Like I don't feel

557
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,880
Speaker 1: like that. No, I'll do something yeah, yeah, because I

558
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: don't know what you're you know, I'll be watching why

559
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 1: because you be watching some differ other ship. But sometimes

560
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,720
Speaker 1: I just have those feelings like, oh my god, I

561
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 1: should not have done that, or oh my god, I

562
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 1: should not have masturbated all those hours. Okay, okay, hours

563
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 1: and hours and which sometimes you know, switch the toy,

564
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 1: change it up that you really made love to yourself. Listen, now,

565
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 1: ain't nobody's gonna be like me when I learned that's

566
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 1: a different hole. Take on Soft Life a couple of

567
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:19,520
Speaker 1: years now, Masanda Note itself tell us some of the

568
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 1: themes that we'll be seeing on this EP. So So complicated,

569
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 1: which is the next single. It's about that. It's about

570
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: the love roller coaster love, you know, which is something

571
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: I feel like we all experienced the up and downs. Um,

572
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: there is a love interest in the video. Um, so

573
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:43,719
Speaker 1: there's some interaction there and um, you know, it's just

574
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:47,760
Speaker 1: about trying to find that balance in a relationship that

575
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: is so passionate but also has you know, really dramatic

576
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 1: scenes play out also. Um, So for this EP, I've

577
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: I've written five songs that represent five different relationships that

578
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 1: I've been in over the past fourteen fifteen years. And um,

579
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 1: you know, forbidden Fruit is about that really good intercourse

580
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 1: and romance and just being with somebody that takes you

581
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:23,400
Speaker 1: to that place. Why forbidden it's just a word on

582
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,839
Speaker 1: a play on the word, you know, like tabooish kind

583
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: of you know. And then there's positive distraction that just

584
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 1: came out. Yeah, that is like, you know, connecting with

585
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: somebody that makes you forget about the past, healing that

586
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:46,879
Speaker 1: that person that offers nurturing and healing and like really

587
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 1: gives you a new perspective on love and love making.

588
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:52,640
Speaker 1: So and there's a sample on that. Is it a

589
00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 1: sample or they call it an enter? I don't know,

590
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know that it's um it's a

591
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:01,879
Speaker 1: sting stings, Um, it's his melody, but it's actually me

592
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 1: singing it over and we distorted it and everything, and

593
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 1: I like that very creative. I was listening to that

594
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 1: and I was like, this is the art artist in

595
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 1: machine because everything I feel like it was very Um.

596
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:18,360
Speaker 1: I did picture like if I always connect you to artwork,

597
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: so I can't help that. But with that, I was like, oh,

598
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,319
Speaker 1: this is really different, and yeah, that's what I was

599
00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 1: going for. I knew I wanted to use um the sample,

600
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 1: but I wanted to make it my own, so I

601
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: just I rewrote it, saying it differently, and then we

602
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 1: just distorted it down a bit. I think of a

603
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: positive distraction, like as I'm trying to forget about something

604
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:39,799
Speaker 1: else that's going on, and this might not be the

605
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: person I'm gonna be with, but it's a good person exactly,

606
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:48,240
Speaker 1: and we're coming to that all the time. I feel like, so,

607
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 1: what's the reason that somebody would be just a distraction

608
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: and not the person? You know how? Sometimes like it

609
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 1: could be somebody that's a good guy. You really enjoy

610
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: spending time with him, but he's not it for me.

611
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: I feel like, if they don't check all the boxes.

612
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:03,000
Speaker 1: I was just about to say checking the boxes, Yeah,

613
00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:06,120
Speaker 1: like if you don't, but who checks all the boxes?

614
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 1: Not every single one, but if you leave too many

615
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 1: of them empty, then you're here for a good time,

616
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 1: but not a long time. And the kind of distraction

617
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: checks a very important box so you're able to see

618
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:24,399
Speaker 1: past it's almost like that, right, right, Yeah, I mean

619
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 1: I think it's a form of escapism, right. It's also

620
00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 1: to help with mental health. You know that person that

621
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: really kind of just eases your soul, that person, But

622
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: they're not It's like you said, they ain't hitting on

623
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 1: all those other things. But what are what boxes do

624
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 1: you have that are important? You go first, So I'm

625
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: gonna let you take it love languages, right, that would

626
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,400
Speaker 1: be a good if we had to make up I

627
00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:53,880
Speaker 1: don't know, like a game board of what these boxes

628
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 1: would be. I think that the love languages would be

629
00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:00,839
Speaker 1: good for everybody to be able to have some type

630
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: of connection with these answers, right right, right? Tell us

631
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: the language is hitting the box? Could you be Okay,

632
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 1: we're having a great connection with somebody, but just not

633
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 1: a great sexual connection. Like everything else is good, Like

634
00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:22,400
Speaker 1: you guys have a great time together. He's smart, you know,

635
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 1: he's ambitious, he's fine, he likes to cuttle, but the

636
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,319
Speaker 1: sex just isn't great. I just had a situation like

637
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 1: that had keywords, right, he didn't check the box. Little

638
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 1: There's no amount of money that could fix that, and

639
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,600
Speaker 1: so what happened You just couldn't do it, like what

640
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 1: did you did you try for a little while, Yeah,

641
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: but it just wasn't sexually wasn't there. The chemistry was off.

642
00:37:54,440 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 1: But great guys smart, you know, financially doing well, but

643
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 1: you know, nice body everything, But just yeah, he didn't

644
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: check that box. That's the main box you need to

645
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: that's the big body, that's the high impact check right,

646
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: little check yeah, back boxes. Possibly because you should you

647
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 1: be honest with somebody. If that's the reason, I'm not

648
00:38:32,239 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: telling nobody that you mean, but that's the sexual chemistry

649
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,239
Speaker 1: just isn't there. It's not we're not sexually compel And

650
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 1: what if he's like, why what can I do? I mean,

651
00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: I think there are other ways that you can. I

652
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: think there are other ways that you can pleasure somebody,

653
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,680
Speaker 1: but just the intercurds. But you gotta you gotta like

654
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: that person enough to be able to communicate that. I

655
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 1: think that's the guys make you wait, you know, have

656
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:04,959
Speaker 1: some guys are life promise you If a guy doesn't

657
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 1: try to have sex with you, like earlier on, it's

658
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 1: because he hasn't. Ye, It's the truth. He's trying to

659
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: get really, really really like them first, so that when

660
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 1: you get that trying to big dicks, they'd be trying

661
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,799
Speaker 1: to pull it out, trying to knock you over your head.

662
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: They want you to know. But guys, the little dicks like,

663
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 1: they don't be spoiling. They want to get They want

664
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 1: you to get the note for for who they are,

665
00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:36,320
Speaker 1: want to have a connection. Great conversationalist d movie. The

666
00:39:36,760 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 1: energy is just really working and it's so yeah that

667
00:39:41,160 --> 00:39:45,879
Speaker 1: positive distractions? All right, sorry, go ahead? So what else

668
00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: they got distracted? Positively distracted? How does this go from

669
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 1: positive distraction to small penises? It's you? You took it there, Misscuming.

670
00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:01,520
Speaker 1: You don't ask my last name? I know, all right?

671
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: What use the five songs that we have um? And

672
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 1: then there's no to Self. That's the title of the

673
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 1: song and the EP and that is UM. That's like

674
00:40:10,280 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: a love letter to yourself. So that's all about healing,

675
00:40:15,200 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: respecting boundaries, you know, really uh, setting yourself up to

676
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 1: be in situations not only with people, but also you know,

677
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 1: being able to love yourself and evolve the yeah within.

678
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:34,840
Speaker 1: And then there's a runaway so run away. UM. I

679
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:38,719
Speaker 1: had this situation with this guy and we traveled. He

680
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: had to go do something and he asked me to

681
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 1: go with him. And you know how sometimes when you

682
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:48,160
Speaker 1: travel with guys or anybody, they really show their asks,

683
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: like you really get to see you really get to

684
00:40:50,880 --> 00:40:53,720
Speaker 1: see who a person is when you travel with them.

685
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 1: And I've been dating this guy for like three months,

686
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 1: and we traveled. We went somewhere in Europe. Showed his

687
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 1: ad so bad that I was in my head like

688
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 1: I gotta get out of this room. I'm getting the

689
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 1: funk out of here. Morning came. I stayed up all night.

690
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 1: I could not sleep because I was thinking of my escape.

691
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: It was that bad. And so morning came. You know,

692
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 1: they act like nothing ever happened. I'm like, all right,

693
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,640
Speaker 1: he got dressed, he was like, i'll meet you. I'll

694
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,320
Speaker 1: meet you a little later for lunch or whatever. I

695
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: was like, fine, great. He left. I jumped up, packed

696
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: my bag. I didn't even have a flight. I went

697
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 1: straight to the airport. O thank god. And that's why

698
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:42,719
Speaker 1: money is important. So you know, that's the runaway song.

699
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: It's about it's about nor when to leave, it's about

700
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 1: respecting the red flags. I didn't respect them because I

701
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: saw what were the red flag. I was too many.

702
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: He came back and he was gone. And he came

703
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 1: back and I was gone, no. I told him. I

704
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 1: was like, it's not working, it's in. He was like,

705
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 1: you just left. I was like, yeah, they have a

706
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 1: little penick on, not even and that's a problem. Right

707
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: when they don't have a little penis. You want to

708
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:10,440
Speaker 1: stick around, you want to try to work it out,

709
00:42:10,480 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: you want to work out it. Let me thinking about now,

710
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: I was doing it was the last straw, and I

711
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:24,759
Speaker 1: was like, dick is not that important at all. It's

712
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:28,239
Speaker 1: never that important. Insanity is what somebody sucks you over

713
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: like that and you're all of a sudden they're just

714
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: unattractive to you. I feel like guys are better at

715
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:36,839
Speaker 1: sucking people that like they've had it, you know, if

716
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 1: it was good sex, they'll still do it. But I

717
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: felt like for women, once we in our head like

718
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 1: mentally get turned off when you tap over over, for women,

719
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 1: it's like you never even lived, you know, dead that's

720
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,799
Speaker 1: the best and that and sometimes it's the best one.

721
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 1: You can finally get to that feeling, you know, because

722
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 1: sometimes guys put you through so much that you're like

723
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: looking forward to the time period in your life and

724
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 1: you can be like at peace. I don't even care anymore,

725
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:07,280
Speaker 1: you know, because you spent so much time being so mad,

726
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:10,760
Speaker 1: so emotional caring, and then when you finally when that clicks,

727
00:43:11,760 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: no going back but runaway. I think women are really

728
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 1: going to enjoy Runaway. That's the worst of you. I'm

729
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: just enjoying the background story. Funny, the funny thing about

730
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:29,880
Speaker 1: Runaway because because of you, I was beautiful thing about

731
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: your song. It's a breakup song, but it's like comedy,

732
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:35,879
Speaker 1: like I made a joke out of it. So it's

733
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 1: like I'm growing and I'm flowing and I'm like peace

734
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: and like you know, and um, that's what really happened.

735
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 1: Like I left and I flew to London. I flew

736
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: into London and had a beautiful time with my girlfriends

737
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 1: at the time, and I was posting it on Instagram

738
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: and he was hot. He's like, wow, you just left

739
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 1: and now you over there and sometimes you just got

740
00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:58,840
Speaker 1: to do that. I know he probably woke up, like

741
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:03,280
Speaker 1: where is she out? I haven't seen him? Black and delete.

742
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:08,320
Speaker 1: I'm done, you know, I like you said this. I

743
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:11,800
Speaker 1: didn't really consider this. But when you when your relationship

744
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: ended your career at that time as an artist did too.

745
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: That's really hard, like I never thought about what I

746
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: was trying to convey earlier, like because I felt like

747
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 1: in my head, I felt like you had just walked

748
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 1: away and didn't want to do it. I didn't realize no.

749
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: I felt totally black balled. I had DJs like talk

750
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: to me years later and they were like, yo, we

751
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:38,279
Speaker 1: were told not to play your record. That is insane,

752
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,879
Speaker 1: Like why would anybody want you to not be able

753
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: to it was? It was heartbreaking because, like I started,

754
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:51,840
Speaker 1: I've been doing music before I ever got into a relationship, studio, working,

755
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:56,200
Speaker 1: and I was like, well, then, what the funk am

756
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 1: I gonna do? It's really a big part of it

757
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,319
Speaker 1: is why I started doing art, because I was like,

758
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:04,480
Speaker 1: this is I love doing art, this is what I

759
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 1: might have to do. I can't really do music anymore

760
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 1: because no one's going to support it. So the whole

761
00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 1: streaming world started happening and I started understanding that, and

762
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I can do this because I

763
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:19,799
Speaker 1: don't need a DJ to play my record. I don't

764
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 1: need a station to you know, I could just do

765
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: my song, put it out. If they like it, they

766
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:26,839
Speaker 1: like it, if they don't, they don't, I'll just keep

767
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 1: doing what I gotta do, you know. So that's the

768
00:45:28,920 --> 00:45:32,799
Speaker 1: beauty about this new music. So during that time, financially,

769
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:36,320
Speaker 1: how are you? I mean, I've always been good because

770
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 1: I've always had like side hustles, you know, I'm always

771
00:45:40,600 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 1: working and and doing things creatively to make money. And

772
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: the words that your mother put in your hids that

773
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 1: would stuff in me hard. Yeah. Yeah, Yeah, it's interesting

774
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:55,480
Speaker 1: because I can soundra In your book Fairless Finances, you

775
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 1: also talk about not feeling like you just didn't have

776
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,239
Speaker 1: your answers together even though you were always working in

777
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 1: that field. For some reason, you just we're not thriving

778
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 1: the way that you are now. Yeah. I think it

779
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: was based on childhood and then when you get to

780
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 1: a certain level, you get exposed to certain things and

781
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 1: you're like, Okay, I gotta get my ship together. And

782
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 1: that's really what happened, you know, because coming up in

783
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:23,360
Speaker 1: Oakland and in the streets and stuff like that, you

784
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 1: move differently, and then when you get into corporate you

785
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:30,760
Speaker 1: get your education, you get exposed to different things. You're like, Okay,

786
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 1: this is what I need to be doing, and then

787
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: the pieces start to fall in line. Were you ever

788
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:39,680
Speaker 1: embarrassed like tell people about your background and your family life.

789
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 1: I was. I was. It was really hard for me

790
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:47,320
Speaker 1: because my mom, you know, she didn't graduate from high school,

791
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 1: and then my dad was in the streets. So I

792
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 1: had to kind of put on these airs that you know,

793
00:46:53,040 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 1: I came from a good family, good home, good background

794
00:46:56,520 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 1: to sort of maneuver. But now you know, I get two. Yeah,

795
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 1: now's eazy being that you also just um came into

796
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 1: some money, some property. What are you thinking I would

797
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:14,799
Speaker 1: left for you and Cassandra to like, you know, for

798
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: her to actually for you to read this book first

799
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:20,879
Speaker 1: of all, and for you guys to even just like

800
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 1: for you to just learn some things, because I do

801
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 1: feel like, you know, for me, it's been a process too.

802
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: It's not what I grew up knowing, Machanda, You've had

803
00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 1: it hammered into your head from an early age, like

804
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: you gotta have your own, you gotta have your own.

805
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: I feel like I didn't really have that, you know,

806
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: And it's something that I learned, like as I started

807
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 1: making more money and then being able to negotiate for

808
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: myself and then just being around people, because who you

809
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 1: surround yourself with this really importary greatest wife had investment groups.

810
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 1: And so even like for me working with Mashonda on

811
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 1: things like when she sends me something because you know,

812
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: it's still something that I'm learning about, but I know

813
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: that I have a trusted person and that it's like

814
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: this person is going to be big. They're doing this,

815
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 1: they're doing that, they're doing this, and she's like, you

816
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: should buy something from this artist. And then I love

817
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: the fact that they all respect her and know her too,

818
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:12,399
Speaker 1: and so like you know, they have people like drop

819
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 1: by their artworking. You know, they're always artists are always

820
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 1: excited to meet you. You placed it with Angela, I

821
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: mean not trusted professional or that trusted person is really

822
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:27,680
Speaker 1: good because day Von got me into hotel investment. I

823
00:48:27,760 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 1: now owe two hotels with her. I would have never

824
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:33,120
Speaker 1: done that. She keeps on telling me, Angela, when you

825
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 1: get your first hotel. She doesn't tell me, you know,

826
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 1: are you going to She's like some hotel, Yeah, I

827
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:42,920
Speaker 1: got my shirt, hotel owner, everything. So you know, I

828
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 1: would have never been exposed to that had I not

829
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 1: been exposed to people like her. So just knowing what

830
00:48:48,320 --> 00:48:51,799
Speaker 1: circles with rooms to run in, like you with the

831
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: art right now, you could buy some art from Machina

832
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:58,400
Speaker 1: from because I trust her by way of you. Right,

833
00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:01,160
Speaker 1: So that was the That was pretty much what happened

834
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 1: with Davon. I met Davon through other people and I

835
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 1: was like, okay, you know I could cut a check

836
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:08,880
Speaker 1: to her to to invest in these hotels. And so

837
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 1: that's what I did, and I brought you know, I

838
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:13,240
Speaker 1: put my girls on. So like five of us also

839
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 1: got together and invested in the hotel. So that's the

840
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: whole thing is that, you know, you learn about people

841
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: by other people, right. I think when you do the

842
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 1: next um stops and comments, we should actually have an

843
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:30,759
Speaker 1: art component of it. Oh absolutely, because I think give

844
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 1: Mashonda curated the art show and then these women because

845
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 1: these women have money or you know, they're very focused

846
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 1: on their finances, they're on their way up, or they

847
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 1: already have it. Because it's all different levels of women

848
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: that actually come to the conference. But I think that

849
00:49:44,760 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 1: would be amazing, and they're all about that. Yeah, we

850
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 1: could have, you know, something with our Queens of Capital.

851
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 1: I have a group called Queens of Capital, and so

852
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 1: some of them already you know, they got deep pockets. Yeah,

853
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:59,279
Speaker 1: because I think one of my main issues always was

854
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:00,960
Speaker 1: every time when I is younger, I used to get money,

855
00:50:00,960 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 1: I would spend it like that, you know, and then

856
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 1: have nothing to show for it. And that's I'll go

857
00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:09,919
Speaker 1: through that. Yeah, and it's part of it. That's part

858
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 1: of it. It's fun, you know, for a little while.

859
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: All right. So let me ask you this. When it

860
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 1: comes to relationships, do you check with a guy about

861
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: like his credit score? Or do you ask I mean

862
00:50:21,719 --> 00:50:23,640
Speaker 1: if it's somebody you get serious with, because I do

863
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:27,000
Speaker 1: feel like it is important at a certain point. I mean,

864
00:50:27,080 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 1: that's definitely a conversation that has to be had. You know.

865
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:32,880
Speaker 1: You want to make sure that you guys can do

866
00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:36,279
Speaker 1: things equally, you know, and that his credit score isn't

867
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 1: going to affect you if you guys decide to purchase

868
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: something together or talk stuff whatever it is. So yeah,

869
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:46,000
Speaker 1: but not off top. How soon should you wait until

870
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 1: you'll be like, what's your credit score? I think when

871
00:50:51,840 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: you contemplate moving in with this person? Yeah, I mean,

872
00:50:56,440 --> 00:51:01,319
Speaker 1: because it's imperative if you're looking at building with this person, right, yeah,

873
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:06,280
Speaker 1: you know, start business, starting business. You know, you're making

874
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:09,200
Speaker 1: like some huge financial strides with this person. You gotta

875
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:11,280
Speaker 1: be like but that to tell you if their credit

876
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:14,839
Speaker 1: was sucked up. No, because you know, if I love

877
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: that person enough and be like, look big, that's what

878
00:51:16,800 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 1: we're gonna do. You can clean up credit like thirty

879
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:25,000
Speaker 1: sixty sure, you know. And then it's like, this is personal,

880
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 1: let's do the business credit, you know. So now you're

881
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 1: starting up a whole new business situation. The personal you

882
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 1: can clean up while you know, building up the business

883
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:39,000
Speaker 1: side of it. Yeah, Now what about this going into

884
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 1: business with somebody you're dating, not married to, not engaged to,

885
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 1: but somebody you're dating. Because I feel like that's kind

886
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:49,400
Speaker 1: of a difficult thing it is. You know, I was

887
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 1: helping my my dude with his little line m m obi.

888
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 1: And then it's kind of like I had to put

889
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 1: my brakes because I'm just dating you, right, And so

890
00:51:58,920 --> 00:52:01,839
Speaker 1: it's like how far I want to take this with you?

891
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 1: And we're not we're not married, because you can easily,

892
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 1: you know, blow up with this and then go off

893
00:52:09,120 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 1: with the chicks. Right, So then you just gotta like

894
00:52:11,960 --> 00:52:14,720
Speaker 1: draw the line somewhere you ain't gonna be m mmo

895
00:52:14,800 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: being with another bit like that part right, that business.

896
00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 1: But I cleaned you up value with her right now,

897
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,400
Speaker 1: you and memo being with this bitch, don't let that

898
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:34,160
Speaker 1: bitch start something with you. That's how I feel. Do

899
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 1: the cleaning, let how to do the cleaning. But you

900
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 1: do still want to help somebody, Like it's such a

901
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:46,280
Speaker 1: fine line. It is, like you Dutch, like, yeah, because

902
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:50,320
Speaker 1: you do want to empower and inspire right the person

903
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 1: you're with. But it's also like you just never know

904
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:57,439
Speaker 1: the outcome, never know no guarantee could you car reate

905
00:52:57,480 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 1: this right? Show, Like if you were dating a guy,

906
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 1: is that he's listen? People, you know, I honestly say

907
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: a lot of people are just looking for the opportunity.

908
00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:10,799
Speaker 1: Of course, there might be love there, you know, they

909
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 1: might find you attractive all those things, but I still

910
00:53:13,160 --> 00:53:17,840
Speaker 1: feel like there's some underlying just ways of people wanting

911
00:53:17,880 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 1: to be able to find the opportunity for themselves, you know,

912
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 1: So you gotta just be careful. How do you feel

913
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:28,360
Speaker 1: about asking for help, like from somebody that you're dating.

914
00:53:30,200 --> 00:53:33,359
Speaker 1: I'm okay with that, yeah, but I'm not the type

915
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 1: to ask for a lot, so even like with friends,

916
00:53:36,800 --> 00:53:39,400
Speaker 1: like even like with you, right, it's like, and I

917
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 1: need your support with this one, Like you know, I

918
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 1: don't like bothering people. Yeah, I mean, I know, but

919
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 1: it's still like and I have to get over that.

920
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:49,960
Speaker 1: I'm working on that. I did the same thing that

921
00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:52,879
Speaker 1: I don't don't like bothering people asking for stuff. I'm

922
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:55,400
Speaker 1: always the one helping people, so for me to ask

923
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 1: it's like weird. But I learned that we need each other,

924
00:53:59,040 --> 00:54:01,840
Speaker 1: like everybody, we need each other in life to grow.

925
00:54:02,680 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 1: So a lot of others ego to yeah, don't you

926
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:09,800
Speaker 1: want to seem so independent? Right? Yeah, I've learned to

927
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: get over that. I don't have a problem to asked

928
00:54:12,080 --> 00:54:18,399
Speaker 1: for help. I've had ablem yeah, significant, right, But then

929
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 1: I do have to watch how other people move because

930
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:25,319
Speaker 1: other people are opportunists, right, and so you have to

931
00:54:25,680 --> 00:54:30,680
Speaker 1: you know, feel their energy, see if they are about

932
00:54:30,719 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 1: what they are about kind of thing, right, so that

933
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 1: people aren't trying to take advantage of you. That part. Yeah, Well,

934
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:40,440
Speaker 1: as we're finishing this up, I want to ask you

935
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 1: ladies about bucket lists, right, being that you know, we're

936
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: all at this point in our lives where we got

937
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 1: our money, we're independent, there's certain things that we still

938
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: haven't done that we would like to do. So what

939
00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: is something that you would says, miss coming coming that

940
00:54:58,040 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: you want to do that you haven't done yet relationship

941
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:06,400
Speaker 1: wise sexually, um, I would say I would want to

942
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:16,280
Speaker 1: have a three song come on birthday. I'm getting close.

943
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: You want to make you want it to be? Would

944
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 1: it be two guys who you like, no well, that

945
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 1: know each other? Or do you want it to be like, uh,

946
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 1: I don't know if I if I thought it out,

947
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:31,520
Speaker 1: that will okay, Yeah, just two sexy guys, that's yeah.

948
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:35,240
Speaker 1: That might do it for me because sound do double Cummings.

949
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:40,439
Speaker 1: I feel like you can make that happen. Bigus would

950
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:43,440
Speaker 1: have been the perfect place. I mean, it's it's not

951
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 1: something that i'm you know, I'm just thinking about it,

952
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: like something you haven't done that you want to do.

953
00:55:48,120 --> 00:56:02,520
Speaker 1: Cocks and stilettos and co stocks saying you, all right,

954
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:07,359
Speaker 1: let's see how many DM she gets? All right, what

955
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:11,839
Speaker 1: about you? How do you follow up that? All right?

956
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:16,719
Speaker 1: First of all, I can honestly say that I don't

957
00:56:16,760 --> 00:56:19,640
Speaker 1: think that there's anything that I haven't tried that I

958
00:56:19,680 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 1: want to try. You don't up, Yeah, I've done yeah,

959
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:28,440
Speaker 1: I mean the threesomes and the the outside and the

960
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 1: things to live service and Uh, I don't know. M

961
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 1: m m yeah. Have you ever made a movie? Come on, Angela, right,

962
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:41,839
Speaker 1: but like a real movie, not just some video on Www.

963
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:45,879
Speaker 1: Only fans forward, Let's show me. There's no porn on there,

964
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: but you can definitely see me, um, starting in my

965
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:54,319
Speaker 1: own film. Um movie. Now, I can't say that I've

966
00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:56,439
Speaker 1: of course pulled out the phone or propped the phone

967
00:56:56,560 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: up and and you know, in in the middle of

968
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:03,239
Speaker 1: but I've never planned it out like that may be something. Yeah, right,

969
00:57:03,320 --> 00:57:05,640
Speaker 1: So when you say movie, like, I feel like real production,

970
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:08,440
Speaker 1: like you know, the Shara Rod so like planning it out.

971
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you know that was a production. But um,

972
00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 1: but yeah, I feel like if I was um with

973
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 1: someone who we you know, decided that that's what we

974
00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 1: wanted to do and really had a whole thought out,

975
00:57:21,160 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 1: like you know, really planned it out and directed the

976
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 1: whole scene like real porn. Yeah. Maybe that Maybe you

977
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 1: gave me my answer because I honestly don't know what

978
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: what I have done. You have to get like Zane

979
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 1: when the maybe like if you had to say, this

980
00:57:40,600 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 1: is what the movie is going to be about, with

981
00:57:42,120 --> 00:57:44,320
Speaker 1: the acting and everything, but would be the plot. Now

982
00:57:44,320 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: I got to think about that, and now you're gonna

983
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 1: have me thinking about that. I don't know, but I

984
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:52,919
Speaker 1: don't know what about like selling your house. Maybe he's

985
00:57:52,960 --> 00:58:00,280
Speaker 1: the buyer. Yeah, and then a sexy real stated you're

986
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 1: giving him a walk through, he's buying the house from you,

987
00:58:03,040 --> 00:58:06,560
Speaker 1: and you're like, this is a rumor. I feel an

988
00:58:06,560 --> 00:58:10,840
Speaker 1: international vibe. I feel like I feel like an international

989
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:14,920
Speaker 1: lib Yeah. No, not even maybe like I don't know

990
00:58:14,960 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 1: another country, like not even like a Caribbean, because that's

991
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 1: so like how sella group, that's so kind of But

992
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 1: more like if I'm like in Spain and meet sexy

993
00:58:25,480 --> 00:58:28,919
Speaker 1: you know something I don't know, like Dominique. Yeah, right,

994
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 1: and and I'm trying to buy property over there, and

995
00:58:32,040 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, we're invest in some hotels

996
00:58:34,240 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 1: over there, and you know, with that and somehow we

997
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 1: busted open and get you that's too close. But yeah,

998
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 1: I honestly can't say um that I've had a lot

999
00:58:46,520 --> 00:58:51,080
Speaker 1: of sexual experiences in a very good way. I'm very

1000
00:58:51,120 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 1: sexually pleased in my in my forties. I'm going back

1001
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:56,840
Speaker 1: to earlier when we were talking about what year you

1002
00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 1: felt like you you know, got to your sexual maturity Um,

1003
00:58:59,880 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: I want to agree with what you said in that

1004
00:59:02,720 --> 00:59:06,520
Speaker 1: thirty five till forty range, Right, I really you know

1005
00:59:06,760 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 1: you felt myself setuated. Yeah, yeah, it's true though when

1006
00:59:12,160 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 1: you first I haven't said you don't know what the

1007
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 1: hell you do? Just figuring it out, trying doing you

1008
00:59:17,280 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 1: don't like to figure out that guy don't know what

1009
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 1: they're doing either, too much of that? What about you miss? Yeah?

1010
00:59:30,080 --> 00:59:33,760
Speaker 1: Sexually yeah, um, I don't know. I always like envision

1011
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:36,840
Speaker 1: you want, you know the song by Madonna Justified My

1012
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:40,040
Speaker 1: Love where she says, um, make love in a train

1013
00:59:40,360 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 1: cross country. I see that he's so international that it

1014
00:59:45,080 --> 00:59:49,240
Speaker 1: just seems so fly right, like on a train going

1015
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 1: across like Italy and spins. Just get one of those

1016
00:59:53,600 --> 00:59:58,040
Speaker 1: those rooms, those sweets on the train. That's actually on

1017
00:59:58,240 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 1: my bucket list. Wait see, okay, there you go. I

1018
01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 1: want to try about training in Europe. I want to

1019
01:00:02,760 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 1: do I want to have never done that either. I

1020
01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:06,880
Speaker 1: want to have that experience. It's not overrated. I just

1021
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,000
Speaker 1: didn't think it's going to be overrated. I just did

1022
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 1: the Napple Wine train, but we didn't do you know,

1023
01:00:12,560 --> 01:00:14,960
Speaker 1: have sex on the train. Did they have rooms like

1024
01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: a we could have gotten one of us. Yeah, we

1025
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:21,840
Speaker 1: could have the TVD this in privacy, right, I saw

1026
01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:26,600
Speaker 1: my little birth Yeah that sounds like what about you?

1027
01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 1: I want my bucket list? Let me see. That's funny

1028
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 1: because I didn't even think about myself. Sorry your questions, Um,

1029
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 1: what do I want to do? Let me think? Well,

1030
01:00:39,680 --> 01:00:41,320
Speaker 1: first of all, I definitely want to buy something in

1031
01:00:41,320 --> 01:00:44,440
Speaker 1: the Islands. So I would love to like buy a

1032
01:00:44,480 --> 01:00:47,000
Speaker 1: house and then be able to um, you know, break

1033
01:00:47,040 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 1: it in christ and the New Island. Yeah, on the island.

1034
01:00:52,240 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 1: I'm not sure where island yet the island, but I've

1035
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 1: been looking. Oh yeah, I would love to have my

1036
01:00:56,800 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 1: own island. Let's just OK. I was thinking to a

1037
01:01:01,040 --> 01:01:03,920
Speaker 1: small I watched the clip of Tyler Perry something that

1038
01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 1: came down my timeline, and it was a clip of

1039
01:01:05,720 --> 01:01:09,560
Speaker 1: him saying that he bought himself an island, and um,

1040
01:01:09,600 --> 01:01:11,920
Speaker 1: I forgot where, but he said for his forty birthday,

1041
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:14,640
Speaker 1: he bought himself an island. And he was talking about

1042
01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: how when he goes there, he's so disconnected from everything

1043
01:01:17,360 --> 01:01:19,120
Speaker 1: and he's able to just really focus on his work.

1044
01:01:19,160 --> 01:01:21,280
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm still stuck at bought myself an

1045
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:26,320
Speaker 1: island on the island too. Yeah, his is in belize nice.

1046
01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:29,080
Speaker 1: I like beliefs. All right, I'm a buy an island,

1047
01:01:29,680 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 1: go for it. Maybe we should come together and yeah, right,

1048
01:01:33,120 --> 01:01:35,400
Speaker 1: we should all come together and do it right. This

1049
01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 1: is what we're talking about. This lessively, you know, putting

1050
01:01:38,680 --> 01:01:41,240
Speaker 1: out money in and investing in something and making something happen.

1051
01:01:41,240 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 1: And you're right, there are islands available. That's how you

1052
01:01:44,680 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 1: that's how you have fearless finances and just go for

1053
01:01:47,640 --> 01:01:50,640
Speaker 1: that kind of ship big all right, So what we

1054
01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:56,760
Speaker 1: do that's the name of this episode. Well, I've been

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Speaker 1: trying to congratulations again note to self October funny eight,

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Speaker 1: thank so exact said out to positive distraction, and of course, Cassandra,

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Speaker 1: thank thank you so much for coming. Fearless Finances is

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Speaker 1: available now. I read the book and I realized I'm

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Speaker 1: in this book. Yeah, on the plane to Vegas of

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Speaker 1: all places. So I'm gonna read my book on the plane. Okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's excited. Great, and I'm gonna be on you about

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Speaker 1: these finances please because it is nice. I've met women

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Speaker 1: that Cassandra has worked with that didn't know anything about

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Speaker 1: investing and getting ready for yeah, and to see the

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Speaker 1: progress that they've made, Like there's people who work for

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Speaker 1: her now that were like when I first got started

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Speaker 1: working with Cassandra, I didn't know anything about this, And

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Speaker 1: so that's why I really like people who I believe

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Speaker 1: in that I've seen like the efforts that they put

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Speaker 1: in and I've seen real results from people who you know,

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Speaker 1: have nothing to do with with that, and so I

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Speaker 1: think that's amazing to see that, Like a book like this,

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Speaker 1: no matter where you're at and your investing journey, if

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Speaker 1: you've never invested or thought about the future, this is

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Speaker 1: a great place for you to start building wealth. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you coming I'm starting coming. B