1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: It is time for us to ask the clo. G 2 00:00:05,080 --> 00:00:08,200 Speaker 1: and Philly writes, I'm a forty four year old single 3 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:10,559 Speaker 1: woman and I met a man at church. We had 4 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: sex on our first date and it was phenomenal, but 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 1: he won't let me have any more of it. He said, 6 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:19,920 Speaker 1: it's not the Christian thing to do. How could he tease. 7 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:20,239 Speaker 2: Me like that? 8 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:25,120 Speaker 1: Should I dump him? 9 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:27,160 Speaker 3: I think he's already dump g. 10 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, you've been dump Yeah. 11 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 3: See lady, what happened is it was incredible to you? 12 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:37,559 Speaker 2: Phenomenal? 13 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 3: Oh okay, yeah. 14 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 4: He, on the other hand, found it to be a 15 00:00:42,760 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 4: very un christian like thing to do after the fact. 16 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 3: Right after he did it, right, Yeah? 17 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 2: Yeah? 18 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 3: Should I dump him? No, he don't have to. 19 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 4: You've already been dump It's all good, lady. 20 00:00:59,280 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: That's cold. 21 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right. 22 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,040 Speaker 4: So much, so much. Just just keep going to church, 23 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 4: see what else you. 24 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 2: Can get into, all right. 25 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 1: Moving on to Venissan Mobile, Beniez writes, My boyfriend and 26 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 1: I have been together four years and my mom hates him. 27 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 1: She said he's not the one for me, and I'll 28 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 1: see it soon enough. If my mom knows something about him, 29 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:26,199 Speaker 1: why is she constantly throwing out hints? 30 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:27,399 Speaker 2: Why won't she just tell me? 31 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 4: Well, I mean, she giving you a chance to see 32 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 4: it to her as obvious. All you got to do here, lady, 33 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 4: here's what you do. Just make a list. If you're 34 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:40,280 Speaker 4: dating somebody and you want to know how well it's going, 35 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 4: write to write a column down pros and cons. Write 36 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:48,480 Speaker 4: everything that's great about this man. Then then make a 37 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 4: list of everything you questioned about him, have doubts about it, 38 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 4: or don't like. If that don't list is longer by 39 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 4: one than if the con list is longer on the 40 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 4: same list as the pro list, you have a problem. 41 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 3: You have a problem. 42 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 2: Oh you should definitely have more pros than con. 43 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, if it's only three things you like about him, 44 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 4: but it's three things you don't like about him, you 45 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 4: in a relationship that ain't got no upside. 46 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: Hm. 47 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 2: So mother knows best in this situation, huh? 48 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 3: Or she giving you a chance, She trying to let 49 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,559 Speaker 3: you be grown, but you still. 50 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:38,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, all right, all right. Moving on to Peggy 51 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: in Atlantic City, Peggy writes, my three year old grandbaby 52 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: saw me kiss another man, and she told my husband. 53 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 1: I thought she was taking a nap, but she woke 54 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:50,680 Speaker 1: up right when my side dude was tipping out the 55 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: back door. We were startled. I called her a little liar, 56 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: and her mama got involved and spanked her. 57 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 2: I feel terrible. Should I be honest? What? Wow? 58 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 4: Peggy, baby beat in everything? And your name Peggy. That's 59 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 4: the last Peggy. 60 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 2: What what does that have to do with I don't 61 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 2: understand you how old she is? 62 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 4: Your side dude was going out the back door. You 63 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,919 Speaker 4: don't even know how to cheat? 64 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:31,960 Speaker 3: You at your house. 65 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 4: Your side dude, going out the back door, your grandbaby 66 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 4: in that supposed to be sleeping. You're so oh you 67 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 4: don't even know the baby ain't asleep. Peggy, you got. 68 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 2: To do better and then got beat down. 69 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 4: Then you'd have got the baby beat Wow. Terrible, you 70 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 4: little liar. No, you the liar. Should you come clean? 71 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 4: It's too late for that. The baby that got beat now, 72 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 4: the baby don't want to stay over there no more. 73 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 4: I know that, I tell you that right now. Yeah 74 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 4: I know what I saw. 75 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, kids start doing stuff to you, My kids 76 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:22,359 Speaker 3: start doing we're going over grandma the house's a liar. Three. 77 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, this is terrible, this is really bad. That mean, 78 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: but what else could she have done? 79 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:34,239 Speaker 3: The gram surely come on, what else could she have done? 80 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 3: You cheating in front of the grand baby at your house? 81 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:39,800 Speaker 3: How stupid can you be? 82 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:44,479 Speaker 2: I know, I know, I know, And you didn't got that. 83 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 3: Grand baby and you didn't do nothing about it. 84 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 2: That's right, That's what I'm. 85 00:04:48,839 --> 00:04:51,240 Speaker 4: Even if you come clean at this point, the baby 86 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 4: still got spank the baby. 87 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,120 Speaker 3: The baby. You can't undo the spanking. The baby not 88 00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 3: gonna understand. 89 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:01,040 Speaker 2: H this is really terrible. 90 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: So you're saying, she may as well just let it go, Okay, 91 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: just asking last one, Sheila and hyde Park? 92 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 2: What was that sigh for? 93 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 3: I said, all I'm gonna say, I just open it. 94 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:22,840 Speaker 2: Just so terrible for this kid, this baby. All right, 95 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 2: Sheila in hyde Park? 96 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:27,479 Speaker 1: Right, So, my husband has a few messy friends that 97 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 1: thrive in controversy. When he's on the phone, all I 98 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: hear is gossip and mess I told him they're going 99 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: to get him beat up, so he needs to stop 100 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 1: hanging around them. 101 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 2: Should I let him learn his lesson? 102 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:41,359 Speaker 1: What? 103 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 3: Mm HMMs? All all she here in the background is gossip. 104 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,279 Speaker 3: They don't get him up? What? 105 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 4: Yeah? 106 00:05:56,720 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 3: Who got? I don't even man? What is people come from? 107 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? 108 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:04,159 Speaker 3: This is man's time. 109 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 4: You've been talking on the phone and your wife heard 110 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 4: your friends in the background gossiping talking about some mess No. 111 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 3: Never, and Tommy, if you keep on, you're gonna get 112 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:15,719 Speaker 3: beat up. No, that's not. 113 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 2: Had this happened here though, I did. 114 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: Happened to Sheila, and she wants she just let her 115 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: husband learn his lesson because she told him to stop 116 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:30,839 Speaker 1: hanging around these guys. 117 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,719 Speaker 3: Yeah. No, but they messy and they gossiping. He gonna 118 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 3: get beat up. 119 00:06:37,360 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what's throwing everybody. 120 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 3: What is missing and they gossiping? Men, you need to 121 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 3: check out his friend. 122 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 2: But yeah, no, you're saying. 123 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 3: I'm saying this. 124 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:56,479 Speaker 4: If you got a group of friends and that's what 125 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 4: they constantly doing, you need to check your friend somebody 126 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 4: that it's on the other side. You need to let 127 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 4: me just say this right here, and this is not 128 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 4: an anti anything. This is a pro statement. Need to 129 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 4: go through the friends and check all the pronouns. That's 130 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 4: what you need to do. You get everybody's pronouns because 131 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:20,800 Speaker 4: somebody in there might want to be referred to in 132 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 4: another way. 133 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 3: And y'all are not detecting it. 134 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 2: That's just going on and see who's who. 135 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 4: Yeah, and just that's a very positive thing. That's not 136 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:31,520 Speaker 4: an anti statement. But you should don't because in this 137 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 4: society that you have to be conscious of that and 138 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:36,280 Speaker 4: you have to give people they due respect. So you 139 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 4: need to go through his group and do the pronoun 140 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 4: check and just say, hey, dog, what are we doing. 141 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 3: Here for you? You what you're at them? Gay with them? 142 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 3: They though miss what you what it is you just terrible. 143 00:07:54,320 --> 00:08:00,880 Speaker 1: It's all gooding to do with what. 144 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 3: You have for Shelo, really, Sherman. 145 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 1: You know, coming up next, we'll have some entertainment news 146 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: at the top of the hour. Right after this, you're 147 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: listening to The Hardy Morning Show.