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Speaker 1: I put a tracker on my wife's car after she

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Speaker 1: spent a lot of time out last night. What's she doing?

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Speaker 2: Where you're going?

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Speaker 1: I have been hearing like these crazy stories of jealous

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Speaker 1: I've heard I've heard people sending air tags to influencers

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Speaker 1: so they can see where they live. The air tag

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Speaker 1: stocking fit goes deep. Also, don't get any ideas.

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Speaker 2: We did just get a new house, and then we just.

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Speaker 1: Get a new house. Yeah yeah, well we're right now.

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Speaker 1: It's green screens, but we're gonna have We're setting up

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Speaker 1: the studio as I've even unpacked my room. My room

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Speaker 1: is in absolute mess.

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Speaker 2: He's been partying all weekend. He has no time to

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Speaker 2: We've been showing so rightly.

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Speaker 1: Just moved from North Carolina to LA. So this is

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Speaker 1: like where we're showing him all of the scenes in La.

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Speaker 1: Al Right, where have we gone?

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Speaker 2: So? Oh my gosh, Okay.

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Speaker 3: Night one, we went to like a wide out party

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Speaker 3: in West Hollywood, like beautiful, crazy house, like looking over

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Speaker 3: the city. Night two we went, uh, we did a

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Speaker 3: house cooling party where you take something rather than give something.

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Speaker 3: And then later that night, we saw a bunch of

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Speaker 3: cool artist people and like all they're cool, like cool

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we went to like one of my friend's art studios.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then this morning we did a cold plunge

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Speaker 2: Coffee and chill is what they call it.

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Speaker 1: So great, great event in La Yeah, excellent event. That's

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Speaker 1: some cool people. Yeah. Riley has risen it up over here,

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Speaker 1: you know, he has the They're like, oh, I just

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Speaker 1: moved into town vibe, you know, like, oh, let me

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Speaker 1: show you right, Yeah, all right. So wife and I

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Speaker 1: have been together for twenty five years and she's always

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Speaker 1: done the bingo thing with her mom. That think, like,

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Speaker 1: isn't playing bingo? I would think, so, is that? Like

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Speaker 1: that sounds like a sex thing. I've been doing the

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Speaker 1: bingo with your mom. Bengo b b Ngo Bingo was

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Speaker 1: your name. Oh, I have no problems with that. And

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Speaker 1: they've been doing it for years and years, maybe once

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Speaker 1: or twice a month. Again, no problem with it. Her

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Speaker 1: mom has always been a gambling addict and it caused

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Speaker 1: the divorce of her first husband, and she wiped out

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Speaker 1: her second husband's bank account within a couple of years.

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Speaker 1: So I've always been a little leery on the whole

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Speaker 1: gambling thing. I've seen it destroy families, and her mom

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Speaker 1: lives with us now, which seems like a liability if

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Speaker 1: she's known for draining bank accounts. Fifty years ago, I

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Speaker 1: worked out of state slash town a lot, so she's

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Speaker 1: always had control of our joint bank account. Not your

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Speaker 1: wife's mom. I hope, I hope it says your life.

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Speaker 1: My checks were auto deposits, so I never really broke

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Speaker 1: down our bills as I should have. After I kept

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Speaker 1: pressuring her to tell me where all our money was,

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Speaker 1: she broke down and told me she gambled it away

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Speaker 1: at the casino slot machines. That's a dumbag shit. Ever, dude,

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna gamble your shit away, go to the

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Speaker 2: Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 1: You have like a what a forty nine percent chance

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Speaker 2: Three, way higher than a slot machine.

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Speaker 1: Y saw machines like one to.

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Speaker 2: Three pears programmed against you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, the whole the whole idea of a

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Speaker 1: casino is programmed against you. But if you're gonna piss

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Speaker 1: where the odds are ever in your favor? Who's watching

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Speaker 1: new Hunger Game experiences in the comments? We should go

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Speaker 1: see it. Yes, at that point, I got a separate

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Speaker 2: Should go to the jack table?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let me just give you some advice about a gamble. Correctly,

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Speaker 1: save up money every month. This has never been sustainable though,

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Speaker 1: always me that pays for them. She has broke every month.

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Speaker 1: When we were going over our tax returns, it turned

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Speaker 1: I don't. That doesn't make sense to me. We went

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Speaker 2: Nice nice little handshake.

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Speaker 1: Handshake deal. I but honestly, at that point, is it

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Speaker 1: handling the money. Yeah, Like here's your allowance kind of deal.

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Speaker 1: Like if you that's what you do with addicts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like you take it away from them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like you would take you would still give her

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Speaker 3: a bank account, I would say, but like.

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Speaker 1: You'll give her access to everything if she's gonna gamble

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Speaker 3: We're trying to take care of ourselves here. We like

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Speaker 3: think that's the movie.

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Speaker 1: I think it's fine. Yeah, but let me know if you, like,

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Speaker 1: all right, if your significant other gambled away your life savings,

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Speaker 1: would you let them? If energy to divorce them, would

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Speaker 1: fast forward a few months. I bought a tracker online,

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Speaker 1: one that I could put on my tractor. I let

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Speaker 1: in case it gets stolen a tractor tracker.

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Speaker 3: to garden, Tom, Like, how you till it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and the kids car. So they put it on

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Speaker 1: a few weeks and decided to try it out. One day.

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Speaker 1: I threw it in my console of my wife's car,

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Speaker 1: believe you for now. It be well. Instead of going shopping,

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Speaker 1: I'm on purpose and hidden. It's been a couple months

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Speaker 1: a week. Not the bingo hall, but the actual casino.

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Speaker 1: I confronted her again today when she asked for money

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Speaker 1: for kids gymnastics. I asked her how her gambling is.

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Speaker 1: She was going and she denied she's back to gambling.

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Speaker 1: I gave her many outs and she wouldn't admit it.

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Speaker 1: So I told her about the tracker. Now she's furious

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Speaker 1: that I tracked her and said she threw out the

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Speaker 1: D word divorce. Oh sorry, this post is all over

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Speaker 1: the place. I'm super nervous. We've been together for twenty

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Speaker 1: five plus years and I'm freaking outs. And there is

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Speaker 1: some relevant comments and an update. But like, I understand

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Speaker 1: the whole like tracking thing, right, But if your answer

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Speaker 1: to being like caught in a lie is to like

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Speaker 1: me in this lie, well I'm going to divorce you.

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Speaker 1: That feels like maybe not someone you want to be around.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and like that's all they have too is.

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Speaker 1: Twenty five years? I mean how old it? Did? Say?

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Speaker 3: The only thing that they said was they've been together

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Speaker 1: so they've been together since they were super young. I mean,

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Speaker 1: that's a really hard relationship to leave. Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I like you can see a totally

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Speaker 1: She continued to lie. And he's like, I don't want

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Speaker 1: a divorce. Oh wow. I think he like has every

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Speaker 2: I think he's more just morning that he that she loed.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't really care. It seems like the money isn't

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Speaker 1: No, it's it's the trust. It's always the trust. Dang.

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Speaker 1: And she said divorce that's.

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Speaker 3: All she had though she had any money or like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she was just like, yeah, it feels like a

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Speaker 1: little bit of like emotional blackmail almost. Yeah. Anyway, let's

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Speaker 1: get into this relevant comment. So to clear up some info,

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Speaker 1: this is from Op. My wife and two daughters already

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Speaker 1: track each other on their iPhones. They always know where

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Speaker 1: anything fancy. The tracker I bought was just for tracking

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Speaker 1: then yes, I would have told them it was there. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I should have confronted her about it the day I

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Speaker 1: was testing out the tracker. Huge mistake, and it led

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Speaker 1: me to being a creeper. I can't deny that part.

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Speaker 1: I think I was just hoping it was a one off,

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Speaker 1: white lie and not a normal thing. And I think

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Speaker 1: most people are saying in the comments that Op is

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Speaker 1: not the a hole for putting the tracker in the car.

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Speaker 1: I think he's definitely not the a hole for accidentally

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Speaker 1: putting the tracker in the car the first time, although

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Speaker 1: that is a little like the circumstances feel a little suss.

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Speaker 1: But when he admitted to putting a tracker in it

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Speaker 1: the second time, like that is I think a little

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And like the android thing kind of cleared some

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Speaker 3: stuff up because like if the kids already have the

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Speaker 3: mom's location, and the only reason he doesn't have location

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Speaker 3: because he doesn't have an iPhone, I feel like he

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Speaker 3: does have a right to know that information, you know,

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Speaker 2: Like I have my friends that have my location just

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Speaker 3: Sharing locations with my boss would be fun. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm, just gause you get kidnapped. Oh we just

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Speaker 1: got closer, Riley. Nice. Yeah. So I mean, like I think,

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Speaker 1: My mother in law is probably moving out. Who seems

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Speaker 1: are tomorrow. Thank you for all the opinions and advice.

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Speaker 1: I'll try to read them tomorrow. I guess I don't

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Speaker 1: Would would you guys divorce over this? If you found

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Speaker 2: There's no, No, there's nothing.

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Speaker 1: We're left on a live We're left on the edge.

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Speaker 1: The lead of his account, Oh wow, is that it

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Speaker 1: might a good thing?

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Speaker 1: Maybe he's still with is why I would assume.

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Speaker 2: So if you deleted the account, everybody's.

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Speaker 1: Like yeah, he's like no, no, Maybe maybe it's a

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Speaker 1: Put your answers below. This is the end of a

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Speaker 1: little solo episode. We're in a new house right now.

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Speaker 1: We're all living together. So it's John, O'Reilly, my sister Sophia,

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Speaker 4: My daughter's school cent her hair was unnatural, so they

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Speaker 4: tried to force me to diet to a different color,

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Speaker 4: but I refused. Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: Is it unnatural? Like? How is it in a natural color?

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Speaker 1: Is like green or something?

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Speaker 4: Maybe she has a magenta magenta naturally magenta and that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I remember in high school I had

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Speaker 4: Slight side story my my sister's school there was they

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Speaker 1: A shaved haircut. Why because they're stupid.

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Speaker 4: And then in twenty seventeen, one of the girls like

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Speaker 1: Dude, yikes, dude, that is so fucked.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was really bad.

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Speaker 1: Who decided to do that?

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Speaker 4: The thing is like like my sister's stuff like that

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Speaker 4: Well, anyways, let's let's let's see what's going on in

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Speaker 4: this this person's world. So my daughter, female fifteen, dyed

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Speaker 4: her hair a dark reddish brown color for her birthday.

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Speaker 4: I didn't let her die her hair in middle school,

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Speaker 4: The school has a dress code that just that specified

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Speaker 1: Does that mean no dye or does that mean you

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Speaker 4: One would suspect dyeing it to a natural color is suitable.

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Speaker 4: Which also is just like it doesn't.

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Speaker 1: Matter, like, hey, it's school's wants to conform man, no

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Speaker 4: And it's like like like I had a person that

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Speaker 1: So it can be done, you can be accepting.

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Speaker 4: And so I took this to mean that brown's blondes, reds,

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Speaker 4: her natural hair is black. But I didn't think it

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Speaker 4: would be much of a change. The hairdresser did a

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Speaker 1: Right, because basically if you bleach your hair, it can

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Speaker 1: seems like it's the hair's gonna be good. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: But then one of the teachers in the beginning of

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Speaker 1: Are you really going to be that much of a stickler? Like?

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Speaker 1: Who cares do you have? Like aren't there better things

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Speaker 4: Literally, like like what like what benefit do you get

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Speaker 4: out of out of like doing it? And it's like

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Speaker 4: I said, her hair color grew out of people's heads,

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Speaker 4: which is just like a hilarious way to be Like,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so why was that out of dress code? Well?

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Speaker 4: She told me it was clearly not her natural hair color.

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Speaker 4: And I shot back that tons of her students that

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Speaker 4: She claimed that it didn't look like they could be blonde,

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Speaker 1: Yo, what difference doesn't mean? What does that mean?

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Speaker 1: My daughter's Asian? Ah, there it is. Here we go

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Speaker 4: My daughter's Asian, so it's pretty racist to say that

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Speaker 1: Yikes, Yo, dude, you're just opening yourself up to a lawsuit. Yo, yikes.

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Speaker 4: Why are people so dumb? But I saw tons of

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Speaker 4: They want me to darken her hair again so that

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Speaker 4: This was until the end of the school year. I

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Speaker 4: so you're telling me you're the principal of an entire school,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, that's a glass on my list of priority.

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Speaker 4: Literally, Yet you email out of the blue, unprompted of

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Speaker 4: What bananas. She still has reddish bre and she does

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Speaker 4: not want to die it back. But I've tried to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's just like also as as as

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Speaker 1: Like if the internet got ahold of this, yo, they're

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Speaker 4: Someone commented Live in the US, go talk to the

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Speaker 1: Now you'll get a fat payout bru literally.

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Speaker 4: Just like I would want to go, Like I wouldn't

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Speaker 4: just like I want to embarrass this shit out of

437
00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:14,800
Speaker 4: you because it's like just sit for two seconds and

438
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Speaker 4: use your brain.

439
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Speaker 2: That's all you got to do.

440
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Speaker 1: And it's just like also use your brain on other stuff,

441
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 1: Like there's so many other things that are way more

442
00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 1: important than this, and this is what you choose to

443
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Speaker 1: like stick in the ground and like claim ownership over

444
00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:32,879
Speaker 1: like like this is what you're like choose to to

445
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Speaker 1: really care about.

446
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Speaker 4: I bet, I bet there's so many programs that could

447
00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:38,919
Speaker 4: use this kind of involvement. Yeah, at the school, but

448
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 4: yet the principle is like worried about this.

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Speaker 1: This girl's so dumb, so dumb, stupid,