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Speaker 1: The Jewels show on demand Jebils dirty little Secret the

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Speaker 1: sign to your dirty little secrets. So on the phone

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Speaker 1: right now is somebody. I can't say their name because

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Speaker 1: everybody is anonymous when they tell us a dirty little secret.

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Speaker 1: So what's up somebody? Hi? Are you doing? Are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm I mean, I'm okay. What's your dirty little secret? So?

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Speaker 1: My three little secret is I've been with my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: for about six years now, and this summer I already

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Speaker 1: have a U Hall rent it and I'm moving seven

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Speaker 1: hundred miles back home. And he has no idea. Oh my, whoa,

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Speaker 1: you're You're just gonna bounce. Yeah, I'm just gonna leave.

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Speaker 1: We have four kids together. Oh damn, are you taking

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Speaker 1: the kids into U haul too? Or you're leaving? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: me and the kids are leaving and he's staying. Wait

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Speaker 1: is he like? Is he abusive? Well? So he, um,

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Speaker 1: he's not very helpful. I I have him and he'll

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Speaker 1: help me clean up after the kids and stuff. And

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Speaker 1: he says I didn't do it. Wow, So he has

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Speaker 1: no idea that you you already have everything ready to

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Speaker 1: go to move? Yeah? Yeah, I rent into U haul.

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Speaker 1: My parents are the ones that live where I'm going. Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 1: more kids is a lot, right, that's a lot of

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Speaker 1: work and to not have help. Yeah, I mean I

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Speaker 1: definitely know how that feels, and it's not right for sure. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I don't think most dudes understand. I definitely didn't and

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Speaker 1: still probably don't a lot of the time because you've

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Speaker 1: never been in the position of being a mom before. Man,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot of responsibility and you have to do everything.

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Speaker 1: And if you have someone who won't help out at all, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot. Like those people are depending on you

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Speaker 1: for life, you know, full time too. Yeah. I have

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Speaker 1: a full time job, and he thinks that the house

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Speaker 1: is my responsibility. So that's crazy. You still have to

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Speaker 1: work full time job, all that on top of it,

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Speaker 1: and then he wants you to just take care of

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Speaker 1: the house. Yeah. And three well, my three older kids

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Speaker 1: aren't his. And the one thing that really makes me

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Speaker 1: the most as he says, your kids, and I'm like, uh,

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Speaker 1: if we're together, there are kids. The smallest one is his.

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Speaker 1: How old is your youngest? She's four? Okay, and forgive me,

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Speaker 1: you're breaking up with him, right, Oh yeah I will.

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Speaker 1: I So what I plan on doing is telling him

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Speaker 1: like a week before I leave. Hey, I'm leaving. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so what about your guys's daughter? So is he do

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Speaker 1: you think that he's gonna want to fight for some

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Speaker 1: sort of custody. Well, we had split up before and

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Speaker 1: I had come back, and so when we split up,

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Speaker 1: his dad had just gone through a really bad something

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Speaker 1: with his mom. So his dad was like, get a

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Speaker 1: lawyer and get it all set up so you can

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Speaker 1: have visitation and da dadda. So it was already all

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Speaker 1: set up, So I just plan on going back to that,

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Speaker 1: already got the template in place for the whole Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I like it, the whole thing. He plays video games

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Speaker 1: about eight to ten hours a day. Oh okay, so yeah,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't even tell him, Like I wouldn't normally out

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Speaker 1: support somebody just leaving like that, but I'm paying attention.

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Speaker 1: I can see what's going on. No, you're now, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know he doesn't. Dudes to play games like that

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Speaker 1: where gamers like that, they just get totally wrapped in

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Speaker 1: their game. All my parents are going to show up

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Speaker 1: to help me, and he's gonna be like, what's going on? Good, Well,

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Speaker 1: congratulations on getting out. Sounds like a bad relationship for you,

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Speaker 1: and you're doing the right thing because you'll find one

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Speaker 1: for that is right for you eventually. Yeah. Well, one

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Speaker 1: other thing is I'm scared he's going to try and propose.

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Speaker 1: Say yes, yes, seriously. It actually makes it better because

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Speaker 1: now you can be like, I just had second thoughts.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, it just got too serious. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: there we go. Yeah, I'm just scared about it. But

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I already got the you horror in it.

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Speaker 1: I'm going I was super scared too. But just remember

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Speaker 1: this in the moments where you're feeling scared to be

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Speaker 1: a single mom or you're fearful of whatever, core all

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Speaker 1: of that, just remember the way that he made you

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Speaker 1: feel when you were at your worst because of the

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Speaker 1: lack of help and all of that. I also have

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Speaker 1: an another suggestion that might be very helpful. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: you're planning on leaving him in two weeks ago, you

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Speaker 1: haul set up, you're gonna take the kids, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: just bounce, right, And you said you think he might

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Speaker 1: propose to you before you're able to break up with

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Speaker 1: him and leave. And I'm saying you should say no, right,

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Speaker 1: except I kind of think you should say yes just

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Speaker 1: so you can get that ring. I think you deserve it.

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Speaker 1: That is the truest statement you girl. And then don't

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Speaker 1: don't leave it behind, just take it with you upon it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. Take that thing sorright,