1 00:00:03,920 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to another Tommy Talk, and today's episode 2 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: is don't let anyone dim your light. Look, I don't 3 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:14,800 Speaker 1: care if you're a public figure or not. There are 4 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: a lot of people in this world who want to 5 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: tear you down. They want to talk about you behind 6 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,080 Speaker 1: your back. They want to post things online negatively about you, 7 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: they want to gossip about you. And inevitably we hear 8 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: things about ourselves, you know, whether it's gossip through the grapevine, 9 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: or we see something online or somebody write something. We 10 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,840 Speaker 1: see it, and of course it can affect you, because 11 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,040 Speaker 1: that can be extremely hurtful. But your light should be 12 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:41,279 Speaker 1: yours to protect, and that's something no one can take 13 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: away from you if you can protect it. Protect your confidence, 14 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:48,279 Speaker 1: your joy or ambition, your authenticity. You know. I always say, 15 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: don't shrink yourself to make someone else feel bigger, because 16 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: you are enough and this is who you are. So 17 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: let yourself be who you are. You don't have to 18 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: always please other people. People are always going to project 19 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: their opinions on you. That's life. People might be subconsciously 20 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 1: projecting their fears onto you when they do that. Who knows. 21 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 1: I'm not a psychologist, but your light, baby, It's not 22 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: meant to be dim. It's meant to shine. And I 23 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 1: am so sick and tired of seeing people online or 24 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 1: in conversation trying to constantly take people's light away. It's like, 25 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:23,440 Speaker 1: enough is enough, you guys. I am so against toxic 26 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:25,800 Speaker 1: internet culture. I speak about it a lot. I think 27 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: there's a lot of women who tear women down. I 28 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: think there's a lot of gay men who tear gay 29 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:31,399 Speaker 1: men down. And I bring up those categories of people 30 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: because these should be people who are championing one another 31 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: the most, and it breaks my heart to see sometimes 32 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 1: that's not always the case. So your light is yours. 33 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: It should be protected, right. And I don't know about you, 34 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: but have you ever walked into a room feeling totally 35 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: confident and then maybe walked out questioning yourself because maybe 36 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: you thought people were whispering, or maybe people were saying something, 37 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: or maybe conversations that you saw in the past about 38 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: yourself are surfacing and affecting yourself conscious in your being. 39 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 1: That is BS. I don't want anyone to ever make 40 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:08,720 Speaker 1: you feel like that, because it's your life, it's your dreams, 41 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: it's your light. Nobody should be able to take that 42 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: away from you. So this is about recognizing when others 43 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:18,640 Speaker 1: are trying to dim you consciously or maybe unconsciously, and 44 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,839 Speaker 1: you choosing not to let them. That's what I'm gonna 45 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: say again, you choosing not to let them. So dimming 46 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: your light, to me, it means anything from shrinking yourself 47 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: to make others comfortable downplaying your success. Right, maybe you're 48 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,119 Speaker 1: afraid that people are gonna not want to hear about it, 49 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: or unfortunately, maybe there's some jealousy you've experienced. Another example 50 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 1: of staying silent when you should absolutely speak up. Accepting 51 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: less than you deserve is another one for everyone that's 52 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 1: been in a relationship that's not been so great or 53 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 1: maybe toxic in the past. You know what that means, 54 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: You have accepted less than what you deserve, and I 55 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 1: hope you will never make that mistake again. So dimming 56 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: that feeling of being dim it can often start in 57 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: a very subtle way. Unless someone is an absolute monster 58 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: and is just bashing you, you know, to your face 59 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:11,760 Speaker 1: or online or whatever the case may bee, that's straight 60 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:14,359 Speaker 1: up bullying. But there could be people dimming your light 61 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,320 Speaker 1: without you even realizing it. Right, Maybe it's these jokes 62 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: that aren't funny that are actually quite hurtful, or these 63 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 1: backhanded compliments where you're like, wait, was that something that 64 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 1: was supposed to make me feel good? Because it didn't. 65 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,480 Speaker 1: If you're constantly being dismissed, you know that kind of 66 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: dismissive energy is another one. Or maybe someone says you're 67 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: too much, or you're too extra, or you're too loud. 68 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: That's all dimming your light. That's all things that are 69 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 1: said to not make you feel like you are the 70 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: best version of you. And I don't know why people 71 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: try to do this. I really don't know why. Maybe 72 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: it's insecurity. Maybe it's fear of not being what you 73 00:03:56,520 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 1: are and in that comes jealousy. Maybe it's a limited mindset. 74 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 1: Maybe it's just unhappiness. I don't know whatever those reasons are. 75 00:04:05,480 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 1: And to be quite frank, I don't really give a 76 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:11,200 Speaker 1: shit what those reasons are because it's not your problem. 77 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 1: So whatever those reasons are, it's not about you. And 78 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: I want you to remember that if you feel like 79 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: your light's being damned or you're being attacked for whatever reason, 80 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 1: it's not about you. It is about the other person 81 00:04:23,160 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: and whatever they are going through on their own and 82 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: it's I guess the best way to say this is 83 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,720 Speaker 1: the light you have. Your brightness is activating to them, 84 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:37,160 Speaker 1: it's triggering to them. But again, that's not your problem. 85 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: Your problem is not to make everybody else around you 86 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: feel big and special when that means you have to 87 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: make yourself feel like you don't matter. Okay, like we 88 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,480 Speaker 1: should all walk through life treating each other with kindness 89 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,960 Speaker 1: and respect and love period. Treat others how you want 90 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: to be treated. That's like the golden rule of thumb 91 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 1: that I would hope we were all taught at a 92 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: young age. But that's not what life is really about. 93 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:02,280 Speaker 1: But you can't bound out and make people feel great 94 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 1: at the expense of yourself. You just can't do it. 95 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: You can't please people or be an image of what 96 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 1: they want you to be. Just to make sure that 97 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: you feel like you're not upsetting anybody, No, absolutely not, 98 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: absolutely not. So you might be wondering, like do I 99 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: myself for other people? Do I? And the things that 100 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:24,599 Speaker 1: I think about when it comes to somebody perhaps sacrificing 101 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:27,920 Speaker 1: their own light is are you apologizing for things you 102 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:31,400 Speaker 1: didn't do? Are you a chronic apologizer and realizing? Like? Wait, 103 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:34,479 Speaker 1: I didn't do that. Why am I apologizing? Do you 104 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: hide pieces of who you are to certain people or 105 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,479 Speaker 1: in certain groups? Cause that's not cool too, Like you 106 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: want to be comfortable around the people in your life 107 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: who you should be loved by. You shouldn't have to 108 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: hide pieces of who you are. Do you tone yourself 109 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: down for other people? I equate that to also walking 110 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:57,599 Speaker 1: on eggshells, Like do you do that or do you 111 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 1: simply just feel drained after being around certain people? Total 112 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: battery drain and energy suck. Right, when I think about 113 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: people I'm no longer super close to in my life, 114 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 1: and that's life, right. I've lived on this planet for 115 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:14,800 Speaker 1: forty years, and sometimes friendships have a season. I think 116 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,919 Speaker 1: that those are the people in my life who I 117 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:20,800 Speaker 1: genuinely couldn't be myself around and who I did shrink 118 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:24,320 Speaker 1: myself for. And there was one particular person who comes 119 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,919 Speaker 1: to mind, who I'm no longer friends with, who I 120 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: really had to tone down my happiness quite a lot 121 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:34,720 Speaker 1: because they were always in a negative, weird headspace, to 122 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 1: the point where like a few of us started talking like, hey, 123 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:42,040 Speaker 1: this person's always dark. They always go dark. And because 124 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 1: that person always went dark, there was never a reciprocal 125 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 1: nature of our friendship. There was never a true genuine 126 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,479 Speaker 1: interest in my life or how I was doing, or 127 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: the heartbreak I was going through. None of that mattered. 128 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 1: None of that mattered. There was no genuine connection. This 129 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: person simply wanted to get together, open up wine and drink, 130 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: and that's me as in a friendship like I want 131 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: to connect on a deeper level. So I think my 132 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 1: light was severely dimmed around this person because they always 133 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: had to be the one with the story or the 134 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: problem or the drama and needing the attention and the comfort, 135 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 1: to a point where I just said no more, like 136 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: I'm done. I am done. I can't keep dimming myself 137 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: for you when you could give two shits about what's 138 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: going on in my life. So, you know, it's noticing 139 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,960 Speaker 1: those things that I think are super important and realizing 140 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 1: that you need to protect your light going forward a 141 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: few ways to do that. And this is all works 142 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: in progress. You know, I'm not not perfect. I still 143 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:40,960 Speaker 1: am learning, but these are things I've picked up along 144 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: the way. For sure is you got to set boundaries, 145 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: especially energetic boundaries. This person, like I said, is no 146 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 1: longer in my life, could I have picked up the 147 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: phone and had a lunch and maybe had a session 148 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: where I poured out my heart and soul and told 149 00:07:57,640 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 1: this person everything I was feeling, and you know, put 150 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: a band aid on it and move on. I could have, 151 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 1: but I know deep down nothing would change because this 152 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: person is incapable of change. So why am I gonna 153 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: do that? Why am I gonna set myself up for 154 00:08:10,520 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: that when there's so many people in my life who 155 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: I love in a door I want to pour my 156 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 1: full energy into. I don't have time for that. That's 157 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:19,640 Speaker 1: called a boundary. That's called an energetic boundary. I set it, 158 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:22,119 Speaker 1: and I am done. It's not being harsh or cutting 159 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: someone out. It's just knowing, like what you are or 160 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: what you're not willing to tolerate anymore. I think you 161 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 1: have to also surround yourself around like minded people who 162 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 1: want the same things in life. Who you know, in 163 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: my case, I like driven, positive, you know, sees the day, grateful, respectful, 164 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: loyal people. I think it's important to find your tribe. 165 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: Your tribe does affect your vibe, and I firmly believe 166 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 1: that if you surround yourself with light, all of your 167 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 1: light can shine and everybody wants you to shine, right, 168 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 1: I think you also have to own your success. Nothing's 169 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: wrong with saying once in a while, I'm killing it, 170 00:08:57,679 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: I'm crushing it. I not do that for most of 171 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:04,440 Speaker 1: my career, and it's only until lately I'll stop and say, Wow, 172 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 1: I'm proud of me, like I did it. That's awesome. 173 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:09,200 Speaker 1: Go me right. I'm not like blasting it to the world. 174 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:11,520 Speaker 1: It's just something I'll say to myself, and hopefully the 175 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 1: people in your life will want to say it to you. 176 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 1: They'll want to say it back to you, and I 177 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:16,559 Speaker 1: hope you say it to them, because we should be 178 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,319 Speaker 1: each other's biggest hype man and woman, like one hundred percent. 179 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:21,640 Speaker 1: Let me hype you up, you hype me up. Let's go. 180 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: That is called, you know, creating a big bubble of 181 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 1: beautiful light for you and the people you love. And 182 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 1: I think it's also really important to remember who you are. 183 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 1: Social media is fake. It is fake, not real, and 184 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 1: everyone is pretending to be something online. And yes, we're 185 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: we're putting out, you know, pieces of our lives, but 186 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,559 Speaker 1: we're putting out the highlights of our lives. Nobody knows 187 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: when I'm putting up a picture of me interviewing, you know, 188 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 1: one of the biggest stars in the world, Paris Hilton, 189 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: recently that I'm also dealing with heartbreak from a death, 190 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 1: like nobody knows that because I'm not really talking about 191 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 1: that in that moment. So we have to remember who 192 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: we are at our core, Like, yes, I can be 193 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:07,760 Speaker 1: that person, but I'm also someone incredibly sensitive and genuine 194 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: and you know, so in touch with my feelings and 195 00:10:10,960 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: not everyone has the honor of seeing that. Think about 196 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,559 Speaker 1: it that way, right, the pieces of you are an 197 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:19,080 Speaker 1: honor that somebody gets to see an experience, and you 198 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 1: don't show everybody all of that because it's weird. You 199 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:22,839 Speaker 1: don't just put every piece of you out on the 200 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 1: internet or you know, walked up to a stranger and 201 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:27,800 Speaker 1: reveal every single side of who you are. But you 202 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: remember who you are. You know who you are. Don't 203 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 1: let anyone else tell you who you are or who 204 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: you aren't because people will try. People will one hundred 205 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:36,800 Speaker 1: percent try to tell you who you are and who 206 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,440 Speaker 1: you are not, and that is not their place. So 207 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: remember who you are because that is going to protect 208 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:49,199 Speaker 1: your light one thousand percent. I want to reiterate as 209 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:52,199 Speaker 1: I start wrapping this up, that you're not too much, 210 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 1: You're enough right, and the right people in your life 211 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: are never ever going to ask you to shrink or 212 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: to dim or dull that life. And if you feel 213 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:03,200 Speaker 1: like you have to, you got to take stock of 214 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:05,960 Speaker 1: who those people are and if you want to continue 215 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: that relationship and if there are people that you don't 216 00:11:09,240 --> 00:11:11,520 Speaker 1: know trying to dim your light. Right in my case, 217 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: Sarabin comments online that I've seen of people being awful 218 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 1: to me for no reason, for no reason or whatever 219 00:11:17,080 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 1: the reason is, it's their problem, not mine. And a 220 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: lot of people, I guess in a public facing job 221 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: will say this. You have to have the wherewithal to 222 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 1: know exactly who you are, so that last point I 223 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: just said, so that it doesn't affect you, because you 224 00:11:31,280 --> 00:11:35,080 Speaker 1: cannot let people win in taking away your joy. You 225 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: just can't. There's so much going on in this world. 226 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 1: We have to hold on to our joy. It matters 227 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 1: so much. And if you're a good person and you 228 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: know who you are at your core, I want you 229 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:48,559 Speaker 1: to I don't want you, I beg you. I implore 230 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 1: you to hold on to that and not let a 231 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: single person ever make you feel less than or like 232 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:58,800 Speaker 1: you're not enough. That was a lot of passion and 233 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:01,240 Speaker 1: I feel like I talked to Miles minute. But I 234 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 1: just think this is such an important episode because we 235 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:05,920 Speaker 1: live in a day and age where there is so 236 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: much meanness. There is so much cruelty in this world. 237 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: I can't go one day without opening up my Explore 238 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 1: page on social media and seeing someone ripping apart someone 239 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 1: for their weight, or for who they're dating, or just 240 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: for existing, and it's like, how did we get here? 241 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:25,440 Speaker 1: And why are we here? And that's why I say 242 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 1: that world isn't real. Hold on to the people in 243 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: your life that you love and that love you and 244 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: who know you at your core, and don't dim your 245 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: light for anybody. Don't dim your light for anybody. If 246 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:39,160 Speaker 1: something brings you joy, do it, post it, talk about it, 247 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 1: live it, experience it. And if somebody has a problem 248 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: with that, that's their problem, it's not yours. So keep 249 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: being the amazing person you were meant to be, living 250 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: the life you were meant to be, without telling anybody 251 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: else how to live their life, because you wouldn't want 252 00:12:54,679 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: them doing that to you. And I am reminding you 253 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 1: here and on this podcast that no one should have 254 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 1: the right to take your light away, because baby, it 255 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:06,679 Speaker 1: is bright, it is beautiful, and you got to keep 256 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: it shining because you are meant to shine that light. 257 00:13:13,760 --> 00:13:17,319 Speaker 1: I've Never Said This Before is hosted by Me Tommy Dedario. 258 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: This podcast is executive produced by Andrew Puglisi at iHeartRadio 259 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:26,680 Speaker 1: and by Me Tommy, with editing by Joshua Colaudney. I've 260 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 1: Never Said This Before is part of the Elvis Duran 261 00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: podcast Network on iHeart Podcasts. 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