1 00:00:01,480 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:08,360 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:11,719 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Yeah, let's go buckle 7 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: up and hold on tight. We got it for you here. 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: It is Rowberry Letter. Thank you nephew. Subject over sixty 9 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: and full of stamina. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty 10 00:00:33,760 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: one year old married woman and I've been married for 11 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:40,559 Speaker 1: eight years and we have four kids. In the beginning, 12 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: our sex life was amazing and our intimate sessions would 13 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: last four hours. But after four kids, it's basically non existent, 14 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: and when we do have sex, it's terrible and boring. 15 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 1: There is no spice in our love life because my 16 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: husband is tired. Is just sex and then he goes 17 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 1: to sleep, leaving me wanting more. We have sex once 18 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: a week so I can fulfill my duties as a wife, 19 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:15,320 Speaker 1: but I get my satisfaction elsewhere. On two separate occasions, 20 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 1: I met two gentlemen that are at least thirty years 21 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: older than me. I was open and honest with them 22 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: about my sad sex life, and they told me how 23 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,320 Speaker 1: bad I need it, and I told them how bad 24 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: I needed some good sex. So now I'm having an 25 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: affair with both of them, and they both are beyond 26 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:37,280 Speaker 1: amazing in bed. One guy is in his early sixties 27 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:40,399 Speaker 1: and he is so passionate that I can't get enough 28 00:01:40,440 --> 00:01:43,440 Speaker 1: of him. The other one is in his late sixties 29 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:46,360 Speaker 1: and he has more stamina than any man I've ever 30 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: been with. I was shocked to find out that the 31 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: men in their sixties still have it going on like this. 32 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: The more intimacy I have with these older men, the 33 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: less I want to be with my husband. It's like 34 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 1: the best experience ever, and I could see myself falling 35 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: for them. I'm sure these older men don't want anything 36 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: but sex from me, but I find it hard to 37 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 1: go back to boring sex with my husband after being 38 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: with these old pros. I do love my husband and 39 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: I don't want to lose him. He has no idea 40 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: what I've been doing on the side, and I almost 41 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: feel bad for cheating. My husband and I are both 42 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 1: still young. So do you think there is a way 43 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: for us to spice up our sex life again, or 44 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,919 Speaker 1: should I realize that I need more than my husband 45 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: can give me? Wow? Okay, can I say this before 46 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 1: you start? Yes? Yes, yes, I'm going to be beyond 47 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: interested in here and your response go here? All right? Well, 48 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:49,919 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for that. You should be feel 49 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 1: badly for cheating. You really should, you know what, I 50 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: don't think you've given it your your marriage, I mean 51 00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: much of a chance. It sounds like you've given up. 52 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, did you leave that part out 53 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 1: or something? I think you just said that it was 54 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: boring and basically non existent. But I mean you want 55 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: it to last for hours? I mean for how long? 56 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: You want it to last for? Like hours and hours? 57 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 1: No wonder he's tired. I'm sure both of you can 58 00:03:20,840 --> 00:03:24,679 Speaker 1: step up your game in the bedroom. Do you have 59 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 1: date nights? Do you plan anything to do together as 60 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: a married couple? I mean, I know you have four kids. 61 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: Do you get a babysitter from time to time so 62 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: you guys can go out and have time together? I mean, 63 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: those are the kinds of things you do you have 64 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: to do to keep your marriage, you know, the spice 65 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: in your marriage and things like that. I mean, where 66 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 1: is the romance? Where is it? Do you, you know, 67 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 1: talk to him about being romantic and stuff like that. 68 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't sound like either of you guys 69 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 1: are trying just stepping you know, outside of your marriage 70 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 1: or stepping out on your husband to get what you need. 71 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 1: That that's not the answer. And you have two men. Wow. 72 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 1: I know women are smarter than men when it comes 73 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: dating and everything, but two and by the way, you 74 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: have two men. I really hope you're using protection so far. 75 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: I guess you have been, because that really could turn 76 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 1: into a mess. And I hope you don't really fall 77 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 1: for either one of these guys, because it's going to 78 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: cause a problem, you know, in your marriage more than 79 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: already is there with this sex situation. So I think 80 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,640 Speaker 1: you need to reevaluate your marriage with your husband, and 81 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: your husband need to sit down and talk about this 82 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:41,280 Speaker 1: situation seriously and try to come to some sort of agreement. 83 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:44,359 Speaker 1: You need romance, you need love, you need all of 84 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:46,960 Speaker 1: that for play, all of that back in your marriage 85 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: and you can put it back in. You're only thirty one. 86 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 1: You guys are young. Steve thirty one, Oval thirty one, 87 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: girl who la I have a mercy. It's called a 88 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 1: repeat offender, someone who returns back to the scene of 89 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: the crime over and over and over and yet no repercussions. 90 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: Just this is my answer. Okay, okay, I'm interested in 91 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 1: your it's just like you were interested in mine. No 92 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: you're not. And anyway, thirty one years old and is oval. 93 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: But it used to be amazing because they had intimate 94 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:29,919 Speaker 1: sections that lasted for hours. Here's some people that obviously 95 00:05:29,960 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: he's not working. That is very hard hours. All your 96 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 1: intimate sections sessions was hours. That's a lot well them, 97 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:46,279 Speaker 1: iurs turning the folk kids. It's basically non existing. When 98 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 1: we have sex nis terrible, it's boring. Ain't no spice 99 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: in it. As soon as he has sex, he go 100 00:05:53,080 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: to sleep, leaving you wanting more. Y'all doing it once 101 00:05:58,360 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 1: a week so you can fulfill your dude. But then, 102 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 1: on two different occasions, you met two gentlemen that are 103 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: at least thirty years older than me. So let's stop 104 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 1: right here. You're attracted to older men because you have 105 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: sat down and explained to two older men how unhappy 106 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 1: you are sexually. Now, the first one you might have 107 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: just fell into it, but after you saw how good 108 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: he was. You explained it to another sixty year old dude, 109 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: and you have found out that the old pros is 110 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: just that old prose bringing all right, hang on, Steve, 111 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: trying to break it. We don't have two of yours, 112 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 1: and there redoing the kitchen. Twenty three minutes after the hour, 113 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 1: subject of today's strawberry letter over sixty and full over 114 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:52,480 Speaker 1: the roofing the garage to Steve's response, coming up right 115 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 1: after this, you're listening to morning show, all right, Steve, 116 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: come on, let's recap today's strawberry let her subject over 117 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 1: sixty and full of stamina. Thirty one year old lady 118 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: had a wonderful relationship with a man. They used to have. 119 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:13,600 Speaker 1: Our long love making session has resulted in four kids. 120 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: Now there's no spark at all. They just he have 121 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: sex and go to sleep. Should do it once a week, 122 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 1: and she says that she's had to find and he 123 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: falls asleep, leaving her wanting more so to cure them more. 124 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: She has started seeing two older men early sixties, in 125 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: late sixties. She's explained to both of them how boring 126 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: her sex life is, and they say, hold on, you 127 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: ain't got to do that. So now these old pros 128 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: is in there working. They old too, they know old ways. 129 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 1: They in that churning your butter. Come on, churning the putter. 130 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: You're getting your cotton picked check like you like it. Yeah, 131 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: there they waxing you with bird laughs sacks, Yeah, yeah, 132 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: y'all having simol right, six, that's just just why do 133 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: you go so far felt? You know? Back? Just let 134 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: me get on back what I was doing this this 135 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: old time sex y'all in there, hide high high collorway steak. Yeah, 136 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:42,079 Speaker 1: y'all open the who to vote show but two to 137 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 1: get info y'all having the elfice petness sick who little 138 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:57,199 Speaker 1: Richard six? So I know how you feel because you 139 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 1: had something because you young them sixty old men in 140 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: there just coming in there and bringing it. And that 141 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: this man is so passionate because he got moves, he 142 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: doing things, he knows what to do. He didn't done 143 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: it before thirty more years experience pulling it all on 144 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: you here ninety and you can't take it. And the 145 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:23,400 Speaker 1: other one got stamina. The reason old men have standar 146 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: stamina standina, And I'm explaining it to you this way. 147 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: The reason we have stamina's because we've had this before. 148 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: We can control it better. Oh, we know how to pace. 149 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,319 Speaker 1: We know when it's getting close to the end. We 150 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: know how to you know, pull back a little bit 151 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 1: and take our time. We focus our mind and sometime 152 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:56,439 Speaker 1: it's called displacement. Sometimes. Being an old pro, you know 153 00:09:56,559 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 1: how to take your mind and put it somewhere else 154 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 1: so you can keep handling your business without the focus 155 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:07,439 Speaker 1: being there. Thus bring it about an eroticism in yourself. 156 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 1: So you take your mind and displace it somewhere else. 157 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:17,679 Speaker 1: Come on, hire not stay with you right now? You 158 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: degentify you you you you you. You take it in 159 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:30,599 Speaker 1: another direction. Yeah, yeah, you rebuke of the powers of 160 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:39,559 Speaker 1: lustivity right now. Uhh. And now, dude, it is you 161 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:44,640 Speaker 1: won't want But I think you come to the realization 162 00:10:44,840 --> 00:10:49,600 Speaker 1: that that all they want from you is your sex. Yeah, 163 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:52,959 Speaker 1: but it's hard for you to go back to that 164 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:58,680 Speaker 1: boing sex, that young boy thing, that that hip hop love. 165 00:10:59,520 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 1: M that one pass leg up, one pass down love. 166 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: You don't want that, right, that can't go hat love? 167 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: That that that that that that I got on extra 168 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:14,559 Speaker 1: jewelry love. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, you need to get back 169 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: to that dark chking love. Yeah, come on back to 170 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,679 Speaker 1: the Yeah that that love and the fold. It was 171 00:11:20,760 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 1: gold changing and and and all that. We just was 172 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: on some beads. You need mood ring six change colors. 173 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 1: Yeah you real red hot, cold all that. You go 174 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:42,240 Speaker 1: right there. You know what I'm saying. You need girl, 175 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: You need Jerry Carl six. You need Roger Trotman six, 176 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 1: so rough, so tough out here. Yeah, yeah, you need 177 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: a computer little six. Come on now, mold, bounce to 178 00:11:57,920 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: the ounce. You need some headed through the grape vine. 179 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: And see you have been spawned. Now you have been 180 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:22,000 Speaker 1: treated to a ticket to the past. You had some 181 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:29,199 Speaker 1: feel love and put on yeah album loves you. You know, 182 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,599 Speaker 1: some some out in the field love. You had some 183 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:36,079 Speaker 1: behind the garage love put over. I can did that. 184 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: I know you did. You actually had some black seat love. Yeah, 185 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:45,199 Speaker 1: I've been back for your foot all up against the 186 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 1: one that tatted tent off, the one. Hell I looked 187 00:12:54,120 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: up all my tent was ringing. 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