WEBVTT - New Year on the Pier 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I Heart Radio Podcast. 0:00:06.519 --> 0:00:12.000 Happy New Year, Happy New Year. It's New Year's two 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.159 thousand nineteen. We're so excited. We're winding down again. This 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:19.440 is so much fun. We are on location. It's we're 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.760 a seaside on the pier in Santa Monica, California. Yes, 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:26.599 we are. And what are we celebrating? Then? Everything? Ever? 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:31.080 Can you be a little more specifically? Freedom? Oh my god. No, 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:34.000 we're celebrating the fact that we have an iHeart Podcast 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:36.960 Award that we're nominated for. Um, I think it's in 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.320 a couple of weeks, and we're gonna have a little 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:44.040 party after this. So we're we're on location with Floppy 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:48.080 Haired Eastern right now, and uh, we're gonna chat and 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:51.320 I'm excited. I'm very excited. See what the turnouts like 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.320 and to celebrate our I hope like two people come. 0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:57.560 You did see the line outside all around? There's no line? 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:01.600 There was not one, Like all, hey, Tori, can you 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:04.560 open that bottle of wine for us? Bad? Yes? Because 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:09.319 we are winding down, literally literally winding down. What would 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:14.080 you say? I can't hear you gotta get on the mic. Um, 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.560 should we just have a glass of wine and start gossiping. 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:19.560 Girl chat. We have to girl chat? Can we just like, 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:22.000 should we talk about it now? The elephant in the room. 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:27.560 I didn't want to say anything, Sarah, We're gonna need 0:01:27.560 --> 0:01:31.040 to bottle each So Michael just did a really deep 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:33.120 breath like kind of looked at me. You said you 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:35.280 didn't want to talk about it. He's like, I don't 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.839 think we should talk about it. That was, but Sarah 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.440 gave you the green light. She did. So bottom line, 0:01:40.480 --> 0:01:42.959 if you know my my wind Down podcasters who have 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.240 been following us from the beginning, you know, I've had 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:48.640 my friend Sara Cruise on the show, and um, she 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:53.600 basically gave her boyfriend an ultimatum by the end of 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:57.200 last year that she you know, you know, they've been married, 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:01.720 they've been not even sorry, Sarah, they've been together. That 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:03.480 was That was That was a stab in the heart 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:06.800 and she just probably crashed her car. I'm sorry. She 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:11.079 has been dating you know, this boy for six years 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.680 and she basically was like, look like I'm ready, like 0:02:13.760 --> 0:02:16.400 I'm ready to have a ring. And she talked to 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:19.480 him in September and basically gave an ultimatum by the 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:22.320 end of last year, like she needs a ring, and 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.079 so she had plenty of time to get a ring, 0:02:24.400 --> 0:02:28.200 had plenty of time to plan, and it's two thousand 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:31.480 nineteen and she doesn't have a ring. She'll get it. 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.480 Amy's putting on her headphones right now. I think she 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:39.640 needs to stop wanting the ring. But here's the problem. 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:42.000 She asked what she needed and I told I told Sarah, 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:43.519 go look, if you don't want me to talk about it, 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:49.800 I totally understand. But unfortunately people have been I screenshot 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:51.280 at the message that you sent me and I said, 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:53.040 let me know what you want me to do, because 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:54.880 I respect you, like I love you. You're one of 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:58.799 my best friends. Like you know, we've I understand. But 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:00.720 for me, it's like it's embarras saying she's put this 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:04.120 out on a public platform and now all these people 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:06.560 are She had to turn off her Instagram comments on 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:09.359 her Instagram page because people are like, where's their ring? 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:12.080 And it's like, that's so Embarra flooded with emails not 0:03:12.120 --> 0:03:14.880 where's the ring, but they are desperate for an update. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:18.800 The update is there's no ring and like that, And honestly, 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:23.400 I'm pissed, like because because she asked for what she needed. 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:25.760 She asked for what she wanted and what she needed, 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.440 and ultimately she gave an ultimatum like hey, I'm out 0:03:28.880 --> 0:03:31.160 if But I don't think he believed that she'd be 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.160 out because clearly he didn't set the ring and she's 0:03:33.160 --> 0:03:34.760 still there. You know how I've told you I'm obsessed 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:39.600 with Abraham Hicks. Yes, I'm obsessed. Who's that. I'm going 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:42.160 to send you all the YouTube videos. It'll change your life. 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:45.800 So she would she it whatever, it's sort of an 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:52.360 alien whatever. She would say that Sarah cannot rely on 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:54.560 whatever the dude's name is. I forgot to make her 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:58.720 happy and to like fulfill her in that way. She 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:02.200 needs to be happy, be So that's why I'm saying, 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:04.960 is there a way where she can feel fully content 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:09.520 without the ring? Yes? But yes, and is a therapy 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:15.400 therapy and but I'm sorry, there's a button this, there's 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.600 no like Michael, like, when we asked for what we 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:20.000 need to ask for what we want, like that's did 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:21.760 he not think that she was going to follow through 0:04:21.800 --> 0:04:24.280 with the ultimatum because obviously she's not going to leave, right, 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:28.320 I think, I mean, I get what Amy saying, but 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:30.600 She probably feels that they've been dating this long. She's 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:33.720 in her getting into late twenties, it's that time to 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:35.520 start doing something for her to be happy. She wants 0:04:35.520 --> 0:04:38.120 to move on with her life, you know, so and 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.400 to her that means getting married and started a family. 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:43.520 So it's like she's waited around. And she's from Texas, 0:04:43.600 --> 0:04:45.960 so it's like, you know, people they're still get married 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:47.720 young and have kids and like that's what they do. 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:50.440 So is the issue just to refresh everyone's memory. She 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:53.920 doesn't want to have kids without being engaged or married 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.239 like she wants to. She you know, she's old school 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:57.520 like that, and I respect her and I love her 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.719 for that, Like she and he would have kids like yesterday. 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:01.880 But no, she wants the ring. She's been together for 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:03.919 six years. She wants the wedding. She wants to you know. 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:06.039 And here's the thing that bothers me is she would 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:07.760 have loved it to be with her friends and families, Like, well, 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:09.080 I don't want to take away from the holidays. What 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:11.200 are you talking about your it's the best time to 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:13.080 do it, Like you're with your family and friends. That's 0:05:13.080 --> 0:05:15.479 what she wanted. Like if you actually like I'm sorry, 0:05:15.520 --> 0:05:17.800 I'm gonna get I've been really frustrated. I've been trying 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.760 not to like because I'm you know, obviously she's got 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:22.800 her family and all our friends and then the Instagram 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:25.480 and the podcasts, everyone like barking at her. But it's 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:28.040 like it's just frustrates me. And then I asked Michael 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.559 this the other day. I said, you know, there's certain 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:32.240 certain times where I've said to him, if you do 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:35.479 this again, I'm out, and just like just like she 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.360 said to him, and you don't know, I don't know, 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:40.360 but listen, because I said, just like she said to him, 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:42.240 if you don't give me the ring, I'm out. But 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:44.920 it's like you guys don't because you've done it. He 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:46.520 didn't do it, like you kept doing the things even 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.279 though I said, I'm out if you keep doing this. 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:52.760 But it's like you guys don't trust our ultimatums. It's 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:56.719 not that we don't trust him, it's just what is 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:58.680 it like you think we're just like week and we 0:05:58.680 --> 0:06:00.760 wouldn't leave you. No, I don't think he has anything 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:02.280 to do with that. I think it's I think it's 0:06:02.360 --> 0:06:07.320 literally just we're so simple sometimes we're so simple minded 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:11.360 that we don't really think that fore ahead of okay, 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:13.680 she's really gonna leave. I don't do this like I 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:17.159 love Joanna's face because Janna's face is every girl. I'm like, 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:19.960 I don't understand Michaels every guy. And I think there's 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:23.960 something to what he's saying in that if she almost 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:26.839 surrenders it to the universe. And you know, I'm big 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.359 in the she's like forty five, fifty and still not 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:32.760 married with kids, I think that's wrong with it. Amy. 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:36.440 I'm just saying, like, you know what, I was like, 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:38.320 let's say keep I was gonna say forty, but let's 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:41.160 let's just keep going, like unless she's sixty and still 0:06:41.160 --> 0:06:43.440 ask you know, the question is if we were to 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:46.039 ask her, she probably never talked to us again. But 0:06:46.080 --> 0:06:47.800 if she ever talks us again. Now, I asked, on 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.679 the list of priorities, is it marriage then kids, because 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:54.520 it's okay, but she wants kids. She wants kids, next 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:56.120 to she wants to get married. Next she's like, is 0:06:56.160 --> 0:07:00.400 she willing to change her order? And no, no this time. 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.000 And that's why I love her because she's like, this 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:03.680 is what I freak, and that's what that's why I 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:07.760 literally want to Just remember Dr said, she's supposed to 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:10.080 move out. I know, but she's not going to when 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:12.000 that's the thing? Is he and I told him, I 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:14.760 go every time he's you know, made a mistake. I said, 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:16.240 if you do this again, I'm gonna leave. And you 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:17.840 do it again, I wouldn't leave, and then he and 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.760 I'm like and then finally it's like, I'm leaving and 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:25.040 then they go, oh wait, you know. Just remember Dr 0:07:25.120 --> 0:07:27.920 Wendy Welsh said she has to now leave and then 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:30.040 she'll get the ring in a month. But but they're 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:31.520 saying that it's going to come in the next couple 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:34.360 of months, is what opposed? Apparently like he's saying to 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:38.559 other people, then she should just chill out. No, because 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:39.960 here's the thing, is it? This is what I said 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:41.720 in two months? While are you conning January? So is 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:43.520 it going to be March? Is it going to be February? 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:46.360 That's what she needs, a surrender to the universe, be happy, 0:07:46.960 --> 0:07:50.080 trust that everything's gonna be okay in her mind, give 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:53.640 herself another six months or no, because she wants to 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:56.040 get married next like late next year. She can get 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:58.840 and get married in three days later. That doesn't Amy, 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:01.400 don't play the wedding like out like you don't unders know. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.200 Sarah would never allow like she wants like the Kim 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:07.560 Kardashian wedding, like with like massive flowers, you know, like 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:10.080 this is her moment. She's the it's like it's Princess 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.600 Sarah getting married, you know what I mean? Yeah, I 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:15.239 mean she is like it is the queen getting married. 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:17.920 Michael has to answer because he's the dude. Yeah, on 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:24.280 what is going on in Gretzky's head. He's not the 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.880 great one. Let me tell you that right now. See, 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:32.160 I'm not gonna get on her. I think they're to 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:35.120 a level of degree there is maybe a little too 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:39.920 much comfortability there where there they've been together so long, 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:42.280 he's so comfortable with their relationship. He's so they're so 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:45.480 setting their ways where he probably didn't take her serious. 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:47.680 You know, he probably was like a yeah, I know 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:49.360 you say this, but we're gonna get married, like I 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:52.680 know we're gonna be together, like it's gonna come basically 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:57.000 deal with it. Um. I just think, to to Janna's point, 0:08:57.120 --> 0:09:01.520 like women will say that and until are the men's 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:03.920 feet is are really held to the fire. We might 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:06.559 not act on it. So I think this whole scenario 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.720 probably held his feet to the fire enough where maybe 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:11.280 hopefully he's realizing kind of the backlash and how much 0:09:11.280 --> 0:09:13.480 attention there is around this, if he even pays attention 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:16.560 to it. And because my thing is like I haven't 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.600 talked to him or anything, but I would say, dude, 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.560 she did ask for what she needed. She's I mean, 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:23.800 she's like begging you, like she's telling you if you 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:25.480 want to spend your life with her, just do it. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:29.120 In a guy's head, please be a guy, I need 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:31.240 to know this. Is there any chance he's not doing 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:35.400 it yet because of the weird ultimatum, So now he's 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:38.719 going to do it when because it's not ultimate? Absolutely no, 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.199 I totally disagree. I'm not the dude, I know you got. 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:44.480 I'm not saying no, I'm not saying that he's purposely 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:47.520 doing that, but that could absolutely because that's something I 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:50.840 would do. Really, I was in I was in a 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:54.680 similar situation to this. Really your wife ultimatum, do not 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:58.360 not like I'm going to leave. But she said, uh, 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:02.600 how we were We were friends for like a decade 0:10:02.679 --> 0:10:04.640 and then we had been dating for like a year 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:07.160 and a half. Two years, and she said, do you 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:09.560 think we will get married? And I I'm like, I 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:14.640 don't know wherever the wind takes us. Classic I'm like, 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.760 I want to wait till I'm making like five or 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:19.000 six million dollars a year before I do this. I 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.360 want you to have the perfect and she's like, I 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:24.080 want to get married to have kids. If that's not 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:27.040 going to happen, we should end this. And I'm like okay, 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:29.200 and then we like I got a ring like a 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:31.960 month later. Because that that really the fear of her. 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:34.360 I was like, I need It was like fire to 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.640 your exactly, which is what Janna did to me too. 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:43.440 But it's tricky because to Amy's point, like initially with Janna, 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:46.000 there was some I held some kind of resentment towards 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:49.240 that because it wasn't I felt. Granted, they've been together, 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:52.760 so he can't really feel rushed, but it doesn't feel 0:10:52.760 --> 0:10:54.280 like maybe it's on his time or at least he 0:10:54.280 --> 0:10:55.920 has no control, so he's just kind of giving in, 0:10:56.080 --> 0:10:58.120 like Okay, I'm giving you whatever you need here, and 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:08.520 then there's no spark in it. There's no I think 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:11.600 she's getting the ring within the next six months, and 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:13.800 she needs to not speak of it for the next 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:18.200 six months. I think there's so much on it because 0:11:18.240 --> 0:11:20.559 maybe he also wants it to be a surprise. I 0:11:20.640 --> 0:11:22.680 don't know. Yeah, he did say that to the want. 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:24.680 He's like, well, you knew what was going to happen, Well, yeah, 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:26.920 because I asked for it, though, But like, like, that's 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.760 what she wants, Like that's what we always say, asked 0:11:29.800 --> 0:11:31.319 for what you want, asked for what you need it 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:34.840 or whether it came when she asked for it, So 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:38.520 I have feels disrespectful to me? Is that sorry? It 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.559 does it? He didn't respect her enough to do what 0:11:40.679 --> 0:11:42.920 she wanted. And I'm going down the wormhole and I'd 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:45.120 love to hear Jana versus Michael on this. Here we go, 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:48.679 bring it. Okay, let's say he did it. Let's say 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:50.960 he gave the ring on her timeline. Amazing, Her family 0:11:50.960 --> 0:11:52.040 and friends would have been there to be in this 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:54.360 huge celebration. They had something to bring into the new year. 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:59.320 Is she going to wonder? Because what I'm learning is 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:01.400 we get what we want, we want something more. When 0:12:01.400 --> 0:12:03.280 we get what we want, we want something more. So 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.240 would she have always wondered did he only do it 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:09.560 because of the ultimatum? Is this a better way to 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:12.040 start their marriage? Okay? Your question though? Do women even 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.720 care that they do it based on an ultimatum? Janna, 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:19.480 I'm sorry, repeat the question, Michael, do if if women okay, 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:23.840 are you yourself? If you if your species okay, gives 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:26.679 the male species an ultimatum and we act on that, 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.200 then what was your what you say? An? You don't 0:12:30.200 --> 0:12:35.160 even know? So it's let's say he did the ring 0:12:35.360 --> 0:12:38.200 on Christmas right right before the deadline, which was amazing 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:40.040 in March. Is she going to think to herself? Did 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.559 he only propose because I gave him that ultimatum and 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.320 he doesn't really want this? And then she goes down 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:48.200 the spiral? Is it better if it comes in the 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:51.000 next six months? Yeah? I don't think. I don't think 0:12:51.000 --> 0:12:53.520 she would. I think she would. If a woman asked 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:55.760 gets what she needs, what she asked for, I think 0:12:55.760 --> 0:13:00.400 they're completely content no matter what. I think that would 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.840 be unfair if if you ask her something, if you 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:04.640 ask for something and then we do it, and then 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:08.080 you hold it against us because like, wells, did you 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:09.839 do you really love me? Do you really want to 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.520 marry me? You asked for it? I'm giving it to you. Um, 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:14.720 I never did that though, when I told you basically, 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:16.840 I don't want to play house with you. Whether it 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:19.400 was two months or six months, you know what I mean. 0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:22.280 You didn't do what I didn't say. I didn't I 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:24.520 didn't say, well, did you just marry me? Because I 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:26.560 gave an ultimatum, I got what I wanted and I 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:33.280 was happy. That's my point. Yeah, but that's fine, that's wrong. 0:13:34.200 --> 0:13:37.040 I'm just wondering for poor poor Sarah if the universe 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:41.240 is just giving her what I ultimately does want, which 0:13:41.280 --> 0:13:45.880 is she wants to feel that he did it because 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.440 he wants to show that, so give it another I 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.280 think he's just he's California bread. I think he's just 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:54.920 you know, just kicking the sand with his feet, like 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:56.760 you know what I mean, Like just he loves Sarah. 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.240 I have no doubt in my mind. But I think, 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.720 you know, he's just of like you know, she's not 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:03.640 going to leave. Do you think there's any fear around it? 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:07.439 Where like Amy saying the ring might not be enough. 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:08.960 So maybe he gets to the ring right and then 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:10.640 she's like, okay, we got a planner wedding. Okay, when 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:12.439 we should we start having kids. Okay, we're already planning 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.960 the wedding, so like he doesn't have to worry about anything. 0:14:16.120 --> 0:14:18.360 But I'm saying, but it's not about him having to 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:21.680 do the planning. It's about like boom boom boom boom boom. 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:25.000 It's like no, no, because he wants a kid. So anyways, 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:28.880 moving on. Bottom line, I love you Sarah, and you 0:14:28.920 --> 0:14:31.360 know what, she's supposed to be going to San Antonio. 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:33.800 That was her ultimatum. She's I don't think she is. 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:38.520 But it's all good. 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Astara? Oh those are really cool. Yes, 0:18:11.200 --> 0:18:13.720 those are beautiful. Can you tell our listeners about them? Yeah? 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:17.720 It's also grounding and healing crystalline shoe line so each 0:18:17.720 --> 0:18:21.040 shoe has a different crystal on, it has a different intentionality, 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:23.520 and then there's actually a grounding component in the soul 0:18:23.600 --> 0:18:26.320 of the shoe that resonates at the same frequency of 0:18:26.359 --> 0:18:29.280 the earth. So it's like walking bare fut Oh that 0:18:29.280 --> 0:18:34.359 sounds really cool. Okay, So I just have to say please, 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:36.760 like I'm not trying to be like disrespectful at all 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:40.400 at all. I just don't understand the crystal thing because 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:42.560 my girlfriend Julie is like really big into crystals and 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:44.880 she's like she brings me over and she's like doing 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:47.200 these like tarot cards and having she's like this crystals 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:49.239 for healing, this, crystals for like this, and I'm like, 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:51.919 it's a rock. Don't know what I mean, Like, what 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:54.600 is it? I get that all the time, Like I'm 0:18:54.640 --> 0:19:00.000 not trying to talk to because he's like, oh my god, Julius, 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:05.080 so thing crazy. I think my husband thought that very 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:06.720 early on in our relationship and now he's just like 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:10.119 embracing it and there's stones and rocks everywhere. Um, I 0:19:10.200 --> 0:19:13.000 have a bunch that I will show you and you 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:15.760 will feel and I'll walk you through the different frequency. 0:19:15.960 --> 0:19:20.080 So everything. I'm sorry, I'm just like, no, I mean 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:23.320 there are. Here's the thing, science and research has not 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:26.040 been able to prove it. Right. Tesla worked with crystals 0:19:26.080 --> 0:19:29.439 for a very long time. He has quotes saying that 0:19:29.960 --> 0:19:32.360 we can't scientifically prove crystals are alive, but we also 0:19:32.400 --> 0:19:37.399 can't prove that they're not. Um. I liken it to 0:19:37.720 --> 0:19:40.680 plants and animals in that they each have their own 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:45.359 frequency and they each have their own information. Right. Um, 0:19:45.400 --> 0:19:50.240 everything is frequency in vibration. Colors are frequency, Uh, musical tones, 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:53.360 everything has a tonality. Everything has a frequency. Our bodies 0:19:53.400 --> 0:19:56.640 are frequency. Our bodies are vibration their energy that's condensed 0:19:56.680 --> 0:20:00.159 and to matter, rocks are the same way. So I 0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:05.000 know you you're looking at me and you're like lost. Um, 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:08.040 So I liken it to colors or musical tones and 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:11.680 that there's high pitch ones, there's low pitch ones. Um. Okay, 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:16.000