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Speaker 1: am So this all started yesterday when I, twenty two female,

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Speaker 1: I'm guessing my sister, Sarah twenty six female, told her

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Speaker 1: I told him yes, just a little disappointed since I

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Speaker 1: today he took me out as promised, and while we

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Speaker 1: She sounded angry and told me that I should be

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Speaker 1: ashamed of myself. I said, sure, but why today? According

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Speaker 1: I was so effing confused. I told my mom that I,

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Speaker 1: that I didn't even know they lived together. I asked

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Speaker 1: but he didn't answer. So now I'm here laying on

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Speaker 2: But so what I'm seeing here Sarah has been dating Jay.

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Speaker 2: That's one hypothetical.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not religious or anything, but Jesus Christ, thank

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Speaker 1: you to everyone for your kind words and support. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what to do with myself. Also, I meant

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Speaker 1: I wanted to clear up some confusion before the update.

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Speaker 1: On my original post. My mom told me that Sarah

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Speaker 1: Another thing was people were wondering how Jay found out

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Speaker 1: Jay even sent me a copy of his lease to

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Speaker 1: Call me extra mile, being like, I have some legal

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Speaker 1: That was fun. I just kind of sat there and

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Speaker 1: First of all, Jay is a software developer. I don't

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Speaker 1: let's get through this. Sarah started crying and calling me

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Speaker 1: Thanks for caring, though, and those of you that shared

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Speaker 1: As for why my sister was lying to get money

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Speaker 1: But that's about it. Full circle there, And you know what,

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Speaker 1: you can go full circle with us every weekday at

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Speaker 1: the fishy one. And again she could use therapy, like

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Speaker 1: but I know that therapists. She's going to psych wor

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Speaker 1: a little trip to the grippysock station can can help

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Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with that. This is not nineteen fifty anymore.

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Speaker 1: I finished my masters, and after countless job applications and rejections,

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Speaker 2: My brother stole my PS five after I forbid him

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Speaker 2: The same guidelines were discussed with my brother before I left. However,

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Speaker 1: Wait, that's making me think, like, should I not leave

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Speaker 2: Sure enough, it was missing. I was asleep when she

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Speaker 1: Your hands aren't steady enough to take the PS five.

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Speaker 2: Uber deliver this VIP right now. I also messaged my

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Speaker 2: I've never been disappointed in him. I informed him that

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Speaker 1: That's so funny. Being like, I'm removing myself from this situation.

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Speaker 1: That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. He's like, the

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Speaker 2: I've not responded to this message. Obviously, I am extremely

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Speaker 2: Any advice is welcome, including any ideas on what to

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Speaker 2: By the way, you can join us live every weekday

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Speaker 2: at three PMPSD. Just tap our profile. But there is

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Speaker 1: I no, don't block him. He's a brother. This is

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Speaker 1: do is you tell your brother don't take my PlayStation

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Speaker 2: Room, his brother Lee's stuff. And I don't think you

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Speaker 2: and send me a long message chiding me for letting

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Speaker 1: I mean, of course he is, he's your little brother.

436
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,159
Speaker 1: Of course he's going to be more upset about that

437
00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:25,080
Speaker 1: than anything.

438
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,199
Speaker 2: I've blocked him. I've also contacted her uncle, who he

439
00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:30,920
Speaker 2: looks up to a ton and explained the situation.

440
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 1: Dude, stop, who are you?

441
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:37,439
Speaker 2: Uncle is almost more pissed than me and says he

442
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:41,679
Speaker 2: will help handle it since I'm currently extremely sick, severe

443
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 2: bronchitis and dealing with coursework. So yup, I blocked him.

444
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:49,480
Speaker 2: I don't need him harassing me for making him face repercussions.

445
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,639
Speaker 2: I dkay when I will unblock him, but if anyone

446
00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 2: has suggestions on how to phrase my disappointment to him,

447
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,560
Speaker 2: I'd appreciate it. He's like, I'm going to rain fire

448
00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 2: and hell on you for moving my PS five and

449
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 2: you were gonna hear it from everyone in my family

450
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:05,960
Speaker 2: since I'm not there to personally do it myself.

451
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,800
Speaker 1: It's crazy that he's like asking advice, like how do

452
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 1: I go about expressing my disappointment. It's like you've already

453
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 1: expressed it, dude, You've gone so far that you've made

454
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,399
Speaker 1: the grandma expressed it as well, and now the uncle

455
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 1: that he looks up to is gonna be coming down

456
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 1: on him. I think you need to show a little

457
00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 1: more brotherly, like, all right, yeah, my brother's being and whatever.

458
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: I think maybe telling the uncle was kind of a

459
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,439
Speaker 1: cool move. You're not gonna get through to your brother, like,

460
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:33,520
Speaker 1: clearly not, but the uncle might be able to like

461
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,119
Speaker 1: knock some sense into him a little bit. My sister

462
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:41,920
Speaker 1: sabotaged my relationship out of jealousy, so I'm cutting her off. Ooh,

463
00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:47,720
Speaker 1: sounds about right. My twenty seven female sister who's thirty

464
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:51,439
Speaker 1: nine female and I grew up in the same house

465
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,920
Speaker 1: with the same parents. Because of the age gap, we

466
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,800
Speaker 1: were never really that close. I'm the youngest of five

467
00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:01,160
Speaker 1: and have sometimes been treated differently than my other brothers

468
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,320
Speaker 1: and sisters, who were all eight to fifteen years older

469
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 1: than me. By the way, this comes from user off

470
00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 1: my chest dock on the r slash. Okay, story time,

471
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 1: start read it. So, however, the whole being treated differently

472
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 1: comes because of how my parents have changed. For example,

473
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,679
Speaker 1: my parents are now able to afford things that they

474
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 1: weren't able to afford when my siblings were younger, et cetera.

475
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 1: I have also been treated differently because I've always been

476
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:29,400
Speaker 1: the good child who studied, did their homework, YadA, YadA. YadA,

477
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:31,720
Speaker 1: and got a full scholarship for med school and became

478
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,960
Speaker 1: a doctor at the young age of twenty five.

479
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 2: Three. Are you ready what they're called?

480
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 3: One?

481
00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,080
Speaker 2: Two three? Golden child?

482
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:41,719
Speaker 1: Oh that's I should have seen that. Come in medical

483
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 1: school doctor at twenty five Golden child. Now onto this story.

484
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,800
Speaker 1: One of my sisters, the middle child, has been jealous

485
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 1: of me ever since I became a young woman. However,

486
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 1: the jealousy multiplied when I got married. She threw a

487
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,879
Speaker 1: tantrum like a child would, because my family accepted my

488
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:02,880
Speaker 1: then husband now ex husband because he's from a different race.

489
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 1: For a little background, two decades ago, my sister was

490
00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:08,959
Speaker 1: dating someone from a different race and my family were

491
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: against it. However, they've both grown since then my parents

492
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 1: and are no longer quote. She doesn't see it this way, however,

493
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:19,760
Speaker 1: and thinks that they're giving me a special treatment just

494
00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:21,800
Speaker 1: because they love me more than they love her. She

495
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 1: began trying to ruin my engagement period by threatening not

496
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: to attend the wedding, that she would never accept my

497
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 1: husband or future children, YadA, YadA. She tried to get

498
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,119
Speaker 1: my siblings to turn against me through feeding them lies

499
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:37,080
Speaker 1: about me, talking crap about them and not being happy

500
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 1: for them, which did not work. By the way, she

501
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: tried to turn my own parents against me as well.

502
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: She then started to have these ideas that literally almost

503
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:50,680
Speaker 1: every girl that she ever knows is interested in my husband.

504
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:53,679
Speaker 1: At the time, she tried to convince me that my

505
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: sister in law's into him and that he's checking her

506
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,119
Speaker 1: out as well. She once told me that he was

507
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,320
Speaker 1: checking her out and that if she wanted to, she

508
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: could have him. Well, isn't that a nice sisterly thing

509
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: to say. She told people who complimented me in my

510
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:10,399
Speaker 1: wedding secrets and things private about me, for example, that

511
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: I had surgery in the past, et cetera. Things that

512
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 1: I did not want anyone else to know about because

513
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,880
Speaker 1: it's my body, it's my choice. But she still went

514
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,400
Speaker 1: ahead and did that because she did not like anyone

515
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 1: else complimenting me. What a bad sister, Just a bad,

516
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,359
Speaker 1: categorically bad sister.

517
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,360
Speaker 2: I understand the villain arc here, but it's just so

518
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 2: sad to see. It's so sad to see.

519
00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 1: In another world this was your villain arc, Riley.

520
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 2: But I went back from my younger brothers for having

521
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 2: more successful lives than me.

522
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you were like, you know, if anyone

523
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 1: on earth could take your woman, could take your girl.

524
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 2: I know they're going to be bigger and taller than me.

525
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: So the only payback I can get is being more

526
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 2: successful than them. So that's why I'm working really hard

527
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 2: now so I can be more successful than them. It's like, oh, yeah,

528
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 2: you're the smallest brother, but you have the coolest house.

529
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:01,679
Speaker 1: Smallest brother, coolest house, and you know, honestly, you just

530
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: need to be like, I'm just gonna pivot to basketball,

531
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,679
Speaker 1: you know, just you could be a spot up shooter,

532
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: like you know your scrappy defender, you know your high effort,

533
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,439
Speaker 1: high assists. You know, you know your role, you know

534
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:16,320
Speaker 1: how to play it, and you can thrive in it

535
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: even if you're not you know, the center. If you're

536
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: not as big as Lebron James, it's okay. Alex Caruso

537
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 1: is the best bald player in the NBA. Things got worse.

538
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 1: She started fighting almost on the daily with my parents

539
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 1: about how they accepted my then husband and not her

540
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:38,400
Speaker 1: boyfriend at the time twenty years ago, and how they

541
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 1: favor me and hate her, et cetera. And every time

542
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: she saw me happy on my birthday or special events.

543
00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: She would throw it in my face that she prays

544
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 1: for me to get divorced. Girl, that's not how prayers work.

545
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:54,399
Speaker 1: You're not praying to God, You're praying to the devil.

546
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: Oh man, this is tough, dude.

547
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: You pray for bad things upon people. You are praying

548
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: two bad forces. Am I right?

549
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 2: Yeah? I agree with that.

550
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 1: Come on, now, I know what you're all thinking. Why

551
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 1: did I let it go this far? No, that's not

552
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:09,719
Speaker 1: what I'm thinking.

553
00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:11,560
Speaker 2: Why didn't I stop this sooner?

554
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 1: Oope?

555
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,359
Speaker 2: You are the ale for enough stopping this way sooner,

556
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 2: for not getting rid of this problem.

557
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 1: Well, I come from a super tight family. We spend

558
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 1: time with each other, all my siblings, their partners and

559
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: kids once a week. I also am the avoidant type

560
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: and just let things slide without saying anything.

561
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 2: This definitely was me in a different line.

562
00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 1: I've let it go on for so long and didn't

563
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,160
Speaker 1: hear any proper apology from her. My family are also

564
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,439
Speaker 1: split on this. They know she's being unfair to me,

565
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,160
Speaker 1: but many family members think that I should just let

566
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 1: it go, not to break the family up. Now, just

567
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:46,879
Speaker 1: about a year ago, I did file for divorce for

568
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,960
Speaker 1: some other reasons that I won't get into. There was

569
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,320
Speaker 1: some foul play between my ex and my lawyer, and

570
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 1: when I reached to my family for help and told

571
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 1: them about what happened and that I didn't want anyone

572
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 1: to get involved until I found a new lawyer, but

573
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: wanted their advice, my sister went and texted the lawyer

574
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,119
Speaker 1: who had foul play with my ex and told him

575
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: that we knew, etc. And she basically effed up my

576
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: entire plan despite explicitly telling her not to. Oh, brother,

577
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 1: this lady stinks. She's a stinker. Like how it's already

578
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: so messy, Like a divorced situation is already so messy.

579
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: How are you going to go out of your way

580
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 1: to make it messier? That is like, it's terrible, it's wild.

581
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:28,919
Speaker 1: My parents told me that she did it out of

582
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 1: love because she was really hurt for me and mad

583
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: and wanted to get it all out on him, not

584
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: her place. Bro, That's what a diary is for. But

585
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 1: I literally told her not to do this because I

586
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: had a plan to find a new lawyer and check

587
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 1: with them first about what could be done about that.

588
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: I was furious, and this was my last straw. I

589
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: told her I want nothing to do with her and

590
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: that she isn't my sister anymore. She threw some stuff

591
00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: at me to try to hurt me, like this is

592
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 1: why you're getting divorced because you're a B word, and

593
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 1: things like you didn't know how to keep your husband

594
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: he's way too good for you, and things about how

595
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: I'm ugly, etc. Oh yeah, Yet it really feels like

596
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: your sister was coming from a place of love when

597
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 1: she got mixed up in your divorce.

598
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 2: That's not a sister. She's not a girl's girl.

599
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 1: Nah, your sister is the ops.

600
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 2: That is crazy. She's a snake.

601
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:24,400
Speaker 1: Do your parents have anything to say now after your

602
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 1: sister has been clearly outed as someone who doesn't care

603
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 1: about your wellbeing at all.

604
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 2: Nah, she's worked really hard where now the sister is

605
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 2: the golden child?

606
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 1: Either way, we haven't talked since it's been a year.

607
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: My mom and other sister who's married and doesn't live

608
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 1: with us, are both supporting me in my decision of

609
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: cutting her off from my life. Of course, no mother

610
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:48,479
Speaker 1: or sister would want to see this happen, but I

611
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 1: was left with no other option. She was trying to

612
00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: fight with me on the daily, sharing my secrets, tried

613
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: to ruin my marriage on purpose and was not supportive

614
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,520
Speaker 1: at all, and then tried to ruin my divorce lawsuit. Yeah,

615
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: she was opposing you at all sides, from every angle.

616
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 1: I have found myself getting hurt by her again and again. However,

617
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:09,200
Speaker 1: my brothers and father think that I should let it

618
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,600
Speaker 1: go now that I'm divorced, and that the main issue

619
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: is that she was jealous of me getting married before her.

620
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:16,719
Speaker 1: But now that it's not an issue, I should forgive

621
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 1: her and move on. But we don't want you to

622
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,560
Speaker 1: move on from joining us live on YouTube every weekday

623
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 1: at three pm Pacific just tap on our profile.

624
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 2: We got a little bit more left. Should she take

625
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 2: the sister back or not?

626
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 1: I am gonna say no. I'm going to say that

627
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 1: there's no responsibility for you to take your sister back.

628
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: I certainly think that you don't have to do it

629
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: at the best of people who are not your sister.

630
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, like twenty one said, loyalties is probably the best thing.

631
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 2: Said it differently, He's like, you can love me but

632
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 2: still stab my back. Just listen to twenty one Savage.

633
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 2: Twenty one Savage has the answer to this problem. I

634
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 2: think the person who needs to take responsibility here is

635
00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 2: the sister, the older sister who went out of her way,

636
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 2: who maybe needs a little a little therapy session, you know,

637
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 2: to figure out why she felt and did the things

638
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 2: that she did in the moment. And I don't think

639
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 2: it's the dad or the brother's place to be like, yeah,

640
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 2: it's time for you to forgive her. It's like, that's

641
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 2: nobody's decision. But ops, here's the from the wise words

642
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 2: of twenty one. See love's just a feeling. You can

643
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 2: love somebody and still stab them in their back. It

644
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: don't take much to love. You can love somebody just

645
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 2: by being attached. See. Loyalty is an action. You can

646
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 2: love me or hate me and still have my back.

647
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 2: She didn't have her back. Loyalty is the best thing

648
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: out there.

649
00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 1: I'm kind of astounded at how right on the money

650
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 1: that twenty one Savage bar was got off.

651
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 2: Sister, she got you back.

652
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: Until she comes forward expressing her own regret and her

653
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 1: own guilt and her own interest in having your back.

654
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,520
Speaker 1: I don't think you need to let her back in

655
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 1: until she, you know, owns up to her side of it.

656
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 1: But we do have a little bit more here, so

657
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: let's finish it off. I do not think I can

658
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 1: ever move past what happened, as it has been a year,

659
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 1: but I am still firm on my decision. I do

660
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 1: not think I have ever felt this way about anyone before,

661
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: as I always forgive and let people walk all over me,

662
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: including her for many years and my ex. But I

663
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 1: am done being forgiving. Well yeah, I mean, she's given

664
00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: you no reason to forgive. Until she gives you any

665
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 1: evidence or reason to forgive, you shouldn't feel any need

666
00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 1: to do so at all. So am I the a

667
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 1: hole for my firm decision of keeping her out of

668
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: my life despite her being my sister and despite that

669
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: affecting the family dynamic?

670
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,120
Speaker 2: One two three, No, No, you're good.

671
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that makes more sense now why the brothers

672
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:45,720
Speaker 1: and the father were like, maybe just forgive her because

673
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 1: they're trying to just fix their own like family dynamic.

674
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:49,800
Speaker 1: But really it's not on her. They need to be

675
00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 1: going to the sister and saying, hey, apologize. You need

676
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 1: to apologize to your sister and make things right because

677
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 1: you made mistakes. Boom problem solved.

678
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 3: My boyfriend is ashamed of being a nurse. He compared

679
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 3: me to his friends at a party. You know, sees

680
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 3: get degrees, but strive to get a's guys. Just a

681
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 3: little background. I twenty eight female, have been dating my boyfriend,

682
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 3: thirty two male for a little over two years now.

683
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,720
Speaker 3: When we first started dating, he was so sweet and

684
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 3: so charming, just like we always are.

685
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 2: Aww innocent, I.

686
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 3: Know, and then we become monsters. Always took me to

687
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 3: nice restaurants and said the nicest things to me, and

688
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 3: we moved in together after a year.

689
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 2: Oh wow, just a year. You guys are moving in

690
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 2: together after your year?

691
00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 3: He was just so nice and so sweet.

692
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 2: You Only a lot of couples do that move in

693
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 2: after a year.

694
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 3: I've never moved in after two years.

695
00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:44,600
Speaker 2: It seems. It seems like a lot of couples move

696
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 2: in after a year.

697
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 3: Hey, you know, when you're in love, you're in love,

698
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:49,719
Speaker 3: but you don't know anyone after a year. I don't know.

699
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 3: A year's too quick. By the way, This comes from

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Speaker 3: user glittering Move twenty six twenty five on the r

701
00:33:56,640 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 3: slash Okay storytime subreddit. So he does sweet things all

702
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:03,640
Speaker 3: the time, like sometimes packs my lunches for work or

703
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 3: drives me to work. I'm a nurse at a hospital

704
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,280
Speaker 3: in the next town over. He writes little He writes

705
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 3: sweet little notes and puts them in my coat pocket,

706
00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,800
Speaker 3: and he even takes me shopping for nice clothes.

707
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:17,640
Speaker 2: Nice at least.

708
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 3: I felt that way until one day last month. He

709
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,439
Speaker 3: had some friends in town visiting, and we had them over,

710
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 3: went out to dinner with them, and went to a

711
00:34:25,600 --> 00:34:27,839
Speaker 3: party with some of their mutual friends that I didn't know.

712
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 3: But I have always liked parties and meeting his friends

713
00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:35,640
Speaker 3: and meeting his friends, so I was excited. I bought

714
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 3: a new dress for the night that I really liked,

715
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 3: and was feeling really good about myself when the night started,

716
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 3: But as it went on, I started feeling worse and worse.

717
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 3: My boyfriend ignored me the whole night. So everything we

718
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:55,400
Speaker 3: said about him out the window, what come on? He

719
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 3: didn't talk to me or look at me while we

720
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 3: were out and walked it's a way to talk to

721
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:03,879
Speaker 3: other people at the party really quickly when we got there,

722
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 3: when I went over to where he was, he still

723
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,399
Speaker 3: wouldn't really look at me, and why I was away

724
00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 3: from me as soon as someone started talking to me

725
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,480
Speaker 3: and I was distracted. A couple times I put my

726
00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 3: hand on his shoulder or his arm, and he did

727
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:21,319
Speaker 3: not acknowledge me once. Oh okay, something's going on here.

728
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 3: By the end of the night, I was mortified and embarrassed.

729
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 3: I tried to talk and be friendly with his friends

730
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 3: and the other people that were there, but it was

731
00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 3: hurting my feelings quite a bit. We ended up going

732
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 3: after We ended up going home after all of his

733
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 3: closer friends left, and he finally talked to me. Mmm,

734
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,440
Speaker 3: but just to ask if I could call us an

735
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 3: uber so powerities.

736
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 2: Man.

737
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 3: Hey, I didn't talk to you all night, but you did.

738
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:50,479
Speaker 3: You get us the uber?

739
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 2: But can you get us home?

740
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 3: We're a little sleepy, That's all that matters. I did.

741
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:58,359
Speaker 3: We went home, and he fell asleep so quickly. While

742
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 3: sat in the living room trying to convince my self

743
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 3: that was all in my head.

744
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 2: M Well, it sounds like she's definitely gonna have to

745
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 2: talk to him to.

746
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:09,440
Speaker 3: One hundred percent have a conversation tomorrow. He seems like

747
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,760
Speaker 3: he's a little sleepy, maybe a little drinky.

748
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he probably got some sort of like mindset

749
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 2: about you, and he doesn't know how to like talk

750
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 2: about it, so he's ignoring you. Yeah, so he figures

751
00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:20,799
Speaker 2: it out.

752
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely talk to him tomorrow and bring it up.

753
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 3: I I obviously it's to be very hard for op

754
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 3: to go to bed Oh yeah, because you don't want

755
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:32,320
Speaker 3: to go to bed on like crappy terms. Yeah.

756
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:34,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I never go to bed mad or try not to.

757
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:35,919
Speaker 3: Yeah. No, you try not to go to bed mad.

758
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:37,759
Speaker 3: But if you do, you don't get to sleep at all.

759
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 3: So we'll see. Maybe they hopefully talk about it the

760
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 3: next day.

761
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 2: We'll see.

762
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:45,839
Speaker 3: Oh well, the next day was worse though. I brought

763
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 3: up that I felt like I had been head, that

764
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,359
Speaker 3: he had been ignoring me the whole night, and he

765
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:54,720
Speaker 3: agreed with me. Oh, and he admitted to me, admitted

766
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 3: to me that he ignored me because he had been

767
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 3: embarrassed by me. He was embarrassed by you or what.

768
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 3: You had a brand new dress, You were probably looking

769
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 3: so good. You're looking fine, girl, What the what do

770
00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:09,920
Speaker 3: you mean? He's embarrassed he had been embarrassed by me.

771
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,360
Speaker 3: When I told his friends where I went to college,

772
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 3: a small liberal arts college in Nebraska, unbelievable, and that

773
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 3: I was a nurse. He actually just said, just a nurse.

774
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 1: A nurse?

775
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 3: What why are you? Yeah, dude, come on, a nurse

776
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 3: is a huge thing.

777
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:30,800
Speaker 2: That's awesome.

778
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 3: Like, they're very important. Nurses are so important, and you're

779
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 3: discouraging that. It hadn't even been something that I would

780
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 3: consider being embarrassed about. But he thought it was an

781
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 3: embarrassment because almost all of the other people at the

782
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:51,319
Speaker 3: party had either gone to Harvard, Stanford, or Brown and

783
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 3: were in business or tech. Oh my god, but like,

784
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 3: a nurse is.

785
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 2: A great job, and it's so silly that he feels

786
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 2: embarrassed that you have a solid job and a different

787
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 2: filled in him.

788
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,400
Speaker 3: I think I was the only person out of the

789
00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 3: thirty slash forty people there who hadn't gone to one

790
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 3: of those three schools. My boyfriend also went to Harvard,

791
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 3: aid he's so posh. He's so posh. How about them apples? Huh?

792
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 2: How about great reference?

793
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:19,320
Speaker 3: How about them apples?

794
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 1: Huh?

795
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 3: I told him that that really hurt my feelings, not

796
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:25,840
Speaker 3: only because I had felt like he had been ignoring

797
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 3: me and that I was right, but because I thought

798
00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:33,759
Speaker 3: it was ridiculous to be embarrassed about my job. I'm

799
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 3: really proud of my job, and I love it because

800
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm making a difference one hundred and

801
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 3: ten percent. You are. He then told me that he

802
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:45,920
Speaker 3: feels like my job is a dead end job and

803
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 3: that jobs that you can't really progress in are kind

804
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 3: of a waste. You're changing people's lives, you're making them better,

805
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 3: you're helping the sick and elderly.

806
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 2: But maybe you can't make an app out of that.

807
00:38:57,280 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 2: You can't scow it.

808
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 3: You can't. He then, for some reason, continued talking. He

809
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,279
Speaker 3: said that I could go back to school and be

810
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 3: like the girls that were at the party. Ooh. He

811
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 3: said that they had really impressive jobs and that I

812
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 3: could too if I switched careers. I think this is

813
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:19,839
Speaker 3: absolutely ridiculous, and when I told my friends about it,

814
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 3: they agreed. I always knew that I wanted to be

815
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,359
Speaker 3: a nurse, and I spent years going to school for it.

816
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 3: I was proud of myself when I graduated, and after

817
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 3: I started working at the hospital I work at now,

818
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:36,520
Speaker 3: I found it really fulfilling, even if it is stressful sometimes.

819
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 3: I told him I was really happy with my job,

820
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 3: and he said he didn't believe me because I complain

821
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 3: about it all the time, and he referenced when someone

822
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 3: threw up on me once and I told him about

823
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:50,720
Speaker 3: it when I got home. That's part of being a nurse.

824
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, being a nurse is probably one of the hardest jobs.

825
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:55,960
Speaker 2: Someone has to take care of others.

826
00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 3: The ridiculous hours because it's twenty four to seven on

827
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 3: the clock. Oh yeah, so you could get called in

828
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 3: to go help someone who's going to possibly the shape.

829
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, like being in hospital. People are in their worst shape,

830
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 2: but you're there to aid them. Yeah.

831
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:13,840
Speaker 3: At the time, I didn't really feel like I was complaining,

832
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 3: but when I think back, I probably was. So I

833
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 3: admitted he had a point about the complaining, but that

834
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 3: I still do love my job. I then said I

835
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 3: didn't feel like the other people there would look down

836
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,319
Speaker 3: on nursing as a bad job, and that some even

837
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 3: said that it was a great job that must really

838
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 3: make a difference in people's lives. There you go. He

839
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 3: said they were just being nice and they probably don't

840
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 3: really think that, Oh my gosh, which kind of further

841
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 3: hurts my feelings because he knows that people there way

842
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:52,279
Speaker 3: better than I do, so he's probably right when he says.

843
00:40:52,040 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 2: That, Oh my gosh, let's.

844
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 3: Read that one more time. He continued and told me

845
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,759
Speaker 3: that he had hooked up with a couple of the

846
00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 3: girls that were there before we started dating, and that

847
00:41:02,160 --> 00:41:04,720
Speaker 3: was why he had been ignoring me when we talked

848
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 3: to them.

849
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 2: Dude, that was two for two, two for two on

850
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 2: this one.

851
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:15,799
Speaker 3: This also hurt my feelings. Yeah, no, no, doy. One

852
00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 3: of them went to Harvard and the other went to

853
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 3: Brown They are both in business, and they were also

854
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 3: both really nice to me and talk to me more

855
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:23,920
Speaker 3: than my boyfriend did.

856
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 2: Oh gosh.

857
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 3: Actually, at some point in the night, when my boyfriend

858
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 3: was ignoring me and talking to someone else with his

859
00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 3: back turn, I went looking for one of those girls

860
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 3: as when and was able to join the conversation she

861
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 3: was having. One of them even complimented my dress that night,

862
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:41,880
Speaker 3: but my boyfriend said she was probably just trying to

863
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 3: be nice, implying that she didn't mean it.

864
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 2: Why is he Yeah, why are you doing this? Dude?

865
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:50,239
Speaker 3: It's like every little thing she's saying, he's like, no

866
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:54,879
Speaker 3: disregard to about it, you know. Yeah. After a couple

867
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 3: of days, he sort of came to his senses, realized

868
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:00,760
Speaker 3: that I was actually not okay with what he said,

869
00:42:01,280 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: and wrote me some really long apology text, but when

870
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,920
Speaker 3: we talk about it, it still is clear that he

871
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 3: feels embarrassed by my job and that he's still very

872
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 3: attracted to those two girls he hooked up with before

873
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:20,080
Speaker 3: he used the words very attracted to. He has never

874
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 3: really even talked about me that way. He doesn't tell

875
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 3: me I'm beautiful, pretty, that he likes my outfit, et cetera,

876
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 3: et cetera. Sometimes he will actually criticize my outfits or

877
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:33,759
Speaker 3: the way I look or how my hair is done,

878
00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 3: but never says I'm beautiful.

879
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 2: Chah, yeah, yeah, dude.

880
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 3: Hmm, which didn't bother me too much before, but after

881
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,399
Speaker 3: this conversation, it really does.

882
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 2: Please break up with them.

883
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 3: You gotta break up with them. You have to the

884
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 3: same friends who threw that party invited us over to

885
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 3: a Halloween party next weekend. I'm not feeling great about

886
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 3: it now. My boyfriend now says that he won't treat

887
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 3: me the same way as he did last time, and

888
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 3: that the only reason he did was because he was

889
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:08,760
Speaker 3: drunk and made a mistake. But I find that difficult

890
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 3: to accept since he acted that way the whole night,

891
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 3: which was many hours long, and then gave reason after

892
00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 3: reason for why he felt like the way he acted

893
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 3: made sense to him. Hmm. I'm wondering what I should

894
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 3: do because I do love him. We talk about getting

895
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:28,160
Speaker 3: married all the time. We both want kids, we already

896
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:31,640
Speaker 3: lived together. I'm really close to his family too. I

897
00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 3: just went and got coffee with his mom the other week.

898
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 3: Another part of me is worried because this whole situation

899
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 3: is kind of changing the way I see all of

900
00:43:40,040 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 3: the past things he said that have hurt me that

901
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 3: I had forgiven him for. They were always about my job,

902
00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 3: the way I looked or dressed or talked, or about

903
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 3: the college I went to. Every time he says something wrong,

904
00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 3: he apologizes, but then explains why he said it, so

905
00:43:58,160 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 3: that's not really an apology.

906
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:00,920
Speaker 2: Yeah no, no no.

907
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:02,839
Speaker 3: And looking back at it, it almost feels like he's

908
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 3: minimizing the issue and refusing to take accountability. I'm also

909
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 3: not I'm also usually not insecure. I'm really proud of

910
00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:13,279
Speaker 3: the college and nursing school. I want to I'm had

911
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: some of my best friends there, and I feel like

912
00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:19,320
Speaker 3: I dress well and I'm attractive. But now I'm feeling

913
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 3: bad about it all, and I think it's because I'm

914
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 3: actually realizing, realizing what my boyfriend thinks of me, and

915
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 3: it kind of kills me to think he thinks so

916
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 3: little of me. Oh no, I told him this and

917
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 3: he says that's not true, and he thinks so highly

918
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 3: of me.

919
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: Okay, proven with your actions, proven.

920
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 3: With your words too.

921
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:41,400
Speaker 2: What's what's that thing U sober.

922
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 3: Drunk thought? Oh drunk words.

923
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 2: Or was it dru dru reactions or sober thoughts or

924
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 2: drunk words or sober thoughts or something like that like that?

925
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:53,319
Speaker 2: Let me know in the comments what it actually is.

926
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, I told him this and he says that's not true,

927
00:44:56,880 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 3: and he thinks highly of me. But I'm just not

928
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 3: sure how to move past this feeling. He is my

929
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 3: best friend, and I can't understand how he can say

930
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 3: all of this and not see how it's hurting me.

931
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:11,359
Speaker 3: He keeps saying he doesn't understand why I'm reacting like this,

932
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 3: while honestly I think I'm being very calm about at all.

933
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm blowing this out of proportion.

934
00:45:20,239 --> 00:45:23,879
Speaker 3: I'm honestly feeling pretty bad about myself, and I'm still

935
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:25,839
Speaker 3: embarrassed about how he treated me in front of his

936
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 3: friends and his exes. But you know what you can do.

937
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 2: What's that?

938
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 3: You can join us live on YouTube every day at

939
00:45:35,160 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 3: three pm PSD. Just tap our profile. I don't like

940
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 3: how Opie's still glamorizing him, like I still love him.

941
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 3: I want to get married to him.

942
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 2: They've been together for a year, about two years, and

943
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 2: he does treat it really nicely, and this seems like

944
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 2: the this is the only this is the only problem

945
00:45:53,080 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 2: that they've had.

946
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,399
Speaker 3: Now, op he's looking back at it, and she's kind

947
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 3: of thinking.

948
00:45:56,960 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 2: Look at all the other red flags.

949
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 3: He's like, oh, he did say you know, he just

950
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 3: called me out for my bad hair, which is great.

951
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 3: You should tell you're not great, but you should tell

952
00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:06,760
Speaker 3: your part hairs.

953
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 2: Look really crappy today. That's exactly what you're supposed to

954
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:10,560
Speaker 2: do for your partner. Hey, you should put on some

955
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 2: more makeup. I can see your real face.

956
00:46:13,160 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 3: Okay, don't do it like that. I think what I

957
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:19,799
Speaker 3: really want is a way to make him see that

958
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 3: what he is saying and doing is hurting me, and

959
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 3: that how impressive I am to his friends shouldn't be

960
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 3: a factor. And how he treats me when we are

961
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,399
Speaker 3: in front of people. He is usually pretty amazing and

962
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 3: kind with the occasional slip up that we have always

963
00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 3: worked through, but this belittling behavior is becoming more frequent.

964
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 3: I don't know how to make him stop, or how

965
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 3: to deal with it how it makes me feel when

966
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:49,239
Speaker 3: he does it. I would usually talk to my best

967
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 3: friends about this, but they are telling me to leave

968
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 3: him and move out. Mmm. I see some of their points,

969
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 3: but I really do love him and want to make

970
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 3: it work. Also not sure about attending the Halloween party

971
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 3: next weekend. I'm seriously considering backing out and having him

972
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 3: go alone. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation before?

973
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 3: Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

974
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 2: The girlfriends are like, get out, I mean letting me

975
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:22,320
Speaker 2: know in the comments, what are you guys gonna do

976
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:24,319
Speaker 2: about this or what would you want to do? Break

977
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 2: up or stay?

978
00:47:25,719 --> 00:47:28,120
Speaker 3: I personally would break up. The fact, yeah, this has

979
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 3: been a year, though it's been two year. I don't

980
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 3: care if it's been two years. Been yeah, it's been

981
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 3: a little bit over two years. They've lived together for

982
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 3: a year, but his true colors came out because that's

983
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 3: who he hangs out with. That's weird that you haven't

984
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 3: met his friends within two years, or maybe you have

985
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 3: met his friends, but like maybe his college friends. But yeah,

986
00:47:46,040 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 3: if those are his college friends and that's how he

987
00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:52,719
Speaker 3: acts and he's like nursing sucks, they're not going to

988
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 3: really change their mindset. Or if they're gonna be like

989
00:47:55,200 --> 00:47:58,560
Speaker 3: lying to you like, oh, nursing, like being pretentious. Yeah,

990
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:03,720
Speaker 3: Like I wouldn't want to deal with that, like, oh, okay,

991
00:48:03,719 --> 00:48:09,120
Speaker 3: storytime sucks. I'd be really upset. I'd be like, you

992
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:12,400
Speaker 3: broke my heart. But that's the end of this story, OPI.

993
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 3: I hope you break up with him. He doesn't deserve you.

994
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 3: Don't be blinded by love. That's my takeaway from this.

995
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 3: I think she's blinded by love. Don't be blinded by love.

996
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:23,240
Speaker 3: If you see red flags and your friends are calling

997
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:26,320
Speaker 3: it out, run But that's the end of the story. Guys,

998
00:48:27,320 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 3: my friend is spreading an intimate secret about my partner.

999
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 3: How do I tell him.

1000
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 2: She actually has six toes instead of five.

1001
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 3: So intimate. I moved to the East Coast from the

1002
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 3: Midwest about four years ago. I didn't know anyone out

1003
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 3: here at first, but eventually really clicked with one of

1004
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 3: my coworkers, Nice, and we began to spend time together

1005
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 3: outside of work. It's becoming a friendship. It's not a workship,

1006
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 3: it's a friendship.

1007
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 2: What was all your friendships?

1008
00:48:57,239 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 3: She is now one of my closest friends. Let's go

1009
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 3: definitely my closest friend out here. We'll call her Sabrina.

1010
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:09,439
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user throw raw zero

1011
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:15,360
Speaker 3: nine nine. So lot of nines on the r slash. Okay,

1012
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:20,160
Speaker 3: storytime separate it. So Sabrina introduced me to a friend

1013
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 3: group of hers. I clicked with some of them more

1014
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:27,400
Speaker 3: than others, but overall like the entire group. Okay, good, great.

1015
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:29,919
Speaker 3: I will say there was one girl in the group

1016
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:33,840
Speaker 3: we'll call her Elena. Like that sort of rubbed me

1017
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 3: the wrong way. Okay, we don't like Alena.

1018
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 1: Aha.

1019
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 3: She was perfectly friendly, but gave off your typical try hard,

1020
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 3: pick me energy. Ooh, basically just love to talk about herself,

1021
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 3: all the male attention she got, how good she was

1022
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 3: at everything. Of course, it was annoying, but tolerable. Eventually,

1023
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:58,240
Speaker 3: one of the guys in the friend group began bringing

1024
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 3: around a friend of his who will call Connor. I

1025
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 3: guess he'd been around the group a few times before,

1026
00:50:04,280 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 3: but this was my first time meeting him, I instantly

1027
00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:10,840
Speaker 3: found Connor attractive and asked Sabrina if he was single,

1028
00:50:11,600 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 3: to which she told me he was, but he and

1029
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 3: Elena used to hook up the pick me girl politics,

1030
00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: she said, they don't any They don't anymore. Elena and

1031
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:27,759
Speaker 3: him hook up. They don't anymore because she caught feelings

1032
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 3: which he did not reciprocate, and it caused her to

1033
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,480
Speaker 3: lash out at him multiple times. Apparently they have managed

1034
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 3: to slowly rebuild a friendship, but as far as Sabrina knows,

1035
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 3: nothing is going on between them anymore. And either way,

1036
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:44,759
Speaker 3: since I'm not close with Elena, I have no obligation

1037
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 3: to be loyal to her. That's a bad no. That's

1038
00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 3: already a bad star, especially if I just want something

1039
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 3: casual with him. I told Sabrina I would follow him

1040
00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:57,279
Speaker 3: on social media and see where it went from there,

1041
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 3: and Sabrina assured me it would all stay between us. Okay, Sabrina, Well,

1042
00:51:04,640 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 3: fast forward about two months. He and I had been

1043
00:51:07,560 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 3: talking from time to time, all friendly conversation, but I

1044
00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 3: hadn't really made a move yet because I didn't want

1045
00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:15,800
Speaker 3: him to feel uncomfortable coming around the group.

1046
00:51:15,880 --> 00:51:17,799
Speaker 2: Okay, She's she's playing.

1047
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:20,399
Speaker 3: Chess, not checkers. Here right here, she's playing some chess,

1048
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 3: I think some three D chests. Right She hasn't made

1049
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:24,319
Speaker 3: any of her moves. He hasn't moved her ponds yet.

1050
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 3: She's just she's getting she's placing the pieces. It's getting

1051
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:33,319
Speaker 3: ready to be played. One night, Sabrina, Elena and I

1052
00:51:33,400 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 3: were out with two other girls in the friend group

1053
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 3: and the drinks were flowing. I ended up blurting out

1054
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:45,640
Speaker 3: that I was interested in Connor, and Elena immediately said,

1055
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 3: you should go for it. I wasn't sure if it

1056
00:51:50,320 --> 00:51:54,839
Speaker 3: was sincere, but I figured, what the hell, it's a trap.

1057
00:51:55,080 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 3: It's a trap. That is a trap again the pick

1058
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 3: me girl energy. If that's already off the it's one

1059
00:52:01,320 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 3: hundred and twenty percent of trap that she's just gonna

1060
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,359
Speaker 3: use this against you. She's like, yet, do it, I'll

1061
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 3: spread some rumors. I began messaging him at first his response.

1062
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:17,280
Speaker 3: His responses were a little dry, to which she said, oh, well,

1063
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:19,720
Speaker 3: I guess he just doesn't like a lot of girls.

1064
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 3: I'm sure it's not personal. Oh man, okay, Elena, I'll

1065
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,720
Speaker 3: admit my pride and ego took over in that moment.

1066
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:30,479
Speaker 3: And I decided to flat out tell him I found

1067
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 3: him attractive. Girls do that? Please? Don't play games with us.

1068
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 3: Just sometimes we're dumb. Yeah, a lot we're we are dumb,

1069
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,319
Speaker 3: dumb things. Just tell us flat out.

1070
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 2: So you spent all this time doing your makeup and

1071
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:48,520
Speaker 2: going on on a day with me, I don't know

1072
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:49,839
Speaker 2: if you like me or not. I have no idea

1073
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:52,080
Speaker 2: if you like me or not. Yeah, compliment me all

1074
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:53,360
Speaker 2: the time, no clue.

1075
00:52:53,440 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 3: Like you're touched in my arm.

1076
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: We don't.

1077
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 3: Sometimes we don't get those subtle things. Sometimes it just

1078
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 3: goes over our head. We are dumb. Even if you

1079
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 3: tell us we're attractive, We're like, okay, you think I'm attracted. Yeah,

1080
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 3: but we don't know if you're into us.

1081
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 2: Once I established a touch with a girl that I

1082
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 2: am interested in, I'm like, okay, she likes me.

1083
00:53:09,360 --> 00:53:11,279
Speaker 3: Listen, I've had some great first dates. So I'm like,

1084
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:12,800
Speaker 3: I think she likes me. And they're like, ah, that

1085
00:53:12,880 --> 00:53:17,440
Speaker 3: was all right, okay, or vice versa. I'm like, I

1086
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:18,439
Speaker 3: think I like he's hurt.

1087
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 1: Is hurt?

1088
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:24,399
Speaker 2: No, I'm not hurt.

1089
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:27,240
Speaker 3: I'm fine. I'm doing great.

1090
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 2: So pull up your hinge. See how hurt you are that's.

1091
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 3: Not I found him attractive. He immediately perked up at that,

1092
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:37,880
Speaker 3: and we were then text flirting back and forth.

1093
00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:39,440
Speaker 2: Nice see success.

1094
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 3: Elena started rambling about him. Some of the things she

1095
00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:47,600
Speaker 3: told the group wasn't super secret information. For example, she

1096
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 3: mentioned he was divorced and had a child. MM. I

1097
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:53,160
Speaker 3: feel like that should have been in contact in the beginning,

1098
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:55,919
Speaker 3: but since I'm only looking for something casual, that didn't

1099
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:59,200
Speaker 3: bother me. Still, it felt as though she was trying

1100
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:02,360
Speaker 3: to deter him or to term me from him, saying

1101
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:06,320
Speaker 3: things about how he's moody and attentive, et cetera, et cetera.

1102
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:09,200
Speaker 3: But again, if I'm not dating the guy, I don't

1103
00:54:09,200 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 3: really care. Listen, op just wants to have some fun.

1104
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:15,439
Speaker 2: She I see a pattern here.

1105
00:54:16,920 --> 00:54:20,880
Speaker 3: Finally she drops that he has an STD fun or

1106
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:23,319
Speaker 3: at least did when they were hooking up.

1107
00:54:23,600 --> 00:54:25,080
Speaker 2: Oh lovely.

1108
00:54:25,320 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 3: Okay, she did specify which one, but I won't repeat

1109
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:32,920
Speaker 3: it for privacy reasons. I honestly brush it off, thinking

1110
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 3: she was getting desperate and just making stuff up at

1111
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 3: this point. Fast forward another month to two nights ago.

1112
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 3: He and I finally found the time in our schedules

1113
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:44,319
Speaker 3: to grab dinner and ended up going back to his

1114
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:48,719
Speaker 3: place with the intention of hooking up. Oh before we

1115
00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 3: did so, he sat me down and confessed that he

1116
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:54,520
Speaker 3: did have this STD and he was sorry if I

1117
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:58,480
Speaker 3: wasn't okay with that and for wasting my time just

1118
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 3: tell respect well, thankfully he did tell you, some people

1119
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:04,279
Speaker 3: just don't do it, and that's like the worst thing

1120
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:07,080
Speaker 3: you can do. Those those people suck. I assured him.

1121
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 3: As long as he's not symptomatic and is willing to

1122
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 3: use protection, then I didn't have an issue with it.

1123
00:55:12,840 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 3: OPI's down bad. He thanked me for understanding and told

1124
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:19,480
Speaker 3: me that it's one of the most deeply personal things

1125
00:55:19,520 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 3: about himself and he would prefer I not spread that

1126
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 3: information around, to which I assured him I of course

1127
00:55:24,600 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 3: would not tell anyone. But you know what, you can

1128
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:27,360
Speaker 3: tell everyone?

1129
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 2: What's that?

1130
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:30,800
Speaker 3: You can tell everyone that we're live three pm PST

1131
00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:34,960
Speaker 3: every weekday. Just tap our profile, click click click it.

1132
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:36,360
Speaker 3: What do you think is gonna happen?

1133
00:55:37,480 --> 00:55:41,399
Speaker 2: I think Elena, Right, Elena, she is going to do

1134
00:55:41,520 --> 00:55:47,120
Speaker 2: everything in her might and will to make this guy

1135
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:50,960
Speaker 2: seem like trash and basically make OPI feel like it's

1136
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:53,239
Speaker 2: a mistake because she's still a little jelly.

1137
00:55:53,280 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 3: I feel like Olena has tried everything in anything and

1138
00:55:56,360 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 3: op does not care. Yeah, OPI finds Connor cute. Connor

1139
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:03,440
Speaker 3: finds hercute. They're gonna hook up. It's gonna happen. It's already,

1140
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:05,640
Speaker 3: it's there, she's already there, it's in the works. But

1141
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:09,719
Speaker 3: what I think is gonna happen is that Elena's gonna

1142
00:56:09,760 --> 00:56:13,400
Speaker 3: find out and she's gonna start spreading rumors that Ope

1143
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 3: has the sdd.

1144
00:56:16,120 --> 00:56:20,359
Speaker 2: Ooh, and he's probably already told Elena, like, hey, yeah,

1145
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:21,440
Speaker 2: because this is personal.

1146
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 3: Connor said, this is really personal. I don't want like

1147
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 3: talking about it. This is something I don't really talk about.

1148
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,400
Speaker 2: It's not this week's new hot goss.

1149
00:56:29,640 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 3: Yeah. And Elena has already told it to opee yeah,

1150
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 3: right off the bat. In the moment, I think I

1151
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 3: was a little caught off guard and didn't know if

1152
00:56:39,239 --> 00:56:41,839
Speaker 3: I should mention that Elena had already told me about this.

1153
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 3: But since then, it's just not sitting right with me.

1154
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 3: I would want to know if one of my past

1155
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:51,560
Speaker 3: partners was sharing that sort of information about me and

1156
00:56:51,600 --> 00:56:55,320
Speaker 3: many of my friends I talked to about this, I

1157
00:56:55,520 --> 00:57:00,880
Speaker 3: talk to you about this agreed Sabrina included. I figure

1158
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 3: I should find a time to talk to him in

1159
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 3: person and tell him the truth. But I'm worried he'll

1160
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 3: be upset with me for not telling him sooner, and

1161
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:11,480
Speaker 3: then he'll go off on Elena, causing a bunch of

1162
00:57:11,520 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 3: tension and drama in the friend group. I have no

1163
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 3: idea what to do in this situation. Any advice is appreciated,

1164
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 3: especially if anyone has any idea how to reveal this

1165
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 3: information to someone. There's an edit to add. Let's read

1166
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 3: that edit, because I'm seeing it a lot. No, Elena

1167
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:31,720
Speaker 3: does not have the disease as far as I know,

1168
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 3: and he did tell her before they were intimate. Okay,

1169
00:57:35,440 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 3: he did not tell me right before. It was before

1170
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:40,880
Speaker 3: anything got hot and heavy, and he made it very

1171
00:57:40,880 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 3: clear in the moment that he completely understood if I

1172
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 3: no longer wanted to pursue anything with him. Additionally, to

1173
00:57:48,080 --> 00:57:50,240
Speaker 3: those of you trying to guess which seed it is,

1174
00:57:50,440 --> 00:57:54,440
Speaker 3: or even worse, passing judgment, you are clearly uneducated, and

1175
00:57:54,520 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 3: that's not the question I asked. If you can't handle

1176
00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:00,720
Speaker 3: this topic maturely, please don't comment at all. The answer

1177
00:58:00,760 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 3: to which STD is isn't as obvious as most of

1178
00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 3: you are thinking. Also, to clarify, my issue isn't that

1179
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 3: she told me. It's that she announced it to a

1180
00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 3: group of people who all know him, and she said

1181
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:14,000
Speaker 3: it like it was a joke.

1182
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:17,400
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's even worse.

1183
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:22,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, she she was like, he has an sddy for.

1184
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 2: Everyone to know, because the girl's girl move would be Hey,

1185
00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:28,640
Speaker 2: I know you're like seeing this guy. He might not

1186
00:58:28,800 --> 00:58:30,840
Speaker 2: tell you, but to be safe, you should probably know

1187
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:33,680
Speaker 2: he has this. Yeah. But she was like, as a joke,

1188
00:58:33,840 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 2: just for some clout, Yeah, come on, She's.

1189
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:39,640
Speaker 3: Like, before you even try talking to Connor, he has this.

1190
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 2: He's not even worth all that you should stop seeing him,

1191
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:47,800
Speaker 2: yis dude, I'd pick one, Yeah, Connor or the friend.

1192
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:51,680
Speaker 3: I wouldn't pick Lena the fact that she's already Connor.

1193
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 3: I'd pick Connor because Connor already did. He says he

1194
00:58:55,320 --> 00:58:57,919
Speaker 3: has personal struggles with saying this, yeah, talking to people

1195
00:58:57,960 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 3: about it, and the fact that he told op especially

1196
00:59:01,000 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 3: before they did anything. Great, as you should, but before

1197
00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:07,120
Speaker 3: he knew it was gonna happen, and like, oh this

1198
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 3: is going gonna happen. Hey, this is gonna happen. I

1199
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 3: understand that if you don't want to, we don't have to,

1200
00:59:12,840 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 3: which is great.

1201
00:59:13,840 --> 00:59:14,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1202
00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I think Elena's out. Second edit to add, Okay,

1203
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:23,840
Speaker 3: not that it's literally anyone's business, because it's it doesn't

1204
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 3: change my original question. But he doesn't have herpes. He

1205
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 3: has HPV. Okay, just flat out not sure why that's

1206
00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 3: less shameful than the former. But there, now you know,

1207
00:59:33,320 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 3: and that's that's the end of the story. I guess

1208
00:59:35,360 --> 00:59:38,439
Speaker 3: she's just asking how to talk to Connor about this.

1209
00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 3: That's what she's getting too more.

1210
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:44,800
Speaker 2: I probably honestly, what's going in my head is you

1211
00:59:44,840 --> 00:59:47,480
Speaker 2: wait a day or two, say hey, Connor, can we

1212
00:59:47,520 --> 00:59:50,520
Speaker 2: grab some coffee? Grab some coffee and kind of let

1213
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 2: him know. Yeah, that that's the best way I think

1214
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:54,800
Speaker 2: i'd execute it.

1215
00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 3: I think just talking to him, I feel like.

1216
00:59:58,880 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 2: And then he needs to go Elena about spreading that information.

1217
01:00:02,640 --> 01:00:04,360
Speaker 2: She shouldn't confront Elena about him.

1218
01:00:04,440 --> 01:00:08,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, he needs to come. Well that might get more

1219
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:11,960
Speaker 3: because she did say it might get to even more drama. Well,

1220
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 3: I mean they're getting at trauma. Nonetheless, what you.

1221
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:16,520
Speaker 2: Could say is these are the people that were included,

1222
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:18,960
Speaker 2: and he could say he could lie a little bit,

1223
01:00:19,400 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 2: not saying you should, but this could help by not

1224
01:00:21,360 --> 01:00:25,160
Speaker 2: putting Elena or Ope in the dirt or throw her

1225
01:00:25,200 --> 01:00:26,600
Speaker 2: under the bus. But be like, hey, I heard from

1226
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:30,360
Speaker 2: a couple of people asking about my STD. The only

1227
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:33,120
Speaker 2: other people that I know I've told is these people,

1228
01:00:33,160 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 2: and I know you're in a friend group of these people.

1229
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:37,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, did you tell anyone or at least did you

1230
01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,160
Speaker 3: tell them? Because she did blurt it out, Maybe they

1231
01:00:40,160 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 3: did all did know already. I don't know. I doubt it,

1232
01:00:43,360 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 3: but we can't just assume. But I say, for op,

1233
01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:49,200
Speaker 3: talk to Connor about it. You should bring it up,

1234
01:00:50,200 --> 01:00:52,480
Speaker 3: because again he seems like he's very insecure about it,

1235
01:00:52,520 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 3: and that's like a very personal detail that he does

1236
01:00:55,040 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 3: not like talking about. Oh yeah, if it's something that

1237
01:00:58,040 --> 01:01:00,479
Speaker 3: I'm putting myself in his shoes, if I'm insecure something,

1238
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 3: I really don't want to talk about it. But I

1239
01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:05,520
Speaker 3: would want to know if people are talking about it

1240
01:01:05,520 --> 01:01:11,040
Speaker 3: behind my back. One. Oh yeah, so definitely tell him that, hey,

1241
01:01:11,200 --> 01:01:14,560
Speaker 3: this was you know, I was informed from now. I

1242
01:01:14,600 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 3: wouldn't say put Elena under the bus, but I was informed.

1243
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:25,280
Speaker 3: And see how that gets into conversation. But again, get

1244
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:29,880
Speaker 3: the situation whole is very sticky. Yeah, that's just my thing.

1245
01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 3: Just be careful. I feel like this might come back

1246
01:01:32,360 --> 01:01:34,760
Speaker 3: to bites, especially with Elena doing all that stuff trying

1247
01:01:34,760 --> 01:01:39,200
Speaker 3: to prevent you, prevent you. There might be some jealousy

1248
01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 3: and that might get into very awkward phase. I don't know.

1249
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:44,840
Speaker 3: Hopefully not, but that's usually people aren't mature about that stuff.

1250
01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:46,560
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story.

1251
01:01:46,600 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 2: Guys got another one.

1252
01:01:47,920 --> 01:01:48,680
Speaker 3: We got another one.

1253
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:51,200
Speaker 2: I refuse to get a tattoo of my ex's name

1254
01:01:51,240 --> 01:01:52,720
Speaker 2: on my neck. She went livid.

1255
01:01:53,280 --> 01:01:54,480
Speaker 3: You just you just don't do that.

1256
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:57,600
Speaker 2: We dated for two years. She loves tattoos, maybe had

1257
01:01:57,640 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 2: six when we were dating. To be honest, I never

1258
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 2: like tattoos, but I don't judge people for having it.

1259
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:05,640
Speaker 2: Once we had an argument on a topic that she

1260
01:02:05,840 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 2: had a tattoo right over her the JJ area written

1261
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 2: as James property.

1262
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 3: Whoa Whoa Whoa James.

1263
01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 2: Is my surname.

1264
01:02:17,560 --> 01:02:18,640
Speaker 3: Whoa Woo.

1265
01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:21,919
Speaker 2: She said she had done this for me. I appreciate her,

1266
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:26,320
Speaker 2: but also I told her it wasn't necessary. By the way,

1267
01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:29,360
Speaker 2: this comes from material Towel eighty fifty one on the

1268
01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:33,040
Speaker 2: r slash. Okay, storytelling subred. So I told her she

1269
01:02:33,080 --> 01:02:35,520
Speaker 2: doesn't need to show her love by mockering her body,

1270
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:39,760
Speaker 2: and I love her for being herself. She looked. She

1271
01:02:39,800 --> 01:02:43,080
Speaker 2: took it offensively and started to argue with me, saying

1272
01:02:43,160 --> 01:02:46,240
Speaker 2: I don't love her and I don't appreciate her efforts

1273
01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 2: for our relationship. She had an argument, but was able

1274
01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 2: to solve it and pass through it. Then she asked

1275
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 2: me to have a tattoo of her name on my

1276
01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:57,800
Speaker 2: neck as her birthday presence. She knew that I had

1277
01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 2: absolutely hate tattoos and I do not participate in blood

1278
01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 2: donation events, so it's a big no from me. I

1279
01:03:05,640 --> 01:03:08,480
Speaker 2: told her she can ask anything, but I won't have

1280
01:03:08,640 --> 01:03:11,680
Speaker 2: any tattoos. She again started to argue with me, but

1281
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:13,960
Speaker 2: I was firm with my decision.

1282
01:03:14,440 --> 01:03:15,640
Speaker 3: This is a lot.

1283
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:16,640
Speaker 2: She lost it.

1284
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:18,280
Speaker 3: Oh, of course she did.

1285
01:03:18,280 --> 01:03:21,000
Speaker 2: Called me names, shouted at me, and accused me for

1286
01:03:21,160 --> 01:03:23,880
Speaker 2: using her. I couldn't believe what I was hearing from her.

1287
01:03:23,920 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 2: In that moment, I realized our relationship was getting toxic.

1288
01:03:27,520 --> 01:03:30,000
Speaker 2: I wanted to end it, but wanted to give another

1289
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 2: go because I loved her. To my surprise, she broke

1290
01:03:33,880 --> 01:03:36,400
Speaker 2: up with me, saying she can't be with someone who

1291
01:03:36,440 --> 01:03:39,320
Speaker 2: doesn't love her. Before I could do anything, I found

1292
01:03:39,360 --> 01:03:44,040
Speaker 2: myself blocked on every social media from her. Two years

1293
01:03:44,080 --> 01:03:46,120
Speaker 2: has passed since then, and I'm in a lot better

1294
01:03:46,160 --> 01:03:49,200
Speaker 2: position right now. I'm doing really well and I'm earning

1295
01:03:49,280 --> 01:03:52,840
Speaker 2: a fair income amount too. I've gained new hobbies, I

1296
01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:55,720
Speaker 2: met new people and became friends with them. But last

1297
01:03:55,840 --> 01:03:59,360
Speaker 2: night I got plenty of messages from my ex asking

1298
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:02,840
Speaker 2: how I was. I wasn't expecting this because I almost

1299
01:04:02,840 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 2: forgot that she existed because of the way we parted ways.

1300
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 2: But I didn't reply to any of them. She's coming back.

1301
01:04:10,280 --> 01:04:12,000
Speaker 3: You don't have to reply to any of them. She

1302
01:04:12,120 --> 01:04:13,040
Speaker 3: did this to herself.

1303
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:15,200
Speaker 2: At midnight, I got a bunch of calls from her,

1304
01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:18,200
Speaker 2: but didn't pick any of them up. In the early morning,

1305
01:04:18,320 --> 01:04:22,040
Speaker 2: she called me again and was sending me messages constantly.

1306
01:04:22,240 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 2: I finally picked up her call and she said, we

1307
01:04:24,720 --> 01:04:27,440
Speaker 2: need to talk. I told her about what and she

1308
01:04:27,480 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 2: immediately said, she made a huge mistake by breaking up

1309
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:30,840
Speaker 2: with me.

1310
01:04:31,240 --> 01:04:35,680
Speaker 3: This is These are all gigantic toxic red flags.

1311
01:04:36,160 --> 01:04:38,680
Speaker 2: I made a huge mistake because I can't remove that tattoo.

1312
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 2: They don't do tattoo removals. Down there and we gotta

1313
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:43,520
Speaker 2: get back together.

1314
01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I crossed the name. I might want to cross

1315
01:04:45,880 --> 01:04:47,720
Speaker 3: the name out, but oh well.

1316
01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:50,080
Speaker 2: That she misses me and wants me back. She also

1317
01:04:50,120 --> 01:04:53,400
Speaker 2: said she won't force me. She also said she won't

1318
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:55,920
Speaker 2: force me for anything again, and we'll try to remove

1319
01:04:55,960 --> 01:04:58,760
Speaker 2: the tattoos if I want. I was listening to her,

1320
01:04:58,800 --> 01:05:01,920
Speaker 2: but for some reason, I didn't feel anything. It's maybe

1321
01:05:01,920 --> 01:05:06,120
Speaker 2: because my life became way more beautiful without her in

1322
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:08,480
Speaker 2: these past two years. I don't want to sacrifice it.

1323
01:05:08,720 --> 01:05:11,080
Speaker 2: I just said, f off and never try to contact

1324
01:05:11,080 --> 01:05:12,320
Speaker 2: me again. Then block her.

1325
01:05:12,800 --> 01:05:15,160
Speaker 3: I wouldn't. Uh, that's not the right way to do it,

1326
01:05:15,200 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 3: especially maybe talk things out, not just by done well.

1327
01:05:19,600 --> 01:05:22,040
Speaker 3: I mean she part literally blocked him on everything. He

1328
01:05:22,080 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 3: had no way of talking to her, and he was like,

1329
01:05:24,400 --> 01:05:26,840
Speaker 3: maybe he wanted to talk to her before. She just

1330
01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:29,000
Speaker 3: you don't love me because you didn't get a tattoo

1331
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 3: on my neck. You don't love me, So I hate you. Done,

1332
01:05:32,640 --> 01:05:34,560
Speaker 3: don't talk to me ever again. I got a tattoo

1333
01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:35,480
Speaker 3: on my have a JJ for you.

1334
01:05:35,520 --> 01:05:37,600
Speaker 2: I don't know if what I did was right or wrong,

1335
01:05:37,920 --> 01:05:39,880
Speaker 2: but I shared it with some of my friends today.

1336
01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:41,840
Speaker 2: Some of them said I did the right thing, and

1337
01:05:41,840 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 2: some of them said I was extra cruel to her

1338
01:05:44,760 --> 01:05:47,520
Speaker 2: for saying it because she was trying to get a

1339
01:05:47,600 --> 01:05:51,600
Speaker 2: chance to fix our broken relationship. Am I the a hole?

1340
01:05:52,880 --> 01:05:56,280
Speaker 2: We got an update two days later. If you're not

1341
01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:59,160
Speaker 2: comfortable and you're hesitant about getting back together with someone,

1342
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:03,160
Speaker 2: you're not excited about getting back together with someone, why

1343
01:06:03,160 --> 01:06:03,920
Speaker 2: I get back together?

1344
01:06:04,480 --> 01:06:07,920
Speaker 3: You moved on you You sounds like you moved on

1345
01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:11,200
Speaker 3: so much. You moved on so much better. Two years

1346
01:06:11,600 --> 01:06:16,040
Speaker 3: of you just like that was toxic and that was crazy. Uh,

1347
01:06:16,080 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 3: I'm in a better place. The fact that you don't

1348
01:06:18,480 --> 01:06:20,040
Speaker 3: feel anything, that's that's fine.

1349
01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:23,440
Speaker 2: And I'm wondering why she's coming back so hard.

1350
01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 3: So hard?

1351
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:26,120
Speaker 2: Like what what?

1352
01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:30,280
Speaker 3: Two years later she looked, she looked down, and she's like,

1353
01:06:30,440 --> 01:06:31,960
Speaker 3: I miss him.

1354
01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:32,960
Speaker 2: I call him.

1355
01:06:33,040 --> 01:06:36,000
Speaker 3: I should call I should call him. But I blocked

1356
01:06:36,040 --> 01:06:37,840
Speaker 3: him on my own accord and didn't want to talk

1357
01:06:37,880 --> 01:06:39,320
Speaker 3: to him because he didn't want to get my name

1358
01:06:39,360 --> 01:06:41,160
Speaker 3: on his neck because he hates tattoos.

1359
01:06:41,880 --> 01:06:43,960
Speaker 2: Almost every one of you guys told me to block her,

1360
01:06:44,120 --> 01:06:46,160
Speaker 2: which I already did, and to move on. I was

1361
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:48,600
Speaker 2: determined to move on, but my ex seemed to have

1362
01:06:48,840 --> 01:06:49,600
Speaker 2: other blands?

1363
01:06:49,960 --> 01:06:51,600
Speaker 3: How do you? How did she have other plants? Is

1364
01:06:51,640 --> 01:06:52,360
Speaker 3: she tracking him?

1365
01:06:52,640 --> 01:06:55,960
Speaker 2: Since I blocked her contact number, she started to spam

1366
01:06:56,000 --> 01:06:58,360
Speaker 2: call me. Every time I block a number, I'd get

1367
01:06:58,360 --> 01:07:01,320
Speaker 2: another call from a new number. It was my ex

1368
01:07:02,040 --> 01:07:04,760
Speaker 2: asking me to meet her once and she wants to

1369
01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:08,919
Speaker 2: see me desperately b S. I wanted to change my number,

1370
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:12,600
Speaker 2: but it's hard because my job requires a healthy communication

1371
01:07:12,760 --> 01:07:15,920
Speaker 2: with my coworkers and they always contact me on this number.

1372
01:07:16,240 --> 01:07:19,560
Speaker 2: I was getting spam calls from her, but later I

1373
01:07:19,600 --> 01:07:21,800
Speaker 2: started to get spam messages from her friends saying to

1374
01:07:21,880 --> 01:07:24,120
Speaker 2: man up and to meet up with her. They said

1375
01:07:24,160 --> 01:07:27,240
Speaker 2: she's badly hurt by my actions and she still loves

1376
01:07:27,280 --> 01:07:29,880
Speaker 2: me a lot. They also said my ex didn't date

1377
01:07:29,920 --> 01:07:32,360
Speaker 2: anyone in the past two years and was celliate because

1378
01:07:32,400 --> 01:07:34,560
Speaker 2: she was working on herself to be a better person

1379
01:07:34,560 --> 01:07:39,600
Speaker 2: for me another bs bs. They said many more things,

1380
01:07:39,600 --> 01:07:42,200
Speaker 2: and I just blocked them without replying. Then I started

1381
01:07:42,240 --> 01:07:45,280
Speaker 2: to get spam calls from them too. What that was

1382
01:07:45,320 --> 01:07:47,760
Speaker 2: wrong with these people? I picked up a few calls

1383
01:07:47,800 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 2: and they were absolutely furious with me, bad mouthed me,

1384
01:07:51,040 --> 01:07:53,840
Speaker 2: cussing me out, calling me names, calling me not a man,

1385
01:07:54,400 --> 01:07:57,040
Speaker 2: enough and saying they will find a better person for

1386
01:07:57,120 --> 01:07:59,120
Speaker 2: my ex, to me that I am a piece of

1387
01:07:59,120 --> 01:08:00,480
Speaker 2: crap and I don't deserve my ex.

1388
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:02,520
Speaker 1: All that blah blah blah blah blah blah blah.

1389
01:08:02,560 --> 01:08:06,080
Speaker 3: Great, thank god, I would be so happy. I'm like, yeah,

1390
01:08:06,160 --> 01:08:07,840
Speaker 3: did you understand I don't want to talk to you.

1391
01:08:07,960 --> 01:08:12,640
Speaker 2: I just laughed out loudly, which maybe made them more furious.

1392
01:08:12,840 --> 01:08:15,960
Speaker 2: I just told them I noted their contact numbers and

1393
01:08:16,000 --> 01:08:18,799
Speaker 2: now I'm going to take legal help. To my surprise,

1394
01:08:18,880 --> 01:08:22,080
Speaker 2: their call stopped immediately, and since then, none of them

1395
01:08:22,120 --> 01:08:27,200
Speaker 2: will call me once cowards now here, I now here.

1396
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:30,439
Speaker 2: I did something which can make you guys angry. I

1397
01:08:30,479 --> 01:08:34,000
Speaker 2: met up with my ex today. Why because she promised

1398
01:08:34,000 --> 01:08:36,000
Speaker 2: me that she will leave me alone and never bother

1399
01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:37,760
Speaker 2: me again if I agreed to meet up with their once.

1400
01:08:37,960 --> 01:08:39,040
Speaker 3: That's BS.

1401
01:08:39,080 --> 01:08:41,679
Speaker 2: Literally, you knew this was BS, brother, dude, you could

1402
01:08:41,880 --> 01:08:44,200
Speaker 2: that was he did two bss. This was the third

1403
01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:46,240
Speaker 2: one that you were supposed to do to quit it all.

1404
01:08:46,400 --> 01:08:48,120
Speaker 3: You had it. You had it. All you have to

1405
01:08:48,160 --> 01:08:48,600
Speaker 3: say was no.

1406
01:08:49,080 --> 01:08:50,920
Speaker 2: I believed her and told her that I'll meet up

1407
01:08:50,920 --> 01:08:54,360
Speaker 2: with her BI aoneer by restaurant. She said she will

1408
01:08:54,360 --> 01:08:57,200
Speaker 2: book a table for us and fix the time for

1409
01:08:57,280 --> 01:08:59,439
Speaker 2: us to meet up. When I reached the spot, I

1410
01:08:59,479 --> 01:09:01,640
Speaker 2: saw her way waiting at a table. This was the

1411
01:09:01,640 --> 01:09:03,599
Speaker 2: first time I saw her in two years. She didn't

1412
01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:06,439
Speaker 2: change that much. The only things changed that she got

1413
01:09:06,439 --> 01:09:08,800
Speaker 2: some more tattoos on her hand and on her shoulders.

1414
01:09:09,000 --> 01:09:12,000
Speaker 2: She was brunette now, but now she colored her hair blunt.

1415
01:09:12,640 --> 01:09:15,320
Speaker 2: She proceeded to hug me, but I rejected it. I

1416
01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:18,000
Speaker 2: told her that I'm in a hurry. My girlfriend is

1417
01:09:18,000 --> 01:09:20,519
Speaker 2: waiting for me. This is not true. I'm not to anyone.

1418
01:09:20,640 --> 01:09:22,719
Speaker 2: I have no interest to spend time with my ex.

1419
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:25,160
Speaker 2: She looked her took her eyes down for a minute,

1420
01:09:25,200 --> 01:09:28,639
Speaker 2: and regained herself, saying she understands and she won't take

1421
01:09:28,760 --> 01:09:31,559
Speaker 2: much time. She asked me to sit down, and she

1422
01:09:31,920 --> 01:09:34,599
Speaker 2: then apologized to me for how she into things between

1423
01:09:34,680 --> 01:09:37,479
Speaker 2: us and how she regretted it every single day. She

1424
01:09:37,520 --> 01:09:39,840
Speaker 2: said it was a crappy person back then and now

1425
01:09:39,920 --> 01:09:42,880
Speaker 2: she can realize how much damage she has done to

1426
01:09:43,000 --> 01:09:46,000
Speaker 2: our relationship back then. She again apologize to me, and

1427
01:09:46,080 --> 01:09:47,920
Speaker 2: she understands if I have nothing to do with her

1428
01:09:48,040 --> 01:09:49,680
Speaker 2: and if I hate her, or if I don't want

1429
01:09:49,680 --> 01:09:51,920
Speaker 2: to see her again, and if I wish her dead

1430
01:09:51,920 --> 01:09:54,479
Speaker 2: because she thinks she deserves it. I was silent and

1431
01:09:54,520 --> 01:09:58,000
Speaker 2: hearing all these things. I could see tears were rolling

1432
01:09:58,040 --> 01:10:00,960
Speaker 2: from her eyes. I told her that I don't hate her,

1433
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:03,559
Speaker 2: and I'm sorry for being rid of you in that call,

1434
01:10:04,000 --> 01:10:07,400
Speaker 2: and I congratulate you for proving as a person being

1435
01:10:07,439 --> 01:10:09,920
Speaker 2: a better person. She thanked me. I asked her if

1436
01:10:09,960 --> 01:10:12,800
Speaker 2: she still had the tattoo on her with JJ. She

1437
01:10:12,800 --> 01:10:15,760
Speaker 2: said yes, she has no intention of removing it.

1438
01:10:19,240 --> 01:10:22,519
Speaker 3: That's great for your next partner. You're like, who's dead.

1439
01:10:22,720 --> 01:10:24,479
Speaker 2: I told her to remove it and move on home with

1440
01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 2: her life. Then I told her I need to leave,

1441
01:10:27,080 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 2: and she said she wished me all the happiness for me.

1442
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:31,960
Speaker 2: She was happy because I finally met someone who would

1443
01:10:31,960 --> 01:10:34,200
Speaker 2: take good care of me. I thanked her. She said

1444
01:10:34,240 --> 01:10:36,759
Speaker 2: she will keep her promise and she will never contact

1445
01:10:36,760 --> 01:10:38,960
Speaker 2: me again, but she wished one day we can be

1446
01:10:39,000 --> 01:10:41,519
Speaker 2: friends in the future. Then she said goodbye, and both

1447
01:10:41,560 --> 01:10:44,040
Speaker 2: of us walked away in different directions. But you can

1448
01:10:44,080 --> 01:10:45,880
Speaker 2: never walk away from us because we good live every

1449
01:10:45,880 --> 01:10:47,080
Speaker 2: weekday at three PMPST.

1450
01:10:47,520 --> 01:10:49,160
Speaker 3: Just tap her profile, just tap on it.

1451
01:10:49,479 --> 01:10:50,879
Speaker 2: How do we feel about this apology?

1452
01:10:51,960 --> 01:10:52,760
Speaker 3: It's heartfelt.

1453
01:10:53,120 --> 01:10:54,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's hard like it.

1454
01:10:54,680 --> 01:10:57,920
Speaker 3: I like the apology and the fact that she's maturing.

1455
01:10:58,280 --> 01:11:02,799
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and ope, he was just like a little

1456
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:06,080
Speaker 3: white live like having a girlfriend that that probably helped

1457
01:11:06,120 --> 01:11:07,479
Speaker 3: a lot, actually, yeah.

1458
01:11:07,280 --> 01:11:08,760
Speaker 2: Because she was definitely gonna try to make moves to

1459
01:11:08,760 --> 01:11:09,760
Speaker 2: get back together.

1460
01:11:10,000 --> 01:11:13,000
Speaker 3: One hundred percent. But the fact that she's like, I'm

1461
01:11:13,040 --> 01:11:16,719
Speaker 3: happy that you found someone. I'm working on myself. Good

1462
01:11:16,880 --> 01:11:20,280
Speaker 3: for the x that she realized that she was being

1463
01:11:20,400 --> 01:11:26,200
Speaker 3: very toxic, very psychotic, and good on you guys. Literally

1464
01:11:26,240 --> 01:11:30,160
Speaker 3: like having an actual mature conversation. Yeah, you know, she

1465
01:11:30,160 --> 01:11:31,840
Speaker 3: she edited things bad, and then you kind of edit

1466
01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:34,559
Speaker 3: things bad. Opie, this was mature. This is probably the

1467
01:11:34,560 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 3: best outcome you could do.

1468
01:11:35,680 --> 01:11:40,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree. I it didn't seem like

1469
01:11:40,720 --> 01:11:42,720
Speaker 2: she had a trick up her sleeve though. She just

1470
01:11:42,720 --> 01:11:44,839
Speaker 2: wanted to apologize, and I think she wanted to apologize

1471
01:11:44,880 --> 01:11:48,479
Speaker 2: so she can take a step on apologizing to herself. Yeah,

1472
01:11:48,479 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 2: that's why she had to meet in person. And how

1473
01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:50,800
Speaker 2: she apologize.

1474
01:11:50,880 --> 01:11:52,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like, I worked on myself. The last thing

1475
01:11:52,960 --> 01:11:55,759
Speaker 3: I need to do before I really close this door

1476
01:11:55,920 --> 01:11:58,559
Speaker 3: or at least sealed the deal is forgive the person

1477
01:11:58,600 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 3: she hurt or like how she went about it and

1478
01:12:01,040 --> 01:12:04,840
Speaker 3: she realized I did this. Great. At least she got

1479
01:12:05,000 --> 01:12:09,040
Speaker 3: you know, she says, she you know, not save her conscience,

1480
01:12:09,040 --> 01:12:11,200
Speaker 3: but like she got it off her chest. Oh yeah,

1481
01:12:11,240 --> 01:12:13,320
Speaker 3: and she can move on. I think that was it.

1482
01:12:13,360 --> 01:12:14,680
Speaker 3: I think that was like, I need to move on.

1483
01:12:14,720 --> 01:12:16,920
Speaker 3: But that's what I needed to do, and she did it. Great.

1484
01:12:17,479 --> 01:12:18,759
Speaker 3: I hope they don't get back together.

1485
01:12:19,120 --> 01:12:20,360
Speaker 2: Here's the rest of the story.

1486
01:12:20,479 --> 01:12:21,360
Speaker 3: Okay, so that's it.

1487
01:12:21,840 --> 01:12:24,200
Speaker 2: I didn't get any calls text from her or her

1488
01:12:24,200 --> 01:12:26,919
Speaker 2: friends since then. I feel like this is a closure

1489
01:12:27,040 --> 01:12:29,040
Speaker 2: I really needed, and now I'm free in my life.

1490
01:12:29,240 --> 01:12:31,120
Speaker 2: I feel fresh. I feel like I can move on

1491
01:12:31,200 --> 01:12:33,880
Speaker 2: with my life without any type of hesitation. I wish

1492
01:12:33,960 --> 01:12:36,000
Speaker 2: her the best and hope that she finds true love

1493
01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:38,519
Speaker 2: in her life. Thanks everyone, and I really appreciate all

1494
01:12:38,560 --> 01:12:40,840
Speaker 2: of you for the support. Thank you. Once again. Boy

1495
01:12:40,840 --> 01:12:41,960
Speaker 2: oh boy, was I wrong?

1496
01:12:43,320 --> 01:12:44,679
Speaker 3: We have We have an update.

1497
01:12:44,760 --> 01:12:48,200
Speaker 2: We have another update eight days later.

1498
01:12:48,400 --> 01:12:50,639
Speaker 3: It seems so perfect. It seemed like it worked out.

1499
01:12:50,800 --> 01:12:52,400
Speaker 3: And then update two.

1500
01:12:52,840 --> 01:12:55,519
Speaker 2: Oh boy. Hello everyone, Yeah, this is me again. It's

1501
01:12:55,560 --> 01:12:57,719
Speaker 2: been a week. I'm here to update you guys about

1502
01:12:57,720 --> 01:13:00,639
Speaker 2: my situation. Also, I'll be clearing some doubts, and people

1503
01:13:00,640 --> 01:13:02,880
Speaker 2: ask me in my DMS did she try to contact

1504
01:13:03,280 --> 01:13:05,760
Speaker 2: me again? But of you, my previous post said that

1505
01:13:05,840 --> 01:13:08,280
Speaker 2: she is not done and wile to try to contact

1506
01:13:08,280 --> 01:13:10,720
Speaker 2: me again. Good news, guys. It seems like she's really

1507
01:13:10,800 --> 01:13:13,439
Speaker 2: become a mature person. Since last week, I didn't receive

1508
01:13:13,760 --> 01:13:17,280
Speaker 2: single message from her or calls. Even I didn't get

1509
01:13:17,400 --> 01:13:19,559
Speaker 2: any messages from her friends as well. Some of them

1510
01:13:19,560 --> 01:13:22,000
Speaker 2: blocked me, and some of them apologized for their behavior.

1511
01:13:23,000 --> 01:13:24,760
Speaker 2: Did she remove the TAT too? Like so in my

1512
01:13:24,840 --> 01:13:27,880
Speaker 2: last post? She didn't remove it. She said she would

1513
01:13:27,960 --> 01:13:29,760
Speaker 2: keep it. Even though I told her to remove it

1514
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:31,640
Speaker 2: and to move on with her life. She said she

1515
01:13:31,720 --> 01:13:34,599
Speaker 2: knows and she'll manage. I didn't take it any further.

1516
01:13:34,800 --> 01:13:38,240
Speaker 2: Did she make any sexual offers during the meetup? No,

1517
01:13:38,400 --> 01:13:40,880
Speaker 2: she didn't. She looked emotional and she was asking for

1518
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 2: forgiveness the whole time. Is it true that she was

1519
01:13:43,479 --> 01:13:45,519
Speaker 2: selling it for two years? In her words, she was.

1520
01:13:45,800 --> 01:13:47,960
Speaker 2: She said she knows I won't believe it and she

1521
01:13:48,000 --> 01:13:50,559
Speaker 2: doesn't know how to prove it. She said since her breakup,

1522
01:13:50,640 --> 01:13:53,479
Speaker 2: she was a total rag and was able to understand

1523
01:13:53,520 --> 01:13:56,760
Speaker 2: how toxic she was. She seek therapy and worked on

1524
01:13:56,800 --> 01:14:00,439
Speaker 2: herself for improvement. Did she involve any of her friends,

1525
01:14:00,560 --> 01:14:03,120
Speaker 2: She said she didn't expect it. In fact, her friends

1526
01:14:03,120 --> 01:14:05,880
Speaker 2: assured her that they will convince me to get back

1527
01:14:06,000 --> 01:14:08,679
Speaker 2: together with her, so she trusted them. She also said

1528
01:14:08,720 --> 01:14:11,240
Speaker 2: sorry for it, and she will make sure that her

1529
01:14:11,280 --> 01:14:14,720
Speaker 2: our friends doesn't bother her again. A current relationship and

1530
01:14:14,760 --> 01:14:18,639
Speaker 2: my fever. Suppose I was co I was seeing a coworker. Yes,

1531
01:14:18,800 --> 01:14:20,840
Speaker 2: we are dating now. Four days ago I got a

1532
01:14:20,920 --> 01:14:25,240
Speaker 2: proposal from her unexpectedly. It was a perfect moment for us.

1533
01:14:25,280 --> 01:14:27,120
Speaker 2: I hugged, kissed, and sup with her for the first

1534
01:14:27,160 --> 01:14:30,360
Speaker 2: time and made the official on my account and my

1535
01:14:30,520 --> 01:14:32,639
Speaker 2: friends are still congratulating me about it.

1536
01:14:32,880 --> 01:14:33,280
Speaker 1: That's it.

1537
01:14:33,680 --> 01:14:36,120
Speaker 2: A wild chapter of my life has finally closed. I'm

1538
01:14:36,120 --> 01:14:38,479
Speaker 2: set to put my step for my upcoming future with

1539
01:14:38,479 --> 01:14:41,400
Speaker 2: my girlfriend. Thanks for everyone who showed your support. It

1540
01:14:41,520 --> 01:14:43,880
Speaker 2: was really great and respected you all for it. Wishing

1541
01:14:43,960 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 2: a happy life to all of you. So he kind

1542
01:14:45,960 --> 01:14:47,479
Speaker 2: of was seeing somebody, wasn't really lying.

1543
01:14:48,120 --> 01:14:50,280
Speaker 3: He wasn't really lying, but it wasn't like a I'm

1544
01:14:50,400 --> 01:14:52,240
Speaker 3: I have a girlfriend. But yeah, yeah, that kind of

1545
01:14:52,240 --> 01:14:54,840
Speaker 3: worked out. It's like, okay, that chapter of my life

1546
01:14:54,920 --> 01:14:58,360
Speaker 3: is completely closed and then four days later like it

1547
01:14:58,520 --> 01:15:02,960
Speaker 3: just naturally worked. Yeah, like this is good coincidence. No,

1548
01:15:03,080 --> 01:15:04,639
Speaker 3: it just that's how it works, good karma.

1549
01:15:04,800 --> 01:15:07,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and hopefully that girl does that. A girl does

1550
01:15:08,000 --> 01:15:10,240
Speaker 2: change and becomes a better person.

1551
01:15:10,000 --> 01:15:11,800
Speaker 3: And I think she is good for I think this

1552
01:15:11,960 --> 01:15:13,800
Speaker 3: was a very like at the very beginning, this was

1553
01:15:13,800 --> 01:15:16,080
Speaker 3: like a very scary story and this could have gone

1554
01:15:16,160 --> 01:15:19,680
Speaker 3: really bad, but it went. She learned that she was

1555
01:15:19,800 --> 01:15:23,799
Speaker 3: very toxic, and she worked on herself and she closed

1556
01:15:23,840 --> 01:15:25,720
Speaker 3: that chapter of her life and she's willing to move on.

1557
01:15:25,800 --> 01:15:28,400
Speaker 3: I really hope she does get that tattoo removed just

1558
01:15:28,439 --> 01:15:28,920
Speaker 3: for her.

1559
01:15:28,840 --> 01:15:33,640
Speaker 2: Partner or hear me out sees another guy with the

1560
01:15:33,640 --> 01:15:34,240
Speaker 2: same nick.

1561
01:15:35,520 --> 01:15:39,479
Speaker 3: Or even that, but that might that's just for another day.

1562
01:15:39,439 --> 01:15:42,599
Speaker 2: Stay sello. It only do something positions and then one

1563
01:15:42,640 --> 01:15:44,160
Speaker 2: day it'd be like, hey, I got a spouse for you.

1564
01:15:44,280 --> 01:15:48,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, boom, surprise old tattoo.

1565
01:15:49,160 --> 01:15:51,080
Speaker 2: No, just be like I just got this for you.

1566
01:15:51,479 --> 01:15:53,639
Speaker 3: I got I need you know, I got this one

1567
01:15:53,720 --> 01:15:57,320
Speaker 3: day and I knew it was for you and good

1568
01:15:57,360 --> 01:15:59,639
Speaker 3: for OPI OPI wished her the best. Again. The way

1569
01:15:59,640 --> 01:16:02,479
Speaker 3: it was hands in the before they actually talked was

1570
01:16:02,600 --> 01:16:06,560
Speaker 3: very poor, but they handled it maturely, good enough of

1571
01:16:06,960 --> 01:16:10,040
Speaker 3: good adults like adults, just talk. I mean, I know

1572
01:16:10,160 --> 01:16:12,160
Speaker 3: she was acting very crazy, and I would be hesitant

1573
01:16:12,200 --> 01:16:14,600
Speaker 3: to if I was getting spam called from not just

1574
01:16:14,680 --> 01:16:21,360
Speaker 3: her but her friend. But forgiveness is earned, and I

1575
01:16:21,400 --> 01:16:23,080
Speaker 3: think that that works for best of both of you.