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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 2: I Hi, guys, how are you good?

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Speaker 3: How are you good?

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Speaker 4: Everybody looks happy? A good question, but like, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: You know what I love about this group? You just

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Speaker 3: never know because we all do well, and then the

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Speaker 3: minute anyone asked us the right question, it's just like

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Speaker 3: a sobbing.

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Speaker 5: I do feel like usually though, when I walk into

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Speaker 5: the room, I can feel.

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Speaker 4: Where we're at.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and y'all have already been going usually, and so

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Speaker 5: then I walk in, I'm.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna see where we're at today. How it's

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Speaker 4: feeling you guys?

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Speaker 2: I just got a random number. So you know when

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Speaker 2: you get a text message and you don't know who

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Speaker 2: it's from. Yeah, well now people are spamming that way,

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Speaker 2: well exactly, and I just got spammed.

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Speaker 3: But have you read to me?

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Speaker 2: I did reply? I did too nice, but I'm about

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Speaker 2: to block. They said, how have the past few days

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Speaker 2: been for you? And I'm thinking, oh.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, I did, because I'm like I'm thinking about it.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, well, how have the last I'm like, and

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Speaker 3: who would ask me that?

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Speaker 4: And did you go through like a whole list of well.

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Speaker 2: Well in my brain, yeah, I'm like, we're talking about

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Speaker 2: this and money. That's how that's been, you know. I

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Speaker 2: know I talked about being really tired, so maybe this

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Speaker 2: is nay have the last few days. But you know,

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Speaker 2: so I'm like, I just responded, just now, don't have

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Speaker 2: this number? Who is this? Hey it's Jessica. Is this

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Speaker 2: Olivia's new number? So now I'm just gonna block.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this is a So is that spam or do

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Speaker 5: you think it's really a wrong number?

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Speaker 3: I think it could be a little bit of both.

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Speaker 3: And now I don't know, and I hate it because

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Speaker 3: I'm too nice and I want everyone to have a

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Speaker 3: great life. And then I'm like, why is God?

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Speaker 6: Brother?

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Speaker 2: But now I'm just a lot about the money stuff.

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Speaker 2: So I I'll screenshot it and send it to Chris

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Speaker 2: the businessman and say, hey, this just came through.

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Speaker 3: It said I didn't. He's like, not spam.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, what's a step about this is

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Speaker 2: that I know for a fact a grandparent has paid

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Speaker 2: something because because they don't know, they think they got

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Speaker 2: a bill.

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Speaker 3: An outstanding balance. That's hard for them.

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Speaker 4: Well in the way they do it, it's it's very convincing.

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Speaker 5: I mean I have gotten it for like tickets told

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Speaker 5: I'm like, well, I get those in the mail all

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Speaker 5: the time, Like who knows when I ran a toll

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Speaker 5: or got a thing.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, sure, you can't cat just blaring through things.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I've got tickets from California years later for

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Speaker 5: parking and they were those were legit, so I believe it.

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Speaker 5: If I get it, I'm like, oh, I better pay that.

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Speaker 3: I know. It's wild, what a wild world we're living in,

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Speaker 3: And I'm like thinking of it like a magic eight ball.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't know, what do you see in

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Speaker 3: my future? Oh? At a time? What you guys got updates?

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Speaker 3: Are white about it? Let's chat about it.

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Speaker 4: Updates?

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Speaker 3: Okay, You're like, wait, which one? Well I feel good

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Speaker 3: about help?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Good? Yeah, I feel good. I feel better. It's a

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Speaker 3: do you have help kind of okay. Also, I know

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Speaker 3: we talk about this a lot, so I don't want

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Speaker 3: to like dwell here. I really don't. But like when

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Speaker 3: I tell you, I am absolutely batshit crazy before my

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Speaker 3: period in the start of it, I Janna called me yesterday,

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Speaker 3: missed the call, called her back. I texted her this

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Speaker 3: isn't The spiral isn't about her. But I texted her

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Speaker 3: to say, if you need me, you can call me.

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Speaker 3: But it comes with a warning. I am out of

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Speaker 3: control emotional. I could not get it together yesterday. I

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Speaker 3: wasn't crying, but the private spirals were so wild. Took

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Speaker 3: my magnesium. Went to bed last night. I mean, am

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Speaker 3: I bipolar? It is? Today? I feel so much better.

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Speaker 4: But are you like crying? Like I like rage? Like

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Speaker 4: I get mad, I get angry.

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Speaker 1: I yell at everybody, and it's like everybody knows, they

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Speaker 1: just make you a cardtoon'ture in your big truck, running lights,

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Speaker 1: getting to kids meaning not no.

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Speaker 4: Not on the road necessarily. I've never been a road rage.

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Speaker 3: And this is pre period, pre period. Yes, I have

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Speaker 3: become more. I'm just like, Yes, I definitely feel that.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm easily annoyed, frustrated, and I feel

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Speaker 2: like I'm clenching my fist.

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Speaker 3: That's my pre period. Now I do feel the same,

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Speaker 3: but now the raging more rageing than emotional. Same, Okay,

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Speaker 3: so I feel ragie. I can always tell because I

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Speaker 3: will get on this episode of raging bitches. Well, I

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Speaker 3: just I can there's a litmus test, right, like very

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Speaker 3: rarely does this is going to sound horrible. I don't

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Speaker 3: even want to say it. On if the baby annoys me,

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Speaker 3: then I know I'm really I'm really in Like I'm

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Speaker 3: just like, okay, what do you need? You know, Like

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Speaker 3: that's not me. I'm very very patient with the children,

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Speaker 3: less patient with the spouse. So it's the first two

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Speaker 3: days now of the period that I'm like, I I

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Speaker 3: mentally go like, okay, I am flushing the system of

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Speaker 3: the feelings and the hormones all as well. Thank god

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Speaker 3: it's here, you know. But the last two days I've

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Speaker 3: just been really like kind of spirally and sad and

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Speaker 3: everything feels very like bottom's going to fall out, which

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Speaker 3: is my default anyways. Anyways, so today I feel good

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Speaker 3: and that's my update. And I do have help when

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Speaker 3: I need it now, which I think is going to

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Speaker 3: be an adjustment for me because I'm not as flexible

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Speaker 3: like last week I wasn't as flexible as I wanted

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Speaker 3: to be. But also it is going to be really

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Speaker 3: good for my family. Is this someone you've used before

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Speaker 3: or someone Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Both?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I have two different people. Oh good, Yeah, A

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Speaker 3: Tuesday and a Thursday. Well, while you're gaining, I'm losing.

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Speaker 3: Wait what.

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Speaker 4: Can we just be I cannot keep it up with you'all?

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Speaker 3: What? No, not officially, but I got the text can

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Speaker 3: we talk? And I said not now, like you know,

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Speaker 3: and that my brain, I was just like, no, the

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Speaker 3: can we talk? Okay? Okay, guys, can we can? We

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Speaker 3: just promise that we just never say that to each

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Speaker 3: other because nothing nothing. I can't stand that that text

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Speaker 3: actually makes me real quick. Can we talk means nothing good? So, so, no,

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Speaker 3: we can't talk. I was just about to.

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Speaker 2: Get on a call for our Amazon stuff and I said, yeah,

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Speaker 2: after this call, absolutely, And we love who we have.

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Speaker 2: That helps with Roman and so. But the problem is is,

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Speaker 2: and I've talked about the sun here, it's really hard

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Speaker 2: for someone to have part time because she's guaranteed part

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Speaker 2: time because I don't need full time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's tough.

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Speaker 2: And you know, she was so sweet about how she communicated.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I don't want to leave. She's like, but

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Speaker 2: I need a guaranteed forty hours. And I'm like, huh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I get it. I totally get it.

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Speaker 3: Can we help each other? Well, that's why I called

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Speaker 3: you yesterday. Yes, that was my call. Okay, let's not

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Speaker 3: anybody that's listening that's new to my little empire. I'd

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Speaker 3: love to know.

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Speaker 2: Because what I and so basically, and so I told Alan,

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Speaker 2: I said bad news.

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Speaker 3: I go, I got the text. Can we talk? And

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Speaker 3: He's like, say good And I was like, I know,

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Speaker 3: I know, I said.

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Speaker 2: And this is what's so hard is because in our

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Speaker 2: world we need the flexibility of having someone because I'm

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Speaker 2: on hold for something that could go in three weeks

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Speaker 2: in Atlanta, you know, and where we'll need then forty hours.

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Speaker 3: But I don't need it. This is our.

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Speaker 2: Problem now, and especially right now where I'm already you know,

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Speaker 2: I don't have a lot of work at hardly at all,

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Speaker 2: and it's the holiday season, so it's my slowest time.

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Speaker 2: And so I'm like, can you just give me a

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Speaker 2: minute to try to wrap around where I can maybe

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Speaker 2: find hours for you? Right, So I'm thinking, okay, I'm

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Speaker 2: going it, but like that's finding I'm really bad at math.

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Speaker 3: Fifteen hours you were doing thirty, we're doing twenty five. Okay,

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Speaker 3: So yes, we've got to talk about this.

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Speaker 2: So I'm like, how do I find fifteen hours for

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Speaker 2: So I'm thinking I'm starting to write a lesson like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: well maybe she can help me with some content stuff that.

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Speaker 3: But if you think about.

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Speaker 2: The extra, it's an extra, a big amount of money

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Speaker 2: to pay. And I said to Alan, I said, I

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Speaker 2: just can't in my brain. And I know we've had

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Speaker 2: people come on the podcast and be like, have someone

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Speaker 2: pay pay to fold your laund group.

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Speaker 2: I just I'm like, it'll kill me, Like I can't

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Speaker 2: pay someone to do that. And I'm trying to find

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Speaker 2: something because I love her and I don't want to

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Speaker 2: lose her, right, But I'm like, so we basically said

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Speaker 2: we could guarantee you five more, and that's me pulling treads,

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Speaker 2: you know, of maybe having a date night, you know,

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Speaker 2: one night or something and not using our sitter that

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Speaker 2: picking up because again, when he goes to school, it's

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Speaker 2: by two fifteen to thirty, so I have her pick

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Speaker 2: up those days I maybe have a pick up, but

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Speaker 2: also that then, you know, so it's just something that

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Speaker 3: Oh you know, and I like, yeah, so a million

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Speaker 3: I kind of think we could do something here. That's

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Speaker 3: why I called you.

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Speaker 2: And then and then obviously I didn't see your call back.

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Speaker 2: So it's just trying to figure that out. But my

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Speaker 2: fear is, I said, listen, we have this conversation, and

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm the person where I you know, of course

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Speaker 2: I had the initial conversation with her, but then when

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Speaker 2: it comes to the bartering, Okay, we can give you this,

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Speaker 2: and then if you want to get a job, we

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Speaker 2: can always guarantee you Tuesday off and you know, but

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Speaker 2: if we have a movie that comes up, can we

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Speaker 2: there be flexible then you know. And so Alan has

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Speaker 2: done those conversations and like, at my point, I want

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Speaker 2: to move to a different country, like that's that's where

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Speaker 2: it's just like I don't like that that kind of conversation.

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Speaker 2: But what I already feel and I sense is the

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Speaker 2: I'm going to have to get back on and try

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Speaker 2: to find someone. I'm not going to let it happen,

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Speaker 2: and we need to help because I think at the

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Speaker 2: end of the day, what she also understands is that

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Speaker 2: when people, when they want something different, they're going to

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Speaker 2: probably already be looking for a full time position.

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Speaker 3: That makes sense.

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Speaker 4: Oh, Like she's not gonna be able to just fill

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Speaker 3: With one day. Like, that's gonna be hard.

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Speaker 3: Like there's one who's just like medicine to the soul

436
00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:23,440
Speaker 3: and she's lovely and her words are magic and she

437
00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:26,040
Speaker 3: and I were in this group before and she's great

438
00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:27,840
Speaker 3: and I'm not even getting to hang out with her.

439
00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:33,080
Speaker 3: But this, this latest one is really something. And there's

440
00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:37,040
Speaker 3: a connection there where her husband is now wanting to

441
00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:39,639
Speaker 3: be a songwriter. Wow, that was so And I like,

442
00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:42,399
Speaker 3: there's just I want to be objective. I want to

443
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,920
Speaker 3: be like and everyone deserves that. What if he's incredible

444
00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:47,800
Speaker 3: and what if he is the next you know, like.

445
00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:50,840
Speaker 5: And you can't you can't blame them for trying at

446
00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:53,199
Speaker 5: the same time, like it is, but it doesn't you

447
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:54,960
Speaker 5: know and stuff like that, like I can, but.

448
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,560
Speaker 3: We're not leading with a ponded plant, right, And then

449
00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:01,680
Speaker 3: it's like oh and right, so funny enough, and I'm

450
00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,680
Speaker 3: like that doesn't feel funny. Yeah, anyways, I feel like

451
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,639
Speaker 3: I've been forced friends with people and all of a sudden,

452
00:21:06,760 --> 00:21:11,040
Speaker 3: and I feel like that's also love. I love you.

453
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 2: You're kind of allowing that into with giving what you

454
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 2: get back to her.

455
00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:15,480
Speaker 6: I know.

456
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,479
Speaker 3: I just wanted her to feel cozy when she moved.

457
00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:20,560
Speaker 2: So I was like, and you always want you got it,

458
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 2: you got maybe maybe channel a different cozy Catherine or

459
00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 2: Janet cozy.

460
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,120
Speaker 4: I you might need a happy medium. So much showing

461
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 4: up at my house, I'm not going to be that nice.

462
00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:29,720
Speaker 3: I hate to say it.

463
00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:31,639
Speaker 4: No, I mean I'll be nice, but I'm going to

464
00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 4: be like, okay, well, it's it's weird.

465
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:37,320
Speaker 3: It's the weird like assessing my situation and being so

466
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,320
Speaker 3: overly empathetic, but like not knowing at all the situation.

467
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 3: That's what was so strange. It's not like someone going,

468
00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 3: I know, we just met and this is so crazy,

469
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:46,400
Speaker 3: but I thought this could be really helpful. I brought

470
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,479
Speaker 3: to your family. Yeah, that's still a little like whoa, okay,

471
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 3: but we're in the South. It goes, I just this

472
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 3: is very like, I have no idea where this is

473
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 3: coming from. And then I'm yeah, okay.

474
00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:59,120
Speaker 4: That is a forced friendship.

475
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:03,040
Speaker 5: I have not had that, but I think that's probably

476
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:06,159
Speaker 5: because I don't necessarily when people first meet me, I

477
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 5: don't give off a cozy vibe at all, and people

478
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 5: think i'm.

479
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:10,879
Speaker 4: A bit, so they do.

480
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,120
Speaker 5: I had a friend of mine lately just tell me that,

481
00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:15,640
Speaker 5: who oh Katie, and she's like, I love you.

482
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 3: But the first time I met you, and I was like,

483
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 3: I don't even remember that. Yeah. She's like, it's not

484
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 3: that she was like, she goes, I'm just kidding.

485
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 5: You weren't a bit. She's like, you're just so closed

486
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 5: off at first. I was like, I know, I'm a

487
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:27,439
Speaker 5: I know, oh I am at first, I can't do

488
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:30,560
Speaker 5: small talk. You don't so I think I like someone new.

489
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 5: It gives me such anxiety. But if someone is like

490
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 5: cozy like you comes up with the conversation, I'm usually okay.

491
00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,119
Speaker 5: But if the other person is also a little like

492
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,520
Speaker 5: hard with small talk, I shut down.

493
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 3: I can't. I don't want to do it. I don't

494
00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:44,360
Speaker 3: want to talk.

495
00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 5: I just I don't mean to be that way, but

496
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:48,719
Speaker 5: I am definitely that way at first. So I'm not

497
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 5: having that kind of situation more likely because someone didn't

498
00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 5: feel cozy with me to force themselves on me.

499
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 3: I am getting better, and neighbor the other day was like, yeah,

500
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 3: just give me your number and I'll text you about that,

501
00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh, it's okay, I'll just sign

502
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:01,560
Speaker 3: on Facebook page because I just really was like, I

503
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,160
Speaker 3: don't I'm gonna So maybe this is a me thing

504
00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 3: because I at the time was I don't feel to like.

505
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 4: I think it's a mix. That's what your favorite color is.

506
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,680
Speaker 5: And that also would not be my personality to show

507
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,960
Speaker 5: up and bring a potted plant and keep texting and

508
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 5: keep trying and keep asking. So I think it takes

509
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 5: a certain personality to be able to do that, and

510
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 5: a certain personality like yours that welcomes that.

511
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, we got a perfect storm.

512
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:39,840
Speaker 6: That's what we have, a perfect ship storm.

513
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,440
Speaker 2: So there's a headline going around right now that I'm

514
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 2: actually afraid to try, all right, because I'm afraid of

515
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,919
Speaker 2: what the reaction might be, and I am excited. So

516
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 2: because I'm a crazy bird lady. So have you done

517
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:54,240
Speaker 2: the bird test on your husband?

518
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 3: I haven't.

519
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:57,520
Speaker 2: I will say I actually don't think Alan would fail

520
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 2: because there have been times. There's there was another past

521
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 2: that a couple therapists told me this, I mean years ago,

522
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 2: that when you mentioned something to your partner like hey,

523
00:24:07,080 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 2: I would really love a lake house. And if the

524
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: person's like, oh yeah, like and wants to dream with you,

525
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,680
Speaker 2: then they're invested in you. There, they're interested, they love you.

526
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 2: If they're like, oh that's nice, then that shows detachment

527
00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 2: and then they don't really care.

528
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:23,440
Speaker 3: Or if they go right to.

529
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:25,760
Speaker 2: Them, it's like yeah, I wanna I want to a

530
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,480
Speaker 2: nice car or something, or it's all in how the

531
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 2: person responds to something that you want, that you desire.

532
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,600
Speaker 2: I'm doing this today, well, so I'm gonna so same.

533
00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it today, but I'm doing the lake

534
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 2: house first lake house. So and that one like Alan

535
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 2: and I both would love a lakehouse. And we actually

536
00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:45,200
Speaker 2: just talked about that their night in our bath night.

537
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,680
Speaker 3: You were in the bath together. I had to give

538
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:54,679
Speaker 3: that one to Catherine because take a bath with me.

539
00:24:57,160 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 3: Preston will not. He's like sitting in our own filth, like,

540
00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:04,320
Speaker 3: don't think of it that way. Take a shower first,

541
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 3: you want to do it. And when he gets in there,

542
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 3: he looks so uncomfortable.

543
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 2: It's just like I was like, I actually see present,

544
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 2: Why why these picturing?

545
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, so birdbath continue? But I actually think, I mean,

546
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 3: I don't know, we'll see.

547
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,160
Speaker 2: I think it depends to where the guy is at,

548
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,119
Speaker 2: Like if I go into his office, yes, because right

549
00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 2: now he's in his office right he's got he is,

550
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 2: he just signed on another client, and he's got so

551
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 2: many clients. It's just like he is hours in his

552
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:35,919
Speaker 2: day to analyze these these players. And so if I

553
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 2: go into his office right now and be like, yeah,

554
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 2: so I saw a bird this morning, he'd be like, okay, cool,

555
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 2: you should do it.

556
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 3: Can we watch for the people?

557
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 2: Basically the test is you go in and you say

558
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 2: I saw a bird this morning, and what they're supposed

559
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 2: to do is then respond with an engaging like oh really,

560
00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 2: like what kind of bird? And that's that's basically the test.

561
00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:03,040
Speaker 2: And so Kelly Ripa did this with Mark and right

562
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 2: when he said, oh you did what kind of bird,

563
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 2: she like screamed.

564
00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 3: Out you love me?

565
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,679
Speaker 2: But I do think it is a fun little test,

566
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 2: but it's so basically if if if you mentioned to

567
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 2: your partner that you saw a bird and they ask

568
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 2: you a simple follow up question, that means that they're

569
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 2: interested in you, and they are intensely listening to They

570
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 2: love you, so can we. So here's what I think

571
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 2: we should do is we should use this as a

572
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:29,479
Speaker 2: clip and then I'm gonna video. I'm in a video too, Alan,

573
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 2: and you video, and you all video to husbands, and

574
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 2: then we'll turn this into okay, clip hilarious.

575
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:35,439
Speaker 3: I wonder I.

576
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 5: Would totally fail if anyone said to me I saw

577
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 5: a bird today. I don't know that I would ever

578
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 5: respond what kind of bird?

579
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,560
Speaker 2: I probably respond because it's such a random thing. I'd

580
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 2: probably say, like.

581
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:47,879
Speaker 3: What's up?

582
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:51,119
Speaker 4: What is going on with you?

583
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 3: Tell me more?

584
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 5: I just would I don't think anyone. I don't think

585
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 5: i'd respond what kind of bird?

586
00:26:56,480 --> 00:27:00,280
Speaker 2: I cannot wait to see what it depends for him

587
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 2: to Turkey.

588
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 4: It depends, I don't know. I lost my mind.

589
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:09,840
Speaker 3: Okay, you have to film though, we have to film me.

590
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 2: Honestly, it's just one of those where where it's just

591
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 2: kind of like, yeah, you don't actually film mine because

592
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 2: she can be like, pretend to be on your phone.

593
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,639
Speaker 2: So I saw a bird this morning, and just so

594
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 2: that you can even just hear your face is just yeah,

595
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 2: just like close and you can be filming yourself.

596
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, okay, okay, Oh, I'm excited.

597
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 2: Women doesn't want to invite partners mom on couple's vacation

598
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:35,480
Speaker 2: despite her parenting, despite her parents joining them. So a

599
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 2: woman recently shared a dilemma that she's facing with a partner.

600
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:39,439
Speaker 2: In the post, she explained how she and her partner

601
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 2: had planned a trip to Japan with her parents. She

602
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 2: then found out her partner's mom also wanted to come,

603
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,239
Speaker 2: but she doesn't want the woman to join them. Am

604
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 2: I being unreasonable here for wanting the trip to just

605
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 2: be the four of us? If so, how do I

606
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:54,640
Speaker 2: tell this partner touch to my partner in a way

607
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 2: that's not upsetting. My parents have been looking forward to

608
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 2: this for a couple of months. My dad is eighty

609
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: four and this will probably be his last chance to

610
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 2: travel with us. She went on to explain how the

611
00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 2: problem is that her parents don't want to travel as

612
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 2: a part of a larger group, especially with someone they

613
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,200
Speaker 2: don't know very well, on top of that, she said

614
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:12,159
Speaker 2: her parents' mom can be a lot to handle. Partner's

615
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 2: mom sorry, partner's mom can be allowed to handle. She's

616
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: lovely but has a huge personality. We as a couple

617
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 2: have always gone to Puntakana with his parents recently. Do

618
00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 2: you think she's right to want to go without his

619
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 2: mom when it's her family trip with her parents? I do,

620
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 2: really mm hmm huh. I have a devil's advocate to that.

621
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 4: I can see both sides.

622
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 5: I mean, I can understand wanting to go just as

623
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 5: the family, but then also how can you blame her

624
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 5: for wanting to go also and the not wanting to

625
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 5: go with the group?

626
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 3: It is only one more person. It changes the dynamic

627
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:53,719
Speaker 3: of the group. And this is the last trip potentially

628
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 3: with dad. He's eighty four. That matters to me, Like,

629
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 3: this is a really.

630
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 2: This is so his his mom is wanting to come.

631
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 2: This is like with her dad, right.

632
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 3: I know, and her dad's eighty four and this is

633
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 3: his last trip, right, And his mom wants to come.

634
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 3: The in law wants to come, The in laws, yes,

635
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 3: wants to No in laws.

636
00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,720
Speaker 2: Okay, so you're she's saying no, no, you're saying no, okay,

637
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 2: same page, Okay, got it.

638
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 6: Yeah.

639
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 3: I was like, wow, yeah, I'm really I feel the same. Yeah,

640
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 3: I see both sides. This is sacred, and I I

641
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:34,000
Speaker 3: think the inclusivity sometimes takes away from the really special connections.

642
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 3: And I witness this a lot with some of our

643
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 3: family members are like, come one, come all, and I'm like,

644
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 3: that's I love that attitude. And then also there's just

645
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 3: a dilution and a like that. It's a lot for me.

646
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 2: I think it becomes again, I am the big very inclusive.

647
00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,240
Speaker 2: I'm very much like everybody come up. I mean I

648
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 2: did that with my access parents. When the lake, I

649
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 2: mean I invite everybody, both sides, all kids, every like,

650
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 2: literally everybody.

651
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 3: Come to the lake. That is a very inclusive place.

652
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 2: But if there was a trip that we had just

653
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 2: gone on with his parents and I wanted to do

654
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Speaker 2: something with my I it becomes so much of why

655
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Speaker 2: does I get wanting to include everyone? I'm the first

656
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:14,280
Speaker 2: person to want to include everybody?

657
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Speaker 3: And do we always have.

658
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Speaker 2: To include everybody because there should be separate things where

659
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Speaker 2: it's just maybe I just want time with my mom

660
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Speaker 2: and dad.

661
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Speaker 3: Yep. Agree, you not have to have.

662
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Speaker 2: Like like, we love we love your mom, and like

663
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Speaker 2: if it's a big personality too, that that's where I

664
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Speaker 2: would do.

665
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

666
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Speaker 2: Like, but also it becomes as someone who is very

667
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Speaker 2: inclusive of having everybody. When I then feel like I

668
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Speaker 2: have to always do that, I don't then want to.

669
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Speaker 2: I draw back from it. I'm like, no, we don't

670
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Speaker 2: have to have a family vacation all the time with everybody. Correct,

671
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Speaker 2: Why can't it just be our family? Yeah, it's exhausting,

672
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 2: It is exhausting, and it just.

673
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Speaker 5: So you did say, and I don't know if this

674
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Speaker 5: person said in there that they had you like if

675
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 5: you did a trip with his side of the family.

676
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Speaker 3: Sure, they just think that's important one hundred.

677
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Speaker 4: Percent to me.

678
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Speaker 5: Keep it separate, but also do that you know, there's

679
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Speaker 5: no rate and reason for her to want to come

680
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 5: on that trip if she's having her own trip.

681
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Speaker 4: I always keep those things separate.

682
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 3: We don't do things together. Really. Yeah, agreed.

683
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Speaker 2: Well, you touched on family dynamics during the holidays with

684
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Speaker 2: doctor Tracy. Currently, my boyfriend and I go separate ways

685
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,959
Speaker 2: for the holidays, him to his family and me to mine.

686
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 2: We have been dating for two years and both of

687
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 2: our families are disjointed. When do you think it will

688
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,200
Speaker 2: be okay to start our own traditions or start splitting

689
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 2: the holidays with families so we can be together.

690
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 3: As soon as you want.

691
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Speaker 5: I say, do it. The sooner the better if you're serious.

692
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Speaker 5: I mean, I know said boyfriend girlfriend, But I think

693
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Speaker 5: if you're serious, go ahead and set those boundaries, figure

694
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Speaker 5: out when you're going to see them, figure out when

695
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 5: you're going, and do it together. Who wants to spend

696
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 5: the holidays without their person? Their person?

697
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I need little I need a little teamwork.

698
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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I think that there's ways to make

699
00:31:58,040 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 5: everybody happy, even.

700
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Speaker 3: If it's just cozy morning alone and then you both

701
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 3: go to one and then you both go to the next.

702
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 2: If you're going if this is your forever person, you

703
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 2: should probably start yes, doing that now to see what

704
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: it's going to look like.

705
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, and their expectations if you keep doing separate, they're

706
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 5: going to get more mad later when you do start

707
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 5: doing it mm hmm, when you start separating it out.

708
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and right to us. Once you've gone through one

709
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 3: holiday season, we're interested to know what the other family

710
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 3: is like.

711
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Speaker 2: Oh guys, well, lots to talk off air, lots and

712
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 2: lots to figure out.

713
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Speaker 3: And also if you are listening and you've been forced

714
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 3: into a friendship to me, hey we could be friends. Okay,

715
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:41,880
Speaker 3: so you're inviting more friends. I'm kidding. I do love them.

716
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Speaker 3: They know it.

717
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Speaker 2: You know I will say this so too. It is

718
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 2: about convenience at times too, though.

719
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Speaker 3: Yeah for sure. Situational location, yes, yeah, not trying to

720
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Speaker 3: be mean about things.

721
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Speaker 4: Anyways, did you feel a little remorse?

722
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Speaker 3: I did.

723
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Speaker 2: Oh, I have a pin for next week.

724
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Speaker 3: Can you give us a keyword? Chat? G oh, I

725
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,040
Speaker 3: knew where it was going. Is it P or B?

726
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Speaker 3: That's what I want to peek like, is it chat

727
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Speaker 3: G P T p T That is what's pinned for

728
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Speaker 3: next week? Gonna get good bye, bye bye,