WEBVTT - Child Proofing 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.160 This is Suckers. 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:06.000 I'm Kin Bell, I'm Dean Bell, and I'm Jared han An. 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:10.880 iHeartRadio podcast. What is going on? Everybody? Welcome to an 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:14.840 all new episode of Suckers. Unfortunately, if you're tuning in 0:00:14.920 --> 0:00:18.799 to hear the most angelic voice that exists on this planet, 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.040 you're not gonna hear it because Kaitlin is not here 0:00:21.040 --> 0:00:24.040 with us today. But you have two other cute, little 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:28.480 cherubic voices, Jared and myself. How did you describe cute 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:31.080 little cherubic? I don't know. I was thinking, like, angelic 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:35.000 cherubs are like the little fat babies from like Roman 0:00:35.040 --> 0:00:37.840 Gothic paintings back in the you know, a long time ago. 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:41.800 I very you're very smart. Nope, nope, I guarantee you 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:43.520 I'm misusing it. I don't even think it's a word. 0:00:43.560 --> 0:00:46.720 I don't even think they probably could talk. So in fact, 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:48.880 I'm the exact opposite of that. I'm just a bullshit. 0:00:48.960 --> 0:00:50.920 The one that would correct us is not here today. 0:00:51.080 --> 0:00:53.600 She usually corrects us. Put everything's in you know, she 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:56.440 puts everything in context for us. She's really the backbone 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:57.400 of this podcast at this point. 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.840 She truly is. She She's funny, because she doesn't. She'll 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:03.000 correct us without knowing the answer, and so it's like, well, 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:03.959 are you sure about that? 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:07.800 You know what I mean if it's coming from Kalen, though, 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:09.000 I just assume it's correct. 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:12.320 How are you, Jared? I'm good ready, it's a guy's podcast. 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:13.920 You know what that means. Oh, we're talking about a 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:15.119 lot of poop stuff today. 0:01:16.000 --> 0:01:18.080 Obviously I also cracked open and can I wanted to 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:22.120 make it sound like a beer, but it's. 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:23.240 A nice that's actually funny. I was gonna maybe drink 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:24.959 a beer on this podcast, and then I was like, 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:27.320 it's ten am. That's insane. 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:29.160 So I just not too And plus you're you have 0:01:29.200 --> 0:01:30.680 a tea time. You don't want to get too drunk. 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:32.039 Do you drink on the golf course? 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.560 Like half the time I do, not a lot. I'll 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:38.240 have like two or three beers, four beers, maybe like 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:38.959 five beers. 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:41.120 Do you think it affects your game? Like sometimes I 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:42.959 get nervous of having a drink because I'm like, I'm 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:45.680 already not good and I don't want to be in 0:01:45.760 --> 0:01:49.200 nimborate and neighbor inebriated to the point where like it's 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:52.240 affecting my shot. Even if it's only one drink. Like, mentally, 0:01:52.280 --> 0:01:53.640 I just think it messes with me. 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:55.280 I think for me personally, it makes me better, It 0:01:55.280 --> 0:01:57.960 makes me loose, makes me a little less inhibited. I 0:01:57.960 --> 0:01:59.800 can just swing free and go for it. But then 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:01.760 there is like a sweet spot between like two and 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.120 four beers is the sweet spot. And then if you 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:06.760 get like drunk, then you get well for me at least, 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:09.280 then I get really bad and bad ye have to 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.440 kind of avoid that. But like what a couple drinks, 0:02:11.440 --> 0:02:14.200 I think takes the edge off, which is nice. But yeah, 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:17.120 I do have a tea time today. I I you know, 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.360 Calen has I think what Caylen really does for this 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:24.120 podcast really well if she puts into perspective how boring 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:28.280 our conversations are when she's not here. We're talking about 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:30.840 football or Tom Cruise or golf, and at the end 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:33.440 of the day, like I don't really think people care 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:35.880 enough about it to listen to us talk about it. 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:40.120 But I think it's interesting when we relate our passions 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:45.280 back to our relationships, you know, Like so next week, Brady, 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:47.960 obviously we're gonna talk about Brady for a second. Two 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:50.520 guys on a podcast, So Brady is the Patriots are 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:54.040 inducting Tom Brady into the Patriots Hall of Fame. It's 0:02:54.040 --> 0:02:56.400 supposed to be about five years afterwards or something like that. 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:59.040 They're obviously just nixing that and inducting him next week 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:02.799 on June twelfth, of course twelve. So I'm going, oh, 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:06.040 that's great. And then Ashley's gonna come with me, and 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:08.280 so we're going to be there. So I think that 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:10.160 is interesting when we talk about like the things that 0:03:10.160 --> 0:03:11.640 we love so much and we relate it back to 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.919 our relationships. Because because of my love for Brady, she 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.960 has become in love with Tom Brady as well. So 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:21.600 I'm assuming it's similar with you. I guess the thing 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:22.880 you're in love with most is golf. 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:26.040 Though he hates golf. She hates golf, and I can't 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:26.880 blame her for that. 0:03:26.840 --> 0:03:29.720 But she's an athlete. She plays tennis. I'm surprised she hasn't, like, 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:31.040 really tried to get good at golf. 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:34.360 She she's got a real affinity for getting good at 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:35.920 the things that she cares about, and if she doesn't 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:37.520 care about it, she doesn't care to good at it, 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:39.680 which is kind of standard for most people. I feel like, 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:42.360 but she's got a quick learning curve, so she can 0:03:42.440 --> 0:03:45.920 learn something quickly. But golf. The thing that she doesn't 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:48.200 like about golf is just that it takes a lot 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:51.960 of time. Like, for instance, I'm like, you work out 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:54.200 every single day and I don't golf every single day, 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:56.920 And she's like, yeah, well, my workouts are an hour 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:58.560 to an hour and a half and golf is four 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:00.880 hours to five or six hours, depending on how it goes, 0:04:00.920 --> 0:04:03.440 And so she just gets a little frustrated with the 0:04:03.480 --> 0:04:04.200 timing of it all. 0:04:04.240 --> 0:04:07.560 I guess, And there's no way you'd play nine holes, 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:11.320 oh no, nod, disgusting it. So you'd past that point 0:04:11.360 --> 0:04:14.280 because nine holes. See, I think nine holes to me 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.280 is eighteen to you, So you're a nine hole fan, 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.440 not a fan. I'd rather play eighteen, but I'm fine 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:23.320 playing nine as well. It's too quick, I would agree, 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:26.159 But if I was going, if I was, if I 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:28.360 were you and I was trying to get Kaylin into golf, 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:30.599 I would suck it up and start playing nine holes, 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.560 because then she's done in an hour and forty five 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:35.719 two hours. Yeah, and it's like she almost wants to 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:39.280 play more. You're leaving her wanting more dude eighteen for her, 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:41.400 she's she's gonna. 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.479 Leave by hole twelve and never come back. We went 0:04:43.560 --> 0:04:44.800 golfing a couple of weeks ago. I think we talked 0:04:44.839 --> 0:04:46.640 about it in the podcast, but by like the third hole, 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:48.240 she was like, so we're almost done, right, Like, no, 0:04:48.320 --> 0:04:50.000 there's still and we were only playing nine. I was like, 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:51.760 there's six more holes. It's about it's going to be 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:53.920 like a nine hour and a half. I think with 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:56.240 with your kid, with Dawson, if you want to get 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:57.920 him into golf, or if you're interested in getting him 0:04:57.920 --> 0:04:59.640 in a golf that's definitely the right. If I want 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:01.760 to get yeah, right, as you should. That's the approach 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:04.279 I think you should say, is like play even like 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:06.920 two holes or three holes and then yeah, and then leave. 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.279 And then once he starts appreciating a little bit more, 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:10.600 then I'll be like, oh my gosh, I can't wait 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:12.400 to go back and play more holes next time kind 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:12.680 of thing. 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:15.640 Yeah, he's getting to the point now. It's this morning 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:18.240 we were playing catch. I bought him a little baseball 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:21.040 glove with a foam ball, so he loves throwing that. 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:22.800 He loves trying to put the glove on. He still 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:24.600 doesn't really get the concept of it because he keeps 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:26.920 he throws with his right, but then he tries to 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:28.640 put the glove on the right hand as well, and 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:31.000 I'm like, bro, no, I know it's weird, but you 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:33.320 catch with your left and you throw with your right. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:36.080 So he's getting more of that concept. Like he sees 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:37.960 me with the glove on, so he wants the glove 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:41.839 on and that's awesome. So now it's I'm becoming more 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.919 interactive with him. I guess that's why I dude, it 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.080 sounds terrible. I sound like the worst father in the 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:48.720 world with what I'm about to say it. But I 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.640 guess that's why I'm dreading the second a little bit 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:52.320 because I'm like, oh, this case is going to be 0:05:52.360 --> 0:05:55.600 a blob for the next three years before I can 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:59.719 start enjoying his company, which of course is not the case. 0:05:59.839 --> 0:06:02.440 I you know, cuddles are great and little bit I 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:05.440 was looking at pictures of Dawson from a year and 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:07.240 year and a half ago and you're like, oh, like, 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:10.960 I do forget how cute they are. And then especially 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:13.200 the first couple of months. Dude, that baby probably like 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:17.560 the first five or six months, that thing like two things. 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:18.599 One, I'm all over the place. 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:21.039 Secondly, we still don't have a name, which is why 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:25.240 I keep legitimately when I keep calling him it or 0:06:25.320 --> 0:06:28.000 just referring to him as him. No idea what the 0:06:28.080 --> 0:06:31.240 name is going to be? Swear still no idea. 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:33.440 And Dawson, you had the name pre planned, right. 0:06:33.720 --> 0:06:36.599 So Dawson. Ashley has always wanted to name her first 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:38.520 kid Dawson. I said, I liked it for a boy, 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:41.160 and so when we found out he was a boy, 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:44.000 it was Dawson. Done deal this one. We have no plan. 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.280 There was there was a name. I don't even want 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:48.080 to say it, just in case it is the name. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:51.760 But there was a name that Ashley, her entire family 0:06:51.880 --> 0:06:56.200 was down with. It's a family name. And then I 0:06:56.279 --> 0:07:00.000 wasn't so keen on it. And then recently I've changed 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:03.280 my tune because I don't have a name that I'm 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:05.120 in love with. So I'm like, I will love our 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.839 son no matter what his name is, and I like 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:10.600 the name enough, where of course you know we should 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.480 instead of compromising on a name that we're both okay with, 0:07:13.560 --> 0:07:17.320 I'd rather have her love the name and me like it, 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:19.720 rather than both of us compromising on a name that 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:22.120 we're both like, yeah, this is good enough. So then 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.000 I was like, cool, I'm down with this name. Let's 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:27.640 let's move forward with it. And then after I did that, 0:07:28.480 --> 0:07:32.320 Ashley started doing a one eighty and she was like, well, 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:35.200 now I'm not so sure if I'm sold on that name, 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:40.360 and I'm like, okay, but you were, and now you're not, 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:43.720 And so I don't know what the name is going 0:07:43.800 --> 0:07:45.760 to be. Still could be that name. I feel like 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:48.320 that is the leader in the clubhouse. But now I 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:52.240 feel weird naming our child that if she's not completely sold, 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:54.200 because I've already made it know that I'm not completely sold. 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:55.080 I like the name. 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:56.840 I don't love the name. I thought she loved it. 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.240 Maybe she doesn't anymore. So I don't know what the 0:07:59.320 --> 0:08:01.240 name is going to be. And then I feel like 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:04.320 every name I throw out, she's just like eh. 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.040 I feel like you need to at least be receptive 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:08.480 to ideas, right if you're kind of in the place 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.800 where you don't have one fully like locked in names 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.000 are really hard because I mean, obviously, at the end 0:08:13.040 --> 0:08:14.360 of day, they're going to be called that for the 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:16.280 rest of their lives, and you're gonna be calling them 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:20.760 that for the rest of their lives, and like, you know, 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:24.240 I do think that there is a correlation between your 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:27.480 name and like the amount of success you can have 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.280 in life at the end of the day. You know, 0:08:30.320 --> 0:08:31.960 like a lot of these crazy unique names that we're 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:35.360 seeing nowadays. Like I mean, I guess I don't really 0:08:35.360 --> 0:08:36.400 know any off the top of my head, but like 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.960 the crazy names, I'm like, you're not really knowing your 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:41.600 child of that, honestly, is what first came to mind 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:44.880 is North. But North isn't that bad. I don't think 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:48.480 you are kind of putting them in a bind for 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:50.520 later on, like when they're applying for jobs and everything, 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:51.080 you know what I mean. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:54.200 Yeah, something tells me any of the Kardashian kids won't 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:55.480 be applying for jobs all that much. 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:57.480 That's a very good point. That's a very good point. Maddie, 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.839 our producer just texted us in the group chat and 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:03.000 said that some TikToker just named her child Slim Easy, 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:06.000 and it's like, what do you. I mean, you know, 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.240 good for you, maybe it's a family name, who knows, 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:11.480 but like Slim Easy, Yeah, you're just not really doing 0:09:11.480 --> 0:09:15.439 that kid. Very many favors and I don't know. I 0:09:15.480 --> 0:09:18.400 don't know. I'm a big advocate of just like kind 0:09:18.400 --> 0:09:21.559 of keeping it simple. We were I was talking to 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:23.360 Kaylen about this other day too, because I, you know, 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:25.640 we've talked about this many times. I have our kids 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:28.280 names picked out. Kaylen gets to pick the middle name. 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:31.439 She came up with, like, if we have a girl, Debbie, 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:34.040 she wants Debbie's middle name to be like Chloe or 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.559 something like that. So Debbie Chloe Bell and it's kind 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:38.440 of cute. And I was like, but the two e's 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:41.360 like Debbie and Chloe, And it wasn't Chloe. It was 0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:43.160 something like that. I can't remember what it was exactly, 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:44.680 but it's like, I just don't know if I like that. 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:46.560 And she said that's the best part. They both end 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:49.000 in the same sound. I was like, yeah, I guess 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.040 you're right. And middle names are obviously way less important 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:54.199 than a first name. But it's a it's a big 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:56.439 I don't want to call it a burden, but it's 0:09:56.440 --> 0:09:58.280 like definitely a big decision to make, you know. 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:04.319 Yeah, it's like who they are, Like Dawson is now Dawson. 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.319 He is just Dawson, right, And I'm and I'm already 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:10.560 imagining Dawson being an older person, and I can already 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:13.960 see he's gonna be a freaking rico, suave, like coolest 0:10:14.040 --> 0:10:16.080 kid in school because his name is cool. 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:19.800 You know, his name is cool and he's cool, and 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:23.000 it's like, damn, bro, Like his name is Dawson, which 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:25.320 is a cool name, and he came out with blonde 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.600 hair and blue eyes, and he loves sports and he 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:31.120 looks like he's a big kid. And every time he 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.760 goes to the playground, like it just feels like other 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:39.280 kids are like kind of just go towards him. I'm like, bro, 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:41.199 but is he cool because he's cool? 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:43.360 Or is he cool because his name is Dawson and 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.080 being at Dawson has made him cooler. 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:48.080 I mean, I don't know what came first, the chicken 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:50.240 or the egg, you know what I mean? Like, that's 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:52.840 that's the question. What if we name our what if 0:10:52.840 --> 0:10:55.439 his name was Steve? Nothing wrong with Steve. I like 0:10:55.920 --> 0:11:01.800 Stephen listeners out there, but like Steve, Steve, Steve the Pirate. 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.240 You should do like a social experiment. Your next kid 0:11:04.240 --> 0:11:10.400 should be named something crazy, like like oh gosh, I 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:11.960 can't think I'm not very creative. 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:16.880 Like like Needle, Yes, exactly like that in mind. 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:19.960 I mean, you're more creative than I am. Do something 0:11:20.000 --> 0:11:21.679 really strange and then just like see how they grew 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:23.760 up to be different just because their names are different. 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:26.199 Needle, I don't mind that. You ever seen that episode 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.280 of SEINFELERW where Gorge wants to name his kid seven? 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:29.920 Love it? I love it? 0:11:30.440 --> 0:11:32.840 Oh, great one? And then the other people end up 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.160 stealing it because they're like, we like the name seven, 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:38.280 And he's like, what about Soda? Like SODA's a terrible name. 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:43.120 He's like, everybody loves soda. Anyway, we don't talk about Seifelt. 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:45.360 But yeah, so that's the conundrum right now. Don't really 0:11:45.400 --> 0:11:50.079 have a name for the second kid, but yeah, I 0:11:50.080 --> 0:11:51.600 don't know. I guess we'll figure it out. You know 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:52.800 what name they did? 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:53.520 Like that? 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:56.000 I liked as well, But it can't be that name 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:58.120 because of my last name. 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:03.440 Hayden, Hayden hat, Hayden Haven. I like actually a lot, 0:12:03.760 --> 0:12:07.960 I really do like that a lot. You like Hayden Haben. Yeah, 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:08.360 I don't know. 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:12.200 I can't do that. We liked Hayden because we were 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:15.400 thinking of Anakin, Anakin Skywalker like that. I'm not going 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:18.240 to name our kid Anakin and then we're like, oh, 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:21.720 Hayden Christiansen. I like the name Hayden, and then Asher, 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:25.280 and then Asher was like Hayden Haben. That can't happen. 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:26.920 It's like, yeah, that's not happening. 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:29.439 You could name him like his middle name Adam. So 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:30.960 it's like ha h a. 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:35.559 H ha ha or how do you spell huh? 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:39.040 Like huh is that huh? Yeah? 0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:44.800 So we just need a middle name to start with you. Yeah, yeah, Hayden, Ungler, Haven, Huh. 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:46.920 How many you names are out there? Not a lot. 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:59.160 I don't think. Are you gonna wait until the baby 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:00.960 is born then and then make a decision there? 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:03.120 No, I mean I'm assuming that we're going to go 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:05.040 into the hospital with the game plan, but we are 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.280 on the for a golf reference, I feel like we're 0:13:08.280 --> 0:13:11.680 on the seventeenth hole right now. Time is running. 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:13.800 Out, you know, we're on the seventeenth hole right now. 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.840 I mean it's a par four and I'm hitting five 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:19.360 right now. 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:21.560 But your score going in going into now, I'm not 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:26.160 even on the green bro three under seven over thirteen over. 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:30.440 Oh dude, if I finish it under one hundred, I'm happy. 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.920 I'm not talking about you specifically. I'm talking about the 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:35.360 situation with the baby. 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:40.520 Yeah, that's exactly what I'm referring to. If we make 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.720 it for the eighteenth hole under one hundred with this kid, 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:44.960 I'll be all right, I'll be fine. 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.160 Nice. Anytime you break double digits, that's a good day. 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:50.320 Anytime you're on the golf course, and in this case, 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:52.400 anytime you're having a baby, still a great day. 0:13:53.679 --> 0:13:56.320 Still a great day. I was thinking about that because 0:13:56.920 --> 0:14:01.200 we were talking yesterday. One of Ashley's friends was that, 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:05.120 like everything in terms of trauma or emotion, like you 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:10.120 can always just go back to your childhood and like 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:13.280 the relationships that you had with your parents, and I 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.200 don't know, man, being a parent, I think that we 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:19.800 put it's gonna make me sound like a horrible person, 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:23.560 way too much emphasis on. 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:26.920 Like the. 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:32.600 This gonna sound so weird the child parents relationship. But 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:36.880 like my point being is that I feel like everybody 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:43.120 blames like your childhood trauma quote unquote, Like there are 0:14:43.120 --> 0:14:45.840 people who are like, oh my my mom was too 0:14:45.880 --> 0:14:48.000 smothering and too she loved me too much, she never 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:50.720 let me explore things. But then you know, my dad 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:52.880 didn't love me enough and he didn't show me enough. 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:56.360 And it's like, okay, like it did you know, did 0:14:56.400 --> 0:14:58.280 you have a good childhood? Did you grow up with love? 0:14:58.360 --> 0:14:59.960 I think it's just also the time that we live in, 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:03.320 Like we're not living in wartime. Knock on wood. Obviously, 0:15:03.320 --> 0:15:06.240 what's going on overseas is tragic, but in terms of 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:09.320 the United States, no one's getting drafted. Because I was 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:10.760 talking to a guy. I was talking to a guy 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:14.160 about this, just about parenting. His name is Bobby, comes 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.400 in all the time and he's this sweetest man. He's 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.400 in his eighties, and he got drafted, you know, for 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.880 I can't remember. Had to be Vietnam because I don't 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:25.480 think there was a draft during the Korean War. I 0:15:25.480 --> 0:15:30.080 can't remember. But dude, I just think, like I don't know. 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:33.200 I'm like, let's just all calm down. You know, life 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.120 is a gift. We're all doing our best. You know. 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:38.760 I love Dawson so much I spend I want to 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:41.600 spend as much time with him as possible and show 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.280 them the way. I just think it's like people act 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:48.640 as if you know, relationships in life are you know, 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:52.320 down to a science so to speak, where it's like, oh, 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.280 this is exactly how you should be a parent, This 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:57.160 is exactly how you should love your kids, This is 0:15:57.200 --> 0:15:59.240 exactly how much time you should spend with your kids, 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:01.160 and so on and so forth. And it's just like 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:07.520 complicated and convoluted and stressful because there's so many people 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:11.000 that are so quickly to judge you whether you're too 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:14.240 loving or not loving enough, or you smother them too much, 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:17.880 or you don't show them enough attention, or you know 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:21.880 they're on their the phone too much, or they're not 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:26.040 reading enough or I don't know, like you're playing with 0:16:26.080 --> 0:16:29.440 them outside but then they fall and they're like, oh, well, 0:16:29.480 --> 0:16:30.760 why why did you Why were. 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:31.720 You playing outside with them? 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:34.800 You shouldn't have been doing that, or like dude, Ashley 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:36.720 and her mom, this is like three weeks ago. They 0:16:36.720 --> 0:16:39.000 were at the beach with Dawson. It was a hot day, 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:42.040 but like they had the umbrella up and obviously Dawson 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:44.480 didn't want to be under he was running around. They 0:16:44.640 --> 0:16:48.240 lathered them up with santane. Loosh, it wasn't that hot. 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:51.960 It was probably in eighties, you know, the kids almost three. 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:55.320 And then there was someone who like went up to Ashley. 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:59.240 It was like I'm just concerned. I think your kid's boiling. 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:04.080 And it's like, dude, get out of my face. He's 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:06.840 covered in suntan lotion from head to toe. He's in 0:17:06.960 --> 0:17:10.560 shade half the time. We're going into the water, Like, dude, 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:12.480 do a kid. But that's what I mean, like these 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.600 freaking people anyway. 0:17:15.359 --> 0:17:16.720 Well, I do agree with kind of what you were 0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:18.960 saying earlier. I feel like a lot of people use 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:22.800 their upbringing as a crutch to act poorly, like if 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.400 I have, and I'm guilty of this too. Like let's 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:28.560 say there's a certain characteristic of yourself that people maybe 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:31.240 don't love or that you don't even like about yourself, 0:17:31.240 --> 0:17:33.880 and a lot of people nowadays are like, oh, well, 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:37.000 just because like you were saying, like my dad left 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:39.000 me at a young age, and some things are obviously 0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:40.040 more important than others. 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:44.040 But like, of course there are very traumatic things. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:45.440 I don't have to tell you about it, you know 0:17:45.480 --> 0:17:46.000 what I mean. 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:48.320 Like an oversmothering mother, Like my mother loved me too 0:17:48.400 --> 0:17:51.040 much when I was a kid, so now I have 0:17:51.080 --> 0:17:53.560 trust issues or something like that. I do think that 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:55.639 people will do that quite often, and I'm guilty of 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:58.199 it too. I kind of do this thing where I 0:17:58.240 --> 0:18:00.240 like to make people uncomfortable. So if someone says something, 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:01.719 I'll be like, oh, yeah, well my mom died when 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:03.680 I was a kid, so that's why I did that 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:05.479 or something like that, and everyone is always I kind 0:18:05.480 --> 0:18:07.120 of like doesn't really know how to react. It's kind 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:08.800 of a funny anecdotal thing. 0:18:09.080 --> 0:18:11.080 Yeah, that's a tough one, A tough one to react 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:13.080 to that. Yeah, I don't know if I would say 0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:13.400 that one. 0:18:13.480 --> 0:18:16.840 Yeah, it's especially interesting too because with today, it's like 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:19.879