Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing.
Speaker 3: In, Scrubbing It, And I'm really excited because today we
Speaker 3: have a guest on the show. And she is somebody
Speaker 3: that I met when I was doing the e Red Carpets,
Speaker 3: and I really don't know much about her story and
Speaker 3: where she came from, but I really love her and
Speaker 3: I admire her, and so I'm really excited. She is
Speaker 3: an Emmy winning television host, radio personality, and model.
Speaker 2: She was born in Honduras but moved with her family
Speaker 2: to New Orleans, Louisiana. She's a fellow Louisiana girl.
Speaker 3: She is best known from her time when she was
Speaker 3: co hosting on be ET's music video countdown program, One
Speaker 3: of six and Park and she has also been a
Speaker 3: correspondent on Entertainment Tonight. She is currently a contributor for
Speaker 3: GMA three. What you need to.
Speaker 2: Know, please help us give a warm scrubbing in. Welcome
Speaker 2: to Roxy DSA.
Speaker 3: And she came in bringing beignets.
Speaker 2: She is a Louisiana girl through and through and brought
Speaker 2: us Beignet Box, which I think they're they're Louisiana owned
Speaker 2: right so.
Speaker 1: The owner in partnership with Christina Milian. They she is
Speaker 1: a Louisiana girl, And they brought Vignet's too to La.
Speaker 1: They're delicious, very close to Cafe Dumont.
Speaker 2: But you know they're they're they're really so sweet.
Speaker 3: I don't know if we've had a guest bringing gifts
Speaker 3: for us. Are you serious?
Speaker 2: No, we're not.
Speaker 3: Since the pandemic at.
Speaker 2: Least, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: Well okay, yeah, we're like getting back into the groove
Speaker 3: of it, you.
Speaker 1: Know, Yeah, okay, Well, I'm glad to have started off
Speaker 1: the trends of.
Speaker 4: Gifts.
Speaker 3: This is so roxy.
Speaker 2: You did this.
Speaker 3: Also, you got me I remember during award season you
Speaker 3: got me that ted Lasso yes jersey. Yeah, I loved
Speaker 3: ted Lasso so much. She got me a ted Lasso jersey.
Speaker 2: Remember this.
Speaker 3: She also brought us all champagne one year for the Grammys,
Speaker 3: Like shall we drink after broadcast?
Speaker 2: Right after right after I was a celebration. Well, so
Speaker 2: Tanya has been talking about you and like how much
Speaker 2: she loves you for forever.
Speaker 3: I hope I live up to the expect you know
Speaker 3: you already are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you brought gifts. You're good, you have nothing else
Speaker 2: to prove there, Okay. But and then just randomly, we
Speaker 2: were at the same event that just like lunch that
Speaker 2: Alley put on and we were sitting across from each
Speaker 2: other and I heard her speaking and say her name
Speaker 2: and I was like, you know Tanya, right, and she
Speaker 2: was like I love Tanya. She's like, I'm gonna be
Speaker 2: on her podcast and I'm like, yeah, I am.
Speaker 1: I'm scup you guys, I got it.
Speaker 2: I was like, does she have another podcast? We are
Speaker 2: you talking about my book? I have no idea, And
Speaker 2: then we discovered we're both from Louisiana. We really just
Speaker 2: bonded over lunch and it was so unexpected but so
Speaker 2: fun because I text a Tony after and I'm like
Speaker 2: I got to meet Roxy weirdly, like right a perfect.
Speaker 1: Timing, I know, perfect timing, And it was it was
Speaker 1: really cool because I was because then we were gonna
Speaker 1: get Tania jealous of like, yeah, we became instantly, and
Speaker 1: you know, but no, I would never You and I
Speaker 1: are bonded doggy doggy for life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're the bonded dog moms y, sure, bonded dog No,
Speaker 3: but I really like I just I feel like and
Speaker 3: I really want to get into your story just because
Speaker 3: I feel like you're so good at what you do,
Speaker 3: but you're just such a good person. But like when
Speaker 3: you're starting to do these red carpet shows and you're
Speaker 3: kind of thrown into the mix with people that you've
Speaker 3: never met before, like I've had not so great experiences
Speaker 3: and which I don't talk about because I don't want
Speaker 3: to bad mouth anybody, but it makes me appreciate the
Speaker 3: people like the Roxies of the world that really kind
Speaker 3: of like throw their arms around me and make me
Speaker 3: feel welcome and like lift me up in all these situations.
Speaker 3: And I felt that instantly from you. And you also
Speaker 3: have this confidence about yourself that.
Speaker 1: Is it's called years in doing that for too long.
Speaker 3: You don't think you want that when you were a kid.
Speaker 1: Strangely, I've never been asked a question before. I don't
Speaker 1: I don't think it was something I ever thought of,
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, like I'm I'm very secure
Speaker 1: and knowing who I am and what I bring to
Speaker 1: the table. If that's and that's I think that's something
Speaker 1: that I learned throughout the years. I don't know if
Speaker 1: it was something of importance that I thought about as
Speaker 1: a child. You know, I wasn't a confident student, Like
Speaker 1: I wasn't confident in school or doing grades. But cheerleading
Speaker 1: and soccer and sports and things that I knew I
Speaker 1: was good at. I always nurtured that and I was
Speaker 1: super confident in that, but confident in like the industry
Speaker 1: and today, Roxy Dias. That definitely took time in years
Speaker 1: of knowing what you bring to the table.
Speaker 4: At the end of the day, you're just staring at me, like, answer, you.
Speaker 3: Moved from Honduras to Louisiana and that's when you were two,
Speaker 3: and then were you raised there from then on? Yeah,
Speaker 3: well we went.
Speaker 4: We went back and forth.
Speaker 1: So summers were in Hunduras until I was about thirteen,
Speaker 1: and then we did our school year here in the
Speaker 1: United States. But I mean, if anybody were to ask me,
Speaker 1: I was like, I grew up American at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, right right, I don't know anything else
Speaker 1: but New Orleans, Louisiana.
Speaker 3: And then when you moved to LA.
Speaker 1: I didn't move to LA until twenty gosh, twenty twelve,
Speaker 1: twenty thirteen, because I was in New York beforehand doing
Speaker 1: one of six and Park.
Speaker 3: So that's why don't know where you started doing your work.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I started television in New York. One O six
Speaker 1: in Park was my first gig on BT, which is
Speaker 1: where a lot of my fan base knows me from,
Speaker 1: like the foundation of my following. But I started my
Speaker 1: radio career in Dallas, and then from Dallas, I went
Speaker 1: to Boston and Boston and Chicago. You know, when you're
Speaker 1: in radio, you just move around, you know, unless you're
Speaker 1: lucky to just work the number one, number two market
Speaker 1: like it's nothing, you know. I always tell her, I'm like, dude,
Speaker 1: that's like, don't you go nowhere? But it's you know,
Speaker 1: I did the whole radio radio tour, I guess you
Speaker 1: would call it because at that time, as a radio personality,
Speaker 1: you just want to be in the bigger markets, and
Speaker 1: my the biggest market.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 1: I had a syndicate a show before, but I was
Speaker 1: in Chicago. And then from Chicago, I went to New
Speaker 1: York to start television. But I was already in radio
Speaker 1: before doing television.
Speaker 2: When you got into radio, was there because I know
Speaker 2: Tonya talked about when you first got into it, the
Speaker 2: struggle was having people believe in her and believe in
Speaker 2: like her having that position on the radio. What was
Speaker 2: your struggle like getting into it? What were your like fu,
Speaker 2: what were your fights?
Speaker 3: It wasn't I was.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like I was like working at a radio stage,
Speaker 1: because I started off on the street team, and so
Speaker 1: from the street team, I was working the street team,
Speaker 1: and then I was working with the program director very closely,
Speaker 1: like kind of like assisting him, you know. And then
Speaker 1: but also I was so enamored with the board and
Speaker 1: coming into the studio. So then I would hang out
Speaker 1: with the night jocks and go in there and like
Speaker 1: learn how to run the board, learn how to like
Speaker 1: input music, learn how to input my liners and everything
Speaker 1: like that. I was learning all of that. So all
Speaker 1: of a sudden I become a board operator. And then
Speaker 1: the program director was literally like, I like your recipe voice.
Speaker 1: I just want to hear you on air. And I
Speaker 1: had then I was board opping from nine to like
Speaker 1: one am or something like that while they were doing
Speaker 1: live broadcasts at the club. So I'm board opping, but
Speaker 1: like at two am or one am to like five
Speaker 1: am or six am, whenever the morning people would actually
Speaker 1: come in. It was like go ahead, crack the mic.
Speaker 1: Go try it.
Speaker 4: Just read the.
Speaker 1: Liners, don't There's not much you could screw up at
Speaker 1: that time. You know, nobody's really listening, so just go
Speaker 1: for it.
Speaker 4: And that's what I did.
Speaker 1: I would practice on air, you know, and I was
Speaker 1: lucky to have a program director that I just liked
Speaker 1: my voice and wanted to hear me. And then there
Speaker 1: was an opportunity that I opened up for a midday
Speaker 1: personality in Boston, and then they were like, go just
Speaker 1: you know, try it.
Speaker 4: You're gonna starve.
Speaker 1: Like I remember, I remember my mentor at the time
Speaker 1: telling me, He's like, you're gonna eat pizza and you're
Speaker 1: gonna eat ramen.
Speaker 4: You're going to starve.
Speaker 1: I think I was making like forty thousand or fifty
Speaker 1: thousand a year in Boston, so it's like I'm starving.
Speaker 1: But I was at the number what was it at
Speaker 1: the time. I think Boston might have been number seven
Speaker 1: or number eight in the market and top ten, so.
Speaker 4: It was starting off at top ten.
Speaker 1: You know. Dallas was already five or six at the time,
Speaker 1: so I was within the top ten markets at still.
Speaker 1: And so yeah, that's that's how it happened. Practice and
Speaker 1: determination and just you know, I always tell everybody that
Speaker 1: I wants to get into radio or do this, start
Speaker 1: by reading the liners for the station. Start by reading
Speaker 1: the commercials that the disc jockeys feel like they got
Speaker 1: to get paid to read. You read them for free,
Speaker 1: and then you know the program director likes your voice.
Speaker 1: Then you know, maybe you get a shot doing overnights
Speaker 1: or something like that. That's that's where you can't just
Speaker 1: jump in, you know, at a major time slot, it's
Speaker 1: not going to happen. You got to you got to
Speaker 1: earn your way up there. So unless you're like Tanya,
Speaker 1: you're just part of the biggest grin because that.
Speaker 3: Was behind the scenes of that show. So I wasn't
Speaker 3: on air with Ryan and till like four years, in
Speaker 3: maybe five years even in with Ryan till I got
Speaker 3: the on air position.
Speaker 1: Yeah it takes time. Yeah, it takes time. And most
Speaker 1: people don't even get to stay where they start, Like
Speaker 1: most people have to move go to to smaller, smaller
Speaker 1: markets just to get your name and get your air
Speaker 1: truck ready and get the chops and then you can
Speaker 1: get to a bigger market. And you know, good luck
Speaker 1: for those people that are going to be moving around
Speaker 1: because they're not going to go anywhere anytime soon.
Speaker 4: So radio's crazy wild.
Speaker 1: But what I do like about radio is the dependent
Speaker 1: and I told you this, the dependability and the stability
Speaker 1: that if your market likes you and your audience likes you,
Speaker 1: and you keep those ratings and you can have a
Speaker 1: very very long career, you know, in radio.
Speaker 3: Right, because like the entertainment industry is very it's like
Speaker 3: you never know, no, you never know.
Speaker 1: I tell everybody, like the average the average lifespan for
Speaker 1: a personality on television is three to four years. I
Speaker 1: got we got Lucky at one O six and Park
Speaker 1: and we were there seven and a half years. But
Speaker 1: you know, like I can't even tell you the last
Speaker 1: time that something like that study was ever presented to people.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we're now part of a series show.
Speaker 3: When you got one of six in PARC, was that
Speaker 3: kind of like your moment where you were like, was
Speaker 3: that your first big paycheck, your first big role like
Speaker 3: I made it definitely wasn't.
Speaker 1: A big first paycheck, and then it definitely was like,
Speaker 1: you know, oh, so this is what we're doing now.
Speaker 1: You know. It was the definite the foundation to the
Speaker 1: start of television career for me. But I would have
Speaker 1: not got one of six in park if it was
Speaker 1: not for radio, because the program director.
Speaker 4: And they had a talent at the time.
Speaker 1: He came from a radio background and he was a
Speaker 1: fan of radio personalities being on air personalities because they
Speaker 1: knew timing, they knew how to read liners, they knew
Speaker 1: how to transition into thoughts, they knew how to do interviews.
Speaker 1: They just radio personalities have the foundations to become great
Speaker 1: TV personalities.
Speaker 4: At the end of the day.
Speaker 1: So I always tell people, I was like, don't think
Speaker 1: it's just jumping into television. And now like there's video
Speaker 1: cameras everywhere in the radio stash. Yeah, not even not
Speaker 1: on camera, You're always on camera. Yeah, So radio was
Speaker 1: like always a great place to start, you know.
Speaker 2: Did you have like knowing that he was interested in you,
Speaker 2: did you go through like the audition process, an interview
Speaker 2: process still or did you.
Speaker 4: Want to sit yeah? Oh no, no, no, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4: I came out.
Speaker 1: I was like it was like a American idol caatele
Speaker 1: caall line. You know, they were looking at like the
Speaker 1: first I don't know, I think it might have been
Speaker 1: like let's just say, first five hundred people on line
Speaker 1: get to try out because it was like a new
Speaker 1: it was a new face search. It was like mtvs
Speaker 1: who want to be a VJ type of things. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So like those casting cattle call lines are literally sleeping
Speaker 1: outside and at this time, it was Chicago in February
Speaker 1: or March.
Speaker 4: Nobody told BT was.
Speaker 1: Gonna be freezing cold, you know, and but yeah, I
Speaker 1: stayed outside and I just cared. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: be one of the first one hundred, so I slept
Speaker 1: overnight in the line. I was like number seventeen seventy nine.
Speaker 1: I think I was number yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So then what it got narrowed down to two from
Speaker 2: the cattle call to two people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, from over ten thousand people because there were those
Speaker 1: people that had agents and stuff that also got it.
Speaker 1: I got into, but over ten thousand people and then they.
Speaker 4: Just picked two.
Speaker 2: That is amazing.
Speaker 3: That's an ego boost.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: Oh at the time, yeah, it definitely was it. But
Speaker 3: this industry has a way of they can boost you
Speaker 3: up right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I definitely could do that. But yeah, it
Speaker 1: was It was great that the network at the time
Speaker 1: gave really new faces a shot, people with talent and
Speaker 1: a shot. They picked They picked two of us to
Speaker 1: host that show, but then they picked five for the
Speaker 1: network to host other individuals shows too. So but the
Speaker 1: you know, the big the big thing was was the
Speaker 1: flagship show, and we didn't know that they were even
Speaker 1: looking for talent for that show at all.
Speaker 4: We had no clue.
Speaker 2: I was curious because I remember when Tanya was when
Speaker 2: y'all first met. She came back and she was like,
Speaker 2: there's this girl Roxy. She's amazing, and she like made
Speaker 2: me feel so comfortable and she was like hyping me up.
Speaker 2: And I'm curious if you ever had someone that was
Speaker 2: like your Roxy when you went into like a job position.
Speaker 1: When I first took over one O six the Coast
Speaker 1: before uh Free, she reached back to me and she
Speaker 1: gave me, you know, she put her arm around me
Speaker 1: and was like, this is what's gonna happen. You're about
Speaker 1: to be You're about to be thrown to the lions
Speaker 1: because this is a big show and it comes with
Speaker 1: a lot of publicity, and it comes with a lot
Speaker 1: of eyes and things that are going to be thrown
Speaker 1: at you. So she kind of gave she kind of
Speaker 1: gave me the heads up. When I came to LA
Speaker 1: I had a phenomenal, phenomenal producer executive producer by the
Speaker 1: name of Lynda Belle Blue and she is an iconic
Speaker 1: woman to ever work with. And four when it comes
Speaker 1: to entertainment news, she's just freaking bomb, Like, she's so awesome.
Speaker 1: And it was funny because she's like that typical like
Speaker 1: EP of a big show for entertainment tonight at the
Speaker 1: time and getting like a chiropractic work done, watching in
Speaker 1: an office that's all glass and like everything.
Speaker 4: It just just wild. She was so great.
Speaker 1: But she really taught me in my red carpet chops.
Speaker 1: She taught me what it was to expect, you know.
Speaker 1: Et was was a great foundation for that too. So yeah,
Speaker 1: but uh, other than that, you know, I've just been
Speaker 1: fortunate to work with some some pretty amazing people. Not
Speaker 1: everybody is great, you know, not all of your EPs
Speaker 1: are great. You know, not all your producers are great.
Speaker 1: But I've been really fortunate to have been surrounded by
Speaker 1: some really really cool people.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that because I think it gives you
Speaker 2: the spark to go, like, I want to do that
Speaker 2: for other people who are coming into Yes, well.
Speaker 1: I think what happens in our industry is that we
Speaker 1: as females feel like we had like we're all competition
Speaker 1: against each other, and that's really not the case, because
Speaker 1: whatever's for you is going to be for you. It's
Speaker 1: if it was just not meant for you, it's just not.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you're any less of a talent
Speaker 1: or what any more of a talent or whatever is.
Speaker 1: You're just not what they were looking for, what they
Speaker 1: were trying to do for that whatever job or situation
Speaker 1: it was. And I think as people in this industry,
Speaker 1: we just have to learn how to kind of get
Speaker 1: thick skin and not take things personally because it's not
Speaker 1: it's not it's it's not up to you. You know,
Speaker 1: it makes no difference. It says nothing about who you
Speaker 1: are and who your and what your talent is and
Speaker 1: what you bring to the table. It just wasn't that
Speaker 1: table for you to sit at, that's all.
Speaker 3: Is that how you deal with rejection?
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's how I have.
Speaker 1: That's how I've had to learn how to deal with rejection,
Speaker 1: like honestly, because it's just like okay, well, I mean
Speaker 1: come on, like this this industry, you're gonna get told
Speaker 1: no so many times before you get a yes, Like honestly,
Speaker 1: and even with my resume, I still get hell of
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of more no's than I get yes,
Speaker 1: you know, because now it's like, oh, you got a
Speaker 1: resume that's too much and you're overqualified. Only what the hell, like,
Speaker 1: you know, what do you want me to do? So
Speaker 1: so yeah, it's it's kind of like you can't not
Speaker 1: you can only worry and take care of things that
Speaker 1: you can control. The things that you cannot control. Why
Speaker 1: are you going to go into this deep depression? And yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like fuh sucks, you know, But at the same time,
Speaker 1: it's like it's out.
Speaker 4: Of your control.
Speaker 1: You can't you can't force anything that's not meant to be.
Speaker 1: Only God has your plan and your destination of what
Speaker 1: he has.
Speaker 4: Planned for you.
Speaker 1: Now, you could help that process by studying and crafting
Speaker 1: your skills and surrounding yourself with people that are in
Speaker 1: the same industry as what you want to be in or.
Speaker 4: Or putting yourself that in that world.
Speaker 1: If you want to be a radio personality, then you start,
Speaker 1: you join the street team.
Speaker 4: You get to put in.
Speaker 1: The door, you know, if you want to be a producer,
Speaker 1: if you want to be in television, figure it out.
Speaker 1: How do you get in there? Maybe it's scriptwriting, maybe
Speaker 1: it's another way around. But I always think that it's
Speaker 1: better when you could be a self produced person anyway,
Speaker 1: because you bring more to to take. So yeah, but
Speaker 1: to answer your question, I cannot. I cannot stress out
Speaker 1: over things that I.
Speaker 3: Cannot control now that it's something that we are very
Speaker 3: different in. No, because I'm horrible with rejection and I
Speaker 3: take it deeply personal.
Speaker 1: Then I would tell you you're in the wrong business. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would tell you straight up you're in the wrong
Speaker 1: business because you can't. You can't. I know it's easier
Speaker 1: said than done, but you can't do that to yourself
Speaker 1: because if you're getting well in the industry, we get.
Speaker 4: Knows all the time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like we get I told you this too before
Speaker 1: on our off off Mike, you know, on off air.
Speaker 1: But you cannot because there's all Look, this happened to
Speaker 1: me three times in my career. There's a new EP
Speaker 1: that comes and they fire everybody and they want their
Speaker 1: talent in. That's nothing against me, that's that's a new
Speaker 1: person that's in charge, that wants to put their mark
Speaker 1: and and they're people in and if they don't work out.
Speaker 1: It's on them, you know what I'm saying. So it's
Speaker 1: above me. I can't I can't control that, or I'm
Speaker 1: part of a show, and then the whole company switches into.
Speaker 3: Overnight there are a new format.
Speaker 1: You know, somebody, I can't control that, Like, that's something
Speaker 1: that I cannot control. And if I don't get the
Speaker 1: gig or if I don't get to do whatever interview
Speaker 1: or something like that, it wasn't for me to do
Speaker 1: and it's not for me to like shut on the
Speaker 1: next person that did it. It was just meant for
Speaker 1: them to be. That just means that there's another door
Speaker 1: that's going to open for you. And I believe if
Speaker 1: you don't hold heartedly believe that, then they're not going
Speaker 1: to open for you because you're getting in your own
Speaker 1: way by being pessimistic about it, saying, oh man, you know,
Speaker 1: it never happens. I keep getting nose and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: You're putting their own energy out there, and then it's like,
Speaker 1: then you're gonna be known as a Debbie Downer in
Speaker 1: the industry.
Speaker 4: You don't want that.
Speaker 1: And trust me, I've talked to producers and I've talked
Speaker 1: they'd be like oh she does this complain about not
Speaker 1: getting the job about you know, woe is me in life?
Speaker 1: Nobody wants to be around that energy either, So and
Speaker 1: I know you're not that energy because you're freaking sunshines
Speaker 1: and balloons and sunflowers. So yeah, no that's not you.
Speaker 1: But but I would say it to anybody. It was like,
Speaker 1: if you're not used to if you can't take no,
Speaker 1: then you can't be in this business.
Speaker 3: Yeah at all.
Speaker 1: I've been doing this for a long time.
Speaker 3: I know, I feel like you have done so much?
Speaker 3: Like what for you? What does the future look like?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 3: What do you want? What is there more that you
Speaker 3: want to accomplish? Is there something that you haven't done yet?
Speaker 1: I would like to sit in like a main chi.
Speaker 1: I would like to get back into radio. You and
Speaker 1: I have talked about this, Yeah, but I think for
Speaker 1: me what I have not done is like a panel
Speaker 1: show like The View or like the Talk or something
Speaker 1: like that that's still topical trending topics, but that's also
Speaker 1: political as well, because as you get older, you just
Speaker 1: start caring about different things, and my views have I've
Speaker 1: transitioned into that and like a Good Morning America. So
Speaker 1: right now, I'm in the zeigeist of Good Morning America,
Speaker 1: and I'm super happy for any opportunity I get to
Speaker 1: work with them. But yeah, that's like.
Speaker 3: Your correspondent for for GMA three, I'm at contributor.
Speaker 1: Yeah, very very specific language, really very very specific.
Speaker 3: Contributor is different than what did I just say, corresponding correspondent? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: very different really Yeah. Yeah, contributor means you pop in
Speaker 3: every once in a while, exactly correspondent's.
Speaker 4: You're a part of the team.
Speaker 3: Oh interesting, that.
Speaker 1: Means you got to secure a secure, secure situation.
Speaker 3: But aren't you on that path if they have you
Speaker 3: as a god willing Yeah, yeah, that's the plan. I mean,
Speaker 3: that's what I would love. That's what I pray for
Speaker 3: every single day. Yeah, so you move back to New York.
Speaker 1: It would just depend on whatever whatever they need me
Speaker 1: to do at this point.
Speaker 3: That's another thing.
Speaker 1: You have to be open to change and open to
Speaker 1: I think there was only one time in my career
Speaker 1: where I actually put my foot down. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to move, you know, or I'm not
Speaker 1: going to go do that. I'm sorry, it's just not
Speaker 1: for me. And good thing because that only lasted one season,
Speaker 1: Like something in my heart just knew that it wasn't
Speaker 1: for me. And imagine I would have picked up and
Speaker 1: left everything and went somewhere and then that show only
Speaker 1: lasted one season.
Speaker 3: And then I would show I'm not gonna say.
Speaker 4: I do want to say.
Speaker 2: I want to know if you had let's say you
Speaker 2: had a show and you had a panel, and you
Speaker 2: had you and three other women, do you have people
Speaker 2: that you would want to be on there with.
Speaker 4: I like a diverse cast.
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, different different viewpoints, certain people in particular.
Speaker 1: No I did. I don't have that, Like I just
Speaker 1: always know that a very diverse panel is and is
Speaker 1: always great because you just I would like to talk
Speaker 1: to uh, what I believe my audience is and what
Speaker 1: I believe like people my age and those that follow
Speaker 1: me are into now because it's not it's not about
Speaker 1: I think the Breakfast Club does it so well that
Speaker 1: it's not just about your format anymore. It's about topics
Speaker 1: that actually are you know interesting too. Whoever your viewership is,
Speaker 1: you know, like stuff, So now you know you got
Speaker 1: them talking about finances now and talking about politics, and
Speaker 1: I mean you have like the craziest people that go
Speaker 1: onto that show now, So it's it's really cool. So
Speaker 1: I like broad topics but also things that people are
Speaker 1: gonna learn from I guess yeah and yeah.
Speaker 2: And having like different viewpoints so it's not all just
Speaker 2: like everyone agreeing on the same.
Speaker 1: Thing, like similar to the view is like you know,
Speaker 1: you kind of you don't want everybody a way, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't want everybody to agree with each other all
Speaker 1: the time, but respectfully respectfully.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just having respectful dialogue, learning from each other
Speaker 2: if you can exactly. Yeah, you brought this up and
Speaker 2: then you just grazed over it that y'all have the
Speaker 2: same dog that are like distant siblings.
Speaker 4: There's a year apart.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're a you're apart, Yeah.
Speaker 2: But the same parents. Yeah, just like but they haven't
Speaker 2: met yet.
Speaker 1: No, no, we have to make that happen.
Speaker 4: It has to happen.
Speaker 3: But I have to tell you, I I felt like
Speaker 3: last week, I felt like a horrible dog mom because
Speaker 3: I realized I think there's a fine line between socializing
Speaker 3: and traumatizing. Uhh, And I think I really wanted my
Speaker 3: dog to be socialized, and so I sent her on
Speaker 3: these like walks or hikes with all these other dogs.
Speaker 3: I think it was a bad call because now I
Speaker 3: took her to the dog park last week. I took
Speaker 3: her off her leash, and she literally would not leave
Speaker 3: our feet, like she would not go play with the
Speaker 3: other dog. She was like scared. And then this other
Speaker 3: dog came running up. These are friendly, friendly dogs. They
Speaker 3: were not trying to harm her, and she was like
Speaker 3: squealing like she was. So I was like, I have
Speaker 3: a little scaredy cat chicken dog, and I feel bad
Speaker 3: that I didn't like socialize her properly. I feel like
Speaker 3: I messed her up. So now I'm like committing to
Speaker 3: go four days a week to this dog park to
Speaker 3: get her like socialized. To be careful with dog parks
Speaker 3: though it's not so it's not a dog park. It's
Speaker 3: a park where the rangers leave it for and so
Speaker 3: people come bring their dogs at four o'clock.
Speaker 1: Okay, but still you gotta be careful with dogs that
Speaker 1: you don't know's.
Speaker 3: How to socialize them.
Speaker 1: I mean in small groups with small with other people
Speaker 1: that have dogs that you know who that dog is,
Speaker 1: and like you can socialize them that way, like how
Speaker 1: you did for a birthday right right, Like stuff like
Speaker 1: that yeah, like the one year old birthday that that
Speaker 1: human getting.
Speaker 4: For second. Yeah, but like I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just I hear so much about dog parks that
Speaker 1: it kind of scares me too.
Speaker 4: When I think about it.
Speaker 1: But but because Teddy's with a dog trainer, so they
Speaker 1: have he has dogs, so he's not socialized with big dogs,
Speaker 1: small dogs, like all sorts of dogs. So he plays
Speaker 1: well with other dogs. But I don't know if he's
Speaker 1: gonna just run off and like see another dog. Like
Speaker 1: you want them to be cool with dogs, but then
Speaker 1: you always want them to like to have safety. Yeah,
Speaker 1: respect safety, balance zone, and you can't force it. Like
Speaker 1: she may not be ready yet.
Speaker 3: Yeah, be like she's enjoying it more. We took her
Speaker 3: twice and she's like slowly starting to like yeah, play
Speaker 3: to it. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then they got those places that you can go
Speaker 1: during the day and just take them and it's like
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of dogs that.
Speaker 3: Yeah those like it's like the Soho House for dogs
Speaker 3: pretty much.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I haven't gone to any of those, but they
Speaker 3: seem amazing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Teddy will be there.
Speaker 1: I'm like Teddy, Teddy, I walk around.
Speaker 4: I go around too many times.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know what I did getting
Speaker 1: another dog, but yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: But it's the best thing in the whole horror is awesome.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's pretty awesome.
Speaker 2: You're in a relationship.
Speaker 4: Uh yeah, do.
Speaker 2: You talk about that now? Okay, good talk, great talk,
Speaker 2: But you have a dog? What is that?
Speaker 3: A decision that you made early on? Always from day one.
Speaker 1: So the funny thing is and the beginning of my
Speaker 1: career because of the first show that I was on,
Speaker 1: we weren't allowed to have public relationships because we were
Speaker 1: on a show that like I mean think TRL like
Speaker 1: is like everybody either wants to be you or date you,
Speaker 1: so our.
Speaker 4: Relationships are cut private.
Speaker 1: And I guess that was just something that I picked
Speaker 1: up throughout the entire my entire career is like not
Speaker 1: everything is for everybody, even when it comes to social media.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: I I've been in my relationship for a very long time,
Speaker 1: on and off, but it's always like one of those
Speaker 1: things that I've always kept for me because until he's
Speaker 1: my husband, or until there is a husband, then I'll
Speaker 1: be glad to divulge. And oh really, so that's kind
Speaker 1: of the line, yeah, because it's like before then, what
Speaker 1: is there to talk about, like honestly, like, oh, everybody's
Speaker 1: got boyfriends and everybody dates. Nothing is But when it's
Speaker 1: like written a meek and stuff like that, and it's
Speaker 1: like commitment now, it's like you really can't mess with mine,
Speaker 1: you know. But beforehand, I like, I cannot be that
Speaker 1: girl like you. You're great, You're a great girlfriend. There's
Speaker 1: no way in hell I would like put my guy
Speaker 1: up on social media and stuff like because then like
Speaker 1: all the nice things that he may do for me
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, girls see that and like, no
Speaker 1: way they're gonna be sliding into his DM said, thank god,
Speaker 1: he doesn't do his social media. So it's like, Nola,
Speaker 1: oh there's vultures out there. You're over here showing your
Speaker 1: mac and cook and he leaves.
Speaker 3: The Housebody said that to me too. They were like,
Speaker 3: you prop him up so much, like I want to
Speaker 3: date him. I was like, even I honestly didn't think
Speaker 3: of it that way.
Speaker 1: Yep, they're gonna want your guy.
Speaker 3: Beware dark very I don't.
Speaker 1: I just I just you know, as public figures, we
Speaker 1: give so much of ourselves to the world. The two
Speaker 1: things I keep very close to my chest or my
Speaker 1: family and because they didn't choose to be in the spotlight, right,
Speaker 1: I did, so my family and my relationship stuff like,
Speaker 1: I just keep it to myself. Now, if you ever,
Speaker 1: if you follow me at roxydias on Instagram and Twitter
Speaker 1: and all the other things. Lemonade the new think, uh, lemonade, lemonade?
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, catcha up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, nobody's on it.
Speaker 4: Don't work, but nobody's doing it.
Speaker 1: But if you, if you ever see me go on
Speaker 1: a tangent of quotes and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: Means something is going on.
Speaker 4: Oh really, I don't know why.
Speaker 1: But other than that, yeah, wait, winter birthday, I'm a scorpio.
Speaker 2: Oh we talked about this me too. Wait did we
Speaker 2: talk about this?
Speaker 1: No, wait, the table talked about it, but I don't
Speaker 1: think we said that. We Winter birthday November seventeen.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm October thirtieth, so I'm a scoring. I do
Speaker 2: the quotes like.
Speaker 1: Call females do the quotes every girl does.
Speaker 4: Only when you're dark.
Speaker 2: Yes, for me, it's only when when it's like.
Speaker 1: A certain rabbit hole contingency, like like when it's like
Speaker 1: you could do and all by yourself.
Speaker 4: That's usually.
Speaker 1: But all the uplifting quotes that's like genuinely like I
Speaker 1: do yeah, like I do that too, yeah yeah, No,
Speaker 1: when it's like.
Speaker 3: About your worth, yeah, the worth ones and like.
Speaker 2: Okay, so my best friend is also a scorpion and
Speaker 2: she does the same things when she's dark. That is
Speaker 2: so funny.
Speaker 1: I think it's a female thing, though I don't think
Speaker 1: it's just scorpios.
Speaker 2: I feel like that dark though. I think when we
Speaker 2: do have a.
Speaker 4: Very tendously did be kind of.
Speaker 2: Like, how can we sing in a sneaky way?
Speaker 1: Sing in a non Obviously it doesn't work for me
Speaker 1: because he doesn't have social media, so it's not like
Speaker 1: looking at it. He gets the silent treatment. For me.
Speaker 1: That's like the worst thing you could ever do to
Speaker 1: any guy. By the way, if there's any lady listening
Speaker 1: to you, is that.
Speaker 3: Really what I'm I'm the worst all talk. I just
Speaker 3: talk all day to him. I'm like, we should talk,
Speaker 3: we should talk, we should meaning we should talk.
Speaker 1: No, that's the silent treatment, the best thing you could do,
Speaker 1: telling you because when you're not talking to them, they
Speaker 1: drives them insane. With the one man in this room
Speaker 1: drives in insane.
Speaker 2: Why Allison doesn't talk, Yeah, that's spot on Yeah, yeah, crazy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, telling you I've never done that.
Speaker 2: All you do is.
Speaker 1: Talk and you want to talk. Now, imagine if you
Speaker 1: just go dead silent, and.
Speaker 3: Then what do you do when you're like eating dinner?
Speaker 1: You don't dinner like together, what I'm not talking to
Speaker 1: you dinner?
Speaker 3: So you're like mad, you're in a fight.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like if it's like things hit the fan
Speaker 1: and you're like, you're not getting dinner, dinner, it's like
Speaker 1: soldier boys, No, no dinner, You're not You're not getting
Speaker 1: my presence at all. You get nada from me, no,
Speaker 1: especially dinner because and I throw down. So I'm a
Speaker 1: Louisiana girl, so you're not getting nothing.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, yeah no, no, I'm a bad fighter.
Speaker 3: I yeah, I can't do that.
Speaker 1: Last thing you want to do is talk when because
Speaker 1: they don't want to really talk, you got it. You
Speaker 1: do need a cool down period, which women were usually
Speaker 1: bad at because we really want to talk things out.
Speaker 1: But then after that cool down period, you know when
Speaker 1: it's time to actually talk with level heads. You can
Speaker 1: come together when you decide you're ready to speak.
Speaker 3: And how long can you not talk for? I'm curious.
Speaker 1: I did six months what I mean, he really messed up.
Speaker 1: He messed up, really made it really bad.
Speaker 4: Did you listen? Were you at the table when we.
Speaker 1: Were talking about all the like, I'm definitely not going
Speaker 1: to have that conversation on air, but yeah, we were
Speaker 1: all talking about different things that we think adored and no.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but what about like a typical fight, like a
Speaker 3: not so bad one and disagreement, No.
Speaker 4: A disagreement.
Speaker 1: You saved the silent treatment.
Speaker 3: For big things.
Speaker 4: Yeah, big things.
Speaker 1: It has to be like like big things. It can't
Speaker 1: be just like every little fight is a sun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you didn't hook up the internet in the
Speaker 3: other room.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's no. I always say pick your battles
Speaker 1: when it comes to relationships, especially men. You just gotta
Speaker 1: pick your battles and you got to pat them on
Speaker 1: the back.
Speaker 2: The legendary though, Yeah.
Speaker 1: It was he he screwed up really bad. So yeah,
Speaker 1: that wasn't more of a solid treamer. That was like,
Speaker 1: we broke up, wake up, and I'm not talking to you.
Speaker 1: So I was like, there's no reconcilent, you know, recogiliation
Speaker 1: now that we're broken up, And then I don't want
Speaker 1: to even talk to you about it because we're done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I have a girlfriend. So if we both
Speaker 2: are like leaning into the silent treatment, it can get
Speaker 2: pretty quiet. But she's more of a communicator. She's kind
Speaker 2: of like Taanya in the sense that she's like, I
Speaker 2: want to talk it out, and I'm like, I.
Speaker 3: Want to communicate daily, Like I want to like talk
Speaker 3: about things daily, and to the point where like now
Speaker 3: it's a joke. I'll be like, so, what are you
Speaker 3: thinking about now? Oh? I keep driving? What do you
Speaker 3: think about now? What's on your mind?
Speaker 1: So so silence might be actually a treat for him.
Speaker 1: It'll be like, thank you.
Speaker 2: You won't even question it, He'll just thank God.
Speaker 3: I think it would really throw him, like he'd like,
Speaker 3: what is going exactly?
Speaker 1: It would be Yeah, imagine what he would be like,
Speaker 1: uh oh yeah I really messed up. Yeah, yeah, what happened.
Speaker 1: It has to be for something big camp. I'm going
Speaker 1: to put that in my back pocket. And I think
Speaker 1: y's for anybody, men or women or whatever. Like the
Speaker 1: silent treatment is like the worst one. Somebody just won't
Speaker 1: talk to you.
Speaker 2: I hate it's the worst. If Haley's silent, I'm like,
Speaker 2: because she's she likes to talk things out, so she
Speaker 2: goes silent. I'm like, oh no, like this is not good. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I like I pull out the silent treatment more often. Yeah,
Speaker 2: when I need.
Speaker 1: To vindictives, like I know where I know where to
Speaker 1: hit you where it hurts lady.
Speaker 4: I do.
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot. I really respect the like
Speaker 2: not sharing a relationship thing. But I've never heard someone
Speaker 2: say like I keep it to myself until we're married.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have never posted on maybe on a story
Speaker 1: might have said happy birthday, and even then I say
Speaker 1: it like in third person, like happy birthday to you.
Speaker 1: Liked if it was Tanya's birthday, I would post her
Speaker 1: and really happy birthday to you. You know I never
Speaker 1: I never no, no, no, like no, I'm not.
Speaker 3: Going to do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, both parts too, like he's public person person. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we just you know, we don't want to, you know,
Speaker 1: we just don't want anybody in our business because what
Speaker 1: if it doesn't work out. I mean like yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: like we were in that situation where you know, nope,
Speaker 1: didn't work out, nobody knew who I was dating or
Speaker 1: whatever like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there wasn't that public on top of the heartbreak.
Speaker 2: There wasn't the public pressure of like talking about it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't need that.
Speaker 1: Yeah then yeah, and I don't need to go deep
Speaker 1: dive into my Instagram and do all the.
Speaker 3: Why you would have Wow, Yeah, I'd have to have
Speaker 3: something to do it for me. Yeah, there's a way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I prefer not to, you know, but I
Speaker 1: love relationships stuff, like I love talking relationships stuff.
Speaker 4: It's it's great.
Speaker 3: But yeah, do you want to get married one day?
Speaker 3: Is that like something that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely. I'm more in the sense of I had
Speaker 1: to get married, but I don't have to be married
Speaker 1: the traditional way. I'd rather a spiritual, spiritual ceremony because
Speaker 1: I just feel like the business of marriage is what
Speaker 1: really breaks up a lot of marriages in the beginning.
Speaker 1: So it's like one of those if it ain't broke,
Speaker 1: don't fix it, don't fix it. But I just want
Speaker 1: the ring part of marriage.
Speaker 4: That's it.
Speaker 3: The ring.
Speaker 4: Yeah, just the ring.
Speaker 1: I just see the ring, because you know, it's like
Speaker 1: something for women for that piece of hardware to be
Speaker 1: on your finger, and it's like a like a I
Speaker 1: did it?
Speaker 2: Have you seen?
Speaker 3: You have to watch the Taylor, You have to watch
Speaker 3: this Taylor Thomlinson stand up comedy show because she talks
Speaker 3: about that like she's like women that are either like
Speaker 3: engage or marry, they walk around so like they're a target.
Speaker 3: Instead of saying, like, sir, where's the paper towels, she's like, sir,
Speaker 3: where's the paper towels? And she's like flailing her like
Speaker 3: engagement ring up in the air, and like there is
Speaker 3: there's this sense of like it wouldn't be so much
Speaker 3: of a like a flaunt moved. It's more of a like.
Speaker 1: One percent in a committed relationship. But now you know
Speaker 1: that it's here. Yeah I made that, And that ring
Speaker 1: has always signified Hey, she said she's a good girl.
Speaker 4: She's taken, you know, you know what I.
Speaker 1: Mean, Like she's don't mess with her, she's off limits.
Speaker 1: Although that sometimes it's more attractive to.
Speaker 4: Hey, you're taking, I'm taking.
Speaker 3: So this is just a fling. You know, don't worry.
Speaker 3: I won't call you tomorrow.
Speaker 4: It's okay.
Speaker 1: I understand you're with your husband or your wife. So
Speaker 1: it's like there's people like that, but I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: just the ring and we say are our spiritual you know,
Speaker 1: vows and promise not to sleep with anybody else. But
Speaker 1: just you and and that's it. I don't need the
Speaker 1: I don't need the government coming into my situation telling
Speaker 1: me how much taxes I gotta pay and who gets
Speaker 1: to claim the child if there is one. I'm good.
Speaker 3: I'm like, we'll figure that out on our own.
Speaker 2: We What you're saying is you need the rock.
Speaker 4: And it doesn't even have to be rock. It could
Speaker 4: be the pebble.
Speaker 1: Come on now, toime I was gonna say, like a
Speaker 1: nice gold band or something like that, was like, hebble,
Speaker 1: don't even then? Get me twenty two, twenty four carried,
Speaker 1: don't even worry about the pebble that you're gonna give
Speaker 1: me your man made diamond.
Speaker 3: Hell no, give me the whole school thing. Did you
Speaker 3: feel like it was hard to balance like personal life
Speaker 3: and career?
Speaker 4: Definitely?
Speaker 3: I found that to be a struggle.
Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1: It's more suftible now and you guys' generation and like
Speaker 1: now you can be in a relationship and be public
Speaker 1: with it and have a child. To heaven forbid, I
Speaker 1: was able to have a child in my thirties.
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me?
Speaker 3: Like that was really not an option? Hell no, because
Speaker 3: what it was it was considered like it was back
Speaker 3: then and the end of a career.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you could not be pregnant on air.
Speaker 4: You could not.
Speaker 3: I still think that people have that mentality though, that
Speaker 3: that having a baby means your career is over.
Speaker 4: Depends on the woman.
Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like in an executive producer standpoint, No,
Speaker 1: it's not that anymore. Now.
Speaker 4: It's welcome now.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, we could have the whole baby journey,
Speaker 1: throughout the whole entire thing. Now it's like more welcoming
Speaker 1: for mothers to be able to be in a public
Speaker 1: light and work on television and you know, keep their
Speaker 1: careers and still raise a family.
Speaker 4: At the same time.
Speaker 3: It's so messed up that that was such a thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I wish that.
Speaker 1: I wish that there was more information about freezing your
Speaker 1: eggs and there was more information about like when you
Speaker 1: want to make sure you take these certain precautions. When
Speaker 1: I first started television, freezing your eggs and doing all
Speaker 1: of that stuff wasn't talked about. I didn't even know
Speaker 1: that was an option, you know, I didn't know. I
Speaker 1: honestly did not know, Nor was anybody and in my
Speaker 1: community talking about that, nor women in my community talking
Speaker 1: about that too. So that's probably one of the biggest
Speaker 1: regrets because I didn't have a child or one. I
Speaker 1: wasn't in a committed relationship like that too have one,
Speaker 1: but two, I chose my career. So now I'm forty
Speaker 1: one and I'm like, damn, I want to leave all
Speaker 1: these shoes too, and.
Speaker 4: These bags I've accumulated.
Speaker 1: It's stuff at the end of the day. But it's
Speaker 1: like your family inheritance, jewels or anything like that that
Speaker 1: you want to leave to somebody special. It's like, gosh,
Speaker 1: damn it, I gotta get on.
Speaker 4: The ball now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can still have a baby.
Speaker 4: I still have a baby.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but it's more pressure now, you know, it's
Speaker 1: definitely more pressure.
Speaker 2: Now there is a lot more conversation around this, so
Speaker 2: that there's ever been before where it's like comfortable talking
Speaker 2: about hey, like, hey, I want to I do want
Speaker 2: to focus on my career and maybe eventually I want
Speaker 2: the option of a child exactly. But so I am
Speaker 2: glad that people are talking about it more. But you can,
Speaker 2: I mean, you have you considered freezing your eggs?
Speaker 1: So I literally am in this this situation now where
Speaker 1: my doctor told me, sure you could freeze them, but
Speaker 1: the quality of them, you know, when you go to
Speaker 1: try to you know, match the egg with the sperm
Speaker 1: or whatever, they're not great. So the quality like you
Speaker 1: won't know if you got to get a.
Speaker 3: Good right, Like they say it's better for you to
Speaker 3: just try it naturally versus taking them out.
Speaker 1: And they say try naturally or just have an embryo,
Speaker 1: you know, like literally put all your eggs in one basket.
Speaker 4: So like imagine that, you know.
Speaker 1: We need we need the rock, which I mean, it
Speaker 1: is what it is. But it's for any woman that's
Speaker 1: in that in that position, you know, or anybody that's
Speaker 1: listening right now that's in their early thirties, go freeze
Speaker 1: your eggs. Please, if you're undecided, you don't know, do
Speaker 1: not wait until your late thirties and forty to try
Speaker 1: to go freezing egg because it's just going to be harder.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be harder. It's gonna be harder. Like she
Speaker 1: straight up told me. She was, like, anybody will freeze
Speaker 1: your eggs, but nobody's going to tell you the truth
Speaker 1: about your quality of your eggs. And if by the
Speaker 1: time you go to defrost them and put some you know,
Speaker 1: match it with a sperm. If it's even gonna be
Speaker 1: good or not good, you go ahead and freeze them,
Speaker 1: but you don't know if you're gonna have a healthy
Speaker 1: egg or healthy embryo from that. My option right now
Speaker 1: would be to match an egg with a sperm and
Speaker 1: have healthy embryos on hold until I'm ready.
Speaker 4: To child, or have a child naturally, try to have
Speaker 4: a child.
Speaker 3: Oh, I see you're saying, so at this point, freezing
Speaker 3: your eggs is not the best option. Freezing embryos is,
Speaker 3: got it?
Speaker 1: Got it?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's interesting because I always like ton enough
Speaker 3: toggles the right word, but I always go back and
Speaker 3: forth with it because I have not frozen any eggs.
Speaker 3: How old thirty five go?
Speaker 1: Do it? Well?
Speaker 3: My doctor I went and saw somebody and he like
Speaker 3: looked at all my stuff and said that I have
Speaker 3: a lot of viable eggs, and so he said, if
Speaker 3: I have a baby naturally by thirty seven, I should
Speaker 3: be You know, they can't guarantee anything, but in my mind,
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm just gonna do it as it comes,
Speaker 3: because I want to try naturally. But I'm like, now
Speaker 3: it's getting later and later, Like I'm gonna be thirty
Speaker 3: six soon. I'm like, at what point do I just like, So.
Speaker 1: I went when I was thirty eight, I went to
Speaker 1: the fertility clinic and I was still very, very fertile.
Speaker 1: I still had great follicles and everything like that. Two
Speaker 1: years later, I'm now back into the process and stuff
Speaker 1: because I didn't do it back then, which I should have,
Speaker 1: and it was one of my biggest regrets, not freezing
Speaker 1: at eggs. But two years later, I go back and
Speaker 1: my number has cut in half, and she's like, what
Speaker 1: has happened in the last two years that your numbers
Speaker 1: have gone down like this to where it's like, let's
Speaker 1: see how we can produce more follicles to get a
Speaker 1: healthy egg. And so in just two years it dropped
Speaker 1: and it's like.
Speaker 3: They say, what did you were experiencing more stress?
Speaker 1: I may it could be stress related, it could be
Speaker 1: I don't know, it could be anything. She didn't really
Speaker 1: give me an answer to why, but it was just
Speaker 1: the shocky, crass number, drastic drop. Sorry.
Speaker 4: So yeah, So that's why I say for.
Speaker 1: Anybody like, don't wait, like, don't wait, because literally your
Speaker 1: things can change with it. And I feel fine, I'm
Speaker 1: I look young, I feel fine. Everything I eat very healthy.
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, all of that stuff, all of
Speaker 1: the above, and then that so I was like that
Speaker 1: was like the biggest kick in the stomach of like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're not in your thirties anymore.
Speaker 4: You're not young, you know.
Speaker 1: Mother nature is like literally like figure it out. So
Speaker 1: that's why I say, don't wait. I mean, granted, I
Speaker 1: can still I can still have a child naturally. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's going to be more challenging to do that.
Speaker 1: You know, it's going to be Chinese herbal teas and
Speaker 1: acupuncture and all the all the stories that you hear.
Speaker 4: It's going to be all of that.
Speaker 1: So if if I would have had like a batch
Speaker 1: of eggs, you know on the side, I probably wouldn't
Speaker 1: be stressing as much about it. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think it's just having the security of like, hey,
Speaker 2: it's just security because I go back and forth if
Speaker 2: I even want kids. But it's like a lot of
Speaker 2: people say, I got to a certain point where I
Speaker 2: was like, wait, maybe I do want them, and then
Speaker 2: it was like I didn't do anything, you know, I
Speaker 2: set myself up for it. So I think that's great advice.
Speaker 1: And that was me too. I went back and forth.
Speaker 1: I was like, I wasn't really sure if I wanted
Speaker 1: a child. It's not until the last like two three
Speaker 1: years maybe I could say, like, I'm I'm older now
Speaker 1: and like I've done everything in my career that I
Speaker 1: wanted to do that I've wanted to do. I've been
Speaker 1: very successful. I want to be able to I do
Speaker 1: want a child. It's like and like I said to you,
Speaker 1: it's like you have that thought and you're like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I got all of this stuff.
Speaker 4: Where's the legacy going?
Speaker 1: Who am I going to pour into or who's going
Speaker 1: to benefit from all these things? You know that I've
Speaker 1: created and have set a foundation for. So that's what
Speaker 1: you start thinking about. If not Teddy is going to
Speaker 1: be one rich though in the San Fernanda Valley, he's
Speaker 1: gonna be loaded.
Speaker 4: He's going to be.
Speaker 2: Good, you know, just in a mansion with bags and
Speaker 2: back shoes.
Speaker 1: Said, he'll be able to chew up and say, you
Speaker 1: know whatever, Mom left me this. So that's all that's love. Yes,
Speaker 1: freeze ladies, go freezer aches, do it for yourself, don't
Speaker 1: do it?
Speaker 2: Wow? Yeah, Yeah, he's great.
Speaker 3: Nice spinning right now.
Speaker 4: That's like I said half more than half.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean my doctrine told my doctor told me
Speaker 3: that too, though, because I was thirty four when I
Speaker 3: got it all checked, and he said the thing about
Speaker 3: thirty seven, He said, the misconception women have is when
Speaker 3: they turn thirty that their eggs dropped drastically, and he
Speaker 3: said it doesn't happen until forty.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what happened. I turned forty. I
Speaker 1: turned forty.
Speaker 2: So then I was like, so, I literally I thought
Speaker 2: you were younger than me. I'm like, shuk right now
Speaker 2: when you said you were forty one, because when you
Speaker 2: were like, yeah, it's too late, I divere think if
Speaker 2: I could have done that my thirty th I was like, what, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, I started this business. I started in a business
Speaker 1: like at twenty. I was twenty years old when I
Speaker 1: started radio. And it's been a great ride this whole time,
Speaker 1: and still going.
Speaker 3: They'll go tacking new chapters, they'll ticking new adventures.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's the one thing I do regret. I
Speaker 1: regret not freezing my egges.
Speaker 2: I really appreciate it honesty, and I think that's I
Speaker 2: think a lot of people listening will be like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's the sign I needed to do it because I
Speaker 2: think a lot of people, especially now that people are
Speaker 2: able to talk about like or do I want kids,
Speaker 2: and they're they're comfortable enough to say, like, I don't
Speaker 2: know if that's what I want. It at least gives
Speaker 2: we have the science and the technology to have that
Speaker 2: safety now. So it's like, take advantage of it if
Speaker 2: you're able to.
Speaker 1: Again, Yeah, like I said, they were these conversations weren't
Speaker 1: being had when I was in my early thirties and
Speaker 1: stuff like that. Nobody told me go freeze my eggs.
Speaker 1: Everybody was like, go to this doctor to get your
Speaker 1: breast done. Go to this doctor, get whatever. She's like
Speaker 1: that that's the la go here for. Nobody said, no,
Speaker 1: freezer eggs raxy. Nobody said that. But I also didn't
Speaker 1: even know that was a thing. Like I didn't even
Speaker 1: know elite circle of white women that probably knew about this.
Speaker 1: And I'm not trying to be.
Speaker 4: Being funny, but I'm like being real too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it wasn't talked about, you know, it just wasn't
Speaker 1: even didn't even All I knew was IVF. That's all
Speaker 1: I never knew. I never knew about freezing eggs. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Ever, Yeah, it's just becoming a more popular conversation that
Speaker 2: people are.
Speaker 1: Glad it is. Yeah, for sure, glad it is, so ladies.
Speaker 2: Aside from freezing your eggs before we leave because I
Speaker 2: got to eat these benny eyes, what is there any
Speaker 2: piece of advice personal career that you got that you're like,
Speaker 2: I want to share that with everyone outside of freezing eggs.
Speaker 4: Outside of freezing eggs.
Speaker 1: I think that it's it's literally, whenever you go, whatever
Speaker 1: career you're in, whatever job you're working, you know, do
Speaker 1: wants others as you have done on to yourself, So
Speaker 1: you treat everybody with respect because legit, you never know
Speaker 1: who your next boss is going to be. You never
Speaker 1: know who's going to be in charge, or if you're
Speaker 1: in charge, you want to be that person that other
Speaker 1: people want to mimic and be like when they're in
Speaker 1: charge as well. So keeping great relationships have always been
Speaker 1: like a motto for me. I guess a lot of
Speaker 1: the gigs that I've gotten was literally through either relationship
Speaker 1: or a good reputation. I would say, you know, they're like,
Speaker 1: oh she's cool, she's easy to work with, and she's
Speaker 1: not gonna be a problem, you know. Yeah, so yeah,
Speaker 1: I would say I would say that, especially in this
Speaker 1: industry because you just never know who's going to be
Speaker 1: the next executive producer, executive programmer or whatever. You never know,
Speaker 1: or who's going to be the new talent. You just
Speaker 1: you just really never know. So it's kind of like,
Speaker 1: you know, be nice to everybody. Yeah, so golden rule literally,
Speaker 1: yeah night, because you just never know who who can
Speaker 1: hold your future next. Yeah, you know, so yeah, that
Speaker 1: would be my biggest advice. I love and.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy that you scrubbed in. I'm telling you
Speaker 2: before you scrubbed in, and I am a fan of you,
Speaker 2: and Tonya has been a fan of you for a
Speaker 2: long time.
Speaker 3: I'm I'm so happy that you came on. I'm I'm
Speaker 3: always I've admired you for a very long time and
Speaker 3: I'm always inspired by you. So I'm really glad that
Speaker 3: you got to share your story with the scrubber.
Speaker 4: Glad I came here.
Speaker 1: Thank you. It's about time you invited me to go
Speaker 1: waiting waiting to scrub in for a while now.
Speaker 4: She didn't want to invite me, fine.
Speaker 3: And we just set up for a plate like very soon.
Speaker 1: Oh, yes, that we do, because he's going to be
Speaker 1: coming back from Doggie Doggy boot Camp soon.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Hopefully he's a well mannered little boy.
Speaker 3: I know you mentioned it before, but where can everybody
Speaker 3: follow you.
Speaker 1: At roxy das literally across the board. I've been lucky
Speaker 1: to have the same handle for for all of them.
Speaker 3: Well, because your name is spelled r O c s.
Speaker 1: I y s r O c s I d I
Speaker 1: e Z Instagram, Twitter, Lemon eight.
Speaker 4: You're on there.
Speaker 3: I remember when I first got like paired when we
Speaker 3: were doing a far first show together. I was like,
Speaker 3: how do you pronounce her name?
Speaker 1: Row CC so many different I was like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: oh that's what it is. In retrospect, I probably should
Speaker 1: have spelled it easier.
Speaker 4: No, it's so good.
Speaker 2: It's yeah, I love it. I think it's really cool.
Speaker 2: Thank you for scrubbing it.
Speaker 4: Thank you guys, thanks for having me. I appreciate it.