WEBVTT - Rocsi Needs a Rock with Rocsi Diaz 0:00:00.800 --> 0:00:05.039 Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:12.160 Hello everybody, we are scrubbing. 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:16.799 In, Scrubbing It, And I'm really excited because today we 0:00:16.920 --> 0:00:19.400 have a guest on the show. And she is somebody 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:21.320 that I met when I was doing the e Red Carpets, 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:24.040 and I really don't know much about her story and 0:00:24.079 --> 0:00:26.520 where she came from, but I really love her and 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:28.480 I admire her, and so I'm really excited. She is 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:32.240 an Emmy winning television host, radio personality, and model. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.440 She was born in Honduras but moved with her family 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:38.720 to New Orleans, Louisiana. She's a fellow Louisiana girl. 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.040 She is best known from her time when she was 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:43.800 co hosting on be ET's music video countdown program, One 0:00:43.840 --> 0:00:47.280 of six and Park and she has also been a 0:00:47.280 --> 0:00:50.760 correspondent on Entertainment Tonight. She is currently a contributor for 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:52.519 GMA three. What you need to. 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:55.960 Know, please help us give a warm scrubbing in. Welcome 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:57.840 to Roxy DSA. 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.080 And she came in bringing beignets. 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:06.280 She is a Louisiana girl through and through and brought 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.679 us Beignet Box, which I think they're they're Louisiana owned 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:10.080 right so. 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:14.640 The owner in partnership with Christina Milian. They she is 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:18.640 a Louisiana girl, And they brought Vignet's too to La. 0:01:19.160 --> 0:01:22.520 They're delicious, very close to Cafe Dumont. 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.440 But you know they're they're they're really so sweet. 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:27.520 I don't know if we've had a guest bringing gifts 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:28.679 for us. Are you serious? 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:29.880 No, we're not. 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:35.600 Since the pandemic at. 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:36.920 Least, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:39.360 Well okay, yeah, we're like getting back into the groove 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:39.759 of it, you. 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:43.480 Know, Yeah, okay, Well, I'm glad to have started off 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:44.160 the trends of. 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:46.319 Gifts. 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:47.480 This is so roxy. 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:48.680 You did this. 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:51.960 Also, you got me I remember during award season you 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:55.160 got me that ted Lasso yes jersey. Yeah, I loved 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:57.440 ted Lasso so much. She got me a ted Lasso jersey. 0:01:57.520 --> 0:01:57.960 Remember this. 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:01.200 She also brought us all champagne one year for the Grammys, 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:04.360 Like shall we drink after broadcast? 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:09.359 Right after right after I was a celebration. Well, so 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.040 Tanya has been talking about you and like how much 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:13.520 she loves you for forever. 0:02:13.919 --> 0:02:15.880 I hope I live up to the expect you know 0:02:16.080 --> 0:02:16.799 you already are. 0:02:17.919 --> 0:02:20.519 Yeah, you brought gifts. You're good, you have nothing else 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:24.079 to prove there, Okay. But and then just randomly, we 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:26.240 were at the same event that just like lunch that 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:29.480 Alley put on and we were sitting across from each 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:32.560 other and I heard her speaking and say her name 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:34.959 and I was like, you know Tanya, right, and she 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:37.280 was like I love Tanya. She's like, I'm gonna be 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.400 on her podcast and I'm like, yeah, I am. 0:02:43.600 --> 0:02:45.760 I'm scup you guys, I got it. 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.720 I was like, does she have another podcast? We are 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:53.320 you talking about my book? I have no idea, And 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:56.400 then we discovered we're both from Louisiana. We really just 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:59.400 bonded over lunch and it was so unexpected but so 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:01.200 fun because I text a Tony after and I'm like 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:04.240 I got to meet Roxy weirdly, like right a perfect. 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.760 Timing, I know, perfect timing, And it was it was 0:03:06.800 --> 0:03:08.400 really cool because I was because then we were gonna 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:12.000 get Tania jealous of like, yeah, we became instantly, and 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:15.040 you know, but no, I would never You and I 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.360 are bonded doggy doggy for life. 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.720 Yeah, we're the bonded dog moms y, sure, bonded dog No, 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:23.840 but I really like I just I feel like and 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:25.919 I really want to get into your story just because 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:28.119 I feel like you're so good at what you do, 0:03:28.639 --> 0:03:31.520 but you're just such a good person. But like when 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:33.919 you're starting to do these red carpet shows and you're 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:35.560 kind of thrown into the mix with people that you've 0:03:35.560 --> 0:03:38.680 never met before, like I've had not so great experiences 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:40.600 and which I don't talk about because I don't want 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.480 to bad mouth anybody, but it makes me appreciate the 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:46.040 people like the Roxies of the world that really kind 0:03:46.040 --> 0:03:48.400 of like throw their arms around me and make me 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:52.280 feel welcome and like lift me up in all these situations. 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:55.520 And I felt that instantly from you. And you also 0:03:55.600 --> 0:03:57.880 have this confidence about yourself that. 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:00.760 Is it's called years in doing that for too long. 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.560 You don't think you want that when you were a kid. 0:04:07.880 --> 0:04:10.760 Strangely, I've never been asked a question before. I don't 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.520 I don't think it was something I ever thought of, 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:16.440 to be honest with you, like I'm I'm very secure 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:18.279 and knowing who I am and what I bring to 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:20.880 the table. If that's and that's I think that's something 0:04:20.920 --> 0:04:23.760 that I learned throughout the years. I don't know if 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:26.160 it was something of importance that I thought about as 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.640 a child. You know, I wasn't a confident student, Like 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:32.360 I wasn't confident in school or doing grades. But cheerleading 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:34.600 and soccer and sports and things that I knew I 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:36.240 was good at. I always nurtured that and I was 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:40.919 super confident in that, but confident in like the industry 0:04:41.680 --> 0:04:47.000 and today, Roxy Dias. That definitely took time in years 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:48.840 of knowing what you bring to the table. 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:54.200 At the end of the day, you're just staring at me, like, answer, you. 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:57.680 Moved from Honduras to Louisiana and that's when you were two, 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.240 and then were you raised there from then on? Yeah, 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:00.800 well we went. 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:01.960 We went back and forth. 0:05:02.040 --> 0:05:06.160 So summers were in Hunduras until I was about thirteen, 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:08.839 and then we did our school year here in the 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:12.640 United States. But I mean, if anybody were to ask me, 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:14.520 I was like, I grew up American at the end 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:16.640 of the day, right right, I don't know anything else 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:18.400 but New Orleans, Louisiana. 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:19.960 And then when you moved to LA. 0:05:20.120 --> 0:05:27.600 I didn't move to LA until twenty gosh, twenty twelve, 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:31.440 twenty thirteen, because I was in New York beforehand doing 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:32.240 one of six and Park. 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:35.200 So that's why don't know where you started doing your work. 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:39.200 Yeah, I started television in New York. One O six 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:43.000 in Park was my first gig on BT, which is 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.480 where a lot of my fan base knows me from, 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:49.760 like the foundation of my following. But I started my 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:53.360 radio career in Dallas, and then from Dallas, I went 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:55.680 to Boston and Boston and Chicago. You know, when you're 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:58.520 in radio, you just move around, you know, unless you're 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:01.480 lucky to just work the number one, number two market 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:04.679 like it's nothing, you know. I always tell her, I'm like, dude, 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:09.279 that's like, don't you go nowhere? But it's you know, 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:13.160 I did the whole radio radio tour, I guess you 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:16.599 would call it because at that time, as a radio personality, 0:06:16.720 --> 0:06:19.240 you just want to be in the bigger markets, and 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:20.760 my the biggest market. 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:20.920 Well. 0:06:20.920 --> 0:06:23.719 I had a syndicate a show before, but I was 0:06:23.720 --> 0:06:26.800 in Chicago. And then from Chicago, I went to New 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:29.360 York to start television. But I was already in radio 0:06:29.839 --> 0:06:31.760 before doing television. 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:34.200 When you got into radio, was there because I know 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:36.200 Tonya talked about when you first got into it, the 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:39.680 struggle was having people believe in her and believe in 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:42.680 like her having that position on the radio. What was 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:44.960 your struggle like getting into it? What were your like fu, 0:06:45.120 --> 0:06:47.360 what were your fights? 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:49.200 It wasn't I was. 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.600 It wasn't like I was like working at a radio stage, 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:53.760 because I started off on the street team, and so 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:56.200 from the street team, I was working the street team, 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:58.599 and then I was working with the program director very closely, 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.360 like kind of like assisting him, you know. And then 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:04.440 but also I was so enamored with the board and 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:06.800 coming into the studio. So then I would hang out 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:09.400 with the night jocks and go in there and like 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:12.000 learn how to run the board, learn how to like 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:15.080 input music, learn how to input my liners and everything 0:07:15.120 --> 0:07:17.160 like that. I was learning all of that. So all 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:20.040 of a sudden I become a board operator. And then 0:07:20.200 --> 0:07:23.960 the program director was literally like, I like your recipe voice. 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:26.880 I just want to hear you on air. And I 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:32.480 had then I was board opping from nine to like 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:34.720 one am or something like that while they were doing 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:37.200 live broadcasts at the club. So I'm board opping, but 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.560 like at two am or one am to like five 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:42.280 am or six am, whenever the morning people would actually 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:44.440 come in. It was like go ahead, crack the mic. 0:07:44.560 --> 0:07:45.600 Go try it. 0:07:45.720 --> 0:07:46.240 Just read the. 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:48.920 Liners, don't There's not much you could screw up at 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:52.360 that time. You know, nobody's really listening, so just go 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:52.880 for it. 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:54.600 And that's what I did. 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:59.040 I would practice on air, you know, and I was 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:01.440 lucky to have a program director that I just liked 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:04.360 my voice and wanted to hear me. And then there 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:06.440 was an opportunity that I opened up for a midday 0:08:06.440 --> 0:08:09.560 personality in Boston, and then they were like, go just 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:10.600 you know, try it. 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:11.560 You're gonna starve. 0:08:11.720 --> 0:08:14.680 Like I remember, I remember my mentor at the time 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:16.680 telling me, He's like, you're gonna eat pizza and you're 0:08:16.680 --> 0:08:17.480 gonna eat ramen. 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:18.760 You're going to starve. 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:21.360 I think I was making like forty thousand or fifty 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.680 thousand a year in Boston, so it's like I'm starving. 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:27.640 But I was at the number what was it at 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:29.640 the time. I think Boston might have been number seven 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:31.720 or number eight in the market and top ten, so. 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:32.840 It was starting off at top ten. 0:08:33.360 --> 0:08:36.000 You know. Dallas was already five or six at the time, 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:39.520 so I was within the top ten markets at still. 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:44.880 And so yeah, that's that's how it happened. Practice and 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:48.559 determination and just you know, I always tell everybody that 0:08:48.559 --> 0:08:51.720 I wants to get into radio or do this, start 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.319 by reading the liners for the station. Start by reading 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.520 the commercials that the disc jockeys feel like they got 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:58.720 to get paid to read. You read them for free, 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.840 and then you know the program director likes your voice. 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:05.319 Then you know, maybe you get a shot doing overnights 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:07.800 or something like that. That's that's where you can't just 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:11.120 jump in, you know, at a major time slot, it's 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:12.600 not going to happen. You got to you got to 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:15.600 earn your way up there. So unless you're like Tanya, 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:19.160 you're just part of the biggest grin because that. 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:21.120 Was behind the scenes of that show. So I wasn't 0:09:21.120 --> 0:09:24.200 on air with Ryan and till like four years, in 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:27.400 maybe five years even in with Ryan till I got 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:28.360 the on air position. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.920 Yeah it takes time. Yeah, it takes time. And most 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:33.000 people don't even get to stay where they start, Like 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:36.040 most people have to move go to to smaller, smaller 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:37.959 markets just to get your name and get your air 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:40.040 truck ready and get the chops and then you can 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:43.360 get to a bigger market. And you know, good luck 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:45.240 for those people that are going to be moving around 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:47.040 because they're not going to go anywhere anytime soon. 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:50.160 So radio's crazy wild. 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.840 But what I do like about radio is the dependent 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:55.920 and I told you this, the dependability and the stability 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:58.840 that if your market likes you and your audience likes you, 0:09:58.920 --> 0:10:01.680 and you keep those ratings and you can have a 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:05.000 very very long career, you know, in radio. 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:07.200 Right, because like the entertainment industry is very it's like 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:09.640 you never know, no, you never know. 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:15.080 I tell everybody, like the average the average lifespan for 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:19.760 a personality on television is three to four years. I 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:22.000 got we got Lucky at one O six and Park 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:24.040 and we were there seven and a half years. But 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:27.320 you know, like I can't even tell you the last 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.920 time that something like that study was ever presented to people. 0:10:31.120 --> 0:10:32.680 Yeah, we're now part of a series show. 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:34.480 When you got one of six in PARC, was that 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.200 kind of like your moment where you were like, was 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:39.920 that your first big paycheck, your first big role like 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:41.720 I made it definitely wasn't. 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:44.160 A big first paycheck, and then it definitely was like, 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:47.280 you know, oh, so this is what we're doing now. 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:53.480 You know. It was the definite the foundation to the 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.160 start of television career for me. But I would have 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:57.960 not got one of six in park if it was 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.959 not for radio, because the program director. 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:05.679 And they had a talent at the time. 0:11:05.920 --> 0:11:08.280 He came from a radio background and he was a 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:12.160 fan of radio personalities being on air personalities because they 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:14.320 knew timing, they knew how to read liners, they knew 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.359 how to transition into thoughts, they knew how to do interviews. 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:22.640 They just radio personalities have the foundations to become great 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:24.720 TV personalities. 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:24.800 At the end of the day. 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:26.800 So I always tell people, I was like, don't think 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:30.240 it's just jumping into television. And now like there's video 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.760 cameras everywhere in the radio stash. Yeah, not even not 0:11:32.960 --> 0:11:35.760 on camera, You're always on camera. Yeah, So radio was 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:37.679 like always a great place to start, you know. 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:41.800 Did you have like knowing that he was interested in you, 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.560 did you go through like the audition process, an interview 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:45.719 process still or did you. 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:47.600 Want to sit yeah? Oh no, no, no, yeah, yeah. 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:48.319 I came out. 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:51.160 I was like it was like a American idol caatele 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:54.360 caall line. You know, they were looking at like the 0:11:54.480 --> 0:11:56.480 first I don't know, I think it might have been 0:11:56.520 --> 0:12:00.320 like let's just say, first five hundred people on line 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:02.240 get to try out because it was like a new 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:04.160 it was a new face search. It was like mtvs 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:06.080 who want to be a VJ type of things. Yeah. Yeah, 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:09.200 So like those casting cattle call lines are literally sleeping 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:12.360 outside and at this time, it was Chicago in February 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:12.960 or March. 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:14.559 Nobody told BT was. 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:17.960 Gonna be freezing cold, you know, and but yeah, I 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.240 stayed outside and I just cared. I just wanted to 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.240 be one of the first one hundred, so I slept 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:25.200 overnight in the line. I was like number seventeen seventy nine. 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:26.480 I think I was number yeah. 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:27.680 Yeah. 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:31.120 So then what it got narrowed down to two from 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:33.000 the cattle call to two people. 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.439 Yeah, from over ten thousand people because there were those 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.439 people that had agents and stuff that also got it. 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:40.440 I got into, but over ten thousand people and then they. 0:12:40.400 --> 0:12:40.920 Just picked two. 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:42.359 That is amazing. 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:43.680 That's an ego boost. 0:12:43.760 --> 0:12:44.280 Yeah yeah. 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:48.400 Oh at the time, yeah, it definitely was it. But 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:50.560 this industry has a way of they can boost you 0:12:50.640 --> 0:12:52.120 up right now. 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:56.319 Yeah, yeah, I definitely could do that. But yeah, it 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.760 was It was great that the network at the time 0:12:58.840 --> 0:13:02.640 gave really new faces a shot, people with talent and 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:05.600 a shot. They picked They picked two of us to 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:08.320 host that show, but then they picked five for the 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:13.360 network to host other individuals shows too. So but the 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:16.560 you know, the big the big thing was was the 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:18.600 flagship show, and we didn't know that they were even 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:20.160 looking for talent for that show at all. 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:33.559 We had no clue. 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:39.760 I was curious because I remember when Tanya was when 0:13:39.840 --> 0:13:41.920 y'all first met. She came back and she was like, 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.640 there's this girl Roxy. She's amazing, and she like made 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:46.960 me feel so comfortable and she was like hyping me up. 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:49.600 And I'm curious if you ever had someone that was 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:53.440 like your Roxy when you went into like a job position. 0:13:53.880 --> 0:13:58.360 When I first took over one O six the Coast 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:04.400 before uh Free, she reached back to me and she 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:07.560 gave me, you know, she put her arm around me 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.040 and was like, this is what's gonna happen. You're about 0:14:10.080 --> 0:14:12.439 to be You're about to be thrown to the lions 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.560 because this is a big show and it comes with 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.280 a lot of publicity, and it comes with a lot 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:21.040 of eyes and things that are going to be thrown 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:24.040 at you. So she kind of gave she kind of 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:27.880 gave me the heads up. When I came to LA 0:14:28.520 --> 0:14:34.520 I had a phenomenal, phenomenal producer executive producer by the 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:39.200 name of Lynda Belle Blue and she is an iconic 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:42.040 woman to ever work with. And four when it comes 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:46.520 to entertainment news, she's just freaking bomb, Like, she's so awesome. 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:50.680 And it was funny because she's like that typical like 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:55.120 EP of a big show for entertainment tonight at the 0:14:55.120 --> 0:15:00.160 time and getting like a chiropractic work done, watching in 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:03.840 an office that's all glass and like everything. 0:15:03.840 --> 0:15:06.760 It just just wild. She was so great. 0:15:06.760 --> 0:15:08.640 But she really taught me in my red carpet chops. 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:10.680 She taught me what it was to expect, you know. 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:14.400 Et was was a great foundation for that too. So yeah, 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:18.720 but uh, other than that, you know, I've just been 0:15:18.760 --> 0:15:21.720 fortunate to work with some some pretty amazing people. Not 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:24.720 everybody is great, you know, not all of your EPs 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.480 are great. You know, not all your producers are great. 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:31.080 But I've been really fortunate to have been surrounded by 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:32.360 some really really cool people. 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:34.440 Yeah. I love that because I think it gives you 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:36.160 the spark to go, like, I want to do that 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:39.520 for other people who are coming into Yes, well. 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.800 I think what happens in our industry is that we 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:46.040 as females feel like we had like we're all competition 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:48.920 against each other, and that's really not the case, because 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:51.680 whatever's for you is going to be for you. It's 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:54.280 if it was just not meant for you, it's just not. 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:56.560 It doesn't mean that you're any less of a talent 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:58.960 or what any more of a talent or whatever is. 0:15:59.000 --> 0:16:00.920 You're just not what they were looking for, what they 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:04.280 were trying to do for that whatever job or situation 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:09.040 it was. And I think as people in this industry, 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:10.840 we just have to learn how to kind of get 0:16:10.840 --> 0:16:13.840 thick skin and not take things personally because it's not 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:17.120 it's not it's it's not up to you. You know, 0:16:17.200 --> 0:16:19.800 it makes no difference. It says nothing about who you 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:21.480 are and who your and what your talent is and 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:23.400 what you bring to the table. It just wasn't that 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:25.000 table for you to sit at, that's all. 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:26.520 Is that how you deal with rejection? 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:28.640 Yeah, that's how I have. 0:16:28.920 --> 0:16:31.320 That's how I've had to learn how to deal with rejection, 0:16:31.640 --> 0:16:34.040 like honestly, because it's just like okay, well, I mean 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:36.640 come on, like this this industry, you're gonna get told 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:40.080 no so many times before you get a yes, Like honestly, 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:43.760 and even with my resume, I still get hell of 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:45.960 a whole bunch of more no's than I get yes, 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:47.640 you know, because now it's like, oh, you got a 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:51.720 resume that's too much and you're overqualified. Only what the hell, like, 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:55.200 you know, what do you want me to do? So 0:16:55.200 --> 0:16:58.640 so yeah, it's it's kind of like you can't not 0:16:59.000 --> 0:17:02.400 you can only worry and take care of things that 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.600 you can control. The things that you cannot control. Why 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:09.240 are you going to go into this deep depression? And yeah, 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:12.840 it's like fuh sucks, you know, But at the same time, 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:13.640 it's like it's out. 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:14.040 Of your control. 0:17:14.160 --> 0:17:16.679 You can't you can't force anything that's not meant to be. 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:20.880 Only God has your plan and your destination of what 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:22.080 he has. 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:22.399 Planned for you. 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:26.240 Now, you could help that process by studying and crafting 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:29.679 your skills and surrounding yourself with people that are in 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:31.920 the same industry as what you want to be in or. 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:34.679 Or putting yourself that in that world. 0:17:34.720 --> 0:17:36.960 If you want to be a radio personality, then you start, 0:17:37.359 --> 0:17:38.359 you join the street team. 0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:39.240 You get to put in. 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:40.960 The door, you know, if you want to be a producer, 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:43.720 if you want to be in television, figure it out. 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:45.800 How do you get in there? Maybe it's scriptwriting, maybe 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:48.280 it's another way around. But I always think that it's 0:17:49.160 --> 0:17:51.320 better when you could be a self produced person anyway, 0:17:51.600 --> 0:17:53.879 because you bring more to to take. So yeah, but 0:17:54.200 --> 0:17:57.160 to answer your question, I cannot. I cannot stress out 0:17:57.160 --> 0:17:57.840 over things that I. 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:00.440 Cannot control now that it's something that we are very 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:05.280 different in. No, because I'm horrible with rejection and I 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:06.920 take it deeply personal. 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:09.400 Then I would tell you you're in the wrong business. Yeah, 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:11.200 I would tell you straight up you're in the wrong 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:14.159 business because you can't. You can't. I know it's easier 0:18:14.160 --> 0:18:18.000 said than done, but you can't do that to yourself 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:23.240 because if you're getting well in the industry, we get. 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:24.000 Knows all the time. 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:26.480 Yeah, like we get I told you this too before 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:30.080 on our off off Mike, you know, on off air. 0:18:30.400 --> 0:18:34.720 But you cannot because there's all Look, this happened to 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:37.240 me three times in my career. There's a new EP 0:18:37.440 --> 0:18:39.440 that comes and they fire everybody and they want their 0:18:39.480 --> 0:18:43.000 talent in. That's nothing against me, that's that's a new 0:18:43.040 --> 0:18:45.359 person that's in charge, that wants to put their mark 0:18:46.000 --> 0:18:48.960 and and they're people in and if they don't work out. 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:51.800 It's on them, you know what I'm saying. So it's 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:55.200 above me. I can't I can't control that, or I'm 0:18:55.200 --> 0:19:00.080 part of a show, and then the whole company switches into. 0:19:00.359 --> 0:19:01.840 Overnight there are a new format. 0:19:01.960 --> 0:19:05.080 You know, somebody, I can't control that, Like, that's something 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:07.679 that I cannot control. And if I don't get the 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:11.440 gig or if I don't get to do whatever interview 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:14.080 or something like that, it wasn't for me to do 0:19:14.359 --> 0:19:17.119 and it's not for me to like shut on the 0:19:17.160 --> 0:19:19.240 next person that did it. It was just meant for 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:22.120 them to be. That just means that there's another door 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:23.800 that's going to open for you. And I believe if 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:26.679 you don't hold heartedly believe that, then they're not going 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:28.720 to open for you because you're getting in your own 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:32.520 way by being pessimistic about it, saying, oh man, you know, 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:34.719 it never happens. I keep getting nose and stuff like that. 0:19:34.760 --> 0:19:36.840 You're putting their own energy out there, and then it's like, 0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:39.119 then you're gonna be known as a Debbie Downer in 0:19:39.119 --> 0:19:39.680 the industry. 0:19:39.920 --> 0:19:40.680 You don't want that. 0:19:40.800 --> 0:19:42.720 And trust me, I've talked to producers and I've talked 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:44.639 they'd be like oh she does this complain about not 0:19:44.680 --> 0:19:47.640 getting the job about you know, woe is me in life? 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:49.879 Nobody wants to be around that energy either, So and 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:52.680 I know you're not that energy because you're freaking sunshines 0:19:52.840 --> 0:19:56.919 and balloons and sunflowers. So yeah, no that's not you. 0:19:57.160 --> 0:20:00.439 But but I would say it to anybody. It was like, 0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:02.720 if you're not used to if you can't take no, 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:04.480 then you can't be in this business. 0:20:04.600 --> 0:20:05.760 Yeah at all. 0:20:06.400 --> 0:20:07.640 I've been doing this for a long time. 0:20:08.160 --> 0:20:10.760 I know, I feel like you have done so much? 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:13.520 Like what for you? What does the future look like? 0:20:13.520 --> 0:20:13.600 Like? 0:20:13.640 --> 0:20:15.040 What do you want? What is there more that you 0:20:15.040 --> 0:20:19.720 want to accomplish? Is there something that you haven't done yet? 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:23.800 I would like to sit in like a main chi. 0:20:23.880 --> 0:20:25.280 I would like to get back into radio. You and 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:29.880 I have talked about this, Yeah, but I think for 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:33.719 me what I have not done is like a panel 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:37.199 show like The View or like the Talk or something 0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:40.879 like that that's still topical trending topics, but that's also 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:43.720 political as well, because as you get older, you just 0:20:43.720 --> 0:20:46.680 start caring about different things, and my views have I've 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:50.159 transitioned into that and like a Good Morning America. So 0:20:50.560 --> 0:20:53.240 right now, I'm in the zeigeist of Good Morning America, 0:20:53.280 --> 0:20:55.840 and I'm super happy for any opportunity I get to 0:20:55.880 --> 0:20:57.280 work with them. But yeah, that's like. 0:20:57.880 --> 0:21:01.000 Your correspondent for for GMA three, I'm at contributor. 0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:05.000 Yeah, very very specific language, really very very specific. 0:21:05.000 --> 0:21:10.280 Contributor is different than what did I just say, corresponding correspondent? Yeah, yeah, 0:21:10.400 --> 0:21:14.439 very different really Yeah. Yeah, contributor means you pop in 0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:18.359 every once in a while, exactly correspondent's. 0:21:17.440 --> 0:21:18.280 You're a part of the team. 0:21:18.359 --> 0:21:20.600 Oh interesting, that. 0:21:20.640 --> 0:21:24.080 Means you got to secure a secure, secure situation. 0:21:24.080 --> 0:21:26.359 But aren't you on that path if they have you 0:21:26.400 --> 0:21:29.400 as a god willing Yeah, yeah, that's the plan. I mean, 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:31.119 that's what I would love. That's what I pray for 0:21:31.160 --> 0:21:33.320 every single day. Yeah, so you move back to New York. 0:21:34.640 --> 0:21:37.200 It would just depend on whatever whatever they need me 0:21:37.240 --> 0:21:38.120 to do at this point. 0:21:38.160 --> 0:21:38.719 That's another thing. 0:21:38.760 --> 0:21:40.800 You have to be open to change and open to 0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:42.840 I think there was only one time in my career 0:21:42.840 --> 0:21:44.600 where I actually put my foot down. I was like, no, 0:21:44.920 --> 0:21:47.159 I'm not going to move, you know, or I'm not 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:49.199 going to go do that. I'm sorry, it's just not 0:21:49.280 --> 0:21:53.520 for me. And good thing because that only lasted one season, 0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:57.000 Like something in my heart just knew that it wasn't 0:21:57.000 --> 0:21:59.280 for me. And imagine I would have picked up and 0:21:59.359 --> 0:22:02.600 left everything and went somewhere and then that show only 0:22:02.640 --> 0:22:03.880 lasted one season. 0:22:03.600 --> 0:22:05.320 And then I would show I'm not gonna say. 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:08.120 I do want to say. 0:22:08.280 --> 0:22:10.159 I want to know if you had let's say you 0:22:10.200 --> 0:22:11.760 had a show and you had a panel, and you 0:22:11.840 --> 0:22:14.760 had you and three other women, do you have people 0:22:14.800 --> 0:22:16.120 that you would want to be on there with. 0:22:17.720 --> 0:22:19.320 I like a diverse cast. 0:22:19.400 --> 0:22:24.360 Yeah, of course, different different viewpoints, certain people in particular. 0:22:24.600 --> 0:22:27.119 No I did. I don't have that, Like I just 0:22:27.280 --> 0:22:30.840 always know that a very diverse panel is and is 0:22:30.960 --> 0:22:35.840 always great because you just I would like to talk 0:22:35.960 --> 0:22:40.200 to uh, what I believe my audience is and what 0:22:40.240 --> 0:22:44.160 I believe like people my age and those that follow 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:47.520 me are into now because it's not it's not about 0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:50.120 I think the Breakfast Club does it so well that 0:22:50.200 --> 0:22:53.520 it's not just about your format anymore. It's about topics 0:22:53.560 --> 0:22:57.399 that actually are you know interesting too. Whoever your viewership is, 0:22:57.440 --> 0:22:59.200 you know, like stuff, So now you know you got 0:22:59.200 --> 0:23:02.760 them talking about finances now and talking about politics, and 0:23:03.320 --> 0:23:05.880 I mean you have like the craziest people that go 0:23:05.920 --> 0:23:08.240 onto that show now, So it's it's really cool. So 0:23:08.560 --> 0:23:11.639 I like broad topics but also things that people are 0:23:11.640 --> 0:23:14.920 gonna learn from I guess yeah and yeah. 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:16.760 And having like different viewpoints so it's not all just 0:23:16.800 --> 0:23:18.120 like everyone agreeing on the same. 0:23:17.920 --> 0:23:21.239 Thing, like similar to the view is like you know, 0:23:21.480 --> 0:23:23.760 you kind of you don't want everybody a way, Yeah, 0:23:23.760 --> 0:23:25.560 you don't want everybody to agree with each other all 0:23:25.600 --> 0:23:27.560 the time, but respectfully respectfully. 0:23:27.600 --> 0:23:30.199 Yeah, it's just having respectful dialogue, learning from each other 0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:33.480 if you can exactly. Yeah, you brought this up and 0:23:33.480 --> 0:23:36.000 then you just grazed over it that y'all have the 0:23:36.080 --> 0:23:39.800 same dog that are like distant siblings. 0:23:39.960 --> 0:23:41.359 There's a year apart. 0:23:41.480 --> 0:23:43.080 Yeah, they're a you're apart, Yeah. 0:23:43.080 --> 0:23:46.520 But the same parents. Yeah, just like but they haven't 0:23:46.560 --> 0:23:47.080 met yet. 0:23:47.320 --> 0:23:50.040 No, no, we have to make that happen. 0:23:50.040 --> 0:23:50.720 It has to happen. 0:23:50.760 --> 0:23:53.560 But I have to tell you, I I felt like 0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:56.120 last week, I felt like a horrible dog mom because 0:23:56.160 --> 0:23:59.800 I realized I think there's a fine line between socializing 0:24:00.119 --> 0:24:04.040 and traumatizing. Uhh, And I think I really wanted my 0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:06.119 dog to be socialized, and so I sent her on 0:24:06.200 --> 0:24:08.679 these like walks or hikes with all these other dogs. 0:24:10.040 --> 0:24:12.440 I think it was a bad call because now I 0:24:12.480 --> 0:24:14.880 took her to the dog park last week. I took 0:24:14.880 --> 0:24:17.200 her off her leash, and she literally would not leave 0:24:17.240 --> 0:24:18.840 our feet, like she would not go play with the 0:24:18.880 --> 0:24:20.680 other dog. She was like scared. And then this other 0:24:20.680 --> 0:24:22.679 dog came running up. These are friendly, friendly dogs. They 0:24:22.720 --> 0:24:24.040 were not trying to harm her, and she was like 0:24:24.080 --> 0:24:25.679 squealing like she was. So I was like, I have 0:24:25.680 --> 0:24:29.639 a little scaredy cat chicken dog, and I feel bad 0:24:29.800 --> 0:24:32.280 that I didn't like socialize her properly. I feel like 0:24:32.320 --> 0:24:34.159 I messed her up. So now I'm like committing to 0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:36.439 go four days a week to this dog park to 0:24:36.520 --> 0:24:39.080 get her like socialized. To be careful with dog parks 0:24:39.119 --> 0:24:42.160 though it's not so it's not a dog park. It's 0:24:42.200 --> 0:24:44.800 a park where the rangers leave it for and so 0:24:44.880 --> 0:24:46.560 people come bring their dogs at four o'clock. 0:24:47.040 --> 0:24:51.200 Okay, but still you gotta be careful with dogs that 0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:54.760 you don't know's. 0:24:53.520 --> 0:24:54.720 How to socialize them. 0:24:55.119 --> 0:24:57.760 I mean in small groups with small with other people 0:24:57.760 --> 0:25:00.080 that have dogs that you know who that dog is, 0:25:00.119 --> 0:25:03.040 and like you can socialize them that way, like how 0:25:03.080 --> 0:25:05.439 you did for a birthday right right, Like stuff like 0:25:05.440 --> 0:25:08.679 that yeah, like the one year old birthday that that 0:25:08.800 --> 0:25:09.639 human getting. 0:25:11.040 --> 0:25:14.679 For second. Yeah, but like I don't know. 0:25:14.720 --> 0:25:16.600 I just I hear so much about dog parks that 0:25:16.680 --> 0:25:17.920 it kind of scares me too. 0:25:19.320 --> 0:25:20.320 When I think about it. 0:25:20.440 --> 0:25:25.000 But but because Teddy's with a dog trainer, so they 0:25:25.040 --> 0:25:28.240 have he has dogs, so he's not socialized with big dogs, 0:25:28.240 --> 0:25:30.840 small dogs, like all sorts of dogs. So he plays 0:25:30.880 --> 0:25:34.119 well with other dogs. But I don't know if he's 0:25:34.119 --> 0:25:36.840 gonna just run off and like see another dog. Like 0:25:36.880 --> 0:25:38.199 you want them to be cool with dogs, but then 0:25:38.240 --> 0:25:40.320 you always want them to like to have safety. Yeah, 0:25:40.440 --> 0:25:44.400 respect safety, balance zone, and you can't force it. Like 0:25:44.640 --> 0:25:45.880 she may not be ready yet. 0:25:46.160 --> 0:25:49.000 Yeah, be like she's enjoying it more. We took her 0:25:49.000 --> 0:25:51.760 twice and she's like slowly starting to like yeah, play 0:25:52.119 --> 0:25:52.800 to it. Yeah. 0:25:52.880 --> 0:25:54.159 And then they got those places that you can go 0:25:54.240 --> 0:25:55.840 during the day and just take them and it's like 0:25:55.840 --> 0:25:56.880 a whole bunch of dogs that. 0:25:57.440 --> 0:25:59.359 Yeah those like it's like the Soho House for dogs 0:25:59.359 --> 0:25:59.760 pretty much. 0:26:00.040 --> 0:26:00.200 Yeah. 0:26:00.280 --> 0:26:02.520 Yeah, I haven't gone to any of those, but they 0:26:02.520 --> 0:26:03.280 seem amazing. 0:26:03.520 --> 0:26:04.680 Yeah, Teddy will be there. 0:26:04.920 --> 0:26:08.040 I'm like Teddy, Teddy, I walk around. 0:26:07.960 --> 0:26:09.040 I go around too many times. 0:26:09.080 --> 0:26:10.400 I was like, I don't know what I did getting 0:26:10.440 --> 0:26:14.480 another dog, but yeah, yeah. 0:26:13.680 --> 0:26:15.600 But it's the best thing in the whole horror is awesome. 0:26:15.720 --> 0:26:17.200 Yeah, he's pretty awesome. 0:26:31.840 --> 0:26:33.000 You're in a relationship. 0:26:33.680 --> 0:26:34.399 Uh yeah, do. 0:26:34.440 --> 0:26:38.120 You talk about that now? Okay, good talk, great talk, 0:26:38.480 --> 0:26:40.760 But you have a dog? What is that? 0:26:40.800 --> 0:26:44.080 A decision that you made early on? Always from day one. 0:26:44.160 --> 0:26:46.040 So the funny thing is and the beginning of my 0:26:46.119 --> 0:26:48.000 career because of the first show that I was on, 0:26:48.280 --> 0:26:51.080 we weren't allowed to have public relationships because we were 0:26:51.119 --> 0:26:53.840 on a show that like I mean think TRL like 0:26:54.080 --> 0:26:56.639 is like everybody either wants to be you or date you, 0:26:57.800 --> 0:26:58.680 so our. 0:26:58.600 --> 0:27:00.000 Relationships are cut private. 0:27:00.640 --> 0:27:02.920 And I guess that was just something that I picked 0:27:03.040 --> 0:27:06.560 up throughout the entire my entire career is like not 0:27:06.680 --> 0:27:09.560 everything is for everybody, even when it comes to social media. 0:27:09.720 --> 0:27:09.919 You know. 0:27:10.160 --> 0:27:13.800 I I've been in my relationship for a very long time, 0:27:14.600 --> 0:27:17.600 on and off, but it's always like one of those 0:27:17.640 --> 0:27:19.760 things that I've always kept for me because until he's 0:27:19.840 --> 0:27:22.400 my husband, or until there is a husband, then I'll 0:27:22.400 --> 0:27:25.280 be glad to divulge. And oh really, so that's kind 0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:28.080 of the line, yeah, because it's like before then, what 0:27:28.160 --> 0:27:33.159 is there to talk about, like honestly, like, oh, everybody's 0:27:33.160 --> 0:27:35.760 got boyfriends and everybody dates. Nothing is But when it's 0:27:35.840 --> 0:27:38.680 like written a meek and stuff like that, and it's 0:27:38.720 --> 0:27:41.359 like commitment now, it's like you really can't mess with mine, 0:27:41.920 --> 0:27:45.239 you know. But beforehand, I like, I cannot be that 0:27:45.280 --> 0:27:48.959 girl like you. You're great, You're a great girlfriend. There's 0:27:49.000 --> 0:27:52.200 no way in hell I would like put my guy 0:27:52.320 --> 0:27:55.119 up on social media and stuff like because then like 0:27:55.200 --> 0:27:57.439 all the nice things that he may do for me 0:27:57.520 --> 0:28:00.159 and stuff like that, girls see that and like, no 0:28:00.200 --> 0:28:02.680 way they're gonna be sliding into his DM said, thank god, 0:28:02.720 --> 0:28:05.480 he doesn't do his social media. So it's like, Nola, 0:28:05.920 --> 0:28:09.679 oh there's vultures out there. You're over here showing your 0:28:09.720 --> 0:28:11.399 mac and cook and he leaves. 0:28:11.119 --> 0:28:13.520 The Housebody said that to me too. They were like, 0:28:13.680 --> 0:28:16.320 you prop him up so much, like I want to 0:28:16.400 --> 0:28:19.040 date him. I was like, even I honestly didn't think 0:28:19.040 --> 0:28:19.680 of it that way. 0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:22.760 Yep, they're gonna want your guy. 0:28:24.359 --> 0:28:27.480 Beware dark very I don't. 0:28:27.560 --> 0:28:31.119 I just I just you know, as public figures, we 0:28:31.240 --> 0:28:35.880 give so much of ourselves to the world. The two 0:28:35.960 --> 0:28:37.919 things I keep very close to my chest or my 0:28:38.000 --> 0:28:41.520 family and because they didn't choose to be in the spotlight, right, 0:28:41.600 --> 0:28:45.200 I did, so my family and my relationship stuff like, 0:28:45.320 --> 0:28:47.920 I just keep it to myself. Now, if you ever, 0:28:48.040 --> 0:28:51.000 if you follow me at roxydias on Instagram and Twitter 0:28:51.160 --> 0:28:57.360 and all the other things. Lemonade the new think, uh, lemonade, lemonade? 0:28:57.720 --> 0:28:59.960 Yeah yeah, catcha up. 0:29:00.120 --> 0:29:02.360 Yeah, nobody's on it. 0:29:02.400 --> 0:29:03.640 Don't work, but nobody's doing it. 0:29:04.400 --> 0:29:06.600 But if you, if you ever see me go on 0:29:06.640 --> 0:29:08.680 a tangent of quotes and stuff like that. 0:29:09.120 --> 0:29:11.000 Means something is going on. 0:29:11.200 --> 0:29:13.840 Oh really, I don't know why. 0:29:15.480 --> 0:29:19.400 But other than that, yeah, wait, winter birthday, I'm a scorpio. 0:29:19.640 --> 0:29:21.440 Oh we talked about this me too. Wait did we 0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:21.960 talk about this? 0:29:22.160 --> 0:29:24.440 No, wait, the table talked about it, but I don't 0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:26.880 think we said that. We Winter birthday November seventeen. 0:29:26.960 --> 0:29:29.320 Okay, I'm October thirtieth, so I'm a scoring. I do 0:29:29.440 --> 0:29:30.600 the quotes like. 0:29:30.760 --> 0:29:33.680 Call females do the quotes every girl does. 0:29:34.000 --> 0:29:35.000 Only when you're dark. 0:29:35.960 --> 0:29:38.200 Yes, for me, it's only when when it's like. 0:29:38.200 --> 0:29:42.120 A certain rabbit hole contingency, like like when it's like 0:29:42.600 --> 0:29:44.480 you could do and all by yourself. 0:29:44.920 --> 0:29:45.560 That's usually. 0:29:45.760 --> 0:29:48.760 But all the uplifting quotes that's like genuinely like I 0:29:48.840 --> 0:29:51.600 do yeah, like I do that too, yeah yeah, No, 0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:52.400 when it's like. 0:29:52.560 --> 0:29:55.680 About your worth, yeah, the worth ones and like. 0:29:57.280 --> 0:30:00.320 Okay, so my best friend is also a scorpion and 0:30:00.360 --> 0:30:03.479 she does the same things when she's dark. That is 0:30:03.560 --> 0:30:04.200 so funny. 0:30:04.520 --> 0:30:06.080 I think it's a female thing, though I don't think 0:30:06.080 --> 0:30:07.479 it's just scorpios. 0:30:06.960 --> 0:30:09.520 I feel like that dark though. I think when we 0:30:09.960 --> 0:30:10.600 do have a. 0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:12.760 Very tendously did be kind of. 0:30:12.840 --> 0:30:15.480 Like, how can we sing in a sneaky way? 0:30:15.960 --> 0:30:18.480 Sing in a non Obviously it doesn't work for me 0:30:18.520 --> 0:30:20.200 because he doesn't have social media, so it's not like 0:30:21.000 --> 0:30:23.560 looking at it. He gets the silent treatment. For me. 0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:25.440 That's like the worst thing you could ever do to 0:30:25.600 --> 0:30:28.120 any guy. By the way, if there's any lady listening 0:30:28.120 --> 0:30:28.680 to you, is that. 0:30:28.720 --> 0:30:32.400 Really what I'm I'm the worst all talk. I just 0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:33.719 talk all day to him. I'm like, we should talk, 0:30:33.720 --> 0:30:35.240 we should talk, we should meaning we should talk. 0:30:35.320 --> 0:30:40.280 No, that's the silent treatment, the best thing you could do, 0:30:40.640 --> 0:30:43.040 telling you because when you're not talking to them, they 0:30:43.280 --> 0:30:45.920 drives them insane. With the one man in this room 0:30:46.360 --> 0:30:47.440 drives in insane. 0:30:48.040 --> 0:30:53.240 Why Allison doesn't talk, Yeah, that's spot on Yeah, yeah, crazy. 0:30:53.080 --> 0:30:55.080 Yeah, telling you I've never done that. 0:30:55.160 --> 0:30:55.840 All you do is. 0:30:55.840 --> 0:30:57.600 Talk and you want to talk. Now, imagine if you 0:30:57.720 --> 0:31:00.440 just go dead silent, and. 0:31:00.080 --> 0:31:01.640 Then what do you do when you're like eating dinner? 0:31:02.120 --> 0:31:05.720 You don't dinner like together, what I'm not talking to 0:31:05.800 --> 0:31:07.400 you dinner? 0:31:08.040 --> 0:31:10.000 So you're like mad, you're in a fight. 0:31:10.160 --> 0:31:13.240 Yeah, I like if it's like things hit the fan 0:31:13.360 --> 0:31:17.360 and you're like, you're not getting dinner, dinner, it's like 0:31:17.480 --> 0:31:22.200 soldier boys, No, no dinner, You're not You're not getting 0:31:22.200 --> 0:31:26.800 my presence at all. You get nada from me, no, 0:31:27.320 --> 0:31:29.640 especially dinner because and I throw down. So I'm a 0:31:29.720 --> 0:31:32.280 Louisiana girl, so you're not getting nothing. 0:31:33.000 --> 0:31:35.640 Oh my gosh, yeah no, no, I'm a bad fighter. 0:31:35.760 --> 0:31:37.320 I yeah, I can't do that. 0:31:37.400 --> 0:31:39.320 Last thing you want to do is talk when because 0:31:39.400 --> 0:31:41.360 they don't want to really talk, you got it. You 0:31:41.400 --> 0:31:44.000 do need a cool down period, which women were usually 0:31:44.000 --> 0:31:45.760 bad at because we really want to talk things out. 0:31:45.800 --> 0:31:48.320 But then after that cool down period, you know when 0:31:48.320 --> 0:31:50.720 it's time to actually talk with level heads. You can 0:31:50.720 --> 0:31:52.920 come together when you decide you're ready to speak. 0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:56.040 And how long can you not talk for? I'm curious. 0:31:56.080 --> 0:32:00.000 I did six months what I mean, he really messed up. 0:32:01.160 --> 0:32:03.920 He messed up, really made it really bad. 0:32:04.720 --> 0:32:06.880 Did you listen? Were you at the table when we. 0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:09.600 Were talking about all the like, I'm definitely not going 0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:12.320 to have that conversation on air, but yeah, we were 0:32:12.320 --> 0:32:16.480 all talking about different things that we think adored and no. 0:32:16.600 --> 0:32:18.880 Yeah, but what about like a typical fight, like a 0:32:19.120 --> 0:32:22.480 not so bad one and disagreement, No. 0:32:22.880 --> 0:32:23.520 A disagreement. 0:32:23.600 --> 0:32:25.800 You saved the silent treatment. 0:32:25.520 --> 0:32:27.560 For big things. 0:32:28.160 --> 0:32:29.880 Yeah, big things. 0:32:30.160 --> 0:32:33.080 It has to be like like big things. It can't 0:32:33.120 --> 0:32:35.120 be just like every little fight is a sun. 0:32:35.120 --> 0:32:37.360 Yeah, like you didn't hook up the internet in the 0:32:37.440 --> 0:32:37.880 other room. 0:32:37.960 --> 0:32:40.520 Yeah, no, that's no. I always say pick your battles 0:32:41.200 --> 0:32:44.040 when it comes to relationships, especially men. You just gotta 0:32:44.840 --> 0:32:46.680 pick your battles and you got to pat them on 0:32:46.720 --> 0:32:47.000 the back. 0:32:47.240 --> 0:32:50.440 The legendary though, Yeah. 0:32:50.200 --> 0:32:56.480 It was he he screwed up really bad. So yeah, 0:32:56.560 --> 0:32:58.320 that wasn't more of a solid treamer. That was like, 0:32:58.320 --> 0:33:02.479 we broke up, wake up, and I'm not talking to you. 0:33:02.520 --> 0:33:06.320 So I was like, there's no reconcilent, you know, recogiliation 0:33:06.480 --> 0:33:09.000 now that we're broken up, And then I don't want 0:33:09.000 --> 0:33:10.720 to even talk to you about it because we're done. 0:33:10.880 --> 0:33:14.120 Yeah, yeah, I have a girlfriend. So if we both 0:33:14.120 --> 0:33:16.160 are like leaning into the silent treatment, it can get 0:33:16.200 --> 0:33:20.280 pretty quiet. But she's more of a communicator. She's kind 0:33:20.280 --> 0:33:21.720 of like Taanya in the sense that she's like, I 0:33:21.720 --> 0:33:24.440 want to talk it out, and I'm like, I. 0:33:24.360 --> 0:33:26.520 Want to communicate daily, Like I want to like talk 0:33:26.560 --> 0:33:28.719 about things daily, and to the point where like now 0:33:28.760 --> 0:33:30.520 it's a joke. I'll be like, so, what are you 0:33:30.560 --> 0:33:32.680 thinking about now? Oh? I keep driving? What do you 0:33:32.680 --> 0:33:35.040 think about now? What's on your mind? 0:33:35.240 --> 0:33:38.000 So so silence might be actually a treat for him. 0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:39.320 It'll be like, thank you. 0:33:39.480 --> 0:33:41.760 You won't even question it, He'll just thank God. 0:33:41.880 --> 0:33:43.680 I think it would really throw him, like he'd like, 0:33:43.880 --> 0:33:45.400 what is going exactly? 0:33:45.640 --> 0:33:48.160 It would be Yeah, imagine what he would be like, 0:33:48.640 --> 0:33:51.920 uh oh yeah I really messed up. Yeah, yeah, what happened. 0:33:51.960 --> 0:33:53.600 It has to be for something big camp. I'm going 0:33:53.600 --> 0:33:55.440 to put that in my back pocket. And I think 0:33:55.520 --> 0:33:58.160 y's for anybody, men or women or whatever. Like the 0:33:58.200 --> 0:34:00.400 silent treatment is like the worst one. Somebody just won't 0:34:00.440 --> 0:34:00.880 talk to you. 0:34:00.960 --> 0:34:03.600 I hate it's the worst. If Haley's silent, I'm like, 0:34:04.320 --> 0:34:06.720 because she's she likes to talk things out, so she 0:34:06.800 --> 0:34:10.480 goes silent. I'm like, oh no, like this is not good. Yeah, 0:34:10.520 --> 0:34:14.319 but I like I pull out the silent treatment more often. Yeah, 0:34:14.840 --> 0:34:15.480 when I need. 0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:22.160 To vindictives, like I know where I know where to 0:34:22.239 --> 0:34:24.680 hit you where it hurts lady. 0:34:26.200 --> 0:34:26.520 I do. 0:34:26.640 --> 0:34:28.960 I feel like a lot. I really respect the like 0:34:29.040 --> 0:34:31.520 not sharing a relationship thing. But I've never heard someone 0:34:31.600 --> 0:34:34.440 say like I keep it to myself until we're married. 0:34:34.719 --> 0:34:35.120 Yeah. 0:34:35.200 --> 0:34:37.680 Yeah, I have never posted on maybe on a story 0:34:37.840 --> 0:34:39.480 might have said happy birthday, and even then I say 0:34:39.520 --> 0:34:41.520 it like in third person, like happy birthday to you. 0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:46.080 Liked if it was Tanya's birthday, I would post her 0:34:46.080 --> 0:34:48.759 and really happy birthday to you. You know I never 0:34:49.800 --> 0:34:54.399 I never no, no, no, like no, I'm not. 0:34:54.360 --> 0:34:54.840 Going to do it. 0:34:55.480 --> 0:35:00.719 Yeah, both parts too, like he's public person person. Yeah, 0:35:00.760 --> 0:35:03.960 we just you know, we don't want to, you know, 0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:06.239 we just don't want anybody in our business because what 0:35:06.280 --> 0:35:08.759 if it doesn't work out. I mean like yeah, you know, 0:35:09.000 --> 0:35:11.960 like we were in that situation where you know, nope, 0:35:12.320 --> 0:35:15.080 didn't work out, nobody knew who I was dating or 0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:15.880 whatever like that. 0:35:16.000 --> 0:35:18.960 Yeah, there wasn't that public on top of the heartbreak. 0:35:19.000 --> 0:35:21.080 There wasn't the public pressure of like talking about it. 0:35:21.120 --> 0:35:21.960 Yeah, I don't need that. 0:35:22.160 --> 0:35:24.239 Yeah then yeah, and I don't need to go deep 0:35:24.280 --> 0:35:26.600 dive into my Instagram and do all the. 0:35:27.680 --> 0:35:31.239 Why you would have Wow, Yeah, I'd have to have 0:35:31.320 --> 0:35:33.479 something to do it for me. Yeah, there's a way. 0:35:34.000 --> 0:35:37.440 Yeah, So I prefer not to, you know, but I 0:35:37.480 --> 0:35:40.600 love relationships stuff, like I love talking relationships stuff. 0:35:40.640 --> 0:35:41.600 It's it's great. 0:35:41.719 --> 0:35:44.040 But yeah, do you want to get married one day? 0:35:44.120 --> 0:35:44.920 Is that like something that. 0:35:44.960 --> 0:35:49.759 Yeah, definitely. I'm more in the sense of I had 0:35:49.760 --> 0:35:51.440 to get married, but I don't have to be married 0:35:51.440 --> 0:35:58.160 the traditional way. I'd rather a spiritual, spiritual ceremony because 0:35:58.160 --> 0:36:00.279 I just feel like the business of marriage is what 0:36:00.360 --> 0:36:02.640 really breaks up a lot of marriages in the beginning. 0:36:02.840 --> 0:36:05.320 So it's like one of those if it ain't broke, 0:36:05.920 --> 0:36:09.280 don't fix it, don't fix it. But I just want 0:36:09.360 --> 0:36:11.080 the ring part of marriage. 0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:11.680 That's it. 0:36:11.880 --> 0:36:12.279 The ring. 0:36:12.440 --> 0:36:13.319 Yeah, just the ring. 0:36:17.880 --> 0:36:20.200 I just see the ring, because you know, it's like 0:36:20.320 --> 0:36:23.200 something for women for that piece of hardware to be 0:36:23.280 --> 0:36:27.240 on your finger, and it's like a like a I 0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:27.880 did it? 0:36:28.320 --> 0:36:28.880 Have you seen? 0:36:29.160 --> 0:36:31.200 You have to watch the Taylor, You have to watch 0:36:31.200 --> 0:36:34.000 this Taylor Thomlinson stand up comedy show because she talks 0:36:34.000 --> 0:36:36.319 about that like she's like women that are either like 0:36:36.360 --> 0:36:39.320 engage or marry, they walk around so like they're a target. 0:36:39.400 --> 0:36:43.520 Instead of saying, like, sir, where's the paper towels, she's like, sir, 0:36:44.239 --> 0:36:47.000 where's the paper towels? And she's like flailing her like 0:36:47.120 --> 0:36:49.440 engagement ring up in the air, and like there is 0:36:49.480 --> 0:36:52.000 there's this sense of like it wouldn't be so much 0:36:52.040 --> 0:36:54.520 of a like a flaunt moved. It's more of a like. 0:36:56.400 --> 0:36:58.920 One percent in a committed relationship. But now you know 0:36:59.239 --> 0:37:02.439 that it's here. Yeah I made that, And that ring 0:37:02.520 --> 0:37:05.719 has always signified Hey, she said she's a good girl. 0:37:05.880 --> 0:37:07.839 She's taken, you know, you know what I. 0:37:07.760 --> 0:37:11.320 Mean, Like she's don't mess with her, she's off limits. 0:37:11.360 --> 0:37:15.160 Although that sometimes it's more attractive to. 0:37:14.800 --> 0:37:16.399 Hey, you're taking, I'm taking. 0:37:16.440 --> 0:37:20.399 So this is just a fling. You know, don't worry. 0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:21.400 I won't call you tomorrow. 0:37:21.440 --> 0:37:21.839 It's okay. 0:37:21.920 --> 0:37:24.000 I understand you're with your husband or your wife. So 0:37:24.400 --> 0:37:27.399 it's like there's people like that, but I don't know. Yeah, 0:37:27.600 --> 0:37:31.960 just the ring and we say are our spiritual you know, 0:37:33.120 --> 0:37:35.759 vows and promise not to sleep with anybody else. But 0:37:35.920 --> 0:37:38.120 just you and and that's it. I don't need the 0:37:38.719 --> 0:37:42.880 I don't need the government coming into my situation telling 0:37:42.920 --> 0:37:45.359 me how much taxes I gotta pay and who gets 0:37:45.400 --> 0:37:47.879 to claim the child if there is one. I'm good. 0:37:47.920 --> 0:37:49.520 I'm like, we'll figure that out on our own. 0:37:50.000 --> 0:37:52.239 We What you're saying is you need the rock. 0:37:58.800 --> 0:38:00.439 And it doesn't even have to be rock. It could 0:38:00.440 --> 0:38:01.600 be the pebble. 0:38:02.320 --> 0:38:06.080 Come on now, toime I was gonna say, like a 0:38:06.200 --> 0:38:08.400 nice gold band or something like that, was like, hebble, 0:38:09.440 --> 0:38:12.960 don't even then? Get me twenty two, twenty four carried, 0:38:13.000 --> 0:38:16.000 don't even worry about the pebble that you're gonna give 0:38:16.080 --> 0:38:17.680 me your man made diamond. 0:38:17.800 --> 0:38:36.360 Hell no, give me the whole school thing. Did you 0:38:36.440 --> 0:38:39.719 feel like it was hard to balance like personal life 0:38:39.760 --> 0:38:40.400 and career? 0:38:40.640 --> 0:38:41.160 Definitely? 0:38:42.080 --> 0:38:44.200 I found that to be a struggle. 0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:45.160 Yeah, definitely. 0:38:45.320 --> 0:38:48.359 It's more suftible now and you guys' generation and like 0:38:48.920 --> 0:38:51.320 now you can be in a relationship and be public 0:38:51.400 --> 0:38:54.480 with it and have a child. To heaven forbid, I 0:38:54.560 --> 0:38:56.480 was able to have a child in my thirties. 0:38:56.239 --> 0:38:56.920 Are you kidding me? 0:38:57.040 --> 0:39:00.360 Like that was really not an option? Hell no, because 0:39:00.360 --> 0:39:03.319 what it was it was considered like it was back 0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:04.840 then and the end of a career. 0:39:05.040 --> 0:39:07.200 Yeah, you could not be pregnant on air. 0:39:07.440 --> 0:39:07.920 You could not. 0:39:08.719 --> 0:39:12.080 I still think that people have that mentality though, that 0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:14.920 that having a baby means your career is over. 0:39:15.560 --> 0:39:16.760 Depends on the woman. 0:39:17.080 --> 0:39:20.680 But I'm saying, like in an executive producer standpoint, No, 0:39:20.800 --> 0:39:21.960 it's not that anymore. Now. 0:39:22.000 --> 0:39:22.759 It's welcome now. 0:39:22.760 --> 0:39:24.360 It's like, oh, we could have the whole baby journey, 0:39:24.360 --> 0:39:27.120 throughout the whole entire thing. Now it's like more welcoming 0:39:27.200 --> 0:39:30.000 for mothers to be able to be in a public 0:39:30.080 --> 0:39:33.319 light and work on television and you know, keep their 0:39:33.360 --> 0:39:34.759 careers and still raise a family. 0:39:34.800 --> 0:39:35.319 At the same time. 0:39:35.360 --> 0:39:38.640 It's so messed up that that was such a thing. 0:39:38.920 --> 0:39:40.680 Yeah, yeah, I wish that. 0:39:42.440 --> 0:39:46.520 I wish that there was more information about freezing your 0:39:46.560 --> 0:39:51.000 eggs and there was more information about like when you 0:39:51.160 --> 0:39:54.839 want to make sure you take these certain precautions. When 0:39:54.880 --> 0:39:58.560 I first started television, freezing your eggs and doing all 0:39:58.600 --> 0:40:01.000 of that stuff wasn't talked about. I didn't even know 0:40:01.040 --> 0:40:02.960 that was an option, you know, I didn't know. I 0:40:03.040 --> 0:40:06.920 honestly did not know, Nor was anybody and in my 0:40:07.000 --> 0:40:09.800 community talking about that, nor women in my community talking 0:40:09.800 --> 0:40:13.360 about that too. So that's probably one of the biggest 0:40:13.360 --> 0:40:17.080 regrets because I didn't have a child or one. I 0:40:17.160 --> 0:40:19.480 wasn't in a committed relationship like that too have one, 0:40:19.520 --> 0:40:24.360 but two, I chose my career. So now I'm forty 0:40:24.400 --> 0:40:26.880 one and I'm like, damn, I want to leave all 0:40:26.880 --> 0:40:28.080 these shoes too, and. 0:40:28.239 --> 0:40:29.799 These bags I've accumulated. 0:40:29.800 --> 0:40:32.200 It's stuff at the end of the day. But it's 0:40:32.239 --> 0:40:35.960 like your family inheritance, jewels or anything like that that 0:40:36.040 --> 0:40:39.480 you want to leave to somebody special. It's like, gosh, 0:40:40.600 --> 0:40:42.440 damn it, I gotta get on. 0:40:42.400 --> 0:40:42.879 The ball now. 0:40:43.040 --> 0:40:44.320 Yeah, you can still have a baby. 0:40:44.400 --> 0:40:45.240 I still have a baby. 0:40:45.360 --> 0:40:48.879 Yeah, yeah, but it's more pressure now, you know, it's 0:40:49.040 --> 0:40:50.120 definitely more pressure. 0:40:50.120 --> 0:40:52.719 Now there is a lot more conversation around this, so 0:40:52.760 --> 0:40:55.239 that there's ever been before where it's like comfortable talking 0:40:55.280 --> 0:40:57.120 about hey, like, hey, I want to I do want 0:40:57.120 --> 0:40:59.359 to focus on my career and maybe eventually I want 0:40:59.400 --> 0:41:01.839 the option of a child exactly. But so I am 0:41:01.880 --> 0:41:03.640 glad that people are talking about it more. But you can, 0:41:03.719 --> 0:41:06.640 I mean, you have you considered freezing your eggs? 0:41:06.719 --> 0:41:10.320 So I literally am in this this situation now where 0:41:10.800 --> 0:41:13.040 my doctor told me, sure you could freeze them, but 0:41:13.080 --> 0:41:15.160 the quality of them, you know, when you go to 0:41:15.320 --> 0:41:19.000 try to you know, match the egg with the sperm 0:41:19.080 --> 0:41:23.160 or whatever, they're not great. So the quality like you 0:41:23.200 --> 0:41:24.520 won't know if you got to get a. 0:41:24.520 --> 0:41:26.560 Good right, Like they say it's better for you to 0:41:26.640 --> 0:41:28.839 just try it naturally versus taking them out. 0:41:28.880 --> 0:41:32.360 And they say try naturally or just have an embryo, 0:41:32.960 --> 0:41:36.880 you know, like literally put all your eggs in one basket. 0:41:37.040 --> 0:41:39.319 So like imagine that, you know. 0:41:39.400 --> 0:41:44.279 We need we need the rock, which I mean, it 0:41:44.360 --> 0:41:47.040 is what it is. But it's for any woman that's 0:41:47.040 --> 0:41:49.600 in that in that position, you know, or anybody that's 0:41:49.640 --> 0:41:52.320 listening right now that's in their early thirties, go freeze 0:41:52.320 --> 0:41:54.799 your eggs. Please, if you're undecided, you don't know, do 0:41:54.920 --> 0:41:57.399 not wait until your late thirties and forty to try 0:41:57.400 --> 0:41:59.680 to go freezing egg because it's just going to be harder. 0:42:00.200 --> 0:42:02.040 It's gonna be harder. It's gonna be harder. Like she 0:42:02.120 --> 0:42:05.000 straight up told me. She was, like, anybody will freeze 0:42:05.000 --> 0:42:06.600 your eggs, but nobody's going to tell you the truth 0:42:06.600 --> 0:42:08.759 about your quality of your eggs. And if by the 0:42:08.800 --> 0:42:11.560 time you go to defrost them and put some you know, 0:42:11.680 --> 0:42:13.920 match it with a sperm. If it's even gonna be 0:42:13.960 --> 0:42:16.000 good or not good, you go ahead and freeze them, 0:42:16.040 --> 0:42:17.680 but you don't know if you're gonna have a healthy 0:42:17.840 --> 0:42:22.040 egg or healthy embryo from that. My option right now 0:42:22.080 --> 0:42:24.440 would be to match an egg with a sperm and 0:42:24.840 --> 0:42:28.840 have healthy embryos on hold until I'm ready. 0:42:28.640 --> 0:42:31.719 To child, or have a child naturally, try to have 0:42:31.760 --> 0:42:32.040 a child. 0:42:32.200 --> 0:42:34.240 Oh, I see you're saying, so at this point, freezing 0:42:34.239 --> 0:42:36.960 your eggs is not the best option. Freezing embryos is, 0:42:37.560 --> 0:42:37.840 got it? 0:42:37.880 --> 0:42:38.080 Got it? 0:42:38.160 --> 0:42:38.319 Yeah? 0:42:38.360 --> 0:42:41.359 Yeah, So it's interesting because I always like ton enough 0:42:41.400 --> 0:42:43.239 toggles the right word, but I always go back and 0:42:43.280 --> 0:42:45.760 forth with it because I have not frozen any eggs. 0:42:46.680 --> 0:42:48.160 How old thirty five go? 0:42:48.200 --> 0:42:49.000 Do it? Well? 0:42:49.080 --> 0:42:51.840 My doctor I went and saw somebody and he like 0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:57.360 looked at all my stuff and said that I have 0:42:57.480 --> 0:43:01.759 a lot of viable eggs, and so he said, if 0:43:01.760 --> 0:43:04.080 I have a baby naturally by thirty seven, I should 0:43:04.120 --> 0:43:08.000 be You know, they can't guarantee anything, but in my mind, 0:43:08.040 --> 0:43:11.160 I was like, I'm just gonna do it as it comes, 0:43:11.239 --> 0:43:15.719 because I want to try naturally. But I'm like, now 0:43:15.760 --> 0:43:17.880 it's getting later and later, Like I'm gonna be thirty 0:43:17.880 --> 0:43:20.959 six soon. I'm like, at what point do I just like, So. 0:43:21.040 --> 0:43:24.279 I went when I was thirty eight, I went to 0:43:24.840 --> 0:43:29.000 the fertility clinic and I was still very, very fertile. 0:43:29.160 --> 0:43:32.359 I still had great follicles and everything like that. Two 0:43:32.480 --> 0:43:35.719 years later, I'm now back into the process and stuff 0:43:35.760 --> 0:43:37.360 because I didn't do it back then, which I should have, 0:43:37.360 --> 0:43:39.720 and it was one of my biggest regrets, not freezing 0:43:39.760 --> 0:43:41.719 at eggs. But two years later, I go back and 0:43:41.760 --> 0:43:43.759 my number has cut in half, and she's like, what 0:43:43.800 --> 0:43:46.680 has happened in the last two years that your numbers 0:43:46.719 --> 0:43:50.879 have gone down like this to where it's like, let's 0:43:50.880 --> 0:43:53.360 see how we can produce more follicles to get a 0:43:53.440 --> 0:43:57.000 healthy egg. And so in just two years it dropped 0:43:57.040 --> 0:43:57.600 and it's like. 0:43:57.640 --> 0:43:59.880 They say, what did you were experiencing more stress? 0:44:00.160 --> 0:44:02.200 I may it could be stress related, it could be 0:44:02.280 --> 0:44:03.680 I don't know, it could be anything. She didn't really 0:44:03.680 --> 0:44:05.719 give me an answer to why, but it was just 0:44:05.880 --> 0:44:08.480 the shocky, crass number, drastic drop. Sorry. 0:44:08.960 --> 0:44:11.759 So yeah, So that's why I say for. 0:44:11.760 --> 0:44:15.839 Anybody like, don't wait, like, don't wait, because literally your 0:44:15.840 --> 0:44:18.840 things can change with it. And I feel fine, I'm 0:44:19.400 --> 0:44:22.520 I look young, I feel fine. Everything I eat very healthy. 0:44:22.560 --> 0:44:24.520 I'm like, you know, all of that stuff, all of 0:44:24.560 --> 0:44:26.680 the above, and then that so I was like that 0:44:26.800 --> 0:44:30.399 was like the biggest kick in the stomach of like, oh, yeah, 0:44:30.440 --> 0:44:31.840 you're not in your thirties anymore. 0:44:31.840 --> 0:44:32.840 You're not young, you know. 0:44:33.680 --> 0:44:38.040 Mother nature is like literally like figure it out. So 0:44:38.080 --> 0:44:41.600 that's why I say, don't wait. I mean, granted, I 0:44:41.600 --> 0:44:44.040 can still I can still have a child naturally. Yeah, yeah, 0:44:44.080 --> 0:44:47.680 but it's going to be more challenging to do that. 0:44:47.840 --> 0:44:50.520 You know, it's going to be Chinese herbal teas and 0:44:50.640 --> 0:44:53.520 acupuncture and all the all the stories that you hear. 0:44:53.760 --> 0:44:54.799 It's going to be all of that. 0:44:55.120 --> 0:44:57.480 So if if I would have had like a batch 0:44:57.600 --> 0:45:00.800 of eggs, you know on the side, I probably wouldn't 0:45:00.800 --> 0:45:02.640 be stressing as much about it. Yeah. 0:45:02.680 --> 0:45:04.640 I think it's just having the security of like, hey, 0:45:04.800 --> 0:45:07.160 it's just security because I go back and forth if 0:45:07.160 --> 0:45:08.920 I even want kids. But it's like a lot of 0:45:08.920 --> 0:45:11.000 people say, I got to a certain point where I 0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:12.400 was like, wait, maybe I do want them, and then 0:45:12.400 --> 0:45:14.640 it was like I didn't do anything, you know, I 0:45:14.800 --> 0:45:18.720 set myself up for it. So I think that's great advice. 0:45:18.560 --> 0:45:20.040 And that was me too. I went back and forth. 0:45:20.080 --> 0:45:22.000 I was like, I wasn't really sure if I wanted 0:45:22.000 --> 0:45:26.000 a child. It's not until the last like two three 0:45:26.080 --> 0:45:29.600 years maybe I could say, like, I'm I'm older now 0:45:29.719 --> 0:45:32.120 and like I've done everything in my career that I 0:45:32.200 --> 0:45:34.080 wanted to do that I've wanted to do. I've been 0:45:34.160 --> 0:45:38.360 very successful. I want to be able to I do 0:45:38.480 --> 0:45:40.560 want a child. It's like and like I said to you, 0:45:40.640 --> 0:45:42.640 it's like you have that thought and you're like, oh 0:45:42.640 --> 0:45:44.200 my gosh, I got all of this stuff. 0:45:44.880 --> 0:45:46.440 Where's the legacy going? 0:45:46.600 --> 0:45:49.359 Who am I going to pour into or who's going 0:45:49.400 --> 0:45:52.879 to benefit from all these things? You know that I've 0:45:52.960 --> 0:45:55.719 created and have set a foundation for. So that's what 0:45:55.840 --> 0:45:58.640 you start thinking about. If not Teddy is going to 0:45:58.640 --> 0:46:05.040 be one rich though in the San Fernanda Valley, he's 0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:05.920 gonna be loaded. 0:46:06.040 --> 0:46:06.759 He's going to be. 0:46:06.640 --> 0:46:09.880 Good, you know, just in a mansion with bags and 0:46:10.440 --> 0:46:11.160 back shoes. 0:46:11.160 --> 0:46:13.080 Said, he'll be able to chew up and say, you 0:46:13.080 --> 0:46:17.839 know whatever, Mom left me this. So that's all that's love. Yes, 0:46:18.000 --> 0:46:21.120 freeze ladies, go freezer aches, do it for yourself, don't 0:46:21.120 --> 0:46:21.319 do it? 0:46:21.560 --> 0:46:22.799 Wow? Yeah, Yeah, he's great. 0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:24.440 Nice spinning right now. 0:46:25.239 --> 0:46:28.000 That's like I said half more than half. 0:46:28.520 --> 0:46:31.000 Yeah, I mean my doctrine told my doctor told me 0:46:31.040 --> 0:46:32.759 that too, though, because I was thirty four when I 0:46:32.800 --> 0:46:34.719 got it all checked, and he said the thing about 0:46:34.760 --> 0:46:37.960 thirty seven, He said, the misconception women have is when 0:46:37.960 --> 0:46:40.600 they turn thirty that their eggs dropped drastically, and he 0:46:40.600 --> 0:46:42.280 said it doesn't happen until forty. 0:46:43.160 --> 0:46:47.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what happened. I turned forty. I 0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:47.800 turned forty. 0:46:47.840 --> 0:46:50.440 So then I was like, so, I literally I thought 0:46:50.440 --> 0:46:52.399 you were younger than me. I'm like, shuk right now 0:46:52.600 --> 0:46:54.239 when you said you were forty one, because when you 0:46:54.280 --> 0:46:55.960 were like, yeah, it's too late, I divere think if 0:46:55.960 --> 0:46:59.200 I could have done that my thirty th I was like, what, Yeah. 0:46:58.840 --> 0:47:01.400 Well, I started this business. I started in a business 0:47:01.400 --> 0:47:04.799 like at twenty. I was twenty years old when I 0:47:04.800 --> 0:47:10.240 started radio. And it's been a great ride this whole time, 0:47:10.480 --> 0:47:11.200 and still going. 0:47:11.440 --> 0:47:14.840 They'll go tacking new chapters, they'll ticking new adventures. 0:47:14.960 --> 0:47:16.759 Yeah, but that's the one thing I do regret. I 0:47:16.800 --> 0:47:18.000 regret not freezing my egges. 0:47:18.800 --> 0:47:21.640 I really appreciate it honesty, and I think that's I 0:47:21.640 --> 0:47:23.879 think a lot of people listening will be like, oh, 0:47:23.960 --> 0:47:26.279 that's the sign I needed to do it because I 0:47:26.280 --> 0:47:28.480 think a lot of people, especially now that people are 0:47:28.520 --> 0:47:31.560 able to talk about like or do I want kids, 0:47:31.560 --> 0:47:34.680 and they're they're comfortable enough to say, like, I don't 0:47:34.719 --> 0:47:37.800 know if that's what I want. It at least gives 0:47:38.320 --> 0:47:42.120 we have the science and the technology to have that 0:47:42.280 --> 0:47:44.319 safety now. So it's like, take advantage of it if 0:47:44.320 --> 0:47:44.880 you're able to. 0:47:45.080 --> 0:47:47.480 Again, Yeah, like I said, they were these conversations weren't 0:47:47.480 --> 0:47:49.840 being had when I was in my early thirties and 0:47:49.840 --> 0:47:52.520 stuff like that. Nobody told me go freeze my eggs. 0:47:52.520 --> 0:47:54.680 Everybody was like, go to this doctor to get your 0:47:54.719 --> 0:47:57.680 breast done. Go to this doctor, get whatever. She's like 0:47:57.760 --> 0:48:01.480 that that's the la go here for. Nobody said, no, 0:48:01.600 --> 0:48:05.239 freezer eggs raxy. Nobody said that. But I also didn't 0:48:05.239 --> 0:48:07.120 even know that was a thing. Like I didn't even 0:48:07.120 --> 0:48:11.920 know elite circle of white women that probably knew about this. 0:48:12.000 --> 0:48:14.560 And I'm not trying to be. 0:48:13.840 --> 0:48:15.600 Being funny, but I'm like being real too. 0:48:16.000 --> 0:48:18.439 Yeah, it wasn't talked about, you know, it just wasn't 0:48:18.440 --> 0:48:20.799 even didn't even All I knew was IVF. That's all 0:48:20.800 --> 0:48:22.799 I never knew. I never knew about freezing eggs. Yeah. 0:48:22.920 --> 0:48:25.880 Ever, Yeah, it's just becoming a more popular conversation that 0:48:25.920 --> 0:48:26.399 people are. 0:48:26.280 --> 0:48:30.440 Glad it is. Yeah, for sure, glad it is, so ladies. 0:48:31.440 --> 0:48:35.719 Aside from freezing your eggs before we leave because I 0:48:35.719 --> 0:48:39.480 got to eat these benny eyes, what is there any 0:48:39.520 --> 0:48:42.600 piece of advice personal career that you got that you're like, 0:48:42.760 --> 0:48:45.760 I want to share that with everyone outside of freezing eggs. 0:48:45.600 --> 0:48:46.840 Outside of freezing eggs. 0:48:48.400 --> 0:48:54.640 I think that it's it's literally, whenever you go, whatever 0:48:54.840 --> 0:48:59.000 career you're in, whatever job you're working, you know, do 0:48:59.080 --> 0:49:01.040 wants others as you have done on to yourself, So 0:49:01.080 --> 0:49:04.000 you treat everybody with respect because legit, you never know 0:49:04.040 --> 0:49:06.400 who your next boss is going to be. You never 0:49:06.640 --> 0:49:09.839 know who's going to be in charge, or if you're 0:49:09.920 --> 0:49:12.759 in charge, you want to be that person that other 0:49:12.760 --> 0:49:15.000 people want to mimic and be like when they're in 0:49:15.120 --> 0:49:18.959 charge as well. So keeping great relationships have always been 0:49:19.680 --> 0:49:23.120 like a motto for me. I guess a lot of 0:49:23.160 --> 0:49:27.000 the gigs that I've gotten was literally through either relationship 0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:31.360 or a good reputation. I would say, you know, they're like, 0:49:31.360 --> 0:49:33.520 oh she's cool, she's easy to work with, and she's 0:49:33.520 --> 0:49:37.200 not gonna be a problem, you know. Yeah, so yeah, 0:49:37.239 --> 0:49:39.759 I would say I would say that, especially in this 0:49:39.880 --> 0:49:43.160 industry because you just never know who's going to be 0:49:43.200 --> 0:49:49.480 the next executive producer, executive programmer or whatever. You never know, 0:49:49.760 --> 0:49:51.719 or who's going to be the new talent. You just 0:49:52.040 --> 0:49:54.319 you just really never know. So it's kind of like, 0:49:55.320 --> 0:49:59.400 you know, be nice to everybody. Yeah, so golden rule literally, 0:49:59.640 --> 0:50:02.960 yeah night, because you just never know who who can 0:50:02.960 --> 0:50:06.080 hold your future next. Yeah, you know, so yeah, that 0:50:06.080 --> 0:50:08.759 would be my biggest advice. I love and. 0:50:12.840 --> 0:50:15.160 I'm so happy that you scrubbed in. I'm telling you 0:50:15.960 --> 0:50:20.880 before you scrubbed in, and I am a fan of you, 0:50:21.000 --> 0:50:22.360 and Tonya has been a fan of you for a 0:50:22.400 --> 0:50:22.799 long time. 0:50:22.960 --> 0:50:25.839 I'm I'm so happy that you came on. I'm I'm 0:50:25.880 --> 0:50:28.080 always I've admired you for a very long time and 0:50:28.080 --> 0:50:30.320 I'm always inspired by you. So I'm really glad that 0:50:30.320 --> 0:50:31.760 you got to share your story with the scrubber. 0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:32.680 Glad I came here. 0:50:32.880 --> 0:50:34.920 Thank you. It's about time you invited me to go 0:50:35.600 --> 0:50:38.680 waiting waiting to scrub in for a while now. 0:50:38.840 --> 0:50:41.440 She didn't want to invite me, fine. 0:50:41.560 --> 0:50:43.399 And we just set up for a plate like very soon. 0:50:43.480 --> 0:50:45.040 Oh, yes, that we do, because he's going to be 0:50:45.080 --> 0:50:47.680 coming back from Doggie Doggy boot Camp soon. 0:50:47.960 --> 0:50:48.280 Yeah. 0:50:48.480 --> 0:50:50.919 Hopefully he's a well mannered little boy. 0:50:51.000 --> 0:50:52.600 I know you mentioned it before, but where can everybody 0:50:52.640 --> 0:50:53.160 follow you. 0:50:53.200 --> 0:50:56.239 At roxy das literally across the board. I've been lucky 0:50:56.280 --> 0:50:58.680 to have the same handle for for all of them. 0:50:58.680 --> 0:51:01.680 Well, because your name is spelled r O c s. 0:51:01.600 --> 0:51:03.680 I y s r O c s I d I 0:51:03.760 --> 0:51:07.000 e Z Instagram, Twitter, Lemon eight. 0:51:07.120 --> 0:51:07.640 You're on there. 0:51:07.760 --> 0:51:09.880 I remember when I first got like paired when we 0:51:09.920 --> 0:51:11.600 were doing a far first show together. I was like, 0:51:11.800 --> 0:51:13.040 how do you pronounce her name? 0:51:13.840 --> 0:51:20.120 Row CC so many different I was like, oh, okay, 0:51:20.160 --> 0:51:22.759 oh that's what it is. In retrospect, I probably should 0:51:22.800 --> 0:51:24.280 have spelled it easier. 0:51:24.480 --> 0:51:25.359 No, it's so good. 0:51:25.360 --> 0:51:28.480 It's yeah, I love it. I think it's really cool. 0:51:29.880 --> 0:51:30.799 Thank you for scrubbing it. 0:51:30.920 --> 0:51:33.040 Thank you guys, thanks for having me. I appreciate it.