1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:05,039 Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rat An iHeartRadio podcast. 2 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing. 3 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:16,799 Speaker 3: In, Scrubbing It, And I'm really excited because today we 4 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 3: have a guest on the show. And she is somebody 5 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 3: that I met when I was doing the e Red Carpets, 6 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 3: and I really don't know much about her story and 7 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 3: where she came from, but I really love her and 8 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,480 Speaker 3: I admire her, and so I'm really excited. She is 9 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:32,240 Speaker 3: an Emmy winning television host, radio personality, and model. 10 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 2: She was born in Honduras but moved with her family 11 00:00:35,479 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 2: to New Orleans, Louisiana. She's a fellow Louisiana girl. 12 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 3: She is best known from her time when she was 13 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 3: co hosting on be ET's music video countdown program, One 14 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 3: of six and Park and she has also been a 15 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 3: correspondent on Entertainment Tonight. She is currently a contributor for 16 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:52,519 Speaker 3: GMA three. What you need to. 17 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 2: Know, please help us give a warm scrubbing in. Welcome 18 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 2: to Roxy DSA. 19 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 3: And she came in bringing beignets. 20 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 2: She is a Louisiana girl through and through and brought 21 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:09,679 Speaker 2: us Beignet Box, which I think they're they're Louisiana owned 22 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 2: right so. 23 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 1: The owner in partnership with Christina Milian. They she is 24 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:18,640 Speaker 1: a Louisiana girl, And they brought Vignet's too to La. 25 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 1: They're delicious, very close to Cafe Dumont. 26 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:25,440 Speaker 2: But you know they're they're they're really so sweet. 27 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 3: I don't know if we've had a guest bringing gifts 28 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 3: for us. Are you serious? 29 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 2: No, we're not. 30 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 3: Since the pandemic at. 31 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 2: Least, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 32 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 3: Well okay, yeah, we're like getting back into the groove 33 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:39,759 Speaker 3: of it, you. 34 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:43,480 Speaker 1: Know, Yeah, okay, Well, I'm glad to have started off 35 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: the trends of. 36 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 4: Gifts. 37 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 3: This is so roxy. 38 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 2: You did this. 39 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 3: Also, you got me I remember during award season you 40 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 3: got me that ted Lasso yes jersey. Yeah, I loved 41 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:57,440 Speaker 3: ted Lasso so much. She got me a ted Lasso jersey. 42 00:01:57,520 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 2: Remember this. 43 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 3: She also brought us all champagne one year for the Grammys, 44 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 3: Like shall we drink after broadcast? 45 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:09,359 Speaker 2: Right after right after I was a celebration. Well, so 46 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:12,040 Speaker 2: Tanya has been talking about you and like how much 47 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 2: she loves you for forever. 48 00:02:13,919 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 3: I hope I live up to the expect you know 49 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:16,799 Speaker 3: you already are. 50 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,519 Speaker 2: Yeah, you brought gifts. You're good, you have nothing else 51 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:24,079 Speaker 2: to prove there, Okay. But and then just randomly, we 52 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 2: were at the same event that just like lunch that 53 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 2: Alley put on and we were sitting across from each 54 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 2: other and I heard her speaking and say her name 55 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:34,959 Speaker 2: and I was like, you know Tanya, right, and she 56 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 2: was like I love Tanya. She's like, I'm gonna be 57 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 2: on her podcast and I'm like, yeah, I am. 58 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:45,760 Speaker 1: I'm scup you guys, I got it. 59 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 2: I was like, does she have another podcast? We are 60 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 2: you talking about my book? I have no idea, And 61 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 2: then we discovered we're both from Louisiana. We really just 62 00:02:56,440 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 2: bonded over lunch and it was so unexpected but so 63 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 2: fun because I text a Tony after and I'm like 64 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 2: I got to meet Roxy weirdly, like right a perfect. 65 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:06,760 Speaker 1: Timing, I know, perfect timing, And it was it was 66 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: really cool because I was because then we were gonna 67 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: get Tania jealous of like, yeah, we became instantly, and 68 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: you know, but no, I would never You and I 69 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:17,360 Speaker 1: are bonded doggy doggy for life. 70 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're the bonded dog moms y, sure, bonded dog No, 71 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 3: but I really like I just I feel like and 72 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 3: I really want to get into your story just because 73 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,119 Speaker 3: I feel like you're so good at what you do, 74 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 3: but you're just such a good person. But like when 75 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 3: you're starting to do these red carpet shows and you're 76 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 3: kind of thrown into the mix with people that you've 77 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 3: never met before, like I've had not so great experiences 78 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,600 Speaker 3: and which I don't talk about because I don't want 79 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 3: to bad mouth anybody, but it makes me appreciate the 80 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 3: people like the Roxies of the world that really kind 81 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:48,400 Speaker 3: of like throw their arms around me and make me 82 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 3: feel welcome and like lift me up in all these situations. 83 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 3: And I felt that instantly from you. And you also 84 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:57,880 Speaker 3: have this confidence about yourself that. 85 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 1: Is it's called years in doing that for too long. 86 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 3: You don't think you want that when you were a kid. 87 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: Strangely, I've never been asked a question before. I don't 88 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: I don't think it was something I ever thought of, 89 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: to be honest with you, like I'm I'm very secure 90 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:18,279 Speaker 1: and knowing who I am and what I bring to 91 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: the table. If that's and that's I think that's something 92 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 1: that I learned throughout the years. I don't know if 93 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 1: it was something of importance that I thought about as 94 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 1: a child. You know, I wasn't a confident student, Like 95 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:32,360 Speaker 1: I wasn't confident in school or doing grades. But cheerleading 96 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: and soccer and sports and things that I knew I 97 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 1: was good at. I always nurtured that and I was 98 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:40,919 Speaker 1: super confident in that, but confident in like the industry 99 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: and today, Roxy Dias. That definitely took time in years 100 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:48,840 Speaker 1: of knowing what you bring to the table. 101 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 4: At the end of the day, you're just staring at me, like, answer, you. 102 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:57,680 Speaker 3: Moved from Honduras to Louisiana and that's when you were two, 103 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 3: and then were you raised there from then on? Yeah, 104 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:00,800 Speaker 3: well we went. 105 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 4: We went back and forth. 106 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:06,160 Speaker 1: So summers were in Hunduras until I was about thirteen, 107 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: and then we did our school year here in the 108 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: United States. But I mean, if anybody were to ask me, 109 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: I was like, I grew up American at the end 110 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: of the day, right right, I don't know anything else 111 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: but New Orleans, Louisiana. 112 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 3: And then when you moved to LA. 113 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:27,600 Speaker 1: I didn't move to LA until twenty gosh, twenty twelve, 114 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: twenty thirteen, because I was in New York beforehand doing 115 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:32,240 Speaker 1: one of six and Park. 116 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:35,200 Speaker 3: So that's why don't know where you started doing your work. 117 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I started television in New York. One O six 118 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 1: in Park was my first gig on BT, which is 119 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:45,480 Speaker 1: where a lot of my fan base knows me from, 120 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: like the foundation of my following. But I started my 121 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 1: radio career in Dallas, and then from Dallas, I went 122 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: to Boston and Boston and Chicago. You know, when you're 123 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: in radio, you just move around, you know, unless you're 124 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: lucky to just work the number one, number two market 125 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:04,679 Speaker 1: like it's nothing, you know. I always tell her, I'm like, dude, 126 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 1: that's like, don't you go nowhere? But it's you know, 127 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:13,160 Speaker 1: I did the whole radio radio tour, I guess you 128 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:16,599 Speaker 1: would call it because at that time, as a radio personality, 129 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: you just want to be in the bigger markets, and 130 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:20,760 Speaker 1: my the biggest market. 131 00:06:20,800 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 2: Well. 132 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,719 Speaker 1: I had a syndicate a show before, but I was 133 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 1: in Chicago. And then from Chicago, I went to New 134 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 1: York to start television. But I was already in radio 135 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 1: before doing television. 136 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 2: When you got into radio, was there because I know 137 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 2: Tonya talked about when you first got into it, the 138 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 2: struggle was having people believe in her and believe in 139 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 2: like her having that position on the radio. What was 140 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 2: your struggle like getting into it? What were your like fu, 141 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 2: what were your fights? 142 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 3: It wasn't I was. 143 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: It wasn't like I was like working at a radio stage, 144 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: because I started off on the street team, and so 145 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: from the street team, I was working the street team, 146 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,599 Speaker 1: and then I was working with the program director very closely, 147 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 1: like kind of like assisting him, you know. And then 148 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:04,440 Speaker 1: but also I was so enamored with the board and 149 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: coming into the studio. So then I would hang out 150 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: with the night jocks and go in there and like 151 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: learn how to run the board, learn how to like 152 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: input music, learn how to input my liners and everything 153 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,160 Speaker 1: like that. I was learning all of that. So all 154 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: of a sudden I become a board operator. And then 155 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 1: the program director was literally like, I like your recipe voice. 156 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: I just want to hear you on air. And I 157 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 1: had then I was board opping from nine to like 158 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 1: one am or something like that while they were doing 159 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: live broadcasts at the club. So I'm board opping, but 160 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: like at two am or one am to like five 161 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 1: am or six am, whenever the morning people would actually 162 00:07:42,280 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: come in. It was like go ahead, crack the mic. 163 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 1: Go try it. 164 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 4: Just read the. 165 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:48,920 Speaker 1: Liners, don't There's not much you could screw up at 166 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: that time. You know, nobody's really listening, so just go 167 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: for it. 168 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 4: And that's what I did. 169 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: I would practice on air, you know, and I was 170 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 1: lucky to have a program director that I just liked 171 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: my voice and wanted to hear me. And then there 172 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: was an opportunity that I opened up for a midday 173 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: personality in Boston, and then they were like, go just 174 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: you know, try it. 175 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 4: You're gonna starve. 176 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: Like I remember, I remember my mentor at the time 177 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: telling me, He's like, you're gonna eat pizza and you're 178 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: gonna eat ramen. 179 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 4: You're going to starve. 180 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 1: I think I was making like forty thousand or fifty 181 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: thousand a year in Boston, so it's like I'm starving. 182 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: But I was at the number what was it at 183 00:08:27,640 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: the time. I think Boston might have been number seven 184 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: or number eight in the market and top ten, so. 185 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 4: It was starting off at top ten. 186 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: You know. Dallas was already five or six at the time, 187 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:39,520 Speaker 1: so I was within the top ten markets at still. 188 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: And so yeah, that's that's how it happened. Practice and 189 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:48,559 Speaker 1: determination and just you know, I always tell everybody that 190 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: I wants to get into radio or do this, start 191 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,319 Speaker 1: by reading the liners for the station. Start by reading 192 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:56,520 Speaker 1: the commercials that the disc jockeys feel like they got 193 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: to get paid to read. You read them for free, 194 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 1: and then you know the program director likes your voice. 195 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:05,319 Speaker 1: Then you know, maybe you get a shot doing overnights 196 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: or something like that. That's that's where you can't just 197 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 1: jump in, you know, at a major time slot, it's 198 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 1: not going to happen. You got to you got to 199 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: earn your way up there. So unless you're like Tanya, 200 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: you're just part of the biggest grin because that. 201 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 3: Was behind the scenes of that show. So I wasn't 202 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 3: on air with Ryan and till like four years, in 203 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 3: maybe five years even in with Ryan till I got 204 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 3: the on air position. 205 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: Yeah it takes time. Yeah, it takes time. And most 206 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: people don't even get to stay where they start, Like 207 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:36,040 Speaker 1: most people have to move go to to smaller, smaller 208 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:37,959 Speaker 1: markets just to get your name and get your air 209 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: truck ready and get the chops and then you can 210 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: get to a bigger market. And you know, good luck 211 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 1: for those people that are going to be moving around 212 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,040 Speaker 1: because they're not going to go anywhere anytime soon. 213 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 4: So radio's crazy wild. 214 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 1: But what I do like about radio is the dependent 215 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: and I told you this, the dependability and the stability 216 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 1: that if your market likes you and your audience likes you, 217 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:01,680 Speaker 1: and you keep those ratings and you can have a 218 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: very very long career, you know, in radio. 219 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:07,200 Speaker 3: Right, because like the entertainment industry is very it's like 220 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 3: you never know, no, you never know. 221 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:15,080 Speaker 1: I tell everybody, like the average the average lifespan for 222 00:10:15,559 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: a personality on television is three to four years. I 223 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: got we got Lucky at one O six and Park 224 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,040 Speaker 1: and we were there seven and a half years. But 225 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 1: you know, like I can't even tell you the last 226 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: time that something like that study was ever presented to people. 227 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:32,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, we're now part of a series show. 228 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 3: When you got one of six in PARC, was that 229 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 3: kind of like your moment where you were like, was 230 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 3: that your first big paycheck, your first big role like 231 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 3: I made it definitely wasn't. 232 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: A big first paycheck, and then it definitely was like, 233 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: you know, oh, so this is what we're doing now. 234 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: You know. It was the definite the foundation to the 235 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: start of television career for me. But I would have 236 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: not got one of six in park if it was 237 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:00,959 Speaker 1: not for radio, because the program director. 238 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,679 Speaker 4: And they had a talent at the time. 239 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 1: He came from a radio background and he was a 240 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: fan of radio personalities being on air personalities because they 241 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: knew timing, they knew how to read liners, they knew 242 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,359 Speaker 1: how to transition into thoughts, they knew how to do interviews. 243 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 1: They just radio personalities have the foundations to become great 244 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:24,720 Speaker 1: TV personalities. 245 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 4: At the end of the day. 246 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 1: So I always tell people, I was like, don't think 247 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 1: it's just jumping into television. And now like there's video 248 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: cameras everywhere in the radio stash. Yeah, not even not 249 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 1: on camera, You're always on camera. Yeah, So radio was 250 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 1: like always a great place to start, you know. 251 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 2: Did you have like knowing that he was interested in you, 252 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 2: did you go through like the audition process, an interview 253 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:45,719 Speaker 2: process still or did you. 254 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 4: Want to sit yeah? Oh no, no, no, yeah, yeah. 255 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:48,319 Speaker 4: I came out. 256 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 1: I was like it was like a American idol caatele 257 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 1: caall line. You know, they were looking at like the 258 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 1: first I don't know, I think it might have been 259 00:11:56,520 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 1: like let's just say, first five hundred people on line 260 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: get to try out because it was like a new 261 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 1: it was a new face search. It was like mtvs 262 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:06,080 Speaker 1: who want to be a VJ type of things. Yeah. Yeah, 263 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:09,200 Speaker 1: So like those casting cattle call lines are literally sleeping 264 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: outside and at this time, it was Chicago in February 265 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:12,960 Speaker 1: or March. 266 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:14,559 Speaker 4: Nobody told BT was. 267 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: Gonna be freezing cold, you know, and but yeah, I 268 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,240 Speaker 1: stayed outside and I just cared. I just wanted to 269 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 1: be one of the first one hundred, so I slept 270 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:25,200 Speaker 1: overnight in the line. I was like number seventeen seventy nine. 271 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 1: I think I was number yeah. 272 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:27,680 Speaker 4: Yeah. 273 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:31,120 Speaker 2: So then what it got narrowed down to two from 274 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 2: the cattle call to two people. 275 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:35,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, from over ten thousand people because there were those 276 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:37,439 Speaker 1: people that had agents and stuff that also got it. 277 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,440 Speaker 1: I got into, but over ten thousand people and then they. 278 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 4: Just picked two. 279 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:42,359 Speaker 2: That is amazing. 280 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:43,680 Speaker 3: That's an ego boost. 281 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. 282 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 3: Oh at the time, yeah, it definitely was it. But 283 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:50,560 Speaker 3: this industry has a way of they can boost you 284 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:52,120 Speaker 3: up right now. 285 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:56,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I definitely could do that. But yeah, it 286 00:12:56,360 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: was It was great that the network at the time 287 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 1: gave really new faces a shot, people with talent and 288 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: a shot. They picked They picked two of us to 289 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 1: host that show, but then they picked five for the 290 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:13,360 Speaker 1: network to host other individuals shows too. So but the 291 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:16,560 Speaker 1: you know, the big the big thing was was the 292 00:13:16,559 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: flagship show, and we didn't know that they were even 293 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: looking for talent for that show at all. 294 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:33,559 Speaker 4: We had no clue. 295 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 2: I was curious because I remember when Tanya was when 296 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:41,920 Speaker 2: y'all first met. She came back and she was like, 297 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 2: there's this girl Roxy. She's amazing, and she like made 298 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:46,960 Speaker 2: me feel so comfortable and she was like hyping me up. 299 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 2: And I'm curious if you ever had someone that was 300 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 2: like your Roxy when you went into like a job position. 301 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:58,360 Speaker 1: When I first took over one O six the Coast 302 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 1: before uh Free, she reached back to me and she 303 00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 1: gave me, you know, she put her arm around me 304 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: and was like, this is what's gonna happen. You're about 305 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:12,439 Speaker 1: to be You're about to be thrown to the lions 306 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:15,560 Speaker 1: because this is a big show and it comes with 307 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:18,280 Speaker 1: a lot of publicity, and it comes with a lot 308 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:21,040 Speaker 1: of eyes and things that are going to be thrown 309 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:24,040 Speaker 1: at you. So she kind of gave she kind of 310 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:27,880 Speaker 1: gave me the heads up. When I came to LA 311 00:14:28,520 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: I had a phenomenal, phenomenal producer executive producer by the 312 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: name of Lynda Belle Blue and she is an iconic 313 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 1: woman to ever work with. And four when it comes 314 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:46,520 Speaker 1: to entertainment news, she's just freaking bomb, Like, she's so awesome. 315 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 1: And it was funny because she's like that typical like 316 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:55,120 Speaker 1: EP of a big show for entertainment tonight at the 317 00:14:55,120 --> 00:15:00,160 Speaker 1: time and getting like a chiropractic work done, watching in 318 00:15:00,200 --> 00:15:03,840 Speaker 1: an office that's all glass and like everything. 319 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 4: It just just wild. She was so great. 320 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:08,640 Speaker 1: But she really taught me in my red carpet chops. 321 00:15:08,680 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 1: She taught me what it was to expect, you know. 322 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 1: Et was was a great foundation for that too. So yeah, 323 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: but uh, other than that, you know, I've just been 324 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 1: fortunate to work with some some pretty amazing people. Not 325 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 1: everybody is great, you know, not all of your EPs 326 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 1: are great. You know, not all your producers are great. 327 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:31,080 Speaker 1: But I've been really fortunate to have been surrounded by 328 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 1: some really really cool people. 329 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. I love that because I think it gives you 330 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 2: the spark to go, like, I want to do that 331 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 2: for other people who are coming into Yes, well. 332 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 1: I think what happens in our industry is that we 333 00:15:42,920 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 1: as females feel like we had like we're all competition 334 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: against each other, and that's really not the case, because 335 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: whatever's for you is going to be for you. It's 336 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:54,280 Speaker 1: if it was just not meant for you, it's just not. 337 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that you're any less of a talent 338 00:15:56,760 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 1: or what any more of a talent or whatever is. 339 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: You're just not what they were looking for, what they 340 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: were trying to do for that whatever job or situation 341 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 1: it was. And I think as people in this industry, 342 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:10,840 Speaker 1: we just have to learn how to kind of get 343 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: thick skin and not take things personally because it's not 344 00:16:14,040 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 1: it's not it's it's not up to you. You know, 345 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: it makes no difference. It says nothing about who you 346 00:16:19,840 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 1: are and who your and what your talent is and 347 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: what you bring to the table. It just wasn't that 348 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,000 Speaker 1: table for you to sit at, that's all. 349 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:26,520 Speaker 3: Is that how you deal with rejection? 350 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's how I have. 351 00:16:28,920 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: That's how I've had to learn how to deal with rejection, 352 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: like honestly, because it's just like okay, well, I mean 353 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:36,640 Speaker 1: come on, like this this industry, you're gonna get told 354 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 1: no so many times before you get a yes, Like honestly, 355 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 1: and even with my resume, I still get hell of 356 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:45,960 Speaker 1: a whole bunch of more no's than I get yes, 357 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: you know, because now it's like, oh, you got a 358 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 1: resume that's too much and you're overqualified. Only what the hell, like, 359 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 1: you know, what do you want me to do? So 360 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: so yeah, it's it's kind of like you can't not 361 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:02,400 Speaker 1: you can only worry and take care of things that 362 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:05,600 Speaker 1: you can control. The things that you cannot control. Why 363 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: are you going to go into this deep depression? And yeah, 364 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:12,840 Speaker 1: it's like fuh sucks, you know, But at the same time, 365 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 1: it's like it's out. 366 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 4: Of your control. 367 00:17:14,160 --> 00:17:16,679 Speaker 1: You can't you can't force anything that's not meant to be. 368 00:17:17,080 --> 00:17:20,880 Speaker 1: Only God has your plan and your destination of what 369 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 1: he has. 370 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:22,399 Speaker 4: Planned for you. 371 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:26,240 Speaker 1: Now, you could help that process by studying and crafting 372 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:29,679 Speaker 1: your skills and surrounding yourself with people that are in 373 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 1: the same industry as what you want to be in or. 374 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:34,679 Speaker 4: Or putting yourself that in that world. 375 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: If you want to be a radio personality, then you start, 376 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 1: you join the street team. 377 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:39,240 Speaker 4: You get to put in. 378 00:17:39,200 --> 00:17:40,960 Speaker 1: The door, you know, if you want to be a producer, 379 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:43,720 Speaker 1: if you want to be in television, figure it out. 380 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:45,800 Speaker 1: How do you get in there? Maybe it's scriptwriting, maybe 381 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:48,280 Speaker 1: it's another way around. But I always think that it's 382 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 1: better when you could be a self produced person anyway, 383 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:53,879 Speaker 1: because you bring more to to take. So yeah, but 384 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,160 Speaker 1: to answer your question, I cannot. I cannot stress out 385 00:17:57,160 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 1: over things that I. 386 00:17:57,800 --> 00:18:00,440 Speaker 3: Cannot control now that it's something that we are very 387 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 3: different in. No, because I'm horrible with rejection and I 388 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:06,920 Speaker 3: take it deeply personal. 389 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:09,400 Speaker 1: Then I would tell you you're in the wrong business. Yeah, 390 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:11,200 Speaker 1: I would tell you straight up you're in the wrong 391 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:14,159 Speaker 1: business because you can't. You can't. I know it's easier 392 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: said than done, but you can't do that to yourself 393 00:18:18,280 --> 00:18:23,240 Speaker 1: because if you're getting well in the industry, we get. 394 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:24,000 Speaker 4: Knows all the time. 395 00:18:24,119 --> 00:18:26,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, like we get I told you this too before 396 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: on our off off Mike, you know, on off air. 397 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 1: But you cannot because there's all Look, this happened to 398 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: me three times in my career. There's a new EP 399 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:39,440 Speaker 1: that comes and they fire everybody and they want their 400 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 1: talent in. That's nothing against me, that's that's a new 401 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 1: person that's in charge, that wants to put their mark 402 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,960 Speaker 1: and and they're people in and if they don't work out. 403 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:51,800 Speaker 1: It's on them, you know what I'm saying. So it's 404 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:55,200 Speaker 1: above me. I can't I can't control that, or I'm 405 00:18:55,200 --> 00:19:00,080 Speaker 1: part of a show, and then the whole company switches into. 406 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 3: Overnight there are a new format. 407 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 1: You know, somebody, I can't control that, Like, that's something 408 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:07,679 Speaker 1: that I cannot control. And if I don't get the 409 00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:11,440 Speaker 1: gig or if I don't get to do whatever interview 410 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:14,080 Speaker 1: or something like that, it wasn't for me to do 411 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:17,119 Speaker 1: and it's not for me to like shut on the 412 00:19:17,160 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: next person that did it. It was just meant for 413 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,120 Speaker 1: them to be. That just means that there's another door 414 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 1: that's going to open for you. And I believe if 415 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:26,679 Speaker 1: you don't hold heartedly believe that, then they're not going 416 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:28,720 Speaker 1: to open for you because you're getting in your own 417 00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 1: way by being pessimistic about it, saying, oh man, you know, 418 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:34,719 Speaker 1: it never happens. I keep getting nose and stuff like that. 419 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 1: You're putting their own energy out there, and then it's like, 420 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,119 Speaker 1: then you're gonna be known as a Debbie Downer in 421 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 1: the industry. 422 00:19:39,920 --> 00:19:40,680 Speaker 4: You don't want that. 423 00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:42,720 Speaker 1: And trust me, I've talked to producers and I've talked 424 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:44,639 Speaker 1: they'd be like oh she does this complain about not 425 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:47,640 Speaker 1: getting the job about you know, woe is me in life? 426 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:49,879 Speaker 1: Nobody wants to be around that energy either, So and 427 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:52,680 Speaker 1: I know you're not that energy because you're freaking sunshines 428 00:19:52,840 --> 00:19:56,919 Speaker 1: and balloons and sunflowers. So yeah, no that's not you. 429 00:19:57,160 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 1: But but I would say it to anybody. It was like, 430 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:02,720 Speaker 1: if you're not used to if you can't take no, 431 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:04,480 Speaker 1: then you can't be in this business. 432 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 3: Yeah at all. 433 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:07,640 Speaker 1: I've been doing this for a long time. 434 00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 3: I know, I feel like you have done so much? 435 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 3: Like what for you? What does the future look like? 436 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: Like? 437 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,040 Speaker 3: What do you want? What is there more that you 438 00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 3: want to accomplish? Is there something that you haven't done yet? 439 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:23,800 Speaker 1: I would like to sit in like a main chi. 440 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 1: I would like to get back into radio. You and 441 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:29,880 Speaker 1: I have talked about this, Yeah, but I think for 442 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:33,719 Speaker 1: me what I have not done is like a panel 443 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:37,199 Speaker 1: show like The View or like the Talk or something 444 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:40,879 Speaker 1: like that that's still topical trending topics, but that's also 445 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 1: political as well, because as you get older, you just 446 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: start caring about different things, and my views have I've 447 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:50,159 Speaker 1: transitioned into that and like a Good Morning America. So 448 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: right now, I'm in the zeigeist of Good Morning America, 449 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:55,840 Speaker 1: and I'm super happy for any opportunity I get to 450 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 1: work with them. But yeah, that's like. 451 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 3: Your correspondent for for GMA three, I'm at contributor. 452 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:05,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, very very specific language, really very very specific. 453 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:10,280 Speaker 3: Contributor is different than what did I just say, corresponding correspondent? Yeah, yeah, 454 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:14,439 Speaker 3: very different really Yeah. Yeah, contributor means you pop in 455 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:18,359 Speaker 3: every once in a while, exactly correspondent's. 456 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:18,280 Speaker 4: You're a part of the team. 457 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 3: Oh interesting, that. 458 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 1: Means you got to secure a secure, secure situation. 459 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 3: But aren't you on that path if they have you 460 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 3: as a god willing Yeah, yeah, that's the plan. I mean, 461 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:31,119 Speaker 3: that's what I would love. That's what I pray for 462 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 3: every single day. Yeah, so you move back to New York. 463 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 1: It would just depend on whatever whatever they need me 464 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:38,120 Speaker 1: to do at this point. 465 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:38,719 Speaker 3: That's another thing. 466 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: You have to be open to change and open to 467 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:42,840 Speaker 1: I think there was only one time in my career 468 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 1: where I actually put my foot down. I was like, no, 469 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,159 Speaker 1: I'm not going to move, you know, or I'm not 470 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:49,199 Speaker 1: going to go do that. I'm sorry, it's just not 471 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 1: for me. And good thing because that only lasted one season, 472 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 1: Like something in my heart just knew that it wasn't 473 00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 1: for me. And imagine I would have picked up and 474 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 1: left everything and went somewhere and then that show only 475 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:03,880 Speaker 1: lasted one season. 476 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 3: And then I would show I'm not gonna say. 477 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:08,120 Speaker 4: I do want to say. 478 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,159 Speaker 2: I want to know if you had let's say you 479 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 2: had a show and you had a panel, and you 480 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 2: had you and three other women, do you have people 481 00:22:14,800 --> 00:22:16,120 Speaker 2: that you would want to be on there with. 482 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 4: I like a diverse cast. 483 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:24,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, different different viewpoints, certain people in particular. 484 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,119 Speaker 1: No I did. I don't have that, Like I just 485 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 1: always know that a very diverse panel is and is 486 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:35,840 Speaker 1: always great because you just I would like to talk 487 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:40,200 Speaker 1: to uh, what I believe my audience is and what 488 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 1: I believe like people my age and those that follow 489 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 1: me are into now because it's not it's not about 490 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,120 Speaker 1: I think the Breakfast Club does it so well that 491 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 1: it's not just about your format anymore. It's about topics 492 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:57,399 Speaker 1: that actually are you know interesting too. Whoever your viewership is, 493 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 1: you know, like stuff, So now you know you got 494 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: them talking about finances now and talking about politics, and 495 00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:05,880 Speaker 1: I mean you have like the craziest people that go 496 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,240 Speaker 1: onto that show now, So it's it's really cool. So 497 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,639 Speaker 1: I like broad topics but also things that people are 498 00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:14,920 Speaker 1: gonna learn from I guess yeah and yeah. 499 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,760 Speaker 2: And having like different viewpoints so it's not all just 500 00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:18,120 Speaker 2: like everyone agreeing on the same. 501 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,239 Speaker 1: Thing, like similar to the view is like you know, 502 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:23,760 Speaker 1: you kind of you don't want everybody a way, Yeah, 503 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 1: you don't want everybody to agree with each other all 504 00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,560 Speaker 1: the time, but respectfully respectfully. 505 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just having respectful dialogue, learning from each other 506 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 2: if you can exactly. Yeah, you brought this up and 507 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 2: then you just grazed over it that y'all have the 508 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 2: same dog that are like distant siblings. 509 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:41,359 Speaker 4: There's a year apart. 510 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, they're a you're apart, Yeah. 511 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 2: But the same parents. Yeah, just like but they haven't 512 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 2: met yet. 513 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 1: No, no, we have to make that happen. 514 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:50,720 Speaker 4: It has to happen. 515 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 3: But I have to tell you, I I felt like 516 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,120 Speaker 3: last week, I felt like a horrible dog mom because 517 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 3: I realized I think there's a fine line between socializing 518 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 3: and traumatizing. Uhh, And I think I really wanted my 519 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,119 Speaker 3: dog to be socialized, and so I sent her on 520 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,679 Speaker 3: these like walks or hikes with all these other dogs. 521 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,440 Speaker 3: I think it was a bad call because now I 522 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,880 Speaker 3: took her to the dog park last week. I took 523 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,200 Speaker 3: her off her leash, and she literally would not leave 524 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:18,840 Speaker 3: our feet, like she would not go play with the 525 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 3: other dog. She was like scared. And then this other 526 00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:22,679 Speaker 3: dog came running up. These are friendly, friendly dogs. They 527 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:24,040 Speaker 3: were not trying to harm her, and she was like 528 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:25,679 Speaker 3: squealing like she was. So I was like, I have 529 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:29,639 Speaker 3: a little scaredy cat chicken dog, and I feel bad 530 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:32,280 Speaker 3: that I didn't like socialize her properly. I feel like 531 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:34,159 Speaker 3: I messed her up. So now I'm like committing to 532 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,439 Speaker 3: go four days a week to this dog park to 533 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 3: get her like socialized. To be careful with dog parks 534 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:42,160 Speaker 3: though it's not so it's not a dog park. It's 535 00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 3: a park where the rangers leave it for and so 536 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 3: people come bring their dogs at four o'clock. 537 00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:51,200 Speaker 1: Okay, but still you gotta be careful with dogs that 538 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,760 Speaker 1: you don't know's. 539 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 3: How to socialize them. 540 00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,760 Speaker 1: I mean in small groups with small with other people 541 00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,080 Speaker 1: that have dogs that you know who that dog is, 542 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:03,040 Speaker 1: and like you can socialize them that way, like how 543 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:05,439 Speaker 1: you did for a birthday right right, Like stuff like 544 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,679 Speaker 1: that yeah, like the one year old birthday that that 545 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:09,639 Speaker 1: human getting. 546 00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:14,679 Speaker 4: For second. Yeah, but like I don't know. 547 00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 1: I just I hear so much about dog parks that 548 00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 1: it kind of scares me too. 549 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:20,320 Speaker 4: When I think about it. 550 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:25,000 Speaker 1: But but because Teddy's with a dog trainer, so they 551 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,240 Speaker 1: have he has dogs, so he's not socialized with big dogs, 552 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 1: small dogs, like all sorts of dogs. So he plays 553 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:34,119 Speaker 1: well with other dogs. But I don't know if he's 554 00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 1: gonna just run off and like see another dog. Like 555 00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,199 Speaker 1: you want them to be cool with dogs, but then 556 00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 1: you always want them to like to have safety. Yeah, 557 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:44,400 Speaker 1: respect safety, balance zone, and you can't force it. Like 558 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:45,880 Speaker 1: she may not be ready yet. 559 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, be like she's enjoying it more. We took her 560 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 3: twice and she's like slowly starting to like yeah, play 561 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 3: to it. Yeah. 562 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:54,159 Speaker 1: And then they got those places that you can go 563 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:55,840 Speaker 1: during the day and just take them and it's like 564 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:56,880 Speaker 1: a whole bunch of dogs that. 565 00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,359 Speaker 3: Yeah those like it's like the Soho House for dogs 566 00:25:59,359 --> 00:25:59,760 Speaker 3: pretty much. 567 00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:00,200 Speaker 1: Yeah. 568 00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:02,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, I haven't gone to any of those, but they 569 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 3: seem amazing. 570 00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:04,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, Teddy will be there. 571 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:08,040 Speaker 1: I'm like Teddy, Teddy, I walk around. 572 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 4: I go around too many times. 573 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:10,400 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know what I did getting 574 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 1: another dog, but yeah, yeah. 575 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:15,600 Speaker 3: But it's the best thing in the whole horror is awesome. 576 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:17,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, he's pretty awesome. 577 00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 2: You're in a relationship. 578 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:34,399 Speaker 4: Uh yeah, do. 579 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,120 Speaker 2: You talk about that now? Okay, good talk, great talk, 580 00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:40,760 Speaker 2: But you have a dog? What is that? 581 00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:44,080 Speaker 3: A decision that you made early on? Always from day one. 582 00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,040 Speaker 1: So the funny thing is and the beginning of my 583 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,000 Speaker 1: career because of the first show that I was on, 584 00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:51,080 Speaker 1: we weren't allowed to have public relationships because we were 585 00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,840 Speaker 1: on a show that like I mean think TRL like 586 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,639 Speaker 1: is like everybody either wants to be you or date you, 587 00:26:57,800 --> 00:26:58,680 Speaker 1: so our. 588 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,000 Speaker 4: Relationships are cut private. 589 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:02,920 Speaker 1: And I guess that was just something that I picked 590 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 1: up throughout the entire my entire career is like not 591 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,560 Speaker 1: everything is for everybody, even when it comes to social media. 592 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:09,919 Speaker 2: You know. 593 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,800 Speaker 1: I I've been in my relationship for a very long time, 594 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: on and off, but it's always like one of those 595 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 1: things that I've always kept for me because until he's 596 00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,400 Speaker 1: my husband, or until there is a husband, then I'll 597 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 1: be glad to divulge. And oh really, so that's kind 598 00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:28,080 Speaker 1: of the line, yeah, because it's like before then, what 599 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:33,159 Speaker 1: is there to talk about, like honestly, like, oh, everybody's 600 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,760 Speaker 1: got boyfriends and everybody dates. Nothing is But when it's 601 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,680 Speaker 1: like written a meek and stuff like that, and it's 602 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: like commitment now, it's like you really can't mess with mine, 603 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:45,239 Speaker 1: you know. But beforehand, I like, I cannot be that 604 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,959 Speaker 1: girl like you. You're great, You're a great girlfriend. There's 605 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:52,200 Speaker 1: no way in hell I would like put my guy 606 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,119 Speaker 1: up on social media and stuff like because then like 607 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:57,439 Speaker 1: all the nice things that he may do for me 608 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,159 Speaker 1: and stuff like that, girls see that and like, no 609 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 1: way they're gonna be sliding into his DM said, thank god, 610 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:05,480 Speaker 1: he doesn't do his social media. So it's like, Nola, 611 00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:09,679 Speaker 1: oh there's vultures out there. You're over here showing your 612 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 1: mac and cook and he leaves. 613 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 3: The Housebody said that to me too. They were like, 614 00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,320 Speaker 3: you prop him up so much, like I want to 615 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 3: date him. I was like, even I honestly didn't think 616 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:19,680 Speaker 3: of it that way. 617 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,760 Speaker 1: Yep, they're gonna want your guy. 618 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 3: Beware dark very I don't. 619 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:31,119 Speaker 1: I just I just you know, as public figures, we 620 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:35,880 Speaker 1: give so much of ourselves to the world. The two 621 00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:37,919 Speaker 1: things I keep very close to my chest or my 622 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 1: family and because they didn't choose to be in the spotlight, right, 623 00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:45,200 Speaker 1: I did, so my family and my relationship stuff like, 624 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,920 Speaker 1: I just keep it to myself. Now, if you ever, 625 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 1: if you follow me at roxydias on Instagram and Twitter 626 00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:57,360 Speaker 1: and all the other things. Lemonade the new think, uh, lemonade, lemonade? 627 00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:59,960 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, catcha up. 628 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, nobody's on it. 629 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:03,640 Speaker 4: Don't work, but nobody's doing it. 630 00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: But if you, if you ever see me go on 631 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:08,680 Speaker 1: a tangent of quotes and stuff like that. 632 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 2: Means something is going on. 633 00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 4: Oh really, I don't know why. 634 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 1: But other than that, yeah, wait, winter birthday, I'm a scorpio. 635 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 2: Oh we talked about this me too. Wait did we 636 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:21,960 Speaker 2: talk about this? 637 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,440 Speaker 1: No, wait, the table talked about it, but I don't 638 00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:26,880 Speaker 1: think we said that. We Winter birthday November seventeen. 639 00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm October thirtieth, so I'm a scoring. I do 640 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 2: the quotes like. 641 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,680 Speaker 1: Call females do the quotes every girl does. 642 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,000 Speaker 4: Only when you're dark. 643 00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:38,200 Speaker 2: Yes, for me, it's only when when it's like. 644 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 1: A certain rabbit hole contingency, like like when it's like 645 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,480 Speaker 1: you could do and all by yourself. 646 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:45,560 Speaker 4: That's usually. 647 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,760 Speaker 1: But all the uplifting quotes that's like genuinely like I 648 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,600 Speaker 1: do yeah, like I do that too, yeah yeah, No, 649 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: when it's like. 650 00:29:52,560 --> 00:29:55,680 Speaker 3: About your worth, yeah, the worth ones and like. 651 00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:00,320 Speaker 2: Okay, so my best friend is also a scorpion and 652 00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:03,479 Speaker 2: she does the same things when she's dark. That is 653 00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 2: so funny. 654 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,080 Speaker 1: I think it's a female thing, though I don't think 655 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:07,479 Speaker 1: it's just scorpios. 656 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 2: I feel like that dark though. I think when we 657 00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 2: do have a. 658 00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 4: Very tendously did be kind of. 659 00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,480 Speaker 2: Like, how can we sing in a sneaky way? 660 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,480 Speaker 1: Sing in a non Obviously it doesn't work for me 661 00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,200 Speaker 1: because he doesn't have social media, so it's not like 662 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,560 Speaker 1: looking at it. He gets the silent treatment. For me. 663 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:25,440 Speaker 1: That's like the worst thing you could ever do to 664 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,120 Speaker 1: any guy. By the way, if there's any lady listening 665 00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:28,680 Speaker 1: to you, is that. 666 00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,400 Speaker 3: Really what I'm I'm the worst all talk. I just 667 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:33,719 Speaker 3: talk all day to him. I'm like, we should talk, 668 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:35,240 Speaker 3: we should talk, we should meaning we should talk. 669 00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:40,280 Speaker 1: No, that's the silent treatment, the best thing you could do, 670 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,040 Speaker 1: telling you because when you're not talking to them, they 671 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,920 Speaker 1: drives them insane. With the one man in this room 672 00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:47,440 Speaker 1: drives in insane. 673 00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:53,240 Speaker 2: Why Allison doesn't talk, Yeah, that's spot on Yeah, yeah, crazy. 674 00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, telling you I've never done that. 675 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 2: All you do is. 676 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:57,600 Speaker 1: Talk and you want to talk. Now, imagine if you 677 00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:00,440 Speaker 1: just go dead silent, and. 678 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 3: Then what do you do when you're like eating dinner? 679 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 1: You don't dinner like together, what I'm not talking to 680 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 1: you dinner? 681 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,000 Speaker 3: So you're like mad, you're in a fight. 682 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I like if it's like things hit the fan 683 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:17,360 Speaker 1: and you're like, you're not getting dinner, dinner, it's like 684 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:22,200 Speaker 1: soldier boys, No, no dinner, You're not You're not getting 685 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:26,800 Speaker 1: my presence at all. You get nada from me, no, 686 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:29,640 Speaker 1: especially dinner because and I throw down. So I'm a 687 00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:32,280 Speaker 1: Louisiana girl, so you're not getting nothing. 688 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, yeah no, no, I'm a bad fighter. 689 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,320 Speaker 3: I yeah, I can't do that. 690 00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:39,320 Speaker 1: Last thing you want to do is talk when because 691 00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 1: they don't want to really talk, you got it. You 692 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:44,000 Speaker 1: do need a cool down period, which women were usually 693 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 1: bad at because we really want to talk things out. 694 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 1: But then after that cool down period, you know when 695 00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,720 Speaker 1: it's time to actually talk with level heads. You can 696 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 1: come together when you decide you're ready to speak. 697 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:56,040 Speaker 3: And how long can you not talk for? I'm curious. 698 00:31:56,080 --> 00:32:00,000 Speaker 1: I did six months what I mean, he really messed up. 699 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,920 Speaker 1: He messed up, really made it really bad. 700 00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:06,880 Speaker 4: Did you listen? Were you at the table when we. 701 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,600 Speaker 1: Were talking about all the like, I'm definitely not going 702 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,320 Speaker 1: to have that conversation on air, but yeah, we were 703 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:16,480 Speaker 1: all talking about different things that we think adored and no. 704 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:18,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, but what about like a typical fight, like a 705 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,480 Speaker 3: not so bad one and disagreement, No. 706 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:23,520 Speaker 4: A disagreement. 707 00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 1: You saved the silent treatment. 708 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:27,560 Speaker 3: For big things. 709 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:29,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, big things. 710 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,080 Speaker 1: It has to be like like big things. It can't 711 00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,120 Speaker 1: be just like every little fight is a sun. 712 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, like you didn't hook up the internet in the 713 00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:37,880 Speaker 3: other room. 714 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's no. I always say pick your battles 715 00:32:41,200 --> 00:32:44,040 Speaker 1: when it comes to relationships, especially men. You just gotta 716 00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,680 Speaker 1: pick your battles and you got to pat them on 717 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:47,000 Speaker 1: the back. 718 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 2: The legendary though, Yeah. 719 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:56,480 Speaker 1: It was he he screwed up really bad. So yeah, 720 00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:58,320 Speaker 1: that wasn't more of a solid treamer. That was like, 721 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:02,479 Speaker 1: we broke up, wake up, and I'm not talking to you. 722 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,320 Speaker 1: So I was like, there's no reconcilent, you know, recogiliation 723 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 1: now that we're broken up, And then I don't want 724 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:10,720 Speaker 1: to even talk to you about it because we're done. 725 00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:14,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I have a girlfriend. So if we both 726 00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:16,160 Speaker 2: are like leaning into the silent treatment, it can get 727 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:20,280 Speaker 2: pretty quiet. But she's more of a communicator. She's kind 728 00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:21,720 Speaker 2: of like Taanya in the sense that she's like, I 729 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 2: want to talk it out, and I'm like, I. 730 00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,520 Speaker 3: Want to communicate daily, Like I want to like talk 731 00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:28,719 Speaker 3: about things daily, and to the point where like now 732 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 3: it's a joke. I'll be like, so, what are you 733 00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:32,680 Speaker 3: thinking about now? Oh? I keep driving? What do you 734 00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,040 Speaker 3: think about now? What's on your mind? 735 00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:38,000 Speaker 1: So so silence might be actually a treat for him. 736 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 1: It'll be like, thank you. 737 00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 2: You won't even question it, He'll just thank God. 738 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:43,680 Speaker 3: I think it would really throw him, like he'd like, 739 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:45,400 Speaker 3: what is going exactly? 740 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,160 Speaker 1: It would be Yeah, imagine what he would be like, 741 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,920 Speaker 1: uh oh yeah I really messed up. Yeah, yeah, what happened. 742 00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:53,600 Speaker 1: It has to be for something big camp. I'm going 743 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:55,440 Speaker 1: to put that in my back pocket. And I think 744 00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:58,160 Speaker 1: y's for anybody, men or women or whatever. Like the 745 00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,400 Speaker 1: silent treatment is like the worst one. Somebody just won't 746 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:00,880 Speaker 1: talk to you. 747 00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:03,600 Speaker 2: I hate it's the worst. If Haley's silent, I'm like, 748 00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:06,720 Speaker 2: because she's she likes to talk things out, so she 749 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:10,480 Speaker 2: goes silent. I'm like, oh no, like this is not good. Yeah, 750 00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:14,319 Speaker 2: but I like I pull out the silent treatment more often. Yeah, 751 00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:15,480 Speaker 2: when I need. 752 00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: To vindictives, like I know where I know where to 753 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:24,680 Speaker 1: hit you where it hurts lady. 754 00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:26,520 Speaker 4: I do. 755 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,960 Speaker 2: I feel like a lot. I really respect the like 756 00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 2: not sharing a relationship thing. But I've never heard someone 757 00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:34,440 Speaker 2: say like I keep it to myself until we're married. 758 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:35,120 Speaker 3: Yeah. 759 00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I have never posted on maybe on a story 760 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:39,480 Speaker 1: might have said happy birthday, and even then I say 761 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,520 Speaker 1: it like in third person, like happy birthday to you. 762 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,080 Speaker 1: Liked if it was Tanya's birthday, I would post her 763 00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,759 Speaker 1: and really happy birthday to you. You know I never 764 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:54,399 Speaker 1: I never no, no, no, like no, I'm not. 765 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:54,840 Speaker 3: Going to do it. 766 00:34:55,480 --> 00:35:00,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, both parts too, like he's public person person. Yeah, 767 00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:03,960 Speaker 1: we just you know, we don't want to, you know, 768 00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,239 Speaker 1: we just don't want anybody in our business because what 769 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:08,759 Speaker 1: if it doesn't work out. I mean like yeah, you know, 770 00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,960 Speaker 1: like we were in that situation where you know, nope, 771 00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 1: didn't work out, nobody knew who I was dating or 772 00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:15,880 Speaker 1: whatever like that. 773 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, there wasn't that public on top of the heartbreak. 774 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,080 Speaker 2: There wasn't the public pressure of like talking about it. 775 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:21,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't need that. 776 00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:24,239 Speaker 1: Yeah then yeah, and I don't need to go deep 777 00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:26,600 Speaker 1: dive into my Instagram and do all the. 778 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,239 Speaker 3: Why you would have Wow, Yeah, I'd have to have 779 00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,479 Speaker 3: something to do it for me. Yeah, there's a way. 780 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:37,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I prefer not to, you know, but I 781 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,600 Speaker 1: love relationships stuff, like I love talking relationships stuff. 782 00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 4: It's it's great. 783 00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 3: But yeah, do you want to get married one day? 784 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:44,920 Speaker 3: Is that like something that. 785 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:49,759 Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely. I'm more in the sense of I had 786 00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:51,440 Speaker 1: to get married, but I don't have to be married 787 00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:58,160 Speaker 1: the traditional way. I'd rather a spiritual, spiritual ceremony because 788 00:35:58,160 --> 00:36:00,279 Speaker 1: I just feel like the business of marriage is what 789 00:36:00,360 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 1: really breaks up a lot of marriages in the beginning. 790 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:05,320 Speaker 1: So it's like one of those if it ain't broke, 791 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,280 Speaker 1: don't fix it, don't fix it. But I just want 792 00:36:09,360 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 1: the ring part of marriage. 793 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:11,680 Speaker 4: That's it. 794 00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:12,279 Speaker 3: The ring. 795 00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:13,319 Speaker 4: Yeah, just the ring. 796 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,200 Speaker 1: I just see the ring, because you know, it's like 797 00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:23,200 Speaker 1: something for women for that piece of hardware to be 798 00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:27,240 Speaker 1: on your finger, and it's like a like a I 799 00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:27,880 Speaker 1: did it? 800 00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:28,880 Speaker 2: Have you seen? 801 00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,200 Speaker 3: You have to watch the Taylor, You have to watch 802 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:34,000 Speaker 3: this Taylor Thomlinson stand up comedy show because she talks 803 00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:36,319 Speaker 3: about that like she's like women that are either like 804 00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,320 Speaker 3: engage or marry, they walk around so like they're a target. 805 00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:43,520 Speaker 3: Instead of saying, like, sir, where's the paper towels, she's like, sir, 806 00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 3: where's the paper towels? And she's like flailing her like 807 00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:49,440 Speaker 3: engagement ring up in the air, and like there is 808 00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,000 Speaker 3: there's this sense of like it wouldn't be so much 809 00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:54,520 Speaker 3: of a like a flaunt moved. It's more of a like. 810 00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,920 Speaker 1: One percent in a committed relationship. But now you know 811 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,439 Speaker 1: that it's here. Yeah I made that, And that ring 812 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:05,719 Speaker 1: has always signified Hey, she said she's a good girl. 813 00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:07,839 Speaker 4: She's taken, you know, you know what I. 814 00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:11,320 Speaker 1: Mean, Like she's don't mess with her, she's off limits. 815 00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 1: Although that sometimes it's more attractive to. 816 00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:16,399 Speaker 4: Hey, you're taking, I'm taking. 817 00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:20,399 Speaker 3: So this is just a fling. You know, don't worry. 818 00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:21,400 Speaker 3: I won't call you tomorrow. 819 00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:21,839 Speaker 4: It's okay. 820 00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:24,000 Speaker 1: I understand you're with your husband or your wife. So 821 00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:27,399 Speaker 1: it's like there's people like that, but I don't know. Yeah, 822 00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:31,960 Speaker 1: just the ring and we say are our spiritual you know, 823 00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:35,759 Speaker 1: vows and promise not to sleep with anybody else. But 824 00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 1: just you and and that's it. I don't need the 825 00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:42,880 Speaker 1: I don't need the government coming into my situation telling 826 00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:45,359 Speaker 1: me how much taxes I gotta pay and who gets 827 00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,879 Speaker 1: to claim the child if there is one. I'm good. 828 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:49,520 Speaker 3: I'm like, we'll figure that out on our own. 829 00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:52,239 Speaker 2: We What you're saying is you need the rock. 830 00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:00,439 Speaker 4: And it doesn't even have to be rock. It could 831 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:01,600 Speaker 4: be the pebble. 832 00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:06,080 Speaker 1: Come on now, toime I was gonna say, like a 833 00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,400 Speaker 1: nice gold band or something like that, was like, hebble, 834 00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,960 Speaker 1: don't even then? Get me twenty two, twenty four carried, 835 00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,000 Speaker 1: don't even worry about the pebble that you're gonna give 836 00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 1: me your man made diamond. 837 00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:36,360 Speaker 3: Hell no, give me the whole school thing. Did you 838 00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:39,719 Speaker 3: feel like it was hard to balance like personal life 839 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:40,400 Speaker 3: and career? 840 00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:41,160 Speaker 4: Definitely? 841 00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:44,200 Speaker 3: I found that to be a struggle. 842 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:45,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely. 843 00:38:45,320 --> 00:38:48,359 Speaker 1: It's more suftible now and you guys' generation and like 844 00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,320 Speaker 1: now you can be in a relationship and be public 845 00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:54,480 Speaker 1: with it and have a child. To heaven forbid, I 846 00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:56,480 Speaker 1: was able to have a child in my thirties. 847 00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:56,920 Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? 848 00:38:57,040 --> 00:39:00,360 Speaker 3: Like that was really not an option? Hell no, because 849 00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:03,319 Speaker 3: what it was it was considered like it was back 850 00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:04,840 Speaker 3: then and the end of a career. 851 00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, you could not be pregnant on air. 852 00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:07,920 Speaker 4: You could not. 853 00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:12,080 Speaker 3: I still think that people have that mentality though, that 854 00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,920 Speaker 3: that having a baby means your career is over. 855 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:16,760 Speaker 4: Depends on the woman. 856 00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:20,680 Speaker 1: But I'm saying, like in an executive producer standpoint, No, 857 00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:21,960 Speaker 1: it's not that anymore. Now. 858 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:22,759 Speaker 4: It's welcome now. 859 00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:24,360 Speaker 1: It's like, oh, we could have the whole baby journey, 860 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:27,120 Speaker 1: throughout the whole entire thing. Now it's like more welcoming 861 00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:30,000 Speaker 1: for mothers to be able to be in a public 862 00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:33,319 Speaker 1: light and work on television and you know, keep their 863 00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:34,759 Speaker 1: careers and still raise a family. 864 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:35,319 Speaker 4: At the same time. 865 00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,640 Speaker 3: It's so messed up that that was such a thing. 866 00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:40,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I wish that. 867 00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:46,520 Speaker 1: I wish that there was more information about freezing your 868 00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:51,000 Speaker 1: eggs and there was more information about like when you 869 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:54,839 Speaker 1: want to make sure you take these certain precautions. When 870 00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:58,560 Speaker 1: I first started television, freezing your eggs and doing all 871 00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,000 Speaker 1: of that stuff wasn't talked about. I didn't even know 872 00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:02,960 Speaker 1: that was an option, you know, I didn't know. I 873 00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,920 Speaker 1: honestly did not know, Nor was anybody and in my 874 00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:09,800 Speaker 1: community talking about that, nor women in my community talking 875 00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,360 Speaker 1: about that too. So that's probably one of the biggest 876 00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:17,080 Speaker 1: regrets because I didn't have a child or one. I 877 00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,480 Speaker 1: wasn't in a committed relationship like that too have one, 878 00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:24,360 Speaker 1: but two, I chose my career. So now I'm forty 879 00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,880 Speaker 1: one and I'm like, damn, I want to leave all 880 00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:28,080 Speaker 1: these shoes too, and. 881 00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:29,799 Speaker 4: These bags I've accumulated. 882 00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,200 Speaker 1: It's stuff at the end of the day. But it's 883 00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,960 Speaker 1: like your family inheritance, jewels or anything like that that 884 00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:39,480 Speaker 1: you want to leave to somebody special. It's like, gosh, 885 00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:42,440 Speaker 1: damn it, I gotta get on. 886 00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:42,879 Speaker 4: The ball now. 887 00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:44,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, you can still have a baby. 888 00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:45,240 Speaker 4: I still have a baby. 889 00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:48,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but it's more pressure now, you know, it's 890 00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:50,120 Speaker 1: definitely more pressure. 891 00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:52,719 Speaker 2: Now there is a lot more conversation around this, so 892 00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:55,239 Speaker 2: that there's ever been before where it's like comfortable talking 893 00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,120 Speaker 2: about hey, like, hey, I want to I do want 894 00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,359 Speaker 2: to focus on my career and maybe eventually I want 895 00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:01,839 Speaker 2: the option of a child exactly. But so I am 896 00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:03,640 Speaker 2: glad that people are talking about it more. But you can, 897 00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,640 Speaker 2: I mean, you have you considered freezing your eggs? 898 00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:10,320 Speaker 1: So I literally am in this this situation now where 899 00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,040 Speaker 1: my doctor told me, sure you could freeze them, but 900 00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:15,160 Speaker 1: the quality of them, you know, when you go to 901 00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:19,000 Speaker 1: try to you know, match the egg with the sperm 902 00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:23,160 Speaker 1: or whatever, they're not great. So the quality like you 903 00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:24,520 Speaker 1: won't know if you got to get a. 904 00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,560 Speaker 3: Good right, Like they say it's better for you to 905 00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,839 Speaker 3: just try it naturally versus taking them out. 906 00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:32,360 Speaker 1: And they say try naturally or just have an embryo, 907 00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:36,880 Speaker 1: you know, like literally put all your eggs in one basket. 908 00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:39,319 Speaker 4: So like imagine that, you know. 909 00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:44,279 Speaker 1: We need we need the rock, which I mean, it 910 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:47,040 Speaker 1: is what it is. But it's for any woman that's 911 00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,600 Speaker 1: in that in that position, you know, or anybody that's 912 00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:52,320 Speaker 1: listening right now that's in their early thirties, go freeze 913 00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:54,799 Speaker 1: your eggs. Please, if you're undecided, you don't know, do 914 00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:57,399 Speaker 1: not wait until your late thirties and forty to try 915 00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,680 Speaker 1: to go freezing egg because it's just going to be harder. 916 00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,040 Speaker 1: It's gonna be harder. It's gonna be harder. Like she 917 00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:05,000 Speaker 1: straight up told me. She was, like, anybody will freeze 918 00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:06,600 Speaker 1: your eggs, but nobody's going to tell you the truth 919 00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:08,759 Speaker 1: about your quality of your eggs. And if by the 920 00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,560 Speaker 1: time you go to defrost them and put some you know, 921 00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:13,920 Speaker 1: match it with a sperm. If it's even gonna be 922 00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,000 Speaker 1: good or not good, you go ahead and freeze them, 923 00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:17,680 Speaker 1: but you don't know if you're gonna have a healthy 924 00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:22,040 Speaker 1: egg or healthy embryo from that. My option right now 925 00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:24,440 Speaker 1: would be to match an egg with a sperm and 926 00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,840 Speaker 1: have healthy embryos on hold until I'm ready. 927 00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,719 Speaker 4: To child, or have a child naturally, try to have 928 00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:32,040 Speaker 4: a child. 929 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:34,240 Speaker 3: Oh, I see you're saying, so at this point, freezing 930 00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:36,960 Speaker 3: your eggs is not the best option. Freezing embryos is, 931 00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:37,840 Speaker 3: got it? 932 00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:38,080 Speaker 1: Got it? 933 00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:38,319 Speaker 2: Yeah? 934 00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:41,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's interesting because I always like ton enough 935 00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:43,239 Speaker 3: toggles the right word, but I always go back and 936 00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,760 Speaker 3: forth with it because I have not frozen any eggs. 937 00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:48,160 Speaker 3: How old thirty five go? 938 00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:49,000 Speaker 1: Do it? Well? 939 00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:51,840 Speaker 3: My doctor I went and saw somebody and he like 940 00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:57,360 Speaker 3: looked at all my stuff and said that I have 941 00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:01,759 Speaker 3: a lot of viable eggs, and so he said, if 942 00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:04,080 Speaker 3: I have a baby naturally by thirty seven, I should 943 00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:08,000 Speaker 3: be You know, they can't guarantee anything, but in my mind, 944 00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,160 Speaker 3: I was like, I'm just gonna do it as it comes, 945 00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:15,719 Speaker 3: because I want to try naturally. But I'm like, now 946 00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:17,880 Speaker 3: it's getting later and later, Like I'm gonna be thirty 947 00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:20,959 Speaker 3: six soon. I'm like, at what point do I just like, So. 948 00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:24,279 Speaker 1: I went when I was thirty eight, I went to 949 00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:29,000 Speaker 1: the fertility clinic and I was still very, very fertile. 950 00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:32,359 Speaker 1: I still had great follicles and everything like that. Two 951 00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:35,719 Speaker 1: years later, I'm now back into the process and stuff 952 00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:37,360 Speaker 1: because I didn't do it back then, which I should have, 953 00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:39,720 Speaker 1: and it was one of my biggest regrets, not freezing 954 00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,719 Speaker 1: at eggs. But two years later, I go back and 955 00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:43,759 Speaker 1: my number has cut in half, and she's like, what 956 00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:46,680 Speaker 1: has happened in the last two years that your numbers 957 00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:50,879 Speaker 1: have gone down like this to where it's like, let's 958 00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,360 Speaker 1: see how we can produce more follicles to get a 959 00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:57,000 Speaker 1: healthy egg. And so in just two years it dropped 960 00:43:57,040 --> 00:43:57,600 Speaker 1: and it's like. 961 00:43:57,640 --> 00:43:59,880 Speaker 3: They say, what did you were experiencing more stress? 962 00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,200 Speaker 1: I may it could be stress related, it could be 963 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:03,680 Speaker 1: I don't know, it could be anything. She didn't really 964 00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:05,719 Speaker 1: give me an answer to why, but it was just 965 00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,480 Speaker 1: the shocky, crass number, drastic drop. Sorry. 966 00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:11,759 Speaker 4: So yeah, So that's why I say for. 967 00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:15,839 Speaker 1: Anybody like, don't wait, like, don't wait, because literally your 968 00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,840 Speaker 1: things can change with it. And I feel fine, I'm 969 00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:22,520 Speaker 1: I look young, I feel fine. Everything I eat very healthy. 970 00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:24,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, all of that stuff, all of 971 00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:26,680 Speaker 1: the above, and then that so I was like that 972 00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:30,399 Speaker 1: was like the biggest kick in the stomach of like, oh, yeah, 973 00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:31,840 Speaker 1: you're not in your thirties anymore. 974 00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:32,840 Speaker 4: You're not young, you know. 975 00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:38,040 Speaker 1: Mother nature is like literally like figure it out. So 976 00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:41,600 Speaker 1: that's why I say, don't wait. I mean, granted, I 977 00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:44,040 Speaker 1: can still I can still have a child naturally. Yeah, yeah, 978 00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:47,680 Speaker 1: but it's going to be more challenging to do that. 979 00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:50,520 Speaker 1: You know, it's going to be Chinese herbal teas and 980 00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:53,520 Speaker 1: acupuncture and all the all the stories that you hear. 981 00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:54,799 Speaker 4: It's going to be all of that. 982 00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:57,480 Speaker 1: So if if I would have had like a batch 983 00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:00,800 Speaker 1: of eggs, you know on the side, I probably wouldn't 984 00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:02,640 Speaker 1: be stressing as much about it. Yeah. 985 00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:04,640 Speaker 2: I think it's just having the security of like, hey, 986 00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,160 Speaker 2: it's just security because I go back and forth if 987 00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:08,920 Speaker 2: I even want kids. But it's like a lot of 988 00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,000 Speaker 2: people say, I got to a certain point where I 989 00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:12,400 Speaker 2: was like, wait, maybe I do want them, and then 990 00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,640 Speaker 2: it was like I didn't do anything, you know, I 991 00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:18,720 Speaker 2: set myself up for it. So I think that's great advice. 992 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:20,040 Speaker 1: And that was me too. I went back and forth. 993 00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,000 Speaker 1: I was like, I wasn't really sure if I wanted 994 00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:26,000 Speaker 1: a child. It's not until the last like two three 995 00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:29,600 Speaker 1: years maybe I could say, like, I'm I'm older now 996 00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:32,120 Speaker 1: and like I've done everything in my career that I 997 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:34,080 Speaker 1: wanted to do that I've wanted to do. I've been 998 00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:38,360 Speaker 1: very successful. I want to be able to I do 999 00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:40,560 Speaker 1: want a child. It's like and like I said to you, 1000 00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:42,640 Speaker 1: it's like you have that thought and you're like, oh 1001 00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:44,200 Speaker 1: my gosh, I got all of this stuff. 1002 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,440 Speaker 4: Where's the legacy going? 1003 00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:49,359 Speaker 1: Who am I going to pour into or who's going 1004 00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:52,879 Speaker 1: to benefit from all these things? You know that I've 1005 00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:55,719 Speaker 1: created and have set a foundation for. So that's what 1006 00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:58,640 Speaker 1: you start thinking about. If not Teddy is going to 1007 00:45:58,640 --> 00:46:05,040 Speaker 1: be one rich though in the San Fernanda Valley, he's 1008 00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:05,920 Speaker 1: gonna be loaded. 1009 00:46:06,040 --> 00:46:06,759 Speaker 4: He's going to be. 1010 00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,880 Speaker 2: Good, you know, just in a mansion with bags and 1011 00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:11,160 Speaker 2: back shoes. 1012 00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:13,080 Speaker 1: Said, he'll be able to chew up and say, you 1013 00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:17,839 Speaker 1: know whatever, Mom left me this. So that's all that's love. Yes, 1014 00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:21,120 Speaker 1: freeze ladies, go freezer aches, do it for yourself, don't 1015 00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:21,319 Speaker 1: do it? 1016 00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:22,799 Speaker 2: Wow? Yeah, Yeah, he's great. 1017 00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:24,440 Speaker 3: Nice spinning right now. 1018 00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:28,000 Speaker 4: That's like I said half more than half. 1019 00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:31,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean my doctrine told my doctor told me 1020 00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:32,759 Speaker 3: that too, though, because I was thirty four when I 1021 00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:34,719 Speaker 3: got it all checked, and he said the thing about 1022 00:46:34,760 --> 00:46:37,960 Speaker 3: thirty seven, He said, the misconception women have is when 1023 00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:40,600 Speaker 3: they turn thirty that their eggs dropped drastically, and he 1024 00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,280 Speaker 3: said it doesn't happen until forty. 1025 00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:47,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's what happened. I turned forty. I 1026 00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:47,800 Speaker 1: turned forty. 1027 00:46:47,840 --> 00:46:50,440 Speaker 2: So then I was like, so, I literally I thought 1028 00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:52,399 Speaker 2: you were younger than me. I'm like, shuk right now 1029 00:46:52,600 --> 00:46:54,239 Speaker 2: when you said you were forty one, because when you 1030 00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:55,960 Speaker 2: were like, yeah, it's too late, I divere think if 1031 00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:59,200 Speaker 2: I could have done that my thirty th I was like, what, Yeah. 1032 00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,400 Speaker 1: Well, I started this business. I started in a business 1033 00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:04,799 Speaker 1: like at twenty. I was twenty years old when I 1034 00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:10,240 Speaker 1: started radio. And it's been a great ride this whole time, 1035 00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:11,200 Speaker 1: and still going. 1036 00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:14,840 Speaker 3: They'll go tacking new chapters, they'll ticking new adventures. 1037 00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:16,759 Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's the one thing I do regret. I 1038 00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:18,000 Speaker 1: regret not freezing my egges. 1039 00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:21,640 Speaker 2: I really appreciate it honesty, and I think that's I 1040 00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:23,879 Speaker 2: think a lot of people listening will be like, oh, 1041 00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:26,279 Speaker 2: that's the sign I needed to do it because I 1042 00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:28,480 Speaker 2: think a lot of people, especially now that people are 1043 00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:31,560 Speaker 2: able to talk about like or do I want kids, 1044 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:34,680 Speaker 2: and they're they're comfortable enough to say, like, I don't 1045 00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:37,800 Speaker 2: know if that's what I want. It at least gives 1046 00:47:38,320 --> 00:47:42,120 Speaker 2: we have the science and the technology to have that 1047 00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,319 Speaker 2: safety now. So it's like, take advantage of it if 1048 00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:44,880 Speaker 2: you're able to. 1049 00:47:45,080 --> 00:47:47,480 Speaker 1: Again, Yeah, like I said, they were these conversations weren't 1050 00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:49,840 Speaker 1: being had when I was in my early thirties and 1051 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:52,520 Speaker 1: stuff like that. Nobody told me go freeze my eggs. 1052 00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:54,680 Speaker 1: Everybody was like, go to this doctor to get your 1053 00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:57,680 Speaker 1: breast done. Go to this doctor, get whatever. She's like 1054 00:47:57,760 --> 00:48:01,480 Speaker 1: that that's the la go here for. Nobody said, no, 1055 00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:05,239 Speaker 1: freezer eggs raxy. Nobody said that. But I also didn't 1056 00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,120 Speaker 1: even know that was a thing. Like I didn't even 1057 00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:11,920 Speaker 1: know elite circle of white women that probably knew about this. 1058 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:14,560 Speaker 1: And I'm not trying to be. 1059 00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:15,600 Speaker 4: Being funny, but I'm like being real too. 1060 00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, it wasn't talked about, you know, it just wasn't 1061 00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:20,799 Speaker 1: even didn't even All I knew was IVF. That's all 1062 00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:22,799 Speaker 1: I never knew. I never knew about freezing eggs. Yeah. 1063 00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:25,880 Speaker 2: Ever, Yeah, it's just becoming a more popular conversation that 1064 00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:26,399 Speaker 2: people are. 1065 00:48:26,280 --> 00:48:30,440 Speaker 1: Glad it is. Yeah, for sure, glad it is, so ladies. 1066 00:48:31,440 --> 00:48:35,719 Speaker 2: Aside from freezing your eggs before we leave because I 1067 00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:39,480 Speaker 2: got to eat these benny eyes, what is there any 1068 00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:42,600 Speaker 2: piece of advice personal career that you got that you're like, 1069 00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,760 Speaker 2: I want to share that with everyone outside of freezing eggs. 1070 00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:46,840 Speaker 4: Outside of freezing eggs. 1071 00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:54,640 Speaker 1: I think that it's it's literally, whenever you go, whatever 1072 00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:59,000 Speaker 1: career you're in, whatever job you're working, you know, do 1073 00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:01,040 Speaker 1: wants others as you have done on to yourself, So 1074 00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,000 Speaker 1: you treat everybody with respect because legit, you never know 1075 00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:06,400 Speaker 1: who your next boss is going to be. You never 1076 00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,839 Speaker 1: know who's going to be in charge, or if you're 1077 00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:12,759 Speaker 1: in charge, you want to be that person that other 1078 00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:15,000 Speaker 1: people want to mimic and be like when they're in 1079 00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:18,959 Speaker 1: charge as well. So keeping great relationships have always been 1080 00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:23,120 Speaker 1: like a motto for me. I guess a lot of 1081 00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:27,000 Speaker 1: the gigs that I've gotten was literally through either relationship 1082 00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:31,360 Speaker 1: or a good reputation. I would say, you know, they're like, 1083 00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:33,520 Speaker 1: oh she's cool, she's easy to work with, and she's 1084 00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:37,200 Speaker 1: not gonna be a problem, you know. Yeah, so yeah, 1085 00:49:37,239 --> 00:49:39,759 Speaker 1: I would say I would say that, especially in this 1086 00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:43,160 Speaker 1: industry because you just never know who's going to be 1087 00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:49,480 Speaker 1: the next executive producer, executive programmer or whatever. You never know, 1088 00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,719 Speaker 1: or who's going to be the new talent. You just 1089 00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,319 Speaker 1: you just really never know. So it's kind of like, 1090 00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:59,400 Speaker 1: you know, be nice to everybody. Yeah, so golden rule literally, 1091 00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:02,960 Speaker 1: yeah night, because you just never know who who can 1092 00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:06,080 Speaker 1: hold your future next. Yeah, you know, so yeah, that 1093 00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:08,759 Speaker 1: would be my biggest advice. I love and. 1094 00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:15,160 Speaker 2: I'm so happy that you scrubbed in. I'm telling you 1095 00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:20,880 Speaker 2: before you scrubbed in, and I am a fan of you, 1096 00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:22,360 Speaker 2: and Tonya has been a fan of you for a 1097 00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:22,799 Speaker 2: long time. 1098 00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:25,839 Speaker 3: I'm I'm so happy that you came on. I'm I'm 1099 00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:28,080 Speaker 3: always I've admired you for a very long time and 1100 00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:30,320 Speaker 3: I'm always inspired by you. So I'm really glad that 1101 00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:31,760 Speaker 3: you got to share your story with the scrubber. 1102 00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:32,680 Speaker 4: Glad I came here. 1103 00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:34,920 Speaker 1: Thank you. It's about time you invited me to go 1104 00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:38,680 Speaker 1: waiting waiting to scrub in for a while now. 1105 00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:41,440 Speaker 4: She didn't want to invite me, fine. 1106 00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,399 Speaker 3: And we just set up for a plate like very soon. 1107 00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,040 Speaker 1: Oh, yes, that we do, because he's going to be 1108 00:50:45,080 --> 00:50:47,680 Speaker 1: coming back from Doggie Doggy boot Camp soon. 1109 00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:48,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 1110 00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:50,919 Speaker 1: Hopefully he's a well mannered little boy. 1111 00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:52,600 Speaker 3: I know you mentioned it before, but where can everybody 1112 00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:53,160 Speaker 3: follow you. 1113 00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:56,239 Speaker 1: At roxy das literally across the board. I've been lucky 1114 00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:58,680 Speaker 1: to have the same handle for for all of them. 1115 00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,680 Speaker 3: Well, because your name is spelled r O c s. 1116 00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:03,680 Speaker 1: I y s r O c s I d I 1117 00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:07,000 Speaker 1: e Z Instagram, Twitter, Lemon eight. 1118 00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:07,640 Speaker 4: You're on there. 1119 00:51:07,760 --> 00:51:09,880 Speaker 3: I remember when I first got like paired when we 1120 00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:11,600 Speaker 3: were doing a far first show together. I was like, 1121 00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:13,040 Speaker 3: how do you pronounce her name? 1122 00:51:13,840 --> 00:51:20,120 Speaker 1: Row CC so many different I was like, oh, okay, 1123 00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:22,759 Speaker 1: oh that's what it is. In retrospect, I probably should 1124 00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:24,280 Speaker 1: have spelled it easier. 1125 00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:25,359 Speaker 4: No, it's so good. 1126 00:51:25,360 --> 00:51:28,480 Speaker 2: It's yeah, I love it. I think it's really cool. 1127 00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:30,799 Speaker 2: Thank you for scrubbing it. 1128 00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:33,040 Speaker 4: Thank you guys, thanks for having me. I appreciate it.