1 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:11,800 Speaker 1: Two Teas in a Pod with Teddy Mellencamp and Camera Jedge. Hi, guys, 2 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: welcome to Two Teas in a Pod. I am Tamera Judge. 3 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: I am flying so low today because the second tea 4 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:22,880 Speaker 1: to our twats is filming Celebrity Big Brother. We're super 5 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,159 Speaker 1: excited about that. But don't worry, We're gonna have some 6 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 1: amazing U guest hosts in the next few weeks. I'm 7 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 1: excited to introduce my guest today, a real housewife of 8 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: Miami who just made it official. Alexia. Alexia, thank you 9 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: so much. You the first Miami housewife we've had on 10 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: two Teas, and you were the one we wanted first. 11 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:49,279 Speaker 1: I apologize because Teddy could not be here today and 12 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: she's so bummed. But I don't know if you've heard, 13 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: but she's doing Celebrity Big Brother. Yes, I'm so I'm 14 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: so proud of her. I'm so happy for I don't 15 00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: know if I'm not happy, I'll tell you want with 16 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: her am or not. But wow, that's like a big deal. 17 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: I don't know that I could do it. What about you? 18 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: I was just gonna ask you the same thing. Do 19 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: you think you could do it? For one thing? I 20 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: think would be really difficult because if you go the 21 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: full way, you could be away from your family for 22 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:12,480 Speaker 1: like thirty days with no phone, no interaction, nothing. Yes, 23 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: I I you know, I'm mentally very strong, but I 24 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: don't think that I could do it. And I don't 25 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,759 Speaker 1: think my my family can be without me for thirty days. 26 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,680 Speaker 1: That's right, like not even thirty minutes pretty much. Yeah, 27 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 1: say on opposite. I'm physically strong. I don't know if 28 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,759 Speaker 1: I'm just so mentally strong up there. Yes, but welcome back. 29 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:33,199 Speaker 1: We are so excited. Your season so far is so good. 30 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: I know you just filmed the reunion and you probably 31 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: can't tell us too much about that, but I want 32 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: to take it back to the very beginning, like ten 33 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:43,639 Speaker 1: years ago when you first began. How did you get casted? Okay, 34 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: so I got casted. I was actually the last one 35 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: to get casted because I really didn't want to be 36 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 1: part of the show. I need know much about the show. 37 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: All I knew was really New Jersey and like Theresa 38 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: flipping the table. That's like as much Housewife watched. But 39 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 1: what I found really funny wasn't in Miami. Everybody that 40 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 1: was watching would say like, oh my God, if the 41 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: show ever comes to Miami, you definitely need to be 42 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: on it, you know, like my friends that really knew me. 43 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: And I was like, I don't see that happening. But 44 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: so fast forward a few years later, you know, they 45 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: started casting from Miami. Um. At the time, my son 46 00:02:15,639 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: was also casting for another like reality show with kids, 47 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: so um, I was dropping him off and apparently was 48 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: like the same casting director. So they saw me and 49 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: they're like, oh my god, we're also casting from Miami. 50 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: Like do you think your mom would be interested? And 51 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:33,079 Speaker 1: he's like, no, my mom will be interested. And fast forward. 52 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: His show never happened. The casting directors got to know 53 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: me because I would drop him off and take him 54 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 1: in the whole thing, and they were begging me to 55 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: try out, and um, last minute, I said, you know what, 56 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: a friend of mine called me actually, and she was 57 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 1: the one that was really interested. She was a doctor, 58 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:53,919 Speaker 1: a dentist and it's not Karen Um somebody else. And UM, 59 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: She's like, oh my god, please you have too like 60 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: a company made or casting. And I said, if you're 61 00:02:57,320 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: going to the Miami Housewife, think like they really want 62 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: me to cast, So I don't think you want me 63 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: there because I maybe taking your position, and you know, 64 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 1: I ended up going with her. I sat down. I 65 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 1: remember her telling me like, don't talk with your hands, 66 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: and you know, like you know, being you know, dress conservative, 67 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: you know. Yeah right, I'm like, okay, you apparently have 68 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: now watched the show, right right. So she sat there. 69 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 1: So I went in and everybody's like Peter's mom, Peter's mom, 70 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, I'm here, and I'm like, what, 71 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: my husband doesn't know that I'm doing this my family 72 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: if nobody knew, it was just like me and her. 73 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: So basically I sat down, I started talking with my hands. 74 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: I said all the right things like my husband doesn't 75 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: know I'm here, um, and all the crazy stuff that 76 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: comes out of my mouth. And ten minutes later after 77 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: my casting, I had a phone call saying like, we 78 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: want to go to your house and when I made 79 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,320 Speaker 1: your family and the rest was history. So they came 80 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: up with the next day. You know, my husband at 81 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: that time never really supported it, that's the truth. Um, 82 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 1: he never really wanted me to do the show. Um, 83 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: so I pretty much like signed the agreement even like 84 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: without his blessing. So yeah, but I did it, and 85 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:03,000 Speaker 1: eight years later, well ten years later, I'm here. I 86 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: know we have some so many similarities and our life 87 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: and I really relate to your storyline, which is um 88 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: with your you know, blending of the family. I had 89 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: the same situation, and I know that a lot of 90 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: people that have been divorced and getting remarried with kids, 91 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: you know, it's difficult. And I that that meeting that 92 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 1: they'll sit down that you had with Todd and Peter 93 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,599 Speaker 1: and Frankie. I was almost crying because it took me 94 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:31,039 Speaker 1: back to when I was married to Simon and my 95 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 1: oldest son Ryan, who was thirteen when we end up 96 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: getting married, just did not click, and it would. It 97 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 1: puts you in such a horrible sad spot that you're 98 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 1: walking on eggshell So I I totally got that. Yeah, 99 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 1: you know, I feel like like you. I feel like 100 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: a lot of women you know, in the world, you know, 101 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:49,679 Speaker 1: on our streaming so they're watching us all over the world. 102 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: So I feel like a lot of women are in 103 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 1: that position, you know, and you know, we as a women, 104 00:04:54,600 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 1: you know, you're in the middle between two people that 105 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: you adore and are your life, and you're just like, 106 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 1: you know, like very sad because you want to fix it, 107 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: and really the only people that can fix it is them, 108 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 1: you know. So you know they obviously have you know, 109 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: and we got married and you know, but but it's tough, 110 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: you know, especially I feel like when they were younger, 111 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: I think it's easier. I mean I've always said that, 112 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:19,400 Speaker 1: you know, because again, you know, like my second husband, 113 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 1: you know, he had older children. I had younger children, 114 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: and it was easier, you know, to blench. And you know, 115 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: our kids get along great, Like Todd has two beautiful girls. 116 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 1: I don't mean you saw them on the show or not, 117 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:32,640 Speaker 1: which I participated very little, but you know, my kids 118 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: love her. We all, you know, Frankie lives here, the 119 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,720 Speaker 1: girls live here, and you know, but you know, these 120 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,800 Speaker 1: shows are like that. You know, you obviously only saw that, 121 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: you know, that side of our story. You know, we 122 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: also have a lot of happy moments, and I want 123 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:47,280 Speaker 1: they don't want to show that part, right, so we 124 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:49,839 Speaker 1: you know, I just want you to keep that in mind. Obviously, 125 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:52,159 Speaker 1: you know, we obviously got through that. It was really 126 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: difficult obviously, you know, to see you know, once it 127 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 1: plays back, you know, when you're in the moment of it. 128 00:05:57,120 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 1: Obviously it was horrendous. It was terrible. But then when 129 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,679 Speaker 1: you see it as well, you know, we cried seeing 130 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:04,839 Speaker 1: it as a family together. It was really hard to watch. 131 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:08,520 Speaker 1: But you know the good thing is that we noticed 132 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:11,240 Speaker 1: what we needed to do and like god, we we 133 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,279 Speaker 1: acted on. You know, we're like, okay, like this is 134 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: really like myself. We need to fix this, you know. 135 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 1: And you know, sometimes you have to get really uncomfortable 136 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 1: in order to see results, right, But I think you 137 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 1: were very brave to even put that out there. And 138 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: the people other families that are going through it, we'll 139 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: totally understand. Now, your son Peter reminds me of my 140 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 1: son Ryan. A lot have gone through the same thing, 141 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: same issues. We don't need to get into it, but um, 142 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:35,599 Speaker 1: it's very sweet kids. But you know, I was guilty 143 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: of enabling him because I had him when I was 144 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,799 Speaker 1: barely eighteen. I was a single mom, I had no money. 145 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 1: I had to give him to his dad for a 146 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: little bit because I had couldn't support him, and so 147 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,600 Speaker 1: that affected him long term, and I always carried that guilt, 148 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 1: you know, And then I got well, I feel like 149 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,920 Speaker 1: as a mother, term right, even if you do everything 150 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: perfect and you're still married to the same man. And 151 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 1: you know, you're like the home room mom and you 152 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: do everything perfect. I think as a mom, if things 153 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: don't turn how we would like them to turn out, 154 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: or or we go through like different stages, we always 155 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: want to blame ourselves. And you know, we live with 156 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: this guilt. You know, it's like a women's thing. It's 157 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 1: that we live with guilt. And I think even like 158 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: me like being Latin, I feel like Latin women even 159 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 1: more like I don't even know. It's it's just like crazy, 160 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: it's like a continuous boot and you know we have 161 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: to work on that ourselves because you know what we 162 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: did the best that we could. And you know, kids 163 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: don't come with a handbook. I mean, preventing is really hard. 164 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 1: And then there's I wouldn't feel like yeah, I mean, 165 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 1: genetics are play like a really big role. So there's 166 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: so many, like other factors before people come in and judge, 167 00:07:36,560 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 1: and you know, and they're saying, you know, I don't 168 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: I just don't like the word enabler. You know, I 169 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: think I get a little bit defensive, you know when 170 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 1: they say I'm an enabler, because for me, an enabler 171 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: is somebody that like encourages like negative and bad behavior. 172 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:51,640 Speaker 1: I agree, Yeah, so I'm not encouraging it for real 173 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: because I know what's bad. I know what's you know, 174 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 1: the difference between good and bad. But so I don't 175 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: like that term. But I do recognize that. It's not 176 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: that I enable it. It's just that I'm compassionate. I'm empathetic. 177 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 1: I'm his mother. It's like this unconditional love then no 178 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: matter what they do, and if we're not there for them, 179 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: who else is going to be for them? Like we 180 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 1: get today? You know, it's like just not okay with that. 181 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: And you went through so much with the accident with Frankie. 182 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: How is Frankie? He? I just love him to death 183 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: and the way that if he would he here, he 184 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: would be like talking to you, Oh, I want to 185 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:29,480 Speaker 1: talk to beautiful. I want to hang out with him. 186 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: He is so sweet, so kind and always so supportive 187 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: of you. And when you talk about things you want 188 00:08:35,000 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: to talk about the way he's like, no, mom, like 189 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: I die every single time. So how's he doing? He's 190 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: doing good. I mean he lives here with us and 191 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: does a matter of fact, now after like that scene 192 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 1: that you guys saw, but you know, it was always like, 193 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: you know, it's always like a my goal list, my 194 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: my goal list, it's always my kids the priority. I'm like, 195 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 1: got the last, my oldest. So by the time I 196 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 1: get to me, I'm like, oh my god, I'm tired, 197 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:01,959 Speaker 1: like you know, how to work on everybody else? Right, So, um, 198 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:04,719 Speaker 1: after that, I reached out, Well, I didn't reach out. 199 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:07,080 Speaker 1: I was always always trying to find somebody to like 200 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: shadow him, you know, to spend more like more like 201 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 1: a therapeutic you know, like physically, mentally education why everything. 202 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: So um, I found this young man, this young guy 203 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:21,520 Speaker 1: that actually does this. This is what he's studied. He's 204 00:09:21,559 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: like a behavioral therapist. So he's like shadowing him and 205 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 1: like you know right now, he's with him every day 206 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:29,120 Speaker 1: from four to six hours. So you know he's doing 207 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 1: that a lot because you know, I'm very busy. And 208 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: then again there was the guilt. I feel guilty like, 209 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:34,839 Speaker 1: oh my god, I have him here with me when 210 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: he should do something else. So you know, yeah, I 211 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 1: mean that's true too. And you know, thank God to 212 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: like falling in love with Todd and having it. You know, 213 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,840 Speaker 1: he's helped me realize that, you know, I need time 214 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,680 Speaker 1: for myself too, and that you know, I and you 215 00:09:49,720 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: know your children you know, find their way, you know, 216 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: I mean eventually, you know they do. You know it's 217 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 1: up to us to be here obviously and support them 218 00:09:57,920 --> 00:10:00,120 Speaker 1: and you guide them. But you know, at the of 219 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: the day, you know, we need to teach them to 220 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: go and be happy. You know, Frankie's case is a 221 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 1: little different. Obviously, he'll always be here with me, but um, 222 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:11,400 Speaker 1: you know, I'm trying to make him as independent as 223 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:14,320 Speaker 1: he can and as and as happy as as he can. 224 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: And he's a happy kid. So we're blessed with that 225 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 1: because you know, a lot of brain injuries, um, they're 226 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: they're they're angry, they're frustrated. You know, they can't express themselves. 227 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 1: So you know, with Frankie, it was a total blessing 228 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 1: because he's he's an angel. He's always happy, and he's 229 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:32,719 Speaker 1: always happy. Yeah, and the for real like a time 230 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 1: and you're not, he looks at you, he can kind 231 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: of like feel it and he'll tell you, weren't you happy? 232 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:42,839 Speaker 1: Like look at me, I'm alive, So like what are 233 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:44,679 Speaker 1: you complaining about? You know what I mean? Look at 234 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 1: me and I'm super happy, right do you really have 235 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:58,679 Speaker 1: gone through so much and people just just love you 236 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: for your strength and and you had to reschedule your 237 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: wedding because I did, your mother passed away and I'm 238 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: so sorry. I'm like literally him back the tears right now, 239 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: but I'm so sorry. Yeah, it was really the fird 240 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:17,079 Speaker 1: time in my life besides everything that was going on. Um, 241 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: and I got COVID and um right after a few 242 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: weeks later. You know, my mother got COVID and you know, 243 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: she she didn't make it and she passed away on 244 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:29,680 Speaker 1: my wedding day. So that was like, but you went 245 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 1: on to get married a few months later, right, we 246 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: did say was trying to get married? Thank you? Um, 247 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,319 Speaker 1: Like I said, I mean, it's always like I have to. 248 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: I was like, get know if you feel this way, 249 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:42,079 Speaker 1: but I always have to fight so much for like 250 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 1: happiness and like to be in a good place. Yeah, right, 251 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: you have to. Yeah, I'm afraid to even be so 252 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: happy because I'm like, oh my god, Okay, this is 253 00:11:52,280 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: not supposed to happen to me, like and if it does. 254 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 1: That's what I said to a therapist once I go 255 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 1: I'm afraid to be happy about things because I feel 256 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: like it's going to be ripped out from underneath me 257 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: any minute now. And then also I tend to not 258 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: try to get attached to anything because I just feel 259 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,480 Speaker 1: like it's going to be gone. So it's you know, 260 00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:11,560 Speaker 1: I feel the same thing like you. So because of that, 261 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 1: and you know, and and it's a it's a hard 262 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: way to live like that. It's not a good way 263 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:18,959 Speaker 1: to live because it takes away from the moment, you know, happiness, 264 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: Like I'm short right that we don't want to feel that. 265 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:24,000 Speaker 1: So I'm working a lot on that on my own. 266 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: I do need a therapist as well, probably, but you know, 267 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: it's something again that you have to do on your own. 268 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:30,679 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, like just black that out and just 269 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: try to be But then things like this happened, and 270 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: you're like, god, right, But right after my mom passed away, 271 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:38,920 Speaker 1: Todd's father had a stroke. A lot of people don't 272 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: know that because you know, it's very private and we 273 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: weren't filming obviously. Jeez. Yes, can you imagine after tam 274 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 1: Ron he had a stroke and he didn't make it, 275 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: but we lost his father. I adored Todd's father. He 276 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,360 Speaker 1: was you know, they have a lot of similarities. It 277 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: was an amazing man and and and so nothing. So 278 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 1: this was like what our years been like. So we 279 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: really wanted to make it a point to have like 280 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 1: a happy moment before the year was over and you know, 281 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: to finally you know, get married. That that's what we 282 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:10,080 Speaker 1: always wanted. This is what we've been trying to do 283 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 1: since two thousand nineteen and um, so we finally had 284 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 1: that moment December sixteen, we eloped. You know, we told 285 00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 1: the family before, but you know, we kind of be 286 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:20,040 Speaker 1: looped at our own. We said we want no kids, 287 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:22,600 Speaker 1: we want no family, no friends. Marison was trying to 288 00:13:22,640 --> 00:13:25,240 Speaker 1: speak in and come and it's like, no, sorry, so 289 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: you didn't film it and wasn't We're not going to 290 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:30,040 Speaker 1: see it on the show. Uh you might. I mean 291 00:13:30,080 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: I feel like you guys filmed it yourself and you 292 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: can give them up. Yeah, and we probably you know, 293 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: you're probably like I feel like the viewers need to 294 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: see that. If the viewers are rooting for us, I 295 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 1: need to see it. Yes, it doesn't take it the footage. Yeah, no, 296 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: I I agree. You know what I mean. It's like, 297 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 1: you know, people see this and you know it's been 298 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 1: such a top two years, not only for myself. I'm 299 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:55,600 Speaker 1: not complaining like I'm grateful honestly, because you know what, 300 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 1: I accept things. I always think there's a reason for it, 301 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: you know. I try to learn the lesson. I move on. 302 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: I don't live on the past, because if not, I 303 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:06,040 Speaker 1: can't move forward. I really need the present. I don't 304 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:09,680 Speaker 1: even worry about to forget about it, so I don't 305 00:14:09,679 --> 00:14:12,680 Speaker 1: do that. So I feel like the viewers, you know, 306 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:14,960 Speaker 1: are seeing all this and like they're really you know, 307 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:17,199 Speaker 1: praying and rooting for us, and they want to see 308 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 1: a happy moment. And I also wanted that happy moment 309 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:22,040 Speaker 1: to todday and night. That's what we always wanted. So, 310 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:24,720 Speaker 1: you know, we we finally got married in same guards, 311 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: just him and I and and it's been great since then. 312 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 1: I feel like I needed to sign the paper, right, Yeah, 313 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: I feel married life is amazing. Yeah it is. I mean, 314 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 1: we've been living together for a long time now, and 315 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: we've been together for five years. But you know, I 316 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: think that psychologically, you know, it did something for us 317 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:44,560 Speaker 1: as a couple, you know what I mean. I feel like, 318 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 1: you know, I don't know really how to put it 319 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: in words, but it makes you have to split assets now, 320 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 1: just kidding. You guys are beautiful, absolutely beautiful couple. I'd 321 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 1: have to say, so, Um, Gertie didn't plan your your wedding. Well, 322 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: Gertie's an amazing event planner and wedding planner. As I 323 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: was very you know, grateful to have her. So you'll 324 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 1: see a little bit of that. But you know, this 325 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 1: is remember this is a reality show, and you know 326 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 1: more than anybody like you know, you know what it 327 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 1: started and what it ended up. It was two different things. 328 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,680 Speaker 1: You know. I was supposed to have the perfect fairytale wedding, 329 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:25,520 Speaker 1: you know, and you know when we started doing this 330 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: whole thing and and then it turned into that that 331 00:15:28,600 --> 00:15:30,760 Speaker 1: was like my reality. You know? Did I like it? That? 332 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: I want to know? But this is what what you 333 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: see is like what you've got. That's what I'm trying 334 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,240 Speaker 1: to say. So you know, moving forward, we do want 335 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,000 Speaker 1: to celebrate, you know. Yeah, I just gonna ask my 336 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 1: next question, are you gonna have a party? Um? We are, 337 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 1: we are because we were supposed to get married in 338 00:15:44,720 --> 00:15:47,560 Speaker 1: this beautiful yacht um here in Miami and the Sea 339 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 1: Fair yacht, so we have that there obviously, but we 340 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 1: were waiting you know, for like to come back for 341 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:54,920 Speaker 1: the year to start, and then you need to pick 342 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:56,800 Speaker 1: like a good day. We have to have all our 343 00:15:56,840 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: friends and family and just make it a big party. 344 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, this is my third marriage. It's 345 00:16:01,320 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 1: taught second marriage. You know, we're in a different stage 346 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 1: in our life. You know, it's not really about the 347 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 1: you know, the nonsense of like the first time wedding. 348 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,400 Speaker 1: You know that you want everything to be perfect and 349 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: you want all that. For me, it's just like I 350 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: want my friends to be there, and you're invited, Yeah, 351 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:17,160 Speaker 1: I want to go. I want to go. And this 352 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: is this is my third wedding and my husband's second 353 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: wedding as well. So and I'm telling you a third 354 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:24,520 Speaker 1: time's a charm. It's it's just an amazing thing, right. 355 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:26,720 Speaker 1: I think it's like a different time in our lives, right, 356 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 1: Like as women, we really know what we want, what 357 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:31,360 Speaker 1: didn't work before, we're trying, you know, we fixed it 358 00:16:31,440 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 1: or we're like sometimes it takes this girls a while 359 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 1: to figure out what the hell we want. I agree. 360 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: And also so for real, I really think that you know, 361 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 1: maybe we would have met at a different time in 362 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 1: our life. It wouldn't have worked out, but now this 363 00:16:43,560 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 1: is like, you know, it's like we met each other's match. 364 00:16:46,160 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 1: It's kind of like a mismatch. He's my match, like 365 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 1: we belong together, and you know it will be like 366 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I will I will say you guys would 367 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 1: have made beautiful babies that I know that I'm gonna miss. Yeah, 368 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 1: that will always say like, oh, our kids would have 369 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,680 Speaker 1: been this and that, But no, you and I are 370 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 1: exactly the same age. Yes, yeah, so yep, fifty four. Yes, 371 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:09,400 Speaker 1: oh my god, you look amazing, so do you. We're 372 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 1: changing things, alexey, I'm making fifty the new thirty five 373 00:17:16,200 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: with our wisdom right there and our blonde hair. Yes, yeah, 374 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 1: it's all the blonde hair. You just have to haven't 375 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,040 Speaker 1: you noticed that all the women when they turn like 376 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: a certain age, they're all blonde people blonde all our lives. 377 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:32,600 Speaker 1: It's easier to hind the grade. Um, would you guys 378 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:35,919 Speaker 1: start filming again? Do you know they haven't told us 379 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 1: because you know, they're very quiet about that about and 380 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:40,800 Speaker 1: then she sees, you know, if there's even a new season. 381 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:44,000 Speaker 1: We don't know that. I mean, come on, yeah, I 382 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,000 Speaker 1: mean we're hoping that it will be because it's been 383 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 1: pretty amazing, so I'm sure you'll start soon. So out 384 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 1: of all the ladies on the show, um, who do 385 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 1: you get along the best with? And I'd have to 386 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:56,560 Speaker 1: tell you we need to talk about Nicole because I 387 00:17:56,640 --> 00:17:58,800 Speaker 1: really like her, and I don't like what's happening right now. 388 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:00,879 Speaker 1: I know, I know, I saw that you liked her 389 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:03,760 Speaker 1: by the way, you know, and I liked her too. 390 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: I mean you liked her, liked her. You don't even 391 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:09,199 Speaker 1: like her anymore? No, no, I said, no, I do. 392 00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:12,600 Speaker 1: I continue to like her because her you know, you 393 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 1: know what this is what happened to me with Nicole, 394 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 1: Like I kind of like brought her into the group 395 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:19,480 Speaker 1: and we had like you know, lunches issues and my birthday. 396 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: We we even went out, like you know, with her 397 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:23,960 Speaker 1: with her husband and with my well, with her and 398 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:27,439 Speaker 1: fiance now because they're engaged, you know, we've all gone 399 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 1: out as couples. Everything was great. But and you could 400 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 1: probably ug this because you've been part of the show. 401 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,639 Speaker 1: Then when she showed up to film, it was like 402 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 1: a different person. And I was like, okay, like I 403 00:18:39,359 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 1: had one of those. I had one of those. So yeah, 404 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: so that's frustrating. It is frustrating. And it's not that 405 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:48,719 Speaker 1: I wanted her to be like my best friend, my 406 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: new best friend, because I'm not looking for any more friends. 407 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:53,640 Speaker 1: But I just thought that it was really like sneaky 408 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:55,639 Speaker 1: of her. I just think she's like a sneaky person, 409 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:57,159 Speaker 1: and she did it like in a way that I 410 00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:59,639 Speaker 1: didn't like, you know, And I always thought that I 411 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:01,959 Speaker 1: was I have because I like her, like who she is, 412 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: I like what she represents. I mean, she would totally 413 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:08,639 Speaker 1: be my friend all day long, and but I started 414 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 1: seeing things of her that I didn't like. And you know, 415 00:19:11,119 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 1: unfortunately we never got to really have a conversation like 416 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:18,440 Speaker 1: on camera. So you know, sometimes when you don't clear things, 417 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:21,840 Speaker 1: you know, it just becomes worse and worse. And I 418 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 1: think that that's just like what happened. Are we going 419 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:27,119 Speaker 1: to see some of her sneakiness coming up. There's just 420 00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:29,760 Speaker 1: a lot of talk. I mean, it's just like I 421 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: knew her differently, you know what I mean. I feel 422 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 1: like some women when you know them differently, And Marathon 423 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:39,360 Speaker 1: Marison is going full forth. She's like you you're sneaky, 424 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:42,119 Speaker 1: You're this so well. The thing is that you know 425 00:19:42,160 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: my m s smalltel just like I'm sure like everybody 426 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,359 Speaker 1: kind knows each other when you're like in a certain group. 427 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:51,040 Speaker 1: So um, So Marison knew a lot of things about her, 428 00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:53,359 Speaker 1: and I always suck up for her, by the way, 429 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 1: like between that when we were filming like before that, 430 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,440 Speaker 1: so I was like, you know what, Marison, I don't 431 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 1: care what you say about her, Like I like, oh, 432 00:20:00,359 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 1: you're so naive, You're gonna see her true colors and 433 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 1: all that. And I was like, Okay, I don't really 434 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,919 Speaker 1: care about that, but I know her this way. But 435 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:10,479 Speaker 1: then in the Hampton's she supposedly attacked me. I mean, 436 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: I was so tired, I was so like going through 437 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,920 Speaker 1: so many things that I don't really care about the room. 438 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:16,919 Speaker 1: I don't really care about anything. I just wanted to 439 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 1: like sort things out and put my bags down. And 440 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 1: for whatever reason, she decided to like attack me, saying 441 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:26,119 Speaker 1: that you know, I was being you know, aggressive, and 442 00:20:26,160 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 1: I was being loud, and I didn't think you were 443 00:20:28,040 --> 00:20:30,879 Speaker 1: being aggressive at all. No, I was, for the record, 444 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,360 Speaker 1: you were. I was like, where did this come from? 445 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 1: So the Marissos like, you see, that's exactly what I'm 446 00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: telling you. You think she's your friend? And look at 447 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: her attacking you. I was like, you know what, I honestly, 448 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 1: I just wanted to I really wanted to cry because 449 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: it was so you did cry. I did you did? 450 00:20:47,760 --> 00:20:51,119 Speaker 1: You see? Because I kin'd even because I was like, 451 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,080 Speaker 1: you know, how hard it took me to be here, 452 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:55,399 Speaker 1: like to plan for me to go away with the 453 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 1: girls for a couple of days. I'm leaving my family, franking, 454 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 1: my husband, my business that's so our year, like you know, 455 00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 1: like to find help. So like I do all this stuff. 456 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 1: I just want to have a fun time with the 457 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: girls and get drunk and be silly. And then they're 458 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 1: fighting about a room or like the other one. Nicole, 459 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 1: like you know, like just decides to attack me because 460 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:19,239 Speaker 1: she thinks I'm being aggressive, which again I think, you know, 461 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:21,119 Speaker 1: I think like some of the new girls, like they 462 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 1: want to have their moment. And you know that because 463 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:27,679 Speaker 1: my sitting with Nicole. Yeah, I was sitting with Nicole 464 00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 1: telling her like, you know, we're talking about her dad, 465 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,359 Speaker 1: and I was telling her, listen, you know, like you 466 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 1: know our parents are older now, you know you have 467 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,239 Speaker 1: to forget the things they did, just you know, think 468 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:39,399 Speaker 1: about the good positive things. I think that you do 469 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 1: need to like fix things with your dad. I was 470 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,680 Speaker 1: giving her great advice, you know, as a friend, as 471 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,320 Speaker 1: a woman, as a daughter, as somebody that's gone through that, 472 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,439 Speaker 1: and then we land there and she attacked me like that. 473 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 1: So Marisa was like, you're an idiot, and I was like, well, 474 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: you know that's how I am. You know, I'll have 475 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 1: my moment with her, but we never kind of did. 476 00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:58,840 Speaker 1: So it's kind of that's why I still I'm still 477 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:02,159 Speaker 1: not well. That's what makes the show so good is 478 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 1: that you guys have conflict, you have issues, and it's 479 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:08,159 Speaker 1: all played out on TV. I like every single one 480 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,640 Speaker 1: of you girls. I think you're all amazing. I love 481 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:15,159 Speaker 1: the houses. I talk about your garage up. I'm like, 482 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:21,119 Speaker 1: oh my, I'm so your car literally comes into your 483 00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,680 Speaker 1: living room. Yes it does, it's right there. I don't 484 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: know if you see them. I do. That is I've 485 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 1: never seen anything like that ever, and I thought I've 486 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,639 Speaker 1: seen at all, not even in the de Breau Chateau. 487 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: Now the same developers making a second building. It's just amazing. Um, 488 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 1: I have a couple I know you've got to go, 489 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 1: but I have a couple of fan questions that they 490 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,280 Speaker 1: how do you stay so positive with everything you've gone through? 491 00:22:55,960 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 1: You're so inspirational? Thank you? Um. So, you know, I 492 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,680 Speaker 1: think it's something that I've always had, even like as 493 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:05,880 Speaker 1: a little girl. You know that I you know, whatever 494 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,640 Speaker 1: I was going through, you know, as as a younger girl. 495 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: You know, I always create. You know, I always like 496 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,480 Speaker 1: wrote things down to the journal and and I always 497 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,919 Speaker 1: found like my own inner peace. Like I it's like 498 00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:22,080 Speaker 1: the strength and this piece that I have and that 499 00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:24,119 Speaker 1: I'm grateful. I don't know how I have it. I 500 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 1: don't want to say, you know, I have a lot 501 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,119 Speaker 1: of misfortune, but I feel like that's been one of 502 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:29,840 Speaker 1: my fortunes, you know what. I need to have this 503 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,720 Speaker 1: ability for me, for me to be able to handle 504 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,480 Speaker 1: all these things and still be positive, have a smile, 505 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: be hopeful, be happy. So I I, like I said, 506 00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:44,240 Speaker 1: it's just something in it in me. Now, are you 507 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:48,760 Speaker 1: happy that you reached out to herman's lover? And are 508 00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 1: you at peace with that? And did you have any idea? Okay, 509 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,440 Speaker 1: well those are three questions you could just blend it 510 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,280 Speaker 1: all in because I feel like they're right. Yeah, so 511 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 1: answer what you want. I did not have any idea 512 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 1: of his lover. I found out about his lover um 513 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,119 Speaker 1: after he passed away, because you know, like after you 514 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:13,840 Speaker 1: passed away, after you no longer here, you know, people 515 00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:16,520 Speaker 1: want to talk. I feel like while he was alive, 516 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 1: a lot of people knew about it, and there were rumors. Um. 517 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,000 Speaker 1: But you know, he was such a wonderful man and 518 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 1: he was so loved in the community, so people like 519 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 1: would protect him obviously and wouldn't say certain things. And 520 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,880 Speaker 1: then we're up. They thought that we're protecting me, which 521 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:33,000 Speaker 1: I find it very stupid, protecting me from what from 522 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 1: my husband being bisexual. I don't think that's a thing, honestly, Like, 523 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 1: I get it they're protecting me from something bad. But 524 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 1: you know, I've never seen bisexuality or homosexuality as something 525 00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:47,160 Speaker 1: bad ordgerous, so to me, I don't. I really didn't 526 00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 1: know why. But you know, obviously it's been six years, 527 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,280 Speaker 1: so I have you know, found out a lot of things, 528 00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,639 Speaker 1: you know, like you do with time and with the 529 00:24:55,680 --> 00:24:59,760 Speaker 1: person no longer being here. Um. So I remember like 530 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,320 Speaker 1: after Herman passed away that I did find a lot 531 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,240 Speaker 1: of these things out, and a lot of them are 532 00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: from his his children, by the way. Um. So at 533 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,359 Speaker 1: that moment, I wanted to reach out, you know, to 534 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 1: this individual and just have like a heart to her 535 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 1: conversation because he was the one really that was with him, 536 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 1: you know, more time than with me. Even though we 537 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: did work together, we were obviously separated, and so even 538 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 1: though there was still like a connection, obviously it wasn't 539 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 1: the same as you know, the person he was with. 540 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,639 Speaker 1: So at that moment, I wanted to do it right 541 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 1: after that, and everybody's like, Alexia, you're not ready, you 542 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:38,200 Speaker 1: know psychologically, you know, emotionally, don't do that. It's gonna 543 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 1: hurt you. You're not strong enough. So I kind of 544 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 1: gave it something and said, you know what, you're right. 545 00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:45,480 Speaker 1: You know I still have mixed emotions that may be angry. 546 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,320 Speaker 1: You know, I may do this wrong, and you know, 547 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 1: I want this moment to be right right when I'm ready. 548 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,880 Speaker 1: So fast forward, you know, a couple of years passed by, 549 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:59,160 Speaker 1: and um, my friend Johnny, you know, is season around 550 00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:02,359 Speaker 1: in places, so he's had a conversation with him and 551 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,080 Speaker 1: you know, they know about each other, and he said, 552 00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:05,639 Speaker 1: you know what, this is my phone number. If I 553 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,120 Speaker 1: like said, everyone was to call me or talk to me. 554 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 1: You know, I'm here for her because you know, I know, 555 00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:15,359 Speaker 1: so he was already kind of trying as well. So 556 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: when I'm talking to Marison and Johnny, I'm like, you 557 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,280 Speaker 1: know what, like would I be really weird? Like does 558 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:24,240 Speaker 1: it sound really weird if I told you that I 559 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,880 Speaker 1: would love to talk to like, you know, Herman's lover. 560 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:32,000 Speaker 1: And Marison thought it was weird. I would yeah, the 561 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 1: marathon at first, and she was like, why would you 562 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 1: want to do that? First? I know you, and you 563 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:40,000 Speaker 1: would do even more than that, right that my conversation 564 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,639 Speaker 1: with her, So stop, Okay, I know you. But second 565 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 1: of all, Marisov didn't really understand at the moment when 566 00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:49,080 Speaker 1: I said it. Why And I said, Marison, like I 567 00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,160 Speaker 1: need to know, like I don't want to know about 568 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 1: like I need to know that he was in a 569 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,600 Speaker 1: good place, Like I need to know that he was 570 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,800 Speaker 1: happy that he finally got to do was he you 571 00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:59,919 Speaker 1: know what he wanted to do? That was he planning 572 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,280 Speaker 1: telling me? He was never gonna tell me, like his 573 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:03,959 Speaker 1: lover told me at that time, but like he was 574 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,920 Speaker 1: never going to tell you, Alexia, you respected you so much? 575 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,159 Speaker 1: And I said, yeah, so you know, a lot of 576 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,240 Speaker 1: these questions kind of like for like not to put 577 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:16,760 Speaker 1: closure obviously, you know if a put closure to my life. 578 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,840 Speaker 1: But at the same time, it was like it was 579 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,920 Speaker 1: a conversation where we both laughed at the same stories, 580 00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:26,120 Speaker 1: we cried. You know, he told me things, I told 581 00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:29,520 Speaker 1: him things. It was just perfect and at a perfect time. 582 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:32,400 Speaker 1: So in any way, it was like to make him 583 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,639 Speaker 1: look bad. But you know how it is camera. I 584 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,080 Speaker 1: mean like, okay, I'm saying it, but guess what, maybe 585 00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 1: America doesn't know about it, but all Miami does. So 586 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,840 Speaker 1: it's like everybody was saying it behind my back. Even 587 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:45,760 Speaker 1: that's what they tried to mention something like that, right, 588 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,600 Speaker 1: and you know they shut it down, but you know 589 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,880 Speaker 1: it's something that everybody knows. And again I'm focusing on 590 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 1: the positive and on the good of it. Well, you 591 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:58,640 Speaker 1: definitely were graceful through the whole entire thing. I mean actually, 592 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:01,200 Speaker 1: everything that happens or comes up or comes your way. 593 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,800 Speaker 1: I just feel like you are just like Teflon. You're 594 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:05,960 Speaker 1: just like just slide off of me. I'm just gonna 595 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 1: keep smiling and adjust my crown. You're amazed, and Alex say, 596 00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,400 Speaker 1: I know that you have to go. Thank you so 597 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,160 Speaker 1: much for taking the time to come on to teas 598 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,480 Speaker 1: in a pod and um, I'm I want to come 599 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 1: to your party in Miami. Yes, you definitely invite it. 600 00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 1: And when I'm in l A I'll call you so 601 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,200 Speaker 1: we can. Yes, I would love that. I would love that. Well, 602 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,800 Speaker 1: thank you so much and have a wonderful day. Thank 603 00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 1: you you as well, Tamara, thank you