WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Beer & Butterfly Kisses

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, it's our favorite day of the year, and that

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone who's tagging us on social media. African Jeffrey and sharing, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Eric from Indiana texted and just saw I'm in the

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<v Speaker 4>point zero five percent on Spotify.

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<v Speaker 3>That's around eighty one thousand minutes with you guys, and

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<v Speaker 3>I hope it's more next year.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like that's more time than I spent with myself.

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<v Speaker 5>That's like four more times of the amount of music

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<v Speaker 5>I listened to.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah cool, Eric, you are literally paying our salary. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you all make up your number and texting yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>please and keep tagging us. It's at Brick and Jeffrey.

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<v Speaker 1>We love you so much. We've got a brand.

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<v Speaker 2>New what are we doing right now? Second eight? Yeah, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the name of this podcast, so let's do it.

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<v Speaker 6>It's brand new. It's right now.

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<v Speaker 3>The second date of date when you get ghosted after

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<v Speaker 3>a first date, is it hurtful?

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<v Speaker 1>No, if you don't have to tell yourself it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>hurt it does I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Good news? Is it starts to hurt less and less

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<v Speaker 3>the more it happens to you. Yeah, that numbness is

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<v Speaker 3>kind of nice feeling, but not a feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the whole point of the enough exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>Now we're on the same page. But our listener, Claire

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<v Speaker 3>believes there's something more behind why her date isn't reaching

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<v Speaker 3>out to her and she's come to us asking for assistance. So, Claire,

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<v Speaker 3>why is Brooke laughing at you? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>She is like totally insulted by your intro here, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>have you been ghosted that many times?

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<v Speaker 2>Claire?

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<v Speaker 6>No, I'm just super worried about him.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, oh wow, why do you say that?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, first of all, his name is Jane and a

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<v Speaker 6>guy that what goes with me? Like, but he has

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<v Speaker 6>not responded to me at all in like three days.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he someone that you already knew before you went

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<v Speaker 1>on a date, Because.

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<v Speaker 3>The way that you're talking, it sounds like you've known

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<v Speaker 3>him for a while. He would never do that to me.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, no, I haven't, but he just gave off that vibe.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys hit it off, back and forth, back and forth,

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<v Speaker 4>and all of a sudden, nothing is weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's the thing, though, Vibes can lie, you know, liars

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<v Speaker 2>those vibes.

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<v Speaker 4>People can also lie, not.

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<v Speaker 5>Liars, those vibes real close.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, es are Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I always trust him.

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<v Speaker 3>You're genuinely worried about him.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I mean, it's just that he works a lot,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, and he has like a really stressful work environment.

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<v Speaker 6>He has a really important sales job, and he's like

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<v Speaker 6>working all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So that would make sense that he wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>able to contact you for three days.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So how many dates have you had with him, because

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<v Speaker 3>it sounds like you've had a few.

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<v Speaker 6>So yeah, I mean we willn't of date like ten

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<v Speaker 6>days ago, but we were texting after that, trying to

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<v Speaker 6>plan something else, and then he just stopped responding.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So three days ago he stopped responding to your

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<v Speaker 3>text and that's why you're worried. Okay, got it. So

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<v Speaker 3>let's go back to the day. What did you guys

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<v Speaker 3>do for it?

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<v Speaker 6>Okay? So first of all, we went bowling and then

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<v Speaker 6>we went to this place and it's like an indoor

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<v Speaker 6>butterfly house type of thing where the butterflies like land

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<v Speaker 6>on you.

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<v Speaker 3>Kind of scary.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember one time as a kind of giant butterfly.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I thought it was gonna do you really

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<v Speaker 2>got to watch where he stepped to. Oh no, ground

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<v Speaker 2>got you down at all times.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like that one was still a counterpillar broke his

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<v Speaker 3>Bama from Okay.

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<v Speaker 6>It was such a fun idea. And he's normally like

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<v Speaker 6>very just considerate. I just thought it was so nice.

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<v Speaker 2>He keeps saying, normally you've had one experience.

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<v Speaker 3>But you're talking like you've known him for a really

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<v Speaker 3>really long time.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, I feel like I have, because he's like a

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<v Speaker 6>special person to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so you haven't dated for a while, then, have you?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean not really, I guess. But he just we

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<v Speaker 6>just clicked. I mean, we just bob. We just everything

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<v Speaker 6>was just great with us.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell us any moments where it felt reciprocal, like he

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<v Speaker 1>was also on the same page as you.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, okay, So we were bowling and like he

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<v Speaker 6>picked up my bowling ball and I thought it was

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<v Speaker 6>bound the stake, but it really wasn't. And he tried

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<v Speaker 6>to bowl with my ball, had like take it from him,

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<v Speaker 6>and we just laughed about it and we thought it

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<v Speaker 6>was the funniest thing ever.

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<v Speaker 3>That is one out lighter, silly.

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<v Speaker 6>Like we were connecting.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, it's strange that you'd grab it from his hands,

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<v Speaker 1>but I like it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, I mean it's cute to them. It's cute, right, ye,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess.

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<v Speaker 6>So it was my ball.

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<v Speaker 2>That was just a flirty moment that you two had.

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<v Speaker 2>That's cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Nice drinks some food involved in the date.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean we weren't that hungry, so we just split

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<v Speaker 6>some fries and a beer.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay. Were there any butterfly kisses inside of the butterfly

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<v Speaker 3>Exhibit C Yeah, it feels like the right place to do.

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<v Speaker 6>There were no kisses, but if he would have tried it,

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<v Speaker 6>I would have been very very open to it, and

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<v Speaker 6>my lashes would have been like butterflies as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, flood flutter.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what that is, but she would go

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<v Speaker 3>there in the butterfly world. That's second, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it sounds like you left that date feeling

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<v Speaker 1>sure you'd see him again.

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<v Speaker 6>Absolutely. I mean we were even texting back and forth

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<v Speaker 6>making future plans and then he just came up with this,

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<v Speaker 6>I gotta find some free time because I'm working right

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<v Speaker 6>now now and things are busy. And then he start

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<v Speaker 6>responding like three days ago.

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<v Speaker 3>What if we find out after we call him that

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<v Speaker 3>he actually blew you off on purpose and he's just

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<v Speaker 3>trying to be nice about it.

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<v Speaker 1>He wouldn't do that, that's the way you are so positive.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I feel like you haven't listened to our show enough.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, well, my friend did recommend you.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't listen normally.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's why there's so much hope.

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<v Speaker 3>Got it? So you said three days ago he suddenly

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<v Speaker 3>cut off communication with you, and you're just trying to

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<v Speaker 3>figure out what's going on.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I'm just worried because something could have happened.

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<v Speaker 6>So I'm thinking maybe if you guys call him, we

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<v Speaker 6>can get this whole thing, put it out.

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<v Speaker 3>Are we going to destroy it?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we're going to ruin the last optimistic

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<v Speaker 1>person that's left in the dating world right now.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, But remember what I said about numbness in

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<v Speaker 3>the beginning. You can start that process right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Yeah, So I have hope for you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, he's stuck in an elevator.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure of it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Okay, we'll get the laughing gas ready just in

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<v Speaker 3>case when we call James for you and try and

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<v Speaker 3>get you your second date update right after this. Thanks guy,

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<v Speaker 3>second date update if you're just joining us. We've been

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<v Speaker 3>talking to Claire, who had the three bees on her

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<v Speaker 3>first date, bowling beer and butterflies.

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<v Speaker 4>Together.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and not just the nervous tummy butterflies either, actual

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<v Speaker 3>real ones flying around inside of a butterfly house.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of cute.

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<v Speaker 3>It is definitely different than what we've had before. But

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<v Speaker 3>she's come to us very concerned because three days ago

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<v Speaker 3>her guy James fully stopped responding.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like this whole episode is brought to you

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<v Speaker 1>by the number three right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, lots of threes. And it was weird because they

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<v Speaker 3>were in the middle of planning their next meetup.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, it sounds like he wasn't giving her

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<v Speaker 1>exact dates in time.

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<v Speaker 3>Claire, Brook's calling you a liar.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, that she may have misinterpreted his text like

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<v Speaker 1>he was saying I'm busy, I'm busy and busy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she did say that she was new at dating,

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<v Speaker 3>so maybe she doesn't know how to navigate this situation

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<v Speaker 3>quite the right way, and she.

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't listen her incompetent now, Jeffrey.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I am. I'm just kidding, Claire. But we're going

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<v Speaker 3>to reach out to James because you said he's not

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<v Speaker 3>answering when you call. You think maybe he'll pick up

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<v Speaker 3>for us.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm hopeful, Okay, you are very hopeful.

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<v Speaker 1>She is. She is, and she's concerned about his safety

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<v Speaker 1>and thinks something could have happened, like.

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<v Speaker 6>I think something probably did, because there's no way that

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<v Speaker 6>he wouldn't reach out to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Really, sometimes I wish we could do these in person,

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<v Speaker 1>so we could hug each other afterwards, make each other

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<v Speaker 1>feel better, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, why'd you make eye contact with me when you

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<v Speaker 3>said that I wasn't talk about hugging you happiness in person? Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>Well I'll give you Brooks home address after this is over,

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<v Speaker 3>so you can go over there and hug it out

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<v Speaker 3>all you want. Anyway, Let's let's call James right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Hopefully he answers. We can get to the bottom of this,

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<v Speaker 3>figure out why three days ago he fully cut off

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<v Speaker 3>communication with you.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>Sure it'll be a happy story here.

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<v Speaker 7>Hello, this is James very formal.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, hi James, you're on the radio, right.

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<v Speaker 7>Radio.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in

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<v Speaker 3>the Morning.

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<v Speaker 7>Good morning, good morning. How can I help you out there?

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<v Speaker 3>We're really happy to hear your voice and that you're doing. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>it sounds well sure.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>He could be in the hospital right now for all

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<v Speaker 2>we know.

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<v Speaker 3>The fact that picked up though, that's a really good start.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm sorry what it was about.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, this is a it's a segment we do on

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<v Speaker 3>our show. It's called the Second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 2>You're kind of like the star of it today.

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<v Speaker 7>Okay, that doesn't too great.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's not a bad thing. It just means somebody

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<v Speaker 3>out there is trying to see you again and they

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<v Speaker 3>haven't been able to get a hold of you.

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<v Speaker 7>You don't see the name that I think that you're

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<v Speaker 7>about to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, there's a certain name.

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<v Speaker 3>What name are you thinking?

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<v Speaker 7>Claire?

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<v Speaker 3>That's her?

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<v Speaker 7>What is she doing?

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<v Speaker 8>Oh my goodness, she's just trying to get a hold

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<v Speaker 8>of you, because she said, basically that you two had

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<v Speaker 8>an awesome date together where you went bowling and you

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<v Speaker 8>visited a butterfly house, and she was telling us how

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<v Speaker 8>fun and how thoughtful it was that you came up with.

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<v Speaker 7>That for her.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, she had a lot of positive things to say

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<v Speaker 3>about you.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh really, did she happen to tell you anything else?

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<v Speaker 7>Like what happened after?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she told us that you guys were texting

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<v Speaker 1>trying to figure out a date to get back together?

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<v Speaker 7>Right? No, No, it wasn't the texting it honestly, it

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<v Speaker 7>was about the forcefulness in the meetups.

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<v Speaker 3>What stay forceful?

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<v Speaker 1>But meetups? You only had one meetup? You just saw

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<v Speaker 1>each other on one date.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I know, but I'm a very busy guy. I

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<v Speaker 7>do a lot of different things for work.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, wait, she was a little bit over eager. It

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<v Speaker 3>sounds like to see you again.

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<v Speaker 7>I think that's an understatement. I mean, if I couldn't

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<v Speaker 7>hang out Tuesday, she would see what about Wednesday? What

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<v Speaker 7>about Thursday? What about Friday? It just became way too

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<v Speaker 7>much for me, And then she she just crossed the line.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, is that the line?

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<v Speaker 3>What line? Did she cross?

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<v Speaker 2>The Wednesday? Thursday? Friday?

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<v Speaker 1>Line?

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<v Speaker 3>Is that the line suggesting other day?

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<v Speaker 7>No? No, it was worse.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, I think she is totally clueless that she

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<v Speaker 1>made you feel uncomfortable or whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, why are you so sure that she should know

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<v Speaker 3>she made a.

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<v Speaker 7>Mistake because she called my work?

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<v Speaker 2>What what your job?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah? Yeah, I was at work and HR called me

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<v Speaker 7>and a woman named Claire reached out and wanted to

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<v Speaker 7>do a welfare check on me.

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<v Speaker 6>What whoa?

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<v Speaker 3>I know?

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, at work and she's telling her that we need

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<v Speaker 7>to move my schedule around and workload around. Like, what's

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<v Speaker 7>going on with that?

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<v Speaker 6>Now?

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<v Speaker 4>I think we all understand.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, listen, maybe Claire is being misunderstood here and your

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<v Speaker 3>manager has relayed her message in a way that painted

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<v Speaker 3>her in a bad light. Oh that's h And maybe

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<v Speaker 3>you are working too hard and it's not a terrible

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<v Speaker 3>thing if your date wants you to be less stressed. Jeff,

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<v Speaker 3>you are a champion of our listeners, And I just

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<v Speaker 3>I think I think you should talk to Claire about

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<v Speaker 3>it because she is on the phone with us right

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<v Speaker 3>now wanting to speak to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my, why isn't it better to speak to her

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<v Speaker 1>instead of speaking through your HR to her?

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't agree with you more. But but she has

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<v Speaker 3>talked to Claire.

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<v Speaker 7>Claire, Claire, what are you doing.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, if Karen is a crown and I'm guilty, I

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<v Speaker 6>just care about you. We went on one date, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>one special date.

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<v Speaker 2>Clar Why would you call his h R.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, no other girlfriend would do that for a guy.

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<v Speaker 7>Girlfriend it you're not my girlfriend. We hung out once.

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<v Speaker 7>What are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 6>Not yet, but I'm just showing that I want to

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<v Speaker 6>spend more time with you.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean what I mean, what are we What are

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<v Speaker 7>we really doing here? I could meet with my HR department.

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<v Speaker 7>I had to meet with my boss. You're messing with

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<v Speaker 7>my job. You're messing with my way of living. Like

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<v Speaker 7>you don't even know what I do. You don't even

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<v Speaker 7>know exactly what I'm doing at work.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, listen, here's what I do now. I know you

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<v Speaker 6>work in sales, and I know you were stressed out,

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<v Speaker 6>so I was just trying to help.

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<v Speaker 3>You with that and defense the reason that I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>according to her, you kept saying you couldn't meet up

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<v Speaker 3>because you were too busy with work. So she's trying

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<v Speaker 3>to problem number one.

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<v Speaker 5>Of not hanging out with.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, she's not buying it.

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<v Speaker 1>That is a huge boundary to cross. You just never

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<v Speaker 1>call someone's workplace. It's just you don't. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>honestly feel like it has to be said for Claire

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<v Speaker 1>to understand that, Oh.

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<v Speaker 6>Yes I can, and yes I did.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't call the workplace, just call directly to their family. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>where is the right thing to do?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I want to call his family, but I

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<v Speaker 6>didn't have their numbers.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh okay, this is easy to fix. James. What's your

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<v Speaker 3>family's phone number?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, listen, you guys, I don't know what's going on here,

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<v Speaker 7>but this is the first time that I've ever gone

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<v Speaker 7>on a date where whoever I went on a date

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<v Speaker 7>with to try to free up my schedule just to

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<v Speaker 7>see them.

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<v Speaker 2>You're lucky she didn't quit for you.

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<v Speaker 4>It is funny to be like, oh, I'm busy, and

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<v Speaker 4>she's like, oh, I'll take care of that.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, busy anymore? Well, okay, I see them the

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<v Speaker 3>good intentions in your heart when you did it. But

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<v Speaker 3>for James, you cross the line.

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<v Speaker 2>I think for anyone that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyone don't, but specifically for James in this cell.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, yeah, okay, Well, now that we're past that, we

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<v Speaker 6>should do pizza and butterfly for on our feet.

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<v Speaker 1>Pizza butter Going back to butterfly, butterfly, the butterfly kisses.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, Jackie were the idea.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, don't ruin the idea. I mean, I think the

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<v Speaker 6>butterfly chriss are is a great idea.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, sorry, but James, pretend you didn't hear that. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>blank that out of your memory. All I want you

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<v Speaker 3>to focus on is will you go out on another

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<v Speaker 3>date with Claire and we would pay for it.

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<v Speaker 1>We're talking to James now, yes, okay, yeah, pizza and

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<v Speaker 1>she will on your Claire. I think you need to

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<v Speaker 1>hear this response. Okay, so make sure you're paying attention.

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<v Speaker 6>My ears though all the way open.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my, okay, So, James, what do you think about

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<v Speaker 3>giving Claire one more chance?

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<v Speaker 7>No?

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, you didn't have to laugh though. That

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<v Speaker 3>was the only time.

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<v Speaker 6>Well that was rude.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I was calling his workplace.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay. I understand this is when someone's new to dating.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a lot of new rules and stuff you gotta learn.

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<v Speaker 3>So maybe this is a learning moment for you.

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<v Speaker 6>I've learned that people don't understand what Karen is these days,

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<v Speaker 6>and I just have to care harder.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, that is the opposite, care less.

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<v Speaker 7>Please listen to them, care less about me, Karen, less

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<v Speaker 7>about other people.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and that's the message that we are going to

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<v Speaker 3>leave today, broken Jeffrey in the morning, care less about everyone.

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<v Speaker 6>Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, look, the positive that we can take out

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<v Speaker 3>of this is what is. I really don't think we

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<v Speaker 3>deterred her at all. She still sounds very hopeful, and

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<v Speaker 3>by hopeful, I mean hopefully she's not already inside his

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<v Speaker 3>apartment making it.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, like she needed some reality here.

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<v Speaker 4>She really was like the perfect data for our show.

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<v Speaker 4>She had no idea, she never listened to the show.

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<v Speaker 4>She's still optimism about dating. I mean she got blindsided here, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>She got blindsided and she called this work. What are

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<v Speaker 2>you talking about?

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<v Speaker 3>She didn't know that was bad. To do him a

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<v Speaker 3>favor and take the stress away.

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<v Speaker 1>She did not see this coming, Brooke, don't ever call

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<v Speaker 1>anyone's place of employment soever.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I feel like we're gonna hear from her again.

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<v Speaker 5>She's not going to be your first ghosting.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think we're all just jealous of her relentless

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<v Speaker 3>optimism because that's exactly what you need to survive this

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<v Speaker 3>dating world. So I predict she'll be fine and If

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<v Speaker 3>you need some optimism that your dating life isn't completely tragic,

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<v Speaker 3>go to our podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>You're Gonna say, call somebody else. Yeah, Listen to.

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<v Speaker 3>Us on Spotify, Apple, wherever, and you will finally find

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<v Speaker 3>hope in your own life. Feels good, Find us at

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<v Speaker 3>Brook and Jeffard