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Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapod. Hi, guys, welcome to this week's

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Speaker 1: Teddy Teapod, who I am co hosting with Bob Guinney.

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Speaker 1: Most of you who know me at all know that

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Speaker 1: I'm like a crazed Bachelor fan, like from the very beginning,

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Speaker 1: and I couldn't think of sharing all of my personal

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Speaker 1: information with anybody other than you because you were one

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Speaker 1: of my favorites than so many incredible things post Bachelor,

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Speaker 1: but I figured, you know what, I'm so grateful to

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Speaker 1: have you here today because you know you've been through

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Speaker 1: this reality world business back in then you know those

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Speaker 1: of it. Well, thank first of all, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. I'm excited to be on and

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Speaker 1: uh yeah, you know if they if they were watching

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Speaker 1: the show that far back, you were probably still in diaper.

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Speaker 1: So I appreciate it how you're able to No, so

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Speaker 1: white year were you on was in n No what?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you actually just made me feel older

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Speaker 1: than I am. No, it was two thousand and three,

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Speaker 1: as on trist this season and then so it was

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Speaker 1: the first bachelotte and then they made me the bachelor,

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Speaker 1: so I was actually the fourth bachelor, and I was

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Speaker 1: in two thousand and four, Okay, so I knew it

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Speaker 1: was close to when I originally moved out. So I

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Speaker 1: moved to California nine and we would have like viewing

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Speaker 1: parties in my like little apartment that I shared with

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Speaker 1: like eighties six other people. That has stuck with us.

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Speaker 1: This will be the first year that I can't have

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Speaker 1: my Bachelor viewing parties because of COVID. I know, man,

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Speaker 1: COVID thing is just killing so many fun things. You know,

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Speaker 1: it's just not the same one zoom, But at least

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Speaker 1: this call, it feels the same. It feels like we're

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Speaker 1: sitting in the same room together. It does. And so

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Speaker 1: you know, I wanted to tell you. So my wife,

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Speaker 1: who you've not met, um uh, we just moved from

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Speaker 1: Seattle back to the Midwest, and my wife her best friend, uh,

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Speaker 1: a lady in Cherish, is in Seattle, and so they

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Speaker 1: would watch every episode of Real Housewives and they are

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Speaker 1: the Teddy and Kyle relationship up there. And it was

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Speaker 1: so funny because they'd always be like, I call my

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Speaker 1: wife Kenyon, which is her maiden name, but Kanyon. I

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Speaker 1: was always like, you know, he can Kanyon, you know

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Speaker 1: what's going on? There, She's like, well everyone's just Teddy

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Speaker 1: and Kyle and us yet again, So I'll just kiss uh.

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Speaker 1: And so is she the teddy? She's the teddy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and her friend cherishes the coum. Is she a little

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Speaker 1: bit type A controlling, funny though loving way, Yes, yes

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Speaker 1: she is. Actually, when we were getting married, I called

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Speaker 1: her the Frugal Fiance because she I was like, you

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Speaker 1: should have your own like pod series and it called

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Speaker 1: the Frugal Fiance And she's like, what do you I go, Well,

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Speaker 1: everything that comes up, You're like, wait a minute, I

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Speaker 1: can go get that at Costco and make it myself.

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Speaker 1: Now that's not a teddy thing. That's just a canyon to.

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Speaker 1: But to give you an idea of her type A nous,

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Speaker 1: it comes out. You know what, she's a girl after

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Speaker 1: my own heart type AI till the end. But she's

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Speaker 1: probably a straight shooter and that's you know why you

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Speaker 1: fell in love with her, because it's it's it's a

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Speaker 1: blessing and a curse for us straight shooter type A types. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this last week has been such craziness around here. Well

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Speaker 1: I only imagine. I mean you're dealing with First of all,

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Speaker 1: I said this last night in passing. But I know

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Speaker 1: we have a lot of news to get to today,

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Speaker 1: in particular what's going on with housewives and with you

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Speaker 1: and uh and I mean, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: it's just got to be such a I would imagine

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Speaker 1: you said of blessing and a curse. I would imagine

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Speaker 1: you're probably feeling a little bit of a blessing and

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Speaker 1: hell is going on here? I mean, so what is

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Speaker 1: going on? The headlines are out right now about you

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Speaker 1: know you. So the crazy thing, the craziest part about

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Speaker 1: it was, I think it was last Monday. I woke up,

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Speaker 1: I was on the Holton and my girlfriend started texting

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Speaker 1: me my non television show girlfriends and they're like, hey,

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Speaker 1: it's all over the Daily Mail that you're no longer

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Speaker 1: they're like, so, um, your contracts not getting renewed as

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Speaker 1: a housewife, And I'm like, you are telling me that

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Speaker 1: it's released to the Daily Mail before me, so that

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Speaker 1: to me, you know, like you have to kind of

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Speaker 1: go through a couple of different stages, which I'm sure

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Speaker 1: like which we all hate to admit we have one,

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Speaker 1: but it's like what what is happening? Like how did

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Speaker 1: this happen? How did I have no idea? But then

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Speaker 1: for the last couple of months I had been preparing

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Speaker 1: the first time I had was able to tell the kids,

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Speaker 1: like I filmed so many amazing things that were never

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Speaker 1: have been the writing on the wall, you know, like, okay,

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Speaker 1: all of the all the like things that make me

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Speaker 1: a likable, redeeming human being, we're not shown on the

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Speaker 1: season thing is the worst on the reality show, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, And so if you only see a certain

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Speaker 1: part of somebody, it's really hard to connect to them,

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Speaker 1: I think. And I'm not blaming production or Bravo or

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Speaker 1: whatever it is, but I was there too, you know,

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Speaker 1: to do a certain part, and that part I did,

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Speaker 1: but if you don't see the other part, it's hard

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Speaker 1: to relate to the person. If you don't see me

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Speaker 1: just see me arguing, right, it's I mean to be fair.

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Speaker 1: I always said, I was only gonna say things you

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Speaker 1: I was forced to that. We're not forced to do anything.

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Speaker 1: We're adults. You make our own decisions. But I can

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Speaker 1: say that, yes, I made mistakes throughout my time on Housewives,

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Speaker 1: but I also I also did authentically what felt right

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Speaker 1: true to today. But I'm not going to be the

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Speaker 1: type that you're gonna worried is like gonna punch somebody.

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Speaker 1: Like everything I say comes from the heart. And maybe

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Speaker 1: that's why you know you're not gonna see craziness from me,

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Speaker 1: because like I'm doing it because it's how I'm feeling,

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Speaker 1: not what I think. You know, Jennifer is going to

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Speaker 1: think on blah blah blah watching it back. Sure, No,

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Speaker 1: doing that, that's pretty transparent too, That's what they I say, right,

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Speaker 1: think that people out there that love you are no.

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Speaker 1: I know that you're a very genuine article and that's

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Speaker 1: something that's important. You know, Thank you. I can imagine

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, I think, you know, there's also a

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Speaker 1: Like you talk to these people more, almost more than

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Speaker 1: why do I feel sad today? And They're like, You're

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Speaker 1: I feel like when I was all all in on Housewives,

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Speaker 1: because the negativity and the positivity, all of those things

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Speaker 1: consumes you. Oh yeah, for sure. Well you know you

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Speaker 1: You know. I think there's different types of friends. I

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Speaker 1: it makes sense, then I you know, I'll never say never.

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Speaker 1: But I wouldn't want to be in a situation just

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Speaker 1: never say never because I just don't know the circumstance.

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Speaker 1: And some of these women I really love and care about. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: well that's what I was thinking. I mean you just

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Speaker 1: I mean those are real friends of yours now, like

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Speaker 1: I've always loved her. You know, she's she's a wild card,

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Speaker 1: but she's funny and crazy. But were there anyone else?

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Speaker 1: Was there anyone else on the show that you feel

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Speaker 1: like you walk away with a genuine friendship that will last,

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Speaker 1: I reached out to dereit Um because deret and I've

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Speaker 1: were awful. If anybody watched it, you know, it's like

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00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:40,400
Speaker 1: it's like, you know, there's no there's no sense of

426
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:44,119
Speaker 1: calm and so much change happening. So it's like, you know,

427
00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 1: of course this happened this year, and it's just all

428
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:48,680
Speaker 1: the times is what happened. Of course it happened this year.

429
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 1: But it does give you a chance to to really

430
00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: take the notoriety and the and the the you know,

431
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 1: the name recognition and everything you got from the show

432
00:21:57,880 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 1: and turn it into something great. I mean, I know

433
00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 1: it's I know it's quick, but if you already started

434
00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,760
Speaker 1: kind of thinking about next steps or are you just

435
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 1: sort of sitting back and you know, I think the

436
00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 1: biggest thing has been my My biggest focus has been like,

437
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 1: all right, I'm really leaning in too, and I leaning

438
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:19,119
Speaker 1: in a such an over your work to stop leaning in.

439
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:21,439
Speaker 1: But I've really been focusing on like the morale of

440
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:25,119
Speaker 1: all of my employees and focusing on my clients and

441
00:22:25,119 --> 00:22:29,919
Speaker 1: the things that I did prior to Housewives, because you know,

442
00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 1: when I when I'm filming Housewives. I can only keep

443
00:22:33,520 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 1: on so many personal clients myself, so now I'm starting

444
00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 1: to grow that number again. I'm starting to also go

445
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 1: back to the things that I love that have nothing

446
00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,199
Speaker 1: to do with the television show, like going out to

447
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:49,159
Speaker 1: the barn riding horses, like making time to talk to

448
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 1: the people in my life that are really important that

449
00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:54,679
Speaker 1: I do love, you know that when you're busy and

450
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 1: then they're like, Rush, how you doing? You know, like

451
00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 1: even my sister, like rush conversations were like she's one

452
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:02,920
Speaker 1: of my very best friends. I love her so much.

453
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:06,239
Speaker 1: Like I need to take that time to, you know,

454
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:09,960
Speaker 1: invest in those relationships that maybe I haven't been putting

455
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 1: enough effort into. And also like watching the show back,

456
00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: there are some things that I've learned, you know, about

457
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: myself that I want to work on, and like I'm

458
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 1: glad that I, you know, was able to watch this

459
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 1: season back and go, Okay, you know, this was an

460
00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:26,119
Speaker 1: ideal this was an ideal rom and then also remember

461
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 1: the good parts, but then go okay, in the future, yes, Teddy,

462
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,359
Speaker 1: you can still be straightforward. Yes you can say what's

463
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 1: on your heart. Maybe your tone could been a little different,

464
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 1: maybe you could you know, like that's part of you.

465
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:41,919
Speaker 1: Like my my version of Teddy here at home. I'm

466
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 1: always like, it's not what you say, it's how you

467
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: say it. I said, it's my wife all like you

468
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 1: sound bad. She's like, it's just my voice, you know,

469
00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 1: Like you know, sometimes my intensity level is a little hot,

470
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:55,920
Speaker 1: you know. So and like the season before that, I've

471
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:58,360
Speaker 1: learned like gosh, I'm really nagging my husband a lot,

472
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,439
Speaker 1: you know, like or whatever. It made so just able

473
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:03,479
Speaker 1: to kind of take those things and say, like all right,

474
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:05,440
Speaker 1: I can grow and learn from this, and the friendships

475
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 1: that matter from the show will continue on. Yeah, that

476
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:10,640
Speaker 1: doesn't end just because the contract then, you know. And

477
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 1: to that point, like I mean you said you reached

478
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 1: out to Dry, I mean, what what did Kyle say? Like,

479
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 1: I mean, I know you guys are so close. What

480
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:20,480
Speaker 1: how does she read? I mean, I think there's always

481
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: this moment. There's this thing that like we always kind

482
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:27,919
Speaker 1: of everybody knows that, like sometime after the reunion is

483
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:31,600
Speaker 1: when you get your pickup letters, right, so everybody just

484
00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: it's like that unknown thing that you don't really speak about. Yeah,

485
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 1: that morning I got the text about the Daily Mail.

486
00:24:39,200 --> 00:24:43,760
Speaker 1: I texted her and I was just like h and

487
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: She's like no, and I was like, yeah, I think

488
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 1: I think this is a yes, and she was like no,

489
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:54,640
Speaker 1: you know what. And then once she found out, it's

490
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,479
Speaker 1: like it all happens for a reason, like we love you.

491
00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:00,239
Speaker 1: I can't imagine doing this without you. We love you, Like,

492
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: but I I might even get emotional, so cheesy, but like, oh,

493
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 1: but being able to create such an amazing friendship through

494
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:14,240
Speaker 1: reality television show, it's really unheard of. And my you know,

495
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 1: I never would have thought, like when people are like

496
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: our reality television shows fake, Like I never in my

497
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: deepest like thoughts of doing Housewives sort of been gosh,

498
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna find one of my very best friends

499
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,800
Speaker 1: doing this show. You wouldn't have guess that in a

500
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: million years. Yeah, Like, and she has been a friend

501
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,640
Speaker 1: that's connected with my friends, Like we have integrated into

502
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 1: each other's lives outside of the show. And it really

503
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 1: is incredible that you can really form that strong of

504
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:45,159
Speaker 1: a relationship with cameras on you. It's amazing, isn't it.

505
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: I mean, forget the cameras are there, right, and you're

506
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: just being yourself, which I think is white people love

507
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,359
Speaker 1: you so much. But I think about that with Kyle

508
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:55,160
Speaker 1: te Like, I mean, you know, I watched the show

509
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 1: as much as I could, and I would always I

510
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 1: always like be to my wife and I was like, oh,

511
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 1: you're watching that show again, then I do. I can't

512
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: believe I would. Everyone makes fun of me for that,

513
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 1: but I would say you brought out a different side

514
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,960
Speaker 1: of Kyle too, you know, Like, I mean, there's a

515
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 1: side of Kyle that I think seemed a lot more

516
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: relatable this past season in that, you know, she let

517
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: her guard down a little bit. She's always kind of been,

518
00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: you know, battling out in the past with the ander pomp,

519
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 1: you know, for the Queen Bee type of situation, and

520
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 1: I think she's just you brought out a side of

521
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 1: her that I think you really needed to see too,

522
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 1: like a little more of a human side, you know. Well,

523
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 1: I I think we really trust one another and it

524
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 1: was a true authentic friendship. And I think that any show,

525
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 1: whenever you're you know, watching a show, you can feel

526
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: that and you can see that. And that's why I

527
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: think at the beginning of the season, all the women

528
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: were like, what's going on? What is this? What is it?

529
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:49,640
Speaker 1: And we're like, this is called an authentic friendship? You guys,

530
00:26:49,640 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 1: what happens? I'm just kidding, idea. I actually I watched

531
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 1: the finale again last night, the part three of the

532
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:07,360
Speaker 1: finale in UM. First of all, I love to pick

533
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: hare and I was that was a nice touch. Um.

534
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 1: But you know, Erica, You and Erica are like it

535
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 1: seemingly very different people, but you guys seem to have

536
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,879
Speaker 1: like a nice understanding of one another. I thought, you

537
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:21,879
Speaker 1: know what, I love Erica and I. The thing that

538
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:23,919
Speaker 1: I learned so much is like Eric and I the

539
00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 1: first season didn't click. And the reason why it was

540
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: we never did anything together the two of us. Every

541
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:34,479
Speaker 1: single thing was in the group. So how do you

542
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 1: It's very hard to connect with a person in a

543
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: large group when you don't get to know anything about

544
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 1: that person and the only thing that you know about

545
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 1: them is what's been told to you from somebody else, right,

546
00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 1: you know. So I got brought in and then you know,

547
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:53,440
Speaker 1: had these conversations with vander Pumper Dread or whomever we're

548
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 1: having the current situation with her, and then I started

549
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,639
Speaker 1: feeling things that maybe I didn't necessary really feel or no,

550
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: just because we never spoke, you know, it was other

551
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:07,360
Speaker 1: than hello, like there was no time for us to connect.

552
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: And then once we both said, you know, at the

553
00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 1: reunion after my first season, like okay, you know, we're

554
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: going to make a conscious effort to move forward and

555
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: get to know each other. It was impossible not to

556
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:23,719
Speaker 1: like one another because like, she's a straight shooter, she's

557
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:26,719
Speaker 1: an you know, an honest person. I've said this before,

558
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: but like if I were to get arrested tomorrow, Erica

559
00:28:29,800 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 1: would be the person I would call because I know

560
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:34,120
Speaker 1: that she would never tell a soul, you know, like

561
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: she is. She is that kind of that kind of person.

562
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: And she's also funny and smart, and you know, I

563
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 1: think it takes a big person for both of us

564
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 1: to say, you know what, maybe we were wrong about

565
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 1: each other that first season. I think it says a lot. Yeah,

566
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:50,480
Speaker 1: I mean, because it's hard to do. It's hard to look.

567
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 1: I mean, well, you mentioned it a few times, you know,

568
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,200
Speaker 1: like looking back and watching the show, you decided maybe

569
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: you were a little nagan too much, you know, maybe

570
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 1: this or that. It's like it's hard to do that

571
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: self evaluation because I know for me, I mean, god,

572
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 1: I watched the first season on The Bachelorette back and

573
00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: saw my side profile, I'm like, Okay, I've got to

574
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 1: do something. I'm not knocked cards and I'm doing some

575
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: donkey kicks immediately. But that was just a visual thing,

576
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:17,000
Speaker 1: you know, and then you start realizing different things about yourself.

577
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 1: But it's hard to do that because it's you know,

578
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: you're doing it while still filming, are still in the

579
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 1: public eye, and it's so good for you. I mean,

580
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: I can't be easy. I mean, I think another big

581
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,239
Speaker 1: thing about the show is what I've learned is you

582
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: have two options. You have the option to be the

583
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: type of person that talks behind somebody's back and in

584
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 1: their confessionals, or you have the option to always say

585
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 1: it to somebody's face. And even though it was hard,

586
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 1: it's hell for me to do it, I always chose

587
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 1: to say it to somebody's face. Yeah, and you see

588
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 1: that throughout all three of my seasons. Like, I mean,

589
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 1: I was on the struggle bus trying to do it,

590
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 1: and I mean, I said to myself, why do I

591
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 1: say awkward so many times? Because anytime I'd have to

592
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,640
Speaker 1: do it, I'd like put my like man hands up

593
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,920
Speaker 1: and I'd be like, this is gonna be awkward, you know,

594
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: but I had to go that route because the only

595
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: way that sits well with me, you know, like and

596
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 1: and that's the thing people do understand, like why would

597
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: you say it to her face? Or why did you

598
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: bring it up at a dinner because you think me

599
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,120
Speaker 1: saying it in a confessional behind her back and letting

600
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:21,480
Speaker 1: her find out six months later watching It's gonna be better. No, ma'am,

601
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: that's gonna be a hot mess right there if you

602
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 1: do that. I mean, you did the right thing. It's

603
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine it being easy. Even last night when

604
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: I rewatched uh the finale and you were like, you know,

605
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 1: you say that you support women, but you didn't get

606
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 1: on the plane and go, you know to Yeah. Yeah,

607
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:39,760
Speaker 1: it's one of those things where I was watching, I

608
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: was like, oh wow, that's that took some that took

609
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:45,239
Speaker 1: some chance. Yeah that's nice. But I think, you know,

610
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: for me, it wasn't like trying to get it at

611
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 1: at Garcela. I mean, I like Garsela. I think garselves funny.

612
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,479
Speaker 1: I think she's a big personality. I think she's all

613
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: those things. But I think that it's it's really challenging

614
00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:00,800
Speaker 1: going through it and and always trying to say, like,

615
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 1: you know, we all have to empower each other in

616
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 1: every moment and this is who we are, and making

617
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 1: these big accusation as women, but then not necessarily doing

618
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 1: it or then kind of mocking the entire situation. We

619
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 1: all know we're on a TV show. We all know

620
00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 1: that the TV show thrives on drama. So when you

621
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: say things like that, you know that it's going to

622
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 1: make other people look bad. You just it's you know,

623
00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: like you know clearly if you're like, wow, guys, why

624
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: are you being so petty? You know what Real Housewives,

625
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 1: Beverly Hills this, so like let's let's let's yeah, let's

626
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 1: reel this. And it's not your first rodeo, so like that.

627
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: That was mainly my point, like you can't say those

628
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: kind of off the cuff comments if you're not gonna

629
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 1: be there every single time, showing up to show some more,

630
00:31:56,280 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: whether you're getting paid or not. That's right. That's another

631
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 1: thing too. I mean, you come through this whole situation

632
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: obviously a bunch of women. You almost become like a sisterhood,

633
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: and there's certain friendships you have that you're gonna take

634
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: away from it. But are there certain people that you're

635
00:32:10,080 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 1: almost thankful that you aren't gonna have to see again?

636
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: I mean, is it? I mean, I'm sure you'll still

637
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 1: see them, You'll still be in certain circles. But are

638
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 1: there certain people that you're glad you're not gonna have to,

639
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: you know, sit at dinner with every night? You know what?

640
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: I'm really excited not to be a part of Twitter.

641
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,760
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Twitter, Like I want you to hold me

642
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: accountable to this. Okay, So I'm gonna put it out

643
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: there to all my Tea pod listeners and to you.

644
00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to be the ex housewife that is

645
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,680
Speaker 1: tweeting on the show years after I have been on

646
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: the show about other people's problems, right, I never want

647
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 1: to be that person. I never want to be the

648
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 1: person shading somebody years after. Like it has been something

649
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: that has been crazy to me, Like Camille Grammar makes

650
00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:00,200
Speaker 1: it her sole mission in life to try to put

651
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 1: me down on Twitter, and I'm like, how does this

652
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 1: even involve you? And what do you care? Like I

653
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 1: just don't. That is my biggest goal, Like if I'm

654
00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:11,480
Speaker 1: involved in something, if I do come back as a

655
00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:14,760
Speaker 1: friend and it's something I'm involved in, Okay, that's fine.

656
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 1: But if I am not on that show, I better

657
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 1: not be commenting on Twitter. Yeah, like absolutely not, and

658
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 1: especially if it's not and you know, and trying to

659
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: be funny and when trying to be mean. Yeah, you know,

660
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 1: I just don't. I don't want to become that. I

661
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 1: don't want to be bitter. I don't want to be angry.

662
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to go after people that are on

663
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 1: a show that I was once on, Like I just

664
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:43,120
Speaker 1: that negativity I am. I really want to be done with. Yeah.

665
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 1: I think that's a smart movement. I mean, at the

666
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 1: end of the day, it's like, you don't strike me

667
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 1: as a type of person who's gonna be, you know,

668
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:51,400
Speaker 1: sitting there and like watching every episode and trying to

669
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 1: figure out mean tweets. Like, you know, I may send

670
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: a text to my girlfriends that are on the show

671
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: and be like whoa hot mass express or like you

672
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 1: really drunk? Or this really happened, you know, whatever happened.

673
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:05,959
Speaker 1: I may heckle them to their favorite But I really

674
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 1: I think there's and I don't want Housewives to be

675
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:13,239
Speaker 1: something that defines me forever where I feel the need

676
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 1: to justify things ten years later. Yeah, yeah, that's yeah.

677
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 1: It's a it's a launching pad, right. I mean, it's

678
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: a great opportunity for you to get out there and

679
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 1: then obviously with all the other things you have going

680
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:27,959
Speaker 1: on in your life, it's it's it's not a bad

681
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 1: thing that people know you as someone who is a

682
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 1: straight shooter, who is going to lay their heart out

683
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 1: there on the line and not be That was a

684
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 1: big thing for me when I was the Bachelor guy too,

685
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 1: or on the Best Route rather, I should say before

686
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: the Bachelor, but I didn't want to be the guy

687
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,840
Speaker 1: in the I t m S. Was in the moment

688
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 1: things with producers where I was like trashing the other guys.

689
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:46,960
Speaker 1: So I told them that because that was that was

690
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 1: my That was like my badge of honor in my mind,

691
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 1: because I'm like, I gotta go home after this, and

692
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,319
Speaker 1: the last thing I wanted my buddies just ragging on

693
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 1: me because I'm super nice in this dude's face and

694
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: then stabbing the them back, you know, when I'm not

695
00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 1: around them. So I think that that has always a

696
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 1: nice thing that I've heard from other people that they

697
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,960
Speaker 1: respected from the show. So I I totally feel that

698
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:11,480
Speaker 1: and something that my um babysitter said to me. You know,

699
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: after I found out about getting let go from the show,

700
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: which I had totally kind of forgotten about. You know,

701
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: you almost like black out the negatives when something happens,

702
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 1: Like you're like, oh, I don't remember this side I said.

703
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: I was like, gosh, you know, like I just can't

704
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: believe this happened. Blah blah blah, and she goes, Teddy,

705
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: I'm just so grateful this happened for you. And I

706
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 1: said why and she goes, I remember so many nights

707
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: throughout these last three years where you'd come home later

708
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 1: than you wanted to come home, or whatever happened, and

709
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: you'd be crying and you would be sad about what

710
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 1: went down. And you know, even though I wasn't crying

711
00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 1: on the show, like, yes, I was sometimes believe me,

712
00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 1: everybody now it's called me or crying baby all you want,

713
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 1: but I those car rides home from every single event,

714
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: going through everything that may have happened to you or

715
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: to your friend or between two friends, like it eats

716
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 1: away at your soul, and like I would come home

717
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 1: and I'd have tears in my eyes. You know, ripping

718
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 1: off those fake eyelashes, like taking out my extensions. Like

719
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 1: I say, my like driver that drove me to and

720
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:16,239
Speaker 1: from Housewives, and I'm like he was like my therapist.

721
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 1: Like we'd sit in the car right home and I'd

722
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 1: be like, I can't believe it's happened, and so and

723
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:23,520
Speaker 1: so I just feel sick, like and anxiety and like

724
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 1: just consumes so much of your life. Sure, I mean

725
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: some of those arguments are just I mean, I watched

726
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 1: still and it's funny with my wife, She'll go, you

727
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,400
Speaker 1: know what, this relaxes me. I'm like, how does this

728
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,840
Speaker 1: relax you? Like it makes me insane, Like I'm like

729
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 1: jumping out of my seat, like I'm you know, I

730
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 1: was watching it. I can only imagine how it had

731
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,360
Speaker 1: to feel afterwards. And that's funny that you say that

732
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 1: the drivers like a therapist, because that he's probably like,

733
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: you know, he's probably the guy who really holds those

734
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 1: where all the bodies are buried, so sure he knows

735
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: the good like because if also there were times I

736
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,040
Speaker 1: was crying, There's also times I was pissed. You know,

737
00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 1: she's in the car, like I can't believe she at

738
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: that I can't believe she said that to me. I

739
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 1: can't you know whatever it maybe or like the drive

740
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 1: home from this season when I cried. I think I

741
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,280
Speaker 1: only cried one time this season, which is a small miracle.

742
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:16,440
Speaker 1: On the way home, my husband's like, I had never

743
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 1: seen it happen like any other time during Housewives. It

744
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,359
Speaker 1: wasn't like a group dinner, and I like broke down.

745
00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:23,920
Speaker 1: So he was like casually eating a salad during it,

746
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 1: and he's like, babe. And on the way home he's like,

747
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:29,919
Speaker 1: I can't believe you cried, Like why do you even care?

748
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:32,360
Speaker 1: Why would you even get upset? And my driver he

749
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 1: goes edwin. Now it's not a good time. That's so funny.

750
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 1: Now it's not a good time for her. She's processing.

751
00:37:46,520 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 1: Let let it die down. She just had a dramatic experience.

752
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:52,240
Speaker 1: I know this, this is her process. She's gonna sit quiet,

753
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:54,720
Speaker 1: and then she'll start venting, and then she may cry again,

754
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 1: give a few minutes. It's funny. I remind myself all

755
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 1: the time. But like the things I'm supposed to do

756
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 1: with my life's and at me and I'm like, okay,

757
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:04,680
Speaker 1: I probaish you just step away. Let her process and

758
00:38:04,680 --> 00:38:06,920
Speaker 1: then come back in. So it's got to be hard

759
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 1: when you're in those like pressure cooker moments. You know,

760
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 1: it was funny, seem like this is totally off topic,

761
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: but it's I've never seen anyone do it on any

762
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 1: of the shows before until de Nice. But where like she,

763
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 1: I think she just assumed that if she said certain

764
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 1: things and that they wouldn't air it because it didn't

765
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 1: seem like a TV show. I mean, she would tell

766
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:27,760
Speaker 1: her husband like, hey, stop, you know, stop saying stop

767
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 1: seeing anything cameras on, you know, And the fact that

768
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,319
Speaker 1: they would leave that in I thought was kind of

769
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: shrewd by Bravo, like a smart move by the producer. Well,

770
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: this is the first year they broke the fourth wall

771
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 1: in general, but it was because she kept breaking the

772
00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 1: fourth wall, so not that's not happening. Like we all

773
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: know we're on camera. We don't need to like remind

774
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:50,280
Speaker 1: ourselves like so I think that's partially why. But also

775
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,800
Speaker 1: like even in the interviews they showed, like production talking

776
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: to us asking interview questions and then us thinking about

777
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: the answer, you know, like all of that. I actually

778
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:03,120
Speaker 1: thought it was good that they did that because I

779
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 1: think sometimes it's hard to understand where we're coming from,

780
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,400
Speaker 1: or like you saw a producer talking to Garcella at

781
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 1: the car one time, like they're just opening it up

782
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 1: because oftentimes, you know, you are watching the show and

783
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 1: you're like, how did that come up? You know, like

784
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,840
Speaker 1: how does this happen? And it's so many things stem

785
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 1: from fourth wall stuff right now, Like and for those

786
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 1: of you guys who don't know what fourth wall means,

787
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 1: because I had no idea what fourth wall met my

788
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: first season. When everyone's like, oh, that's for you know,

789
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: you can't break the fourth wall or whatever it was,

790
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: that is anything that makes what you're doing a TV

791
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: show versus reality. So so when Denise would say Bravo, bravo,

792
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:49,600
Speaker 1: effing bravo, she was trying to break the fourth wall,

793
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: which would mean that production stops what they're doing and

794
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 1: then read does the scene. But the problem is we

795
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:58,439
Speaker 1: had never seen that. That wasn't something we were doing.

796
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: So then that created a whole new issue with all

797
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: of us. Yeah, no, no one was happy about it.

798
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: You know, it was happy about it because we're all like,

799
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,399
Speaker 1: why can you do that? But we can. I would

800
00:40:08,440 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 1: love to have done Bravo, Bravo, effing Bravo when I

801
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 1: was crying at Kyle's dinner at the beginning of the season.

802
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,960
Speaker 1: But you signed up to do this, Yeah, yeah, exactly.

803
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 1: It's your it's kind of your job right now, so

804
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: you gotta stick with it and take the give in

805
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 1: to that. Yeah. Yeah, that's interesting. I was wondering about

806
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: that because I mean, I was thinking that to myself,

807
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: Like we would do those I t M s where

808
00:40:29,680 --> 00:40:30,719
Speaker 1: we would sit there and you know, and I'm not

809
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: sure if this is how it works with the producers

810
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 1: on on on the Housewives, but they would basically we

811
00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 1: would use what they would say to us in a

812
00:40:37,560 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 1: question and we would repeat it back on camera to

813
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 1: kind of give the context of what we were doing. So,

814
00:40:42,760 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: for example, like if I was just not a group date,

815
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 1: they'd say today I want a group date with Debbie,

816
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: Brenda and Ronda, and I'd be like, today, I want

817
00:40:48,520 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 1: a group date with DEBI, you know. And that's why

818
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,280
Speaker 1: I think they weren't amazing so much on The Bachelor,

819
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 1: because the producers are like, today, today was just amazing.

820
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 1: I wanted this great group date, and that's how I

821
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,760
Speaker 1: would start my sentence. You know, did did that ever play?

822
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 1: In to those you would have on the show. The

823
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 1: only time it happened was my first season when I

824
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 1: I had I was upset about the situation with Erica

825
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 1: that she wasn't agreeing with me, like even though she

826
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: had already agreed with me, and I was venting to

827
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: a producer and we had both like, I think that

828
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 1: the pretend to amnesia comment, I don't know that that

829
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,799
Speaker 1: came from my own like I know that that was

830
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 1: said and are venting back and forth. I just thow

831
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 1: I came up with it because I did. I'm like,

832
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 1: I don't know that I've ever thought like granted, I

833
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,640
Speaker 1: think maybe we were just like I was like, I

834
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 1: can't believe she said that I remember this happening and

835
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: we were walking up the stairs and I had the

836
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 1: memory and they showed the memory later that did happened.

837
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: But but I think the producer may have been like,

838
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: I know, it's like pretend Amnizia. And then I remember

839
00:41:57,040 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: three days later sitting down and being like, pretend Amnisia.

840
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: And then I was like, Dann, why did I say that?

841
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 1: You know, like, but it wasn't ever Teddy, you should

842
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 1: say this. It's just talking to another human being. It's

843
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 1: like if you hang out with somebody for a long

844
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: time and they say the word y'all, all of a

845
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: sudden you start saying y'all. It's not subliminally subliminally happening

846
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:25,719
Speaker 1: versus you know, you're being told to do something, not

847
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:27,879
Speaker 1: forcing the words down their mouth, but it's just out

848
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: there in the atmosphere, and it's just in your head,

849
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 1: you know, even even my you know, I got so

850
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: much heat about talking with my hands, which you can

851
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 1: see I do seven. I can't help it. My dad

852
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 1: does it, and then my mom does it. She's Italian,

853
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:44,440
Speaker 1: like this is who we are. So I got so

854
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 1: much heat about it that I tried for like a

855
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 1: couple of episode, a couple of confessionals to sit on

856
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: my hands. Like I was like, okay, I'm going to

857
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 1: not use my hands in confessionals. This is my new thing.

858
00:42:57,000 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 1: And I got a call and said, Teddy, I don't

859
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,680
Speaker 1: know what you've changed your confessionals, but you're like a

860
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: zombie up there. You need because I couldn't. I don't

861
00:43:09,560 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 1: know how to talk without my hands. So it's like

862
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 1: if you try to change who you are, it just

863
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:18,680
Speaker 1: doesn't You can't do it. No, I totally agree. Well,

864
00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: I think it's gonna be huge for you. I think

865
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,280
Speaker 1: it's exciting. I know it. You know at the beginning,

866
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: like you said, it had to suck the way it felt,

867
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: and I think you're being so honest about it that

868
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 1: it's going to really let people see, you know, why

869
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:31,359
Speaker 1: they fell in love with you in the first place.

870
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 1: And so ultimately that's kind of the big big takeaway

871
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: for me, you know, just getting to talk to you

872
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:38,720
Speaker 1: today on this, and I mean, I guess, like what

873
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:40,560
Speaker 1: what is I know you said what's next is like

874
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: you're gonna focus on your business, focus on your family folks.

875
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 1: On that are you're gonna take any time just for

876
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: yourself and just kind of peel back, And you know,

877
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 1: I think I kind of already have been. I think

878
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: from that I let myself fully feel like more in

879
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 1: the first couple of days. And then now for me,

880
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 1: what makes me feel best is routine. Like I know

881
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: it's working for my family. I know, like we get up,

882
00:44:04,040 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: we have our morning breakfast, you know, we have that,

883
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: like we put on music and then like I go

884
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:10,840
Speaker 1: for a walk or run and like I have to

885
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,480
Speaker 1: keep doing me And I know the ideas will keep coming.

886
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 1: I know that the next steps will keep coming, and

887
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 1: I know if I have a bad day, it will

888
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 1: pass right. And like, that's that's how you have to be.

889
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 1: If if you pretend that every day you're gonna wake

890
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: up and feel happy or feel the same exact way

891
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:30,280
Speaker 1: you feel felt yesterday, you're gonna do damage. Yeah, especially

892
00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: during this time and everybody's life is like it's tough

893
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 1: to wake up and even just put a smile on

894
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 1: your face. So it's like to go through something like

895
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:40,399
Speaker 1: this on top of all this other bs and come

896
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 1: out with a positive mental attitude, and especially because there's

897
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 1: so many unhappy people on Instagram on social media right now,

898
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:50,560
Speaker 1: they're doing everything they can to try to, you know,

899
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:52,800
Speaker 1: hurt others. You know, I just keep trying to remember,

900
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: like that's not who I want to be, right, That's

901
00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:58,359
Speaker 1: gonna be my focus. And I think if we do that,

902
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 1: then we're all gonna get through this. We're all in

903
00:45:00,640 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 1: this together, and you know what good things are ahead.

904
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 1: I can feel it. I can feel it too well.

905
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Speaker 1: I love go today. Thanks for taking time with me

906
00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 1: and for letting me come on your show and hang out. Well,

907
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 1: thank you so much. I hope to talk to you soon,

908
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 1: and please tell your wife I said hello, and anytime

909
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 1: she comes to l A and wants to hit up

910
00:45:19,920 --> 00:45:22,560
Speaker 1: Home Goods or Costco, I'm her gal. Those are her

911
00:45:22,600 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: two favorite spots, so I know she was. But thanks, Datty.

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00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 1: I love talking to you man. Have a great rest

913
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: of your day. Tell your family I said hello, and

914
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Speaker 1: hopefully we'll get to hang out in l A sometime soon.

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Speaker 1: Sounds good bye bye. Thanks for listening. Subscribe to to

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Speaker 1: any Teapot on her radio or wherever you listen to podcasts.