Speaker 1: Kate Middleton's announcement provokes thoughts of every mother's worst fear,
Speaker 1: not being there for their children. And while she is
Speaker 1: a royal, she is untouchable.
Speaker 2: She is.
Speaker 1: Behind the palace walls. She's a woman, a daughter, a mother,
Speaker 1: and a wife, and she's experiencing a medical trauma and
Speaker 1: you know that you can just guarantee that her biggest, biggest.
Speaker 2: Fear is.
Speaker 1: Not being there for her children, being healthy for her children.
Speaker 1: That's what mothers really think about, particularly as we get older.
Speaker 1: You want to be healthier, whether it's drinking less, eating
Speaker 1: less sugar or meat, or not stressing out as much,
Speaker 1: or taking vitamins. You know that when you do something
Speaker 1: that's difficult, or you know, physically exert yourself, your thinking
Speaker 1: about how you want to be strong for your kids.
Speaker 1: And so that is something that so many people can
Speaker 1: relate to. And there was so much speculation about her life,
Speaker 1: which is no one's business. That's hard for people to realize,
Speaker 1: but it is her life. She did marry someone that
Speaker 1: she met in college and who she loves, and she
Speaker 1: did understand what it means to be a princess, duchess.
Speaker 2: Queen whatever.
Speaker 1: I don't know all the titles, but I know that
Speaker 1: she will be the queen when he becomes king. But
Speaker 1: she did get married, and she did sign up for
Speaker 1: the life, but there's no way that she could possibly
Speaker 1: understand what.
Speaker 2: The life would be.
Speaker 1: And she's done an immaculate, impeccable job of being a royal.
Speaker 2: And there's no normalcy to it. Really. She can't go
Speaker 2: just do what she wants.
Speaker 1: She can't really go to a drug store or a
Speaker 1: farm stand or just a restaurant or anything that's quote
Speaker 1: unquote our version of normal. And she's been really graceful
Speaker 1: and poised and nearly perfect, which is pretty impossible. How
Speaker 1: does someone up break and if she has, it's been
Speaker 1: for an afternoon that no one will ever see. And
Speaker 1: there's so much speculation about her marriage. But what really
Speaker 1: makes me think about is it doesn't matter what goes
Speaker 1: on in their marriage. They could have the best marriage
Speaker 1: in the world, they could have challenges. Like everyone else,
Speaker 1: you find me a perfect marriage, I'll wait find me
Speaker 1: a perfect relationship.
Speaker 2: I'm waiting.
Speaker 1: So for everybody to sit in judgment as they do
Speaker 1: about everyone's relationship is just really shortsighted and it's really
Speaker 1: almost projecting gaslighting because nobody themselves has a perfect relationship,
Speaker 1: and maybe misery loves company and people just want to
Speaker 1: feel better about their own relationship by criticizing theirs. But
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter because it's their relationship and they're committed
Speaker 1: and they're together, and we don't get to know. It's
Speaker 1: under the hood of anybody's relationship that we know our
Speaker 1: neighbors are friends, and it doesn't matter. And the thing
Speaker 1: that's really interesting is at times like this is what
Speaker 1: brings a couple together. And I remember having Hillary Clinton
Speaker 1: on my podcast, and whether you like her or not,
Speaker 1: I remember talking to her about the situation with Bill
Speaker 1: and basically that not defining her entire marriage. There are
Speaker 1: years and years, you know, decades, and children and grandchildren
Speaker 1: and jobs and experiences and vacations and illnesses and financial
Speaker 1: issues or whatever. And a marriage is very multi layered.
Speaker 1: It's not just about sex, fidelity, money, partnership, compatibility, looks, astrology.
Speaker 1: It's about so many different things. It's about a partnership,
Speaker 1: it's about commitment. It's about that they both decided to
Speaker 1: go on this journey together. And believe me, how many
Speaker 1: people in the world can relate to that journey. They
Speaker 1: need each other. They have each other, and during times
Speaker 1: like this, when someone gets ill, that's when you get
Speaker 1: closer to your partner. That's when you really appreciate, that's
Speaker 1: when you have to be stronger as a unit. And
Speaker 1: that's likely exactly what's happening. So everybody could speculate exactly
Speaker 1: what's going on, but this whole thing did show that
Speaker 1: you cannot ever really know what's going on with anyone,
Speaker 1: including a royal family. Everybody was an expert on what
Speaker 1: was happening, and it makes sense, and no one seems
Speaker 1: to care about this photo anymore because it's almost embarrassing,
Speaker 1: like who cares what they had to do and that
Speaker 1: had to create extra stress for them. They just wanted
Speaker 1: to get a picture out and not have to address
Speaker 1: this until they wanted to address this, So that really
Speaker 1: sucks too that it was like a forced announcement when
Speaker 1: she probably didn't feel up to it then. And I mean,
Speaker 1: she is a person, she has to read what people
Speaker 1: were saying. And then people were talking about her marriage,
Speaker 1: people were talking about her past, has past, her looks,
Speaker 1: and one thing that I did say is she does
Speaker 1: have a tremendous amount of power. She is all the
Speaker 1: power because she's the woman in the monarchy, and she's
Speaker 1: the one that people look up to for comfort, for solace.
Speaker 1: She is the forward facing royal for whatever reason people
Speaker 1: gravitate towards one, I mean whatever reason, she's she's just
Speaker 1: she's just perfect.
Speaker 2: I mean she really is. She's just so graceful, how
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: And I'm shouting her mother out because for her mother
Speaker 1: to know how extraordinary she is. Everybody knows their child
Speaker 1: is wonderful and loves their child, but not every mother
Speaker 1: would tell the child, please go and wait the year,
Speaker 1: and you're worth it, and go get that boy who
Speaker 1: you like or love or admire, and that you're worthy
Speaker 1: of being the future queen. So that mother really really
Speaker 1: put these girls up on a pedestal to say you
Speaker 1: are worth it, you matter, and you go never settle,
Speaker 1: and you go for yours. And I'm sure she has
Speaker 1: that support of her mother, and we heard her brother,
Speaker 1: and she's got a good support and unit around her.
Speaker 1: But there have been a lot of lessons to be
Speaker 1: learned from them. And many people are eating crow right
Speaker 1: now because they feel embarrassed by joking about something that
Speaker 1: is really common. So many people I can name three
Speaker 1: people off the top of my head that have had
Speaker 1: cancer recently or have lost family members, and then list
Speaker 1: goes on and on. So you just don't know what's
Speaker 1: going on with someone, and you don't know what's going
Speaker 1: on with their marriage, and.
Speaker 2: It's nobody's business.
Speaker 1: It really isn't How can people not realize that? Frankly,
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes you think about CEOs or people in
Speaker 1: government and what they choose to do with their private lives.
Speaker 1: It's not really anyone's business. If they're running a country properly,
Speaker 1: I don't really care what they do. And her whole
Speaker 1: life is hers. She's performing her royal duties and what
Speaker 1: goes on with her medically and personally is her own business.
Speaker 1: And people just will never seem to realize that. And
Speaker 1: the thing is, many celebrities bring people in like, look
Speaker 1: at my relationship, look.
Speaker 2: At my this, look at my that. You know, they
Speaker 2: don't do that.
Speaker 1: They're not trying to get attention for their relationship. They're royals,
Speaker 1: like it's just part of the gig. It's don't hate
Speaker 1: the player, hate the game, plane, don't explain. But they
Speaker 1: are not flaunting their relationship, which leaves it open for
Speaker 1: scrutiny or anything else in her life. They are performing
Speaker 1: their royal duties with dignity and pride in the way
Speaker 1: that Queen Elizabeth would have wanted. Queen Elizabeth would have
Speaker 1: been so proud of her, and there's a lot on
Speaker 1: her back and the crown is very heavy. So we
Speaker 1: wish her well and I hope she has a speedy
Speaker 1: recovery and hope that her children are understanding what's going
Speaker 1: on and that she can be there for them.
Speaker 2: And maybe this time is positive in that.
Speaker 1: Regard because she's totally focused on them versus having to
Speaker 1: do appearances, and so maybe that's a silver lining for
Speaker 1: this time. I need you to know that I live
Speaker 1: inside television. I get so immersed in a show that
Speaker 1: when it's happening, I have a difficult time sleeping, and
Speaker 1: I think that I'm like in the show, and I
Speaker 1: just it's just so dramatic for me, and I'm just like, when.
Speaker 2: Are we all going to be together again? Like you
Speaker 2: know what I mean. I feel like it's invasive too.
Speaker 2: If somebody else wants to watch something else.
Speaker 1: Or like if my daughter walks in and she wants
Speaker 1: to start a new movie, I just like I have
Speaker 1: left these people and I'm invested in their lives and
Speaker 1: we're all in this together, and then it ends and
Speaker 1: I don't know who I am and I don't know
Speaker 1: what my identity is. I don't know where I live,
Speaker 1: I don't know where to go. I miss them. I
Speaker 1: don't understand. It ended too soon, it ended abruptly, like
Speaker 1: the end of Griselda. I just I don't feel like satisfied.
Speaker 1: I completely forget that it's a show. I'm just like
Speaker 1: so dissatisfied about the ending, and I'm like, tell anybody
Speaker 1: the ending in case you haven't seen it, But like
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm I wasn't ready and I just I
Speaker 1: want to rewind and i'd like rewrite and then it's
Speaker 1: like a true story and I can't rewrite it, and
Speaker 1: I just get frustrated and I just don't know why
Speaker 1: we couldn't have done things differently, like we we just
Speaker 1: had it all and like we could have done things differently,
Speaker 1: and we made mistakes and it's just like it's just
Speaker 1: very frustrating and just different shows take me to different places,
Speaker 1: and I mean certain shows and many people say, doubt Nabby.
Speaker 2: Like that's true.
Speaker 1: That was one of them that ended, and we're just like,
Speaker 1: what are we going? What's happening now? It's just like
Speaker 1: such a sad end of an.
Speaker 2: Era, you know.
Speaker 1: And I get scared to get into like another relationship
Speaker 1: with a show, you know, because it's like you invest
Speaker 1: so much Like the last.
Speaker 2: Show I was so.
Speaker 1: I was it was so serious between myself and the
Speaker 1: last show, Like it was very very serious, and now
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna like move on and just started another
Speaker 1: show in another place with other people, Like it just
Speaker 1: feels like cheating and it feels wrong, and I don't
Speaker 1: know how to like shift into that new world. Give
Speaker 1: me a minute, Like I need a minute, Okay, I
Speaker 1: need some time for myself. You're a rebound show that's
Speaker 1: really cheap too. Like a rebound show, it's just like
Speaker 1: it's junk food. It's in the middle. It's like a
Speaker 1: one night stare. The one night stands. Those don't make
Speaker 1: you feel any good, just like watch some garbage show
Speaker 1: and it's just like like what did I do that for?
Speaker 1: I shouldn't even gone. I should have just not done it,
Speaker 1: Like why would I do that? I had this amazing,
Speaker 1: amazing relationship with the show, and then like I just
Speaker 1: go do something so cheap. It wasn't good for the show,
Speaker 1: It wasn't good for myself, it wasn't good for the
Speaker 1: dogs who lay in bed with me. Like it just
Speaker 1: wasn't good, and like I wasn't ready, and that's what happened.
Speaker 1: I just like got nervous and panicked and didn't want
Speaker 1: to be alone without a show, and like I just
Speaker 1: went and like just freaking just went and did like
Speaker 1: a one night stand show and it wasn't okay. And
Speaker 1: you need to be ready for a new show and
Speaker 1: you need to be ready to invest in it and
Speaker 1: not be just like on your phone the whole time
Speaker 1: or distracted, because that's really cheap too. Like you're onto
Speaker 1: the next thing, but you're not present and you're not ready,
Speaker 1: and you think you're ready for a relationship with a
Speaker 1: new show, and you're you're just not. But sometimes if
Speaker 1: you want to get over somebody, if you want to
Speaker 1: get over somebody, you get under somebody else. So sometimes
Speaker 1: you know, you get over a show and then you
Speaker 1: get under another show and it's amazing, like it's a
Speaker 1: great You feel badly and you feel like I'm sorry
Speaker 1: that I've found a new show that I'm in love
Speaker 1: with and I did love you as a show, and
Speaker 1: maybe I'll go rewatch you sometime, like I'll go you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like maybe we'll be in each
Speaker 1: other's lives again. I don't know you right now. You're
Speaker 1: gonna have to be somebody that I used to know
Speaker 1: because I'm with the new show now. I'm not just
Speaker 1: gonna go over there and just like start watching individual
Speaker 1: scenes or episodes, like I'm over here in a new
Speaker 1: show with new people, new characters, maybe even in a
Speaker 1: different country, and we do different things. This show is different.
Speaker 1: That show is about karate, this show is about yoga.
Speaker 1: It's like more peaceful and just it's a show in Bali,
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, but like this is where I live now.
Speaker 1: I live in this show now, and hopefully I'll live
Speaker 1: in this show for a while, because you know, a
Speaker 1: season a reason. You know, we're together with shows for
Speaker 1: a season a reason, and it's like somebody you give
Speaker 1: a seven year itch. So hopefully we all find shows
Speaker 1: that are meaningful and that we can commit to. But
Speaker 1: if not, just be present and in the moment and
Speaker 1: realize that that show will come.
Speaker 2: It will come soon.