WEBVTT - The Simplicity of Meditation

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<v Speaker 1>Stay Calm as a production of I Heart Radio. Hi.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Bob Roth, and I've been teaching people to meditate

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<v Speaker 1>for fifty years, helping them to stay calm under pressure,

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<v Speaker 1>reboot and re energize their lives, and basically be a happier,

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<v Speaker 1>healthier version of themselves. And now I want to help

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<v Speaker 1>you do the same. Welcome to Stay Calm, your daily

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<v Speaker 1>dose of calmness. Every weekday morning, I'll share a meditation story,

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<v Speaker 1>offer a simple practical tip about how you or loved

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<v Speaker 1>one can stay a bit calmer in your life, and

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<v Speaker 1>then we'll end each episode together with a moment of gratitude.

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<v Speaker 1>My hope is that I can share what I know

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<v Speaker 1>to anyone who needs it. Ready, sit comfortably, take a

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<v Speaker 1>few deep breaths, and let's begin today's journey. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you about my friend Joey. I first met

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<v Speaker 1>Joey when he was fifteen years old, had autism spectrum disorder,

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<v Speaker 1>and his mother, who I had taught to meditate a

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<v Speaker 1>few years before, called me up and said Joey was

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<v Speaker 1>experiencing a lot of anxiety. He's a normal fifteen year

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<v Speaker 1>old kid, and he wanted to have friends, and he

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to have a girlfriend, and his physical on his

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<v Speaker 1>social awkwardness and the fact that he was nonverbal was

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<v Speaker 1>creating a huge amount of anxiety and was breaking his

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<v Speaker 1>mom's heart. She thought maybe meditation could have an effect,

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<v Speaker 1>so she brought Joey in to meet with me. And

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<v Speaker 1>the first day with Joey was a bit of a

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<v Speaker 1>challenge because he didn't want to close his eyes. It

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<v Speaker 1>frightened him, so we took it very slowly. The first

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<v Speaker 1>day he had his eyes closed for half a minute,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the second day a little bit longer, in

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<v Speaker 1>the third day a little bit longer. After about a

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<v Speaker 1>week or so, he was meditating with his eyes closed

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<v Speaker 1>for five or ten minutes, and by the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the two months, he was meditating fifteen minutes twice a

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<v Speaker 1>day by himself or with his mom, just sitting comfortably

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<v Speaker 1>in a chair with his eyes closed. So about four

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<v Speaker 1>weeks in I went over to visit Joey and his

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<v Speaker 1>mom and we were having tea and I asked Joey

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<v Speaker 1>how the meditation was going, and because he's nonverbal, he

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<v Speaker 1>wrote out on a letter board, which is like an iPad.

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<v Speaker 1>He typed, I like it, and I said, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you like? About and he said it's very relaxing. And

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<v Speaker 1>I said, well, how's the meditation helping your mom? And

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<v Speaker 1>he smiled and he typed back in t M calms

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<v Speaker 1>the mom. So he had a good laugh over that.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, well, what is it do you like about

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<v Speaker 1>the meditation and he said it's easy to do, and

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<v Speaker 1>I said what do you mean? And he typed in

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<v Speaker 1>and he looked up at me and it was very heartfelt,

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<v Speaker 1>almost tears in his eyes. He said, Mr, Roth, I

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<v Speaker 1>can do it. That simple phrase went very deep in me,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's tough enough being a teenager these days anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>there's so much insecurity, so much self doubt, and when

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<v Speaker 1>you are a normal kid but you have these learning disabilities,

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<v Speaker 1>it's magnified. He could do this meditation, he could find

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<v Speaker 1>deep relaxation. His mom said that he was much more relaxed,

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<v Speaker 1>he was easier around other people, and he was actually

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<v Speaker 1>doing better with his school. It made me realize Number one,

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<v Speaker 1>to appreciate his mom. That his mom valued him so

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<v Speaker 1>much that she was willing to look beyond a medicinal

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<v Speaker 1>or even a therapeutic approaches which he participated in both

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<v Speaker 1>into something as simple and innovative as transcendental meditation. What

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<v Speaker 1>I took away from this and what I carried with

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<v Speaker 1>me all along, is that our kids have a tough time.

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<v Speaker 1>We overschedule them and we push them, or if we

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<v Speaker 1>don't push him, society pushes him, social media pushes him.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a real issue and the notion the idea to

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<v Speaker 1>show our kids that we value time taken out for

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<v Speaker 1>something non task or end something that is about self care.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a hugely important message and a hugely important tool

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<v Speaker 1>to equip our kids with going forward. This idea of

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<v Speaker 1>keep calm. It's not about some superficial thing take a

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<v Speaker 1>few breaths and now you feel better, which you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>It's about making those kind of foundational changes in our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>They can ensure that we're in a position to express

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<v Speaker 1>our creativity, our intelligence, give our body the time it

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<v Speaker 1>needs to heal and to deal with the interior issues

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<v Speaker 1>of our life. The tip I have that we can

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<v Speaker 1>do to contribute towards a substantial calm, a transformative calm

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<v Speaker 1>and inner peace is the value of rest our. Whole

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<v Speaker 1>culture is just do it. Push, go go, go go go.

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<v Speaker 1>It's highly competitive, highly pressured, but scheduled into the one

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<v Speaker 1>thousand and forty minutes of our day needs to be

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<v Speaker 1>time spent for transcendental meditation, other forms of meditation, creative enterprises, exercise.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're a parent, give your kids the time to

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<v Speaker 1>be off task for a while. Give your kids the

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<v Speaker 1>tools to make enjoyable use of that off time, not

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<v Speaker 1>just surfing online, but something as simple and valuable as meditation.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's end this time together doing something that

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<v Speaker 1>I think should be a feature of our everyday life,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's appreciation and gratitude. So let's take thirty seconds

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<v Speaker 1>of quiet, thirty seconds to take a break, just take

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<v Speaker 1>a moment. It turns out when we do that, it's

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<v Speaker 1>good for our health as well. I'll be right back,

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<v Speaker 1>all right. Thank you for joining. This is Bob Roth.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep calm, Thanks for listening today. I hope you heard

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<v Speaker 1>something that inspires, that uplifts you and that you can

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<v Speaker 1>incorporate into your own life. Until next time, remember, meditate,

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<v Speaker 1>be kind, and be true to yourself. Hey, all of

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<v Speaker 1>you out there, I'd love to hear from you. You

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<v Speaker 1>can send me your stories, your questions, or anything else

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<v Speaker 1>on your mind. Just connect with me on Twitter, Facebook

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<v Speaker 1>or Instagram at hashtag meditation Bob. You can also send

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<v Speaker 1>me an email at meditation Bob Roth at gmail dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>I look forward to hearing from you.