WEBVTT - Love and Dating in the Pandemic 0:00:05.480 --> 0:00:08.719 And as usual with your girl, and you're listening to 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:13.800 Exactly Amada production of My Heart Radio Bun I'm always 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:20.040 coming in with the energy because look, no no Cey Lambona, 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:22.440 so I'm not here that you get extra hyping him up. 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:24.480 But the truth of the matter is he's the ship. 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:27.479 He has supported me from day one. He is a 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:33.080 lot of mass and radio. I mean, he does it all. 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:35.920 And today I wanted to talk a little bit about 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:38.559 the differences between women and men, the way that we 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:41.200 perceived the world. Um and just give a whole bunch 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:43.840 of opinions on different topics and just be very chill, 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:48.200 real laid back. I first have to bring in Miami Bana. 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:51.839 Enrique Santos, How are you doing, my love, I'm doing good. 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:55.320 I'm happy to be here on Exactly Amda. Proud of 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:57.440 you and the success that you're having on your podcast. 0:00:57.760 --> 0:00:59.880 No thank you. Let me tell you something. By the way, 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:02.640 Exactly I'm gonna exist, it's thanks to you. You're the 0:01:02.680 --> 0:01:04.480 one who hooked me up and told me you know what, 0:01:04.520 --> 0:01:06.720 you really need to get on board and get it together. 0:01:07.120 --> 0:01:10.600 That's why I am so grateful. You want to speaking 0:01:10.640 --> 0:01:15.080 Spanish speaking English speaking looking on the um and I 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:18.600 want to be. You're gonna say, everybody's calling me. Everybody's 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:20.840 so popular. Girl. Your phone doesn't stop going off today 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:25.240 now that you're pregnant. Felicie eyes twins, you got to 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:28.600 coming one for me, one for you. I'm working. I'm 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:35.280 working a lie. I work hard for the money. Does 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:37.399 I feel how does that feel that you gotta bogo 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:42.200 do Sava first? Okay, home Bogle? You know you buy one, 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:46.480 you get one free. You excuse me when you make 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.640 the money that I'm outa makes. Now she doesn't. She 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:53.040 doesn't know about boges the economy anymore, because I still 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:54.760 be going to about and all those things. I go 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.040 to the drift store and everything. Nothing has changed, the 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:59.200 Google it all. No, no, no, I be bouge on 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:03.320 a budge, but bougie on a budget. I'm gonna use 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:06.240 that buggie on a budget battle. The truth of the 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:13.040 matter is, I mean, originally and I lost one, and 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.360 I wasn't even ready for it. I didn't even know 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:17.359 I was pregnant. I was like two months, yeah, I 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:20.600 peak almost three. So this has been on new to me. 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:22.680 I haven't even staid at the nursery. I haven't thought 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:25.079 about baby names. No saying now that I don't even 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:27.239 know what to buy. How do you do this? You 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:28.760 got all that cool stuff to look forward to. The 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:30.080 good thing is that you you got your mom there. 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:34.000 It can help you. Yes, yes, you know this is 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:36.320 this is these are her babies, the new experience for 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:39.160 all of us, and we're all super excited. So while 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.120 by the way, as a hard working woman and entrepreneur, 0:02:42.360 --> 0:02:45.720 I will continue to do exactly a matter during birth, 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:49.920 after birth, thought, the whole process. Nothing has changed to you, 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:54.040 is it? Truly? You're planning on being on the podcast 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:57.000 live when you give birth? That could be very interesting. 0:02:57.040 --> 0:02:58.600 The only thing I can everybody's gonna hit me because 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:00.640 you're gonna hear home bunch of screaming. That would be 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:05.520 interesting against an exclusive and really exclusive. We don't mean. 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:07.919 I think here goes out of so many questions because 0:03:07.919 --> 0:03:09.280 I wrote a little list of things and I thought 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:11.800 would be kind of interesting to discuss. How do you 0:03:11.919 --> 0:03:16.000 think the people handle dating now or relationships after the pandemic. 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:18.600 What do you think has been the difference? Well, the 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.960 difference is that people, of course, at the beginning, it's 0:03:21.960 --> 0:03:23.840 like very like freaked. Everyone was freaked out right, you 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:27.680 couldn't you saw people just digitally, I think. But I 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:29.799 think a lot of that has stayed coming out of 0:03:29.840 --> 0:03:32.399 the pandemic. I think a lot of people are kind 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:35.760 of like you know, when you go to a job interview. 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:40.320 But I think people are zooming or you know, or 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:46.000 there zooming or face timing before you know, before they're 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:48.560 what's that video chats before they actually meet in person. 0:03:48.840 --> 0:03:50.840 And I don't think it's a bad thing because there 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:52.840 you can see if actually people at the pictures that 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.000 they sent you and all that kind of stuff have 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:57.360 been filtered or not. Because now you're looking at the 0:03:57.400 --> 0:03:59.840 actual video, you can see what the people actually look like, 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:02.560 their faces moving with with no filter, And I think 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:04.200 that's a good thing. And to see if you also 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:07.880 have chemistry. I think that for some reason after the pandemic, 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:14.120 you know, send me to it's fucking season. It's every 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:16.839 single girl that I met, what I know, either she 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:20.920 got pregnant and she handled her business or everybody's having 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:24.279 you know, pandemic babies. Um, I think it's sucking season. 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.679 I think it's you know, sexy that everybody's getting freaky. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.800 And I think that after the pandemic for some reason, 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:32.320 I feel like, oh, we were stuck in the house 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:36.000 for too long and have to go meet somebody, I 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:40.920 have to do something. Yes, No, for sure, there a 0:04:40.960 --> 0:04:43.760 lot of thirsty people coming out of the pandemic. Yes. 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:46.120 After the pandemic, I feel like people got more freaky. 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:50.440 I feel that people got more open sexually, mentally. Everybody 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:52.839 wants to explore and try new things and just you know, 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:55.840 I just want to go do it. So I don't know. 0:04:55.880 --> 0:04:58.240 I think dating has changed a little bit after the pandemic. 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:02.320 What about with the vaccination. But because you've been in 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:04.680 a long relationship, yeah, for like a thousand years, you 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:08.160 don't count battle. I'm sure that you've heard of people 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:11.960 that now, in order to like make out or you know, 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:14.800 have sex or whatever, they're like, are you vaccinated? Oh? 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:16.320 Of course. So we've talked a lot about it on 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:20.400 the on the show. It's actually um called no no Vacs, 0:05:20.480 --> 0:05:26.159 No ass Act, Right, So people that are not they're 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:28.640 not willing to look up with somebody else unless they're 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:31.480 actually vacked. So before they pull down their pants, they 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:36.320 want to see people's vaccination cards. Ain't that something? Is 0:05:40.560 --> 0:05:42.640 I mean I get it, Yes, you have to protect 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:45.280 yourself or a lot what or whatever, But why don't 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:47.479 you have the same energy to be like, oh, do 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:50.560 you have you know any STDs? Can I have a 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:54.120 card that clarifies that you don't have you know? Do 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:57.480 you have anything like that? No? Have you ever actually 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.920 met somebody? Have you? Have you ever actually met some 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:03.320 body had Oh my god, let me tell you something. 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:13.800 Don't don't tell nobody one time? Whatever? And he was 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:16.360 so fine, and I was saying, yes, bitch, you don't 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:20.159 do what. So then um, when he took it down, 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:24.800 stopped explain, please explain the bla a lot because I 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:27.040 wasn't clear that the going down bar was for him 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:32.640 for you. I was on him, okay, got it right. 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:36.080 I was about and then when he pulled it down, 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.200 because you know, again that's the worml that's how you started. 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.600 Have to get it juicy or whatever, and don't say 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:45.440 when he pulled it down, I was like, wait, I'm 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:50.000 not something was just not looking right. Maybe it was 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:52.640 normal because you know that every dangling is the special 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:57.040 and it has his own pion artistic better that one. 0:06:57.120 --> 0:07:01.080 For some reason, my gut feeling was like, don't do it, 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:06.320 and after that it was just and the top it 0:07:06.400 --> 0:07:09.720 was just I don't know. Listen, each each penis is 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:13.040 definitely a work of arts. We all have our own 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:17.440 inside correct, correct, and they're and they're unique. But it's 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:20.840 something smelled off. It wasn't the smell, it was just 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:24.760 the way it looked that I wasn't sure if I 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:28.400 should put my mouth on it or not. Yeah. Yeah, 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:32.840 so if it looks suspicious, people, if it looks suspicious 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:37.400 or if it smells suspicious, don't put your mouth. I 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:40.239 am I'm really shocked. I did not expect to come 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:46.960 on Ada's podcast to talk about stinky dicks. Well, welcome 0:07:47.000 --> 0:07:51.840 to exactly. Okay, so yeah, no I didn't end up 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:55.320 doing that. But have you ever had an awkward situation ever? Yeah, 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:57.440 come on, it happens to all of us. And then 0:07:57.440 --> 0:07:59.200 you gotta you gotta kind of like play it off, 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:02.120 you know what I'm saying. How do you pay it off? Well, 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:04.720 you know, you can do the alamanos as you know, 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:06.600 if you cut your hands are kind of going all 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:08.560 the place when you're eating things up, and then you 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:09.840 can you kind of do the thing where you kind 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:12.360 of you know, put your hands with the places where 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:14.240 they go, and then you kind of like you're scratching, 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:16.160 you know, huh, and then you kind of like and 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.600 then if something smells off, then you know that and 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:20.880 it's gonna be shower sex or you're just gonna have 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:22.720 to cancel it. Do you tell them to go to 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:25.600 the shower or do you cancel it? No? No, no, 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.560 you never tell somebody go shower. That just wouldn't be right, 0:08:28.680 --> 0:08:31.040 you know. But if it's a regular b oh, we 0:08:31.120 --> 0:08:33.160 all have b oh of course, and if you've been 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:35.040 you know, you sweat a little bit and maybe you 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:38.120 don't realize it. And if that's a situation, just go 0:08:38.200 --> 0:08:40.400 to the shower, but together collectively and you have fun. 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:44.040 In the show is my first time I get that part. 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.240 But like, if you're ready my man's bands. I mean, 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:49.120 I've had some funky sex before, so it's fine. Do 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:52.800 you like funky sex? I do. Sometimes some people can't, 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:55.040 you know, some people get turned on by the orders. Yeah, yeah, 0:08:55.400 --> 0:08:58.880 get your hormones sometimes, Like I don't mind a little 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:01.040 you know, sweaty balls something. Times it's like, you know, 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:02.839 I can take it and get Oh that's fair, that's 0:09:02.840 --> 0:09:06.280 my man. So I think that that's okay. Sometimes now 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.480 there's a difference. You have to know the differences. But anyways, 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:13.040 if you go, for example, on a Tinder date, if 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:15.440 you're out here on Tinder dates, and you're out here, 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.000 you know, going on these apps or whatever, and it's 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:20.880 your first time, I definitely don't suggest for you to 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.760 go out here and experiment and explore. You know that 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:27.040 during the pandemic, I actually opened the Tinder account for 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:29.680 my mom so that she can you know, I want 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.559 her to date somebody, and you're still trying to get 0:09:32.559 --> 0:09:33.960 her out of your house. I'm not trying to get 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:35.520 her out of my house. I'm just trying to find 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:42.480 her man so that she don't feel lonely. Yeah, the question, 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.720 I don't know. I've I've taken her to the freaky 0:09:44.800 --> 0:09:50.079 store and she'll be like no, but then she will 0:09:50.120 --> 0:10:00.080 ask all the types of questions, So I don't know. 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:03.320 I think is it offered? Now? Let me ask you, 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.120 because you know you're very close to your mom and 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:08.839 your dad too, are they ever open with you about 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:11.760 those type of things? No? No, no, no, no no 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:14.240 like now more more recently now though that that that 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:17.959 I'm older, I said, like the jokes and those kind 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:19.560 of things in front of her, and she's more comfortable 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:21.360 with and she opens up a little more. But never 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:26.160 never that, never that open, never that that open. No, no, no, no, 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:30.199 you think she would think no, she want to say 0:10:31.040 --> 0:10:33.800 she'd be from with me and comfortable with it. But 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:37.040 I feel kind of odd having certain conversations with with 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:39.480 with my mom, although, like I said, now more more 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:42.640 open to saying certain jokes. In the past, I never 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:45.040 would have said she's more open than me. And do 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:47.280 you know a mom and that divorced couples three or 0:10:47.280 --> 0:10:48.880 four years ago, so instead of that a makes a 0:10:48.880 --> 0:10:53.480 little different. But I know, I think I might sound weird, 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:55.839 but I think I'm more comfortable talking about sex and 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:58.400 stuff with my mom and with my dad really, if 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:01.640 that makes sense, Yes, as most definitely you have a 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:05.400 different bond with each one. So you know, Gonkin, No, 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:07.880 I think that personally because my mom is my best 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:10.680 friend for so long, we just end up. Um, I 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:12.760 just like to break the ice so it doesn't become 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.840 weird later on. So but I know you and I 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.240 have had this conversation about you know, you being a 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:20.679 little frustrated about living in the same roof with your 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:22.240 mom and you try to get freaky and your mom 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:23.959 being there and you're not being able to be loud 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.079 and you're not giving your space to get your friend 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:28.400 and to masturbate. Now, yesterday I had to go do 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:30.640 it in the bathroom and turn on the water and everything, 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:32.400 and I have to be like looking by yourself. But 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:34.640 I thought, but I thought you had somebody was helping 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:39.160 with So you know, he just gave me my babies. 0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:42.800 I'm grateful for it, but to super there, it'd be hard. 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:44.360 And I know everybody's like, oh my god, I can't 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.480 believe at talking like that, But I just like that 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.439 exactly amount of a space where we don't have any taboos, 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:51.559 anything is anything. I feel that we're all human, we're 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:56.160 all grown right, and everybody has these conversations and these thoughts. 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:58.199 Maybe they just don't have the platform to talk about 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.920 it openly or the willingness to do because they're embarrassed 0:12:01.000 --> 0:12:03.640 or don't be embarrassed about your body, about your sexuality. 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:06.360 We also try different things, and you know, I'm sure 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:08.959 maybe there's somebody a listener out there that sometimes you 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:10.480 want to get your freak on, and it'd be hard 0:12:10.520 --> 0:12:12.000 when you have your parents or maybe you have your 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:14.160 kids around. I don't know how you do when you 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.640 have your kids. Oh my god, I got two daughters. 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:20.120 Now I feel like, don't get that's what you have, 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:22.679 something that you have that to look forward to. Yeah, well, 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:24.520 you know a lot of people, a lot of people 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:27.360 actually a lot of married people end up divorcing because 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:31.520 of that, because they end up dis thing seeing uh 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:33.400 you know, there's the kids cause a lot of friction 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:36.880 for them and they end up drifting apart. Oh because 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:40.200 of kids. That is terrible. So you gotta people gotta 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:42.200 be careful with you know, and how to balance those Yeah, 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:44.640 I need to figure that part out. That's very important 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:47.760 because then you end up creating like schedules and it's 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:50.880 not spontaneous anymore, like every Thursday at six o'clock. You know, 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:53.560 we have to yo. That's the thing. You know, there's 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:56.880 there's actual there's people that actually schedule sex. Is that 0:12:56.920 --> 0:12:58.920 a bad thing or is that a good thing? I don't. 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.760 I think it's a thing. I think it's a sad thing. 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:03.480 I think it's a sad thing. If you have to 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.560 be in you know, do you get to that level? 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:08.200 But I get it, But people have responsibilities, and they 0:13:08.240 --> 0:13:10.600 have multiple kids, and some people have two or three jobs, 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:11.920 you know what I'm saying, And just to make sure 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.840 that they don't Like Thursday at seven o'clock, you already 0:13:14.840 --> 0:13:17.600 know you have thirty minutes to get in, Uh, get 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:19.040 off me. What if you're not in the mood at 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:20.800 that moment and instead of seven o'clock, you're in the 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:22.280 mood at seven in the morning, but you can't you 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:24.640 know what I mean. It's kind of it that I 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.880 would love to talk to someone that has those type 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:29.360 of sexual you know, the type of schedules. Do you 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:31.440 have a schedule because you work a lot too, you 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:33.760 wake up early in the morning. No, no, no no, no, 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.120 I don't. But yeah, but I don't believe in scheduling sex. No, 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:39.360 that's spontaneous. It's at the moment, okay. And what if 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:41.360 you don't, because that happens too when you get so 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:42.959 busy and you get so caught up working by the 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:46.480 time that comes down, they're gonna have to be you know, 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:50.000 sexy andsductive, like I have to shape my lass, my 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:54.040 ask that's too much work. Like, but see, guys are different, Yeah, 0:13:54.200 --> 0:13:56.920 because I'd be like, yeah, of course, but but when 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.440 you just describe women, it's like a whole production in 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:02.160 order to have sex. Guys, it just doesn't matter. And 0:14:02.160 --> 0:14:03.800 the guys are used to it too, and I think 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:05.920 ladies overdo it sometimes. Of course you want to take 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:07.480 care of yourself and stuff, but most guys just turn 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:09.920 the lights down. But got out. That's that's true. That's true. 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:12.920 But with women is it is a mental connection. The 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.640 gay sex is different to you know what I'm saying. 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:20.320 It's like when I yeah, that's true, I love you, 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:23.600 that is true. But I mean, okay, so wait because 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:24.920 you know that I have my whole list of things 0:14:24.920 --> 0:14:27.200 and yeah, come, okay, I'll be all over the place 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.400 because I feel like love and relationship and everything has 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:32.560 changed so much. I feel like everybody's looking for it. 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:34.880 Ship I was looking for it. I wanted my fairy tale. 0:14:34.880 --> 0:14:39.320 I wanted my you know, and my picnics and lemonades 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:43.320 and barbecues on Sundays and my little poppy and kids. 0:14:43.320 --> 0:14:45.360 He doesn't and I didn't turn out to be that way. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:48.240 So I feel like I don't know when it comes 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:51.720 to love and relationship, things have changed a lot. Um. 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:54.720 Do you feel that because women now are becoming more 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:57.400 independent and more like, you know, I'm a boss bitch 0:14:57.440 --> 0:14:59.960 and I do this, And do you feel that we're 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:03.560 losing that connection, like we're not having those bombs, those 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:07.480 relationships like that anymore. Well, I think there's a fine line. 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:10.080 And I'm all for women empowerment and women doing their 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.160 thing and giving you know, we've got to give women 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:14.000 the respect that you guys deserve and the lane that 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:17.720 you guys. Uh oh, that a lot of people don't 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:20.000 and refuse to accept the fact that women can do 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:22.160 as much as men can. And some things you guys 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:23.840 do a lot better than men do. But we gotta 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:25.720 accept some things men do better than women, and some 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:28.120 things women do better than men. And I think women 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:30.560 still need to be treated with respect and with love 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:36.000 the way you know things should be. However, but I think, however, 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:40.680 it's yeah, it's I mean, because sometimes I'd be feeling 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.800 like a man myself, like I want to be I'm 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.760 a lady. Sometimes I want to be treated by me. 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:50.320 Flowers may lie to me, lie to me like everybody 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:59.880 else doesn't. But you know what, but but here's the 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:01.680 tell you where it's a fine line. And here is 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.960 where it gets very confusing because I can get it. 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:06.080 You want to be a gentleman, right, you want to 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:08.080 open a door for a lady. Some people take it 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:10.840 to the next level and the exaggerate. What are you doing? 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:13.600 I have two hands, I can I can open you know, 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:15.320 I think you know what I'm saying, like I can 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:17.120 open the door myself. What are you doing? It's like 0:16:17.440 --> 0:16:19.880 I didn't mean to offend you. So nowadays you don't 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:22.240 even know what's right, what's wrong, and how to react 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:25.080 because people are just gonna get piste off, that's true. 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:27.320 Or you never know where you're gonna disrespect somebody or 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.200 step on somebody's toes without wanting for meaning to. That 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:32.680 is true. I feel that that we have lost that 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:36.560 balance women. Now we become so independent and so empowered, 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:38.480 which is fine. I love it. I'm one of I'm 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:40.720 one of those women. But at the same time, you know, 0:16:40.880 --> 0:16:43.200 we want to be nurtured and want to be loved. 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:48.160 I feel that now I don't know, we come okay, disconnect. 0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:50.520 I you know, I feel like men don't want to 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:53.560 commit on both of these days. Maybe let me tell 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:57.280 you what's going on. There is a better there's a 0:16:57.560 --> 0:17:00.000 there's a huge level of intolerance. Number one, people are 0:17:00.080 --> 0:17:03.760 totally intolerant to other people's opinions, to other people's views. 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:05.840 That's number one. And then number two, we've got to 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:09.120 accept and understand the fact that we have to accept 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:13.080 each other. Yes, okay, you accept me, I accept you. 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:17.520 We understand each other. We've got to communicate. People don't communicate. 0:17:17.600 --> 0:17:20.920 We just assumed that people understand where we're coming from, 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:23.320 or we assume that because what I posted a month 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.240 ago on Instagram, people are going to know where my 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:27.040 heart and where my brain is at, and what I 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.760 want and what my expectations are. So this comes at 0:17:29.760 --> 0:17:33.240 all levels. Levels in our relationships with our significant others, 0:17:33.240 --> 0:17:37.080 with our parents, with people with their kids. We don't communicate. 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.200 And I think it's also an attention thing. It's people 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:43.040 don't do it um on purpose. I think that there's 0:17:43.080 --> 0:17:46.000 so many things that are competing for our attention that 0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:48.800 sometimes we forget. You know, many times I assumed that 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:51.159 I told my work team, or I've told my partner, 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:54.280 I've told my mom's or my brother something, and I realized, oh, 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:56.000 and then I get upset when things don't happen, And 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:57.359 then I had to tap on the break and sit. 0:17:57.400 --> 0:18:00.840 Wait a minute, I'm an asshole because I'm it's my 0:18:00.920 --> 0:18:03.399 fault that we're having this discussion or that we're in 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:07.280 this predicament of this problem because I never communicated. So 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:10.360 I think we need to communicate more what we expect 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:13.560 of in a relationship. No matter who the relationship, you 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:15.159 should do it. You should do it from the beginning, 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:16.760 right from the get go, or should you wait a 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:19.920 little bit. Well, I just when you feel it. That's 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:22.680 another thing. These kind of things don't have a manual. 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:25.280 You know, right or wrong, or it's not black and white. 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:27.040 A lot of these things are great, and if you 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:29.560 feel a certain way communicated. I just think everything in 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:35.240 life is timing, and there's a song remembers. Listen to you, huh, 0:18:38.640 --> 0:18:43.240 listen to you. That's what I know it's like. But 0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:45.760 it is true. I think that communication is important. I'm 0:18:45.760 --> 0:18:47.679 one of those I'm not the best one at communicating. 0:18:47.720 --> 0:18:49.640 It's a libre thing. I just want peace and love 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:52.600 to the universe. You know, anti confrontational, and that can 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:54.879 aso cause you a lot of issues. If you feel something, 0:18:54.960 --> 0:18:57.960 just say it, damn it, stop holding your tongue and 0:18:58.040 --> 0:19:02.480 from the beginning, put your cards on the table. All 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:04.879 of a suden announced and they have these kids. My 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:07.680 demeanor has changed a little bit and I feel more focused, 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:10.639 and it's like the water to see I want this, this, this, this, 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:12.679 Can you do it? Can you handle it? Yes? No? Okay, 0:19:12.720 --> 0:19:15.320 but bumbaye. So if we can't figure it out, because 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:18.600 I feel like, come into a relationship, coming to a friendship, 0:19:18.680 --> 0:19:21.159 coming to whatever. Obviously, whenever you feel the time it's 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:24.879 ready to have that conversation. Let them know what you tolerate, 0:19:24.960 --> 0:19:27.480 what you accept, what you don't take, what you don't. 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:33.160 Don't wait till it's too late. Don't wait until it's 0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:36.479 too late to them being like, oh I don't like this. 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:39.280 I don't like that too late. So I feel that 0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:41.800 it is true from the beginning. You should definitely talk. 0:19:42.960 --> 0:19:45.960 There's a there's a Brunal songs un Brunal mar song 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:50.560 for that one too. I should have that. Yes, it's 0:19:50.560 --> 0:19:52.920 too late. Right after that, Hey, the song was rock 0:19:53.000 --> 0:19:56.600 set um. The song is back from let me listen 0:19:56.640 --> 0:20:01.199 to your Yes, the these are the from the from 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:05.760 UK from Okay, that's what I love about you. He 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:08.520 wanted he did his research. I'll give you problemly because 0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:10.920 they can't stay. How many times are you thinking about 0:20:10.920 --> 0:20:13.280 thinking about something and figet somebody's name or a situation, 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:14.520