Speaker 1: And as usual with your girl, and you're listening to
Speaker 1: Exactly Amada production of My Heart Radio Bun I'm always
Speaker 1: coming in with the energy because look, no no Cey Lambona,
Speaker 1: so I'm not here that you get extra hyping him up.
Speaker 1: But the truth of the matter is he's the ship.
Speaker 1: He has supported me from day one. He is a
Speaker 1: lot of mass and radio. I mean, he does it all.
Speaker 1: And today I wanted to talk a little bit about
Speaker 1: the differences between women and men, the way that we
Speaker 1: perceived the world. Um and just give a whole bunch
Speaker 1: of opinions on different topics and just be very chill,
Speaker 1: real laid back. I first have to bring in Miami Bana.
Speaker 1: Enrique Santos, How are you doing, my love, I'm doing good.
Speaker 1: I'm happy to be here on Exactly Amda. Proud of
Speaker 1: you and the success that you're having on your podcast.
Speaker 1: No thank you. Let me tell you something. By the way,
Speaker 1: Exactly I'm gonna exist, it's thanks to you. You're the
Speaker 1: one who hooked me up and told me you know what,
Speaker 1: you really need to get on board and get it together.
Speaker 1: That's why I am so grateful. You want to speaking
Speaker 1: Spanish speaking English speaking looking on the um and I
Speaker 1: want to be. You're gonna say, everybody's calling me. Everybody's
Speaker 1: so popular. Girl. Your phone doesn't stop going off today
Speaker 1: now that you're pregnant. Felicie eyes twins, you got to
Speaker 1: coming one for me, one for you. I'm working. I'm
Speaker 1: working a lie. I work hard for the money. Does
Speaker 1: I feel how does that feel that you gotta bogo
Speaker 1: do Sava first? Okay, home Bogle? You know you buy one,
Speaker 1: you get one free. You excuse me when you make
Speaker 1: the money that I'm outa makes. Now she doesn't. She
Speaker 1: doesn't know about boges the economy anymore, because I still
Speaker 1: be going to about and all those things. I go
Speaker 1: to the drift store and everything. Nothing has changed, the
Speaker 1: Google it all. No, no, no, I be bouge on
Speaker 1: a budge, but bougie on a budget. I'm gonna use
Speaker 1: that buggie on a budget battle. The truth of the
Speaker 1: matter is, I mean, originally and I lost one, and
Speaker 1: I wasn't even ready for it. I didn't even know
Speaker 1: I was pregnant. I was like two months, yeah, I
Speaker 1: peak almost three. So this has been on new to me.
Speaker 1: I haven't even staid at the nursery. I haven't thought
Speaker 1: about baby names. No saying now that I don't even
Speaker 1: know what to buy. How do you do this? You
Speaker 1: got all that cool stuff to look forward to. The
Speaker 1: good thing is that you you got your mom there.
Speaker 1: It can help you. Yes, yes, you know this is
Speaker 1: this is these are her babies, the new experience for
Speaker 1: all of us, and we're all super excited. So while
Speaker 1: by the way, as a hard working woman and entrepreneur,
Speaker 1: I will continue to do exactly a matter during birth,
Speaker 1: after birth, thought, the whole process. Nothing has changed to you,
Speaker 1: is it? Truly? You're planning on being on the podcast
Speaker 1: live when you give birth? That could be very interesting.
Speaker 1: The only thing I can everybody's gonna hit me because
Speaker 1: you're gonna hear home bunch of screaming. That would be
Speaker 1: interesting against an exclusive and really exclusive. We don't mean.
Speaker 1: I think here goes out of so many questions because
Speaker 1: I wrote a little list of things and I thought
Speaker 1: would be kind of interesting to discuss. How do you
Speaker 1: think the people handle dating now or relationships after the pandemic.
Speaker 1: What do you think has been the difference? Well, the
Speaker 1: difference is that people, of course, at the beginning, it's
Speaker 1: like very like freaked. Everyone was freaked out right, you
Speaker 1: couldn't you saw people just digitally, I think. But I
Speaker 1: think a lot of that has stayed coming out of
Speaker 1: the pandemic. I think a lot of people are kind
Speaker 1: of like you know, when you go to a job interview.
Speaker 1: But I think people are zooming or you know, or
Speaker 1: there zooming or face timing before you know, before they're
Speaker 1: what's that video chats before they actually meet in person.
Speaker 1: And I don't think it's a bad thing because there
Speaker 1: you can see if actually people at the pictures that
Speaker 1: they sent you and all that kind of stuff have
Speaker 1: been filtered or not. Because now you're looking at the
Speaker 1: actual video, you can see what the people actually look like,
Speaker 1: their faces moving with with no filter, And I think
Speaker 1: that's a good thing. And to see if you also
Speaker 1: have chemistry. I think that for some reason after the pandemic,
Speaker 1: you know, send me to it's fucking season. It's every
Speaker 1: single girl that I met, what I know, either she
Speaker 1: got pregnant and she handled her business or everybody's having
Speaker 1: you know, pandemic babies. Um, I think it's sucking season.
Speaker 1: I think it's you know, sexy that everybody's getting freaky.
Speaker 1: And I think that after the pandemic for some reason,
Speaker 1: I feel like, oh, we were stuck in the house
Speaker 1: for too long and have to go meet somebody, I
Speaker 1: have to do something. Yes, No, for sure, there a
Speaker 1: lot of thirsty people coming out of the pandemic. Yes.
Speaker 1: After the pandemic, I feel like people got more freaky.
Speaker 1: I feel that people got more open sexually, mentally. Everybody
Speaker 1: wants to explore and try new things and just you know,
Speaker 1: I just want to go do it. So I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think dating has changed a little bit after the pandemic.
Speaker 1: What about with the vaccination. But because you've been in
Speaker 1: a long relationship, yeah, for like a thousand years, you
Speaker 1: don't count battle. I'm sure that you've heard of people
Speaker 1: that now, in order to like make out or you know,
Speaker 1: have sex or whatever, they're like, are you vaccinated? Oh?
Speaker 1: Of course. So we've talked a lot about it on
Speaker 1: the on the show. It's actually um called no no Vacs,
Speaker 1: No ass Act, Right, So people that are not they're
Speaker 1: not willing to look up with somebody else unless they're
Speaker 1: actually vacked. So before they pull down their pants, they
Speaker 1: want to see people's vaccination cards. Ain't that something? Is
Speaker 1: I mean I get it, Yes, you have to protect
Speaker 1: yourself or a lot what or whatever, But why don't
Speaker 1: you have the same energy to be like, oh, do
Speaker 1: you have you know any STDs? Can I have a
Speaker 1: card that clarifies that you don't have you know? Do
Speaker 1: you have anything like that? No? Have you ever actually
Speaker 1: met somebody? Have you? Have you ever actually met some
Speaker 1: body had Oh my god, let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: Don't don't tell nobody one time? Whatever? And he was
Speaker 1: so fine, and I was saying, yes, bitch, you don't
Speaker 1: do what. So then um, when he took it down,
Speaker 1: stopped explain, please explain the bla a lot because I
Speaker 1: wasn't clear that the going down bar was for him
Speaker 1: for you. I was on him, okay, got it right.
Speaker 1: I was about and then when he pulled it down,
Speaker 1: because you know, again that's the worml that's how you started.
Speaker 1: Have to get it juicy or whatever, and don't say
Speaker 1: when he pulled it down, I was like, wait, I'm
Speaker 1: not something was just not looking right. Maybe it was
Speaker 1: normal because you know that every dangling is the special
Speaker 1: and it has his own pion artistic better that one.
Speaker 1: For some reason, my gut feeling was like, don't do it,
Speaker 1: and after that it was just and the top it
Speaker 1: was just I don't know. Listen, each each penis is
Speaker 1: definitely a work of arts. We all have our own
Speaker 1: inside correct, correct, and they're and they're unique. But it's
Speaker 1: something smelled off. It wasn't the smell, it was just
Speaker 1: the way it looked that I wasn't sure if I
Speaker 1: should put my mouth on it or not. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so if it looks suspicious, people, if it looks suspicious
Speaker 1: or if it smells suspicious, don't put your mouth. I
Speaker 1: am I'm really shocked. I did not expect to come
Speaker 1: on Ada's podcast to talk about stinky dicks. Well, welcome
Speaker 1: to exactly. Okay, so yeah, no I didn't end up
Speaker 1: doing that. But have you ever had an awkward situation ever? Yeah,
Speaker 1: come on, it happens to all of us. And then
Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta kind of like play it off,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. How do you pay it off? Well,
Speaker 1: you know, you can do the alamanos as you know,
Speaker 1: if you cut your hands are kind of going all
Speaker 1: the place when you're eating things up, and then you
Speaker 1: can you kind of do the thing where you kind
Speaker 1: of you know, put your hands with the places where
Speaker 1: they go, and then you kind of like you're scratching,
Speaker 1: you know, huh, and then you kind of like and
Speaker 1: then if something smells off, then you know that and
Speaker 1: it's gonna be shower sex or you're just gonna have
Speaker 1: to cancel it. Do you tell them to go to
Speaker 1: the shower or do you cancel it? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: you never tell somebody go shower. That just wouldn't be right,
Speaker 1: you know. But if it's a regular b oh, we
Speaker 1: all have b oh of course, and if you've been
Speaker 1: you know, you sweat a little bit and maybe you
Speaker 1: don't realize it. And if that's a situation, just go
Speaker 1: to the shower, but together collectively and you have fun.
Speaker 1: In the show is my first time I get that part.
Speaker 1: But like, if you're ready my man's bands. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've had some funky sex before, so it's fine. Do
Speaker 1: you like funky sex? I do. Sometimes some people can't,
Speaker 1: you know, some people get turned on by the orders. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: get your hormones sometimes, Like I don't mind a little
Speaker 1: you know, sweaty balls something. Times it's like, you know,
Speaker 1: I can take it and get Oh that's fair, that's
Speaker 1: my man. So I think that that's okay. Sometimes now
Speaker 1: there's a difference. You have to know the differences. But anyways,
Speaker 1: if you go, for example, on a Tinder date, if
Speaker 1: you're out here on Tinder dates, and you're out here,
Speaker 1: you know, going on these apps or whatever, and it's
Speaker 1: your first time, I definitely don't suggest for you to
Speaker 1: go out here and experiment and explore. You know that
Speaker 1: during the pandemic, I actually opened the Tinder account for
Speaker 1: my mom so that she can you know, I want
Speaker 1: her to date somebody, and you're still trying to get
Speaker 1: her out of your house. I'm not trying to get
Speaker 1: her out of my house. I'm just trying to find
Speaker 1: her man so that she don't feel lonely. Yeah, the question,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I've I've taken her to the freaky
Speaker 1: store and she'll be like no, but then she will
Speaker 1: ask all the types of questions, So I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think is it offered? Now? Let me ask you,
Speaker 1: because you know you're very close to your mom and
Speaker 1: your dad too, are they ever open with you about
Speaker 1: those type of things? No? No, no, no, no no
Speaker 1: like now more more recently now though that that that
Speaker 1: I'm older, I said, like the jokes and those kind
Speaker 1: of things in front of her, and she's more comfortable
Speaker 1: with and she opens up a little more. But never
Speaker 1: never that, never that open, never that that open. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: you think she would think no, she want to say
Speaker 1: she'd be from with me and comfortable with it. But
Speaker 1: I feel kind of odd having certain conversations with with
Speaker 1: with my mom, although, like I said, now more more
Speaker 1: open to saying certain jokes. In the past, I never
Speaker 1: would have said she's more open than me. And do
Speaker 1: you know a mom and that divorced couples three or
Speaker 1: four years ago, so instead of that a makes a
Speaker 1: little different. But I know, I think I might sound weird,
Speaker 1: but I think I'm more comfortable talking about sex and
Speaker 1: stuff with my mom and with my dad really, if
Speaker 1: that makes sense, Yes, as most definitely you have a
Speaker 1: different bond with each one. So you know, Gonkin, No,
Speaker 1: I think that personally because my mom is my best
Speaker 1: friend for so long, we just end up. Um, I
Speaker 1: just like to break the ice so it doesn't become
Speaker 1: weird later on. So but I know you and I
Speaker 1: have had this conversation about you know, you being a
Speaker 1: little frustrated about living in the same roof with your
Speaker 1: mom and you try to get freaky and your mom
Speaker 1: being there and you're not being able to be loud
Speaker 1: and you're not giving your space to get your friend
Speaker 1: and to masturbate. Now, yesterday I had to go do
Speaker 1: it in the bathroom and turn on the water and everything,
Speaker 1: and I have to be like looking by yourself. But
Speaker 1: I thought, but I thought you had somebody was helping
Speaker 1: with So you know, he just gave me my babies.
Speaker 1: I'm grateful for it, but to super there, it'd be hard.
Speaker 1: And I know everybody's like, oh my god, I can't
Speaker 1: believe at talking like that, But I just like that
Speaker 1: exactly amount of a space where we don't have any taboos,
Speaker 1: anything is anything. I feel that we're all human, we're
Speaker 1: all grown right, and everybody has these conversations and these thoughts.
Speaker 1: Maybe they just don't have the platform to talk about
Speaker 1: it openly or the willingness to do because they're embarrassed
Speaker 1: or don't be embarrassed about your body, about your sexuality.
Speaker 1: We also try different things, and you know, I'm sure
Speaker 1: maybe there's somebody a listener out there that sometimes you
Speaker 1: want to get your freak on, and it'd be hard
Speaker 1: when you have your parents or maybe you have your
Speaker 1: kids around. I don't know how you do when you
Speaker 1: have your kids. Oh my god, I got two daughters.
Speaker 1: Now I feel like, don't get that's what you have,
Speaker 1: something that you have that to look forward to. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: you know a lot of people, a lot of people
Speaker 1: actually a lot of married people end up divorcing because
Speaker 1: of that, because they end up dis thing seeing uh
Speaker 1: you know, there's the kids cause a lot of friction
Speaker 1: for them and they end up drifting apart. Oh because
Speaker 1: of kids. That is terrible. So you gotta people gotta
Speaker 1: be careful with you know, and how to balance those Yeah,
Speaker 1: I need to figure that part out. That's very important
Speaker 1: because then you end up creating like schedules and it's
Speaker 1: not spontaneous anymore, like every Thursday at six o'clock. You know,
Speaker 1: we have to yo. That's the thing. You know, there's
Speaker 1: there's actual there's people that actually schedule sex. Is that
Speaker 1: a bad thing or is that a good thing? I don't.
Speaker 1: I think it's a thing. I think it's a sad thing.
Speaker 1: I think it's a sad thing. If you have to
Speaker 1: be in you know, do you get to that level?
Speaker 1: But I get it, But people have responsibilities, and they
Speaker 1: have multiple kids, and some people have two or three jobs,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, And just to make sure
Speaker 1: that they don't Like Thursday at seven o'clock, you already
Speaker 1: know you have thirty minutes to get in, Uh, get
Speaker 1: off me. What if you're not in the mood at
Speaker 1: that moment and instead of seven o'clock, you're in the
Speaker 1: mood at seven in the morning, but you can't you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's kind of it that I
Speaker 1: would love to talk to someone that has those type
Speaker 1: of sexual you know, the type of schedules. Do you
Speaker 1: have a schedule because you work a lot too, you
Speaker 1: wake up early in the morning. No, no, no no, no,
Speaker 1: I don't. But yeah, but I don't believe in scheduling sex. No,
Speaker 1: that's spontaneous. It's at the moment, okay. And what if
Speaker 1: you don't, because that happens too when you get so
Speaker 1: busy and you get so caught up working by the
Speaker 1: time that comes down, they're gonna have to be you know,
Speaker 1: sexy andsductive, like I have to shape my lass, my
Speaker 1: ask that's too much work. Like, but see, guys are different, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because I'd be like, yeah, of course, but but when
Speaker 1: you just describe women, it's like a whole production in
Speaker 1: order to have sex. Guys, it just doesn't matter. And
Speaker 1: the guys are used to it too, and I think
Speaker 1: ladies overdo it sometimes. Of course you want to take
Speaker 1: care of yourself and stuff, but most guys just turn
Speaker 1: the lights down. But got out. That's that's true. That's true.
Speaker 1: But with women is it is a mental connection. The
Speaker 1: gay sex is different to you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's like when I yeah, that's true, I love you,
Speaker 1: that is true. But I mean, okay, so wait because
Speaker 1: you know that I have my whole list of things
Speaker 1: and yeah, come, okay, I'll be all over the place
Speaker 1: because I feel like love and relationship and everything has
Speaker 1: changed so much. I feel like everybody's looking for it.
Speaker 1: Ship I was looking for it. I wanted my fairy tale.
Speaker 1: I wanted my you know, and my picnics and lemonades
Speaker 1: and barbecues on Sundays and my little poppy and kids.
Speaker 1: He doesn't and I didn't turn out to be that way.
Speaker 1: So I feel like I don't know when it comes
Speaker 1: to love and relationship, things have changed a lot. Um.
Speaker 1: Do you feel that because women now are becoming more
Speaker 1: independent and more like, you know, I'm a boss bitch
Speaker 1: and I do this, And do you feel that we're
Speaker 1: losing that connection, like we're not having those bombs, those
Speaker 1: relationships like that anymore. Well, I think there's a fine line.
Speaker 1: And I'm all for women empowerment and women doing their
Speaker 1: thing and giving you know, we've got to give women
Speaker 1: the respect that you guys deserve and the lane that
Speaker 1: you guys. Uh oh, that a lot of people don't
Speaker 1: and refuse to accept the fact that women can do
Speaker 1: as much as men can. And some things you guys
Speaker 1: do a lot better than men do. But we gotta
Speaker 1: accept some things men do better than women, and some
Speaker 1: things women do better than men. And I think women
Speaker 1: still need to be treated with respect and with love
Speaker 1: the way you know things should be. However, but I think, however,
Speaker 1: it's yeah, it's I mean, because sometimes I'd be feeling
Speaker 1: like a man myself, like I want to be I'm
Speaker 1: a lady. Sometimes I want to be treated by me.
Speaker 1: Flowers may lie to me, lie to me like everybody
Speaker 1: else doesn't. But you know what, but but here's the
Speaker 1: tell you where it's a fine line. And here is
Speaker 1: where it gets very confusing because I can get it.
Speaker 1: You want to be a gentleman, right, you want to
Speaker 1: open a door for a lady. Some people take it
Speaker 1: to the next level and the exaggerate. What are you doing?
Speaker 1: I have two hands, I can I can open you know,
Speaker 1: I think you know what I'm saying, like I can
Speaker 1: open the door myself. What are you doing? It's like
Speaker 1: I didn't mean to offend you. So nowadays you don't
Speaker 1: even know what's right, what's wrong, and how to react
Speaker 1: because people are just gonna get piste off, that's true.
Speaker 1: Or you never know where you're gonna disrespect somebody or
Speaker 1: step on somebody's toes without wanting for meaning to. That
Speaker 1: is true. I feel that that we have lost that
Speaker 1: balance women. Now we become so independent and so empowered,
Speaker 1: which is fine. I love it. I'm one of I'm
Speaker 1: one of those women. But at the same time, you know,
Speaker 1: we want to be nurtured and want to be loved.
Speaker 1: I feel that now I don't know, we come okay, disconnect.
Speaker 1: I you know, I feel like men don't want to
Speaker 1: commit on both of these days. Maybe let me tell
Speaker 1: you what's going on. There is a better there's a
Speaker 1: there's a huge level of intolerance. Number one, people are
Speaker 1: totally intolerant to other people's opinions, to other people's views.
Speaker 1: That's number one. And then number two, we've got to
Speaker 1: accept and understand the fact that we have to accept
Speaker 1: each other. Yes, okay, you accept me, I accept you.
Speaker 1: We understand each other. We've got to communicate. People don't communicate.
Speaker 1: We just assumed that people understand where we're coming from,
Speaker 1: or we assume that because what I posted a month
Speaker 1: ago on Instagram, people are going to know where my
Speaker 1: heart and where my brain is at, and what I
Speaker 1: want and what my expectations are. So this comes at
Speaker 1: all levels. Levels in our relationships with our significant others,
Speaker 1: with our parents, with people with their kids. We don't communicate.
Speaker 1: And I think it's also an attention thing. It's people
Speaker 1: don't do it um on purpose. I think that there's
Speaker 1: so many things that are competing for our attention that
Speaker 1: sometimes we forget. You know, many times I assumed that
Speaker 1: I told my work team, or I've told my partner,
Speaker 1: I've told my mom's or my brother something, and I realized, oh,
Speaker 1: and then I get upset when things don't happen, And
Speaker 1: then I had to tap on the break and sit.
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I'm an asshole because I'm it's my
Speaker 1: fault that we're having this discussion or that we're in
Speaker 1: this predicament of this problem because I never communicated. So
Speaker 1: I think we need to communicate more what we expect
Speaker 1: of in a relationship. No matter who the relationship, you
Speaker 1: should do it. You should do it from the beginning,
Speaker 1: right from the get go, or should you wait a
Speaker 1: little bit. Well, I just when you feel it. That's
Speaker 1: another thing. These kind of things don't have a manual.
Speaker 1: You know, right or wrong, or it's not black and white.
Speaker 1: A lot of these things are great, and if you
Speaker 1: feel a certain way communicated. I just think everything in
Speaker 1: life is timing, and there's a song remembers. Listen to you, huh,
Speaker 1: listen to you. That's what I know it's like. But
Speaker 1: it is true. I think that communication is important. I'm
Speaker 1: one of those I'm not the best one at communicating.
Speaker 1: It's a libre thing. I just want peace and love
Speaker 1: to the universe. You know, anti confrontational, and that can
Speaker 1: aso cause you a lot of issues. If you feel something,
Speaker 1: just say it, damn it, stop holding your tongue and
Speaker 1: from the beginning, put your cards on the table. All
Speaker 1: of a suden announced and they have these kids. My
Speaker 1: demeanor has changed a little bit and I feel more focused,
Speaker 1: and it's like the water to see I want this, this, this, this,
Speaker 1: Can you do it? Can you handle it? Yes? No? Okay,
Speaker 1: but bumbaye. So if we can't figure it out, because
Speaker 1: I feel like, come into a relationship, coming to a friendship,
Speaker 1: coming to whatever. Obviously, whenever you feel the time it's
Speaker 1: ready to have that conversation. Let them know what you tolerate,
Speaker 1: what you accept, what you don't take, what you don't.
Speaker 1: Don't wait till it's too late. Don't wait until it's
Speaker 1: too late to them being like, oh I don't like this.
Speaker 1: I don't like that too late. So I feel that
Speaker 1: it is true from the beginning. You should definitely talk.
Speaker 1: There's a there's a Brunal songs un Brunal mar song
Speaker 1: for that one too. I should have that. Yes, it's
Speaker 1: too late. Right after that, Hey, the song was rock
Speaker 1: set um. The song is back from let me listen
Speaker 1: to your Yes, the these are the from the from
Speaker 1: UK from Okay, that's what I love about you. He
Speaker 1: wanted he did his research. I'll give you problemly because
Speaker 1: they can't stay. How many times are you thinking about
Speaker 1: thinking about something and figet somebody's name or a situation,
Speaker 1: or the name of a movie or the name of
Speaker 1: a song, and you totally forget and you're having a
Speaker 1: conversation with somebody, and the moment that person leaves the
Speaker 1: phone the conversation, then you like calling you things. Do
Speaker 1: it now? Do it now if you feel like doing
Speaker 1: it now. If you don't have an answer, google it now.
Speaker 1: Don't google Italy smart. Talking about remembering, do you feel
Speaker 1: that a new relationships you should bring up the past
Speaker 1: or ask about past relationships? No, I think it's a
Speaker 1: big mistake because you're setting up for failure. You're setting
Speaker 1: yourself up for failure because you know they're gonna're gonna
Speaker 1: answer something that's either gonna bother you or it's gonna
Speaker 1: hurt you, or it's gonna cause friction with your new partners.
Speaker 1: So why even ask something like that? And no matter what,
Speaker 1: and no matter how much they swear to you, you you
Speaker 1: know that person never gonna give you the right number.
Speaker 1: They're always gonna give themselves at discount. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I almost feel like if you do ask about you know,
Speaker 1: past relationships. You can kind of maybe hear certain patterns
Speaker 1: or certain things that you could be like, well, you
Speaker 1: know you're starting to do that thing you said that
Speaker 1: you did before, but that's why you broke up with
Speaker 1: Does that matter? No, I just don't ask. No, you
Speaker 1: know what happens if if you know, because if you're
Speaker 1: bringing up past relationships, what type of pattern are you're
Speaker 1: looking to find, You're looking to find what how he
Speaker 1: treats women. You're gonna know how he treats women the
Speaker 1: way he treats you. I mean, of course you're gonna
Speaker 1: want to know if the guy has been arrested for
Speaker 1: beating people up in the past, or if he has
Speaker 1: you know, domestic violence past. You definitely don't want to
Speaker 1: be in an abusive relationship. On anyone that's listening, that's
Speaker 1: that's in an abusive relationship. Get the hell out now,
Speaker 1: background checks. I know, you know, I find it kind
Speaker 1: of kind of weird. Um, But in if you're out
Speaker 1: there dating today, I don't I wouldn't say don't do it,
Speaker 1: especially if you're looking for something serious, especially if you
Speaker 1: have kids from another relationship and now it's a new
Speaker 1: person coming in you you gotta know who you're bringing
Speaker 1: into your house and who you're gonna have around your kids,
Speaker 1: around your family, because most there are, like you said,
Speaker 1: a lot of freaky and crazy people, cycled people all
Speaker 1: the neighbors and analties everything. I didn't look like he
Speaker 1: was a nice like a bad person or you hear
Speaker 1: you hear stories all the time. You know they've been married,
Speaker 1: happily married for I don't know how many years, and
Speaker 1: then it turns out to the guys has like is
Speaker 1: married to three other women at the same time, and
Speaker 1: you know two other continentals. Yeah, that sounds familiar. Well,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you this really, so I'll tell you that
Speaker 1: I wish I had hair to be well you could.
Speaker 1: You know this is you have to fake it till
Speaker 1: you make it. I just you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: it put some extensions. How much of that hair is
Speaker 1: is real? Before that when you had the afro that
Speaker 1: was yours and I know a lot of people didn't
Speaker 1: even believe it. Sometimes you have to pull on it,
Speaker 1: and some people even accused you of wearing an afro
Speaker 1: to like exaggerate you know your African explain it. And
Speaker 1: I did get to a point where I was like, yes,
Speaker 1: I do wear afro extensions because it was hard to
Speaker 1: keep an afro perfect rounded seven batto now that ever
Speaker 1: since the pandemic, I decided to start changing looks. And
Speaker 1: I've gone blonde, and I've gone red, and I've gone
Speaker 1: long and come I've had funny. I'm just having fun.
Speaker 1: Better this one. Frets are expensive, memo. It's like a
Speaker 1: thousand dollars worth of hair. God knows whose hair this is, semon,
Speaker 1: the hair, that human hair, that horse hair. It's expensive. No,
Speaker 1: I stopped doing the bootleg ones. Yeah, it's better to
Speaker 1: do one good investment e and just keep rocking it.
Speaker 1: And can you change the color of that diet? You
Speaker 1: can roll or anything that you want and survives. Ueta.
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Queta either on me away all ther
Speaker 1: smeal between one thing and the other. I must admit
Speaker 1: that I have missed you so much. I have missed
Speaker 1: you so much. I missed being with you. I want
Speaker 1: to go back to your to your radio station. By
Speaker 1: the way, you have a podcast now to all our
Speaker 1: my name is. I see that you. I love the
Speaker 1: format that you really get to like know the person.
Speaker 1: And because everybody feel like asked the same thing. So
Speaker 1: when when in where can they check out yours all
Speaker 1: My my my Name is on my Heart radio app every
Speaker 1: Friday we have a new episode also part of Michael
Speaker 1: to the podcast network which AMA is part of the
Speaker 1: family that me and we're all we are all part
Speaker 1: of the family and on all O my name is
Speaker 1: I like highlighting you know, um sometimes like you said,
Speaker 1: the same as your podcast, sometimes in Spanish, sometimes in English,
Speaker 1: sometimes in Spanish. However, we communicate because we are Latinos
Speaker 1: that live in two different worlds, right and just hearing
Speaker 1: Latino success stories for people that have uh positively affected
Speaker 1: Latino culture and lifestyles here in the United States or
Speaker 1: have uh being and everyone has a story to tell.
Speaker 1: So we're having a lot of fun being able to
Speaker 1: sit down and talk with from politicians, people regular walks
Speaker 1: of life, uh some artists as well. But to get
Speaker 1: to you know, get them to open up and see
Speaker 1: what's going on. I'm only in there in their heads,
Speaker 1: but also more importantly in their hearts. Yeah, for sure,
Speaker 1: I definitely like that. Um. And if if you ever
Speaker 1: have a guest that's kind of freaky, feel free to
Speaker 1: send them my way. You've gotten a lot freakier girl
Speaker 1: ever since you started your podcast. Exactly, I'm out of
Speaker 1: its exactly how what I imagined. And it is not
Speaker 1: exactly one of the topics that I thought you were
Speaker 1: going to cover, but I am. I'm loving it. No,
Speaker 1: to be honest, we we we cover all types of topics,
Speaker 1: like recently, I just did one about single mothers. Um.
Speaker 1: I've done immigration topics, I've done colorism issues, I have
Speaker 1: done domestic abuse, I have done you know, mental health.
Speaker 1: I've done a little bit of everything. And then once
Speaker 1: in a while, I'm when I have, um, people like
Speaker 1: yourself that I know that are open minded and are
Speaker 1: fun and are spontaneous and are you know, just free.
Speaker 1: I like to enjoy myself be like, ah, I found
Speaker 1: one of me. Let's go talk about it. But um,
Speaker 1: but for sure, UM, if you had any three points,
Speaker 1: give me three pointers for anyone who's looking to date now, uh,
Speaker 1: in this new era after the pandemic, three good new pointers.
Speaker 1: Be careful, be careful, and be careful well no communication
Speaker 1: for sure, uh communication communication, be be honest, but you
Speaker 1: also got to be careful, so communication be careful. Um,
Speaker 1: And I would say, don't take no ship like exactly
Speaker 1: what we're talking about. Tell people what your expectations are,
Speaker 1: what you want and don't and that's part. Taking no
Speaker 1: ship is also part. You want that person to be honest,
Speaker 1: but you need to be honest as well. So there
Speaker 1: are people who be hiding kids. People you know you've
Speaker 1: got kids, you're going into relationship. Be open up with
Speaker 1: these people. Let that look I'm looking for I'm looking
Speaker 1: for fun tonight, or I'm looking for someone to pass
Speaker 1: the holidays, or I'm I just want someone to take
Speaker 1: the mom's house for Thanksgiving Day, or I just want
Speaker 1: to date you for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's and
Speaker 1: then I'm gonn dump you. Maybe that might not be
Speaker 1: the intentions. You don't have to get to that many
Speaker 1: deep sales, but be upfront with people and let them
Speaker 1: know this is uh, this is look. I like you,
Speaker 1: we have chemistry. Let's see where it goes. I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for anything serious, but I think where people make
Speaker 1: a big mistake is not being honest and not letting
Speaker 1: people know. Again, the communication is key. Lame them know
Speaker 1: what you expect out of that relationship, and that's okay
Speaker 1: if it's changing, because you can want something today and
Speaker 1: sometimes your heart takes over and it's something totally different
Speaker 1: and or you can find and sometimes it's unexpected people
Speaker 1: that know. How many people don't you know, I'm that
Speaker 1: want to have babies? Right? And guys are different, right,
Speaker 1: because guys can pregnant at any age. But women, you know,
Speaker 1: we all know your biological clock is ticking. And you
Speaker 1: have your priorities and be at your education or be
Speaker 1: at your family or whatever. You know. You know, your
Speaker 1: your work or whatever it is that you're working on.
Speaker 1: You have something that that's ticking that men don't necessarily
Speaker 1: have to worry about. So that's a big stress for women,
Speaker 1: especially for women. Be upfront and say what time it is, Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm you know, I'm this age, I want to have kids,
Speaker 1: I don't want to have kids. I want to focus
Speaker 1: on my career whatever the case may be. And be
Speaker 1: honest and be upfront with men. Uh, and men need
Speaker 1: to be more upfront and honest the same as well.
Speaker 1: All sexiest. Everyone should be more up front, communicate more
Speaker 1: of what they want, say what they mean instead of
Speaker 1: hiding ship, get into trouble and you're only you're only
Speaker 1: lying to yourself and doing yourself at this service. If
Speaker 1: you don't accept what what you like. If you're freaking
Speaker 1: you like you know, you got a foot fetish and
Speaker 1: you like smelling smelly feet, just be up front. Hey, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean you might find this crazy, but I want
Speaker 1: to suck on your toast tonight. Yeah. Yeah, you might
Speaker 1: be you, you be impressed, you might might love it.
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure, I agree with you a thousand percent.
Speaker 1: I do feel that communication. I think. If anything, if
Speaker 1: we're taking anything away from this conversation today when it
Speaker 1: comes to dating, social media, you know, dating apps and
Speaker 1: all these things, is wherever it is that you're looking
Speaker 1: for love, wherever it is that you're looking for your
Speaker 1: significant other, maybe just to have a good time. Just
Speaker 1: have good communication skills. Make sure that you put yourself
Speaker 1: out there and let people know exactly what you're looking for.
Speaker 1: Stop lying, and that goes both ways. If you know
Speaker 1: life is too short, don't waste your time pretending to
Speaker 1: be somebody that you're not. Don't waste your time pretending anything.
Speaker 1: Just be who you are, be honest, be open about it,
Speaker 1: and like that. You don't waste nobody's time and nobody
Speaker 1: wastes yours. Right. So with that being said, what I
Speaker 1: just add one other thing in there that goes to
Speaker 1: all the filters. To chill with the filters. Everybody. If
Speaker 1: if you've got your battle scars, if you got your
Speaker 1: SELLU light, you're human. It's okay. It on your body. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be one of those. Now. I had a
Speaker 1: whole body transformation. I went from you know to thirty
Speaker 1: lost sixty pounds during the pandemic, got real, real thin
Speaker 1: with on the food. Now, you know a bunch of
Speaker 1: people criticize you. Yeah, a lot of people are like
Speaker 1: and those is that if you're chunky, they talk, if
Speaker 1: you're skinny, they talk. Now that my body is going
Speaker 1: through the transformation. My bulls are growing, my asses coming back.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm getting white on the side. I'm starting
Speaker 1: to see a couple of stretch marks on the side.
Speaker 1: And you know, my body is gonna change. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm you know, creating life as we speak, I'm
Speaker 1: creating two human beings. My body is gonna change. And
Speaker 1: later on, you know, I will be open with you
Speaker 1: guys on exactly a mate on all the social media
Speaker 1: platforms as well, so you guys can see my new
Speaker 1: body and then the transformation later on as well, so
Speaker 1: be part of my journey. And Rique, I love you
Speaker 1: so much. And Rique Santos, the one and only. As usual,
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