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Speaker 2: Alyssa is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Bryce.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see ifiel tell us why is ghosting her and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Alyssa, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Bryce?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: My gosh, you guys, it's been I want to say
Speaker 1: two weeks, Okay, Like that's legitimate. I gave it a
Speaker 1: week and I was like, okay, maybe he's just like
Speaker 1: super busy or got like late COVID, you know.
Speaker 4: I mean, sorry, Yeah, it's possible.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I gave him a better hit of it, doubt,
Speaker 1: But like now it's been too long, you know, And
Speaker 1: I just I really really liked this guy a lot,
Speaker 1: and I thought we had a really you know, strong connection.
Speaker 1: But like then just to hear absolutely nothing, I'm just
Speaker 1: kind of like, okay, like I.
Speaker 5: Need to find out what happened, you know, Yeah, did
Speaker 5: you try to reach out to him to like instigate
Speaker 5: the conversation or anything.
Speaker 1: Well, it's just like I don't think anything went wrong,
Speaker 1: you know, I like maybe something on the d might have.
Speaker 6: Scared him off.
Speaker 1: Like I just I'm not sure because like he was
Speaker 1: so adamant about reaching out to me and like you know,
Speaker 1: wanting to stay close and connected, and then for him
Speaker 1: to just drop off a cliff like that, I'm like, Okay.
Speaker 6: Something's going on, you know, like now I'm.
Speaker 1: Playing detective, you know.
Speaker 6: And we actually we.
Speaker 1: First met and like clicked over Instagram because we both
Speaker 1: have Frenchies, very specific type of dog lover. It's a
Speaker 1: lifestyle choice, you know, so we're part of a small
Speaker 1: community of French ye lovers and you know, we just
Speaker 1: like bonded over our adorable dog children. And you know,
Speaker 1: after a couple of weeks like chatting back and forth,
Speaker 1: I invited him to go with me to an Italian
Speaker 1: cooking class.
Speaker 4: Oh that's fun, that's really fun.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So it was like super romantic.
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to go.
Speaker 6: As a friend who failed, and.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, this is perfect, Like
Speaker 1: it's not gonna be awkward. We have an activity, you know,
Speaker 1: like we're not just going to be like sitting across
Speaker 1: from each other, like what if you know, how like
Speaker 1: if you meet someone online or like you're just texting,
Speaker 1: it could be weird when you finally meet in person,
Speaker 1: you know, but right so you don't know. But when
Speaker 1: I met him, I was like, oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: like totally floored. Like he's so cute, he's so fun
Speaker 1: and like we were flirting, like getting really like you know,
Speaker 1: touchy feely and the pastas like we're it was a
Speaker 1: good excuse to like accidentally touch each other, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean it was like major wrong con vibes, Like
Speaker 1: I was living my best Kate husband life. You know,
Speaker 1: this is amazing, right, and he's like so funny, so charming,
Speaker 1: and he impressed the whole class. Like it was just anyway,
Speaker 1: Like I said, I really liked him. That's why I'm
Speaker 1: now very confused. And you know, it was just like
Speaker 1: a perfect date. So that's why I just can't. I'm
Speaker 1: like going back in my mind trying to think of
Speaker 1: anything that I said or that he said that was
Speaker 1: like I don't.
Speaker 6: Know something I missed you can think of. I mean
Speaker 6: I don't.
Speaker 1: Honestly, like we were like making out by the end
Speaker 1: of the class, like outside, you know, I just like
Speaker 1: got real spicy like super fun and I honestly, if anything,
Speaker 1: I mean, it was like too perfect, So I don't know,
Speaker 1: like can it be too perfect? And then that's the problem,
Speaker 1: Like so I don't know, like maybe he's also or
Speaker 1: there's just something he didn't tell me, you know, and
Speaker 1: maybe he's afraid to tell me.
Speaker 6: So I just amen trying to figure out.
Speaker 1: And it's weird because like now I'm checking his instagram,
Speaker 1: I feel like like a mini like low key stocker,
Speaker 1: which I'm totally not normally at all, Like I don't
Speaker 1: even date that much, so it's kind of weird.
Speaker 4: You don't even have to explain yourself.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I would do the same thing because I'm like,
Speaker 5: are you alive two weeks?
Speaker 4: It's a perfect date? Did you die?
Speaker 6: What if he's in the hospital, Like what if I
Speaker 6: should be concerned? You know, right, Like should you be
Speaker 6: worried at this place? Hotually not?
Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back and then call him
Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you.
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, thank you?
Speaker 2: All right, well plas, I'll come back get your first
Speaker 2: afe follow up next right in the middle of your
Speaker 2: first date follow up and if you're just joining us.
Speaker 2: Alyssa is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by
Speaker 2: a dude named Bryce. So we're about to call him
Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her
Speaker 2: and maybe get her another date. But before we do that, Alyssa,
Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your situation real quick?
Speaker 1: Okay? So perfectly met on Instagram and when we met
Speaker 1: in person it was like over the top, like chemistry,
Speaker 1: super amazing making up by the end of the day,
Speaker 1: and then just like nothing.
Speaker 6: For two weeks.
Speaker 1: So I'm like almost concerned at this point because there
Speaker 1: was no indis solution of anything that went wrong, you know,
Speaker 1: and it was almost too perfect.
Speaker 6: So I'm like, what is going on?
Speaker 4: Are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 7: Okay, here we go. Hello him, I speak to Bryce please.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, this is Brice Bryce.
Speaker 4: How you doing?
Speaker 1: Man?
Speaker 2: My name is Jeubel and I'm calling from a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jebel Show.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Bryce Whole shows Here. My name's Nina Hi, and
Speaker 4: I'm Victorian. How are you?
Speaker 6: Okay?
Speaker 4: Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 8: I'm sorry, No, I haven't.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, okay, do apologize for just try to do
Speaker 2: better in the future. Well, we do a segment on
Speaker 2: our show called the First Aid follow Up. What that
Speaker 2: is is if you go out on a date with
Speaker 2: someone and you end up ghosting them, that person can
Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask
Speaker 2: why you're ghosting. Oh okay, so you're ghosting somebody and
Speaker 2: they emailed us. Do you have any idea who that
Speaker 2: would be?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 8: I do.
Speaker 4: Okay, where do you think it is?
Speaker 8: I think it's probably Alissa.
Speaker 4: You are probably correct.
Speaker 2: Alyssa emailed us and told us about your date and
Speaker 2: she's confused, So would you mind telling us why you're
Speaker 2: a ghostinger?
Speaker 6: Okay, No, it was Listen, it was a great day.
Speaker 8: I didn't expect it to be that great actually, and
Speaker 8: she was kind of amazing. And we we did.
Speaker 6: We really hit it off.
Speaker 8: I mean, we got along, we connected on you know
Speaker 8: a lot of important things like that are in a lot.
Speaker 8: I mean, obviously our dogs. I'm sure she probably told
Speaker 8: you about that, being you know, being a French to
Speaker 8: frenchy dog owner.
Speaker 4: You know, this is kind of.
Speaker 6: A whole thing. And no, it was great.
Speaker 4: It was a lot.
Speaker 8: It was kind of one of I just had this
Speaker 8: moment afterwards of like thinking like, oh, this isn't going
Speaker 8: to I don't know how casual this is really going
Speaker 8: to be felt like this is just going to jump
Speaker 8: a lot of steps, you know, and and I don't
Speaker 8: I don't know if I'm I don't know if I'm
Speaker 8: ready for that. I just moved here not that long ago,
Speaker 8: and I started with a new company, and so a
Speaker 8: lot of my time was focused on that.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 8: When we went out, I kind of was one of
Speaker 8: my first free nights in a long time. And I
Speaker 8: just I don't know if I really have the space
Speaker 8: of my life right now for like a serious relationship,
Speaker 8: which I think is probably where this is going to go.
Speaker 8: And I don't want to, you know, string it out
Speaker 8: longer and you know us get a lot more emotions involved,
Speaker 8: and then you know, just to you know, break it
Speaker 8: off or disappoint her, you know, because then I'm like
Speaker 8: I'm not available or you know, all kinds of things.
Speaker 5: But does it feel like you just skipped a lot
Speaker 5: of steps, like thinking about the future before you even
Speaker 5: go on a second date. I mean I understand, like
Speaker 5: I guess I kind of get fear, Like I think
Speaker 5: there's always fear involved when you date somebody new, But
Speaker 5: how do you know that you're going to disappoint her,
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, unless you're planning on it.
Speaker 6: Okay, No, I'm not. I'm not planning on it. But
Speaker 6: I just she just seems she's just.
Speaker 8: Really great, you know, and I that's great all that,
Speaker 8: and I just I just I don't I don't want to,
Speaker 8: you know, I just came into town.
Speaker 6: I want to.
Speaker 8: I guess I don't want to get a bad reputation already,
Speaker 8: you know, and have an enemy ill you.
Speaker 5: Know, well, because you think you're to date other girls
Speaker 5: or it's just like you don't have time for her.
Speaker 6: I'm just worried. Yeah, I'm worried that, you know.
Speaker 8: I'm just I'm going to end up not actually having
Speaker 8: time for her, and she's you know, I'm going to
Speaker 8: make it seem like we can get invested and that
Speaker 8: it's you know, it's not really you know, I don't
Speaker 8: really have that availability.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't. I don't really know what to say.
Speaker 4: I'm just worried that you're gonna fall in love too quickly.
Speaker 5: I mean I think that that's pretty cool when you
Speaker 5: meet somebody special.
Speaker 6: I mean yeah, but.
Speaker 8: It's like, you know, I just got here, and it's like,
Speaker 8: is this really happening? Like it's it's scary and maybe
Speaker 8: I am over, you know.
Speaker 9: I kind of almost want to ask, like, are you
Speaker 9: sure you don't just want to be single for a
Speaker 9: little bit, Like it's kind of sounds like you move
Speaker 9: to a new city, you just want to play the field,
Speaker 9: hang out.
Speaker 6: I mean, there's a bit of that, but I'm also like.
Speaker 8: At an age where it's like, you know, I would
Speaker 8: like instability, I would like somebody to kind of share
Speaker 8: my life with. But yeah, no, I did just get here,
Speaker 8: so it's like am I already making that step, you know,
Speaker 8: with somebody when I.
Speaker 6: Just got here?
Speaker 4: So well, thank you for being honest with us. I
Speaker 4: appreciate that.
Speaker 2: And now I'll let you know that Alissa's actually been
Speaker 2: listening to this conversation.
Speaker 4: She's on the phone and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Hi, Hi, Sorry, not trying to like
Speaker 1: make it weird, maybe too late.
Speaker 6: But thanks for answering that question.
Speaker 1: Like I was definitely curious, you know what happened, because
Speaker 1: I thought I was like, Okay, this is like too perfect,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's definitely not me.
Speaker 3: Sorry, no offense, Like I was just like okay, like
Speaker 3: just because we had so much fun and there was
Speaker 3: so much chemistry and like, you know, I had no
Speaker 3: idea that you were going through so much on your own.
Speaker 6: But we can take things slow.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be like you know, this runaway
Speaker 1: train that like I'm not like rushing to the altar
Speaker 1: like tomorrow.
Speaker 6: I mean, I would.
Speaker 1: Veous like I'm down, but I also, you know, don't
Speaker 1: necessarily want to get married by Elvis. So but we
Speaker 1: can like chill, you know, like I'm totally down to
Speaker 1: hang out more and you know, like just kind kind
Speaker 1: of get to know each other better while you're still
Speaker 1: kind of learning ropes of you know, like a new place.
Speaker 1: And it can be a lot all at once. But
Speaker 1: it's more fun if you're hanging out with someone that you.
Speaker 8: Like, right, I mean, if if you're if you can
Speaker 8: understand and like want to take it slow, because I
Speaker 8: mean that date was they got pretty fast.
Speaker 6: But I mean, yeah, we can just take it slow.
Speaker 8: I think, uh, I can give.
Speaker 4: Me try, right, will you go on another date with LISTA?
Speaker 4: We'll pay for it?
Speaker 8: Oh well yeah, absolutely.
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