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My daughter's been relentlessly bullied at 20 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 2: school well and in her summer gymnastics league by my 21 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 2: neighbor's daughter. The kid is a terrorist from name calling, 22 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 2: physical attacks. 23 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 3: The works. But my kid has come home crying multiple times. 24 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 2: So I've talked to her parents, who always make excuses, 25 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 2: and the school I've talked to them too, but nothing changes. 26 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 3: I finally told my daughter she. 27 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 2: Can defend herself if needed, and for her birthday, I 28 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,679 Speaker 2: bought shriek bags and party invites for her gymnastics class. 29 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,400 Speaker 2: I brought them for everyone except for the bully. At 30 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:34,920 Speaker 2: the end of the class, I told everyone to stay. 31 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 2: Then when the bully approached me and her mom, I said, oh, 32 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 2: you two can leave. 33 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 3: This isn't for your kid. 34 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 2: Her mom exploded, calling my kid a punk, and then 35 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:50,440 Speaker 2: stormed out. The instructor lectured me on fairness, but I 36 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 2: think it's time that the bully feels what she dishes out. 37 00:01:53,240 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 2: Some parents say I cross the line, but I want 38 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 2: you guys to tell me am I wrong? 39 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 4: Yeah? 40 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 3: I know I need. 41 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 2: I need the jury away in because I know I'm 42 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 2: going to be off on this one because. 43 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: I grew up. 44 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 2: Are you though you up in a house where it 45 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:13,639 Speaker 2: was like nown't come in here crying about no bully. 46 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 2: If somebody is bullying you, you need to meet them 47 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 2: where they're at, and I'll leave it at that, and 48 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 2: then you come back and tell me how you met 49 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 2: them where they at and that's it. You know, it 50 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 2: was very much go handle your bully, and she handled this. 51 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 1: And I know that bullying has gone to a different 52 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: level now we've talked about this before with social media 53 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: and all. You know, it's just like it's never ending 54 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: as where when we were younger, there was less of 55 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: that and it was more just you know, you had 56 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,239 Speaker 1: to deal with them one on one at school, on 57 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: the playground, whatever it was. At the same time, though, 58 00:02:43,840 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 1: you know that aside, I also think you can't ignore 59 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: all bullying because then your kids grow up and they 60 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,679 Speaker 1: into adults to get bullied by other adults because it 61 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: happens all the time as grown ups and they're not 62 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 1: equipped to handle that. Like some amount of that you 63 00:02:59,880 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: have to learn how to deal with as a human being, 64 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: because people are not nice. Now people bullied. You know, 65 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: there are bullies all over the place, and you're not 66 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: going to avoid them. So you can't just hide from 67 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: them or make them go away or quit your job 68 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,640 Speaker 1: every time. So I get that, but I don't know, 69 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: what do you think. I thought it was. 70 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 2: Brilliant and very petty to have, you know, you announced 71 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 2: to the entire gymnastics class. 72 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:24,800 Speaker 3: Everybody stay back, everybody stay behind. 73 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 2: I have treats for all the children, and then you 74 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: line up all the kids and the right when this 75 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 2: little girl comes to the front of the line, you're like, oh, honey, 76 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 2: not you. You know you could go bye. That was 77 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 2: slow down, that was but it was kind of brilliant. 78 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's like, is there a different way to 79 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: handle it, you know, like I mean, not ignore it 80 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 1: by any means, but like all the kids get treated 81 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 1: the same, and then you handle it with the parent 82 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: maybe if it's like way out of control, because I mean, 83 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 1: every every parent listening now is like, row, ray, I 84 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:58,840 Speaker 1: want to beat up the kid that is mean to 85 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: my kid. But it's same time, you know, returning fire 86 00:04:03,360 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: in the same way. Is that is that really right? 87 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 2: Because I don't think to beat a bully, you don't 88 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 2: become a bully, right, You don't become a bully, but 89 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 2: you do confront a bully. 90 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 3: If that makes sense. 91 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 5: Yeah, I think there's a parenting crisis right now happening 92 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 5: where people aren't, you know, really teaching their children certain things. 93 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 3: And that's just my hot take. 94 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 5: I do feel that if your child is a bully, 95 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 5: I think that's something that you and you when you're 96 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 5: a parent, you who know your child's the bully, like, 97 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 5: don't play with me like you didn't, you know, And 98 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 5: as a parent, I think that's something that you need 99 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:37,039 Speaker 5: to step in on, Like I would never allow my 100 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 5: daughter to ever bully another child. I've seen my best 101 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 5: friend get bullied, you know, growing up, Like I don't 102 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,120 Speaker 5: like that. I ride for that hard, and that's something 103 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 5: that I don't I think that we're not doing a 104 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:48,839 Speaker 5: good job. We're throwing iPads at kids and letting them 105 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 5: say what they want, to do what they want actuss 106 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 5: social media. Like you mentioned Fred, things are different now 107 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:54,279 Speaker 5: when it comes to bullying. When we're a kid, what 108 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 5: like you took. 109 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 3: My lunch money? 110 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 6: I don't know. 111 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: But the parent calling the kid a punk, the parents, 112 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 1: that tells you where it's coming. That tells you there's 113 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 1: no account of ability. 114 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 3: And again it starts at home. 115 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:07,480 Speaker 5: So I'm really big on that, and I don't know, 116 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 5: like I wouldn't want my kids bully at the birthday 117 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 5: party either. Now the parents need to figure this out 118 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 5: and not name calic you said, don't do any of that. 119 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 5: I think there's ways to handle it. It's just it's 120 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 5: not with the kids like it's between the adults at 121 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 5: that point. That's my opinion. 122 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,240 Speaker 1: Hey Joe, yes, all right, you guys are the jury 123 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: eight flash five five nine one one o three five? 124 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 1: What do you what say you? 125 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 4: I say you that she did the right thing. M okay, 126 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 4: my daughter, My daughter was bullied for a little while, 127 00:05:36,160 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 4: and we kind of did the same thing, me and 128 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 4: my wife. We we kind of brushed it on the rug. Oh, 129 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 4: it's not a big deal. It's your friends. You guys 130 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 4: are girls. You'll be friends again in a week. It'll 131 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 4: be over with. But it didn't. And we told her 132 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:51,040 Speaker 4: to stand up for herself, and when she did, they 133 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 4: started to back off and the parents got concerned. And 134 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:57,040 Speaker 4: we hadn't mentioned to the parents that listen, we've brought 135 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 4: this to your attention multiple times, even to the school. 136 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 4: Like I even told my daughter, like I will deal 137 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 4: with the school, don't worry about it. And I had 138 00:06:04,200 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 4: a long conversation with the principal. But I had to 139 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 4: explain to our daughter that you know, if you let 140 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:12,280 Speaker 4: this happen now, it's going to continue to happen and 141 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 4: all through high school and and everything, and you have 142 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 4: to just put it in the button. I don't go 143 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 4: pull off, you know, beating her up and assaulting her 144 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:21,919 Speaker 4: and stuff. But you know, at the same time, you 145 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 4: have to defend yourself and stand your ground because you know, 146 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 4: even in middle school it can get worse. 147 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, true, Yeah, I mean we Yeah, it's tricky because 148 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: I mean I want to say, as far as the 149 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:36,039 Speaker 1: kids are concerned, killing with kindness almost as if the 150 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: bullying doesn't matter, Like you don't really have a voice, 151 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:41,600 Speaker 1: you're not really influencing my decisions. But at the same 152 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,279 Speaker 1: time it is and you wanted to stop, but then 153 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: the retaliation bullying, what does that accomplish. I mean, I'm 154 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: not saying yeah, no, I'm saying this. I'm not saying no, 155 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:58,839 Speaker 1: but that's what this that's what they did the mom 156 00:06:58,880 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: and that that's what they did. 157 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:03,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean it feels and I guess I can 158 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 4: understand where they're coming from, right, because if you try 159 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 4: multiple things and you have tied them with kindness, kill 160 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 4: them with kindness, before and it doesn't work. I mean, 161 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 4: you know, we don't know what kind of bullying was 162 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 4: going on, whether it was physical, whether it was social 163 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 4: media media type bulliant. You know, there's so much now. 164 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:22,280 Speaker 4: For we were kids, it was just you got picked 165 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:24,080 Speaker 4: on and that was it. There's so much type of 166 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 4: bullying now that it mentally, I literally see it every 167 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 4: day mentally affect people that they probably said, we can't 168 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 4: do this anymore. Let's do this instead of doing something physical, 169 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,520 Speaker 4: Let's start with this and see if this works. Yeah, 170 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 4: before they resulted in you know, the child hitting them 171 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 4: and then them sticking up to themselves and hitting them back. 172 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 4: Maybe it's let's not invite them to the party so 173 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 4: they can kind of get a little taste of how 174 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 4: it feels. And maybe that right there will change their attitude. 175 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:51,280 Speaker 4: But I don't think it did. 176 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 1: Hi, Joe, thank you. Have a good day you as well. 177 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 4: Thank you. 178 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:59,480 Speaker 1: Glad you called hey Rico. Yeah, hey, I'm going on Rico. 179 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: Hey man, So you were you were the bully? I was, Yeah, 180 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 1: I was. I regret it. I regret it one hundred 181 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: times fold, really I do. 182 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 7: And no, and then like I don't know, one day, 183 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 7: I don't know, I started defending one of one of 184 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 7: the people that I was making fun of, and I 185 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 7: was like, I kind of beat them up a little bit. 186 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: I got spunded from the bus. Uh how do you 187 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: kind of beat up a little bit? I'm just kidding. 188 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 1: How do you kind of beat them up? But anyway, 189 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: you know, just like I don't know, just I just 190 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:41,720 Speaker 1: read him up a little bit. Yeah, okay, it a 191 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:43,559 Speaker 1: little bit. But then how do you switch side? So 192 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: you saw the light? 193 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:45,959 Speaker 4: I did it? 194 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I did. 195 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 8: And and and now that I look back on it, 196 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:51,640 Speaker 8: I'm like, I regret that one hundred times fold. And 197 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 8: I'm just like, these people aren't aren't they're They're not geeks. 198 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 8: They're they're they're really cool people. Ye you know, Yes 199 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 8: I was no. 200 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:01,960 Speaker 7: And then well the thing is, so the thing is 201 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 7: I actually became one of them. 202 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:05,559 Speaker 8: I became a geek. 203 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:07,319 Speaker 1: I wasn't in the band. 204 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 8: Also, I was a bank. 205 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 1: One day, one day, up a little bit the next day. 206 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: You're the you're the guy right right right? But hey, 207 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 1: you saw your you saw that it wasn't right, and 208 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: that's that's good. Good for you, man, Hey have a 209 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:28,079 Speaker 1: good day. Yes, oh yeah, I love you. 210 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 7: Guys. 211 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, thank you. You can continue with the compliments. 212 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:36,240 Speaker 1: But I know he saw the light, he saw the 213 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:37,920 Speaker 1: other side, because you know, I mean, you're growing up 214 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: and people bully you, and you'll come home and your 215 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:41,960 Speaker 1: parents will be like, you know, that says more about 216 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: them than it is it's about you. And you know, 217 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 1: I don't know all these all these cliche things that 218 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 1: may be true, they don't help at the time, but 219 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: the fact is this is going to be present your 220 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:52,640 Speaker 1: whole life. 221 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 9: It is. 222 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 1: I mean, to this day, we all still deal with bullies, 223 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 1: people who think they're more important than they are, people 224 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:01,920 Speaker 1: who you know, say mean things and then hide whatever 225 00:10:02,040 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: is it's it's it's never going to end, so you 226 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 1: have to be equipped to deal with it. In some regard, 227 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: I would agree it's worse now than it's ever been, 228 00:10:08,679 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: because it's it's it's relentless, you know, from all different angles, 229 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: and you can hide behind screen names and accounts and whatever. 230 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: But I don't know that my parents ever would have 231 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: My parents definitely there were kids they didn't like, and 232 00:10:21,880 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 1: and you know I knew that, but I don't know 233 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: that they were going to treat the kids that way, 234 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 1: because what message does that send right? I mean, it's 235 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:33,600 Speaker 1: it's retaliation bullying essentially. I don't know. I mean there 236 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 1: are parents listening. Now, I'm sure going good good for 237 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:38,559 Speaker 1: that mom, But then would you really do that? I'm 238 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: not sure. Stacey, Hi hi Hi? So are you a parent? 239 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 2: Yes? 240 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: I am, okay? So would you would you retaliate on 241 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: a bully, Like if your son or daughter came home and, 242 00:10:50,720 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 1: like in this case, it said this person is being 243 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: mean to me, would you then get involved? 244 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 6: Yes? Well that's why I actually give the parents a 245 00:10:57,960 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 6: round of appause for calling out the blue because the 246 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,319 Speaker 6: parents these days with the generation, don't teach their kids 247 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:06,439 Speaker 6: any type of respect. And if you want to live 248 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:09,000 Speaker 6: in this society, you got to have some kind of 249 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 6: you know, thank you, please, and all. 250 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 3: That other stuff. 251 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: But what are you teaching, Stacey If everybody gets a 252 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: treat except for the one kid, You know, what are 253 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: you saying essentially? I mean you're saying that it's okay to. 254 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:26,680 Speaker 4: We're being a bully. 255 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:28,679 Speaker 6: If you want to live in the society, then have 256 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,960 Speaker 6: some type of mental stability to let you be in 257 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 6: the society with everybody else, because nowadays, with people like that, 258 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 6: you don't want to bring them in your thing, though, 259 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 6: not knowing if they don't have any type of mental issues, 260 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:41,640 Speaker 6: and if they're going to come and shoot up. 261 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 4: Your party, well that's. 262 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,959 Speaker 6: Where it ends up leaving, because that's where it ends 263 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 6: up leading too, because they want to start saying that 264 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 6: they get depressed because people leave them out because they're 265 00:11:56,920 --> 00:11:59,760 Speaker 6: being bullies, you know. And then when they start being 266 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 6: the and they started taking about harming yourself. 267 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:05,199 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Stacy, well thank you, have a good day. 268 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:06,559 Speaker 1: I mean, my dad took a turn. 269 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:09,200 Speaker 3: And turned into an episode of a mess. 270 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,760 Speaker 1: I don't know though, see I guess from my perspective, 271 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 1: as as somebody who I don't know, not everybody. I 272 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 1: was kind of middle of the road. I mean, there 273 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:21,960 Speaker 1: were people that made fun of me because I was 274 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 1: obsessed with radio and said it would never happen, and 275 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:25,280 Speaker 1: I don't know, you're you're a dork for that, and 276 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 1: then there were people that were nice to me. I 277 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 1: I was right in the middle. But I guess at 278 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: the time my parents retaliating wouldn't have helped a whole 279 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 1: lot of If anything, their message was not killing with kindness, 280 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: which is easy to say, but it's almost like by 281 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 1: by not giving her a treat or not giving her 282 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: not including her in with the rest of the group, 283 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: you're essentially saying you're on you got under my skin, 284 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 1: I don't like you, and and and I'm you affected me, 285 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:52,440 Speaker 1: And I think to a certain extent, if you can 286 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: learn to rise above it, It's almost like here with 287 00:12:55,960 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 1: a smile, everybody knows the person who's mean to you, 288 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:00,680 Speaker 1: and you're still kind to them even though you don't 289 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: like them. And I know that it's so crushing inside 290 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 1: for the person who you're still nice to even when 291 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 1: they're mean to you, and I think there's something to 292 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: be It's almost like I'm teaching you that that person's 293 00:13:12,800 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 1: words don't matter and that you'll just continue to give 294 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 1: good energy. But if I don't know, if my mom 295 00:13:17,800 --> 00:13:20,400 Speaker 1: comes down there and solves my problems for me, what 296 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 1: is that? What am I learning from that? 297 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,240 Speaker 3: I think you're sending the wrong message. 298 00:13:23,240 --> 00:13:23,360 Speaker 9: Though. 299 00:13:23,360 --> 00:13:26,000 Speaker 5: If I'm inviting the bully to my birthday party or 300 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,320 Speaker 5: my kids' birthday party, like I'm rewarding your behavior at 301 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:29,959 Speaker 5: that point, because what everybody gets to come over, it 302 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,559 Speaker 5: gets a trophy. I personally don't like that children take 303 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 5: their lives for this kind of stuff. 304 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:34,679 Speaker 3: I don't play like. 305 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:37,000 Speaker 1: This was this was like at a class, wasn't it 306 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: like everybody was there? 307 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, they were in gymnastics class. 308 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think you're more than welcome to have a 309 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:43,439 Speaker 1: party and not invite everybody. I think that's fine. I'm 310 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 1: not going to invite the bully to my house. No, 311 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 1: but if it's in front of everybody, I don't know. 312 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: I feel like that's probably the message, is what you know? 313 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,199 Speaker 2: What is getting me though, the mom of the bully, 314 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 2: Like you had the audacity and the nerve to get 315 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:58,800 Speaker 2: in line and get a treat bag, and you know 316 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 2: that your child is a bully. You know, I've confronted 317 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 2: you about it before, So like, bad on you to 318 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,640 Speaker 2: get in line thinking your kid deserves something when you 319 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 2: know your kid is a bully. 320 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,079 Speaker 1: Well, we all know what. We all know where it's 321 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:09,719 Speaker 1: coming from them. 322 00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:10,079 Speaker 8: You know. 323 00:14:10,160 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 1: The lack of awareness means that the parent is instilling 324 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 1: this and the kids exactly, Hey Lena, you're okay with this, 325 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:15,960 Speaker 1: and you're a school counselor. 326 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 10: Oh yes, yes, yes I am. And the reason why 327 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 10: I say that is because the kids nowadays are an 328 00:14:22,520 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 10: entirely different breed. I've been doing this for over six 329 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 10: years now, and I can see the change in the 330 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 10: way the kids interact with each other. And you know, 331 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 10: I feel like it it gives the bully, you know, 332 00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 10: because when a kid is being bullied and you know 333 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 10: they're the ones that are doing the bullying, they have 334 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:44,120 Speaker 10: that sense of power. But I almost feel like what 335 00:14:44,160 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 10: the mom did just kind of help knock that child 336 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 10: down a little bit and maybe hopefully in the future 337 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:52,880 Speaker 10: they won't continue to do the same behavior. 338 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:55,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I see both sides of this. I mean, 339 00:14:55,840 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 1: I know what I would want to do as a parent, 340 00:14:57,520 --> 00:14:59,600 Speaker 1: and I want to kick the little kids ass. Yeah, 341 00:15:00,040 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 1: at the same time that I have to think, like, Okay, 342 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 1: what what is the lesson I'm teaching? What am I 343 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 1: instilling in my kid? Am I saying that I'll just 344 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:10,600 Speaker 1: I'll be there for every every difficult situation that my 345 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: kids in and I'll fix it because I won't be 346 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: you know. And again, it's not like this was in 347 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 1: front of everybody. This was It wasn't as though this 348 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 1: was at my house and that we were required to 349 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: invite a kid. No, we weren't. Like this was in 350 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: a thing that we're all involved with together, and one 351 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: of the kids is a little jerk, and I feel 352 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 1: like there's always going to be a little. 353 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 11: Jerk for sure. 354 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:35,240 Speaker 10: Yeah, I definitely I can see both sides one. But 355 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 10: I don't know, I feel like the Mama Bear and 356 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 10: me definitely would have been like, okay, no, we need 357 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:43,040 Speaker 10: to take you down a little bit. But I do 358 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 10: think that, you know, I have a feeling that they're 359 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,240 Speaker 10: not going to have any issues with that kid anymore though, 360 00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:52,880 Speaker 10: and hopefully, you know, yeah, things will get better. 361 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:55,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope so too. Thank you, Lena. All Right, 362 00:15:56,080 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: have a good day. I'm glad you called. Hey, Michelle, 363 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 1: Well Kicki's court. So basically, it's it's a bullying situation 364 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: in a gymnastics class and there was a party of 365 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 1: some kind and the kid being bullied gave that little 366 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:14,920 Speaker 1: treats to everybody except the and the mom, except for 367 00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:17,720 Speaker 1: the kid who was the bully, And then the bully's 368 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:20,720 Speaker 1: mom got involved in it was sort of this tussle 369 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 1: we I mean, what do you think. 370 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 11: I mean as somebody that I saw a bullying around me, 371 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 11: I guess I just have a question about the other 372 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 11: people that witnessed it. Bullying usually doesn't happen on nine 373 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 11: closed doors. It happened in front of other people, in 374 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:40,720 Speaker 11: front of coaches, in front of other kids. Like, it 375 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:43,760 Speaker 11: also comes down to the people that witnessed it. How 376 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 11: is that not complacency? So I guess it just comes down. 377 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 4: To I guess. 378 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 11: Yes, I think it could have been helpful because it 379 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 11: puts the bully in the place. But it's it's kind 380 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:00,440 Speaker 11: of chicken or the egg. Which one comes first? Comes 381 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:04,080 Speaker 11: down to. What about the community around that watched it happen? 382 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:05,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah. 383 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:08,360 Speaker 2: The mom says she's spoken to everyone, the school administrator, 384 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:11,960 Speaker 2: she went to the parents, and nobody's taking her please seriously, 385 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:12,920 Speaker 2: So she's. 386 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:14,640 Speaker 3: Like, okay, I'll take matters into my own hands. 387 00:17:14,720 --> 00:17:19,680 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. Teammates so yeah, one of the other kids 388 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:20,440 Speaker 1: that are standing. 389 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:23,439 Speaker 11: Up to those that were being bullied around me? 390 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:26,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, this seems like young kids. Yeah, and the gymnastics. 391 00:17:26,880 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 2: I don't know. I wouldn't put the the responsibility on 392 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:32,359 Speaker 2: the other kids. I've already approached the parents and the 393 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:33,400 Speaker 2: adults in the situation. 394 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:36,400 Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you, Michelle, have a good day. 395 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:37,880 Speaker 11: Thanks you too. 396 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:42,439 Speaker 1: Uh. I want to say, Antonio, hey, go ahead, how 397 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 1: you doing and tell you don't agree with me, I 398 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 1: gotta go. Sorry, have a nice day, Thanks for calling. No, 399 00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 1: what do you want to say? 400 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:52,119 Speaker 4: I get where you're going with it. 401 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:54,879 Speaker 9: I'm a parent of three, and I don't want to 402 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:58,160 Speaker 9: call it revenge bullying because it's really hard to get 403 00:17:58,240 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 9: kids to stand up for themselves when it's life not 404 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:03,720 Speaker 9: naturally in them. As she mentioned, it's something that's happened 405 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:06,840 Speaker 9: at school, it's happened at gymnastic, and it's became physical. 406 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:09,879 Speaker 9: Most people would have been lost it at that point, 407 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 9: and even me personally, I'm a challenge to parent at 408 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:14,960 Speaker 9: that point. I need to see what's going on and 409 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:17,680 Speaker 9: if you're not going to correct your child, I'm going 410 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 9: to correct your child. 411 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:19,680 Speaker 7: And I thought that was. 412 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 9: Very gentle, a very gentle response, and for it, that's 413 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 9: the Fox move. 414 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:26,320 Speaker 1: Baby, You out smarter them. 415 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:28,160 Speaker 9: You don't get physical, You're out smarter them. 416 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:29,080 Speaker 4: That's a Fox move. 417 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:31,399 Speaker 1: Well, but I agree with you that, like, let's have 418 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 1: the conversation among parents, and as hard as it is 419 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:36,440 Speaker 1: to do and as much as I don't necessarily always 420 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:38,359 Speaker 1: do this in my life and would like to, the 421 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 1: killing with kindest thing is the move because what you're 422 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:44,679 Speaker 1: saying to the bully kid or adult is that you 423 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:47,159 Speaker 1: are not getting under my skin, Like I'm going to 424 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 1: continue to be nice to you because we're not, and 425 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:51,959 Speaker 1: it's hard to do. But like if I still give 426 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: you this pressent like everybody else or whatever, it's just 427 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 1: like at what point do they get bored and move 428 00:18:57,240 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: on to somebody else and then. 429 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 9: And attacking more antagonize them. It's just more you don't 430 00:19:04,040 --> 00:19:06,320 Speaker 9: deserve to be there. And we have a writer's people, 431 00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 9: especially as the mom said, I know that she went 432 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 9: a little off the richter with the school shooting, but 433 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:15,200 Speaker 9: that happens. I've been in a situation where my kid 434 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 9: was at a school and this kid like that, that's 435 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:20,119 Speaker 9: nothing nobody wants to ever be a part of. We 436 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 9: don't know where it starts, so we have to be 437 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 9: proactive and not reactive in them situations. And I'll still 438 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 9: you get stressed anxiety, like to be around somebody who 439 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 9: treats mistreats you. That's a very uncomfortable situation for an adult. 440 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,240 Speaker 9: That's crazy off the chart for a kid. And like 441 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:37,120 Speaker 9: I say, I agree with what you're saying as far 442 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:40,400 Speaker 9: as like we don't want that to be Teddy hypocritical. 443 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:42,760 Speaker 9: It can't get that's a fine line. So I agree 444 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 9: with what you're saying. But I thought, as a dad, 445 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:46,720 Speaker 9: that was gentle because I don't have that in me 446 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 9: like that, so I thought that was really clever, you know. 447 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:50,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, see, I know what I'd like to do. 448 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:53,639 Speaker 1: I just would hope I wouldn't do it. Man, tell you, 449 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 1: everyone knows what you do. You smile to their face, 450 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:57,399 Speaker 1: and you get online with a fake screen name and 451 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 1: you say that you know the mom's got drugs in 452 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:01,680 Speaker 1: her house. Call the cops, get the docs, and we 453 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:04,159 Speaker 1: get the swat team out there. Everybody knows what That's 454 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:04,879 Speaker 1: how you handle it.