1 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Avadi here you are listening to another 2 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: installment of five Minute Friday. 3 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 2: Greetings from Mexico. 4 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: I am here for my first time ever, a little 5 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:33,639 Speaker 1: trip to relax and wind down. I'm in Cabo San Lucas, 6 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: and wow. I don't know what took me so long 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: to get to Mexico. Maybe just because it's a little 8 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,479 Speaker 1: farther than going to the Caribbean from the northeast, but 9 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 1: this place is absolutely stunning. For five Minute Friday this week, 10 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: I am talking to you about getting here, which was 11 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:52,919 Speaker 1: a hurdle for sure. So I was supposed to leave 12 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: on Tuesday night. I get to the airport. I'm on 13 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: a night time flight around I don't know. I think 14 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: it was five point fifty, which is outside the box 15 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: for me, considering usually I do any international travel on 16 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:07,160 Speaker 1: a flight that leaves like at the crack of dawn. 17 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 2: But I digress. So I'm on this evening flight. 18 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:12,959 Speaker 1: It boards on time, they we leave the gate, and 19 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: right when we leave the gate, we get an announcement 20 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 1: that there's some bad weather coming in and it's gonna 21 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: be in the way of our flight pattern, and so 22 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: the decision is that we're gonna hold off on leaving, 23 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: so I don't mind. I actually miraculously I'm in a 24 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,959 Speaker 1: row by myself. I'm like, I'm a turn on this movie. 25 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 1: I'm gonna do some work. A couple hours go by, 26 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: a few announcements like we're still waiting, we'll give you 27 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:39,680 Speaker 1: an update when we have one, et cetera, et cetera. 28 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: Three hours go by, at like three and a half hours, 29 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 1: they let us know that there's a rule I believe 30 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 1: it is three hours domestically, four hours internationally is the 31 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: longest that you can wait on the tarmac before you 32 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: have to go back to the gate. 33 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 2: So they're sending us back to the gate. 34 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:57,960 Speaker 1: So we go back to the date the gate, and 35 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: right as soon as we got to the gate, a 36 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 1: gate agent comes on and they are the person that 37 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: breaks the bad news to us that our flight is 38 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 1: now canceled and that it will we will not get out, 39 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: And you know what, like, okay, we will not get out. 40 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 2: That's the thing. So there's people growing on the plane. 41 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 1: Everyonets to a deep plane get off and I never 42 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: check a bag ever, ever, ever. But of course the 43 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: one time that I don't actually get to go at 44 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 1: least at that moment on my trip, I checked a bag, 45 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 1: so I had to go to baggage claim and get 46 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: my bag. It's like ten fifteen at night. Now I 47 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: am just like a zombie and super tired. It's funny 48 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: all of this, because I'll be honest, the entire time, 49 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: I wasn't really phased because, first of all, I hate turbulence, 50 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: like absolutely hate it. I don't know many people that 51 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,799 Speaker 1: love turbulence, but I get a lot of anxiety, as 52 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,520 Speaker 1: one may be able to understand. And so I was like, 53 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: you know what, I would rather be safe on this 54 00:02:53,520 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 1: runway than feel completely not safe and without any control 55 00:02:57,320 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: in the air as we're like getting jostled around by 56 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: some bad weather. And if you haven't traveled yet, you 57 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 1: may have read this, but there's been an increase in 58 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:09,959 Speaker 1: crime and like issues on planes, and like flight attendants 59 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: are going back and getting more self defense training because 60 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: people are feeling some kind of way for the most 61 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: part about having to wear a mask for that long. 62 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: So I was thinking about, you know, the tension that 63 00:03:20,760 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: may be circulating in the air, so to speak, during 64 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:26,919 Speaker 1: that long waiting time that we were on the plane 65 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: of people that were like a little frustrated and feeling 66 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: claustrophobic and getting a little anxious. Thankfully, like no one 67 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: was revolting. The whole plane was very well behaved. But 68 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: then you add in that these people like want to 69 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: get to this nice destination. It's getting later. It's getting later. Anyway, 70 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: it was super lucky no one acted out on the plane. 71 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,520 Speaker 1: We all got off the plane, and I got so 72 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: many dms as I was like sharing this story. Oh 73 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,000 Speaker 1: my god, it's so great that you didn't flip out, 74 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: like how are you not pissed right now? And again, 75 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:59,600 Speaker 1: aside from being very content not dealing with the turbulence, irl, 76 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: I just realized that this was one of those things 77 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 1: that I had absolutely no control over, Like, it wasn't 78 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: the pilot's fault that there was bad weather, it. 79 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 2: Wasn't anyone's fault. 80 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 1: All that we could do was just navigate the situation 81 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: we best the best way that we could in that moment. 82 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 1: And I will definitely say that old Emily so to speak, 83 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 1: may not have handled it that well. You know, there 84 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:24,440 Speaker 1: have been many things in the last couple of years 85 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: that I've realized I have kind of eased up a 86 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: little bit on and all I do now is just like, well, 87 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:34,720 Speaker 1: this is how it is now. And I go back 88 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: to that saying time and time again. It's a famous 89 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: saying that Sarah Levy offered me, the founder of Y seven, 90 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 1: when her and I sat down for one of the 91 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:43,120 Speaker 1: first episodes of Hurdle. 92 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:45,360 Speaker 2: It's this is how it is now. 93 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:46,160 Speaker 3: You. 94 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 1: It's never going to be like it was five minutes ago, 95 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,040 Speaker 1: and it could be very different five minutes from now, 96 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: And the best thing that you can do is handle 97 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 1: whatever's going on in this moment to the best of 98 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 1: your ability. And so that's what I did with the 99 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: plane situation last week. I ended up getting on a 100 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:05,359 Speaker 1: bright and early flight at seven fifteen in the morning 101 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 1: the next day on very little sleep. And now, as 102 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 1: I said, I'm here in Mexico and I couldn't be 103 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: more grateful. So just a little reminder, deal with what 104 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:18,720 Speaker 1: you can control the controllable, and don't be too hard 105 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,599 Speaker 1: on yourself if things don't go as you'd hoped or 106 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 1: you expected, because the best thing that you can do 107 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: in those situations is show up for yourself, have some grace, 108 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:30,720 Speaker 1: and move forward with some kindness. My prompt for you 109 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:35,280 Speaker 1: this week, when was the last time you had to 110 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: just accept things as they came, and what did you 111 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 1: learn from that situation? Again, prompt you this week, when 112 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:43,800 Speaker 1: was the last time that you just had to accept 113 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: things as they came? 114 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 2: And what did you learn from that conversation? 115 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: I mentioned last week that I was going to stop 116 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: giving a complete download on my highlights and my content 117 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: picks regularly when it comes to the five minute Friday episodes. 118 00:05:58,080 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: For more info on all of those, you can click 119 00:05:59,839 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: on to the show notes and read the Weekly Hurdle newsletter. 120 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:06,920 Speaker 1: I would love for you to subscribe and get in 121 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: on that, but I do want to note here that 122 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: will go as having a warehouse sale that goes through 123 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 1: the end of this weekend. It ends on the eleventh 124 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:19,239 Speaker 1: of July if you're listening to this in twenty twenty one, 125 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:22,040 Speaker 1: and my favorite biker shorts are on sale for thirty 126 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:25,239 Speaker 1: two dollars from fifty dollars, which is a big, big savings. 127 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 1: So click on over to the show notes, head on 128 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:30,479 Speaker 1: over to the Weekly Hurdle and get all the links, 129 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 1: all the information, snag yourself some good shorts because it's 130 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: hot out there no matter where you are right now 131 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 1: and now a listener question. 132 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 3: Hi Emily, it's Meg from New York City. My question 133 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:46,240 Speaker 3: for you is if you could note a takeaway from 134 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 3: a conversation you've had last month that impacted or resonated 135 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 3: with you the most, what would. 136 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: It be, Oh, A good takeaway from a conversation. So 137 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:58,280 Speaker 1: I guess this is an interesting one to pick here. 138 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:02,279 Speaker 1: I brought this up my conversation with Rainie Howard on 139 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: relationships and the mistakes that some of us make when 140 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 1: looking for one. I went on a date, I want 141 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: to say it was about a month ago, and on 142 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: the date, the man asked me what my red flags were. 143 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: And I have thought about this question, this conversation so 144 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:25,520 Speaker 1: much in the last you know, since then the date 145 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 1: you know, it was fine, it didn't work out, but 146 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:34,000 Speaker 1: it really impacted me that question because it has me 147 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: thinking a lot about the way that I am in 148 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 1: relationships and my affinity to turn negatives into positives or 149 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: try to see the bright side of things. Because the 150 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: examples that I provided this person in the moment had 151 00:07:48,560 --> 00:07:50,880 Speaker 1: a lot to do with my work ethic and how 152 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 1: active I am, which I see as positives but could 153 00:07:56,960 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: be a negative if it comes to incorporating someone else 154 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: into my regular routine making time for them when I 155 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: also have these other priorities. Right, But I will say 156 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 1: this a little caveat here. I believe that for the 157 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:12,200 Speaker 1: right person, you make it all work. Okay, Glad that 158 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: I said that. Anyway, I've been thinking a lot about that, 159 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,720 Speaker 1: So I'll share the same question with you. What are 160 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: your red flags? We all have them. What is something 161 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: that you got to work on? That's it for this week. 162 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: I do want to pump up one more time, starting 163 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: this coming Monday, the Journaling Challenge Another journal conquered three 164 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: emails a week Monday, Wednesday Friday, exclusive twenty five percent 165 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 1: off Barren fig discount code, as well as access to 166 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 1: a group assume that we're going to be having in 167 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: August to talk about all of our takeaways. I mentioned 168 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:44,720 Speaker 1: this a couple of weeks back. Journaling has been in 169 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:46,079 Speaker 1: a little bit of a funk for me, so I'm 170 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 1: excited to get back in it with all of you 171 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,920 Speaker 1: and have the support of the Stellar community as we 172 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 1: go along. We're going to be doing a lot of questions, 173 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 1: reflecting on self worth, goals, just good stuff to dive into. 174 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 2: So really excited about this. Would love to have you 175 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:01,960 Speaker 2: in on that. 176 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 1: To join in on the challenge, you've got to be 177 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: a paid monthly subscriber to the Weekly Hurdle. For details 178 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: on how to join in, I'll put a link in 179 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: the show notes. But I would love to have you 180 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: do something for yourself, do a little bit in journaling, 181 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,680 Speaker 1: work on forming a new habit, and let's have some 182 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: fun together at Emily Body at Hurdle podcast. 183 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 2: Another Hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.