WEBVTT - You've Been Bamboozled FT. Devale Ellis 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.480 I think it's important for men and women to understand 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:05.520 that men don't only think about themselves when it comes 0:00:05.519 --> 0:00:08.080 to sex. I get her right to where she edges. 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:10.160 Then I beat that thing up. And then when I'm 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:13.480 beating that thing up getting what I want, and I 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:16.360 know that I'm about to that's when I stopped. That's 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:18.280 why y'all got and I put her back on her 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:20.440 back and I say, baby, hold this one more time, 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:48.680 and then I just what's up? 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:49.040 Y'all? 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:51.840 Is your girl lex p And it's your girl's writing 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:52.160 a call? 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:55.280 And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine, 0:00:55.520 --> 0:01:00.800 where a drunk mind speaks for thought. You gotta guess, 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:05.160 we gotta guess, Saday. So, first of all, y'all have 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:08.840 been asking us to have this person on the blowing 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:17.880 up our messages. So we have the one and only author, actor, producer, 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:23.640 award winning podcast host, husband, father. 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:31.600 And come on, come onlaying the hell of it all right, 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:35.039 come on one and the only. 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:43.399 Thank you happy to have you on the show that 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:47.320 I'm not gonna lie to you. I have had some 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:50.400 heavy hitters on this couch, right. Yes, that was probably 0:01:50.400 --> 0:01:55.080 the longest intro I've had to do. You have done 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:59.560 a lot. I want to start from the beginning. So 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.840 you know the girls, we love. We love a good athlete. 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.440 Now we're gonna start back in the NFL. 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:07.560 Then, Okay, okay, okay, let's do that. Let's do that. 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:11.200 So talk about like your your football career and like 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.400 how that got started and all that good stuff. 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:16.200 So the funny thing is first and foremost, I love y'all. 0:02:16.360 --> 0:02:19.200 Thank you, like I'm excited. If you can't tell the bee, 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:22.320 I've been smiling since I walked in here, curious. I 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:24.840 was introduced to y'all last year when you'll introduced Crystal. 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:29.080 I love Crystal so ever since then, I just yes, 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:32.960 we love you for y'all. 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:34.680 Come on, man, I knew because I knew y'all be 0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:36.560 on the fashion. You know what I'm saying, So let 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:38.760 me make sure you show up a little bit. We're 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:42.400 trying to do a little one too. Period. But no 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:45.880 football to me was a means to an end. People 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:49.280 don't understand this. As a young black man growing up 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:51.320 in Brooklyn, I always wanted to be in the arts. 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:53.760 The first movie I ever saw in my life was 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:56.280 Boys in the Hood. It was nineteen eighty nine. My 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:59.360 father bootlegged it. My bad group, I'm telling your business 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:02.839 legged it, but that he showed it in the living room. 0:03:02.840 --> 0:03:05.080 He had a group, a men's group called the Junior Layman, 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:07.320 and there was a bunch of young black men watching 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:09.679 Boys in the Hood. I was five. I walked in 0:03:09.680 --> 0:03:11.200 my pops, like, you want to watch? She sat me 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:14.040 right here and I watched all of these young men 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.839 be captivated of what they saw on TV. And I said, 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.560 I want to do that. But this is Brooklyn in 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:23.120 the nineties. How many how many young black men you know, 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:28.120 walking around saying the artists? Homophobia was in the nineties, 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:29.359 So it was like, yeah, what am I going to 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:30.680 do to show people I'm tough? 0:03:30.720 --> 0:03:31.640 You know what I'm so? 0:03:31.720 --> 0:03:35.160 I played sports. I played sports. I danced. I did 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:36.360 a brook up. I don't know if you know, but 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:42.400 the brook up is a Caribbean dance. You said you've 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:50.200 seen the shoulder, so the brook up is a dance, right, yeah, 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:52.080 you see your laughing because you ain't know what the 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:56.920 broke up was. I'm not this. I'm this. I've been 0:03:56.920 --> 0:03:57.800 doing this. I was a kid. 0:03:57.960 --> 0:03:59.080 I just you know what I'm saying. 0:03:59.880 --> 0:04:02.040 I used to dance. I used to be out in 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:05.200 the streets trying to entertain people. But I knew I 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:06.840 had to make money, so I was like, I'm gonna 0:04:06.840 --> 0:04:08.040 make money. And I was like sports. 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.360 So wait, I know your wife is Caribbean. Are you 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:11.120 Caribbean too? 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:17.200 No, I'm Caribbean by relation, not my birth. Come on, 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:18.440 you know what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying. 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.240 So you know what. My wife's Jamaican and Jamaican vincension. 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:25.159 So I adopted that culture. But I've always been big 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:28.280 in Caribbean culture. Coming from Boklands. Yeah, I just knew 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:29.960 that they had to find my way out of New York. 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:32.160 I never wanted to spend my whole life in Brooklyn. 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:34.520 Sports came easy to me because I was fast, I 0:04:34.560 --> 0:04:36.440 was athletics, so I said, I'm going to play sports. 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:38.840 I was going to play basketball. I was like, I'm 0:04:38.839 --> 0:04:42.840 gonna be about six five, that's what. And then when 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:44.320 you go to the doctor, right, you know, the doctor 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:46.760 told you I'm looking at your phone, your growth places 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:51.280 you're about six or five. Buddy, I stopped growing and 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:54.080 I said, you know what I think football is it? Yeah, 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:56.520 I'm not told enough to play basketball. Went and got 0:04:56.560 --> 0:04:58.800 my degree and said I'm gonna focus on TV afterwards. 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:01.320 It was that simple. What was a means to an end. 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:03.919 I enjoyed it. The NFL was great to me. I 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:05.400 made a lot of money that I wouldn't have been 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:08.160 able to make. But it was just the plan to 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:09.760 get me the TV film because. 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:11.640 A lot of people don't have that, and I hate 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:15.159 to see the story of like athletes when they leave 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:17.080 the NFL and they just don't know what to do. 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:20.000 They I mean, they try to make the transition as 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:21.400 you've made. A lot of them try to go to 0:05:21.480 --> 0:05:24.960 like TV doing sports casting, but as you know, it's 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:26.000 hard to talk on camera. 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:28.640 It's not it's not easy. And the funny thing is, 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:30.760 I thought I was gonna go into broadcasting first too. 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:35.240 I got my degree in broadcast journalism. Yeah, but that's 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:39.040 why I knew that y'all was good because we went 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:40.359 to school for this week season. 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.839 But that's why y'all good at what Yeah, Barbara Walker's 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:45.440 shaking for a long time. 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:50.040 Okay. The funny thing is, no one to see. No 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:52.440 one wanted to see y'all coming like this, just the 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.560 way y'all dressed, looking, the way y'all look y'all not 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:56.160 supposed to be able to do what y'all do. 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:57.559 Yeah, I agree. 0:05:57.880 --> 0:05:59.600 So the fact that y'all are doing is please give 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:02.520 yourself a round of a plank you and shout out 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:04.880 that you had degrees. Because people think that having degrees 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:07.760 is pointless. I don't. I don't. 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:09.760 I think it depends on what you want to do. 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:11.560 Well, yeah, I think it depends on what you want 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:13.240 to do. But the things that I love about people 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:15.360 who have degrees, I think it just says that, like, 0:06:16.000 --> 0:06:17.280 you finished what you started. 0:06:17.440 --> 0:06:18.640 You saw something through completely. 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:19.360 Yeah. 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:22.280 And as a businessman, that's important. All the people I 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:24.240 go into business with are going to business people who 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.800 I've seen do things through completely, right, because that means 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:28.359 you had to do something you didn't want to do 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:30.160 to see it all the way through it. That's life. 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:35.280 So you know, I started off broadcasting. I worked for 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:43.159 MSG Varsity doing games and yes, why did you because 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:45.360 they wanted me to say what they wanted me to say. 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:48.360 Ooh, and that's what I was going to say. Because radio. 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:52.680 We hated it because they said, you can't say it 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:53.119 was certain. 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:55.520 We just couldn't be our authentic selves the way that 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:57.559 we can on these couch and I mean it's cool, 0:06:57.640 --> 0:06:59.400 you know what I mean, shout out to the people 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:01.839 that do radio, Kudos to them. I just don't think 0:07:01.880 --> 0:07:03.080 it was it was for us. 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:06.320 Yeah. I actually started off doing hard news. I used 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.200 to have an internship at my college at TSU, so 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.120 I would wake up at five o'clock in the morning, 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:14.520 go to the radio station. I'm reporting on all this 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:18.280 stuff like kids getting kidnapped, house and higher. I'm like, 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.720 this is depressing, ain't it. Oh my god? It was 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:23.440 so hard, and I was like, I don't want to 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.200 do this. And then I kind of got into like 0:07:25.520 --> 0:07:27.760 doing like entertainment news and I'm like, you know what, 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:29.520 I just want to talk shit and. 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:31.080 You have for those I don't like. I don't like 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:31.840 the breaks. 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:33.760 Yeah, Like how you have to do you know how 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:35.640 you have to do so many posies and breaks when 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:36.200 you do radio. 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:37.680 Yeah, I hate that. 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.880 Like on this show, you know, we just talk freely. 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.960 It's no breaks, it's it's not edited, it's not altered. 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:45.640 I think that you have to do that. Well, we 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:47.200 know you have to do that. It comes to like 0:07:47.280 --> 0:07:50.600 radio and broadcasting. Podcasting is the evolution of medium. 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.320 It really is, you know, and it's going to become, 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:55.760 like I think it's going to become the main set 0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:57.640 of where people consume all of their information. 0:07:57.800 --> 0:07:59.720 I'm not gonna lie to you. I I think it 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:00.520 is now though. 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:01.520 Yeah, I think a lot. 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:04.720 Of times when you are hearing people have authentic conversations 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.720 and you're not hearing somebody like, oh, I have to 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:10.480 ask this question, like we have talking points, but we're 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:12.360 gonna get off topic, and you go like, oh, this 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:15.240 is how this person feels about X Y Z. Oh 0:08:15.320 --> 0:08:17.200 I really like them. Oh you know what, I didn't 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:20.160 really like that they were doing, But now that I 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.880 know them, I want to support everything that they need absolutely, 0:08:22.920 --> 0:08:24.680 So it could be good for you or bad. So 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.080 that's what I want to talk about too. 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:29.720 You getting into podcasting, yes, yes, How did they come about? 0:08:30.120 --> 0:08:30.320 So? 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:34.280 My beautiful wife Kadin, very similar to you guys, went 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.800 to school for broadcast journalism. She wanted to do hard news. 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.280 She did hoghtra news and views. She worked at the 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:40.840 radio station and she hated it. 0:08:41.040 --> 0:08:41.319 Yeah. 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:45.040 So when when I retired from the NFL at this 0:08:45.080 --> 0:08:48.400 point she was having our first child, I felt bad 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.160 as a man that I was just like man like. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:54.000 She has her own dreams. She always has to stop 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:57.760 doing her dreams we continue to have children. So I 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:00.000 was like, well, I can't even take credit for this. 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:03.000 Our manager at the time, Donor Donor Opinion shout out 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:05.920 to do Nora because her vision for what she saw 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.560 for us was huge and we wouldn't be who we 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:13.480 were if it wasn't for Yeah, she got an opportunity 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.079 from Stitcher, and Stitch was like, hey, the volen Kadeen 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:18.360 do all these videos about Battle of the Sexist and 0:09:18.360 --> 0:09:20.680 it's money. Have they ever thought about the podcast? And 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:23.160 Donor came to us and explained what the podcast was. 0:09:23.160 --> 0:09:25.400 I had never heard of a podcast, and I was like, 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:30.319 wait a minute, babe. We could do the podcast from home, 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:32.800 we could do the podcast from anywhere, but you'll get 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.240 an opportunity to continue to work and do what you 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:38.120 do in your field without having to pause every time 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:40.400 you get pregnant. So I was like, let's focus on 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.200 the podcast and build that out so that we can 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:44.760 ultimately get to your goal of being a daytime TV 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:47.120 show host. And she was like, bet, let's do it, 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:50.200 and we started it and now we're fifteen seasons later 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:51.320 and amazing. 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:54.559 That is because being in this field too. You know 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:56.200 how many times we've seen people start it because they 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:57.720 used to be like, oh, I can do this if 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.800 they do, and then they started and then they quit. 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:02.880 Of course that it's not as easy as it was. Well, 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:06.439 nothing is easy. That's worth having. And the problem with 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:09.360 most people, especially in this generation, is they want instant gratification. 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:12.480 I was doing videos for years before any one of 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:15.160 my videos got traction to go viral, and then once 0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:16.920 it went viral, that's when people say, oh my gosh, 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:18.559 the value doing this? I said, well, where were y'all 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.880 years ago when I had twenty six people viewing my 0:10:22.000 --> 0:10:25.080 videos and I was still making videos. I'm editing videos 0:10:25.080 --> 0:10:27.520 and putting pictures up and you see three likes that 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:29.839 oh my god. 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:34.240 You know, listeners, girl, what are you screaming for? 0:10:34.640 --> 0:10:35.520 Ain't nobody watching it? 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:36.840 Watching? 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:39.000 But we kept going on. You know who gave me 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:43.320 the biggest tip? Pause about just saying I got a 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:46.320 pause that you can say somebody gave me a big 0:10:46.400 --> 0:10:47.920 tipping and I don't puuse there. 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:52.520 You felt how he gave me a big tip tool? 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:55.680 You felt that moved? Did you pull no more? 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:57.680 Period? 0:10:59.120 --> 0:10:59.320 Look? 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:05.560 Okay, tip, I can't even tell this story now, especially 0:11:05.600 --> 0:11:10.440 in this climate. But I worked as Amari Hardwick's a 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:14.120 stunt double. I see three years you see it, right, 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:17.400 I was. I had to suit on everything, walking through truth. 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:20.120 You know what I'm saying. Okay. My first speaking role 0:11:20.559 --> 0:11:23.959 in television was when I played Ghosts and I had 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:26.520 to curse Timmy out. Y'all might remember this, The fuck 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:30.800 you looking at? You see that? I said that to 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:33.079 tim me in jail. But it was a ghost. 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:34.920 It was me, it was you, it was But why 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:37.079 did he need a double for that? Just out of curiosity? 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:44.199 Like back walking through truth? Well so this is what 0:11:44.440 --> 0:11:46.400 So this is what happened. All right, this You're not 0:11:46.440 --> 0:11:47.680 gonna shame me from my role. 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:52.200 I'm playing with y'all to ask trying to figure it out. 0:11:52.559 --> 0:11:54.839 The role didn't start out as a double. The role 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:58.000 started with season two, I believe episode nine. Tommy had 0:11:58.040 --> 0:11:59.920 went to jail and he's in jail and he sees 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:02.600 a guy who looks like ghosts, and then he goes 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:04.560 to him. He's like a ghost, a ghost, And then 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:07.160 I turn around and I say, the fuck you looking 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:10.559 at And then he realized, wait a minute, that's it, 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.840 that's not ghost I got to watch that episode. Right 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:17.160 after that episode is when the producers just like, yo, 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:20.120 you look and your body type is a lot like Omari, right, 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:21.640 And he was like, how are you interested in being 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:23.880 his stunt double? So my thing was just like you 0:12:24.320 --> 0:12:27.520 nigga be walking around and what the fuck does he 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.880 need a stunt double for? But I do it okay, 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:32.760 because I wanted to learn. I want to see what 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:35.160 it's like a leading man in the drama, the number 0:12:35.200 --> 0:12:38.120 one drama on all the television. So I'm doing that. 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:42.319 And years before that, I had did fifty cents funeral video. 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:45.839 I played Remo. So one thing about fifty cent, y'all 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:49.440 gotta notice fifty cent remembers everyone who's been around really 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:52.280 he does, because I mean he's from Queens. I'm from Brooklyn. 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:55.680 I understand this, this type of environment. He from Queens, 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:58.079 He's had beef his whole life. When people around you, 0:12:58.080 --> 0:13:00.800 you make sure you can recognize who's ane you. So 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:03.000 I was around him all day shooting his video. Two 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:05.320 years later, I go to do power and he looks 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:08.600 at me like yo, I said Remo, and he's just like, Yo, 0:13:08.800 --> 0:13:11.480 what's good? Ge? Like people think fifty cent is like 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:14.480 this hard guy who always he is, but he's also 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:17.960 a businessman and a stud businessman. So me being a 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:19.880 Brooklyn guy, it's the end of the night. It's like 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:22.440 one thirty. Of course, I'm just the stunt double. Stunt 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.680 doubles don't really do shit, you know. So fifty cents 0:13:25.720 --> 0:13:28.320 walking through the lobby. I see him. He's with a 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:30.600 little PA, and I'm like, this is my chance. I'm 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:33.520 gonna go holler at fifty. So i jump up. Everybody's 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:38.160 quiet saying I'm like, fifty said, come through. I get up. 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:39.720 He getting on the elevator. I go to get on 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:41.840 the elevator. The PA puts his hand on my chest. 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:49.000 I'm like, oh no, you're not use me me like 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:52.040 you know me walked right through that right and then 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:54.640 fifty was smirking, and I was like, yo, fake what up? 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:56.520 So then when he started talking to to P was like, okay, 0:13:56.520 --> 0:13:59.000 I guess this is cool. So I said, yo, fifth man, 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:02.680 you was in there real good. I was real comfortable. 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:06.040 I was real cocause I'm like, this is my moment. 0:14:06.480 --> 0:14:08.559 This is a moment, you know what I'm saying. Walked 0:14:08.600 --> 0:14:10.280 in that bitch. I was like, Fifth, what up. He 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.120 was like, what's up, my g and I was just like, yo, 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:16.600 I like you, Yo, you're bully like me. I'm a bully. 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:18.040 To see how I got on the elevator. So he 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:20.760 started laughing and I was like, Yo, this is before 0:14:20.840 --> 0:14:23.040 BMMF was out. I said, y'all want to be on BMF. 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:25.920 He was just like, Yo, we're gonna work. We're gonna work. 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:29.320 Never got a chance, you know how that go. But 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:30.880 what he did do, He's like, Yo, what else you 0:14:30.920 --> 0:14:32.520 got going on? He said, yo, come with me. I 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.800 went with him to his dressing room. He looked at 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:36.440 my social media because I told him the stuff I 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.120 was working on. He saw my videos of my family 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:42.480 before they ever went viral, and fifty cents said, Yo, 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:45.600 this shit is hilarious. He said, Yo, you gotta keep 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:47.640 doing this. He was like, let me tell you something. 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.880 He was like, don't worry about the views. What you 0:14:49.960 --> 0:14:53.240 have here is a catalog of content, which means all 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:55.480 you need is one video to go viral, and when 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:57.320 people see that video, they're going to go back and 0:14:57.360 --> 0:15:00.000 see what other videos. And when they see that you 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:03.080 do this, they'll follow you in their share because it's 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:06.360 not a one hit wonder right. I was like, oh, 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:09.320 he right, So that was June. That was June, I 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:14.800 believe two thousand and sixteen, Okay, September. June. September twenty sixteen, 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:19.320 Tyrol was born. I do a video goes viral. I 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:23.320 had about one thousand videos, all of those videos now 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:25.800 getting hundreds of thousands of views from that one video. 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.720 First thing I thought was fifty was right. Yeah, he 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:31.160 was right. And the thing is, I've never not on 0:15:31.280 --> 0:15:34.600 be in my but the information he gave me was 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:37.760 more valuable than a role because he taught me how 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:40.240 to build my own thing. So from this day, from 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:42.360 this day forth, I always say, y'all always get fifties. 0:15:43.240 --> 0:15:44.440 Yeah, shout out to fifty cent. 0:15:44.680 --> 0:15:47.280 I feel like that resonates with us too, though, because 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:49.560 it was kind of like the same thing when we 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:52.240 went on eighty five South for the first time, Like 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.400 that video got millions of views. 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:56.680 It hit a million in a week, It. 0:15:56.720 --> 0:15:58.760 Hit a million in a week, and it just it 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:01.160 trickled down and it makes people come back to all 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.920 of our old videos and watch all of our old videos. 0:16:03.920 --> 0:16:06.600 And I remember on social media, we both gained like 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:10.840 eighty thousand followers on our personal pages and the poor 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:12.720 page like overnight it was crazy. 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.280 That shows you the value of consistency. 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Individual results may vary. 0:17:48.119 --> 0:17:49.640 But I want to talk about since we were talking 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.040 about podcasting, cause we were speaking a little bit earlier 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:53.960 and you were about to touch on cause we talk 0:17:54.040 --> 0:17:58.040 about the freedom that we have with podcasting OFTO comes 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:01.680 with a little negativity because you can give your opinion, 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:03.320 but a lot of times people are not gonna agree 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:05.000 with it and they're gonna be dragging your age. 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:05.240 Yeah. 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:09.480 One thing, me and Dre are not strangers to drags, 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:12.840 Like we are always getting drug about something understandable. So 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:16.679 not understandable, but you're supposed to say, damn not my girl, No. 0:18:16.240 --> 0:18:19.760 No, no, no, Well, I've been dragged. I've been dragged a 0:18:19.760 --> 0:18:20.440 couple of times. 0:18:20.960 --> 0:18:23.280 Talk about the time that you got dragged and you 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:25.239 were just like, oh my god, why did I say this? 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:26.879 Or you regretted it or something. 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:29.760 Well, the first thing is I never regretted saying what 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:32.480 I was saying. I got dragged because people have a 0:18:32.480 --> 0:18:33.400 difference of opinion. 0:18:33.520 --> 0:18:33.879 Okay. 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:36.080 The first thing I will say that I've learned as 0:18:36.119 --> 0:18:40.240 an athlete is that people are not like you are 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:45.480 not entitled to having everyone's admiration or agreement. You say something, 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:49.080 people have the right to disagree with you. If they do, 0:18:49.640 --> 0:18:51.600 you can't take that as hate, you can't take that 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:54.280 as negativity. It just is what it is. Because I 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:55.880 think about it's a lot of people that I don't 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:58.159 agree with So I'm like, you know what, when I 0:18:58.200 --> 0:19:00.320 put something out, I put it out there is art, 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:03.240 and I say, regardless of what people say, this is 0:19:03.320 --> 0:19:06.000 my truth. The problem with most people is is they 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:08.760 don't speak their truth. What they do is they say 0:19:08.800 --> 0:19:11.159 something thinking and everyone's going to agree even if it 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:14.240 ain't their truth. Like and then when people don't agree, 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:17.240 they get mad. When you speak your truth, you can't 0:19:17.240 --> 0:19:20.880 get mad if people don't agree. That's my truth. Whether 0:19:20.960 --> 0:19:22.879 you agree with it or not, it's still my truth. 0:19:23.240 --> 0:19:24.600 And I'm unapologetic about it. 0:19:24.680 --> 0:19:26.280 So you be standing on bing this when you say 0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:27.400 stuff and they don't like it. 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:31.199 Yes, I still don't listen the podcast. I got dragged 0:19:31.200 --> 0:19:33.800 for the most. They tried to cancel Your Boy. We 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:38.360 were talking about monogamy and I was speaking about how 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:41.280 I felt as a man. That is unfair for a 0:19:41.280 --> 0:19:44.160 woman to say, hey, I want you to be monogamous 0:19:44.240 --> 0:19:47.320 with me, but only monogamous with me when I want 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:48.960 you to be monogamous with me if you want to 0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:51.879 have sex and I'm not ready then And I was like, 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:54.000 that's kind of unfair if it's supposed to be a 0:19:54.040 --> 0:19:56.480 partnership when I want to have sex, or when you 0:19:56.560 --> 0:19:58.840 want to have sex, at least have a discussion about it. 0:19:58.840 --> 0:20:01.359 It can't just always be when you want it. And 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:04.359 some women dragged me was just like, it's my body, 0:20:04.400 --> 0:20:05.880 you can't tell me when. And I say, you know what, 0:20:05.960 --> 0:20:08.440 if that's how you feel, If what I said made 0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:11.320 you feel that way, then that's how it made you feel. 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:15.480 I'm not gonna argue you down. Your perspective dictates the 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:17.320 fact that that made you trigger it in a way. 0:20:18.320 --> 0:20:20.280 I think a lot of times people get so wrapped 0:20:20.359 --> 0:20:23.560 up in people's opinions because they created this version of 0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:26.800 you in their head. So if they watch sisters or 0:20:26.800 --> 0:20:28.640 they watch the team and they like, oh my god, 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:31.119 this man and they see you with your wife, so 0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:33.760 they're like, oh, I want a man like that. He's 0:20:33.800 --> 0:20:36.520 a good father, he's then so they create this image 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:38.600 of you in their head, but they don't know you 0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:41.840 absolutely day. So when you say something that doesn't fit 0:20:41.880 --> 0:20:45.200 their narrative that they created, and they'd be ready to 0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:47.760 be up in arms and that because that happens a lot. 0:20:47.840 --> 0:20:50.159 I feel like a lot of times people tend to 0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:52.399 feel like, oh, that's so funny, she's so sweet, she's 0:20:52.440 --> 0:20:54.480 so nice, but I'm really like an introvert. I really 0:20:54.520 --> 0:20:57.040 don't like people as much. I really just kind of, 0:20:57.160 --> 0:20:59.200 you know, be doing my own things. So sometimes when 0:20:59.200 --> 0:21:01.560 I say things that people like, they'd be great to 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:03.120 bring out the pitch for it, But I'm like, why 0:21:03.119 --> 0:21:07.720 are you so upset at? I think the biggest thing 0:21:07.760 --> 0:21:10.720 that shows people's ignorance is when you can't understand that 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:14.040 not everybody thinks the same. I mean, an opinion is 0:21:14.119 --> 0:21:16.960 an opinion, Like, just because I say something and that's 0:21:16.960 --> 0:21:19.720 how I feel, it doesn't necessarily mean it's factual. 0:21:19.920 --> 0:21:21.000 Right, don't agree with me. 0:21:21.359 --> 0:21:23.679 It's okay for you not to agree with me, but 0:21:23.760 --> 0:21:26.920 it shouldn't have you up in arms because it's my opinion. 0:21:27.119 --> 0:21:29.000 You should be able to take a difference of opinion 0:21:29.040 --> 0:21:29.840 and go about your day. 0:21:30.000 --> 0:21:32.399 I agree with you. I agree with you one thousand percent. 0:21:32.480 --> 0:21:35.320 But what we all have to understand is humans, is 0:21:35.320 --> 0:21:39.040 that social media is in a place where everyone has 0:21:39.040 --> 0:21:43.080 a prerequisite of being healed before they participate. R Yeah, 0:21:43.200 --> 0:21:46.359 So when you hear people's responses to your opinions, typically 0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:49.880 it's because they're going through something where your opinion triggers 0:21:49.920 --> 0:21:52.400 something that they're going through and if it made them 0:21:52.400 --> 0:21:54.760 feel a way and they want to spit fire at you, 0:21:55.720 --> 0:21:56.560 they have the right to do. 0:21:56.680 --> 0:21:59.000 Sometimes it just be triggering that they a fucking hater. 0:21:59.600 --> 0:22:04.280 Yes, yeah, people just sometimes people be mean sometimes sitting 0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:05.280 there taking it out on you. 0:22:05.359 --> 0:22:07.159 But let me ask you a question that says more 0:22:07.200 --> 0:22:09.440 about them than you, Right, So why do you let 0:22:09.440 --> 0:22:10.320 that affect you? 0:22:10.320 --> 0:22:13.480 You shouldn't because I'm sensitive though everything gets to me. 0:22:13.520 --> 0:22:21.679 I'll be like, say my hair, my mail flex is 0:22:21.680 --> 0:22:24.399 a little more sensitive than I am. Sometimes I'm not 0:22:24.400 --> 0:22:25.919 gonna lie. For the most part, I let a lot 0:22:25.920 --> 0:22:29.480 of ship roll off my back. But sometimes people do 0:22:29.560 --> 0:22:32.119 say something. Every once in a while, I'm just like, oh, 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:34.720 I gotta respond. I want to get to that point 0:22:34.760 --> 0:22:37.200 where I don't say Beyonce, we want to be beyond. 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:39.320 I want to be Beyonce to the bullshit. I feel 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:40.080 like I'm Rihanna. 0:22:41.880 --> 0:22:44.320 But the thing is, there's nothing wrong with being Rihanna 0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:47.480 or Beyonce. It just whatever allows you to have peace 0:22:48.040 --> 0:22:50.000 in your day. You know what I'm saying. If peace 0:22:50.119 --> 0:22:52.520 means today I'm about to clap back on this motherfucker, 0:22:53.040 --> 0:22:55.200 then today is a clap back day. You know what 0:22:55.200 --> 0:22:57.760 I'm saying if peace for me means that I'm going 0:22:57.840 --> 0:23:00.159 to ignore it and I want to be Beyonce for 0:23:00.200 --> 0:23:02.440 the day, then that's gonna be my piece for today. 0:23:02.680 --> 0:23:04.560 And the truth of the matter is, can't nobody tell 0:23:04.560 --> 0:23:06.560 you how you're supposed to respond to what people make 0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:09.560 you feel? That's that's That's one thing I've learned about 0:23:09.760 --> 0:23:12.840 each social media people in general. If I said something 0:23:12.880 --> 0:23:15.159 that made someone respond in a certain way, whether they 0:23:15.240 --> 0:23:16.480 was hate or whether it was this something like that 0:23:16.480 --> 0:23:18.879 person going through it, Oh well, if I felt like 0:23:18.920 --> 0:23:21.439 clapping back on somebody that day, I was going through it, 0:23:21.480 --> 0:23:22.080 Oh well. 0:23:22.040 --> 0:23:25.440 So you'll be clapping back sometimes, I don't. Okay, did 0:23:25.440 --> 0:23:25.879 you used to it? 0:23:26.560 --> 0:23:29.080 I used to, but I never clapped back in a 0:23:29.119 --> 0:23:31.480 way where I wanted to make someone feel small. I 0:23:31.520 --> 0:23:33.040 always tried to clap back in a way where I 0:23:33.080 --> 0:23:36.119 can educate someone on a different perspective. But even on that, 0:23:36.160 --> 0:23:38.440 I learned that some people don't want a different perspective. 0:23:38.480 --> 0:23:40.600 They want to exist in their own perspective. So I've 0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:43.200 learned to let people live. If you understand, if you 0:23:43.280 --> 0:23:45.520 understand history, and you understand the economy and the way 0:23:45.600 --> 0:23:48.600 the world works, you start to have empathy for people. Right, 0:23:50.840 --> 0:23:51.680 let's just listen to me. 0:23:52.600 --> 0:23:59.080 I'd be like you big big mother, I'll be. 0:23:59.560 --> 0:24:05.040 No, it's about It's so funny because we share obviously, 0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:07.560 we share the log ins for like all of our pages. 0:24:08.080 --> 0:24:11.680 I always be seeing the notifications when she go off 0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:12.320 on people, and. 0:24:12.280 --> 0:24:16.480 I be like, bro, every day every time we tell 0:24:16.560 --> 0:24:18.280 you to say that, who talking? 0:24:18.440 --> 0:24:22.639 Kay tail bitch? We said, big bag. The thing is, 0:24:23.080 --> 0:24:25.520 I get it through them because I feel sometimes I 0:24:25.560 --> 0:24:29.920 do feel like, how did you judge me and say 0:24:30.000 --> 0:24:33.040 things to me and not look at your life first? 0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:37.280 But I want you to consider this. Tell this, ninety 0:24:37.359 --> 0:24:40.680 nine percent of the world's wealth is controlled by one 0:24:40.760 --> 0:24:45.119 percent of the population. Yeah, which means ninety five percent 0:24:45.160 --> 0:24:48.280 of the population is not comfortable with where they are 0:24:48.280 --> 0:24:50.639 in their place in life, which means they're working in 0:24:50.680 --> 0:24:52.920 a job they don't like, they have a husband or 0:24:52.960 --> 0:24:55.520 a wife they don't like. They gotta but there's something 0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:58.600 going on every single day, and the only thing they 0:24:58.640 --> 0:25:02.280 have control over it's that social media. I can put 0:25:02.320 --> 0:25:05.240 a comment on here and I can fuck with Lex today, 0:25:05.480 --> 0:25:07.240 and you know what I'm gonna do today. I'm gonna 0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:09.639 talk to Lex today because if she responds to me, 0:25:10.000 --> 0:25:12.440 that's the only control I have. And when you give 0:25:12.520 --> 0:25:16.359 people that control, now they winning. Yeah, and now you've 0:25:16.400 --> 0:25:18.520 lost it because now all people going to talk about 0:25:18.600 --> 0:25:21.720 is how you responded to the person that nobody knows 0:25:21.760 --> 0:25:28.920 they know lex though, you know what I'm saying, I'll. 0:25:26.760 --> 0:25:29.480 Be ready to crash out. I love to get on 0:25:29.520 --> 0:25:30.360 Live and crash out. 0:25:30.440 --> 0:25:32.920 But you know what's crazy the few that I have 0:25:33.160 --> 0:25:37.159 crashed out people have responded like I had posted a 0:25:37.200 --> 0:25:40.600 screenshot on Twitter like two weeks ago because this guy 0:25:40.640 --> 0:25:42.439 I had tweeted something and this guy had like a 0:25:42.480 --> 0:25:44.399 crazy ass or bottle to me. I can't even remember 0:25:44.400 --> 0:25:48.160 what he said. But then after I said something to him, 0:25:48.440 --> 0:25:51.880 he posted, Look I reposted it, and I like kind 0:25:51.880 --> 0:25:54.560 of went off on him, and then he was like, oh, 0:25:54.720 --> 0:25:57.479 thank you for responding. I love you. 0:25:57.480 --> 0:25:58.320 You see what I'm saying. 0:25:58.720 --> 0:26:01.240 It's like what this is he's talking about when I say, 0:26:01.280 --> 0:26:05.080 people are fucking weird. All of that for him to 0:26:05.119 --> 0:26:07.240 say I love you when I responded. 0:26:06.840 --> 0:26:09.720 Because he wanted he wanted your attention. Yeah, and you 0:26:09.800 --> 0:26:12.840 got into that a lot of people know, like they 0:26:12.920 --> 0:26:15.919 know that I can't get this person's attention unless I 0:26:15.960 --> 0:26:18.639 say something to trigger them, and then the minute they 0:26:18.640 --> 0:26:21.080 get your attention, then all the love comes out. That's 0:26:21.119 --> 0:26:23.720 why I don't respond with people with vitriol all the time, 0:26:23.760 --> 0:26:25.639 because a lot of these people really don't have the 0:26:25.720 --> 0:26:30.879 tools to articulate eloquently how they feel. I told you 0:26:30.920 --> 0:26:32.440 I went to school graduat. You know what I'm saying, 0:26:32.480 --> 0:26:34.600 I want to school. You know you're talking. 0:26:34.400 --> 0:26:40.520 About the hell is that? You know the park I 0:26:40.720 --> 0:26:44.600 never popped the butriol. You know the hell is that 0:26:44.800 --> 0:26:47.960 I means that it's just a baby. 0:26:48.760 --> 0:26:50.800 All change your life, that we all change your life. 0:26:50.840 --> 0:26:52.280 Now change your life. 0:26:52.359 --> 0:26:55.040 So I definitely before we get we ain't even got 0:26:55.040 --> 0:26:58.680 into the first topic yet. But before we get into 0:26:58.680 --> 0:27:01.119 the first topic, I defin really want to talk about 0:27:01.119 --> 0:27:02.879 your beautiful wife and your family. 0:27:03.720 --> 0:27:05.360 So how did y'all meet? 0:27:05.560 --> 0:27:07.680 I think I did read somewhere or maybe y'all seen 0:27:07.720 --> 0:27:10.040 it on y'all social media. Y'all met in college? 0:27:10.359 --> 0:27:14.000 Right? No? No, we went to the same elementary school, 0:27:14.119 --> 0:27:19.720 Ohame elementary school. She she tells the story that she 0:27:19.840 --> 0:27:22.600 recognized me when I was in first grade. She was 0:27:22.640 --> 0:27:26.080 in second grade. I didn't you know not girls? You 0:27:26.080 --> 0:27:28.080 know what I'm saying, sometimes Zach got to do that, 0:27:28.119 --> 0:27:30.879 you know what I'm saying, even with Zach six, but 0:27:30.960 --> 0:27:32.960 a girl still had coolies during that time. I wasn't 0:27:32.960 --> 0:27:35.840 playing attention. But long story short, because this is a 0:27:35.840 --> 0:27:38.359 long story. We have a brother the same age, and 0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:40.240 we have a sister the same age, so we both 0:27:40.320 --> 0:27:42.600 are family of three. You have brothers who are the 0:27:42.600 --> 0:27:44.040 same age, sister the same age. And I used to 0:27:44.119 --> 0:27:45.600 go back when we were in middle school to pick 0:27:45.640 --> 0:27:47.199 up my brother and sister, and she used to see me. 0:27:47.680 --> 0:27:49.639 We ended up going to rival high schools. She was 0:27:49.680 --> 0:27:53.119 a cheerleader, I was a football player. And then my 0:27:53.240 --> 0:27:55.760 senior year, I was being awarded by the elementary school 0:27:55.800 --> 0:27:57.840 that we both went to, and that was the time 0:27:57.880 --> 0:28:00.440 that she could finally see me and say, hey, dev 0:28:00.640 --> 0:28:03.800 I'm interested and choose let me tell let me tell 0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:05.600 you something, let me tell you something about my wife. Okay, 0:28:06.480 --> 0:28:08.440 and I'll say this. All of the stuff that they 0:28:08.440 --> 0:28:10.399 say you're not supposed to do on social media to 0:28:10.400 --> 0:28:13.240 get a man, she did every single one. Really, she 0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:14.320 walked up to me. 0:28:14.600 --> 0:28:15.640 But it worked out in her. 0:28:15.600 --> 0:28:17.800 Fast, and that's and that's what I'm saying. She did 0:28:17.960 --> 0:28:20.359 every single she she walked up to me as me 0:28:20.400 --> 0:28:22.800 and my but she said Brian and devale Ellis and 0:28:22.840 --> 0:28:24.560 I was just like, I was looking at her and 0:28:24.600 --> 0:28:26.960 I was like, damn, she's fine, but I got to 0:28:26.960 --> 0:28:31.760 be cool. I was like, what's up? The whole night 0:28:32.080 --> 0:28:34.399 we were sitting there chopping it up, and then at 0:28:34.400 --> 0:28:35.480 the end of the night, I was trying to do 0:28:35.480 --> 0:28:37.600 what my pops told me to do. My uncle they like, yo, 0:28:37.920 --> 0:28:39.360 you don't be too thirsty, you know what I'm saying, 0:28:39.400 --> 0:28:41.080 let her let her walk away a little bit. Then, 0:28:41.400 --> 0:28:43.080 like they told me, as she's about to walk away, 0:28:43.080 --> 0:28:44.760 that's when you grab her arm and you just be like, 0:28:44.760 --> 0:28:48.600 excuse me, okay, you know what I'm saying. That was 0:28:48.800 --> 0:28:51.080 you know what I was like, I was gonna. 0:28:51.040 --> 0:28:53.480 You was meant to TV because he was already living 0:28:53.560 --> 0:28:54.160 your real. 0:28:54.000 --> 0:28:56.360 Life, Like you see what I'm saying. 0:28:56.640 --> 0:28:59.920 I had all this in my mind, but when. 0:28:59.800 --> 0:29:01.440 You me though I live my life every day, I 0:29:01.440 --> 0:29:02.280 think I'm in a movie. 0:29:02.840 --> 0:29:04.840 My whole life's a rom com. You can't tell me 0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:08.200 I'm not in a right now. It's called ditch, not hitch. 0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:11.000 Ditch because I be ditching these holes and it's all 0:29:11.120 --> 0:29:15.840 my wife that's why. But before I could, you know, 0:29:16.560 --> 0:29:20.160 grab her arm. She grabbed my my thing and say, Yo, 0:29:20.480 --> 0:29:22.040 since you ain't gonna ask me for my number, I'm 0:29:22.040 --> 0:29:24.240 gonna just give it to you. I like her, which 0:29:24.600 --> 0:29:26.560 they say online. Women are not supposed to do that. 0:29:26.600 --> 0:29:30.000 You're supposed to be demure. He's supposed to be mindful. 0:29:30.160 --> 0:29:32.720 My wife was not about that. She's like, tak my 0:29:32.800 --> 0:29:35.680 number down, took the number down. I called her the 0:29:35.720 --> 0:29:39.000 whole summer. She did not answer. She's a pageant she's 0:29:39.000 --> 0:29:41.920 a pageant girl. She was on the road. She trying 0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:43.960 to play me. So I'm like, man, fuck, this is 0:29:44.120 --> 0:29:47.120 chasing after you. Man, I'm I got an eighty nine maximum, 0:29:48.240 --> 0:29:50.440 I got black rims on that joint with two sup 0:29:50.480 --> 0:29:51.280 with us. 0:29:50.840 --> 0:29:54.160 I'm I'm vibing them. 0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:57.480 You know what I'm saying. I had I had you twelves. 0:29:57.680 --> 0:30:00.280 Well I had to twelves. But thank you, bro, you're 0:30:00.280 --> 0:30:02.760 gonna miss your blessing. And I was like all for 0:30:02.920 --> 0:30:05.880 And then she called me and I was like, I 0:30:05.960 --> 0:30:08.840 was like, what the fuck? Hello, Hello, Hello, and hen 0:30:08.880 --> 0:30:11.720 she was just like hey, handsome, and I immediately went 0:30:11.760 --> 0:30:13.560 back to the way my dad told me to be. 0:30:13.600 --> 0:30:17.280 I was just like, what's up? Stopped laughing. You see 0:30:17.320 --> 0:30:20.080 you laughing. This is the problem. You're not trying to listen. 0:30:22.080 --> 0:30:24.000 So I was like, what's up? And then when I 0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:27.200 said what's up, he started vibing. She came and visit 0:30:27.240 --> 0:30:29.840 me the next day and it was all on his 0:30:31.520 --> 0:30:35.240 The thing that impressed me though she asked me on 0:30:35.360 --> 0:30:38.440 first date. We in my dorm room. I was ready 0:30:38.480 --> 0:30:41.760 to smash, like, I'm eighteen. I ain't gonna lie I'm eighteen, 0:30:41.880 --> 0:30:43.760 said my wife. You know what I'm saying, long hand, slim, 0:30:43.840 --> 0:30:45.240 you got a little fatty on him. I was like, 0:30:46.680 --> 0:30:47.479 give me some of that. 0:30:47.560 --> 0:30:48.120 You know what I'm saying. 0:30:48.120 --> 0:30:50.960 I'm a d one athlete. I'm not thinking about no 0:30:51.080 --> 0:30:54.240 wives or nothing. So she's eating a hero and I'm like, 0:30:55.120 --> 0:30:57.160 She's like, so she's eating here. She's like, so, what's 0:30:57.160 --> 0:31:01.120 your plans in life? I was like, well, I want 0:31:01.120 --> 0:31:02.720 to be an actor. I want to do that. She 0:31:02.840 --> 0:31:05.960 was like what Martin was on TV? I was like, 0:31:06.000 --> 0:31:09.600 I want to have my own sitcom. She didn't miss 0:31:09.600 --> 0:31:12.000 a beat. She said, Okay, so how we gonna do that? 0:31:12.320 --> 0:31:16.800 Mm hmm? Man. When I tell you, I was like, 0:31:17.400 --> 0:31:18.080 she wanted to know. 0:31:18.080 --> 0:31:20.720 My dreams because at ninth because she so if you 0:31:20.720 --> 0:31:21.960 were eighteen, she was like nineteen. 0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:24.920 She was about to turn. 0:31:24.200 --> 0:31:26.520 A nineteen year old woman asking something like that on 0:31:26.560 --> 0:31:28.320 the first day, because I would have been like. 0:31:28.320 --> 0:31:34.440 To be you see what I'm saying, That's what I 0:31:34.520 --> 0:31:37.200 was listening. Come on, you're right, you're right, and the 0:31:37.200 --> 0:31:39.080 internet be telling you don't be. Don't be going out 0:31:39.080 --> 0:31:40.880 there and trying to be wifely off the first date, 0:31:40.920 --> 0:31:43.680 because she was wife she. 0:31:44.040 --> 0:31:47.320 First Also it was to the right man though, So 0:31:48.080 --> 0:31:50.440 a lot of times though it's a lot of good 0:31:50.520 --> 0:31:53.760 women that meet up and they're they're doing the right things, 0:31:53.840 --> 0:31:56.400 but it's with the wrong man. So I think that 0:31:56.520 --> 0:31:58.400 is why a lot of times you hear women giving 0:31:58.400 --> 0:32:00.800 the advice of don't do this, don't do that, because 0:32:00.840 --> 0:32:02.600 they did that it saw no results. 0:32:02.720 --> 0:32:05.200 I agree, So I will say this. I will say 0:32:05.200 --> 0:32:09.200 this though, lex I have a question. Now, I'm not 0:32:09.200 --> 0:32:12.800 gonna have a question. So many women talk about these 0:32:12.880 --> 0:32:20.080 bad men. Why do women choose bad men? 0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:25.280 Red flagging and they be smacking y'all in the forehead 0:32:25.400 --> 0:32:26.760 like black eye, red flag and. 0:32:28.520 --> 0:32:30.640 You see what I'm saying. Yeah, So. 0:32:32.400 --> 0:32:35.600 I'm not really like that though, No I be leaving 0:32:36.240 --> 0:32:38.480 the red flags, don't. I don't really play that ship 0:32:38.800 --> 0:32:41.920 like I've always had a no nonsense policy, but sometimes 0:32:42.000 --> 0:32:43.880 we really want to get into it. I feel like 0:32:43.960 --> 0:32:46.880 that's why I'm still like not married and stuff. 0:32:47.200 --> 0:32:50.360 Because I'll show you I understand what you're saying. Yeah, 0:32:50.440 --> 0:32:52.080 my boys, I got boys who are single, and they 0:32:52.080 --> 0:32:54.200 always on our bases. Ain't this. I'll be like, nigga, 0:32:54.800 --> 0:32:58.200 you be choosing the wrong woman every time, Like we 0:32:58.200 --> 0:33:01.640 will see the woman, the woman that he and I 0:33:01.640 --> 0:33:04.160 could tell in two minutes knock on work, not the one. 0:33:04.360 --> 0:33:06.280 But here we are two months saying, and you eat it, 0:33:06.280 --> 0:33:08.360 but D, but D. I'm like, bro, you keep choosing 0:33:08.360 --> 0:33:10.800 the same woman over and over and over again. Then 0:33:10.880 --> 0:33:12.880 your response to that is all these bitches, No. 0:33:12.960 --> 0:33:15.320 You keep choosing this one, the same one. 0:33:15.400 --> 0:33:17.440 So that's why I'm asking you, because I want to 0:33:17.440 --> 0:33:18.560 know a woman's perspective. 0:33:18.640 --> 0:33:21.320 So I'll say this. In my twenties, I was having 0:33:21.320 --> 0:33:24.080 a ball. I wasn't looking for nothing serious. I was 0:33:24.120 --> 0:33:26.440 having a good time. So I'll say as in my 0:33:26.560 --> 0:33:29.560 thirties and my mid thirties, I'm intentionally dating. You know, 0:33:29.720 --> 0:33:31.720 I'm in a relationship. I've been in a relationship for 0:33:31.720 --> 0:33:34.000 a year, so I can talk about the things that 0:33:34.040 --> 0:33:37.280 I was dealing with beforehand, and I'll just use the 0:33:37.360 --> 0:33:40.160 last guy I dated before him for example. I'm not 0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:45.280 gonna lie. A lot of times, I knew the type 0:33:45.280 --> 0:33:47.200 of men I was dating, and I knew what I 0:33:47.240 --> 0:33:49.240 was in the situation for, whether it was to have fun, 0:33:49.280 --> 0:33:52.560 he was spending money X y Z. But once I 0:33:52.560 --> 0:33:55.920 started dating intentionally and I'm like showing like who I 0:33:56.040 --> 0:33:57.760 really and what I really wanted to do in my 0:33:57.880 --> 0:34:01.600 goals the last time. I will say, a lot of 0:34:01.640 --> 0:34:04.840 men they put up a good front. Okay, they're auditioning. 0:34:05.240 --> 0:34:08.200 It's like they look at it like a job application. 0:34:08.360 --> 0:34:10.840 So if I'm applying for a job, when I show up, 0:34:10.880 --> 0:34:13.520 they'd be like, what is the worst thing about you 0:34:13.719 --> 0:34:16.600 when it comes to work? Oh, I'm just always on time. 0:34:17.120 --> 0:34:20.520 In the fact, I'm just so punctual and sometimes I 0:34:20.680 --> 0:34:23.600 work whenever I'm supposed to be clocked out. That's how 0:34:23.680 --> 0:34:26.839 men are. So you'll ask a man, You're asking all 0:34:26.840 --> 0:34:28.840 the right questions, you're doing the right things, and they're like, 0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:31.160 oh my gosh, this woman is amazing. I'm not really 0:34:31.160 --> 0:34:32.880 looking for nothing serious though, but I don't want her 0:34:32.880 --> 0:34:35.799 to leave me alone because I'm not ready to be 0:34:35.920 --> 0:34:38.319 the man for her. But I don't want her to 0:34:38.400 --> 0:34:41.200 leave me alone because she's doing all these wifey things. 0:34:41.680 --> 0:34:44.799 So a lot of women have experienced that. Now, one 0:34:44.800 --> 0:34:47.040 thing about me, I don't date. I'm not a bitter dater. 0:34:47.440 --> 0:34:49.920 So just because this man does this to me, Okay, 0:34:50.000 --> 0:34:51.680 we broke up, i'ma still move on and I'm gonna 0:34:51.680 --> 0:34:53.759 still be happy and try it. I'm not gonna be 0:34:53.800 --> 0:34:57.080 tainted about love. So I feel like now I'm in 0:34:57.120 --> 0:34:59.799 a relationship where I am with somebody who appreciates the 0:34:59.800 --> 0:35:03.839 thing that I do. And it's like, but I will say, 0:35:04.080 --> 0:35:07.120 I wasn't a situation where I felt bamboozled. 0:35:07.719 --> 0:35:10.879 So can I just give you guys some insights? Sure, 0:35:11.160 --> 0:35:14.440 based on what you said, you said in your twenties 0:35:14.840 --> 0:35:18.160 you was having fun. Would you say that you bamboozled 0:35:18.200 --> 0:35:21.480 a bunch of men? Oh yeah, okay, fair, So we're 0:35:21.520 --> 0:35:24.680 in agreement, right. You know why men in their twenties 0:35:24.719 --> 0:35:28.000 can't bamboozle women because we don't got no fucking money, period. 0:35:28.200 --> 0:35:30.200 So you know what happens. We spent all of our 0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:34.880 twenties getting bamboozled. And I'm not pointing you out, Lex, 0:35:34.960 --> 0:35:37.440 but a beautiful woman like you who we may have 0:35:37.520 --> 0:35:40.279 thought like that could be my wife, and you bamboozled 0:35:40.360 --> 0:35:43.480 us in our twenties. Now a nigga got money. Now 0:35:44.239 --> 0:35:46.960 it's time to do the bamboozling. And what happens is 0:35:46.960 --> 0:35:49.600 is when a woman is now when her position late twenties, 0:35:49.600 --> 0:35:52.759 early thirties, she's like, I'm ready to be someone's wife. Well, 0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:55.960 now you've been, you finna get bamboozo And I'm just 0:35:55.960 --> 0:35:59.040 being honest. That's that's that, And I'm not saying it's okay, 0:35:59.600 --> 0:36:01.319 But what I'm saying is is that you had your 0:36:01.360 --> 0:36:04.560 time in bamboozoo. A man can't bambooso until he got 0:36:04.600 --> 0:36:08.120 the resources to do some bamboozling. Show me a black 0:36:08.160 --> 0:36:10.080 man in the early twenties who don't come from a 0:36:10.120 --> 0:36:13.160 prominent family who got resources to bambootho. So you know, 0:36:13.280 --> 0:36:15.240 so then finally when they make some money, I'm finally 0:36:15.360 --> 0:36:18.960 a VP at my job. I'm thirty. Wait a minute, 0:36:19.480 --> 0:36:21.359 I can do all the things that I watched that 0:36:21.440 --> 0:36:23.920 woman do with that other guy that I liked, So 0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:25.839 now I'm gonna do that to these women and I 0:36:25.880 --> 0:36:28.520 feel like women get upset when a man does it, 0:36:28.560 --> 0:36:30.600 but then they'll openly say, like you just said, in 0:36:30.640 --> 0:36:34.120 your twenties, I was bamboozling niggas. I wasn't think. 0:36:34.280 --> 0:36:36.320 It was also a guy that had been trying to 0:36:36.360 --> 0:36:38.560 holler at me for three years. 0:36:38.760 --> 0:36:40.040 And I feel like you should never get in. 0:36:40.560 --> 0:36:44.480 So it was like, aut why you can't give that 0:36:44.520 --> 0:36:45.399 guy for three years? 0:36:46.160 --> 0:36:48.600 I don't says God bad he was. He was hounding 0:36:48.600 --> 0:36:50.920 me a year and a half, trying to holler at me. 0:36:51.120 --> 0:36:53.560 When I say, he was going above and beyond trying 0:36:53.600 --> 0:36:56.200 to get me talk to him. And then I finally 0:36:56.239 --> 0:36:58.759 gave me and I was like, Okay, let's see what's up. 0:36:58.840 --> 0:37:02.680 He played the fuck out. He played the and it 0:37:02.719 --> 0:37:04.520 took me years to get over the hurt. 0:37:05.280 --> 0:37:06.839 It took me, I'll tell you. 0:37:07.120 --> 0:37:09.400 And that's why I feel like, if you initially not 0:37:09.480 --> 0:37:11.879 interested in the man and you carved him, he gonna 0:37:11.920 --> 0:37:12.239 remember that. 0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:16.040 Leave it alone. I'm not I'm not man. Yeah, I 0:37:16.480 --> 0:37:17.600 didn't did that. I didn't do that. 0:37:17.640 --> 0:37:21.440 I'm sorry for three years. 0:37:21.480 --> 0:37:24.400 I was chasing that three years, and you made me 0:37:24.440 --> 0:37:27.160 feel like I wasn't deserving. So you know what those 0:37:27.200 --> 0:37:30.080 men do like having a bet them men be up 0:37:30.120 --> 0:37:32.520 at night, they being in bed, like just not even 0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:39.400 I'm gonna get that, just have gone. And the minutes 0:37:39.480 --> 0:37:42.560 you say hey, they like, wait a minute, this is 0:37:42.640 --> 0:37:45.520 my time. But but but the truth, you don't give 0:37:45.600 --> 0:37:50.240 him no chance. If he hasn't healed, then don't. Yeah, 0:37:50.480 --> 0:37:52.840 because the truth is man like, you're not wrong for 0:37:52.880 --> 0:37:55.480 wanting to party in your twenties. Yeah, Like, let's and 0:37:55.520 --> 0:37:58.000 here's the truth. Can we at least be honest for 0:37:58.120 --> 0:38:00.600 once with people. If a woman, what's the party in 0:38:00.600 --> 0:38:02.120 her twenties, let her party? 0:38:02.239 --> 0:38:02.479 Yeah. 0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:04.440 If a man wants to party in his thirties when 0:38:04.440 --> 0:38:06.680 he first got his money, let him party. Let's stop 0:38:06.719 --> 0:38:09.439 shaming people who have worked their life for what they want, 0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:12.680 enjoying their life, and then when that person is ready 0:38:12.719 --> 0:38:14.760 to settle down, they're going to meet the right person 0:38:14.800 --> 0:38:17.640 for them. I think the problem is most people want 0:38:17.680 --> 0:38:21.879 to put a wide net around the entire species. All 0:38:22.000 --> 0:38:24.360 men act like this, because the men that I dated 0:38:24.360 --> 0:38:26.840 act like that. No, that's just the men you choose, 0:38:27.160 --> 0:38:30.120 all bitches, ain't shit, No, that's just the women you choose. 0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:32.640 My g If we start to realize that, well, you 0:38:32.640 --> 0:38:34.480 know what I'm saying, We'll be like, we'll give each 0:38:34.480 --> 0:38:36.560 other a little bit more grace, and you know what. 0:38:36.800 --> 0:38:41.000 Circling back to your original question, I think that women 0:38:41.080 --> 0:38:43.160 I can only speak now that I'm in my thirties. 0:38:43.640 --> 0:38:46.640 I have a lot of friends and people around me 0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:50.440 who I feel like, once you get to thirty, it 0:38:50.520 --> 0:38:53.359 starts to become like we talked about this with another case. 0:38:53.440 --> 0:38:56.640 I think desperation, the desperation of being his thirty, I 0:38:56.680 --> 0:38:59.799 get it. I think when women hit thirty now it's 0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:02.240 like this time clock it is, I gotta get married, 0:39:02.320 --> 0:39:04.359 I gotta have kids. So I think when the red 0:39:04.360 --> 0:39:06.680 flags be red flagging, they be like, oh, it's fine, 0:39:06.719 --> 0:39:09.719 because I want to be married, even if it's not 0:39:09.760 --> 0:39:12.160 to the right man. Society has made me feel like 0:39:12.719 --> 0:39:15.000 I gotta be married and I gotta have kids, And 0:39:15.040 --> 0:39:17.040 then what, I'm thirty two, I don't have kids yet. 0:39:17.040 --> 0:39:19.400 They're biological clock ticking, you know. 0:39:19.680 --> 0:39:22.319 And I really think that that is more so what 0:39:22.360 --> 0:39:24.200 it is I can say for women in their thirties, 0:39:24.239 --> 0:39:27.320 cause I think when you in y'all twenties, some women 0:39:27.320 --> 0:39:28.920 do want to get married in their twenties. But a 0:39:28.920 --> 0:39:30.640 lot of women that I know they wouldn't even think 0:39:30.640 --> 0:39:32.640 about that, and then it stuff. When you turn thirty, 0:39:32.680 --> 0:39:33.920 all of a sudden, the pressure is low. 0:39:34.160 --> 0:39:36.400 I mean, I don't I don't thinks. I don't blame 0:39:36.440 --> 0:39:38.480 women for not wanting to be married in their twenties. Bro, 0:39:38.560 --> 0:39:42.200 Like we live. We live in a capitalist society where 0:39:42.280 --> 0:39:47.160 misogyny rules. Yeah, if you are a beautiful woman and 0:39:47.200 --> 0:39:50.560 you're getting attention from a bunch of dudes, enjoy yourself. Yeah, 0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:51.480 I enjoy yourself. 0:39:51.520 --> 0:39:51.640 Now. 0:39:51.640 --> 0:39:53.319 Of course everyone is going to say what you need 0:39:53.360 --> 0:39:55.320 to settle down and not be promiscuous and stuff, But 0:39:55.400 --> 0:39:59.719 let's be honest. Monogamy, much like veganism or Christianity, is 0:39:59.719 --> 0:40:02.920 a voice. Yes, someone has to choose to want to 0:40:02.960 --> 0:40:05.319 be that, and someone has to want to be that 0:40:05.400 --> 0:40:08.480 in order to enjoy that aspect of life. I think 0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:11.239 it's a disservice to people when we try to cast 0:40:11.320 --> 0:40:14.640 a wy net over everybody, like everybody got to be monogamous, 0:40:14.719 --> 0:40:17.759 everybody got to be Christian, everybody like that. We got 0:40:17.800 --> 0:40:19.840 to stop doing that because we're all different people. 0:40:20.280 --> 0:40:22.640 And I thine having that mindset. Because I do have 0:40:22.719 --> 0:40:25.719 that mindset, I don't take things out on it because 0:40:25.760 --> 0:40:30.200 everybody is different, everybody's experience is different, absolutely, So I 0:40:30.239 --> 0:40:34.319 think I agree with Drea the desperation of women in 0:40:34.360 --> 0:40:36.000 the thirties. Like I said, we just talked about this, 0:40:36.080 --> 0:40:38.520 But for me, I will say this, I'm just such 0:40:38.520 --> 0:40:41.239 a like, Okay, let it be. So now I'm like, 0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:43.839 if it's in my path to be with a man 0:40:43.920 --> 0:40:46.640 and get married, that's exactly what's going to happen. Because 0:40:46.680 --> 0:40:48.359 I know myself and I know it's a good person. 0:40:48.400 --> 0:40:50.359 I know I'm a damn good woman. So I don't 0:40:50.400 --> 0:40:52.000 have no pressure on it, you know. 0:40:52.280 --> 0:40:54.239 But what you just said makes all the sense in 0:40:54.280 --> 0:40:56.399 the world. Though. Think about it. I know who I am. 0:40:56.960 --> 0:40:59.640 I'm not going to going to define my existence on 0:40:59.680 --> 0:41:01.720 this plan it based on what all the other women 0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:04.080 in the world are doing. That's not even your plight 0:41:04.480 --> 0:41:06.640 to carry, you know what I'm saying. For me, it's 0:41:06.680 --> 0:41:09.399 like whoa Okay, Lex wants to get married. Now I'm 0:41:09.440 --> 0:41:11.920 in my thirties. I'm going to be deliberate about finding 0:41:11.920 --> 0:41:14.839 the right person. Now. Listening to the statistics and all 0:41:14.880 --> 0:41:17.560 of that shit don't really even matter because because none 0:41:17.560 --> 0:41:20.160 of that, none of that will ever fit to every 0:41:20.200 --> 0:41:22.520 man or woman in the world. I say that because 0:41:22.719 --> 0:41:27.640 monogamy works for me, period. But then when men ask me, yo, dude, man, 0:41:28.000 --> 0:41:29.279 how you do this? How you do that? The first 0:41:29.280 --> 0:41:31.200 thing I asked them do you want to be monogamous 0:41:31.520 --> 0:41:33.719 or do you think that being monogamous is the only 0:41:33.719 --> 0:41:36.600 way that you can be considered high functioning? And they're 0:41:36.640 --> 0:41:39.279 just like, well, I'm listening to these podcasts and they 0:41:39.320 --> 0:41:41.560 say monogamous men are high functioning. And I said, bro, 0:41:41.880 --> 0:41:45.200 stop just listening to people and ask yourself what you 0:41:45.239 --> 0:41:47.759 really want out of life. You know what I'm saying, Like, 0:41:47.960 --> 0:41:50.560 we got to stop shaming people for not following the 0:41:50.640 --> 0:41:54.920 lifestyle we follow. Monogamy works for me because Deval knows that, 0:41:55.000 --> 0:41:58.040 you know what, I love women like a lot. I 0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:00.680 do truly love women thing I do. I look at 0:42:00.680 --> 0:42:03.040 your mine, She's gorgeous. She's gorgeous. But I also know 0:42:03.080 --> 0:42:05.840 that if I'm not disciplined enough to control my urgens 0:42:06.360 --> 0:42:08.919 and I'm attacking it, running after every woman, I don't 0:42:08.960 --> 0:42:11.560 have the ability to focus on the things that's gonna 0:42:11.560 --> 0:42:15.160 help me provide for myself and my family. So monogamy 0:42:15.200 --> 0:42:18.200 works for me. There are some men who can balance 0:42:18.280 --> 0:42:21.680 both and can chase skirts and chase money and make it. 0:42:21.719 --> 0:42:24.680 I would never tell that brother, you gotta be monogamy 0:42:24.760 --> 0:42:26.600 or you not high functioning, may get the fuck out 0:42:26.640 --> 0:42:29.520 of here. For example, like a fifty cent or Floyd Mayweather. 0:42:30.200 --> 0:42:32.480 Both of them brothers are doing way better than I am. 0:42:32.800 --> 0:42:35.000 How I look telling them all, you better be monogamous 0:42:35.120 --> 0:42:36.680 or you ain't gonna make it in life. It's the 0:42:36.719 --> 0:42:38.920 same thing for women. We should never tell women you 0:42:38.920 --> 0:42:40.600 better get married or you ain't gonna make it in life. 0:42:40.640 --> 0:42:42.560 Oprah ain't never been married. She one of the richest 0:42:42.560 --> 0:42:43.840 people in America. 0:42:43.920 --> 0:42:47.640 You see what I'm saying. That actually is our first stopic. 0:42:47.760 --> 0:42:50.560 But we need to ask how will we drinking? I 0:42:50.719 --> 0:42:58.080 know this episode is gonna be like this, What are 0:42:58.080 --> 0:43:00.279 we drinking today? These drinks are so good it I'm 0:43:00.280 --> 0:43:04.719 actually about to need so. 0:43:04.800 --> 0:43:07.799 You know, our guest, he is literally he does it all. 0:43:07.920 --> 0:43:11.680 He is, like you said, actor producer act, he is 0:43:11.719 --> 0:43:14.040 the jack of all trades. And that's what this drink 0:43:14.120 --> 0:43:17.000 is called Jack of all trades. 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Masterclass dot com backslash poor minds. Period. Right now, 0:45:10.080 --> 0:45:13.160 our listeners get fifteen percent off any annual membership at 0:45:13.200 --> 0:45:17.479 masterclass dot com slash poor minds. That's fifteen percent off 0:45:17.520 --> 0:45:20.360 at masterclass dot com slash poor minds. 0:45:20.640 --> 0:45:24.880 So to yo back to your point, though, you made 0:45:24.920 --> 0:45:28.000 a really really good point when you said, like basically, 0:45:28.040 --> 0:45:30.600 you you can't convince a man that doesn't want to 0:45:30.640 --> 0:45:32.239 get married to get married. And I think that that's 0:45:32.280 --> 0:45:34.520 where a lot of women mix up too, because they're 0:45:34.600 --> 0:45:37.960 dating men who it's obvious that's not the goal, that's 0:45:37.960 --> 0:45:40.040 not his goal. So why are you even pursuing that? 0:45:40.080 --> 0:45:42.839 Why are you even staying in that situation. In order 0:45:42.920 --> 0:45:45.719 for a relationship to be successful, you have to date 0:45:45.760 --> 0:45:48.360 somebody where y'all want the same things, yes, and y'all 0:45:48.360 --> 0:45:49.080 goals aligned. 0:45:49.239 --> 0:45:51.520 Yes, it's that simple. That's why I think that the 0:45:51.560 --> 0:45:55.040 whole fifty to fifty argument is annoying. The whole who's 0:45:55.080 --> 0:45:57.920 going to be submissive to who? Is annoying and pointless 0:45:57.960 --> 0:46:01.680 because I know what I'm looking for life. Every woman 0:46:01.760 --> 0:46:03.640 in the world is not looking for the same thing 0:46:03.680 --> 0:46:06.319 I'm looking for. So what I do is those women 0:46:06.360 --> 0:46:08.640 who are not looking for what I'm looking for, I 0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:10.759 applaud them for looking for whatever they're looking for. I 0:46:10.760 --> 0:46:13.759 don't shame them. For example, they're like, I need a 0:46:13.800 --> 0:46:15.279 submissive wife who won't follow me. 0:46:15.440 --> 0:46:18.160 Okay, so that's what you look at, the type of 0:46:18.160 --> 0:46:18.719 wife you need. 0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:20.520 What if you have a woman here who is a 0:46:20.719 --> 0:46:24.120 seven eight nine figure earner, you telling me I'm supposed 0:46:24.160 --> 0:46:26.200 to tell that woman she's supposed to submit to me 0:46:26.719 --> 0:46:29.480 and she can make more. No, that woman's journey is different. 0:46:29.480 --> 0:46:32.279 In like, let her find someone, But it's social the 0:46:32.320 --> 0:46:34.640 same thing for men, right, women will sell the time. 0:46:34.640 --> 0:46:37.200 I want somebody six y two abs, make a lot 0:46:37.200 --> 0:46:39.560 of money, can fuck all night. But if that nigga 0:46:39.600 --> 0:46:41.239 just want to be a homebody and take care of 0:46:41.239 --> 0:46:44.920 his kids, there's a woman for him. It may not 0:46:44.960 --> 0:46:48.920 be for you. But why why shame him? To mold him? 0:46:48.960 --> 0:46:50.560 You see what I'm saying. Why try to mold him. 0:46:50.560 --> 0:46:52.080 I can shame him a little bit. I ain't gonna 0:46:52.080 --> 0:46:57.400 mold him. You can't shame it's a little bit work. 0:46:58.360 --> 0:47:01.160 So so here's the thing I I and I've been 0:47:01.160 --> 0:47:04.840 called misogynistic because of this. Really I believe it is 0:47:04.880 --> 0:47:09.239 the man's job to work. The reason is, well, I 0:47:09.280 --> 0:47:12.120 was called misogynistic because some women, and I had to 0:47:12.160 --> 0:47:15.279 agree with this segment. Some women are not made to 0:47:15.360 --> 0:47:18.600 have children. Some women don't want to have children. But 0:47:18.640 --> 0:47:21.279 you can't define their womanhood by saying if you don't 0:47:21.280 --> 0:47:23.000 have children, for a man, you're not more of a woman. 0:47:23.280 --> 0:47:25.120 And I had to mature enough as a man to 0:47:25.200 --> 0:47:27.200 understand that. You know what, that's a valid fucking point. 0:47:27.960 --> 0:47:31.480 So for me, I personally feel for devow that I 0:47:31.560 --> 0:47:33.279 want to be able to support my wife. I want 0:47:33.280 --> 0:47:35.120 to be able to make all the money, and if 0:47:35.120 --> 0:47:37.160 she wants to make money, she can. But if she 0:47:37.239 --> 0:47:39.359 don't and she wanted to be a homemaker, she could 0:47:39.400 --> 0:47:42.320 do that too. I was called misogynistic by some women 0:47:42.320 --> 0:47:45.200 who feel like I'm controlling my wife. But you know 0:47:45.239 --> 0:47:48.000 what I learned in that I'm not for that woman. 0:47:48.840 --> 0:47:51.320 She need to write a house to buzz because she 0:47:51.400 --> 0:47:52.240 got all the answers. 0:47:55.440 --> 0:47:57.520 A lot of people feel they got all the answers. 0:47:57.840 --> 0:47:59.640 You know, when you realize you don't got all the answers, 0:47:59.640 --> 0:48:01.719 that's when you start to advance in life. 0:48:01.880 --> 0:48:02.880 How do you start to evolve? 0:48:03.160 --> 0:48:04.920 When you evolved when you realize, you know what, I 0:48:04.920 --> 0:48:07.879 hadn't arrived the minutes you think you arrived, that's when 0:48:07.920 --> 0:48:08.600 you really lost. 0:48:09.360 --> 0:48:12.520 So the first topic we wanted to ask you because 0:48:12.520 --> 0:48:16.040 there's two different sayings that people always say. They always 0:48:16.080 --> 0:48:20.040 say behind every successful man is a strong woman. You know, 0:48:20.160 --> 0:48:24.799 married men are more successful. Technically show this right. And 0:48:24.840 --> 0:48:27.200 then on the other hand, they have statistics to show 0:48:27.520 --> 0:48:31.880 single women live longer, single women are happier, you know, 0:48:32.000 --> 0:48:34.480 like being independent and being free. And you know, we 0:48:34.520 --> 0:48:37.480 see people like Oprah who has a little situation, but 0:48:37.520 --> 0:48:39.040 she does what she can do. You know, we see 0:48:39.080 --> 0:48:42.319 the Tracy Ellis Ross, so we see all these women 0:48:42.400 --> 0:48:45.279 were like, hmm, that don't look so bad. So, how 0:48:45.320 --> 0:48:49.479 do you feel like as a married man, society should 0:48:49.520 --> 0:48:50.719 approach things like that? 0:48:50.760 --> 0:48:53.280 And do you feel like that's true? Like Brian and married, 0:48:53.280 --> 0:48:56.840 do you feel like, for example, your success is it 0:48:56.880 --> 0:49:00.319 attributed to a certain extent by your relations and ship 0:49:00.440 --> 0:49:01.239 in your marriage. 0:49:01.400 --> 0:49:03.880 Yeah. The first thing I will say is that I 0:49:03.880 --> 0:49:06.160 wouldn't be the person I am if it wasn't for 0:49:06.239 --> 0:49:08.520 my wife and my partner. Right when I was eighteen 0:49:08.600 --> 0:49:11.440 nineteen years old and I told Kadeen that I wanted 0:49:11.440 --> 0:49:13.480 to be an actor, I'm going to use the NFL. 0:49:14.239 --> 0:49:17.239 She made my breakfast, she did the stretches when I 0:49:17.280 --> 0:49:19.239 separated my shoulder and I had to sleep sitting on 0:49:19.360 --> 0:49:23.400 her dance. She was sitting. That's why. That's what it was. 0:49:23.600 --> 0:49:26.719 It was the shoulder that Lex. I ain't fucking with you, man. 0:49:26.760 --> 0:49:29.239 I heard my shoulder playing football. Okay, okay, I'm out 0:49:29.239 --> 0:49:32.200 here in the street. I'm out here. I got stats 0:49:32.239 --> 0:49:35.160 to prove it. 0:49:35.239 --> 0:49:36.720 Probably the brook Churst. 0:49:36.840 --> 0:49:39.319 I'm gonna fight Lex before I leave. I'm gonna fight 0:49:39.400 --> 0:49:41.880 les all my Brooklyn nights. Y'all know what the Brooklyn is. 0:49:42.080 --> 0:49:43.760 The brook Up, I know what I'm talking about. 0:49:44.560 --> 0:49:47.000 But she was doing the stretchy. 0:49:47.280 --> 0:49:49.520 She she was all of those things. She was there 0:49:49.560 --> 0:49:52.080 when I was training for the NFL. She she was there. 0:49:52.200 --> 0:49:57.160 She she helped me create. Okay, I'm a visual learner. Right, 0:49:57.480 --> 0:50:00.480 you get playbooks. The playbooks sound like this, you know, 0:50:01.239 --> 0:50:03.640 hop the trips, right motions, scot right five twenty five 0:50:03.760 --> 0:50:08.040 f post swing, ready break. Every word, every word has 0:50:08.080 --> 0:50:11.920 a meaning. My wife made flash cards with every word 0:50:11.960 --> 0:50:14.600 in those things, and it had a definition. And that's 0:50:14.600 --> 0:50:17.960 how I practice learning the place. So she was when 0:50:18.000 --> 0:50:20.080 they know what they say. She wasn't with me shooting 0:50:20.160 --> 0:50:23.839 in the gym. She was with me shooting in the gym. 0:50:23.960 --> 0:50:26.719 Because maybe they sounded like a whole different language than me. 0:50:26.880 --> 0:50:30.320 I was like what, But that's why I praise in 0:50:30.400 --> 0:50:33.280 honor my wife's much, because she literally was. And sometimes 0:50:33.320 --> 0:50:35.120 people say, like, man, why you doing all of that 0:50:35.160 --> 0:50:37.000 like your wife? I say, yeah, maybe your wife didn't 0:50:37.000 --> 0:50:39.719 do it what my wife did, but I will. The 0:50:39.719 --> 0:50:41.520 first thing I say is I am who I am 0:50:41.560 --> 0:50:43.880 because I have a support system. Not only my wife, 0:50:43.880 --> 0:50:46.879 my parents, her parents, that the mentors in my life 0:50:46.880 --> 0:50:49.840 were poured into me. They all made the vow possible. 0:50:49.880 --> 0:50:52.440 So it wasn't just my wife. It wasn't just me, 0:50:52.600 --> 0:50:55.080 It wasn't just God. It was a combination of everything. 0:50:55.520 --> 0:50:58.520 But I will say this about statistics. First and foremost 0:50:58.520 --> 0:51:02.000 statistics are skewed because I will say this, nobody never 0:51:02.040 --> 0:51:04.799 asked me a fucking question. Where are these statistics coming from? 0:51:04.840 --> 0:51:06.879 I've been married for fourteen years and no one ever 0:51:06.960 --> 0:51:07.360 asked me. 0:51:07.440 --> 0:51:09.839 You never did, went on family feud? Who asked them? 0:51:10.200 --> 0:51:12.120 You see what I'm saying. We've asked one hundred would 0:51:12.120 --> 0:51:13.520 be white people. That's the first thing. You know, it's 0:51:13.520 --> 0:51:14.279 one hundred white people. 0:51:14.360 --> 0:51:14.800 You ain't. 0:51:17.080 --> 0:51:19.400 Nobody else asking, right, You see what I'm saying. So 0:51:19.400 --> 0:51:21.680 the first thing we gotta do is throw out those 0:51:21.719 --> 0:51:24.839 things because they typically don't ask Black people. A lot 0:51:24.880 --> 0:51:27.560 of the things they ask and these statistics and stuff 0:51:27.560 --> 0:51:30.520 like that aren't about us, so we can just dismiss that. 0:51:30.800 --> 0:51:33.000 The second thing I will say is if we're going 0:51:33.040 --> 0:51:36.440 to rate success based on Western views, which means what 0:51:36.480 --> 0:51:39.400 white people say is considered successful, yeah, we're all going 0:51:39.480 --> 0:51:42.680 to fall short, because these views have never been made 0:51:42.719 --> 0:51:45.120 for us. Remember, we would consider three fifths of a 0:51:45.200 --> 0:51:48.320 human being in this country since since seventeen when in 0:51:48.360 --> 0:51:52.840 this country seventeen seventy four we want to consider humans Keith. 0:51:52.920 --> 0:51:55.279 So since we weren't consider humans, why would we ever 0:51:55.360 --> 0:51:57.960 listen to their rhetoric about how we're supposed to behave 0:51:58.960 --> 0:52:01.200 That's why I say, find out what works for you. 0:52:01.800 --> 0:52:04.040 I'm know somebody who listened to doctor Umar. When I 0:52:04.080 --> 0:52:11.000 see it, a walk king, I know that's right, brother. 0:52:11.480 --> 0:52:13.840 What do you call the doctor Umar? 0:52:12.960 --> 0:52:18.080 I don't know, but listen. I'm not one hundred percent 0:52:18.120 --> 0:52:20.560 always in agreement with everything doctor Umar said, but he 0:52:20.680 --> 0:52:25.200 love when he talks when he talks about the black family. Yeah, 0:52:25.680 --> 0:52:28.319 you know he's cooking. He'd be cooking when you talk 0:52:28.320 --> 0:52:30.279 about the black family. If you look at the history 0:52:30.320 --> 0:52:33.160 of this country, we like. Nothing they talk about when 0:52:33.200 --> 0:52:36.319 they talk about family and relationships is ever with us. 0:52:36.920 --> 0:52:39.279 I think we will look at those things and say, well, 0:52:39.400 --> 0:52:41.880 percentages say the percentages don't include up. 0:52:41.920 --> 0:52:44.120 That was a great point because I never thought about 0:52:44.120 --> 0:52:47.520 that because honestly, when they talk about statistics, like he said, 0:52:47.600 --> 0:52:52.840 you have been married for what twelve years, wife, four kids, 0:52:52.880 --> 0:52:55.279 twenty two years and ain't nobody asked you? She never 0:52:55.640 --> 0:52:58.240 first time you asked me when Alexandroya. 0:52:57.760 --> 0:52:59.960 And you would be the candidate. Well, i'll give you 0:53:00.120 --> 0:53:02.520 another statistics. Right, what's the narrative that we hear about 0:53:02.560 --> 0:53:04.880 black men. They don't give me no, no, no, they 0:53:04.880 --> 0:53:07.080 don't like who oh, they don't like black black women. 0:53:07.360 --> 0:53:07.840 Yeah. 0:53:08.080 --> 0:53:10.960 So the national average for black men who are married, 0:53:11.000 --> 0:53:13.160 what do they married to? It's got to be bla 0:53:13.440 --> 0:53:17.880 black women at what percentage? Over eighty five percent? So here, 0:53:18.400 --> 0:53:20.759 here's another one. Here's another one. But it don't matter though, 0:53:20.760 --> 0:53:22.560 because once they make money, that's when they go get 0:53:22.560 --> 0:53:25.600 white women, white women. The national average for making over 0:53:25.640 --> 0:53:28.920 two hundred thousand dollars black men, right, how many of 0:53:28.960 --> 0:53:32.520 those women men are married to black women? I'll give 0:53:32.600 --> 0:53:36.320 him bout a cools ninety five percent, not at five. 0:53:37.360 --> 0:53:41.080 This is why this is listen, because they'll show you. 0:53:41.560 --> 0:53:43.919 They'll show you the one black athlete who may be 0:53:44.440 --> 0:53:47.640 married to a white woman. Right, But then think about 0:53:48.160 --> 0:53:52.560 Russell Westbrook, Russell Wilson, Von James, Steph Curry. I can 0:53:52.640 --> 0:53:57.120 keep going and going, Willie Cologne or who else? These 0:53:57.120 --> 0:53:59.840 I'm talking about my friends now that I know, Stephen Bowen, 0:54:00.200 --> 0:54:04.400 Marcus Colston, Kyle Aronson, all married, all wealthy, they money, 0:54:04.440 --> 0:54:05.640 all married to black women. 0:54:05.920 --> 0:54:07.400 And then when you hear the horror stories we got 0:54:07.520 --> 0:54:08.760 to talk about Scottie Pippot. 0:54:09.080 --> 0:54:12.640 You see what I'm saying, girl, what's let's. 0:54:14.840 --> 0:54:17.400 But bitch outside with future is crazy? 0:54:17.520 --> 0:54:19.960 Lex has a good point, though, because they'll show the 0:54:20.000 --> 0:54:22.680 Scottie Pippins right, and they'll say, look, this is how 0:54:22.719 --> 0:54:25.200 black men behave. But that's not the fact I'm married 0:54:25.200 --> 0:54:27.960 to a black woman. My woman is black, she's Jamaican, Evincenti, 0:54:27.960 --> 0:54:30.440 and her mom is black as a motherfucker, a grandmother 0:54:30.480 --> 0:54:33.080 Black is a motherfucker. But they'll never push that out 0:54:33.080 --> 0:54:34.960 there because it don't fall in line with the narrative 0:54:35.000 --> 0:54:38.000 they want. You got to understand that destroying the black 0:54:38.000 --> 0:54:40.880 family has been on the the the forefront of the 0:54:40.920 --> 0:54:42.600 mind of the people created this country. 0:54:42.760 --> 0:54:42.840 Right. 0:54:42.920 --> 0:54:45.799 We weren't allowed to get married first, right, and even 0:54:45.800 --> 0:54:47.319 when we got married, there was a lot of times 0:54:47.320 --> 0:54:49.040 they took our women and raped our women and we 0:54:49.120 --> 0:54:51.600 had to watch because they do not want us to 0:54:51.640 --> 0:54:54.400 get together. Because if you have black the black family 0:54:54.960 --> 0:54:58.120 and we continue to work together. What's gonna happen to 0:54:58.120 --> 0:55:00.399 the wealth that happens in this country is gonna who 0:55:00.960 --> 0:55:04.520 black people are kids. How do you destroy the black 0:55:04.560 --> 0:55:08.319 wealth in this country, destroy the black family, make black 0:55:08.360 --> 0:55:10.760 women think that black men don't love them, make black 0:55:10.800 --> 0:55:12.920 men think that black women don't respect them. That's all 0:55:12.920 --> 0:55:16.600 a fallacy. It's not true. The older I get, I'm 0:55:16.600 --> 0:55:19.320 forty years old now, the more I realize that everything 0:55:19.320 --> 0:55:22.800 I've learned from mass media has been programmed by people 0:55:22.800 --> 0:55:25.640 who have an agenda. And I'm not a conspiracy theorist, 0:55:25.800 --> 0:55:28.080 but I'm not, but it is what it is. You 0:55:28.120 --> 0:55:28.840 see what I'm saying. 0:55:29.480 --> 0:55:32.719 I mean because I oh, we had this conversation a 0:55:32.760 --> 0:55:34.080 while back with the guests that we had and I 0:55:34.080 --> 0:55:37.800 can't remember, but we were basically talking about like government 0:55:37.840 --> 0:55:40.160 assistance and housing and things like that, and they were saying, 0:55:40.160 --> 0:55:43.200 how literally, like if you are a struggling you know, 0:55:43.280 --> 0:55:46.440 a woman, and you're on housing, you can't have a 0:55:46.480 --> 0:55:47.080 man in the house. 0:55:47.160 --> 0:55:50.120 You can't purposefully the minutes you have a man in 0:55:50.120 --> 0:55:52.719 the house, they will take yours. So you know what 0:55:52.760 --> 0:55:54.719 people started to do in the seventies. I noticed, because 0:55:54.760 --> 0:55:56.799 I have a family who've been through this. Dad may 0:55:56.920 --> 0:55:59.840 be in the home common law marriage because men was 0:56:00.160 --> 0:56:02.720 if I'm married, you can't get the assistance. I also 0:56:02.800 --> 0:56:05.160 won't be there when the person who comes and checks 0:56:05.200 --> 0:56:07.239 on the house and the kids. So when they come 0:56:07.239 --> 0:56:09.520 by this, so this woman here by herself, the dad 0:56:09.560 --> 0:56:11.879 will be in a closet, the dad will be somewhere else. 0:56:12.080 --> 0:56:14.920 I have family members who I watch go through this 0:56:15.080 --> 0:56:17.080 and they're like, you know, the government coming by. But 0:56:17.160 --> 0:56:18.880 the reason why they do that is to be able 0:56:18.880 --> 0:56:22.480 to get what they need from the government. And I 0:56:22.520 --> 0:56:25.880 hate to say this to say this, but I'm going 0:56:25.960 --> 0:56:27.880 to say this. Matter of fact, I'm not gonna say it. 0:56:27.880 --> 0:56:29.880 I'm not even give her name. But there is a 0:56:29.920 --> 0:56:34.440 talking head who always speaks about the black family in 0:56:34.480 --> 0:56:39.720 the black community, and because we have painted her as 0:56:40.160 --> 0:56:42.919 a villain, we won't listen to what her messages are. 0:56:43.400 --> 0:56:45.440 I don't agree with all of her messages. That's why 0:56:45.440 --> 0:56:47.120 I want to accept her. I won't say her name 0:56:47.520 --> 0:56:49.640 because I won't even give her I think you do. 0:56:50.080 --> 0:56:53.520 I won't give her any press on your platform. So 0:56:53.840 --> 0:56:55.399 it's fair because of what you do. So I won't 0:56:55.440 --> 0:56:57.120 do that. But when you listen to some of the 0:56:57.120 --> 0:57:01.960 things she says. She's absolutely true. The black black people 0:57:02.000 --> 0:57:04.680 in this country are the best when we are together. 0:57:05.200 --> 0:57:08.439 Look at Black Wall Street right. The minute we start 0:57:08.480 --> 0:57:11.200 to work together, they tear it down, right, and they 0:57:11.239 --> 0:57:13.680 tear it down. They tear us apart, and they tell 0:57:13.760 --> 0:57:15.759 us all the time, mass incarceration was the same thing. 0:57:15.800 --> 0:57:17.560 How can we get black fathers out of the house. 0:57:18.000 --> 0:57:20.200 Let's put them in prison. Right. Let's look at the 0:57:20.480 --> 0:57:23.280 voting cycle, right, Only four percent of black men in 0:57:23.320 --> 0:57:27.000 this country voted this year, not four percent of black men. 0:57:27.320 --> 0:57:30.560 Four percent of the voting population were black men. And 0:57:30.600 --> 0:57:33.200 the first thing they'll say is, mind you, we're only 0:57:33.200 --> 0:57:35.160 fifteen percent of the population. First they say is black 0:57:35.200 --> 0:57:37.200 men don't vote. But what they won't say is that 0:57:37.240 --> 0:57:40.480 eighty percent of the prison population is black men, and 0:57:40.520 --> 0:57:43.000 if they can't vote, it brings down the numbers. But 0:57:43.160 --> 0:57:45.560 rather than say that, you know what, they'll say, black 0:57:45.600 --> 0:57:48.520 men don't vote and they won't vote for Kamala. You 0:57:48.520 --> 0:57:51.360 see what I'm saying. It's like they just do things 0:57:51.400 --> 0:57:53.720 in order to tear us apart, and we have to 0:57:53.760 --> 0:57:57.720 do a good job or a better job of staying together. 0:57:57.520 --> 0:57:58.440 Which is so crazy. 0:57:58.480 --> 0:58:00.240 Because it's like, how do we live in a tree 0:58:00.280 --> 0:58:03.120 where feelings can't vote, but one could be the president. 0:58:03.240 --> 0:58:04.000 But that's another time. 0:58:04.040 --> 0:58:07.240 Because this country was never made for us. Think about it, 0:58:07.320 --> 0:58:09.720 This constitution and everything was made for a white man. 0:58:09.800 --> 0:58:11.720 And I'm not gonna lie. I have seen that narrative 0:58:11.760 --> 0:58:14.720 a lot today because obviously when y'all see this episode, 0:58:14.800 --> 0:58:18.840 we already know that Trump has won again president. Yeah, 0:58:18.880 --> 0:58:21.200 and it's been a lot of the narrative that they 0:58:21.240 --> 0:58:23.320 were trying to blame, you know, like the black men 0:58:23.400 --> 0:58:26.400 and all this stuff. But when you saw the voting 0:58:26.640 --> 0:58:27.360 and everything they. 0:58:27.360 --> 0:58:33.919 Had the statistics, Yeah, I think voted for Kamala because 0:58:33.960 --> 0:58:35.520 I said that to my man and he went off 0:58:35.560 --> 0:58:36.520 on me. 0:58:36.640 --> 0:58:38.960 What you said to say? What you said? You said 0:58:39.000 --> 0:58:39.880 black men are going from? 0:58:39.880 --> 0:58:41.720 I was like, I feel like black men didn't show 0:58:41.800 --> 0:58:42.240 up and nothing. 0:58:42.280 --> 0:58:44.400 He was like, hold on, oh, he's gonna get them 0:58:44.480 --> 0:58:45.360 numbers out. That's one thing. 0:58:47.120 --> 0:58:49.120 I was like, my bad, I'm sorry, no, but but 0:58:49.200 --> 0:58:51.480 I mean this is this is really important for us 0:58:51.520 --> 0:58:53.720 as a community of people to stop pointing a finger 0:58:53.720 --> 0:58:56.320 at each yeah, and let me sit down with some queens. 0:58:56.720 --> 0:58:58.520 Not for enough. I'm not gonna lie to y'all. Right, 0:58:58.520 --> 0:59:00.880 I'm not gonna lie to y'all the first the minute 0:59:01.080 --> 0:59:04.680 my team sending me yo, you're gonna go to poor minds. 0:59:06.760 --> 0:59:08.919 You know why I want to sit down with black 0:59:08.960 --> 0:59:11.560 women and discuss about relationships. I told you, I've been 0:59:11.560 --> 0:59:13.680 watching y'all. I want to discuss it so that it 0:59:13.720 --> 0:59:15.160 doesn't have to be combative. 0:59:15.560 --> 0:59:19.960 Right. A long time ago, we decided to stop that 0:59:20.080 --> 0:59:21.680 gender war because we used to do that a lot. 0:59:22.360 --> 0:59:23.440 We were in that gender war. 0:59:23.520 --> 0:59:25.480 Like all they used to say we was male bashers. 0:59:25.480 --> 0:59:27.760 I never feel like we were, to be honest, I 0:59:27.800 --> 0:59:30.440 just think we had a lot of different opinions. 0:59:31.120 --> 0:59:33.560 Can I be honest? Sure, I never thought that y'all 0:59:33.600 --> 0:59:36.240 were male bashing, but I did think that based on 0:59:37.080 --> 0:59:39.960 what you've lived through in your life, you told your truth, 0:59:40.040 --> 0:59:42.920 and the truth is a lot of people don't want 0:59:42.960 --> 0:59:45.040 to hear your truth if it doesn't fit what they 0:59:45.080 --> 0:59:47.600 want yeah to be. So I can understand why you 0:59:47.680 --> 0:59:49.440 got that label and not say that it was fair. 0:59:50.280 --> 0:59:53.080 But I mean I get the same label too. If 0:59:53.120 --> 0:59:56.520 I tell my truth about life, whoever is on the 0:59:56.560 --> 0:59:58.520 opposite side of that truth is going to feel like 0:59:58.560 --> 0:59:59.600 I'm bashing them. 1:00:00.160 --> 1:00:06.040 And that goes to a good point, because that's why 1:00:06.160 --> 1:00:09.120 our community is so separated. 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Black 1:01:50.720 --> 1:01:52.720 Twitter is also the people who be dragging me everything 1:01:52.800 --> 1:01:55.280 just because I'll be like, oh I don't like pork chops. 1:01:55.160 --> 1:02:00.480 Oh my god, you don't like sick. Don't don't even 1:02:00.520 --> 1:02:02.920 bring up grits because if you talk about grits on 1:02:03.000 --> 1:02:06.560 black Twitter, whether it's sugar problem. But what I will 1:02:06.600 --> 1:02:08.200 say this is you don't know the beefs that go 1:02:08.360 --> 1:02:10.280 on in the other Twitter. We don't be on it. 1:02:10.720 --> 1:02:14.000 White people be beefing, bro. I've seen white people and 1:02:14.160 --> 1:02:16.440 white men and white women going at it over Taylor 1:02:16.520 --> 1:02:19.840 Swift because white women been saying Taylor Swift is their saviors, 1:02:19.880 --> 1:02:22.120 She's their Beyonce. Right, So white women is up here. 1:02:22.640 --> 1:02:25.600 I'm independent, and I've seen white men going at them. 1:02:25.880 --> 1:02:29.000 There was there was a post on white Twitter today, 1:02:29.920 --> 1:02:34.440 White Twitter Twitter that Fox News posted that Taylor Swift 1:02:35.520 --> 1:02:38.680 is a hypocrite because she always talks about climate change, 1:02:39.360 --> 1:02:42.000 but she flew a private jet to get to the game, 1:02:42.440 --> 1:02:44.720 and it has more A private jet has more emissions 1:02:44.760 --> 1:02:47.720 than any veg. So I'm watching these white people go 1:02:47.840 --> 1:02:49.480 back and forth, and I'll saying, you know what's funny. 1:02:49.520 --> 1:02:52.640 If this was a black news site and this was Beyonce, 1:02:53.240 --> 1:02:55.680 we would be saying that black people are our own 1:02:55.760 --> 1:02:58.840 worst enemy. White people do the same thing. Today's Stars 1:02:58.920 --> 1:03:00.760 two and they people, we got to stop giving them 1:03:00.800 --> 1:03:01.640 a past, like they don't. 1:03:01.720 --> 1:03:03.240 I don't give them a past because I'll say this 1:03:03.280 --> 1:03:05.800 because people always look at black podcasts, they be like, oh, 1:03:06.280 --> 1:03:08.840 they don't do that, man. White podcasts be doing the 1:03:08.920 --> 1:03:13.040 same they do. The podcast take away the microphone. I 1:03:13.160 --> 1:03:14.880 agree as far as Like what you're saying is they 1:03:14.960 --> 1:03:16.800 be doing the same thing as far as they talk 1:03:16.840 --> 1:03:19.240 about relationship tipes and they talk about fifty to fifty, 1:03:19.280 --> 1:03:19.600 they do this. 1:03:19.840 --> 1:03:20.720 They do the same things. 1:03:21.400 --> 1:03:23.920 But when I say solidarity, I'm talking about when it 1:03:23.960 --> 1:03:27.080 comes to like one cause as serious and as big 1:03:27.440 --> 1:03:31.080 as politics, they do not care that this man has 1:03:31.240 --> 1:03:34.600 a feeling he's been accused of rape, assault, everything under 1:03:34.600 --> 1:03:37.000 Sunday Like, we don't want a black woman in there, 1:03:37.160 --> 1:03:39.120 so we gonna come together. And that's what I mean. 1:03:39.240 --> 1:03:40.480 I feel when it comes to. 1:03:40.840 --> 1:03:43.240 Making a change or what kind of change that they 1:03:43.360 --> 1:03:48.240 want you, they don't care about what's white women As 1:03:48.320 --> 1:03:50.960 a woman, it doesn't matter what race you are as 1:03:51.040 --> 1:03:54.840 a woman. To vote for Trump is absolutely insane. But 1:03:54.960 --> 1:03:57.360 what they do is they're gonna stick by their skin 1:03:57.520 --> 1:04:00.240 color before what's even best for them as it's an 1:04:00.480 --> 1:04:01.600 individual person. 1:04:02.000 --> 1:04:02.960 So that's what I think. 1:04:03.000 --> 1:04:05.080 It's also a marriage thing though, because I was having 1:04:05.120 --> 1:04:07.400 a conversation. I was having a conversation with I'm men 1:04:07.680 --> 1:04:10.240 and he was just like, to be honest, a lot 1:04:10.280 --> 1:04:13.200 of people didn't vote for her because people in marriages 1:04:13.280 --> 1:04:15.959 want to have babies. If that's like like most people 1:04:16.040 --> 1:04:19.040 are one policy voters, So a lot of people voting 1:04:19.080 --> 1:04:22.480 for Kamala just because she was more you know, pro choice. 1:04:22.800 --> 1:04:25.400 And he was basically saying, like people who are married, 1:04:25.560 --> 1:04:28.200 women who are married, they don't care about abortion men. 1:04:28.360 --> 1:04:30.360 But it's not about the abortion man, because what happens 1:04:30.360 --> 1:04:32.560 when you're on the table and you're hemmerid I'm saying, 1:04:32.560 --> 1:04:35.240 I feel like dying because they're looking at abortion as Oh, 1:04:35.320 --> 1:04:37.560 I have sex with somebody and I got pregnant. There's 1:04:37.600 --> 1:04:40.440 women on the table that are hemorrhaging and they're dying. Yeah, 1:04:40.480 --> 1:04:41.040 and they can't. 1:04:40.840 --> 1:04:43.360 Abort the baby because it's illegal. I don't care that 1:04:43.520 --> 1:04:45.360 you went to the club and had sex with somebody. 1:04:45.480 --> 1:04:47.640 Now you're pregnant. Yea, that's not what we're talking about. 1:04:48.080 --> 1:04:50.960 But they're using that as an excuse. But they're not 1:04:51.120 --> 1:04:55.280 looking at the thousands and thousands of black women who 1:04:55.320 --> 1:04:59.040 are dying giving birth. You know what I'm saying. It's 1:04:59.240 --> 1:05:01.520 a much bigger issue. So I get But as a. 1:05:01.520 --> 1:05:04.280 White woman, why do you but guess? 1:05:05.040 --> 1:05:06.440 But it's going to be different when you sit on 1:05:06.960 --> 1:05:08.120 you have a you have a. 1:05:08.120 --> 1:05:10.840 Good point, and this is what I will have to say. 1:05:12.520 --> 1:05:15.480 We as a Black community, expect everybody to just understand 1:05:15.560 --> 1:05:17.840 our plight and care about our plight, and the plight 1:05:17.920 --> 1:05:21.400 don't address you while why would a white why would 1:05:21.400 --> 1:05:25.160 a Karen care about a Dre' see? 1:05:25.280 --> 1:05:27.160 Black women, you see what I'm saying, they wouldn't. 1:05:27.240 --> 1:05:31.640 And if we're being fair about not representing, seventy eight 1:05:31.720 --> 1:05:37.560 percent of black men voted for Kamala. Ninety one percent 1:05:37.680 --> 1:05:41.400 of Black women voted for Kamala. Not that many white 1:05:41.440 --> 1:05:44.960 people voted for Trump like it wasn't in the nineties 1:05:45.000 --> 1:05:47.720 and the seventies. There were less white people who voted 1:05:47.760 --> 1:05:49.880 for Trump, which means there were less white people who 1:05:49.920 --> 1:05:53.480 were in agreement with his policies and his politics, which 1:05:53.560 --> 1:05:56.240 means white people don't always rock with white people. The 1:05:56.320 --> 1:05:59.040 bottom line is is that black people only fifteen percent 1:05:59.080 --> 1:06:03.760 of the population. It's fifty population, then Kamala would be 1:06:03.840 --> 1:06:06.959 the president. But the truth is is that we're still 1:06:07.040 --> 1:06:10.920 the minority, and we would need our Latino and Latina 1:06:11.040 --> 1:06:16.120 sisters and brothers, and yes, I mean I mean a lot. 1:06:16.240 --> 1:06:19.000 A lot of those groups failed us. But that brings 1:06:19.040 --> 1:06:21.120 me back to my point. We should not ever be 1:06:21.200 --> 1:06:22.480 worried about any of those groups. 1:06:23.000 --> 1:06:25.040 This is that's like this, this is the building we 1:06:25.160 --> 1:06:27.720 got to the people of color, the POC and trying 1:06:27.760 --> 1:06:31.600 to group us all together this election. You didn't know before, 1:06:32.040 --> 1:06:35.840 you know now it ain't no one one for all groups. 1:06:35.920 --> 1:06:37.240 Oh we are people of color. 1:06:37.400 --> 1:06:39.280 That's not what it's getting. No, it's never been that. 1:06:39.480 --> 1:06:42.200 It's never it's never been that. I mean, they've always 1:06:42.200 --> 1:06:44.040 tried to group us together. So I just hope that 1:06:44.160 --> 1:06:45.520 this woke up our I. 1:06:45.560 --> 1:06:48.520 Mean they do, but I think that us being a 1:06:48.640 --> 1:06:51.560 part of the community, we know it's always being a divide. 1:06:51.840 --> 1:06:54.479 I was having a conversation with some I was on live. 1:06:54.600 --> 1:06:57.520 I was on TikTok Live because I know you've watched 1:06:57.520 --> 1:06:59.600 probably some of our shows whatever, but I talked about 1:06:59.680 --> 1:07:02.680 being apt and stuff. So like my biological dad is 1:07:02.840 --> 1:07:06.320 half Dominican. So I was on live one day and 1:07:06.440 --> 1:07:08.320 somebody had said something about that and they was like, 1:07:08.360 --> 1:07:10.160 but I was like, I'm still like because they were like, 1:07:10.240 --> 1:07:11.800 aren't you mixed or something? And I was like, no, 1:07:11.920 --> 1:07:15.040 I'm not mixed. Like my biological dad is half Dominican, 1:07:15.120 --> 1:07:17.600 but my grandfather was Afro Latino, like he was a 1:07:17.680 --> 1:07:19.720 black man and ethnicity, and. 1:07:20.280 --> 1:07:21.439 They was like they was like don't. 1:07:21.480 --> 1:07:24.720 They was like, don't say that on Live Dreia it 1:07:24.880 --> 1:07:27.280 do it do? And they was like, don't say that 1:07:27.400 --> 1:07:29.720 on Live Drea because you know, Dominicans get mad when 1:07:29.720 --> 1:07:31.640 you say they black. But it's like, but why y'all 1:07:31.720 --> 1:07:34.920 on the same island with Haiti and y'all look just 1:07:35.200 --> 1:07:38.000 like facts, But y'all mad that people say y'all black. 1:07:38.200 --> 1:07:39.439 I mean it's always been. 1:07:41.400 --> 1:07:43.440 Do you know what I mean? Man, it's easy. It's 1:07:43.480 --> 1:07:47.080 easier to be accepted when you are in alignment with 1:07:47.240 --> 1:07:50.960 European value. M It's that simple, like we can't sit 1:07:51.000 --> 1:07:52.640 here and make it seem like that ain't what it is. 1:07:53.000 --> 1:07:56.360 The reason why Puerto Ricans and Dominicans beef is because 1:07:56.400 --> 1:08:00.280 Puerto Ricans say, well, we're Americans, you're not a marria Can. 1:08:00.640 --> 1:08:02.560 But then when you look at Puerto Rican culture, they 1:08:02.720 --> 1:08:08.080 tend to assimilate to European ideals, whereas Dominicans, like you say, 1:08:08.160 --> 1:08:11.360 look like Haitians. They share the same island Spanish, you 1:08:11.400 --> 1:08:13.360 see when they just speak Spanish. But they was like, 1:08:13.520 --> 1:08:19.160 I'm not black, I'm Dominican. If you understand. Oh god, 1:08:21.760 --> 1:08:23.880 so here's a funny thing, right, you look at me 1:08:23.960 --> 1:08:26.360 I'm from New York. You look at me. Right, There's 1:08:26.360 --> 1:08:29.120 a bunch of Dominicans walk into a bodegga. I'm like, 1:08:29.120 --> 1:08:30.639 you'll probably let me get a baker egg and cheese, 1:08:30.680 --> 1:08:32.760 like all you Dominican. They start speaking Spanish like no, 1:08:32.880 --> 1:08:34.840 I'm not Dominican, I'm black. And I'm like, yeah, we 1:08:34.880 --> 1:08:37.160 could be brothers. They literally say to me, I'm black, 1:08:37.160 --> 1:08:44.439 I'm Dominican. Yeah, and they they'll be darker than me. Please. 1:08:45.080 --> 1:08:47.640 I just if there's one thing I want you all 1:08:47.680 --> 1:08:52.439 to think about, don't shame people for their ideals. I 1:08:52.520 --> 1:08:55.400 don't understand where they're coming from. And even as ignorant 1:08:55.439 --> 1:08:57.680 and as it is, like for example, Dominicans saying I'm 1:08:57.680 --> 1:09:00.880 not black, as ignorant as it is, you got to understand, like, 1:09:00.920 --> 1:09:02.960 you know what, that person's trying to survive and exist 1:09:03.040 --> 1:09:05.360 in this world. And if they got something negative to 1:09:05.400 --> 1:09:08.120 say to me because I said the dominicand that's where 1:09:08.120 --> 1:09:10.040 they are in that moment, I'm not gonna waste no 1:09:10.240 --> 1:09:12.040 energy going back at something. 1:09:12.040 --> 1:09:14.880 You know what I'm saying, Like that's earlier about like 1:09:15.479 --> 1:09:17.120 the percentages of what people make and. 1:09:18.760 --> 1:09:21.880 And how Yeah, yeah, that's that's how you learn to 1:09:22.160 --> 1:09:25.240 love people and not be so upset when they disagree 1:09:25.280 --> 1:09:26.960 with you. You're like, okay, you disagree with me because 1:09:26.960 --> 1:09:30.800 you're going through something the value you'd always da da Okay, 1:09:31.240 --> 1:09:33.200 you will never understand because you know what you may 1:09:33.240 --> 1:09:35.400 be right. I may never understand. But what I did 1:09:35.520 --> 1:09:37.479 was I put out some content and it made you 1:09:37.560 --> 1:09:39.160 feel a way. So then now you got to deal 1:09:39.200 --> 1:09:41.240 with how you feel. You know what I'm saying, Like, 1:09:41.320 --> 1:09:44.679 that's how I address everything I had two years ago 1:09:45.880 --> 1:09:48.680 is when the slap happened, and I had people in 1:09:48.720 --> 1:09:52.800 the industry ask me, what's your thoughts about this? And 1:09:53.160 --> 1:09:55.360 this is always with my answer. I said, well, I'll 1:09:55.400 --> 1:09:57.519 tell you like this. If your father and a dad 1:09:58.080 --> 1:10:00.240 and you you've been in a public eye and your 1:10:00.320 --> 1:10:03.040 kids have been scrutinized and been called names, and your 1:10:03.080 --> 1:10:05.040 wife has been picked on and stuff, you know who 1:10:05.080 --> 1:10:08.000 you side with? You side with Will If you're a 1:10:08.080 --> 1:10:10.400 comedian and you're just trying to do your art and 1:10:10.439 --> 1:10:12.280 you're trying to go out hand and entertain people and 1:10:12.400 --> 1:10:13.920 you just got slapped on stage, you know who you 1:10:14.000 --> 1:10:17.800 side with, Chris Rock. If you're a content creator and 1:10:17.920 --> 1:10:19.280 you you know you out here trying to make the 1:10:19.320 --> 1:10:22.559 best images possible, and then you're upset that Will Smith 1:10:22.560 --> 1:10:24.800 and Chris Rock destroyed the Oscars. You side with Will 1:10:24.880 --> 1:10:27.639 Packer because Will Packer is the one who produced the Oscars, 1:10:27.680 --> 1:10:30.759 the first black producer, and the Oscars happened in twenty 1:10:30.840 --> 1:10:33.519 twenty two. And this is what we gotta deal with. 1:10:33.800 --> 1:10:36.160 If you're a woman and you feel like you've never 1:10:36.240 --> 1:10:39.000 been protected and finally someone stood up and slapped the 1:10:39.080 --> 1:10:43.000 shit out of somebody, you siding with Jada. And when 1:10:43.040 --> 1:10:44.720 I say that, people be like, I never thought about 1:10:44.720 --> 1:10:46.760 it like that. That's how we gotta think about life, Yo, 1:10:47.200 --> 1:10:49.000 think about what you're going through in a moment. You're 1:10:49.000 --> 1:10:51.720 gonna side with, not who's right, You're gonna side with 1:10:51.880 --> 1:10:56.240 who you relate to. You know what I'm saying, there's 1:10:56.320 --> 1:10:59.280 no black and white right or wrong. There's so many 1:10:59.360 --> 1:11:02.040 shades of great. And you got to start asking yourself 1:11:02.080 --> 1:11:04.200 if I felt like this, what am I going through? 1:11:04.240 --> 1:11:06.719 That made me relate to that? And then start thinking 1:11:06.800 --> 1:11:09.519 like that, because that's what I did the minute it happened. 1:11:09.600 --> 1:11:12.000 The first thing I said was good for that motherfucker 1:11:12.080 --> 1:11:13.680 he got slapt because I'm tired of him. 1:11:13.760 --> 1:11:15.360 And then I had to think about, like shit, because 1:11:15.400 --> 1:11:17.400 that comment was just so unnecessarious. 1:11:17.439 --> 1:11:19.439 It was unnecessary, It was the wrong time. It wasn't 1:11:19.479 --> 1:11:22.000 his first time saying something to you. Yeah, like they 1:11:22.040 --> 1:11:24.439 had a lot, they had what he was from. 1:11:24.680 --> 1:11:27.719 When I found out that, you know, he was trying 1:11:27.840 --> 1:11:30.120 to you know, that's what it made it a little different. 1:11:30.439 --> 1:11:33.479 They didn't intention yeah, yeah, since since two thousand and 1:11:33.560 --> 1:11:35.439 I think it was twenty seventeen, the first time he 1:11:35.560 --> 1:11:38.240 hosted the Oscars. But the reason why I brought that 1:11:38.320 --> 1:11:40.240 point is I think I hope people listen to this 1:11:40.360 --> 1:11:43.519 and realize them when I disagree with someone, Am I 1:11:43.600 --> 1:11:46.720 disagreeing with them because I really don't agree? Or am 1:11:46.720 --> 1:11:49.640 I disagreeing because what they're saying triggered something in me 1:11:49.760 --> 1:11:52.200 that I had to look at myself, right, you. 1:11:52.200 --> 1:11:55.000 Know, so in the same breast as we were talking about. 1:11:55.000 --> 1:11:56.760 And I hate to bring it back to these it 1:11:56.880 --> 1:11:58.320 was so many I hate to say this, but it 1:11:58.360 --> 1:12:00.719 was a lot of like higher up like white people 1:12:00.760 --> 1:12:04.280 who were so like, will how dare you? How dare you? 1:12:04.880 --> 1:12:09.200 But y'all are acting like this man gutted him on 1:12:09.400 --> 1:12:11.000 stage in front of you know what, I'm saying he 1:12:12.120 --> 1:12:14.400 was it right. No, you should put your hands on nobody. Now. 1:12:14.520 --> 1:12:16.880 I'm not saying that what he did was whatever, but 1:12:17.720 --> 1:12:21.320 y'all were acting like he just hung this man on 1:12:21.479 --> 1:12:24.559 National TV Live. But then, y'all are the same people 1:12:24.600 --> 1:12:28.920 who were in Trump's corner understandable and things for we 1:12:29.080 --> 1:12:31.240 know for a fact that he's done things that could 1:12:31.439 --> 1:12:32.280 land you in prison. 1:12:32.479 --> 1:12:35.000 Can I tell you something funny that you said that 1:12:35.400 --> 1:12:39.200 My thirteen year old son brought up to me made me. 1:12:39.320 --> 1:12:41.479 That gave me perspective. And he wasn't thirty at the time. 1:12:41.479 --> 1:12:43.560 He said, Dad, I got a question. Why were so 1:12:43.720 --> 1:12:47.280 many more people upset about the slap than they were 1:12:47.320 --> 1:12:51.439 about George Floyd. Hmm, okay, this is mine at the time. 1:12:52.280 --> 1:12:55.640 Twelve year old son. Yeah, And I had to explain him. 1:12:55.680 --> 1:12:58.720 I said, you know, when people can't see themselves in 1:12:58.800 --> 1:13:01.720 a victim, they think it does matter. So if you're 1:13:01.760 --> 1:13:04.759 not a black man, if you never dealt with substance abuse, 1:13:04.800 --> 1:13:06.760 if you're not a George Floyd, then you look at 1:13:06.760 --> 1:13:09.920 that situation and then you think of every excuse as 1:13:09.960 --> 1:13:12.320 to why that had to happen. But then if you're 1:13:12.360 --> 1:13:17.040 a rich, pampered elitist white person and you see another 1:13:17.120 --> 1:13:20.000 person walk over and slap someone on stage on national TV. 1:13:20.080 --> 1:13:23.160 The first thing you think of is this is appalling. 1:13:24.160 --> 1:13:25.760 That's how I had to explain it to him, and 1:13:25.800 --> 1:13:29.679 he was just like, that doesn't make sense. Said, emotions 1:13:29.760 --> 1:13:32.599 don't make sense, bro, you know what I'm saying. Like emotions, 1:13:32.880 --> 1:13:36.160 the fact that they feel a way. You see what 1:13:36.240 --> 1:13:38.479 I'm saying. No, I say that don't got to make sense. 1:13:38.560 --> 1:13:40.479 It only has to make sense to the person that's 1:13:40.520 --> 1:13:41.440 having any emotion. 1:13:42.600 --> 1:13:44.240 Something that It was just a moment for them to 1:13:44.360 --> 1:13:48.639 like shit on wheel too, like the waiting. They cannot 1:13:48.720 --> 1:13:51.680 stand that the one of the number one actors in 1:13:51.760 --> 1:13:54.559 the world who can literally drop a movie right now 1:13:54.640 --> 1:13:57.240 it's gonna do millions in the box office because movies, 1:13:57.439 --> 1:13:59.479 it's hard to do a movie right now. Most movies 1:13:59.520 --> 1:14:02.759 are going to the theaters, but they're also going to stream. Absolutely, 1:14:03.200 --> 1:14:05.479 Will Smith can drop a movie and it's gonna be nowhere, 1:14:05.560 --> 1:14:08.080 and he'll put it at AMC only and it's still 1:14:08.120 --> 1:14:10.519 gonna do one hundred million. So this was their moment, 1:14:10.680 --> 1:14:11.560 like we got it. 1:14:12.240 --> 1:14:16.600 Yeah, I still agree. I agree. I would have to 1:14:16.680 --> 1:14:19.000 be a thousand whenever you get a chance to hate 1:14:19.040 --> 1:14:21.960 someone who's doing so well that they're doing better than me. 1:14:22.479 --> 1:14:25.080 I mean, but we always get we always get a 1:14:25.080 --> 1:14:27.439 different response. So many people was like, I mean, this 1:14:27.640 --> 1:14:29.720 last Bad Boys movie, it was good, but let this 1:14:29.880 --> 1:14:31.920 be the last one. Y'all ain't say that about y'all 1:14:31.920 --> 1:14:33.000 ain't said that about Rocky. 1:14:33.400 --> 1:14:34.360 Y'all didn't say that about it. 1:14:35.160 --> 1:14:37.879 And it's like fifteen reason said three words. 1:14:40.240 --> 1:14:42.360 Bro, we know they killed the dog. I'm sorry, and 1:14:42.400 --> 1:14:45.760 they got ten motherfucker John Wicks. 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I wanted to 1:16:22.720 --> 1:16:26.400 talk about hiding money from your spouse because. 1:16:27.960 --> 1:16:30.160 Wow, I mean, this is a really good topic. 1:16:30.240 --> 1:16:32.280 If We've been wanting to talk to somebody that's married 1:16:32.560 --> 1:16:35.120 about it for a while because I grew up in 1:16:35.160 --> 1:16:38.040 a two parent household. My parents were married my whole life, 1:16:38.400 --> 1:16:41.600 and my mom, she always, you know, tells me that 1:16:41.720 --> 1:16:44.000 her and my dad they just had one joint bank account, 1:16:44.040 --> 1:16:45.559 and I'd be like, girl, you won't have a little stash. 1:16:47.160 --> 1:16:49.160 But then I ain't never been married, So maybe that's 1:16:49.200 --> 1:16:51.120 the wrong ideology. 1:16:50.560 --> 1:16:52.439 To have, don't. I don't think it's the wrong I 1:16:52.479 --> 1:16:55.479 don't think it's the wrong ideology. Like Kadein and I, 1:16:55.640 --> 1:16:58.639 we have multiple bank accounts. Okay, we have our business 1:16:58.640 --> 1:17:00.840 bank account where all of the money come because that's how. 1:17:00.760 --> 1:17:03.680 You avoid are we like a married couple, you know, 1:17:03.840 --> 1:17:06.000 being in business with somebody who's like But we got 1:17:06.040 --> 1:17:07.040 the same type of citus. 1:17:07.080 --> 1:17:10.439 So I also got I almost got canceled being canceled. 1:17:10.560 --> 1:17:11.759 I said, marriage is a business. 1:17:12.120 --> 1:17:12.560 I mean it is. 1:17:12.640 --> 1:17:14.439 Well, the Bible boppers came to me and was like, 1:17:14.560 --> 1:17:16.479 marriage is a covenant on the God. The fact that 1:17:16.560 --> 1:17:19.200 you said marriage is a business, I can't follow. I said, fine, 1:17:19.240 --> 1:17:21.080 if that's how it made you feel, you know what 1:17:21.080 --> 1:17:22.800 I'm saying, That's how I felt. I said, Hey, I 1:17:22.840 --> 1:17:24.920 think two things can be true. I didn't say that 1:17:25.000 --> 1:17:27.479 it wasn't a covenant of the but it is definitely 1:17:27.560 --> 1:17:30.719 a business right. Kadin and I share a business account. 1:17:30.800 --> 1:17:33.880 Under that business account, we have a trust. All of 1:17:33.920 --> 1:17:36.640 our money goes to our trust, our kids first, to 1:17:36.680 --> 1:17:39.120 make sure that we're good. Then we have a joint 1:17:39.160 --> 1:17:42.080 bank account, which is our savings. Her and I agree, 1:17:42.640 --> 1:17:44.760 this is what we're working on in this calendar year. 1:17:45.439 --> 1:17:47.400 Under that. She got her own checking account and I 1:17:47.439 --> 1:17:49.560 got my own checking account because I don't want you 1:17:49.760 --> 1:17:52.000 checking me on what I'm trying to buy, and I 1:17:52.080 --> 1:17:53.800 don't want to have to check you on what you 1:17:53.960 --> 1:17:55.960 trying to buy because you're also an individual. 1:17:56.520 --> 1:17:59.040 But as long as but all the money goes through 1:17:59.080 --> 1:18:00.760 the business account, and you can. 1:18:00.720 --> 1:18:06.719 Still absolutely no, I can't. I can't see her checking. 1:18:07.200 --> 1:18:08.519 What I'm saying. But you know how much goes in 1:18:08.600 --> 1:18:09.719 there every every week? 1:18:10.200 --> 1:18:12.559 Every week? I know so because because that's the partnership. 1:18:12.760 --> 1:18:15.160 Partnership is. And but the thing is her having her 1:18:15.240 --> 1:18:17.600 own her little stash. I ask her sometime, like how 1:18:17.680 --> 1:18:19.840 much money you got in your checking account? And she's like, 1:18:20.400 --> 1:18:23.160 I got a little song. Why I just make it 1:18:23.280 --> 1:18:25.200 on and I still I'm making sure you're good. Because 1:18:25.200 --> 1:18:27.960 one thing about Kadeena, She's gonna ask me. She was like, baby, 1:18:28.120 --> 1:18:29.400 I saw this bag, and I'm like, why are you 1:18:29.479 --> 1:18:32.040 asking me? You got your money? Yeah, And she's like, no, 1:18:32.080 --> 1:18:34.200 I just want to make sure that we are good. 1:18:34.320 --> 1:18:35.920 And I tell her, by the time it gets to 1:18:36.040 --> 1:18:39.040 that account, which is your account, You're gonna ask no 1:18:39.160 --> 1:18:42.320 fucking questions because I'm not asking no questions. If I'm 1:18:42.320 --> 1:18:44.280 a plan something for you and surprise you, I don't 1:18:44.320 --> 1:18:47.240 want you to know what I'm supprised. My vice is 1:18:47.320 --> 1:18:50.040 not her vice. I like cars. I like cars. She 1:18:50.240 --> 1:18:52.800 likes bags and shoes and trips. I don't want her 1:18:52.840 --> 1:18:56.640 to have to She's an individual. Imagine somebody's baby. Can 1:18:56.720 --> 1:18:59.439 I buy? Get the fuck? You're an adult and she works. 1:19:00.160 --> 1:19:01.920 She works, so you have your money that goes to you. 1:19:02.000 --> 1:19:05.040 I got my money to go to But ultimately, the 1:19:06.080 --> 1:19:09.280 estate building and the legacy building is already done before 1:19:09.320 --> 1:19:12.360 it gets to that point. So at that point, there's 1:19:12.400 --> 1:19:14.760 no arguments because we've already taken care of the kids 1:19:14.800 --> 1:19:18.360 and ourselves, you know. And the truth is I made 1:19:18.400 --> 1:19:23.920 that a priority when we first got together. I told 1:19:23.920 --> 1:19:25.840 her I said, Yo, if we're going to live together 1:19:25.840 --> 1:19:27.320 and be together, we got to be able to discuss 1:19:27.479 --> 1:19:29.200 finance in real time. 1:19:29.320 --> 1:19:33.160 That's an uncomfortable conversation. What but you know what I 1:19:33.520 --> 1:19:36.519 had I tell you all the time, if you can't 1:19:36.600 --> 1:19:40.160 have an uncomfortable conversation with your partner, your friend, your family, 1:19:41.000 --> 1:19:45.160 that exactly. Uncomfortable conversations always lead to growth every time. 1:19:45.240 --> 1:19:48.599 But you also realize that the uncomfortable conversations you're having 1:19:49.120 --> 1:19:52.400 isn't because that person just wants to be defiant or you. 1:19:52.520 --> 1:19:55.160 It's because y'all grew up differently. And I learned that 1:19:55.840 --> 1:19:59.200 my father in law never discussed with my wife finances. 1:20:00.040 --> 1:20:02.800 He was the bread well he wasn't. Well, this is 1:20:02.840 --> 1:20:07.439 another thing. My wife's mom was the breadwinner. Jamaican woman 1:20:07.560 --> 1:20:09.360 came over, became a nurse, director of nurse and she 1:20:09.400 --> 1:20:11.439 made over one hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year. 1:20:12.080 --> 1:20:16.160 Her father was a CNA. CNA's you know, they aren't wives. 1:20:16.200 --> 1:20:19.360 He made about forty five kids, but all the money 1:20:19.400 --> 1:20:23.479 they got collectively he bought property in the eighties and nineties, 1:20:24.360 --> 1:20:26.400 so here he wasn't the type of man that made 1:20:26.439 --> 1:20:28.720 a lot of money. On the salary, but he had 1:20:28.760 --> 1:20:32.439 the mental fortitude and the vision to buy multiple properties 1:20:32.479 --> 1:20:34.439 and put all of their kids through college with the 1:20:34.520 --> 1:20:37.800 properties he bought in equity within the So watching that, 1:20:38.000 --> 1:20:40.800 watching my dad, I said, Okay, it's my job as 1:20:40.840 --> 1:20:42.960 the man to make sure that we have a plan financially. 1:20:43.320 --> 1:20:45.360 But I don't want my wife to feel like she's 1:20:45.400 --> 1:20:47.760 a child in the house. And she got to come 1:20:47.840 --> 1:20:49.680 to me every day and be like, Babe, I want 1:20:49.720 --> 1:20:52.280 to get a nun. Here's your salary based on what 1:20:52.400 --> 1:20:54.599 you make. Here's my salary based on what I make. 1:20:55.320 --> 1:20:59.559 My salary goes to the kids like I just don't. 1:20:59.640 --> 1:21:02.120 I don't. I'm like, I'm gonna lie. My wife bought this. 1:21:02.360 --> 1:21:08.280 I was about to say, you want you want to 1:21:08.280 --> 1:21:13.800 hear a funny story? Funny stories. Thirty eighth birthday, my 1:21:13.920 --> 1:21:15.720 wife says to me. He's like, hey, baby, get up, 1:21:15.840 --> 1:21:19.200 You're going to the mall, like the mall, Like it's 1:21:19.280 --> 1:21:21.400 my birthday. Why the fuck we going to the mall. 1:21:21.520 --> 1:21:23.040 Like we go to the mall, we go to the jeweler. 1:21:24.040 --> 1:21:28.160 She goes, get whatever you want. I know that this 1:21:28.439 --> 1:21:31.320 is my wife. Now now now mind you, I'm the 1:21:31.479 --> 1:21:34.680 I'm the breadwinner. She'd be frinking. And when I tell you, 1:21:34.800 --> 1:21:36.040 I felt like a bad bitch in it. 1:21:36.160 --> 1:21:38.840 I was like, I was like, I can get down. 1:21:39.400 --> 1:21:44.280 Get I got this watch, I got this bracelet, I 1:21:44.360 --> 1:21:47.439 got this necklace, he said. And I was like, is 1:21:47.479 --> 1:21:48.960 this too much? Is too much? And she was like no, 1:21:49.160 --> 1:21:52.519 get it off. She's like, get it off. And then 1:21:52.520 --> 1:21:54.320 when she went and got she got me this because 1:21:54.360 --> 1:21:57.000 I don't I don't buy jewelry, so she got me 1:21:57.080 --> 1:21:59.840 all of these things. She got me all these things. 1:22:00.040 --> 1:22:01.840 You brought it for my birthday. This is why I 1:22:01.880 --> 1:22:03.400 wear it because I want people know she got me 1:22:03.439 --> 1:22:04.680 all of these van cleaves. I don't know what a 1:22:04.760 --> 1:22:05.280 vain clee was. 1:22:05.520 --> 1:22:08.800 I was like, no, that this that is expensive. 1:22:09.280 --> 1:22:13.520 That risks. She taught me about Van Cleave and Cardier bracelets. 1:22:14.400 --> 1:22:15.880 But I'm like, man, you get to do what you 1:22:15.960 --> 1:22:17.920 want to do as a woman. That's got to make 1:22:17.960 --> 1:22:20.479 you feel empowered. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Because 1:22:20.520 --> 1:22:21.519 she make home money. 1:22:21.600 --> 1:22:24.800 Period. Man, he is expensive. 1:22:25.920 --> 1:22:27.800 Now that's the fact. If a woman comes to me, 1:22:27.840 --> 1:22:31.280 I'm gonna be like listen, now, listen, I'll smash Can 1:22:31.320 --> 1:22:40.240 you get me an ap ice style? That's that's hilarious. 1:22:40.520 --> 1:22:42.880 I'm expensive. I'm a bad bitch. I'm expensive. I thought it. 1:22:44.120 --> 1:22:49.559 So now it's time take it into the big, big foul. 1:22:54.280 --> 1:22:58.800 We don't get in your business to look shoulder. That's 1:22:58.840 --> 1:22:59.920 my wife about the shoulder. 1:23:03.080 --> 1:23:14.400 I am so good. Okay, this is funny. 1:23:14.479 --> 1:23:14.719 Okay. 1:23:14.800 --> 1:23:18.240 So we were talking about snogamy earlier, right, and we 1:23:18.320 --> 1:23:21.640 were talking about you know you were You're saying like 1:23:22.000 --> 1:23:24.680 that is a decision that you made what you wanted to. 1:23:24.880 --> 1:23:29.040 But monogamy does look different for you know, everybody. So 1:23:29.400 --> 1:23:31.240 I just want to know, not saying that you do 1:23:31.360 --> 1:23:33.799 this or anybody. I'm just saying, what is your opinion 1:23:33.920 --> 1:23:37.519 on hall passes? And let me define hall passes for 1:23:37.720 --> 1:23:39.880 the big that are watching. So a hall pass is 1:23:39.920 --> 1:23:42.800 basically like a man or a woman they let their 1:23:42.880 --> 1:23:45.960 partner like, Okay, you can go out whatever it is 1:23:46.080 --> 1:23:48.000 like once a year, twice a year and do whatever 1:23:48.040 --> 1:23:51.040 you want with whoever you want, and that's your hall pass. 1:23:51.080 --> 1:23:53.719 I can't get mad. I don't ask you what. There's 1:23:53.760 --> 1:23:56.439 no conversation about it, and that's your hall pass. So 1:23:56.720 --> 1:23:58.200 how do you feel about hall passes? 1:23:58.560 --> 1:24:03.720 Me? Personally, I'm not a whole past god selfish. Yeah right, 1:24:03.800 --> 1:24:06.640 But I also understand that my wife is selfish. So 1:24:06.800 --> 1:24:08.600 when it comes to that, I know that I have 1:24:08.720 --> 1:24:11.559 to do my best to be everything she needs. People said, 1:24:11.560 --> 1:24:12.800 if I why you work out all the time. I 1:24:12.920 --> 1:24:14.479 work out all the time because when I get out 1:24:14.520 --> 1:24:16.840 the shower, I want my wife to look at me 1:24:17.360 --> 1:24:24.200 and be like, yeah, yeah, I got so I get 1:24:24.240 --> 1:24:28.439 out the shower and slow motion with you. I'm good 1:24:28.560 --> 1:24:31.599 with you. I'm like, you see this glisten. You see 1:24:31.680 --> 1:24:35.200 this glisten? Baby? Do you see the glisten? That's what 1:24:35.400 --> 1:24:38.560 I do, and I and I think it's important that 1:24:38.760 --> 1:24:41.719 men understand it's just important for us to keep ourselves 1:24:41.800 --> 1:24:44.720 up as we ask our women to keep ourselves up. 1:24:45.720 --> 1:24:47.920 I like a slim waist, fat ass, you know what 1:24:47.920 --> 1:24:50.680 I'm saying. Some some perky joint. Some I like the 1:24:50.880 --> 1:24:53.639 full lips. Yeah. I like a nice you know, nice, 1:24:53.720 --> 1:24:55.840 subtle makeup. I don't like too much makeup. I like 1:24:55.920 --> 1:24:58.800 subtle makeup, light beat, you know what I'm saying. Not 1:24:58.840 --> 1:25:01.000 too much contour. I don't like the contour too much. 1:25:01.000 --> 1:25:02.920 You know what I'm saying. I don't like that. Man. 1:25:02.960 --> 1:25:05.200 I got I got my demands. I feel you but 1:25:05.360 --> 1:25:07.599 my wife got her demands too, you know what I'm saying. 1:25:07.640 --> 1:25:09.320 So I got to stay six packed up. You know, 1:25:09.439 --> 1:25:13.040 she like broad shoulders, she like a big chest. I'm 1:25:13.080 --> 1:25:19.719 ab ump like im. Don't I cut I cut dairy 1:25:19.840 --> 1:25:22.479 out my dollet, I cut red meat. My wife told 1:25:22.520 --> 1:25:24.439 me what she like. I was like, okay, okay. She 1:25:24.680 --> 1:25:27.720 she like a strong man with a strong physique. So 1:25:27.800 --> 1:25:31.000 I still deadlift, I still squat, I still hang clean. 1:25:31.040 --> 1:25:34.479 Because if I got a picture I picked, I pick 1:25:34.560 --> 1:25:36.080 off up here, I'll be like, come on, baby, I 1:25:36.160 --> 1:25:37.679 put her on here. I just like, come on baby. 1:25:39.439 --> 1:25:41.960 Sometimes women like the lift up, you know, they like 1:25:42.040 --> 1:25:44.040 to climb on. And it's like, let me grab here. 1:25:44.080 --> 1:25:46.639 And just she's five five. 1:25:48.200 --> 1:25:53.599 Small right the average, and I'm five eleven. 1:25:53.840 --> 1:25:56.559 I'm five eleven, So I know most women prefer six 1:25:56.680 --> 1:25:59.360 oneing up. I said, I understand that, but I'm not 1:25:59.439 --> 1:26:02.680 six one. You know what I'm saying. But I'm strong though, 1:26:02.960 --> 1:26:04.600 no father love, it ain't too shy of it, but 1:26:04.680 --> 1:26:06.200 it ain't six to one. And I get you. And 1:26:06.240 --> 1:26:08.720 one thing I tell you, gentlemen, if you have deficiencies 1:26:08.800 --> 1:26:11.040 in your life, man, don't don't be upset about it. 1:26:11.160 --> 1:26:13.240 I could never be six to one. But what I 1:26:13.360 --> 1:26:15.880 will do is lift my ass so that I can 1:26:16.040 --> 1:26:17.760 you know, you know what I'm saying, And I eat 1:26:17.840 --> 1:26:20.240 right so that I can be here. You know what 1:26:20.280 --> 1:26:22.600 I'm saying. I don't do the two minute joint. If 1:26:22.640 --> 1:26:24.720 we're gonna be honest, I know. I am the type 1:26:24.760 --> 1:26:29.160 of lover I love so never a quickie. Sometimes I 1:26:29.240 --> 1:26:30.920 don't like quickies. You want to know why I don't like. 1:26:31.520 --> 1:26:34.360 I don't like long sakes either, though I get that 1:26:35.360 --> 1:26:36.920 she don't like long So we got four kids, she 1:26:36.920 --> 1:26:39.559 don't got time for all, but she do like to orgasm. 1:26:39.680 --> 1:26:41.680 I think it needs, Yeah, it needs to be a 1:26:41.760 --> 1:26:42.679 good amount of time. 1:26:42.800 --> 1:26:46.880 But but so we we've been married for a long 1:26:46.960 --> 1:26:49.599 time and not for nothing. Men do like the long 1:26:49.680 --> 1:26:52.160 sex sessions because we like to be in there. We 1:26:52.320 --> 1:26:55.360 like to see y'all. Yeah, but I've learned to understand. 1:26:55.400 --> 1:26:58.599 I've understood that if you're not helping your women get 1:26:58.640 --> 1:27:01.800 to her place, you can't have long sessions. I've also 1:27:01.960 --> 1:27:04.320 learned that if she gets to her place too fast, 1:27:04.400 --> 1:27:06.760 it's gonna be over. So what I learned how to 1:27:06.800 --> 1:27:10.160 do is help my wife edge, which means I'll keep 1:27:10.200 --> 1:27:12.080 her on the like, this is this is my move. 1:27:12.400 --> 1:27:14.320 You know I'm gonna put y'all up on because they 1:27:14.360 --> 1:27:17.439 don't know this is my this is my thing. I'm 1:27:17.479 --> 1:27:19.000 gonna tell you the game, this is what you do, 1:27:21.000 --> 1:27:23.559 this is what you do. Tell you, I'm gonna tell 1:27:23.560 --> 1:27:26.720 you that's what you do. Right. I love to see 1:27:26.760 --> 1:27:29.559 my woman enjoy sex. For the first thing I'm gonna 1:27:29.560 --> 1:27:31.400 do is I'm gonna put my mouth on it. You 1:27:31.439 --> 1:27:32.840 know what I'm saying. I got nice lips. I know 1:27:32.920 --> 1:27:34.560 women like my lips, so I make sure that she 1:27:34.720 --> 1:27:39.360 did right. Then what I do is I make sure 1:27:39.400 --> 1:27:42.080 it's right there to the point, and then I stop. 1:27:43.040 --> 1:27:45.880 Then I beat that thing up. Because when I beat 1:27:45.920 --> 1:27:50.479 that thing up, because now she's edging, I feel like no. 1:27:50.800 --> 1:27:53.120 I think it's important for men and women to understand 1:27:53.160 --> 1:27:56.120 that men don't only think about themselves when it comes 1:27:56.160 --> 1:27:58.679 to sex. I get her right to where she edges. 1:27:58.920 --> 1:28:00.760 Then I beat that thing up. And then when I'm 1:28:00.800 --> 1:28:04.000 beating that thing up getting what I want and I 1:28:04.160 --> 1:28:07.000 know that I'm about to, that's when I stopped. That's 1:28:07.000 --> 1:28:08.880 why y'all go. Then I put a back on her 1:28:08.920 --> 1:28:11.040 back and I say, baby, hold this one more time, 1:28:11.439 --> 1:28:12.000 and then I just. 1:28:16.960 --> 1:28:18.280 There you putting this drink. 1:28:18.560 --> 1:28:21.519 Then I make I make them means I get them 1:28:21.600 --> 1:28:24.800 legs shaking. I'm gonna get them legs shaken. I'm gonna 1:28:24.840 --> 1:28:29.280 get them lugs shaking. Once the legs starts shaking, that's 1:28:29.320 --> 1:28:35.720 when I get behind that joint and I just you 1:28:35.800 --> 1:28:37.240 see the should I get behind. 1:28:37.040 --> 1:28:41.640 That, he'll be beating that up. 1:28:41.840 --> 1:28:46.280 Four kids later, baby, okay one half? Four kids? Was 1:28:46.320 --> 1:28:47.600 that like the golf was it? 1:28:47.760 --> 1:28:48.000 Just like? 1:28:48.120 --> 1:28:48.439 Okay? 1:28:48.720 --> 1:28:51.120 We both we had them three we both came from Okay. 1:28:51.680 --> 1:28:53.639 So I told her in college, I only have boys. 1:28:53.640 --> 1:28:55.680 I don't have girls. And I told her that right, 1:28:56.400 --> 1:28:59.679 I'm not lying, but I wanted a girl. You don't 1:28:59.680 --> 1:29:02.240 wanted the girl because I felt like my wife deserved 1:29:02.280 --> 1:29:04.479 a little version of her that she. 1:29:04.520 --> 1:29:06.640 Could groom into being, you know, and want have been 1:29:06.680 --> 1:29:09.960 so cute because y'all kids are extremely. 1:29:11.080 --> 1:29:11.120 That. 1:29:11.360 --> 1:29:13.479 That's crazy though, because I think my sister is like that. 1:29:13.640 --> 1:29:14.679 She only has boys. 1:29:15.000 --> 1:29:16.800 Yeah, She's like, does she want to have another one? 1:29:17.640 --> 1:29:19.360 I think they do. I think they do. 1:29:19.600 --> 1:29:21.720 But she's like, I can't deal with this. She's like, 1:29:21.760 --> 1:29:24.040 I'm in the house with three boys. 1:29:24.320 --> 1:29:24.760 Three men. 1:29:26.120 --> 1:29:28.920 That's what I'm saying. So for your wife, oh lord, 1:29:28.960 --> 1:29:29.920 And I've. 1:29:29.760 --> 1:29:31.800 Been following you and your wife on social media for 1:29:31.880 --> 1:29:33.320 a while because, like I said, I'm a I'm a 1:29:33.360 --> 1:29:36.600 fan of listens and I love y'all dynamic too. But 1:29:36.840 --> 1:29:39.120 like I know that y'all said, y'all not gonna have 1:29:39.360 --> 1:29:40.040 any more kids. 1:29:40.160 --> 1:29:42.000 You can't. Yeah, you can't have any more kids. I 1:29:42.000 --> 1:29:45.040 gotta rect me know that's right. You see, he needed 1:29:45.160 --> 1:29:50.000 one the alone, like I didn't need one. 1:29:50.160 --> 1:29:51.240 That show. 1:29:52.720 --> 1:29:57.320 Y'all we are the Only reason why God to a 1:29:57.400 --> 1:29:59.800 sected me is because she was postpartum, yeah, I think 1:30:00.360 --> 1:30:02.799 after the last one, and she got on birth control. 1:30:02.880 --> 1:30:04.960 But the birth control made her knee mick and I 1:30:05.120 --> 1:30:06.720 was like, Yo, you've already did enough to give us 1:30:06.760 --> 1:30:10.439 for kids. Let me do my parts. Plus I thank you. 1:30:10.520 --> 1:30:14.040 I received that, But I also was being selfish, and 1:30:14.200 --> 1:30:16.200 I knew that if I had a resected me and 1:30:16.240 --> 1:30:18.120 she didn't have to worry about it, she would be 1:30:18.200 --> 1:30:21.960 more inclined to be you know what I'm saying, I 1:30:22.040 --> 1:30:25.000 am freaking so listen. I will say this about monogamy. 1:30:25.040 --> 1:30:29.960 This is why I enjoy monogamy. I'm nasty clearly. I 1:30:30.160 --> 1:30:33.160 like to I like to lick and kiss, and I 1:30:33.360 --> 1:30:35.880 like i'm I'm I'm the type of guy that kay, 1:30:35.960 --> 1:30:38.360 come up here, sit up, sit up here, let me. 1:30:38.920 --> 1:30:40.640 You can't do that whatever, But do you feel like 1:30:40.720 --> 1:30:43.400 that's why y'all's relationship in y'all marriage have lasted so 1:30:43.479 --> 1:30:44.599 long because y'all keep his spike. 1:30:44.760 --> 1:30:49.439 Absolutely, I'm allowed to be the sexual being that I 1:30:49.560 --> 1:30:52.360 am because my wife embraces it. I don't. I don't 1:30:52.400 --> 1:30:55.479 come home and have to deal with that's my camera man, 1:30:56.560 --> 1:30:58.960 My camera man over there, that's my boy Matt. He 1:30:59.080 --> 1:31:02.400 will tell you around nine thirty, right, no matter how 1:31:02.439 --> 1:31:04.880 many people we got in the house, Kadeen is gonna 1:31:04.880 --> 1:31:06.720 go put on some red shorts they say co ed 1:31:06.840 --> 1:31:09.679 on the back. It's gonna be a crop top. Matt 1:31:09.960 --> 1:31:12.240 will be the one to say, yo, trying to wrap 1:31:12.360 --> 1:31:15.800 this ship up because she knows what her husband needs. 1:31:16.840 --> 1:31:21.080 She knows my oldest son, Jackson knows Jackson. 1:31:20.800 --> 1:31:22.880 Will come to me like that, Oh I have a jackson, 1:31:22.960 --> 1:31:27.880 my nephew's Jackson, and you'll be like, you. 1:31:27.920 --> 1:31:31.280 Know, And that's the responsibility as a man. My responsibility 1:31:31.360 --> 1:31:33.200 is provided make sure that I give everything I have 1:31:33.280 --> 1:31:36.320 sexualy to my wife. My wife understands that it's my opportunity, 1:31:36.560 --> 1:31:39.000 it's my obligation to make sure my husband's good. 1:31:39.280 --> 1:31:42.479 But I love that fun too. It's say I love 1:31:42.520 --> 1:31:45.519 that like I love hearing their perspectiveness because it makes 1:31:45.600 --> 1:31:49.920 you actually look forward to being married, which which makes 1:31:49.960 --> 1:31:54.800 me have a question for you. Okay, y'all. So now 1:31:54.920 --> 1:31:57.760 it is our item of the Week segment, and y'all know, 1:31:57.920 --> 1:32:01.759 y'all can inquire about having your featured on four Minds. 1:32:02.160 --> 1:32:04.840 And we have our first product here. 1:32:05.160 --> 1:32:07.600 We have our first product, you guys. It's called La 1:32:07.680 --> 1:32:12.479 La land Cosmetics. I have one the creamy red lip gloss. 1:32:12.560 --> 1:32:15.400 It's called such an Aries. It's so pretty and look 1:32:15.400 --> 1:32:19.320 at the packageing I love. I love that it's bling bling. 1:32:21.080 --> 1:32:24.800 Oh okay, so but it's so pretty though. 1:32:24.960 --> 1:32:28.920 Yeah, you're a lipstick lip gloss connis, you know, so 1:32:29.120 --> 1:32:32.240 talk about like the texture of it, the shine, the sheen, 1:32:32.439 --> 1:32:33.280 all that good stuff. 1:32:33.560 --> 1:32:35.760 So I love the texture of it. It's very much 1:32:35.920 --> 1:32:39.160 non sticky. I hate a super sticky lip gloss. It's 1:32:39.240 --> 1:32:43.000 not sticky at all. It's very creamy. And I've been 1:32:43.000 --> 1:32:45.719 having it all for you know, hours, so we've been last. 1:32:46.960 --> 1:32:48.559 It's real cute and look at the pigmy. 1:32:48.680 --> 1:32:52.000 I like that, So y'all know me. I am a 1:32:53.160 --> 1:32:56.200 highlighter girly. I love a good highlight. So she also 1:32:56.320 --> 1:32:58.679 sent us and shout out to La La This brand 1:32:58.800 --> 1:33:03.559 is actually it's vegan and cruelty free, and it's black owned, 1:33:03.680 --> 1:33:06.519 so you are supporting a black owned business. So I 1:33:06.600 --> 1:33:08.519 don't know if y'all remember a long time ago when 1:33:08.520 --> 1:33:12.120 they used to have the Anastasia Beverly Hills highlighter palettes. 1:33:12.479 --> 1:33:14.960 The girl's not doing highlighter palates no more. And you 1:33:15.040 --> 1:33:18.320 can also use this as a bless you girl, use 1:33:18.400 --> 1:33:21.680 it as an eyeshadow. So I actually have on the 1:33:21.840 --> 1:33:23.080 Sunset highlighter. 1:33:23.880 --> 1:33:25.080 And the good thing. 1:33:25.040 --> 1:33:28.760 About this palette is it gives you options, Okay, And 1:33:28.880 --> 1:33:30.880 she sent a brush with us, so she does have 1:33:31.040 --> 1:33:34.920 highlighter brushes. Brushes very soft and went on super smooth. 1:33:35.040 --> 1:33:38.280 And I always love a gold highlight. I think on 1:33:38.400 --> 1:33:41.000 that brown skin, it just gives like I've been sitting 1:33:41.000 --> 1:33:44.880 in the sun all day. Yes, so yes, shout out 1:33:44.920 --> 1:33:47.680 to La La land Cosmetics. I love the highlighter. And 1:33:47.880 --> 1:33:52.639 then she also has a what's it called the Chocolate 1:33:53.080 --> 1:33:56.640 chocolate lit bloss set. So I have on box of 1:33:56.760 --> 1:33:59.479 chocolate li box of chocolate lipt gloss set. So I 1:33:59.600 --> 1:34:02.840 put on the rees kisses. It's like a nude color. 1:34:03.240 --> 1:34:05.280 And one thing I love because they be forgetting about 1:34:05.479 --> 1:34:07.879 the brown skin girls when it comes to nude colors. 1:34:08.240 --> 1:34:11.599 So these are like nude for like the women of color. 1:34:12.120 --> 1:34:14.200 So it has like a darker brown in there, like 1:34:14.320 --> 1:34:18.760 a darker kind of like pinkish chocolate chocolate color. But 1:34:18.840 --> 1:34:20.880 I have on the more like nude pink and I 1:34:21.000 --> 1:34:23.479 put it on with a brown lipliner, a dark brown 1:34:23.520 --> 1:34:27.800 lipliner and a clear gloss. And baby, I'm just a 1:34:27.960 --> 1:34:29.960 I stick to the same colors on my lip. 1:34:30.120 --> 1:34:32.400 And I feel like this chocolate brown color will be 1:34:32.479 --> 1:34:35.559 perfect for the fall. Y'all, fall is coming up, So yeah, 1:34:35.600 --> 1:34:38.160 this would be really really cute with like a chestnut lipliner. 1:34:39.080 --> 1:34:39.600 I love that. 1:34:39.960 --> 1:34:42.680 So make sure y'all go to La La Land Cosmatics 1:34:42.840 --> 1:34:44.759 dot com. We're gonna put the link in the bio 1:34:44.880 --> 1:34:48.200 for y'all. It's shop use code poorror and you'll get 1:34:48.240 --> 1:34:51.479 fifteen percent off of your first order. You know, support 1:34:51.560 --> 1:34:56.400 a small, own black business. That highlighter palette she did 1:34:56.479 --> 1:34:57.160 her big one and. 1:34:57.240 --> 1:34:58.800 These lip gloss too, y'all see it? 1:35:00.479 --> 1:35:00.599 Oh? 1:35:00.720 --> 1:35:02.840 Yeah, Like I wanted to ask you because, like I 1:35:02.920 --> 1:35:06.200 feel like, your beautiful family, your beautiful wife, so many 1:35:06.439 --> 1:35:09.560 people look up to y'all as couple goals. So do 1:35:09.600 --> 1:35:12.439 you ever feel the pressure to be a couple goals? 1:35:13.400 --> 1:35:15.320 It's funny. It's funny you ask that question because the 1:35:15.479 --> 1:35:17.720 first thing I hate, the whole couple of goals things. Yes, 1:35:17.840 --> 1:35:19.800 in this conversation, I realized I don't think that there's 1:35:19.840 --> 1:35:23.240 one monolithic way to describe a couple. So when you 1:35:23.360 --> 1:35:25.439 say a couple goals, people are asking, we all got 1:35:25.520 --> 1:35:27.240 to be that way? Know the fuck you don't? You know? 1:35:27.280 --> 1:35:29.200 You know what I'm saying. Nobody has to emulate me 1:35:29.320 --> 1:35:31.200 and Kadeen to be a couple goals. So I hate it, 1:35:31.240 --> 1:35:34.880 but I do understand why we get that label. I 1:35:34.920 --> 1:35:37.840 don't think it's pressure because I'm just being myself. Yeah, 1:35:38.520 --> 1:35:42.880 if I wasn't truly in love and wasn't truly monogamous 1:35:42.920 --> 1:35:45.000 and didn't really value my wife, it be pressure because 1:35:45.000 --> 1:35:46.519 I'm like, I got to keep this shit up, but 1:35:46.640 --> 1:35:49.280 I really get to wake up in the morning, look 1:35:49.280 --> 1:35:51.599 at my wife, love her, love my kids, love my life, 1:35:51.640 --> 1:35:53.200 and just live it, you know what I'm saying. So 1:35:53.479 --> 1:35:56.080 I don't feel a need to put on. This is 1:35:56.120 --> 1:35:57.920 who I am. I can talk about my wife and 1:35:58.439 --> 1:36:00.760 all day and not feel like putting on because this 1:36:00.800 --> 1:36:01.519 is how we live. 1:36:01.640 --> 1:36:04.320 You know. I love that for y'all. I love that 1:36:04.400 --> 1:36:06.160 for her because I'm not gonna lie. Like I said, 1:36:06.200 --> 1:36:08.960 I'm not a man, but my being a woman in 1:36:09.040 --> 1:36:12.120 my experience at dating, you know, y'all both have something 1:36:12.280 --> 1:36:15.519 very rare and beautiful. So it's good to see a 1:36:15.640 --> 1:36:22.000 healthy relationship but also people that not not admire but appreciate. 1:36:22.200 --> 1:36:22.639 I appreciate. 1:36:22.760 --> 1:36:26.280 Yeah, yeah, seeing the appreciation. I think everybody can see 1:36:26.320 --> 1:36:29.280 that and be like, okay, it's possible because I think 1:36:29.360 --> 1:36:31.479 for us as black women, like she said, getting in 1:36:31.560 --> 1:36:33.280 our thirties, you kind of lose hope a little bit. 1:36:33.680 --> 1:36:36.000 You lose hope to finding your partner or your forever. 1:36:36.040 --> 1:36:37.439 You'd be like, you know what, I'm okay with this, 1:36:37.560 --> 1:36:40.679 and I'm okay with that, but you know that gives 1:36:40.840 --> 1:36:43.040 us hope. And I think that's okay, not necessarily being 1:36:43.120 --> 1:36:45.519 couple goals, but just letting us know like, hey, there's 1:36:45.520 --> 1:36:48.200 still good men out here. Not everybody's the same, not 1:36:48.320 --> 1:36:50.519 all women are the same. So I think that it's 1:36:50.640 --> 1:36:53.760 good that we see not necessarily be a couple goals, 1:36:53.800 --> 1:36:56.600 but we need to see healthy black relationships. We need 1:36:56.680 --> 1:37:00.960 to see men being fathers because to stick theistically, men 1:37:01.080 --> 1:37:01.639 are fathers. 1:37:01.720 --> 1:37:03.240 Yes, especial black households. 1:37:03.400 --> 1:37:06.200 Yes, we all have this narrative about debt beat dads, 1:37:06.280 --> 1:37:07.719 but the black. 1:37:07.520 --> 1:37:09.880 Men are in the house, and statistically, the black men 1:37:10.000 --> 1:37:12.799 is the most active father in the household. 1:37:12.880 --> 1:37:14.519 And that's something I didn't even know. I had to 1:37:14.640 --> 1:37:17.280 educate myself on that. So I think that it's just 1:37:17.400 --> 1:37:20.439 important for us to see that. And even though it's 1:37:20.520 --> 1:37:22.800 like social media we like to say is not real life, 1:37:22.840 --> 1:37:26.120 but like you said earlier in the episode, people are 1:37:26.240 --> 1:37:27.760 looking at social media for their news. 1:37:27.840 --> 1:37:27.960 Now. 1:37:28.640 --> 1:37:31.320 When I was literally updating myself last night on the 1:37:31.720 --> 1:37:34.160 I was on Google, like, okay, electoral college, let me 1:37:34.200 --> 1:37:36.479 see what the numbers are. I'm not looking at seeing in, 1:37:36.560 --> 1:37:38.439 I'm not looking Fox. I'm just looking at the numbers. 1:37:38.479 --> 1:37:42.360 So we use our phones for infacs absolutely, So unfortunately 1:37:42.640 --> 1:37:46.600 and fortunately for us, people watch us for okay, educate me, 1:37:47.240 --> 1:37:49.320 meet me something that I need to know so I 1:37:49.400 --> 1:37:51.719 think that even though you don't like the couple goals, 1:37:51.760 --> 1:37:54.040 I think it's important that people see what you're doing. 1:37:54.439 --> 1:37:56.760 Now. I received that, and first of all, I thank 1:37:56.840 --> 1:37:59.120 y'all for forgiving me this platform to speak on it. 1:37:59.240 --> 1:38:02.400 But I do I do think that it's unfair for 1:38:02.840 --> 1:38:04.479 us to make it seem as if Kadeen and I 1:38:04.600 --> 1:38:07.840 were the first people to live like this, right. Truth 1:38:07.880 --> 1:38:09.599 of the matter is is that we're just the first 1:38:09.640 --> 1:38:12.880 people to pick a phone up. Yeah, and let people say, 1:38:13.080 --> 1:38:14.439 you know what I'm saying, like, I am just a 1:38:14.479 --> 1:38:17.439 reflection of my dad. I'm a reflection of my uncles 1:38:17.479 --> 1:38:19.280 and my grandfather. So I can't sit here and make 1:38:19.320 --> 1:38:22.560 it seem like listen follow me. Yeah, No, that's not 1:38:23.160 --> 1:38:25.120 And every day I wake up thinking like, yo, Devada, 1:38:25.120 --> 1:38:25.960 don't fuck this up. 1:38:26.439 --> 1:38:29.040 But I feel like it's amazing though, because you're pouring 1:38:29.240 --> 1:38:32.800 into like the younger generations that didn't get to grow 1:38:32.920 --> 1:38:34.240 up around it the way that you did. 1:38:34.360 --> 1:38:36.400 Well, I'm delibered with that. When I was in college 1:38:36.479 --> 1:38:41.960 nineteen years old, my sophomore professor, Professor Traciaty, access to 1:38:42.000 --> 1:38:44.920 write a mission statement. The mission statement I came up 1:38:44.960 --> 1:38:47.000 with each day I worked to build a legacy, not 1:38:47.120 --> 1:38:49.960 to be defined by my greatness, but by the masses 1:38:50.000 --> 1:38:53.280 I inspire to be greater than myself. I grew up 1:38:53.400 --> 1:38:56.720 idolizing Michael Jackson, and it wasn't because he could dance 1:38:56.760 --> 1:38:59.400 and he could sing. I idolized him because he had 1:38:59.600 --> 1:39:03.120 massive of people who followed him. When he talked about 1:39:03.160 --> 1:39:05.200 healing the world, when he talked about it doesn't matter 1:39:05.240 --> 1:39:07.760 if you're black and white. I watched masses of people 1:39:07.800 --> 1:39:09.840 be like, Yeah, if Michael Jackson can do this, I can. 1:39:10.240 --> 1:39:11.640 And I just felt like, you know what, we have 1:39:11.800 --> 1:39:16.240 a greater responsibility and in fact, the fiduciary responsibility as people, 1:39:16.720 --> 1:39:18.760 to pay it forward. You know what I'm saying, Like 1:39:18.840 --> 1:39:20.519 it's it's not enough to just say I'm gonna do 1:39:20.600 --> 1:39:22.880 this for me and my family. No, we should share 1:39:23.200 --> 1:39:25.439 so that masses after us can say, you know what, 1:39:25.560 --> 1:39:27.240 I want to live like that. I mean, that's what 1:39:27.439 --> 1:39:31.080 Jesus lived on all of these religious people. Jesus wasn't 1:39:31.120 --> 1:39:33.080 out here saying looks and I'm the son of the 1:39:33.160 --> 1:39:37.040 son of God. I'm perfect. Jesus was amongst the rapist, 1:39:37.680 --> 1:39:42.200 the sinners, the disciples. He turned water into wine he 1:39:42.320 --> 1:39:45.680 sat down with the worldliest of the worldleiest and just 1:39:45.720 --> 1:39:48.519 showed them a different way. He didn't judge them, He 1:39:48.640 --> 1:39:50.760 didn't say I'm perfect, be like me. He just said, hey, 1:39:50.800 --> 1:39:53.840 let's let's build right. And that's and I'm not saying 1:39:53.880 --> 1:39:56.200 that I'm Jesus because I know how the in and 1:39:56.320 --> 1:39:56.720 that can be. 1:39:57.120 --> 1:39:57.920 They're gonna flip it. 1:40:00.920 --> 1:40:08.000 On the Poor Minds episode he canceled. I knew him 1:40:08.000 --> 1:40:11.360 and his wife wasn't perfect like this, and there you know, 1:40:11.520 --> 1:40:13.479 they crazy, they crazy. 1:40:13.920 --> 1:40:16.639 What's up y'all? As your girl XP and it's Sugarl 1:40:16.720 --> 1:40:17.320 Dre and the call. 1:40:17.760 --> 1:40:18.080 Y'all know. 1:40:18.200 --> 1:40:20.760 We have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of 1:40:20.840 --> 1:40:22.719 the Week. 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We're gonna figure it out. 1:40:56.400 --> 1:41:00.120 Get your product, get your business sponsored, and yeah, thank 1:41:00.120 --> 1:41:00.639 you some money. 1:41:01.680 --> 1:41:03.760 We love Tore. A small business man. 1:41:03.760 --> 1:41:09.120 In a black business said that, But I mean anybody, smad, 1:41:10.120 --> 1:41:15.559 any business is welcome, obviously. Like I said, I love Sisters, 1:41:15.600 --> 1:41:18.800 Like I've been watching so much one I am tuned in. Yes, 1:41:19.240 --> 1:41:23.160 I love you and Fatima. Then you're on the Teama Yes. 1:41:23.680 --> 1:41:26.120 And then you also have a new movie coming out. 1:41:26.200 --> 1:41:30.760 Well it just came out today, come out today xlix. 1:41:31.520 --> 1:41:33.760 Yes on Netflix. So I definitely want to talk to 1:41:33.800 --> 1:41:36.920 you about Sisters. Like, let's talk about Zach and his 1:41:37.160 --> 1:41:41.679 character development. Okay, let's talk he has changed so much. 1:41:41.960 --> 1:41:45.320 Yes, Zach was a young man dealing with recidivism when 1:41:45.360 --> 1:41:48.360 we first met him, didn't have anything to his name. 1:41:48.760 --> 1:41:50.679 He was making money. He was trying to give Danny 1:41:50.720 --> 1:41:52.719 money so that he can stay there once in a while. 1:41:53.320 --> 1:41:57.120 He wasn't the best boyfriend, and he gave Karen an STD. 1:41:57.360 --> 1:42:00.919 He was, you know, not not pretty, not not advanced 1:42:01.200 --> 1:42:03.599 when it comes to being an adult. He was behind 1:42:03.680 --> 1:42:06.240 the totem poland and we learned a lot about his character. 1:42:06.360 --> 1:42:09.479 But I enjoyed playing is the role of Zach because 1:42:09.600 --> 1:42:12.519 Zach is so many young men. Maybe you're not dealing 1:42:12.560 --> 1:42:14.639 with recidivism or deal with being in and out of prison, 1:42:14.720 --> 1:42:17.320 but I remember my early twenties being lost and not 1:42:17.479 --> 1:42:19.280 knowing who I was or who I was going to be. 1:42:19.680 --> 1:42:21.599 So we get a chance to watch Zach go through 1:42:21.600 --> 1:42:24.360 a come innovage story. He meets a black woman who 1:42:24.479 --> 1:42:27.960 is powerful and strong, who's able to give him empathy 1:42:28.400 --> 1:42:31.080 and have the strength to go, you know, deal with 1:42:31.320 --> 1:42:34.600 him through his trials and tribulations, which I understand for 1:42:34.680 --> 1:42:36.360 a lot of black women. Black women say, man, why 1:42:36.400 --> 1:42:38.160 we got to deal with struggle love all the time? 1:42:39.000 --> 1:42:41.400 You know? But when I watch Sisters, and I watched 1:42:41.439 --> 1:42:43.080 the Team, but the one thing I say about struggle 1:42:43.120 --> 1:42:45.840 love is that struggle love is Black love. You know, 1:42:45.960 --> 1:42:49.120 most of us don't come from parents who've had money. 1:42:49.880 --> 1:42:51.600 Most of us come from a place where we have 1:42:51.720 --> 1:42:53.800 to get it from the ground up. So when I 1:42:53.880 --> 1:42:55.680 look as a team and I look at Sisters, I say, 1:42:55.760 --> 1:42:58.920 this is our story. Everything isn't happy, everything is in 1:42:59.080 --> 1:43:00.960 rainbows and sunshine. It's work. 1:43:01.120 --> 1:43:02.920 I think That's why people really love it though, because 1:43:02.920 --> 1:43:04.840 I think people can see the parts of their selves. 1:43:04.960 --> 1:43:05.200 Yeah. 1:43:05.240 --> 1:43:08.400 Absolutelyships, absolutely, and Fatima's relationship on the show. 1:43:08.560 --> 1:43:13.000 Absolutely, Yeah, absolutely, I enjoy planes at So you are. 1:43:13.000 --> 1:43:15.200 In the Tyler Perry universe. Yeah, obviously. 1:43:15.520 --> 1:43:15.680 Yes. 1:43:15.920 --> 1:43:18.639 I gotta ask this because how is y'all filming schedule? 1:43:18.640 --> 1:43:20.479 Because you know they'd be saying he filmed movies in 1:43:20.520 --> 1:43:21.120 thirty minutes. 1:43:21.560 --> 1:43:25.759 I filmed twenty five episodes in seven days, by Tyler. 1:43:25.960 --> 1:43:27.800 But Crystal told us that too when she came on 1:43:27.840 --> 1:43:28.080 the show. 1:43:28.080 --> 1:43:29.400 Shout out to Crystal, like, girl. 1:43:29.680 --> 1:43:32.000 What's up? Chris? Now, I think people need to understand 1:43:32.040 --> 1:43:34.640 the business aspect of it and what Tyler's trying to create. Right, 1:43:34.800 --> 1:43:39.760 So I'll give you an example. You're a producer. You 1:43:39.920 --> 1:43:45.599 get a budget of thirty million dollars. Thirty million dollars, right, people, 1:43:45.680 --> 1:43:46.439 there's a lot of money. 1:43:46.720 --> 1:43:46.880 Yeah. 1:43:47.240 --> 1:43:49.680 Do you know how far thirty million dollars goes on 1:43:49.800 --> 1:43:56.200 the traditional TV set? Not that far? Five episodes? Maybe six? Yeah, 1:43:56.240 --> 1:43:59.120 I figured that maybe six. Yeah. What Tyler has figured 1:43:59.160 --> 1:44:00.840 out is a way by So you're talking about anywhere 1:44:00.840 --> 1:44:04.040 between five to six million in episode. Tyler spends about 1:44:04.080 --> 1:44:07.600 seven hundred and fifty thousand in episode. You see what 1:44:07.640 --> 1:44:11.040 I'm saying. You see what I'm saying. But here's the thing. 1:44:11.080 --> 1:44:13.760 You know, with TPS, I'm glad you said that all 1:44:13.840 --> 1:44:16.160 of the actors, everybody on there makes more money in 1:44:16.200 --> 1:44:19.120 that two weeks than they ever made. You see that, 1:44:19.880 --> 1:44:22.240 But sometimes the things don't look the same as someone 1:44:22.280 --> 1:44:27.200 who's doing an episode for two weeks. You gotta understand. 1:44:29.120 --> 1:44:31.360 And let me be sitting in the living room for 1:44:31.439 --> 1:44:32.960 thirty minutes, it's the whole episode. 1:44:33.000 --> 1:44:35.080 Who you telling I'd be in the motherfucker And let 1:44:35.160 --> 1:44:38.840 me ask you. You laughing like, I don't know you 1:44:38.960 --> 1:44:40.920 ever get a thing? So let me tell you something, right, 1:44:41.400 --> 1:44:44.360 I got me. Let me I'm gonna talk about this. 1:44:45.560 --> 1:44:49.519 A scene in television is typically one page for one minute. Yeah, 1:44:50.200 --> 1:44:52.360 I get my scene sometimes for team and I'm like, 1:44:52.400 --> 1:44:55.760 this is fifteen fucking pages. Yeah, that's fifteen minutes me 1:44:55.880 --> 1:44:58.840 on the same thing. Yeah, But then you realize, I 1:44:58.920 --> 1:45:02.679 gotta make this entertaining for the viewers. If you do theater, 1:45:03.520 --> 1:45:06.519 sometimes you have a scene in theater that may be 1:45:06.680 --> 1:45:09.880 fifteen minutes. If you are a thestpian, you find a 1:45:09.920 --> 1:45:12.680 way to make what you do entertaining. If you're not 1:45:12.800 --> 1:45:15.080 a theestpion and you're a person that just wants to 1:45:15.160 --> 1:45:17.479 be presented in the most beautiful way possible and you 1:45:17.479 --> 1:45:19.720 don't want to do no work, that fifteen minutes is 1:45:19.760 --> 1:45:22.679 going to be fucking hell. And the truth is, sometimes 1:45:22.760 --> 1:45:25.280 it happens to people who act with you. They don't 1:45:25.320 --> 1:45:25.840 know what it is. 1:45:26.040 --> 1:45:26.080 Like. 1:45:26.560 --> 1:45:30.000 The truth is, Sisters is a soap opera. 1:45:30.720 --> 1:45:31.000 It is. 1:45:31.280 --> 1:45:34.040 It is a soap opera in prime time, which is 1:45:34.080 --> 1:45:37.559 what we don't see. Soap operas happen every single day. 1:45:38.240 --> 1:45:40.720 Sisters happens every week, so a lot of people and 1:45:40.760 --> 1:45:43.040 maybe like, oh, this is slow, this is slow. When 1:45:43.080 --> 1:45:45.479 you watch soap operas every day, you're getting something every 1:45:45.520 --> 1:45:46.160 single day, so. 1:45:46.640 --> 1:45:47.519 It never finishes. 1:45:48.160 --> 1:45:50.080 I get it too. And the thing is I get it. 1:45:51.200 --> 1:45:51.680 Talk about it. 1:45:51.840 --> 1:45:53.880 He don't never make us wait too long. It'd be 1:45:54.000 --> 1:45:55.799 like three months in between seasons. 1:45:56.000 --> 1:45:56.560 Talk about it. 1:45:57.840 --> 1:46:01.920 Stap in my foot, like shoot twenty five episodes and 1:46:02.000 --> 1:46:02.519 a wake. 1:46:02.479 --> 1:46:03.080 Betch but. 1:46:04.640 --> 1:46:06.720 Drop in a month. I gotta ask you, do you 1:46:06.880 --> 1:46:08.200 ever get your scripts though? 1:46:08.320 --> 1:46:12.360 And you'll be like, no, you're fucking lying, because Sisters 1:46:12.479 --> 1:46:16.920 is so chaotic, like it's just like kidding me, Like 1:46:17.000 --> 1:46:19.240 when I found out that Karen was pregnant with your 1:46:19.320 --> 1:46:22.840 baby and a preacher, man, I was like, and it 1:46:22.960 --> 1:46:25.160 only happens to like one percent of people. 1:46:25.640 --> 1:46:28.439 I was like, Tyler Perry being so fucking for. 1:46:28.520 --> 1:46:29.200 Real right now. 1:46:29.760 --> 1:46:33.000 I just knew it wasn't gonna be your baby, true. 1:46:33.479 --> 1:46:35.680 I bean, Matt is over there. Matt will say, I'll 1:46:35.680 --> 1:46:39.320 be getting the script sometimes and I'll be like, I'm 1:46:39.360 --> 1:46:41.040 not saying none of the words just on that page. 1:46:41.800 --> 1:46:44.760 Am I lying? I'm not? But and I had a 1:46:44.800 --> 1:46:47.880 conversation with Tyler, uh huh, And I said to Tyler, 1:46:47.960 --> 1:46:49.599 I said, yo, tea man, like like, come on, man, 1:46:49.680 --> 1:46:52.040 what we doing? And this is this is how you 1:46:52.120 --> 1:46:53.599 know somebody really knows. 1:46:53.800 --> 1:46:55.960 And Karen been pregnant for like false seasons, but. 1:46:57.800 --> 1:46:59.800 It hasn't been forced. It been like three he's been 1:47:00.479 --> 1:47:06.559 six seasons. She was pregnant season three, no on season eight, three, four, five, six, 1:47:06.640 --> 1:47:08.639 seven day Crazy season. 1:47:08.760 --> 1:47:10.439 And see I was giving grace sometime. 1:47:10.479 --> 1:47:13.640 I three scenes. Because you gotta understand, each episode is 1:47:13.800 --> 1:47:18.120 only the morning portion of that episode. But we watched 1:47:18.160 --> 1:47:21.920 this week, it's the morning, next week the afternoon. The 1:47:22.080 --> 1:47:28.400 following week is I'm just being honest. That's so when 1:47:28.479 --> 1:47:30.960 you watched three weeks of television, You're like this three 1:47:30.960 --> 1:47:33.800 weeks of a pregnancy. No, that's one day. You've watched 1:47:33.960 --> 1:47:36.960 that pregnancy for three weeks. You see what I'm saying. 1:47:37.040 --> 1:47:38.639 And I know she ain't gonna have a baby still 1:47:38.680 --> 1:47:39.120 next season. 1:47:39.240 --> 1:47:41.760 Now, I'm gonna tell you the genius of Tyler because 1:47:41.800 --> 1:47:44.120 I said to them, I was like, yo, man, I 1:47:44.200 --> 1:47:45.800 think that we should I think we should not. I 1:47:45.880 --> 1:47:48.400 went forty five minutes. I was saying we should do this, 1:47:48.520 --> 1:47:51.320 and you know, my generation thinks and we shouldn't. And 1:47:51.520 --> 1:47:53.200 he sat there and he listened right, and he said 1:47:53.240 --> 1:47:56.360 the value done. I said, yeah, I'm done. He said, 1:47:57.120 --> 1:48:00.200 you think I made over three billion dollars up? 1:48:00.240 --> 1:48:00.719 Real bad? 1:48:00.800 --> 1:48:03.880 Sorry it ate me the fuck up bad. I said, 1:48:05.400 --> 1:48:07.760 no you didn't. But he's just so listen to me. 1:48:08.439 --> 1:48:14.000 I know my audience. I write from my audience. So 1:48:14.120 --> 1:48:16.000 then I said, well, what do you mean by your audience? 1:48:16.360 --> 1:48:19.599 He says, most people do content thinking. I can expand 1:48:19.720 --> 1:48:22.559 over all these different genres. I can expand for these people. 1:48:22.960 --> 1:48:25.880 I write for the people who support me. And then 1:48:25.920 --> 1:48:27.920 when I thought about the people who support him, I'm 1:48:27.920 --> 1:48:31.160 thinking the Bible Belt. I'm thinking about black women between 1:48:31.200 --> 1:48:34.200 the ages of twenty five to sixty five. And I 1:48:34.280 --> 1:48:38.000 said to myself, those women grew up watching what soap 1:48:38.040 --> 1:48:40.080 operas general because. 1:48:39.840 --> 1:48:42.439 They loves you see what I'm saying. 1:48:42.560 --> 1:48:45.200 People have a lot. I'll be complaining about the seasons. 1:48:44.840 --> 1:48:47.200 But I've tuned in. You know what I'm saying. But 1:48:47.840 --> 1:48:51.599 they do that. I don't constantly complain about Tyler Perry, 1:48:51.640 --> 1:48:53.559 but every time he drops a movie it's number one. 1:48:53.600 --> 1:48:55.680 Every time he drops Beauty and Blade, it goes to 1:48:55.760 --> 1:49:00.400 number Oh, Beauty finish. I finished Beauty in Black. It 1:49:00.479 --> 1:49:01.160 was afternoon for you. 1:49:01.320 --> 1:49:06.200 You see what I'm saying, les, I swear to let's 1:49:06.240 --> 1:49:09.920 some must clap this, you bro the whole half of 1:49:09.960 --> 1:49:16.760 the season, it was afternoon. Now just finished. I'll give 1:49:16.800 --> 1:49:18.920 you a contrast, and then you'll you'll be like, oh, 1:49:18.960 --> 1:49:21.479 you know what, I get it? Fast and Furious has 1:49:21.520 --> 1:49:27.200 how many movies and tennis? They complain every time a 1:49:27.320 --> 1:49:29.920 new fashion of Furious comes out? Right, and every time 1:49:29.960 --> 1:49:31.559 it comes out, what is it in the box office? 1:49:32.080 --> 1:49:34.839 Number one? Number one? So who cares about who complains? 1:49:35.680 --> 1:49:38.080 You can complain because you don't watch it. Or if 1:49:38.120 --> 1:49:40.040 you do watch it, why are you watching every week 1:49:40.120 --> 1:49:43.280 and complaining me? You know what I'm saying. It's like 1:49:43.400 --> 1:49:46.040 people complain about content like Fast and Furious. It's a 1:49:46.080 --> 1:49:48.920 lot of them, they watch it, people complain about it. 1:49:49.000 --> 1:49:52.639 It's number one. Tyler is a businessman. He's a content creator, 1:49:52.720 --> 1:49:56.040 and he understands that this, this film, or this show 1:49:56.600 --> 1:49:59.400 was made for a specific group of people. It ain't 1:49:59.439 --> 1:50:03.160 made for everybody else who's gonna complain? It's made for them? 1:50:03.760 --> 1:50:07.160 And those are the people who are typically forgotten. How 1:50:07.240 --> 1:50:11.400 many films or projects, For example, Precious Precious was a 1:50:11.479 --> 1:50:13.840 movie that would have never ever gotten made if it 1:50:13.920 --> 1:50:18.240 wasn't an Oprah Winfrey and Tyler peer Right, it won 1:50:18.280 --> 1:50:21.920 an Oscar. Monique won in Oscar. I think Gabaret citebe 1:50:22.040 --> 1:50:24.639 won in Oscar. If it wasn't for those people Tyler 1:50:24.680 --> 1:50:26.920 Perry and Oprah Winfrey and Lee Daniels who knew that 1:50:27.000 --> 1:50:28.960 this audience would love this film, it would have never 1:50:29.000 --> 1:50:31.200 gotten made. You see what I'm saying. 1:50:31.920 --> 1:50:34.080 I will never be mad at Tyler Perry too, because 1:50:35.080 --> 1:50:38.000 I'm not an actress and I'm not in Hollywood, but 1:50:38.240 --> 1:50:40.400 I will say we've had a lot of actors and 1:50:40.439 --> 1:50:42.240 actresses sitting on the couch and they talk about how 1:50:42.280 --> 1:50:45.640 hard it is to get rolls keeps, he keeps the 1:50:45.760 --> 1:50:46.400 people paid. 1:50:47.240 --> 1:50:49.360 I'll tell you, oh no, I was just gonna say. 1:50:49.560 --> 1:50:51.840 And I feel like, at least for me, I be 1:50:51.920 --> 1:50:55.560 complaining because Tyler Perry don't give us the instant gratification, 1:50:55.800 --> 1:50:58.040 Like people be wanting instant gratification, Like I don want 1:50:58.080 --> 1:51:00.760 to know what the fuck is gonna happen, and he 1:51:00.960 --> 1:51:03.559 do not let you know right away. He gonna he gonna, 1:51:03.720 --> 1:51:05.720 it's gonna go on for seasons. 1:51:05.320 --> 1:51:09.600 And he be edging. He'd be since we back on that. 1:51:10.000 --> 1:51:20.000 I like that, since like edging, and he is a 1:51:20.200 --> 1:51:20.880 pro added. 1:51:21.280 --> 1:51:25.799 But the shows are so good you can't stop watching 1:51:26.360 --> 1:51:28.120 so good, so it's like you're gonna complain, gonna be like, 1:51:28.160 --> 1:51:30.719 come on, like when we gonna know what the climax 1:51:30.880 --> 1:51:33.080 is the then you can't stop watching. I'll tell you 1:51:33.120 --> 1:51:33.720 he's a pro with it. 1:51:33.800 --> 1:51:35.920 That's why he he sayed three billion. 1:51:37.479 --> 1:51:40.320 Here's the thing. He won't be considered three billion liquid 1:51:40.400 --> 1:51:42.080 for a couple of years, but I can tell you 1:51:42.240 --> 1:51:45.160 right now that man is worth more than three billion dollars. 1:51:45.280 --> 1:51:48.639 I believe you more than three billion dollars. And another 1:51:48.760 --> 1:51:51.200 thing is I've made more money working with Tyler Perry 1:51:51.200 --> 1:51:53.479 than I ever made as a professional athlete. But I 1:51:53.560 --> 1:51:56.479 made even more money with the information he gave me, 1:51:56.680 --> 1:51:59.639 just like fifty cents when it came time to contracts, 1:51:59.640 --> 1:52:02.080 when it came time to letting people. For example, I'll 1:52:02.120 --> 1:52:05.680 tell y'all this is podcasts I went. I met with 1:52:05.760 --> 1:52:10.320 Tyler in twenty nineteen after we did Sisters. We talked 1:52:10.360 --> 1:52:13.160 and he gave me the story about the ninety ten rule. 1:52:13.680 --> 1:52:16.120 When he went to CBS. CBS had offered him his 1:52:16.200 --> 1:52:18.519 own television show and they were just like, oh, we 1:52:18.600 --> 1:52:20.640 got writers, we got people, and Tyler was like, I 1:52:20.680 --> 1:52:22.760 don't need that, I'll do it, and they were like, oh, 1:52:22.800 --> 1:52:24.599 we really don't do it that way. So we walked away, 1:52:25.080 --> 1:52:28.080 went to TBS, went to TBS and got his own 1:52:28.120 --> 1:52:31.519 TV show where he got ninety percent and the company 1:52:31.560 --> 1:52:33.840 got ten percent because he put his own money up 1:52:34.960 --> 1:52:37.200 House of Pains. And then after House of Pain came 1:52:37.280 --> 1:52:40.560 Meet the Brown. He was super successful with my podcast. 1:52:41.320 --> 1:52:43.840 When I was first for Stitcher, they undershot me. They 1:52:43.880 --> 1:52:45.680 didn't know the value of the black dollar, and they 1:52:45.680 --> 1:52:48.639 didn't know the value of black following right at Stitcher. 1:52:48.720 --> 1:52:50.479 They said to me just like, hey, you know, you know, 1:52:51.240 --> 1:52:53.639 we'll give you a fifty thousand dollar bonus. You gotta 1:52:53.720 --> 1:52:56.839 get fifty thousand dollars downloads in the first six months 1:52:56.920 --> 1:52:58.920 and all this other stuff. And I was like, I'm 1:52:58.960 --> 1:53:04.040 cool on the bonus and They're like, excuse me because 1:53:04.040 --> 1:53:05.880 I knew my value. Yeah, And I was like, I 1:53:05.880 --> 1:53:09.960 don't want to I want fifty revenue share everything. Hello. 1:53:10.479 --> 1:53:13.599 I only noticed because I had been talking to Tyler 1:53:14.520 --> 1:53:17.080 and they were just like, they were like, wait a minute, 1:53:17.080 --> 1:53:19.040 So we don't got to give you fifty thousand. I said, no, 1:53:19.360 --> 1:53:22.920 I want ownership. Dead Ass Podcast is mine. I want 1:53:22.960 --> 1:53:25.759 that name, and I also want I want the ability 1:53:25.880 --> 1:53:29.160 to put it on digital content video and you don't 1:53:29.200 --> 1:53:32.559 own it. You know what? They said, Sure, go ahead 1:53:32.600 --> 1:53:34.920 the vow. You think you're going to get fifty thousand 1:53:35.000 --> 1:53:38.200 downloads first week of Dead Ass Post Podcast. Guess how 1:53:38.280 --> 1:53:44.160 many downloads? Nope? IM think yes, I'll sell two hundred 1:53:44.160 --> 1:53:47.439 and seventy five thousand. So you know what happened with that. 1:53:48.040 --> 1:53:50.040 They had to pay me fifty thousand dollars in the 1:53:50.120 --> 1:53:52.720 first week because we had surpassed to fifty thousand. Hello, 1:53:52.840 --> 1:53:54.960 you had to pay me that every single week now 1:53:55.080 --> 1:53:57.760 every single month because we had the revenue share. Yeah, 1:53:58.120 --> 1:54:00.240 but I learned that from Tyler because it's like them 1:54:00.320 --> 1:54:04.320 underestimate you. Let them underestimate the black value, the black dollar, 1:54:04.479 --> 1:54:07.200 black viewership. And that's what they always do to tire. 1:54:07.439 --> 1:54:10.200 They always underestimate black viewership. Right, and you know what 1:54:10.360 --> 1:54:13.320 Viacom does. Viacom comes in here, Tyler will give you 1:54:13.400 --> 1:54:15.800 this and see what you do. Number one, number one, 1:54:15.880 --> 1:54:19.800 number one, number one, every time, Netflix, number one, number one, 1:54:20.560 --> 1:54:22.960 Amazon every number one, number one. 1:54:22.960 --> 1:54:31.960 I mean, right there, i'morne, y'all watch this motherfucking show. 1:54:32.080 --> 1:54:32.920 You see what I'm saying. 1:54:33.480 --> 1:54:37.240 Like he's whether people like it or not, they still 1:54:37.280 --> 1:54:39.240 be talking. I'm a person who I just be feeling 1:54:39.360 --> 1:54:44.440 like you know all Public City is always talking about 1:54:44.520 --> 1:54:47.560 it every time he drops something. It's number one trending. 1:54:48.200 --> 1:54:49.840 Got off topic a little bit, but talk about the 1:54:49.920 --> 1:54:57.680 new movie. Yes, yes, yes, Christmas movie Chris talk about 1:54:57.720 --> 1:54:58.560 that's me me. 1:54:58.640 --> 1:55:02.839 Next Christmas comes out today on Netflix, starring Christina Milion, myself, 1:55:02.960 --> 1:55:07.240 and Kobe Saribo. I'm excited about it because and then 1:55:07.440 --> 1:55:09.480 Tyler will admit to this too, but it's outside of 1:55:09.560 --> 1:55:12.080 the Tyler verse, which means I get to do something 1:55:12.120 --> 1:55:14.360 on my own, outside of that universe to show my 1:55:14.520 --> 1:55:17.920 value not only Tyler, but to BT two Netflix, to 1:55:18.000 --> 1:55:20.200 the people and say, hey, Devala is a draw. So 1:55:20.320 --> 1:55:22.440 this was an opportunity for me to showcase what I 1:55:22.520 --> 1:55:27.400 can do. Christina Milion like she's legend. Come dip it low, 1:55:27.800 --> 1:55:34.040 pick it up slow, come. 1:55:33.880 --> 1:55:36.120 On now, like that's the movie that she did with 1:55:36.240 --> 1:55:41.480 Nick Cannon. That was her character's name, Perry. 1:55:41.800 --> 1:55:42.040 Come on. 1:55:42.840 --> 1:55:46.280 I'll be like, oh my gosh, she is just so beautiful, beautiful. 1:55:46.760 --> 1:55:49.320 Here's here's the thing. She's an even more beautiful person 1:55:50.120 --> 1:55:50.600 in person. 1:55:50.840 --> 1:55:53.440 She's good at rom com she is, she's really. She 1:55:53.520 --> 1:55:55.840 has a few Netflix rom coms. I watched all of them. 1:55:56.240 --> 1:56:00.280 She's good. She's good. She's good. So to me, this 1:56:00.640 --> 1:56:02.360 was like a no brainer. I want to expand myself 1:56:02.400 --> 1:56:05.240 as an artist. 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That's the fact. 1:57:50.920 --> 1:57:52.200 Okay, So this is the question. 1:57:52.280 --> 1:57:53.840 You think you would good as you think you give 1:57:53.880 --> 1:57:56.720 good advice. I don't. I don't think i'll give good advice. 1:57:56.800 --> 1:57:59.000 How I think? Did I give my perspective? How you 1:57:59.040 --> 1:58:01.360 can take it or leave it? Figure? If you don't 1:58:01.440 --> 1:58:03.720 want to throw that motherfucker out, all right, well be 1:58:03.840 --> 1:58:06.680 about to get the veiled perspective get him. 1:58:06.840 --> 1:58:09.200 I've been following you guys for about four or five 1:58:09.320 --> 1:58:11.320 years now, and I always feel in tune with you 1:58:11.400 --> 1:58:14.840 guys weekly and I look forward to Friday's religiously. It's 1:58:14.920 --> 1:58:18.080 always so enlightening that I connect with most topics each week. 1:58:18.440 --> 1:58:21.400 I'm a leo. I just turned thirty in July. I 1:58:21.480 --> 1:58:23.480 have an eight year old daughter, and I just left 1:58:23.520 --> 1:58:26.920 the most stereotypical one and a half year jail relationship. 1:58:27.120 --> 1:58:29.920 Who wasn't her father. I met him through my friend 1:58:30.000 --> 1:58:32.800 who I've known since middle school. We always plan to 1:58:32.880 --> 1:58:35.400 be on love after lockup. Once he was close to 1:58:35.520 --> 1:58:37.400 a date, and now that he. 1:58:38.040 --> 1:58:41.240 You rode into the show, LEXI, what may go ahead, Dre? 1:58:41.440 --> 1:58:43.160 I just not see. 1:58:45.960 --> 1:58:49.400 Oh my fucking godess see what I jumped on you? 1:58:49.800 --> 1:58:51.560 I see you? You said like, wait a minute, Oh 1:58:51.680 --> 1:58:52.360 y'all about the love? 1:58:52.440 --> 1:58:55.400 This next port? What y'all about the love? This next word? 1:58:55.960 --> 1:58:56.440 She said? 1:58:56.560 --> 1:58:59.000 And now that he is home, he ended things with 1:58:59.120 --> 1:59:02.040 me saying I'm not for him. Such a blessing. I 1:59:02.200 --> 1:59:05.960 wasn't embarrassed on TV like that, l L. It felt 1:59:06.040 --> 1:59:08.000 like I was literally stabbed in the heart and I 1:59:08.120 --> 1:59:10.440 seen the future with him. I knew there was something 1:59:10.520 --> 1:59:13.000 off by intuition, and I would ask and he would 1:59:13.000 --> 1:59:15.520 say he was locked in and he's with me. He 1:59:15.600 --> 1:59:18.680 sent me, gives money, seen and talked to him daily 1:59:18.760 --> 1:59:22.120 and weekly until he didn't need me anymore and he 1:59:22.320 --> 1:59:26.120 was close to release. I feel like I dodged a bullet, 1:59:26.200 --> 1:59:27.760 and I also feel stupid as hell. 1:59:28.160 --> 1:59:28.840 But I say this. 1:59:29.680 --> 1:59:32.880 I say this to say that this week's episode y'all 1:59:32.960 --> 1:59:35.560 made me feel like the show must go on and 1:59:35.680 --> 1:59:37.960 I need to focus on me way more lo ill 1:59:38.040 --> 1:59:39.080 and it's nothing wrong with it. 1:59:39.200 --> 1:59:39.920 I love you guys. 1:59:40.040 --> 1:59:42.480 Y'all are like my big sissies for real, and God 1:59:42.600 --> 1:59:45.560 does amazing things through you too, So I guess it 1:59:45.600 --> 1:59:46.280 wasn't really a question. 1:59:46.320 --> 1:59:52.560 It was that's what girl Na was locked up. 1:59:55.200 --> 1:59:57.160 And let me tell y'all because I say. 1:59:57.080 --> 1:59:59.600 This a lot, lad, you loved that nigga alone? 1:59:59.640 --> 2:00:01.720 Since I glad we helped you come to your sensey 2:00:02.240 --> 2:00:05.400 what I mean, but I mean a man he was 2:00:05.480 --> 2:00:06.520 already in jail. 2:00:07.000 --> 2:00:09.440 She happy to leave that nigga alone because God said 2:00:09.520 --> 2:00:11.000 I he loved first. 2:00:11.560 --> 2:00:17.240 He was like, which was a blessing in disguise. He said, 2:00:17.560 --> 2:00:19.400 we locked in, ain't no switching up sight. 2:00:23.000 --> 2:00:26.240 So how do you feel about women dating men in jail? 2:00:26.520 --> 2:00:28.760 She said they were gonna be on love after lock up? 2:00:30.560 --> 2:00:33.080 Like, what are you doing to cry? 2:00:34.360 --> 2:00:34.840 Talk about that? 2:00:34.960 --> 2:00:35.800 SELEXI a nigga? 2:00:35.800 --> 2:00:41.280 Don't leave me? Oh my god? Man, so, oh my god. 2:00:45.720 --> 2:00:50.320 It was a very chaotic question. I mean, she said, 2:00:50.320 --> 2:00:52.000 I was with this dude. As soon as he got out. 2:00:52.040 --> 2:00:56.200 He was just like, yeah, he said, man, okay, So 2:00:58.320 --> 2:01:04.280 oh man, wow. First thing I realized she's thirty. Y'all 2:01:04.440 --> 2:01:07.080 going to hell? Person, I'm gonna say y'all going to hell. 2:01:07.400 --> 2:01:09.040 Both of y'all going to hell, for you for reading 2:01:09.120 --> 2:01:11.600 that question out loud, and for you for laughing and 2:01:11.680 --> 2:01:14.080 making them jokes. And I'm trying to be serious trying 2:01:14.120 --> 2:01:18.360 to help this young lady. It's the first thing I'm 2:01:18.360 --> 2:01:22.600 gonna say. She's thirty, she has an eight year old. 2:01:23.440 --> 2:01:25.280 The fact that she was dating someone in lock up 2:01:25.320 --> 2:01:27.800 and she probably hasn't met tells me that she probably 2:01:27.840 --> 2:01:30.600 has some self esteem issues. If you feel you have 2:01:30.680 --> 2:01:32.760 to just go jump to a dude that's locked up 2:01:32.800 --> 2:01:35.120 that you met through your middle school friend and you 2:01:35.240 --> 2:01:37.800 can't meet someone that's out, means you don't value yourself. 2:01:37.920 --> 2:01:38.760 You can't meet the man. 2:01:39.440 --> 2:01:42.280 You can't meet him at that's free. I didn't say that, 2:01:42.440 --> 2:01:46.120 let's y'all, don't say that. What you starting trump? I 2:01:46.200 --> 2:01:50.360 didn't say that's where, but I meant that. I didn't 2:01:50.360 --> 2:01:53.240 say it, but I meant that. LEXI say what I meant, 2:01:53.280 --> 2:01:56.160 because I'm not trying to get canceled. I said, I 2:01:56.240 --> 2:01:59.200 didn't say that, but I but I said that. All right. 2:02:00.240 --> 2:02:01.960 If a woman is like, you know, I gotta go 2:02:02.120 --> 2:02:04.120 find somebody who's locked up, I don't think her self 2:02:04.240 --> 2:02:07.280 esteem is good. I think that you dodge the bullet. 2:02:08.080 --> 2:02:11.360 I think that you have to focus on yourself and 2:02:11.440 --> 2:02:14.440 also your eight year old child. You don't gotta worry 2:02:14.440 --> 2:02:16.920 about chasing men. If you are catch and you out 2:02:16.960 --> 2:02:19.760 here in parenting and being the best version of yourself, 2:02:20.560 --> 2:02:25.320 the right man will come for you. Hopefully he'll be free. Okay, 2:02:25.480 --> 2:02:26.720 not see you. 2:02:29.920 --> 2:02:30.120 Better? 2:02:30.760 --> 2:02:32.040 You know what, you know what you're right. 2:02:32.520 --> 2:02:34.880 Let me see but let me but let me say 2:02:34.920 --> 2:02:38.040 this to her. Let me say this to hear and 2:02:38.200 --> 2:02:41.880 all women out there and even man too. When you 2:02:42.280 --> 2:02:48.320 really truly love yourself, I'm gonna say something good. You 2:02:49.000 --> 2:02:52.280 never know what's not but for real, because I went 2:02:52.400 --> 2:02:54.880 through a time in my life, like in my early 2:02:55.000 --> 2:02:57.960 thirties where I was just like doing anything, and I say, 2:02:58.040 --> 2:03:03.200 this is so somebody, Yeah, you've never done it. 2:03:03.640 --> 2:03:08.040 Never. She had never, never, she had me. 2:03:08.560 --> 2:03:11.720 She's like, that's beneath me, that is beneath me. If 2:03:11.760 --> 2:03:14.640 he don't try, if he on trial or he got out, 2:03:15.000 --> 2:03:17.280 I'm with that. But in jail, I not doing that. 2:03:21.120 --> 2:03:23.480 So you would data Zach, you would date, you would 2:03:23.520 --> 2:03:27.080 date a Zach a x con No. I know plenty 2:03:27.120 --> 2:03:30.360 of I I know plenty of good x cons. 2:03:30.400 --> 2:03:34.480 Okay, but it depends on like what what murder? 2:03:34.880 --> 2:03:34.920 No? 2:03:35.440 --> 2:03:37.880 No, if you can murder somebody, you might murder me. 2:03:38.240 --> 2:03:40.280 So how about what if what if I told you 2:03:40.360 --> 2:03:41.320 a stat that you didn't know. 2:03:41.720 --> 2:03:44.760 I don't want to know stats about no murder, I 2:03:45.240 --> 2:03:45.920 true crime. 2:03:46.960 --> 2:03:47.000 No. 2:03:47.640 --> 2:03:50.440 Over eighty percent of the inmates who are in jail 2:03:50.880 --> 2:03:55.440 are in jail because they they they accepted a plea deal, 2:03:56.280 --> 2:03:57.440 finds that they didn't come. 2:03:59.680 --> 2:04:03.240 But guess what A hundred percent can't get me. That's 2:04:03.360 --> 2:04:04.760 my statistic. 2:04:04.360 --> 2:04:10.440 Iry to help you all out in jail. 2:04:10.640 --> 2:04:13.280 Like dating somebody in jail, it's crazy me now I 2:04:13.400 --> 2:04:16.440 have dated. It's a reformed hoom I used. 2:04:16.280 --> 2:04:18.880 To love me or reformed hood nigga back in the day. 2:04:19.440 --> 2:04:20.200 I've changed. 2:04:20.360 --> 2:04:23.680 I'm wrong, but I feel like they desire a chance 2:04:23.760 --> 2:04:27.840 to I won't get you a chance, but I know 2:04:27.960 --> 2:04:28.680 a lot of X con. 2:04:28.800 --> 2:04:31.160 That's what I'm saying. So different people accept different things, 2:04:31.240 --> 2:04:34.000 But this is what I was saying. When you truly, 2:04:34.360 --> 2:04:40.040 truly love yourself, you will not accept anything beneath that. 2:04:40.120 --> 2:04:42.440 When you treat yourself well, when you love yourself, when 2:04:42.440 --> 2:04:45.040 you just work on yourself, you won't even be in 2:04:45.120 --> 2:04:47.160 a situation where a man can be in jail and 2:04:47.200 --> 2:04:49.320 get out and you felt used and abuse. 2:04:49.400 --> 2:04:52.880 I agree with Yeah, so you have to really, Yeah, 2:04:53.000 --> 2:04:53.600 you gotta really. 2:04:53.720 --> 2:04:56.160 When you really love yourself and you know the value 2:04:56.480 --> 2:04:58.400 and what you bring to the table, you're not gonna 2:04:58.400 --> 2:05:01.960 accept no bullshit. And it takes a while to get there. 2:05:02.080 --> 2:05:04.640 But whether he left you, or you left him, or 2:05:04.760 --> 2:05:06.960 you dodge the bullet, at least you realize that now 2:05:07.280 --> 2:05:08.600 and you can do what you need to do to 2:05:08.680 --> 2:05:09.120 move forward. 2:05:09.640 --> 2:05:11.720 I agree with that. I agree with that. Let me 2:05:11.840 --> 2:05:15.240 preach now, go ahead, let the words. 2:05:15.320 --> 2:05:17.440 I don't got three billion, but I got three dollars. 2:05:17.920 --> 2:05:21.000 Talk about it, talk about it. Lets you know what 2:05:21.080 --> 2:05:23.000 I'm saying. We ain't even do the bob. 2:05:23.240 --> 2:05:26.280 That's all right, we gotta Okay, we ain't gonna do 2:05:26.320 --> 2:05:26.560 the bob. 2:05:27.040 --> 2:05:28.160 Let him know what? What's THEO? 2:05:29.760 --> 2:05:31.840 Another week? Okay? Well, what do you were about? What 2:05:32.560 --> 2:05:33.560 you've been jamming? This week? 2:05:36.000 --> 2:05:38.320 I've been listening to changes by Tupac. I was this 2:05:38.480 --> 2:05:41.480 government and this is this election that had me, you know, 2:05:41.560 --> 2:05:44.480 it's had me stressed. So I've been listening to changes 2:05:44.480 --> 2:05:47.800 about to because I'm old LEXI, I swear to God, 2:05:47.800 --> 2:05:52.800 I'm gonna fight you when this camera go up. We 2:05:52.880 --> 2:05:56.760 don't stop, but we the like. I swear to god, 2:05:57.640 --> 2:06:02.000 we're almost the same ass. Y'all are how old are 2:06:02.000 --> 2:06:02.680 you five? 2:06:02.840 --> 2:06:03.480 I'm thirty five. 2:06:03.800 --> 2:06:09.440 I'm thirty three. Oh yeah, we ain't that. They're right 2:06:09.520 --> 2:06:10.560 there too. You know what I'm saying. 2:06:10.640 --> 2:06:12.680 I talk tupac changes. Did you ever see that video 2:06:12.680 --> 2:06:13.600 of Santana's working? 2:06:13.640 --> 2:06:14.200 It changes? 2:06:15.520 --> 2:06:17.080 Okay, you seen He. 2:06:17.200 --> 2:06:19.920 Don't know you've seen this first of all, said saying, 2:06:19.960 --> 2:06:22.480 this is my mans a rock with Santana. We did 2:06:22.560 --> 2:06:24.880 some stuff together, but I'm not gonna watch a video 2:06:24.960 --> 2:06:28.880 with something and it went viral. Why would I watch that? 2:06:29.000 --> 2:06:30.440 Though I don't know it went. 2:06:30.400 --> 2:06:32.720 Virals ant I come up on your timeline. 2:06:32.760 --> 2:06:35.040 It ain't gonna not play just because you fwiped up. 2:06:35.200 --> 2:06:37.040 He said that. Yeah, but you said if I watched it, 2:06:37.440 --> 2:06:37.680 I can. 2:06:37.960 --> 2:06:38.160 I can. 2:06:38.280 --> 2:06:40.360 I can look up and I can see Santana talking 2:06:40.360 --> 2:06:42.440 about some Oh that's just funny. I can look up 2:06:42.480 --> 2:06:45.440 and see Santana's working and just swipe that motherfucker. So 2:06:45.560 --> 2:06:47.160 I didn't see him. That's a good. I'm not trying 2:06:47.200 --> 2:06:50.640 to see him t work. That's just my man. I'll 2:06:50.680 --> 2:06:52.680 take your work and I'll just be like. 2:06:54.240 --> 2:06:59.200 Not Santana, let us know when I could find your podcast, 2:06:59.360 --> 2:07:01.200 what days it drives, where they can find you and 2:07:01.280 --> 2:07:01.960 all that good stuff. 2:07:02.240 --> 2:07:05.120 Well, you can find me at Imdavao on all platforms, 2:07:05.200 --> 2:07:07.480 the Dead Ass podcast That's Dead Ass with Kadeen and 2:07:07.520 --> 2:07:09.440 the Vale. You can find us there. You can watch 2:07:09.520 --> 2:07:12.720 Meet Me Next Christmas today November sixth on Netflix. Make 2:07:12.760 --> 2:07:17.280 sure you watch Sisters on BT and Zatima on BT Plus. 2:07:17.800 --> 2:07:19.600 I feel like we gotta have you back on the show. 2:07:19.680 --> 2:07:20.560 You and your wife. 2:07:20.840 --> 2:07:24.440 We gotta have that would be I think, y'all funny. 2:07:25.520 --> 2:07:26.160 We gotta have her. 2:07:26.320 --> 2:07:29.120 I think y'all can bring the parts of Kadeen out 2:07:29.160 --> 2:07:31.160 that people don't know because Kadeena hood chicks, she's for 2:07:31.960 --> 2:07:35.000 and she's so used to being like, you know, put together, 2:07:35.280 --> 2:07:36.920 and this would be fun for her. 2:07:38.200 --> 2:07:38.360 Y'all. 2:07:38.400 --> 2:07:40.840 Definitely, we'll definitely come back. We'll definitely go. 2:07:41.080 --> 2:07:44.120 But thank y'all tuning in. Make sure y'all subscribe to 2:07:44.320 --> 2:07:47.960 our Patreon. New episodes drop every Monday. Y'all. 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Should men should men pay bill? 2:09:11.160 --> 2:09:12.160 Should men pay bill? 2:09:12.320 --> 2:09:12.640 Yes? No? 2:09:13.960 --> 2:09:16.240 Check answer below block block. 2:09:18.880 --> 2:09:20.440 Like that's literally what the captions? 2:09:20.600 --> 2:09:28.160 I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba Claude claud were 2:09:28.200 --> 2:09:28.840 ready hobby. 2:09:29.120 --> 2:09:32.000 Got a little something something. 2:09:31.560 --> 2:09:40.800 In my bedroom? Oh yeah, so girl, please don't be. 2:09:44.880 --> 2:09:47.480 There's a meeting in my there's. 2:09:47.320 --> 2:09:50.360 Amazing in my bedroom. 2:09:55.880 --> 2:10:02.320 So please don't make me away you. I know I'm waiting. 2:10:02.400 --> 2:10:06.400 There's a meaning and there's a meeting in my bedroom. 2:10:08.080 --> 2:10:11.880 Looking at my roading, girl, I see it's almost time. 2:10:13.680 --> 2:10:18.920 Oh yeah, oh yeah, got a little something signing for 2:10:19.200 --> 2:10:26.600 my sexy. No no, no, no, I like having you around, 2:10:26.880 --> 2:10:34.280 so I gotta put you down. I like I said, 2:10:34.400 --> 2:10:37.400 run wrong words. I don't know what I'm saying. 2:10:38.800 --> 2:10:47.720 So be there. There's amazing in my bedroom. Room never. 2:10:51.760 --> 2:10:59.920 So girl, please don't be. There's meaning in my bedroom. 2:11:00.160 --> 2:11:09.600 There's a meaning and moaning my benerom Laura loa, So girl, 2:11:09.880 --> 2:11:11.000 don't mean me. 2:11:11.400 --> 2:11:16.960 Way my bet. 2:11:17.280 --> 2:11:19.120 There's a meeting in my bed. 2:11:19.600 --> 2:11:28.200 Yea step into me casso layer down boom, Mama, Hana, 2:11:29.200 --> 2:11:33.200 got a little sun sumthing on my sexy. 2:11:34.360 --> 2:11:36.440 My mom, Mama. 2:11:37.480 --> 2:11:40.839 Been checking for you since day one yr my mooning 2:11:40.960 --> 2:11:43.160 you're my son, love. 2:11:43.360 --> 2:11:49.400 No real, do you chicking? And you know that I'm stilling, 2:11:49.560 --> 2:11:50.560 yesty lo. 2:11:51.960 --> 2:12:07.960 So be therebesquare yo, So girl, please don't be lave me. 2:12:09.080 --> 2:12:09.960 Don't be lame. 2:12:11.160 --> 2:12:26.920 Don't be lame, don't be lame. Ro man. Okay, you 2:12:27.000 --> 2:12:32.800 know what the bed Bozlers, the bear bolers, We ain't 2:12:32.880 --> 2:12:33.360 that ship. 2:12:33.720 --> 2:12:40.000 And we'll see y'all next week. My Mama, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Mama, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Mama, 2:12:40.080 --> 2:12:40.400 Ma Ma. 2:12:40.600 --> 2:12:45.440 Mom Hey ma Ma. 2:12:48.720 --> 2:12:56.320 Ma Ma, Ma, Ma Ma, Mama, Mama, Ma, my mama. 2:12:58.080 --> 2:13:01.640 What you're going to now, What you're going to now? No, 2:13:01.800 --> 2:13:05.720 I don't know, Yeah, yeah, I don't know the words. 2:13:06.120 --> 2:13:08.560 Don't care. We're in my room, y