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Speaker 2: And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mine,

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Speaker 2: we gotta guess, Saday. So, first of all, y'all have

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Speaker 2: Thank you happy to have you on the show that

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Speaker 1: Then, Okay, okay, okay, let's do that. Let's do that.

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Speaker 1: Come on, man, I knew because I knew y'all be

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Speaker 1: trying to do a little one too. Period. But no

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Speaker 1: And years before that, I had did fifty cents funeral video.

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Speaker 1: He was like, don't worry about the views. What you

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Speaker 1: First thing I thought was fifty was right. Yeah, he

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Speaker 2: Yeah, shout out to fifty cent.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that resonates with us too, though, because

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Speaker 1: That shows you the value of consistency. Yeah, which most

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The first thing I will say that I've learned as

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Speaker 1: And I'm unapologetic about it.

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Speaker 2: So you be standing on bing this when you say

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Speaker 1: partnership when I want to have sex, or when you

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Speaker 1: want to have sex, at least have a discussion about it.

436
00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,359
Speaker 1: It can't just always be when you want it. And

437
00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:04,359
Speaker 1: some women dragged me was just like, it's my body,

438
00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:05,880
Speaker 1: you can't tell me when. And I say, you know what,

439
00:20:05,960 --> 00:20:08,440
Speaker 1: if that's how you feel, If what I said made

440
00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:11,320
Speaker 1: you feel that way, then that's how it made you feel.

441
00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:15,480
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna argue you down. Your perspective dictates the

442
00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:17,320
Speaker 1: fact that that made you trigger it in a way.

443
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Speaker 2: I think a lot of times people get so wrapped

444
00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:23,560
Speaker 2: up in people's opinions because they created this version of

445
00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:26,800
Speaker 2: you in their head. So if they watch sisters or

446
00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:28,640
Speaker 2: they watch the team and they like, oh my god,

447
00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,119
Speaker 2: this man and they see you with your wife, so

448
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:33,760
Speaker 2: they're like, oh, I want a man like that. He's

449
00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 2: a good father, he's then so they create this image

450
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 2: of you in their head, but they don't know you

451
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:41,840
Speaker 2: absolutely day. So when you say something that doesn't fit

452
00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:45,200
Speaker 2: their narrative that they created, and they'd be ready to

453
00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 2: be up in arms and that because that happens a lot.

454
00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:50,159
Speaker 2: I feel like a lot of times people tend to

455
00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:52,399
Speaker 2: feel like, oh, that's so funny, she's so sweet, she's

456
00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 2: so nice, but I'm really like an introvert. I really

457
00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 2: don't like people as much. I really just kind of,

458
00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:59,200
Speaker 2: you know, be doing my own things. So sometimes when

459
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Speaker 2: I say things that people like, they'd be great to

460
00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:03,120
Speaker 2: bring out the pitch for it, But I'm like, why

461
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 2: are you so upset at? I think the biggest thing

462
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 2: that shows people's ignorance is when you can't understand that

463
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 2: not everybody thinks the same. I mean, an opinion is

464
00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 2: an opinion, Like, just because I say something and that's

465
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 2: how I feel, it doesn't necessarily mean it's factual.

466
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Speaker 1: Right, don't agree with me.

467
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:23,679
Speaker 3: It's okay for you not to agree with me, but

468
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,920
Speaker 3: it shouldn't have you up in arms because it's my opinion.

469
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,000
Speaker 3: You should be able to take a difference of opinion

470
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Speaker 3: and go about your day.

471
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Speaker 1: I agree with you. I agree with you one thousand percent.

472
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 1: But what we all have to understand is humans, is

473
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Speaker 1: that social media is in a place where everyone has

474
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Speaker 1: a prerequisite of being healed before they participate. R Yeah,

475
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 1: So when you hear people's responses to your opinions, typically

476
00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,880
Speaker 1: it's because they're going through something where your opinion triggers

477
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,400
Speaker 1: something that they're going through and if it made them

478
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 1: feel a way and they want to spit fire at you,

479
00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 1: they have the right to do.

480
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Speaker 2: Sometimes it just be triggering that they a fucking hater.

481
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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, people just sometimes people be mean sometimes sitting

482
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 3: there taking it out on you.

483
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Speaker 1: But let me ask you a question that says more

484
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,440
Speaker 1: about them than you, Right, So why do you let

485
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:10,320
Speaker 1: that affect you?

486
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 2: You shouldn't because I'm sensitive though everything gets to me.

487
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:21,679
Speaker 3: I'll be like, say my hair, my mail flex is

488
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:24,399
Speaker 3: a little more sensitive than I am. Sometimes I'm not

489
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:25,919
Speaker 3: gonna lie. For the most part, I let a lot

490
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 3: of ship roll off my back. But sometimes people do

491
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,119
Speaker 3: say something. Every once in a while, I'm just like, oh,

492
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 3: I gotta respond. I want to get to that point

493
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Speaker 3: where I don't say Beyonce, we want to be beyond.

494
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:39,320
Speaker 3: I want to be Beyonce to the bullshit. I feel

495
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 3: like I'm Rihanna.

496
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Speaker 1: But the thing is, there's nothing wrong with being Rihanna

497
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Speaker 1: or Beyonce. It just whatever allows you to have peace

498
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Speaker 1: in your day. You know what I'm saying. If peace

499
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Speaker 1: means today I'm about to clap back on this motherfucker,

500
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Speaker 1: then today is a clap back day. You know what

501
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 1: I'm saying if peace for me means that I'm going

502
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Speaker 1: to ignore it and I want to be Beyonce for

503
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Speaker 1: the day, then that's gonna be my piece for today.

504
00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 1: And the truth of the matter is, can't nobody tell

505
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: you how you're supposed to respond to what people make

506
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,560
Speaker 1: you feel? That's that's That's one thing I've learned about

507
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: each social media people in general. If I said something

508
00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:15,159
Speaker 1: that made someone respond in a certain way, whether they

509
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 1: was hate or whether it was this something like that

510
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,879
Speaker 1: person going through it, Oh well, if I felt like

511
00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:21,439
Speaker 1: clapping back on somebody that day, I was going through it,

512
00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 1: Oh well.

513
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Speaker 3: So you'll be clapping back sometimes, I don't. Okay, did

514
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Speaker 3: you used to it?

515
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 1: I used to, but I never clapped back in a

516
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 1: way where I wanted to make someone feel small. I

517
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 1: always tried to clap back in a way where I

518
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 1: can educate someone on a different perspective. But even on that,

519
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:38,440
Speaker 1: I learned that some people don't want a different perspective.

520
00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:40,600
Speaker 1: They want to exist in their own perspective. So I've

521
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: learned to let people live. If you understand, if you

522
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:45,520
Speaker 1: understand history, and you understand the economy and the way

523
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 1: the world works, you start to have empathy for people. Right,

524
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 1: let's just listen to me.

525
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Speaker 2: I'd be like you big big mother, I'll be.

526
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 3: No, it's about It's so funny because we share obviously,

527
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 3: we share the log ins for like all of our pages.

528
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:11,680
Speaker 3: I always be seeing the notifications when she go off

529
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 3: on people, and.

530
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 2: I be like, bro, every day every time we tell

531
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Speaker 2: you to say that, who talking?

532
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 1: Kay tail bitch? We said, big bag. The thing is,

533
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 1: I get it through them because I feel sometimes I

534
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 1: do feel like, how did you judge me and say

535
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 1: things to me and not look at your life first?

536
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 1: But I want you to consider this. Tell this, ninety

537
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,680
Speaker 1: nine percent of the world's wealth is controlled by one

538
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 1: percent of the population. Yeah, which means ninety five percent

539
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 1: of the population is not comfortable with where they are

540
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 1: in their place in life, which means they're working in

541
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 1: a job they don't like, they have a husband or

542
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: a wife they don't like. They gotta but there's something

543
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 1: going on every single day, and the only thing they

544
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: have control over it's that social media. I can put

545
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 1: a comment on here and I can fuck with Lex today,

546
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 1: and you know what I'm gonna do today. I'm gonna

547
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,639
Speaker 1: talk to Lex today because if she responds to me,

548
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 1: that's the only control I have. And when you give

549
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 1: people that control, now they winning. Yeah, and now you've

550
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: lost it because now all people going to talk about

551
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 1: is how you responded to the person that nobody knows

552
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 1: they know lex though, you know what I'm saying, I'll.

553
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,480
Speaker 2: Be ready to crash out. I love to get on

554
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:30,360
Speaker 2: Live and crash out.

555
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,920
Speaker 3: But you know what's crazy the few that I have

556
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:37,159
Speaker 3: crashed out people have responded like I had posted a

557
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:40,600
Speaker 3: screenshot on Twitter like two weeks ago because this guy

558
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:42,439
Speaker 3: I had tweeted something and this guy had like a

559
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 3: crazy ass or bottle to me. I can't even remember

560
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:48,160
Speaker 3: what he said. But then after I said something to him,

561
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,880
Speaker 3: he posted, Look I reposted it, and I like kind

562
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 3: of went off on him, and then he was like, oh,

563
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,479
Speaker 3: thank you for responding. I love you.

564
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.

565
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 3: It's like what this is he's talking about when I say,

566
00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 3: people are fucking weird. All of that for him to

567
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 3: say I love you when I responded.

568
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 1: Because he wanted he wanted your attention. Yeah, and you

569
00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 1: got into that a lot of people know, like they

570
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,919
Speaker 1: know that I can't get this person's attention unless I

571
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 1: say something to trigger them, and then the minute they

572
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 1: get your attention, then all the love comes out. That's

573
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: why I don't respond with people with vitriol all the time,

574
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:25,639
Speaker 1: because a lot of these people really don't have the

575
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:30,879
Speaker 1: tools to articulate eloquently how they feel. I told you

576
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 1: I went to school graduat. You know what I'm saying,

577
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 1: I want to school. You know you're talking.

578
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 2: About the hell is that? You know the park I

579
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 2: never popped the butriol. You know the hell is that

580
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 2: I means that it's just a baby.

581
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: All change your life, that we all change your life.

582
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 1: Now change your life.

583
00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 3: So I definitely before we get we ain't even got

584
00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 3: into the first topic yet. But before we get into

585
00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:01,119
Speaker 3: the first topic, I defin really want to talk about

586
00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 3: your beautiful wife and your family.

587
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,360
Speaker 2: So how did y'all meet?

588
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 3: I think I did read somewhere or maybe y'all seen

589
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,040
Speaker 3: it on y'all social media. Y'all met in college?

590
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: Right? No? No, we went to the same elementary school,

591
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 1: Ohame elementary school. She she tells the story that she

592
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: recognized me when I was in first grade. She was

593
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: in second grade. I didn't you know not girls? You

594
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,080
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, sometimes Zach got to do that,

595
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, even with Zach six, but

596
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:32,960
Speaker 1: a girl still had coolies during that time. I wasn't

597
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: playing attention. But long story short, because this is a

598
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,359
Speaker 1: long story. We have a brother the same age, and

599
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 1: we have a sister the same age, so we both

600
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 1: are family of three. You have brothers who are the

601
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 1: same age, sister the same age. And I used to

602
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 1: go back when we were in middle school to pick

603
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:47,199
Speaker 1: up my brother and sister, and she used to see me.

604
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,639
Speaker 1: We ended up going to rival high schools. She was

605
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:53,119
Speaker 1: a cheerleader, I was a football player. And then my

606
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,760
Speaker 1: senior year, I was being awarded by the elementary school

607
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: that we both went to, and that was the time

608
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 1: that she could finally see me and say, hey, dev

609
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 1: I'm interested and choose let me tell let me tell

610
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 1: you something, let me tell you something about my wife. Okay,

611
00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 1: and I'll say this. All of the stuff that they

612
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: say you're not supposed to do on social media to

613
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 1: get a man, she did every single one. Really, she

614
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: walked up to me.

615
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 3: But it worked out in her.

616
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 1: Fast, and that's and that's what I'm saying. She did

617
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 1: every single she she walked up to me as me

618
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 1: and my but she said Brian and devale Ellis and

619
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 1: I was just like, I was looking at her and

620
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: I was like, damn, she's fine, but I got to

621
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:31,760
Speaker 1: be cool. I was like, what's up? The whole night

622
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 1: we were sitting there chopping it up, and then at

623
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 1: the end of the night, I was trying to do

624
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:37,600
Speaker 1: what my pops told me to do. My uncle they like, yo,

625
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: you don't be too thirsty, you know what I'm saying,

626
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 1: let her let her walk away a little bit. Then,

627
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 1: like they told me, as she's about to walk away,

628
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: that's when you grab her arm and you just be like,

629
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 1: excuse me, okay, you know what I'm saying. That was

630
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: you know what I was like, I was gonna.

631
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 3: You was meant to TV because he was already living

632
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 3: your real.

633
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 2: Life, Like you see what I'm saying.

634
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,920
Speaker 1: I had all this in my mind, but when.

635
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 3: You me though I live my life every day, I

636
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 3: think I'm in a movie.

637
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: My whole life's a rom com. You can't tell me

638
00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 1: I'm not in a right now. It's called ditch, not hitch.

639
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: Ditch because I be ditching these holes and it's all

640
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 1: my wife that's why. But before I could, you know,

641
00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 1: grab her arm. She grabbed my my thing and say, Yo,

642
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 1: since you ain't gonna ask me for my number, I'm

643
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 1: gonna just give it to you. I like her, which

644
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: they say online. Women are not supposed to do that.

645
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 1: You're supposed to be demure. He's supposed to be mindful.

646
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: My wife was not about that. She's like, tak my

647
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: number down, took the number down. I called her the

648
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:39,000
Speaker 1: whole summer. She did not answer. She's a pageant she's

649
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 1: a pageant girl. She was on the road. She trying

650
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: to play me. So I'm like, man, fuck, this is

651
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 1: chasing after you. Man, I'm I got an eighty nine maximum,

652
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 1: I got black rims on that joint with two sup

653
00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: with us.

654
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 2: I'm I'm vibing them.

655
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:57,480
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I had I had you twelves.

656
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 1: Well I had to twelves. But thank you, bro, you're

657
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,760
Speaker 1: gonna miss your blessing. And I was like all for

658
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: And then she called me and I was like, I

659
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 1: was like, what the fuck? Hello, Hello, Hello, and hen

660
00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 1: she was just like hey, handsome, and I immediately went

661
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 1: back to the way my dad told me to be.

662
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 1: I was just like, what's up? Stopped laughing. You see

663
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 1: you laughing. This is the problem. You're not trying to listen.

664
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 1: So I was like, what's up? And then when I

665
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 1: said what's up, he started vibing. She came and visit

666
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 1: me the next day and it was all on his

667
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 1: The thing that impressed me though she asked me on

668
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 1: first date. We in my dorm room. I was ready

669
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: to smash, like, I'm eighteen. I ain't gonna lie I'm eighteen,

670
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 1: said my wife. You know what I'm saying, long hand, slim,

671
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: you got a little fatty on him. I was like,

672
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:47,479
Speaker 1: give me some of that.

673
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying.

674
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 1: I'm a d one athlete. I'm not thinking about no

675
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 1: wives or nothing. So she's eating a hero and I'm like,

676
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: She's like, so she's eating here. She's like, so, what's

677
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 1: your plans in life? I was like, well, I want

678
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: to be an actor. I want to do that. She

679
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 1: was like what Martin was on TV? I was like,

680
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: I want to have my own sitcom. She didn't miss

681
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 1: a beat. She said, Okay, so how we gonna do that?

682
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 1: Mm hmm? Man. When I tell you, I was like,

683
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 1: she wanted to know.

684
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 3: My dreams because at ninth because she so if you

685
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 3: were eighteen, she was like nineteen.

686
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 1: She was about to turn.

687
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 3: A nineteen year old woman asking something like that on

688
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 3: the first day, because I would have been like.

689
00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: To be you see what I'm saying, That's what I

690
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: was listening. Come on, you're right, you're right, and the

691
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 1: internet be telling you don't be. Don't be going out

692
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: there and trying to be wifely off the first date,

693
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: because she was wife she.

694
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 2: First Also it was to the right man though, So

695
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 2: a lot of times though it's a lot of good

696
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: women that meet up and they're they're doing the right things,

697
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 2: but it's with the wrong man. So I think that

698
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 2: is why a lot of times you hear women giving

699
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 2: the advice of don't do this, don't do that, because

700
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 2: they did that it saw no results.

701
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 1: I agree, So I will say this. I will say

702
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: this though, lex I have a question. Now, I'm not

703
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: gonna have a question. So many women talk about these

704
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: bad men. Why do women choose bad men?

705
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 3: Red flagging and they be smacking y'all in the forehead

706
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 3: like black eye, red flag and.

707
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. Yeah, So.

708
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 3: I'm not really like that though, No I be leaving

709
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 3: the red flags, don't. I don't really play that ship

710
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 3: like I've always had a no nonsense policy, but sometimes

711
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 3: we really want to get into it. I feel like

712
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 3: that's why I'm still like not married and stuff.

713
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:50,360
Speaker 1: Because I'll show you I understand what you're saying. Yeah,

714
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: my boys, I got boys who are single, and they

715
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 1: always on our bases. Ain't this. I'll be like, nigga,

716
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: you be choosing the wrong woman every time, Like we

717
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 1: will see the woman, the woman that he and I

718
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: could tell in two minutes knock on work, not the one.

719
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: But here we are two months saying, and you eat it,

720
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 1: but D, but D. I'm like, bro, you keep choosing

721
00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: the same woman over and over and over again. Then

722
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: your response to that is all these bitches, No.

723
00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 2: You keep choosing this one, the same one.

724
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,440
Speaker 1: So that's why I'm asking you, because I want to

725
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:18,560
Speaker 1: know a woman's perspective.

726
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 2: So I'll say this. In my twenties, I was having

727
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 2: a ball. I wasn't looking for nothing serious. I was

728
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 2: having a good time. So I'll say as in my

729
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 2: thirties and my mid thirties, I'm intentionally dating. You know,

730
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 2: I'm in a relationship. I've been in a relationship for

731
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 2: a year, so I can talk about the things that

732
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 2: I was dealing with beforehand, and I'll just use the

733
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 2: last guy I dated before him for example. I'm not

734
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 2: gonna lie. A lot of times, I knew the type

735
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 2: of men I was dating, and I knew what I

736
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 2: was in the situation for, whether it was to have fun,

737
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 2: he was spending money X y Z. But once I

738
00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 2: started dating intentionally and I'm like showing like who I

739
00:33:56,040 --> 00:33:57,760
Speaker 2: really and what I really wanted to do in my

740
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 2: goals the last time. I will say, a lot of

741
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:04,840
Speaker 2: men they put up a good front. Okay, they're auditioning.

742
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 2: It's like they look at it like a job application.

743
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:10,840
Speaker 2: So if I'm applying for a job, when I show up,

744
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 2: they'd be like, what is the worst thing about you

745
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 2: when it comes to work? Oh, I'm just always on time.

746
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 2: In the fact, I'm just so punctual and sometimes I

747
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 2: work whenever I'm supposed to be clocked out. That's how

748
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,839
Speaker 2: men are. So you'll ask a man, You're asking all

749
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 2: the right questions, you're doing the right things, and they're like,

750
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, this woman is amazing. I'm not really

751
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 2: looking for nothing serious though, but I don't want her

752
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 2: to leave me alone because I'm not ready to be

753
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 2: the man for her. But I don't want her to

754
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: leave me alone because she's doing all these wifey things.

755
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 2: So a lot of women have experienced that. Now, one

756
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 2: thing about me, I don't date. I'm not a bitter dater.

757
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 2: So just because this man does this to me, Okay,

758
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 2: we broke up, i'ma still move on and I'm gonna

759
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 2: still be happy and try it. I'm not gonna be

760
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 2: tainted about love. So I feel like now I'm in

761
00:34:57,120 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 2: a relationship where I am with somebody who appreciates the

762
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:03,839
Speaker 2: thing that I do. And it's like, but I will say,

763
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 2: I wasn't a situation where I felt bamboozled.

764
00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:10,879
Speaker 1: So can I just give you guys some insights? Sure,

765
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:14,440
Speaker 1: based on what you said, you said in your twenties

766
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:18,160
Speaker 1: you was having fun. Would you say that you bamboozled

767
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: a bunch of men? Oh yeah, okay, fair, So we're

768
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 1: in agreement, right. You know why men in their twenties

769
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 1: can't bamboozle women because we don't got no fucking money, period.

770
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 1: So you know what happens. We spent all of our

771
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: twenties getting bamboozled. And I'm not pointing you out, Lex,

772
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 1: but a beautiful woman like you who we may have

773
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 1: thought like that could be my wife, and you bamboozled

774
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 1: us in our twenties. Now a nigga got money. Now

775
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 1: it's time to do the bamboozling. And what happens is

776
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: is when a woman is now when her position late twenties,

777
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 1: early thirties, she's like, I'm ready to be someone's wife. Well,

778
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,960
Speaker 1: now you've been, you finna get bamboozo And I'm just

779
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: being honest. That's that's that, And I'm not saying it's okay,

780
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,319
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is is that you had your

781
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 1: time in bamboozoo. A man can't bambooso until he got

782
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: the resources to do some bamboozling. Show me a black

783
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 1: man in the early twenties who don't come from a

784
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 1: prominent family who got resources to bambootho. So you know,

785
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:15,240
Speaker 1: so then finally when they make some money, I'm finally

786
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:18,960
Speaker 1: a VP at my job. I'm thirty. Wait a minute,

787
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:21,359
Speaker 1: I can do all the things that I watched that

788
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 1: woman do with that other guy that I liked, So

789
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 1: now I'm gonna do that to these women and I

790
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: feel like women get upset when a man does it,

791
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: but then they'll openly say, like you just said, in

792
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: your twenties, I was bamboozling niggas. I wasn't think.

793
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 2: It was also a guy that had been trying to

794
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 2: holler at me for three years.

795
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 3: And I feel like you should never get in.

796
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: So it was like, aut why you can't give that

797
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 1: guy for three years?

798
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:48,600
Speaker 3: I don't says God bad he was. He was hounding

799
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 3: me a year and a half, trying to holler at me.

800
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 3: When I say, he was going above and beyond trying

801
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 3: to get me talk to him. And then I finally

802
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 3: gave me and I was like, Okay, let's see what's up.

803
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 3: He played the fuck out. He played the and it

804
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 3: took me years to get over the hurt.

805
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:06,839
Speaker 1: It took me, I'll tell you.

806
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 3: And that's why I feel like, if you initially not

807
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 3: interested in the man and you carved him, he gonna

808
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:12,239
Speaker 3: remember that.

809
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 1: Leave it alone. I'm not I'm not man. Yeah, I

810
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 1: didn't did that. I didn't do that.

811
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:21,440
Speaker 4: I'm sorry for three years.

812
00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 1: I was chasing that three years, and you made me

813
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 1: feel like I wasn't deserving. So you know what those

814
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 1: men do like having a bet them men be up

815
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: at night, they being in bed, like just not even

816
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get that, just have gone. And the minutes

817
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 1: you say hey, they like, wait a minute, this is

818
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: my time. But but but the truth, you don't give

819
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:50,240
Speaker 1: him no chance. If he hasn't healed, then don't. Yeah,

820
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 1: because the truth is man like, you're not wrong for

821
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 1: wanting to party in your twenties. Yeah, Like, let's and

822
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 1: here's the truth. Can we at least be honest for

823
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: once with people. If a woman, what's the party in

824
00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 1: her twenties, let her party?

825
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:02,479
Speaker 2: Yeah.

826
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: If a man wants to party in his thirties when

827
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 1: he first got his money, let him party. Let's stop

828
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,439
Speaker 1: shaming people who have worked their life for what they want,

829
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: enjoying their life, and then when that person is ready

830
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,760
Speaker 1: to settle down, they're going to meet the right person

831
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 1: for them. I think the problem is most people want

832
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:21,879
Speaker 1: to put a wide net around the entire species. All

833
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,360
Speaker 1: men act like this, because the men that I dated

834
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 1: act like that. No, that's just the men you choose,

835
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: all bitches, ain't shit, No, that's just the women you choose.

836
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:32,640
Speaker 1: My g If we start to realize that, well, you

837
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, We'll be like, we'll give each

838
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: other a little bit more grace, and you know what.

839
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 3: Circling back to your original question, I think that women

840
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:43,160
Speaker 3: I can only speak now that I'm in my thirties.

841
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 3: I have a lot of friends and people around me

842
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:50,440
Speaker 3: who I feel like, once you get to thirty, it

843
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 3: starts to become like we talked about this with another case.

844
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 3: I think desperation, the desperation of being his thirty, I

845
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 3: get it. I think when women hit thirty now it's

846
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:02,240
Speaker 3: like this time clock it is, I gotta get married,

847
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:04,359
Speaker 3: I gotta have kids. So I think when the red

848
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 3: flags be red flagging, they be like, oh, it's fine,

849
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:09,719
Speaker 3: because I want to be married, even if it's not

850
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 3: to the right man. Society has made me feel like

851
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 3: I gotta be married and I gotta have kids, And

852
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 3: then what, I'm thirty two, I don't have kids yet.

853
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 2: They're biological clock ticking, you know.

854
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 3: And I really think that that is more so what

855
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 3: it is I can say for women in their thirties,

856
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:27,320
Speaker 3: cause I think when you in y'all twenties, some women

857
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 3: do want to get married in their twenties. But a

858
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 3: lot of women that I know they wouldn't even think

859
00:39:30,640 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 3: about that, and then it stuff. When you turn thirty,

860
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 3: all of a sudden, the pressure is low.

861
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't I don't thinks. I don't blame

862
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 1: women for not wanting to be married in their twenties. Bro,

863
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 1: Like we live. We live in a capitalist society where

864
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 1: misogyny rules. Yeah, if you are a beautiful woman and

865
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 1: you're getting attention from a bunch of dudes, enjoy yourself. Yeah,

866
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 1: I enjoy yourself.

867
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 3: Now.

868
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 1: Of course everyone is going to say what you need

869
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:55,320
Speaker 1: to settle down and not be promiscuous and stuff, But

870
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 1: let's be honest. Monogamy, much like veganism or Christianity, is

871
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: a voice. Yes, someone has to choose to want to

872
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 1: be that, and someone has to want to be that

873
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 1: in order to enjoy that aspect of life. I think

874
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 1: it's a disservice to people when we try to cast

875
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 1: a wy net over everybody, like everybody got to be monogamous,

876
00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 1: everybody got to be Christian, everybody like that. We got

877
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:19,840
Speaker 1: to stop doing that because we're all different people.

878
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 2: And I thine having that mindset. Because I do have

879
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 2: that mindset, I don't take things out on it because

880
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 2: everybody is different, everybody's experience is different, absolutely, So I

881
00:40:30,239 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 2: think I agree with Drea the desperation of women in

882
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 2: the thirties. Like I said, we just talked about this,

883
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,520
Speaker 2: But for me, I will say this, I'm just such

884
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 2: a like, Okay, let it be. So now I'm like,

885
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:43,839
Speaker 2: if it's in my path to be with a man

886
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:46,640
Speaker 2: and get married, that's exactly what's going to happen. Because

887
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,359
Speaker 2: I know myself and I know it's a good person.

888
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:50,359
Speaker 2: I know I'm a damn good woman. So I don't

889
00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:52,000
Speaker 2: have no pressure on it, you know.

890
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 1: But what you just said makes all the sense in

891
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 1: the world. Though. Think about it. I know who I am.

892
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 1: I'm not going to going to define my existence on

893
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:01,720
Speaker 1: this plan it based on what all the other women

894
00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,080
Speaker 1: in the world are doing. That's not even your plight

895
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 1: to carry, you know what I'm saying. For me, it's

896
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,399
Speaker 1: like whoa Okay, Lex wants to get married. Now I'm

897
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 1: in my thirties. I'm going to be deliberate about finding

898
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 1: the right person. Now. Listening to the statistics and all

899
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:17,560
Speaker 1: of that shit don't really even matter because because none

900
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 1: of that, none of that will ever fit to every

901
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: man or woman in the world. I say that because

902
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 1: monogamy works for me, period. But then when men ask me, yo, dude, man,

903
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: how you do this? How you do that? The first

904
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: thing I asked them do you want to be monogamous

905
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:33,719
Speaker 1: or do you think that being monogamous is the only

906
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 1: way that you can be considered high functioning? And they're

907
00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 1: just like, well, I'm listening to these podcasts and they

908
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:41,560
Speaker 1: say monogamous men are high functioning. And I said, bro,

909
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: stop just listening to people and ask yourself what you

910
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 1: really want out of life. You know what I'm saying, Like,

911
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 1: we got to stop shaming people for not following the

912
00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 1: lifestyle we follow. Monogamy works for me because Deval knows that,

913
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: you know what, I love women like a lot. I

914
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: do truly love women thing I do. I look at

915
00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 1: your mine, She's gorgeous. She's gorgeous. But I also know

916
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 1: that if I'm not disciplined enough to control my urgens

917
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,919
Speaker 1: and I'm attacking it, running after every woman, I don't

918
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 1: have the ability to focus on the things that's gonna

919
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:15,160
Speaker 1: help me provide for myself and my family. So monogamy

920
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 1: works for me. There are some men who can balance

921
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 1: both and can chase skirts and chase money and make it.

922
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: I would never tell that brother, you gotta be monogamy

923
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: or you not high functioning, may get the fuck out

924
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 1: of here. For example, like a fifty cent or Floyd Mayweather.

925
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: Both of them brothers are doing way better than I am.

926
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: How I look telling them all, you better be monogamous

927
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 1: or you ain't gonna make it in life. It's the

928
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:38,920
Speaker 1: same thing for women. We should never tell women you

929
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 1: better get married or you ain't gonna make it in life.

930
00:42:40,640 --> 00:42:42,560
Speaker 1: Oprah ain't never been married. She one of the richest

931
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:43,840
Speaker 1: people in America.

932
00:42:43,920 --> 00:42:47,640
Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying. That actually is our first stopic.

933
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 2: But we need to ask how will we drinking? I

934
00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 2: know this episode is gonna be like this, What are

935
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 2: we drinking today? These drinks are so good it I'm

936
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 2: actually about to need so.

937
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:07,799
Speaker 3: You know, our guest, he is literally he does it all.

938
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 3: He is, like you said, actor producer act, he is

939
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 3: the jack of all trades. And that's what this drink

940
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 3: is called Jack of all trades. It's a classic old

941
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 3: fashioned style clocktail. We have some bourbon in there. We

942
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:22,800
Speaker 3: have some demara, which is like a brown sugar syrup

943
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 3: angle store bitters and a little bit of orange bitters

944
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 3: in there as the garnish.

945
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 2: We have some cherries.

946
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 3: We have a lemon peel and an orange peel that

947
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 3: I kind of just expressed into the cocktail just to

948
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 3: get that flavor and that bounce off. And this, like him,

949
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 3: is the jack of all trades. Thank you to got

950
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951
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Speaker 3: So to yo back to your point, though, you made

981
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 3: a really really good point when you said, like basically,

982
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 3: you you can't convince a man that doesn't want to

983
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 3: get married to get married. And I think that that's

984
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 3: where a lot of women mix up too, because they're

985
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 3: dating men who it's obvious that's not the goal, that's

986
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 3: not his goal. So why are you even pursuing that?

987
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:42,839
Speaker 3: Why are you even staying in that situation. In order

988
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:45,719
Speaker 3: for a relationship to be successful, you have to date

989
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:48,360
Speaker 3: somebody where y'all want the same things, yes, and y'all

990
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 3: goals aligned.

991
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,520
Speaker 1: Yes, it's that simple. That's why I think that the

992
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:55,040
Speaker 1: whole fifty to fifty argument is annoying. The whole who's

993
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 1: going to be submissive to who? Is annoying and pointless

994
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 1: because I know what I'm looking for life. Every woman

995
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:03,640
Speaker 1: in the world is not looking for the same thing

996
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 1: I'm looking for. So what I do is those women

997
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: who are not looking for what I'm looking for, I

998
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 1: applaud them for looking for whatever they're looking for. I

999
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 1: don't shame them. For example, they're like, I need a

1000
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:15,279
Speaker 1: submissive wife who won't follow me.

1001
00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 3: Okay, so that's what you look at, the type of

1002
00:46:18,160 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 3: wife you need.

1003
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: What if you have a woman here who is a

1004
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:24,120
Speaker 1: seven eight nine figure earner, you telling me I'm supposed

1005
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 1: to tell that woman she's supposed to submit to me

1006
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 1: and she can make more. No, that woman's journey is different.

1007
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:32,279
Speaker 1: In like, let her find someone, But it's social the

1008
00:46:32,320 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: same thing for men, right, women will sell the time.

1009
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 1: I want somebody six y two abs, make a lot

1010
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: of money, can fuck all night. But if that nigga

1011
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 1: just want to be a homebody and take care of

1012
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 1: his kids, there's a woman for him. It may not

1013
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:48,920
Speaker 1: be for you. But why why shame him? To mold him?

1014
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. Why try to mold him.

1015
00:46:50,560 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 2: I can shame him a little bit. I ain't gonna

1016
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:57,400
Speaker 2: mold him. You can't shame it's a little bit work.

1017
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:01,160
Speaker 1: So so here's the thing I I and I've been

1018
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,840
Speaker 1: called misogynistic because of this. Really I believe it is

1019
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 1: the man's job to work. The reason is, well, I

1020
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 1: was called misogynistic because some women, and I had to

1021
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 1: agree with this segment. Some women are not made to

1022
00:47:15,360 --> 00:47:18,600
Speaker 1: have children. Some women don't want to have children. But

1023
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 1: you can't define their womanhood by saying if you don't

1024
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 1: have children, for a man, you're not more of a woman.

1025
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: And I had to mature enough as a man to

1026
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 1: understand that. You know what, that's a valid fucking point.

1027
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:31,480
Speaker 1: So for me, I personally feel for devow that I

1028
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 1: want to be able to support my wife. I want

1029
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: to be able to make all the money, and if

1030
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: she wants to make money, she can. But if she

1031
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:39,359
Speaker 1: don't and she wanted to be a homemaker, she could

1032
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:42,320
Speaker 1: do that too. I was called misogynistic by some women

1033
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: who feel like I'm controlling my wife. But you know

1034
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: what I learned in that I'm not for that woman.

1035
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 2: She need to write a house to buzz because she

1036
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:52,240
Speaker 2: got all the answers.

1037
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 1: A lot of people feel they got all the answers.

1038
00:47:57,840 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: You know, when you realize you don't got all the answers,

1039
00:47:59,640 --> 00:48:01,719
Speaker 1: that's when you start to advance in life.

1040
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 3: How do you start to evolve?

1041
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: When you evolved when you realize, you know what, I

1042
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:07,879
Speaker 1: hadn't arrived the minutes you think you arrived, that's when

1043
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 1: you really lost.

1044
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 2: So the first topic we wanted to ask you because

1045
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 2: there's two different sayings that people always say. They always

1046
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 2: say behind every successful man is a strong woman. You know,

1047
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:24,799
Speaker 2: married men are more successful. Technically show this right. And

1048
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 2: then on the other hand, they have statistics to show

1049
00:48:27,520 --> 00:48:31,880
Speaker 2: single women live longer, single women are happier, you know,

1050
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 2: like being independent and being free. And you know, we

1051
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 2: see people like Oprah who has a little situation, but

1052
00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,040
Speaker 2: she does what she can do. You know, we see

1053
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:42,319
Speaker 2: the Tracy Ellis Ross, so we see all these women

1054
00:48:42,400 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 2: were like, hmm, that don't look so bad. So, how

1055
00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:49,479
Speaker 2: do you feel like as a married man, society should

1056
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 2: approach things like that?

1057
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:53,280
Speaker 3: And do you feel like that's true? Like Brian and married,

1058
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 3: do you feel like, for example, your success is it

1059
00:48:56,880 --> 00:49:00,319
Speaker 3: attributed to a certain extent by your relations and ship

1060
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 3: in your marriage.

1061
00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. The first thing I will say is that I

1062
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 1: wouldn't be the person I am if it wasn't for

1063
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 1: my wife and my partner. Right when I was eighteen

1064
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 1: nineteen years old and I told Kadeen that I wanted

1065
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 1: to be an actor, I'm going to use the NFL.

1066
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: She made my breakfast, she did the stretches when I

1067
00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 1: separated my shoulder and I had to sleep sitting on

1068
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 1: her dance. She was sitting. That's why. That's what it was.

1069
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:26,719
Speaker 1: It was the shoulder that Lex. I ain't fucking with you, man.

1070
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:29,239
Speaker 1: I heard my shoulder playing football. Okay, okay, I'm out

1071
00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:32,200
Speaker 1: here in the street. I'm out here. I got stats

1072
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: to prove it.

1073
00:49:35,239 --> 00:49:36,720
Speaker 3: Probably the brook Churst.

1074
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,319
Speaker 1: I'm gonna fight Lex before I leave. I'm gonna fight

1075
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,880
Speaker 1: les all my Brooklyn nights. Y'all know what the Brooklyn is.

1076
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:43,760
Speaker 1: The brook Up, I know what I'm talking about.

1077
00:49:44,560 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 2: But she was doing the stretchy.

1078
00:49:47,280 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: She she was all of those things. She was there

1079
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:52,080
Speaker 1: when I was training for the NFL. She she was there.

1080
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 1: She she helped me create. Okay, I'm a visual learner. Right,

1081
00:49:57,480 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: you get playbooks. The playbooks sound like this, you know,

1082
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:03,640
Speaker 1: hop the trips, right motions, scot right five twenty five

1083
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 1: f post swing, ready break. Every word, every word has

1084
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:11,920
Speaker 1: a meaning. My wife made flash cards with every word

1085
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: in those things, and it had a definition. And that's

1086
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 1: how I practice learning the place. So she was when

1087
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 1: they know what they say. She wasn't with me shooting

1088
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:23,839
Speaker 1: in the gym. She was with me shooting in the gym.

1089
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 3: Because maybe they sounded like a whole different language than me.

1090
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:30,320
Speaker 1: I was like what, But that's why I praise in

1091
00:50:30,400 --> 00:50:33,280
Speaker 1: honor my wife's much, because she literally was. And sometimes

1092
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 1: people say, like, man, why you doing all of that

1093
00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 1: like your wife? I say, yeah, maybe your wife didn't

1094
00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:39,719
Speaker 1: do it what my wife did, but I will. The

1095
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 1: first thing I say is I am who I am

1096
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,880
Speaker 1: because I have a support system. Not only my wife,

1097
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:46,879
Speaker 1: my parents, her parents, that the mentors in my life

1098
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:49,840
Speaker 1: were poured into me. They all made the vow possible.

1099
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 1: So it wasn't just my wife. It wasn't just me,

1100
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:55,080
Speaker 1: It wasn't just God. It was a combination of everything.

1101
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 1: But I will say this about statistics. First and foremost

1102
00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:02,000
Speaker 1: statistics are skewed because I will say this, nobody never

1103
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 1: asked me a fucking question. Where are these statistics coming from?

1104
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:06,879
Speaker 1: I've been married for fourteen years and no one ever

1105
00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:07,360
Speaker 1: asked me.

1106
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,839
Speaker 2: You never did, went on family feud? Who asked them?

1107
00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. We've asked one hundred would

1108
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: be white people. That's the first thing. You know, it's

1109
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:14,279
Speaker 1: one hundred white people.

1110
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:14,800
Speaker 2: You ain't.

1111
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:19,400
Speaker 1: Nobody else asking, right, You see what I'm saying. So

1112
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: the first thing we gotta do is throw out those

1113
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:24,839
Speaker 1: things because they typically don't ask Black people. A lot

1114
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 1: of the things they ask and these statistics and stuff

1115
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: like that aren't about us, so we can just dismiss that.

1116
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 1: The second thing I will say is if we're going

1117
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 1: to rate success based on Western views, which means what

1118
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:39,400
Speaker 1: white people say is considered successful, yeah, we're all going

1119
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: to fall short, because these views have never been made

1120
00:51:42,719 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 1: for us. Remember, we would consider three fifths of a

1121
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:48,320
Speaker 1: human being in this country since since seventeen when in

1122
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:52,840
Speaker 1: this country seventeen seventy four we want to consider humans Keith.

1123
00:51:52,920 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 1: So since we weren't consider humans, why would we ever

1124
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: listen to their rhetoric about how we're supposed to behave

1125
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 1: That's why I say, find out what works for you.

1126
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 2: I'm know somebody who listened to doctor Umar. When I

1127
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 2: see it, a walk king, I know that's right, brother.

1128
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:13,840
Speaker 3: What do you call the doctor Umar?

1129
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:18,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, but listen. I'm not one hundred percent

1130
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: always in agreement with everything doctor Umar said, but he

1131
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 1: love when he talks when he talks about the black family. Yeah,

1132
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 1: you know he's cooking. He'd be cooking when you talk

1133
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,279
Speaker 1: about the black family. If you look at the history

1134
00:52:30,320 --> 00:52:33,160
Speaker 1: of this country, we like. Nothing they talk about when

1135
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,319
Speaker 1: they talk about family and relationships is ever with us.

1136
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 1: I think we will look at those things and say, well,

1137
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:41,880
Speaker 1: percentages say the percentages don't include up.

1138
00:52:41,920 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 2: That was a great point because I never thought about

1139
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 2: that because honestly, when they talk about statistics, like he said,

1140
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:52,840
Speaker 2: you have been married for what twelve years, wife, four kids,

1141
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 2: twenty two years and ain't nobody asked you? She never

1142
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:58,240
Speaker 2: first time you asked me when Alexandroya.

1143
00:52:57,760 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 1: And you would be the candidate. Well, i'll give you

1144
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 1: another statistics. Right, what's the narrative that we hear about

1145
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:04,880
Speaker 1: black men. They don't give me no, no, no, they

1146
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 1: don't like who oh, they don't like black black women.

1147
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:07,840
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1148
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 1: So the national average for black men who are married,

1149
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 1: what do they married to? It's got to be bla

1150
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:17,880
Speaker 1: black women at what percentage? Over eighty five percent? So here,

1151
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 1: here's another one. Here's another one. But it don't matter though,

1152
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:22,560
Speaker 1: because once they make money, that's when they go get

1153
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: white women, white women. The national average for making over

1154
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 1: two hundred thousand dollars black men, right, how many of

1155
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 1: those women men are married to black women? I'll give

1156
00:53:32,600 --> 00:53:36,320
Speaker 1: him bout a cools ninety five percent, not at five.

1157
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 1: This is why this is listen, because they'll show you.

1158
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:43,919
Speaker 1: They'll show you the one black athlete who may be

1159
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: married to a white woman. Right, But then think about

1160
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:52,560
Speaker 1: Russell Westbrook, Russell Wilson, Von James, Steph Curry. I can

1161
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 1: keep going and going, Willie Cologne or who else? These

1162
00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 1: I'm talking about my friends now that I know, Stephen Bowen,

1163
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:04,400
Speaker 1: Marcus Colston, Kyle Aronson, all married, all wealthy, they money,

1164
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 1: all married to black women.

1165
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:07,400
Speaker 2: And then when you hear the horror stories we got

1166
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:08,760
Speaker 2: to talk about Scottie Pippot.

1167
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, girl, what's let's.

1168
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:17,400
Speaker 2: But bitch outside with future is crazy?

1169
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 1: Lex has a good point, though, because they'll show the

1170
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 1: Scottie Pippins right, and they'll say, look, this is how

1171
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 1: black men behave. But that's not the fact I'm married

1172
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:27,960
Speaker 1: to a black woman. My woman is black, she's Jamaican, Evincenti,

1173
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 1: and her mom is black as a motherfucker, a grandmother

1174
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 1: Black is a motherfucker. But they'll never push that out

1175
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:34,960
Speaker 1: there because it don't fall in line with the narrative

1176
00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 1: they want. You got to understand that destroying the black

1177
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:40,880
Speaker 1: family has been on the the the forefront of the

1178
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 1: mind of the people created this country.

1179
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:42,840
Speaker 2: Right.

1180
00:54:42,920 --> 00:54:45,799
Speaker 1: We weren't allowed to get married first, right, and even

1181
00:54:45,800 --> 00:54:47,319
Speaker 1: when we got married, there was a lot of times

1182
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 1: they took our women and raped our women and we

1183
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 1: had to watch because they do not want us to

1184
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 1: get together. Because if you have black the black family

1185
00:54:54,960 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 1: and we continue to work together. What's gonna happen to

1186
00:54:58,120 --> 00:55:00,399
Speaker 1: the wealth that happens in this country is gonna who

1187
00:55:00,960 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 1: black people are kids. How do you destroy the black

1188
00:55:04,560 --> 00:55:08,319
Speaker 1: wealth in this country, destroy the black family, make black

1189
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:10,760
Speaker 1: women think that black men don't love them, make black

1190
00:55:10,800 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 1: men think that black women don't respect them. That's all

1191
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: a fallacy. It's not true. The older I get, I'm

1192
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:19,320
Speaker 1: forty years old now, the more I realize that everything

1193
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:22,800
Speaker 1: I've learned from mass media has been programmed by people

1194
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:25,640
Speaker 1: who have an agenda. And I'm not a conspiracy theorist,

1195
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 1: but I'm not, but it is what it is. You

1196
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:28,840
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying.

1197
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 2: I mean because I oh, we had this conversation a

1198
00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:34,080
Speaker 2: while back with the guests that we had and I

1199
00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:37,800
Speaker 2: can't remember, but we were basically talking about like government

1200
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 2: assistance and housing and things like that, and they were saying,

1201
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:43,200
Speaker 2: how literally, like if you are a struggling you know,

1202
00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 2: a woman, and you're on housing, you can't have a

1203
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 2: man in the house.

1204
00:55:47,160 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 1: You can't purposefully the minutes you have a man in

1205
00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:52,719
Speaker 1: the house, they will take yours. So you know what

1206
00:55:52,760 --> 00:55:54,719
Speaker 1: people started to do in the seventies. I noticed, because

1207
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:56,799
Speaker 1: I have a family who've been through this. Dad may

1208
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,840
Speaker 1: be in the home common law marriage because men was

1209
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,720
Speaker 1: if I'm married, you can't get the assistance. I also

1210
00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 1: won't be there when the person who comes and checks

1211
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:07,239
Speaker 1: on the house and the kids. So when they come

1212
00:56:07,239 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 1: by this, so this woman here by herself, the dad

1213
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:11,879
Speaker 1: will be in a closet, the dad will be somewhere else.

1214
00:56:12,080 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 1: I have family members who I watch go through this

1215
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 1: and they're like, you know, the government coming by. But

1216
00:56:17,160 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 1: the reason why they do that is to be able

1217
00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 1: to get what they need from the government. And I

1218
00:56:22,520 --> 00:56:25,880
Speaker 1: hate to say this to say this, but I'm going

1219
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:27,880
Speaker 1: to say this. Matter of fact, I'm not gonna say it.

1220
00:56:27,880 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 1: I'm not even give her name. But there is a

1221
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 1: talking head who always speaks about the black family in

1222
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:39,720
Speaker 1: the black community, and because we have painted her as

1223
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:42,919
Speaker 1: a villain, we won't listen to what her messages are.

1224
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:45,440
Speaker 1: I don't agree with all of her messages. That's why

1225
00:56:45,440 --> 00:56:47,120
Speaker 1: I want to accept her. I won't say her name

1226
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: because I won't even give her I think you do.

1227
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 1: I won't give her any press on your platform. So

1228
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:55,399
Speaker 1: it's fair because of what you do. So I won't

1229
00:56:55,440 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 1: do that. But when you listen to some of the

1230
00:56:57,120 --> 00:57:01,960
Speaker 1: things she says. She's absolutely true. The black black people

1231
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 1: in this country are the best when we are together.

1232
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:08,439
Speaker 1: Look at Black Wall Street right. The minute we start

1233
00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,200
Speaker 1: to work together, they tear it down, right, and they

1234
00:57:11,239 --> 00:57:13,680
Speaker 1: tear it down. They tear us apart, and they tell

1235
00:57:13,760 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: us all the time, mass incarceration was the same thing.

1236
00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 1: How can we get black fathers out of the house.

1237
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,200
Speaker 1: Let's put them in prison. Right. Let's look at the

1238
00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: voting cycle, right, Only four percent of black men in

1239
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:27,000
Speaker 1: this country voted this year, not four percent of black men.

1240
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:30,560
Speaker 1: Four percent of the voting population were black men. And

1241
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:33,200
Speaker 1: the first thing they'll say is, mind you, we're only

1242
00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:35,160
Speaker 1: fifteen percent of the population. First they say is black

1243
00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:37,200
Speaker 1: men don't vote. But what they won't say is that

1244
00:57:37,240 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 1: eighty percent of the prison population is black men, and

1245
00:57:40,520 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 1: if they can't vote, it brings down the numbers. But

1246
00:57:43,160 --> 00:57:45,560
Speaker 1: rather than say that, you know what, they'll say, black

1247
00:57:45,600 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 1: men don't vote and they won't vote for Kamala. You

1248
00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:51,360
Speaker 1: see what I'm saying. It's like they just do things

1249
00:57:51,400 --> 00:57:53,720
Speaker 1: in order to tear us apart, and we have to

1250
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:57,720
Speaker 1: do a good job or a better job of staying together.

1251
00:57:57,520 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 2: Which is so crazy.

1252
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 3: Because it's like, how do we live in a tree

1253
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 3: where feelings can't vote, but one could be the president.

1254
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:04,000
Speaker 3: But that's another time.

1255
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 1: Because this country was never made for us. Think about it,

1256
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:09,720
Speaker 1: This constitution and everything was made for a white man.

1257
00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 2: And I'm not gonna lie. I have seen that narrative

1258
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 2: a lot today because obviously when y'all see this episode,

1259
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 2: we already know that Trump has won again president. Yeah,

1260
00:58:18,880 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 2: and it's been a lot of the narrative that they

1261
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:23,320
Speaker 2: were trying to blame, you know, like the black men

1262
00:58:23,400 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 2: and all this stuff. But when you saw the voting

1263
00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:27,360
Speaker 2: and everything they.

1264
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:33,919
Speaker 3: Had the statistics, Yeah, I think voted for Kamala because

1265
00:58:33,960 --> 00:58:35,520
Speaker 3: I said that to my man and he went off

1266
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:36,520
Speaker 3: on me.

1267
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:38,960
Speaker 1: What you said to say? What you said? You said

1268
00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 1: black men are going from?

1269
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 3: I was like, I feel like black men didn't show

1270
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:42,240
Speaker 3: up and nothing.

1271
00:58:42,280 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 2: He was like, hold on, oh, he's gonna get them

1272
00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 2: numbers out. That's one thing.

1273
00:58:47,120 --> 00:58:49,120
Speaker 1: I was like, my bad, I'm sorry, no, but but

1274
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 1: I mean this is this is really important for us

1275
00:58:51,520 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 1: as a community of people to stop pointing a finger

1276
00:58:53,720 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 1: at each yeah, and let me sit down with some queens.

1277
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:58,520
Speaker 1: Not for enough. I'm not gonna lie to y'all. Right,

1278
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie to y'all the first the minute

1279
00:59:01,080 --> 00:59:04,680
Speaker 1: my team sending me yo, you're gonna go to poor minds.

1280
00:59:06,760 --> 00:59:08,919
Speaker 1: You know why I want to sit down with black

1281
00:59:08,960 --> 00:59:11,560
Speaker 1: women and discuss about relationships. I told you, I've been

1282
00:59:11,560 --> 00:59:13,680
Speaker 1: watching y'all. I want to discuss it so that it

1283
00:59:13,720 --> 00:59:15,160
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be combative.

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Speaker 2: Right. A long time ago, we decided to stop that

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Speaker 2: gender war because we used to do that a lot.

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Speaker 2: We were in that gender war.

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Speaker 3: Like all they used to say we was male bashers.

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Speaker 3: I never feel like we were, to be honest, I

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Speaker 3: just think we had a lot of different opinions.

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Speaker 1: Can I be honest? Sure, I never thought that y'all

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Speaker 1: were male bashing, but I did think that based on

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Speaker 1: what you've lived through in your life, you told your truth,

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Speaker 1: and the truth is a lot of people don't want

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Speaker 1: to hear your truth if it doesn't fit what they

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Speaker 1: want yeah to be. So I can understand why you

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Speaker 1: got that label and not say that it was fair.

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Speaker 1: But I mean I get the same label too. If

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Speaker 1: I tell my truth about life, whoever is on the

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Speaker 1: opposite side of that truth is going to feel like

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Speaker 1: I'm bashing them.

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Speaker 2: And that goes to a good point, because that's why

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Speaker 2: our community is so separated. Because you'll say one thing,

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Speaker 1: They gonna stick together. They gonna stick together, but they

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Speaker 1: Today we talk about black Twitter. Why because we're all

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Speaker 1: on black Twitter. How much time if you spend on

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Speaker 1: white Twitter or Spanish Twitter.

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Speaker 2: But what I can say Chinese Twitter, you're right, but

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Speaker 2: black Twitter is, but black Twitter ourst enemy exactly. Black

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Speaker 2: Twitter is also the people who be dragging me everything

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01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:55,280
Speaker 2: just because I'll be like, oh I don't like pork chops.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you don't like sick. Don't don't even

1342
01:02:00,520 --> 01:02:02,920
Speaker 1: bring up grits because if you talk about grits on

1343
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Speaker 1: black Twitter, whether it's sugar problem. But what I will

1344
01:02:06,600 --> 01:02:08,200
Speaker 1: say this is you don't know the beefs that go

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Speaker 1: on in the other Twitter. We don't be on it.

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Speaker 1: White people be beefing, bro. I've seen white people and

1347
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Speaker 1: white men and white women going at it over Taylor

1348
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Speaker 1: Swift because white women been saying Taylor Swift is their saviors,

1349
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:22,120
Speaker 1: She's their Beyonce. Right, So white women is up here.

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Speaker 1: I'm independent, and I've seen white men going at them.

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Speaker 1: There was there was a post on white Twitter today,

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01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:34,440
Speaker 1: White Twitter Twitter that Fox News posted that Taylor Swift

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Speaker 1: is a hypocrite because she always talks about climate change,

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Speaker 1: but she flew a private jet to get to the game,

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Speaker 1: and it has more A private jet has more emissions

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Speaker 1: than any veg. So I'm watching these white people go

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Speaker 1: back and forth, and I'll saying, you know what's funny.

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Speaker 1: If this was a black news site and this was Beyonce,

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Speaker 1: we would be saying that black people are our own

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Speaker 1: worst enemy. White people do the same thing. Today's Stars

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Speaker 1: two and they people, we got to stop giving them

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Speaker 1: a past, like they don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't give them a past because I'll say this

1364
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Speaker 2: because people always look at black podcasts, they be like, oh,

1365
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Speaker 2: they don't do that, man. White podcasts be doing the

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Speaker 2: same they do. The podcast take away the microphone. I

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01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:14,880
Speaker 2: agree as far as Like what you're saying is they

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01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:16,800
Speaker 2: be doing the same thing as far as they talk

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Speaker 2: about relationship tipes and they talk about fifty to fifty,

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Speaker 2: they do this.

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Speaker 1: They do the same things.

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Speaker 2: But when I say solidarity, I'm talking about when it

1373
01:03:23,960 --> 01:03:27,080
Speaker 2: comes to like one cause as serious and as big

1374
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Speaker 2: as politics, they do not care that this man has

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Speaker 2: a feeling he's been accused of rape, assault, everything under

1376
01:03:34,600 --> 01:03:37,000
Speaker 2: Sunday Like, we don't want a black woman in there,

1377
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Speaker 2: so we gonna come together. And that's what I mean.

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Speaker 1: I feel when it comes to.

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Speaker 2: Making a change or what kind of change that they

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Speaker 2: want you, they don't care about what's white women As

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Speaker 2: a woman, it doesn't matter what race you are as

1382
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Speaker 2: a woman. To vote for Trump is absolutely insane. But

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Speaker 2: what they do is they're gonna stick by their skin

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Speaker 2: color before what's even best for them as it's an

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Speaker 2: individual person.

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Speaker 1: So that's what I think.

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Speaker 3: It's also a marriage thing though, because I was having

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Speaker 3: a conversation. I was having a conversation with I'm men

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Speaker 3: and he was just like, to be honest, a lot

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Speaker 3: of people didn't vote for her because people in marriages

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Speaker 3: want to have babies. If that's like like most people

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Speaker 3: are one policy voters, So a lot of people voting

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Speaker 3: for Kamala just because she was more you know, pro choice.

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01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 3: And he was basically saying, like people who are married,

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Speaker 3: women who are married, they don't care about abortion men.

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Speaker 3: But it's not about the abortion man, because what happens

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Speaker 3: when you're on the table and you're hemmerid I'm saying,

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Speaker 3: I feel like dying because they're looking at abortion as Oh,

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Speaker 3: I have sex with somebody and I got pregnant. There's

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Speaker 3: women on the table that are hemorrhaging and they're dying. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and they can't.

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Speaker 2: Abort the baby because it's illegal. I don't care that

1403
01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:45,360
Speaker 2: you went to the club and had sex with somebody.

1404
01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:47,640
Speaker 2: Now you're pregnant. Yea, that's not what we're talking about.

1405
01:04:48,080 --> 01:04:50,960
Speaker 2: But they're using that as an excuse. But they're not

1406
01:04:51,120 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 2: looking at the thousands and thousands of black women who

1407
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Speaker 2: are dying giving birth. You know what I'm saying. It's

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01:04:59,240 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 2: a much bigger issue. So I get But as a.

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Speaker 1: White woman, why do you but guess?

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Speaker 2: But it's going to be different when you sit on

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Speaker 2: you have a you have a.

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Speaker 1: Good point, and this is what I will have to say.

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Speaker 1: We as a Black community, expect everybody to just understand

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Speaker 1: our plight and care about our plight, and the plight

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01:05:17,920 --> 01:05:21,400
Speaker 1: don't address you while why would a white why would

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Speaker 1: a Karen care about a Dre' see?

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Speaker 2: Black women, you see what I'm saying, they wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: And if we're being fair about not representing, seventy eight

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Speaker 1: percent of black men voted for Kamala. Ninety one percent

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Speaker 1: of Black women voted for Kamala. Not that many white

1421
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Speaker 1: people voted for Trump like it wasn't in the nineties

1422
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Speaker 1: and the seventies. There were less white people who voted

1423
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Speaker 1: for Trump, which means there were less white people who

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Speaker 1: were in agreement with his policies and his politics, which

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Speaker 1: means white people don't always rock with white people. The

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01:05:56,320 --> 01:05:59,040
Speaker 1: bottom line is is that black people only fifteen percent

1427
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Speaker 1: of the population. It's fifty population, then Kamala would be

1428
01:06:03,840 --> 01:06:06,959
Speaker 1: the president. But the truth is is that we're still

1429
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Speaker 1: the minority, and we would need our Latino and Latina

1430
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Speaker 1: sisters and brothers, and yes, I mean I mean a lot.

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Speaker 1: A lot of those groups failed us. But that brings

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01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:21,120
Speaker 1: me back to my point. We should not ever be

1433
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Speaker 1: worried about any of those groups.

1434
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Speaker 2: This is that's like this, this is the building we

1435
01:06:25,160 --> 01:06:27,720
Speaker 2: got to the people of color, the POC and trying

1436
01:06:27,760 --> 01:06:31,600
Speaker 2: to group us all together this election. You didn't know before,

1437
01:06:32,040 --> 01:06:35,840
Speaker 2: you know now it ain't no one one for all groups.

1438
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Speaker 2: Oh we are people of color.

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Speaker 1: That's not what it's getting. No, it's never been that.

1440
01:06:39,480 --> 01:06:42,200
Speaker 2: It's never it's never been that. I mean, they've always

1441
01:06:42,200 --> 01:06:44,040
Speaker 2: tried to group us together. So I just hope that

1442
01:06:44,160 --> 01:06:45,520
Speaker 2: this woke up our I.

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Speaker 3: Mean they do, but I think that us being a

1444
01:06:48,640 --> 01:06:51,560
Speaker 3: part of the community, we know it's always being a divide.

1445
01:06:51,840 --> 01:06:54,479
Speaker 2: I was having a conversation with some I was on live.

1446
01:06:54,600 --> 01:06:57,520
Speaker 3: I was on TikTok Live because I know you've watched

1447
01:06:57,520 --> 01:06:59,600
Speaker 3: probably some of our shows whatever, but I talked about

1448
01:06:59,680 --> 01:07:02,680
Speaker 3: being apt and stuff. So like my biological dad is

1449
01:07:02,840 --> 01:07:06,320
Speaker 3: half Dominican. So I was on live one day and

1450
01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:08,320
Speaker 3: somebody had said something about that and they was like,

1451
01:07:08,360 --> 01:07:10,160
Speaker 3: but I was like, I'm still like because they were like,

1452
01:07:10,240 --> 01:07:11,800
Speaker 3: aren't you mixed or something? And I was like, no,

1453
01:07:11,920 --> 01:07:15,040
Speaker 3: I'm not mixed. Like my biological dad is half Dominican,

1454
01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:17,600
Speaker 3: but my grandfather was Afro Latino, like he was a

1455
01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:19,720
Speaker 3: black man and ethnicity, and.

1456
01:07:20,280 --> 01:07:21,439
Speaker 2: They was like they was like don't.

1457
01:07:21,480 --> 01:07:24,720
Speaker 3: They was like, don't say that on Live Dreia it

1458
01:07:24,880 --> 01:07:27,280
Speaker 3: do it do? And they was like, don't say that

1459
01:07:27,400 --> 01:07:29,720
Speaker 3: on Live Drea because you know, Dominicans get mad when

1460
01:07:29,720 --> 01:07:31,640
Speaker 3: you say they black. But it's like, but why y'all

1461
01:07:31,720 --> 01:07:34,920
Speaker 3: on the same island with Haiti and y'all look just

1462
01:07:35,200 --> 01:07:38,000
Speaker 3: like facts, But y'all mad that people say y'all black.

1463
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Speaker 2: I mean it's always been.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Man, it's easy. It's

1465
01:07:43,480 --> 01:07:47,080
Speaker 1: easier to be accepted when you are in alignment with

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Speaker 1: European value. M It's that simple, like we can't sit

1467
01:07:51,000 --> 01:07:52,640
Speaker 1: here and make it seem like that ain't what it is.

1468
01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:56,360
Speaker 1: The reason why Puerto Ricans and Dominicans beef is because

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01:07:56,400 --> 01:08:00,280
Speaker 1: Puerto Ricans say, well, we're Americans, you're not a marria Can.

1470
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Speaker 1: But then when you look at Puerto Rican culture, they

1471
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Speaker 1: tend to assimilate to European ideals, whereas Dominicans, like you say,

1472
01:08:08,160 --> 01:08:11,360
Speaker 1: look like Haitians. They share the same island Spanish, you

1473
01:08:11,400 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 1: see when they just speak Spanish. But they was like,

1474
01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:19,160
Speaker 1: I'm not black, I'm Dominican. If you understand. Oh god,

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Speaker 1: so here's a funny thing, right, you look at me

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01:08:23,960 --> 01:08:26,360
Speaker 1: I'm from New York. You look at me. Right, There's

1477
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Speaker 1: a bunch of Dominicans walk into a bodegga. I'm like,

1478
01:08:29,120 --> 01:08:30,639
Speaker 1: you'll probably let me get a baker egg and cheese,

1479
01:08:30,680 --> 01:08:32,760
Speaker 1: like all you Dominican. They start speaking Spanish like no,

1480
01:08:32,880 --> 01:08:34,840
Speaker 1: I'm not Dominican, I'm black. And I'm like, yeah, we

1481
01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 1: could be brothers. They literally say to me, I'm black,

1482
01:08:37,160 --> 01:08:44,439
Speaker 1: I'm Dominican. Yeah, and they they'll be darker than me. Please.

1483
01:08:45,080 --> 01:08:47,640
Speaker 1: I just if there's one thing I want you all

1484
01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:52,439
Speaker 1: to think about, don't shame people for their ideals. I

1485
01:08:52,520 --> 01:08:55,400
Speaker 1: don't understand where they're coming from. And even as ignorant

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01:08:55,439 --> 01:08:57,680
Speaker 1: and as it is, like for example, Dominicans saying I'm

1487
01:08:57,680 --> 01:09:00,880
Speaker 1: not black, as ignorant as it is, you got to understand, like,

1488
01:09:00,920 --> 01:09:02,960
Speaker 1: you know what, that person's trying to survive and exist

1489
01:09:03,040 --> 01:09:05,360
Speaker 1: in this world. And if they got something negative to

1490
01:09:05,400 --> 01:09:08,120
Speaker 1: say to me because I said the dominicand that's where

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01:09:08,120 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 1: they are in that moment, I'm not gonna waste no

1492
01:09:10,240 --> 01:09:12,040
Speaker 1: energy going back at something.

1493
01:09:12,040 --> 01:09:14,880
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like that's earlier about like

1494
01:09:15,479 --> 01:09:17,120
Speaker 2: the percentages of what people make and.

1495
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Speaker 1: And how Yeah, yeah, that's that's how you learn to

1496
01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 1: love people and not be so upset when they disagree

1497
01:09:25,280 --> 01:09:26,960
Speaker 1: with you. You're like, okay, you disagree with me because

1498
01:09:26,960 --> 01:09:30,800
Speaker 1: you're going through something the value you'd always da da Okay,

1499
01:09:31,240 --> 01:09:33,200
Speaker 1: you will never understand because you know what you may

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01:09:33,240 --> 01:09:35,400
Speaker 1: be right. I may never understand. But what I did

1501
01:09:35,520 --> 01:09:37,479
Speaker 1: was I put out some content and it made you

1502
01:09:37,560 --> 01:09:39,160
Speaker 1: feel a way. So then now you got to deal

1503
01:09:39,200 --> 01:09:41,240
Speaker 1: with how you feel. You know what I'm saying, Like,

1504
01:09:41,320 --> 01:09:44,679
Speaker 1: that's how I address everything I had two years ago

1505
01:09:45,880 --> 01:09:48,680
Speaker 1: is when the slap happened, and I had people in

1506
01:09:48,720 --> 01:09:52,800
Speaker 1: the industry ask me, what's your thoughts about this? And

1507
01:09:53,160 --> 01:09:55,360
Speaker 1: this is always with my answer. I said, well, I'll

1508
01:09:55,400 --> 01:09:57,519
Speaker 1: tell you like this. If your father and a dad

1509
01:09:58,080 --> 01:10:00,240
Speaker 1: and you you've been in a public eye and your

1510
01:10:00,320 --> 01:10:03,040
Speaker 1: kids have been scrutinized and been called names, and your

1511
01:10:03,080 --> 01:10:05,040
Speaker 1: wife has been picked on and stuff, you know who

1512
01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:08,000
Speaker 1: you side with? You side with Will If you're a

1513
01:10:08,080 --> 01:10:10,400
Speaker 1: comedian and you're just trying to do your art and

1514
01:10:10,439 --> 01:10:12,280
Speaker 1: you're trying to go out hand and entertain people and

1515
01:10:12,400 --> 01:10:13,920
Speaker 1: you just got slapped on stage, you know who you

1516
01:10:14,000 --> 01:10:17,800
Speaker 1: side with, Chris Rock. If you're a content creator and

1517
01:10:17,920 --> 01:10:19,280
Speaker 1: you you know you out here trying to make the

1518
01:10:19,320 --> 01:10:22,559
Speaker 1: best images possible, and then you're upset that Will Smith

1519
01:10:22,560 --> 01:10:24,800
Speaker 1: and Chris Rock destroyed the Oscars. You side with Will

1520
01:10:24,880 --> 01:10:27,639
Speaker 1: Packer because Will Packer is the one who produced the Oscars,

1521
01:10:27,680 --> 01:10:30,759
Speaker 1: the first black producer, and the Oscars happened in twenty

1522
01:10:30,840 --> 01:10:33,519
Speaker 1: twenty two. And this is what we gotta deal with.

1523
01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:36,160
Speaker 1: If you're a woman and you feel like you've never

1524
01:10:36,240 --> 01:10:39,000
Speaker 1: been protected and finally someone stood up and slapped the

1525
01:10:39,080 --> 01:10:43,000
Speaker 1: shit out of somebody, you siding with Jada. And when

1526
01:10:43,040 --> 01:10:44,720
Speaker 1: I say that, people be like, I never thought about

1527
01:10:44,720 --> 01:10:46,760
Speaker 1: it like that. That's how we gotta think about life, Yo,

1528
01:10:47,200 --> 01:10:49,000
Speaker 1: think about what you're going through in a moment. You're

1529
01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:51,720
Speaker 1: gonna side with, not who's right, You're gonna side with

1530
01:10:51,880 --> 01:10:56,240
Speaker 1: who you relate to. You know what I'm saying, there's

1531
01:10:56,320 --> 01:10:59,280
Speaker 1: no black and white right or wrong. There's so many

1532
01:10:59,360 --> 01:11:02,040
Speaker 1: shades of great. And you got to start asking yourself

1533
01:11:02,080 --> 01:11:04,200
Speaker 1: if I felt like this, what am I going through?

1534
01:11:04,240 --> 01:11:06,719
Speaker 1: That made me relate to that? And then start thinking

1535
01:11:06,800 --> 01:11:09,519
Speaker 1: like that, because that's what I did the minute it happened.

1536
01:11:09,600 --> 01:11:12,000
Speaker 1: The first thing I said was good for that motherfucker

1537
01:11:12,080 --> 01:11:13,680
Speaker 1: he got slapt because I'm tired of him.

1538
01:11:13,760 --> 01:11:15,360
Speaker 3: And then I had to think about, like shit, because

1539
01:11:15,400 --> 01:11:17,400
Speaker 3: that comment was just so unnecessarious.

1540
01:11:17,439 --> 01:11:19,439
Speaker 1: It was unnecessary, It was the wrong time. It wasn't

1541
01:11:19,479 --> 01:11:22,000
Speaker 1: his first time saying something to you. Yeah, like they

1542
01:11:22,040 --> 01:11:24,439
Speaker 1: had a lot, they had what he was from.

1543
01:11:24,680 --> 01:11:27,719
Speaker 2: When I found out that, you know, he was trying

1544
01:11:27,840 --> 01:11:30,120
Speaker 2: to you know, that's what it made it a little different.

1545
01:11:30,439 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 1: They didn't intention yeah, yeah, since since two thousand and

1546
01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:35,439
Speaker 1: I think it was twenty seventeen, the first time he

1547
01:11:35,560 --> 01:11:38,240
Speaker 1: hosted the Oscars. But the reason why I brought that

1548
01:11:38,320 --> 01:11:40,240
Speaker 1: point is I think I hope people listen to this

1549
01:11:40,360 --> 01:11:43,519
Speaker 1: and realize them when I disagree with someone, Am I

1550
01:11:43,600 --> 01:11:46,720
Speaker 1: disagreeing with them because I really don't agree? Or am

1551
01:11:46,720 --> 01:11:49,640
Speaker 1: I disagreeing because what they're saying triggered something in me

1552
01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:52,200
Speaker 1: that I had to look at myself, right, you.

1553
01:11:52,200 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 2: Know, so in the same breast as we were talking about.

1554
01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:56,760
Speaker 2: And I hate to bring it back to these it

1555
01:11:56,880 --> 01:11:58,320
Speaker 2: was so many I hate to say this, but it

1556
01:11:58,360 --> 01:12:00,719
Speaker 2: was a lot of like higher up like white people

1557
01:12:00,760 --> 01:12:04,280
Speaker 2: who were so like, will how dare you? How dare you?

1558
01:12:04,880 --> 01:12:09,200
Speaker 2: But y'all are acting like this man gutted him on

1559
01:12:09,400 --> 01:12:11,000
Speaker 2: stage in front of you know what, I'm saying he

1560
01:12:12,120 --> 01:12:14,400
Speaker 2: was it right. No, you should put your hands on nobody. Now.

1561
01:12:14,520 --> 01:12:16,880
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that what he did was whatever, but

1562
01:12:17,720 --> 01:12:21,320
Speaker 2: y'all were acting like he just hung this man on

1563
01:12:21,479 --> 01:12:24,559
Speaker 2: National TV Live. But then, y'all are the same people

1564
01:12:24,600 --> 01:12:28,920
Speaker 2: who were in Trump's corner understandable and things for we

1565
01:12:29,080 --> 01:12:31,240
Speaker 2: know for a fact that he's done things that could

1566
01:12:31,439 --> 01:12:32,280
Speaker 2: land you in prison.

1567
01:12:32,479 --> 01:12:35,000
Speaker 1: Can I tell you something funny that you said that

1568
01:12:35,400 --> 01:12:39,200
Speaker 1: My thirteen year old son brought up to me made me.

1569
01:12:39,320 --> 01:12:41,479
Speaker 1: That gave me perspective. And he wasn't thirty at the time.

1570
01:12:41,479 --> 01:12:43,560
Speaker 1: He said, Dad, I got a question. Why were so

1571
01:12:43,720 --> 01:12:47,280
Speaker 1: many more people upset about the slap than they were

1572
01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:51,439
Speaker 1: about George Floyd. Hmm, okay, this is mine at the time.

1573
01:12:52,280 --> 01:12:55,640
Speaker 1: Twelve year old son. Yeah, And I had to explain him.

1574
01:12:55,680 --> 01:12:58,720
Speaker 1: I said, you know, when people can't see themselves in

1575
01:12:58,800 --> 01:13:01,720
Speaker 1: a victim, they think it does matter. So if you're

1576
01:13:01,760 --> 01:13:04,759
Speaker 1: not a black man, if you never dealt with substance abuse,

1577
01:13:04,800 --> 01:13:06,760
Speaker 1: if you're not a George Floyd, then you look at

1578
01:13:06,760 --> 01:13:09,920
Speaker 1: that situation and then you think of every excuse as

1579
01:13:09,960 --> 01:13:12,320
Speaker 1: to why that had to happen. But then if you're

1580
01:13:12,360 --> 01:13:17,040
Speaker 1: a rich, pampered elitist white person and you see another

1581
01:13:17,120 --> 01:13:20,000
Speaker 1: person walk over and slap someone on stage on national TV.

1582
01:13:20,080 --> 01:13:23,160
Speaker 1: The first thing you think of is this is appalling.

1583
01:13:24,160 --> 01:13:25,760
Speaker 1: That's how I had to explain it to him, and

1584
01:13:25,800 --> 01:13:29,679
Speaker 1: he was just like, that doesn't make sense. Said, emotions

1585
01:13:29,760 --> 01:13:32,599
Speaker 1: don't make sense, bro, you know what I'm saying. Like emotions,

1586
01:13:32,880 --> 01:13:36,160
Speaker 1: the fact that they feel a way. You see what

1587
01:13:36,240 --> 01:13:38,479
Speaker 1: I'm saying. No, I say that don't got to make sense.

1588
01:13:38,560 --> 01:13:40,479
Speaker 3: It only has to make sense to the person that's

1589
01:13:40,520 --> 01:13:41,440
Speaker 3: having any emotion.

1590
01:13:42,600 --> 01:13:44,240
Speaker 2: Something that It was just a moment for them to

1591
01:13:44,360 --> 01:13:48,639
Speaker 2: like shit on wheel too, like the waiting. They cannot

1592
01:13:48,720 --> 01:13:51,680
Speaker 2: stand that the one of the number one actors in

1593
01:13:51,760 --> 01:13:54,559
Speaker 2: the world who can literally drop a movie right now

1594
01:13:54,640 --> 01:13:57,240
Speaker 2: it's gonna do millions in the box office because movies,

1595
01:13:57,439 --> 01:13:59,479
Speaker 2: it's hard to do a movie right now. Most movies

1596
01:13:59,520 --> 01:14:02,759
Speaker 2: are going to the theaters, but they're also going to stream. Absolutely,

1597
01:14:03,200 --> 01:14:05,479
Speaker 2: Will Smith can drop a movie and it's gonna be nowhere,

1598
01:14:05,560 --> 01:14:08,080
Speaker 2: and he'll put it at AMC only and it's still

1599
01:14:08,120 --> 01:14:10,519
Speaker 2: gonna do one hundred million. So this was their moment,

1600
01:14:10,680 --> 01:14:11,560
Speaker 2: like we got it.

1601
01:14:12,240 --> 01:14:16,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I still agree. I agree. I would have to

1602
01:14:16,680 --> 01:14:19,000
Speaker 1: be a thousand whenever you get a chance to hate

1603
01:14:19,040 --> 01:14:21,960
Speaker 1: someone who's doing so well that they're doing better than me.

1604
01:14:22,479 --> 01:14:25,080
Speaker 3: I mean, but we always get we always get a

1605
01:14:25,080 --> 01:14:27,439
Speaker 3: different response. So many people was like, I mean, this

1606
01:14:27,640 --> 01:14:29,720
Speaker 3: last Bad Boys movie, it was good, but let this

1607
01:14:29,880 --> 01:14:31,920
Speaker 3: be the last one. Y'all ain't say that about y'all

1608
01:14:31,920 --> 01:14:33,000
Speaker 3: ain't said that about Rocky.

1609
01:14:33,400 --> 01:14:34,360
Speaker 2: Y'all didn't say that about it.

1610
01:14:35,160 --> 01:14:37,879
Speaker 3: And it's like fifteen reason said three words.

1611
01:14:40,240 --> 01:14:42,360
Speaker 2: Bro, we know they killed the dog. I'm sorry, and

1612
01:14:42,400 --> 01:14:45,760
Speaker 2: they got ten motherfucker John Wicks. Y'all, let them Bad Boys.

1613
01:14:45,560 --> 01:14:50,840
Speaker 1: Keep coming because I'm gonna still go watch you every time.

1614
01:14:50,960 --> 01:14:52,880
Speaker 1: Every time. I'm gonna watch every time. I watched every

1615
01:14:52,920 --> 01:14:55,439
Speaker 1: Bad Boy. That's my favorite movie.

1616
01:14:55,479 --> 01:14:58,720
Speaker 2: I'll watched sorry that with a son in law d.

1617
01:15:02,280 --> 01:15:04,800
Speaker 1: Favorite part of the movie. It was a bad part,

1618
01:15:06,680 --> 01:15:09,519
Speaker 1: but yes, I want to call it. Sugarl xp Andy Schagarls.

1619
01:15:09,560 --> 01:15:11,240
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Speaker 3: Get into this second topic real quick. I wanted to

1646
01:16:22,720 --> 01:16:26,400
Speaker 3: talk about hiding money from your spouse because.

1647
01:16:27,960 --> 01:16:30,160
Speaker 2: Wow, I mean, this is a really good topic.

1648
01:16:30,240 --> 01:16:32,280
Speaker 3: If We've been wanting to talk to somebody that's married

1649
01:16:32,560 --> 01:16:35,120
Speaker 3: about it for a while because I grew up in

1650
01:16:35,160 --> 01:16:38,040
Speaker 3: a two parent household. My parents were married my whole life,

1651
01:16:38,400 --> 01:16:41,600
Speaker 3: and my mom, she always, you know, tells me that

1652
01:16:41,720 --> 01:16:44,000
Speaker 3: her and my dad they just had one joint bank account,

1653
01:16:44,040 --> 01:16:45,559
Speaker 3: and I'd be like, girl, you won't have a little stash.

1654
01:16:47,160 --> 01:16:49,160
Speaker 3: But then I ain't never been married, So maybe that's

1655
01:16:49,200 --> 01:16:51,120
Speaker 3: the wrong ideology.

1656
01:16:50,560 --> 01:16:52,439
Speaker 1: To have, don't. I don't think it's the wrong I

1657
01:16:52,479 --> 01:16:55,479
Speaker 1: don't think it's the wrong ideology. Like Kadein and I,

1658
01:16:55,640 --> 01:16:58,639
Speaker 1: we have multiple bank accounts. Okay, we have our business

1659
01:16:58,640 --> 01:17:00,840
Speaker 1: bank account where all of the money come because that's how.

1660
01:17:00,760 --> 01:17:03,680
Speaker 3: You avoid are we like a married couple, you know,

1661
01:17:03,840 --> 01:17:06,000
Speaker 3: being in business with somebody who's like But we got

1662
01:17:06,040 --> 01:17:07,040
Speaker 3: the same type of citus.

1663
01:17:07,080 --> 01:17:10,439
Speaker 1: So I also got I almost got canceled being canceled.

1664
01:17:10,560 --> 01:17:11,759
Speaker 1: I said, marriage is a business.

1665
01:17:12,120 --> 01:17:12,560
Speaker 3: I mean it is.

1666
01:17:12,640 --> 01:17:14,439
Speaker 1: Well, the Bible boppers came to me and was like,

1667
01:17:14,560 --> 01:17:16,479
Speaker 1: marriage is a covenant on the God. The fact that

1668
01:17:16,560 --> 01:17:19,200
Speaker 1: you said marriage is a business, I can't follow. I said, fine,

1669
01:17:19,240 --> 01:17:21,080
Speaker 1: if that's how it made you feel, you know what

1670
01:17:21,080 --> 01:17:22,800
Speaker 1: I'm saying, That's how I felt. I said, Hey, I

1671
01:17:22,840 --> 01:17:24,920
Speaker 1: think two things can be true. I didn't say that

1672
01:17:25,000 --> 01:17:27,479
Speaker 1: it wasn't a covenant of the but it is definitely

1673
01:17:27,560 --> 01:17:30,719
Speaker 1: a business right. Kadin and I share a business account.

1674
01:17:30,800 --> 01:17:33,880
Speaker 1: Under that business account, we have a trust. All of

1675
01:17:33,920 --> 01:17:36,640
Speaker 1: our money goes to our trust, our kids first, to

1676
01:17:36,680 --> 01:17:39,120
Speaker 1: make sure that we're good. Then we have a joint

1677
01:17:39,160 --> 01:17:42,080
Speaker 1: bank account, which is our savings. Her and I agree,

1678
01:17:42,640 --> 01:17:44,760
Speaker 1: this is what we're working on in this calendar year.

1679
01:17:45,439 --> 01:17:47,400
Speaker 1: Under that. She got her own checking account and I

1680
01:17:47,439 --> 01:17:49,560
Speaker 1: got my own checking account because I don't want you

1681
01:17:49,760 --> 01:17:52,000
Speaker 1: checking me on what I'm trying to buy, and I

1682
01:17:52,080 --> 01:17:53,800
Speaker 1: don't want to have to check you on what you

1683
01:17:53,960 --> 01:17:55,960
Speaker 1: trying to buy because you're also an individual.

1684
01:17:56,520 --> 01:17:59,040
Speaker 2: But as long as but all the money goes through

1685
01:17:59,080 --> 01:18:00,760
Speaker 2: the business account, and you can.

1686
01:18:00,720 --> 01:18:06,719
Speaker 1: Still absolutely no, I can't. I can't see her checking.

1687
01:18:07,200 --> 01:18:08,519
Speaker 2: What I'm saying. But you know how much goes in

1688
01:18:08,600 --> 01:18:09,719
Speaker 2: there every every week?

1689
01:18:10,200 --> 01:18:12,559
Speaker 1: Every week? I know so because because that's the partnership.

1690
01:18:12,760 --> 01:18:15,160
Speaker 1: Partnership is. And but the thing is her having her

1691
01:18:15,240 --> 01:18:17,600
Speaker 1: own her little stash. I ask her sometime, like how

1692
01:18:17,680 --> 01:18:19,840
Speaker 1: much money you got in your checking account? And she's like,

1693
01:18:20,400 --> 01:18:23,160
Speaker 1: I got a little song. Why I just make it

1694
01:18:23,280 --> 01:18:25,200
Speaker 1: on and I still I'm making sure you're good. Because

1695
01:18:25,200 --> 01:18:27,960
Speaker 1: one thing about Kadeena, She's gonna ask me. She was like, baby,

1696
01:18:28,120 --> 01:18:29,400
Speaker 1: I saw this bag, and I'm like, why are you

1697
01:18:29,479 --> 01:18:32,040
Speaker 1: asking me? You got your money? Yeah, And she's like, no,

1698
01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:34,200
Speaker 1: I just want to make sure that we are good.

1699
01:18:34,320 --> 01:18:35,920
Speaker 1: And I tell her, by the time it gets to

1700
01:18:36,040 --> 01:18:39,040
Speaker 1: that account, which is your account, You're gonna ask no

1701
01:18:39,160 --> 01:18:42,320
Speaker 1: fucking questions because I'm not asking no questions. If I'm

1702
01:18:42,320 --> 01:18:44,280
Speaker 1: a plan something for you and surprise you, I don't

1703
01:18:44,320 --> 01:18:47,240
Speaker 1: want you to know what I'm supprised. My vice is

1704
01:18:47,320 --> 01:18:50,040
Speaker 1: not her vice. I like cars. I like cars. She

1705
01:18:50,240 --> 01:18:52,800
Speaker 1: likes bags and shoes and trips. I don't want her

1706
01:18:52,840 --> 01:18:56,640
Speaker 1: to have to She's an individual. Imagine somebody's baby. Can

1707
01:18:56,720 --> 01:18:59,439
Speaker 1: I buy? Get the fuck? You're an adult and she works.

1708
01:19:00,160 --> 01:19:01,920
Speaker 1: She works, so you have your money that goes to you.

1709
01:19:02,000 --> 01:19:05,040
Speaker 1: I got my money to go to But ultimately, the

1710
01:19:06,080 --> 01:19:09,280
Speaker 1: estate building and the legacy building is already done before

1711
01:19:09,320 --> 01:19:12,360
Speaker 1: it gets to that point. So at that point, there's

1712
01:19:12,400 --> 01:19:14,760
Speaker 1: no arguments because we've already taken care of the kids

1713
01:19:14,800 --> 01:19:18,360
Speaker 1: and ourselves, you know. And the truth is I made

1714
01:19:18,400 --> 01:19:23,920
Speaker 1: that a priority when we first got together. I told

1715
01:19:23,920 --> 01:19:25,840
Speaker 1: her I said, Yo, if we're going to live together

1716
01:19:25,840 --> 01:19:27,320
Speaker 1: and be together, we got to be able to discuss

1717
01:19:27,479 --> 01:19:29,200
Speaker 1: finance in real time.

1718
01:19:29,320 --> 01:19:33,160
Speaker 2: That's an uncomfortable conversation. What but you know what I

1719
01:19:33,520 --> 01:19:36,519
Speaker 2: had I tell you all the time, if you can't

1720
01:19:36,600 --> 01:19:40,160
Speaker 2: have an uncomfortable conversation with your partner, your friend, your family,

1721
01:19:41,000 --> 01:19:45,160
Speaker 2: that exactly. Uncomfortable conversations always lead to growth every time.

1722
01:19:45,240 --> 01:19:48,599
Speaker 1: But you also realize that the uncomfortable conversations you're having

1723
01:19:49,120 --> 01:19:52,400
Speaker 1: isn't because that person just wants to be defiant or you.

1724
01:19:52,520 --> 01:19:55,160
Speaker 1: It's because y'all grew up differently. And I learned that

1725
01:19:55,840 --> 01:19:59,200
Speaker 1: my father in law never discussed with my wife finances.

1726
01:20:00,040 --> 01:20:02,800
Speaker 1: He was the bread well he wasn't. Well, this is

1727
01:20:02,840 --> 01:20:07,439
Speaker 1: another thing. My wife's mom was the breadwinner. Jamaican woman

1728
01:20:07,560 --> 01:20:09,360
Speaker 1: came over, became a nurse, director of nurse and she

1729
01:20:09,400 --> 01:20:11,439
Speaker 1: made over one hundred and fifty thousand dollars a year.

1730
01:20:12,080 --> 01:20:16,160
Speaker 1: Her father was a CNA. CNA's you know, they aren't wives.

1731
01:20:16,200 --> 01:20:19,360
Speaker 1: He made about forty five kids, but all the money

1732
01:20:19,400 --> 01:20:23,479
Speaker 1: they got collectively he bought property in the eighties and nineties,

1733
01:20:24,360 --> 01:20:26,400
Speaker 1: so here he wasn't the type of man that made

1734
01:20:26,439 --> 01:20:28,720
Speaker 1: a lot of money. On the salary, but he had

1735
01:20:28,760 --> 01:20:32,439
Speaker 1: the mental fortitude and the vision to buy multiple properties

1736
01:20:32,479 --> 01:20:34,439
Speaker 1: and put all of their kids through college with the

1737
01:20:34,520 --> 01:20:37,800
Speaker 1: properties he bought in equity within the So watching that,

1738
01:20:38,000 --> 01:20:40,800
Speaker 1: watching my dad, I said, Okay, it's my job as

1739
01:20:40,840 --> 01:20:42,960
Speaker 1: the man to make sure that we have a plan financially.

1740
01:20:43,320 --> 01:20:45,360
Speaker 1: But I don't want my wife to feel like she's

1741
01:20:45,400 --> 01:20:47,760
Speaker 1: a child in the house. And she got to come

1742
01:20:47,840 --> 01:20:49,680
Speaker 1: to me every day and be like, Babe, I want

1743
01:20:49,720 --> 01:20:52,280
Speaker 1: to get a nun. Here's your salary based on what

1744
01:20:52,400 --> 01:20:54,599
Speaker 1: you make. Here's my salary based on what I make.

1745
01:20:55,320 --> 01:20:59,559
Speaker 1: My salary goes to the kids like I just don't.

1746
01:20:59,640 --> 01:21:02,120
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm like, I'm gonna lie. My wife bought this.

1747
01:21:02,360 --> 01:21:08,280
Speaker 1: I was about to say, you want you want to

1748
01:21:08,280 --> 01:21:13,800
Speaker 1: hear a funny story? Funny stories. Thirty eighth birthday, my

1749
01:21:13,920 --> 01:21:15,720
Speaker 1: wife says to me. He's like, hey, baby, get up,

1750
01:21:15,840 --> 01:21:19,200
Speaker 1: You're going to the mall, like the mall, Like it's

1751
01:21:19,280 --> 01:21:21,400
Speaker 1: my birthday. Why the fuck we going to the mall.

1752
01:21:21,520 --> 01:21:23,040
Speaker 1: Like we go to the mall, we go to the jeweler.

1753
01:21:24,040 --> 01:21:28,160
Speaker 1: She goes, get whatever you want. I know that this

1754
01:21:28,439 --> 01:21:31,320
Speaker 1: is my wife. Now now now mind you, I'm the

1755
01:21:31,479 --> 01:21:34,680
Speaker 1: I'm the breadwinner. She'd be frinking. And when I tell you,

1756
01:21:34,800 --> 01:21:36,040
Speaker 1: I felt like a bad bitch in it.

1757
01:21:36,160 --> 01:21:38,840
Speaker 2: I was like, I was like, I can get down.

1758
01:21:39,400 --> 01:21:44,280
Speaker 1: Get I got this watch, I got this bracelet, I

1759
01:21:44,360 --> 01:21:47,439
Speaker 1: got this necklace, he said. And I was like, is

1760
01:21:47,479 --> 01:21:48,960
Speaker 1: this too much? Is too much? And she was like no,

1761
01:21:49,160 --> 01:21:52,519
Speaker 1: get it off. She's like, get it off. And then

1762
01:21:52,520 --> 01:21:54,320
Speaker 1: when she went and got she got me this because

1763
01:21:54,360 --> 01:21:57,000
Speaker 1: I don't I don't buy jewelry, so she got me

1764
01:21:57,080 --> 01:21:59,840
Speaker 1: all of these things. She got me all these things.

1765
01:22:00,040 --> 01:22:01,840
Speaker 1: You brought it for my birthday. This is why I

1766
01:22:01,880 --> 01:22:03,400
Speaker 1: wear it because I want people know she got me

1767
01:22:03,439 --> 01:22:04,680
Speaker 1: all of these van cleaves. I don't know what a

1768
01:22:04,760 --> 01:22:05,280
Speaker 1: vain clee was.

1769
01:22:05,520 --> 01:22:08,800
Speaker 2: I was like, no, that this that is expensive.

1770
01:22:09,280 --> 01:22:13,520
Speaker 1: That risks. She taught me about Van Cleave and Cardier bracelets.

1771
01:22:14,400 --> 01:22:15,880
Speaker 1: But I'm like, man, you get to do what you

1772
01:22:15,960 --> 01:22:17,920
Speaker 1: want to do as a woman. That's got to make

1773
01:22:17,960 --> 01:22:20,479
Speaker 1: you feel empowered. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Because

1774
01:22:20,520 --> 01:22:21,519
Speaker 1: she make home money.

1775
01:22:21,600 --> 01:22:24,800
Speaker 2: Period. Man, he is expensive.

1776
01:22:25,920 --> 01:22:27,800
Speaker 1: Now that's the fact. If a woman comes to me,

1777
01:22:27,840 --> 01:22:31,280
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be like listen, now, listen, I'll smash Can

1778
01:22:31,320 --> 01:22:40,240
Speaker 1: you get me an ap ice style? That's that's hilarious.

1779
01:22:40,520 --> 01:22:42,880
Speaker 1: I'm expensive. I'm a bad bitch. I'm expensive. I thought it.

1780
01:22:44,120 --> 01:22:49,559
Speaker 2: So now it's time take it into the big, big foul.

1781
01:22:54,280 --> 01:22:58,800
Speaker 1: We don't get in your business to look shoulder. That's

1782
01:22:58,840 --> 01:22:59,920
Speaker 1: my wife about the shoulder.

1783
01:23:03,080 --> 01:23:14,400
Speaker 2: I am so good. Okay, this is funny.

1784
01:23:14,479 --> 01:23:14,719
Speaker 1: Okay.

1785
01:23:14,800 --> 01:23:18,240
Speaker 2: So we were talking about snogamy earlier, right, and we

1786
01:23:18,320 --> 01:23:21,640
Speaker 2: were talking about you know you were You're saying like

1787
01:23:22,000 --> 01:23:24,680
Speaker 2: that is a decision that you made what you wanted to.

1788
01:23:24,880 --> 01:23:29,040
Speaker 2: But monogamy does look different for you know, everybody. So

1789
01:23:29,400 --> 01:23:31,240
Speaker 2: I just want to know, not saying that you do

1790
01:23:31,360 --> 01:23:33,799
Speaker 2: this or anybody. I'm just saying, what is your opinion

1791
01:23:33,920 --> 01:23:37,519
Speaker 2: on hall passes? And let me define hall passes for

1792
01:23:37,720 --> 01:23:39,880
Speaker 2: the big that are watching. So a hall pass is

1793
01:23:39,920 --> 01:23:42,800
Speaker 2: basically like a man or a woman they let their

1794
01:23:42,880 --> 01:23:45,960
Speaker 2: partner like, Okay, you can go out whatever it is

1795
01:23:46,080 --> 01:23:48,000
Speaker 2: like once a year, twice a year and do whatever

1796
01:23:48,040 --> 01:23:51,040
Speaker 2: you want with whoever you want, and that's your hall pass.

1797
01:23:51,080 --> 01:23:53,719
Speaker 2: I can't get mad. I don't ask you what. There's

1798
01:23:53,760 --> 01:23:56,439
Speaker 2: no conversation about it, and that's your hall pass. So

1799
01:23:56,720 --> 01:23:58,200
Speaker 2: how do you feel about hall passes?

1800
01:23:58,560 --> 01:24:03,720
Speaker 1: Me? Personally, I'm not a whole past god selfish. Yeah right,

1801
01:24:03,800 --> 01:24:06,640
Speaker 1: But I also understand that my wife is selfish. So

1802
01:24:06,800 --> 01:24:08,600
Speaker 1: when it comes to that, I know that I have

1803
01:24:08,720 --> 01:24:11,559
Speaker 1: to do my best to be everything she needs. People said,

1804
01:24:11,560 --> 01:24:12,800
Speaker 1: if I why you work out all the time. I

1805
01:24:12,920 --> 01:24:14,479
Speaker 1: work out all the time because when I get out

1806
01:24:14,520 --> 01:24:16,840
Speaker 1: the shower, I want my wife to look at me

1807
01:24:17,360 --> 01:24:24,200
Speaker 1: and be like, yeah, yeah, I got so I get

1808
01:24:24,240 --> 01:24:28,439
Speaker 1: out the shower and slow motion with you. I'm good

1809
01:24:28,560 --> 01:24:31,599
Speaker 1: with you. I'm like, you see this glisten. You see

1810
01:24:31,680 --> 01:24:35,200
Speaker 1: this glisten? Baby? Do you see the glisten? That's what

1811
01:24:35,400 --> 01:24:38,560
Speaker 1: I do, and I and I think it's important that

1812
01:24:38,760 --> 01:24:41,719
Speaker 1: men understand it's just important for us to keep ourselves

1813
01:24:41,800 --> 01:24:44,720
Speaker 1: up as we ask our women to keep ourselves up.

1814
01:24:45,720 --> 01:24:47,920
Speaker 1: I like a slim waist, fat ass, you know what

1815
01:24:47,920 --> 01:24:50,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Some some perky joint. Some I like the

1816
01:24:50,880 --> 01:24:53,639
Speaker 1: full lips. Yeah. I like a nice you know, nice,

1817
01:24:53,720 --> 01:24:55,840
Speaker 1: subtle makeup. I don't like too much makeup. I like

1818
01:24:55,920 --> 01:24:58,800
Speaker 1: subtle makeup, light beat, you know what I'm saying. Not

1819
01:24:58,840 --> 01:25:01,000
Speaker 1: too much contour. I don't like the contour too much.

1820
01:25:01,000 --> 01:25:02,920
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I don't like that. Man.

1821
01:25:02,960 --> 01:25:05,200
Speaker 1: I got I got my demands. I feel you but

1822
01:25:05,360 --> 01:25:07,599
Speaker 1: my wife got her demands too, you know what I'm saying.

1823
01:25:07,640 --> 01:25:09,320
Speaker 1: So I got to stay six packed up. You know,

1824
01:25:09,439 --> 01:25:13,040
Speaker 1: she like broad shoulders, she like a big chest. I'm

1825
01:25:13,080 --> 01:25:19,719
Speaker 1: ab ump like im. Don't I cut I cut dairy

1826
01:25:19,840 --> 01:25:22,479
Speaker 1: out my dollet, I cut red meat. My wife told

1827
01:25:22,520 --> 01:25:24,439
Speaker 1: me what she like. I was like, okay, okay. She

1828
01:25:24,680 --> 01:25:27,720
Speaker 1: she like a strong man with a strong physique. So

1829
01:25:27,800 --> 01:25:31,000
Speaker 1: I still deadlift, I still squat, I still hang clean.

1830
01:25:31,040 --> 01:25:34,479
Speaker 1: Because if I got a picture I picked, I pick

1831
01:25:34,560 --> 01:25:36,080
Speaker 1: off up here, I'll be like, come on, baby, I

1832
01:25:36,160 --> 01:25:37,679
Speaker 1: put her on here. I just like, come on baby.

1833
01:25:39,439 --> 01:25:41,960
Speaker 1: Sometimes women like the lift up, you know, they like

1834
01:25:42,040 --> 01:25:44,040
Speaker 1: to climb on. And it's like, let me grab here.

1835
01:25:44,080 --> 01:25:46,639
Speaker 1: And just she's five five.

1836
01:25:48,200 --> 01:25:53,599
Speaker 2: Small right the average, and I'm five eleven.

1837
01:25:53,840 --> 01:25:56,559
Speaker 1: I'm five eleven, So I know most women prefer six

1838
01:25:56,680 --> 01:25:59,360
Speaker 1: oneing up. I said, I understand that, but I'm not

1839
01:25:59,439 --> 01:26:02,680
Speaker 1: six one. You know what I'm saying. But I'm strong though,

1840
01:26:02,960 --> 01:26:04,600
Speaker 1: no father love, it ain't too shy of it, but

1841
01:26:04,680 --> 01:26:06,200
Speaker 1: it ain't six to one. And I get you. And

1842
01:26:06,240 --> 01:26:08,720
Speaker 1: one thing I tell you, gentlemen, if you have deficiencies

1843
01:26:08,800 --> 01:26:11,040
Speaker 1: in your life, man, don't don't be upset about it.

1844
01:26:11,160 --> 01:26:13,240
Speaker 1: I could never be six to one. But what I

1845
01:26:13,360 --> 01:26:15,880
Speaker 1: will do is lift my ass so that I can

1846
01:26:16,040 --> 01:26:17,760
Speaker 1: you know, you know what I'm saying, And I eat

1847
01:26:17,840 --> 01:26:20,240
Speaker 1: right so that I can be here. You know what

1848
01:26:20,280 --> 01:26:22,600
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I don't do the two minute joint. If

1849
01:26:22,640 --> 01:26:24,720
Speaker 1: we're gonna be honest, I know. I am the type

1850
01:26:24,760 --> 01:26:29,160
Speaker 1: of lover I love so never a quickie. Sometimes I

1851
01:26:29,240 --> 01:26:30,920
Speaker 1: don't like quickies. You want to know why I don't like.

1852
01:26:31,520 --> 01:26:34,360
Speaker 2: I don't like long sakes either, though I get that

1853
01:26:35,360 --> 01:26:36,920
Speaker 2: she don't like long So we got four kids, she

1854
01:26:36,920 --> 01:26:39,559
Speaker 2: don't got time for all, but she do like to orgasm.

1855
01:26:39,680 --> 01:26:41,680
Speaker 2: I think it needs, Yeah, it needs to be a

1856
01:26:41,760 --> 01:26:42,679
Speaker 2: good amount of time.

1857
01:26:42,800 --> 01:26:46,880
Speaker 1: But but so we we've been married for a long

1858
01:26:46,960 --> 01:26:49,599
Speaker 1: time and not for nothing. Men do like the long

1859
01:26:49,680 --> 01:26:52,160
Speaker 1: sex sessions because we like to be in there. We

1860
01:26:52,320 --> 01:26:55,360
Speaker 1: like to see y'all. Yeah, but I've learned to understand.

1861
01:26:55,400 --> 01:26:58,599
Speaker 1: I've understood that if you're not helping your women get

1862
01:26:58,640 --> 01:27:01,800
Speaker 1: to her place, you can't have long sessions. I've also

1863
01:27:01,960 --> 01:27:04,320
Speaker 1: learned that if she gets to her place too fast,

1864
01:27:04,400 --> 01:27:06,760
Speaker 1: it's gonna be over. So what I learned how to

1865
01:27:06,800 --> 01:27:10,160
Speaker 1: do is help my wife edge, which means I'll keep

1866
01:27:10,200 --> 01:27:12,080
Speaker 1: her on the like, this is this is my move.

1867
01:27:12,400 --> 01:27:14,320
Speaker 1: You know I'm gonna put y'all up on because they

1868
01:27:14,360 --> 01:27:17,439
Speaker 1: don't know this is my this is my thing. I'm

1869
01:27:17,479 --> 01:27:19,000
Speaker 1: gonna tell you the game, this is what you do,

1870
01:27:21,000 --> 01:27:23,559
Speaker 1: this is what you do. Tell you, I'm gonna tell

1871
01:27:23,560 --> 01:27:26,720
Speaker 1: you that's what you do. Right. I love to see

1872
01:27:26,760 --> 01:27:29,559
Speaker 1: my woman enjoy sex. For the first thing I'm gonna

1873
01:27:29,560 --> 01:27:31,400
Speaker 1: do is I'm gonna put my mouth on it. You

1874
01:27:31,439 --> 01:27:32,840
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I got nice lips. I know

1875
01:27:32,920 --> 01:27:34,560
Speaker 1: women like my lips, so I make sure that she

1876
01:27:34,720 --> 01:27:39,360
Speaker 1: did right. Then what I do is I make sure

1877
01:27:39,400 --> 01:27:42,080
Speaker 1: it's right there to the point, and then I stop.

1878
01:27:43,040 --> 01:27:45,880
Speaker 1: Then I beat that thing up. Because when I beat

1879
01:27:45,920 --> 01:27:50,479
Speaker 1: that thing up, because now she's edging, I feel like no.

1880
01:27:50,800 --> 01:27:53,120
Speaker 1: I think it's important for men and women to understand

1881
01:27:53,160 --> 01:27:56,120
Speaker 1: that men don't only think about themselves when it comes

1882
01:27:56,160 --> 01:27:58,679
Speaker 1: to sex. I get her right to where she edges.

1883
01:27:58,920 --> 01:28:00,760
Speaker 1: Then I beat that thing up. And then when I'm

1884
01:28:00,800 --> 01:28:04,000
Speaker 1: beating that thing up getting what I want and I

1885
01:28:04,160 --> 01:28:07,000
Speaker 1: know that I'm about to, that's when I stopped. That's

1886
01:28:07,000 --> 01:28:08,880
Speaker 1: why y'all go. Then I put a back on her

1887
01:28:08,920 --> 01:28:11,040
Speaker 1: back and I say, baby, hold this one more time,

1888
01:28:11,439 --> 01:28:12,000
Speaker 1: and then I just.

1889
01:28:16,960 --> 01:28:18,280
Speaker 2: There you putting this drink.

1890
01:28:18,560 --> 01:28:21,519
Speaker 1: Then I make I make them means I get them

1891
01:28:21,600 --> 01:28:24,800
Speaker 1: legs shaking. I'm gonna get them legs shaken. I'm gonna

1892
01:28:24,840 --> 01:28:29,280
Speaker 1: get them lugs shaking. Once the legs starts shaking, that's

1893
01:28:29,320 --> 01:28:35,720
Speaker 1: when I get behind that joint and I just you

1894
01:28:35,800 --> 01:28:37,240
Speaker 1: see the should I get behind.

1895
01:28:37,040 --> 01:28:41,640
Speaker 2: That, he'll be beating that up.

1896
01:28:41,840 --> 01:28:46,280
Speaker 1: Four kids later, baby, okay one half? Four kids? Was

1897
01:28:46,320 --> 01:28:47,600
Speaker 1: that like the golf was it?

1898
01:28:47,760 --> 01:28:48,000
Speaker 2: Just like?

1899
01:28:48,120 --> 01:28:48,439
Speaker 1: Okay?

1900
01:28:48,720 --> 01:28:51,120
Speaker 2: We both we had them three we both came from Okay.

1901
01:28:51,680 --> 01:28:53,639
Speaker 1: So I told her in college, I only have boys.

1902
01:28:53,640 --> 01:28:55,680
Speaker 1: I don't have girls. And I told her that right,

1903
01:28:56,400 --> 01:28:59,679
Speaker 1: I'm not lying, but I wanted a girl. You don't

1904
01:28:59,680 --> 01:29:02,240
Speaker 1: wanted the girl because I felt like my wife deserved

1905
01:29:02,280 --> 01:29:04,479
Speaker 1: a little version of her that she.

1906
01:29:04,520 --> 01:29:06,640
Speaker 3: Could groom into being, you know, and want have been

1907
01:29:06,680 --> 01:29:09,960
Speaker 3: so cute because y'all kids are extremely.

1908
01:29:11,080 --> 01:29:11,120
Speaker 4: That.

1909
01:29:11,360 --> 01:29:13,479
Speaker 2: That's crazy though, because I think my sister is like that.

1910
01:29:13,640 --> 01:29:14,679
Speaker 2: She only has boys.

1911
01:29:15,000 --> 01:29:16,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, does she want to have another one?

1912
01:29:17,640 --> 01:29:19,360
Speaker 1: I think they do. I think they do.

1913
01:29:19,600 --> 01:29:21,720
Speaker 2: But she's like, I can't deal with this. She's like,

1914
01:29:21,760 --> 01:29:24,040
Speaker 2: I'm in the house with three boys.

1915
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Speaker 1: Three men.

1916
01:29:26,120 --> 01:29:28,920
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. So for your wife, oh lord,

1917
01:29:28,960 --> 01:29:29,920
Speaker 2: And I've.

1918
01:29:29,760 --> 01:29:31,800
Speaker 3: Been following you and your wife on social media for

1919
01:29:31,880 --> 01:29:33,320
Speaker 3: a while because, like I said, I'm a I'm a

1920
01:29:33,360 --> 01:29:36,600
Speaker 3: fan of listens and I love y'all dynamic too. But

1921
01:29:36,840 --> 01:29:39,120
Speaker 3: like I know that y'all said, y'all not gonna have

1922
01:29:39,360 --> 01:29:40,040
Speaker 3: any more kids.

1923
01:29:40,160 --> 01:29:42,000
Speaker 1: You can't. Yeah, you can't have any more kids. I

1924
01:29:42,000 --> 01:29:45,040
Speaker 1: gotta rect me know that's right. You see, he needed

1925
01:29:45,160 --> 01:29:50,000
Speaker 1: one the alone, like I didn't need one.

1926
01:29:50,160 --> 01:29:51,240
Speaker 2: That show.

1927
01:29:52,720 --> 01:29:57,320
Speaker 1: Y'all we are the Only reason why God to a

1928
01:29:57,400 --> 01:29:59,800
Speaker 1: sected me is because she was postpartum, yeah, I think

1929
01:30:00,360 --> 01:30:02,799
Speaker 1: after the last one, and she got on birth control.

1930
01:30:02,880 --> 01:30:04,960
Speaker 1: But the birth control made her knee mick and I

1931
01:30:05,120 --> 01:30:06,720
Speaker 1: was like, Yo, you've already did enough to give us

1932
01:30:06,760 --> 01:30:10,439
Speaker 1: for kids. Let me do my parts. Plus I thank you.

1933
01:30:10,520 --> 01:30:14,040
Speaker 1: I received that, But I also was being selfish, and

1934
01:30:14,200 --> 01:30:16,200
Speaker 1: I knew that if I had a resected me and

1935
01:30:16,240 --> 01:30:18,120
Speaker 1: she didn't have to worry about it, she would be

1936
01:30:18,200 --> 01:30:21,960
Speaker 1: more inclined to be you know what I'm saying, I

1937
01:30:22,040 --> 01:30:25,000
Speaker 1: am freaking so listen. I will say this about monogamy.

1938
01:30:25,040 --> 01:30:29,960
Speaker 1: This is why I enjoy monogamy. I'm nasty clearly. I

1939
01:30:30,160 --> 01:30:33,160
Speaker 1: like to I like to lick and kiss, and I

1940
01:30:33,360 --> 01:30:35,880
Speaker 1: like i'm I'm I'm the type of guy that kay,

1941
01:30:35,960 --> 01:30:38,360
Speaker 1: come up here, sit up, sit up here, let me.

1942
01:30:38,920 --> 01:30:40,640
Speaker 3: You can't do that whatever, But do you feel like

1943
01:30:40,720 --> 01:30:43,400
Speaker 3: that's why y'all's relationship in y'all marriage have lasted so

1944
01:30:43,479 --> 01:30:44,599
Speaker 3: long because y'all keep his spike.

1945
01:30:44,760 --> 01:30:49,439
Speaker 1: Absolutely, I'm allowed to be the sexual being that I

1946
01:30:49,560 --> 01:30:52,360
Speaker 1: am because my wife embraces it. I don't. I don't

1947
01:30:52,400 --> 01:30:55,479
Speaker 1: come home and have to deal with that's my camera man,

1948
01:30:56,560 --> 01:30:58,960
Speaker 1: My camera man over there, that's my boy Matt. He

1949
01:30:59,080 --> 01:31:02,400
Speaker 1: will tell you around nine thirty, right, no matter how

1950
01:31:02,439 --> 01:31:04,880
Speaker 1: many people we got in the house, Kadeen is gonna

1951
01:31:04,880 --> 01:31:06,720
Speaker 1: go put on some red shorts they say co ed

1952
01:31:06,840 --> 01:31:09,679
Speaker 1: on the back. It's gonna be a crop top. Matt

1953
01:31:09,960 --> 01:31:12,240
Speaker 1: will be the one to say, yo, trying to wrap

1954
01:31:12,360 --> 01:31:15,800
Speaker 1: this ship up because she knows what her husband needs.

1955
01:31:16,840 --> 01:31:21,080
Speaker 1: She knows my oldest son, Jackson knows Jackson.

1956
01:31:20,800 --> 01:31:22,880
Speaker 2: Will come to me like that, Oh I have a jackson,

1957
01:31:22,960 --> 01:31:27,880
Speaker 2: my nephew's Jackson, and you'll be like, you.

1958
01:31:27,920 --> 01:31:31,280
Speaker 1: Know, And that's the responsibility as a man. My responsibility

1959
01:31:31,360 --> 01:31:33,200
Speaker 1: is provided make sure that I give everything I have

1960
01:31:33,280 --> 01:31:36,320
Speaker 1: sexualy to my wife. My wife understands that it's my opportunity,

1961
01:31:36,560 --> 01:31:39,000
Speaker 1: it's my obligation to make sure my husband's good.

1962
01:31:39,280 --> 01:31:42,479
Speaker 2: But I love that fun too. It's say I love

1963
01:31:42,520 --> 01:31:45,519
Speaker 2: that like I love hearing their perspectiveness because it makes

1964
01:31:45,600 --> 01:31:49,920
Speaker 2: you actually look forward to being married, which which makes

1965
01:31:49,960 --> 01:31:54,800
Speaker 2: me have a question for you. Okay, y'all. So now

1966
01:31:54,920 --> 01:31:57,760
Speaker 2: it is our item of the Week segment, and y'all know,

1967
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1968
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1969
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1970
01:32:07,680 --> 01:32:12,479
Speaker 3: La land Cosmetics. I have one the creamy red lip gloss.

1971
01:32:12,560 --> 01:32:15,400
Speaker 3: It's called such an Aries. It's so pretty and look

1972
01:32:15,400 --> 01:32:19,320
Speaker 3: at the packageing I love. I love that it's bling bling.

1973
01:32:21,080 --> 01:32:24,800
Speaker 3: Oh okay, so but it's so pretty though.

1974
01:32:24,960 --> 01:32:28,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a lipstick lip gloss connis, you know, so

1975
01:32:29,120 --> 01:32:32,240
Speaker 2: talk about like the texture of it, the shine, the sheen,

1976
01:32:32,439 --> 01:32:33,280
Speaker 2: all that good stuff.

1977
01:32:33,560 --> 01:32:35,760
Speaker 3: So I love the texture of it. It's very much

1978
01:32:35,920 --> 01:32:39,160
Speaker 3: non sticky. I hate a super sticky lip gloss. It's

1979
01:32:39,240 --> 01:32:43,000
Speaker 3: not sticky at all. It's very creamy. And I've been

1980
01:32:43,000 --> 01:32:45,719
Speaker 3: having it all for you know, hours, so we've been last.

1981
01:32:46,960 --> 01:32:48,559
Speaker 3: It's real cute and look at the pigmy.

1982
01:32:48,680 --> 01:32:52,000
Speaker 2: I like that, So y'all know me. I am a

1983
01:32:53,160 --> 01:32:56,200
Speaker 2: highlighter girly. I love a good highlight. So she also

1984
01:32:56,320 --> 01:32:58,679
Speaker 2: sent us and shout out to La La This brand

1985
01:32:58,800 --> 01:33:03,559
Speaker 2: is actually it's vegan and cruelty free, and it's black owned,

1986
01:33:03,680 --> 01:33:06,519
Speaker 2: so you are supporting a black owned business. So I

1987
01:33:06,600 --> 01:33:08,519
Speaker 2: don't know if y'all remember a long time ago when

1988
01:33:08,520 --> 01:33:12,120
Speaker 2: they used to have the Anastasia Beverly Hills highlighter palettes.

1989
01:33:12,479 --> 01:33:14,960
Speaker 2: The girl's not doing highlighter palates no more. And you

1990
01:33:15,040 --> 01:33:18,320
Speaker 2: can also use this as a bless you girl, use

1991
01:33:18,400 --> 01:33:21,680
Speaker 2: it as an eyeshadow. So I actually have on the

1992
01:33:21,840 --> 01:33:23,080
Speaker 2: Sunset highlighter.

1993
01:33:23,880 --> 01:33:25,080
Speaker 1: And the good thing.

1994
01:33:25,040 --> 01:33:28,760
Speaker 2: About this palette is it gives you options, Okay, And

1995
01:33:28,880 --> 01:33:30,880
Speaker 2: she sent a brush with us, so she does have

1996
01:33:31,040 --> 01:33:34,920
Speaker 2: highlighter brushes. Brushes very soft and went on super smooth.

1997
01:33:35,040 --> 01:33:38,280
Speaker 2: And I always love a gold highlight. I think on

1998
01:33:38,400 --> 01:33:41,000
Speaker 2: that brown skin, it just gives like I've been sitting

1999
01:33:41,000 --> 01:33:44,880
Speaker 2: in the sun all day. Yes, so yes, shout out

2000
01:33:44,920 --> 01:33:47,680
Speaker 2: to La La land Cosmetics. I love the highlighter. And

2001
01:33:47,880 --> 01:33:52,639
Speaker 2: then she also has a what's it called the Chocolate

2002
01:33:53,080 --> 01:33:56,640
Speaker 2: chocolate lit bloss set. So I have on box of

2003
01:33:56,760 --> 01:33:59,479
Speaker 2: chocolate li box of chocolate lipt gloss set. So I

2004
01:33:59,600 --> 01:34:02,840
Speaker 2: put on the rees kisses. It's like a nude color.

2005
01:34:03,240 --> 01:34:05,280
Speaker 2: And one thing I love because they be forgetting about

2006
01:34:05,479 --> 01:34:07,879
Speaker 2: the brown skin girls when it comes to nude colors.

2007
01:34:08,240 --> 01:34:11,599
Speaker 2: So these are like nude for like the women of color.

2008
01:34:12,120 --> 01:34:14,200
Speaker 2: So it has like a darker brown in there, like

2009
01:34:14,320 --> 01:34:18,760
Speaker 2: a darker kind of like pinkish chocolate chocolate color. But

2010
01:34:18,840 --> 01:34:20,880
Speaker 2: I have on the more like nude pink and I

2011
01:34:21,000 --> 01:34:23,479
Speaker 2: put it on with a brown lipliner, a dark brown

2012
01:34:23,520 --> 01:34:27,800
Speaker 2: lipliner and a clear gloss. And baby, I'm just a

2013
01:34:27,960 --> 01:34:29,960
Speaker 2: I stick to the same colors on my lip.

2014
01:34:30,120 --> 01:34:32,400
Speaker 3: And I feel like this chocolate brown color will be

2015
01:34:32,479 --> 01:34:35,559
Speaker 3: perfect for the fall. Y'all, fall is coming up, So yeah,

2016
01:34:35,600 --> 01:34:38,160
Speaker 3: this would be really really cute with like a chestnut lipliner.

2017
01:34:39,080 --> 01:34:39,600
Speaker 1: I love that.

2018
01:34:39,960 --> 01:34:42,680
Speaker 2: So make sure y'all go to La La Land Cosmatics

2019
01:34:42,840 --> 01:34:44,759
Speaker 2: dot com. We're gonna put the link in the bio

2020
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2021
01:34:48,240 --> 01:34:51,479
Speaker 2: fifteen percent off of your first order. You know, support

2022
01:34:51,560 --> 01:34:56,400
Speaker 2: a small, own black business. That highlighter palette she did

2023
01:34:56,479 --> 01:34:57,160
Speaker 2: her big one and.

2024
01:34:57,240 --> 01:34:58,800
Speaker 3: These lip gloss too, y'all see it?

2025
01:35:00,479 --> 01:35:00,599
Speaker 2: Oh?

2026
01:35:00,720 --> 01:35:02,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I wanted to ask you because, like I

2027
01:35:02,920 --> 01:35:06,200
Speaker 3: feel like, your beautiful family, your beautiful wife, so many

2028
01:35:06,439 --> 01:35:09,560
Speaker 3: people look up to y'all as couple goals. So do

2029
01:35:09,600 --> 01:35:12,439
Speaker 3: you ever feel the pressure to be a couple goals?

2030
01:35:13,400 --> 01:35:15,320
Speaker 1: It's funny. It's funny you ask that question because the

2031
01:35:15,479 --> 01:35:17,720
Speaker 1: first thing I hate, the whole couple of goals things. Yes,

2032
01:35:17,840 --> 01:35:19,800
Speaker 1: in this conversation, I realized I don't think that there's

2033
01:35:19,840 --> 01:35:23,240
Speaker 1: one monolithic way to describe a couple. So when you

2034
01:35:23,360 --> 01:35:25,439
Speaker 1: say a couple goals, people are asking, we all got

2035
01:35:25,520 --> 01:35:27,240
Speaker 1: to be that way? Know the fuck you don't? You know?

2036
01:35:27,280 --> 01:35:29,200
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Nobody has to emulate me

2037
01:35:29,320 --> 01:35:31,200
Speaker 1: and Kadeen to be a couple goals. So I hate it,

2038
01:35:31,240 --> 01:35:34,880
Speaker 1: but I do understand why we get that label. I

2039
01:35:34,920 --> 01:35:37,840
Speaker 1: don't think it's pressure because I'm just being myself. Yeah,

2040
01:35:38,520 --> 01:35:42,880
Speaker 1: if I wasn't truly in love and wasn't truly monogamous

2041
01:35:42,920 --> 01:35:45,000
Speaker 1: and didn't really value my wife, it be pressure because

2042
01:35:45,000 --> 01:35:46,519
Speaker 1: I'm like, I got to keep this shit up, but

2043
01:35:46,640 --> 01:35:49,280
Speaker 1: I really get to wake up in the morning, look

2044
01:35:49,280 --> 01:35:51,599
Speaker 1: at my wife, love her, love my kids, love my life,

2045
01:35:51,640 --> 01:35:53,200
Speaker 1: and just live it, you know what I'm saying. So

2046
01:35:53,479 --> 01:35:56,080
Speaker 1: I don't feel a need to put on. This is

2047
01:35:56,120 --> 01:35:57,920
Speaker 1: who I am. I can talk about my wife and

2048
01:35:58,439 --> 01:36:00,760
Speaker 1: all day and not feel like putting on because this

2049
01:36:00,800 --> 01:36:01,519
Speaker 1: is how we live.

2050
01:36:01,640 --> 01:36:04,320
Speaker 2: You know. I love that for y'all. I love that

2051
01:36:04,400 --> 01:36:06,160
Speaker 2: for her because I'm not gonna lie. Like I said,

2052
01:36:06,200 --> 01:36:08,960
Speaker 2: I'm not a man, but my being a woman in

2053
01:36:09,040 --> 01:36:12,120
Speaker 2: my experience at dating, you know, y'all both have something

2054
01:36:12,280 --> 01:36:15,519
Speaker 2: very rare and beautiful. So it's good to see a

2055
01:36:15,640 --> 01:36:22,000
Speaker 2: healthy relationship but also people that not not admire but appreciate.

2056
01:36:22,200 --> 01:36:22,639
Speaker 1: I appreciate.

2057
01:36:22,760 --> 01:36:26,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, seeing the appreciation. I think everybody can see

2058
01:36:26,320 --> 01:36:29,280
Speaker 2: that and be like, okay, it's possible because I think

2059
01:36:29,360 --> 01:36:31,479
Speaker 2: for us as black women, like she said, getting in

2060
01:36:31,560 --> 01:36:33,280
Speaker 2: our thirties, you kind of lose hope a little bit.

2061
01:36:33,680 --> 01:36:36,000
Speaker 2: You lose hope to finding your partner or your forever.

2062
01:36:36,040 --> 01:36:37,439
Speaker 2: You'd be like, you know what, I'm okay with this,

2063
01:36:37,560 --> 01:36:40,679
Speaker 2: and I'm okay with that, but you know that gives

2064
01:36:40,840 --> 01:36:43,040
Speaker 2: us hope. And I think that's okay, not necessarily being

2065
01:36:43,120 --> 01:36:45,519
Speaker 2: couple goals, but just letting us know like, hey, there's

2066
01:36:45,520 --> 01:36:48,200
Speaker 2: still good men out here. Not everybody's the same, not

2067
01:36:48,320 --> 01:36:50,519
Speaker 2: all women are the same. So I think that it's

2068
01:36:50,640 --> 01:36:53,760
Speaker 2: good that we see not necessarily be a couple goals,

2069
01:36:53,800 --> 01:36:56,600
Speaker 2: but we need to see healthy black relationships. We need

2070
01:36:56,680 --> 01:37:00,960
Speaker 2: to see men being fathers because to stick theistically, men

2071
01:37:01,080 --> 01:37:01,639
Speaker 2: are fathers.

2072
01:37:01,720 --> 01:37:03,240
Speaker 1: Yes, especial black households.

2073
01:37:03,400 --> 01:37:06,200
Speaker 2: Yes, we all have this narrative about debt beat dads,

2074
01:37:06,280 --> 01:37:07,719
Speaker 2: but the black.

2075
01:37:07,520 --> 01:37:09,880
Speaker 1: Men are in the house, and statistically, the black men

2076
01:37:10,000 --> 01:37:12,799
Speaker 1: is the most active father in the household.

2077
01:37:12,880 --> 01:37:14,519
Speaker 2: And that's something I didn't even know. I had to

2078
01:37:14,640 --> 01:37:17,280
Speaker 2: educate myself on that. So I think that it's just

2079
01:37:17,400 --> 01:37:20,439
Speaker 2: important for us to see that. And even though it's

2080
01:37:20,520 --> 01:37:22,800
Speaker 2: like social media we like to say is not real life,

2081
01:37:22,840 --> 01:37:26,120
Speaker 2: but like you said earlier in the episode, people are

2082
01:37:26,240 --> 01:37:27,760
Speaker 2: looking at social media for their news.

2083
01:37:27,840 --> 01:37:27,960
Speaker 1: Now.

2084
01:37:28,640 --> 01:37:31,320
Speaker 2: When I was literally updating myself last night on the

2085
01:37:31,720 --> 01:37:34,160
Speaker 2: I was on Google, like, okay, electoral college, let me

2086
01:37:34,200 --> 01:37:36,479
Speaker 2: see what the numbers are. I'm not looking at seeing in,

2087
01:37:36,560 --> 01:37:38,439
Speaker 2: I'm not looking Fox. I'm just looking at the numbers.

2088
01:37:38,479 --> 01:37:42,360
Speaker 2: So we use our phones for infacs absolutely, So unfortunately

2089
01:37:42,640 --> 01:37:46,600
Speaker 2: and fortunately for us, people watch us for okay, educate me,

2090
01:37:47,240 --> 01:37:49,320
Speaker 2: meet me something that I need to know so I

2091
01:37:49,400 --> 01:37:51,719
Speaker 2: think that even though you don't like the couple goals,

2092
01:37:51,760 --> 01:37:54,040
Speaker 2: I think it's important that people see what you're doing.

2093
01:37:54,439 --> 01:37:56,760
Speaker 1: Now. I received that, and first of all, I thank

2094
01:37:56,840 --> 01:37:59,120
Speaker 1: y'all for forgiving me this platform to speak on it.

2095
01:37:59,240 --> 01:38:02,400
Speaker 1: But I do I do think that it's unfair for

2096
01:38:02,840 --> 01:38:04,479
Speaker 1: us to make it seem as if Kadeen and I

2097
01:38:04,600 --> 01:38:07,840
Speaker 1: were the first people to live like this, right. Truth

2098
01:38:07,880 --> 01:38:09,599
Speaker 1: of the matter is is that we're just the first

2099
01:38:09,640 --> 01:38:12,880
Speaker 1: people to pick a phone up. Yeah, and let people say,

2100
01:38:13,080 --> 01:38:14,439
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, like, I am just a

2101
01:38:14,479 --> 01:38:17,439
Speaker 1: reflection of my dad. I'm a reflection of my uncles

2102
01:38:17,479 --> 01:38:19,280
Speaker 1: and my grandfather. So I can't sit here and make

2103
01:38:19,320 --> 01:38:22,560
Speaker 1: it seem like listen follow me. Yeah, No, that's not

2104
01:38:23,160 --> 01:38:25,120
Speaker 1: And every day I wake up thinking like, yo, Devada,

2105
01:38:25,120 --> 01:38:25,960
Speaker 1: don't fuck this up.

2106
01:38:26,439 --> 01:38:29,040
Speaker 3: But I feel like it's amazing though, because you're pouring

2107
01:38:29,240 --> 01:38:32,800
Speaker 3: into like the younger generations that didn't get to grow

2108
01:38:32,920 --> 01:38:34,240
Speaker 3: up around it the way that you did.

2109
01:38:34,360 --> 01:38:36,400
Speaker 1: Well, I'm delibered with that. When I was in college

2110
01:38:36,479 --> 01:38:41,960
Speaker 1: nineteen years old, my sophomore professor, Professor Traciaty, access to

2111
01:38:42,000 --> 01:38:44,920
Speaker 1: write a mission statement. The mission statement I came up

2112
01:38:44,960 --> 01:38:47,000
Speaker 1: with each day I worked to build a legacy, not

2113
01:38:47,120 --> 01:38:49,960
Speaker 1: to be defined by my greatness, but by the masses

2114
01:38:50,000 --> 01:38:53,280
Speaker 1: I inspire to be greater than myself. I grew up

2115
01:38:53,400 --> 01:38:56,720
Speaker 1: idolizing Michael Jackson, and it wasn't because he could dance

2116
01:38:56,760 --> 01:38:59,400
Speaker 1: and he could sing. I idolized him because he had

2117
01:38:59,600 --> 01:39:03,120
Speaker 1: massive of people who followed him. When he talked about

2118
01:39:03,160 --> 01:39:05,200
Speaker 1: healing the world, when he talked about it doesn't matter

2119
01:39:05,240 --> 01:39:07,760
Speaker 1: if you're black and white. I watched masses of people

2120
01:39:07,800 --> 01:39:09,840
Speaker 1: be like, Yeah, if Michael Jackson can do this, I can.

2121
01:39:10,240 --> 01:39:11,640
Speaker 1: And I just felt like, you know what, we have

2122
01:39:11,800 --> 01:39:16,240
Speaker 1: a greater responsibility and in fact, the fiduciary responsibility as people,

2123
01:39:16,720 --> 01:39:18,760
Speaker 1: to pay it forward. You know what I'm saying, Like

2124
01:39:18,840 --> 01:39:20,519
Speaker 1: it's it's not enough to just say I'm gonna do

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Speaker 1: this for me and my family. No, we should share

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01:39:23,200 --> 01:39:25,439
Speaker 1: so that masses after us can say, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I want to live like that. I mean, that's what

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01:39:27,439 --> 01:39:31,080
Speaker 1: Jesus lived on all of these religious people. Jesus wasn't

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01:39:31,120 --> 01:39:33,080
Speaker 1: out here saying looks and I'm the son of the

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01:39:33,160 --> 01:39:37,040
Speaker 1: son of God. I'm perfect. Jesus was amongst the rapist,

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01:39:37,680 --> 01:39:42,200
Speaker 1: the sinners, the disciples. He turned water into wine he

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01:39:42,320 --> 01:39:45,680
Speaker 1: sat down with the worldliest of the worldleiest and just

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01:39:45,720 --> 01:39:48,519
Speaker 1: showed them a different way. He didn't judge them, He

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01:39:48,640 --> 01:39:50,760
Speaker 1: didn't say I'm perfect, be like me. He just said, hey,

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01:39:50,800 --> 01:39:53,840
Speaker 1: let's let's build right. And that's and I'm not saying

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01:39:53,880 --> 01:39:56,200
Speaker 1: that I'm Jesus because I know how the in and

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01:39:56,320 --> 01:39:56,720
Speaker 1: that can be.

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01:39:57,120 --> 01:39:57,920
Speaker 2: They're gonna flip it.

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01:40:00,920 --> 01:40:08,000
Speaker 3: On the Poor Minds episode he canceled. I knew him

2140
01:40:08,000 --> 01:40:11,360
Speaker 3: and his wife wasn't perfect like this, and there you know,

2141
01:40:11,520 --> 01:40:13,479
Speaker 3: they crazy, they crazy.

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01:40:13,920 --> 01:40:16,639
Speaker 2: What's up y'all? As your girl XP and it's Sugarl

2143
01:40:16,720 --> 01:40:17,320
Speaker 2: Dre and the call.

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01:40:17,760 --> 01:40:18,080
Speaker 1: Y'all know.

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01:40:18,200 --> 01:40:20,760
Speaker 2: We have a segment on Poor Minds called Item of

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01:40:20,840 --> 01:40:22,719
Speaker 2: the Week. But do you have a product or something

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01:40:22,760 --> 01:40:24,360
Speaker 2: that you want to promote and you want it featured

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01:40:24,400 --> 01:40:25,200
Speaker 2: on Poor Minds.

2149
01:40:25,479 --> 01:40:27,679
Speaker 1: Your opportunity is here period.

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01:40:28,160 --> 01:40:30,200
Speaker 3: If you have an item or you have a business

2151
01:40:30,240 --> 01:40:32,160
Speaker 3: and you want to get it promoted, we are now

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01:40:32,320 --> 01:40:35,599
Speaker 3: having slots available on the Poor Minds episode. So if

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01:40:35,680 --> 01:40:37,960
Speaker 3: you would like to get your product featured for Item

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01:40:38,040 --> 01:40:40,280
Speaker 3: of the Week, all you need to do is send

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01:40:40,320 --> 01:40:43,559
Speaker 3: an email to Item of the Week PM at gmail

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01:40:43,600 --> 01:40:44,040
Speaker 3: dot com.

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01:40:44,439 --> 01:40:45,280
Speaker 1: That's I T E.

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01:40:45,600 --> 01:40:49,160
Speaker 3: M O F T h E W E E k

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01:40:49,720 --> 01:40:54,280
Speaker 3: PM at gmail dot com. Send us an email and.

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01:40:54,360 --> 01:40:55,960
Speaker 1: We'll work it out. We're gonna figure it out.

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01:40:56,400 --> 01:41:00,120
Speaker 3: Get your product, get your business sponsored, and yeah, thank

2162
01:41:00,120 --> 01:41:00,639
Speaker 3: you some money.

2163
01:41:01,680 --> 01:41:03,760
Speaker 2: We love Tore. A small business man.

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01:41:03,760 --> 01:41:09,120
Speaker 3: In a black business said that, But I mean anybody, smad,

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01:41:10,120 --> 01:41:15,559
Speaker 3: any business is welcome, obviously. Like I said, I love Sisters,

2166
01:41:15,600 --> 01:41:18,800
Speaker 3: Like I've been watching so much one I am tuned in. Yes,

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01:41:19,240 --> 01:41:23,160
Speaker 3: I love you and Fatima. Then you're on the Teama Yes.

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01:41:23,680 --> 01:41:26,120
Speaker 3: And then you also have a new movie coming out.

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01:41:26,200 --> 01:41:30,760
Speaker 1: Well it just came out today, come out today xlix.

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Speaker 3: Yes on Netflix. So I definitely want to talk to

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01:41:33,800 --> 01:41:36,920
Speaker 3: you about Sisters. Like, let's talk about Zach and his

2172
01:41:37,160 --> 01:41:41,679
Speaker 3: character development. Okay, let's talk he has changed so much.

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01:41:41,960 --> 01:41:45,320
Speaker 1: Yes, Zach was a young man dealing with recidivism when

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01:41:45,360 --> 01:41:48,360
Speaker 1: we first met him, didn't have anything to his name.

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01:41:48,760 --> 01:41:50,679
Speaker 1: He was making money. He was trying to give Danny

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01:41:50,720 --> 01:41:52,719
Speaker 1: money so that he can stay there once in a while.

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01:41:53,320 --> 01:41:57,120
Speaker 1: He wasn't the best boyfriend, and he gave Karen an STD.

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01:41:57,360 --> 01:42:00,919
Speaker 1: He was, you know, not not pretty, not not advanced

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01:42:01,200 --> 01:42:03,599
Speaker 1: when it comes to being an adult. He was behind

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01:42:03,680 --> 01:42:06,240
Speaker 1: the totem poland and we learned a lot about his character.

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01:42:06,360 --> 01:42:09,479
Speaker 1: But I enjoyed playing is the role of Zach because

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01:42:09,600 --> 01:42:12,519
Speaker 1: Zach is so many young men. Maybe you're not dealing

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01:42:12,560 --> 01:42:14,639
Speaker 1: with recidivism or deal with being in and out of prison,

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01:42:14,720 --> 01:42:17,320
Speaker 1: but I remember my early twenties being lost and not

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01:42:17,479 --> 01:42:19,280
Speaker 1: knowing who I was or who I was going to be.

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01:42:19,680 --> 01:42:21,599
Speaker 1: So we get a chance to watch Zach go through

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01:42:21,600 --> 01:42:24,360
Speaker 1: a come innovage story. He meets a black woman who

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Speaker 1: is powerful and strong, who's able to give him empathy

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01:42:28,400 --> 01:42:31,080
Speaker 1: and have the strength to go, you know, deal with

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01:42:31,320 --> 01:42:34,600
Speaker 1: him through his trials and tribulations, which I understand for

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01:42:34,680 --> 01:42:36,360
Speaker 1: a lot of black women. Black women say, man, why

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01:42:36,400 --> 01:42:38,160
Speaker 1: we got to deal with struggle love all the time?

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01:42:39,000 --> 01:42:41,400
Speaker 1: You know? But when I watch Sisters, and I watched

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01:42:41,439 --> 01:42:43,080
Speaker 1: the Team, but the one thing I say about struggle

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01:42:43,120 --> 01:42:45,840
Speaker 1: love is that struggle love is Black love. You know,

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01:42:45,960 --> 01:42:49,120
Speaker 1: most of us don't come from parents who've had money.

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01:42:49,880 --> 01:42:51,600
Speaker 1: Most of us come from a place where we have

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01:42:51,720 --> 01:42:53,800
Speaker 1: to get it from the ground up. So when I

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01:42:53,880 --> 01:42:55,680
Speaker 1: look as a team and I look at Sisters, I say,

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01:42:55,760 --> 01:42:58,920
Speaker 1: this is our story. Everything isn't happy, everything is in

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01:42:59,080 --> 01:43:00,960
Speaker 1: rainbows and sunshine. It's work.

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Speaker 3: I think That's why people really love it though, because

2203
01:43:02,920 --> 01:43:04,840
Speaker 3: I think people can see the parts of their selves.

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01:43:04,960 --> 01:43:05,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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01:43:05,240 --> 01:43:08,400
Speaker 3: Absolutelyships, absolutely, and Fatima's relationship on the show.

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01:43:08,560 --> 01:43:13,000
Speaker 1: Absolutely, Yeah, absolutely, I enjoy planes at So you are.

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01:43:13,000 --> 01:43:15,200
Speaker 2: In the Tyler Perry universe. Yeah, obviously.

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01:43:15,520 --> 01:43:15,680
Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 2: I gotta ask this because how is y'all filming schedule?

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01:43:18,640 --> 01:43:20,479
Speaker 2: Because you know they'd be saying he filmed movies in

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01:43:20,520 --> 01:43:21,120
Speaker 2: thirty minutes.

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Speaker 1: I filmed twenty five episodes in seven days, by Tyler.

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01:43:25,960 --> 01:43:27,800
Speaker 3: But Crystal told us that too when she came on

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01:43:27,840 --> 01:43:28,080
Speaker 3: the show.

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01:43:28,080 --> 01:43:29,400
Speaker 2: Shout out to Crystal, like, girl.

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01:43:29,680 --> 01:43:32,000
Speaker 1: What's up? Chris? Now, I think people need to understand

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01:43:32,040 --> 01:43:34,640
Speaker 1: the business aspect of it and what Tyler's trying to create. Right,

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01:43:34,800 --> 01:43:39,760
Speaker 1: So I'll give you an example. You're a producer. You

2219
01:43:39,920 --> 01:43:45,599
Speaker 1: get a budget of thirty million dollars. Thirty million dollars, right, people,

2220
01:43:45,680 --> 01:43:46,439
Speaker 1: there's a lot of money.

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01:43:46,720 --> 01:43:46,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

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01:43:47,240 --> 01:43:49,680
Speaker 1: Do you know how far thirty million dollars goes on

2223
01:43:49,800 --> 01:43:56,200
Speaker 1: the traditional TV set? Not that far? Five episodes? Maybe six? Yeah,

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01:43:56,240 --> 01:43:59,120
Speaker 1: I figured that maybe six. Yeah. What Tyler has figured

2225
01:43:59,160 --> 01:44:00,840
Speaker 1: out is a way by So you're talking about anywhere

2226
01:44:00,840 --> 01:44:04,040
Speaker 1: between five to six million in episode. Tyler spends about

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01:44:04,080 --> 01:44:07,600
Speaker 1: seven hundred and fifty thousand in episode. You see what

2228
01:44:07,640 --> 01:44:11,040
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You see what I'm saying. But here's the thing.

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01:44:11,080 --> 01:44:13,760
Speaker 1: You know, with TPS, I'm glad you said that all

2230
01:44:13,840 --> 01:44:16,160
Speaker 1: of the actors, everybody on there makes more money in

2231
01:44:16,200 --> 01:44:19,120
Speaker 1: that two weeks than they ever made. You see that,

2232
01:44:19,880 --> 01:44:22,240
Speaker 1: But sometimes the things don't look the same as someone

2233
01:44:22,280 --> 01:44:27,200
Speaker 1: who's doing an episode for two weeks. You gotta understand.

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01:44:29,120 --> 01:44:31,360
Speaker 2: And let me be sitting in the living room for

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01:44:31,439 --> 01:44:32,960
Speaker 2: thirty minutes, it's the whole episode.

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01:44:33,000 --> 01:44:35,080
Speaker 1: Who you telling I'd be in the motherfucker And let

2237
01:44:35,160 --> 01:44:38,840
Speaker 1: me ask you. You laughing like, I don't know you

2238
01:44:38,960 --> 01:44:40,920
Speaker 1: ever get a thing? So let me tell you something, right,

2239
01:44:41,400 --> 01:44:44,360
Speaker 1: I got me. Let me I'm gonna talk about this.

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Speaker 1: A scene in television is typically one page for one minute. Yeah,

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01:44:50,200 --> 01:44:52,360
Speaker 1: I get my scene sometimes for team and I'm like,

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01:44:52,400 --> 01:44:55,760
Speaker 1: this is fifteen fucking pages. Yeah, that's fifteen minutes me

2243
01:44:55,880 --> 01:44:58,840
Speaker 1: on the same thing. Yeah, But then you realize, I

2244
01:44:58,920 --> 01:45:02,679
Speaker 1: gotta make this entertaining for the viewers. If you do theater,

2245
01:45:03,520 --> 01:45:06,519
Speaker 1: sometimes you have a scene in theater that may be

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01:45:06,680 --> 01:45:09,880
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes. If you are a thestpian, you find a

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01:45:09,920 --> 01:45:12,680
Speaker 1: way to make what you do entertaining. If you're not

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01:45:12,800 --> 01:45:15,080
Speaker 1: a theestpion and you're a person that just wants to

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01:45:15,160 --> 01:45:17,479
Speaker 1: be presented in the most beautiful way possible and you

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Speaker 1: don't want to do no work, that fifteen minutes is

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01:45:19,760 --> 01:45:22,679
Speaker 1: going to be fucking hell. And the truth is, sometimes

2252
01:45:22,760 --> 01:45:25,280
Speaker 1: it happens to people who act with you. They don't

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01:45:25,320 --> 01:45:25,840
Speaker 1: know what it is.

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01:45:26,040 --> 01:45:26,080
Speaker 2: Like.

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01:45:26,560 --> 01:45:30,000
Speaker 1: The truth is, Sisters is a soap opera.

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01:45:30,720 --> 01:45:31,000
Speaker 6: It is.

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01:45:31,280 --> 01:45:34,040
Speaker 1: It is a soap opera in prime time, which is

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01:45:34,080 --> 01:45:37,559
Speaker 1: what we don't see. Soap operas happen every single day.

2259
01:45:38,240 --> 01:45:40,720
Speaker 1: Sisters happens every week, so a lot of people and

2260
01:45:40,760 --> 01:45:43,040
Speaker 1: maybe like, oh, this is slow, this is slow. When

2261
01:45:43,080 --> 01:45:45,479
Speaker 1: you watch soap operas every day, you're getting something every

2262
01:45:45,520 --> 01:45:46,160
Speaker 1: single day, so.

2263
01:45:46,640 --> 01:45:47,519
Speaker 2: It never finishes.

2264
01:45:48,160 --> 01:45:50,080
Speaker 1: I get it too. And the thing is I get it.

2265
01:45:51,200 --> 01:45:51,680
Speaker 1: Talk about it.

2266
01:45:51,840 --> 01:45:53,880
Speaker 3: He don't never make us wait too long. It'd be

2267
01:45:54,000 --> 01:45:55,799
Speaker 3: like three months in between seasons.

2268
01:45:56,000 --> 01:45:56,560
Speaker 1: Talk about it.

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01:45:57,840 --> 01:46:01,920
Speaker 2: Stap in my foot, like shoot twenty five episodes and

2270
01:46:02,000 --> 01:46:02,519
Speaker 2: a wake.

2271
01:46:02,479 --> 01:46:03,080
Speaker 1: Betch but.

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01:46:04,640 --> 01:46:06,720
Speaker 2: Drop in a month. I gotta ask you, do you

2273
01:46:06,880 --> 01:46:08,200
Speaker 2: ever get your scripts though?

2274
01:46:08,320 --> 01:46:12,360
Speaker 3: And you'll be like, no, you're fucking lying, because Sisters

2275
01:46:12,479 --> 01:46:16,920
Speaker 3: is so chaotic, like it's just like kidding me, Like

2276
01:46:17,000 --> 01:46:19,240
Speaker 3: when I found out that Karen was pregnant with your

2277
01:46:19,320 --> 01:46:22,840
Speaker 3: baby and a preacher, man, I was like, and it

2278
01:46:22,960 --> 01:46:25,160
Speaker 3: only happens to like one percent of people.

2279
01:46:25,640 --> 01:46:28,439
Speaker 1: I was like, Tyler Perry being so fucking for.

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01:46:28,520 --> 01:46:29,200
Speaker 2: Real right now.

2281
01:46:29,760 --> 01:46:33,000
Speaker 3: I just knew it wasn't gonna be your baby, true.

2282
01:46:33,479 --> 01:46:35,680
Speaker 1: I bean, Matt is over there. Matt will say, I'll

2283
01:46:35,680 --> 01:46:39,320
Speaker 1: be getting the script sometimes and I'll be like, I'm

2284
01:46:39,360 --> 01:46:41,040
Speaker 1: not saying none of the words just on that page.

2285
01:46:41,800 --> 01:46:44,760
Speaker 1: Am I lying? I'm not? But and I had a

2286
01:46:44,800 --> 01:46:47,880
Speaker 1: conversation with Tyler, uh huh, And I said to Tyler,

2287
01:46:47,960 --> 01:46:49,599
Speaker 1: I said, yo, tea man, like like, come on, man,

2288
01:46:49,680 --> 01:46:52,040
Speaker 1: what we doing? And this is this is how you

2289
01:46:52,120 --> 01:46:53,599
Speaker 1: know somebody really knows.

2290
01:46:53,800 --> 01:46:55,960
Speaker 2: And Karen been pregnant for like false seasons, but.

2291
01:46:57,800 --> 01:46:59,800
Speaker 1: It hasn't been forced. It been like three he's been

2292
01:47:00,479 --> 01:47:06,559
Speaker 1: six seasons. She was pregnant season three, no on season eight, three, four, five, six,

2293
01:47:06,640 --> 01:47:08,639
Speaker 1: seven day Crazy season.

2294
01:47:08,760 --> 01:47:10,439
Speaker 2: And see I was giving grace sometime.

2295
01:47:10,479 --> 01:47:13,640
Speaker 1: I three scenes. Because you gotta understand, each episode is

2296
01:47:13,800 --> 01:47:18,120
Speaker 1: only the morning portion of that episode. But we watched

2297
01:47:18,160 --> 01:47:21,920
Speaker 1: this week, it's the morning, next week the afternoon. The

2298
01:47:22,080 --> 01:47:28,400
Speaker 1: following week is I'm just being honest. That's so when

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01:47:28,479 --> 01:47:30,960
Speaker 1: you watched three weeks of television, You're like this three

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01:47:30,960 --> 01:47:33,800
Speaker 1: weeks of a pregnancy. No, that's one day. You've watched

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01:47:33,960 --> 01:47:36,960
Speaker 1: that pregnancy for three weeks. You see what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: And I know she ain't gonna have a baby still

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01:47:38,680 --> 01:47:39,120
Speaker 3: next season.

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01:47:39,240 --> 01:47:41,760
Speaker 1: Now, I'm gonna tell you the genius of Tyler because

2305
01:47:41,800 --> 01:47:44,120
Speaker 1: I said to them, I was like, yo, man, I

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01:47:44,200 --> 01:47:45,800
Speaker 1: think that we should I think we should not. I

2307
01:47:45,880 --> 01:47:48,400
Speaker 1: went forty five minutes. I was saying we should do this,

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01:47:48,520 --> 01:47:51,320
Speaker 1: and you know, my generation thinks and we shouldn't. And

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01:47:51,520 --> 01:47:53,200
Speaker 1: he sat there and he listened right, and he said

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01:47:53,240 --> 01:47:56,360
Speaker 1: the value done. I said, yeah, I'm done. He said,

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01:47:57,120 --> 01:48:00,200
Speaker 1: you think I made over three billion dollars up?

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01:48:00,240 --> 01:48:00,719
Speaker 2: Real bad?

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01:48:00,800 --> 01:48:03,880
Speaker 1: Sorry it ate me the fuck up bad. I said,

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01:48:05,400 --> 01:48:07,760
Speaker 1: no you didn't. But he's just so listen to me.

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01:48:08,439 --> 01:48:14,000
Speaker 1: I know my audience. I write from my audience. So

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01:48:14,120 --> 01:48:16,000
Speaker 1: then I said, well, what do you mean by your audience?

2317
01:48:16,360 --> 01:48:19,599
Speaker 1: He says, most people do content thinking. I can expand

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01:48:19,720 --> 01:48:22,559
Speaker 1: over all these different genres. I can expand for these people.

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01:48:22,960 --> 01:48:25,880
Speaker 1: I write for the people who support me. And then

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01:48:25,920 --> 01:48:27,920
Speaker 1: when I thought about the people who support him, I'm

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01:48:27,920 --> 01:48:31,160
Speaker 1: thinking the Bible Belt. I'm thinking about black women between

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01:48:31,200 --> 01:48:34,200
Speaker 1: the ages of twenty five to sixty five. And I

2323
01:48:34,280 --> 01:48:38,000
Speaker 1: said to myself, those women grew up watching what soap

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01:48:38,040 --> 01:48:40,080
Speaker 1: operas general because.

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01:48:39,840 --> 01:48:42,439
Speaker 2: They loves you see what I'm saying.

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01:48:42,560 --> 01:48:45,200
Speaker 1: People have a lot. I'll be complaining about the seasons.

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01:48:44,840 --> 01:48:47,200
Speaker 2: But I've tuned in. You know what I'm saying. But

2328
01:48:47,840 --> 01:48:51,599
Speaker 2: they do that. I don't constantly complain about Tyler Perry,

2329
01:48:51,640 --> 01:48:53,559
Speaker 2: but every time he drops a movie it's number one.

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01:48:53,600 --> 01:48:55,680
Speaker 2: Every time he drops Beauty and Blade, it goes to

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01:48:55,760 --> 01:49:00,400
Speaker 2: number Oh, Beauty finish. I finished Beauty in Black. It

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01:49:00,479 --> 01:49:01,160
Speaker 2: was afternoon for you.

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01:49:01,320 --> 01:49:06,200
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, les, I swear to let's

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01:49:06,240 --> 01:49:09,920
Speaker 1: some must clap this, you bro the whole half of

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01:49:09,960 --> 01:49:16,760
Speaker 1: the season, it was afternoon. Now just finished. I'll give

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01:49:16,800 --> 01:49:18,920
Speaker 1: you a contrast, and then you'll you'll be like, oh,

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01:49:18,960 --> 01:49:21,479
Speaker 1: you know what, I get it? Fast and Furious has

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01:49:21,520 --> 01:49:27,200
Speaker 1: how many movies and tennis? They complain every time a

2339
01:49:27,320 --> 01:49:29,920
Speaker 1: new fashion of Furious comes out? Right, and every time

2340
01:49:29,960 --> 01:49:31,559
Speaker 1: it comes out, what is it in the box office?

2341
01:49:32,080 --> 01:49:34,839
Speaker 1: Number one? Number one? So who cares about who complains?

2342
01:49:35,680 --> 01:49:38,080
Speaker 1: You can complain because you don't watch it. Or if

2343
01:49:38,120 --> 01:49:40,040
Speaker 1: you do watch it, why are you watching every week

2344
01:49:40,120 --> 01:49:43,280
Speaker 1: and complaining me? You know what I'm saying. It's like

2345
01:49:43,400 --> 01:49:46,040
Speaker 1: people complain about content like Fast and Furious. It's a

2346
01:49:46,080 --> 01:49:48,920
Speaker 1: lot of them, they watch it, people complain about it.

2347
01:49:49,000 --> 01:49:52,639
Speaker 1: It's number one. Tyler is a businessman. He's a content creator,

2348
01:49:52,720 --> 01:49:56,040
Speaker 1: and he understands that this, this film, or this show

2349
01:49:56,600 --> 01:49:59,400
Speaker 1: was made for a specific group of people. It ain't

2350
01:49:59,439 --> 01:50:03,160
Speaker 1: made for everybody else who's gonna complain? It's made for them?

2351
01:50:03,760 --> 01:50:07,160
Speaker 1: And those are the people who are typically forgotten. How

2352
01:50:07,240 --> 01:50:11,400
Speaker 1: many films or projects, For example, Precious Precious was a

2353
01:50:11,479 --> 01:50:13,840
Speaker 1: movie that would have never ever gotten made if it

2354
01:50:13,920 --> 01:50:18,240
Speaker 1: wasn't an Oprah Winfrey and Tyler peer Right, it won

2355
01:50:18,280 --> 01:50:21,920
Speaker 1: an Oscar. Monique won in Oscar. I think Gabaret citebe

2356
01:50:22,040 --> 01:50:24,639
Speaker 1: won in Oscar. If it wasn't for those people Tyler

2357
01:50:24,680 --> 01:50:26,920
Speaker 1: Perry and Oprah Winfrey and Lee Daniels who knew that

2358
01:50:27,000 --> 01:50:28,960
Speaker 1: this audience would love this film, it would have never

2359
01:50:29,000 --> 01:50:31,200
Speaker 1: gotten made. You see what I'm saying.

2360
01:50:31,920 --> 01:50:34,080
Speaker 2: I will never be mad at Tyler Perry too, because

2361
01:50:35,080 --> 01:50:38,000
Speaker 2: I'm not an actress and I'm not in Hollywood, but

2362
01:50:38,240 --> 01:50:40,400
Speaker 2: I will say we've had a lot of actors and

2363
01:50:40,439 --> 01:50:42,240
Speaker 2: actresses sitting on the couch and they talk about how

2364
01:50:42,280 --> 01:50:45,640
Speaker 2: hard it is to get rolls keeps, he keeps the

2365
01:50:45,760 --> 01:50:46,400
Speaker 2: people paid.

2366
01:50:47,240 --> 01:50:49,360
Speaker 3: I'll tell you, oh no, I was just gonna say.

2367
01:50:49,560 --> 01:50:51,840
Speaker 3: And I feel like, at least for me, I be

2368
01:50:51,920 --> 01:50:55,560
Speaker 3: complaining because Tyler Perry don't give us the instant gratification,

2369
01:50:55,800 --> 01:50:58,040
Speaker 3: Like people be wanting instant gratification, Like I don want

2370
01:50:58,080 --> 01:51:00,760
Speaker 3: to know what the fuck is gonna happen, and he

2371
01:51:00,960 --> 01:51:03,559
Speaker 3: do not let you know right away. He gonna he gonna,

2372
01:51:03,720 --> 01:51:05,720
Speaker 3: it's gonna go on for seasons.

2373
01:51:05,320 --> 01:51:09,600
Speaker 1: And he be edging. He'd be since we back on that.

2374
01:51:10,000 --> 01:51:20,000
Speaker 1: I like that, since like edging, and he is a

2375
01:51:20,200 --> 01:51:20,880
Speaker 1: pro added.

2376
01:51:21,280 --> 01:51:25,799
Speaker 3: But the shows are so good you can't stop watching

2377
01:51:26,360 --> 01:51:28,120
Speaker 3: so good, so it's like you're gonna complain, gonna be like,

2378
01:51:28,160 --> 01:51:30,719
Speaker 3: come on, like when we gonna know what the climax

2379
01:51:30,880 --> 01:51:33,080
Speaker 3: is the then you can't stop watching. I'll tell you

2380
01:51:33,120 --> 01:51:33,720
Speaker 3: he's a pro with it.

2381
01:51:33,800 --> 01:51:35,920
Speaker 2: That's why he he sayed three billion.

2382
01:51:37,479 --> 01:51:40,320
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. He won't be considered three billion liquid

2383
01:51:40,400 --> 01:51:42,080
Speaker 1: for a couple of years, but I can tell you

2384
01:51:42,240 --> 01:51:45,160
Speaker 1: right now that man is worth more than three billion dollars.

2385
01:51:45,280 --> 01:51:48,639
Speaker 1: I believe you more than three billion dollars. And another

2386
01:51:48,760 --> 01:51:51,200
Speaker 1: thing is I've made more money working with Tyler Perry

2387
01:51:51,200 --> 01:51:53,479
Speaker 1: than I ever made as a professional athlete. But I

2388
01:51:53,560 --> 01:51:56,479
Speaker 1: made even more money with the information he gave me,

2389
01:51:56,680 --> 01:51:59,639
Speaker 1: just like fifty cents when it came time to contracts,

2390
01:51:59,640 --> 01:52:02,080
Speaker 1: when it came time to letting people. For example, I'll

2391
01:52:02,120 --> 01:52:05,680
Speaker 1: tell y'all this is podcasts I went. I met with

2392
01:52:05,760 --> 01:52:10,320
Speaker 1: Tyler in twenty nineteen after we did Sisters. We talked

2393
01:52:10,360 --> 01:52:13,160
Speaker 1: and he gave me the story about the ninety ten rule.

2394
01:52:13,680 --> 01:52:16,120
Speaker 1: When he went to CBS. CBS had offered him his

2395
01:52:16,200 --> 01:52:18,519
Speaker 1: own television show and they were just like, oh, we

2396
01:52:18,600 --> 01:52:20,640
Speaker 1: got writers, we got people, and Tyler was like, I

2397
01:52:20,680 --> 01:52:22,760
Speaker 1: don't need that, I'll do it, and they were like, oh,

2398
01:52:22,800 --> 01:52:24,599
Speaker 1: we really don't do it that way. So we walked away,

2399
01:52:25,080 --> 01:52:28,080
Speaker 1: went to TBS, went to TBS and got his own

2400
01:52:28,120 --> 01:52:31,519
Speaker 1: TV show where he got ninety percent and the company

2401
01:52:31,560 --> 01:52:33,840
Speaker 1: got ten percent because he put his own money up

2402
01:52:34,960 --> 01:52:37,200
Speaker 1: House of Pains. And then after House of Pain came

2403
01:52:37,280 --> 01:52:40,560
Speaker 1: Meet the Brown. He was super successful with my podcast.

2404
01:52:41,320 --> 01:52:43,840
Speaker 1: When I was first for Stitcher, they undershot me. They

2405
01:52:43,880 --> 01:52:45,680
Speaker 1: didn't know the value of the black dollar, and they

2406
01:52:45,680 --> 01:52:48,639
Speaker 1: didn't know the value of black following right at Stitcher.

2407
01:52:48,720 --> 01:52:50,479
Speaker 1: They said to me just like, hey, you know, you know,

2408
01:52:51,240 --> 01:52:53,639
Speaker 1: we'll give you a fifty thousand dollar bonus. You gotta

2409
01:52:53,720 --> 01:52:56,839
Speaker 1: get fifty thousand dollars downloads in the first six months

2410
01:52:56,920 --> 01:52:58,920
Speaker 1: and all this other stuff. And I was like, I'm

2411
01:52:58,960 --> 01:53:04,040
Speaker 1: cool on the bonus and They're like, excuse me because

2412
01:53:04,040 --> 01:53:05,880
Speaker 1: I knew my value. Yeah, And I was like, I

2413
01:53:05,880 --> 01:53:09,960
Speaker 1: don't want to I want fifty revenue share everything. Hello.

2414
01:53:10,479 --> 01:53:13,599
Speaker 1: I only noticed because I had been talking to Tyler

2415
01:53:14,520 --> 01:53:17,080
Speaker 1: and they were just like, they were like, wait a minute,

2416
01:53:17,080 --> 01:53:19,040
Speaker 1: So we don't got to give you fifty thousand. I said, no,

2417
01:53:19,360 --> 01:53:22,920
Speaker 1: I want ownership. Dead Ass Podcast is mine. I want

2418
01:53:22,960 --> 01:53:25,759
Speaker 1: that name, and I also want I want the ability

2419
01:53:25,880 --> 01:53:29,160
Speaker 1: to put it on digital content video and you don't

2420
01:53:29,200 --> 01:53:32,559
Speaker 1: own it. You know what? They said, Sure, go ahead

2421
01:53:32,600 --> 01:53:34,920
Speaker 1: the vow. You think you're going to get fifty thousand

2422
01:53:35,000 --> 01:53:38,200
Speaker 1: downloads first week of Dead Ass Post Podcast. Guess how

2423
01:53:38,280 --> 01:53:44,160
Speaker 1: many downloads? Nope? IM think yes, I'll sell two hundred

2424
01:53:44,160 --> 01:53:47,439
Speaker 1: and seventy five thousand. So you know what happened with that.

2425
01:53:48,040 --> 01:53:50,040
Speaker 1: They had to pay me fifty thousand dollars in the

2426
01:53:50,120 --> 01:53:52,720
Speaker 1: first week because we had surpassed to fifty thousand. Hello,

2427
01:53:52,840 --> 01:53:54,960
Speaker 1: you had to pay me that every single week now

2428
01:53:55,080 --> 01:53:57,760
Speaker 1: every single month because we had the revenue share. Yeah,

2429
01:53:58,120 --> 01:54:00,240
Speaker 1: but I learned that from Tyler because it's like them

2430
01:54:00,320 --> 01:54:04,320
Speaker 1: underestimate you. Let them underestimate the black value, the black dollar,

2431
01:54:04,479 --> 01:54:07,200
Speaker 1: black viewership. And that's what they always do to tire.

2432
01:54:07,439 --> 01:54:10,200
Speaker 1: They always underestimate black viewership. Right, and you know what

2433
01:54:10,360 --> 01:54:13,320
Speaker 1: Viacom does. Viacom comes in here, Tyler will give you

2434
01:54:13,400 --> 01:54:15,800
Speaker 1: this and see what you do. Number one, number one,

2435
01:54:15,880 --> 01:54:19,800
Speaker 1: number one, number one, every time, Netflix, number one, number one,

2436
01:54:20,560 --> 01:54:22,960
Speaker 1: Amazon every number one, number one.

2437
01:54:22,960 --> 01:54:31,960
Speaker 2: I mean, right there, i'morne, y'all watch this motherfucking show.

2438
01:54:32,080 --> 01:54:32,920
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying.

2439
01:54:33,480 --> 01:54:37,240
Speaker 3: Like he's whether people like it or not, they still

2440
01:54:37,280 --> 01:54:39,240
Speaker 3: be talking. I'm a person who I just be feeling

2441
01:54:39,360 --> 01:54:44,440
Speaker 3: like you know all Public City is always talking about

2442
01:54:44,520 --> 01:54:47,560
Speaker 3: it every time he drops something. It's number one trending.

2443
01:54:48,200 --> 01:54:49,840
Speaker 2: Got off topic a little bit, but talk about the

2444
01:54:49,920 --> 01:54:57,680
Speaker 2: new movie. Yes, yes, yes, Christmas movie Chris talk about

2445
01:54:57,720 --> 01:54:58,560
Speaker 2: that's me me.

2446
01:54:58,640 --> 01:55:02,839
Speaker 1: Next Christmas comes out today on Netflix, starring Christina Milion, myself,

2447
01:55:02,960 --> 01:55:07,240
Speaker 1: and Kobe Saribo. I'm excited about it because and then

2448
01:55:07,440 --> 01:55:09,480
Speaker 1: Tyler will admit to this too, but it's outside of

2449
01:55:09,560 --> 01:55:12,080
Speaker 1: the Tyler verse, which means I get to do something

2450
01:55:12,120 --> 01:55:14,360
Speaker 1: on my own, outside of that universe to show my

2451
01:55:14,520 --> 01:55:17,920
Speaker 1: value not only Tyler, but to BT two Netflix, to

2452
01:55:18,000 --> 01:55:20,200
Speaker 1: the people and say, hey, Devala is a draw. So

2453
01:55:20,320 --> 01:55:22,440
Speaker 1: this was an opportunity for me to showcase what I

2454
01:55:22,520 --> 01:55:27,400
Speaker 1: can do. Christina Milion like she's legend. Come dip it low,

2455
01:55:27,800 --> 01:55:34,040
Speaker 1: pick it up slow, come.

2456
01:55:33,880 --> 01:55:36,120
Speaker 2: On now, like that's the movie that she did with

2457
01:55:36,240 --> 01:55:41,480
Speaker 2: Nick Cannon. That was her character's name, Perry.

2458
01:55:41,800 --> 01:55:42,040
Speaker 1: Come on.

2459
01:55:42,840 --> 01:55:46,280
Speaker 2: I'll be like, oh my gosh, she is just so beautiful, beautiful.

2460
01:55:46,760 --> 01:55:49,320
Speaker 1: Here's here's the thing. She's an even more beautiful person

2461
01:55:50,120 --> 01:55:50,600
Speaker 1: in person.

2462
01:55:50,840 --> 01:55:53,440
Speaker 2: She's good at rom com she is, she's really. She

2463
01:55:53,520 --> 01:55:55,840
Speaker 2: has a few Netflix rom coms. I watched all of them.

2464
01:55:56,240 --> 01:56:00,280
Speaker 1: She's good. She's good. She's good. So to me, this

2465
01:56:00,640 --> 01:56:02,360
Speaker 1: was like a no brainer. I want to expand myself

2466
01:56:02,400 --> 01:56:05,240
Speaker 1: as an artist. I want people to see me outside

2467
01:56:05,280 --> 01:56:08,360
Speaker 1: of the BT Universal and Talent University. Netflix has three

2468
01:56:08,440 --> 01:56:12,000
Speaker 1: hundred million viewers. Hopefully that can expand what I do.

2469
01:56:12,160 --> 01:56:17,720
Speaker 1: But it's fun. If you are the spind or not,

2470
01:56:18,560 --> 01:56:26,760
Speaker 1: that is the question. I love y'all. Y'all. We love

2471
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Speaker 1: you to y'all. That's a good episode.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So this is the question.

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Speaker 1: You think you would good as you think you give

2500
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Speaker 1: good advice. I don't. I don't think i'll give good advice.

2501
01:57:56,800 --> 01:57:59,000
Speaker 1: How I think? Did I give my perspective? How you

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Speaker 1: can take it or leave it? Figure? If you don't

2503
01:58:01,440 --> 01:58:03,720
Speaker 1: want to throw that motherfucker out, all right, well be

2504
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Speaker 1: about to get the veiled perspective get him.

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Speaker 3: I've been following you guys for about four or five

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01:58:09,320 --> 01:58:11,320
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Speaker 3: always so enlightening that I connect with most topics each week.

2509
01:58:18,440 --> 01:58:21,400
Speaker 3: I'm a leo. I just turned thirty in July. I

2510
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Speaker 3: have an eight year old daughter, and I just left

2511
01:58:23,520 --> 01:58:26,920
Speaker 3: the most stereotypical one and a half year jail relationship.

2512
01:58:27,120 --> 01:58:29,920
Speaker 3: Who wasn't her father. I met him through my friend

2513
01:58:30,000 --> 01:58:32,800
Speaker 3: who I've known since middle school. We always plan to

2514
01:58:32,880 --> 01:58:35,400
Speaker 3: be on love after lockup. Once he was close to

2515
01:58:35,520 --> 01:58:37,400
Speaker 3: a date, and now that he.

2516
01:58:38,040 --> 01:58:41,240
Speaker 1: You rode into the show, LEXI, what may go ahead, Dre?

2517
01:58:41,440 --> 01:58:43,160
Speaker 1: I just not see.

2518
01:58:45,960 --> 01:58:49,400
Speaker 2: Oh my fucking godess see what I jumped on you?

2519
01:58:49,800 --> 01:58:51,560
Speaker 1: I see you? You said like, wait a minute, Oh

2520
01:58:51,680 --> 01:58:52,360
Speaker 1: y'all about the love?

2521
01:58:52,440 --> 01:58:55,400
Speaker 3: This next port? What y'all about the love? This next word?

2522
01:58:55,960 --> 01:58:56,440
Speaker 2: She said?

2523
01:58:56,560 --> 01:58:59,000
Speaker 3: And now that he is home, he ended things with

2524
01:58:59,120 --> 01:59:02,040
Speaker 3: me saying I'm not for him. Such a blessing. I

2525
01:59:02,200 --> 01:59:05,960
Speaker 3: wasn't embarrassed on TV like that, l L. It felt

2526
01:59:06,040 --> 01:59:08,000
Speaker 3: like I was literally stabbed in the heart and I

2527
01:59:08,120 --> 01:59:10,440
Speaker 3: seen the future with him. I knew there was something

2528
01:59:10,520 --> 01:59:13,000
Speaker 3: off by intuition, and I would ask and he would

2529
01:59:13,000 --> 01:59:15,520
Speaker 3: say he was locked in and he's with me. He

2530
01:59:15,600 --> 01:59:18,680
Speaker 3: sent me, gives money, seen and talked to him daily

2531
01:59:18,760 --> 01:59:22,120
Speaker 3: and weekly until he didn't need me anymore and he

2532
01:59:22,320 --> 01:59:26,120
Speaker 3: was close to release. I feel like I dodged a bullet,

2533
01:59:26,200 --> 01:59:27,760
Speaker 3: and I also feel stupid as hell.

2534
01:59:28,160 --> 01:59:28,840
Speaker 1: But I say this.

2535
01:59:29,680 --> 01:59:32,880
Speaker 3: I say this to say that this week's episode y'all

2536
01:59:32,960 --> 01:59:35,560
Speaker 3: made me feel like the show must go on and

2537
01:59:35,680 --> 01:59:37,960
Speaker 3: I need to focus on me way more lo ill

2538
01:59:38,040 --> 01:59:39,080
Speaker 3: and it's nothing wrong with it.

2539
01:59:39,200 --> 01:59:39,920
Speaker 1: I love you guys.

2540
01:59:40,040 --> 01:59:42,480
Speaker 3: Y'all are like my big sissies for real, and God

2541
01:59:42,600 --> 01:59:45,560
Speaker 3: does amazing things through you too, So I guess it

2542
01:59:45,600 --> 01:59:46,280
Speaker 3: wasn't really a question.

2543
01:59:46,320 --> 01:59:52,560
Speaker 1: It was that's what girl Na was locked up.

2544
01:59:55,200 --> 01:59:57,160
Speaker 2: And let me tell y'all because I say.

2545
01:59:57,080 --> 01:59:59,600
Speaker 1: This a lot, lad, you loved that nigga alone?

2546
01:59:59,640 --> 02:00:01,720
Speaker 2: Since I glad we helped you come to your sensey

2547
02:00:02,240 --> 02:00:05,400
Speaker 2: what I mean, but I mean a man he was

2548
02:00:05,480 --> 02:00:06,520
Speaker 2: already in jail.

2549
02:00:07,000 --> 02:00:09,440
Speaker 3: She happy to leave that nigga alone because God said

2550
02:00:09,520 --> 02:00:11,000
Speaker 3: I he loved first.

2551
02:00:11,560 --> 02:00:17,240
Speaker 1: He was like, which was a blessing in disguise. He said,

2552
02:00:17,560 --> 02:00:19,400
Speaker 1: we locked in, ain't no switching up sight.

2553
02:00:23,000 --> 02:00:26,240
Speaker 2: So how do you feel about women dating men in jail?

2554
02:00:26,520 --> 02:00:28,760
Speaker 1: She said they were gonna be on love after lock up?

2555
02:00:30,560 --> 02:00:33,080
Speaker 2: Like, what are you doing to cry?

2556
02:00:34,360 --> 02:00:34,840
Speaker 1: Talk about that?

2557
02:00:34,960 --> 02:00:35,800
Speaker 2: SELEXI a nigga?

2558
02:00:35,800 --> 02:00:41,280
Speaker 1: Don't leave me? Oh my god? Man, so, oh my god.

2559
02:00:45,720 --> 02:00:50,320
Speaker 1: It was a very chaotic question. I mean, she said,

2560
02:00:50,320 --> 02:00:52,000
Speaker 1: I was with this dude. As soon as he got out.

2561
02:00:52,040 --> 02:00:56,200
Speaker 1: He was just like, yeah, he said, man, okay, So

2562
02:00:58,320 --> 02:01:04,280
Speaker 1: oh man, wow. First thing I realized she's thirty. Y'all

2563
02:01:04,440 --> 02:01:07,080
Speaker 1: going to hell? Person, I'm gonna say y'all going to hell.

2564
02:01:07,400 --> 02:01:09,040
Speaker 1: Both of y'all going to hell, for you for reading

2565
02:01:09,120 --> 02:01:11,600
Speaker 1: that question out loud, and for you for laughing and

2566
02:01:11,680 --> 02:01:14,080
Speaker 1: making them jokes. And I'm trying to be serious trying

2567
02:01:14,120 --> 02:01:18,360
Speaker 1: to help this young lady. It's the first thing I'm

2568
02:01:18,360 --> 02:01:22,600
Speaker 1: gonna say. She's thirty, she has an eight year old.

2569
02:01:23,440 --> 02:01:25,280
Speaker 1: The fact that she was dating someone in lock up

2570
02:01:25,320 --> 02:01:27,800
Speaker 1: and she probably hasn't met tells me that she probably

2571
02:01:27,840 --> 02:01:30,600
Speaker 1: has some self esteem issues. If you feel you have

2572
02:01:30,680 --> 02:01:32,760
Speaker 1: to just go jump to a dude that's locked up

2573
02:01:32,800 --> 02:01:35,120
Speaker 1: that you met through your middle school friend and you

2574
02:01:35,240 --> 02:01:37,800
Speaker 1: can't meet someone that's out, means you don't value yourself.

2575
02:01:37,920 --> 02:01:38,760
Speaker 2: You can't meet the man.

2576
02:01:39,440 --> 02:01:42,280
Speaker 1: You can't meet him at that's free. I didn't say that,

2577
02:01:42,440 --> 02:01:46,120
Speaker 1: let's y'all, don't say that. What you starting trump? I

2578
02:01:46,200 --> 02:01:50,360
Speaker 1: didn't say that's where, but I meant that. I didn't

2579
02:01:50,360 --> 02:01:53,240
Speaker 1: say it, but I meant that. LEXI say what I meant,

2580
02:01:53,280 --> 02:01:56,160
Speaker 1: because I'm not trying to get canceled. I said, I

2581
02:01:56,240 --> 02:01:59,200
Speaker 1: didn't say that, but I but I said that. All right.

2582
02:02:00,240 --> 02:02:01,960
Speaker 1: If a woman is like, you know, I gotta go

2583
02:02:02,120 --> 02:02:04,120
Speaker 1: find somebody who's locked up, I don't think her self

2584
02:02:04,240 --> 02:02:07,280
Speaker 1: esteem is good. I think that you dodge the bullet.

2585
02:02:08,080 --> 02:02:11,360
Speaker 1: I think that you have to focus on yourself and

2586
02:02:11,440 --> 02:02:14,440
Speaker 1: also your eight year old child. You don't gotta worry

2587
02:02:14,440 --> 02:02:16,920
Speaker 1: about chasing men. If you are catch and you out

2588
02:02:16,960 --> 02:02:19,760
Speaker 1: here in parenting and being the best version of yourself,

2589
02:02:20,560 --> 02:02:25,320
Speaker 1: the right man will come for you. Hopefully he'll be free. Okay,

2590
02:02:25,480 --> 02:02:26,720
Speaker 1: not see you.

2591
02:02:29,920 --> 02:02:30,120
Speaker 2: Better?

2592
02:02:30,760 --> 02:02:32,040
Speaker 1: You know what, you know what you're right.

2593
02:02:32,520 --> 02:02:34,880
Speaker 2: Let me see but let me but let me say

2594
02:02:34,920 --> 02:02:38,040
Speaker 2: this to her. Let me say this to hear and

2595
02:02:38,200 --> 02:02:41,880
Speaker 2: all women out there and even man too. When you

2596
02:02:42,280 --> 02:02:48,320
Speaker 2: really truly love yourself, I'm gonna say something good. You

2597
02:02:49,000 --> 02:02:52,280
Speaker 2: never know what's not but for real, because I went

2598
02:02:52,400 --> 02:02:54,880
Speaker 2: through a time in my life, like in my early

2599
02:02:55,000 --> 02:02:57,960
Speaker 2: thirties where I was just like doing anything, and I say,

2600
02:02:58,040 --> 02:03:03,200
Speaker 2: this is so somebody, Yeah, you've never done it.

2601
02:03:03,640 --> 02:03:08,040
Speaker 3: Never. She had never, never, she had me.

2602
02:03:08,560 --> 02:03:11,720
Speaker 1: She's like, that's beneath me, that is beneath me. If

2603
02:03:11,760 --> 02:03:14,640
Speaker 1: he don't try, if he on trial or he got out,

2604
02:03:15,000 --> 02:03:17,280
Speaker 1: I'm with that. But in jail, I not doing that.

2605
02:03:21,120 --> 02:03:23,480
Speaker 1: So you would data Zach, you would date, you would

2606
02:03:23,520 --> 02:03:27,080
Speaker 1: date a Zach a x con No. I know plenty

2607
02:03:27,120 --> 02:03:30,360
Speaker 1: of I I know plenty of good x cons.

2608
02:03:30,400 --> 02:03:34,480
Speaker 2: Okay, but it depends on like what what murder?

2609
02:03:34,880 --> 02:03:34,920
Speaker 6: No?

2610
02:03:35,440 --> 02:03:37,880
Speaker 2: No, if you can murder somebody, you might murder me.

2611
02:03:38,240 --> 02:03:40,280
Speaker 1: So how about what if what if I told you

2612
02:03:40,360 --> 02:03:41,320
Speaker 1: a stat that you didn't know.

2613
02:03:41,720 --> 02:03:44,760
Speaker 2: I don't want to know stats about no murder, I

2614
02:03:45,240 --> 02:03:45,920
Speaker 2: true crime.

2615
02:03:46,960 --> 02:03:47,000
Speaker 4: No.

2616
02:03:47,640 --> 02:03:50,440
Speaker 1: Over eighty percent of the inmates who are in jail

2617
02:03:50,880 --> 02:03:55,440
Speaker 1: are in jail because they they they accepted a plea deal,

2618
02:03:56,280 --> 02:03:57,440
Speaker 1: finds that they didn't come.

2619
02:03:59,680 --> 02:04:03,240
Speaker 2: But guess what A hundred percent can't get me. That's

2620
02:04:03,360 --> 02:04:04,760
Speaker 2: my statistic.

2621
02:04:04,360 --> 02:04:10,440
Speaker 1: Iry to help you all out in jail.

2622
02:04:10,640 --> 02:04:13,280
Speaker 2: Like dating somebody in jail, it's crazy me now I

2623
02:04:13,400 --> 02:04:16,440
Speaker 2: have dated. It's a reformed hoom I used.

2624
02:04:16,280 --> 02:04:18,880
Speaker 3: To love me or reformed hood nigga back in the day.

2625
02:04:19,440 --> 02:04:20,200
Speaker 2: I've changed.

2626
02:04:20,360 --> 02:04:23,680
Speaker 3: I'm wrong, but I feel like they desire a chance

2627
02:04:23,760 --> 02:04:27,840
Speaker 3: to I won't get you a chance, but I know

2628
02:04:27,960 --> 02:04:28,680
Speaker 3: a lot of X con.

2629
02:04:28,800 --> 02:04:31,160
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. So different people accept different things,

2630
02:04:31,240 --> 02:04:34,000
Speaker 2: But this is what I was saying. When you truly,

2631
02:04:34,360 --> 02:04:40,040
Speaker 2: truly love yourself, you will not accept anything beneath that.

2632
02:04:40,120 --> 02:04:42,440
Speaker 2: When you treat yourself well, when you love yourself, when

2633
02:04:42,440 --> 02:04:45,040
Speaker 2: you just work on yourself, you won't even be in

2634
02:04:45,120 --> 02:04:47,160
Speaker 2: a situation where a man can be in jail and

2635
02:04:47,200 --> 02:04:49,320
Speaker 2: get out and you felt used and abuse.

2636
02:04:49,400 --> 02:04:52,880
Speaker 1: I agree with Yeah, so you have to really, Yeah,

2637
02:04:53,000 --> 02:04:53,600
Speaker 1: you gotta really.

2638
02:04:53,720 --> 02:04:56,160
Speaker 2: When you really love yourself and you know the value

2639
02:04:56,480 --> 02:04:58,400
Speaker 2: and what you bring to the table, you're not gonna

2640
02:04:58,400 --> 02:05:01,960
Speaker 2: accept no bullshit. And it takes a while to get there.

2641
02:05:02,080 --> 02:05:04,640
Speaker 2: But whether he left you, or you left him, or

2642
02:05:04,760 --> 02:05:06,960
Speaker 2: you dodge the bullet, at least you realize that now

2643
02:05:07,280 --> 02:05:08,600
Speaker 2: and you can do what you need to do to

2644
02:05:08,680 --> 02:05:09,120
Speaker 2: move forward.

2645
02:05:09,640 --> 02:05:11,720
Speaker 1: I agree with that. I agree with that. Let me

2646
02:05:11,840 --> 02:05:15,240
Speaker 1: preach now, go ahead, let the words.

2647
02:05:15,320 --> 02:05:17,440
Speaker 2: I don't got three billion, but I got three dollars.

2648
02:05:17,920 --> 02:05:21,000
Speaker 1: Talk about it, talk about it. Lets you know what

2649
02:05:21,080 --> 02:05:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying. We ain't even do the bob.

2650
02:05:23,240 --> 02:05:26,280
Speaker 2: That's all right, we gotta Okay, we ain't gonna do

2651
02:05:26,320 --> 02:05:26,560
Speaker 2: the bob.

2652
02:05:27,040 --> 02:05:28,160
Speaker 1: Let him know what? What's THEO?

2653
02:05:29,760 --> 02:05:31,840
Speaker 2: Another week? Okay? Well, what do you were about? What

2654
02:05:32,560 --> 02:05:33,560
Speaker 2: you've been jamming? This week?

2655
02:05:36,000 --> 02:05:38,320
Speaker 1: I've been listening to changes by Tupac. I was this

2656
02:05:38,480 --> 02:05:41,480
Speaker 1: government and this is this election that had me, you know,

2657
02:05:41,560 --> 02:05:44,480
Speaker 1: it's had me stressed. So I've been listening to changes

2658
02:05:44,480 --> 02:05:47,800
Speaker 1: about to because I'm old LEXI, I swear to God,

2659
02:05:47,800 --> 02:05:52,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna fight you when this camera go up. We

2660
02:05:52,880 --> 02:05:56,760
Speaker 1: don't stop, but we the like. I swear to god,

2661
02:05:57,640 --> 02:06:02,000
Speaker 1: we're almost the same ass. Y'all are how old are

2662
02:06:02,000 --> 02:06:02,680
Speaker 1: you five?

2663
02:06:02,840 --> 02:06:03,480
Speaker 2: I'm thirty five.

2664
02:06:03,800 --> 02:06:09,440
Speaker 1: I'm thirty three. Oh yeah, we ain't that. They're right

2665
02:06:09,520 --> 02:06:10,560
Speaker 1: there too. You know what I'm saying.

2666
02:06:10,640 --> 02:06:12,680
Speaker 2: I talk tupac changes. Did you ever see that video

2667
02:06:12,680 --> 02:06:13,600
Speaker 2: of Santana's working?

2668
02:06:13,640 --> 02:06:14,200
Speaker 1: It changes?

2669
02:06:15,520 --> 02:06:17,080
Speaker 2: Okay, you seen He.

2670
02:06:17,200 --> 02:06:19,920
Speaker 1: Don't know you've seen this first of all, said saying,

2671
02:06:19,960 --> 02:06:22,480
Speaker 1: this is my mans a rock with Santana. We did

2672
02:06:22,560 --> 02:06:24,880
Speaker 1: some stuff together, but I'm not gonna watch a video

2673
02:06:24,960 --> 02:06:28,880
Speaker 1: with something and it went viral. Why would I watch that?

2674
02:06:29,000 --> 02:06:30,440
Speaker 2: Though I don't know it went.

2675
02:06:30,400 --> 02:06:32,720
Speaker 1: Virals ant I come up on your timeline.

2676
02:06:32,760 --> 02:06:35,040
Speaker 2: It ain't gonna not play just because you fwiped up.

2677
02:06:35,200 --> 02:06:37,040
Speaker 1: He said that. Yeah, but you said if I watched it,

2678
02:06:37,440 --> 02:06:37,680
Speaker 1: I can.

2679
02:06:37,960 --> 02:06:38,160
Speaker 2: I can.

2680
02:06:38,280 --> 02:06:40,360
Speaker 1: I can look up and I can see Santana talking

2681
02:06:40,360 --> 02:06:42,440
Speaker 1: about some Oh that's just funny. I can look up

2682
02:06:42,480 --> 02:06:45,440
Speaker 1: and see Santana's working and just swipe that motherfucker. So

2683
02:06:45,560 --> 02:06:47,160
Speaker 1: I didn't see him. That's a good. I'm not trying

2684
02:06:47,200 --> 02:06:50,640
Speaker 1: to see him t work. That's just my man. I'll

2685
02:06:50,680 --> 02:06:52,680
Speaker 1: take your work and I'll just be like.

2686
02:06:54,240 --> 02:06:59,200
Speaker 2: Not Santana, let us know when I could find your podcast,

2687
02:06:59,360 --> 02:07:01,200
Speaker 2: what days it drives, where they can find you and

2688
02:07:01,280 --> 02:07:01,960
Speaker 2: all that good stuff.

2689
02:07:02,240 --> 02:07:05,120
Speaker 1: Well, you can find me at Imdavao on all platforms,

2690
02:07:05,200 --> 02:07:07,480
Speaker 1: the Dead Ass podcast That's Dead Ass with Kadeen and

2691
02:07:07,520 --> 02:07:09,440
Speaker 1: the Vale. You can find us there. You can watch

2692
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Speaker 1: Meet Me Next Christmas today November sixth on Netflix. Make

2693
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Speaker 1: sure you watch Sisters on BT and Zatima on BT Plus.

2694
02:07:17,800 --> 02:07:19,600
Speaker 1: I feel like we gotta have you back on the show.

2695
02:07:19,680 --> 02:07:20,560
Speaker 3: You and your wife.

2696
02:07:20,840 --> 02:07:24,440
Speaker 1: We gotta have that would be I think, y'all funny.

2697
02:07:25,520 --> 02:07:26,160
Speaker 2: We gotta have her.

2698
02:07:26,320 --> 02:07:29,120
Speaker 1: I think y'all can bring the parts of Kadeen out

2699
02:07:29,160 --> 02:07:31,160
Speaker 1: that people don't know because Kadeena hood chicks, she's for

2700
02:07:31,960 --> 02:07:35,000
Speaker 1: and she's so used to being like, you know, put together,

2701
02:07:35,280 --> 02:07:36,920
Speaker 1: and this would be fun for her.

2702
02:07:38,200 --> 02:07:38,360
Speaker 2: Y'all.

2703
02:07:38,400 --> 02:07:40,840
Speaker 1: Definitely, we'll definitely come back. We'll definitely go.

2704
02:07:41,080 --> 02:07:44,120
Speaker 2: But thank y'all tuning in. Make sure y'all subscribe to

2705
02:07:44,320 --> 02:07:47,960
Speaker 2: our Patreon. New episodes drop every Monday. Y'all. Check out

2706
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Speaker 2: Music Beautycollection dot com all that good stuff.

2707
02:07:51,320 --> 02:07:52,040
Speaker 1: What else we got.

2708
02:07:53,520 --> 02:07:57,080
Speaker 2: Make sure you subscribe to the channel. Subscribe to the channel.

2709
02:07:57,240 --> 02:08:02,120
Speaker 1: Tour dates are dropping there going on tour, aga on

2710
02:08:02,320 --> 02:08:04,160
Speaker 1: your money and what's.

2711
02:08:04,000 --> 02:08:07,760
Speaker 2: Se y'all next week by y'all, y'all, make sure y'all

2712
02:08:08,120 --> 02:08:12,360
Speaker 2: share the content like subscribe, follow all that good stuff.

2713
02:08:12,360 --> 02:08:14,560
Speaker 2: And let me say this before we close off, y'all,

2714
02:08:15,040 --> 02:08:18,600
Speaker 2: there is one Twitter account that is connected to pour minds.

2715
02:08:18,640 --> 02:08:23,240
Speaker 2: It's p oh, you are underscore in my nds. Y'all

2716
02:08:23,280 --> 02:08:26,360
Speaker 2: are tagging the wrong poor minds page. If you see

2717
02:08:26,440 --> 02:08:29,160
Speaker 2: at poor minds with no underscore, that is at fake page,

2718
02:08:29,200 --> 02:08:32,640
Speaker 2: do not follow that page. Okay, they block me Andrea

2719
02:08:33,160 --> 02:08:35,680
Speaker 2: and the poor Minds page on both. So we only

2720
02:08:35,760 --> 02:08:41,480
Speaker 2: have one Instagram, one Twitter, one TikTok. It is p

2721
02:08:41,720 --> 02:08:44,720
Speaker 2: oh you are underscore in my nds, all right, and

2722
02:08:44,920 --> 02:08:48,480
Speaker 2: we got hell a fake Facebook page. The Facebook page

2723
02:08:49,080 --> 02:08:52,160
Speaker 2: our face. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually

2724
02:08:52,240 --> 02:08:54,839
Speaker 2: have the least amount of fileport. So if you're on Facebook,

2725
02:08:54,880 --> 02:08:57,600
Speaker 2: one that's ours got the least amount of file but

2726
02:08:57,720 --> 02:09:01,640
Speaker 2: one that's not us it's got like two hundred if

2727
02:09:01,640 --> 02:09:03,760
Speaker 2: you actually look at the content, because the caption is

2728
02:09:03,840 --> 02:09:06,760
Speaker 2: like whoever it is, don't speak English because their captains

2729
02:09:06,760 --> 02:09:09,960
Speaker 2: are like bumba clade. Should men should men pay bill?

2730
02:09:11,160 --> 02:09:12,160
Speaker 2: Should men pay bill?

2731
02:09:12,320 --> 02:09:12,640
Speaker 1: Yes? No?

2732
02:09:13,960 --> 02:09:16,240
Speaker 2: Check answer below block block.

2733
02:09:18,880 --> 02:09:20,440
Speaker 3: Like that's literally what the captions?

2734
02:09:20,600 --> 02:09:28,160
Speaker 2: I'm like, what that DG is? Bumba Claude claud were

2735
02:09:28,200 --> 02:09:28,840
Speaker 2: ready hobby.

2736
02:09:29,120 --> 02:09:32,000
Speaker 1: Got a little something something.

2737
02:09:31,560 --> 02:09:40,800
Speaker 2: In my bedroom? Oh yeah, so girl, please don't be.

2738
02:09:44,880 --> 02:09:47,480
Speaker 1: There's a meeting in my there's.

2739
02:09:47,320 --> 02:09:50,360
Speaker 2: Amazing in my bedroom.

2740
02:09:55,880 --> 02:10:02,320
Speaker 1: So please don't make me away you. I know I'm waiting.

2741
02:10:02,400 --> 02:10:06,400
Speaker 1: There's a meaning and there's a meeting in my bedroom.

2742
02:10:08,080 --> 02:10:11,880
Speaker 1: Looking at my roading, girl, I see it's almost time.

2743
02:10:13,680 --> 02:10:18,920
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, oh yeah, got a little something signing for

2744
02:10:19,200 --> 02:10:26,600
Speaker 6: my sexy. No no, no, no, I like having you around,

2745
02:10:26,880 --> 02:10:34,280
Speaker 6: so I gotta put you down. I like I said,

2746
02:10:34,400 --> 02:10:37,400
Speaker 6: run wrong words. I don't know what I'm saying.

2747
02:10:38,800 --> 02:10:47,720
Speaker 1: So be there. There's amazing in my bedroom. Room never.

2748
02:10:51,760 --> 02:10:59,920
Speaker 2: So girl, please don't be. There's meaning in my bedroom.

2749
02:11:00,160 --> 02:11:09,600
Speaker 7: There's a meaning and moaning my benerom Laura loa, So girl,

2750
02:11:09,880 --> 02:11:11,000
Speaker 7: don't mean me.

2751
02:11:11,400 --> 02:11:16,960
Speaker 1: Way my bet.

2752
02:11:17,280 --> 02:11:19,120
Speaker 2: There's a meeting in my bed.

2753
02:11:19,600 --> 02:11:28,200
Speaker 5: Yea step into me casso layer down boom, Mama, Hana,

2754
02:11:29,200 --> 02:11:33,200
Speaker 5: got a little sun sumthing on my sexy.

2755
02:11:34,360 --> 02:11:36,440
Speaker 1: My mom, Mama.

2756
02:11:37,480 --> 02:11:40,839
Speaker 5: Been checking for you since day one yr my mooning

2757
02:11:40,960 --> 02:11:43,160
Speaker 5: you're my son, love.

2758
02:11:43,360 --> 02:11:49,400
Speaker 1: No real, do you chicking? And you know that I'm stilling,

2759
02:11:49,560 --> 02:11:50,560
Speaker 1: yesty lo.

2760
02:11:51,960 --> 02:12:07,960
Speaker 2: So be therebesquare yo, So girl, please don't be lave me.

2761
02:12:09,080 --> 02:12:09,960
Speaker 1: Don't be lame.

2762
02:12:11,160 --> 02:12:26,920
Speaker 2: Don't be lame, don't be lame. Ro man. Okay, you

2763
02:12:27,000 --> 02:12:32,800
Speaker 2: know what the bed Bozlers, the bear bolers, We ain't

2764
02:12:32,880 --> 02:12:33,360
Speaker 2: that ship.

2765
02:12:33,720 --> 02:12:40,000
Speaker 1: And we'll see y'all next week. My Mama, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Mama, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Ma, Mama,

2766
02:12:40,080 --> 02:12:40,400
Speaker 1: Ma Ma.

2767
02:12:40,600 --> 02:12:45,440
Speaker 2: Mom Hey ma Ma.

2768
02:12:48,720 --> 02:12:56,320
Speaker 1: Ma Ma, Ma, Ma Ma, Mama, Mama, Ma, my mama.

2769
02:12:58,080 --> 02:13:01,640
Speaker 1: What you're going to now, What you're going to now? No,

2770
02:13:01,800 --> 02:13:05,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, Yeah, yeah, I don't know the words.

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02:13:06,120 --> 02:13:08,560
Speaker 2: Don't care. We're in my room, y