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This is 5 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: a post by the rapper Iced Tea. 6 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:21,760 Speaker 2: Oh God, fake d nigga. 7 00:00:21,760 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 1: I don't know what he says. 8 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 3: He if it's the one I'm thinking nail. 9 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,160 Speaker 1: Picture of him and it's a picture of him and 10 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: his lovely wife, and the caption is sometimes people ask 11 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,480 Speaker 1: me marriage advice because I've been happily married for twenty 12 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: five years. My answer, I know how to be married 13 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 1: to my wife, not yours. 14 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 4: L O L. 15 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 1: That's a real bigh. 16 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 3: The real Nigga's. 17 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 2: Right, I don't know what's dealing with and so with 18 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 2: him right over him, But why you fit, bo, I 19 00:00:59,040 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 2: don't know what the fuck you got would my badness? 20 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 2: So you can mind own that's fine, bro, that's real 21 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:09,280 Speaker 2: as fun. That's really as a motherfucker. 22 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,960 Speaker 3: Like, I'm not the marriage advice giver, and like all 23 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 3: my marrige device just comes back to hey man, me 24 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:16,720 Speaker 3: and my wife we just like each other. And that 25 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 3: solves every fucking bang dog because I do not. I 26 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 3: think a lot of people do not like who they're marriage, 27 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 3: and they might love them, but like that solves everything. 28 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 4: Bro. 29 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I give people marriage advice when I think I 30 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: have something to tell them, But I don't think that 31 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: what shar and I have done is it's replicatable necessarily 32 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:39,920 Speaker 1: to other people. But my only marriage advice is just 33 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: don't there's no such thing as unconditional love. I tell 34 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: Charlotte all the time, if I lose my marbles and 35 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: you need to put me somewhere, put me somewhere, like 36 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: you don't have to be and I know she She's like, 37 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: I would not be able to do that. It's like, okay, 38 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: but I'm telling you right now, as a person you 39 00:01:55,640 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 1: married you, could you have my permission because I do 40 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: think there's an expectation with unconditional love of like, oh 41 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: you're gonna be There's all kinds of conditions. If shark 42 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:09,080 Speaker 1: came home and started hitting me over the head with 43 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: a baseball bat, by damn, that's but that's what it is. 44 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 2: Like. 45 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:20,119 Speaker 1: There is no I I love my kids on conditions, 46 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 1: but that's what it would take. 47 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 2: I think that can be considered unconditional love. She ain't 48 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 2: gona come home and bust you in ahead with no 49 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 2: baseball bat. Brother, you know what I mean? That's a 50 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 2: that's a that's a that's the reach. 51 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 3: If my wife starts being mean to me, like consistently, 52 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 3: like we're done, bro, no. 53 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 4: For real, for real? 54 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 2: Mean that ship is that? 55 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 4: Yeah for show? 56 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: Bro? If my wife belittles me in front of my 57 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: mother repeatedly, you know what I mean, Like, there's all 58 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: kinds of ship, I'd be like, what the fuck is. 59 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 2: Wrong with you? 60 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: Like you know, but but but there's a lot of 61 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: conditions and they're easily met. That's what I would put. 62 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: And that's the Tyler's point always when he talks about marriage, 63 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:02,519 Speaker 1: it's if it gets too hard, you should probably ask 64 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:03,919 Speaker 1: yourself why it's too hard? Bro? 65 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, look look like I told you, I never relate 66 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 3: to the whole. 67 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: Marriage is tough. 68 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 3: You fight every day for it. I'm like, not on 69 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 3: this marriage. We are clowning every day. We laugh over here, bro, 70 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 3: Like I just I just can't relate the whole. There 71 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 3: is all work. You're gonna hate each other sometimes and 72 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 3: all and then some day. I've gone through years when 73 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 3: I didn't like it that mother fun. I'm like, what, 74 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:31,639 Speaker 3: like that is just crazy. 75 00:03:31,840 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 2: Here's just crazy. 76 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 3: You have the ups and downs. You might have some 77 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:36,560 Speaker 3: years where you like them, some years you don't like. 78 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: No, you do have some and you do have ups 79 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: and downs. But there's a difference between ups and downs 80 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: and years where you're waking up next to someone you 81 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: don't like. I cannot yours is not an up and 82 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 1: a down, Nigga. That's just old nigga, Like that's your 83 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: life right. 84 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 3: For so for so show. Yeah, that's for sure ups 85 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 3: and downs. But in my marriage, the ups and downs 86 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,280 Speaker 3: were from life beating our ass, not from us being 87 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 3: at each other's throat. Yeah, Like, there's an important distinction 88 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 3: there for sure. 89 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:05,640 Speaker 1: And I mean there's been time, you know again, Sear 90 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: and I've been together wore eighteen. There's been things that 91 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: we used to agree on that we don't agree on 92 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:13,480 Speaker 1: or you know, but it's always been things that we 93 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: could reconcile on. And the older we get, also the 94 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:19,599 Speaker 1: more comfortable we are not having the same philosophy when 95 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: we were nineteen, you're like, oh, you don't like my 96 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: favorite episode of the Simpsons was like a betrayal, or like, 97 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: oh you didn't like this college a capella CD I 98 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,560 Speaker 1: gave you in her case or something right, But when 99 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:34,919 Speaker 1: you get older, it's like that's her and I'm me, 100 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: and ninety nine percent of the time we agree about 101 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: what we're talking about. And the one percent of the 102 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:43,599 Speaker 1: time whatever I heard an old I don't remember her name. 103 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: It's like an old Southern lady who's a stand up 104 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: comic and she's blown up recently, like in her like 105 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 1: sixties or something. 106 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:51,600 Speaker 4: But she she was. 107 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: On Conan's podcast talking about she's like me and my 108 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 1: husband to go to bed mad all the time. People 109 00:04:59,120 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: always tell us, don't be to bed mad. I go 110 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: if we disagree about who is supposed to do the dishes. 111 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: We don't need to stay up until one o'clock in 112 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: the morning to fix that. We just go to bed, 113 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: wake up happy, and someone does the dishes. It's not 114 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:14,480 Speaker 1: a fucking war that has to be like settled every. 115 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 4: Day, you know what I mean? 116 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 1: All right? Or other deeper fake deep if you let 117 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: them shenan once the Shenan again, brod give me that. 118 00:05:28,160 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 3: I'm fucking with it. 119 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:35,040 Speaker 1: Who said that? Ship? Nigga at Rick blurs on Twitter, 120 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: I ain't mad at that. 121 00:05:36,200 --> 00:05:37,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, nigga, so. 122 00:05:37,920 --> 00:05:40,240 Speaker 4: To deep, that's real. 123 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, one might get a pack two Shenan's. 124 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 4: They're definitely doing a third. They're definitely Shenanan again. 125 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: No, but I think you'll give them the first Shanan. 126 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 4: I might give him a first chan first. 127 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:51,800 Speaker 2: I mean, I mean the first Sanan. Like, I don't know, bro, 128 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,840 Speaker 2: I mean, it depends on what the shenane, you know 129 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 2: what I mean? Like, but I think that what he's 130 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 2: talking about is some real Shenan shit that the first 131 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 2: one shit happen. Okay, okay, So have you let them 132 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 2: wants feel me like that? 133 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: Synergy? 134 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 2: I got this that yeah, yeah, yeah, you know what 135 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:11,359 Speaker 2: I'm saying right right right, Yeah, you know what I 136 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:13,920 Speaker 2: mean for real? So I get that. 137 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 3: I'll fuck with some shit. 138 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 2: Some shit only happened one time. 139 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:23,279 Speaker 4: Are you a true crime fan looking to add a 140 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 4: new show to your list of favorites? Are you interested 141 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 4: in learning about cases that you've probably never even heard about? Hi, 142 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:33,039 Speaker 4: I'm Kayla whatever. 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