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Speaker 1: the episode. Hey, what's up man?
Speaker 2: Hey?
Speaker 3: What's up? God?
Speaker 1: King?
Speaker 3: Get how you doing?
Speaker 1: Uh? Is this Parker? Yes, sir, what's up Parker? How's
Speaker 1: life dude?
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie to you, all right, fucking sucks.
Speaker 3: All right, all right, well where do you want me
Speaker 3: to start?
Speaker 2: Man?
Speaker 1: It's it kind of sounded like you were about to
Speaker 1: start before you asked me where you wanted where I
Speaker 1: wanted to start, And I want you to start where
Speaker 1: you were just about to start.
Speaker 3: You know what, I got a good damn point right there.
Speaker 3: I'll start right away. Okay. So working at Papa John's right,
Speaker 3: flipping the dough making his Uh, all right, I meet
Speaker 3: this girl. I uh fallen head over heels with her. Right,
Speaker 3: I got a buddy. Yeah, I won't mention the names.
Speaker 1: Grew up with him.
Speaker 3: You know, all throughout elementary school, uh, through middle school,
Speaker 3: high school, we were buddies. And me and this girl,
Speaker 3: you know, we really vibe. Everything was really really good.
Speaker 3: You know, it was beautiful. You know, we're going out
Speaker 3: doing stuff, going to concerts, kicking it. And then you know,
Speaker 3: as it turns out, Uh, she has a thing, foresaid, homie,
Speaker 3: and this is a this is a big kicker. Here,
Speaker 3: I should mention a polyamorous relationship, okay, and just a
Speaker 3: quick thing that I can say.
Speaker 1: You are in your phone, sucks. You were in a
Speaker 1: polyamorous relationship. I was.
Speaker 3: I was in a polyamorous relationship, and what.
Speaker 1: Kind of phone I want to I promise you were
Speaker 1: going to talk about what you want to talk about?
Speaker 1: What phone do you have?
Speaker 3: Okay? This is a Samsung. We'll see that came out
Speaker 3: like two years ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, well this is what's the opposite of an advertisement.
Speaker 1: That's what this is for Samsung. Okay, continue, you're you're
Speaker 1: you are in a polyamorous relationship.
Speaker 3: It was in a polyamorous as it turns it out.
Speaker 3: You know, she has a thing for my friend and
Speaker 3: she starts to say, you know, what would happen if
Speaker 3: me and him did something? You know, It's like.
Speaker 1: Uh, in my mind, did your phone your phone mate?
Speaker 1: You're suck too much for us to do this?
Speaker 3: I understand completely. Uh Is this is this better?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Just stand still and talking like that? Yes?
Speaker 3: Okay, in fact, I'm just gonna put it right here.
Speaker 3: Is that better?
Speaker 1: Yes? Okay? Continue?
Speaker 3: Okay, So long story short, We're dating in about like
Speaker 3: six months. Nothing crazy. I'm chilling downstairs in my room
Speaker 3: and I was we were gonna watch Harry Potter or something, right.
Speaker 3: I end up falling asleep and I wake up at
Speaker 3: about three o'clock in the morning to her and my
Speaker 3: childhood best friend having sex. So yeah, I didn't know
Speaker 3: what to do in that situation, so pretty much I
Speaker 3: broke down, she leaves. She says that I ruined a
Speaker 3: really like special thing for her, is what she said
Speaker 3: when it happened. And I was really like, kind of confused,
Speaker 3: as if, you know, she couldn't really read the situation,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like, I just walked in
Speaker 3: on my childhood best friend who told me that he
Speaker 3: had no interest in her whatsoever. That I walked in
Speaker 3: on them, fucking you know.
Speaker 1: Let me get on some thing. OK, all right, so
Speaker 1: your phone, Brandon, let's keep all the phones. I want
Speaker 1: people to know what we overcame, because your phone sounds
Speaker 1: a lot better. So Brandon, don't cut out any of
Speaker 1: this guy's phone being shitty, because it's I feel like
Speaker 1: you and I accomplished something together by even having this
Speaker 1: conversation right now, and I want people to know about it.
Speaker 3: I completely agree.
Speaker 1: Then the first thing, don't cut out any of that.
Speaker 1: But we normally cut it out, remember I don't. We're
Speaker 1: leaving it all in for this call. Okay, the phone
Speaker 1: was being shitty and I didn't hear you you are
Speaker 1: in a polyamorous relationship, correct.
Speaker 2: Yes, sir?
Speaker 1: Okay? And or what wasn't one you you broke up
Speaker 1: with this girl?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, okay, But.
Speaker 1: Here's what I'm Here's what.
Speaker 3: I'm honestly, this is a two parter. I should say,
Speaker 3: this is a little bit of a two parter, and
Speaker 3: it gets really crazy.
Speaker 1: I want to hear the second part. But okay, I
Speaker 1: guess Here's here's where I'm confused about. Is you entered
Speaker 1: a relationship. You entered a relationship with this girl where
Speaker 1: the confines of the relationship where that you were both
Speaker 1: okay with each other sleeping with other people?
Speaker 3: Uh yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: Okay, But and was did at any point did you
Speaker 1: make it clear to her that, like, you know, maybe
Speaker 1: not my friends, maybe we got like at any point did
Speaker 1: you guys set boundaries of any kind at any point?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah, so okay, well at the very
Speaker 3: beginning of our relationship, so uh, the concrete ones that
Speaker 3: kind of you know didn't stand obviously, we're please don't
Speaker 3: fuck any of my friends, and uh, because we also
Speaker 3: work together, right, So I was also like, I would
Speaker 3: prefer you not sleeping with any of my coworkers either,
Speaker 3: that would be cool. But yeah, so do you want
Speaker 3: me to go ahead and get into the nitty gritty
Speaker 3: the second part?
Speaker 2: Here?
Speaker 1: Sure, what's the second part?
Speaker 3: Okay, here's the second part. Now, I should I should reiterate.
Speaker 3: I'm a very lonely gamer boy, all right, very lonely.
Speaker 3: I spend my time grinding Elden Ring and Dark Souls
Speaker 3: and getting pissed off. That's like that's my ship, you know,
Speaker 3: hot Miami. Anything that's like really difficult continue, all right,
Speaker 3: you know? So all right, so I'm a little stupid
Speaker 3: and decided, you know what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna
Speaker 3: stay working here because she's leaving. Cool. I'm working there,
Speaker 3: kicking ass like always. You know, I used to be
Speaker 3: able to do these cool fucking pizza dough tricks and
Speaker 3: all sorts of shit. Everyone everyone was hyped up about it.
Speaker 3: It's really it was a great job. Honestly, I liked it.
Speaker 3: But she left. She ends up coming back, right, and
Speaker 3: this is after about three months or so, So I'm
Speaker 3: still ruffed, roughed up, I'm still raw, still angry, upset.
Speaker 3: She comes back and she's talking to me and apologizes.
Speaker 3: I I I don't necessarily accept the apology, but I
Speaker 3: was more so like, Okay, yeah, we know what, we
Speaker 3: can keep it civil and stay friends or whatever. Because
Speaker 3: we're working together, we should probably like keep it cool.
Speaker 3: But you know, I mean it didn't stay like that.
Speaker 3: You know, we started hanging out more, and then we
Speaker 3: almost like kind of almost got back together, and then
Speaker 3: got back together with her, and then she, after about
Speaker 3: like a couple of weeks, was like, ah, I think
Speaker 3: I think we should just be friends, you know, because
Speaker 3: after what happened, it's really stressful. And I was like,
Speaker 3: you know what, that makes sense, you know, let's do
Speaker 3: that because this is really stressful for me. I don't
Speaker 3: want to be in a relationship, and she didn't want
Speaker 3: to be in a relationship. So we're just gonna call
Speaker 3: it off, call it quit friends, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: So what ends up happening is we're we're not friends,
Speaker 3: just chilling and and it stayed that way see for
Speaker 3: about three or so months, and then we're watching the
Speaker 3: last of US TV show and we get to the
Speaker 3: last episode and I do find this kind of funny
Speaker 3: that we literally finished this series and then yeah, immediately
Speaker 3: U left to do but going like yeah, man, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: it was a time where oh yeah, no, it's understandable. Uh, understandable.
Speaker 3: I did miss a couple of parts. I'm a little
Speaker 3: mixed match with my with my story. So I mean,
Speaker 3: are are you able to tag along on this? We're
Speaker 3: going to go back a little bit.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just a little bit. Okay, I'm you know what,
Speaker 1: I the second part of the what's the what? I
Speaker 1: you know what? And I and I you want to
Speaker 1: know I'm with you, I'm with you, but and I
Speaker 1: mean this in like, sincerely, what's the point? What's the crocs?
Speaker 1: What's going on? You know? You guys watching?
Speaker 2: You want to know what?
Speaker 3: You want to know the gritty?
Speaker 1: Yes, you want to know what's happening?
Speaker 3: All right, God King, all right, God King, get I'll
Speaker 3: tell you. Please we finish the last of us. We've
Speaker 3: been hanging out a lot, chilling. She starts crying. Uh.
Speaker 3: Only after I had start saying, I start saying, hey,
Speaker 3: it's kind of like bothering me that you are now
Speaker 3: talking to my friend that I live with upstairs and
Speaker 3: he's not here a lot. And then I'm like, you know,
Speaker 3: I don't feel comfortable with you if you guys get
Speaker 3: in a relationship. I want to move out because I
Speaker 3: would be forced to watch this clockwork orange style. Everything
Speaker 3: just burned, you know, and I didn't want to do
Speaker 3: that because I lived in the basement. So I just
Speaker 3: kind of flat out said that. She turns to me
Speaker 3: and she goes, I'm pregnant. No, I I heart sinks.
Speaker 3: I uh fall onto the ground. Just I stood up
Speaker 3: and I was like, you're joking. No, no, you're ug
Speaker 3: fuck it with me. And then she was like, no,
Speaker 3: I am, and I was like.
Speaker 1: What.
Speaker 3: And then I go upstairs. This dude fast asleep. I
Speaker 3: bang on his door. I open it. I'm like, hey,
Speaker 3: what the fuck? And then he lets out a sigh,
Speaker 3: like like a ah shit, here we go again, man,
Speaker 3: you know, let's out a sigh. And then I just
Speaker 3: lose it. I go downstairs and I just start crying constantly,
Speaker 3: and it really messes It really messed with my head
Speaker 3: because I had gotten into this relationship when I was
Speaker 3: very like lonely, and it wasn't like me getting with
Speaker 3: her out of desperation. It was literally like I genuinely
Speaker 3: loved her.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's pregnant with who's child?
Speaker 3: My roommate and childhood best.
Speaker 1: Friends because she's pregnant with his child's.
Speaker 2: Yes, sir, And.
Speaker 1: Okay, Parker, dude, I guess, I guess. I guess what
Speaker 1: I guess. What I don't understand, what I don't understand.
Speaker 1: What I don't understand is like, so you were crying
Speaker 1: because you were upset about like you, there's a lot
Speaker 1: of things in here that I just don't understand.
Speaker 3: You, Okay, explain it.
Speaker 1: Okay, So you were being friends with you were you
Speaker 1: agreed to just be friends with this girl even though
Speaker 1: you still were in love with her or liked her
Speaker 1: a lot? Yeah? Okay, And then it was it was
Speaker 1: because I but you see why that's you see why
Speaker 1: that's a fuck up, right, because you're because here's the thing.
Speaker 1: If you're if you're agreeing to be just friends with
Speaker 1: this girl, she can do whatever the fuck she was.
Speaker 1: You going to have ten babies, ten different guys, all
Speaker 1: around on different planets, and that has nothing to do
Speaker 1: with you, because you have no say in anything that
Speaker 1: she has to do. Ever, and you accept that when
Speaker 1: you are cool with her being in your life in
Speaker 1: a non romantic way, and you understand that.
Speaker 3: Correct, Yeah? Yeah, And It wasn't really like out of
Speaker 3: me wanting to like control the situation or anything, you know,
Speaker 3: because I wanted her to do her thing. It was
Speaker 3: just it was more of like a he's really scummy.
Speaker 1: It's just I don't, dude, why are you Parker? Parker?
Speaker 1: What are you doing? What do you do it? Parker?
Speaker 1: Do you know how short life is? Do you really
Speaker 1: do you have any idea? What do you like? Just?
Speaker 1: Do you do you still live with these people?
Speaker 3: Absolutely not. I moved out a couple of months ago. Good, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I couldn't.
Speaker 1: I want you to know, I I I feel for you.
Speaker 1: I know you feel really upset because you were good.
Speaker 1: This was your fucking boy, and you really genuinely like
Speaker 1: this girl, bro. And I get because you tell me
Speaker 1: you're a lonely gamer boy and you finally meet this
Speaker 1: girl and things are going well and then ship just
Speaker 1: ends up like this and it's bad. Like I want
Speaker 1: you know, I get you, I get you, I get you.
Speaker 1: I do. But first of all, thank your lucky stars
Speaker 1: that that's not your kid, Okay, because since year twenty, okay,
Speaker 1: it shouldn't have been crying. I mean, I get I
Speaker 1: get while you were it was an emotional thing. My
Speaker 1: I say, you shouldn't have been crying. But thank god
Speaker 1: it's not your kid, because you're not ready to have it, yid,
Speaker 1: And so thank your fuckings. You're actually like you you
Speaker 1: got out of this so good, Parker. You did, You're You're,
Speaker 1: you're you. That friend obviously had his own thing going
Speaker 1: on and what it wasn't you know, and that girl
Speaker 1: obviously was not the best situation for you. You got out
Speaker 1: of this good, Parker. I hope you know that. I
Speaker 1: know you're looking at it like you were fucked over
Speaker 1: and this was a tragedy and you're a lonely gamer
Speaker 1: boy and no one will ever love you. That's not
Speaker 1: none of that shit is true. You got out good.
Speaker 1: Do you do you understand? Do you can? I know
Speaker 1: there's I know, I'm removed from the situation. I don't
Speaker 1: have the same emotions about it as you do. But
Speaker 1: do you understand the perspective at which I'm coming at
Speaker 1: this from?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, okay, it takes a long time, you know
Speaker 3: to swater swallow that tail.
Speaker 1: I know, I know, yeah, dude, good good Because by
Speaker 1: the way, and I the whole thing of like, can
Speaker 1: you be friends with I don't think you can be friends.
Speaker 1: I don't think you can be friends with somebody that
Speaker 1: you have a crazy amount of affection with. I think
Speaker 1: that's and that sucks. But like like you, it's just
Speaker 1: gonna be painful for you. It's just gonna be painful
Speaker 1: for you. And that's how it ended up. Ended up
Speaker 1: with you crying on the floor. I don't know what.
Speaker 1: I guess I get why you were crying. But you
Speaker 1: you're fucking lucky. Bro. You You are not fit to
Speaker 1: have a kid right now. You're not, which is cool
Speaker 1: because you're twenty three. You're not supposed to be. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you you, and I mean you're not. You got You're
Speaker 1: gonna have no time for elden Ring if you have
Speaker 1: a kid. Think about that for a second, About how
Speaker 1: little elden Ring you're with a child screaming in the
Speaker 1: other room. I'm all right, your phone's being shitty again now, Parker.
Speaker 2: Oh fuck, I know why?
Speaker 1: Hang on?
Speaker 3: That was my bad. I picked it up. I picked
Speaker 3: it up. I said, that's my bad. Mill all right now.
Speaker 1: Park I don't all right now, I'm done talking about
Speaker 1: your friend and this girl. Let's talk about you. How
Speaker 1: long ago did all this happen.
Speaker 3: Uh, so I got the news, uh mid March. Mid
Speaker 3: March is when I got the news.
Speaker 1: Got the news. It's like I had just didn't even
Speaker 1: have anything really to do with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was more like it just because we Okay,
Speaker 3: so we had agreed to like stay friends or whatever.
Speaker 3: But the thing is is that she agreed that like
Speaker 3: also constituted him as well. And that agreement because since
Speaker 3: all three since I lived in that house, he lived
Speaker 3: in that house.
Speaker 1: All right, disagreement. I'm sorry, I Parker. I want you
Speaker 1: to know. I'm I'm I'm rooting for you in life,
Speaker 1: but this agreement sounds really stupid, and I'm really glad
Speaker 1: that you're not.
Speaker 2: It was I'm not.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, all right, I'm done. I said I
Speaker 1: was done talking to these people. I I fucked up.
Speaker 1: I asked you more questions about it. That's my bad, Parker. Uh,
Speaker 1: what do you do for a living or are you
Speaker 1: in school? I?
Speaker 3: Uh, well, I used to build gaming computers, uh for CLX,
Speaker 3: but I actually got laid off about a month ago.
Speaker 3: So I just kind of lived with my parents now
Speaker 3: on a popped air mattress with some with some pillows,
Speaker 3: some blankets. Oh yeah, I got I got my I
Speaker 3: got my fan, I got Well, I don't have a
Speaker 3: desk yet, so so my desk, all my like my
Speaker 3: big stuff is still over there because I don't have
Speaker 3: a way to move all my big stuff, so like
Speaker 3: my mattress like all that kind of ship, my desk
Speaker 3: is still actually at that house.
Speaker 1: And I confirmed confirmed, you've confirmed my suspicions that you
Speaker 1: are not remotely ready to have a child, which is okay,
Speaker 1: which is okay, I'm a child. Okay. In fact, I
Speaker 1: you're you're you're you're doing. I want you to know
Speaker 1: what you're doing. Great, Parker, Okay, all right, you live
Speaker 1: on air mattress in your mom's basements. That's great. What
Speaker 1: do you do? You do you? Are you doing anything?
Speaker 1: Do you Are you in school? Are you working on anything? Uh?
Speaker 3: Man, I've been applying at places and got no luck. Man, Honestly,
Speaker 3: I've been turned down so many times, so many good interviews. Yeah, no,
Speaker 3: nothing's working out. It's looking really grimy. Ship really sucks.
Speaker 1: What do you what do you want to? What do
Speaker 1: you what do you I'm not even saying that, and
Speaker 1: like a toxic positivity ship, I'm just you. I can
Speaker 1: tell from the way that you've been talking this entire
Speaker 1: time that you're just beating yourself up for no reason,
Speaker 1: and I genuine genuinely in this conversation want to get
Speaker 1: you to not be doing that. Okay, what do you
Speaker 1: what do you? What do you want to do with
Speaker 1: your life?
Speaker 2: Parker?
Speaker 3: Well, ideally, you know, I got a buddy and he draws,
Speaker 3: He draws manga. His his whole main thing is he
Speaker 3: wants to be like a really big artist. He he's
Speaker 3: fucking amazing, dude, fucking amazing. It's ship's like jojo uh
Speaker 3: and my whole thing, me and him. I want to
Speaker 3: write stories and make comics and have like so many
Speaker 3: ideas for like sci fi stories. I really want to
Speaker 3: be like a a screenplay writer something to do with
Speaker 3: like film. But that's like it's like my my big dream,
Speaker 3: you know, because I have so many ideas, man, so
Speaker 3: many ideas, so many.
Speaker 1: It's not a bit, it's not do you want to
Speaker 1: Let's I want to get with you on some okay,
Speaker 1: you want to make? It sounds that you want to
Speaker 1: make stuff you like you want to make, whether it's
Speaker 1: drawing things or making little movies or things like that.
Speaker 1: That's am I on the right page with that? Uh yes, okay,
Speaker 1: you can you can you can do that. You can
Speaker 1: do that. Do you have an idea? You have so
Speaker 1: many ideas, that's what you said.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, dude, so many.
Speaker 1: For ideas for what for movies I've written?
Speaker 3: Uh see, like movies, comics. Ideally I would like to
Speaker 3: do like animation, not to be like a weave, not
Speaker 3: because I mean I love anime, you know, but like
Speaker 3: only like the good ones, not the smelly ones. Okay,
Speaker 3: So I really want to have like a dark, gritty,
Speaker 3: elder ring kind of story, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: So the reason why I start, the reason why I
Speaker 1: said it's not a big dream is because what you
Speaker 1: saying it's and I'm kinda I'm gonna I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: I'm going to go motivational guru guy on you right now,
Speaker 1: because that's how I'm feeling you're saying it's a big dream.
Speaker 1: Is in my eyes, You're like, it's just you putting
Speaker 1: a thing that's actually right. It's you taking a thing
Speaker 1: that's just right in front of you, and you're on
Speaker 1: your your shitty air mattress room. It's right that you're
Speaker 1: the dream. It's right there in that shitty room, and
Speaker 1: you're thinking you're placing it on another planet when it's not.
Speaker 1: It's right there in your shitty room. Because you can
Speaker 1: start doing those ideas now. You can start drawing right now.
Speaker 1: You can start making movies right now on your iPhone.
Speaker 1: You can start creating comics, you can start writing things,
Speaker 1: you can start sharing things to the internet right now.
Speaker 1: You can just start doing those things. And I just
Speaker 1: would So, I'm just would so much rather you be
Speaker 1: doing that instead of indulging in the melodrama of these
Speaker 1: two people that I don't give a shit about that
Speaker 1: you shouldn't give a shit about. And you also and
Speaker 1: and by the way, if you had a kid, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't tell you any of this. If you have a kid,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, yeah, there's are If you had a kid,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, you can work on that Elden Ring comic.
Speaker 1: Never you just you can't do it because you have
Speaker 1: to take care of you. But you don't have to
Speaker 1: do that. You're so I just you're beating the ship
Speaker 1: out of yourself when you could. You have so many
Speaker 1: cool things you could be doing. And this is fuck
Speaker 1: this is something I told someb buddy h today on
Speaker 1: this fucking live stream, is you you have so many
Speaker 1: things to be excited about and I want for you.
Speaker 1: And I, by the way, I get it because I
Speaker 1: beat the ship out of myself constantly too, I do.
Speaker 1: And just do me a favorite. And the next time
Speaker 1: you're about to beat the ship out of yourself and
Speaker 1: say that you're a piece of shit gamer guy thing,
Speaker 1: replace those thoughts with thoughts of how excited you are
Speaker 1: to write this Elden Ring comic thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah you're right, because yeah, it's like it's a big
Speaker 3: issue that I have. It's like I always have these dreams,
Speaker 3: but you know, I always feel like I'm kind of
Speaker 3: stuck at the starting line, redlining the fuck out of
Speaker 3: my engine. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Starting line is sick starting place to be. The starting
Speaker 1: line is a fantastic place to be. So do me
Speaker 1: a favor, and I get it. I understand the brain.
Speaker 1: I mean I don't, I'm stupid, but I anecdotally I
Speaker 1: understand the brain and I get that it's gonna it
Speaker 1: wants you to marinate in this stupid thing with this
Speaker 1: girl and with this guy and take you away from
Speaker 1: the wonderful world of cool ideas that you have, and
Speaker 1: I just want you to notice every time that that's
Speaker 1: happening and correct it and start working on this fucking
Speaker 1: comic and just making stick and just making making things
Speaker 1: instead of marinating in this this situation, which again I
Speaker 1: must remind you, you got out good. And maybe one day, Parker,
Speaker 1: you'll make it big, or not not even make it
Speaker 1: by fucking I hate. I hate the idea of making
Speaker 1: it big. Maybe one day you'll start to earn a
Speaker 1: living writing on the internet, which is something that thousands
Speaker 1: and thousands of thousands, thousands of people are out there doing,
Speaker 1: and maybe you can use some of that money to
Speaker 1: get a phone that works, and then you can call
Speaker 1: me back and we can have a better conversation where
Speaker 1: I can hear the things that you're saying.
Speaker 3: Did it get worse?
Speaker 1: No, it's actually not that bad. Okay, Parker, I'm going
Speaker 1: to shut up. How do you feel about all the
Speaker 1: things that we're talking about?
Speaker 3: You know, I it feels really really good because honestly,
Speaker 3: like because in a situation like this, I I can't
Speaker 3: talk about it really without causing a bunch of shit,
Speaker 3: because yeah, you know, it's just so messy.
Speaker 1: It's just you can't talk without causing a bunch of shit.
Speaker 3: Honestly, that's really just not you know what. That's a cope.
Speaker 3: You know I can't because I'm not even like associated
Speaker 3: with them anymore. So why does it matter?
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 1: I don't like these people are doing nothing producting productive
Speaker 1: for you in your life from the.
Speaker 3: Way exactly, like I don't even Yeah, like it was,
Speaker 3: it was.
Speaker 1: It was rough.
Speaker 3: It was so rough, the amount of like manipulation and
Speaker 3: gas lighting. Just it was really weird, man, because I
Speaker 3: usually can snip out bullshit pretty well, but like like
Speaker 3: really really well, Like I got like bost my parents police,
Speaker 3: I've got like hiding ship dude. Like, dude, if your
Speaker 3: parents are cops, you've got to be like row when
Speaker 3: it comes to hiding ship. It's not the first place.
Speaker 1: So it's like, what are you What are you hiding?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: Like weed?
Speaker 1: Oh so you're twenty three, smoke weed and blow it
Speaker 1: in a cops face? Who gives a ship?
Speaker 3: Oh dude, we're booling now, we're cool now. It was
Speaker 3: just that was back like that was when I was
Speaker 3: growing up, you know what I mean, had to had
Speaker 3: to be very careful because sometimes I would come home
Speaker 3: and see my my container open on my bed with
Speaker 3: all my ship laid out, and I'll just be like, yep, yep,
Speaker 3: here we go, Here we go. Let the interrogation happens, Parker.
Speaker 1: Do you have any before we leave? Do you have
Speaker 1: any final thoughts, feelings, or sentiments or of things that
Speaker 1: you want to say?
Speaker 3: Uh? One important thing if if you know, if be careful,
Speaker 3: you know it goes for like chat or really anybody.
Speaker 3: If if you're monogamous and someone that you really really
Speaker 3: love the company of is is Polly, and you think
Speaker 3: to yourself, Man, you know, what's what's the man, what's
Speaker 3: the worst.
Speaker 2: That could happen?
Speaker 3: Ah, think of me? Because it is not good.
Speaker 2: It's not good.
Speaker 3: Uh, We're we're going to be moving into a better headspace.
Speaker 3: So this this really really helped me out. Man, h
Speaker 3: God King Ghek as I as I call you. I
Speaker 3: have never called you by a different name. I'm just
Speaker 3: letting you know that right now, God King Ghek right here.
Speaker 1: Thanks man, I'm really fucking Protos was really reving up
Speaker 1: every time I hear.
Speaker 3: That Protosla B Protos Slayer got them gun Bro I
Speaker 3: really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Yell at and I'm gonna go find an assistant and
Speaker 1: yell at them.
Speaker 3: Yeah, do it, do it, man, that's how make your
Speaker 3: blood pressure spike. Show him, show him whose boss pop
Speaker 3: those vessels?
Speaker 2: My guy.
Speaker 1: Have a good night, Parker, thank you man.
Speaker 3: How good night, gek.
Speaker 1: Man. All you know. I feel like I've talked about
Speaker 1: this so much on this podcast. I know, I don't
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't know what to do with like
Speaker 1: relationship things. They're hard because in relationship you're a You're
Speaker 1: your only leverage in relationships is your own choices. But
Speaker 1: it's so hard because we want so badly for our
Speaker 1: control to go outside of those bounds and into making
Speaker 1: other people feel things or do things or not do things.
Speaker 1: But you gotta fucking accept that you can't do that.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I hope Parker makes shitty comment. I
Speaker 1: just want. I want Parker to be happy drawing shitty
Speaker 1: comics on this shitty air mattress and sitting there basking
Speaker 1: in gratefulness that he does not have a child, because
Speaker 1: that's a great life that he's I know. I know
Speaker 1: he keeps saying it's shitty, but it's it's a great life.
Speaker 1: I'm being dead serious, so enjoy it. Parker, Peter, Parker,
Speaker 1: Spider Man.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Hello Ola, which is hello in Spanish?
Speaker 1: Yeah? It is, thank you dude?
Speaker 2: Is this the gek? This mad?
Speaker 1: Are you a Spanish teacher? Uh?
Speaker 2: If you want to learn how to say hello? Yes,
Speaker 2: but any other.
Speaker 1: Way I want I want the truth. I don't want
Speaker 1: any lies. I want the truth. Are you a Spanish teacher?
Speaker 2: Yes, sir?
Speaker 1: No, Okay, We're off to a good start.
Speaker 2: Dude, this is exciting. I've wanted to be on your
Speaker 2: show for so long.
Speaker 1: Well fuck, yeah, man, it's good to talk to you.
Speaker 1: What's your name?
Speaker 2: Uh, my name is for now for.
Speaker 1: Chris. It says your name is Chris now Chris.
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 2: Well but.
Speaker 1: It says here you wanted to talk about gooning.
Speaker 2: Yeah, why not? Because uh, I've never really talked about
Speaker 2: it with anyone except like one person a long time ago,
Speaker 2: and she's been a thing that's been on my mind.
Speaker 2: Do you know you're aware of what it is?
Speaker 1: Right? I am friends with the porn star Kazumi who Yeah, once.
Speaker 2: I saw your episode with her.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she was the one who introduced me to the
Speaker 1: concept of gooning. And she tried to explain it to
Speaker 1: me for like a pretty long time, and I still
Speaker 1: really had kind of don't understand it. So do you
Speaker 1: want to go ahead and explain it to the people listening?
Speaker 2: I would absolutely love to. Ever since I saw that episode,
Speaker 2: Like when I was watching, I was like screaming at
Speaker 2: the TV, like no, say this, say this like she did.
Speaker 2: She gave an okay explanation, but it was sort of
Speaker 2: kind of all over the place. But okay, So here's
Speaker 2: how I understand it. How I've come to know is
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just stumbled upon some video on
Speaker 2: you know, the porn's sites. At one point, this term
Speaker 2: gooting kept coming. Anyway, it's basically when you're watching porn
Speaker 2: and edging, specifically edging like as much as you can
Speaker 2: for as long as you can without you know, coming
Speaker 2: and like basically just fucking frying her brain with as
Speaker 2: much porn as possible, kind of trying to turn it
Speaker 2: into a marathon. Like it's fucking insane. These people, there's
Speaker 2: like this whole subculture like the Internet, you know, which
Speaker 2: the effort that is famous for, especially the porn sex world.
Speaker 2: But like, dude, these people. I mean I'm one of them,
Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, but some of these people are
Speaker 2: really into it that are like off the deep end.
Speaker 2: It's like, like I found this subreddit called goon caves.
Speaker 2: These dudes picture posting pictures that they're like they're porn
Speaker 2: set up like their bedrooms and stuff. They have like
Speaker 2: dedicated to porn. Like you'll see like fucking three four
Speaker 2: giant HDTVs, projectors, like literally anything that with a screen, iPads, iPhones,
Speaker 2: like just set up like multiple screens, all go all
Speaker 2: going all playing porn like for hours on end. It's
Speaker 2: fucking It's weird, dude, Now it's the weird.
Speaker 1: Do you lie on this spectrum? How what does your
Speaker 1: goon cave look like? Uh?
Speaker 2: Pretty pretty basic honestly, just a TV like fuck my
Speaker 2: laptop up to it. There was a point where I'll
Speaker 2: admit I was inspired and I tried the whole thing
Speaker 2: with Like I set up extra computer minders that I
Speaker 2: had laying around Like that was fun, but it was like, wait,
Speaker 2: what the fuck is the point of this? Like I
Speaker 2: can only focus on one at a time.
Speaker 1: That's well, I'll say I've I myself have done the
Speaker 1: thing where like I'll have you know, I've looked, I've
Speaker 1: I've taken a step back once and noticed that I've
Speaker 1: had like thirty tabs of porn up. Oh yeah, so like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, that's but I've never introduced a second monitor.
Speaker 1: I've never been and then on my laptop and on
Speaker 1: my TV screen, although I do have free night tonight,
Speaker 1: so who.
Speaker 2: Knows what hey never saying now.
Speaker 1: It also says here that you do you consider this, Oh,
Speaker 1: this is you consider this to be an addiction? This
Speaker 1: is something that.
Speaker 2: Is Yeah, that's the whole other that's I was gonna
Speaker 2: say that, that's a whole other component to it. That's
Speaker 2: like a lot of gooners like they're almost proud, and
Speaker 2: some of I feel like they're like like they've come
Speaker 2: up with it, came up with this term porno sexual,
Speaker 2: meaning like like people that literally have decided no sex,
Speaker 2: no relationship, I just want to jerk off the porn. Wow.
Speaker 2: That's and they're like.
Speaker 1: This is this is an interesting thing. And I think
Speaker 1: I did talk to Consume me about this a little bit,
Speaker 1: but I'm not sure. But okay, so this is an
Speaker 1: interesting thing. The idea of somebody who has made a
Speaker 1: decision that they are not going to pursue any kind
Speaker 1: of sexual relationship in their lives, that they are not
Speaker 1: that they're just going to be pornosexual and they have
Speaker 1: decided to be proud of it and not to be
Speaker 1: shameful about it. And no, I'm not a scientist, I'm
Speaker 1: a gecko, but I do think there is something interesting,
Speaker 1: perhaps freeing, about making a definitive life choice like that
Speaker 1: and making it confidently. You know what I'm saying, because yeah,
Speaker 1: can remove all sense of shame from your addiction. How
Speaker 1: is it hurting you? Probably in several ways. I'm not mean,
Speaker 1: but I do think about things like, no.
Speaker 2: I understand like and I have thought about that too.
Speaker 2: I thought about it a lot, and I feel like
Speaker 2: there's sort of two camps and maybe there's some gray
Speaker 2: area in between. But I feel like most of if
Speaker 2: not all, the guys and very few some when but
Speaker 2: mostly guys who are pornosexuals or who would identify as that,
Speaker 2: Like most of them are not like if they're totally like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm proud of this, it's usually in denial, like you know,
Speaker 2: you know what? Yeah, yeah, it is the form of like.
Speaker 1: Because I could see, like, if you're a guy and
Speaker 1: it just hasn't happened. This is just not happening for
Speaker 1: you out there, and you're like, dude, fuck it up.
Speaker 1: You know, having five monitors of porn is what makes
Speaker 1: me happy in life, and you've made that executive decision
Speaker 1: for yourself and you want to be shamefree about it.
Speaker 1: I could I could see that being a legitimate lifestyle
Speaker 1: to live.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah, now I come to you. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I was gonna so I didn't really I didn't really
Speaker 2: answer your question where I fall on that spectrum. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like what my so currently Like normally for me, it's
Speaker 2: like every night, like maybe an hour or two, like
Speaker 2: sometimes every other night, but usually every night, and you know,
Speaker 2: one monitor, one video at a time. I've gotten it
Speaker 2: down to the like what feels normal again, there was
Speaker 2: a point like this really blew up in twenty twenty.
Speaker 2: You know, everybody got locked inside and stared at their screens.
Speaker 2: You know, fucking I went into a like I said that,
Speaker 2: like experimenting when it was all new to me. It
Speaker 2: was like, well, it was kind of like discovering porn
Speaker 2: for the first time when you're a teenager again. You know,
Speaker 2: it's like holy shit, you know, it's just.
Speaker 1: Overwhelming, like second and third modelor.
Speaker 2: Well that and also when I discovered, okay, here's a
Speaker 2: whole other component. There's so we could write a fucking
Speaker 2: book on this, dude. This whole other component is the
Speaker 2: videos that people make. Dude, like like dudes that people
Speaker 2: are like they spend their time. Some of them even
Speaker 2: like have uh like Patreon sites that you can donate
Speaker 2: to them and they'll keep making more porn. But they're
Speaker 2: not even making porn. They're taking porn that's already up
Speaker 2: and cutting it and like making compilation videos.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've seen that. I've seen that. So basically, yes,
Speaker 1: I've seen I've seen these goon videos. Basically people will yeah,
Speaker 1: based so the way it gets deep because somebody will
Speaker 1: make a goon video where it's actually they splice up
Speaker 1: in one frame three different porn videos, like it's on
Speaker 1: like a grade or.
Speaker 2: Four or four or five or five.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so you have you can have like six
Speaker 1: monitors and on each monitor is six different porn videos playing,
Speaker 1: which do the math that's thirty six yep, and then
Speaker 1: if and then depending on how many people on each video,
Speaker 1: that's like seventy two sets of genitals that you're staring at.
Speaker 2: That's so many, so many.
Speaker 1: And now let me ask you this, how has this
Speaker 1: pornography addiction seeped into your real life? Has it had
Speaker 1: negative effects on you as it a positive effects on you?
Speaker 2: Funny enough, a lot of both, honestly, Like let's start
Speaker 2: especially because let's start.
Speaker 1: With the positive ones. Tell me the positive ones, all.
Speaker 2: Right, all right, Well, when I sort of like got
Speaker 2: into this, when it sort of came into my world,
Speaker 2: like I said, it was sort of like discovering porn
Speaker 2: for the time, and at some point it just kind
Speaker 2: of like, I mean, it made me like think about
Speaker 2: being more conscious of my consumption of porn. It's like, well,
Speaker 2: I've just gotten kind of used to this, like ever
Speaker 2: since I was, you know, fourteen, maybe even early a
Speaker 2: little earlier, it's been a regular thing, like a lot
Speaker 2: of guys, you know. But then out of nowhere, I
Speaker 2: was like, wait a minute, my whole life, I've been
Speaker 2: doing it the same way. I'm hunched over in the
Speaker 2: bathroom or my room or something, and I don't watch
Speaker 2: even like a full video. I'm like doing it quickly
Speaker 2: and shamefully so like but at this point, you know,
Speaker 2: the pandemic is in full swing, like twenty twenty when I.
Speaker 1: What Okay, I asked you if you could tell me
Speaker 1: the positive benefits of.
Speaker 2: Sorry, yeah, yeah, I'm getting to do that on your life.
Speaker 1: And the one positive benefit of your porn addiction so
Speaker 1: far in your own work, Yes, it has been very
Speaker 1: has alerted, it's very freeing.
Speaker 2: Yes, But also that's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's the point of the positive.
Speaker 2: I wasn't trying to say that was the positive. I'm
Speaker 2: trying to set up the story. I kind of ramble.
Speaker 1: Don't even tell me a story.
Speaker 2: Tell me, okay, okay, right, the positive. I have overcome
Speaker 2: a lot of shame, like because this has been like
Speaker 2: shoving in my face, like hey, look, this is the
Speaker 2: thing that's happening in your life, you know, like quite literally,
Speaker 2: like you're screaming at me, and like it's been like
Speaker 2: you know what, I can't ignore this anymore. I gotta
Speaker 2: you know, It's made me focus more on myself, like
Speaker 2: my emotional mental health, Like I notice now like I'm
Speaker 2: trying to practice a lot of mindfulness and stuff, and
Speaker 2: I'm actually like gotten a lot better at like lately
Speaker 2: my like I've noticed whenever I try to quit, the
Speaker 2: harder I try, the harder it comes back, you know,
Speaker 2: like you just repress it, Okay, and it just bounces
Speaker 2: back like a spring again.
Speaker 1: Chris, all right. The only it sounds like the again.
Speaker 1: The only positive trait that you give me so far
Speaker 1: is that it has alerted you to the fact that
Speaker 1: you have a born addiction. What are some of the
Speaker 1: negative ways this has affected your life?
Speaker 2: Uh? For a while when it was bad, like I
Speaker 2: feel like I'm past the worst of it, I'm getting better.
Speaker 2: But when it was bad, I would do it like
Speaker 2: multiple times a day, like sometimes first thing when I
Speaker 2: wake up, just because I had nothing to do, especially
Speaker 2: during the pandemic. Uh. It's taken a lot of hours
Speaker 2: of my life, a lot of energy, a lot of
Speaker 2: time and energy that I could have been using to
Speaker 2: better myself, you know, get closer.
Speaker 1: Are you going to say, God.
Speaker 2: Well, I was going to say, like an actual human relationship,
Speaker 2: but sure, yes.
Speaker 1: But tell me, do you have a job.
Speaker 2: Do I have a job? That what you said? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, what's your job?
Speaker 2: I work at a stamping place, So I sit at
Speaker 2: a giant machine take little metal parts from one pile
Speaker 2: stamp it in the machine, put it in the other
Speaker 2: pile for eight hours a day.
Speaker 1: All right, so you have a very repetitive job.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, listen to a lot of podcasts and music.
Speaker 1: What do you want to do with your like, what's
Speaker 1: do you have any dreams?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a musician and mainly a drummer right now,
Speaker 2: I'm actually I'm moving to the cities to basically, you know,
Speaker 2: get connected with more musicians. Like I'm moving into a
Speaker 2: house full of musicians. That's exciting. I feel like I'm
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm at a point where.
Speaker 1: I'm Would you ever consider making a song about your point? Addition?
Speaker 2: Absolutely yeah, because I mean you could technically say I
Speaker 2: already have because I do write like poetry, lyrics and
Speaker 2: stuff that, like my writing style is sort of vague,
Speaker 2: like I'm talking like my music is more about pain
Speaker 2: in general than specifically what has caused me pain. But
Speaker 2: like I mean there's definitely sexual lyrics I have. So yeah,
Speaker 2: I want to write more about it because it's such
Speaker 2: a It's been such a wild write man, I can't
Speaker 2: not write sort of write this ship down, whether in
Speaker 2: just writing or in music form.
Speaker 1: You know, like see when I asked you. I gave
Speaker 1: the opportunity to tell me if there was any positives
Speaker 1: to this, and one of the positives of your born
Speaker 1: it seems to be is that it has inspired some
Speaker 1: great poetry.
Speaker 2: I guess it has. Yeah, a lot of other stuff
Speaker 2: too that was sexual.
Speaker 1: I've had a very I'm gonna christ say this. I
Speaker 1: think I think it's good that you're doing things that
Speaker 1: aren't porn. If you had told I'm glad that you
Speaker 1: had to have the music in the poetry because if
Speaker 1: he was just born.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so oh yeah, dude, me too.
Speaker 1: But you got how old are you? Twenty three and
Speaker 1: you live in Minnesota?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Are there? Are there? Are you?
Speaker 2: Are you?
Speaker 1: Are you gay? Straights?
Speaker 2: I'm straight? I like the females.
Speaker 1: Okay, it's I feel like that could be. One of
Speaker 1: the reasons why you're not having a lot of sex
Speaker 1: is because of what you just said. But you're also
Speaker 1: a musician and that's attractive to some people. So there's
Speaker 1: hope for you. I think I believe in you, Chris.
Speaker 1: I believe in your ability to kick the goooning addiction,
Speaker 1: get really into poetry and use that to seem cool
Speaker 1: and interesting.
Speaker 2: Cool.
Speaker 1: Thanks man, of course the composition helps.
Speaker 2: Yes, very much, especially because I know that strangers are listening.
Speaker 1: But I'm not saying it sounded like a sexual thing
Speaker 1: just now.
Speaker 2: No, I would just want to say, like anybody out there,
Speaker 2: if you're struggling with this, like, you're not alone. It's normal.
Speaker 2: We live in a really fucked up world. We're all
Speaker 2: addicted to screens, whether it's porn or not.
Speaker 1: So it's true.
Speaker 2: I love you. You're gonna be all right.
Speaker 1: It's true. It's true. Man, if you're if you're playing
Speaker 1: like it's true. If you have this stream up on
Speaker 1: one tab and you're playing fucking Rocket League and another
Speaker 1: tab and you're texting your mom on another tab, that's
Speaker 1: basically a porning. That's the same thing as goooning in
Speaker 1: my opinion. Uh, thank you very much for calling, Chris.
Speaker 1: I hope you have a good rest of the night.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. You have a good night, man,
Speaker 2: Love you.
Speaker 1: Hello, folks, it's Lyle and it's that time again where
Speaker 1: I end a podcast with a street interview. Yes, that's right,
Speaker 1: an interview with a real life person that I happen
Speaker 1: to be actually staring at in the face instead of
Speaker 1: uh staring I'm not at on the phone, okay. And
Speaker 1: this one's interesting. This one was done on the streets
Speaker 1: of Copenhagen, Denmark, which is one of my favorite places
Speaker 1: in the world. It's a beautiful country. It was voted
Speaker 1: the happiest country in the world. And I talked to
Speaker 1: a young man asking him why exactly he thinks that
Speaker 1: might be the case that people in Denmark are so happy.
Speaker 1: This is a guy who came up to me on
Speaker 1: the streets and asked me to chug a beer with him,
Speaker 1: and I did. That's how the interview starts, and then
Speaker 1: we got into all kinds of things. We got into
Speaker 1: the differences between Denmark and America, we got into his life,
Speaker 1: we got into a little bit of mine. I think,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't remember that much, but you
Speaker 1: guys will enjoy it. And let's go to the streets
Speaker 1: of Denmark to talk to a guy right now. Hi? Hello,
Speaker 1: we are in Hi. Hey, Hello, we are in Denmark
Speaker 1: with Simon Simon. Yeah, Simon, you came up to me
Speaker 1: and what was it that you wanted to do today?
Speaker 1: I want to chug your beer with you? You want
Speaker 1: to chuck a beer with me?
Speaker 4: Were doing this Kevin and Johann for our work, we
Speaker 4: have to chug a beer with a random guy. And
Speaker 4: I thought, well, the gaggle want to chug your beer.
Speaker 4: I'm I'm I might be the randomest guy here. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and I love the work beautiful. Okay, what kind of
Speaker 4: beer is this again? This is a Danish pilsner? Okay,
Speaker 4: Danish pilsner. Yeah, and all we Danes love our beer,
Speaker 4: so I usually actually press.
Speaker 1: Down this one because then it goes a little bit quicker.
Speaker 1: There we go. All right, school school, there we go.
Speaker 1: That's best. Goddamn all right, Well I'm a Dane. Okay,
Speaker 1: any tips?
Speaker 4: How do I Well, I don't even know what to do.
Speaker 1: Just chug it. Okay, Hey while I chuck this, can
Speaker 1: you tell me what your dream in life is? Okay?
Speaker 4: So this January I got my bat and I started
Speaker 4: my own marketing a bureau, see the marketing So my
Speaker 4: dream is to build that up as a bureau and
Speaker 4: have a marketing bureau with the digital marketing.
Speaker 1: Yeah do you what? Do you? What are you trying
Speaker 1: to market? Well?
Speaker 4: Right now, I study at cbs CO Making Business School,
Speaker 4: so I love to do like the whole market research
Speaker 4: and stuff like that, and then with the e commerce
Speaker 4: I want to be able to help e commerce business
Speaker 4: to scale even higher on the digital marketings.
Speaker 1: What do you care about just as a person. What
Speaker 1: are your values just in life? I value mental health
Speaker 1: a lot. Has your personal mental health.
Speaker 4: Yeah, meditating a lot, focus and saying, oh my sleep
Speaker 4: and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: That's one of my biggest values. You're feeling generally happy,
Speaker 1: I would say that. I would say that I do.
Speaker 4: Actually, okay, yeah, I only do what I like, and yeah,
Speaker 4: I feel comfortable with it.
Speaker 1: Now. I remember reading somewhere, actually I'm just now remembering
Speaker 1: this that Denmark was voted like the happiest country in
Speaker 1: the world. Is that is that accurate? We was? We were.
Speaker 4: Sweden took us over. They didn't, Yeah they did. I
Speaker 4: think it's Sweden. Actually, I'm not one hundred percent sure,
Speaker 4: but we're a number two or something on the list
Speaker 4: right now. Okay, but yeah, we were. And I think
Speaker 4: it's just because of the way we live. We pay
Speaker 4: a lot of taxes. But by paying a lot of taxes,
Speaker 4: we get paid to go to school. So instead of
Speaker 4: working thirty five forty hours a week to be able
Speaker 4: to pay rent while I study, I get what, that's
Speaker 4: about one thousand dollars a month to go to school. Really, yeah,
Speaker 4: So I can pay my rent with that, and then
Speaker 4: I work on the side on my business and also
Speaker 4: I am a waiter on the side, so that money
Speaker 4: I can.
Speaker 1: Use for just every day where you do three things.
Speaker 1: You have your own business, you have a work job
Speaker 1: that you do to just make money, and then you
Speaker 1: have your Yeah, and you get a thousand bucks a
Speaker 1: month from the government to be a student. Yeah, dude,
Speaker 1: in the US, you get the government lends you a
Speaker 1: bunch of money and then you have to give them
Speaker 1: back like a lot more. Yeah, it fucking is crazy.
Speaker 4: But then again my right now, I think it's what
Speaker 4: thirty nine percent of all my income up in taxes, okay,
Speaker 4: thirty thirty five, thirty nine, thirty nine okay, And then
Speaker 4: when you get to like a certain point, you get
Speaker 4: up to like the million taxes, and then you get
Speaker 4: above fifty percent of all your income. So we pay
Speaker 4: a lot of taxes, but well, health care is free
Speaker 4: and stuff like that, so we get a lot of
Speaker 4: things out of it. And I think that's mainly one
Speaker 4: of the fact is why we are have been voted
Speaker 4: voted as the happiest people.
Speaker 1: What other things do you think make people in Denmark
Speaker 1: so happy?
Speaker 4: Well, it's tough to say. Uh, that is one of
Speaker 4: the toughest toughest subjects to go into, because I I
Speaker 4: really don't watch the news because I think it's a
Speaker 4: like there's so much bad energy in news.
Speaker 1: So personally that could be one of the reasons why
Speaker 1: you're so happy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's one of the things. Like I
Speaker 4: cut off all negative energy.
Speaker 1: Okay, so if.
Speaker 4: A person one of my friends is starting to be
Speaker 4: negative about me, I just don't talk with them anymore. Okay,
Speaker 4: tell them I don't want this negative energy in my
Speaker 4: life because it just tracks me down and my energy
Speaker 4: is good, goes to the floor.
Speaker 1: And the people you surround yourself with now would just
Speaker 1: say that they have positive energy? Yeah, definitely. If they don't,
Speaker 1: I don't talk with them. Okay. All these people that
Speaker 1: you were that you were hanging out with, how do
Speaker 1: you know all them? Or they all work with you? Yeah?
Speaker 4: We all uh yeah, we all waiters at the restaurant.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, and do you guys all get along? Is
Speaker 1: it pretty uh? Pretty chill? Over?
Speaker 4: Us say that being a waiter at a restaurant, well,
Speaker 4: especially an hour we are at something called dining six,
Speaker 4: and they focus a lot on like the employees, so
Speaker 4: they shake us a world together. So having peers after
Speaker 4: work and stuff like this just sets up a community
Speaker 4: within the restaurant that just makes us all friends from
Speaker 4: day one. Yeah, so I think that's that's a that's
Speaker 4: a nice things called.
Speaker 1: Now in the US, a lot of like service workers
Speaker 1: have problems with like unruly customers and people being demanding
Speaker 1: and people like being shrewd and yelling and stuff. Do
Speaker 1: you have a similar problem here or or have your
Speaker 1: clients ale been generally pretty okay?
Speaker 4: Way back, my position is something you call responsible waiter. Okay,
Speaker 4: So whenever we're in the evening and it's my responsible night,
Speaker 4: I take over. I see people, I take care of
Speaker 4: all situations. That's they're So if people are rude, I'll
Speaker 4: throw them out. We don't want them in our restaurant
Speaker 4: if they're roots to waiters, people grabbing like our waiters
Speaker 4: ass or giving them like compliments but in a bad way,
Speaker 4: like obviously like you're very pretty, that's fine, but that's
Speaker 4: a tight ass.
Speaker 1: You're going out. You're not hearing it, And how often
Speaker 1: does stuff like that happen?
Speaker 4: Well, people are drinking when they're at our restaurant because
Speaker 4: they it's called cool, which is like direct translation is steak,
Speaker 4: So it's very much steak and beer and wine, and
Speaker 4: just there's somebody just they don't know how to cope
Speaker 4: with it, so they get too drunk and then it happens.
Speaker 4: So I would say that mainly like once once a
Speaker 4: week when I'm there, but obviously we have other people
Speaker 4: as responsible at us as well, so it I think
Speaker 4: it maybe happens a few times a week.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, that's just in one race run really yeah,
Speaker 1: And I have a question, tell me this, what do
Speaker 1: you think about all day? What's like? What would you
Speaker 1: say is like the most persistent thought on your mind
Speaker 1: being a success? Being a success? Okay, what success means you?
Speaker 4: Success for me is, and it's a tough, tough thing,
Speaker 4: but success for me is not primarily money wise, but
Speaker 4: being happy as I am, being focused on my mindset
Speaker 4: and being able to in the thirty one of the month,
Speaker 4: being able to go grocery shopping without having to think
Speaker 4: about money.
Speaker 1: So it's not having Lamborghinis.
Speaker 4: And stuff like that would be nice. But just not
Speaker 4: having to be afraid of not being able to pay
Speaker 4: for my groceries and being alive, that would make me happy.
Speaker 1: There's not from what I've seen just walking around that
Speaker 1: there's not that much like poverty or anything that just
Speaker 1: from walking around. I mean I've only been here for
Speaker 1: like two seconds. But yeah, but no, there's not a lot.
Speaker 1: There is some. But as well as why.
Speaker 4: We pay all taxes, we help people that are homeless,
Speaker 4: so they get a lot of money. I would say
Speaker 4: that actually I don't know the exact amounts because I
Speaker 4: don't even go into that, but I think it's about
Speaker 4: like a little more than two thousand dollars a month
Speaker 4: if you're homeless to be.
Speaker 1: Able to get on your wait. The government will just
Speaker 1: give people too.
Speaker 4: That if you're citizen you get money if like if
Speaker 4: you don't have a job or something like that, and
Speaker 4: then there is some things like you have to apply
Speaker 4: for jobs and stuff like that before I can get
Speaker 4: the money. But they have the opportunities to give to
Speaker 4: get it quite easily.
Speaker 1: I would say, do you like living here? I love it?
Speaker 1: Would you ever live anywhere else?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: I've lived in London so far and I also want
Speaker 4: to try living in New York and Australia as well,
Speaker 4: maybe Brisbane, but I will always come back to got Magan.
Speaker 1: How does it compare it to like other countries that
Speaker 1: you've been to. It's just my.
Speaker 4: Whole home city, home, home country. I think that's that's
Speaker 4: that's it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so.
Speaker 4: That's this is where my family is, and I think
Speaker 4: that's that's it. It's I love it because it's my home.
Speaker 4: But if I didn't have anyone I've I'm quite easily
Speaker 4: like transitioning into everywhere and the environment where I'm at,
Speaker 4: and I'll just be there.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So, by the way, I want to say, I
Speaker 1: appreciate you sitting out and talk with me. Have I
Speaker 1: distracted you from your rest of your EXPERI we have
Speaker 1: thirty minutes to finish it. Yeah, So what else? What
Speaker 1: else was on the list?
Speaker 4: A lot of things like we have to get a
Speaker 4: picture with the police. They want to want us to
Speaker 4: go into a hot dog like shop and make a
Speaker 4: hot dog and get a video of it.
Speaker 1: Have you making a hot dog? Yeah? Do you think
Speaker 1: you'll be able to do that? I don't think any
Speaker 1: would one would allow us to do it? Like a
Speaker 1: health code violation. So that's why we're not gonna like publicly,
Speaker 1: I won't tell anyone, but.
Speaker 4: No, And we also got to take a shot of
Speaker 4: Fana Punka with someone, So we're trying to find someone
Speaker 4: who has a birthday, because you also have to find
Speaker 4: someone who has a birthday, and then we want to
Speaker 4: give that person a fan of punka shot as well
Speaker 4: and be like, what is fana punka? That's an Italian
Speaker 4: shot of I think it's twenty seven different herbs. Okay,
Speaker 4: it's my favorite shot. If people it's never tasted it,
Speaker 4: and they taste it, they would say that I'm crazy
Speaker 4: for it's being invited.
Speaker 1: You know what's funny is I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys are all together, but like there's other groups of
Speaker 1: people who are like doing a scavenger hunt, and I
Speaker 1: hope that the whole like if the chugging a beer
Speaker 1: with a random guy thing is something in all of them.
Speaker 1: I'll be pretty drunk by the time I'm done with
Speaker 1: these interviews. Yes, so I'm gonna stay here, stay here
Speaker 1: and drink some beers. What's your name again, sir Simon Simon?
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go. Excuse me once again,
Speaker 1: is there anything else you want to say to the
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?
Speaker 4: Follow this, get go guy, follow Simon on Instagram.
Speaker 1: You're dressed for success. You're killing it. I think you're
Speaker 1: gonna make billions and billions of Danish kroner, which is
Speaker 1: like ten US dollars or something like that.
Speaker 4: Yes or something. Thank you, Sam, Thank you so much.
Speaker 4: Bless you, sir, God, bless you.
Speaker 1: Oh here is there a place we can throw these away?
Speaker 1: Thank you man, I appreciate it. Thank you, Thank care.
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