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Speaker 1: the episode. Hey, what's up man?

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Speaker 2: Hey?

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Speaker 3: What's up? God?

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Speaker 1: King?

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Speaker 3: Get how you doing?

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Speaker 1: Uh? Is this Parker? Yes, sir, what's up Parker? How's

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Speaker 1: life dude?

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie to you, all right, fucking sucks.

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Speaker 3: All right, all right, well where do you want me

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Speaker 3: to start?

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Speaker 2: Man?

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Speaker 1: It's it kind of sounded like you were about to

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Speaker 1: start before you asked me where you wanted where I

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Speaker 1: wanted to start, And I want you to start where

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Speaker 1: you were just about to start.

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Speaker 3: You know what, I got a good damn point right there.

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Speaker 3: I'll start right away. Okay. So working at Papa John's right,

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Speaker 3: flipping the dough making his Uh, all right, I meet

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Speaker 3: this girl. I uh fallen head over heels with her. Right,

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Speaker 3: I got a buddy. Yeah, I won't mention the names.

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Speaker 1: Grew up with him.

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Speaker 3: You know, all throughout elementary school, uh, through middle school,

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Speaker 3: high school, we were buddies. And me and this girl,

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Speaker 3: you know, we really vibe. Everything was really really good.

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Speaker 3: You know, it was beautiful. You know, we're going out

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Speaker 3: doing stuff, going to concerts, kicking it. And then you know,

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Speaker 3: as it turns out, Uh, she has a thing, foresaid, homie,

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Speaker 3: and this is a this is a big kicker. Here,

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Speaker 3: I should mention a polyamorous relationship, okay, and just a

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Speaker 3: quick thing that I can say.

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Speaker 1: You are in your phone, sucks. You were in a

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Speaker 1: polyamorous relationship. I was.

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Speaker 3: I was in a polyamorous relationship, and what.

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Speaker 1: Kind of phone I want to I promise you were

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Speaker 1: going to talk about what you want to talk about?

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Speaker 1: What phone do you have?

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Speaker 3: Okay? This is a Samsung. We'll see that came out

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Speaker 3: like two years ago.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well this is what's the opposite of an advertisement.

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Speaker 1: That's what this is for Samsung. Okay, continue, you're you're

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Speaker 1: you are in a polyamorous relationship.

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Speaker 3: It was in a polyamorous as it turns it out.

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Speaker 3: You know, she has a thing for my friend and

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Speaker 3: she starts to say, you know, what would happen if

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Speaker 3: me and him did something? You know, It's like.

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Speaker 1: Uh, in my mind, did your phone your phone mate?

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Speaker 1: You're suck too much for us to do this?

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Speaker 3: I understand completely. Uh Is this is this better?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Just stand still and talking like that? Yes?

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Speaker 3: Okay, in fact, I'm just gonna put it right here.

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Speaker 3: Is that better?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Okay? Continue?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So long story short, We're dating in about like

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Speaker 3: six months. Nothing crazy. I'm chilling downstairs in my room

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Speaker 1: Let me get on some thing. OK, all right, so

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Speaker 1: your phone, Brandon, let's keep all the phones. I want

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Speaker 1: a lot better. So Brandon, don't cut out any of

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Speaker 1: this guy's phone being shitty, because it's I feel like

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Speaker 3: I completely agree.

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Speaker 1: Then the first thing, don't cut out any of that.

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Speaker 1: But we normally cut it out, remember I don't. We're

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Speaker 1: leaving it all in for this call. Okay, the phone

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Speaker 1: was being shitty and I didn't hear you you are

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Speaker 2: Yes, sir?

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Speaker 1: Okay? And or what wasn't one you you broke up

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Speaker 1: with this girl?

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Speaker 1: Here's what I'm Here's what.

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Speaker 3: I'm honestly, this is a two parter. I should say,

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Speaker 3: it gets really crazy.

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Speaker 1: I want to hear the second part. But okay, I

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Speaker 1: guess Here's here's where I'm confused about. Is you entered

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Speaker 1: the confines of the relationship where that you were both

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Speaker 1: okay with each other sleeping with other people?

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Speaker 3: Uh yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay, But and was did at any point did you

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Speaker 1: make it clear to her that, like, you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: you guys set boundaries of any kind at any point?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah, so okay, well at the very

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Speaker 3: kind of you know didn't stand obviously, we're please don't

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Speaker 3: that would be cool. But yeah, so do you want

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Speaker 3: me to go ahead and get into the nitty gritty

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Speaker 3: the second part?

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Speaker 2: Here?

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Speaker 1: Sure, what's the second part?

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Speaker 3: Okay, here's the second part. Now, I should I should reiterate.

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Speaker 3: I'm a very lonely gamer boy, all right, very lonely.

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Speaker 3: I spend my time grinding Elden Ring and Dark Souls

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Speaker 3: you know? So all right, so I'm a little stupid

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Speaker 3: But she left. She ends up coming back, right, and

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Speaker 3: She comes back and she's talking to me and apologizes.

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Speaker 3: I I I don't necessarily accept the apology, but I

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Speaker 3: But you know, I mean it didn't stay like that.

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Speaker 3: want to be in a relationship, and she didn't want

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Speaker 3: So what ends up happening is we're we're not friends,

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just a little bit. Okay, I'm you know what,

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Speaker 1: I the second part of the what's the what? I

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Speaker 1: you know what? And I and I you want to

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Speaker 1: know I'm with you, I'm with you, but and I

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Speaker 1: What's going on? You know? You guys watching?

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Speaker 2: You want to know what?

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Speaker 3: You want to know the gritty?

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Speaker 1: Yes, you want to know what's happening?

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Speaker 3: All right, God King, all right, God King, get I'll

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Speaker 3: And then I go upstairs. This dude fast asleep. I

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Speaker 3: and it really messes It really messed with my head

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Speaker 3: because I had gotten into this relationship when I was

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's pregnant with who's child?

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Speaker 3: My roommate and childhood best.

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Speaker 1: Friends because she's pregnant with his child's.

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Speaker 2: Yes, sir, And.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Parker, dude, I guess, I guess. I guess what

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Speaker 1: I guess. What I don't understand, what I don't understand.

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Speaker 1: What I don't understand is like, so you were crying

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Speaker 2: Oh fuck, I know why?

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Speaker 1: All right, disagreement. I'm sorry, I Parker. I want you

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Speaker 3: Man, I've been applying at places and got no luck. Man, Honestly,

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Speaker 3: Well, ideally, you know, I got a buddy and he draws,

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Speaker 3: Yeah you're right, because yeah, it's like it's a big

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Speaker 1: wants you to marinate in this stupid thing with this

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00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: girl and with this guy and take you away from

435
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: the wonderful world of cool ideas that you have, and

436
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 1: I just want you to notice every time that that's

437
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 1: happening and correct it and start working on this fucking

438
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 1: comic and just making stick and just making making things

439
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 1: instead of marinating in this this situation, which again I

440
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:45,920
Speaker 1: must remind you, you got out good. And maybe one day, Parker,

441
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 1: you'll make it big, or not not even make it

442
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 1: by fucking I hate. I hate the idea of making

443
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 1: it big. Maybe one day you'll start to earn a

444
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 1: living writing on the internet, which is something that thousands

445
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,879
Speaker 1: and thousands of thousands, thousands of people are out there doing,

446
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:05,679
Speaker 1: and maybe you can use some of that money to

447
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 1: get a phone that works, and then you can call

448
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 1: me back and we can have a better conversation where

449
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 1: I can hear the things that you're saying.

450
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 3: Did it get worse?

451
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 1: No, it's actually not that bad. Okay, Parker, I'm going

452
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 1: to shut up. How do you feel about all the

453
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: things that we're talking about?

454
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 3: You know, I it feels really really good because honestly,

455
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 3: like because in a situation like this, I I can't

456
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:37,920
Speaker 3: talk about it really without causing a bunch of shit,

457
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:43,040
Speaker 3: because yeah, you know, it's just so messy.

458
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 1: It's just you can't talk without causing a bunch of shit.

459
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 3: Honestly, that's really just not you know what. That's a cope.

460
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 3: You know I can't because I'm not even like associated

461
00:27:55,960 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 3: with them anymore. So why does it matter?

462
00:27:58,920 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 2: I get it.

463
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 1: I don't like these people are doing nothing producting productive

464
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 1: for you in your life from the.

465
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 3: Way exactly, like I don't even Yeah, like it was,

466
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 3: it was.

467
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: It was rough.

468
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 3: It was so rough, the amount of like manipulation and

469
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 3: gas lighting. Just it was really weird, man, because I

470
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 3: usually can snip out bullshit pretty well, but like like

471
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 3: really really well, Like I got like bost my parents police,

472
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 3: I've got like hiding ship dude. Like, dude, if your

473
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 3: parents are cops, you've got to be like row when

474
00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 3: it comes to hiding ship. It's not the first place.

475
00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: So it's like, what are you What are you hiding?

476
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 2: Oh?

477
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:43,040
Speaker 3: Like weed?

478
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 1: Oh so you're twenty three, smoke weed and blow it

479
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: in a cops face? Who gives a ship?

480
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 3: Oh dude, we're booling now, we're cool now. It was

481
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 3: just that was back like that was when I was

482
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 3: growing up, you know what I mean, had to had

483
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 3: to be very careful because sometimes I would come home

484
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 3: and see my my container open on my bed with

485
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 3: all my ship laid out, and I'll just be like, yep, yep,

486
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 3: here we go, Here we go. Let the interrogation happens, Parker.

487
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: Do you have any before we leave? Do you have

488
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: any final thoughts, feelings, or sentiments or of things that

489
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: you want to say?

490
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 3: Uh? One important thing if if you know, if be careful,

491
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 3: you know it goes for like chat or really anybody.

492
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 3: If if you're monogamous and someone that you really really

493
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 3: love the company of is is Polly, and you think

494
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: to yourself, Man, you know, what's what's the man, what's

495
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 3: the worst.

496
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 2: That could happen?

497
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 3: Ah, think of me? Because it is not good.

498
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 2: It's not good.

499
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 3: Uh, We're we're going to be moving into a better headspace.

500
00:29:56,920 --> 00:30:00,280
Speaker 3: So this this really really helped me out. Man, h

501
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 3: God King Ghek as I as I call you. I

502
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 3: have never called you by a different name. I'm just

503
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 3: letting you know that right now, God King Ghek right here.

504
00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 1: Thanks man, I'm really fucking Protos was really reving up

505
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: every time I hear.

506
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 3: That Protosla B Protos Slayer got them gun Bro I

507
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 3: really appreciate it.

508
00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: Yell at and I'm gonna go find an assistant and

509
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: yell at them.

510
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, do it, do it, man, that's how make your

511
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 3: blood pressure spike. Show him, show him whose boss pop

512
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 3: those vessels?

513
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 2: My guy.

514
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: Have a good night, Parker, thank you man.

515
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 3: How good night, gek.

516
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 1: Man. All you know. I feel like I've talked about

517
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 1: this so much on this podcast. I know, I don't

518
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't know what to do with like

519
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 1: relationship things. They're hard because in relationship you're a You're

520
00:30:51,840 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 1: your only leverage in relationships is your own choices. But

521
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: it's so hard because we want so badly for our

522
00:31:10,760 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: control to go outside of those bounds and into making

523
00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: other people feel things or do things or not do things.

524
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: But you gotta fucking accept that you can't do that.

525
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. I hope Parker makes shitty comment. I

526
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: just want. I want Parker to be happy drawing shitty

527
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 1: comics on this shitty air mattress and sitting there basking

528
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: in gratefulness that he does not have a child, because

529
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,080
Speaker 1: that's a great life that he's I know. I know

530
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: he keeps saying it's shitty, but it's it's a great life.

531
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 1: I'm being dead serious, so enjoy it. Parker, Peter, Parker,

532
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: Spider Man.

533
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 2: Sorry, Hello Ola, which is hello in Spanish?

534
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 1: Yeah? It is, thank you dude?

535
00:32:15,120 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 2: Is this the gek? This mad?

536
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 1: Are you a Spanish teacher? Uh?

537
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 2: If you want to learn how to say hello? Yes,

538
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 2: but any other.

539
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 1: Way I want I want the truth. I don't want

540
00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 1: any lies. I want the truth. Are you a Spanish teacher?

541
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 2: Yes, sir?

542
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 1: No, Okay, We're off to a good start.

543
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 2: Dude, this is exciting. I've wanted to be on your

544
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 2: show for so long.

545
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: Well fuck, yeah, man, it's good to talk to you.

546
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 1: What's your name?

547
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 2: Uh, my name is for now for.

548
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 1: Chris. It says your name is Chris now Chris.

549
00:32:58,360 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 2: Sure?

550
00:32:59,400 --> 00:32:59,800
Speaker 1: All right.

551
00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 2: Well but.

552
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 1: It says here you wanted to talk about gooning.

553
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, why not? Because uh, I've never really talked about

554
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 2: it with anyone except like one person a long time ago,

555
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 2: and she's been a thing that's been on my mind.

556
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 2: Do you know you're aware of what it is?

557
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 1: Right? I am friends with the porn star Kazumi who Yeah, once.

558
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 2: I saw your episode with her.

559
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, she was the one who introduced me to the

560
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: concept of gooning. And she tried to explain it to

561
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: me for like a pretty long time, and I still

562
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 1: really had kind of don't understand it. So do you

563
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:47,800
Speaker 1: want to go ahead and explain it to the people listening?

564
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:54,480
Speaker 2: I would absolutely love to. Ever since I saw that episode,

565
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: Like when I was watching, I was like screaming at

566
00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 2: the TV, like no, say this, say this like she did.

567
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 2: She gave an okay explanation, but it was sort of

568
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 2: kind of all over the place. But okay, So here's

569
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 2: how I understand it. How I've come to know is

570
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just stumbled upon some video on

571
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 2: you know, the porn's sites. At one point, this term

572
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:29,280
Speaker 2: gooting kept coming. Anyway, it's basically when you're watching porn

573
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 2: and edging, specifically edging like as much as you can

574
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 2: for as long as you can without you know, coming

575
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 2: and like basically just fucking frying her brain with as

576
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 2: much porn as possible, kind of trying to turn it

577
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 2: into a marathon. Like it's fucking insane. These people, there's

578
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 2: like this whole subculture like the Internet, you know, which

579
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 2: the effort that is famous for, especially the porn sex world.

580
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 2: But like, dude, these people. I mean I'm one of them,

581
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 2: don't get me wrong, but some of these people are

582
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:11,759
Speaker 2: really into it that are like off the deep end.

583
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 2: It's like, like I found this subreddit called goon caves.

584
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,760
Speaker 2: These dudes picture posting pictures that they're like they're porn

585
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: set up like their bedrooms and stuff. They have like

586
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 2: dedicated to porn. Like you'll see like fucking three four

587
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 2: giant HDTVs, projectors, like literally anything that with a screen, iPads, iPhones,

588
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:40,919
Speaker 2: like just set up like multiple screens, all go all

589
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 2: going all playing porn like for hours on end. It's

590
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:48,319
Speaker 2: fucking It's weird, dude, Now it's the weird.

591
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 1: Do you lie on this spectrum? How what does your

592
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: goon cave look like? Uh?

593
00:35:55,840 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 2: Pretty pretty basic honestly, just a TV like fuck my

594
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 2: laptop up to it. There was a point where I'll

595
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 2: admit I was inspired and I tried the whole thing

596
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 2: with Like I set up extra computer minders that I

597
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 2: had laying around Like that was fun, but it was like, wait,

598
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 2: what the fuck is the point of this? Like I

599
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:20,399
Speaker 2: can only focus on one at a time.

600
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:27,400
Speaker 1: That's well, I'll say I've I myself have done the

601
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: thing where like I'll have you know, I've looked, I've

602
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 1: I've taken a step back once and noticed that I've

603
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 1: had like thirty tabs of porn up. Oh yeah, so like,

604
00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: oh yeah, that's but I've never introduced a second monitor.

605
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: I've never been and then on my laptop and on

606
00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:55,960
Speaker 1: my TV screen, although I do have free night tonight,

607
00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:57,800
Speaker 1: so who.

608
00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:00,760
Speaker 2: Knows what hey never saying now.

609
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: It also says here that you do you consider this, Oh,

610
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,839
Speaker 1: this is you consider this to be an addiction? This

611
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 1: is something that.

612
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: Is Yeah, that's the whole other that's I was gonna

613
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:14,319
Speaker 2: say that, that's a whole other component to it. That's

614
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:20,399
Speaker 2: like a lot of gooners like they're almost proud, and

615
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 2: some of I feel like they're like like they've come

616
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,920
Speaker 2: up with it, came up with this term porno sexual,

617
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 2: meaning like like people that literally have decided no sex,

618
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: no relationship, I just want to jerk off the porn. Wow.

619
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:41,479
Speaker 2: That's and they're like.

620
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,280
Speaker 1: This is this is an interesting thing. And I think

621
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: I did talk to Consume me about this a little bit,

622
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 1: but I'm not sure. But okay, so this is an

623
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: interesting thing. The idea of somebody who has made a

624
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:59,799
Speaker 1: decision that they are not going to pursue any kind

625
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 1: of sexual relationship in their lives, that they are not

626
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: that they're just going to be pornosexual and they have

627
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: decided to be proud of it and not to be

628
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: shameful about it. And no, I'm not a scientist, I'm

629
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: a gecko, but I do think there is something interesting,

630
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:23,319
Speaker 1: perhaps freeing, about making a definitive life choice like that

631
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 1: and making it confidently. You know what I'm saying, because yeah,

632
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: can remove all sense of shame from your addiction. How

633
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: is it hurting you? Probably in several ways. I'm not mean,

634
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 1: but I do think about things like, no.

635
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:45,319
Speaker 2: I understand like and I have thought about that too.

636
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 2: I thought about it a lot, and I feel like

637
00:38:47,760 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 2: there's sort of two camps and maybe there's some gray

638
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:55,959
Speaker 2: area in between. But I feel like most of if

639
00:38:56,000 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 2: not all, the guys and very few some when but

640
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 2: mostly guys who are pornosexuals or who would identify as that,

641
00:39:06,160 --> 00:39:11,480
Speaker 2: Like most of them are not like if they're totally like, yeah,

642
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 2: I'm proud of this, it's usually in denial, like you know,

643
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 2: you know what? Yeah, yeah, it is the form of like.

644
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,880
Speaker 1: Because I could see, like, if you're a guy and

645
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: it just hasn't happened. This is just not happening for

646
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: you out there, and you're like, dude, fuck it up.

647
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: You know, having five monitors of porn is what makes

648
00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 1: me happy in life, and you've made that executive decision

649
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: for yourself and you want to be shamefree about it.

650
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 1: I could I could see that being a legitimate lifestyle

651
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:51,480
Speaker 1: to live.

652
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:59,399
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah, now I come to you. Yeah, yeah,

653
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 2: I was gonna so I didn't really I didn't really

654
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 2: answer your question where I fall on that spectrum. Yeah,

655
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 2: like what my so currently Like normally for me, it's

656
00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 2: like every night, like maybe an hour or two, like

657
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 2: sometimes every other night, but usually every night, and you know,

658
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 2: one monitor, one video at a time. I've gotten it

659
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 2: down to the like what feels normal again, there was

660
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:32,800
Speaker 2: a point like this really blew up in twenty twenty.

661
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 2: You know, everybody got locked inside and stared at their screens.

662
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 2: You know, fucking I went into a like I said that,

663
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 2: like experimenting when it was all new to me. It

664
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 2: was like, well, it was kind of like discovering porn

665
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 2: for the first time when you're a teenager again. You know,

666
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 2: it's like holy shit, you know, it's just.

667
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:54,520
Speaker 1: Overwhelming, like second and third modelor.

668
00:40:56,880 --> 00:41:01,880
Speaker 2: Well that and also when I discovered, okay, here's a

669
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 2: whole other component. There's so we could write a fucking

670
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 2: book on this, dude. This whole other component is the

671
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:16,280
Speaker 2: videos that people make. Dude, like like dudes that people

672
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 2: are like they spend their time. Some of them even

673
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:25,880
Speaker 2: like have uh like Patreon sites that you can donate

674
00:41:25,920 --> 00:41:28,879
Speaker 2: to them and they'll keep making more porn. But they're

675
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:31,719
Speaker 2: not even making porn. They're taking porn that's already up

676
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:35,320
Speaker 2: and cutting it and like making compilation videos.

677
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:38,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've seen that. I've seen that. So basically, yes,

678
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: I've seen I've seen these goon videos. Basically people will yeah,

679
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: based so the way it gets deep because somebody will

680
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 1: make a goon video where it's actually they splice up

681
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: in one frame three different porn videos, like it's on

682
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:55,480
Speaker 1: like a grade or.

683
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,600
Speaker 2: Four or four or five or five.

684
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so you have you can have like six

685
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 1: monitors and on each monitor is six different porn videos playing,

686
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: which do the math that's thirty six yep, and then

687
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 1: if and then depending on how many people on each video,

688
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 1: that's like seventy two sets of genitals that you're staring at.

689
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 2: That's so many, so many.

690
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: And now let me ask you this, how has this

691
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 1: pornography addiction seeped into your real life? Has it had

692
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 1: negative effects on you as it a positive effects on you?

693
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: Funny enough, a lot of both, honestly, Like let's start

694
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 2: especially because let's start.

695
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:46,279
Speaker 1: With the positive ones. Tell me the positive ones, all.

696
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 2: Right, all right, Well, when I sort of like got

697
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 2: into this, when it sort of came into my world,

698
00:42:57,560 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 2: like I said, it was sort of like discovering porn

699
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 2: for the time, and at some point it just kind

700
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 2: of like, I mean, it made me like think about

701
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:09,160
Speaker 2: being more conscious of my consumption of porn. It's like, well,

702
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: I've just gotten kind of used to this, like ever

703
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 2: since I was, you know, fourteen, maybe even early a

704
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:16,759
Speaker 2: little earlier, it's been a regular thing, like a lot

705
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 2: of guys, you know. But then out of nowhere, I

706
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 2: was like, wait a minute, my whole life, I've been

707
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 2: doing it the same way. I'm hunched over in the

708
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:29,879
Speaker 2: bathroom or my room or something, and I don't watch

709
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 2: even like a full video. I'm like doing it quickly

710
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 2: and shamefully so like but at this point, you know,

711
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 2: the pandemic is in full swing, like twenty twenty when I.

712
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: What Okay, I asked you if you could tell me

713
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: the positive benefits of.

714
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 2: Sorry, yeah, yeah, I'm getting to do that on your life.

715
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 1: And the one positive benefit of your porn addiction so

716
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: far in your own work, Yes, it has been very

717
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: has alerted, it's very freeing.

718
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 2: Yes, But also that's not what I'm saying.

719
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: That's the point of the positive.

720
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 2: I wasn't trying to say that was the positive. I'm

721
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 2: trying to set up the story. I kind of ramble.

722
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:14,720
Speaker 1: Don't even tell me a story.

723
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:21,280
Speaker 2: Tell me, okay, okay, right, the positive. I have overcome

724
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:25,759
Speaker 2: a lot of shame, like because this has been like

725
00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: shoving in my face, like hey, look, this is the

726
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:34,280
Speaker 2: thing that's happening in your life, you know, like quite literally,

727
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:39,680
Speaker 2: like you're screaming at me, and like it's been like

728
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:42,840
Speaker 2: you know what, I can't ignore this anymore. I gotta

729
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 2: you know, It's made me focus more on myself, like

730
00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:50,760
Speaker 2: my emotional mental health, Like I notice now like I'm

731
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 2: trying to practice a lot of mindfulness and stuff, and

732
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 2: I'm actually like gotten a lot better at like lately

733
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 2: my like I've noticed whenever I try to quit, the

734
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 2: harder I try, the harder it comes back, you know,

735
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 2: like you just repress it, Okay, and it just bounces

736
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:09,959
Speaker 2: back like a spring again.

737
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:15,280
Speaker 1: Chris, all right. The only it sounds like the again.

738
00:45:15,960 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 1: The only positive trait that you give me so far

739
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,200
Speaker 1: is that it has alerted you to the fact that

740
00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: you have a born addiction. What are some of the

741
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 1: negative ways this has affected your life?

742
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 2: Uh? For a while when it was bad, like I

743
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 2: feel like I'm past the worst of it, I'm getting better.

744
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 2: But when it was bad, I would do it like

745
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,520
Speaker 2: multiple times a day, like sometimes first thing when I

746
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 2: wake up, just because I had nothing to do, especially

747
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 2: during the pandemic. Uh. It's taken a lot of hours

748
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 2: of my life, a lot of energy, a lot of

749
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 2: time and energy that I could have been using to

750
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:01,720
Speaker 2: better myself, you know, get closer.

751
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:04,280
Speaker 1: Are you going to say, God.

752
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 2: Well, I was going to say, like an actual human relationship,

753
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 2: but sure, yes.

754
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: But tell me, do you have a job.

755
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 2: Do I have a job? That what you said? Yeah?

756
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,080
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, what's your job?

757
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:34,319
Speaker 2: I work at a stamping place, So I sit at

758
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 2: a giant machine take little metal parts from one pile

759
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 2: stamp it in the machine, put it in the other

760
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 2: pile for eight hours a day.

761
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:43,839
Speaker 1: All right, so you have a very repetitive job.

762
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:47,720
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, listen to a lot of podcasts and music.

763
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 1: What do you want to do with your like, what's

764
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:51,240
Speaker 1: do you have any dreams?

765
00:46:53,719 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a musician and mainly a drummer right now,

766
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:15,360
Speaker 2: I'm actually I'm moving to the cities to basically, you know,

767
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 2: get connected with more musicians. Like I'm moving into a

768
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:22,200
Speaker 2: house full of musicians. That's exciting. I feel like I'm

769
00:47:22,280 --> 00:47:23,720
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm at a point where.

770
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 1: I'm Would you ever consider making a song about your point? Addition?

771
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 2: Absolutely yeah, because I mean you could technically say I

772
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 2: already have because I do write like poetry, lyrics and

773
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:45,960
Speaker 2: stuff that, like my writing style is sort of vague,

774
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:50,320
Speaker 2: like I'm talking like my music is more about pain

775
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 2: in general than specifically what has caused me pain. But

776
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:58,839
Speaker 2: like I mean there's definitely sexual lyrics I have. So yeah,

777
00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 2: I want to write more about it because it's such

778
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:04,399
Speaker 2: a It's been such a wild write man, I can't

779
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:06,800
Speaker 2: not write sort of write this ship down, whether in

780
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,120
Speaker 2: just writing or in music form.

781
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:11,640
Speaker 1: You know, like see when I asked you. I gave

782
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 1: the opportunity to tell me if there was any positives

783
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 1: to this, and one of the positives of your born

784
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,799
Speaker 1: it seems to be is that it has inspired some

785
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:25,040
Speaker 1: great poetry.

786
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 2: I guess it has. Yeah, a lot of other stuff

787
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 2: too that was sexual.

788
00:48:33,800 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 1: I've had a very I'm gonna christ say this. I

789
00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:40,360
Speaker 1: think I think it's good that you're doing things that

790
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 1: aren't porn. If you had told I'm glad that you

791
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 1: had to have the music in the poetry because if

792
00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: he was just born.

793
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so oh yeah, dude, me too.

794
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:51,880
Speaker 1: But you got how old are you? Twenty three and

795
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:52,920
Speaker 1: you live in Minnesota?

796
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 2: Yeah?

797
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:57,239
Speaker 1: Are there? Are there? Are you?

798
00:48:57,680 --> 00:48:58,040
Speaker 2: Are you?

799
00:48:58,160 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: Are you gay? Straights?

800
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:03,520
Speaker 2: I'm straight? I like the females.

801
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:10,320
Speaker 1: Okay, it's I feel like that could be. One of

802
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 1: the reasons why you're not having a lot of sex

803
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 1: is because of what you just said. But you're also

804
00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: a musician and that's attractive to some people. So there's

805
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:30,280
Speaker 1: hope for you. I think I believe in you, Chris.

806
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 1: I believe in your ability to kick the goooning addiction,

807
00:49:33,920 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 1: get really into poetry and use that to seem cool

808
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 1: and interesting.

809
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:40,800
Speaker 2: Cool.

810
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:48,720
Speaker 1: Thanks man, of course the composition helps.

811
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:52,880
Speaker 2: Yes, very much, especially because I know that strangers are listening.

812
00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 1: But I'm not saying it sounded like a sexual thing

813
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 1: just now.

814
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,880
Speaker 2: No, I would just want to say, like anybody out there,

815
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 2: if you're struggling with this, like, you're not alone. It's normal.

816
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 2: We live in a really fucked up world. We're all

817
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 2: addicted to screens, whether it's porn or not.

818
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 1: So it's true.

819
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 2: I love you. You're gonna be all right.

820
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: It's true. It's true. Man, if you're if you're playing

821
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 1: like it's true. If you have this stream up on

822
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: one tab and you're playing fucking Rocket League and another

823
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: tab and you're texting your mom on another tab, that's

824
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,520
Speaker 1: basically a porning. That's the same thing as goooning in

825
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 1: my opinion. Uh, thank you very much for calling, Chris.

826
00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: I hope you have a good rest of the night.

827
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:39,319
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. You have a good night, man,

828
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:39,799
Speaker 2: Love you.

829
00:50:40,080 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 1: Hello, folks, it's Lyle and it's that time again where

830
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 1: I end a podcast with a street interview. Yes, that's right,

831
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: an interview with a real life person that I happen

832
00:50:54,719 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 1: to be actually staring at in the face instead of

833
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 1: uh staring I'm not at on the phone, okay. And

834
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 1: this one's interesting. This one was done on the streets

835
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 1: of Copenhagen, Denmark, which is one of my favorite places

836
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 1: in the world. It's a beautiful country. It was voted

837
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:18,960
Speaker 1: the happiest country in the world. And I talked to

838
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: a young man asking him why exactly he thinks that

839
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,360
Speaker 1: might be the case that people in Denmark are so happy.

840
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:30,719
Speaker 1: This is a guy who came up to me on

841
00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: the streets and asked me to chug a beer with him,

842
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: and I did. That's how the interview starts, and then

843
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 1: we got into all kinds of things. We got into

844
00:51:40,280 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 1: the differences between Denmark and America, we got into his life,

845
00:51:44,080 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 1: we got into a little bit of mine. I think,

846
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:48,279
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't remember that much, but you

847
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: guys will enjoy it. And let's go to the streets

848
00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: of Denmark to talk to a guy right now. Hi? Hello,

849
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:01,799
Speaker 1: we are in Hi. Hey, Hello, we are in Denmark

850
00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:06,319
Speaker 1: with Simon Simon. Yeah, Simon, you came up to me

851
00:52:06,360 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 1: and what was it that you wanted to do today?

852
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 1: I want to chug your beer with you? You want

853
00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 1: to chuck a beer with me?

854
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:12,279
Speaker 4: Were doing this Kevin and Johann for our work, we

855
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 4: have to chug a beer with a random guy. And

856
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 4: I thought, well, the gaggle want to chug your beer.

857
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:18,719
Speaker 4: I'm I'm I might be the randomest guy here. Yeah,

858
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:21,120
Speaker 4: and I love the work beautiful. Okay, what kind of

859
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 4: beer is this again? This is a Danish pilsner? Okay,

860
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:26,800
Speaker 4: Danish pilsner. Yeah, and all we Danes love our beer,

861
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 4: so I usually actually press.

862
00:52:28,960 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 1: Down this one because then it goes a little bit quicker.

863
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:42,359
Speaker 1: There we go. All right, school school, there we go.

864
00:52:43,080 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: That's best. Goddamn all right, Well I'm a Dane. Okay,

865
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: any tips?

866
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:51,520
Speaker 4: How do I Well, I don't even know what to do.

867
00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:53,960
Speaker 1: Just chug it. Okay, Hey while I chuck this, can

868
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Speaker 1: you tell me what your dream in life is? Okay?

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Speaker 4: So this January I got my bat and I started

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Speaker 4: my own marketing a bureau, see the marketing So my

871
00:53:04,520 --> 00:53:06,400
Speaker 4: dream is to build that up as a bureau and

872
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Speaker 4: have a marketing bureau with the digital marketing.

873
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Speaker 1: Yeah do you what? Do you? What are you trying

874
00:53:14,520 --> 00:53:15,879
Speaker 1: to market? Well?

875
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Speaker 4: Right now, I study at cbs CO Making Business School,

876
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,040
Speaker 4: so I love to do like the whole market research

877
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:26,760
Speaker 4: and stuff like that, and then with the e commerce

878
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 4: I want to be able to help e commerce business

879
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Speaker 4: to scale even higher on the digital marketings.

880
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Speaker 1: What do you care about just as a person. What

881
00:53:34,360 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 1: are your values just in life? I value mental health

882
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Speaker 1: a lot. Has your personal mental health.

883
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Speaker 4: Yeah, meditating a lot, focus and saying, oh my sleep

884
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Speaker 4: and stuff like that.

885
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Speaker 1: That's one of my biggest values. You're feeling generally happy,

886
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Speaker 1: I would say that. I would say that I do.

887
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Speaker 4: Actually, okay, yeah, I only do what I like, and yeah,

888
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Speaker 4: I feel comfortable with it.

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Speaker 1: Now. I remember reading somewhere, actually I'm just now remembering

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Speaker 1: this that Denmark was voted like the happiest country in

891
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Speaker 1: the world. Is that is that accurate? We was? We were.

892
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Speaker 4: Sweden took us over. They didn't, Yeah they did. I

893
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Speaker 4: think it's Sweden. Actually, I'm not one hundred percent sure,

894
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Speaker 4: but we're a number two or something on the list

895
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Speaker 4: right now. Okay, but yeah, we were. And I think

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Speaker 4: it's just because of the way we live. We pay

897
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Speaker 4: a lot of taxes. But by paying a lot of taxes,

898
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Speaker 4: we get paid to go to school. So instead of

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Speaker 4: working thirty five forty hours a week to be able

900
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Speaker 4: to pay rent while I study, I get what, that's

901
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Speaker 4: about one thousand dollars a month to go to school. Really, yeah,

902
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Speaker 4: So I can pay my rent with that, and then

903
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Speaker 4: I work on the side on my business and also

904
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Speaker 4: I am a waiter on the side, so that money

905
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Speaker 4: I can.

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Speaker 1: Use for just every day where you do three things.

907
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Speaker 1: You have your own business, you have a work job

908
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Speaker 1: that you do to just make money, and then you

909
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Speaker 1: have your Yeah, and you get a thousand bucks a

910
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Speaker 1: month from the government to be a student. Yeah, dude,

911
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Speaker 1: in the US, you get the government lends you a

912
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Speaker 1: bunch of money and then you have to give them

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Speaker 1: back like a lot more. Yeah, it fucking is crazy.

914
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Speaker 4: But then again my right now, I think it's what

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Speaker 4: thirty nine percent of all my income up in taxes, okay,

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Speaker 4: thirty thirty five, thirty nine, thirty nine okay, And then

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Speaker 4: when you get to like a certain point, you get

918
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Speaker 4: up to like the million taxes, and then you get

919
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Speaker 4: above fifty percent of all your income. So we pay

920
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Speaker 4: a lot of taxes, but well, health care is free

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Speaker 4: and stuff like that, so we get a lot of

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Speaker 4: things out of it. And I think that's mainly one

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Speaker 4: of the fact is why we are have been voted

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Speaker 4: voted as the happiest people.

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Speaker 1: What other things do you think make people in Denmark

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Speaker 1: so happy?

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Speaker 4: Well, it's tough to say. Uh, that is one of

928
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Speaker 4: the toughest toughest subjects to go into, because I I

929
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Speaker 4: really don't watch the news because I think it's a

930
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Speaker 4: like there's so much bad energy in news.

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Speaker 1: So personally that could be one of the reasons why

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Speaker 1: you're so happy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think that's one of the things. Like I

934
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Speaker 4: cut off all negative energy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so if.

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Speaker 4: A person one of my friends is starting to be

937
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Speaker 4: negative about me, I just don't talk with them anymore. Okay,

938
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Speaker 4: tell them I don't want this negative energy in my

939
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Speaker 4: life because it just tracks me down and my energy

940
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Speaker 4: is good, goes to the floor.

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Speaker 1: And the people you surround yourself with now would just

942
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Speaker 1: say that they have positive energy? Yeah, definitely. If they don't,

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Speaker 1: I don't talk with them. Okay. All these people that

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Speaker 1: you were that you were hanging out with, how do

945
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Speaker 1: you know all them? Or they all work with you? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: We all uh yeah, we all waiters at the restaurant.

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Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, and do you guys all get along? Is

948
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Speaker 1: it pretty uh? Pretty chill? Over?

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Speaker 4: Us say that being a waiter at a restaurant, well,

950
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Speaker 4: especially an hour we are at something called dining six,

951
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Speaker 4: and they focus a lot on like the employees, so

952
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Speaker 4: they shake us a world together. So having peers after

953
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Speaker 4: work and stuff like this just sets up a community

954
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Speaker 4: within the restaurant that just makes us all friends from

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Speaker 4: day one. Yeah, so I think that's that's a that's

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Speaker 4: a nice things called.

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Speaker 1: Now in the US, a lot of like service workers

958
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Speaker 1: have problems with like unruly customers and people being demanding

959
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Speaker 1: and people like being shrewd and yelling and stuff. Do

960
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Speaker 1: you have a similar problem here or or have your

961
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 1: clients ale been generally pretty okay?

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Speaker 4: Way back, my position is something you call responsible waiter. Okay,

963
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 4: So whenever we're in the evening and it's my responsible night,

964
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Speaker 4: I take over. I see people, I take care of

965
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 4: all situations. That's they're So if people are rude, I'll

966
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Speaker 4: throw them out. We don't want them in our restaurant

967
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Speaker 4: if they're roots to waiters, people grabbing like our waiters

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00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:45,360
Speaker 4: ass or giving them like compliments but in a bad way,

969
00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 4: like obviously like you're very pretty, that's fine, but that's

970
00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:49,960
Speaker 4: a tight ass.

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Speaker 1: You're going out. You're not hearing it, And how often

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Speaker 1: does stuff like that happen?

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Speaker 4: Well, people are drinking when they're at our restaurant because

974
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Speaker 4: they it's called cool, which is like direct translation is steak,

975
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:06,080
Speaker 4: So it's very much steak and beer and wine, and

976
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Speaker 4: just there's somebody just they don't know how to cope

977
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Speaker 4: with it, so they get too drunk and then it happens.

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Speaker 4: So I would say that mainly like once once a

979
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Speaker 4: week when I'm there, but obviously we have other people

980
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Speaker 4: as responsible at us as well, so it I think

981
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Speaker 4: it maybe happens a few times a week.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, that's just in one race run really yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I have a question, tell me this, what do

984
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 1: you think about all day? What's like? What would you

985
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:36,360
Speaker 1: say is like the most persistent thought on your mind

986
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 1: being a success? Being a success? Okay, what success means you?

987
00:58:42,320 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 4: Success for me is, and it's a tough, tough thing,

988
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 4: but success for me is not primarily money wise, but

989
00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 4: being happy as I am, being focused on my mindset

990
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 4: and being able to in the thirty one of the month,

991
00:58:58,360 --> 00:59:01,560
Speaker 4: being able to go grocery shopping without having to think

992
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 4: about money.

993
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 1: So it's not having Lamborghinis.

994
00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 4: And stuff like that would be nice. But just not

995
00:59:08,040 --> 00:59:10,880
Speaker 4: having to be afraid of not being able to pay

996
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:14,040
Speaker 4: for my groceries and being alive, that would make me happy.

997
00:59:14,720 --> 00:59:16,800
Speaker 1: There's not from what I've seen just walking around that

998
00:59:16,920 --> 00:59:20,400
Speaker 1: there's not that much like poverty or anything that just

999
00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 1: from walking around. I mean I've only been here for

1000
00:59:22,360 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: like two seconds. But yeah, but no, there's not a lot.

1001
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: There is some. But as well as why.

1002
00:59:28,880 --> 00:59:32,040
Speaker 4: We pay all taxes, we help people that are homeless,

1003
00:59:32,720 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 4: so they get a lot of money. I would say

1004
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 4: that actually I don't know the exact amounts because I

1005
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 4: don't even go into that, but I think it's about

1006
00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:43,560
Speaker 4: like a little more than two thousand dollars a month

1007
00:59:43,560 --> 00:59:44,680
Speaker 4: if you're homeless to be.

1008
00:59:44,720 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 1: Able to get on your wait. The government will just

1009
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:47,960
Speaker 1: give people too.

1010
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 4: That if you're citizen you get money if like if

1011
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:54,920
Speaker 4: you don't have a job or something like that, and

1012
00:59:54,960 --> 00:59:57,680
Speaker 4: then there is some things like you have to apply

1013
00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 4: for jobs and stuff like that before I can get

1014
01:00:00,680 --> 01:00:04,400
Speaker 4: the money. But they have the opportunities to give to

1015
01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 4: get it quite easily.

1016
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:08,720
Speaker 1: I would say, do you like living here? I love it?

1017
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:10,520
Speaker 1: Would you ever live anywhere else?

1018
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1019
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 4: I've lived in London so far and I also want

1020
01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:18,480
Speaker 4: to try living in New York and Australia as well,

1021
01:00:18,960 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 4: maybe Brisbane, but I will always come back to got Magan.

1022
01:00:26,440 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: How does it compare it to like other countries that

1023
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:31,400
Speaker 1: you've been to. It's just my.

1024
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 4: Whole home city, home, home country. I think that's that's

1025
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 4: that's it.

1026
01:00:37,520 --> 01:00:38,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, so.

1027
01:00:40,120 --> 01:00:42,080
Speaker 4: That's this is where my family is, and I think

1028
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:45,320
Speaker 4: that's that's it. It's I love it because it's my home.

1029
01:00:46,400 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 4: But if I didn't have anyone I've I'm quite easily

1030
01:00:50,480 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 4: like transitioning into everywhere and the environment where I'm at,

1031
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:55,000
Speaker 4: and I'll just be there.

1032
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 1: Yeah. So, by the way, I want to say, I

1033
01:00:57,760 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 1: appreciate you sitting out and talk with me. Have I

1034
01:00:59,360 --> 01:01:02,040
Speaker 1: distracted you from your rest of your EXPERI we have

1035
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:05,280
Speaker 1: thirty minutes to finish it. Yeah, So what else? What

1036
01:01:05,600 --> 01:01:06,440
Speaker 1: else was on the list?

1037
01:01:07,160 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 4: A lot of things like we have to get a

1038
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 4: picture with the police. They want to want us to

1039
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:13,960
Speaker 4: go into a hot dog like shop and make a

1040
01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:15,320
Speaker 4: hot dog and get a video of it.

1041
01:01:15,640 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: Have you making a hot dog? Yeah? Do you think

1042
01:01:17,320 --> 01:01:19,240
Speaker 1: you'll be able to do that? I don't think any

1043
01:01:19,240 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 1: would one would allow us to do it? Like a

1044
01:01:20,960 --> 01:01:25,480
Speaker 1: health code violation. So that's why we're not gonna like publicly,

1045
01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:28,600
Speaker 1: I won't tell anyone, but.

1046
01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:30,600
Speaker 4: No, And we also got to take a shot of

1047
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:34,880
Speaker 4: Fana Punka with someone, So we're trying to find someone

1048
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 4: who has a birthday, because you also have to find

1049
01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 4: someone who has a birthday, and then we want to

1050
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:41,920
Speaker 4: give that person a fan of punka shot as well

1051
01:01:42,480 --> 01:01:44,920
Speaker 4: and be like, what is fana punka? That's an Italian

1052
01:01:44,960 --> 01:01:48,120
Speaker 4: shot of I think it's twenty seven different herbs. Okay,

1053
01:01:48,120 --> 01:01:52,360
Speaker 4: it's my favorite shot. If people it's never tasted it,

1054
01:01:52,400 --> 01:01:54,680
Speaker 4: and they taste it, they would say that I'm crazy

1055
01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:55,720
Speaker 4: for it's being invited.

1056
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Speaker 1: You know what's funny is I don't know if you

1057
01:01:57,080 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 1: guys are all together, but like there's other groups of

1058
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:03,000
Speaker 1: people who are like doing a scavenger hunt, and I

1059
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 1: hope that the whole like if the chugging a beer

1060
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:09,600
Speaker 1: with a random guy thing is something in all of them.

1061
01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:12,080
Speaker 1: I'll be pretty drunk by the time I'm done with

1062
01:02:12,120 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 1: these interviews. Yes, so I'm gonna stay here, stay here

1063
01:02:17,200 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 1: and drink some beers. What's your name again, sir Simon Simon?

1064
01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

1065
01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:23,840
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go. Excuse me once again,

1066
01:02:23,920 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 1: is there anything else you want to say to the

1067
01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:26,960
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?

1068
01:02:27,480 --> 01:02:32,360
Speaker 4: Follow this, get go guy, follow Simon on Instagram.

1069
01:02:32,640 --> 01:02:36,439
Speaker 1: You're dressed for success. You're killing it. I think you're

1070
01:02:36,440 --> 01:02:40,000
Speaker 1: gonna make billions and billions of Danish kroner, which is

1071
01:02:41,120 --> 01:02:44,720
Speaker 1: like ten US dollars or something like that.

1072
01:02:46,520 --> 01:02:50,520
Speaker 4: Yes or something. Thank you, Sam, Thank you so much.

1073
01:02:50,760 --> 01:02:52,240
Speaker 4: Bless you, sir, God, bless you.

1074
01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 1: Oh here is there a place we can throw these away?

1075
01:02:57,240 --> 01:02:59,120
Speaker 1: Thank you man, I appreciate it. Thank you, Thank care.

1076
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:02,200
Speaker 1: Brou Hey, folks, it's Lyle again. If you enjoyed that

1077
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Speaker 1: little interview that I did on the streets of Copenhagen, Denmark,

1078
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Speaker 1: you can find all the little interviews that I did

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Speaker 1: on the streets of Copenhagen, Denmark. I go into the

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Speaker 1: episode description and finding the link to the full YouTube

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Speaker 1: video right there. Or you can go to YouTube dot

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Speaker 1: com slash Lyle forever and look for a video called

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Speaker 1: being a Gecko in Denmark. All right, thank you guys

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Speaker 1: for listening. Ghek bless you all. Ever goes on the

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Speaker 1: line taking your phone calls every night, never goes is

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Speaker 1: teaching you aloud in the mine life. An expert