Speaker 1: I Suck at Dating with de Nungler and Jared Haven
Speaker 1: and I Heard Radio podcast. Hello everyone, and welcome to
Speaker 1: Thursday's special caller episode of Help I Suck at Dating.
Speaker 1: We've had Caroline and the waiter room for three minutes already,
Speaker 1: but we brought Serena back to GUS to guest co
Speaker 1: host this episode with us as well. Um, but like
Speaker 1: I said, we've got Caroline waiting in the waiting room
Speaker 1: and I feel bad because she's been sitting there for
Speaker 1: a few minutes. So let's see if we can get
Speaker 1: her in here. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for calling in. You got me Dean, Well, I'm
Speaker 1: and there's Jared to help you answer whatever question you
Speaker 1: might have for us. We're here to help. So what
Speaker 1: do you got for us? All right? So, basically a
Speaker 1: couple of days ago, I woke up, you know, before
Speaker 1: my boyfriend and realized my phone was downstairs. So I
Speaker 1: reached for his phones to check the time, and I
Speaker 1: saw a message on his home screen that he got
Speaker 1: two AM from a woman saying thinking about you. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: um about two years now? Two years? Yeah, that's pretty bad.
Speaker 1: So what did you do next? What was your next
Speaker 1: move when well before I was washing the blood off
Speaker 1: my hands. No, I'm kidding. I was right there with you, Jared.
Speaker 1: I didn't kill him. I didn't. Um. I actually didn't
Speaker 1: know what to do, so I just kind of left
Speaker 1: for work and decided to talk to him about it
Speaker 1: when I got home. And when I confronted him about it,
Speaker 1: he said it was just as co worker who reached
Speaker 1: out since she knew that he had like this big
Speaker 1: presentation that morning. Oh man, please spare me. He honestly
Speaker 1: said that. Yeah, And I didn't like ask him or
Speaker 1: anything to go through his messages. I'm just kind of
Speaker 1: hoping that you know, he's telling the truth. Yeah, he's
Speaker 1: never really lied to me before that I know of that.
Speaker 1: You know of? Right? Well, Serena, what do you think
Speaker 1: about this? I'm going to give you like the girl
Speaker 1: finding the message versus I'd rather have a guy's opinion
Speaker 1: on this, but I would literally be spiraling. I do
Speaker 1: you know? Do you know the name of the girl?
Speaker 1: Have you met them all? No? I I haven't met
Speaker 1: her. Her Her name is Emily, but like I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't really know a lot of his work friends. Well,
Speaker 1: you need to get to know, Emily, like you need
Speaker 1: to go there like sniff this out, Like, oh, hi, Emily,
Speaker 1: you're the one who texts my boyfriend two in the
Speaker 1: two in the morning because you're very concerned about his
Speaker 1: presentation the next day. That was so kind of you.
Speaker 1: And if you reach out again, I will end you know, Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean that's tough because it seems
Speaker 1: it's sketched. It's totally sketch, even for a co worker.
Speaker 1: Come on now too in the morning thinking of about you.
Speaker 1: You're only thinking about somebody at two in the morning,
Speaker 1: not because of their presentation, but for other reasons. So, uh,
Speaker 1: it sucks. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Um,
Speaker 1: but my advice would be not to put not to
Speaker 1: just push it aside. It's like, oh, it was nothing.
Speaker 1: I think it was definitely something, and I think it's
Speaker 1: something you should really address and talk further with your boyfriend. Yeah. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: I feel like you're probably right, Yeah, right, definitely, Serena,
Speaker 1: I got a question, what would you do if you
Speaker 1: rolled over and saw that message on Jamie's phone? I
Speaker 1: would I would probably, Okay, So like the savage me
Speaker 1: would like literally wake him up and be like who
Speaker 1: is this and like, let me read that's going on.
Speaker 1: But because I am a little bit more like timid
Speaker 1: and like I like to have all the facts so
Speaker 1: that when I shoot the gun, it's like ammo after
Speaker 1: ammo after am Like you can't find yourself out of
Speaker 1: this situation. I would probably do my due diligence and
Speaker 1: like smooth and like see who this girl is, what's
Speaker 1: going on, and really get my facts in order so
Speaker 1: that when I do approach him about the situation, either
Speaker 1: it's this girl trying to get at him or it's
Speaker 1: like a mutual they're like having a little thing behind
Speaker 1: my back and then take it from there. Yeah well, yeah, Caroline,
Speaker 1: I agree with that too. You gotta get a little
Speaker 1: bit more information, but definitely don't let it uh pass
Speaker 1: by without any further I don't know, judgment or like research,
Speaker 1: because it sounds like there might be something um going
Speaker 1: on and that would necessarily like yeah, yeah, so keep
Speaker 1: keep that in mind. But we wish you the best.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure, I mean, I'm hoping that it really
Speaker 1: was just the work thing, but I would say just
Speaker 1: using like the surface test, it might be a little
Speaker 1: something more. But we hope you the best. Hope the
Speaker 1: best for you. Thank you so much. You guys appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. What's going on, Graham? Welcome to
Speaker 1: the podcast. How are you? I'm all right. How are
Speaker 1: you guys doing? Thank you for going in. What's what
Speaker 1: afflicks to you today? Uh? Well, I mean so I've
Speaker 1: been with my girl for a bit over a year.
Speaker 1: We just celebrated our year anniversary about two three weeks ago,
Speaker 1: thank you. And about a week later, they had a
Speaker 1: girl's trip out to Vegas. It was one of her
Speaker 1: close friend's birthdays and they went out and um, which
Speaker 1: was great. You know, I got a little time to myself.
Speaker 1: She went out with her girls. She comes back, but
Speaker 1: and she shows me this new tattoo. I mean, I
Speaker 1: love I love her. I just gotta tell you, I
Speaker 1: love her. I think she is the one. I think
Speaker 1: this is gonna work out, Like that's it for me.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine my life without anybody else, which is great.
Speaker 1: But in this tattoo, she's looking at me, and she's
Speaker 1: looking at me with this approval, and she's showing me
Speaker 1: that she had my name tattooed on like really small
Speaker 1: on her ribs. And I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's there's like like I just started feeling this pressure.
Speaker 1: So she got Graham tattoo on her ribs in Las
Speaker 1: Vegas on a girl's trip. Yes, yes, I mean it
Speaker 1: could have been worse. She could have been been like Graham. Look,
Speaker 1: I got a tattoo of a guy named Mike on me.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying, I feel like when girls go on
Speaker 1: girls trips and their boyfriends are at home, they're just
Speaker 1: assuming like all these bad things are happening. But if
Speaker 1: your girl came home with your name tattooed on her ribs,
Speaker 1: that like wife her pressure there, she's got a bad
Speaker 1: like serious about you. I agree. I think this is
Speaker 1: all good things for your Graham and I like that.
Speaker 1: I like that, but there's a bit of pressure, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, I know, I feel like
Speaker 1: she's the one, But do I have to now like
Speaker 1: propose in a week? Is this what that's meaning? Like
Speaker 1: I suddenly feel like, oh do I things are moved?
Speaker 1: Like do things have to move fast? Now? You know,
Speaker 1: don't overthink it. I think she just got a tattoo
Speaker 1: of you, which is really yeah, I mean forward, but
Speaker 1: are you guys been Dane for a while. I don't
Speaker 1: see any reason why you think you should like fast
Speaker 1: forward the proposal of the marriage now, becauseides all the
Speaker 1: pressure is on her. I mean, if it doesn't work out,
Speaker 1: she's the one who's get tattoo removed. Exactly true. And
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say it's that so much pressure because I
Speaker 1: feel like she did it spontaneously. She didn't like premeditate
Speaker 1: saying like, oh, like the next step in my relationship
Speaker 1: is getting a tattoo of his name when I'm in
Speaker 1: Vegas with the girls trip, you know, like it was
Speaker 1: like a spur of the moment, like I love this
Speaker 1: man or whatever, I'm going to get his name on me,
Speaker 1: and I think he'll love it and it'll just be
Speaker 1: like for Funzies and like, yeah, yeah, I agree. It's
Speaker 1: a good point. I think a good way to get
Speaker 1: rid of some of the pressure to Grammys, you could
Speaker 1: just have her get Cracker on the other side of
Speaker 1: it as well, and that way she's just a big
Speaker 1: fan of like Honey Grams or something like that. I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna lie, I was saying the exact same thing,
Speaker 1: and then so she could do one rib Graham the
Speaker 1: other rib cracker and then on the lower back it
Speaker 1: would say s'mores, or you could do chocolate and marshmallow,
Speaker 1: like chocolate marshmallow on the back, and then you know
Speaker 1: she is a smore. There's there's options. But I do
Speaker 1: agree with Storena. I think it's hot. I think it's great,
Speaker 1: and I think that she loves to do and I
Speaker 1: know the pressure is definitely there. Um, but just keep
Speaker 1: in mind if it does end up going south at
Speaker 1: any point, she does have a fallback and she can
Speaker 1: just get a small tattooed on her lower back and
Speaker 1: all will be well, man, it's crazy that I'm that
Speaker 1: easily replaceable by a delicious snack. No, you're not. It's
Speaker 1: just it's if I would say she's using the tattoo
Speaker 1: against you, saying like I got your name tattooed on me.
Speaker 1: You need to do this, this, this, and this for me,
Speaker 1: then I'd be like, I didn't ask you to do that,
Speaker 1: Bute and Graham, I got news for you. I've been
Speaker 1: married for three years. We are very replaceable by a
Speaker 1: delicious snack. If Ashley had to choose between myself or nachos,
Speaker 1: I honestly don't know what you'd picked right now in
Speaker 1: the moment, probably nachos thousand nachos. Um could always you
Speaker 1: could always butt and get a tattoo of your own
Speaker 1: as well, just something something along the same lines as that.
Speaker 1: I don't know that it might be more of a
Speaker 1: commitment to ye talking about pressure, yeah really yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: but Graham, thanks for calling, man. We appreciate it. Thank you,
Speaker 1: luck with everything, and I mean you're in this for
Speaker 1: life now, so about thanks man. You guys have a
Speaker 1: good one. Thanks a lot for everything. Appreciate it all right,
Speaker 1: see you, buddy. Our third and final caller is Claire.
Speaker 1: Welcome to what their pleasure it is to have you?
Speaker 1: He thank you. What's going on in life of Claire today?
Speaker 1: Oh we're launching right in right, Yeah, that's how we
Speaker 1: do it here. Um. So I've I've been with my
Speaker 1: boyfriend for about five years, um, which is kind of
Speaker 1: hard to believe. Um, and you know it's uh well
Speaker 1: a little bit of a delicate subject. But um, we're
Speaker 1: kind of lucky if we're able to have sex like
Speaker 1: once a week. Um that's you know, on a good week. Um.
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't say that it like affects our relationship
Speaker 1: or you know, you know, we're happy. It's just kind
Speaker 1: of like is it normal? I mean, we're just kind
Speaker 1: of like tired at the end of the day. I
Speaker 1: am pretty much tend to just like watch Netflix and
Speaker 1: go to sleep. So I'm wondering if we should be
Speaker 1: making more of an effort to like make the time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean five years is a long time. I think
Speaker 1: once a week after five years, that's, uh, that's pretty
Speaker 1: good in my book. I gotta say, what do you think? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean when you said once a week, I was like,
Speaker 1: all right, hot and heavy, good job. And then you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's a bad thing. Never mind, Okay, I gotta read
Speaker 1: You're like, we're having too much sex. We're having sex
Speaker 1: once a week. It's too much. I guess it's all relative, right,
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I don't know. I think that's great.
Speaker 1: I think if you guys can keep doing it once
Speaker 1: a week, I think most people would agree that that's, uh,
Speaker 1: that's pretty good. I don't know. I'm I'm curious. So
Speaker 1: Serena has been in a relationship for six months. We're
Speaker 1: not gonna ask her to get into the nitty greedy
Speaker 1: of your of her sex life, but what do you
Speaker 1: think about once a week, Serena. Um. I just feel
Speaker 1: like if both partners are equally initiating the sex, then
Speaker 1: then it's a common understanding. But if one person is
Speaker 1: doing it more than the other, or the one person
Speaker 1: is just you know, not there, then I feel like
Speaker 1: there's a conversation that can be had. M h. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good that's a good bit of advice. I
Speaker 1: saw this. I saw this video on TikTok the other
Speaker 1: day about this exact scenario and the therapist, and she
Speaker 1: was like a sex therapist. She was saying that rather
Speaker 1: than talking about like giving pleasure to your partner whatever
Speaker 1: it is, make it seem like you guys are both
Speaker 1: doing something like you're both like escaping into each other's
Speaker 1: bodies for like a fun amount of time and essentially
Speaker 1: like you're going on like a like a vacation of sorts,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I think I think
Speaker 1: a lot of it has to do with like psychologically,
Speaker 1: like just like making it seem less of like a
Speaker 1: chore and more of like an adventure, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: especially in five years is a long time to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship. I mean, Kaitlin and I have been
Speaker 1: in a relationship for three years my girlfriend and I
Speaker 1: mean we definitely have seen like a downtick in terms
Speaker 1: of frequency, which I think is pretty standard. But um,
Speaker 1: five years, once a week, I mean I'm impressed. I
Speaker 1: think I think that's pretty good in my opinion. Okay, great.
Speaker 1: I was worried to be like a red flag. It's
Speaker 1: a red flag, like Serena said, is if one of
Speaker 1: you are not getting satisfaction with what you need. I
Speaker 1: think that would be the only thing. If one of
Speaker 1: you has more sexual needs than the other and you're
Speaker 1: like once a week is not doing it for me,
Speaker 1: and the other person is like, well I'm fine, then
Speaker 1: that's a red flag because then you know, you've got
Speaker 1: to make sure that you know you're happy in a
Speaker 1: lot of different departments within a relationship and then includes sex.
Speaker 1: So yeah, definitely definitely. Well hopefully that helps Claire. Um yeah,
Speaker 1: just uh, you know you're doing something right, so keep
Speaker 1: doing it and best of luck moving forward. Hopefully our
Speaker 1: advice doesn't lead you too far straight here. But thank
Speaker 1: you so much for calling in. No, thank you. I
Speaker 1: feel like we should get gold stars now. Everyone gets
Speaker 1: a gold Star participation medal. Yeah, Thank you guys so much.
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. Thank you for calling in. All right,
Speaker 1: well that's gonna do it for our color segment, our
Speaker 1: fifth color segment we've ever had, and they're just getting
Speaker 1: better and better and better, especially with screena here giving
Speaker 1: out the great advice. Um Trina, thank you for guests
Speaker 1: co hosting with us this week. You really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Thank Yeah, it was a lot of fun. We are
Speaker 1: excited to see you and you're badass NFL agent boyfriend
Speaker 1: to take over the world the distance, but I'm confident.
Speaker 1: I mean I you talked pretty highly about them. I
Speaker 1: could definitely say, Um, I had one more thing I
Speaker 1: wanted to say, Oh yeah, best of luck on your
Speaker 1: on your well you already moved to Miami, but best
Speaker 1: of luck, like you know, getting up to speed and
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff out there and challenge came
Speaker 1: to you. I just looked up you guys, and congrats
Speaker 1: when your kids gorgeous. Thank you and I appreciate it
Speaker 1: and treating you well. Thank you. Traveling traveling more than
Speaker 1: I have. But yeah, well I'm unemployed, so I all
Speaker 1: I have time to do is travel these days. But unemployed,
Speaker 1: that's what we call it unemployed. I started telling people
Speaker 1: I'm retired. I don't know, that's even better. It's even better.
Speaker 1: They're like, wait, what you are I'm like, no, not really,
Speaker 1: I just I'm sick of telling people I want to employed. Um, Jared,
Speaker 1: I saw a Topic on the other day and it
Speaker 1: was good. Kaylin wanted to see it really bad. We
Speaker 1: saw a top Gun and she said it was the
Speaker 1: best movie she's ever seen. It's so freaking good. It's
Speaker 1: just good. So it was good. Miles Teller is awesome.
Speaker 1: There were a couple of things, a couple of scenes
Speaker 1: where I was like, it's like super like over the top,
Speaker 1: but generally overall I was I was. I was impressed.
Speaker 1: I like almost cried a couple of times. And I
Speaker 1: don't even think I remember seeing the original Topic that.
Speaker 1: I'm like, why am I so emotional watching this movie?
Speaker 1: Do you need to see the original to see the
Speaker 1: new one? I don't think so. I mean it helps.
Speaker 1: Kylen watched the original the day before going to see
Speaker 1: the second one, and she said it helped. But like
Speaker 1: I said, I hadn't seen the first one in like
Speaker 1: twenty years, and I was still getting emotional in the movie. Theater.
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to say that. I just want
Speaker 1: to say, your boy did it, did it well? Um?
Speaker 1: But three thanks again for joining us. We appreciate it.
Speaker 1: We can't wait to check in with you again sometime soon. Yeah,
Speaker 1: best of luck with everything. Travel safe. If you hit
Speaker 1: some turbulence, just hold on for dear life. I guess
Speaker 1: I'm saying Jared was saying you always looked at the
Speaker 1: flight attendants for approval, and like I literally made a
Speaker 1: story on my aser about this. It's just like when
Speaker 1: all the scared passengers are looking at me and I'm
Speaker 1: just like terrified inside, but I have to smile. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you are terrified on the inside or not? Calm great,
Speaker 1: this is awesome. What a way to leave off. Can't
Speaker 1: wait to fly again. You can start messing with people
Speaker 1: and just like looking terrified every time you hit a bump,
Speaker 1: like I don't know, that'd be pretty funny, but that
Speaker 1: would be so funny. The one time I did look scared,
Speaker 1: like it was just fear, like fear, I was just
Speaker 1: strict staring at If I saw the flight attendant look scared,
Speaker 1: as I would die of a heart attack because I'd
Speaker 1: be convinced we're going down. She they know something I don't.
Speaker 1: They know something I don't. The pilot's talking to them. Hey,
Speaker 1: there's never been an accident do to turbulence. Just keep
Speaker 1: that in mind next time. Um, but yeah, we gotta
Speaker 1: we gotta wrap this step. So Serena, thanks again, best
Speaker 1: luck with everything. Jared, I love you. I'll see you
Speaker 1: next week, maybe when we stuck a little bit less.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, actually you know what. I won't be here
Speaker 1: next week. I'll be in Pakistan. So, um, maybe Jared'll
Speaker 1: suck a little bit less and next time you guys
Speaker 1: hear from me, I'll suck a lot a bit less
Speaker 1: because a couple of weeks. So don't don't suck in Pakistan, bro,
Speaker 1: don't suck in Pakistan. Great, all right, we'll see you
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