WEBVTT - Dial S for Sucky Daters

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<v Speaker 1>I Suck at Dating with de Nungler and Jared Haven

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<v Speaker 1>and I Heard Radio podcast. Hello everyone, and welcome to

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<v Speaker 1>Thursday's special caller episode of Help I Suck at Dating.

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<v Speaker 1>We've had Caroline and the waiter room for three minutes already,

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<v Speaker 1>but we brought Serena back to GUS to guest co

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<v Speaker 1>host this episode with us as well. Um, but like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, we've got Caroline waiting in the waiting room

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<v Speaker 1>and I feel bad because she's been sitting there for

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<v Speaker 1>a few minutes. So let's see if we can get

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<v Speaker 1>her in here. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so

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<v Speaker 1>much for calling in. You got me Dean, Well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>and there's Jared to help you answer whatever question you

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<v Speaker 1>might have for us. We're here to help. So what

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<v Speaker 1>do you got for us? All right? So, basically a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of days ago, I woke up, you know, before

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend and realized my phone was downstairs. So I

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<v Speaker 1>reached for his phones to check the time, and I

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<v Speaker 1>saw a message on his home screen that he got

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<v Speaker 1>two AM from a woman saying thinking about you. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>um about two years now? Two years? Yeah, that's pretty bad.

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<v Speaker 1>So what did you do next? What was your next

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<v Speaker 1>move when well before I was washing the blood off

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<v Speaker 1>my hands. No, I'm kidding. I was right there with you, Jared.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't kill him. I didn't. Um. I actually didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know what to do, so I just kind of left

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<v Speaker 1>for work and decided to talk to him about it

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<v Speaker 1>when I got home. And when I confronted him about it,

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<v Speaker 1>he said it was just as co worker who reached

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<v Speaker 1>out since she knew that he had like this big

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<v Speaker 1>presentation that morning. Oh man, please spare me. He honestly

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<v Speaker 1>said that. Yeah, And I didn't like ask him or

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<v Speaker 1>anything to go through his messages. I'm just kind of

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<v Speaker 1>hoping that you know, he's telling the truth. Yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 1>never really lied to me before that I know of that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know of? Right? Well, Serena, what do you think

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<v Speaker 1>about this? I'm going to give you like the girl

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<v Speaker 1>finding the message versus I'd rather have a guy's opinion

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<v Speaker 1>on this, but I would literally be spiraling. I do

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<v Speaker 1>you know? Do you know the name of the girl?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you met them all? No? I I haven't met

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<v Speaker 1>her. Her Her name is Emily, but like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really know a lot of his work friends. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to get to know, Emily, like you need

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<v Speaker 1>to go there like sniff this out, Like, oh, hi, Emily,

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<v Speaker 1>you're the one who texts my boyfriend two in the

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<v Speaker 1>two in the morning because you're very concerned about his

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<v Speaker 1>presentation the next day. That was so kind of you.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you reach out again, I will end you know, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I mean that's tough because it seems

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<v Speaker 1>it's sketched. It's totally sketch, even for a co worker.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on now too in the morning thinking of about you.

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<v Speaker 1>You're only thinking about somebody at two in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>not because of their presentation, but for other reasons. So, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>it sucks. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but my advice would be not to put not to

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<v Speaker 1>just push it aside. It's like, oh, it was nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was definitely something, and I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>something you should really address and talk further with your boyfriend. Yeah. Unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you're probably right, Yeah, right, definitely, Serena,

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<v Speaker 1>I got a question, what would you do if you

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<v Speaker 1>rolled over and saw that message on Jamie's phone? I

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<v Speaker 1>would I would probably, Okay, So like the savage me

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<v Speaker 1>would like literally wake him up and be like who

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<v Speaker 1>is this and like, let me read that's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>But because I am a little bit more like timid

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<v Speaker 1>and like I like to have all the facts so

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<v Speaker 1>that when I shoot the gun, it's like ammo after

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<v Speaker 1>ammo after am Like you can't find yourself out of

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<v Speaker 1>this situation. I would probably do my due diligence and

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<v Speaker 1>like smooth and like see who this girl is, what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on, and really get my facts in order so

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<v Speaker 1>that when I do approach him about the situation, either

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<v Speaker 1>it's this girl trying to get at him or it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a mutual they're like having a little thing behind

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<v Speaker 1>my back and then take it from there. Yeah well, yeah, Caroline,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with that too. You gotta get a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more information, but definitely don't let it uh pass

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<v Speaker 1>by without any further I don't know, judgment or like research,

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<v Speaker 1>because it sounds like there might be something um going

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<v Speaker 1>on and that would necessarily like yeah, yeah, so keep

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<v Speaker 1>keep that in mind. But we wish you the best.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm sure, I mean, I'm hoping that it really

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<v Speaker 1>was just the work thing, but I would say just

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<v Speaker 1>using like the surface test, it might be a little

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<v Speaker 1>something more. But we hope you the best. Hope the

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<v Speaker 1>best for you. Thank you so much. You guys appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, thank you. What's going on, Graham? Welcome to

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast. How are you? I'm all right. How are

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<v Speaker 1>you guys doing? Thank you for going in. What's what

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<v Speaker 1>afflicks to you today? Uh? Well, I mean so I've

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<v Speaker 1>been with my girl for a bit over a year.

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<v Speaker 1>We just celebrated our year anniversary about two three weeks ago,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you. And about a week later, they had a

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<v Speaker 1>girl's trip out to Vegas. It was one of her

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<v Speaker 1>close friend's birthdays and they went out and um, which

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<v Speaker 1>was great. You know, I got a little time to myself.

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<v Speaker 1>She went out with her girls. She comes back, but

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<v Speaker 1>and she shows me this new tattoo. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>love I love her. I just gotta tell you, I

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<v Speaker 1>love her. I think she is the one. I think

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<v Speaker 1>this is gonna work out, Like that's it for me.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't imagine my life without anybody else, which is great.

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<v Speaker 1>But in this tattoo, she's looking at me, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>looking at me with this approval, and she's showing me

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<v Speaker 1>that she had my name tattooed on like really small

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<v Speaker 1>on her ribs. And I don't know. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's there's like like I just started feeling this pressure.

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<v Speaker 1>So she got Graham tattoo on her ribs in Las

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<v Speaker 1>Vegas on a girl's trip. Yes, yes, I mean it

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<v Speaker 1>could have been worse. She could have been been like Graham. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>I got a tattoo of a guy named Mike on me.

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<v Speaker 1>What I'm saying, I feel like when girls go on

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<v Speaker 1>girls trips and their boyfriends are at home, they're just

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<v Speaker 1>assuming like all these bad things are happening. But if

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<v Speaker 1>your girl came home with your name tattooed on her ribs,

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<v Speaker 1>that like wife her pressure there, she's got a bad

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<v Speaker 1>like serious about you. I agree. I think this is

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<v Speaker 1>all good things for your Graham and I like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that, but there's a bit of pressure, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? Like, I know, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>she's the one, But do I have to now like

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<v Speaker 1>propose in a week? Is this what that's meaning? Like

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<v Speaker 1>I suddenly feel like, oh do I things are moved?

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<v Speaker 1>Like do things have to move fast? Now? You know,

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<v Speaker 1>don't overthink it. I think she just got a tattoo

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<v Speaker 1>of you, which is really yeah, I mean forward, but

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<v Speaker 1>are you guys been Dane for a while. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>see any reason why you think you should like fast

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<v Speaker 1>forward the proposal of the marriage now, becauseides all the

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<v Speaker 1>pressure is on her. I mean, if it doesn't work out,

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<v Speaker 1>she's the one who's get tattoo removed. Exactly true. And

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't say it's that so much pressure because I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like she did it spontaneously. She didn't like premeditate

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<v Speaker 1>saying like, oh, like the next step in my relationship

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<v Speaker 1>is getting a tattoo of his name when I'm in

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<v Speaker 1>Vegas with the girls trip, you know, like it was

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<v Speaker 1>like a spur of the moment, like I love this

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<v Speaker 1>man or whatever, I'm going to get his name on me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think he'll love it and it'll just be

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<v Speaker 1>like for Funzies and like, yeah, yeah, I agree. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a good point. I think a good way to get

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<v Speaker 1>rid of some of the pressure to Grammys, you could

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<v Speaker 1>just have her get Cracker on the other side of

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<v Speaker 1>it as well, and that way she's just a big

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<v Speaker 1>fan of like Honey Grams or something like that. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna lie, I was saying the exact same thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and then so she could do one rib Graham the

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<v Speaker 1>other rib cracker and then on the lower back it

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<v Speaker 1>would say s'mores, or you could do chocolate and marshmallow,

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<v Speaker 1>like chocolate marshmallow on the back, and then you know

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<v Speaker 1>she is a smore. There's there's options. But I do

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<v Speaker 1>agree with Storena. I think it's hot. I think it's great,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that she loves to do and I

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<v Speaker 1>know the pressure is definitely there. Um, but just keep

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<v Speaker 1>in mind if it does end up going south at

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<v Speaker 1>any point, she does have a fallback and she can

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<v Speaker 1>just get a small tattooed on her lower back and

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<v Speaker 1>all will be well, man, it's crazy that I'm that

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<v Speaker 1>easily replaceable by a delicious snack. No, you're not. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just it's if I would say she's using the tattoo

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<v Speaker 1>against you, saying like I got your name tattooed on me.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to do this, this, this, and this for me,

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<v Speaker 1>then I'd be like, I didn't ask you to do that,

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<v Speaker 1>Bute and Graham, I got news for you. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>married for three years. We are very replaceable by a

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<v Speaker 1>delicious snack. If Ashley had to choose between myself or nachos,

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly don't know what you'd picked right now in

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<v Speaker 1>the moment, probably nachos thousand nachos. Um could always you

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<v Speaker 1>could always butt and get a tattoo of your own

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<v Speaker 1>as well, just something something along the same lines as that.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that it might be more of a

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<v Speaker 1>commitment to ye talking about pressure, yeah really yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but Graham, thanks for calling, man. We appreciate it. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>luck with everything, and I mean you're in this for

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<v Speaker 1>life now, so about thanks man. You guys have a

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<v Speaker 1>good one. Thanks a lot for everything. Appreciate it all right,

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<v Speaker 1>see you, buddy. Our third and final caller is Claire.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to what their pleasure it is to have you?

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<v Speaker 1>He thank you. What's going on in life of Claire today?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh we're launching right in right, Yeah, that's how we

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<v Speaker 1>do it here. Um. So I've I've been with my

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend for about five years, um, which is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>hard to believe. Um, and you know it's uh well

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of a delicate subject. But um, we're

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<v Speaker 1>kind of lucky if we're able to have sex like

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<v Speaker 1>once a week. Um that's you know, on a good week. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wouldn't say that it like affects our relationship

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, you know, we're happy. It's just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like is it normal? I mean, we're just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like tired at the end of the day. I

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<v Speaker 1>am pretty much tend to just like watch Netflix and

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<v Speaker 1>go to sleep. So I'm wondering if we should be

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<v Speaker 1>making more of an effort to like make the time. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean five years is a long time. I think

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<v Speaker 1>once a week after five years, that's, uh, that's pretty

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<v Speaker 1>good in my book. I gotta say, what do you think? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean when you said once a week, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, hot and heavy, good job. And then you're like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a bad thing. Never mind, Okay, I gotta read

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, we're having too much sex. We're having sex

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<v Speaker 1>once a week. It's too much. I guess it's all relative, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, I don't know. I think that's great.

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<v Speaker 1>I think if you guys can keep doing it once

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<v Speaker 1>a week, I think most people would agree that that's, uh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty good. I don't know. I'm I'm curious. So

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<v Speaker 1>Serena has been in a relationship for six months. We're

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna ask her to get into the nitty greedy

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<v Speaker 1>of your of her sex life, but what do you

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<v Speaker 1>think about once a week, Serena. Um. I just feel

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<v Speaker 1>like if both partners are equally initiating the sex, then

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<v Speaker 1>then it's a common understanding. But if one person is

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<v Speaker 1>doing it more than the other, or the one person

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<v Speaker 1>is just you know, not there, then I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>there's a conversation that can be had. M h. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a good that's a good bit of advice. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw this. I saw this video on TikTok the other

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<v Speaker 1>day about this exact scenario and the therapist, and she

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<v Speaker 1>was like a sex therapist. She was saying that rather

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<v Speaker 1>than talking about like giving pleasure to your partner whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it is, make it seem like you guys are both

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<v Speaker 1>doing something like you're both like escaping into each other's

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<v Speaker 1>bodies for like a fun amount of time and essentially

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<v Speaker 1>like you're going on like a like a vacation of sorts,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. So I think I think

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of it has to do with like psychologically,

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<v Speaker 1>like just like making it seem less of like a

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<v Speaker 1>chore and more of like an adventure, you know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>especially in five years is a long time to be

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship. I mean, Kaitlin and I have been

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship for three years my girlfriend and I

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<v Speaker 1>mean we definitely have seen like a downtick in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of frequency, which I think is pretty standard. But um,

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<v Speaker 1>five years, once a week, I mean I'm impressed. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I think that's pretty good in my opinion. Okay, great.

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<v Speaker 1>I was worried to be like a red flag. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a red flag, like Serena said, is if one of

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<v Speaker 1>you are not getting satisfaction with what you need. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that would be the only thing. If one of

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<v Speaker 1>you has more sexual needs than the other and you're

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<v Speaker 1>like once a week is not doing it for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and the other person is like, well I'm fine, then

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<v Speaker 1>that's a red flag because then you know, you've got

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<v Speaker 1>to make sure that you know you're happy in a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of different departments within a relationship and then includes sex.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, definitely definitely. Well hopefully that helps Claire. Um yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>just uh, you know you're doing something right, so keep

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<v Speaker 1>doing it and best of luck moving forward. Hopefully our

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<v Speaker 1>advice doesn't lead you too far straight here. But thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much for calling in. No, thank you. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like we should get gold stars now. Everyone gets

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<v Speaker 1>a gold Star participation medal. Yeah, Thank you guys so much.

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<v Speaker 1>I really appreciate it. Thank you for calling in. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>well that's gonna do it for our color segment, our

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<v Speaker 1>fifth color segment we've ever had, and they're just getting

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<v Speaker 1>better and better and better, especially with screena here giving

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<v Speaker 1>out the great advice. Um Trina, thank you for guests

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<v Speaker 1>co hosting with us this week. You really appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank Yeah, it was a lot of fun. We are

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<v Speaker 1>excited to see you and you're badass NFL agent boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>to take over the world the distance, but I'm confident.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I you talked pretty highly about them. I

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<v Speaker 1>could definitely say, Um, I had one more thing I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to say, Oh yeah, best of luck on your

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<v Speaker 1>on your well you already moved to Miami, but best

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<v Speaker 1>of luck, like you know, getting up to speed and

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<v Speaker 1>all that kind of stuff out there and challenge came

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<v Speaker 1>to you. I just looked up you guys, and congrats

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<v Speaker 1>when your kids gorgeous. Thank you and I appreciate it

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<v Speaker 1>and treating you well. Thank you. Traveling traveling more than

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<v Speaker 1>I have. But yeah, well I'm unemployed, so I all

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<v Speaker 1>I have time to do is travel these days. But unemployed,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what we call it unemployed. I started telling people

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<v Speaker 1>I'm retired. I don't know, that's even better. It's even better.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, wait, what you are I'm like, no, not really,

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<v Speaker 1>I just I'm sick of telling people I want to employed. Um, Jared,

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<v Speaker 1>I saw a Topic on the other day and it

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<v Speaker 1>was good. Kaylin wanted to see it really bad. We

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<v Speaker 1>saw a top Gun and she said it was the

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<v Speaker 1>best movie she's ever seen. It's so freaking good. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just good. So it was good. Miles Teller is awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>There were a couple of things, a couple of scenes

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<v Speaker 1>where I was like, it's like super like over the top,

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<v Speaker 1>but generally overall I was I was. I was impressed.

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<v Speaker 1>I like almost cried a couple of times. And I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even think I remember seeing the original Topic that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, why am I so emotional watching this movie?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you need to see the original to see the

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<v Speaker 1>new one? I don't think so. I mean it helps.

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<v Speaker 1>Kylen watched the original the day before going to see

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<v Speaker 1>the second one, and she said it helped. But like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I hadn't seen the first one in like

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<v Speaker 1>twenty years, and I was still getting emotional in the movie. Theater.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just wanted to say that. I just want

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<v Speaker 1>to say, your boy did it, did it well? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>But three thanks again for joining us. We appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>We can't wait to check in with you again sometime soon. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>best of luck with everything. Travel safe. If you hit

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<v Speaker 1>some turbulence, just hold on for dear life. I guess

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying Jared was saying you always looked at the

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<v Speaker 1>flight attendants for approval, and like I literally made a

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<v Speaker 1>story on my aser about this. It's just like when

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<v Speaker 1>all the scared passengers are looking at me and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just like terrified inside, but I have to smile. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so you are terrified on the inside or not? Calm great,

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<v Speaker 1>this is awesome. What a way to leave off. Can't

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<v Speaker 1>wait to fly again. You can start messing with people

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<v Speaker 1>and just like looking terrified every time you hit a bump,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't know, that'd be pretty funny, but that

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<v Speaker 1>would be so funny. The one time I did look scared,

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<v Speaker 1>like it was just fear, like fear, I was just

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<v Speaker 1>strict staring at If I saw the flight attendant look scared,

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<v Speaker 1>as I would die of a heart attack because I'd

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<v Speaker 1>be convinced we're going down. She they know something I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>They know something I don't. The pilot's talking to them. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>there's never been an accident do to turbulence. Just keep

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<v Speaker 1>that in mind next time. Um, but yeah, we gotta

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<v Speaker 1>we gotta wrap this step. So Serena, thanks again, best

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<v Speaker 1>luck with everything. Jared, I love you. I'll see you

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<v Speaker 1>next week, maybe when we stuck a little bit less.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, actually you know what. I won't be here

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<v Speaker 1>next week. I'll be in Pakistan. So, um, maybe Jared'll

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<v Speaker 1>suck a little bit less and next time you guys

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<v Speaker 1>hear from me, I'll suck a lot a bit less

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<v Speaker 1>because a couple of weeks. So don't don't suck in Pakistan, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>don't suck in Pakistan. Great, all right, we'll see you

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