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Speaker 1: Els Elvis j Ran in the Morning show, What a

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Speaker 1: crazy day.

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Speaker 2: Excuse me, I was just reflecting all everything we've done today.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, whoa, Okay, this has been a lot of fun.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: One of our favorites Ali Ali Gold, who, of course,

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Speaker 2: is everything digital when it comes to our show. Today's

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Speaker 2: your thirtieth birthday. Time for the Dirty thirties.

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Speaker 1: Birthday?

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Speaker 4: So uh hi, happy birthday. How are you feeling now

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Speaker 4: that you're thirty years old? Any difference the same?

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Speaker 1: My back hurts, It really hurts. If I sleep in

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Speaker 1: the one position all night, I wake up and like

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Speaker 1: literally holding my body up.

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Speaker 4: To get it out of it.

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Speaker 2: I'm at thirty years old, and maybe a few people

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Speaker 2: in the room can't agree. That's when you start, like

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Speaker 2: if you're sitting on the floor, that's when you start making.

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Speaker 4: The noise when you stand up.

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Speaker 2: Like, oh, gandhi, you're making those noises right?

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Speaker 4: No, yeah, well you will.

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Speaker 5: My kidney's not great, but you know.

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Speaker 2: I believe me, you're gonna be creaking like an old

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Speaker 2: house before you know it. Anyway, happy thirtieth birthday. I

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Speaker 2: don't mean to you know, pooh poo on your parade,

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Speaker 2: but you know, I was walking by Ali's desk yesterday

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Speaker 2: and I said, what are you doing?

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Speaker 4: You look so busy. I am, give me a moment.

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Speaker 2: What I'm writing down the twenty most important things I've

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Speaker 2: learned so far in life.

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Speaker 4: Oh really wait wait, wait, you're blowing me off to

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Speaker 4: write this list.

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Speaker 2: I thought, well, this is a very very important list.

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Speaker 2: So tell me about how you crafted this list. What

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Speaker 2: were you thinking about and looking for to make this

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Speaker 2: this list of twenty things?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like so. I got the inspiration from

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Speaker 1: Taylor Swift did at thirty Things I Learned before I

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Speaker 1: turned thirty list for I think like Vogue or something,

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Speaker 1: And so I wanted to craft my own of like

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Speaker 1: things I've learned and just make sure I keep these

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Speaker 1: like lessons through life and like as I head into

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Speaker 1: my thirties. It's also just reminders for myself. So yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I wrote out twenty things.

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Speaker 4: Well, let's do it. Let's go down the list.

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Speaker 1: The first one, you do not need to be everyone's friend.

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Speaker 1: It's okay to make your circle smaller and with people.

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Speaker 1: You don't constantly need to try to prove yourself to amen.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely.

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Speaker 1: Number two, people aren't thinking about you as much as

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Speaker 4: Amen, very true.

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Speaker 1: Number three, Butterflies around a guy is usually just anxiety.

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Speaker 1: Ask yourself if you like them for their character or

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Speaker 1: if you're just waiting for a text back.

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Speaker 2: That's important, right, But you got a practice what you

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Speaker 2: preach on that one, because butterflies are so deceiving.

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Speaker 1: Okay, write down the things you love to do each

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Speaker 1: day and make sure you still do them when you

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Speaker 1: enter a new relationship. That I feel like I lost

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Speaker 1: myself in a lot of relationships, and that was like

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Speaker 1: something in the in the last few that I really

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Speaker 4: Very good.

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Speaker 1: Trust your gut, don't lose that gut feeling and listen

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Speaker 1: to it. It will save you time and heartache.

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Speaker 3: That's good.

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Speaker 4: Trusting your guts things.

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Speaker 1: Learn how to cook for yourself. You will save money

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Speaker 1: and your stomach feel so much better. Yeah, celebrate things.

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Speaker 1: Take the time to celebrate your accomplishments, even if it's

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Speaker 1: just the cheers with a friend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Amen.

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Speaker 1: If spray tans make you feel good, then get them.

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Speaker 5: Hell yeah, and you got one.

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Speaker 4: No, I didn't get one. This is a residual.

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Speaker 1: It was the lasting effect of last WEEKND one wall.

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Speaker 4: It looks good. But yeah, you know what.

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Speaker 2: In other words translation, it's not always self tanning. It's

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Speaker 2: like anything anything you can do for yourself, do it.

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Speaker 2: Just get to it right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly stretch. At twenty seven, I took a step

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Speaker 1: after spending so much money on peete, I was told

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Speaker 4: So very good advice. Is anyone else in your stretching?

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Speaker 4: You got to be stretching. Not enough, I don't think stretch.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes friends are only meant to be a season of

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Speaker 1: your life. It's okay to love, let go and move on.

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Speaker 2: Cheers so true, you know what. That takes a long

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Speaker 2: time for people to understand. And then when you started

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Speaker 2: to get in your thirties and then your forties and beyond,

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Speaker 2: people are like, how can you never call Well, you

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Speaker 2: never call me, you know. But also let's be honest,

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Speaker 2: I don't like you, you know people, Just because you

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Speaker 2: don't keep in touch with someone doesn't mean you don't

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Speaker 2: like them. But we just evolve, Our stories are evolving.

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Speaker 2: That's a very good point.

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Speaker 1: Thank you do a team sport. It's the best way

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Speaker 1: to make friends as an adult. I've been doing soccer

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Speaker 1: I've made so many friends doing it. There's a ton

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Speaker 1: of intramural teams across cities like all over the US,

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Speaker 1: so sign up for one. You could do bowling if

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Speaker 1: you're not like too sporty. It's a great way to

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Speaker 1: make friends and people with similar like mindset. It is

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Speaker 1: a sport, I said, if you're not, like, you know,

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Speaker 1: wanting to run up and down a field, exactly, Gosh.

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Speaker 2: Calm down, you don't even you don't even bowl a ball.

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Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I know, I've heard a bigger move on,

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Speaker 4: Move on, what do you have?

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Speaker 1: It's okay to say you don't know something. You don't

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Speaker 1: have to know everything, or to engage in a conversation.

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Speaker 1: You can always leave if you don't like your relationship,

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Speaker 1: the city you're in, it's okay to leave it behind

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about that being trapped. There's nothing worse than

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Speaker 2: feeling like you're trapped. If it's a job, it's a relationship,

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Speaker 2: it's a city, whatever. And sometimes you know, if you

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Speaker 2: I know it's more than that. But feeling trapped, if

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Speaker 2: you feel like you're a little trapped in something in life,

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Speaker 2: you got to find ways to deal with it and

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Speaker 4: But feeling trapped is a bad thing.

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Speaker 1: You're right, And I feel like I've always been like

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Speaker 1: a leaving is a sign of failure. And the truth

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Speaker 1: is like leaving was act like especially leaving relationships, like

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Speaker 1: I need to remind myself, like it's okay to leave,

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Speaker 5: I think it's actually a form of success to leave

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Speaker 5: something new, right, yep.

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Speaker 2: And also it's a okay and it's a sign of

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Speaker 2: but you because you know it's time to evolve.

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Speaker 1: Right, Yeah. Hang out with your parents. They're a lot

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Speaker 1: funnier than you think. There, you go spend money on

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Speaker 1: clothing pieces that will never go out of style and

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Speaker 1: thrift anything that's a fad. I feel like I spent

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Speaker 1: so I think I've learned to invest money in staples

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Speaker 1: thrifting as a way to get in on the fad. Okay,

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Speaker 1: don't use a flat iron on your hair. It will

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Speaker 1: slowly disappear over time.

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Speaker 4: So true.

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Speaker 1: Forgive yourself, whether it's something stupid you have me said

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Speaker 4: Right, it's called letting yourself off the hook.

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Speaker 1: Yes, take a month off from drinking and see how

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Speaker 1: you feel. It may change you for life. I did

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Speaker 1: that during the pandemic, and I feel like I've I

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Speaker 1: now am living a more sober life than drink And

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Speaker 1: it's really like helped me.

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Speaker 4: Was it really a nice reset for you?

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Speaker 1: Oh, COVID was one of the best, Like, it was

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Speaker 1: a great reset for me. I feel like I exercised,

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Speaker 1: time with my parents, Like when can I ever say

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Speaker 4: Nice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, stay out of the sun and take your vitamin

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Speaker 1: D pills very good.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, slip to the last one.

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Speaker 1: Wake up, drink water, breathe in and out deeply a

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Speaker 4: Ah, there you go. Those are great, Alley, those are

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Speaker 2: But you know, and just because you wrote them down

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Speaker 2: gotta like put it on every day. You gotta remind yourself, right,

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Speaker 2: the power of the word no. Can we start and

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Speaker 2: can we add to her list? Maybe if she wants

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Speaker 2: to the power of the word no. You sort of

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Speaker 2: able to say no to things is just a powerful,

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Speaker 2: wonderful way to take care of yourself.

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Speaker 5: I believe absolutely anyone else. It's a full sentence. You

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Speaker 5: don't need to give people a reason if you just

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Speaker 5: don't want to do something that can be reason enough.

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Speaker 4: You just say no.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like when you start in like the

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Speaker 1: work working place, like you just say Yesterday, me and

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Speaker 1: Gandhi were just talking about this. You say yes to everything,

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Speaker 1: Sometimes your mental health is worth a lot more than

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Speaker 1: the word yes.

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Speaker 4: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: Amen, that's a really great way to put it. Actually,

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Speaker 2: you know, just think of those things that you're doing

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Speaker 2: this weekend, for instance, which you maybe probably should have

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Speaker 2: said no to. I can think of a few well, no,

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Speaker 2: not really this weekend, but becoming next week. The busy

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Speaker 2: season has coming. This end of your thing is for everyone,

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Speaker 2: and a lot of party opportunities and opportunities to go

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Speaker 2: do this and do that are gonna come up, and

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Speaker 2: you're gonna go okay.

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Speaker 1: Sure.

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Speaker 4: Then you're like, oh god, what did I say yesterday?

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Speaker 4: Say no?

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Speaker 2: Now it's okay. It's gonna make your holidays go by

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Speaker 2: even better. Hey, it is your birthday. Should we celebrate

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Speaker 2: a little bit of here we go, bliz we okay,

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Speaker 2: sing it, here we go all together?

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Speaker 4: Now there's more.

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Speaker 6: Let the guys say, there's the ladies together. Oh my god,

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Speaker 6: it doesn't end.

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Speaker 4: Oh what more?

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Speaker 3: Hey a scratchy album.

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Speaker 6: Happy birthday for.

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Speaker 2: She's a John, a good fellow.

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Speaker 4: Is that true?

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Speaker 2: You've never been denied. I don't know. We love you, Ali,

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Speaker 2: and thank you, thank you for all you do. Thank you,

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Speaker 2: thank you for all you do for us. And happy birthday.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely guys, let's roll into the