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Speaker 1: It is a Strawberry letter subject, I am so sick

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Speaker 1: of my daughter. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm tired of motherhood. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: but I am no longer interested in being a mother.

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Speaker 1: I'm a twenty I am twenty eight years old, and

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Speaker 1: I have a five year old daughter that is disrespectful, obnoxious,

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Speaker 1: and a constant source of embarrassment in public. She is

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Speaker 1: out of control on a daily basis. Beating her behind

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Speaker 1: does not help, and I don't know what else to do.

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Speaker 1: I have tried many ways of disciplining her. Reverse psychology

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Speaker 1: and time out don't work on her. I can't seem

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Speaker 1: to get through to her without yelling and arguing. Why

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Speaker 1: am I arguing with a five year old? I recently

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Speaker 1: got divorced and my daughter and I live with my parents.

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Speaker 1: My child never had a great relationship with her dad

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Speaker 1: because he can't control her either. My parents see that

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Speaker 1: I have no control over her, and they try to

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Speaker 1: stay out of it as much as possible, but it's

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Speaker 1: hard to overlook her behavior. We have been to counseling

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Speaker 1: and the doctor suggested that I put her on medication.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to take that route yet. She will

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Speaker 1: start school soon and I want her to get it

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Speaker 1: together before then. I don't want her labeled as a

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Speaker 1: problem child or be medicated daily. I do have faith

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Speaker 1: in God, and I am hopeful that God will fix

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Speaker 1: it for me. What should I do? Help me? There's

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Speaker 1: a lot going on in this letter with a five

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Speaker 1: year old that's disrespectful, of noxious, in a constant source

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Speaker 1: of embarrassment in public. You said you just got divorced.

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Speaker 1: That could be a lot of why she's acting out,

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Speaker 1: because you know she misses her home situation with her

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Speaker 1: dad being there and all of that. But I do

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Speaker 1: get what you're saying. A lot of parents, every parent

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Speaker 1: gets tired at some point. It is understandable. What I

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Speaker 1: don't understand is why after you, after your ex. You

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Speaker 1: said your ex husband and even your parents couldn't control her,

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Speaker 1: So why don't you listen to the doctor. You took

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Speaker 1: her to a therapist, you took her to counseling, and

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Speaker 1: they suggested medication. He's a professional. I'm not discounting the

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Speaker 1: fact you say in your letter that you do have

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Speaker 1: faith in God and you're hopeful that God will fix

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Speaker 1: it for me. Well, of course, there's nothing too hard

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Speaker 1: for God. God can do anything. Nothing is impossible. Yes, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: God can fix everything. But please please know that there

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Speaker 1: are people on this earth that are working in their

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Speaker 1: God appointed gifts, their purpose. That means lawyers, that means pastors, teachers, journalists,

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Speaker 1: and yes, doctors, okay, doctors. So what should you do

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Speaker 1: you ask at the end of your letter. I think

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Speaker 1: you should listen to your doctors in this instance. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you don't know what's going on with your daughter. She

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Speaker 1: may have some sort of chemical and balance you don't know,

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Speaker 1: but the doctor is a professional. If you don't like

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Speaker 1: what he said, get a second opinion, get a third opinion.

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Speaker 1: You do want your daughter to go to school and

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Speaker 1: have a productive life and have a great life, so

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Speaker 1: you know she's going to start school soon. Uh, don't

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Speaker 1: just leave this up to chance. Continue this quest to

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Speaker 1: get your get your daughter the help that she so

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Speaker 1: rightfully needs and deserves. Steve, I don't know, I don't

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Speaker 1: know I'm talking about this ladding like this. First of all,

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Speaker 1: let me say this, Shirley Strawberry. Yeah, I think that

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Speaker 1: everything you said was absolutely one spot on. I could

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Speaker 1: not have given almost dignified. Therefore, I'm not gonna try.

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Speaker 1: So I want to just say before I start talking

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Speaker 1: that everything Shirley Strawberry just said, I concur one thousand

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Speaker 1: percent that are professional people that can help with this.

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Speaker 1: You should go to therapy. You should get all them doctors.

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Speaker 1: God la la la la la la la la finish.

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Speaker 1: He is the key to this whole thing. She is

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Speaker 1: out of control on a daily basis. Beat team hubby

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Speaker 1: behind does not help, and I don't know what else

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Speaker 1: to do. Well, let me introduce you to something. See

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Speaker 1: that beaten hubby behind. I bet this five year old

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Speaker 1: has not had an I lost Vera Harvey asked, woman,

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Speaker 1: See I've had and I lost Vera Harvey asked, whipping

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Speaker 1: That cured all my eels. Every time I produce one

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Speaker 1: hardheadedness talking back, I rolled it. Hump, What all that

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Speaker 1: stuff got? That all that got cuted? I only said

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Speaker 1: ain't saying hunted, my mama. Since what I'm I playing, Steve?

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Speaker 1: What I was playing basketball? I got caught up soon

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Speaker 1: as I said, and I tried to swallow that basketball.

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Speaker 1: The basketball, I tried to push it in my mouth,

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Speaker 1: lost vera Harvey a whipping? Yeah yeah, uh, I ain't

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Speaker 1: say that. Another ass whooping? Be home when the street

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Speaker 1: light come on? Street light, come on. I'm still down

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Speaker 1: vera Harvey ass whipping. I can't tell you how many times,

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Speaker 1: how many times I've had to take one. So this

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Speaker 1: fact that you have beat your child and it ain't help.

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Speaker 1: I disagree. I disagree all this counselor Shirley want to

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Speaker 1: send you to She's gone, and all this other stuff.

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Speaker 1: All that's good, but don't write me in talking about

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Speaker 1: a five you old. You can't control how you can't

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Speaker 1: control the five year olds? Don't you feed her? Why

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Speaker 1: she stayed? Who bought her clothes? Who do her hair?

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Speaker 1: H What if I control all that? I control you?

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Speaker 1: Timehouse don't work? How about you ain't eating today? What food?

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Speaker 1: Hard to fight when you're hungry? Five? I don't give

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Speaker 1: a damn it. She is five. She acts like she

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Speaker 1: fought it. She disrespectful. She ain't got no relationship with

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Speaker 1: this woman's father. She disrespecting him, disrespecting her. She don't

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Speaker 1: know what to do. She fit to send this fool

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Speaker 1: up to school. Now, you gotta teacher fit to deal

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Speaker 1: do all this with this five year old? Five? Take

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Speaker 1: this thirty year old ass whoop, and I bet you

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Speaker 1: will be five. You got a five year old that

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Speaker 1: the mama can't control. The daddy of the baby can't controller.

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Speaker 1: The parents see that the baby out of control. They're

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Speaker 1: trying to stay out of it. But the girl's behavior crazy.

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Speaker 1: The doctors want to put your baby on medication. You

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Speaker 1: don't want to go there. Well, what can we do

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Speaker 1: instead of medication? I have told you the lss VERA

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Speaker 1: Harvey ask whoop and academy has openings in it. I

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Speaker 1: can share with you the things my mama has done

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Speaker 1: a re enactment. Junior is the five year old. I

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Speaker 1: wonder why, why why do you ask? Okay, so Shirley, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna be the mama. Okay, I'm the grandfather. Oh,

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Speaker 1: because he lived in my house. That's right, So I'm

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Speaker 1: Shirley asked the baby to do so. All right, come

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Speaker 1: here so we can eat. I ain't hungry. Look, you

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Speaker 1: are hungry. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, Mama,

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Speaker 1: I'm not hungry. Hey, who are you raising your hand?

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Speaker 1: That little girl holding wait? Wait wait wait wait wait wait.

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Speaker 1: The boy said he ain't hungry. It's the girl. I'm

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Speaker 1: not junior for real. Yeah, the baby just like like, okay,

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Speaker 1: take two. All right, Keisha Keisha, coming in here and

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Speaker 1: I ain't hungry. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on,

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Speaker 1: hold on. Yeah, let me talk to him. Oh with

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Speaker 1: I would. Okay, cool, I bet you be hungry to morrow.

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Speaker 1: Why why I'm gonna be hungry to morrow? Because you

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna get a damn thing today. You don't run

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Speaker 1: the food in here? What did you just say to me,

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Speaker 1: you old man, don't run the food in here. We

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Speaker 1: sit back. This ain't even your house, Kisha. Know you

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Speaker 1: stop that. You don't talk to your granddad. I talk

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Speaker 1: to him and you like that? Oh my god, God? What? What? What? Two? What?

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Speaker 1: It's a couple of things you don't know. Five. First

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Speaker 1: of all, I make all the money in this house.

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Speaker 1: And that's real. That's playing in this skit and in

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Speaker 1: real life you understand that him. Now what I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to tell you, little Keisha, if you want to continue

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Speaker 1: to grow any taller, you're gonna watch your mouth. Get

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Speaker 1: respectful of your mama. I don't bought everything in this house.

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Speaker 1: You ain't getting another damn bite to eat till tomorrow. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what. It might not be that long

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Speaker 1: because you ain't gonna be here. What Keisha, don't talk

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Speaker 1: to your papa like that and take your hands off

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Speaker 1: your head. I ain't gotta do nothing. You tell me.

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Speaker 1: This is what I wants to do. Keisha, I am

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Speaker 1: your mother. Talk to me. That's under speculation. We ain't

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Speaker 1: show about that. I carried you for nine months. You

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Speaker 1: are mine. I ain't see it. What, Daddy, You're gonna

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Speaker 1: just stand there and let her talk to me like this? No,

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Speaker 1: I'm not let me madge something shilly, Yes, Daddy, No,

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Speaker 1: I'm just asking, Yes, Daddy, I need your p permission.

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Speaker 1: What is it? Daddy just asked me? Can I stomp debate?

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Speaker 1: You're gonna end up going to jail. Well, i'll tell

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Speaker 1: you what that may be very well the case I

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Speaker 1: be real respectful for our go dad. You know we've

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Speaker 1: tried whipping her behind, nothing worse. No, no, no, see,

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Speaker 1: I was listening to the radio show. Yes, Steve said

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Speaker 1: Daddy that we need to take him this little evil

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Speaker 1: health for Keisha to their lost Veria. Hardy ass whipping

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Speaker 1: a cat. I've never heard of that. What is that? Oh? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I know you ain't see that's why you're talking back

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Speaker 1: to everybody. Because your mama been putting you in time

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Speaker 1: out and sprank you. But you ain't never had what

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Speaker 1: you really needed because because Daddy, I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: raise her like you know we were raised. I just

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Speaker 1: wanted to try something new. Well you see what you got,

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Speaker 1: you don't you yes, I didn't want to beat her

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Speaker 1: and I got you. You doing once? Kisha? You stop

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Speaker 1: that right at five? Ain't got nothing to twork. I

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Speaker 1: can do what I wanted to be because I don't

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Speaker 1: believe in beating her. Miss Carlin, You're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: take mat Okay, don't beat the baby. Let me kis

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Speaker 1: you hi? Kish? You know what I'm gonna do? No

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Speaker 1: series of things? This is what you ain't heard? Rule

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Speaker 1: number one at the l Via Harvey as an academy.

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Speaker 1: Do you want to get slapped into next week? Well?

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Speaker 1: Booked me for thirsty. That's the same, ain't Tommy said?

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Speaker 1: And I'm glad you bought it up because your aunt's

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Speaker 1: gonna wake up to fry. You stopped that twerking. You

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Speaker 1: stopped that? Where'd you learn that from? You know you didn't.

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Speaker 1: I've learned from watching you. Okay, here we go, Shirley, Yes, daddy,

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Speaker 1: let me talk to a Keisha. Huh No. Item number

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Speaker 1: two at the Las Vir Harvey A whooping academy. You

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Speaker 1: ready for this? What is you're about to get? A

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Speaker 1: of I know you ain't see all this is stuff

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Speaker 1: are not. It's when I jerk you so hard, you

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Speaker 1: standing there looking like a pressle. I like my mama

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Speaker 1: dipent me this time. I know you like your mama did.

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Speaker 1: But were you going to the l V Harvey A

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Speaker 1: whooping Academy? Now we snatch and not send people right here,

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Speaker 1: and we send the kids off in the next week.

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