WEBVTT - Jason Biggs

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so today's introduction is kind of like a post introduction.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're coming at the end of the episode because

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<v Speaker 1>I fucked up in this episode. I fucked up. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't even introduce my next guest. We just were off

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<v Speaker 1>to the races, me and this brilliant man and his

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<v Speaker 1>brilliant mind, and I at the end of the episode

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<v Speaker 1>was like, shit, I didn't even introduce you. I, if

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<v Speaker 1>you can imagine, didn't even ask him who or what

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<v Speaker 1>he wants to say thanks to. Will never know spoiler,

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<v Speaker 1>We're never gonna know who or what my next guest

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<v Speaker 1>wants to say thanks to. But I can tell you

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<v Speaker 1>who my next guest is. I didn't do it in

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<v Speaker 1>front of them, didn't do this beautiful intro in front

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<v Speaker 1>of them, which would have been so delicious too. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing it now because that's what you, as the

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<v Speaker 1>listener deserve, that's what my guest deserves, and I demand justice.

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<v Speaker 1>I fucked up, and I'm the one who demanded justice.

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<v Speaker 1>How's that for versatility. My next guest is an actor

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<v Speaker 1>whose directorial debut, titled untitled Home Invasion Romance, is streaming

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<v Speaker 1>now on Hulu. My next guest spoiler is Jason Biggs.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a very good conversation that I think you

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<v Speaker 1>would enjoy. I certainly enjoyed myself, if that is not

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<v Speaker 1>obvious by the fact that I forgot to introduce him.

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<v Speaker 1>We just were you ever just off to the races.

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<v Speaker 1>We've skipped all the small talk and we got in there.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna enjoy it. I enjoyed it again. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't like this conversation, They're not gonna do that,

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<v Speaker 1>but you will like this conversation. I feel really confident. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>time for me to talk to Jason Biggs and you

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<v Speaker 1>to watch and or listen. Do you know that? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you know the Gucci main song where he goes I

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<v Speaker 1>think the song is Roland. I had never done drugs

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<v Speaker 1>and still then I've had marijuana before and a mushroom chocolate?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that really? It?

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<v Speaker 1>Is? That? Really? It? Yeah? Which is that sad? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you think I'm missing out?

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<v Speaker 2>Drugs are fun? Drugs are fun, but.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, I mean I kind of wish that I

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<v Speaker 3>lived my life in a in a more sort of

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<v Speaker 3>chill manner to the point where it's like, I, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I could do with mushroom chocolate here or there, smoke

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<v Speaker 3>a little weed and take it or leave it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>is that kind of your attitude with it?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm the exact opposite. I'm a sober alcoholic and

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<v Speaker 3>drug addict and I love drugs and alcohol.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and I up yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>They're fucking great when they served me well for a

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<v Speaker 3>long time because.

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<v Speaker 1>They did serve you well, yes say okay, yeah, yeah no, because.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it was you know you you it was

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<v Speaker 3>it helped me. I did not want to be present,

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<v Speaker 3>and I did not I wanted to ignore the bad

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<v Speaker 3>ship and have fun and.

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<v Speaker 2>And so yeah, no, it was. There's a you know,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a reason people get, you know, into them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you're good, you're good.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have until they're terrible?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? And that's like when it's like too much? Because

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<v Speaker 1>everything in moderation they serve, right.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what that's what that's what they say.

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<v Speaker 1>They who the who are they?

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<v Speaker 2>Who are they?

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<v Speaker 1>Yourselves?

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<v Speaker 2>I did not listen to them when I first partook

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<v Speaker 2>of drugs and alcohol and I went, I went flying

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<v Speaker 2>rolling the other direction.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's right, which I thought. He meant like, are

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<v Speaker 1>you coming with us? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm tagging along?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes the longest time, I mean fifteen years later, I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what, And now all the verses of the song

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<v Speaker 1>make sense. Do you have addicts in your family?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, in uh not in the you know, I think

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<v Speaker 3>it's that that that part of the brain that sort

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<v Speaker 3>of U that that that compulsive part of the brain

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<v Speaker 3>that is sort of I think there's a connection, whether

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<v Speaker 3>it's food or shopping, all the addiction. I'm sorry, sorry,

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<v Speaker 3>but there is a sorry Hollywood's Holly.

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<v Speaker 1>They literally don't ever call me. How do I get

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<v Speaker 1>them to call me? I'll tell them please reach out?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I I yeah, there's I mean, there's clearly like

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<v Speaker 3>a connection that part of the brain. I know, people

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<v Speaker 3>with food stuff and I even I have. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>for me, it's been whack a mole, Like I got

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<v Speaker 3>rid of drugs and alcohol, but it pops up in

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<v Speaker 3>other ways. I know when my brain starts getting into

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<v Speaker 3>that sort of space that could be a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>dangerous and it presents in different ways for me. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>so I have people in my family and my life

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<v Speaker 3>that it has reared its head in different ways and

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<v Speaker 3>at different points in their lives. So I recognize some

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<v Speaker 3>of those tendencies in other people in my life. But

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<v Speaker 3>I would say I'm the only person. I think that's

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<v Speaker 3>not true. I have a sibling who's sort of dealt

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<v Speaker 3>with it and addressed it, but yeah, I'm kind of

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<v Speaker 3>the one who's, like, you know, gone twelve step program.

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<v Speaker 3>And not to say that anyone else needs it, but

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<v Speaker 3>my version of my addiction had gotten too extreme for

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<v Speaker 3>me to be able to live my life in a

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<v Speaker 3>way that you know, I could be a good person, parent, friend,

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<v Speaker 3>et cetera.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, coworker, what have you?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you said that, like you can sense yourself when

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<v Speaker 1>the compulsions are arising, and you kind of know how

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<v Speaker 1>to get ahead of it. Now, So beyond the twelve

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<v Speaker 1>step program, what are other ways you sort of cope

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<v Speaker 1>and keep yourself centered rounded?

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<v Speaker 2>It's a great question, I am. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Uh, friends, Like you know, like fellowship is the sort

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<v Speaker 3>of the AA term, but like it is, it's a

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I first, I I first tried to get

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<v Speaker 3>sober My son is twelve and a half, so when

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<v Speaker 3>my wife was pregnant with him, so over thirteen years.

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<v Speaker 2>Ago, and.

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<v Speaker 3>I, uh, part of the reason why I couldn't stay

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<v Speaker 3>sober I kept relapsing is I would go to the AA,

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<v Speaker 3>I would go to meetings and stuff, but then I

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<v Speaker 3>would never First of all, I didn't yeah, I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>like get a sponsor or do the steps or any

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<v Speaker 3>of the sort of the quote unquote work. But also

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<v Speaker 3>the biggest thing was I wouldn't hang out with anybody

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<v Speaker 3>who who was like minded or had was going through

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<v Speaker 3>a similar thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd go to the meetings and.

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<v Speaker 3>People would come up to me and say hello and

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<v Speaker 3>try to you know, hey, let's hang out, you want

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<v Speaker 3>my number, whatever, But I was so like hat down

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<v Speaker 3>hood up, kind of in the back, you know, would

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<v Speaker 3>leave before the very end, so I didn't have to

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<v Speaker 3>engage with anybody.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just very you know.

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<v Speaker 3>It was the same reason I I my drinking and

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<v Speaker 3>drugging got so bad. Partly was because I isolates. That

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<v Speaker 3>was sort of my Yeah, I would I would just

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<v Speaker 3>sort of retreat inward. Yeah, And I kept doing that

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<v Speaker 3>even when I first tried to get sober and so naturally,

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<v Speaker 3>I just continued to relapse and.

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<v Speaker 2>It didn't work for me. So yeah, so call somebody.

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<v Speaker 3>I call, you know, if I feel myself getting squirrely,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I'll I'll call another alcoholic or even just

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<v Speaker 3>a friend. Yeah, there's someone I can could just get

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<v Speaker 3>out of my own space. Ask somebody else how they're doing.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me hear your story, tell me, because you know

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<v Speaker 3>what perspective is important and like it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's just not all about me. That's the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>When I'm drinking and drugging, it's just all about me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, I care about anyone else or anything else.

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to focus on myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's easy to get in that space for I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like even a non alcoholic, there's so much in

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<v Speaker 1>there's it's yeah, to isolate and to especially this.

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<v Speaker 2>Day, especially now, because we all have a new drug.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it this drug?

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<v Speaker 2>It is that drug.

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<v Speaker 1>Hollywood is not calling me, but this drug it's.

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<v Speaker 3>Still there's there's still some some highs you can get.

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<v Speaker 2>It's from that little device.

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<v Speaker 1>It's true. I just moved my last night before bed.

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<v Speaker 1>I have not gotten text notifications and they've not been

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<v Speaker 1>on on my phone in prop I'm gonna say eleven years.

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<v Speaker 2>And is that all the time I go or just

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<v Speaker 2>at night like you said all the time?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow? No, So like I you.

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<v Speaker 3>Have to go actively to your text message app to see,

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<v Speaker 3>oh who's checking out?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, like the red bubble would give me anxiety. So

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<v Speaker 1>like there's been eleven years no notifications. But the problem

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<v Speaker 1>is now I know I need to go to my

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<v Speaker 1>text messaging app to see who's texted, and I can

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<v Speaker 1>do that compulsively, right, So like it really worked for

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<v Speaker 1>a while, and then of course my brain adjusted and

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<v Speaker 1>is like, well, now we'll just be going to text.

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<v Speaker 1>So last night it didn't even occur to me. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you can move that text messaging app from

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<v Speaker 1>the top left corner. It's the number one. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm putting it on page four of my homepage. And

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<v Speaker 1>then I'm going to this notification center and saying, do

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<v Speaker 1>not even suggest I opened this, and while we're here,

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<v Speaker 1>don't suggest I open Instagram either.

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<v Speaker 2>And while we're also here, stop yelling at me, yeah phone, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>tell me what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>And then shaming my own Yeah, imagine I bought you. You

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<v Speaker 1>just supposed to serve me, and you're gonna shame me

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<v Speaker 1>every Sunday and tell me your phone use this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, you're up twenty seven percent from last week.

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<v Speaker 2>That possible, But I didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't do this this week, and I didn't open

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<v Speaker 1>that up this week. And I'm like, I didn't imagine

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<v Speaker 1>this little shaming device we have. But I do think

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<v Speaker 1>fellowship is so important and it's something that I it's

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<v Speaker 1>so easy to forget and neglect. And again, because we

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<v Speaker 1>have these devices and we all have the things that

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<v Speaker 1>are that we ruminate on, it's it's so easy to isolate.

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<v Speaker 1>But I find it really interesting. So tell me if

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<v Speaker 1>I misinterpreted this moment. When you said fellowship, there was

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<v Speaker 1>this kind of sort of like indication from you nonverbally

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<v Speaker 1>that it's cheesy, that like the word is cheesy, like's

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<v Speaker 1>what we say and A did you feel that.

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<v Speaker 2>A little bit? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>And also I think I was cringing a little because

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<v Speaker 3>I was trying to sort of get away from sort

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<v Speaker 3>of give you an example that was separate from the

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<v Speaker 3>grant from AA in the program. And then but the

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<v Speaker 3>word fellowship is very program centric, so I was I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, oh, fellowship, but but friendship friends people other people,

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<v Speaker 3>the idea being.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just not all about you.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you can give yourself, give your time to

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<v Speaker 3>someone else and and ask questions and you know, like

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<v Speaker 3>it's it's doesn't have to be another alcoholic, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>just like get out of this for this is this is,

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<v Speaker 3>this wants to bring me down.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so crazy, little enemy inside you wild and I

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<v Speaker 1>there's been times when I've been down myself and I go,

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<v Speaker 1>what am I gonna do? What am I going to do?

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<v Speaker 1>And because you know, I'll probably shop impulsively, and they

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<v Speaker 1>make it way too easy, too easy, too easy Apple pay,

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<v Speaker 1>the game of paying for things. I'm like, that's real money.

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<v Speaker 1>That's real. Wait it is, Jason, you might be in

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<v Speaker 1>a ship ton of.

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<v Speaker 3>Debt the Apple Apple Pay that's like mono money. It

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<v Speaker 3>even has tips and not believe Apple.

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<v Speaker 1>It's real money. It's real money. That little thing like

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<v Speaker 1>that's money coming out of your bank account. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry to break this to you. They make you,

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<v Speaker 1>they make you forget.

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<v Speaker 2>It really is really is crazy.

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<v Speaker 3>And even the places they they've taken my addiction to Instagram,

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<v Speaker 3>for example, and they've layered in my addiction to shopping

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<v Speaker 3>in there, They're like, you know, this guy is an addict.

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<v Speaker 2>He's on me all the time Instagram saying this, he's

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<v Speaker 2>on me all the time. I bet you, Hey, other

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<v Speaker 2>drugs come here?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey so true?

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<v Speaker 3>You want to Hey, bet you he'll shop on this.

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<v Speaker 3>I bet you give him one little pop up ad.

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<v Speaker 3>I bet you he'll buy it. I bet you this

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<v Speaker 3>will buy a fuck.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I think I'm half of my outfit

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<v Speaker 3>is Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram. Well it's funny because when you came in and

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<v Speaker 1>this is no judgment, and you were like, are those

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<v Speaker 1>the Alaiyah ballet flats? I have to I have to

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<v Speaker 1>ask how did you know? Because I did grapple with

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<v Speaker 1>get the Alaya ballet flats? Or get these? Stad are these?

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<v Speaker 2>But but they look gere, I love I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I just something about the construction shape is better from.

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<v Speaker 2>My foot, but but they look awesome.

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<v Speaker 1>If did you know.

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<v Speaker 2>About the ballet flats? That's great question? Uh? Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>am married. I mean I have you know a.

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<v Speaker 3>Wife who who who I believe also has a pair

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<v Speaker 3>of Aliyah balant Okay, so I also have an appreciation

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<v Speaker 3>for fashion, Like I am not particularly fashionable, but I

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<v Speaker 3>appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 2>I certainly appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think I used to be something that I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't fully understand or care about for the longest time.

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<v Speaker 3>And again current outfit doesn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Well we have Instagram to think for that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, But I do appreciate some

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<v Speaker 3>of the nicer thing, you know. It's it's there are

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<v Speaker 3>certain things I go, really, who could spend them? But

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<v Speaker 3>then I've found myself, you know, like indulging in certain

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<v Speaker 3>you know, pieces, wardrobe pieces.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, that actually is really cool. I do see it.

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<v Speaker 2>It does make I get it.

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<v Speaker 3>I get it when you're and then people are like,

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<v Speaker 3>well just get the like you know, the other version

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<v Speaker 3>thing again but something, but it is again it's a

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<v Speaker 3>it's the psychology of branding and luxury that like sort

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<v Speaker 3>of but for me, I mean, I yeah, I I

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<v Speaker 3>am you know, I still I love a deal real real,

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<v Speaker 3>shout out real real, shout out real real.

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<v Speaker 2>There you go, shout out real real.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, yeah, and but but yeah, I I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>I just I don't know why. I I just also

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<v Speaker 3>like I'm also kind of I do say I'm I

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<v Speaker 3>will say that I'm hyper aware of of stuff that happens,

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<v Speaker 3>Like in terms of trends and stuff, I'm fascinated by

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<v Speaker 3>trends and like who's wearing what and why not to

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<v Speaker 3>say that I'm on there. I'm always behind, like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>personally in behind, but I'm like aware of it in

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<v Speaker 3>pop culture, and I've noticed that the Eliyah ballet flats

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<v Speaker 3>have been a really big thing and I and I

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<v Speaker 3>happen to really like them. There are some trends that

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I don't get that one so much. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't quite know why, like the like the another one

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<v Speaker 3>seemingly currently you tell me it goes like the the

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<v Speaker 3>the flip flop heel, the heel flip, you know, like

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<v Speaker 3>the the what do you call it?

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<v Speaker 1>The thong thong sandalo, the heel, the heel with the heel.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you know what I mean is that currently kind

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<v Speaker 2>of a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a healed tho sandal.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a heel.

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<v Speaker 3>Thonged sandal that like you know, the you know that

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<v Speaker 3>you know, you've say Laurent has a pair or like whoever,

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<v Speaker 3>like the nicer and I'm just like, I don't see it,

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<v Speaker 3>you don't see it.

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<v Speaker 1>And okay, just so I can imagine it correctly because.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe it's not a trend if you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Do a lot of online shop. I do a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of it. So I've seen the it's a high, I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen the high heel. Yeah, I has one that's like

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<v Speaker 1>a high.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe Aliah has. I feel like it's a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people kind of have.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you don't like a heel thong stand of why

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<v Speaker 1>what is yours?

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't like the silhouette for some reason. It doesn't.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't. It's not aesthetically appealing to me. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm a foot guy?

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<v Speaker 1>Your foot? Are you on Wiki feet a lot? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not lie, you fucking liar, guilty as fuck. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever looked at your Wiki feet rating?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'm honestly I mean this. I'm not on Wiki feet,

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<v Speaker 3>but I do need to. I'm gonna check it out.

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<v Speaker 1>You're a guy, do you kiss feet? Your wife's of course? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>your kids kids? Of course? That maybe makes that makes sense,

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<v Speaker 1>it's pure, But like you're you're into feet for real?

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<v Speaker 2>I like that. I appreciate feet.

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<v Speaker 3>I think feet can be sexy each but I also

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<v Speaker 3>think feet oh no, no, shame listen. You can't, but

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<v Speaker 3>know no shame, no judgment. I bring it. You judge

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<v Speaker 3>the funk out of me. I don't care, no, but

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<v Speaker 3>like I in the same way that I like good feet,

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<v Speaker 3>I also am like, oh.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're walking around New York City and.

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<v Speaker 2>Close that toe, close that toe shoe. You need some clothes,

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<v Speaker 2>toe shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>You've thought this while walking past someone in the city.

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<v Speaker 1>It seemed like, yeah, closed.

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<v Speaker 2>To like rocket closed, it's time for you to start

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<v Speaker 2>rocking close.

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<v Speaker 1>Are your feet, by the way, they're okay?

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<v Speaker 2>The Pican Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm a many petty guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh really, manny as well? Clear polish no polish.

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<v Speaker 3>No polish many less so because I can kind, I

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<v Speaker 3>can do a fairly decent I.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask you something.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to see my feet?

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<v Speaker 1>No? Sorry, but now that you've offered, yes, he's offered,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>They're okay. They're not like down, they're fine.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they're they're fine. I wouldn't see that foot and

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<v Speaker 1>go put it away, right, but you wouldn't see and

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<v Speaker 1>that's her foot. I used to be a ballerina, so okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you can imagine. Yeah, sure, mine are little. I think

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<v Speaker 1>they're good for I quit just in time.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you know, I quit Permanent MGE.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I ran a half marathon and that created

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<v Speaker 1>its own damage.

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<v Speaker 2>One half marathon, the.

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<v Speaker 1>Training, the wrong size shoe, et cetera. So whatever, But yes,

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<v Speaker 1>your nails. What I wanted to see is if there

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<v Speaker 1>was dirt under them.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I keep and it's earlier day. Yeah, yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 3>pretty sure. I don't feel like there's dirt cavities.

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<v Speaker 1>I do want to ask this dumb ass question that

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<v Speaker 1>I ask. I find myself wanting to ask people in

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<v Speaker 1>conversation while claiming I don't care or know anything about it.

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<v Speaker 1>What is your sign?

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<v Speaker 2>What is my sign? I saw you? Ask Will Ferrell.

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<v Speaker 1>I've asked everybody. Yeah, I see, Like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but what's your's?

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<v Speaker 2>Funny when he was doing this and.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like what that? It really wasn't coming to me.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm a Taurus.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I'm scared of you?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you bull? Bulls? I'm a Pisces.

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<v Speaker 3>Pisces okay, fish fish, I forget the compatibility you did?

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<v Speaker 2>How was it?

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<v Speaker 1>It went really poorly? Okay, remarkably poorly. I guess I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen I just watched it like crazy Netflix documentary called

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<v Speaker 1>a Toxic Love Story, So I want to did you

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<v Speaker 1>see that? We gotta talk. We're getting into that.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait wait wait wait wait wait wait that's hold on,

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<v Speaker 3>hold on, hold on Toxic Love Story.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait no, I haven't. It's cue.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's like top of my list. It was the

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<v Speaker 3>one I watched, the one there was another. Okay, never mind, No,

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't seen yet.

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<v Speaker 2>Is amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really good. It's really good. Here's the thing. If

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<v Speaker 1>you've seen it, it's a little scary, but not like

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<v Speaker 1>don't watch it at night scary. I mean, maybe don't

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<v Speaker 1>watch it. I watched it on the morning on a

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<v Speaker 1>train from Maryland to New York. Okay, so I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>have felt safer. And I happened to be next to

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<v Speaker 1>a woman who's from Orange County and the documentary takes

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<v Speaker 1>place in Orange County. So I kept wanting to be like, man,

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<v Speaker 1>kis mitt is that you just don't hear from Orange

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<v Speaker 1>County and this crazy shit's taking place where you're from.

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<v Speaker 1>But I say this, why did I tell you this?

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<v Speaker 1>Why did I tell you this?

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<v Speaker 2>I can just think, Okay, you want to take.

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<v Speaker 1>Me, what's up? Okay, No, that is not to reject

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<v Speaker 1>you and go.

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<v Speaker 2>Perfect first.

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<v Speaker 1>What is your perfect first state? I'm being knotic. I

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<v Speaker 1>had coffee, y'all. He understands that I don't coffee, another

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<v Speaker 1>thing I claim I don't really do. But every episode

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I had coffee today. I don't think I

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<v Speaker 1>have self awareness. Maybe think like I'm thinking about an

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<v Speaker 1>old version of me.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, actually I do that sometimes too. I know

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<v Speaker 3>what you mean by that. It's like you're kind of

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<v Speaker 3>you're You're like, oh, this is who I am, but

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<v Speaker 3>then you realize that actually I.

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<v Speaker 2>Haven't been that person in ten years. Yeah, that happens

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<v Speaker 2>a lot to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it's crazy, But I was going to say that

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<v Speaker 1>it's gone so poorly, that that relationship had gone so poorly,

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<v Speaker 1>and I would say like crazy times. And then i

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<v Speaker 1>watch a documentary like a Toxic love Story.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like, Okay, actually I should have married.

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<v Speaker 1>Him for it, and then I'd be a star, and

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<v Speaker 1>then Hollywood would call fucking finally and make a documentary

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<v Speaker 1>about me in my awful relationship. There you go, what

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<v Speaker 1>is your what is your Who do you get along

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<v Speaker 1>with as a tourist? You in your experience?

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<v Speaker 2>Good question?

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<v Speaker 3>I I know I have a Virgos have been a

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<v Speaker 3>weird presence in my life, good and bad, just a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of them. Some of the most heated, intense relationships

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<v Speaker 3>in my life have been virgos.

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<v Speaker 2>For whatever that's worth.

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't checked the charts and sort of under I

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<v Speaker 3>don't understand it. I can't analyze that. I can just

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<v Speaker 3>tell you as a matter of you know, anecdotally that

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<v Speaker 3>I've had weird shit with virgos.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, or intense intense stuff, memorable relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>Aful way to put it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, for better or for worse. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>My wife was a Gemini, and you know a lot

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<v Speaker 3>that there's geminis have been in my life.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm quite a geminis.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of Geminis in my life too.

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<v Speaker 2>You're with a geminis with a GEMI yeah, dating, like dating.

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<v Speaker 1>One of my closest friends is a Gemini. I know

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<v Speaker 1>where my brother is a Gemini. I know people are

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like when they hear Gemini, that's one of

0:22:26.440 --> 0:22:29.560
<v Speaker 1>the science people go oh no, no, yes too, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like they're fine by me.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like Taurus is okay.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like most people no, I feel like for you,

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<v Speaker 3>except for you, I feel like I've mostly been accepted.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, really, but stubborn, loyal and listen.

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<v Speaker 2>What else? What bad things? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>The stubborn because is double edged sword there, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like planting the flag and being unmovable. Not great, But

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<v Speaker 1>I can stubborn. So maybe me and a stubborn Taurus

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship would That's there? You have it there? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>a big problem.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but loyal, what a beautiful trait to have. May

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<v Speaker 1>I ask what you think your worst quality is? No, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, next question.

0:23:21.720 --> 0:23:24.360
<v Speaker 2>My worst quality? God?

0:23:26.800 --> 0:23:29.720
<v Speaker 1>Or what someone who really loves you, a parent might say.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm assuming your parents really love you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, they they definitely love me.

0:23:36.359 --> 0:23:39.680
<v Speaker 3>What's my what's my my worst quality?

0:23:39.760 --> 0:23:40.520
<v Speaker 1>What they would say?

0:23:40.640 --> 0:23:41.760
<v Speaker 2>What they would say?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I can kind of and it's again, it's

0:23:47.560 --> 0:23:51.520
<v Speaker 3>something I've worked on, continue to work on, and I'm

0:23:51.640 --> 0:23:54.359
<v Speaker 3>better about it in sobriety. But I can kind of

0:23:54.400 --> 0:23:55.919
<v Speaker 3>fall off the map a little bit. I think my

0:23:55.920 --> 0:23:58.600
<v Speaker 3>parents would especially say right now, my parents, you know,

0:23:58.840 --> 0:24:01.280
<v Speaker 3>I'm going through a lot. But I think in general,

0:24:01.480 --> 0:24:03.480
<v Speaker 3>my mom especially, I feel like all moms though to

0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:04.600
<v Speaker 3>an extent be like, where'd you go?

0:24:04.680 --> 0:24:07.800
<v Speaker 2>I haven't heard from you. I can definitely fall off.

0:24:08.000 --> 0:24:10.720
<v Speaker 3>I can fall off the map, though I get anxiety

0:24:10.840 --> 0:24:16.439
<v Speaker 3>even like it was just Instagram showed me my algorithm

0:24:16.560 --> 0:24:20.520
<v Speaker 3>showed me a post about how like certain people, even

0:24:20.880 --> 0:24:27.360
<v Speaker 3>responding to text messages can feel really heavy, like like

0:24:28.320 --> 0:24:32.640
<v Speaker 3>anxiety inducing. It feels like a chore, feels like a thing.

0:24:32.680 --> 0:24:37.040
<v Speaker 3>And it was this particular post was was the angle

0:24:37.280 --> 0:24:40.040
<v Speaker 3>the way it analyzed that. It was saying its theory

0:24:40.320 --> 0:24:44.240
<v Speaker 3>was that for people who you know, dealt with a

0:24:44.280 --> 0:24:50.480
<v Speaker 3>lot of emotional you know, weight growing up or historically,

0:24:50.520 --> 0:24:55.520
<v Speaker 3>I've had you know, trauma or any just pressure, lots

0:24:55.520 --> 0:25:00.600
<v Speaker 3>of pressure, and that even responding that you just I

0:25:00.840 --> 0:25:02.960
<v Speaker 3>don't want a deal and you put too much pressure

0:25:03.000 --> 0:25:07.639
<v Speaker 3>on every little response and every and you get you know,

0:25:07.760 --> 0:25:10.440
<v Speaker 3>I'll see like one text message and then a second

0:25:10.480 --> 0:25:12.960
<v Speaker 3>one will come through, and there's a certain group of

0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:15.560
<v Speaker 3>people that are like, oh it's easy, yeah, no problem whatever,

0:25:15.640 --> 0:25:19.080
<v Speaker 3>And then there's others that just like.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, oh oh god, I don't know how to respond.

0:25:21.040 --> 0:25:22.720
<v Speaker 3>I don't I'll get back to it, and then like

0:25:22.760 --> 0:25:24.639
<v Speaker 3>a week goes by and I forget and DA and

0:25:24.680 --> 0:25:25.800
<v Speaker 3>then the stress gets even more.

0:25:27.560 --> 0:25:29.680
<v Speaker 2>It's a text message. It's a fucking text message.

0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:31.879
<v Speaker 3>It's not even a phone call. I mean, forgetting a

0:25:31.880 --> 0:25:34.520
<v Speaker 3>phone call. Forget it, you know. But again this goes

0:25:34.560 --> 0:25:37.639
<v Speaker 3>back to fellowship too. For me, it's like I need

0:25:37.680 --> 0:25:40.119
<v Speaker 3>to I need to force myself to pick up the

0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:42.280
<v Speaker 3>phone and call. I need to force myself to respond.

0:25:42.320 --> 0:25:45.080
<v Speaker 3>But there is some sort of like there is a

0:25:45.160 --> 0:25:47.639
<v Speaker 3>real anxiety that can happen for me, even when it

0:25:47.640 --> 0:25:49.439
<v Speaker 3>comes to just returning a text message.

0:25:49.440 --> 0:25:53.439
<v Speaker 2>It's it's pretty wild and and uh, yeah, why did

0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:54.080
<v Speaker 2>I get on that? Yeah?

0:25:54.119 --> 0:25:55.960
<v Speaker 3>Because I could fall off the map. I could fall

0:25:56.000 --> 0:25:58.600
<v Speaker 3>That's that's one thing. I mean, listen, there's there's there's

0:25:58.680 --> 0:26:02.280
<v Speaker 3>lots of things. I will say that one of my

0:26:02.480 --> 0:26:04.000
<v Speaker 3>better traits, I think.

0:26:04.000 --> 0:26:06.160
<v Speaker 1>Which I was gonna ask, of course, is.

0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:16.080
<v Speaker 3>Now especially trying to look inward and and and change

0:26:16.119 --> 0:26:19.199
<v Speaker 3>the things, be open to changing the things about me

0:26:19.720 --> 0:26:22.719
<v Speaker 3>that I don't like or other people don't like. And

0:26:22.800 --> 0:26:26.840
<v Speaker 3>so I'm kind of even just currently in that process,

0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:31.800
<v Speaker 3>you know, I'm you know, why I do certain relationships

0:26:31.800 --> 0:26:32.720
<v Speaker 3>work and others don't.

0:26:32.800 --> 0:26:35.400
<v Speaker 2>What is it about? I have some role in everything?

0:26:35.680 --> 0:26:36.680
<v Speaker 2>We all have some.

0:26:37.119 --> 0:26:41.800
<v Speaker 3>Role in everything right, and like, you know, our couple

0:26:41.920 --> 0:26:44.040
<v Speaker 3>therapists used to say all the time, it's like it

0:26:44.400 --> 0:26:47.280
<v Speaker 3>takes two people to fight, Like there's no A fight

0:26:47.400 --> 0:26:51.800
<v Speaker 3>does not happen unless both of you participate. Someone might

0:26:51.840 --> 0:26:55.720
<v Speaker 3>have started it, but you both engage. So what is

0:26:55.760 --> 0:26:58.399
<v Speaker 3>your partner? Another thing in AA is, you know, is

0:26:58.480 --> 0:27:00.399
<v Speaker 3>keeping your side of the street clean. That's one of

0:27:00.440 --> 0:27:01.760
<v Speaker 3>those many AA.

0:27:01.480 --> 0:27:06.040
<v Speaker 1>Express is your lawyer sober, I don't know, no, no,

0:27:06.080 --> 0:27:08.520
<v Speaker 1>I've had drinks with her. Well that doesn't mean she's.

0:27:08.800 --> 0:27:09.919
<v Speaker 3>But it is one of the there's a lot of

0:27:09.960 --> 0:27:12.720
<v Speaker 3>like AA expressions, you know, and they're like if you

0:27:12.720 --> 0:27:14.359
<v Speaker 3>go into a meeting, there's a lot of the rooms

0:27:14.359 --> 0:27:16.000
<v Speaker 3>will have they'll be like on the wall, and you're like.

0:27:15.920 --> 0:27:17.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh god, it's so cheesy.

0:27:17.040 --> 0:27:18.680
<v Speaker 3>This is when when I first started like, oh god,

0:27:18.720 --> 0:27:23.480
<v Speaker 3>these these little sayings are so fucking cheesy and lame,

0:27:23.560 --> 0:27:27.320
<v Speaker 3>but they're so spot on once you sort of again

0:27:27.480 --> 0:27:29.320
<v Speaker 3>sort of give in, let go and just sort of

0:27:29.359 --> 0:27:31.520
<v Speaker 3>embrace it, and you go, oh yeah, that makes a

0:27:31.560 --> 0:27:32.159
<v Speaker 3>lot of sense.

0:27:32.240 --> 0:27:32.439
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:27:32.920 --> 0:27:35.960
<v Speaker 3>One of them is keeping your side of the street clean.

0:27:36.000 --> 0:27:38.679
<v Speaker 3>It's like you can't control what other people do or say,

0:27:39.040 --> 0:27:42.240
<v Speaker 3>how they act. You can control how you respond, how

0:27:42.320 --> 0:27:45.160
<v Speaker 3>you move forward from there, how you act, what you say,

0:27:45.800 --> 0:27:50.480
<v Speaker 3>and you know, just taking accountability. And so I think

0:27:50.520 --> 0:27:52.320
<v Speaker 3>for a long time, I did not want to take

0:27:52.320 --> 0:27:55.080
<v Speaker 3>accountability for a long time, and I still this is

0:27:55.119 --> 0:27:57.879
<v Speaker 3>a habit that I still, i think, engage in, but

0:27:57.960 --> 0:28:00.479
<v Speaker 3>I'm aware of it now. So it's kind of like

0:28:00.640 --> 0:28:02.879
<v Speaker 3>it's still a bad quality of mine. Is Yeah, I

0:28:02.920 --> 0:28:06.560
<v Speaker 3>want to point a finger, what did you do to me?

0:28:06.800 --> 0:28:06.960
<v Speaker 2>How?

0:28:07.119 --> 0:28:10.680
<v Speaker 3>You know, victim mentality? Right, Like, you know, even if

0:28:10.720 --> 0:28:15.919
<v Speaker 3>it's my parents, my parents fucked up, sure, right, but

0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:19.280
<v Speaker 3>like I can continue to point the finger at them

0:28:19.560 --> 0:28:23.080
<v Speaker 3>and continue to sort of blame them for reasons for

0:28:23.160 --> 0:28:25.920
<v Speaker 3>things that I do and say. Now, but I'm forty

0:28:25.960 --> 0:28:30.680
<v Speaker 3>eight years old, that's really it's a certain point, a

0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:33.880
<v Speaker 3>certain point I have to, you know. And also as

0:28:33.920 --> 0:28:35.720
<v Speaker 3>a parent now I also you know, there is of

0:28:35.760 --> 0:28:38.760
<v Speaker 3>course a bit of like, you know, we're all going

0:28:38.840 --> 0:28:41.560
<v Speaker 3>to fuck up, and there is an element of you

0:28:41.600 --> 0:28:43.440
<v Speaker 3>do the best that you can, and maybe your best

0:28:43.480 --> 0:28:48.280
<v Speaker 3>wasn't that great, maybe my best will be better. But like, yeah,

0:28:48.320 --> 0:28:50.360
<v Speaker 3>you weren't trying to hurt me, You didn't try to

0:28:50.360 --> 0:28:52.680
<v Speaker 3>you didn't consciously make a decision to say this is

0:28:52.680 --> 0:28:57.120
<v Speaker 3>going to hurt that person. But yeah, so anyway, so

0:28:57.680 --> 0:29:01.640
<v Speaker 3>taking accountability. I had a hard time doing that, you know,

0:29:01.800 --> 0:29:03.920
<v Speaker 3>And I was quick to blame other people. And I

0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:09.400
<v Speaker 3>think that's still that's still something I instinctively go to do.

0:29:09.600 --> 0:29:12.520
<v Speaker 3>But I'm better at saying, hold on, I must have

0:29:12.880 --> 0:29:15.640
<v Speaker 3>what is my part in this? Yeah, also because blaming

0:29:15.760 --> 0:29:19.360
<v Speaker 3>is just it's like, yeah, I'm just realizing more and

0:29:19.400 --> 0:29:22.400
<v Speaker 3>more like I've got to own my own no one's

0:29:23.720 --> 0:29:27.560
<v Speaker 3>I Yeah, it doesn't get me anywhere. It hasn't gotten

0:29:27.600 --> 0:29:32.040
<v Speaker 3>me anywhere. Resentment, at least the resentment I resent you

0:29:32.080 --> 0:29:33.840
<v Speaker 3>because I feel like this is your fault. You did

0:29:33.880 --> 0:29:36.200
<v Speaker 3>this to me. Why didn't you help me, Why didn't

0:29:36.280 --> 0:29:38.600
<v Speaker 3>you do this for me? Why do you do this

0:29:38.640 --> 0:29:43.480
<v Speaker 3>to me? And it's like resentment another great AA expression resentment.

0:29:44.440 --> 0:29:48.600
<v Speaker 3>Having resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other

0:29:48.680 --> 0:29:49.200
<v Speaker 3>person to.

0:29:49.200 --> 0:29:53.960
<v Speaker 1>Die like that.

0:29:53.960 --> 0:29:54.480
<v Speaker 2>That's good.

0:29:54.720 --> 0:29:58.800
<v Speaker 3>Another resentment saying that I love please please. Expectations are

0:29:58.840 --> 0:30:00.280
<v Speaker 3>resentments under construc diction.

0:30:01.760 --> 0:30:03.760
<v Speaker 1>That one I haven't heard, and I'm gonna put that

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:06.240
<v Speaker 1>in my back pocket. That's a good one.

0:30:06.760 --> 0:30:11.440
<v Speaker 2>That's really Expectations can kill you. It's like, you know what,

0:30:11.560 --> 0:30:15.040
<v Speaker 2>I Yeah, my wife and I that was a big

0:30:15.080 --> 0:30:15.640
<v Speaker 2>one for us.

0:30:15.960 --> 0:30:16.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:30:16.800 --> 0:30:19.360
<v Speaker 3>Wow wow, Like I think you're you kind of have

0:30:19.440 --> 0:30:23.720
<v Speaker 3>a preconceived You're like, this is what he or what she.

0:30:25.360 --> 0:30:26.840
<v Speaker 2>Should do in this situation.

0:30:27.240 --> 0:30:29.800
<v Speaker 3>Or I'm going to say something and I know what

0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:31.880
<v Speaker 3>they should say to me to make me feel better,

0:30:32.000 --> 0:30:33.720
<v Speaker 3>or I know how they should react based on what

0:30:33.760 --> 0:30:35.680
<v Speaker 3>they tell them, And when that doesn't happen, you go.

0:30:37.080 --> 0:30:38.720
<v Speaker 2>What what that's not how?

0:30:38.760 --> 0:30:42.520
<v Speaker 3>It's like, well, that's why did you expect her respond

0:30:42.560 --> 0:30:44.360
<v Speaker 3>differently the way you would have responded?

0:30:44.400 --> 0:30:44.840
<v Speaker 2>You're not her.

0:30:45.040 --> 0:30:48.479
<v Speaker 1>Imagine imagine understanding that everyone is their own person and

0:30:48.520 --> 0:30:52.240
<v Speaker 1>having their own experience and coming at any given experience

0:30:52.600 --> 0:30:56.440
<v Speaker 1>with all of their stuff. Yeah, imagine imagine that they

0:30:56.440 --> 0:30:59.440
<v Speaker 1>don't really teach you. You learn it hopefully as you

0:30:59.480 --> 0:31:02.440
<v Speaker 1>grow up. But I'm like, that'll be useful. Teach me

0:31:02.560 --> 0:31:04.800
<v Speaker 1>that and how to balance a check book in school?

0:31:04.880 --> 0:31:07.360
<v Speaker 2>Yes, totally. What did I learn?

0:31:07.600 --> 0:31:08.880
<v Speaker 1>Pythagorian theorem?

0:31:09.000 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 3>Magaris that clown, who the fuck the fuck care Edward.

0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:17.600
<v Speaker 2>Pythagoras his name Edward Charlie.

0:31:17.280 --> 0:31:20.840
<v Speaker 1>Charlie Marshall, Pythagoras.

0:31:19.920 --> 0:31:21.560
<v Speaker 2>The third honey, fuck you.

0:31:24.840 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 3>Squared equals C squared, and so what equals fu to

0:31:29.200 --> 0:31:30.240
<v Speaker 3>the second power?

0:31:31.680 --> 0:31:36.280
<v Speaker 1>Because what the that's not useful, it's not really useful respectfully.

0:31:36.400 --> 0:31:40.400
<v Speaker 3>Now, I will say, when I learned the Pythagorean theorem

0:31:40.520 --> 0:31:44.640
<v Speaker 3>in whatever high school, Yeah, I remember sitting there thinking

0:31:44.800 --> 0:31:47.440
<v Speaker 3>one day I'm going to be on a podcast.

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:53.400
<v Speaker 2>And make a Pythagorist joke. I remember thinking, now, so here.

0:31:53.160 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 3>We are, we are. I'm glad to give you this

0:31:55.520 --> 0:31:58.080
<v Speaker 3>isn't the pocket no different podcast. Yeah, this is my

0:31:58.120 --> 0:31:59.960
<v Speaker 3>second Pythagoras joke that this.

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<v Speaker 1>Second, well, that's offensive to me. I was hoping to

0:32:02.240 --> 0:32:02.720
<v Speaker 1>be the first.

0:32:03.080 --> 0:32:05.800
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, all my materials this is recycled.

0:32:05.800 --> 0:32:08.480
<v Speaker 1>Has everyone heard you say everything you said? Suggest yes,

0:32:08.480 --> 0:32:11.360
<v Speaker 1>even the Elijah shoot thing? Oh yeah, yeah, okay, okay,

0:32:11.400 --> 0:32:14.880
<v Speaker 1>well fuck, let me think it's something original. The expectations

0:32:14.920 --> 0:32:19.840
<v Speaker 1>thing makes me wonder are you good at expressing your needs?

0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:24.840
<v Speaker 3>No, but that's also a yeah, no I historically no

0:32:25.600 --> 0:32:26.240
<v Speaker 3>getting better?

0:32:26.400 --> 0:32:27.000
<v Speaker 1>Gotcha?

0:32:27.080 --> 0:32:28.480
<v Speaker 2>But no, I I am.

0:32:28.600 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 3>I always felt like I needed to take care of

0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:39.520
<v Speaker 3>other people, and you know, I I was secondary and

0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:42.000
<v Speaker 3>and so yeah, no, I was afraid didn't want to

0:32:42.040 --> 0:32:49.920
<v Speaker 3>ruffle feathers, you know. And yeah, just how I grew up.

0:32:49.960 --> 0:32:53.360
<v Speaker 3>There were other people that needed tending to and taking

0:32:53.440 --> 0:32:58.200
<v Speaker 3>care of, and and so that that's was the shift

0:32:58.280 --> 0:33:01.360
<v Speaker 3>for me at some point in the priority and my

0:33:01.440 --> 0:33:05.160
<v Speaker 3>own needs kind of, you know. But then, you know,

0:33:05.280 --> 0:33:09.800
<v Speaker 3>then I would rebel and act out, and you know,

0:33:09.880 --> 0:33:12.840
<v Speaker 3>went through a period of yeah, it's me, I.

0:33:12.760 --> 0:33:14.920
<v Speaker 2>Can do whatever I want. I should take care of myself.

0:33:14.920 --> 0:33:17.720
<v Speaker 3>But then I didn't take care of myself properly, you know,

0:33:17.760 --> 0:33:19.880
<v Speaker 3>whether it was drugs and alcohol, whatever it was, I

0:33:19.920 --> 0:33:23.720
<v Speaker 3>acted out thinking yeah and me and I became selfish,

0:33:24.120 --> 0:33:29.440
<v Speaker 3>but in a self destructive way. But yeah, I definitely

0:33:29.440 --> 0:33:31.280
<v Speaker 3>have a hard time just sort of and asking for

0:33:31.360 --> 0:33:35.280
<v Speaker 3>help in general. Yeah, you know, yeah, my own needs

0:33:35.320 --> 0:33:37.520
<v Speaker 3>asking for help, that's always something I struggled with.

0:33:37.640 --> 0:33:39.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's such a tough thing to balance still because

0:33:39.600 --> 0:33:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I feel like so much of what even I see

0:33:41.200 --> 0:33:45.360
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram online whatever, is about like asserting your boundaries,

0:33:45.760 --> 0:33:48.720
<v Speaker 1>using your voice, taking care of yourself first. You can't

0:33:48.720 --> 0:33:51.480
<v Speaker 1>pour from an empty cup, and you're like, and what's

0:33:51.520 --> 0:33:54.560
<v Speaker 1>the equation Pythagoras helped me with this of like taking

0:33:54.600 --> 0:33:57.840
<v Speaker 1>care of yourself versus putting other people first, or like

0:33:57.880 --> 0:33:58.080
<v Speaker 1>when you.

0:33:58.080 --> 0:33:59.840
<v Speaker 2>Talk about is the balance? Where is the race?

0:34:00.240 --> 0:34:02.600
<v Speaker 1>How you like math? I'm like, literally, someone give me

0:34:02.640 --> 0:34:03.120
<v Speaker 1>the equation.

0:34:03.960 --> 0:34:06.280
<v Speaker 2>What's the formula. I'll punch in the numbers.

0:34:06.360 --> 0:34:09.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it's a hard thing to sort of figure out.

0:34:09.200 --> 0:34:11.200
<v Speaker 1>And so like, obviously it sounds like you are. Give

0:34:11.200 --> 0:34:13.560
<v Speaker 1>yourself grace for that because I'm like, it's it's hard,

0:34:13.600 --> 0:34:17.400
<v Speaker 1>it's hard. Where do you fall in the sibling lineup?

0:34:17.920 --> 0:34:21.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm middle child, only boy, older sister, younger sister.

0:34:21.320 --> 0:34:23.160
<v Speaker 1>Is it crazy if I tell you I could have

0:34:23.520 --> 0:34:24.920
<v Speaker 1>maybe guessed middle child?

0:34:25.239 --> 0:34:27.640
<v Speaker 2>No, I should have had you guess. But yeah, I'll

0:34:27.640 --> 0:34:28.080
<v Speaker 2>believe you.

0:34:28.480 --> 0:34:30.360
<v Speaker 1>I know it sounds like bullshit now.

0:34:30.200 --> 0:34:33.799
<v Speaker 2>It does, but it's just what you described. Let's get

0:34:33.840 --> 0:34:34.160
<v Speaker 2>this again.

0:34:35.200 --> 0:34:39.000
<v Speaker 1>We'll cut that part out. Okay, okay, So where do

0:34:39.040 --> 0:34:40.360
<v Speaker 1>you fall in the sibling lineup?

0:34:41.920 --> 0:34:43.040
<v Speaker 2>Where do you think I did?

0:34:43.120 --> 0:34:44.719
<v Speaker 1>I think you're a middle child?

0:34:45.440 --> 0:34:48.680
<v Speaker 2>Okay, tell me now, doing a bad job being fake?

0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:50.879
<v Speaker 2>I think you are.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know where I came up with this. Probably

0:34:55.840 --> 0:35:00.480
<v Speaker 1>middle I don't know where. Sister brother situation.

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<v Speaker 3>No close, okay, sister and sis? Yes, yes, yes, yes,

0:35:07.760 --> 0:35:10.040
<v Speaker 3>holy shit, you're good spici.

0:35:10.160 --> 0:35:11.520
<v Speaker 1>We're a little yeah.

0:35:11.440 --> 0:35:16.919
<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, middle child?

0:35:16.920 --> 0:35:19.160
<v Speaker 2>Why why did you sense that?

0:35:19.320 --> 0:35:22.719
<v Speaker 1>Because when you said other people needed tending to and

0:35:22.760 --> 0:35:25.439
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't necessarily getting I have a friend who's also

0:35:25.440 --> 0:35:27.800
<v Speaker 1>a middle child, and it's not this is this feels

0:35:27.840 --> 0:35:32.960
<v Speaker 1>like very stereotypical in a sense middle child experience, if

0:35:32.960 --> 0:35:36.960
<v Speaker 1>you will, is like I'm kind of forgotten in some ways,

0:35:37.040 --> 0:35:39.600
<v Speaker 1>and we're focused on other things, and people think I

0:35:39.640 --> 0:35:43.080
<v Speaker 1>can just like handle it and are not thinking to

0:35:43.200 --> 0:35:45.320
<v Speaker 1>tend to me. So I know, to be just like quiet,

0:35:45.880 --> 0:35:50.080
<v Speaker 1>and we're focusing on other people. Older sibling, younger siblings.

0:35:50.120 --> 0:35:53.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm just kind of here. I'm the youngest, so I'm sorry.

0:35:56.640 --> 0:35:59.040
<v Speaker 1>The world was everybody's child, yeah, and it.

0:35:59.080 --> 0:36:03.000
<v Speaker 2>Shows how how many of them. I'm one of four, okay?

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:11.520
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, boy girl, boy girl. Yeah, and I think

0:36:11.560 --> 0:36:14.319
<v Speaker 1>that I I think in so many ways, I am

0:36:14.400 --> 0:36:15.560
<v Speaker 1>like the youngest. Yeah.

0:36:15.560 --> 0:36:21.560
<v Speaker 2>What about your sister? How does she do? You and

0:36:21.600 --> 0:36:22.240
<v Speaker 2>her get along?

0:36:22.440 --> 0:36:26.840
<v Speaker 1>We do and are so different. We're really really different,

0:36:26.840 --> 0:36:29.960
<v Speaker 1>my sister and I. My sister's easygoing. I am not

0:36:30.920 --> 0:36:31.520
<v Speaker 1>easy going.

0:36:31.640 --> 0:36:32.120
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:36:32.320 --> 0:36:33.719
<v Speaker 1>Do you like that self awareness?

0:36:33.880 --> 0:36:36.120
<v Speaker 2>I do? Okay, any self awareness.

0:36:35.680 --> 0:36:38.640
<v Speaker 1>It's someone to compliment me for me self awareness something,

0:36:39.120 --> 0:36:40.160
<v Speaker 1>thank you, and also to.

0:36:40.120 --> 0:36:42.399
<v Speaker 2>Be like, here's a modest here's an.

0:36:42.360 --> 0:36:45.120
<v Speaker 1>Unbecoming thing of me. It's true that I was describing

0:36:45.160 --> 0:36:47.480
<v Speaker 1>her yesterday to someone and I was like, I've always

0:36:47.480 --> 0:36:51.640
<v Speaker 1>maintained she's easygoing, and all these years later she's, yeah,

0:36:51.840 --> 0:36:54.879
<v Speaker 1>my sister's easy Cohen kind of also like a touch

0:36:54.920 --> 0:37:00.800
<v Speaker 1>of glib, unaffected, unbothered. It is kind of nice. So

0:37:00.920 --> 0:37:05.319
<v Speaker 1>I go, do you ever emote? She doesn't, but she does.

0:37:05.640 --> 0:37:08.440
<v Speaker 1>But she and I are just remarkably different. And she

0:37:08.560 --> 0:37:11.480
<v Speaker 1>like graduated high school when she was sixteen and like

0:37:11.920 --> 0:37:14.840
<v Speaker 1>has lived, gone and seen the world in a sense,

0:37:15.800 --> 0:37:18.799
<v Speaker 1>but very cool, and she like loves school. She like

0:37:18.920 --> 0:37:21.200
<v Speaker 1>loves to be in school. She has two hundred degrees.

0:37:21.600 --> 0:37:27.800
<v Speaker 1>Now she's working at a school. I am like the trademark, Yeah,

0:37:27.840 --> 0:37:32.080
<v Speaker 1>exactly know where you stand. You understand right, not to

0:37:32.400 --> 0:37:35.160
<v Speaker 1>I was, you know, people should go to school, stay

0:37:35.160 --> 0:37:38.520
<v Speaker 1>in school, finish school. I do think it's helpful. However,

0:37:38.640 --> 0:37:40.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, when I can be done with it, I

0:37:40.600 --> 0:37:42.000
<v Speaker 1>want to be done. And she'd be like, you know what,

0:37:42.040 --> 0:37:44.959
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go get a fifteenth degree because actually

0:37:45.000 --> 0:37:47.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm curious about this thing. And I'm like, i'd take

0:37:47.120 --> 0:37:49.920
<v Speaker 1>a class outside. I'll read an article, yeah, and be

0:37:50.040 --> 0:37:51.800
<v Speaker 1>and call myself an ex mas exactly.

0:37:52.440 --> 0:37:53.319
<v Speaker 2>I'll wiki feet that.

0:37:53.520 --> 0:37:55.440
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'll do, Jason. I'll read the title

0:37:55.480 --> 0:37:57.000
<v Speaker 1>of an article and be like, you know, I read

0:37:57.040 --> 0:38:01.280
<v Speaker 1>this thing, by the way, yep, I'm like, I didn't

0:38:01.280 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 1>click it, but I read the title and I got

0:38:03.600 --> 0:38:04.360
<v Speaker 1>at all I scrolled it.

0:38:04.440 --> 0:38:06.760
<v Speaker 2>It was in my ice, It scrolled past my eyes

0:38:06.800 --> 0:38:07.400
<v Speaker 2>for a second.

0:38:07.480 --> 0:38:09.640
<v Speaker 1>Do you ever go like I heard and it's like

0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:12.040
<v Speaker 1>about a restaurant or a story, and it's really that

0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:14.359
<v Speaker 1>you just read it online and you'll say you heard

0:38:14.400 --> 0:38:16.520
<v Speaker 1>as though like of course friend told you. Okay, that

0:38:16.520 --> 0:38:18.319
<v Speaker 1>makes me feel better about the fact that I do that,

0:38:18.560 --> 0:38:21.160
<v Speaker 1>of course. And in terms of relationship with fun.

0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:22.799
<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you one thing I hate about myself. Sorry,

0:38:22.840 --> 0:38:25.080
<v Speaker 2>real quick, you know, and no, no, no, I do this too.

0:38:25.120 --> 0:38:27.479
<v Speaker 3>I'll do this sometimes and I immediately and I've gotten

0:38:27.560 --> 0:38:29.560
<v Speaker 3>much better about this, or someone will be like did

0:38:29.600 --> 0:38:31.600
<v Speaker 3>you I mean I almost did it with you, but

0:38:31.640 --> 0:38:33.880
<v Speaker 3>that was because I really thought. But like where someone's like, anyway,

0:38:33.920 --> 0:38:34.600
<v Speaker 3>I've read this thing.

0:38:35.040 --> 0:38:36.919
<v Speaker 2>Oh I read that, and I'm like, fuck, I didn't

0:38:36.920 --> 0:38:37.799
<v Speaker 2>read that. I didn't read that.

0:38:37.880 --> 0:38:41.560
<v Speaker 3>Do I do I pull the ripcord now and say no,

0:38:41.600 --> 0:38:43.080
<v Speaker 3>I di I didn't read that, or do I just

0:38:43.160 --> 0:38:45.120
<v Speaker 3>not fuck it? Go along with it and hope that

0:38:45.200 --> 0:38:47.680
<v Speaker 3>this person I'm engaged with right now doesn't actually start

0:38:47.840 --> 0:38:49.279
<v Speaker 3>getting specific.

0:38:49.120 --> 0:38:50.080
<v Speaker 2>Y you know what I mean?

0:38:50.360 --> 0:38:52.279
<v Speaker 3>Yes, Because then if I say, oh, no, actually I

0:38:52.320 --> 0:38:53.960
<v Speaker 3>didn't read that, then they might think, oh, why did

0:38:54.000 --> 0:38:54.640
<v Speaker 3>you say you read that?

0:38:54.680 --> 0:38:56.720
<v Speaker 2>Were you like? Were you just trying it? Were you faking?

0:38:56.719 --> 0:38:56.960
<v Speaker 2>Were you?

0:38:58.000 --> 0:38:59.400
<v Speaker 3>And I kind of did it with you? But I

0:39:00.120 --> 0:39:03.319
<v Speaker 3>that was a because I've just watched two docs. One

0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:05.320
<v Speaker 3>one was the car.

0:39:05.120 --> 0:39:07.480
<v Speaker 2>Crash one but the teenagers, Oh.

0:39:07.320 --> 0:39:11.400
<v Speaker 1>My god, crash McKenzie Shrilla McKenzie.

0:39:11.800 --> 0:39:13.440
<v Speaker 2>Watched that one, and then there was another one that

0:39:13.520 --> 0:39:14.440
<v Speaker 2>I watched.

0:39:14.160 --> 0:39:18.600
<v Speaker 1>Not to shout her out. I don't like it, don't Yeah, Mackenzie, what'sie? No?

0:39:19.239 --> 0:39:19.520
<v Speaker 2>Sorry?

0:39:19.560 --> 0:39:24.000
<v Speaker 3>Sorry, bad, bad bad? Fuck you Mackenzie and pathetic.

0:39:23.880 --> 0:39:27.320
<v Speaker 1>Exactly, they're on the same list. But making her famous?

0:39:27.480 --> 0:39:31.279
<v Speaker 2>Are you are? This is your podcast? I'm fucking making

0:39:31.320 --> 0:39:32.160
<v Speaker 2>anyone famous?

0:39:32.719 --> 0:39:32.879
<v Speaker 1>Wait?

0:39:32.920 --> 0:39:34.640
<v Speaker 2>Can you make people famous on this podcast?

0:39:35.840 --> 0:39:39.160
<v Speaker 1>I can? That's good famous? I yeah, but I need

0:39:39.160 --> 0:39:40.760
<v Speaker 1>to know little Wait?

0:39:41.040 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 3>So wait, which is the crash and what uh? One

0:39:44.040 --> 0:39:45.920
<v Speaker 3>was about a relationship that's why I'm like it. But

0:39:46.000 --> 0:39:48.040
<v Speaker 3>it wasn't toxic because that just came out like last week.

0:39:48.040 --> 0:39:49.520
<v Speaker 1>It was about a healthy relationship.

0:39:49.600 --> 0:39:50.480
<v Speaker 2>It's definitely.

0:39:51.880 --> 0:39:54.359
<v Speaker 1>They made a documentary about a healthy relationship.

0:39:55.480 --> 0:39:56.360
<v Speaker 2>It was so boring.

0:39:56.960 --> 0:39:57.520
<v Speaker 1>It sucks.

0:39:57.600 --> 0:40:00.680
<v Speaker 2>It was terrible. It's like six parts this health.

0:40:01.280 --> 0:40:05.000
<v Speaker 1>It's low key boring, which is good. It's a good

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:07.440
<v Speaker 1>thing when it's it's hilarious.

0:40:09.360 --> 0:40:11.319
<v Speaker 2>The worst that I.

0:40:11.239 --> 0:40:15.360
<v Speaker 1>Don't want to watch that. No, give me someone killed someone,

0:40:15.520 --> 0:40:17.120
<v Speaker 1>someone lying about something.

0:40:17.760 --> 0:40:19.440
<v Speaker 2>Honestly, I may have to check my Netflix.

0:40:19.520 --> 0:40:23.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay, you're kidding. Okay, see they need our brains are broken.

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:25.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't need to remember because it's right there.

0:40:25.040 --> 0:40:28.400
<v Speaker 1>It's right there. Jason, what time is it? Don't say

0:40:28.880 --> 0:40:31.120
<v Speaker 1>say how long we've been going, because they didn't start

0:40:31.160 --> 0:40:33.640
<v Speaker 1>the timer for I'll waste your time.

0:40:34.080 --> 0:40:35.000
<v Speaker 2>It's eleven or five.

0:40:35.200 --> 0:40:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I said, don't say that.

0:40:36.520 --> 0:40:37.920
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, you said don't.

0:40:37.920 --> 0:40:40.600
<v Speaker 1>We're cutting that out, cut that out everything. We have

0:40:40.640 --> 0:40:42.000
<v Speaker 1>to start over, start over.

0:40:42.120 --> 0:40:44.680
<v Speaker 2>He thanks for having me on today.

0:40:44.760 --> 0:40:46.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad you could do this. I heard you

0:40:46.360 --> 0:40:52.080
<v Speaker 1>were at dinner last night with someone tiny world.

0:40:52.239 --> 0:40:55.359
<v Speaker 2>And you were with crazy.

0:40:55.239 --> 0:40:57.480
<v Speaker 1>Incredible crazy. Here do you guys go? We went to

0:40:57.480 --> 0:40:59.920
<v Speaker 1>a place called We're really starting.

0:41:00.000 --> 0:41:01.160
<v Speaker 2>Actually, I really do want to know where you are

0:41:02.320 --> 0:41:02.920
<v Speaker 2>in Brooklyn?

0:41:02.960 --> 0:41:04.359
<v Speaker 1>In Brooklyn? Have you been? No?

0:41:04.520 --> 0:41:05.960
<v Speaker 2>It was really are you in Brooklyn?

0:41:06.000 --> 0:41:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I am in Brookly. I'm in fake Brooklyn, but I'm

0:41:07.960 --> 0:41:10.000
<v Speaker 1>in Brooklyn. And you know what I mean by fake Brooklyn.

0:41:10.080 --> 0:41:12.760
<v Speaker 1>I just think, yeah, exactly. We won't say the exact

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 1>but you know what I'm doing.

0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:15.040
<v Speaker 2>I think I know where you are.

0:41:15.120 --> 0:41:15.879
<v Speaker 1>You know where I live.

0:41:16.040 --> 0:41:19.400
<v Speaker 3>I'm yeah, yeah, Justin came to me yesterday. Okay, and

0:41:19.480 --> 0:41:21.080
<v Speaker 3>are you in downtown Manhattan?

0:41:21.120 --> 0:41:23.919
<v Speaker 1>You're downtown Manhattan. Okay, where did you guys go? Because

0:41:23.920 --> 0:41:25.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm supposed to find a restaurant for a friend and

0:41:25.640 --> 0:41:27.360
<v Speaker 1>I for tomorrow tomorrow.

0:41:27.560 --> 0:41:30.080
<v Speaker 3>We went to a place called Graciela, which is in

0:41:30.080 --> 0:41:36.359
<v Speaker 3>the West Village. It is a Argentinian chef who has

0:41:36.360 --> 0:41:39.160
<v Speaker 3>a restaurant in Buenos Aires. His only other restaurant Don Julio,

0:41:39.200 --> 0:41:41.120
<v Speaker 3>which was at one point in the top ten restaurant

0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:45.600
<v Speaker 3>World's fifty Best Restaurants in the World, and he this

0:41:45.680 --> 0:41:50.880
<v Speaker 3>is his first restaurant outside of Buennosaires and steak meat based,

0:41:50.920 --> 0:41:53.080
<v Speaker 3>but there's other We had a Brenzeno last night that

0:41:53.200 --> 0:41:56.600
<v Speaker 3>was amazing and yeah, and it's it's just open as

0:41:56.880 --> 0:41:59.680
<v Speaker 3>it's really fun and good and it's.

0:41:59.560 --> 0:42:03.000
<v Speaker 1>A good okay, good one to keep in my back pocket. Also,

0:42:03.200 --> 0:42:05.120
<v Speaker 1>there's a couple of things. My pockets are full.

0:42:05.320 --> 0:42:07.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I can't keep from this conversation.

0:42:07.520 --> 0:42:09.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, little things I'm putting in my nuggets. It's a

0:42:09.480 --> 0:42:13.560
<v Speaker 1>little nugget here, little nuggain. When I get hungry, nip it,

0:42:13.640 --> 0:42:16.960
<v Speaker 1>not too much something. Are you a food guy?

0:42:17.200 --> 0:42:18.160
<v Speaker 2>I am a food guy.

0:42:18.280 --> 0:42:21.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and that yes, you eat it. I eat it,

0:42:21.920 --> 0:42:23.480
<v Speaker 1>but you care about it.

0:42:23.560 --> 0:42:26.920
<v Speaker 2>I spend my money on it me too, Like that

0:42:27.040 --> 0:42:28.920
<v Speaker 2>is one of my luxuries in life.

0:42:29.000 --> 0:42:33.360
<v Speaker 3>I indulgences and I and I particularly once I quit drinking.

0:42:33.440 --> 0:42:34.680
<v Speaker 2>God, can I talk anyway?

0:42:34.680 --> 0:42:37.040
<v Speaker 3>This isn't even like a sober podcast, and all I

0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:39.040
<v Speaker 3>feel like everything I'm talking about is sobriety.

0:42:39.120 --> 0:42:40.719
<v Speaker 1>But Jason, why do we? Why do we?

0:42:40.719 --> 0:42:41.799
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna start drinking again.

0:42:41.880 --> 0:42:43.960
<v Speaker 3>Shut up, because this way it's not all going to

0:42:44.000 --> 0:42:44.680
<v Speaker 3>be all about myself.

0:42:44.960 --> 0:42:48.080
<v Speaker 1>Shout it out, Mackenzie, shrilla, You're gonna start drinking again.

0:42:48.160 --> 0:42:51.280
<v Speaker 1>We have to can the episode. This is crazy.

0:42:51.320 --> 0:42:54.480
<v Speaker 2>This is a time cap. Don't the beginning of the

0:42:54.560 --> 0:42:55.720
<v Speaker 2>end For Jason Biggs.

0:42:55.800 --> 0:42:59.200
<v Speaker 1>It all started here people famous, but I also ruined

0:42:59.239 --> 0:43:03.720
<v Speaker 1>your fucking life. Yeah. No, here's the thing. I'm so curious.

0:43:03.760 --> 0:43:06.759
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you have this answer. You seem philosophical. Why do

0:43:06.800 --> 0:43:09.439
<v Speaker 1>we like I kind of asked it with the whole

0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:11.879
<v Speaker 1>fellowship of it all when that came up. Why are

0:43:11.920 --> 0:43:16.879
<v Speaker 1>we so cringe about ourselves? What is that like? Because

0:43:16.880 --> 0:43:19.400
<v Speaker 1>you're like, oh, I'm talking about sobriety. We keep finding

0:43:19.440 --> 0:43:23.400
<v Speaker 1>ourselves organically there. I'm fine with it. I'm getting nuggets.

0:43:23.880 --> 0:43:26.480
<v Speaker 1>I judging you, yeah, but I'm not judging you like

0:43:26.480 --> 0:43:28.480
<v Speaker 1>we're all kind of be like, oh no, I'm talking

0:43:28.840 --> 0:43:30.680
<v Speaker 1>like about myself. These people don't want to hear me

0:43:30.719 --> 0:43:32.799
<v Speaker 1>talk about me. I didn't bring you on to talk

0:43:32.800 --> 0:43:34.880
<v Speaker 1>about me, even when you asked me a question. I

0:43:34.920 --> 0:43:37.000
<v Speaker 1>was going to be like, now, Jason.

0:43:37.640 --> 0:43:39.319
<v Speaker 3>I do have a tendency to do that when I'm

0:43:39.360 --> 0:43:41.040
<v Speaker 3>a guest on things. I'm like, I have a question

0:43:41.120 --> 0:43:42.000
<v Speaker 3>for you, which.

0:43:41.800 --> 0:43:45.719
<v Speaker 1>Is fair and I allow one or two, but but but.

0:43:45.800 --> 0:43:46.720
<v Speaker 2>I hit my quota.

0:43:47.320 --> 0:43:51.120
<v Speaker 1>You got one left, but I think you shouldn't use

0:43:51.160 --> 0:43:54.000
<v Speaker 1>it because I'm finding it's interesting. I want to what

0:43:54.040 --> 0:43:56.560
<v Speaker 1>do you think this is about humans that were just

0:43:56.600 --> 0:43:57.560
<v Speaker 1>like O cringe.

0:43:57.880 --> 0:44:02.319
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean the things I do and this kind

0:44:02.360 --> 0:44:04.719
<v Speaker 3>of connects maybe to needs and not taking care of

0:44:04.760 --> 0:44:08.120
<v Speaker 3>myself and who how is everyone else? Is like that

0:44:08.520 --> 0:44:12.680
<v Speaker 3>hyper awareness and hyper sensitivity to how other people are

0:44:13.120 --> 0:44:16.000
<v Speaker 3>and making sure their comfort levels are where they should

0:44:16.000 --> 0:44:17.799
<v Speaker 3>be as opposed to my own. I can deal with

0:44:17.840 --> 0:44:20.600
<v Speaker 3>my own discomfort because that's what I do, and so

0:44:20.800 --> 0:44:23.760
<v Speaker 3>making sure everyone's okay. So this need to apologize for myself,

0:44:23.800 --> 0:44:26.239
<v Speaker 3>I've always had it something I'm working on.

0:44:26.320 --> 0:44:27.560
<v Speaker 2>It's not a great quality.

0:44:27.960 --> 0:44:32.120
<v Speaker 3>It is and it isn't it can be, particularly as

0:44:32.120 --> 0:44:36.200
<v Speaker 3>it helped me survive to survive growing up, but like, yeah,

0:44:36.400 --> 0:44:39.879
<v Speaker 3>ultimately I still do apology. I'm still like sorry, should

0:44:39.880 --> 0:44:41.520
<v Speaker 3>I not be talking about it? You know, whether it

0:44:41.600 --> 0:44:44.160
<v Speaker 3>presents in different weird ways? And I guess it just

0:44:44.200 --> 0:44:46.520
<v Speaker 3>did by me going, oh am I talking too much

0:44:46.520 --> 0:44:51.719
<v Speaker 3>about sobriety. So I'm just you know, obviously I'm still insecure.

0:44:51.760 --> 0:44:55.080
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I I you know, in some regards, I'm

0:44:55.360 --> 0:44:59.520
<v Speaker 3>very confident and know myself fairly well and know what

0:44:59.520 --> 0:45:03.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm good at, know my limitations, and in other senses,

0:45:03.360 --> 0:45:05.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm just still just an insecure.

0:45:06.520 --> 0:45:09.040
<v Speaker 1>Yes, no, you're an insecure. I want you to finish.

0:45:09.160 --> 0:45:11.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, just I'm insecure and worried about what other people think.

0:45:12.120 --> 0:45:15.360
<v Speaker 1>So what you just described to me is a human.

0:45:21.200 --> 0:45:25.879
<v Speaker 1>He's but a human. Now, mind you. I can sider

0:45:25.880 --> 0:45:29.600
<v Speaker 1>on my little is this real leather? That's not someone

0:45:30.400 --> 0:45:35.719
<v Speaker 1>confidently being like, no, honey, it's plastic. I can sit

0:45:35.760 --> 0:45:37.800
<v Speaker 1>on my little plastic chair and say that to you

0:45:37.840 --> 0:45:39.840
<v Speaker 1>with full confidence. Now, mind you. I hold myself to

0:45:39.880 --> 0:45:44.640
<v Speaker 1>an insane standard, so human interaction rate, I don't fucking know.

0:45:44.719 --> 0:45:46.239
<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm like, I thought you might have an

0:45:46.239 --> 0:45:48.200
<v Speaker 1>answer about why we all do that thing, because it's

0:45:48.239 --> 0:45:48.759
<v Speaker 1>not just you.

0:45:48.920 --> 0:45:51.960
<v Speaker 2>Do you mean to a high stand what's the standards?

0:45:52.040 --> 0:45:52.600
<v Speaker 2>What regards?

0:45:52.640 --> 0:45:58.399
<v Speaker 1>It's almost like perfection is and perfection perfection is not

0:45:58.520 --> 0:46:01.319
<v Speaker 1>real except for low key when it is real, you

0:46:01.360 --> 0:46:04.120
<v Speaker 1>see it, like oh those things I went to put

0:46:04.200 --> 0:46:06.839
<v Speaker 1>tape on the wall and it perfectly lined up, right,

0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:08.640
<v Speaker 1>It is real. So I don't know that we can

0:46:08.680 --> 0:46:13.120
<v Speaker 1>deny it. But maybe it's not the coolest thing to pursue.

0:46:13.239 --> 0:46:13.759
<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you what.

0:46:13.960 --> 0:46:22.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, my theory on perfection is you could pursue it,

0:46:23.840 --> 0:46:28.320
<v Speaker 3>just be prepared to maybe never get there. Like yeah,

0:46:28.360 --> 0:46:30.960
<v Speaker 3>like look, at THEE. I have such a respect for

0:46:31.160 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 3>like Japanese artisans.

0:46:34.000 --> 0:46:34.880
<v Speaker 2>You ever been to Japan?

0:46:35.080 --> 0:46:36.840
<v Speaker 1>I haven't. My sister just came back and told me

0:46:36.920 --> 0:46:38.279
<v Speaker 1>I would love it, and I know that I would.

0:46:38.920 --> 0:46:40.560
<v Speaker 1>It's on my list.

0:46:41.200 --> 0:46:46.800
<v Speaker 3>The thing about they have trades, people, crafts, people, chefs,

0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:52.759
<v Speaker 3>all kinds of industry where they get incredibly specific with

0:46:52.840 --> 0:46:54.080
<v Speaker 3>what they do.

0:46:54.160 --> 0:46:55.280
<v Speaker 2>A person, does.

0:46:57.280 --> 0:46:59.279
<v Speaker 3>You hear, we'd say it's so niche, Oh my god,

0:46:59.320 --> 0:47:03.160
<v Speaker 3>but there it's no one person does this task and

0:47:03.239 --> 0:47:07.919
<v Speaker 3>will spend his or her entire life doing that one thing.

0:47:08.680 --> 0:47:11.000
<v Speaker 3>And ultimately, you know, you spend that much time and

0:47:11.040 --> 0:47:13.440
<v Speaker 3>dedication in the pursuit of perfection, you get.

0:47:13.400 --> 0:47:14.680
<v Speaker 2>Damn good at it, you know.

0:47:15.800 --> 0:47:19.600
<v Speaker 3>I think there's something to be said for that, but

0:47:19.760 --> 0:47:23.000
<v Speaker 3>also knowing that you're supposed to fail. My issue with

0:47:23.080 --> 0:47:28.960
<v Speaker 3>perfectionism is, or has been I expect to get there

0:47:29.040 --> 0:47:32.880
<v Speaker 3>right away, and so as a result, I fear failure

0:47:33.120 --> 0:47:36.479
<v Speaker 3>big time. And I started I started acting when I.

0:47:36.400 --> 0:47:37.040
<v Speaker 2>Was a little kid.

0:47:37.080 --> 0:47:39.000
<v Speaker 3>I was five years old when I started acting, and

0:47:39.040 --> 0:47:40.960
<v Speaker 3>so I had tons of failure when I was a kid.

0:47:40.960 --> 0:47:41.800
<v Speaker 2>But I was a kid.

0:47:41.920 --> 0:47:44.440
<v Speaker 3>So when you're a kid dealing with failure, it's a

0:47:44.480 --> 0:47:47.759
<v Speaker 3>lot different now. Yeah, I mean I probably dealt with

0:47:47.840 --> 0:47:52.160
<v Speaker 3>rejection and had conversations about I got fired from a

0:47:52.520 --> 0:47:53.960
<v Speaker 3>job when I was you know, like when I was

0:47:54.000 --> 0:47:56.200
<v Speaker 3>a teenager. I was in the office of the executive

0:47:56.200 --> 0:47:57.480
<v Speaker 3>producer who was firing me.

0:47:57.560 --> 0:47:59.759
<v Speaker 2>I was fourteen being fired for me.

0:47:59.800 --> 0:48:02.520
<v Speaker 3>That's like, that's not something a fourteen year old, I

0:48:02.520 --> 0:48:07.440
<v Speaker 3>feel like deals with usually. But and dealing with all

0:48:07.440 --> 0:48:09.920
<v Speaker 3>that rejection and failure as a kid has certainly prepared

0:48:09.960 --> 0:48:12.879
<v Speaker 3>me as an adult, I guess. But also it has

0:48:12.920 --> 0:48:17.880
<v Speaker 3>made me very clear, and I think a not a

0:48:17.920 --> 0:48:20.880
<v Speaker 3>good way, or it made me think I'm clear about

0:48:21.280 --> 0:48:24.080
<v Speaker 3>what I can and can't do. And so what I

0:48:24.120 --> 0:48:28.279
<v Speaker 3>think I can't do, I don't even pursue anymore. And

0:48:28.320 --> 0:48:30.759
<v Speaker 3>what I can do, what I've achieved success in since

0:48:30.800 --> 0:48:33.640
<v Speaker 3>I was a little kid, Like that's the thing I'm

0:48:33.640 --> 0:48:38.880
<v Speaker 3>good at. I'll keep doing that. And you know, I

0:48:38.920 --> 0:48:42.320
<v Speaker 3>finally directed. I've always wanted to direct. I finally directed

0:48:42.320 --> 0:48:44.759
<v Speaker 3>a movie two years ago. I'm forty eight, So I

0:48:44.760 --> 0:48:48.319
<v Speaker 3>was forty six years old, and I had had other

0:48:48.360 --> 0:48:52.560
<v Speaker 3>opportunities and also I you know, just sort of never

0:48:52.680 --> 0:48:56.320
<v Speaker 3>really pursued it. I wasn't really proactive about it until

0:48:56.320 --> 0:48:59.239
<v Speaker 3>the last couple of years of my life because I

0:48:59.280 --> 0:49:01.120
<v Speaker 3>was afraid I fail. I was like, oh, I know

0:49:01.160 --> 0:49:02.880
<v Speaker 3>what I can do as an actor. I've achieved some

0:49:02.920 --> 0:49:06.560
<v Speaker 3>great success as an actor, and even acting, I'm like,

0:49:06.680 --> 0:49:09.200
<v Speaker 3>you know, I did a lot of dramatic work before

0:49:09.239 --> 0:49:14.240
<v Speaker 3>American Pie, so I've always felt like I can do drama.

0:49:14.280 --> 0:49:17.640
<v Speaker 3>But even still, once I hit with American Pie, and

0:49:17.640 --> 0:49:18.520
<v Speaker 3>that success happened.

0:49:18.560 --> 0:49:19.520
<v Speaker 2>When I continue from.

0:49:20.920 --> 0:49:23.239
<v Speaker 1>American Pie, it just clicked for me.

0:49:23.360 --> 0:49:26.239
<v Speaker 3>No, no, no, no, I'm no no, no, I wasn't in

0:49:26.320 --> 0:49:27.080
<v Speaker 3>American Pie.

0:49:27.320 --> 0:49:29.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, no, I'm not in it.

0:49:29.880 --> 0:49:32.360
<v Speaker 3>This was something that I'm talking about rejection. I auditioned

0:49:32.360 --> 0:49:33.839
<v Speaker 3>for didn't get it.

0:49:34.160 --> 0:49:36.200
<v Speaker 2>I didn't get it. No, I'm kidding. I'm fucking with you.

0:49:36.239 --> 0:49:36.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm fucking with you.

0:49:37.000 --> 0:49:40.200
<v Speaker 1>Back I go back, fucking a Jason.

0:49:43.239 --> 0:49:46.480
<v Speaker 2>Mirror medicine. Here's some medicine.

0:49:46.560 --> 0:49:52.040
<v Speaker 1>Give me my pocket. Okay, I'm sorry. It was very funny,

0:49:51.520 --> 0:49:52.720
<v Speaker 1>but it was bad.

0:49:53.200 --> 0:49:55.200
<v Speaker 3>I was good, except that people that are gonna be like,

0:49:55.200 --> 0:49:57.840
<v Speaker 3>oh God, she really doesn't know, and he's really thinks

0:49:57.840 --> 0:49:58.360
<v Speaker 3>she doesn't know.

0:49:58.480 --> 0:50:00.080
<v Speaker 1>You were making such a good point in some and

0:50:00.120 --> 0:50:01.719
<v Speaker 1>it's gonna comment she should have let him finish the

0:50:01.800 --> 0:50:02.279
<v Speaker 1>please finish.

0:50:02.360 --> 0:50:02.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't remember.

0:50:02.960 --> 0:50:04.160
<v Speaker 1>Now, you don't do that.

0:50:04.440 --> 0:50:07.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't remember what I was saying. So Jason, what happened,

0:50:09.360 --> 0:50:10.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't remember.

0:50:12.280 --> 0:50:13.920
<v Speaker 1>I will not let you leave.

0:50:14.400 --> 0:50:17.640
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So what I was saying was.

0:50:19.080 --> 0:50:22.120
<v Speaker 3>I But even so, once American Pie hit, and once

0:50:22.120 --> 0:50:24.560
<v Speaker 3>they did a bunch of the similar kind of comedies

0:50:24.880 --> 0:50:29.440
<v Speaker 3>in the years after American Pie, you know, you you

0:50:29.520 --> 0:50:31.799
<v Speaker 3>kind of it's easy to sort of go, that's what

0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:34.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm that's what I'm good at, and I and and

0:50:34.960 --> 0:50:41.359
<v Speaker 3>so you get more reluctant to actively pursue things that

0:50:41.440 --> 0:50:42.320
<v Speaker 3>are different.

0:50:42.480 --> 0:50:43.040
<v Speaker 2>Not everyone.

0:50:43.280 --> 0:50:47.799
<v Speaker 3>I mean, you know, Heath Ledger hits with ten Things

0:50:47.800 --> 0:50:49.880
<v Speaker 3>I Hate about You, and immediately it's like, I'm not

0:50:49.920 --> 0:50:52.560
<v Speaker 3>doing that movie ever again. I want to do this, yeah,

0:50:52.600 --> 0:50:54.040
<v Speaker 3>you know, and he's like, I know what I can

0:50:54.080 --> 0:50:55.720
<v Speaker 3>do when he went and did it. I'm not comparing

0:50:55.760 --> 0:50:57.719
<v Speaker 3>myself to Heath Ledger. In fact, the opposite. I was like,

0:50:57.920 --> 0:50:59.959
<v Speaker 3>oh good, I'm good at comedy. I'll just keep doing commed.

0:51:00.600 --> 0:51:03.319
<v Speaker 3>But I also can do drama, you know, And I

0:51:03.400 --> 0:51:06.719
<v Speaker 3>just know. But the directing thing was always something as

0:51:06.760 --> 0:51:07.960
<v Speaker 3>a little kid, when I was on.

0:51:07.960 --> 0:51:09.319
<v Speaker 2>Sets, I was like that's really good.

0:51:09.320 --> 0:51:11.320
<v Speaker 3>I would pay attention, I would try to like learn

0:51:11.360 --> 0:51:14.600
<v Speaker 3>and just fascinated me. And I there's an I came

0:51:14.600 --> 0:51:19.080
<v Speaker 3>across an interview like a magazine or a newspaper clipping

0:51:19.239 --> 0:51:22.080
<v Speaker 3>article recently that I had saved my mom. He was

0:51:22.120 --> 0:51:24.719
<v Speaker 3>at my mom's house and it was from when I

0:51:24.760 --> 0:51:26.799
<v Speaker 3>was twelve, and they asked what I want to do

0:51:26.880 --> 0:51:28.160
<v Speaker 3>when I grow up.

0:51:28.920 --> 0:51:29.920
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I want to direct.

0:51:31.040 --> 0:51:34.520
<v Speaker 3>But yet at some point along the way, I achieved

0:51:34.520 --> 0:51:37.520
<v Speaker 3>all this success as an actor and I got afraid

0:51:37.560 --> 0:51:40.000
<v Speaker 3>to do anything else. I didn't want to pursue directing

0:51:40.040 --> 0:51:42.080
<v Speaker 3>because what if I failed, Like I don't want to

0:51:42.280 --> 0:51:44.879
<v Speaker 3>be fall flat on my face, Like what if I'm

0:51:44.880 --> 0:51:46.359
<v Speaker 3>not good? What if I end up not being good?

0:51:46.360 --> 0:51:47.200
<v Speaker 3>What if it doesn't work?

0:51:47.440 --> 0:51:48.040
<v Speaker 2>You know. It's like.

0:51:49.760 --> 0:51:52.800
<v Speaker 3>And so I fear is that thing, and it's like, listen,

0:51:54.960 --> 0:51:57.279
<v Speaker 3>you're not going to be a perfect director. I'm not

0:51:57.400 --> 0:51:59.880
<v Speaker 3>going to be I'm not going to make a perfect movie, certainly,

0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:03.239
<v Speaker 3>not out of the gate made probably ever, but like

0:52:03.480 --> 0:52:04.200
<v Speaker 3>just do it.

0:52:04.360 --> 0:52:10.440
<v Speaker 2>Like but it's that fear of not being perfect right away.

0:52:10.960 --> 0:52:13.560
<v Speaker 3>But I don't think as a rule in general that

0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:18.799
<v Speaker 3>perfection is something you shouldn't or can't strive for You

0:52:18.920 --> 0:52:20.760
<v Speaker 3>just have to be aware that you're probably not gonna

0:52:20.760 --> 0:52:23.360
<v Speaker 3>get it, and that's okay, I don't know, that's my

0:52:23.840 --> 0:52:24.680
<v Speaker 3>That's good though.

0:52:24.760 --> 0:52:28.160
<v Speaker 1>I like that because you don't deny its existence and

0:52:28.280 --> 0:52:30.880
<v Speaker 1>it's not a bad thing to strive for it. Inherently,

0:52:30.920 --> 0:52:31.480
<v Speaker 1>it's not bad.

0:52:31.560 --> 0:52:31.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:52:31.760 --> 0:52:34.880
<v Speaker 3>And also like the learning from the mistakes and also

0:52:35.000 --> 0:52:37.880
<v Speaker 3>just the for me once I finally did direct this movie,

0:52:38.680 --> 0:52:41.680
<v Speaker 3>one of the biggest lessons, of course, was just taking

0:52:41.719 --> 0:52:44.600
<v Speaker 3>the leap and overcoming a fear and just doing it

0:52:44.640 --> 0:52:47.239
<v Speaker 3>and being open and going into it. You know, I

0:52:47.239 --> 0:52:48.839
<v Speaker 3>thought I had to get into the set and I

0:52:48.880 --> 0:52:50.960
<v Speaker 3>had to as a director, and I had to know

0:52:51.120 --> 0:52:55.319
<v Speaker 3>everything already, you know, like I needed to have all

0:52:55.360 --> 0:52:57.600
<v Speaker 3>the answers, right, They're going to come to me with questions.

0:52:57.640 --> 0:53:00.239
<v Speaker 3>I need to have all the answers. I did didn't

0:53:00.280 --> 0:53:02.359
<v Speaker 3>have to have all the answers. In fact, there were

0:53:02.560 --> 0:53:06.560
<v Speaker 3>people on that set who were much more capable than

0:53:06.600 --> 0:53:10.320
<v Speaker 3>I was at specific things. And so it is about

0:53:10.480 --> 0:53:12.960
<v Speaker 3>asking for help and again asking for help.

0:53:13.480 --> 0:53:16.600
<v Speaker 2>It's such a big thing, all.

0:53:16.480 --> 0:53:18.640
<v Speaker 1>The little tidbits of it and mirror.

0:53:19.680 --> 0:53:23.440
<v Speaker 3>On how much my personal life affects my work and

0:53:23.840 --> 0:53:29.280
<v Speaker 3>vice versa. It's like, you know, yeah, because I've changed

0:53:29.280 --> 0:53:33.000
<v Speaker 3>so much as a person in the last decade plus,

0:53:33.040 --> 0:53:43.400
<v Speaker 3>like significantly changed. I'm a parent, I'm you know, a husband, sober,

0:53:43.760 --> 0:53:49.160
<v Speaker 3>like the massive life changes. And for many years my

0:53:49.320 --> 0:53:52.080
<v Speaker 3>career wasn't sort of reflective of that. And I had

0:53:52.120 --> 0:53:57.640
<v Speaker 3>these new things to sort of contribute as a worker

0:53:58.640 --> 0:54:01.240
<v Speaker 3>that I you know, whether it's director or an actor

0:54:01.280 --> 0:54:06.840
<v Speaker 3>that I you know, wasn't allowing my the things that

0:54:06.840 --> 0:54:09.560
<v Speaker 3>I had learned in life to sort of take into that.

0:54:09.640 --> 0:54:09.759
<v Speaker 3>You know.

0:54:09.840 --> 0:54:11.080
<v Speaker 2>I was like, no, I'm just an actor. I'm just

0:54:11.080 --> 0:54:12.319
<v Speaker 2>an actor for hire. It's what I do.

0:54:12.360 --> 0:54:14.239
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, and when I am an actor for hire,

0:54:14.280 --> 0:54:17.040
<v Speaker 3>it is that's that's what. But like, oh, I can

0:54:17.080 --> 0:54:20.520
<v Speaker 3>bring other things. I'm I am. I'm not the kid

0:54:20.560 --> 0:54:22.839
<v Speaker 3>from American Pie anymore. I was in a movie called

0:54:22.880 --> 0:54:24.600
<v Speaker 3>American Pie came out in ninety nine.

0:54:24.800 --> 0:54:25.400
<v Speaker 1>Never heard of it.

0:54:25.480 --> 0:54:27.279
<v Speaker 2>Was know, that's I could tell. That's what I'm going

0:54:27.320 --> 0:54:27.719
<v Speaker 2>to tell you.

0:54:27.800 --> 0:54:29.640
<v Speaker 1>Born in two and five.

0:54:29.440 --> 0:54:32.879
<v Speaker 3>Five, So no, I know so so so Yeah, ask

0:54:32.960 --> 0:54:36.000
<v Speaker 3>your parents about it. I'm sure they're fans of mine.

0:54:36.840 --> 0:54:40.520
<v Speaker 3>They're sure they're fans of mine. They just really big worldwide.

0:54:41.040 --> 0:54:44.480
<v Speaker 3>It was pretty big worldwide, okay, uh, kind of everywhere.

0:54:44.120 --> 0:54:47.120
<v Speaker 1>American pie popping off nur.

0:54:48.600 --> 0:54:50.200
<v Speaker 2>Also, it played very well there there.

0:54:50.239 --> 0:54:51.839
<v Speaker 1>Okay, and you know this for a fact.

0:54:51.960 --> 0:54:53.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I did a press tour.

0:54:53.920 --> 0:54:56.560
<v Speaker 1>I'll check with my mom. If Jason say your last

0:54:56.600 --> 0:54:57.399
<v Speaker 1>name for me one more time?

0:54:57.480 --> 0:54:59.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, no, prob Bateman, Jason Bateman.

0:54:59.400 --> 0:55:02.960
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'll check. Wait, but I worked with Jason Bateman

0:55:03.000 --> 0:55:06.799
<v Speaker 1>on SNEL before, so you were there.

0:55:07.200 --> 0:55:07.960
<v Speaker 2>I go, what's.

0:55:11.000 --> 0:55:11.239
<v Speaker 3>You have?

0:55:11.640 --> 0:55:14.640
<v Speaker 2>Hilarious? It is one of my favorites. I done it

0:55:14.800 --> 0:55:15.879
<v Speaker 2>in my top ten for sure.

0:55:15.960 --> 0:55:21.560
<v Speaker 1>Okay, it's so good to see you go right a go, yes, yes, go.

0:55:23.000 --> 0:55:25.319
<v Speaker 1>The way you say it makes me hate my name.

0:55:26.120 --> 0:55:31.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, sorry, no, no, no, I have I have

0:55:31.920 --> 0:55:33.400
<v Speaker 1>so many things I want to ask you. Here's what

0:55:33.400 --> 0:55:35.320
<v Speaker 1>I'll do. I'm going to try to respect your time.

0:55:36.200 --> 0:55:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Damn it. That's set you up for failure that we

0:55:42.440 --> 0:55:43.640
<v Speaker 1>haven't even started yet.

0:55:43.680 --> 0:55:44.560
<v Speaker 2>It's fine.

0:55:44.719 --> 0:55:46.920
<v Speaker 1>You and your heart out? Can I ask you something

0:55:47.000 --> 0:55:47.760
<v Speaker 1>really personal?

0:55:47.880 --> 0:55:48.759
<v Speaker 2>Do I really have a heart?

0:55:48.880 --> 0:55:49.719
<v Speaker 1>Your heart out real?

0:55:50.239 --> 0:55:50.359
<v Speaker 3>So?

0:55:51.080 --> 0:55:54.279
<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah, so the heart out. It's a great question.

0:55:54.040 --> 0:55:56.319
<v Speaker 1>Because the heart out is not real most of the

0:55:56.320 --> 0:55:58.920
<v Speaker 1>time a heart out, not ten times. A heart out

0:55:59.000 --> 0:55:59.480
<v Speaker 1>is not real.

0:55:59.520 --> 0:56:01.080
<v Speaker 3>I would have got I'd go eight out of ten,

0:56:01.160 --> 0:56:03.200
<v Speaker 3>but you're probably yeah, let's go eight and a half

0:56:03.239 --> 0:56:07.400
<v Speaker 3>out of ten. Part out is the great is bullshit? Okay,

0:56:09.080 --> 0:56:11.640
<v Speaker 3>I the reason I have a heart out today.

0:56:11.640 --> 0:56:12.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't have to tell me why, but I'll take it.

0:56:12.960 --> 0:56:14.880
<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you why because otherwise you won't believe me.

0:56:14.920 --> 0:56:15.719
<v Speaker 1>Okay, go off.

0:56:18.960 --> 0:56:20.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to see my son.

0:56:20.320 --> 0:56:22.839
<v Speaker 1>He is everyone and their kids. It's like me being

0:56:22.840 --> 0:56:24.360
<v Speaker 1>like my dog. I have to pick my dog up.

0:56:24.400 --> 0:56:26.680
<v Speaker 2>My dog's by also my dog.

0:56:27.600 --> 0:56:28.680
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm sorry, go ahead.

0:56:28.920 --> 0:56:30.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my dog is dying.

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<v Speaker 3>Shut the fuck up, and I need to go get

0:56:35.000 --> 0:56:36.200
<v Speaker 3>him and have my son.

0:56:37.239 --> 0:56:38.840
<v Speaker 1>Didn't you just finish up here?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, but I need my son.

0:56:41.840 --> 0:56:42.919
<v Speaker 1>Is your dog really dying?

0:56:43.160 --> 0:56:46.440
<v Speaker 2>My son is dying, and so I.

0:56:46.400 --> 0:56:49.560
<v Speaker 1>Need to go see.

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<v Speaker 3>My dog to tell him to eat his homework one

0:56:51.640 --> 0:56:52.080
<v Speaker 3>last time.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, this is fuck. It's dark, really dark dark.

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<v Speaker 3>No, my uh, I'm picking my sun up at camp

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<v Speaker 3>in Long Island. Oh, so I have to get all

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<v Speaker 3>the way out to Long Island by the time camp

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<v Speaker 3>ends at three o'clock.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we're gonna get you to Long Island, So that

0:57:10.440 --> 0:57:12.520
<v Speaker 1>means you have to walk twot twenty here. You said

0:57:12.520 --> 0:57:14.799
<v Speaker 1>it was eleven oh five a little bit ago. Yeah,

0:57:15.120 --> 0:57:18.360
<v Speaker 1>I decided we're not getting that to twenty here. Well,

0:57:18.680 --> 0:57:20.440
<v Speaker 1>me and you will talk until about two twenty.

0:57:20.840 --> 0:57:23.880
<v Speaker 2>And I'm getting out to Long Island in forty minutes.

0:57:23.920 --> 0:57:25.760
<v Speaker 1>Because you have a jet. You said you like to

0:57:25.840 --> 0:57:26.960
<v Speaker 1>indulge a helicopter.

0:57:27.280 --> 0:57:30.160
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm sorry, And it's not as fast as the jet, okay,

0:57:30.360 --> 0:57:32.240
<v Speaker 3>so I need to leave it to ten.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so we have time. Can someone get Jason something

0:57:36.160 --> 0:57:38.800
<v Speaker 1>to eat? We're hanging out, Yes, where he's gonna go.

0:57:40.200 --> 0:57:42.480
<v Speaker 2>We catered the helicopter. Okay, I'll be fine.

0:57:42.520 --> 0:57:45.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna let you go, but I do want to

0:57:45.040 --> 0:57:48.440
<v Speaker 1>you're a game with you. What time? What time?

0:57:49.200 --> 0:57:50.840
<v Speaker 2>Let me really do the math right now? A squared

0:57:50.960 --> 0:57:54.880
<v Speaker 2>plus B squared. It's called the callback, it's called the calls.

0:57:54.920 --> 0:57:55.960
<v Speaker 2>I gotta get this way out of here.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I do have one question. Okay, here's I have

0:57:58.080 --> 0:58:00.560
<v Speaker 1>a question, and an I have several others, and.

0:58:00.640 --> 0:58:02.400
<v Speaker 2>Then I have an hour's worth of more.

0:58:02.560 --> 0:58:05.600
<v Speaker 1>Now I'm gonna be quick and concise. I promise you

0:58:06.120 --> 0:58:08.400
<v Speaker 1>we've talked a lot about the things you're working on

0:58:08.720 --> 0:58:11.720
<v Speaker 1>and the things about yourself that you feel are less

0:58:11.760 --> 0:58:14.040
<v Speaker 1>than ideal or other people might think are less than ideal.

0:58:14.320 --> 0:58:17.120
<v Speaker 1>I see you are at adept at doing that. May

0:58:17.280 --> 0:58:20.160
<v Speaker 1>I well, I'm not asking permission, I'm doing it. I'm

0:58:20.240 --> 0:58:25.080
<v Speaker 1>asking a quality of yours that you a good quality

0:58:25.120 --> 0:58:27.919
<v Speaker 1>of yours that you have enjoyed from childhood to even

0:58:28.040 --> 0:58:30.480
<v Speaker 1>now even in the present, as you've changed and are

0:58:30.520 --> 0:58:33.320
<v Speaker 1>working on yourself. What's something that is good that has

0:58:33.360 --> 0:58:35.280
<v Speaker 1>stuck with you in terms of your character.

0:58:40.040 --> 0:58:42.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know, and I think this actually probably connects

0:58:43.240 --> 0:58:47.520
<v Speaker 3>to that negative quality of taking.

0:58:47.320 --> 0:58:49.320
<v Speaker 2>Care of other people and their needs first and kind

0:58:49.360 --> 0:58:49.520
<v Speaker 2>of thing.

0:58:49.520 --> 0:58:51.400
<v Speaker 3>But I'm good at reading a room. I'm good at

0:58:51.480 --> 0:58:56.680
<v Speaker 3>sort of being able to I think taken a tone

0:58:57.600 --> 0:59:04.240
<v Speaker 3>and sort of you know, play into that tone accordingly.

0:59:05.960 --> 0:59:09.520
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, I think sort of being able to meet

0:59:09.600 --> 0:59:14.800
<v Speaker 3>people where they're at without you know, I used to

0:59:14.880 --> 0:59:17.160
<v Speaker 3>want to be really provocative all the time. I used to,

0:59:17.200 --> 0:59:20.280
<v Speaker 3>and I still enjoy making the joke that's unexpected and

0:59:20.400 --> 0:59:22.000
<v Speaker 3>pushing buttons.

0:59:22.000 --> 0:59:25.200
<v Speaker 1>Making my brain break about American pie. You got for example,

0:59:25.320 --> 0:59:26.080
<v Speaker 1>hard on from that.

0:59:26.320 --> 0:59:30.400
<v Speaker 2>I did still say my legs across. I'm still hard.

0:59:32.000 --> 0:59:33.439
<v Speaker 1>Do you have to go pick up your son?

0:59:33.800 --> 0:59:38.360
<v Speaker 2>I know, well, he's nothing he hasn't seen before, you know,

0:59:39.080 --> 0:59:39.520
<v Speaker 2>and so.

0:59:42.280 --> 0:59:44.560
<v Speaker 1>I see I like that quality of yours.

0:59:44.720 --> 0:59:46.760
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think I just, you know, can kind of like, okay,

0:59:46.840 --> 0:59:48.680
<v Speaker 3>this is this is the tone, and I just kind

0:59:48.680 --> 0:59:51.480
<v Speaker 3>of need to meet everyone here. I think that's something

0:59:51.520 --> 0:59:53.720
<v Speaker 3>that has served me well from the time I was

0:59:53.760 --> 0:59:55.800
<v Speaker 3>a kid until until now.

0:59:56.040 --> 0:59:58.000
<v Speaker 2>I think, yeah, that's great.

0:59:58.680 --> 1:00:01.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think that's a one too. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>everyone obviously everyone can't be anything, but like I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think as many people as you might imagine are good

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<v Speaker 1>at reading a room. No, it's actually think it's quite

1:00:11.960 --> 1:00:12.720
<v Speaker 1>an impressive stect.

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<v Speaker 3>I think you're right, And I also think it has

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<v Speaker 3>a lot to do. I think too, with like a selfishness,

1:00:18.120 --> 1:00:22.479
<v Speaker 3>like I am not the only person in this room.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what everyone else is dealing with. Let's

1:00:27.440 --> 1:00:31.480
<v Speaker 2>you know, just patience. I think like it's a it's

1:00:31.560 --> 1:00:37.800
<v Speaker 2>a let them show you as opposed to like you

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<v Speaker 2>kind of dictating what the tone needs to be of

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<v Speaker 2>a room. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>No, I feel like I used to feel the need

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<v Speaker 3>to come in and you know, and perform and do

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<v Speaker 3>the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like, you know, maybe I just need to

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<v Speaker 2>let you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. But who am I? You know?

1:00:54.160 --> 1:00:55.120
<v Speaker 2>I don't know who are you?

1:00:55.360 --> 1:00:58.120
<v Speaker 1>I thought should be working together. My name is Ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Say it, but don't because I hate when you do. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's gonna make us move on to the next segment.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, snla, No, you're supposed to say I

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<v Speaker 3>know you from Thanks Dad.

1:01:11.800 --> 1:01:15.160
<v Speaker 1>I heart podcast. I know, shut up?

1:01:15.280 --> 1:01:17.080
<v Speaker 2>Hold on, you have a podcast.

1:01:17.320 --> 1:01:22.040
<v Speaker 1>I was in Saved the Last Dance. Come on, I

1:01:22.160 --> 1:01:26.000
<v Speaker 1>was and saved by the Mount. No, I was saved.

1:01:26.600 --> 1:01:27.880
<v Speaker 2>I was in Saved my career.

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<v Speaker 1>Please, I'm saying all these things and hopes you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>she can act.

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<v Speaker 3>Please, we're beg whatever. You've had like four movies come

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<v Speaker 3>out since I saw you last.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what? Life? You just made that up.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't met you before, so that's that. Hadn't seen

1:01:44.080 --> 1:01:47.400
<v Speaker 2>you last? But did you just thought you were You've

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<v Speaker 2>got a movie out.

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<v Speaker 1>I do have what's called it's called Little Brother, And

1:01:50.640 --> 1:01:53.160
<v Speaker 1>you didn't know that I know it is. You didn't

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<v Speaker 1>your second question you asked me, I didn't count what's

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<v Speaker 1>your name again?

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<v Speaker 2>That doesn't count. There are those counties not allowed to

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<v Speaker 2>ask me question.

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<v Speaker 1>Throw you out of here, all the way to Long

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<v Speaker 1>Island to get your son, and you're fake dog.

1:02:08.960 --> 1:02:10.800
<v Speaker 3>You have to throw me out to Long Island. You

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<v Speaker 3>just throw me to the West thirtieth Street Heliport, Thank

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<v Speaker 3>you very much.

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<v Speaker 1>You do have a plane. What's something you've indulged? You

1:02:16.440 --> 1:02:19.480
<v Speaker 1>spend money. I do want to know what crazy indulgence?

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<v Speaker 2>Lately?

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<v Speaker 1>We're crazy as ever.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I mean yeah, I mean I have

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<v Speaker 3>fucking chartered a plane. I mean I you have I

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<v Speaker 3>have done that how much? I once chartered a plane

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<v Speaker 3>that I couldn't take and it just sat on the

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<v Speaker 3>tarmac all night. Well the pilots. I kept checking in

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<v Speaker 3>with the pilots because I was stuck on set. So Hollywood,

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<v Speaker 3>I chartered a plane. Chartered a plane to my friend's

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<v Speaker 3>bachelor party in Vegas. My best friend's bachelor party, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to be filming late Friday night, thinking

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to be done like one in the morning.

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<v Speaker 2>So I chartered a plane. It's just La to Vegas.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't like a you know, crazy, but but it

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<v Speaker 2>was still like myself.

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<v Speaker 3>Two pilots might be and spend the money, paid, paid it,

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<v Speaker 3>and and then the filming kept going later and later

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<v Speaker 3>and later, and I would be checking in with my

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<v Speaker 3>pilots and they they were like, we're still here, Like

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<v Speaker 3>whatding do you think you're going to finish? I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>hopefully another hour, maybe another hour. They'd be like, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>just let us know. And then eventually, at like four

1:03:20.280 --> 1:03:22.600
<v Speaker 3>in the morning, I was just like, they were like,

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<v Speaker 3>we have to take a break at some something, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was just like, you know what, just go yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And also Jason and I canceled them.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, just that was the.

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<v Speaker 1>Weird chartered a plane and didn't get to take.

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<v Speaker 2>It and then didn't get to.

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<v Speaker 1>So you don't want to sleepy pilot. By the way,

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<v Speaker 1>even if it is just to Vegas. I'm like trying

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<v Speaker 1>to pull an all nighter for you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's not And I was like every time I

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<v Speaker 3>checked in with them, they were they were drinking. So

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<v Speaker 3>every time I was checking with them, they were getting

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<v Speaker 3>drunker and you could tear them slurring their words.

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<v Speaker 2>Just one more hours, yeah, we'll be.

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<v Speaker 1>At the mind someone in the background yelling shots okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>glad you're here with us. Is what I'm trying to say.

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<v Speaker 2>But okay, I spend my money on food.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too. But here's perfect, perfect segue. It's time for

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<v Speaker 1>a segment called that's nice, But what about me?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I love it, it's great.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know a restaurant I should try besides

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<v Speaker 1>Grassiella in the city Los Angeles or New York, Los Angeles.

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<v Speaker 1>I meant to say, see my brain's breaking New York

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<v Speaker 1>or Los Angeles, that I should try.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, a restaurant, A restaurant, Okay, well, boy, can you

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<v Speaker 3>give me some parameters.

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<v Speaker 1>On I like almost everything. I don't enjoy saffron this seasoning.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so stay away from Indian, not totally, and don't

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<v Speaker 2>clip that.

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<v Speaker 1>Just like that. Stay away from Indian. Somebody clip this man.

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<v Speaker 1>Stay away from a voice an Ai Jason Bing's ways. Yes, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I like Indian food, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Not everything as saffron. Yes, but that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't like saffron though, most expensive spice in the world.

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<v Speaker 3>And I, I mean, I guess that's a good for me.

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<v Speaker 3>It's great you don't like I love it. I needed

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<v Speaker 3>and everything myself. I was at dinner last night with Leah.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like telling her that the week before I'd

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<v Speaker 3>gone to dinner with the Mutual Front. I like to

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<v Speaker 3>eat out a lot too, And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we went to this Indian restaurant and I just told

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<v Speaker 3>the server. I was like, hey, if something has saffron

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<v Speaker 3>and it's not listed here, like, can you just alert

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<v Speaker 3>me because I will absolutely take it off the list

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<v Speaker 3>of things I'm getting. And Lee and I have this

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<v Speaker 3>whole conversation as we're ordering our dinner, and I didn't

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<v Speaker 3>say we weren't at an Indian restaurant. We read a

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<v Speaker 3>Latin American restaurant.

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<v Speaker 2>Yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>Our main dish was talking to her last course and

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<v Speaker 1>I go, this.

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<v Speaker 3>Is saffron out at saffron heady, saffron down.

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<v Speaker 1>She goes, it is the color of it, And I

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<v Speaker 1>go and I told you I could taste it a

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<v Speaker 1>mile away. I'm like, it's not so prominent, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>such a taste for me that I can like if

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<v Speaker 1>you sprinkle it.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, yeah, wow, And is it not an allergy?

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<v Speaker 3>You didn't like start convulsing on the you were It

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<v Speaker 3>was just a strong dislike.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I should actually I did start. No, I just

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<v Speaker 1>don't like the flavor. So wait where Tu'm but it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't matter, just your favorite.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a place I love in Queens called Saffron City.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, go to hell.

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<v Speaker 2>They have these dump Oh sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not a friend at all. You'll tell me after.

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<v Speaker 1>But Grassi Grossi is a good one.

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<v Speaker 2>Grossil is a good one, just brand new? Do it? Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you like?

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<v Speaker 2>You eat everything besides Saffron?

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<v Speaker 1>I eat most things. I'm weird about pork, but I

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<v Speaker 1>but I hate pork, but I'm weird about it. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I'll eat bacon, I'll eat pork sauces.

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<v Speaker 2>You know it's interesting. But yeah, I don't eat a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of pork. But if a restaurant, it's a nicer restaurant,

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<v Speaker 2>has a pork chop.

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<v Speaker 3>On the menu, this is one of my rules of eating.

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<v Speaker 3>I will always order it. And I just had what

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<v Speaker 3>is maybe the best pork chop in New York City.

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<v Speaker 2>Go Poros. It's a Greek restaurant in Tribeca, a pork chop.

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<v Speaker 2>It was seasoned perfectly, and I asked the waiter.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, well, the chef prepared this medium rare for me,

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<v Speaker 3>because some kitchens will not do pork medium rare because

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<v Speaker 3>they they're like skews white meat chicken. We're a little

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<v Speaker 3>afraid we won't do that, liability kinds of which I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I've never heard of. But pork if it's a good

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<v Speaker 2>piece of pork, medium, rare, and this was phenomenal, paros parros.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna tell you what, tell me what go medium?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Just as a black woman?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, why what does that have to do with why medium? Medium?

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<v Speaker 1>Because me and undercooked meats? Have you seen this sketch

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<v Speaker 1>this girl did on SNL. Not me, No, somebody, this

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<v Speaker 1>other person, right, it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, right, of course. The tough meat, the tough meat,

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<v Speaker 2>that was the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Tough meat, the whole the extra extra extra.

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<v Speaker 2>Well does is that a cultural thing that I'm not aware?

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<v Speaker 2>Aware of?

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<v Speaker 1>That as well?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry? No, sorry? Oh fuck? Am I just being

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<v Speaker 2>so racist right now?

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<v Speaker 1>It's so fun.

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<v Speaker 2>How, No, I have a friend, I used to have

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<v Speaker 2>a friend, a black friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Like one ever? Clip that? What more do I need?

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<v Speaker 1>Clip that? In terms of black friends? Yeah, I love this.

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<v Speaker 1>The title of this episode, Jason Biggs is so over.

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<v Speaker 1>Jason Biggs is done. Honey.

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<v Speaker 2>It is a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It is a thing, but it's more complex than we

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<v Speaker 1>can discuss in the sixty seconds we have here. I

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<v Speaker 1>shan't keep you.

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<v Speaker 2>But we are gonna play medium though, which is medium? Medium?

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<v Speaker 1>I graduated to medium from well done? Okay, thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much. Mal C.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you speak any other languages?

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<v Speaker 1>I say a couple of words in other language, A

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<v Speaker 1>couple of words like mal c.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's that's Italian.

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<v Speaker 1>Italian, Grassier, French, yep. Anyway, Jason, you need to go

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<v Speaker 1>get your made up son. We're gonna play Thanks, no thanks,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I'm gonna set you free into the world. Okay, thanks,

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<v Speaker 1>no thanks. Would you be saying thanks or no thanks

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<v Speaker 1>if you received the following gifts A free T shirt

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<v Speaker 1>given for being a top blood donor no thanks? Oh

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want the free tea?

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<v Speaker 2>Why? Because I have so much shit that I end

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<v Speaker 2>up getting.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm getting better about not hoarding and trying to keep

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<v Speaker 3>my simplify, get rid of they don't you know, keep it?

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<v Speaker 3>Donate it to someone else please who might actually need

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<v Speaker 3>to wear a T shirt? Respect Happy to just give

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<v Speaker 3>you my blood and then faith and that as well. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>unless you're black or Indian, will not my blood is

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<v Speaker 3>for white people only.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yes, Jason, you're making my job. It's so easy.

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<v Speaker 1>A ferbie that will simply not shut up.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks, I'm gonna take that and give it to my

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<v Speaker 2>made up son.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, Okay, an aggressive wake up call service.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you mean by aggressive like get the fuck

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<v Speaker 2>out of bed?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like that that kind of thing, or aggressive meaning

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<v Speaker 3>like it's constantly, like even in the middle of the game.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a little bit of both.

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<v Speaker 1>It's that, it's get the fuck out of bed, it's constant.

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<v Speaker 3>It's but I'm gonna say thanks because I am paranoid

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<v Speaker 3>about sleeping through an alarm, paranoid about punctuality, and I

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<v Speaker 3>will say thanks to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. A horse, horse not whores. Wait what a horse?

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<v Speaker 1>Not a multiple horse, a giddy up horse.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd say thanks, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Supplement they swear by, the gift giver swears by no

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<v Speaker 1>thanks as you condescension, judgment.

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<v Speaker 2>The judgment are you No?

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<v Speaker 3>I was just thinking, like i've the irony because I've

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<v Speaker 3>there was a time you hand me a pill.

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<v Speaker 2>I would happily take it.

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<v Speaker 3>No questions asked, Wow, oh man, the stuff that I

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<v Speaker 3>was handed and just and now I'll be like, do

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<v Speaker 3>I need that?

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<v Speaker 2>Do I want that? I've got my own cock.

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<v Speaker 1>You saw me.

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<v Speaker 2>I started this.

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<v Speaker 1>He started by taking this is This is not a

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<v Speaker 1>TV show, it's a podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I started this podcast by taking a handful of pills.

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<v Speaker 2>You did.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, so I have very specific I think I'd

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<v Speaker 3>inquire about it. Maybe i'd say thanks, But if it's

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<v Speaker 3>just that you want this, I'd go, no thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>Loosen a dirty hand, gross, No thanks, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>That's some of your pocket lint.

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<v Speaker 1>No thanks, thanks, that's where I keep the nuggets. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>and that it's time for thank you next. I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>this is longer than I imagine, but you're fun and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm canceling you, okay from care.

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you honestly what I'm thinking right now. I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>there is a world I could be I like, you

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<v Speaker 2>literally could.

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<v Speaker 1>Get I could clip it in a way that would

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<v Speaker 1>be whack.

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<v Speaker 3>Even in a way where you didn't intend for it.

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<v Speaker 3>You're just like, oh, this could be funny, just show this.

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<v Speaker 3>But then it's someone else says, because by the way,

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<v Speaker 3>even if you do air that stuff in full context

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<v Speaker 3>where it's like, oh funny, someone else could go like that,

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<v Speaker 3>and then I'm canceled, not from you, but because of

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<v Speaker 3>my product of.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like, thanks dad, do you have enemies? And

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<v Speaker 1>like a one hundred minutes ago, but I do want

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<v Speaker 1>to know if you have enemies? No, okay, good, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you're gonna be okay. Then thank you next for

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<v Speaker 1>I might be enemy. What's a question you'd like to

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<v Speaker 1>ask our next guest?

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<v Speaker 3>A question like that ask my next guest, my next guest,

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<v Speaker 3>I would like to ask you you're gonna have an

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<v Speaker 3>next guest.

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<v Speaker 1>This isn't over because you're getting canceled and the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>isn't getting canceled. You're getting canceled.

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't know that you can after me being

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<v Speaker 2>on this show. I just don't know that.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, I feel bad your next guest, I

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<v Speaker 3>just read that way, But I say, what what what?

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<v Speaker 3>What would the version of you from twenty years ago

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<v Speaker 3>be most surprised to see about you now?

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<v Speaker 1>I like that now, Cam Patterson. Previous guest wants to

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<v Speaker 1>know who's your favorite rapper and why is it Rod Wave?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know who rod Wave is?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that your final land.

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<v Speaker 2>And my favorite rapper? Since it can't be rod Wave?

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<v Speaker 2>Since I don't know Rod Wave. Have I heard his

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<v Speaker 2>music or her music? I don't know their music.

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<v Speaker 1>I've heard of broad Waves.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't know either. Okay, I'm twelve years old. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't wait, is that true? I don't know who I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know is either?

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<v Speaker 1>He looks twelve. Cam is on a show called Saturday

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<v Speaker 1>Night Live. New cast member.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, okay, amazing are there though?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I've hosted so many times.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, favorite rapper.

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<v Speaker 2>Favorite rapper. Listen. I'm old and old school, so.

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<v Speaker 3>You funk master flex? Uh no, Like I'm like a

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<v Speaker 3>tribe called quest guy.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's go Q tip Q tip vibrant thing. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's I will take it.

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<v Speaker 2>Great. We're one of the I mean any wu tang?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I don't know? Yeah? Do you yeautiful? Anyway?

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<v Speaker 1>I support it. That feels like a valid answer.

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<v Speaker 2>And with that, Jason, thank you canceled. With that, Jason,

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<v Speaker 2>You're canceled.

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<v Speaker 1>You're done for honey, And it was a pleasure having you. Shit.

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